Things Not To Say To Someone With Bipolar Disorder
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It's not just the symptoms of bipolar disorder that are a struggle. Whether it's watching how much you laugh at a particular joke or sidestepping dodgy questions from colleagues, just navigating people's expectations of the illness can also be a challenge.
If you're a fellow sufferer, you'll recognise these common face-palmers. If you're not, get some tips on what can help when friends with the disease. You'll never liken them to Stephen Fry again...
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My friend with bipolar once said "I'm bipolar, bisexual, I'm bi everything. I'm probably a bicycle."
trinthetrex he's funny!
does he have an impressive biceps?
Then I‘m the same. ^^
Like our lord and savior Halsey
What a mood
Telling someone with bi polar to cheer up is like telling someone with social anxiety to "just go out"
jesse Summers I have anxiety and my partner has bipolar (both undiagnosed when we met) and we get his all the time :/ my partner is told constantly by people "We all get stressed, you've just gotta get through it, learn your boundaries" and I get told "if you let anxiety get you down, it'll control your life" well thanks for that, I'll just let it all go, I never thought of it like that.
People can be ignorant.
Or like telling someone with cancer to "Just cure yourself"
jesse Summers They'll "cheer up" later so
some of my friends have an elaborate version of this. talk to me during a depressive episode, I warn them beforehand it's not going to fix anything. after like an hour or 2 of talking, they get mad that the depressive isn't somehow magically cured, and tell me I'm not listening to them. like the effort is there, just. some people just don't get it I guess.
I know I have anxiety and my mum always says: "You get sick so often because you stress out" "Stop stressing out"
I swear I hate when people say u don't look bipolar like how do u look bipolar
Put on a hockey mask. "Better?"
Exactly
Ikr like what do you expect me to look like? A polar bear riding a bloody bicycle!? 🤣
If they're dumb enough to say that in the first place, then they're probably dumb enough to think "looking bipolar" is running around like a raving lunatic.
You have a HugE FacE TaTtOo that says I am BiPolAr. DUH
I'm bipolar... when people like my mom ask me "did you take your meds?" ... GAH it's like I'm not allowed to have any emotions even normal ones.
Aadin Heals same 🤦🏼♀️ it’s always my mother who says it too
I don't have bipolar. But I do struggle with depression and OCD. My parents and my in-laws always ask me if I've taken my meds when I feel normal sadness or express a rational concern. When you're mentally ill, society won't allow you to have normal human emotions.
Omg I hate this so much and when I relax for once or get past my anxiety they're like 'oh so you are faking it???!' Lol society really hates mental health when it's literally just health hh
My parents thought I was doing drugs -that's how strong my mania is.
I SWEAR my mother says it all the time!!! Like I could ask her the same thing since she has it too 🙄🙄
people who ask if you took your meds during an argument break my heart because it makes me feel like they're not taking me seriously
OMG I know! I can’t stand that, I’ve had to hear that my whole life. It makes you feel like that’s all they see you as is a medicated fool.
Absolutely agree I with that-xxx
This will sound completely out of left field, but I have a definite feeling - and experience - that we should all be checked for upper cervical instability. I've been forced to discover I have this thing, and one of the things it does is it pushes on your brain stem, and vagus nerve, and both of these things-combined definitely - respectively, here that's how I'll say it - the first one among other things causes a lot of extraneous extra signals, while both essentially cause instant hysteria. And also paralyze your autonomic nervous system btw! which also makes your brain go into fight or flight. Which apps with your digestion and sleep and therefore ability to exercise! Which means your scalp is neglecting to moisturize itself, which also means that your hair will start to dry out! - causing you to literally lose hair - especially if your body solution to having just enough energy to drive you insane, but not enough that you can actually do anything with it
Anyway, so the funny thing, is if we were able to feel like whoever is saying this was actually saying it out of love-it's just at this upper cervical displacement thing literally causes an amount of mental health wise driving me insane if I'm not prepared for the headache - that is not extraneous to my mind, really at all. So just get in that sense I've found, absolutely for sure, if my partner was to ask me if my neck was doing all right - if we were having a problem - I could probably tell them no, actually it isn't.
The problem is that, psychologically, and I actually learned this in an actual textbook in an actual University psychology class, that when one person is distraught, the other person tends to feel more secure automatically hi, it's just part of how people essentially share psychological states - your poor mood is likely to feel repellent to them.
So unless you're really perfectly able to manage it with them, right when you're most likely to be able to be fixed mood-wise by a cuddle, is when they're least likely to be in the mood to have one with you.
Which might not even mean they're feeling unsympathetic as much as they are just induced almost chemically to firm up under the pressure.
I had a school councilor say oh we're all a bit bipolar and I flipped like you need to be fired
It was prob a joke
@@jburn4329 Some people are stupid enough to mean it, trust me
They shouldn't be a Councillor
she's right though. one of the symptoms of being bipolar is thinking you're the only one having bipolar emotions. it's true. we all struggle. with or without the diagnosis - once i though i was the only traumathized person in the world too. turns out i'm not. has made me a better friend since.
Sarah Kamille huh? I've had this disorder for 18 years and never once have I heard that "thinking I'm the only one having bipolar emotion" is a symptom, and one of the reasons why is because "bipolar" isn't an emotion. It's a MOOD disorder. Emotions can change in a minute, angry, sad, happy.. That are emotions, and going from happy to sad in a minute/day/whatever isn't a "bipolar emotion" because those does not exist. They are the opposite emotions, that's very much true, but bipolar doesn't have anything to do with it. Mood and emotions are not the same. If someone has "bipolar moods" from time to time it means they are either depressed or manic, which people can be, but being "manic" as in having a lot of energy one day or a few days to updo your kitchen, it doesn't make it an manic episode. I just don't get the logic behind what you're trying to say.
A few weeks ago someone said to me: 'so does this mean you can't vote in the election? Because your mind can't be trusted to make good decisions...'
