This was my initial assumption as well. Maybe he jumped into the relationship too quickly and was searching for an exit ramp, not that it would excuse this kind of behavior.
I think I'm missing something here: just saying "good morning" "have a good day/night" and that kind of stuff is not "texting all day". Like I understand if she was one of those people that are constantly trying to have a conversation via Whatsapp/Line about virtually anything. Yeah, I've seen that, and can get why some people would hate it, but this? Jesus, she just said the same thing would tell your husband/wife in person XD PS: blocking people is very childish.
Even then that guy, as Yuta said, could've just talk to his gf about that. I'd say he's not brave enough to start some discussion or typical man that only able to give order. And honestly she dodge a bullet there lolol
I feel like there is an alternative to all of this, having more to do with context, than the frequency. I personally felt some red flags. The fact that this conversation went to social media, reinforces the thought that she might be an attention seeker. She greets in the morning with a conflict, deflects humor with a bleak statement like "I'm alive", and the message before work could be taken as passive aggressive, like he didn't show enough interest to continue the inquiry about the issue. Honestly, we don't know how that week went, she could have been doing things like this all week. Making up weird dramatic things trying to egg on responses or attention, it happens a lot.
@@1985toyotacamry I don't know, I can see 'needy' in that actually. She posted it on social media and opened that text with a bit of a bleak mood that even garnered some concern. Those actions come off as a bit attention seeking, which I would classify as needy. Who knows how the week went... it was only one week lol... Not saying this is the case, but I've had some passive aggressive ex's that will say things like 'have a good time at work' as like a passive aggressive way of stating, I pay attention to you, but you didn't pay attention or care about me at all today. Though yeah, context is everything, we have no idea how that short week went or what either of them were really like.
As someone who really wants to be in a relationship but isn't... this seems so absurd. XD Man, you've got a girlfriend, and you dump her over this?? ungrateful...
hey yuta-san! i've been learning japanese for around 3 months or so and I got a question regarding one of the texts from the convo. when the girl said 今日もお仕事がんばってね, why did she use も instead of は? from what i've learned, you use も as an "also" (kind of), but it doesn't quite make sense to me in that context. could you help me understand that please? :( ありがとう！
It's a natural way to say ''Just like every other days, do your best.'' 今日も means ''again today'' and so since working at a job is a repetitive action, she used this particle. Hope this explanation helps :)
Samyboy yeah that was pretty much what i was guessing, but i didn’t know if it made any sense at all hahaha. thanks for the reply, it was very helpful!!! have a great day 🥰
How old were they? They come across as very juvenile. I think humans need to understand that sometimes the words are not the meaning. For example it seems if the girl was interested in the boy then it was a texting as a proxy to oxytocin bonding of good vibes. You see this in animals when they "nuzzle" each other or if you were a bird it would be called "allopreening" where they birds enjoy the partner bird running its beak through the feathers on the back of your head.... Given the strong hormonal functions and powerful feels, please treat other humans with delicacy around these contexts. If you don't like them, be gentle and understand the need of all the above is universal feelings of wanting connection so be gentle and kind if you want to move away from the relationship. You can do that and detach. Whereas this type of texting is not only primitive but negative. Humans can use words to be eloquent and improve everyone and themselves so do this. I think the younger generation are not gaining good guidance from the older generations at all in how to "be human".
It probably seems juvenile because many Japanese people are late bloomers when it comes to romantic relationships. Even if they're adults, they're possibly inexperienced, comparatively speaking.
@@ShuajoX Fundamentally disagree. Using texting is putting the human mind into a tiny space compared to it's possible sophistication whatever culture and the young are using technology in this way.
I'm lucky bcoz even though me and her didn't communicate much it's ok bcoz i can read her actions how she communicate to me, it's very hard but if you master the behavior of the person you will not get to be over thinking. I love her so much and she Love's me 2. 🇯🇵 im so lucky
If you think about, she only post the texts on social media and not give any backstory as to what could cause the problem. This springs up a lot of theories as to why he did it. Yes, he did not handled it right at all, but you have to wonder if there is no backstory to him doing that. No one blocks their partners just like that. I have heard Japanese women tent to text their partners a lot of times a day to the point of it being annoying or even creepy. Maybe he wanted to drop her, almost as if this happened before and that he knows she has a obsession problem . I don't know, this is just my opinion.
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The guy probably wasn’t into her and he used that as an excuse to cut her off without being honest about his feelings.
Or he found another girl and went full retard with the convo
This was my initial assumption as well. Maybe he jumped into the relationship too quickly and was searching for an exit ramp, not that it would excuse this kind of behavior.
Yeah, I think this could be the case. Most Japanese people don’t like confrontation, so he saw an opportunity to get out of the relationship.
that conversation was drier then the Sahara desert🥵
I think I'm missing something here: just saying "good morning" "have a good day/night" and that kind of stuff is not "texting all day". Like I understand if she was one of those people that are constantly trying to have a conversation via Whatsapp/Line about virtually anything. Yeah, I've seen that, and can get why some people would hate it, but this? Jesus, she just said the same thing would tell your husband/wife in person XD
PS: blocking people is very childish.
