Minimalism Struggles
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- Опубликовано: 22 окт 2024
- Let's talk about two struggles when it comes to first heading towards minimalism.
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I like what you said about putting the item back into the world for someone who *DOES* want/use/need it :)
Tshirts for me! Tshirts from college, highschool, and of-course, band tshirts. I think I'm just going to turn them into a quilt, then they will hopefully get use when I have guests!
Your make up is always so beautiful and simple! I know you're not a beauty guru or whatever, but could you maybe do a tutorial? Love your videos btw! ❤️
I second this!!
I was thinking exactly the same - would love to see a tutorial or perhaps something about the products you'd recommend :)
I would love to see a video of your closet! You have some really cute clothes:) I would also love to see your make up routine. Your makeup is always so simple and perfectly flattering to your natural features:)
My biggest struggle when I am getting rid of stuff is the sentimental items FOR SURE.
Some good food for thought here! I have the hardest time letting go of books and jewelry.
I love the dialogue you have with yourself to get rid of things. I used to keep so many things for the same reasons. I love the idea of letting it go so someone else can love it and use it. Great tip!
I just went through my pajamas, makeup, and purse. It's crazy how you can always find stuff to get rid of. I also do digital decluttering too, on my phone and computer.
Old magazines are definitely a problem for me. I got at least 200 perfectly lined up on my shelf, by edition and year. It looks really pretty but I never flip through them. I've decided to use a few for some art projects and the rest I'll be giving away to my friends.
once every 6 months we host with a group of 10-15 friends an clothing exchange party. Everyone can bring clothes, make up, jewellery, bags, books or magazines they don't like anymore and we give them to who wants to have it. Everything that hasn't been chosen will be donated. It's so much fun.
My weakness is books as well. My husband and I collect them and we honestly cannot part with them unless we absolutely did not like them after reading them.
+Kadie Rose There is a special feeling, the book in your hands etc, but could the kindle app be an option? Im not a minimalist(yet) but it has saved me a lot of space and money. Its super convenient :)
I had a kindle and I never used it. It felt like a waste of money to spend basically the same amount for a digital file as a physical book.
***** I know people wanna go 100% minimalistic but I think if you and your husband loves books so much, it wont cause a relief to get rid of them. So going minimalistic but keeping the books should be ok :) Its your life.
I totally get you. But since we have great public library system in Finland I'm slowly starting to get rid of many of my books, or that's my intention anyway, because i can always borrow them from library.
If there are some parts or sentences that i really like in a borrowed book and would like to remember them later, I scan those pages and store on my computer. And make note of the book and the writer.
An e-reader would work
As an interior designer, I became a pack rat. I am currently getting rid of 90% of what I own...bins and bins, garage sales later, I was left asking myself these exact words: "how do I get rid of all these books I love?" Then I repeatedly listened to the minimalists podcasts & watched their documentary, and BOOM...that was the support I needed. I realized that anytime I want/need to read a book, a friend may have it, or the library most likely does. In addition, I have also capitalized on my decision & made about $35 selling half my books in two weeks. This journey is necessary for America. Best of luck with your books, and keep sharing your great videos :) Stay humble and beautiful!
Omg I think I'm in love! You have such an energizing appearance! Keep those video's coming :)
Great video. I laughed when you mentioned the 'Halloween costume' excuse because I had that exact same excuse for so long, I'm glad it wasn't just me haha. I finally learnt to let go of all of those 'potential costumes'...My weakness is skincare/beauty products. 🙈
I love everything minimalism!!!:)
I've been into minimalism for a while but you're the first person I actually feel is relatable!! Love your videos!
I tend to hold on to containers - I always think they will come in handy for organizing, but then I end up with a ton of empty containers cluttering up the place! Haha. I also hear ya with books!
Kendra Perro I just threw out five plastic bowls and replaced them with one nice ceramic one. That simple switch made such a difference to my whole kitchen. I feel happy every time I see it.
WoW thanks for bringing this up before I even realized that it was happening! No one has talked about this stage yet. I've been watching your vids for a few months now and I really am grateful for you and your channel. Refreshing to finally have a unique channel discussing important concepts and inspiration to do better for myself.