It caught me really off guard. I mean, how do you even respond to ignorance like that?!
Tell them, "Neither do (whatever political party you virulently hate.)"
Rachael Emma oh my gosh... some people are just....
Wow - that's fucked up. What a thing to say. They really believe that shit.
Well then, I guess half of our nations are bipolar after all. Hello from the USA.
Say "neither can Donald Trump"
you missed "I dont think it's real" "go do some exercise. it will be better" "you're just bored/ lazy. get your ass up and do something" "she's crazy"...
Dung Luu wow i always get these from my dad. Or when they start screaming at you that being sad isn't a reason to not answer the phone..
Lihi Levy tell me about it 😭
@@jbaby283 Ditto
Well... your mental illness shouldn't be used as an excuse. I get that being depressed is out of your control and you can't just simply be happy, but when it comes to vandalizing school property or doing things you aren't supposed to do, or not doing things you're supposed to do and saying, "Oh it's because of my bipolar disorder, not my fault." You are always going to be held responsible for your actions and there will always be consequences. It's annoying, seriously.
O so Phine lol no one said that 🤣
The guy in the black shirt should be a model so good looking
Sorry for only focusing on looks. I just thought not to make another feel bad comment do wish them the best tho
Ikr! I was thinking the same thing, but didn't wanna write it because I didn't want to start talking about looks in such a serious video where looks has nothing to do with anything.
But he IS so, SO good looking!
yes he's very handsome
he looks like ksi
"Didn't want to start talking about looks"
Makes sense, since you made me look at everyone's shirt instead of just saying 'the black guy'
I can't believe random people would ask someone if they tried to commit suicide!!
yeah! It's like asking a transgender what they have down there, or a woman whether she was ever raped.... just fuck off and learn manners before you come back.
@@valhalla1240 I don't know anyone who has asked a woman if she's been raped, but I see your point.
That's just straight up evil.
They do actually...
YeshuaJesusisking V u never lived in St. Louis, have u? And second, just bc it’s common, it’s still not okay to ask a total stranger about it.
I have had bipolar my whole life and the WORST thing people say to me is "Oh I'm a little bipolar too" like no you're not. You're an idiot. It's like they think bipolar is a good thing to have. It is terrible to live with.
Use your will, stop focusing on the others you are in a free society!
I get why the boyfriend who said "have you taken your meds" is now an ex boyfriend.
I know, gaslighting at it's finest
should have told him no cause you shoved them up his ass
I've done the same and without regrets
It hurts the most when someone you love says that to you. My mother has said it several times since
i told her I was diagnosed with Bipolar. It's really cruel and it's like saying "You can't make a solid argument because you're bipolar therefore you're delusional"
I am bipolar! And I must say that I have heard most of these things. Mainly said to me by my family.
Family saying those things always hurts me far more than a stranger. I can just blow strangers off, but with family they should know you better and try more.
At least they believe you. My friends and family don't even believe that there's anything wrong with me.
Wait until you get a manic attack and you think you created the universe or think you're a girl. My mom believes me now! Why am I proud of that?!
ratti80 same experience here
All of them are from my family (not who I live with though) because I haven't told anyone else about it
"raise your own blood sugar!" diabetic here, I can relate to and appreciate that one. "Man up" and "cheer up" are the dumbest phrases. If that's all it took, there wouldn't be an issue. This video is top notch.
Stumble Bee i'm diabetic too, and I have been asked the dumbest question ever "so does that mean that you need sugar?"
Gabriela Henriquez
I am diabetic as well and one time in my school i had low blood sugar and the nurse legimatitly asked me " How much insulin do you need to so for that " . And i was left mouth agape for a minute.
Dionisis Mitropoulos omg. that is beyond stupid. the one i get alot tho is your diabetic?! then why are you having that sugary drink?!
I'm diabetic as well Lol on vacations I've had ppl take me to the grocery store thinking I can't eat normal food
I’m a diabetic too, and I’m tired of hearing “So, what happens if your blood pressure gets too low?” And “it’s more a condition” oh darn, sorry my organ failed.
"Sooo, there are two of you?"
Like....WHAT?!
Just answer, "No, there are seven!" Then cackle maniacally and walk off.
Now I've got a mental image of all of the bits of soul in Voldemort's horcruxes giving him bits of advice. Thanks for that...
Yes, I am a human hybrid. Don’t get to close, or I’ll consume you too
Haha thanks
Anna Lindaver yes, we get easily pissed off. Specially me I don’t take my meds for it
"Get over it" is the worst thing to say to anyone with mental illness. I've had severe depression and anxiety when circumstances are bad, and the last thing I want to hear is that. If I could calm down or cheer up with mere will power, I would. Ironic that no one would ever say that to anyone at a funeral. Smh
"If I could calm down or cheer up with meer will power, I would". Not necessarily. Maybe it just requires a lot of will power and you don't have the discipline? It's like when smokers say that they could quit if they really wanted to, and yet they don't. I agree with you that saying "Get over it" is rather flippant and dismissive, but I do believe that we have far more control over so-called "mental illnesses" than we think we do.
@Bia L Why are you writing in capitals? Is that also part of bipolar disorder?
@Neyou xd It's so typical of people like you to just throw insults. Just like the person who wrote above you. You never have any semblance of a logical, coherent argument. And you wonder why people are prejudiced?
@@Achilles94627 That's why the original poster said "when circumstances are bad". They can get depressive episodes even they are already positive about life. Just listen and understand. No need to tell someone to get over it.
@@Achilles94627 You were being condescending. You do realize mental illness isn't a choice right?
I would love to see things people with anxiety are tired of hearing video but everyone would be afraid to show up so.
