I got on my soapbox again. We went over the 11 Commandments and showed you how to use FlyLady to help you! Here is the link to Mark Gungor / @markgungor
You have perfectly described the overwhelming chaos and extreme despair I’ve called a life for the last 15 years. You spoke directly to my soul. Life is too beautiful and it’s time to make some changes. Thank you so much💕
Thank you for all you do ❤️. I really appreciate you. This message is 3 years old and it just now came through my feed. It is a needed and timely reminder to take care of myself and quit being so hard on myself. Sending you much love and wishes for continued health and blessings.
Fit Lady is real, she is now my best friend.She has helped me more in less than one hour.Than any family ,friend or acquaintance has in many ,many years.Thank you Fly Lady
It would be great if your ways were taught in every school! The things you teach us adults are what we should have learned as kids! Have you ever considered making a curriculum for the schools to teach in Family & Consumer Science? Your wisdom is such a helpful base for a good life! Thank you for helping & inspiring me & so many others!
I just shined my sink, which in turn made me want to clean off my counters... Already had my lace up shoes (my airwalks that look like the 10th Dr. Who's converse, however mine are purple). I have to give a short (hopefully) back story... I had found Flylady damn near 20 yrs ago. Followed through for awhile but then, life happened and I fell off of not just flylady but almost from life itself. Long story short (lol, yeah right), I'm back and just found you again my dear and this time, I mean business... Let's FLY!!!!
Hi, I just found your channel. This is an answer to my prayers. I've struggled with depression, anxiety and distractions for many years. Thank you and God bless you!!!
you have reached me many times over. When I feel down I come find a flylady video and just listening, really listening I get up and do things to help me, be it make a therapy appointment, take my walk, love me. I started in 2000 fluttering and still working on it. Your honesty about depression and how you conquered it has always been with me. You are helping me find Joy.
I have to say you are the most brave and amazing woman! These talks are so inspirational especially for us mom's who are in our late 30's and and need a pep in our step while keeping our household running. Thank you!
Thank you for your beautiful loving heart! You are a blessing to so many. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family, and lift and strengthen all those who are suffering in any way. Trust Him, He will help you.❤ -- Marietta Anderson
Dearest Marla. I found you many years ago when the followers numbered around 60 000. I think that was a good 20 years ago. You helped me through some seriously tough times and your sayings became part of my life. Hot Spot Fire Prevention, Boogie your purse/bag, and of course the routines. This last week I introduced a young lady to FlyLady and it is already beginning to inspire her. Thank you for your sincere and genuine concern for others. You are much loved.
That you for this uplifting message. I followed you many years ago but life got away from me for awhile. I’m trying to get it together. You are such a blessing.
06/11/21 70 years old, starting over, saving money to move after divorce. This video is motivating be to dress to lace up shoes, go shine my sink, work on decluttering so don't move it to my new house. Never too late to create and live my best life. Love you Marla. FINALLY LOVING MYSELF ❤💖💕💓
I know this is two years later, but I would love to know how you are doing. I'm in a similar situation and entering foreign territory in so many ways and would love to hear your journey since this comment. 🕊️
I am listening to your depression talk. I can tell how much you love your mission. I have had depression for years and getting better now. Thank you for speaking out.
This video just popped up on my notifications and I've been feeling awful all day with anxiety. I feel so much better now I've watched you and the first video of yours I've watched too, so thank you x
Marla, you are the best. You have brought so much joy into my life with each and every one of your videos. You talk to us as a loving family member would. When you are brought to tears i am also because i know that you truly know how we feel. I have all and have read all of your books. My Sink Reflections book is literally falling apart because I have read it so many times. I absolutely can't wait to get your next one. Thank you for giving us the love and encouragement to do what is needed so that we can joyfully live our lives. Love and Hugs 😊🌹
I just lost my Mother last October seeing my Mama on the ground the way I did was so terrible I miss her but I know she would say Sug you gotta pick yourself up you cant stay on the floor with me...fight. I found this channel you look very much like her and I struggle everyday most days idk how I won but I'm here and I want to do something with my life too for me for her for my baby girl Thank you so much
Lol! Wanted to add: I have listened to your ‘Crises Cleaning podcast in the kitchen so many times that I know it by heart! It’s crazy but it helped me so much whenever I needed the motivation to get started! It makes me work so fast without thinking about it. I wish you could do a similar podcast for other tasks that are boring. I mean something that coaches you through while you are working on it. It makes the time fly by like nothing else! Thanks again!
Dearest Fly Lady! You are so precious, I thank you so very much for your profound and honest advice, and just plain sharing your love, with the world! After some tragic loss in my life I realized that I was depressed too. And today I found this video of yours and I was so blessed. I will be coming back often to connect with your sweet spirit! Thank you! ♥️ 🐥 💘
Meiral77, we are so sorry you have had to experience a tragic loss in your life. We pray that God will use your pain to help others and kiss your tears away. Thank you for you sweet words for the FlyLady. (FlyCrew Member, Paddi)
Thank you for these videos they have helped me so much. My 3 year old son loves you too. He tells the video at the end everytime "I love you to Gam-ma" you are a blessing!
I want to test-I-fly about getting dressed to shoes and shining your sink. I could easily see the wisdom of shining your sink at night. So that when you get up the next day, you're not faced with a huge task when you're sleepy and need coffee, lol! But as a stay at home mom, I wasn't really sure about the whole get dressed to shoes thing. However, I've been doing this for two weeks, and I must say I do feel better... I want to say I just feel better inside. I have paid more attention to what I have put on. And I have realized that there are many things in my closet and in my dresser that I just don't care for. After listening to this video and what you said about wearing things that you feel great in, I realize that that is a huge part of my issue… I don't feel great in a lot of the things I have. So, when I get into my master bedroom tomorrow to do my zone… I will be seriously considering letting go of some things that are dragging me down. I do think there is wisdom in what you are teaching us. I had not previously considered that I might really be depressed. But, I do think that I have been for years… Maybe not severely so but enough to hinder me. Thank you for some baby steps to help me out of my slump. I definitely see a brighter me in the mirror.