+Vegabond Ventures Ⓥ Also to answer your question books seem to have the most validated reasons for holding onto yet the most impractical for this lifestyle hah. (they are so nice to look at) ...Apart from that I struggle with arts and crafts such as paint and paper.....:(
I always appreciate your fresh and straight-to -the-point honesty. It was a great video to watch. I could relate to what you said especially about those moments when things somehow pile up again: it happened at the beginning of my journey and I felt so guilty about it at first. But it's important to use these "mistakes" as an alarm to be much more aware and conscious about what we bring into our space and learn our lesson! :)
Please do a skincare/make up routine- you are stunning! Love videos on minimalism & books, happy I came across your channel. You come across as a very authentic and genuine person. Best wishes for you! 💗
As a mom, I think the hardest thing for me has been getting rid of my son's old clothes and toys and books, especially clothes. But, at the same time, those can be the easiest thing to give to someone who needs them and/or wants them. I have very little sentimental attachment to my belongings, but it's harder to purge his items, even though he doesn't wear/play with/read them any more.
Thank you for the positive messages! It is definitely a journey.
I'm so glad you made another video on this topic - I haven't found anyone else on RUclips so far with such insights and honesty! I agree with the cycle of giving idea you discuss. :) Namaste.
I'm just starting my hoarder - minimalism journey and my goodness it's hard. I am attached to so many objects. Magazines, a ticket from a gig I went to last year and books. I have donated 3 bags of clothes/books etc that I just know I will never read or wear again; but it's a working progress.
BOOKS. No doubt. I still have almost my entire book collection and I am honestly not planning on getting rid of them right now. They bring me an incredible amount of joy and I use my library more than almost anything in my house! Life is all about balance. :)
Thank you! I found this so encouraging during my minimalism
I am so happy I found your channel! I am on a zero waste and minimalism journey myself and have been for about a year now. Wow its tough but so worth it! My weakness I have found so far are sweaters!! I love sweaters and have since I was a small child so its just tough for me to part with them EVEN if its a double lol. The silly thing is that I live in L.A. so there is a very brief sweater weather period, sigh... I need to get a grip and come to terms with my dilemma. Anyway, thank you for your content you have been air in my sails recently.
My weakness is craft supplies... I find myself doing crafts less and less these days too but also unable to get rid of the supplies. I do have quite a few books too. I know you said you love the way they look, but maybe digital books would be a way to keep all of the knowledge and not have to also maintain all of the physical space that books take up.
Such a helpful way to reassure yourself it's okay to get rid of things! I think I'm just emotionally attached to too many things or I think I can use them later. And if you think about it, that's kind of being selfish. If someone else needs it, wants it, could use it, or love it now, why let it clutter up my life and collect dust and (more than likely) never be used? Thanks for another great video, Victoria!
Thanks Victoria! I thoroughly enjoyed this video. In fact, while watching it I even started to get rid of things that I have been hording on my desk haha! This video was a real eye opener for me. Like you, I feel guilty when people give me gifts that I don't like because even the thought of getting rid of them makes me feel feel bad. For me, this is especially true with clothing gifts. But as you said, there are people out there that will be happy that you decided to get rid of them in the end! :) So with that being said, clothing is my ABSOLUTE weakness!
As someone who is also striving towards minimalism, I loved hearing your tips and experiences! My weakness is beauty products (makeup, hair, skincare). I'm trying to streamline and plan on making a video about it as well :) xoxo
I need a friend like you to help me get through my struggle, am fed up honestly but so difficult to take the step, tnx 4 ur vids found u by coincidence & am happy i did
I stumbled across your channel through this video, and I find your videos lovely to watch! Thank you!
Yup, its always either the "halloween costume" or "passing onto future daughter" excuse
Letting go of the memory attachment is so hard to do! Thanks for the encouragement.
Just did my first big declutter of my bedroom. I've been moving around the house, and have made great progress!
My room had been tree toughest thus far with the items carrying sentimental "value".