😂
megan ruhnke xD
megan ruhnke well more like people with social anxiety. but lets be real, i wouldn't show up to either one 😂
Lmaoooo
Sean Issac same
My mom is like, "Catherine Zita Jones and Demi Lovato have bipolar, and look at them...they are doing well." and my husband is like, "why are you in a bad mood? Did you take your meds today?..." well first of all, if I had the money to go to a good rehab, I would do it in a heartbeat. And second...YES HONEY!...I took my meds...just like I've been taking them every day for 10 years...I'm just in a bad mood because I'm human...
Cindy Gonzales It's never okay to ask someone with bipolar if they're in a bad mood because they've taken their meds :( my partner has bipolar and I can see how much it flares his temper when friends or family ask him if he's taken his meds just because he's in a bad mood or pointing out someone else's mistakes. His work colleagues used to ask him it all the time, so he got a calendar for his office and put a giant tick everyday which meant he took his meds, so when someone asked him he would say "The calendar says I have, so you must just be a douche today" :)
You should definitely tell him it's never helpful to ask if you've taken your meds. It's just plain insulting and patronising!
Cindy Gonzales thanks!.. it's like the people close to you use it as an excuse to be little you or try to change how you feel in a situation where you have normal emotions.. especially when you have a right to be mad/sad.
eptile It's awful. My partner makes it clear to everyone it's never okay to ask that question. When his mum asks him it just because he's telling her she's in the wrong, I tell her it's as bad as asking a woman if she's in a bad mood because she's got PMS!
Exactly. If you're upset about something they think you're having an episode. Its as if we're not allowed to have emotions.
everytime i'm in a bad mood or i do something stupid it's like "have you been taking your meds?" and it is the most frustrating thing ever
My girlfriend constantly asks me if I took my meds. I mean, seriously, can't I just be mad without a bipolar reason? You will know when I am REALLY in my bipolar stages, because I will either cry like a baby about the stupidest reason. Like a friend killing a spider, or I will be extremely happy and be stupidly creative. And the constant ups and downs and you can't control it.... I hate being bipolar...
“Everybody has some degree of bipolar in them”
“Just improve your lifestyle and you’ll be fine without meds”
Me: *struggles to roll my eyes back enough into my skull*
Amen.
I just about ripped into you for this comment until I read the last part... I hate when people try and say that stuff like they can comprehend what it's like to wake up one day being capable of changing the world and waking the next not even being capable of changing their mind... people just dont get it sometimes.
This reminds me of how my dad and stepmom talk about everyone has anxiety when I talk about how I can't get through school cause my anxiety is so bad. It's not the same thing. Everyone gets nervous. Just like everyone gets sad, but not everyone has depression.
A nurse at my old school told me the same thing.
same with my family and adhd. "oh, everyone has trouble concentrating!" I can't follow a 5-minute conversation, let alone a lecture.
Oliver Roberts SOMEONE SAID IT. THANK YOU
My mom literally tells me that everyone has anxiety in their life and everyone can get depressed sometimes. That literally just makes me stop talking to her about any of my problems and she wonders why I never tell her things. And she just tells me well you'll feel better if you get out of your room go do something and just be happy that will cure it. No, no it won't MOM! It Won't! 😑
I really wanted to write this somewhere where people would see it. I would never say that this is a root cause for everyone's problems, but it definitely could help some people out there, so I wanted to share it! GLUTEN was causing me extreme suicidal depression, extreme mood swings and very high anxiety. I could no longer function at all because I was in so much emotional pain, so I ended up spending my time fantasizing about the different ways that I could kill myself for the last few months before moving home when I figured out what was wrong! These symptoms popped up about 2 years ago. 10 months ago I moved back home, forfeited my life as an adult in another city because I was on deaths door and I needed to fix myself. 8 months ago I went vegan, but luckily I went raw vegan for the first 32 days, completely raw. I felt simply amazing, like I was floating and could finally breath again! When I started to add cooked vegan food in, including bread, my symptoms came right back. My mother's homemade vegan bread was making me suicidal over night! I have now been strictly gluten free for over 6 months and have been stable and back to my happy self! I have no idea what caused my gluten sensitivity because I do not have celiac disease, but I have learned a lot in my research! Only 1% of the population has celiac, but 30% of the population has a gluten sensitivity. 70% of people have the gluten sensitive gene and it can turn on at any moment. Gluten sensitivity can be linked to depression, anxiety, panic attacks, bipolar, schizophrenia, ADHD, fibromyalgia, multiple sclerosis and various mood disorders. Now like I said it is not going to be 100% of the underlying cause for everyone, but what I do recommend for everyone struggling is to go strictly gluten free for at least 2 weeks. Our societies eat gluten at almost every meal now and we take no breaks from it to see if it is causing any of these problems. In the 70's they used to call it bread madness! Now we know it is the gluten. Gluten is a protein and your body will create antibodies to attack it and get it out of the body but these antibodies get confused and attack our own body as well in the process! I will never eat gluten ever again because one piece of bread, a brownie or cookie could literally be the death of me. It makes me that crazy! I am sharing my story in hopes of helping someone! I am 29 years old and loved bread my whole life. Please try going gluten free to see if that gene has been turned on somehow! I have much love for anyone struggling!
I have anxiety. When I get anxious and start panicking, "have you taken your meds?" It pisses me off
Ugh god. Yeah, as though meds completely cure anxiety.
Anxiety meds don't cure anxiety??? They make you functional??? Anxiety triggers can actually negate the effects of meds. They just make it so we're not anxious ALL the time.
Ohh think about nice stuff" " you should make more exercise" yeah..
Jedi KMA I have ADHD when I'm hyper my MOM says DID YOU TAKE YOUR MEDS I say I JUST TOOK THEM!
As someone with a brain tumor, I really liked the one woman's comparison to someone saying oh you have a brain tumor, I get headaches sometimes
I like what the one lady said; " I like when my friend comes over and just lays with me. We dont talk; I just know youre there." Ive felt that often. The only thing that drives me crazy about being bipolar is when I either flip moods without warning or when I have a roller coaster ride of emotions.
