There was a wedding where a father and a daughter stopped at the step father’s seat and asked him to join them up at the ceremony and the father told the stepfather in front of the crowd how his daughter was blessed to have him for a stepfather because he knew he genuinely loved her and helped raise her , and the stepfather also deserved the honor walking her down the isle, and they surprised him it was awesome beautiful and wonderful, they walked her togerther. Honor the truth, not the fantasy.
I saw that video as well.. the step dad started crying. Those two men gave their daughter the BEST WEDDING GIFT EVER: their great hearts and a true and abiding love. They released her into her life with happiness and not a regret in sight. The picture of them arm-in-arm walking down the aisle brought tears to my eyes.
No quite the same thing but my daughter had to move her wedding forward because her partners father had been given a terminal diagnosis with a couple of months to live. His wife pressured my daughter to let him walk her down the aisle instead of me. I was more than a bit put out but to save any conflict gave in. On the day he was too weak to get out of his wheelchair so I suggested he hold my daughter's hand while I pushed him, to be fair once I saw how I'll he was any resentment I had disappeared, it turned out to be a good day for both of us.
this is how I would want it. not that I would ever want to have to have the stepparent situation cuz it sucks on a few levels, but if it happened this is what it should be.
omg update to the the first story "Some stuff has happened recently and many of you have wanted an update on this. Appreciate the reassurance and understanding my decision when seems that many in this situation didn’t. I remained firm in my decision about not letting them use my property for their wedding. Even if they changed their mind about inviting us which honestly I don’t care about anymore. Rick’s family (thanks to him) got a hold of my cell so that was more people I had to deal with. I put my foot down with Rick a few days ago and told him directly that I will go to the police and press charges for harassment (I have all the texts and calls documented). Also had a very long talk with Carla about everything going on. She apologized for it all. And she knows it’s her own fault. Well she decided to be the one to call things off in the end. Some of my friends still seem to think it’s my fault and I’m taking some distance from them for a while. And also from Carla after getting some confirmation on a few things that I needed to know. Whole thing is a mess. I’m only glad in the end that I didn’t give in to their demands and the constant bugging has stopped.. It still was a huge headache over the last few days and not the kind of drama I want back in my life. Thank you to everyone who made me feel supported in this. It helped a lot not feeling like the only other person (aside from my wife), who thought their demand was insane and inappropriate"
Wow, never thought I'd find the update right here in the video. Charlette doing Reddits work. Also, OP, if he and his family don't respect your boundaries they'd deff not respect your home. Good for you for sticking to your guns, even being re-invited doesn't mean they didn't plan to make drama the day of.
If that last redditer DOESN'T go to the wedding with the bride's ex I'll be personally offended... when the universe offers you a golden opportunity for petty revenge where nobody gets hurt, take it!
Lmfao for real!!! You only get a chance like this once in a lifetime 😂😂 You might *feel* like an asshole for a while if you do it, but if you don't? Lifetime of regret lmao
Yes! Be the bigger asshole! Out asshole the bride! 🤣 I voted for , go with the ex, wear a white dress, obnoxiously make out and propose on the dance floor with a calamari ring or whatever’s closest. Shit, fall on the cake while you’re at it. What are they going to do? Kick them out? 🤣
defintition of a good dad ---- first date with a guy in the military. His alarm rings at 6pm, he excuses himself for a phone call. Found out after a few dates, he calls his 4 year old daughter every day at 6pm to talk to her, never misses a day !!! Has her every weekend and could not date on the weekend because of this. We did not work out and ended as friends and I have great RESPECT. Too busy with Work my ass, you failed pops!!
My stepfather raised his daughter from the age of 2, despite divorcing her mother ten years later. The bio dad was given the opportunity to be a part of her life multiple times and refused until she was in her 20s. When my stepsister got married, my stepfather and my stepsister’s bio grandfather walked her down the aisle, as they were both her paternal role models growing up. Her bio father cried and monopolized her after the ceremony because he was so upset he didn’t get to walk her down the aisle. But absolutely nobody except my stepsister felt bad because he had made this decision for decades to not raise her and had no right. Blood means nothing if you don’t actively put the effort in to have a supportive and positive relationship, especially parents and children.
He never said he didn't support her (if he didn't then I agree he has no right )but OP merely stated that he got divorced from mother custody 75% of time goes to mothers. So logically her being closer to step-dad osnt that far of a stretch
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Those you show up for through everything are your family, regardless of who you share DNA with.
@@tangentyoung5633 her bio parents ended up getting married later (and then divorced, shocker) and my sister wanted her “perfect” family ideal to be realized
The last story is a perfect example of why I think r/aita needs to make "justified asshole" an official judgement option. Like, yeah, it's an asshole move, but 100% warranted and we're all secretly cheering them on.
One of the best I've read: AITA for buying a globe as a parting gift for my flat-earther leaving colleague? Generally: YTA. BUT. It'd totally worth it.
When my ex’s new wife apologetically told me that my three year old son was calling her “mommy,” and that she never encouraged it, I said “Girl, if you treat my child so well that he thinks of you as another mother, I am truly blessed!” We’ve been great friends ever since, and my son is now 33. ❤️
I appreciate mothers like you! My mom unfortunately was not that way. I love her dearly, but she caused me so much trauma and pain as a kid, and my stepmom sheltered me from a lot and protected me, and allowed me to retain my childhood after my parents' divorce, because I was quickly parentified as the oldest child, but she stopped that real quick. My stepmom was my mom at that time. She protected me like I needed from my mom, but my mom was so emotionally absent from me. I call them both mom, although I call my stepmom by her first name in front of my bio mom just to keep the peace. I have told my mom many times that my stepmom was never a replacement for her because nothing can replace the first 10 years of my life with my mom as a SAHM, but my stepmom has also put me first as her own child, and protected me from things my own mother didn't. I don't call my stepmom mom out of spite, I call her mom because she is a mother in my life. She loves me and protects me, and I know she would give her life for me just as my bio mom would. Me and my bio mom have healed our relationship a lot, but I wish she could just see and appreciate that it isn't an insult to her by calling another woman mom. It may hurt, and I get that, but overall she should feel gratitude that another woman is there for me and protects me and supported me the other half of the time I wasn't with her. I love both of them, and I feel blessed to have 3 amazing parents who I can depend on for anything. Most kids are lucky to have a good relationship with one parent, let alone three!
I loved the last idea. Go baby...Have fun, break all the rules, do the sexy dance. Tell everyone you guys are dating. Announce pregnancy.... he should propose on the dance floor. Steal the show and disappear together.... uhhhh burn. I am going to hell for this.....
For the last one, not only should the ex pretend propose to her at the wedding, she should say yes and make a small speech thanking the bride and groom for inadvertently introducing them to each other and making their relationship possible. 😏
The fact that the couple from the last story had the AUDACITY to invite the cousin and the ex to the wedding at all speaks volumes. Making those separate rules for them let’s me know that mocking and disrespecting both of them would have played SOME PART in the days festivities. That they kicked them out and continually talked s*** makes it worse. She really needs to reevaluate multiple friendships and question why she was still looking forward to going even after the first betrayal. To answer the question YES it would make her an asshole but it’s a necessary evil at this point
We are absolutely going to need a follow-up about the exes going to the wedding and breaking the "rules"!!! I have to know what happened!!! I'm invested!!
11:04 These two are not the a-holes. They are the stars of the next top box office romcom of this century. C'mon, two people hanging together in the wedding of both of their ex's and trying to break all the rules imposed by the bridezilla? THIS IS GOLD! THIS IS A ROMCOM IN THE MAKING! I NEED THIS ON NETFLIX!
So much of Charlotte's content would make fantastic rom/coms. I don't know why studios keep remaking old movies with so much fresh content ripe for the picking. It’s all there on the net.
My Aunt and Uncle divorced when their kids were pretty young. She remarried some years later and the step dad was a huge part of their kids' lives. The kids split even time between both birth parents so they had great relationships with both sides. When they got married, both kids had both their father and step father walk them down the isle. It was very sweet and I loved witnessing it! 🥰
I’m in a similar situation (parents divorced young and stepdad was introduced into my life a few years later) and I’m planning on either having my mum walk me down the aisle or not having anyone walk me down the aisle, just to avoid drama. Either way, I know there will only be women walking down that aisle and neither of my dads will think that I favour one over the other
I married my kids stepdad when my youngest was 13, but we dated for a few years prior so from the time she was a kid, he very much influenced her in so many positive, fatherly ways. She adored him and his role in her life. Fast forward, I’m sitting next to her while she’s trying to delicately tell her father over the phone that she would like for them to both walk her down the aisle. She was crushed at his reaction (he was attempting to shame her and she still can’t stand to hurt someone’s feelings)but to not make waves she agreed. At the wedding, the next best thing happened. After the father/daughter dance, the DJ announced that there is another man who has been fatherly and special in her life and introduced my husband. She had chosen the perfect song to describe their relationship. They danced and there was not a dry eye in the house. Including the two of them. It was incredibly special.
Also; I just want to put out there, I raised my daughter completely alone. No one helped me. Her dad was a bum, and still is. I worked 2 jobs and flipped cars to put her through private school... and I was STILL active and present in her life. And never bad mouthed her father. We played, had dates, talked about everything from school, to friends and drama, to boys, and future plans. I sacrificed everything of my own life to ensure she at least had the bare minimum while still making dinner at night and cleaning and spending time with her. Work is never an excuse. I often would only get 2-3 hours of sleep just to make sure she got some mom and daughter time. Don't be a douche canoe. Now I have an amazing future husband who is an Amazing step dad to her. Don't give excuses, give results. You made a grown decision, and when you make adult decisions, you get adult consequences. Grow up.
Do you sound like an amazing parent! I'm so happy that your daughter has somebody like you. I think the dad from that story was a bit of a narcissist. The way he talked with a little too familiar
I consider myself a mature adult, so when I saw the question about bringing the ex to the wedding, my first thought was DO IT!, DO IT!, DO IT! Maybe I'm not as mature as I thought I was.
When I was in my late teens I was setup on a blind date, and we wound up hitting it off immediately! We had a lot in common, especially our sense of humor. We dated for a few months and then decided we would be better off as friends. He stayed one of my closest friends for a long time. He would even drive 2 hrs just to see me! There were a few times through the years where we would kiss, usually after a night out and a little tipsy lol but that’s all that ever happened. Fast forward 5 yrs or so and he calls me all excited and says he got engaged and wanted me to sing at their wedding, which I of course said yes to. Although I was never actually able to make a living out of being a singer, it still was and is my greatest passion. Anyways, not even a week later and he calls me again. He said that his fiancée absolutely demanded him to tell me I was no longer allowed to sing at his wedding, or even come to it actually. He felt horrible, but I understood… kind of. We were never a serious relationship and as stated before had only kissed, but still after 7 or so years she was still threatened by me!! Never mind that I hadn’t even seen him in about 6 yrs since I moved to another state, and was married!! I wanted so badly to say that he deserved so much more, but I couldn’t. They wound up getting married and he was absolutely miserable. She made him cut off all contact with me, which wasn’t much since I had just had a baby and didn’t have a lot of time to catch up with friends. It’s been over 14 yrs and I haven’t talked to him at all. I do know from mutual friends that he is absolutely miserable, but because they have kids, he doesn’t want to break up their family. It’s a shame because he was a funny and super outgoing guy and now is withdrawn and seems to have given up, and I guess he doesn’t realize that him staying doesn’t help the kids at all. If he left I know he would be a lot happier and in turn so would his kids. It’s just a sad situation and I miss my friend.
My dad and stepdad both walked me down the aisle. I’ve been so lucky to have a stepdad who truly loves me like I’m his biological child and thankfully my biological dad didn’t get his panties in a twist over it. It made my wedding day that much more special to have both of my dads be there for me. I think the dad in the video needs to grow up and FINALLY be there for his daughter.
I did the same as well, I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It made the day even more special for all of us. What a awful position that dad put his daughter in, he should be ashamed of himself!
Most Dads would be very hurt over this though but would give in because they love their daughter. I honestly don’t understand why not just have your Dad walk you it’s supposed to be an honour for him. Step dad can still be part of the ceremony in some way. There’s no Dad who would say they were 100% ok with it.
Same for me!!! Go pretty healthy co parenting situations!!! All of my parents are friends. And my dad has never had issues with me calling my other dad “dad”. I’ve never called my brothers half brothers either. I’ve only ever considered my family, my family. I got to have both dads walk me down the isle and both shared the daddy daughter dance. It couldn’t have happened better. I’ll never understand parents that are so selfish that they can’t put their “big kid undies” on for their children. Like get over yourself and for the mental health of your kids, work it out the best you can. You don’t have to be best friends, but you don’t need to be toxic and nasty to each other. Just be cordial.