A couple of these items are:::
My graduation regalia, shirts that I took to awesome events as had people sign the hell out of them in sharpie, this baby wipes box Fin. my son was a bad and i keep little memory stuffs in. Ugh! So yea:)
The hardest thing for me is getting rid of something that I paid alot for, and is now worth nothing. For example, I have a collection of Xbox games, back when I bought them I paid 60$ peice for them and I have over 50 games. And now they are worth nothing, so I feel bad getting rid of them even though I haven't used them in years
you dont need to throw them out. i would sell them in a pack of 5 or smnthg like that
They're not even worth 5 bucks a peice anymore lol
Srsly ? 😰
what about donating them to a rec center or a commonplace that has an xbox and would benefit multiple people? I know I hate selling something for so little that cost so much - at that rate I'd rather do gift it to someone who's truly going to benefit from it.
That's an awesome idea! I'm going to start looking around for places like that. Thank you!
My weakness is fabric! I started having nightmares about literally drowning in my own stuff, so now I am getting rid of everything but the things I absolutely love and need. Every box-load I cart away feels like a gift I just gave to myself.
great vid i subscribed :-) also on my own 'minimalist mission' grew up in a family who loves old and interesting things and had a rly bad habit of 'rescuing' things that are bizarre or unusual (or somethings i could fix or upcycle)... i wanted to b minimalist for about 10yrs but i didnt think its possible for sum1 like me because i love interesting things too much haha but recently felt in such a rut i decided to clear away so many items - reducing all my belongings down - goal is to fit everything i own into an ammount i could carry (i dnt hav any furniture lol) as soon as i began to minimalise my life i felt like my life began to b easier and change for the better... i felt empowered and literally felt lighter as i lost the weight of all these 'things'... my life now is changing still for the better i hope - i have more focus and the rut feeling is gone! the fog of depression is lifting and i so desire to have only enough things so that i always know what i have and where it is..instead of having so many things that i cant even find what i need.
ur halloween comment made me LOL thinking about the 'should i shouldnt i throw it out' moment i had recently with an actual skeleton bones top i had 4 yrs.....it went to the thrift store now hooray haha but yes it is not just u hehe! my main thing i find hard to give up is gifts! this year i will tell everyone not to give me anymore gifts because it is my weakness 100% im feeling bad about giving up a purple top my sis gave me but u made me feel better to think i never wore it but sum1 WILL love that top so tomorrow it will go to the thrift shop to find a loving home and appear in sum1 elses summer photos. thank u :-D
very nice insight! It is a journey, it´s not supposed to be done, it is a process... and the struggles are part of the process...
I loved this video, thank you!
You shine! :)
dresses are definately my weakness well clothing in general but specifically dresses because i feel good in them and i have bout 50 of them so i do need to go through them. i'm going to wear them all at least one last time see if i still like them and then after i have worn it decide whether i actually like it :) i'm definately beginning to declutter my home and my life... it does feel rally good downsizing
Good video! Feels so good minimizing, sometimes it feels like I have to go through my stuff weekly even though my possessions are not increasing much. Anyways good job, thanks
Books are definitely my greatest weakness! Like u, I love the way they look. I love to read. I love to reread. Mostly now I try to just check out books from the library, but I still cannot get rid of the books I already have
My weakness is definitely clothes, and also books. Which leads me to ask, do you have any recommended minimalism books/articles/podcasts etc? Would very much appreciate it! Also, LOVE YOUR CHANNEL. I learn so much from you :)
I told myself the Halloween costume excuse *hundreds* of times.. It was like my go-to excuse to keep crap I didn't need. And I've NEVER made a costume from any of those things I was hoarding. I finally donated them.
I never did either! Which just makes me laugh looking back.
It is part of the nature of being a bibliophile to love how books look, so it is not odd at all. Indeed, anything that reminds us of the stillness and inherent order found in nature is valued by us. Don't apologise for that!
I know that for me, seeing a piece of clothing that 'had' a great memory/feeling, but now I can't fit into it anymore...so it only brings a bad feeling by knowing I can't fit into it anymore. So when I used to look great in it, I know I've got pictures of myself in it when I looked great as a size 2.
The book thing is my weakness too, a good used book for two bucks, I can't help myself. But I'm moving and I'm seeing how many darn books I have and how much space they take up! I'm now saving up to get a kindle and replace all my books with ebooks and bless someone else with the paper copy. Minus a few important ones, like Taking Charge of Your Fertility. 😋
Just subscribed! I love your minimalist videos, keep 'em coming!