My bestie does the very same thing. She doesnt understand but she knows what I need.
This is so sad. This seems so frustrating, I wish you guys all the best you seem like lovely people
Riv Racost you're probably talking about the people in the video but i have Bipolar disorder too and took your comment personal. Thank you still
Santy Valens :-D sure! I'm glad my comment made you feel good, have a great day
Riv Racost wow you're just too kind. Have a great day as well. 😊
Santy Valens :-)
I hate when my mom says the " have you taken your meds?" everytime we argue!!
Sofia Barrera that is a good mom. Sorry, but the people who love you want you to take care of youself. If their is a normal behavior that causes your mom to ask annoying questions talk to her about it. 'mom, cleaning at 2am is a coping trick, not mania, thanks for asking, sorry to worry you" If you are fighting because you are not taking care of yourself consider how much you are hurting her And yourself.
it's an act of love, sure. but anytime you're in a particularly worse mood , it shouldn't be 'oh, did you take your meds?'. you're allowed to have any feelings be valid and it's not always because of not taking your meds.
I completely understand! Especially because people with bipolar disorder when they take their meds frequently anf feel better they will stop taking them! It's hard! But it's happens alot and some people don't understand :/
How about why don't you get out more maybe it will go away? ugh, THANKS A LOT MOM!!
"I'm a bit bipolar sometimes" OH MY GOD I GET THAT SO MUCH 😂😂😂
The "raise your own blood sugar" sounds so absurd but my diabetic friend was literally asked "can't you do it on your own /sometimes/, do you really /need/ insulin?" like YES THAT'S HOW IT WORKS
OMG "I'm Bipolar sometimes" I feel for you guys that must be so annoying 😒😒 how in the world do you not just walk away or hit them .. I would 😂
Melia Moran I've had so many people tell me that.. after awhile it happens so often you get used to it most of the time. but I definitely can't stand it when people use it as a way to get attention or use it as a "fad".. it's not.. that's the worst.
Melia Moran : I think it's their misguided way of trying to bond with you and make you not feel alone since it's such a stigmatized illness. They mean well.
Like when you tell a friend about your bed wetting habits well into your teens... they might respond with 'oh yeah, me too'... even if It's not true. It's their way of comforting you and not make you feel ostracized during an embarrassing or traumatizing moment.
Personally, I think it's kind of sweet =) I appreciate the effort.
I'm on a team that contacts customers to preview the final product before release. Two of the ladies on the team deal with indecisive clients by venting to each other with phrases like "he's just being bipolar," or "they're so bipolar about this," or my favorite "Another bipolar client".
I just choose not to participate in those conversations because I know my responses would be reactive rather than logical.
Nathan G : at least they don't say it directly to another bipolar person. 😞
YEAH LIKE NO! BIPOLAR IS A CONSTANT THING! HOW DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT EFFECTS YOUR DAILY LIFE S O M E T I M E S?
"Raise your own blood sugar!" 😂
Yeah, she's a little ignorant on the function of insulin and diabetes, but she's young.
I have anxiety, and saying "cheer up" to someone who's bipolar is like telling me that after doing a huge presentation, I can just walk off my heart beating at too fast of a pase.
Why do you have anxiety? Just calm down.
Why do you have depression? Just cheer up.
Why do you have ADHD? Just pay attention.
Why do you have asthma? *Just breathe.*
"Have u taken ur meds?" This sends me through the roof, I can relate to the girl and her ex boyfriend. My ex husband used to throw that into my face EVERY time we argued, nothing was ever his fault...
My father is bi-polar. Growing up with him could be very difficult at times. He would get very angry, and I was diagnosed with learning disabilities. I realize now I didn't actually have any, but as I grew up I developed a very strong bond with my dad. I always gave him lots of hugs and told him I loved him. I still do to this day. I also try and call my parents once a day. My dad is not very well now, as cancer has come back to try and take him from me. I understand someone who is bi-polar now. My cousin has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia. That has been a more turbulent disorder. You guys are strong and I'm sure very loved. Take care. ☺️
My mother is bi-polar and she went unmedicated for the majority of my childhood, despite being told to take them. Her out bursts were so bad at times that she would tell me messed up shit. Stuff like how she shouldn't have taken me home from the hospital, things of that nature. We don't have a relationship now because she chalked it up to her disorder, not taking any responsibility for essentially giving me PTSD... wish it would have ended like your relationship with your dad. But I don't see me ever speaking to her again.
AppleSaurus I get it, if someone that's not in your family abuses you, people don't expect you to just forgive them and call them, or have a relationship with them, but when that abuser is your family, like a parent, they expect you to just pretend it never happened....makes no sense to me!!!! So frustrating!!! I don't talk to my mom, my abuser either.
I have bipolar, my grandma has bipolar, my other grandma (and I think great grandma) has schizophrenia, my mom has schizophrenia, my dad used to have depression, and my sister used to have anxiety and depression. My mom’s schizophrenia is so bad that we had to get a restraining order from her, so I haven’t seen her since I was 6, and won’t see her ever again (I don’t even remember what she looks like).Needless to say, I’m watching my other family members carefully to make sure they’re okay. We have a lot of mental illness in our family.😓
Only just found out my mum has had it for years after Dad telling me always wondered why she always went mad for no reason
My mum is bipolar and I had a hellish childhood, although I love my mum to bits. I’m scared to have children with my bipolar boyfriend incase he gets angry with them.
I told my friend I was bipolar and she asked me how many personalities I had
I just started laughing and explained what it was
Hahaha..I can say you are cool...U took ur time to explain. If me, i told my friend to google it 🤣
I worked in MH for over 14yrs and did I just hear one of them say “I’ll take my meds if I want and I will not take my meds if I don’t want to?” When a person gets into the habit of not taking meds because he/she doesn’t want to, more times than not, they start swinging. After meds are titrated AGAIN, then he/she confesses that they should have continued to take Meds. SMH....