This is a timely video for..just starting to pick myself up. I've been realising that in order to get myself out of depression that saps my energy I need to get up and gradually sort and declutter my hose. I did it last year..but still need to do some more. I love the steps you suggest..they are really helping. Thank you and you are God's Blessing. God blessing to you.
God bless you Fly Lady, I’ve been battling depression for decades and didn’t even realize it because of all the major I’ve events happening back to back to back. Some may call it high functioning but I’m here to tell you I Was the “walking dead”. And the chaos in my house was a reflection of the chaos I’m my mind and spirit. I’m not not going to bore you with my story but I will say this, it was my own mother that said to me, “ I want my daughter back” that snapped me out of it. Though it took me forever, I’m finally at a place where I can actually see and feel what’s going on with me and live in the now. And for the first time in years, I’m able to tackle my “mess”. Your methods and videos are helping me now that I’ve arrived to that place where I can receive suggestions and advice and are greatly appreciated. For what it’s worth, so many of the things you’re saying are what my mom’s been telling me for years but I guess sometimes we need a little extra help to make the message stick. Keeping doing what you do because you help so many. Blessings to you and yours.
Dot Cassilles So true. Sometimes we don’t want to admit that truth. For me, I think even though my mother planted seed, the external sources were the fertilizer. And one year later I’m now at a point where I’m strong enough to more freely let go as toss out the clutter that I was using as security blanket to help get me through the rough times. Thanks for responding.
I think this might be the best summary of the FlyLady philosophy and it's very inspirational. I hope you send out this link in the emails or on your website regularly.
So true she's such a wonderful woman and an amazing person she's totally changed my life for the better and now I'm remembering this video alone and starting over on a few things
The worst things in life can be the cause of the best things in life...you just need to put in the work and work through the growing pains. Sometimes you need to break something to rebuild it better. I'm having a burnout (because of a narcissistic ex-boss) which is pure hell especially if you turn out to be high sensitive (which I didn't know I was but it explains A LOT). If you are always focussed on others you never look at yourself....you don't know you and your needs. I'm currently making a control journal to take control back over my life, its relaxing and empowering at the same time. All my sources of stress got a tab...and I'll fix each problem at a time...including a tab "me"...to make myself a priority. Its a tab to prevent stress...filled with things I like to do that give me energy. And now I look online and found out more people are making control journals. I didn't know it was a thing and called a control journal. Thats great it confirms I'm doing the right things. Great minds think alike I guess. A burnout sucks but you learn so much about who you are and who you are to others. I'm gonna be nicer to myself and stricter to others (instead of the other way around). And I knew I was a perfectionist but not the extend of it....not wanting to take a sick day was me being a perfectionist as well...who knew. I was like a hamster in a wheel....no more...I'm done working my butt off. And I used to critisize myself but never saw how great I already am. When you are a perfectionist you want 100%. So if you are 98% (which is already more then enough) you will want to improve those 2 percent....but you focus so much on those 2% you forget the 98%....you think you suck when you don't. And I thought I was weak....turns out I'm high sensitive and these aren't my emotions....I have more empathy and its the emotions of the people around me I'm picking up on that overpower me....I'm not weak I just need peace and quiet and some me time. 😂 I should have gotten to know me years ago. Thank God for my burnout.
Maaike, that is such a wonderful way to look at and to proceed with a burnout. It sounds like you reached a crisis point and said, enough is enough. Instead of climbing into a hole and covering your head you and giving up you are working like a scientist looking for a solution and then implementing a scientific method, trying many things and reviewing your process by writing it all down. I am so impressed with you and the way you are going about this. Congratulations! You are also right that you will come out far better off than you were before the decision point. (FlyCrew Member, Paddi)
@@drpaddi Thank you. 😁The "funny" thing is that after I had my burnout...2 people near to me got one as well...so I could help them process the things I just processed myself and see that my "nutty" behaviour was completely normal for a burnout. And I'm miss fix it by nature so of course these 2 came to me for help (I know thats not healthy for me but I wanted to help to feel like myself...helping them was helping me). They didn't have to feel like a mental patient cause I could tell them "Its normal, I went through that stage 4 months ago....it will pass...its because of this...have you tried this". I'm 90% healed now. It helps when you are honest with yourself that for once in your life you are not ok now and its ok you are not ok. And experience it with a bit of humor. You gotta laugh about yourself when you are experiencing a fight or flight responce. It is what it is. And I was told I am cognitively strong and my mind can control my high sensitivity....so I don't turn into a panicky emotional wreck on a daily basis....but during my burnout that control was gone and I got to know a whole new side of myself. 😂 Man do I notice a lot of (pointless) signs my brain normally filters out. 🤣When people ask me how I am....they don't get how it feels so I like to give them this example: It was like the computer that is your brain crashed. There was no program on it anymore not even your personality...things that make you you. Even your body gets illnesses caused by the stress like your heart is acting up and you think you're gonna die. But with time bit by bit programs get rebooted until one day Windows reappears on your computer (your personality....in my case my need for organisation and perfectionism....which was nice cause I recognise that woman..so you feel more like yourself but a curse cause you start to push yourself to recover faster so you need to manage that perfectionist as well from that moment on). You need to allow yourself to be sick (its the perfectionism...you wanna be a good worker/co-worker...you don't wanna fail by being sick). Now my computer looks normal but sometimes some settings are still off since the reboot and my internet still hasn't got its firewall back up so you have to watch out on which site you go.😜 My filter isn't 100% back yet so things just hit deeply sometimes or take much energy. And I'm already the person people go to for help again, but sometimes I realise I am left with their emotions after they leave. I seem to obsorb emotions but still have trouble shaking them off of me afterwards. But its a good thing I'm aware of it now. I used to do this on autopilot and never realised that its not something other people do. And its the reason I got tired out of the blue sometimes. But its funny learning you are high sensitive. Not only isn't it a weakness...its like getting a superpower. So I'm gonna take a Mindfulness course to focus more on that side of myself I don't know much about. Be more balanced and learn to listen to my feelings/body more. Basically learn to not just deal with it but really learn to use your superpower from now on. That and I learned to stay the hell away from narcissists. I can't recommand that enough to people.....don't even bother with their drama...they don't want help, they want to destroy the person who helps them. Its the same game over and over again with every action they take: stress and drama for you, power for them. And if you are miss fix it, you keep on running on their hamsterwheel of drama. So my new motto (which several people around me now use as well) is: "not my circus, not my monkeys". Its not my job to fix everything. 2019 for me is a year of healing, positivity, relaxation and organisation....nothing else.
