50 seconds into this video i knew that there was a reason this video popped onto my recommended, i really needed to hear something like this today. thank you.
The golden rule is something I took too literally to be honest and I think that many people do too. I appreciate your perspective when it comes to this rule :)
Not being liked by everyone isnt the end of the world I actually am a person who has social anxiety, so I tend to think about what others are thinking way too much One day, when I wasnt present in class, a girl said she didnt like me, and even said "no one liked me", what wasnt true A friend told me that, and I was like, "what? I never even talked to her, I didnt even remember her face" I always tried to be nice to everyone, but even so there were people who didnt like (even never talking to me personally) But what is more impressive is how I felt I felt a bit shocked at first, beeing disliked by someone I never talked to Even so, it didnt change my life, I didn't feel sad nor mad how I thought I would if someone said that they didn't like me, I felt nothing I look at this moment and think about it as a good way of learning that someone disliking you isnt the end of the world (And yes, I had moments where people talked like this right next to me when I was present) So I started to feel like I dont need to try too hard to please anyone, nor do need to think about what they think about me too much I wont be rude, but I wont be overly nice to them at the point of hurting myself
First of all, I like your username. And what you learned from your story is something that I had to go through as well. At first it felt like the end of the world but knowing deep down that you can’t please everyone just puts your mind at ease. Some people out there will dislike you and that’s okay, you cannot please everyone. But for those people who appreciate you, learn ti appreciate them as well, they’re precious people. I relate so much with your story and it makes me feel less alone. I hope that people reading this comment feels the same way, thanks for that comment by the way
thank you for posting this. a lot of things you said really resonated with me, i've been struggling with a lot of self-hate lately because I feel like my efforts to please others were never enough. I hope you continue to grow because your content is really valuable. :)
There are people out there who will appreciate your efforts, just continue to love yourself and you'll eventually find those people, thanks for the feedback by the way
God bless you. Same thing happened to me. I gave up everything for her and then she left me. I started hating myself, crying, so much. Then it clicked. All you said connected to me. Thank you. Now I focus on my self
Appreciated man. I'm in this stage as well. I'm currently in the rut of trying to distinguish between pleasing others and loving myself first. Thanks for reminding of the right approach I should have when it comes to my life.
We're all in this together man, I too am still figuring things out when it comes to this problem. Maybe i'll make a guide about it in the future once I figure things out, thanks for the feedback as always :)
Thanks man❤!!You know what from the last two years i was busy /trying to please everybody around.. in that process i lost my myself..this then converted into self hatred..which affected everything including my career.. !!Once again thanks for making me realize...!!😊
This video really stood out to me on my recommended page. Being nice to everyone has always been one of my core characteristics, something people know well about me. Everything you said in this video was so on point - I have never been so engaged before, so well done! I understand your advice and I've been trying to put myself first multiple times. Still, my social anxiety and tendencies to be a people pleaser quickly take over in social settings. I've been called a pushover to my face by an old friend when I was around 12 and it has stuck with me ever since. Now I know that she is just a mean person, and recent interactions with her have taught me that she still thinks of me in this way and mocks me for it. Again, thank you for the very well-made video, it has definitely helped me see from another perspective my downward spiral, and I will try to focus on myself more. Ok! end of ramble, you've got a new sub and I'm sure you'll get to 100 subs in no time!
I still struggle with it from time to time so you're not alone on that one. What matters is that you're aware of it and that you're doing something about it. Maybe I'll make a guide regarding this topic in the future once I figure things out for myself. In the mean time, focus on yourself. Thanks for the support as always :)
Your cat is so cute!!!!! Omggggg what’s is your cat called? And great advice once again! The new style of your video was very engaging, keep it up! I’m sure you’ll reach 100 subs by the end of the month!