@@Coolkem1 I have to disagree. My dad didn’t bat an eye when I said I was going to have both of them walk me and both do the daddy daughter dance. But all of my parents are friends and they bonded over parenting. And they all still come over and chill together. My mom and stepdad (I still call him dad), were even at my dad and stepmom’s wedding. My dad has been in my life since I was 3, and my bio-dad has always been so grateful that My dad has taken such good care of me. Both of them have always known they’d both walk me down the isle. (Also, it was a good thing because my shoes hurt so bad I couldn’t walk so they were both basically my crutches lmao!!!) I know that our family dynamic was probably 1 in a million. (And believe me, my mom and dad’s relationship was really really bad the first 3 years of my life and I had a really bad 2nd year of life due to one of my moms exs. But just seeing that it’s possible for separated parents to coparent healthily first hand, I know it’s possible.)
@@britlilbit As a father I would have a problem with that if my daughter asked. I probably wouldn’t let her know, but I would definitely feel a way about it.
The music while the person walks past the door twice made me literally cry laughing. 🤣 Honestly though, I had issues with the couple who wanted to get married in the exes’ backyard and kick them out. Get over yourself 🙄 and the last one? I agreed with Reddit. 🤣 literally pretend like you’re dating…dance risqué for a bit. Then both disappear for quite sometime/go f*** in a closet 🤣 It’d definitely be the one of the most satisfying Petty revenge stories to me 🤣
No way! Don't say you don't recognize the X-files theme?! :O Yikes, that makes me feel like such a boomer xD Not shaming you - just made me realize how ancient that show is
I literally got so afraid, the way they walked pass. Had to remind myself that she clearly would have to know them since it was edited and posted 🤦🏾♀️
@@Mikoo85 I'm 33 and I was just going to comment how much I loved the x files music over the person. She has amazing editors. I'm a huge x files fan even have a tattoo. I'm technically a millennial so don't lose hope. Someday they will realize "the truth is out there.."👽🛸💚🖤
I would dearly love a follow-up on that last one!! Maybe they could get someone to secretly video their rule breaking and someone else video the brides reactions!! Think of the possibilities!!😂
Just a kind of random side note: my sisters and i always refer to our childhood nanny as a "bonus mom". My nanny dropped us off and picked us up from school, made us meals, spent time with us playing games (both my mom and my dad worked full time as lawyers) so she was a real blessing. I went to a private school and a lot of the kids there would treat the nanny's like staff or something. The disrespect in just tossing your backpack to the woman who's taking care of you and walking/driving you back home was something that bothered me from a young age. And it's not always the kids fault that they're so disrespectful at a young age. The parents want to have the best of both worlds, having someone else take care of their kids but also remaining the only parental figure. There is nothing wrong with sharing parental duties, especially when you're working full time. But having someone take over some of those duties and then guarding the definition/status of "parent, mom/dad" by encouraging or at least being blind to the disrespect of those individuals is a sick scenario. Basically defining nannys/caretakers as staff so they aren't threatened by their kids forming a closer attachment to those people than their biological parents. Not encouraging your kids to trust and be comfortable with the adults who are the most present in their lives has a huge impact on those kids, essentially leaving them emotionally alone growing up. Not to mention how it encourages those kids to disrespect the women (sometimes men) basically raising them and how that impacts those adults just trying to care for these kids. if i ever had a wedding (which i don't think I will, i've never been attached to the idea of monogamy) all of the adults present in raising me would be front and centre. I'll leave you all with the quote "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" - often having the meaning flipped to a shortened quote 'blood is thicker than water'. The original quote means the blood of the individuals in the relationships you build is more meaningful than your biological heritage. To me that makes a lot more sense.
I asked my mom to walk me down the aisle instead of my dead beat dad. He was so mad, told me it was embarrassing for him and didn’t come to the wedding. Believe me, he embarrasses himself just fine without me. I’ve been happily married for 6 years. Thanks mom!!
My dad whined about me not having a wedding where he could walk me down the aisle. Except my dad abandoned me and cancelled any time planned with him to spend more time with his latest fling. He was also a workaholic so.... yeah. I never got a step dad to come in and be a good replacement for him, my mom liked to shout at her kids and blame us for our dad leaving, so my whole perception of what a parent is is really messed up. She still thinks she was this amazing mother (she wasn't). Also, I'm divorced now, myself, so there's that. My picker got screw up with the first one, I'm sure family history didn't help. I've since met someone amazing who is already an amazing father to my kids but I'm still scared of marriage after the trauma of the first one so we're taking our time. That bio dad is 100% the a-hole.
If you can afford it, therapy might be a good idea. It can help you slowly work through those things. Regardless if he's the right one or not, I promise you'll both be a lot happier if you do that first, and you'll be more confident in your choice
The last one is a no brainer to me. She’s marrying OP’s ex, removed her from the party for petty reasons, restricted her all the way to WHO SHE COULD TALK TO, is talking shit and making fun of her behind her back with the bridesmaids! Going with the ex bf to enjoy it normally like everyone else is honestly the least of what this ah bride deserves
Right? At that point, I wouldn't even care if it made me an asshole, I would wholeheartedly accept that title and wear it like a fucking crown. Or a veil. Just to piss them off. Seriously, I hope OP does go with the ex, I hope they end up either falling genuinely in love or just being good friends, and I hope Bridezilla and King Kong have a horrible night and get divorced after six months.
Being a step child myself I can only imagine how devastated that daughter must feel. So my mom is with my Stepfather and my Dad is with my Stepmother. I genuinely see all of them as my parents. I feel very lucky to have the four of them and they are all great friends but my Mom has admitted that it took her a while at first to get used to the fact that I see my step mom on the exact same level as her. But heres the thing, she told me that in passing when I was an adult and she never ever tried to force on me that she should somehow be “more important” to me than my step mom. She just worked through her personal feelings without putting any expectations on me and is so grateful to have my step mom in both of our lives. The idea that “blood trumps everything” is just an excuse people use to be trash to family and cover their own flaws.
The last one wasn't even anything bad. Like their plan was to attend together and behave like NORMAL guests. I say definitely do it! They're both invited and it's not the kind of revenge that would ruin the wedding (unless they do what the redditors suggested), so there's no reason not to do it. Only a bridezilla would get upset about it and let it ruin her day. A normal bride would not be paying attention to what they do or don't, as she would be focused on herself and her groom.
So in the dad/stepdad situation, the dad is upset that he hasn’t been in her life, so his solution is to abandon her when she is asking him to be a part of her life? That’ll help.🙄
Were did he say he wasn’t in her life? The man said his wife got custody and her new husband was a stay at home dad. He also said he spent time with her, but worked a lot as well. Nowhere in that story did he say he abandoned his daughter!
@@kennethsmith6367 Found the dad. In all seriousness, the fact that he appears to think his daughter is property instead of a person, and that being related by blood is more important than actually taking an active part in your child's life says it all.
@@catstreat9434 What’s wrong with “being the dad”? If I were in a crashing plane I would jump out with no parachute so my daughter has the last one. Most parents would. Mothers are getting way too much credit and dad’s are getting way too much dirt thrown on our position. I only said all that to explain why I am fighting so hard in the comments for the guy to get a fair assessment.
@@kennethsmith6367 "I worked 50 hours a week" For 15 years? Bs excuse. Find a different job. If he wanted to spend time with her, he'd figure something out. "I made her promise to never call her stepdad Dad" He calls it immature, but really it's a possessive, selfish, and unreasonable thing to do to a child. He still behaves this way per the rest of the post. So magnify everything else he's said by the same amount. "My time with her was limited." Magnify it.
@@cc_snipergirl How is his time being limited nessasarily his fault? There’s something called custody agreements. Most fathers without primary custody get 48 hours a month and a couple of weeks over the summer and you better believe it’s not by their choice.
If your best friend starts dating/Marries your ex of 4 years, there's literally nothing you can do to 'out-@$$hole' the bride. She and your ex have essentially topped the list at 'worst people'. Enjoy that day with her ex. Lmao
I disagree. Getting together with your friend's ex in and of itself is not an asshole move. It depends on context, like who broke it off, how long ago, are there still feelings involved etc. Does the bride give off the vibe of "I stole your boyfriend and want to humiliate you even further"? -Yes, absolutely. But not every case is like that.
@@erum.mI mean I honestly don't remember what post this was about. But judging from my own comment back then this case seems to about a game of hurting each other.So then, by all means, the OP could do that. The question remains whether someone wants to spend their lifetime getting sucked into these kinds of dynamics. But I would not judge. My point was simply that it's not automatically an asshole thing to do to date your friend's ex. Even still, often it is exactly that.
To the “I won’t share my daughters wedding with her stepdad”-guy: SO many children needs good adults in their lives, and you should be thankful that your daughter was blessed with a good adult to support her. Be good and thankful to the village that raises and supports your kids, especially when they are doing a good job.
The one with the bio-dad vs the step-dad is so awful…The bio-dad is being super emotionally manipulative toward his daughter, and that’s not okay by a long shot. Telling her that she’s “betraying” him by forming a bond with her step-dad?? Dude needs to grow tf up. Maybe it’s a *good* thing he wasn’t in her life more…Who knows how his ego and attitude would have potentially affected her development as a person had he stuck around.
That last one is genius YES you should go with him and piss her off more!! Love it. How can you even call her your friend after you know they're bad-mouthing you and laughing at you behind your back? That would be crushing, this poor girl.
As someone who also wanted her father and step father to walk her down the aisle together, it was a relief when my father didn’t come due to a snow storm. I’d rather just my step dad walk me down the aisle, but I was just being courteous to my bio dad. If he’s willing to not attend the wedding over it, I think that says a lot more about their relationship than he likes to believe. Her story sounds eerily similar to mine.
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My wedding was put together in 2 months. My now husband and I had been together for many years prior to the wedding. We both knew that we wanted a small quiet gathering. We ended up dong a theme wedding of Nautical Steam Punk. Myself, my mother, and my grandmother are all seamstresses. So, we helped guests put together any outfits they wanted, if they wanted to wear one. My mom's present to us was making my husbands outfit. He looked like a steam punk general. It was awesome! We decided that we didn't want kids at the wedding. Mostly due to clean up, and extra mouths. Although, that did prevent some people from attending. We were alright with that, and welcomed their wishes of good luck in other ways. We had maybe 40 guests in my mom's backyard, with a friend of ours officiating, and a really nice pot-luck waiting for after the ceremony. We had purchased ourselves a smoker for the occasion. With all the help of our friends and family we had a very nice laid back wedding that symbolized the coming together of our little 3 person family. Yes, my son was most definitely part of the ceremony. It wasn't just my husband and I, but my kiddo as well who was integrating together. So yeah, that's my story. Nothing fancy. No drama. Maybe spent $400 tops on everything.
Please find another word for that since “dad” requires selfless sacrifices for your children and this guy doesn’t even seem to understand that fact let alone put into practice. Acceptable choices could be “male biological parent”, “conception cohort”, or “sperm donor”. As a dad that would do anything for his kids (because I learned the hard way so I don’t want to imply that I’m better than anyone), this ain’t about you, fool! Get over yourself and be there for your daughter. The guy must have some positive attributes to have such a bond with your child, to put up with your ex, and to have done both with such aplomb, skill, and heart that your daughter wants to marry despite what happened between you and her mother. Sadly the OP won’t ever see this let alone in time to prevent another mistake (such as “working” too hard) to hurt his daughter’s precious heart.
dad's are the men who brought you up, wiped your nose, got you a drink of water in the night, dropped you off at school, make cake when you were upset. Silly bio dad....it's not a competition.....she wants both at her wedding.
As a divorce kid who wound up under similar parental manipulation from my dad, I knew things were going to be bad the second he thought it was okay to tell a 6 year old not to "betray" him.
When he said he made her promise to never call her step-dad dad and to never "betray" him - Well, I guess now we know how the divorce came about and just who the narcissistic arse is. Daughter would be better off without him; he's lucky she included him at all.
The dad getting pissy over a pinky promise made with his daughter when she was seven years old at the time, gave me the same weird/immature/pathetic energy as people who get pissy over pinky promises to get married that they made in kindergarten. Point being, someone should've grown up years/decades ago.
He didn't even raised his own daughter but still wants to be "the dad" and the pretty pictures, talk about showing at the presentation while the rest of the group did the whole job
can we appreciate how this bomb ass lady uploads literally everyday. its how i start every morning, no joke. and i know it cant go on forever, so id like to extend my appreciation for how lucky we are while it lasts
11:50 they absolutely need to go together. She’s marrying her ex-boyfriend for goodness sakes! She deserves all the petty that’s coming to her and more😂
The OP in the last story should 100% go! Take the ex as her date, wear coordinated matching outfits (like prom😱) Break every last rule, and if they get thrown out just walk out flipping the bird. Go out in flames 🔥
I’d go with cousin to the wedding. How did the “rules of the big day” get communicated? By text? Email? I’d bring both your lists to the wedding and ask to compare them with everybody else’s list. Is Bridezilla enough of one that some others got a list? Or will you be showing people a side of the bride by innocently enquiring about other peoples’ behaviour!