I am a booklover too! But suprisingly, I got rid of a lot of them - in two different times. What helped me is that I kept in mind that yes, I want to have many full bookshelves in my life, but I'd rather have books that I'm in love with, right? And you know, we often keep the books we "want to read later", but we know we'll never read them ahaha
how do you get rid of journals? or do you keep all of them? x
In my experience, even moving things around had helped. I've moved 3 things from sight to the memory drawer in my bed and it'd helped a lot.
For me it is books (for reference mostly) and papers. I take a lot of notes on what I read to try to help me remember things (especially if it is a library book) or just papers in general. I have a hard time making decisions when it comes to paper.
I thought my weakness would be books (I used to be quite a book hoarder) but I have found a way how to think about them. It is pretty much what you say in the end of the video - imagine how happy it would make someone else. I alway think about a book as a think that needs to be read and used to really have its value. If I know I will probably never read the book again it must go out to the world. To be read and to be alive.
Hey,Victoria!
I really love your videos.Thank you for your job.I don't native english speaker but your videos are simple for understanding.What about weakness...that's my photos.A lot of printed photo.I'm sure a lot of people have printed photos in the house)
Concert t shirts and vinyl records are my hardest thing to get rid of. I always think "what if my future children will like these one day" or "what if I can't find this music anymore." The music I listen to now encapsulates my teen years and my favorite memories and it's hard for me to get rid of items associated with it if I know in the future it will play a roll in how I remember my favorite years and the stories I will get to tell surrounding them. I'm worried if I get rid of the items I will forget the memories. Ugh! Still pushing towards minimalism though!! I'm determined to live in a tiny house eventually...
Maybe rent a tiny house for a few months and see if you actually like living in it.
My weakness is my kid's stuff... From baby to their adorable art projects from school. 😔
Dear Victoria! Loved this video! My biggest struggle is actually to begin... I want so bad to become more like a minimalist... But I have no idea where to start.. I know I have to get rid of a lot of my clothes, shoes and bags.. And decorations (things to put on shelves and such..) I have so much crap and it stresses me, but I have this huge problem to where to start.. Where and what did you start with and do you have any ideas? :-) I have done the whole cleaning out of the closet many times, but I am never satisfied.. And I am a huge fan of thrift stores and hand-me-downs..as that's how I grew up.. So it's not that I buy new stuff a lot, but I get bored with things so fast.. Please help :-/ ;-) lol!!:-D
keep up the good work! You're the best!
Yup books weakness, also t-shirts from events or organizations because they're the only thing I have from that time, a ticket or brochure or photo would be easier to just collect in a scrapbook but if all I have is a t-shirt I feel like I have to keep it.
I'm just at the beginning of my minimalist journey, but I have definitely struggled with getting rid of books in the past. Today, I discovered that I have trouble getting rid of socks that do not have a pair. I started thinking "But what if I find the other sock and I waste a perfectly good pair of socks???" or "Maybe I should save these socks for a future craft project!".
books are my weakness too. When I can part with them, I like to donate them to the library, so if I do want to read them again, I can take them out of the library :)
Haha, as you speak about letting things go that other people would love i started thinking about my old and unused ukulele...few moments later you tell us about your new secondhand ukulele😅
Very Good example for that Point...!
I'm working in publishing, so I'm book hoarder. But I think it's ok, as long as I own the books I really like, and pass on the ones I didn't enjoy so much.
Also I live in our family apartment after everyone else moved somewhere else, and they left behind lots of their stuff. I still didn't get rid of everything (because there is quantum of it) but slowly when i'm in the mood I'm cleaning it all up. It's slow process, but every time I clean some part up a feel lighter :)
Relocating makes you love minimalism. The amount of stuff I have? I realized it is overwhelming. My continued weakness still happens to be real books, lol. I don't mind this too much. I keep them organized.
For about 10 years after college, I kept stuff for "if I get a job that is really strict dress code". It felt so good to reach a point in my life (and career) when finally I was like, "girl no. You're not going to become a stockbroker".
My weaknesses are definitely anything that triggers a memory from my childhood. And it may not even make me happy but just pulls on a heart string.