God bless you all for all you do to help other's The Flylady system has truly changed my life for the better and I Thank God for you everyday and I've never met you but feel like Ive known you for a long time Ive been following the Flylady system for atleast 5 years or more ❤❤
@@ronnalambeth6226 Thank you.😀 I see its an old post of mine from 2 years ago. Little update; * I am fully recovered but more aware of my bounderies now. I intend to only do a burnout (and a narc for that matter) once. * I can recommend the mindfullness class. It already helped me greatly. I now notice when something feels wrong...when a boundery gets breached..and I see the red flags. I have 0 tolerance for toxic people. And I notice the small early signs of stress...I will not go down that path again and will nip stress in the bud now. I know where these roads lead to and instead of stopping it when its too late. Now I simply don't go on these paths again. Its a whole new way of living. * my narc and burnout (and the lockdown period that followed it) was a wonderful periode of transformation and personal growth for me. I wouldn't change a thing. By diving into MBTI I not only got to know myself but also the behaviors of others around me. And by taking a hard look at narcissism I discovered some toxic traits in myself as well. Perfectionism is a pitfall of mine but I no longer desire to be perfect...no one is perfect. I rather just live my life in balance with who I am. No more victimhood mentality but I am more proactive. And anyone that wants to manipulate me into feeling like a victim...RED FLAG. I used to be miss fix it, but its not my job to HAVE TO fix everyone. And sometimes you help someone more by teaching them to help themselves. My life is way more relaxed and happy now. I wish everyone a peaceful happy life in balance with who they truly are. Life is too short for anything else. 💜
Thank you for your honest sharing. I have been suffering from a TBI and hoarding habits, depression, anxiety and chronic pain. Watching this really helped me. I believe that I can do this. Thank you and God bless!!
Thank you for sharing your joy and pain with us. I'm new to the flylady system (day23!), and I'm enjoying watching through some of your older videos as well as the new ones. This one jumped out at me because at this moment I am sleepless, (midnight )because of anxiety/depression. I've struggled with it for years now but I guess it's time I address the issues that keep me sad, worried and tired.
THANK YOU FLYLADY! You don’t even know how much it means to me that you shared your own personal story. Listening to you gives me so much hope. Sometimes people look so perfect that it’s easy to think that they never struggled with anything which makes you feel even more hopeless and alone. Depression forces you to slow down like nothing else. My husband reminded me what a huge difference a mom and wife makes in a family. Women have the biggest impact on the tone and success of a family whether we like it or not. It’s easy to think that what we are doing at home isn’t worth much because we aren’t ‘working ‘ It’s actually the opposite when you think about it. Having enough money to feel comfortable and not worried is important of course but the mood and how we relate to each other and the memories we make are what we think of at the end of our lives. You remind us of what is important and help us to make it possible to not get stuck on housework. Keeping our houses clean is a necessary part of a happy life but it needs to be as streamlined as possible. When we have a hard time cleaning and organizing it easily becomes the most important thing and a constant topic of upset. I am working on decluttering. We recently moved from a large house to a 2 bedroom apartment. The apartment is so much easier to keep clean but it also forces us to get rid of things that pull us down. It’s a work in progress... Thank you for telling us that we can do it !
Marla you have such a beautiful and sweet heart!! Thank you sooo much for your motivation. You are a blessing to my life. May God continue to use you tremendously! 😊 Looking forward to reading your book.
I just love your spirit and your honesty. This has encouraged me so much today. I ordered your book yesterday. This has given me hope. Thank you so much.
I can’t watch live because I’m not on Facebook and I’m at work when you do the show. So thank you for putting the link in the emails. You’re a blessing, and spoke words I really needed to hear today. I am off work on a scheduled vacation day, not for fun or to relax but because I’m so overworked and burned out but also two of my daughters expecting me to babysit tomorrow. When I say no they get very upset , so I have been saying yes even when it’s not good for me. So after working overtime for six weeks straight, I will have 4 little ones here tomorrow from 7 am to 2 pm. Then leave home and drive an hour to the other ones home and be there all evening. This meant I had to take the day off to get ready because my son moved in with me 10 days ago and there’s stuff everywhere out of place. Not safe for four very busy little ones 11 months to 7 years old. I was planning to act like it’s a work day but it’s raining, I have arthritis, I’m burned out, exhausted and just admit it I am depressed. Like you I was in a bad marriage, 32 years of emotional abuse but now I am free from that and home is a place of peace and acceptance. But here it is 11 am all I have got done is make coffee check email and watch Flylady. I am going to go put on the shoes I wear to work and do what I can, 15 minutes at a time. Thank you Flylady for the reminder of where I have been and where I am going now in life. New sticky on my vanity mirror says “the best revenge is success!”! Peace, love and blessings to you!
❣Thank you, Marla, nothing better could happen than to listen, knit and have my water and a nice cup of tea to calm myself in some really overwhelming minutes. I see, that you know what you're talking about. We often say: don't judge me, you're not walking in my shoes...but what if we ourselves are not wearing our shoes to avoid a start? No walking, just hanging around and waiting for a miracle... Thank you for supporting, it's the biggest gift I can imagine to feel understood and to be uplifted to the first steps from a loving soul. Wish you a happy Easter time, Monika, Germany❣
Marla,. You have saved me so many times when sad!!! I've travelled a bumpy road in this life with rejection since birth. I'm adopted. I'm on my third marriage. You're a part of my life. Love and hugs from South Florida 💕🌺
The openness and honesty you share here is so appreciated. I was listening to your advice and it may seem so simple but it's truly powerful and effective. Each small task is an accomplishment. I thought about the times I've stopped to put on my athletic shoes at home and how it made me feel more motivated to do things like wash the front porch or clean out an area in the garage or even get to work scrubbing the walls in the house. It felt different than when I just slid on my flip-flops and went barefoot. I hadn't given it much thought but your video made me pause and really think about the times I felt most inspired or motivated to get moving versus times when all I wanted to do was go back to sleep and ignore the world. Thank you for sharing this. I'm recommending my friends and family watch this video and get to know you.