As far as the last story, once you get with a friend's EX, you just threw out the friend code so all bets are off at that point. The ex bridesmaid and the ex boyfriend should go together, have a blast, piss the bride off as much as possible, then never talk to them again. The bride sounds like a psycho control freak, not to mention being a shitty friend for getting with her friends ex in the first place. Some rules you just don't break if you want to stay friends with someone. ALL of my friends girlfriends become like a sister to me the second they start dating, and I would never try to get with their girlfriends even if they break up. The bride was a shitty friend from the start.
Dancefloor proposal, then next day announce on social media "Omg, we got so wasted at some party last night that we got engaged. 🍾🥃🍷🍸🍹🥂🍶🥂🍷🥃🍸💍🤪🥳 Needless to say, now we're sober we're not engaged! Lol"
That very last suggestion for the brides ex to fake a life together was GOLDEN!! (Also, I've been keeping track, can't wait til you hit that 1Mil!!! You totally got this! I'll see you at the celebration party if you decide to throw one!)
My dad and stepdad walked me down the aisle together. There has been lots of drama since my parents split (I was like 2) but my Dad and StepDad both love me and wanted to support me on my wedding day. They were the ones who also hyped up my idea to surprise my husband by making the Imperial March my wedding march (we are both big Star Wars fans and I had other parts of the soundtrack on for the ceremony anyway). They didn’t tell anyone and the three of us were so excited to see his reaction when the March came on. It’s a precious memory to have both of them with me and also I’m glad I had someone on both sides because the ground was kind of uneven x)&
Every time I wonder why I keep incorporating weddings into my stories, I pop on your channel and remember why. They're addictive, just like you. Always have a smile when your videos come on. Keep being awesome!
Omg- I would totally go with the bride’s ex and break all the rules in the last one! I mean, the bride(zilla)-to-be is literally marrying OP’s ex anyway, so sounds like sweet petty karma to me! 😂 Ngl- I’ve thought about doing something similar irl. My ex husband cheated on me with a woman I considered to be a very good friend (who also happens to be the mother of our kids’ best friends). I divorced him, she was already in the process of divorcing her husband and now my ex-husband and The Side Piece are engaged. Interestingly enough, TSP’s ex-husband and I are also good friends (maybe even more so after all this shit went down) and may or may not have thrown around the idea of wedding crashing in a big way! 😈
Or hear me out, if you are not invited act like you are dating, go on a big extravagant & romantic "date" , maby throw in a fake proposal, and flood your socials with images from the "date" and the "proposal" and tag all the relatives and the newlyweds thus overthrowing all the replies on social media of the wedding celebration. You can also start off the rumor mill by posting that there is a new love in your life and start posting more photos about the two of you (but keep the identity secretive) then reveal it on the day of the ex spouse's wedding.
@Kitty Silverlake I think it all depends on how they got together, which we didn't get the context of in the OP's redit. It could be no big deal, or it could be a big pile of 💩deal. I think Lexi finding parallels between the redit story and hers is completely understandable and not a stretch at all. The way the redit person talked, it didn't sound like it was an innocent getting together of her friend and her ex. We'll never know though, but super easy to fill in that blank if it's what just happened in your own life.
To be fair this is the way it should be. If your husband‘s gonna cheat on you you want him to marry her. My grandfather cheated on my grandmother and married the woman he was cheating on the woman he was cheating on my grandmother with. That caused my father not to speak to him until I was 16 years old. You got the best outcome in a shitty situation.
My petty wedding story: Backstory, my brother's ex and I hated each other well before any of us had even graduated high school. Fast forward to the few months before their wedding...she condescending told me that in passing that I was a bridesmaid and had always been on the list and that I had 2 weeks to get a dress. She had also decided that the dresses were to be black (so I would know when I placed the order) as the hot pink dresses she had initially chosen may take some of the attention off of her. I had just been notified that my job was giving everyone a mandatory furrow, it was my first full time job, I had just gotten married a few months before and legitimately couldn't scrape up the funds in 2 weeks as I get paid monthly. I told my Mom that I was going to have to decline, so she paid for the dress as she couldn't fathom me not being a part of my brother's wedding. Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner/production. I have to go straight there from my stressful low paying job and upon arriving, I was given some "work orders" that I had not been previously notified of. My mom, her mom and whoever the fuck else was supposed to be there to help the caterers and guests fucks right off and leaves me there frantically trying to keep the whole thing from crashing and burning before it even begins. A couple of hours at the rehearsal ceremony, there is a hired photographer taking pictures and documenting the event. I'm already level 8.9 pissed off from the evening, and I hate that bitch my brother is marrying, so when he tells me to smile, I double down, say "No!" and scowl. I am scolwing for every single picture....petty! At the "after party," my cousin and I dance in a sexually suggestive manner together and convince all of the people who don't know us that we are lesbians. We live in a VERY conservative area of the Bible belt, where lesbians dancing sexually are kind of like watching unicorns mate. You may be unsure of what you are seeing, but you don't look away. Petty 😈
@@jessica1lopez Mom used to treat me like an assistant sometimes. If I was doing something, to her, it was the same as her doing something. I'm not sure what she was doing. Probably trying to kiss my ex SIL and her awful Mom's butt holes. Now that I'm older and have had some therapy, I do excuse myself and let her projects where she gives me assignments without asking go to shit. 😁 Also before my Grandma died, she told me to never let ex SIL tear the family apart...and I do love my brother, even if he picked horrible people to be in relationships with prior to him turning 30.
@@metalcatmom5891 wow. It is just sad that you didn't have a supportive mom, and I didn't either but still. Still I'm glad therapy helped and that you are better.
@@jessica1lopez Our relationship is much better now that I have been able to set some appropriate boundaries and we no longer live together. I hope you are able to find your peace as well. .... I forgot to mention...at the reception, I didn't even sit with the wedding party. I sat with my husband, another cousin and her husband because the animosity was tangible. They didn't miss me and I'm pretty sure I was only in the wedding party to make it bigger than anyone else's we knew. Anyway...the brides maids were conscriped to serve cake to the guests, during the reception without asking or letting us know ahead of time. Serve as in take the cake to the guest's tables like we were staff. I have an issue with wedding cake in general as at my wedding ex SIL's Mom decided to cut and serve my cake and she cut up and gave away my little top cake that was a special request to the baker from me, so it was a different flavor from the rest and I didn't even get to eat it at my own wedding. Back to the reception. I went up to the table to get my tray of cake slices. I bypassed half the reception and gave the cake to a table of family friends. Many of the guests I passed complained and said I wasn't being fair. I was all out of fucks at that point. I returned to pick up my second tray of cake, passed a bunch of guests, set it down at my table and ate as much cake as possible. My cousin and I then danced with each other like we were in a club. Like most of those in attendance, we left before the last dance. It was the first day I ever saw my Dad drink. And that is how I was petty with cake!
My stepdaughter is close with her stepdad and I can guarantee you if she asked both him and my husband to walk her down the aisle they would. With smiles on their faces. We all get along as best as we can for the kids sake. We sit together at events and are cordial to each other because that's what you do for your kids.
The last one with the friend marrying the girls ex then kicking her out. I actually think she should go with the ex of the bride because the minute the bride dated her ex then started making fun of her and constantly shit talking her for the SLIGHTEST thing, that's not a friend. There was no loyalty there at all. So why should she be loyal? There's the 'prove you're the bigger person' thing but at that point there's nothing to prove other than bowing to someone who seems pretty shitty and selfish. Besides, it was just going together to break the lil petty rules. There's no guarentee they'll even be attracted to each other.
If those are your friends you deserve a better class of friend - all the ones that joined in the cattiness and cut ties with you over something so dumb after you crashed with the ex would be good riddance.
Something like this happened to a friend of mine. They lived on largish property outside of town that had plenty of room for the large outdoor party. Then there was a falling out with the friend and the wedding party had to find a new venue on short notice. The friend was kind enough to place a sign on his gate (Which he locked) clearly explaining that the venue had been changed and where the new venue was located (not too far away) Still 30 people rang his gate buzzer asking to be let into the property for the wedding.
as to the step dad walking her down the aisle: it is not bad to WANT that, but the reality is that the step dad helped raise your daughter. so if you don't want to share, then sit in the crowd, but show up, go to the wedding, smile and be the good father for a day that you think you are!
I kinda get his side, like yes he's being an ass about it but I get it. Like she asked him to walk her down the aisle then later on added the stepdad so he now has to share what he thought would just be between the two of them, so I understand him being hurt. I feel like there could be a better way of including the stepdad without "taking away" from her dad, like she could do 2 father daughter dances. But I understand if she wants to include him in this moment, it's her wedding after all, it's hard because I get both sides.
@@brim9961 I get him being hurt. 100% natural. but the truth is that he didn't raise her by himself (in the father role) some other guy pitched in. thinking it belongs to him alone by divine right and the other guy should take a back seat is natural, but also delusional. part of being an adult is realizing that situations don't always work our perfectly and dealing with it with some grace and dignity. be sad, but keep a stiff upper lip and carry on!
Here's the thing with the last story. Would she be the AH, probably. Does her "friend" deserve it, absolutely. Should she do this, probably not. Would I also do this, absolutely. A "friend" like that bride isn't really your friend anyway if she's marrying your ex AND treating you like this. So if you're prepared for the inevitable fallout from it, and being labeled the AH by some if not most people, then I say go for it. Show up as dates and ditch for a bar or something like a quarter into the reception. I think that's long enough to get your point across and start some rumors without keeping you in the 'blast zone' for longer than necessary. Or at least that's what I would do...
The dad who said he didn't have time for his daughter because of working 50 hours a week 🙄 my husband works 70+ hours a week and still makes time for his family
Right? My guy works 80hr+ weeks (he's a sound engineer & the concert season just started with a vengeance) & he still has time to see me. Sometimes it's even more. It's hard, but it can be done. The last time was in the middle of 8 days in a row.
But it's his ex wife that divorced him for those 50+ hours work weeks. If he was a good dad when he had her during his visitation time, I would agree with him but if he was still too busy while she was growing up then no. But i think it would be unfair to the dad if he was being a good dad while she was growing up after divorce since the stepdad still had more time to spend with her than him. There is so much he could do. But said that like I said earlier if he was still too busy after divorce to be a good dad then he has no say about she having both of them walk down the aisle.
@@eduardocruz4341 Is that why she divorced him though? He obviously kind of sucks in general from this post - an unreliable narrator. He probably just blamed that lol
im 30 and my dad still works crazy hours but he's ALWAYS been there for me and still is. love is what makes someone a parent, biologically related or not. OP of that post was an overgrown child himself
Mine too! He also travelled for 3 weeks out of 4 for years but when he was home, he was totally focused on all of us. He also called most nights to tell them goodnight and often sang them a bedtime song on the phone. That man is a terrible excuse for a father.
The first absent father: O. M. G!!! They were just being really polite to add him to walk her down the aisle and he had his head so far up his self-absorbed patootie that he didn't realize the sacrifice the daughter and step-daughter were making already!
The dad was too prideful and in denial that the step-dad took care of his daughter while he was too busy working, it was like a self fulfilling prophecy making his daughter promise that she shouldn't see the stepdad as a father lol. Also on the last one, my take is how about you don't go together at the wedding, but you meet at the wedding/reception and start flirting, dancing together in front of them HAHAHHAHA petty, mean and chaotic 😂
I like your added take at the last story. It sounds juiciest if they "met there". Make it look like destiny brought them together and really stick it to the bride and groom. The fact that the bride was so odd as to date and marry your ex shows that she was a user (and by the sound of it, it's like she was waiting for you two to break up). Or even worse, as ex-friend was dating groom's cousin and OP's ex is now groom, they could have gotten together before any break ups occured 😳😱
The step-father never worked(STHD) and lived with the daughter. The actual father never said he neglected his daughter, but acting like him working(child support and his own bills) in anyway means he wasn’t in her life is a large leap!
@@kennethsmith6367 see butbhe was legally obligated to pay child support and never saw her in person by his own choice so he removed himself emotionally and physically from her life ny his own choice. A call once a week or visiting on your day off isn't hard.
Come oooooon the last one is a romcom waiting to happen!!!! I NEED them to go to this wedding together pleeeease. Also, since they are both exes of the couple getting married chances are they might be fairly compatible themselves. I have often found myself getting along with ex's new partners because they have similar hobbies/values as me (after civilised breakups only of course). Sooooooo yeah get in that closet and get busy guys :D
For that last story: she should go with the other guy and talk to everyone!!! The bride and groom don't want these people talking because they are embarrassed and insecure about how they relate to these two people. They don't want the other guests to know that the groom is not only this person's ex, but the other person's cousin. They are worried about how other people judge them because they don't feel 100% good about it.