I have bipolar type 2 so when I find videos of people sharing their experiences with their bipolar I feel fantastic. I remember watching a ted talks where a woman explained in the best way possible what the disorder feels like. It was so spot on I remember crying. Now videos like this one playing here are funny to watch but still create that little feeling of hell yes other people know what I'm going through
These series of videos are so important because they make us realize how everyone experiences things in different ways, it makes us much more aware of being sensitive to people; videos like these are so amazing at showing us the different spectrums of Equality and Diversity, and how to respect it! Love x
I don't have bipolar disorder but I have ptsd and extreme anxiety, I can really relate to them when it comes to dealing with other people who don't have it or don't know much about it. I've heard "just get over it" and that is so offensive. People who don't understand try to minimize our struggles, I wish they'd stop that. It's sad society still has an ignorant view and understanding of mental illnesses and disorders. We are not crazy, we are not dumb or weak, we don't choose to be the way we are for attention. I hate seeing other people having to deal with the kinds of things I do. It's not easy. Much respect to all these people for talking about how they feel and what they go thru/deal with. Takes alot of strength to do so.
Nicole Slater ya it's not fun. and the sad part is I've met a lot of people that have faked horrible disorders for attention. and sadly alot of criticism we get is because of those people that like to use awful disorders and illnesses as a fad or a way to get attention.
I have bipolar, there is a girl I know who fakes lots of things for attention. This is also a mental illness- called Histrionic Personality Disorder.
I really do HATE constantly being asked "Did you take your meds?" It's very insulting!
"cheer up"
omg thanks you cured me
I hate when people ask if ive taken my meds! I havent purposely skipped my meds once in my eleven plus years of being medicated.
Ruthie Hardin ugh hate that too! You know people, we sonetimes run late or we forget to buy them!!
my mum wants my energy while I'm in a hypomania stage but I get so pissed at myself when I talk to much because my mind is going 100000 kmph
Nina champion I feel you. Or my hypomanic episode just manifests in extreme anxiety and I have all this energy built up my body, but I can't do anything because my anxiety is paralyzing me
As someone diagnosed last week I'm happy these people carry themselves so well.
Ashley I hope you’re doing well. Take care of yourself and be happy please 🍀💚
They should do one with people with ocd ! I hate it when people say they have it just because they like things clean, neat and tidy. Like um no thats not What it is
I myself, don't have OCD but i get really annoyed when people do that!
I know right!! OCD is so time consuming and by far one of the MOST misunderstood mental illness I would love to talk for hours and hours about this
Really, you ever spent 7 hours in the bathtub? My fingers got so wrinkled they hurt.
It is so true, when having a panic attack you want someone there to talk to you but you don't want to speak. I often have this happen and I'm always asked if I'm mad at them or if I'm pissed off. No, not at all. I just want to focus on you speaking to me and to feel comforted by your presence.
Can you do one for depression and/or anxiety?
Brookie no because if you're open about depression and like to talk about it you don't have it you just like attention.
Dalton JWelch this couldn't be further from the truth.
Depression is incredibly difficult, and ignorance like this is what keeps people from speaking up about how they're feeling. Being open about mental health is very important.
Most people do hide it but talking about it is a good thing. Pretending or making out that you are worse than everyone else who has the condition can be attention seeking but genuinely talking about it can help a load.
Dalton JWelch Sorry, but that’s just nonsense. Depression and anxiety is so complex. They can be different depending on the person. Like, if you have depression you may not be able to get out of bed, to do simple tasks, to sleep, to be happy, to concentrate etc but that doesn’t mean that everyone experiences it the same way. There are people with depression who can laugh, who can eat normally, who can sleep, who can concentrate. Like I said it depends on the person. And anxiety is another thing. When people hear anxiety they usually think of panic attacks. And yes, some people with anxiety have to go through panic attacks. But in general you can say that people with anxiety tend to worry a lot, to overthink a lot, to get stressed in specific situations etc. But again IT DEPENDS ON THE PERSON.
(I can only speak from my point of view btw.)
I think Brookie means a BBC PSA.
I do NOT have bipolar but i hate it when people act like they do just to feel special or when people say its just mood swings. There are people who actually have bipolar. And when other people belittle it or pretend to have it for attention, it is so frustrating. Respect. Thats all. Have some freakin respect
Wow, I'm Bipolar myself and honestly watching this made me feel like I was surrounded by family and I've never felt that way before.. I've always felt pretty much alone bc I've never met another person dealing with bipolar.. thank you💙
I want one of these for anxiety disorders (ptsd, gad, panic disorder)
Uhm wtf? Why?
Rachel Lee I have GAD. It is something I wouldn't wish on anyone! Why the fuck would you want to feel like you're dying constantly. Develop agoraphobia and never leave your home. And go into complete meltdown when having to go to an appointment.
Dude I have panic disorder. I don't see why you're getting upset. All I said is that I want to see one of these episodes address the bullshit responses and "advice" we get on a daily basis, like they did in this video.
because I think it would be interesting...?
unless I completely read your response wrong in which case I'm sorry! But still I want to see a video address the shit conversations like "I know the feeling I get nervous before interviews"
I agree with most except for the 'be there for me' 'ask me what I need'. It's a disorder and I don't want to be waited on hand and foot, and I don't want to be treated differently. What I do want is for people to just understand the disorder and why my reactions or emotions are the way that they are. That's it.
"When you decide to get help, we'll be here for you."
As someone who has bipolar disorder, I have been asked about whether I've taken my meds countless times & it's extremely offensive! If I'm really happy & in a great mood, people assume that I'm manic. If I'm feeling down or depressed, people assume that I'm off of my meds. If you want to help someone who has bipolar disorder, stop assuming & ask how you can help! And please, unless you're our doctor or therapist, stop asking about our medications. It's really none of your business, in all due respect. Unless we choose to share it with you, don't bring it up. Thanks for reading! Thanks for this informative video.
things with people who have ADHD are tired of hearing
Caroline Peterson YES.