I agree and it concerns me that there are people who would view these kinds of messages as hampering, bothersome and time consuming.
Even then that guy, as Yuta said, could've just talk to his gf about that. I'd say he's not brave enough to start some discussion or typical man that only able to give order. And honestly she dodge a bullet there lolol
He just wasn’t really into her. It’s wasn’t really about the texting.
U look great. Nice haircut 👌
I hope they both find better suited people and find happiness.
Well, that was an abrupt way to cut it off. Kinda rude, imho. He could at least be honest and have a conversation with her like an adult.
I feel like there is an alternative to all of this, having more to do with context, than the frequency. I personally felt some red flags. The fact that this conversation went to social media, reinforces the thought that she might be an attention seeker. She greets in the morning with a conflict, deflects humor with a bleak statement like "I'm alive", and the message before work could be taken as passive aggressive, like he didn't show enough interest to continue the inquiry about the issue. Honestly, we don't know how that week went, she could have been doing things like this all week. Making up weird dramatic things trying to egg on responses or attention, it happens a lot.
Maybe something was wrong in the relationship, and he used that as an excuse.
Yeah I was very confused of why that dude saying she was needy and she wasn't. I agree with you OP some context needed to be addressed
@@1985toyotacamry I don't know, I can see 'needy' in that actually. She posted it on social media and opened that text with a bit of a bleak mood that even garnered some concern. Those actions come off as a bit attention seeking, which I would classify as needy. Who knows how the week went... it was only one week lol... Not saying this is the case, but I've had some passive aggressive ex's that will say things like 'have a good time at work' as like a passive aggressive way of stating, I pay attention to you, but you didn't pay attention or care about me at all today. Though yeah, context is everything, we have no idea how that short week went or what either of them were really like.
I swear I think todays AI are more compassionate than japanese people 😂
Communication is important, the problem is people think that the only way to communicate is through words.
I feel old, not being addicted to my phone.
My reaction time to text is about 3 hours.
Dw mine goes to almost 5-7 hours sadly
Same, unless my phone happens to be in my hand already
If i was in a relationship with someone, I would probably get excited whenever I would receive their message.
As someone who really wants to be in a relationship but isn't... this seems so absurd. XD Man, you've got a girlfriend, and you dump her over this?? ungrateful...
Maybe she was needy and this little "morning annoyance" was just the straw that broke the camel's back. Perhaps there is more to this than we know.
a girl also blocked me for a very similar reason
No need to rationalize the break up...it is never about communication style ...it is always lack of interest and love.
hey yuta-san! i've been learning japanese for around 3 months or so and I got a question regarding one of the texts from the convo. when the girl said 今日もお仕事がんばってね, why did she use も instead of は? from what i've learned, you use も as an "also" (kind of), but it doesn't quite make sense to me in that context. could you help me understand that please? :( ありがとう！
It's a natural way to say ''Just like every other days, do your best.'' 今日も means ''again today'' and so since working at a job is a repetitive action, she used this particle. Hope this explanation helps :)
Samyboy yeah that was pretty much what i was guessing, but i didn’t know if it made any sense at all hahaha. thanks for the reply, it was very helpful!!! have a great day 🥰
How old were they? They come across as very juvenile.
I think humans need to understand that sometimes the words are not the meaning. For example it seems if the girl was interested in the boy then it was a texting as a proxy to oxytocin bonding of good vibes. You see this in animals when they "nuzzle" each other or if you were a bird it would be called "allopreening" where they birds enjoy the partner bird running its beak through the feathers on the back of your head....
Given the strong hormonal functions and powerful feels, please treat other humans with delicacy around these contexts.
If you don't like them, be gentle and understand the need of all the above is universal feelings of wanting connection so be gentle and kind if you want to move away from the relationship. You can do that and detach.
Whereas this type of texting is not only primitive but negative. Humans can use words to be eloquent and improve everyone and themselves so do this.
I think the younger generation are not gaining good guidance from the older generations at all in how to "be human".
It probably seems juvenile because many Japanese people are late bloomers when it comes to romantic relationships. Even if they're adults, they're possibly inexperienced, comparatively speaking.
@@ShuajoX Fundamentally disagree. Using texting is putting the human mind into a tiny space compared to it's possible sophistication whatever culture and the young are using technology in this way.
@@ShuajoX Your avatar is very well chosen however.
@@commentarytalk1446 Lol, thank you. Taiko no Tatsujin is a fun time.
Cause most Japanese men are on with anime lady than real.
I'm lucky bcoz even though me and her didn't communicate much it's ok bcoz i can read her actions how she communicate to me, it's very hard but if you master the behavior of the person you will not get to be over thinking. I love her so much and she Love's me 2. 🇯🇵 im so lucky
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If you think about, she only post the texts on social media and not give any backstory as to what could cause the problem. This springs up a lot of theories as to why he did it. Yes, he did not handled it right at all, but you have to wonder if there is no backstory to him doing that. No one blocks their partners just like that. I have heard Japanese women tent to text their partners a lot of times a day to the point of it being annoying or even creepy. Maybe he wanted to drop her, almost as if this happened before and that he knows she has a obsession problem . I don't know, this is just my opinion.