I know I'm late to the party but with my daughters their step dad walked them from the ready area to the beginning of the seating area. And handed them off to me . I was blessed to have a good man to help in our daughters upbringing.
I too had a dad and a stepdad. I had both walk me down the aisle. Both were happy the other was there. It worked out perfectly. This bio dad didn’t take the time to be in his daughter’s life when she was growing up he doesn’t deserve the honor of being dad now.
I remember when my sister got married to her now husband, my dad didn't go to the wedding all because the man she married was a white man. She was heartbroken that our dad didn't come. I was so upset at my dad for being such a jerk. After what happened, i didn't talk to him for a while. He judged her husband by his appearance. Her husband is nice and chill. He treats my nieces and nephew well. I don't know why my dad didn't approve of him, he just didn't like him.
@@Unicorn021 The reason I said lowkey is because while it is racist I didn't wanna assume anyone to be that. There could be other reasons and he used that as the excuse for not going. Not that the excuse was a good one... it honestly made any reasoning way worse.
My father and step-father both walked me down the aisle. They never really got along but they put their differences aside for the day and it was perfect having them both give me away.
I remarried when my daughter was 6 years old. Bio dad & stepdad who never met before my remarriage made it a point to put their mutual daughter first. They became good friends and both walked her down the aisle. Now that stepmom & I are both widows we still remain friends. This is how adults with no petty agenda behave.
I had to listen to some of those details about the biological father refusing to go to his daughters wedding because I thought my biological father had gone to reddit to complain about me lol! Unfortunately it happens too often, but my narcissistic and abusive biological father was the same way. I wish I could find OP and give her a big hug. It’s so hard to do, but I never got the weight off of me until I went no contact. My step mother keeps trying to contact me, but they’re never going to get through after the bridge was burnt. Since I’ve been gaslight my whole life, I do at times feel guilty, but I know this is the only way to keep myself from being abused again, or more importantly- it’s the only way to guarantee that my now husband and children will never be harmed by them.
Yes to this. The idea that "Forgive and forget" should be the ultimate goal can be so harmful. It takes lots of courage to do what you are doing. As long as we are doing our personal growth work, it is VERY healthy.
You are doing what is best for you and your family - emotionally and mentally and I hope some day that brings you comfort, security, self-confidence and pride instead of guilt. My bio father is a narcissistic, abusive a-hole and I finally cut off all contact with him for good just over a year ago when repressed memories of abuse from my childhood came back. He left my mom when I was 17 and for 14yrs, it was a constant cycle of things being fine, then manipulation, gaslighting and estrangement before it started all over again. I always felt tremendous guilt, like I was being a horrible daughter. But when life is less chaotic and happier without those people in your life, I think that speaks volumes. Sending you light and love, it's not easy ❤️
Ok I really love the idea in the end. The one that goes "let the ex propose to you on the dance floor" that's AMAZING. But reddit says that everyone sucks in there so I guess I, too, suck. Oh well😂
Regarding the last story, as long as my own family wouldn't be there to pass on judgement, I would go crazy with breaking the rules and act as my most chaotic self at that wedding. Because I feel like the bride was trying to exert some sorta power and humiliation on OP and the ex, and was making sure they wouldn't have fun, that's asking for war. And then I'd run away at the end and completely cut ties with everybody there, like I were some poltergeist that wrecked havoc and disappeared
6:00 my step dad walked me down the aisle. I don’t understand these guys thinking they have a RIGHT instead of a PRIVILEGE to walk the brides down the aisle
I was wondering if anyone else was going to bring up the 'shadowy figure'.... lol I'm sure they are meant to be there but now.... I kinda wanna know who they are ... lol
I had my dad walk my down the aisle, had a dance with him too, but I had a separate dance for my step dad and I. I'm sure the guy would have been upset about the stepdad being involved in anything... Seems like he resented the dude from the start. His fault for choosing to not be around. If he knew it was going to happen that they would bond more, than he had plenty of time to spend with her all those years before she ever got engaged...
He should have knew his wife was going to divorce him before his daughter turned seven and then she would marry a man that she would let stay at home and raise his daughter?
I love Charlotte because she has energy without being obnoxious, and she’s not one of those commentary channels who just watched and goes ‘woah’. She adds to it. Keep it up ❤️
My stepmother raised me and was a Godsend! My mother pretty much abandoned us for drugs. My mother did get clean when I was 15. My stepmother raised me from age 7 to 16 and was my best support in hard times when I was lost and finding my self. My mother had nothing but gratitude and respect for my stepmother and voiced it a lot. There was never a cross word spoken between them. ❤
The second story you read, the one about the dad refusing to walk his daughter down the isle. He's honestly being petty and childish, and what should he expect? He said it himself he wasn't really there for her, while the step dad was. It's honestly so stupid the way he's acting and getting upset over it. I myself have a step dad who I would consider my real dad because he was there for me my whole life while my blood dad barely put in any effort, and my step dad wasn't happy with me being around him and me calling him dad but he never did anything like that and made a big deal out of it I really do feel like he's acting so childish and his 'claims' are so stupid. He can at least be happy she still wants him to walk her down the isle with her step dad and not just her step dad
Agreed! Someone needs to tell him that providing sperm doesn’t make you a dad. Being there, spending time with the child, loving and guiding her as she grows up, that’s a dad. He should be grateful to have even been invited, much less to have been asked to walk her down the aisle.
@@jiiaga5017 He never said he missed visits or left her life. Was he supposed to lay on his ex-wife’s couch 24/7 next to her new stay at home husband so he could have equal time with his daughter? The obvious answer is no. I am sorry for the redickulas question, but somehow the father working after a divorce is being used as proof of his being a bad father. Divorce throw’s relationships into weird dynamics that aren’t cut and dry.
The dad/stepdad story: My father divorced my mom to fight in Nam . He never had an issue with her new husband raising us or us calling him dad. Apparently, we called both dad. We also called dad's exwife mom because of their shared kids. Our combined family was totally ok with the arrangement. Dad became dad after father signed over paternity rights
Love watching this 2 yrs later & hearing Our Beautiful Potato Queen say, "O my Gosh we're almost at a million subscribers!" Girl, U at 2 million plus!!
To the dad villainizing the stepdad: You should've fought your ex-wife if you wanted to be part of your daughter's life and you shouldn't have been a workaholic. You were absent from her life, so you have no one to blame but yourself for not wanting to be part of her life but thinking you should still reap the benefits as the "blood dad". You didn't give her your time, she doesn't owe you hers.
The entitlement of some people is atrocious! On a side note - I woke up to a wonderful video message from the beautiful Charlotte herself and I just wanted to say thank you so much! I will always be a supporter of yours as you keep me laughing and I just love your personality. The video absolutely made my day and I'll consider it as an early Birthday gift :) ETA: I don't understand how anyone can watch multiple videos of yours and not subscribe. I've been hooked since I saw the first one and instantly subscribed/followed.
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Gotta be said... My eldest daughter's Uncle walked her down the isle because all her life, He was one of the main daddy figures to her. Her 'father' came around once or twice a year, usually never on any 'special' days. Mind you, they lived most her growing up years, living less than 3 miles apart at any given time. He had a meltdown when she told him that Rod(uncle) would be 'giving her away' at her wedding, but he was welcome to be there as a guest. She was never, and has not since, had any 'feelings' towards her father. She learned who he was all on her own.
I walked by myself down the aisle. My father wasn't around at all from when I was three until thirteen (the formative years) and then only popped in periodically for roughly the next twenty years (at which time he ditched his whole family - all nine brothers and sisters, their kids, and me), I haven't seen him at all for about twenty years now. My step-dad only came into our (my mom and my) lives in my mid-teens. They married just after I turned 18. So neither man raised me. The only one I would have wanted to take me down the aisle was my grandfather because he was my father figure my whole life and I loved him to bits, but circumstances prevented that. So I went solo. In my mind a father (step or bio) earns the right to be beside the bride on her big day, it's not a given just because he knocked up her mom or is currently married to her mom. The bio-father should be happy she asked him and not be such a crybaby.
For that first one, I'd let them have the wedding in the yard but not use the house. For a early wedding, I'd sit on the porch in robe drinking coffee - not attending! For a late one, grill outside but by the house - not attending!!! 👍👍👍
forgoe the robe...boxers and stained wife beater undershirt it is...an occasional scratch of certain man parts timed right would be great too. I'd do the grill thing anyway....find some very smoky wood chips to put on it and a few greasy flames wouldnt hurt. ...possibly a stinky food to add to the fun.
I worked all bank holiday weekend and I am tired and my kid is driving me crazy and my dog is fucking off his nuts BUT THIS MADE MY HEART SMILE. 13 mins of hilarious disassociation
There was a wedding where a father and a daughter stopped at the step father’s seat and asked him to join them up at the ceremony and the father told the stepfather in front of the crowd how his daughter was blessed to have him for a stepfather because he knew he genuinely loved her and helped raise her , and the stepfather also deserved the honor walking her down the isle, and they surprised him it was awesome beautiful and wonderful, they walked her togerther. Honor the truth, not the fantasy.
That's wonderful and how mature adults handle things!
I saw that video as well.. the step dad started crying. Those two men gave their daughter the BEST WEDDING GIFT EVER: their great hearts and a true and abiding love. They released her into her life with happiness and not a regret in sight. The picture of them arm-in-arm walking down the aisle brought tears to my eyes.
No quite the same thing but my daughter had to move her wedding forward because her partners father had been given a terminal diagnosis with a couple of months to live. His wife pressured my daughter to let him walk her down the aisle instead of me. I was more than a bit put out but to save any conflict gave in. On the day he was too weak to get out of his wheelchair so I suggested he hold my daughter's hand while I pushed him, to be fair once I saw how I'll he was any resentment I had disappeared, it turned out to be a good day for both of us.
I have awesome thos once too it is beautiful
this is how I would want it. not that I would ever want to have to have the stepparent situation cuz it sucks on a few levels, but if it happened this is what it should be.
omg update to the the first story
"Some stuff has happened recently and many of you have wanted an update on this. Appreciate the reassurance and understanding my decision when seems that many in this situation didn’t. I remained firm in my decision about not letting them use my property for their wedding. Even if they changed their mind about inviting us which honestly I don’t care about anymore. Rick’s family (thanks to him) got a hold of my cell so that was more people I had to deal with. I put my foot down with Rick a few days ago and told him directly that I will go to the police and press charges for harassment (I have all the texts and calls documented). Also had a very long talk with Carla about everything going on. She apologized for it all. And she knows it’s her own fault.
Well she decided to be the one to call things off in the end. Some of my friends still seem to think it’s my fault and I’m taking some distance from them for a while. And also from Carla after getting some confirmation on a few things that I needed to know. Whole thing is a mess. I’m only glad in the end that I didn’t give in to their demands and the constant bugging has stopped.. It still was a huge headache over the last few days and not the kind of drama I want back in my life. Thank you to everyone who made me feel supported in this. It helped a lot not feeling like the only other person (aside from my wife), who thought their demand was insane and inappropriate"
Wow, never thought I'd find the update right here in the video. Charlette doing Reddits work. Also, OP, if he and his family don't respect your boundaries they'd deff not respect your home. Good for you for sticking to your guns, even being re-invited doesn't mean they didn't plan to make drama the day of.
Thanks for the update
Thanks for the update!!! I'm glad for him and proud of Carla for taking a stand and being an adult about it.
Anyone else reading this hear Charlottes voice reading it to you…just me then 😂
have the wedding at ricks ex girlfriends place, lol.
If that last redditer DOESN'T go to the wedding with the bride's ex I'll be personally offended... when the universe offers you a golden opportunity for petty revenge where nobody gets hurt, take it!
I loved how everyone was like "do this" "do that" with no judgement either way.
Lmfao for real!!! You only get a chance like this once in a lifetime 😂😂
You might *feel* like an asshole for a while if you do it, but if you don't? Lifetime of regret lmao
AGREED!!! GOLDEN TICKET!
Yes! Be the bigger asshole! Out asshole the bride! 🤣 I voted for , go with the ex, wear a white dress, obnoxiously make out and propose on the dance floor with a calamari ring or whatever’s closest. Shit, fall on the cake while you’re at it. What are they going to do? Kick them out? 🤣
I need an update on this!
defintition of a good dad ---- first date with a guy in the military. His alarm rings at 6pm, he excuses himself for a phone call. Found out after a few dates, he calls his 4 year old daughter every day at 6pm to talk to her, never misses a day !!! Has her every weekend and could not date on the weekend because of this. We did not work out and ended as friends and I have great RESPECT. Too busy with Work my ass, you failed pops!!