I’ve overcome a situation much like yours. Thank you thank you thank you, for sharing. *BIG HUGS* I’ve spent the last 5 years learning to love myself (solo). I miss my former mother-in-law. She gave advice much in the way you do- very comforting. Thank you thank you thank you. I’ve always sought out elder matriarchs my entire life. I haven’t found one in my new city (Denver), yet. I’m thankful to have found you. You are so much more than a cleaning guru. I’ve only just begun to watch your videos. I can’t wait to get your book and begin the process. I don’t feel like taking the trash out... I’ve shoved the full heavy duty bags in a hall closet (otherwise the cats & dogs will tear into the bags). I’ve been trying to take them out to the dumpster, but depression stops me. (And I’m on meds) my dr says meds will not change my behavior. So I have been RUclips binging for motivation. I’ve laid in bed all day yesterday (my day off). Things are piling up. I can do this.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR TEA TALKS...you are such an amazing talker...and though I've not heard you in a public arena...I'm sure... an amazing speaker as well. You are very talented at your God given purpose...and I thank you for taking the time each day to minister to all of us....you'll never know the godsend you are.. Your wisdom...your experiences...your funny stories...I even enjoy hearing you sing because it comes from the heart. May God richly bless you as you have so RICHLY BLESSED others.
That is human nature Ryan, we were not created to stay the same but to grow. At least you can see what you are doing... Thats the first step of the process to change. Dont beat yourself up.
Dear Marla, this is not the first time I watch this video: but every single time it does something to me and I feel better, hearing you talking so opening about love and mental "illness". Makes me feel really good and loved.
I’ve never seen your vids before; though I’ve watched Diane from Denmark very lovely person. I send you squishy hugs. Thank you for ur fly lady systems.
I listened to this one again today.. I think i can use your videos for a support group.. You have a point that are emotional state is a big part of getting our homes together
I’m going to show this video to my mom. She’s gone into a deep depression after my dad died and your calm understanding talk I think will help. It helped me.
I totally understand this I was in a bad relationship for. 11 years off and on and I'm so much better now prayers for all who are dealing with depression and anxiety
Great words of wisdom! Thank you. So I have noticed a strange phenomenon in my life - when I see purple, my first thought is always "FlyLady"!! The newest ring from the direct sales company I am in is PURPLE - and when I first saw the release video, I kept thinking of FlyLady.
Love this you are amazing and I'm almost done putting my kids 2 bed then I'm off to clean my kitchen from dinner and I'm going to shine my sink and unload the clean stuff from the dishwasher. I have never shined my sink in the evening before but I reckon this could be the making of me! Keep helping us by doing what your doing. All the way from west Sussex, UK 🇬🇧
Beloved Marla. thank YOU!! Love You! ONe of my BEST shows You did, for me has the essence of FLY-ing and all we need is LOVE. Much love form Bratislava!!! Katka
You have perfectly described the overwhelming chaos and extreme despair I’ve called a life for the last 15 years. You spoke directly to my soul. Life is too beautiful and it’s time to make some changes. Thank you so much💕
Routines can change your whole life. (FlyCrew member)
Thank you for all you do ❤️. I really appreciate you. This message is 3 years old and it just now came through my feed. It is a needed and timely reminder to take care of myself and quit being so hard on myself. Sending you much love and wishes for continued health and blessings.
We are just and email away. You are in our prayers (FlyCrew)
I love you Flylady! Your heart for other people is so beautiful. You shine a light in a dark world.
Fit Lady is real, she is now my best friend.She has helped me more in less than one hour.Than any family ,friend or acquaintance has in many ,many years.Thank you Fly Lady
It would be great if your ways were taught in every school! The things you teach us adults are what we should have learned as kids! Have you ever considered making a curriculum for the schools to teach in Family & Consumer Science? Your wisdom is such a helpful base for a good life! Thank you for helping & inspiring me & so many others!
Yes, wouldn't it be great to have been taught these routines at 16 years old and up. (FlyCrew)
Praise God
I am so glad that you saved yourself. I'm glad that you have a hubby who loves and supports you.
I just shined my sink, which in turn made me want to clean off my counters... Already had my lace up shoes (my airwalks that look like the 10th Dr. Who's converse, however mine are purple). I have to give a short (hopefully) back story... I had found Flylady damn near 20 yrs ago. Followed through for awhile but then, life happened and I fell off of not just flylady but almost from life itself. Long story short (lol, yeah right), I'm back and just found you again my dear and this time, I mean business... Let's FLY!!!!
Hi, I just found your channel. This is an answer to my prayers. I've struggled with depression, anxiety and distractions for many years. Thank you and God bless you!!!
More words of wisdom! You are so honest. I was depressed after 2 bereavements - I was lost and now I am found. Thank you Marla. 💞🐾🐕
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Amen She's a God send ❤🙏❤🙏💋💋
The more we love and take care of ourselves the more we can do for others.
This video is so inspirational and comforting.
you have reached me many times over. When I feel down I come find a flylady video and just listening, really listening I get up and do things to help me, be it make a therapy appointment, take my walk, love me. I started in 2000 fluttering and still working on it. Your honesty about depression and how you conquered it has always
been with me. You are helping me find Joy.
You are the friend I always wanted and needed ☀️ Thank you for all you do.
I have to say you are the most brave and amazing woman! These talks are so inspirational especially for us mom's who are in our late 30's and and need a pep in our step while keeping our household running. Thank you!
Thank you for your beautiful loving heart! You are a blessing to so many.
May the Lord continue to bless you and your family, and lift and strengthen all those who are suffering in any way. Trust Him, He will help you.❤
-- Marietta Anderson
Sarah, we wondered how you are doing with your routines. (FlyCrew)
You are a wise and kind woman! Thank you.