She's called Yuki, it means "snow" in Japanese. I see that you changed your profile picture. Videos of this style take a while to make but do expect them every now and then. I did have fun making it though. Thanks for the support as always, you're a true one
@@FromMaru23 Yuki suits her so well! It’s literally perfect! I still can’t choose a profile picture😭 I understand it takes a while for these type of videos, do whatever is easy for you because after all you also have a life😭 Just make sure you stay consistent with posting, I always look forward to watching your videos🙏
Damn I thought you were more famous don`t worry the content that you provided is really good and engaging I used to be that type of person like people pleaser now I am trying to change into a greater person that love myself and respectful to myself Is hard but I am loving myself even more than before and putting myself before anyone else. Also Hope you reach 100 subs at the end of the month.
Being a people pleaser is such a sad thing. Imagine trying all your best to be a decent, nice human being to everyone but those same people refuse to even show that kindness back. Yes! They show it a little but that’s when they feel like it or when they’re gaining something from you. Such bullsh*t, the fact that it’s my own family that does this to me! Now that I’m trying to love myself and respect myself and take myself into consideration. I’M know an evil, selfish human being! Like what the actual f*ck! It’s a sad, they don’t even take me seriously in anything or even acknowledge my opinion!
I don’t know what to say man, it must be hard considering that it’s family that you’re talking about. Maybe find a compromise that satisfies both you and your family, continue finding that balance if you know what I mean :)
HEY MAN PLEASE REPLY TO ME I don't know what I did wrong I am too reserved and I am an introverted guy but I started to change and want to make more friends be more extroverted I also want to have friends who give efforts to my friendship as much I give in but at the end i always find myself and feel left out in pretty much everything I don't know how to start talking or what to talk I just say whatever comes into my mind like basic things but after that I don't know what to talk about how to make people intrested in me i also started going to gym to keep myself fit and more energetic but all my efforts feels like it's worth nothing no matter how much I try i just can't get or see the worth anymore i always the one who start the talk to someone or approach someone to talk but no one approaches me to talk I have a few friends but whenever I hang out with them they mostly talk with themselves i always feel excluded or left out i sometimes think to leave those friends but then I think what happens I left them how can I make more friends what happens if those people are much worse than earlier ones I don't know I am just scared now and don't know what to do i am thinking something is wrong about me nowadays i sometimes think what is that i am doing wrong but I find nothing I feels so hopeless I have been trying what I can do change myself it's been nearly two years but I can't seems to figure out anything I feels lost I just don't know what to do now I just want to have good friends it's feels lonely now I have never felt this way before nowadays this feeling eating my brain every day the more I think about this the more I feeling depressed
I made a video about loneliness and I think that you can learn something from that. I too am experiencing the same things as you right now, me and my other friends have been busy doing our own thing and we barely talk anymore and it's quite a lonely feeling. And those friends that I have around me feel like we're not as connected as ever. To be honest, all I have is hope man. That in doing the things that I love, in doing the things that I can be proud of. I'll eventually find the people who are meant to be in my life, the people who'd reciprocate the efforts I put in and the people who would always be there for me as much as I am there for them. I used to be an extroverted person back in the past but then I became such an introvert after the pandemic happened. And now I don't have as much people as I did back in the past. But it's something that I learned to accept and hope really played a huge part in that acceptance. I believe that you're losing hope and it's something that I want you to find. All I can say is for you to keep doing the things that you love and things that you can be proud of and everything else will fall into place. Right now, things might not be how I expected things to be but I try my best to be patient and give it some time. I didn't know I could say this much but then I hope that you learned something from what I just said. What you're going through definitely made me feel less alone and I hope that you feel the same way as well :)
@@FromMaru23 thanks a lot for replying to me i understand what you are saying I will focus alot more than before i watched few videos of you and I find it quite relatable i also learned a lot of things thanks for making them ❤️
I do not mean this comment in a negative way- but I wanted to hear something about the kindness vs being nice which is what I expected from the thumbnail. Instead it's just a monologue on loving yourself, which is fine, just not what I expected ig
The thing about being kind in my opinion is it is about learning to love yourself first by doing things like respecting your own time, focusing on yourself more than pleasing others and not having the fear to displease people because of you trying to say your opinions. I might have not mentioned the word "kind" that much in the video and I watched it again, I do admit that I didn't make it clear in the video of what the difference is between being nice and being kind. But the whole video is my idea on how you can be kind to others. I hope this clears things up for you :)
50 seconds into this video i knew that there was a reason this video popped onto my recommended, i really needed to hear something like this today. thank you.