My stepfather raised his daughter from the age of 2, despite divorcing her mother ten years later. The bio dad was given the opportunity to be a part of her life multiple times and refused until she was in her 20s. When my stepsister got married, my stepfather and my stepsister’s bio grandfather walked her down the aisle, as they were both her paternal role models growing up. Her bio father cried and monopolized her after the ceremony because he was so upset he didn’t get to walk her down the aisle. But absolutely nobody except my stepsister felt bad because he had made this decision for decades to not raise her and had no right.
Blood means nothing if you don’t actively put the effort in to have a supportive and positive relationship, especially parents and children.
He never said he didn't support her (if he didn't then I agree he has no right )but OP merely stated that he got divorced from mother custody 75% of time goes to mothers. So logically her being closer to step-dad osnt that far of a stretch
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
Those you show up for through everything are your family, regardless of who you share DNA with.
That’s the difference right there between a dad and a father.
Why was the sperm spllosher even invited?
@@tangentyoung5633 her bio parents ended up getting married later (and then divorced, shocker) and my sister wanted her “perfect” family ideal to be realized
The last story is a perfect example of why I think r/aita needs to make "justified asshole" an official judgement option. Like, yeah, it's an asshole move, but 100% warranted and we're all secretly cheering them on.
One of the best I've read: AITA for buying a globe as a parting gift for my flat-earther leaving colleague?
Generally: YTA. BUT. It'd totally worth it.
We'll call it JA, standing for Justified Asshole.
Totally! And they should fake hookup during the party too, now that would be interesting.
Oh I do hope they go and be all flirty with each other in front of the married couple and mysteriously go “missing” during the reception lmao
agreed
The ex's going to the wedding together sounds like the start of a romcom and I'm here for it 🤣🤌🏽
It should be made into a movie
I would happily see this movie
I'm already shipping them, I mean the bride already moved on, clearly, so...
Right?! And I mean, to be fair, the bride was marrying the ex of the girl, so this fair enough. Petty, but fair 😂
@@Ale.calsan4777 sameee haha
When my ex’s new wife apologetically told me that
my three year old son was calling her “mommy,” and that she never encouraged it, I said “Girl, if you treat my child so well that he thinks of you as another mother, I am truly blessed!” We’ve been great friends ever since, and my son is now 33. ❤️
THAT is one of the most awesome things I’ve ever heard/seen! You are an Angel! Thank you!
That’s a fantastic response, your son sounds very lucky x
I appreciate mothers like you! My mom unfortunately was not that way. I love her dearly, but she caused me so much trauma and pain as a kid, and my stepmom sheltered me from a lot and protected me, and allowed me to retain my childhood after my parents' divorce, because I was quickly parentified as the oldest child, but she stopped that real quick. My stepmom was my mom at that time. She protected me like I needed from my mom, but my mom was so emotionally absent from me. I call them both mom, although I call my stepmom by her first name in front of my bio mom just to keep the peace. I have told my mom many times that my stepmom was never a replacement for her because nothing can replace the first 10 years of my life with my mom as a SAHM, but my stepmom has also put me first as her own child, and protected me from things my own mother didn't. I don't call my stepmom mom out of spite, I call her mom because she is a mother in my life. She loves me and protects me, and I know she would give her life for me just as my bio mom would. Me and my bio mom have healed our relationship a lot, but I wish she could just see and appreciate that it isn't an insult to her by calling another woman mom. It may hurt, and I get that, but overall she should feel gratitude that another woman is there for me and protects me and supported me the other half of the time I wasn't with her. I love both of them, and I feel blessed to have 3 amazing parents who I can depend on for anything. Most kids are lucky to have a good relationship with one parent, let alone three!
that is so beautiful, you're both wonderful mothers
That is how we raised our son we still do holiday's and birthdays
I loved the last idea. Go baby...Have fun, break all the rules, do the sexy dance. Tell everyone you guys are dating. Announce pregnancy.... he should propose on the dance floor. Steal the show and disappear together.... uhhhh burn. I am going to hell for this.....
LMAO
I'll bring the ice, I'll be in hell too!
@@dakingskween NO RULES IN HELL AND PLENTY OF DANCING!! WOO HOO!!!
Yes! Everything you just said needs to happen!
Nah nah, I’m going with you lmao let’s goooooo
For the last one, not only should the ex pretend propose to her at the wedding, she should say yes and make a small speech thanking the bride and groom for inadvertently introducing them to each other and making their relationship possible. 😏
🤣🤣👏👏👏👏
It's evil and I love it.
WIN
😂😂😂
The fact that the couple from the last story had the AUDACITY to invite the cousin and the ex to the wedding at all speaks volumes. Making those separate rules for them let’s me know that mocking and disrespecting both of them would have played SOME PART in the days festivities. That they kicked them out and continually talked s*** makes it worse. She really needs to reevaluate multiple friendships and question why she was still looking forward to going even after the first betrayal. To answer the question YES it would make her an asshole but it’s a necessary evil at this point
Sounds like these two didn't have many friends and just needed bodies at the wedding.
I would personal like to still go because of the free cake, food, & alcohol served at the wedding lmao
There’s no such thing as free in a wedding. She probably needs to help out at the wedding or pay the money for the wedding
We are absolutely going to need a follow-up about the exes going to the wedding and breaking the "rules"!!! I have to know what happened!!! I'm invested!!
Yes
yes please xDDD
11:04 These two are not the a-holes. They are the stars of the next top box office romcom of this century. C'mon, two people hanging together in the wedding of both of their ex's and trying to break all the rules imposed by the bridezilla? THIS IS GOLD! THIS IS A ROMCOM IN THE MAKING! I NEED THIS ON NETFLIX!
So much of Charlotte's content would make fantastic rom/coms. I don't know why studios keep remaking old movies with so much fresh content ripe for the picking. It’s all there on the net.
I have a story in the making!
My Aunt and Uncle divorced when their kids were pretty young. She remarried some years later and the step dad was a huge part of their kids' lives. The kids split even time between both birth parents so they had great relationships with both sides. When they got married, both kids had both their father and step father walk them down the isle. It was very sweet and I loved witnessing it! 🥰
I’m in a similar situation (parents divorced young and stepdad was introduced into my life a few years later) and I’m planning on either having my mum walk me down the aisle or not having anyone walk me down the aisle, just to avoid drama. Either way, I know there will only be women walking down that aisle and neither of my dads will think that I favour one over the other
I married my kids stepdad when my youngest was 13, but we dated for a few years prior so from the time she was a kid, he very much influenced her in so many positive, fatherly ways. She adored him and his role in her life. Fast forward, I’m sitting next to her while she’s trying to delicately tell her father over the phone that she would like for them to both walk her down the aisle. She was crushed at his reaction (he was attempting to shame her and she still can’t stand to hurt someone’s feelings)but to not make waves she agreed. At the wedding, the next best thing happened. After the father/daughter dance, the DJ announced that there is another man who has been fatherly and special in her life and introduced my husband. She had chosen the perfect song to describe their relationship. They danced and there was not a dry eye in the house. Including the two of them. It was incredibly special.
I just love how everyone is encouraging the two to be petty af and ruin the bridezilla's wedding, absolutely amazing lol
It might be evil to encourage them but I didn't get excommunicated for nothing
Well someone has to do it
Well, not "ruining" the wedding. Just breaking some really ridiculous rules that shouldn't exist.
They won’t last a year so not much to ruin anyway
Also; I just want to put out there, I raised my daughter completely alone. No one helped me. Her dad was a bum, and still is. I worked 2 jobs and flipped cars to put her through private school... and I was STILL active and present in her life. And never bad mouthed her father. We played, had dates, talked about everything from school, to friends and drama, to boys, and future plans. I sacrificed everything of my own life to ensure she at least had the bare minimum while still making dinner at night and cleaning and spending time with her. Work is never an excuse. I often would only get 2-3 hours of sleep just to make sure she got some mom and daughter time. Don't be a douche canoe. Now I have an amazing future husband who is an Amazing step dad to her. Don't give excuses, give results. You made a grown decision, and when you make adult decisions, you get adult consequences. Grow up.
Exactly.
"Don't give excuses, give results." Girl, that is a strong and good thought.
@@talitaminnie thank you! It's something my momma always says, and it has stuck with me through childhood into adulthood. I now preach it and give it.
Thank you for being such a good mom. I always wanted a mom I could talk to without the things discussed being used against me later.
Do you sound like an amazing parent! I'm so happy that your daughter has somebody like you.
I think the dad from that story was a bit of a narcissist. The way he talked with a little too familiar
I consider myself a mature adult, so when I saw the question about bringing the ex to the wedding, my first thought was DO IT!, DO IT!, DO IT! Maybe I'm not as mature as I thought I was.
SAME
Same
You're golden omg
The x-files moment of running past the door - absolute gold!! Loved it. Laughed so hard I scared my cat. So good! 👏🥇🏆🥇
hahaha im dying over that part lmao
That was spooky and funny
I laughed so hard...that was golden...well played editors....well played...
SAME! omg I died!
I literally jumped out of my skin the first time
When I was in my late teens I was setup on a blind date, and we wound up hitting it off immediately! We had a lot in common, especially our sense of humor. We dated for a few months and then decided we would be better off as friends. He stayed one of my closest friends for a long time. He would even drive 2 hrs just to see me! There were a few times through the years where we would kiss, usually after a night out and a little tipsy lol but that’s all that ever happened. Fast forward 5 yrs or so and he calls me all excited and says he got engaged and wanted me to sing at their wedding, which I of course said yes to. Although I was never actually able to make a living out of being a singer, it still was and is my greatest passion. Anyways, not even a week later and he calls me again. He said that his fiancée absolutely demanded him to tell me I was no longer allowed to sing at his wedding, or even come to it actually. He felt horrible, but I understood… kind of. We were never a serious relationship and as stated before had only kissed, but still after 7 or so years she was still threatened by me!! Never mind that I hadn’t even seen him in about 6 yrs since I moved to another state, and was married!! I wanted so badly to say that he deserved so much more, but I couldn’t. They wound up getting married and he was absolutely miserable. She made him cut off all contact with me, which wasn’t much since I had just had a baby and didn’t have a lot of time to catch up with friends. It’s been over 14 yrs and I haven’t talked to him at all. I do know from mutual friends that he is absolutely miserable, but because they have kids, he doesn’t want to break up their family. It’s a shame because he was a funny and super outgoing guy and now is withdrawn and seems to have given up, and I guess he doesn’t realize that him staying doesn’t help the kids at all. If he left I know he would be a lot happier and in turn so would his kids. It’s just a sad situation and I miss my friend.
My dad and stepdad both walked me down the aisle. I’ve been so lucky to have a stepdad who truly loves me like I’m his biological child and thankfully my biological dad didn’t get his panties in a twist over it. It made my wedding day that much more special to have both of my dads be there for me. I think the dad in the video needs to grow up and FINALLY be there for his daughter.
I did the same as well, I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It made the day even more special for all of us.
What a awful position that dad put his daughter in, he should be ashamed of himself!
Most Dads would be very hurt over this though but would give in because they love their daughter. I honestly don’t understand why not just have your Dad walk you it’s supposed to be an honour for him. Step dad can still be part of the ceremony in some way. There’s no Dad who would say they were 100% ok with it.
Same for me!!! Go pretty healthy co parenting situations!!! All of my parents are friends. And my dad has never had issues with me calling my other dad “dad”. I’ve never called my brothers half brothers either. I’ve only ever considered my family, my family. I got to have both dads walk me down the isle and both shared the daddy daughter dance. It couldn’t have happened better.
I’ll never understand parents that are so selfish that they can’t put their “big kid undies” on for their children. Like get over yourself and for the mental health of your kids, work it out the best you can. You don’t have to be best friends, but you don’t need to be toxic and nasty to each other. Just be cordial.
@@Coolkem1 I have to disagree. My dad didn’t bat an eye when I said I was going to have both of them walk me and both do the daddy daughter dance. But all of my parents are friends and they bonded over parenting. And they all still come over and chill together. My mom and stepdad (I still call him dad), were even at my dad and stepmom’s wedding. My dad has been in my life since I was 3, and my bio-dad has always been so grateful that My dad has taken such good care of me.
Both of them have always known they’d both walk me down the isle. (Also, it was a good thing because my shoes hurt so bad I couldn’t walk so they were both basically my crutches lmao!!!)
I know that our family dynamic was probably 1 in a million. (And believe me, my mom and dad’s relationship was really really bad the first 3 years of my life and I had a really bad 2nd year of life due to one of my moms exs. But just seeing that it’s possible for separated parents to coparent healthily first hand, I know it’s possible.)
@@britlilbit As a father I would have a problem with that if my daughter asked. I probably wouldn’t let her know, but I would definitely feel a way about it.