Dearest Marla. I found you many years ago when the followers numbered around 60 000. I think that was a good 20 years ago. You helped me through some seriously tough times and your sayings became part of my life. Hot Spot Fire Prevention, Boogie your purse/bag, and of course the routines. This last week I introduced a young lady to FlyLady and it is already beginning to inspire her. Thank you for your sincere and genuine concern for others. You are much loved.
That you for this uplifting message. I followed you many years ago but life got away from me for awhile. I’m trying to get it together. You are such a blessing.
06/11/21 70 years old, starting over, saving money to move after divorce. This video is motivating be to dress to lace up shoes, go shine my sink, work on decluttering so don't move it to my new house. Never too late to create and live my best life. Love you Marla. FINALLY LOVING MYSELF ❤💖💕💓
I know this is two years later, but I would love to know how you are doing. I'm in a similar situation and entering foreign territory in so many ways and would love to hear your journey since this comment. 🕊️
Oh my! I’m 39 and just found out about you. Lovely lady, and you have changed my life. Thank you! Much love and blessings from Brazil ♥️
I am listening to your depression talk. I can tell how much you love your mission. I have had depression for years and getting better now. Thank you for speaking out.
This video just popped up on my notifications and I've been feeling awful all day with anxiety. I feel so much better now I've watched you and the first video of yours I've watched too, so thank you x
Marla, you are the best. You have brought so much joy into my life with each and every one of your videos. You talk to us as a loving family member would. When you are brought to tears i am also because i know that you truly know how we feel. I have all and have read all of your books. My Sink Reflections book is literally falling apart because I have read it so many times. I absolutely can't wait to get your next one. Thank you for giving us the love and encouragement to do what is needed so that we can joyfully live our lives. Love and Hugs 😊🌹
Thank you so much for sharing from the heart today. I appreciate hearing your thoughts on marriage. God bless you Marla.
Thank you for sending me for a walk 💓
Thank you for grabbing the buey and finding yourself. From that, you've inspired so many people. God bless you and yours ❤
And I took over a huge chicken farm for my daddy and I was terrified. But, I did it too. You go girl!!!
You have such a wonderful heart. Thank you Marla, God bless you.
Thats your open heart when you cry.. tears of love and devotion when you serve the world 💞 Beautiful Marla thank you
I just lost my Mother last October seeing my Mama on the ground the way I did was so terrible I miss her but I know she would say Sug you gotta pick yourself up you cant stay on the floor with me...fight. I found this channel you look very much like her and I struggle everyday most days idk how I won but I'm here and I want to do something with my life too for me for her for my baby girl Thank you so much
Lol! Wanted to add: I have listened to your ‘Crises Cleaning podcast in the kitchen so many times that I know it by heart! It’s crazy but it helped me so much whenever I needed the motivation to get started! It makes me work so fast without thinking about it. I wish you could do a similar podcast for other tasks that are boring. I mean something that coaches you through while you are working on it. It makes the time fly by like nothing else! Thanks again!
Yes, so right!!!thanks again Marla
I'm 35 years of age two kids on my own I have suffered depression since i was 8 years old. Your heart is so beautiful thank you such great advice x
Dearest Fly Lady!
You are so precious, I thank you so very much for your profound and honest advice, and just plain sharing your love, with the world!
After some tragic loss in my life I realized that I was depressed too. And today I found this video of yours and I was so blessed. I will be coming back often to connect with your sweet spirit! Thank you! ♥️ 🐥 💘
Meiral77, we are so sorry you have had to experience a tragic loss in your life. We pray that God will use your pain to help others and kiss your tears away. Thank you for you sweet words for the FlyLady. (FlyCrew Member, Paddi)
Thank you, sister! You're so precious and such a blessing to me! 💐💐💐💞💞💞🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤗🤗🤗
Thanks for sharing your story with the world.
You give us hope for a clean, organized, happy, calm home and care for ourselves! Thank you!!!
Thank you for these videos they have helped me so much. My 3 year old son loves you too. He tells the video at the end everytime "I love you to Gam-ma" you are a blessing!
I want to test-I-fly about getting dressed to shoes and shining your sink. I could easily see the wisdom of shining your sink at night. So that when you get up the next day, you're not faced with a huge task when you're sleepy and need coffee, lol! But as a stay at home mom, I wasn't really sure about the whole get dressed to shoes thing. However, I've been doing this for two weeks, and I must say I do feel better... I want to say I just feel better inside. I have paid more attention to what I have put on. And I have realized that there are many things in my closet and in my dresser that I just don't care for. After listening to this video and what you said about wearing things that you feel great in, I realize that that is a huge part of my issue… I don't feel great in a lot of the things I have. So, when I get into my master bedroom tomorrow to do my zone… I will be seriously considering letting go of some things that are dragging me down. I do think there is wisdom in what you are teaching us. I had not previously considered that I might really be depressed. But, I do think that I have been for years… Maybe not severely so but enough to hinder me. Thank you for some baby steps to help me out of my slump. I definitely see a brighter me in the mirror.
I am glad to hear you this morning.
I've seen this one before but I'm needing to hear this again so God bless you for sharing this with us
Yes it's good I've watched this one too before.
How to change the mood in your family? Bake cookies!! 😁👍🏻best one yet Marla.
We hope you are still making cookies. (the FlyCrew)
This is a timely video for..just starting to pick myself up. I've been realising that in order to get myself out of depression that saps my energy I need to get up and gradually sort and declutter my hose. I did it last year..but still need to do some more. I love the steps you suggest..they are really helping. Thank you and you are God's Blessing. God blessing to you.
Typo..meant to say..Declutter my house
Omg I love you I’m so happy I found your channel thanks for sharing this your a wise women and I needed to hear this.
God bless you Fly Lady, I’ve been battling depression for decades and didn’t even realize it because of all the major
I’ve events happening back to back to back. Some may call it high functioning but I’m here to tell you I Was the “walking dead”. And the chaos in my house was a reflection of the chaos I’m my mind and spirit. I’m not not going to bore you with my story but I will say this, it was my own mother that said to me, “ I want my daughter back” that snapped me out of it. Though it took me forever, I’m finally at a place where I can actually see and feel what’s going on with me and live in the now. And for the first time in years, I’m able to tackle my “mess”. Your methods and videos are helping me now that I’ve arrived to that place where I can receive suggestions and advice and are greatly appreciated. For what it’s worth, so many of the things you’re saying are what my mom’s been telling me for years but I guess sometimes we need a little extra help to make the message stick. Keeping doing what you do because you help so many. Blessings to you and yours.