Can you repeat that? I forgot what vid you were suggesting
Caroline Peterson do this one!
Yess!
Pryzylla Okamura it’s a flavor of ramen !!! I like my abc’s a b c d ok look a butterfly ! One sheep 2 sheep red fish blue fish nick nack patty wack give me more coffee !!!!
Things not to say to BPD people?
Matt Bailey YES!
YESSS
I doubt theyd do that. its so similar to bipolar its not as discussed. many people get misdiagnosed when they have bpd. i was high functioning and fortunately am recovering well. but it was a long journey and wish I had gotten better help or there were better help/accessible out there.
I hope they do it! and have both classic and quiet borderline
BadActingWYIM it is not that close to bipolar disorder? I have bpd and dont feel like i have any symptoms of bipolar disorder
this was really good to watch as "normal " person I had no idea that these things were so fustrateing as we are able to just cheer up and get over things. we all relate to how we are so if we have no concept of a mental disorder we can only think of the situation from our point of view.
We don't mean to be ignorant it's just how we in our self would handle a situation.
Thanks for the insite I'll try and be more sensitive from now on
That's why they make these videos. We know you generally mean well. We just get asked these questions ALL THE TIME, so it gets tiring, and frustrating to have to explain to neurotypical people over and over again.
I wanted one for anxiety and then have one like "Just don't think about it." Buddy, if a could "not think about it" I wouldn't have anxiety in the first place!
The amount of times people have given me the "cheer up" line. Wow! I'm cured! Good Lord Jesus the Savior above. I feel like sunshine and Christmas cheer now, man.
Y'all should make "Things not to say to people who stutter!" Would be amazing!
Cheeara 키아라 They have :)
stuttering is a curable condition
This informs me so much more. My oldest cousin was going to go into medicine in university and got all these “health books”, only they were all only about bipolar disorder. After reading about 7 different books and online articles she suddenly decides to diagnose herself as bipolar, despite doctors that have tested her and confirmed she doesn’t have bipolar disorder -3- I stopped talking to her and so did one of her younger sisters and my mum, because bipolar disorder isn’t something to fake and it’s not at all okay. I feel for these people a lot and I’m glad I’m more informed on their end of the spectrum
It's hard watching someone you love go through that. My husband is bipolar. His moods could give you whiplash if he's forgotten his medicine, so when I ask "Did you take your meds?" during an argument I assure you it's a valid concern. The friggin doctor at one point even had him on an anti-psychotic, a mood leveler, AND an anti-depressant all at once. He was practically a zombie. Now he's just on Cymbalta but I hate it because of the havoc it wreaks on his body and mind until he can get acclimated to it. Don't ever run out of it either, because it can cause the mood swings to be even worse as it leaves the system. He was never abusive, but he would be full of rage when he was withdrawing.
And no one ever talks about the non-emotional aspects of it like mental fogs, being easily overwhelmed by too much stimuli, cycles of not being able to sleep for days, then switching to not being able to stay awake for days. Even paranoia. He was frequently convinced he was having a heart attack. at one point he thought he was actively dying and sobbed while I dialed 911. He kept saying "I don't want you to see me die".
I have borderline personality disorder and I relate to pretty much everything on this!
I was about to comment that. I have BPD and even my psychiatrists say that they would much rather have bipolar over BPD.
I have unipolar depression
I'm a woman, and I've been told to, "Man up!"
Katherine Uribe , lol same xD
You got to grab life by the breasts, I mean balls...whoops.
"Pull yourself up by your bootstraps!" is another gem.
Yay havent herd that one before
Katherine Uribe same
my bf would ask "did you take your meds yet " any time I get a tiny bit Moody! like its completely OK to get Moody about things that annoy you 😂
As someone with bipolar disorder, here are my responses:
*I'm a bit bipolar sometimes*
I am diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I completely flipped out on someone once because they kept saying "oh stop being so bipolar" to a girl who absolutely hated their guts so she'd go from being super sweet so cold/uncaring in seconds. I try my best not to say anything now, especially about me being bipolar. I've also gotten super annoyed when people post stuff like "I can go through 5 moods in 10 minutes. I'm so bipolar." And I was complaining about it to my mother and her response was something along the lines of "That's what bipolar disorder is. The constant mood swings." And I was just like "um, alrighty then."
*Have you taken your meds?*
Oh, man. I love when people tell me this one. I'm not on medication for it, so how exactly am I supposed to take what I don't even have in the first place?
*Oh, like Stephen Fry?*
Should I be glad that I don't know who this is? I don't have an answer for this one.
*Cheer up*
I've never been told this one, so I suppose I'm lucky in that sense.
*Have you tried to commit suicide?*
I'm so glad that I haven't been asked this by someone other than me primary doctor, therapist, and psychiatrist. Honestly, this is a super triggering topic for me. (Ngl, I started shaking really badly after reading this and while writing this response)
*If you could get it cured, would you?*
Honestly, I wouldn't. Sure, I don't like the episodes. But, idk. I feel like I wouldn't feel like myself if I didn't have it? If that makes any sense. I've just been dealing with it for so long (~5 to 6 years) so it's just become my "normal".