Everything happens for a reason, you’re welcome :)
Don't go being rude row
The most important bit of the golden rule is that "others" will also include yourself before anything else.
The golden rule is something I took too literally to be honest and I think that many people do too. I appreciate your perspective when it comes to this rule :)
Not being liked by everyone isnt the end of the world
I actually am a person who has social anxiety, so I tend to think about what others are thinking way too much
One day, when I wasnt present in class, a girl said she didnt like me, and even said "no one liked me", what wasnt true
A friend told me that, and I was like, "what? I never even talked to her, I didnt even remember her face"
I always tried to be nice to everyone, but even so there were people who didnt like (even never talking to me personally)
But what is more impressive is how I felt
I felt a bit shocked at first, beeing disliked by someone I never talked to
Even so, it didnt change my life, I didn't feel sad nor mad how I thought I would if someone said that they didn't like me, I felt nothing
I look at this moment and think about it as a good way of learning that someone disliking you isnt the end of the world
(And yes, I had moments where people talked like this right next to me when I was present)
So I started to feel like I dont need to try too hard to please anyone, nor do need to think about what they think about me too much
I wont be rude, but I wont be overly nice to them at the point of hurting myself
First of all, I like your username.
And what you learned from your story is something that I had to go through as well. At first it felt like the end of the world but knowing deep down that you can’t please everyone just puts your mind at ease.
Some people out there will dislike you and that’s okay, you cannot please everyone. But for those people who appreciate you, learn ti appreciate them as well, they’re precious people.
I relate so much with your story and it makes me feel less alone. I hope that people reading this comment feels the same way, thanks for that comment by the way
thank you for posting this. a lot of things you said really resonated with me, i've been struggling with a lot of self-hate lately because I feel like my efforts to please others were never enough. I hope you continue to grow because your content is really valuable. :)
There are people out there who will appreciate your efforts, just continue to love yourself and you'll eventually find those people, thanks for the feedback by the way
God bless you. Same thing happened to me. I gave up everything for her and then she left me. I started hating myself, crying, so much. Then it clicked. All you said connected to me. Thank you. Now I focus on my self
Glad you could relate my guy, whatever it is that you're focusing on right now, good luck with that
Bro you really are speaking fax my guyyy i hope god bless youuuuu♥️♥️
Thanks for the feedback my guy, may god bless your soul too
Thank you so much.
Of course man, anytime :)
Thanks for the vid man, I also subbed👍
I appreciate it my guy :)
keep on !! ur not alone
Thanks for coming along my guy
Dude this type of video is so good
I love how genuine you feel
Please never loose that originality of yours :)
Sending lots of love
It’s not a style I usually go for but I will make them occasionally so look forward to that :)
Appreciated man. I'm in this stage as well. I'm currently in the rut of trying to distinguish between pleasing others and loving myself first. Thanks for reminding of the right approach I should have when it comes to my life.
We're all in this together man, I too am still figuring things out when it comes to this problem. Maybe i'll make a guide about it in the future once I figure things out, thanks for the feedback as always :)
Thanks man❤!!You know what from the last two years i was busy /trying to please everybody around.. in that process i lost my myself..this then converted into self hatred..which affected everything including my career.. !!Once again thanks for making me realize...!!😊
@@Girlboss2024rich i’m glad that you’re aware of it now :)
Real! Amazing video fs❤❤❤
Glad to know you like it
Hi from myanmar,thank you for this really good video
I'm glad you like it my guy
im glad more videos like this have been showing on my feed
I’m glad you showed up on my video as well :)
Nice one
Thank you :)
This video really stood out to me on my recommended page. Being nice to everyone has always been one of my core characteristics, something people know well about me. Everything you said in this video was so on point - I have never been so engaged before, so well done! I understand your advice and I've been trying to put myself first multiple times. Still, my social anxiety and tendencies to be a people pleaser quickly take over in social settings. I've been called a pushover to my face by an old friend when I was around 12 and it has stuck with me ever since. Now I know that she is just a mean person, and recent interactions with her have taught me that she still thinks of me in this way and mocks me for it.