The music while the person walks past the door twice made me literally cry laughing. 🤣
Honestly though, I had issues with the couple who wanted to get married in the exes’ backyard and kick them out. Get over yourself 🙄 and the last one? I agreed with Reddit. 🤣 literally pretend like you’re dating…dance risqué for a bit. Then both disappear for quite sometime/go f*** in a closet 🤣 It’d definitely be the one of the most satisfying Petty revenge stories to me 🤣
No way! Don't say you don't recognize the X-files theme?! :O Yikes, that makes me feel like such a boomer xD Not shaming you - just made me realize how ancient that show is
I'm guessing Charlotte knew someone was there as she's still posting videos. 😂 Love your videos Charlotte!
I have a strong suspicion that Poos 🤣🤣
I literally got so afraid, the way they walked pass. Had to remind myself that she clearly would have to know them since it was edited and posted 🤦🏾♀️
@@Mikoo85 I'm 33 and I was just going to comment how much I loved the x files music over the person. She has amazing editors. I'm a huge x files fan even have a tattoo. I'm technically a millennial so don't lose hope. Someday they will realize "the truth is out there.."👽🛸💚🖤
I would dearly love a follow-up on that last one!! Maybe they could get someone to secretly video their rule breaking and someone else video the brides reactions!! Think of the possibilities!!😂
It sounds so juicy!!! Yeeessss I need an update!!!
😏
I love this for us! ❤️
Oh yes, so want that update.😆
Absolutely golden!!! 💯. Where is this? I will fly in and record!
Just a kind of random side note: my sisters and i always refer to our childhood nanny as a "bonus mom". My nanny dropped us off and picked us up from school, made us meals, spent time with us playing games (both my mom and my dad worked full time as lawyers) so she was a real blessing. I went to a private school and a lot of the kids there would treat the nanny's like staff or something. The disrespect in just tossing your backpack to the woman who's taking care of you and walking/driving you back home was something that bothered me from a young age. And it's not always the kids fault that they're so disrespectful at a young age. The parents want to have the best of both worlds, having someone else take care of their kids but also remaining the only parental figure. There is nothing wrong with sharing parental duties, especially when you're working full time. But having someone take over some of those duties and then guarding the definition/status of "parent, mom/dad" by encouraging or at least being blind to the disrespect of those individuals is a sick scenario. Basically defining nannys/caretakers as staff so they aren't threatened by their kids forming a closer attachment to those people than their biological parents. Not encouraging your kids to trust and be comfortable with the adults who are the most present in their lives has a huge impact on those kids, essentially leaving them emotionally alone growing up. Not to mention how it encourages those kids to disrespect the women (sometimes men) basically raising them and how that impacts those adults just trying to care for these kids. if i ever had a wedding (which i don't think I will, i've never been attached to the idea of monogamy) all of the adults present in raising me would be front and centre. I'll leave you all with the quote "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" - often having the meaning flipped to a shortened quote 'blood is thicker than water'. The original quote means the blood of the individuals in the relationships you build is more meaningful than your biological heritage. To me that makes a lot more sense.
I asked my mom to walk me down the aisle instead of my dead beat dad. He was so mad, told me it was embarrassing for him and didn’t come to the wedding.
Believe me, he embarrasses himself just fine without me.
I’ve been happily married for 6 years. Thanks mom!!
My dad whined about me not having a wedding where he could walk me down the aisle. Except my dad abandoned me and cancelled any time planned with him to spend more time with his latest fling. He was also a workaholic so.... yeah. I never got a step dad to come in and be a good replacement for him, my mom liked to shout at her kids and blame us for our dad leaving, so my whole perception of what a parent is is really messed up. She still thinks she was this amazing mother (she wasn't).
Also, I'm divorced now, myself, so there's that. My picker got screw up with the first one, I'm sure family history didn't help. I've since met someone amazing who is already an amazing father to my kids but I'm still scared of marriage after the trauma of the first one so we're taking our time.
That bio dad is 100% the a-hole.
Bestie, I really hope you can heal form all the past trauma and give life another chance. I'll pray for your happiness
If you can afford it, therapy might be a good idea. It can help you slowly work through those things. Regardless if he's the right one or not, I promise you'll both be a lot happier if you do that first, and you'll be more confident in your choice
Nothing wrong with taking it slow. Hope all works out for you.✌🌻🌻
You sound like a real winner yourself. Must be a great judge of character. Divorcees are usually great at picking them.
I'm rooting for you! Wishing you continuous love and happiness.
I’ve never felt a more visceral “YES YOU WOULD BUT PLEASE DO IT ANYWAY” reaction to WIBTA than in that third story.
For me it was much more the *evil grin whispering harshly "who cares just do it, you know you want to!
The last one is a no brainer to me. She’s marrying OP’s ex, removed her from the party for petty reasons, restricted her all the way to WHO SHE COULD TALK TO, is talking shit and making fun of her behind her back with the bridesmaids! Going with the ex bf to enjoy it normally like everyone else is honestly the least of what this ah bride deserves
Right? At that point, I wouldn't even care if it made me an asshole, I would wholeheartedly accept that title and wear it like a fucking crown. Or a veil. Just to piss them off. Seriously, I hope OP does go with the ex, I hope they end up either falling genuinely in love or just being good friends, and I hope Bridezilla and King Kong have a horrible night and get divorced after six months.
I know this is late, but that bride is manipulative and controlling. Who in their right minds think they can tell someone who to talk to.
Being a step child myself I can only imagine how devastated that daughter must feel. So my mom is with my Stepfather and my Dad is with my Stepmother. I genuinely see all of them as my parents. I feel very lucky to have the four of them and they are all great friends but my Mom has admitted that it took her a while at first to get used to the fact that I see my step mom on the exact same level as her. But heres the thing, she told me that in passing when I was an adult and she never ever tried to force on me that she should somehow be “more important” to me than my step mom. She just worked through her personal feelings without putting any expectations on me and is so grateful to have my step mom in both of our lives. The idea that “blood trumps everything” is just an excuse people use to be trash to family and cover their own flaws.
The last one wasn't even anything bad. Like their plan was to attend together and behave like NORMAL guests. I say definitely do it! They're both invited and it's not the kind of revenge that would ruin the wedding (unless they do what the redditors suggested), so there's no reason not to do it. Only a bridezilla would get upset about it and let it ruin her day. A normal bride would not be paying attention to what they do or don't, as she would be focused on herself and her groom.
Agreed - poster said they weren't planning on doing anything to straight up ruin the wedding.
So in the dad/stepdad situation, the dad is upset that he hasn’t been in her life, so his solution is to abandon her when she is asking him to be a part of her life? That’ll help.🙄
Were did he say he wasn’t in her life? The man said his wife got custody and her new husband was a stay at home dad. He also said he spent time with her, but worked a lot as well. Nowhere in that story did he say he abandoned his daughter!
@@kennethsmith6367 Found the dad. In all seriousness, the fact that he appears to think his daughter is property instead of a person, and that being related by blood is more important than actually taking an active part in your child's life says it all.
@@catstreat9434 What’s wrong with “being the dad”? If I were in a crashing plane I would jump out with no parachute so my daughter has the last one. Most parents would. Mothers are getting way too much credit and dad’s are getting way too much dirt thrown on our position. I only said all that to explain why I am fighting so hard in the comments for the guy to get a fair assessment.
@@kennethsmith6367 "I worked 50 hours a week" For 15 years? Bs excuse. Find a different job. If he wanted to spend time with her, he'd figure something out.
"I made her promise to never call her stepdad Dad" He calls it immature, but really it's a possessive, selfish, and unreasonable thing to do to a child. He still behaves this way per the rest of the post. So magnify everything else he's said by the same amount.
"My time with her was limited." Magnify it.
@@cc_snipergirl How is his time being limited nessasarily his fault? There’s something called custody agreements. Most fathers without primary custody get 48 hours a month and a couple of weeks over the summer and you better believe it’s not by their choice.
If your best friend starts dating/Marries your ex of 4 years, there's literally nothing you can do to 'out-@$$hole' the bride. She and your ex have essentially topped the list at 'worst people'. Enjoy that day with her ex. Lmao
That part
I disagree. Getting together with your friend's ex in and of itself is not an asshole move. It depends on context, like who broke it off, how long ago, are there still feelings involved etc.
Does the bride give off the vibe of "I stole your boyfriend and want to humiliate you even further"? -Yes, absolutely. But not every case is like that.
@@Sarah-oj7bh Then doesn't it work the other way as well...her going with the bride's ex? That should not be an issue, either.
@@erum.mI mean I honestly don't remember what post this was about. But judging from my own comment back then this case seems to about a game of hurting each other.So then, by all means, the OP could do that. The question remains whether someone wants to spend their lifetime getting sucked into these kinds of dynamics. But I would not judge. My point was simply that it's not automatically an asshole thing to do to date your friend's ex. Even still, often it is exactly that.
OMG sorry, I didn't realize your comment was a year old. @@Sarah-oj7bh
To the “I won’t share my daughters wedding with her stepdad”-guy:
SO many children needs good adults in their lives, and you should be thankful that your daughter was blessed with a good adult to support her. Be good and thankful to the village that raises and supports your kids, especially when they are doing a good job.
Imma be honest he seemed weirdly into his daughter it sounded like a classic "niceguy" shit
The one with the bio-dad vs the step-dad is so awful…The bio-dad is being super emotionally manipulative toward his daughter, and that’s not okay by a long shot. Telling her that she’s “betraying” him by forming a bond with her step-dad?? Dude needs to grow tf up. Maybe it’s a *good* thing he wasn’t in her life more…Who knows how his ego and attitude would have potentially affected her development as a person had he stuck around.
Like I get the reason why he had to work 50-hours because kids are expensive but he doesn't need to throw a fit, he should be happy
Oooh, the proposing on the dance floor (for the last story) is deliciously wicked. I love it!
That last one is genius YES you should go with him and piss her off more!! Love it. How can you even call her your friend after you know they're bad-mouthing you and laughing at you behind your back? That would be crushing, this poor girl.
As someone who also wanted her father and step father to walk her down the aisle together, it was a relief when my father didn’t come due to a snow storm. I’d rather just my step dad walk me down the aisle, but I was just being courteous to my bio dad. If he’s willing to not attend the wedding over it, I think that says a lot more about their relationship than he likes to believe. Her story sounds eerily similar to mine.
Exactly, he cares more about proving a point than actually being there for his daughter!
Every time it's about wedding and zillas I always lool forward to listen and watch how Potato Queen reacts to them. Those expressions make these reactions
vids the more enjoyable
i have to ask what potato queen is 😂😂😂
is that a nickname of hers or do you just call her that? 😂 either way i love it lol
ahh nevermind i saw someone else call her that too lmao where does the name come from 😂😂😂
i’m a new subscriber if you couldn’t tell lol
@@lovemyfrenns welcome! We are glad you’re here! Thanks for subscribing. Check out her channel for an older video that explains it. Short version, she worked at Inform Overload and their fans were called potatoes. She was the best thing on that channel and now she’s the Potato Queen!
Yep, that’s her bread and butter. Right in her wheelhouse. She’s a natural with these and her reactions are flawless.
My wedding was put together in 2 months. My now husband and I had been together for many years prior to the wedding. We both knew that we wanted a small quiet gathering. We ended up dong a theme wedding of Nautical Steam Punk. Myself, my mother, and my grandmother are all seamstresses. So, we helped guests put together any outfits they wanted, if they wanted to wear one. My mom's present to us was making my husbands outfit. He looked like a steam punk general. It was awesome! We decided that we didn't want kids at the wedding. Mostly due to clean up, and extra mouths. Although, that did prevent some people from attending. We were alright with that, and welcomed their wishes of good luck in other ways. We had maybe 40 guests in my mom's backyard, with a friend of ours officiating, and a really nice pot-luck waiting for after the ceremony. We had purchased ourselves a smoker for the occasion. With all the help of our friends and family we had a very nice laid back wedding that symbolized the coming together of our little 3 person family. Yes, my son was most definitely part of the ceremony. It wasn't just my husband and I, but my kiddo as well who was integrating together. So yeah, that's my story. Nothing fancy. No drama. Maybe spent $400 tops on everything.
“Screw the guy in a closet and get found out..” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’ll be laughing about that one all day! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Why in a closet ? Pick a table, shove the wedding cake aside and voilà.
That sorry excuse for a sperm donor sounds like he's willing to throw his already tenuous relationship with his daughter away over nothing
It's not like him throwing a tantrum will do any good.
Please find another word for that since “dad” requires selfless sacrifices for your children and this guy doesn’t even seem to understand that fact let alone put into practice. Acceptable choices could be “male biological parent”, “conception cohort”, or “sperm donor”.
As a dad that would do anything for his kids (because I learned the hard way so I don’t want to imply that I’m better than anyone), this ain’t about you, fool! Get over yourself and be there for your daughter. The guy must have some positive attributes to have such a bond with your child, to put up with your ex, and to have done both with such aplomb, skill, and heart that your daughter wants to marry despite what happened between you and her mother. Sadly the OP won’t ever see this let alone in time to prevent another mistake (such as “working” too hard) to hurt his daughter’s precious heart.
dad's are the men who brought you up, wiped your nose, got you a drink of water in the night, dropped you off at school, make cake when you were upset. Silly bio dad....it's not a competition.....she wants both at her wedding.
