My son is a junior in UTC and we know you when we play there. I appreciate your great coach experience and some of your opinion in talking. But I don't your opinion that let parents stay away his training, I think parents just notice how much he involve kid's tennis. The reason, 1) some young kid, like my son is not very good to understand coach's instruction, I will explain to him in his comfortable way. 2) I also like play tennis and have good skill in tennis, so my son need to play with me when he has no class or partner. 3) My son has different coach and class, so sometimes his coach will ask me how he improve in different class and what need more practice. 4) My son likes me to involve his tennis sport because he feel this kind of support to him, so why he just do high performance in tennis, not other sports. But I won't affect his class so much. 5) I recruit coach because I trust his coach is the best coach for him, no matter level 1, 2, 3 or 4. Otherwise, I will teach him myself. Tylor is teaching my son now, I think you know him. In my view, he is a very good coach even very young, my son very likes him. 6) As a parent said, tennis is an expensive sports for training. I pick up ball for him because I don't want to waste any cents of class payment to let him waste time and energy in picking up balls. That's all my opinion and I wish you can understand why some parents involve kids training in some way, especially for high performance kids.
Hi Bogdan. Greta video. I agree 100% on all points. my son is 13 and is training to be a Pro player. have you got any advice or ideas of how a talented young player can get funding/sponsorship for tennis travels because it's very expensive, especially now that he is going to play many ITF Tournaments. Unfortunately the country we come from doesn't support talented players and therefore need to look elsewhere like private sponsorship. If you have any ideas on this topic please let me know. Karl
Thanks for your videos. So open and genuine. I m a tennis parent and it's hard for me to be totally hands off for my kid because I love this sport and sport in general. I feel like my own parents didnt push me enough when I was a kid playing sports. So I m trying to give my 8 year old the more opportunities to do the sport she loves. I m also learning tennis so I m really interested and involved in her lessons. I guess I should stop picking up the balls during her lessons too. ooops! How can I still get somewhat involved ?
Thanks for your comment GM, I appreciate kind words. I totally understand where you’re coming from. The most important thing is to understand that your child and your child’s coach are very lucky to have you on their side. You are willing to learn and help. That’s a dream parent to work with!! So two thumbs up!! You’re already doing a lot by driving them to practice/school/paying for lessons etc. Your child shouldn’t take this for granted. Remind them about it. Take it away from them if they don’t appreciate. Make them show you how much they want it. Like you said you want to provide opportunities and you’re already doing more than that and will continue to do that. I would talk to your child’s coach and ask them the same question. They will find a way to involve you. It’s always easier to say this but the key here is balance. Some kids have to be pushed. Some best left alone. It all depends what’s your relationship with your child when it comes to tennis. And what kind of coach do you have. What values he has. I don’t want to say general things without fully knowing your situation.
@@BogdanGrygorenko Thanks that helps a lot and really put things into perspective. I ll talk to her coach so we the find the right balance they see can maximize her potential. Keep up the great work!
Another thing that I want to say is that tennis is an expensive sport so sometimes you can’t blame the parents if they want more commitment or seriousness, if the child wants to play for fun there’s nothing wrong with it but I guess the parents won’t commit so much money. The parents were once children and many of them know the sacrifice that is required to be successful, many of them had a bit too much fun while playing thinking they got all the time in the world but before they knew it their time has passed so they know how time flies and don’t want same happen to their children, this is not to say that some parents are not going to extreme. There is a thin line between correction and castigation so parents should be careful not to cross that thin line while correcting. 90% of kids today will spend more time playing video games or computer and as a parent you have to choose between letting him or her do what he enjoys or taking away the video games and set rule on when to play to enable him focus, otherwise the parent will end up being blamed even by the child in later years. I have a parent told me that he regretted not taking video games away from his talented tennis player son, before he knew it the 12 year old became an 18 year old, even his son realized that he concentrated more on things that doesn’t matter, in my opinion every parent want their children to succeed and all they do is to help but sometimes they overdo it. I pray that God will help the caring parents to keep the right balance and help the uncaring parents become caring
I did not agree with you on “stay away from your child’s tennis” that the child is the driving force, majority of the children need push, if you don’t push them and decide to let them be the driving force many things will go wrong because they will not want to do the hard work, they will resort only to easy work, for example only few children if indeed there is any that will want wake up at 6 or 7am to run two miles or go to the beach to run. Motivation alone cannot do it, most times you have to take some decisions which you know will help the child on the long run. Yes he or she is playing for himself or herself but you have to take the driver seat to help steer the goal until he or she is at the age when they can realize that though hard-work tend to be painful but it will pay later than on, I’m talking about when they are around 16 years and above but at below that age, without making decisions for them they may tend to take easier routes
I agree. There has to be a good balance of pushing and letting the players pushing themselves. We've all seen parents pushing and the player just doesn't want it one bit. I should've been clearer and said that being involved is ok if the player really likes the sport and wants to excel. Otherwise it will create more psychological problems later down the road when they stop tennis eventually.