My weakness was shoes, but not because I love shoes- it's because I hate shoes and shoe shopping, so I was afraid to get rid of a pair and then realize I have to replace it. But I got over that fear and decreased my shoe collection by more than half, and I have less than 20 pairs now. I'd like to get to 10-15. That seems ideal for me.
I can't get rid of my college notebooks and papers...I feel like I'll want to look at them when I'm an old lady and I don't want to regret getting rid of all of it! Idk what to do. I also have a hard time with books but they're nicely organized in a bookcase so I don't worry about getting rid of them. I like how they look too.
I'm also in the process of becoming a minimalist! Especially from working overseas and constantly travelling, its difficult to drag around the amount of things that quickly accumulate!
What camera do you use for your vlogs? I am in the process of purchasing one and unsure of what to get.
I think the hardest things for me are things that belonged to my boyfriend or things he bought me because he only passed away in May. Plus yes books too!
I just started my minimalism journey!!!! :) :)
My weaknesses, two of them, are that I'm unable to get rid of any perfumes in my collection even if I rarely use them and I'm unable to get rid of things like birthday cards I've received, invitations to weddings, thank you notes, and most importantly the letters I've received from my friends and pen pals from around the world.
Omg I also have a problem with letting books go. And stuffed animals. I used to collect them when I was a child and I'm having suchhhh a hard time with getting rid of them! It's so difficult :(
i really love your videos and think you're so pretty! thanks for helping me find intro into minimalism!
Thanks and you're welcome!
I love all of your videos! I'm so inspired by you
My mom has physical and mental disabilities. Giftgiving is kind of her thing. When it comes to holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, any special occasion she's adamant about having a celebration with food and gifts. No matter how many times I've told her I really don't like knickknacks, cheap plastic based things, or non-functional items, she gives them to me all the time. I have a giant Glenda the good witch knickknack, vintage angel knickknacks, big plastic gaudy jewelry, a plastic spraying fan, and a ton of other stuff I can't seem to throw away that she's given me. I store all of her presents in my walk in closet and we jokingly refer to it as "the museum of mom." She's not in good health and I'm afraid if she ever passes away suddenly, the guilt of getting rid of her gifts would wash over and crush me. So that's my weakness, the museum of mom.
Do you do a minimalist apartment tour?
I resonate with the weakness of books. Also, anything witchcraft related or tie dye. I feel like I just find so many rare and special items that I won't see something like it again >.
All my Buddhist items, books, statues, malas, etc. The other thing is my collection of tiny animals. bronze, clay, glass, stone etc....I just can't see myself giving them up. My nieces can have them when I die...because they do bring me joy and I just love dusting them and giving them little kisses as I put them back on their little shelves. Jeans are a hard one too, I have a bunch, like 20, but they all fit and I love them all, although there are 5 pair that I wear more than the others. Maybe I can just put them in a bin and see if I miss them after like 3 months or something....Anyway, I love your videos! Thanks!
I say, if they really make you happy, keep them!
My best friend passed awash on her 21st birthday and I have things that hold memories with her that I have trouble giving up
This has really helped a lot. Thank you.
books are my "weakness" too but i think its fine because yes they look awesome :D make a cozy atmosphere and just have value for you
Shoes are hardest for me. Not because I love them but because I feel like shoes cost a lot and I can't easily replace them when I need to.
The thing with the halloween costumes is totally me 😂
I think my problem is that when I give something away I want to make sure it goes to a good home so to speak. I know the person I gave it to will take good care of it I don't mind giving it because my mindset is it's too good for a thrift store
well...I am now alone,...but have anywhere between 6 to 9 adult kids come home to stay pretty often.... who use different costumes every year,....whereas...I happen to use the same things every year!!! haha,...depending if its cold or warm weather to trick or treat, go to the 10 gatherings a month, and of course,...seasonally wet or chilly weather! But we also DO NOT HAVE
thrift stores, clothes stores, shoe stores or any stores, much less a Mc Donalds or Starbucks! and so I do not eat out!!! homecook only!
Make up is my weakness...... But it's getting better :)
You are my soul twin!! And yeah books 😍
Love your videos so much. I predict great things for this chanel
you are GORGEOUS
plants are my weekness! I have groups of them throughout my apartment!
I wish I could keep a plant alive :\ I love the look of them.