Sometimes we wake up more when someone we dont know speaks about something our family has been speaking up about.
Dot Cassilles So true. Sometimes we don’t want to admit that truth.
For me, I think even though my mother planted seed, the external sources were the fertilizer. And one year later I’m now at a point where I’m strong enough to more freely let go as toss out the clutter that I was using as security blanket to help get me through the rough times. Thanks for responding.
I think this might be the best summary of the FlyLady philosophy and it's very inspirational. I hope you send out this link in the emails or on your website regularly.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for sharing your wisdom so lovingly with us 🙏
You litetally saved me.No words to thank you.
So true she's such a wonderful woman and an amazing person she's totally changed my life for the better and now I'm remembering this video alone and starting over on a few things
I just found your channel. You are a blessing to me. I’m divorcing my husband and somehow I found your beautiful message. Thank you 🙏
The worst things in life can be the cause of the best things in life...you just need to put in the work and work through the growing pains. Sometimes you need to break something to rebuild it better. I'm having a burnout (because of a narcissistic ex-boss) which is pure hell especially if you turn out to be high sensitive (which I didn't know I was but it explains A LOT). If you are always focussed on others you never look at yourself....you don't know you and your needs. I'm currently making a control journal to take control back over my life, its relaxing and empowering at the same time. All my sources of stress got a tab...and I'll fix each problem at a time...including a tab "me"...to make myself a priority. Its a tab to prevent stress...filled with things I like to do that give me energy. And now I look online and found out more people are making control journals. I didn't know it was a thing and called a control journal. Thats great it confirms I'm doing the right things. Great minds think alike I guess.
A burnout sucks but you learn so much about who you are and who you are to others. I'm gonna be nicer to myself and stricter to others (instead of the other way around). And I knew I was a perfectionist but not the extend of it....not wanting to take a sick day was me being a perfectionist as well...who knew. I was like a hamster in a wheel....no more...I'm done working my butt off. And I used to critisize myself but never saw how great I already am. When you are a perfectionist you want 100%. So if you are 98% (which is already more then enough) you will want to improve those 2 percent....but you focus so much on those 2% you forget the 98%....you think you suck when you don't. And I thought I was weak....turns out I'm high sensitive and these aren't my emotions....I have more empathy and its the emotions of the people around me I'm picking up on that overpower me....I'm not weak I just need peace and quiet and some me time. 😂 I should have gotten to know me years ago. Thank God for my burnout.
Maaike, that is such a wonderful way to look at and to proceed with a burnout. It sounds like you reached a crisis point and said, enough is enough. Instead of climbing into a hole and covering your head you and giving up you are working like a scientist looking for a solution and then implementing a scientific method, trying many things and reviewing your process by writing it all down. I am so impressed with you and the way you are going about this. Congratulations! You are also right that you will come out far better off than you were before the decision point. (FlyCrew Member, Paddi)
@@drpaddi Thank you. 😁The "funny" thing is that after I had my burnout...2 people near to me got one as well...so I could help them process the things I just processed myself and see that my "nutty" behaviour was completely normal for a burnout. And I'm miss fix it by nature so of course these 2 came to me for help (I know thats not healthy for me but I wanted to help to feel like myself...helping them was helping me). They didn't have to feel like a mental patient cause I could tell them "Its normal, I went through that stage 4 months ago....it will pass...its because of this...have you tried this". I'm 90% healed now. It helps when you are honest with yourself that for once in your life you are not ok now and its ok you are not ok. And experience it with a bit of humor. You gotta laugh about yourself when you are experiencing a fight or flight responce. It is what it is. And I was told I am cognitively strong and my mind can control my high sensitivity....so I don't turn into a panicky emotional wreck on a daily basis....but during my burnout that control was gone and I got to know a whole new side of myself. 😂 Man do I notice a lot of (pointless) signs my brain normally filters out. 🤣When people ask me how I am....they don't get how it feels so I like to give them this example: It was like the computer that is your brain crashed. There was no program on it anymore not even your personality...things that make you you. Even your body gets illnesses caused by the stress like your heart is acting up and you think you're gonna die. But with time bit by bit programs get rebooted until one day Windows reappears on your computer (your personality....in my case my need for organisation and perfectionism....which was nice cause I recognise that woman..so you feel more like yourself but a curse cause you start to push yourself to recover faster so you need to manage that perfectionist as well from that moment on). You need to allow yourself to be sick (its the perfectionism...you wanna be a good worker/co-worker...you don't wanna fail by being sick). Now my computer looks normal but sometimes some settings are still off since the reboot and my internet still hasn't got its firewall back up so you have to watch out on which site you go.😜 My filter isn't 100% back yet so things just hit deeply sometimes or take much energy. And I'm already the person people go to for help again, but sometimes I realise I am left with their emotions after they leave. I seem to obsorb emotions but still have trouble shaking them off of me afterwards. But its a good thing I'm aware of it now. I used to do this on autopilot and never realised that its not something other people do. And its the reason I got tired out of the blue sometimes. But its funny learning you are high sensitive. Not only isn't it a weakness...its like getting a superpower. So I'm gonna take a Mindfulness course to focus more on that side of myself I don't know much about. Be more balanced and learn to listen to my feelings/body more. Basically learn to not just deal with it but really learn to use your superpower from now on. That and I learned to stay the hell away from narcissists. I can't recommand that enough to people.....don't even bother with their drama...they don't want help, they want to destroy the person who helps them. Its the same game over and over again with every action they take: stress and drama for you, power for them. And if you are miss fix it, you keep on running on their hamsterwheel of drama. So my new motto (which several people around me now use as well) is: "not my circus, not my monkeys". Its not my job to fix everything. 2019 for me is a year of healing, positivity, relaxation and organisation....nothing else.