I agree, there needs to be a balance. I see the parents role for support and overall manager. I believe a good leader chooses the right people around him, coaches, fitness coaches, mental coaches etc and Trusts them and doesn't micro-manage. The desire must come from the child and pushing too much I believe will break there spirt. I'm also a supporter of enough rest. when hard work has been done, rest must follow, like after a tournament. I think this is very important, especially for their young bodies, also going through growth spurts etc.
You said parents should stay away from their kids' tennis. The problem with that is not everybody can afford to have a coach there 5 days a week. Are you against parents feeding balls to their children? Most top kids in my area have tennis playing parents and the parents play tennis with their kids.
It’s all individual. I understand that not everyone has access to coaching and hitting partners 5 days a week like you said. In the end we’re all a team and have to find a way to get the player to reach their goals. The player is priority. I am not against parents helping out their kids. Parents playing with their kids? I think that’s fantastic way to get better and spend time together as a family. If it’s done right. Parents have nothing but good intentions when it comes to helping their kid. But sometimes helping too much in certain areas can be more harmful long term. That’s where I was coming from.
Bogdan your channel is beautiful!! ..idk why it hasn't boomed! but God Bless ya man! you are really great!!
Wow! Thank you brother comments like this makes me wanna record more and more!! I am happy it helps.
Excellent video! As a long-time tennis coach, I would add that making the kids pick up the balls also teaches personal responsibility.
Thanks a lot mate! I absolutely agree with you. It all starts from the young age with little things like this. Cheers!
Inspiring 👏 Thanks Bogdan!
your advice is really helpful. more parents need to hear it.
Thank you Sherry. Very motivating to hear this. Will continue sharing more material like this.
My son is a junior in UTC and we know you when we play there. I appreciate your great coach experience and some of your opinion in talking. But I don't your opinion that let parents stay away his training, I think parents just notice how much he involve kid's tennis. The reason, 1) some young kid, like my son is not very good to understand coach's instruction, I will explain to him in his comfortable way. 2) I also like play tennis and have good skill in tennis, so my son need to play with me when he has no class or partner. 3) My son has different coach and class, so sometimes his coach will ask me how he improve in different class and what need more practice. 4) My son likes me to involve his tennis sport because he feel this kind of support to him, so why he just do high performance in tennis, not other sports. But I won't affect his class so much. 5) I recruit coach because I trust his coach is the best coach for him, no matter level 1, 2, 3 or 4. Otherwise, I will teach him myself. Tylor is teaching my son now, I think you know him. In my view, he is a very good coach even very young, my son very likes him. 6) As a parent said, tennis is an expensive sports for training. I pick up ball for him because I don't want to waste any cents of class payment to let him waste time and energy in picking up balls. That's all my opinion and I wish you can understand why some parents involve kids training in some way, especially for high performance kids.
Hi Bogdan. Greta video. I agree 100% on all points. my son is 13 and is training to be a Pro player. have you got any advice or ideas of how a talented young player can get funding/sponsorship for tennis travels because it's very expensive, especially now that he is going to play many ITF Tournaments. Unfortunately the country we come from doesn't support talented players and therefore need to look elsewhere like private sponsorship. If you have any ideas on this topic please let me know. Karl
Hi Karl. I will record a video on this topic in the coming weeks. Thank you for your message!
Thanks for your videos. So open and genuine. I m a tennis parent and it's hard for me to be totally hands off for my kid because I love this sport and sport in general. I feel like my own parents didnt push me enough when I was a kid playing sports. So I m trying to give my 8 year old the more opportunities to do the sport she loves. I m also learning tennis so I m really interested and involved in her lessons. I guess I should stop picking up the balls during her lessons too. ooops! How can I still get somewhat involved ?