*What should I say?*
Honestly, I don't even know what to say to this one. I guess say that you'll be there for me? Even though I'd probably never come to you to talk about the problems is causes me. Oh, and definitely don't joke about being bipolar. Also, understand that it isn't really something I can control. I can't just be like "Yup, I'm tired of having a depressive episode, so I'm just going to stop having one now." and it stops. That isn't how it works (obviously). This is a personal one, but don't be like "oh, you're lying." when I say that I have times where I immediately switch from episodes and can even have a weird bit of time where I'm having both. Don't try to tell me what to do to "figure it out". You're not my therapist. I've also had people get MAD at me when I asked them not to be touchy with me while I'm in the middle of the episode because physical contact really bothers me during them. So, please, don't get mad when I ask you not to do something. It's because I'd rather not have a panic attack due to something you've done. And definitely DON'T try to touch me more if I do have a panic attack due to being overwhelmed from physical contact. (I once had a friend, who likes me romantically, stay at my house for a couple of days. She was constantly trying to cuddle with me and wouldn't listen to me when I asked her to stop and give me some space since I don't even like people being super close to me. I was going through a really bad depressive episode during this time. I won't go into the details, but someone I knew died. With depression and bipolar deciding to come together and make a cocktail from The Underworld, I was going through a really rough time. She got mad at me and even asked to go home early because I snapped at her when she caused me to have a panic attack and tried to touch me more during it.) Anyways, this part is super long, so I'm cutting it off here. I have so much more I could say, but this isn't the place for that. I'll save it for my therapist so those of you reading this don't have to deal with me rambling on and on.
I wouldn’t even know how to act if I woke up without it???? Like what would I even notice? I would eventually obviously but I can’t even comprehend what life would be like if I just was. Cured???
I don't really understand why being compared to Stephen Fry would be a negative thing, he has bipolar and has had well publicised suicidal tendencies
***** It's a good thing that many celebs, including Fry, have talked about their bipolar disorder.
Fry has cyclothymia, the mild form of bipolar.
Bipolar disorder is much ore common among professional entertainers than among the general population, so you could argue that, in a way, it's an asset for them.
For people who aren't talented, bipolar is a mental disability.
Andrew Smith not necessarily. I am bipolar one, but I have rapid cycling and it is very dangerous. I can go from fine to suicidal in a very short time. Just depends in how suddenly the chemistry drops in the brain.
omg.
i love it when the girl says did you take your meds.
FUCK OFF
it was perfect. super cute with her accent lol
i was diagnosed by a psychiatrist when i was 15yrs old and now 26yrs old.
i TOTALLY understand what its like getting asked those questions. the classic question is "have u had ur meds?" that question ennoys me greatly. as i cant just be happy or sad without that question being asked.
Love this! If I could make a request for a video on what not to say to a person with an "invisible" illness & disability, including lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, chrones, MS, fibromyalgia, etc. I even have the first thing not to say! "You don't look disabled!" Yeah, and you don't look like a MRI or X-ray, machine!
I find it odd that many of them don't want it cured. Isn't it a horrible thing to suffer from? Also, if that's the case, why are people getting treatment for it, if they don't want it cured?
I've had type 1 diabetes for 12 years, since I was 14. The condition is fatal without treatment, and it reduces one's life expectency by ~10 years on average, often with significant disability in your last decades of your life, depending on how long you've had it and personal situation.
I've had it almost half my life, and it affects every aspect of my life, all from what I eat, how much I eat, how far from home I can go without significant preparation, when to sleep, how long I can go without food, and being aware of not runninng out of insulin in an inopportune time without suffering significant and dangerous health problems.
This obviously has affected me greatly and has shaped basically every aspect of my life and personality since age 14, I would still want it cured in a heartbeat. Because, WHY would you want to live like this??
Yes, it will be strange to start with, and I would feel naked without my insulin pump, and I would still be paranoid about going to sleep without checking my bloodsugar, miss seeing my great doctors, just eating like a normal person etc.
But do you need to identify AS your illness? I think that's where the problem lies with many of these people. Of course you have been changed as a person because of your illness, but you can continue your personal growth in the future as a person that HAS been changed by your illness and now living without it. Isn't that good enough?
No they all said they want it cured. What they were saying was they wish they didn't have it in the first place but they are glad that what they've gone through has shaped them into the people they are today.
The woman in pink at 2:56 says _"really?"_ in a very surprised tone. As well as the people that say it has made them who they are and they don't want to change that. The only thing I get out of that is, that they like who they are and don't want to get rid of it, because it would change them.
+Lemonz1989 I'm not sure because none of them said "I like who I am now but I'd like to be who I am without bipolar disorder". I can tell you as someone with bipolar disorder that I would absolutely get rid of it in a heart beat.
TheChickenRiceBowl Yes - I just found it strange how they reacted. I don't know if I'm reading too much into it.
I'm thinking that yes, it has made them who they are, and now they can continue their "journey" of who they are going to be without bipolar disorder, if it was cured.
I know I would totally get rid of my diabetes if I could, even though it has totally changed and shaped my entire teen and now adult life. It's part of who I am, but not _who_ I am.
Lemonz1989 My partner has it and he's always said he wouldn't have it cured if he could. He said he can't imagine not having it because in a strange way, it gives him routine. I know that sounds totally weird but it makes sense when you live with someone who has bipolar. He says he doesn't think his mind would be so interesting (even the scary bits and the low parts) if he didn't have bipolar.
That one guy in the green jacket looks like Kevin Jonas.
London Paige yes
Like your profile pic
I enjoy this series quite a bit. I understand that these people might find it annoying or frustrating, but I think it is important to educate people. Of course, you shouldn't be the spokesperson for you illness, but some people just might be curious, or want to find out more from actual experience. It just causes more misconceptions about the illness.
these people are the most eloquent or understanding of their issue. most other videos had people who were so defensive or pretended to be ok with a situation that was not ideal. re: what that girl in the off shoulder dress said about choosing not to have it
Do things not to say to someone with ADHD
"What do you mean you can't focus? I have that all the time as well!" ...
When im in the Depressive fase i dont want to talk to people too. But i dont want to see people *at* *all*, i dont want to answer the phone, (just the phone ringing gives me an anxiety attack) i dont want anyone near nor i want to leave the house or see anyone. No one can help me because all i want is people to stay away.