Wow. I never have gotten a reply from anyone before.. you're awesome ! :)
I also think another issue is finding time and where to even start
Start in your closet, with your clothes. That usually gets the ball rolling. I have gone back through the process again since originally doing it, and I always start in my closet.
Books are my weakness as well. I did finally just start keeping my absolute favorites. It was hard but I told myself that other people will get so much enjoyment out of them. Clothes are easy to get rid of for me. I have zero interest in having a large wardrobe. Pictures are another hard thing. One minimalist video I watched advised scanning all your pictures onto a usb drive and getting rid of the actual pictures. I don't think I'm ready for that yet lol maybe some pics but a lot will be hard to throw away. What is your opinion on that?
+Violet Baker omgosh I second this! Definitely books are a hard one, but I like the idea of donating books too and the thought that you could pass them on to someone else that will love them. Pictures like actual, physical pictures I think are something I'd never get rid of there is something about the quality of them, especially old pictures that you can't retain in digital form.
I agree. I mean what would I do if something happened to the digital device with the pics? They would be gone forever :(
+Violet Baker Put them all in albums. Then you can actually page through them periodically and more readily share that experience with family & friends as well.
totally random but you look like Nikki Reed =p - I'm working on being more minimalist in my life and it's a challenge at times. I've never been the typical consumer so I know it could be worse, but the things I hold onto remind me of my family members that have passed. The other day I got rid of a door hanger that belonged to my great grandma (rip) and the lady really loved it and it was depressed but also relieving to get rid of it. I know my grandma would have wanted someone to have it who would love it, so I know she would have approved. My other issues is "but I spent money on it" xD this excuse is the worst. I've been selling odds and ends for like 5-10$ and it's helping me save money and get rid of junk!
i think for me it is bags..i love them..i guess i have more then usually ppl have..maybe around 15-20 😂😰 and for clothes i rly try to minimize and buy less ger rid of stuff and that way try to get a more simple yet chic closet. the rest is pretty much stationary and i love books too but bsc i only buy books with great content for e.g religious books or bout motivation stuff u can always read again and again i only buy those and i never feel or was ever guilty of that. :)
Maybe you should get a kindle?? Just a suggestion!! :)
''The craps back'' lmol luv it.x
It's tough with kids. Toys, clothes, shoes, and beds that get outgrown every season.
genesislover I agree
Do you throw your morning pages notebooks away after a while?
my mom won't let me buy anything from thrift stores because she's afraid of bed bugs.. any suggestions?
You could try buying from a clothing reselling app like poshmark, that way at least you can ask the owner of the item what condition it is in.
+Serena Wilder I know this sounds soo stupud but she thinks that the person will take all of information from the card I use to pay with..
i have a specifically made t-shirt with an internal joke on it that a friend gave to me.... we're not really that good friends anymore, and this reminds me of a cool and humorous time in my life at the "peak" of our friendship. i don't really use it but the reasons why i keep it are
1. that i feel guilty
2. even though it's mostly funny between me and my friend, it can also be found funny by others and be a conversation starter in the future
3. how would it be beneficial to anyone else out there when they're not even a part of the joke.
despite all this i haven't really used it around others then my friend, and since we don't really hang out anymore, i hardly use it. i always think that it would be a cool conversation topic, but when appropriate situations come up to actually wear it, i chicken out because maybe people think i'm silly. i just don't know what to do with it asgfgdfhh
+Ingrid M maybe u can wear it and take a selfie to remind urself and make a scrapbook page with some photos of u and ur old friends and a pic of the shirt?...this is how i reduced a hole box of photos down to be just 1 scrapbook/album and now everyone loves to look at that book...but noone ever saw the photos in the box b4 they wer in a mess and half of them wer out of focus or random pics i took as a kid with my thumb half in shot or ppl i dnt even know anymore from school lol but now i picked out only the nice 1s and made that book it brings me so much joy and when my friends/family saw it they felt joy too it is a fun minimalising project especially if u hav lots of pics u need to sort thru! good luck x
I'm a doll collector so... dolls, and art supplies. Do I really need that many stickers? No.... but I will use them! (I tell myself) sigh.
I am continuing to de clutter but in the mean time I have the one in one out rule :)