As a divorce kid who wound up under similar parental manipulation from my dad, I knew things were going to be bad the second he thought it was okay to tell a 6 year old not to "betray" him.
When he said he made her promise to never call her step-dad dad and to never "betray" him - Well, I guess now we know how the divorce came about and just who the narcissistic arse is. Daughter would be better off without him; he's lucky she included him at all.
The dad getting pissy over a pinky promise made with his daughter when she was seven years old at the time, gave me the same weird/immature/pathetic energy as people who get pissy over pinky promises to get married that they made in kindergarten.
Point being, someone should've grown up years/decades ago.
Do people really take pinky promises from kindergarten for the rest of their lives?!!
I'm in shock right now...!
@@RodrickMarsMoon You'd be surprised how nuts some people get, it's comical and scary
_i made her promise - it’s not fair (that I worked 50 hour weeks)_
He didn't even raised his own daughter but still wants to be "the dad" and the pretty pictures, talk about showing at the presentation while the rest of the group did the whole job
Honestly though.. If he knew his schedule, and knew how much his relationship meant.. He shouldve managed that time & relationship better👌
can we appreciate how this bomb ass lady uploads literally everyday. its how i start every morning, no joke. and i know it cant go on forever, so id like to extend my appreciation for how lucky we are while it lasts
Unfortunately she has slowed down, that being said there is always content for me to watch cuz I'm new lol
On the last one, I LOVE IT! This is throwing petty back at the bride after her demands and more. Yes yes yes. I love it.
11:50 they absolutely need to go together. She’s marrying her ex-boyfriend for goodness sakes! She deserves all the petty that’s coming to her and more😂
The OP in the last story should 100% go! Take the ex as her date, wear coordinated matching outfits (like prom😱) Break every last rule, and if they get thrown out just walk out flipping the bird. Go out in flames 🔥
I’d go with cousin to the wedding. How did the “rules of the big day” get communicated? By text? Email? I’d bring both your lists to the wedding and ask to compare them with everybody else’s list. Is Bridezilla enough of one that some others got a list? Or will you be showing people a side of the bride by innocently enquiring about other peoples’ behaviour!
They'd probably be breaking the rule of who they can and can't talk to if they did that...but I like it
I’d bring the list to check off each rule as I break them
Excellent idea.
I love that! Just expose the crazy.
As far as the last story, once you get with a friend's EX, you just threw out the friend code so all bets are off at that point. The ex bridesmaid and the ex boyfriend should go together, have a blast, piss the bride off as much as possible, then never talk to them again. The bride sounds like a psycho control freak, not to mention being a shitty friend for getting with her friends ex in the first place. Some rules you just don't break if you want to stay friends with someone. ALL of my friends girlfriends become like a sister to me the second they start dating, and I would never try to get with their girlfriends even if they break up. The bride was a shitty friend from the start.
Exactly
I broke that rule. it worked out .
And also the bride is really insecure for making fun of OP and talking behind her back. And the groom's a total jackass. They deserve each other.
Dancefloor proposal, then next day announce on social media "Omg, we got so wasted at some party last night that we got engaged. 🍾🥃🍷🍸🍹🥂🍶🥂🍷🥃🍸💍🤪🥳
Needless to say, now we're sober we're not engaged! Lol"
@@woobiefuntime See? I think the whole girl code thing is bullsh*t.
That very last suggestion for the brides ex to fake a life together was GOLDEN!! (Also, I've been keeping track, can't wait til you hit that 1Mil!!! You totally got this! I'll see you at the celebration party if you decide to throw one!)
My dad and stepdad walked me down the aisle together. There has been lots of drama since my parents split (I was like 2) but my Dad and StepDad both love me and wanted to support me on my wedding day. They were the ones who also hyped up my idea to surprise my husband by making the Imperial March my wedding march (we are both big Star Wars fans and I had other parts of the soundtrack on for the ceremony anyway). They didn’t tell anyone and the three of us were so excited to see his reaction when the March came on.
It’s a precious memory to have both of them with me and also I’m glad I had someone on both sides because the ground was kind of uneven x)&
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Omg- I would totally go with the bride’s ex and break all the rules in the last one! I mean, the bride(zilla)-to-be is literally marrying OP’s ex anyway, so sounds like sweet petty karma to me! 😂
Ngl- I’ve thought about doing something similar irl. My ex husband cheated on me with a woman I considered to be a very good friend (who also happens to be the mother of our kids’ best friends). I divorced him, she was already in the process of divorcing her husband and now my ex-husband and The Side Piece are engaged. Interestingly enough, TSP’s ex-husband and I are also good friends (maybe even more so after all this shit went down) and may or may not have thrown around the idea of wedding crashing in a big way! 😈
Or hear me out, if you are not invited act like you are dating, go on a big extravagant & romantic "date" , maby throw in a fake proposal, and flood your socials with images from the "date" and the "proposal" and tag all the relatives and the newlyweds thus overthrowing all the replies on social media of the wedding celebration. You can also start off the rumor mill by posting that there is a new love in your life and start posting more photos about the two of you (but keep the identity secretive) then reveal it on the day of the ex spouse's wedding.
Muhahaha oh yes
@@zelbel5043 I love this plan, especially the last part. Sounds so very good! You should do that!
@Kitty Silverlake I think it all depends on how they got together, which we didn't get the context of in the OP's redit. It could be no big deal, or it could be a big pile of 💩deal. I think Lexi finding parallels between the redit story and hers is completely understandable and not a stretch at all. The way the redit person talked, it didn't sound like it was an innocent getting together of her friend and her ex. We'll never know though, but super easy to fill in that blank if it's what just happened in your own life.
To be fair this is the way it should be. If your husband‘s gonna cheat on you you want him to marry her. My grandfather cheated on my grandmother and married the woman he was cheating on the woman he was cheating on my grandmother with. That caused my father not to speak to him until I was 16 years old. You got the best outcome in a shitty situation.
My petty wedding story:
Backstory, my brother's ex and I hated each other well before any of us had even graduated high school. Fast forward to the few months before their wedding...she condescending told me that in passing that I was a bridesmaid and had always been on the list and that I had 2 weeks to get a dress. She had also decided that the dresses were to be black (so I would know when I placed the order) as the hot pink dresses she had initially chosen may take some of the attention off of her. I had just been notified that my job was giving everyone a mandatory furrow, it was my first full time job, I had just gotten married a few months before and legitimately couldn't scrape up the funds in 2 weeks as I get paid monthly. I told my Mom that I was going to have to decline, so she paid for the dress as she couldn't fathom me not being a part of my brother's wedding.
Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner/production. I have to go straight there from my stressful low paying job and upon arriving, I was given some "work orders" that I had not been previously notified of. My mom, her mom and whoever the fuck else was supposed to be there to help the caterers and guests fucks right off and leaves me there frantically trying to keep the whole thing from crashing and burning before it even begins. A couple of hours at the rehearsal ceremony, there is a hired photographer taking pictures and documenting the event. I'm already level 8.9 pissed off from the evening, and I hate that bitch my brother is marrying, so when he tells me to smile, I double down, say "No!" and scowl. I am scolwing for every single picture....petty! At the "after party," my cousin and I dance in a sexually suggestive manner together and convince all of the people who don't know us that we are lesbians. We live in a VERY conservative area of the Bible belt, where lesbians dancing sexually are kind of like watching unicorns mate. You may be unsure of what you are seeing, but you don't look away. Petty 😈
Love it. Also, why did your mom leave and left you alone? You should have let the wedding party go to the ground as you weren't even told anything.
@@jessica1lopez Mom used to treat me like an assistant sometimes. If I was doing something, to her, it was the same as her doing something. I'm not sure what she was doing. Probably trying to kiss my ex SIL and her awful Mom's butt holes. Now that I'm older and have had some therapy, I do excuse myself and let her projects where she gives me assignments without asking go to shit. 😁 Also before my Grandma died, she told me to never let ex SIL tear the family apart...and I do love my brother, even if he picked horrible people to be in relationships with prior to him turning 30.
@@metalcatmom5891 wow. It is just sad that you didn't have a supportive mom, and I didn't either but still. Still I'm glad therapy helped and that you are better.
@@jessica1lopez Our relationship is much better now that I have been able to set some appropriate boundaries and we no longer live together. I hope you are able to find your peace as well.
.... I forgot to mention...at the reception, I didn't even sit with the wedding party. I sat with my husband, another cousin and her husband because the animosity was tangible. They didn't miss me and I'm pretty sure I was only in the wedding party to make it bigger than anyone else's we knew. Anyway...the brides maids were conscriped to serve cake to the guests, during the reception without asking or letting us know ahead of time. Serve as in take the cake to the guest's tables like we were staff. I have an issue with wedding cake in general as at my wedding ex SIL's Mom decided to cut and serve my cake and she cut up and gave away my little top cake that was a special request to the baker from me, so it was a different flavor from the rest and I didn't even get to eat it at my own wedding. Back to the reception. I went up to the table to get my tray of cake slices. I bypassed half the reception and gave the cake to a table of family friends. Many of the guests I passed complained and said I wasn't being fair. I was all out of fucks at that point. I returned to pick up my second tray of cake, passed a bunch of guests, set it down at my table and ate as much cake as possible. My cousin and I then danced with each other like we were in a club. Like most of those in attendance, we left before the last dance. It was the first day I ever saw my Dad drink. And that is how I was petty with cake!
@@metalcatmom5891 wow, well I'm glad you had fun. Did the bridesmaids not mind that they were treated as maids?
My stepdaughter is close with her stepdad and I can guarantee you if she asked both him and my husband to walk her down the aisle they would. With smiles on their faces. We all get along as best as we can for the kids sake. We sit together at events and are cordial to each other because that's what you do for your kids.
"You've been absent enough" and the face that follows that, made me chuckle so hard! Love you Charlotte!
I’m absolutely loving the pettiness in the last story. They totally need to go together and dance and drink and have a great time.
The last one with the friend marrying the girls ex then kicking her out. I actually think she should go with the ex of the bride because the minute the bride dated her ex then started making fun of her and constantly shit talking her for the SLIGHTEST thing, that's not a friend. There was no loyalty there at all. So why should she be loyal? There's the 'prove you're the bigger person' thing but at that point there's nothing to prove other than bowing to someone who seems pretty shitty and selfish.
Besides, it was just going together to break the lil petty rules. There's no guarentee they'll even be attracted to each other.
If those are your friends you deserve a better class of friend - all the ones that joined in the cattiness and cut ties with you over something so dumb after you crashed with the ex would be good riddance.
Something like this happened to a friend of mine. They lived on largish property outside of town that had plenty of room for the large outdoor party.
Then there was a falling out with the friend and the wedding party had to find a new venue on short notice.
The friend was kind enough to place a sign on his gate (Which he locked) clearly explaining that the venue had been changed and where the new venue was located (not too far away)
Still 30 people rang his gate buzzer asking to be let into the property for the wedding.
Dad swallow your pride and walk down the isle with the stepdad!! Share the joy of both Loving this young Lady and sharing her Happy Joy!!
Thaw last story! Oh my!! How ever so tempting to do what she’s suggesting!!!
as to the step dad walking her down the aisle:
it is not bad to WANT that, but the reality is that the step dad helped raise your daughter. so if you don't want to share, then sit in the crowd, but show up, go to the wedding, smile and be the good father for a day that you think you are!
I kinda get his side, like yes he's being an ass about it but I get it. Like she asked him to walk her down the aisle then later on added the stepdad so he now has to share what he thought would just be between the two of them, so I understand him being hurt. I feel like there could be a better way of including the stepdad without "taking away" from her dad, like she could do 2 father daughter dances. But I understand if she wants to include him in this moment, it's her wedding after all, it's hard because I get both sides.
@@brim9961 I get him being hurt. 100% natural. but the truth is that he didn't raise her by himself (in the father role) some other guy pitched in.
thinking it belongs to him alone by divine right and the other guy should take a back seat is natural, but also delusional.
part of being an adult is realizing that situations don't always work our perfectly and dealing with it with some grace and dignity.
be sad, but keep a stiff upper lip and carry on!
Here's the thing with the last story. Would she be the AH, probably. Does her "friend" deserve it, absolutely. Should she do this, probably not. Would I also do this, absolutely. A "friend" like that bride isn't really your friend anyway if she's marrying your ex AND treating you like this. So if you're prepared for the inevitable fallout from it, and being labeled the AH by some if not most people, then I say go for it. Show up as dates and ditch for a bar or something like a quarter into the reception. I think that's long enough to get your point across and start some rumors without keeping you in the 'blast zone' for longer than necessary. Or at least that's what I would do...