Thanks for your comment GM, I appreciate kind words.
I totally understand where you’re coming from. The most important thing is to understand that your child and your child’s coach are very lucky to have you on their side. You are willing to learn and help. That’s a dream parent to work with!! So two thumbs up!!
You’re already doing a lot by driving them to practice/school/paying for lessons etc. Your child shouldn’t take this for granted. Remind them about it. Take it away from them if they don’t appreciate. Make them show you how much they want it. Like you said you want to provide opportunities and you’re already doing more than that and will continue to do that.
I would talk to your child’s coach and ask them the same question. They will find a way to involve you.
It’s always easier to say this but the key here is balance. Some kids have to be pushed. Some best left alone. It all depends what’s your relationship with your child when it comes to tennis. And what kind of coach do you have. What values he has.
I don’t want to say general things without fully knowing your situation.
@@BogdanGrygorenko Thanks that helps a lot and really put things into perspective. I ll talk to her coach so we the find the right balance they see can maximize her potential. Keep up the great work!
Another thing that I want to say is that tennis is an expensive sport so sometimes you can’t blame the parents if they want more commitment or seriousness, if the child wants to play for fun there’s nothing wrong with it but I guess the parents won’t commit so much money. The parents were once children and many of them know the sacrifice that is required to be successful, many of them had a bit too much fun while playing thinking they got all the time in the world but before they knew it their time has passed so they know how time flies and don’t want same happen to their children, this is not to say that some parents are not going to extreme. There is a thin line between correction and castigation so parents should be careful not to cross that thin line while correcting. 90% of kids today will spend more time playing video games or computer and as a parent you have to choose between letting him or her do what he enjoys or taking away the video games and set rule on when to play to enable him focus, otherwise the parent will end up being blamed even by the child in later years. I have a parent told me that he regretted not taking video games away from his talented tennis player son, before he knew it the 12 year old became an 18 year old, even his son realized that he concentrated more on things that doesn’t matter, in my opinion every parent want their children to succeed and all they do is to help but sometimes they overdo it. I pray that God will help the caring parents to keep the right balance and help the uncaring parents become caring
great points. 100% agree
Though most of the things you said are right on the money
cheers 👍
I did not agree with you on “stay away from your child’s tennis” that the child is the driving force, majority of the children need push, if you don’t push them and decide to let them be the driving force many things will go wrong because they will not want to do the hard work, they will resort only to easy work, for example only few children if indeed there is any that will want wake up at 6 or 7am to run two miles or go to the beach to run. Motivation alone cannot do it, most times you have to take some decisions which you know will help the child on the long run. Yes he or she is playing for himself or herself but you have to take the driver seat to help steer the goal until he or she is at the age when they can realize that though hard-work tend to be painful but it will pay later than on, I’m talking about when they are around 16 years and above but at below that age, without making decisions for them they may tend to take easier routes
I agree. There has to be a good balance of pushing and letting the players pushing themselves.
We've all seen parents pushing and the player just doesn't want it one bit. I should've been clearer and said that being involved is ok if the player really likes the sport and wants to excel. Otherwise it will create more psychological problems later down the road when they stop tennis eventually.
I agree, there needs to be a balance. I see the parents role for support and overall manager. I believe a good leader chooses the right people around him, coaches, fitness coaches, mental coaches etc and Trusts them and doesn't micro-manage. The desire must come from the child and pushing too much I believe will break there spirt. I'm also a supporter of enough rest. when hard work has been done, rest must follow, like after a tournament. I think this is very important, especially for their young bodies, also going through growth spurts etc.
My mom got good coaches and she got a book on how not to be King Richard from coach Jeff. Mom plays soccer with me.
You said parents should stay away from their kids' tennis. The problem with that is not everybody can afford to have a coach there 5 days a week. Are you against parents feeding balls to their children? Most top kids in my area have tennis playing parents and the parents play tennis with their kids.
It’s all individual. I understand that not everyone has access to coaching and hitting partners 5 days a week like you said. In the end we’re all a team and have to find a way to get the player to reach their goals. The player is priority. I am not against parents helping out their kids. Parents playing with their kids? I think that’s fantastic way to get better and spend time together as a family. If it’s done right. Parents have nothing but good intentions when it comes to helping their kid. But sometimes helping too much in certain areas can be more harmful long term. That’s where I was coming from.