Again, thank you for the very well-made video, it has definitely helped me see from another perspective my downward spiral, and I will try to focus on myself more. Ok! end of ramble, you've got a new sub and I'm sure you'll get to 100 subs in no time!
I still struggle with it from time to time so you're not alone on that one. What matters is that you're aware of it and that you're doing something about it. Maybe I'll make a guide regarding this topic in the future once I figure things out for myself.
In the mean time, focus on yourself. Thanks for the support as always :)
Your cat is so cute!!!!! Omggggg what’s is your cat called?
And great advice once again! The new style of your video was very engaging, keep it up! I’m sure you’ll reach 100 subs by the end of the month!
She's called Yuki, it means "snow" in Japanese. I see that you changed your profile picture.
Videos of this style take a while to make but do expect them every now and then. I did have fun making it though. Thanks for the support as always, you're a true one
@@FromMaru23 Yuki suits her so well! It’s literally perfect!
I still can’t choose a profile picture😭
I understand it takes a while for these type of videos, do whatever is easy for you because after all you also have a life😭
Just make sure you stay consistent with posting, I always look forward to watching your videos🙏
Just stick with a profile picture you like, I'm already writing my next video so definitely look forward to that :D
@@FromMaru23I am definately looking forward to it!
This video also did so well! I’m so excited to see where else you’ll go!!
I needed this, thankyou.
You’re always welcome
Cool video bro btw where do you edit your video
I use Davinci resolve man, thanks for the feedback :)
Fact! Thanks a lot.
You’re welcome :D
Nice video.... Everything is good
Thanks for the feedback man
Damn I thought you were more famous don`t worry the content that you provided is really good and engaging I used to be that type of person like people pleaser now I am trying to change into a greater person that love myself and respectful to myself Is hard but I am loving myself even more than before and putting myself before anyone else. Also Hope you reach 100 subs at the end of the month.
Keep up the good work man, you'll get the love you deserve someday :D
You didn’t even have to wait till the end of the month! I’m actually filled with so much happiness and respect For you😭
@@FromMaru23 thank you brother ❤️
@@NabihaNaved Yes for real
@@NabihaNaved We're only just beginning, I'm looking forward to what comes next as well, I'm so happy to be in this journey together with you guys
Being a people pleaser is such a sad thing. Imagine trying all your best to be a decent, nice human being to everyone but those same people refuse to even show that kindness back. Yes! They show it a little but that’s when they feel like it or when they’re gaining something from you. Such bullsh*t, the fact that it’s my own family that does this to me! Now that I’m trying to love myself and respect myself and take myself into consideration. I’M know an evil, selfish human being! Like what the actual f*ck! It’s a sad, they don’t even take me seriously in anything or even acknowledge my opinion!
I don’t know what to say man, it must be hard considering that it’s family that you’re talking about. Maybe find a compromise that satisfies both you and your family, continue finding that balance if you know what I mean :)
if it's gonna make you feel better, I'm also going through it
Hey thanks
I hope you a good day/night
My pleasure man
Keep going
I definitely will :)
bro gets me a lil too well
I’ve been there :)
Loved it
I appreciate it man
One last video before i sleep. Yes 🙂↔️ was worth it. ( Subscriber 147)
Glad to see you coming along man
Bro agreed ....
Thanks man
1:46 good to be a self lover than attention seeker
Facts my guy :)
You watch aot!!! Yayy!!❤🎉
It’s the first anime I ever watched, I love anime
You should also watch demon slayer. I loved that one.