What do you do?
PS- I have also PTSD and Anxiety/Panick attacks.
You go see a doctor. I have the same low phase as you. Sometimes I don't even leave the bed for days. Phone and mail grows my anxiety. Since I'm medicated, everything has been so much easier.
I hang around the people in my life that make me happy. It's really takes your mind off everything
People are so judgemental to people with mental illnesses my dad has bipolar type 1 and I remember when i was little people would laugh at my dad and mock him for having a mental illness it’s really good to see people talking about mental health and shutting down people’s ignorant comments
My mom is bipolar. I'm finally old enough to understand what's she's going through and I've been reading up on the disorder and reading peoples stories of what's its like for them being bipolar or people who grew up with a parent who is bipolar. This video kinda helped me to be more careful about what I say to my mom.
Whenever I get an anxiety attack I straight up go to my grandma and hug her saying “I’m scared...”
This is kind of irrelevant but I hardcore ship the guy in the bomber jacket and the girl next to him
they kinda look like buzzfeed employees
Iv watched this a couple of times and I find it so so helpful and reaffirming
Thanks for sharing.. great video!
Like I have really bad migraines, and my friends say "I know how you feel, I had a really bad headache once" ... no!
I'm not bipolar, so please feel free to correct my ignorance. I don't see a problem with asking a loved one if they have taken their medication. I have a mother who has a diagnosed schizophrenic/generalized panic/anxiety disorder. I realize that is a lot of things, but she has so many diagnoses from different doctors, it can be a little hard to discern what is truth, and what isn't. Nonetheless, when she is having a freakout (I call it that not to be rude, I just don't know which of the three she's having a lot of times, whether it be a an anxiety or panic attack, or if she's having an intense delusion, which causes a panic attack, it's all very confusing) I ask her if she has taken her medication. I would hesitate before, because of fear that it would hurt her feelings, but now I ask her point blank. This is because I don't want to beat around the bush and try and help if there is nothing I can do to soothe her anyway. So is that wrong to do? Or is there a better way to phrase it so that way I'm not unintentionally hurting her feelings. Please let me know, I don't want to hurt my moms feelings if I don't have to.
Nicholas George If your mom is showing symptoms I think you are right in asking her. I just find it really annoying when I'm having normal mood swings and being asked if I've taken my meds. When a loved one is showing symptoms is always good to ask though
Júlia Macedo okay thank you! I appreciate your response greatly
When asking out of spite, for the sheer sarcasm of it during a disagreement is asking for a a beat down. Very trivializing. Just bc we get a little passionate sometimes over an injustice does not mean it's a Bipolar thing. It's human to get upset sometimes.
The last question gives such good advice for all kind of mental health issues.
I love these video it shows ppl that there are a bunch of misconceptions. I hope you make one for ADHD and Tourettes
I think I have a skewed view of those with bipolar disorder. My year 7 science teacher was bipolar and when she got angry she was the scariest person ever. She hated me because I was shy and was bad at the subject. I was a good student but I would go to the office before going to her lesson and pretend I was sick just to avoid going. I was absolutely terrified of her. But this video shows me a different side so I think I need to do some research.
No disorder ever makes it okay to treat someone like shit. Ever. My mom was bipolar and her little temper tantrums gave me PTSD as a child. Even to this day I have a whole lot of trouble just going to someone and asking a question. Bipolar or not, that shit is NEVER okay. It's abuse.
Yeah, I'm bipolar and I'm not a dick to others. Being bipolar is not an excuse to treat other poorly.
here comes the bipolar express
Please, please can you subtitle these videos! They are so good and so important and English is not my first language!
I have PTSD but was initially misdiagnosed bipolar until my insurance ran out & I had to change drs. Before the correct diagnosis I suffered my 2nd heart attack at age 40. An intern in the emergency room opened my file and stated, "Oh, she's just bipolar." He didn't read further to see it was my 2nd attack in 3 months. I would have died had my cardiologist not walked in. My point is pls listen. Just because someone is bipolar doesn't mean they're not having a real medical issue. Also, with the panic attacks I get told to just calm down or during a disagreement my PTSD gets thrown in my face.
"Haha....ahem"
"OMG ARE YOU BIPOLAR ITS OKAY JUST TAKE YOUR MEDICINE"
my night has taken an unexpected turn
was watchin flash blooper reel
I hate when people ask if I'm on med/ if I've taken them! My counselor recommended not starting meds because that could numb me out too much and then throw me into a long term down. My family is so supportive, even before we realized that I am bipolar.
I have unipolar depression so mine is worse than regular bipolar depression. I'm only 12. But being around people that make you comfortable and happy reallyvehlps with bipolar disorder. It really calms you down and you just forget about everything that ever happened. It's like going into a manic mode.
3 words you should never to say to a person with anxiety: Just chill. Relax. Dony worry. IT'S ALL BS
I would never tell dony to worry.
My mum
calm down
did that girl just say she wanted Catherine zeta jones's bipolar... that's really rude wtf
I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder back in April, and I have a service dog. So, I get asked these questions pretty often. Needless to say, this video CRACKED ME THE FUCK UP.
i’m not bipolar but a lot of these also apply to people with depression so i can relate to some of them. i hate how people don’t take mental illness seriously.
My mom has it and she's the best woman i know
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO "HAVE YOU TAKEN YOUR MEDS" EVERYTIME ME AND MY BOYFRIEND FIGHT HE ASKS ME THAT KNOWING IT'LL PISS ME OFF
playboy princess girl break up with someone that toxic
I almost cried when he said sometimes he just wants someone to talk to him but he doesn't want to talk. I totally relate and didn't think that was something anyone else experienced...
I feel just about everything you put out there nut, the worse for me is that the family just doesn't get it. I say to them oh well and there are plenty of ways to get the truth about bipolar if you really care. Thanks for this video. Just what I needed.