God bless you all for all you do to help other's The Flylady system has truly changed my life for the better and I Thank God for you everyday and I've never met you but feel like Ive known you for a long time Ive been following the Flylady system for atleast 5 years or more ❤❤
@@ronnalambeth6226 Thank you.😀
I see its an old post of mine from 2 years ago. Little update;
* I am fully recovered but more aware of my bounderies now. I intend to only do a burnout (and a narc for that matter) once.
* I can recommend the mindfullness class. It already helped me greatly. I now notice when something feels wrong...when a boundery gets breached..and I see the red flags. I have 0 tolerance for toxic people. And I notice the small early signs of stress...I will not go down that path again and will nip stress in the bud now. I know where these roads lead to and instead of stopping it when its too late. Now I simply don't go on these paths again. Its a whole new way of living.
* my narc and burnout (and the lockdown period that followed it) was a wonderful periode of transformation and personal growth for me. I wouldn't change a thing. By diving into MBTI I not only got to know myself but also the behaviors of others around me. And by taking a hard look at narcissism I discovered some toxic traits in myself as well. Perfectionism is a pitfall of mine but I no longer desire to be perfect...no one is perfect. I rather just live my life in balance with who I am. No more victimhood mentality but I am more proactive. And anyone that wants to manipulate me into feeling like a victim...RED FLAG. I used to be miss fix it, but its not my job to HAVE TO fix everyone. And sometimes you help someone more by teaching them to help themselves. My life is way more relaxed and happy now. I wish everyone a peaceful happy life in balance with who they truly are. Life is too short for anything else. 💜
I love how fearless you are! I would never have attempted to crack open my own phone.
This was so good!! I enjoyed it and needed to hear it today. Thanks for sharing your heart with us 🙂 Your words of wisdom and advice are great!
Thank you for your honest sharing. I have been suffering from a TBI and hoarding habits, depression, anxiety and chronic pain. Watching this really helped me. I believe that I can do this. Thank you and God bless!!
Thank you for sharing your joy and pain with us. I'm new to the flylady system (day23!), and I'm enjoying watching through some of your older videos as well as the new ones. This one jumped out at me because at this moment I am sleepless, (midnight )because of anxiety/depression. I've struggled with it for years now but I guess it's time I address the issues that keep me sad, worried and tired.
Thank you for this message. You have amazing insight and are able to communicate in a wonderful way. 💜💜💜
You are a brave woman, thanks for sharing your story. 🙏
Thank you for sharing...you help more than you know and more than words can say!
THANK YOU FLYLADY!
You don’t even know how much it means to me that you shared your own personal story. Listening to you gives me so much hope. Sometimes people look so perfect that it’s easy to think that they never struggled with anything which makes you feel even more hopeless and alone.
Depression forces you to slow down like nothing else. My husband reminded me what a huge difference a mom and wife makes in a family. Women have the biggest impact on the tone and success of a family whether we like it or not. It’s easy to think that what we are doing at home isn’t worth much because we aren’t ‘working ‘
It’s actually the opposite when you think about it. Having enough money to feel comfortable and not worried is important of course but the mood and how we relate to each other and the memories we make are what we think of at the end of our lives. You remind us of what is important and help us to make it possible to not get stuck on housework. Keeping our houses clean is a necessary part of a happy life but it needs to be as streamlined as possible. When we have a hard time cleaning and organizing it easily becomes the most important thing and a constant topic of upset. I am working on decluttering. We recently moved from a large house to a 2 bedroom apartment. The apartment is so much easier to keep clean but it also forces us to get rid of things that pull us down. It’s a work in progress...
Thank you for telling us that we can do it !
Marla you have such a beautiful and sweet heart!! Thank you sooo much for your motivation. You are a blessing to my life. May God continue to use you tremendously! 😊 Looking forward to reading your book.
I just love your spirit and your honesty. This has encouraged me so much today. I ordered your book yesterday. This has given me hope. Thank you so much.
This is a most excellent video - from the heart and with personal knowledge of the subject. Brilliant!
I can’t watch live because I’m not on Facebook and I’m at work when you do the show. So thank you for putting the link in the emails. You’re a blessing, and spoke words I really needed to hear today. I am off work on a scheduled vacation day, not for fun or to relax but because I’m so overworked and burned out but also two of my daughters expecting me to babysit tomorrow. When I say no they get very upset , so I have been saying yes even when it’s not good for me. So after working overtime for six weeks straight, I will have 4 little ones here tomorrow from 7 am to 2 pm. Then leave home and drive an hour to the other ones home and be there all evening. This meant I had to take the day off to get ready because my son moved in with me 10 days ago and there’s stuff everywhere out of place. Not safe for four very busy little ones 11 months to 7 years old. I was planning to act like it’s a work day but it’s raining, I have arthritis, I’m burned out, exhausted and just admit it I am depressed. Like you I was in a bad marriage, 32 years of emotional abuse but now I am free from that and home is a place of peace and acceptance. But here it is 11 am all I have got done is make coffee check email and watch Flylady. I am going to go put on the shoes I wear to work and do what I can, 15 minutes at a time. Thank you Flylady for the reminder of where I have been and where I am going now in life. New sticky on my vanity mirror says “the best revenge is success!”! Peace, love and blessings to you!
❣Thank you, Marla, nothing better could happen than to listen, knit and have my water and a nice cup of tea to calm myself in some really overwhelming minutes. I see, that you know what you're talking about. We often say: don't judge me, you're not walking in my shoes...but what if we ourselves are not wearing our shoes to avoid a start? No walking, just hanging around and waiting for a miracle... Thank you for supporting, it's the biggest gift I can imagine to feel understood and to be uplifted to the first steps from a loving soul. Wish you a happy Easter time, Monika, Germany❣
Marla,. You have saved me so many times when sad!!! I've travelled a bumpy road in this life with rejection since birth. I'm adopted. I'm on my third marriage. You're a part of my life. Love and hugs from South Florida 💕🌺
Thank you so much for this motivational video. I feel better just listening to you! I will be happy when the clutter is gone!
This is the stuff we need to hear now! Fits perfect for the times. I'm going through the old videos today. Just such an uplifting day. God Bless you!