I watch that too, it’s my third anime that I watched, it’s quite awesome ngl
❤ cool
I appreciate the feedback
HEY MAN PLEASE REPLY TO ME
I don't know what I did wrong I am too reserved and I am an introverted guy but I started to change and want to make more friends be more extroverted I also want to have friends who give efforts to my friendship as much I give in but at the end i always find myself and feel left out in pretty much everything I don't know how to start talking or what to talk I just say whatever comes into my mind like basic things but after that I don't know what to talk about how to make people intrested in me i also started going to gym to keep myself fit and more energetic but all my efforts feels like it's worth nothing no matter how much I try i just can't get or see the worth anymore i always the one who start the talk to someone or approach someone to talk but no one approaches me to talk I have a few friends but whenever I hang out with them they mostly talk with themselves i always feel excluded or left out i sometimes think to leave those friends but then I think what happens I left them how can I make more friends what happens if those people are much worse than earlier ones I don't know I am just scared now and don't know what to do i am thinking something is wrong about me nowadays i sometimes think what is that i am doing wrong but I find nothing I feels so hopeless I have been trying what I can do change myself it's been nearly two years but I can't seems to figure out anything I feels lost I just don't know what to do now I just want to have good friends it's feels lonely now I have never felt this way before nowadays this feeling eating my brain every day the more I think about this the more I feeling depressed
I made a video about loneliness and I think that you can learn something from that. I too am experiencing the same things as you right now, me and my other friends have been busy doing our own thing and we barely talk anymore and it's quite a lonely feeling. And those friends that I have around me feel like we're not as connected as ever.
To be honest, all I have is hope man. That in doing the things that I love, in doing the things that I can be proud of. I'll eventually find the people who are meant to be in my life, the people who'd reciprocate the efforts I put in and the people who would always be there for me as much as I am there for them.
I used to be an extroverted person back in the past but then I became such an introvert after the pandemic happened. And now I don't have as much people as I did back in the past. But it's something that I learned to accept and hope really played a huge part in that acceptance. I believe that you're losing hope and it's something that I want you to find. All I can say is for you to keep doing the things that you love and things that you can be proud of and everything else will fall into place. Right now, things might not be how I expected things to be but I try my best to be patient and give it some time.
I didn't know I could say this much but then I hope that you learned something from what I just said. What you're going through definitely made me feel less alone and I hope that you feel the same way as well :)
@@FromMaru23 thanks a lot for replying to me i understand what you are saying I will focus alot more than before i watched few videos of you and I find it quite relatable i also learned a lot of things thanks for making them ❤️
I'm glad you find them relatable man
I do not mean this comment in a negative way- but I wanted to hear something about the kindness vs being nice which is what I expected from the thumbnail. Instead it's just a monologue on loving yourself, which is fine, just not what I expected ig
The thing about being kind in my opinion is it is about learning to love yourself first by doing things like respecting your own time, focusing on yourself more than pleasing others and not having the fear to displease people because of you trying to say your opinions.
I might have not mentioned the word "kind" that much in the video and I watched it again, I do admit that I didn't make it clear in the video of what the difference is between being nice and being kind. But the whole video is my idea on how you can be kind to others. I hope this clears things up for you :)
Nice ❤❤❤
Everyone wear either white, gray or black... especially BLACK. It also applies to current house designs. Its so f*cking sad.
If I may ask out of genuine curiosity. What do you mean by that??
@@FromMaru23 People being afraid of showing their colors. But thats normal. It's sad. Also I exaggerated a bit.
lotion next to you bed is hanous work
I gotta have my emergency lotion with me :)
Facts man, and if nobody likes and respects you at least I do
I appreciate the respect and feedback my guy
Your voice is no nice. I'll say that first. And, the introduction. I really liked that quote.
I'm quite insecure about my voice so what you just said is reassuring. Thanks for the feedback by the way :)