The dad who said he didn't have time for his daughter because of working 50 hours a week 🙄 my husband works 70+ hours a week and still makes time for his family
Right? My guy works 80hr+ weeks (he's a sound engineer & the concert season just started with a vengeance) & he still has time to see me. Sometimes it's even more. It's hard, but it can be done. The last time was in the middle of 8 days in a row.
But it's his ex wife that divorced him for those 50+ hours work weeks. If he was a good dad when he had her during his visitation time, I would agree with him but if he was still too busy while she was growing up then no. But i think it would be unfair to the dad if he was being a good dad while she was growing up after divorce since the stepdad still had more time to spend with her than him. There is so much he could do. But said that like I said earlier if he was still too busy after divorce to be a good dad then he has no say about she having both of them walk down the aisle.
@@eduardocruz4341 Is that why she divorced him though? He obviously kind of sucks in general from this post - an unreliable narrator. He probably just blamed that lol
im 30 and my dad still works crazy hours but he's ALWAYS been there for me and still is. love is what makes someone a parent, biologically related or not. OP of that post was an overgrown child himself
Mine too! He also travelled for 3 weeks out of 4 for years but when he was home, he was totally focused on all of us. He also called most nights to tell them goodnight and often sang them a bedtime song on the phone. That man is a terrible excuse for a father.
The first absent father: O. M. G!!! They were just being really polite to add him to walk her down the aisle and he had his head so far up his self-absorbed patootie that he didn't realize the sacrifice the daughter and step-daughter were making already!
Bride and Groom’s exes showing up at their wedding together. I would definitely do that. 😂🤣😂🤣
The dad was too prideful and in denial that the step-dad took care of his daughter while he was too busy working, it was like a self fulfilling prophecy making his daughter promise that she shouldn't see the stepdad as a father lol.
Also on the last one, my take is how about you don't go together at the wedding, but you meet at the wedding/reception and start flirting, dancing together in front of them HAHAHHAHA petty, mean and chaotic 😂
I like your added take at the last story. It sounds juiciest if they "met there". Make it look like destiny brought them together and really stick it to the bride and groom.
The fact that the bride was so odd as to date and marry your ex shows that she was a user (and by the sound of it, it's like she was waiting for you two to break up). Or even worse, as ex-friend was dating groom's cousin and OP's ex is now groom, they could have gotten together before any break ups occured 😳😱
Right?? And why did you get absolutely no visitation at all?
YES!!!
The step-father never worked(STHD) and lived with the daughter. The actual father never said he neglected his daughter, but acting like him working(child support and his own bills) in anyway means he wasn’t in her life is a large leap!
@@kennethsmith6367 see butbhe was legally obligated to pay child support and never saw her in person by his own choice so he removed himself emotionally and physically from her life ny his own choice.
A call once a week or visiting on your day off isn't hard.
Come oooooon the last one is a romcom waiting to happen!!!! I NEED them to go to this wedding together pleeeease. Also, since they are both exes of the couple getting married chances are they might be fairly compatible themselves. I have often found myself getting along with ex's new partners because they have similar hobbies/values as me (after civilised breakups only of course). Sooooooo yeah get in that closet and get busy guys :D
For that last story: she should go with the other guy and talk to everyone!!! The bride and groom don't want these people talking because they are embarrassed and insecure about how they relate to these two people. They don't want the other guests to know that the groom is not only this person's ex, but the other person's cousin. They are worried about how other people judge them because they don't feel 100% good about it.
I know I'm late to the party but with my daughters their step dad walked them from the ready area to the beginning of the seating area. And handed them off to me . I was blessed to have a good man to help in our daughters upbringing.
Oh, that guy did was prove that the stepfather was a better father than he was
This is the earliest I’ve been. I love your wedding videos!!
RIGHT!? I'm usually like # 480,001! lmbo
My thoughts exactly!!!
I too had a dad and a stepdad. I had both walk me down the aisle. Both were happy the other was there. It worked out perfectly. This bio dad didn’t take the time to be in his daughter’s life when she was growing up he doesn’t deserve the honor of being dad now.
I remember when my sister got married to her now husband, my dad didn't go to the wedding all because the man she married was a white man. She was heartbroken that our dad didn't come. I was so upset at my dad for being such a jerk.
After what happened, i didn't talk to him for a while. He judged her husband by his appearance. Her husband is nice and chill. He treats my nieces and nephew well. I don't know why my dad didn't approve of him, he just didn't like him.
Simple, your man is a RACIST. Plain and simple. Sorry about that.
I meant to say father. Not man.
That sounds lowkey racist...
@@GubbiGap It is racist
@@Unicorn021 The reason I said lowkey is because while it is racist I didn't wanna assume anyone to be that. There could be other reasons and he used that as the excuse for not going. Not that the excuse was a good one... it honestly made any reasoning way worse.
My father and step-father both walked me down the aisle. They never really got along but they put their differences aside for the day and it was perfect having them both give me away.
I remarried when my daughter was 6 years old. Bio dad & stepdad who never met before my remarriage made it a point to put their mutual daughter first. They became good friends and both walked her down the aisle. Now that stepmom & I are both widows we still remain friends. This is how adults with no petty agenda behave.
I had to listen to some of those details about the biological father refusing to go to his daughters wedding because I thought my biological father had gone to reddit to complain about me lol! Unfortunately it happens too often, but my narcissistic and abusive biological father was the same way. I wish I could find OP and give her a big hug. It’s so hard to do, but I never got the weight off of me until I went no contact. My step mother keeps trying to contact me, but they’re never going to get through after the bridge was burnt. Since I’ve been gaslight my whole life, I do at times feel guilty, but I know this is the only way to keep myself from being abused again, or more importantly- it’s the only way to guarantee that my now husband and children will never be harmed by them.
Yes to this. The idea that "Forgive and forget" should be the ultimate goal can be so harmful. It takes lots of courage to do what you are doing. As long as we are doing our personal growth work, it is VERY healthy.
You are doing what is best for you and your family - emotionally and mentally and I hope some day that brings you comfort, security, self-confidence and pride instead of guilt.
My bio father is a narcissistic, abusive a-hole and I finally cut off all contact with him for good just over a year ago when repressed memories of abuse from my childhood came back. He left my mom when I was 17 and for 14yrs, it was a constant cycle of things being fine, then manipulation, gaslighting and estrangement before it started all over again. I always felt tremendous guilt, like I was being a horrible daughter. But when life is less chaotic and happier without those people in your life, I think that speaks volumes. Sending you light and love, it's not easy ❤️
Ok I really love the idea in the end. The one that goes "let the ex propose to you on the dance floor" that's AMAZING. But reddit says that everyone sucks in there so I guess I, too, suck. Oh well😂
It's what I call justified a'holery 😅 also known as 'the a'hole move of totally worth it' lol
@@meisjeViv I'd say NUCLEAR Petty Revenge 😆😆😆
Regarding the last story, as long as my own family wouldn't be there to pass on judgement, I would go crazy with breaking the rules and act as my most chaotic self at that wedding. Because I feel like the bride was trying to exert some sorta power and humiliation on OP and the ex, and was making sure they wouldn't have fun, that's asking for war. And then I'd run away at the end and completely cut ties with everybody there, like I were some poltergeist that wrecked havoc and disappeared
6:00 my step dad walked me down the aisle. I don’t understand these guys thinking they have a RIGHT instead of a PRIVILEGE to walk the brides down the aisle
i hope that person passing through in the background was meant to be there. I enjoy my daily dose of the petty queen.
I was wondering if anyone else was going to bring up the 'shadowy figure'.... lol I'm sure they are meant to be there but now.... I kinda wanna know who they are ... lol
Dude I was thinking the same thing, but I’ve also watched too many crime shows and could just be paranoid lol
I'm curious as well to know who is lurking in Charlotte's house. Kinda scary.
I’m curious to know who that was, but since they edited in music instead of retaping the segment, I don’t think it’s anything to be concerned about.
I stopped the video to see if anyone else was going to say anything!!!! It is so creepy.
I had my dad walk my down the aisle, had a dance with him too, but I had a separate dance for my step dad and I. I'm sure the guy would have been upset about the stepdad being involved in anything... Seems like he resented the dude from the start. His fault for choosing to not be around. If he knew it was going to happen that they would bond more, than he had plenty of time to spend with her all those years before she ever got engaged...
Exactly....."I knew it was coming, yet did nothing about it, and now I am supposed to be allowed special treatment anyways"
He should have knew his wife was going to divorce him before his daughter turned seven and then she would marry a man that she would let stay at home and raise his daughter?
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My stepmother raised me and was a Godsend! My mother pretty much abandoned us for drugs. My mother did get clean when I was 15. My stepmother raised me from age 7 to 16 and was my best support in hard times when I was lost and finding my self. My mother had nothing but gratitude and respect for my stepmother and voiced it a lot. There was never a cross word spoken between them. ❤
The second story you read, the one about the dad refusing to walk his daughter down the isle. He's honestly being petty and childish, and what should he expect? He said it himself he wasn't really there for her, while the step dad was. It's honestly so stupid the way he's acting and getting upset over it. I myself have a step dad who I would consider my real dad because he was there for me my whole life while my blood dad barely put in any effort, and my step dad wasn't happy with me being around him and me calling him dad but he never did anything like that and made a big deal out of it I really do feel like he's acting so childish and his 'claims' are so stupid. He can at least be happy she still wants him to walk her down the isle with her step dad and not just her step dad
Agreed! Someone needs to tell him that providing sperm doesn’t make you a dad. Being there, spending time with the child, loving and guiding her as she grows up, that’s a dad. He should be grateful to have even been invited, much less to have been asked to walk her down the aisle.
He should be grateful she still wants him part of her life. Doesn't sound like he put in much effort in the meantime to have "earned" that solo walk.
@@jiiaga5017 He never said he missed visits or left her life. Was he supposed to lay on his ex-wife’s couch 24/7 next to her new stay at home husband so he could have equal time with his daughter? The obvious answer is no. I am sorry for the redickulas question, but somehow the father working after a divorce is being used as proof of his being a bad father. Divorce throw’s relationships into weird dynamics that aren’t cut and dry.
@@kennethsmith6367 yes. That's exactly what he should have done. And you are a terrible person because you don't agree. /sarcasm
The dad/stepdad story:
My father divorced my mom to fight in Nam . He never had an issue with her new husband raising us or us calling him dad. Apparently, we called both dad. We also called dad's exwife mom because of their shared kids. Our combined family was totally ok with the arrangement. Dad became dad after father signed over paternity rights
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To the dad villainizing the stepdad: You should've fought your ex-wife if you wanted to be part of your daughter's life and you shouldn't have been a workaholic. You were absent from her life, so you have no one to blame but yourself for not wanting to be part of her life but thinking you should still reap the benefits as the "blood dad". You didn't give her your time, she doesn't owe you hers.
The entitlement of some people is atrocious!
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That dad needs to be on his hands and knees thanking the stepdad for helping raise his daughter. So petty
This is the earliest I’ve been, I literally just finished watching one of your videos when this notification popped up I-
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That last one sounds like the plot of a rom com starring Jennifer Anniston and Matthew McConnahy (from back in the day). I love it!
Gotta be said...
My eldest daughter's Uncle walked her down the isle because all her life, He was one of the main daddy figures to her. Her 'father' came around once or twice a year, usually never on any 'special' days. Mind you, they lived most her growing up years, living less than 3 miles apart at any given time.
He had a meltdown when she told him that Rod(uncle) would be 'giving her away' at her wedding, but he was welcome to be there as a guest. She was never, and has not since, had any 'feelings' towards her father. She learned who he was all on her own.
Exactly. Sperm donation does not entitle them to emotional perks...effort does
I walked by myself down the aisle.
My father wasn't around at all from when I was three until thirteen (the formative years) and then only popped in periodically for roughly the next twenty years (at which time he ditched his whole family - all nine brothers and sisters, their kids, and me), I haven't seen him at all for about twenty years now.
My step-dad only came into our (my mom and my) lives in my mid-teens. They married just after I turned 18.
So neither man raised me.
The only one I would have wanted to take me down the aisle was my grandfather because he was my father figure my whole life and I loved him to bits, but circumstances prevented that.
So I went solo.
In my mind a father (step or bio) earns the right to be beside the bride on her big day, it's not a given just because he knocked up her mom or is currently married to her mom. The bio-father should be happy she asked him and not be such a crybaby.
For that first one, I'd let them have the wedding in the yard but not use the house. For a early wedding, I'd sit on the porch in robe drinking coffee - not attending! For a late one, grill outside but by the house - not attending!!! 👍👍👍
forgoe the robe...boxers and stained wife beater undershirt it is...an occasional scratch of certain man parts timed right would be great too. I'd do the grill thing anyway....find some very smoky wood chips to put on it and a few greasy flames wouldnt hurt. ...possibly a stinky food to add to the fun.
I was thinking arrange for the house to be fumigated on the day. Got a freeloader infestation.
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