I ran across this video today. I watch flylady but had not seen this. It really touched on so many things I needed to hear. Thank you Marla.
Thank you so much, Marla. I love how motivational and inspirational you are. Your system is a Godsend. 😘
Thank you so much! This was perfect for what I needed! I love your talks!!! This hit home!
Sara Jones Flylady talks are the best!
Thank you for saying those wonderful things about depression. I have had it for years I have been on medicine. You are great!:)
Just recently found you. Very inspirational and motivating. Thank you
Flylady I love you, thank you for existing 🌺
The openness and honesty you share here is so appreciated. I was listening to your advice and it may seem so simple but it's truly powerful and effective. Each small task is an accomplishment. I thought about the times I've stopped to put on my athletic shoes at home and how it made me feel more motivated to do things like wash the front porch or clean out an area in the garage or even get to work scrubbing the walls in the house. It felt different than when I just slid on my flip-flops and went barefoot. I hadn't given it much thought but your video made me pause and really think about the times I felt most inspired or motivated to get moving versus times when all I wanted to do was go back to sleep and ignore the world. Thank you for sharing this. I'm recommending my friends and family watch this video and get to know you.
I love this lady so much! She’s so real ! God Bless you Marla 💖
I’ve overcome a situation much like yours. Thank you thank you thank you, for sharing. *BIG HUGS*
I’ve spent the last 5 years learning to love myself (solo).
I miss my former mother-in-law. She gave advice much in the way you do- very comforting. Thank you thank you thank you. I’ve always sought out elder matriarchs my entire life. I haven’t found one in my new city (Denver), yet.
I’m thankful to have found you. You are so much more than a cleaning guru. I’ve only just begun to watch your videos. I can’t wait to get your book and begin the process.
I don’t feel like taking the trash out... I’ve shoved the full heavy duty bags in a hall closet (otherwise the cats & dogs will tear into the bags). I’ve been trying to take them out to the dumpster, but depression stops me. (And I’m on meds) my dr says meds will not change my behavior. So I have been RUclips binging for motivation. I’ve laid in bed all day yesterday (my day off). Things are piling up.
I can do this.
Kim J. You CAN do this! Prayers for you and your recovery.
Profound and so needed at this time. God Bless.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR TEA TALKS...you are such an amazing talker...and though I've not heard you in a public arena...I'm sure... an amazing speaker as well.
You are very talented at your God given purpose...and I thank you for taking the time each day to minister to all of us....you'll never know the godsend you are..
Your wisdom...your experiences...your funny stories...I even enjoy hearing you sing because it comes from the heart.
May God richly bless you as you have so RICHLY BLESSED others.
I have never got the hang of consistency in eight years of flying. I'm motivated and hyper focus one day and unmotivated five to fifty.
That is human nature Ryan, we were not created to stay the same but to grow. At least you can see what you are doing... Thats the first step of the process to change. Dont beat yourself up.
This is LIFE changing!!!!!! Thank you!🙏🏼
Thank you for been here for us with so much help.
Oh my! I needed this so much. I feel you were talking directly to me. Thank you so much.
What a lady...as soons as heard your voice I lit up and smiled!! Where have you been all my depressed life lol?!
I had to get out of a bad marriage too. Then learn to communicate better. Now I’m happy! :) AND, I’m thankful for you!
Dear Marla, this is not the first time I watch this video: but every single time it does something to me and I feel better, hearing you talking so opening about love and mental "illness". Makes me feel really good and loved.
Thank you I thank God for you May God continue to Bless you and your ministry
We woman can make a difference!
Love you so much FlyLady!
I Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Thank you so much for all you do . This one really hit home for me , I needed to hear this .
Tyronna Riley it really hit home for me too.
Amen prayers for all who are dealing with depression and anxiety my friend is having this same problem and reached out to me for prayers
I’ve never seen your vids before; though I’ve watched Diane from Denmark very lovely person. I send you squishy hugs. Thank you for ur fly lady systems.
Thanks for joining us today. Marla is live on Facebook at The FlyLady at 11:00 AM and 3:00 PM .
Love Diane from Denmark ❤❤
Aw, man, I love FlyLady
God Bless you! You're such an inspiration!
You are such a beautiful soul. I am so happy I stumbled upon you on RUclips.
Thanks so much for sharing! Really love this video!
🙋This is SO POWERFUL!!!!!
Thank you so much for this encouragement!!!!!! God Bless!!!!
I listened to this one again today.. I think i can use your videos for a support group.. You have a point that are emotional state is a big part of getting our homes together
I’m going to show this video to my mom. She’s gone into a deep depression after my dad died and your calm understanding talk I think will help. It helped me.
26 yrs of marriage has caused me stress and depression
Beatrice Bee same here
I totally understand this I was in a bad relationship for. 11 years off and on and I'm so much better now prayers for all who are dealing with depression and anxiety
😂
Marriages is just smh whew lol
Great words of wisdom! Thank you. So I have noticed a strange phenomenon in my life - when I see purple, my first thought is always "FlyLady"!! The newest ring from the direct sales company I am in is PURPLE - and when I first saw the release video, I kept thinking of FlyLady.
Love this you are amazing and I'm almost done putting my kids 2 bed then I'm off to clean my kitchen from dinner and I'm going to shine my sink and unload the clean stuff from the dishwasher. I have never shined my sink in the evening before but I reckon this could be the making of me! Keep helping us by doing what your doing. All the way from west Sussex, UK 🇬🇧
Such a wonderful video. Love and hugs to you sweet lady 😊🌹
Beloved Marla. thank YOU!! Love You! ONe of my BEST shows You did, for me has the essence of FLY-ing and all we need is LOVE. Much love form Bratislava!!! Katka
TYtytyty for sharing! You're helping SO many ppl w/ your honesty! 💚🌈🙏
سلام حبيبتي أردت أن أشكرك حتى ولو لم تفهمي كتابتي لكنني احبك و طبقت نصائحك انتي امرأة رائعة لدالك أردت أن بارك لك في عيد المرأة كل عام وانت بخير 😘
You are here to guide us..God bless you.