I feel like the most blessed woman on Earth. You know why? I got my 6'3 tall man who's soft with me and yet knows how to stand up for himself. He's a provider, he's a dreamer who makes dream come true. He's not Alpha. He's the best Beta God ever created. He's mine and I'll cherish him for as long as God gives me life. Thanks for this video. It taught me to appreciate my husband even more. God bless you, Tony.
Same here, except mine is 6'4, Im 5'6. So I know the type. You ever say something that you dream of for a second, not really expecting it to come true and he go do it immediately? Girl dont that get on your nerves? I had to learn to not talk out loud around this man. The thing that gets on your nerves is the fact that they will work day and night with no sleep until it is done. It scares me for his health is why it gets on my nerves. There is no need to pay anyone to do anything that any man can do. They will read a book or look it up on line and do it themselves. He would not even let anyone deliver his children. If a man can be a doctor, so can he is how he thinks. Great men are scary. We got to be careful what we say around them.
The fact that you mentioned his height, lets me know that you were specifically looking for a tall man and that you have a thing for tall men and there's nothing wrong with that. Be happy!
“Ya Nasty, Ya Lost and Ya hurting! If you don’t get your loose booty self and go somewhere and sit down!”😂😂😂😂 “Woman, if you don’t get some Olive Oil and get at the foot of the Cross!”😂😂😂😂 Tony, you something! Good message, thank you!
Tony ain’t telling no lies. I am 31 years old due to my insecurity and daddy issues. Thank God for strength, clarity and men like you and RC Blake’s I am healing from my trauma and pain. Thank you Tony I can’t wait to read a women’s influence Amazon needs to move it along
Eternity With Christ Some women never had a father to discipline or raise them. So when a man is controlling and “tough” it’s filling a void she never had growing up. Some women didn’t grow up with masculine energy surrounding them.
If you’re looking for a bad boy, he’s still looking for himself too. Wow. Tony I can’t tell you how instrumental you have been in my growth. Thank you for all you do 🙏🏼
I honestly am happy at 27 I’ve out grown this “bad boy” stigma. I know now that’s not in Gods plan for me. God I rebuke anything you don’t want for me! 💫🙏
Tara _Beautiful I turn 27 Tuesday and I’m learning show much from Tony and it’s god leading him becuase since I’ve been watching I’ve gotten stronger and I feel more confident about creating my boundaries and I’ve been more at peace and not stressed out
Alaina bom bom you’ll get there don’t rush yourself! I’ve been listening him for a long time, he is definitely a gift sent from the heavens. It’s going to take a lot of praying and gratitude but you’ll arrive. Don’t ever try to find peace in a place that made you sick and you’ll be okay. When God speaks to intuitively you listen. You got this! 😊❤️
Preach!!! I hate that women are out here trying to pretend that sleeping around is cool, trying to do what they think men do. Women need to stay in their lane and heal!
Bad boys and smooth talkers come in many different forms, looks, shapes & sizes. Things are not always as they seem or appear. You definitely should look at the evidence of how things show up, & dig deeper. 🙌🏾
Women go for Bad Boys because it is in their genetic makeup to desire the strongest males for fathering children to try to insure the survival of the species. Second on the list are players. Players tend to have very good game which equates to a good mind/faster thinkers on their feet. So again women not able to get the strongest Bad Boy will settle for the runner up Good mind thinks fast on his feet Player its nature. This is also why most women who succeed in netting a bad boy or player also end up as a single mother because just like in nature the Alphas fvck and move on to the next and so on and so on. This is also why 80% of the women out their only want 20% of the men because they are Alphas aka Bad Boys and Players.
@@giftednanointedcrafts6650 Agreed, looks can be deceiving. Without taking the time to properly date a person & staying off your back, you can surely be fooled by a person's facade.
Be Blessed 😇 Few days ago I prayed to God for removing the darkness of fear that I have regarding marriage and relationships, and your videos are like favour from God to me for the wisdom that I had prayed for. And recently I asked God for confirmation regarding your messages and the verse God lead me to is Proverbs 19:20(NKJV) that says - Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in latter days. Now, I'm truly sure that God has lead me to your RUclips channel for saving me and giving me the guidance to take the necessary steps in future while choosing my partner and setting standards. God bless you and your family. Hallelujah 🙌 Praise the Lord for His superabundant love and unmerited favour ✝️❤️. From India.
Dreamie dips im affirming your comments his videos are truly a eye opener for many of our mistakes in Relationships. I cant seem to get enough of his teaching
I would prefer a Godly Dedicated Man who loves the lord rather than be with a bad boy💯✔✔😇💞💞💞I have been down that road and I know better💯✔Thank you for sharing great info🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💯😇👩🏼❤❤
I don't want a bad boy nor a man with no backbone I dont think he satisfies her because she can't seem to keep Future off her mind,I need a man that makes me forget about my ex and talk about him every other day.
Many like the drama that comes with a bad boy. It’s like a drug. You get addicted to the cycle of highs and lows. Sadly this just becomes a huge distraction to finding ones true purpose and developing oneself.
I dated a guy who was 5’5” and I’m about 5’7” without my heels. I already liked the way he carried himself, but once I watched him take down multiple guys bigger and taller than him during a Jinendo tournament... mymymy, his sexy meter exploded. I never felt unsafe around him and I proudly walked around with him like he was the king of the universe.
Wow, Tony is here not only giving us the knowledge to choose better men, but also to understand men. Watching his videos, I feel like I understand my father, brothers and cousins so much better. God bless Tony and his family and May he continue to use him 🙏🏿
I'm so thankful that you speak the truth promote abstinence but add humor. Its hard to listen to many of these videos but, I'm learning. Thank God I never ended up pregnant or being married. I'm taking my time, and doing the work and building my brand. Thank you TG!
While I’ve never been the type to like the bad boys... I do agree it stems from daddy issues... i personally never wanted the problems associated with the bad boys
I have been watching you continuously for 2 weeks (I know I’m late to the knowledge). However, your insight is astounding and very profound. Thank you for pouring into others. May GOD truly bless your ministry. 💙💙💙💙
@Tony Gaskins - Thank you very much for your commitment and consistency to help our community change with healthy knowledge, assisting with our desire to manifest self love and paying it foward within our sphere of influence. Thank you so very much! Be blessed!!!
Yes Sir! Thanks again and Stay Blessed! 🙏🏽❤️ He that is slow to anger is better than the Mighty, and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. Proverbs 16:32 KJV
When I tell you Tony broke that male ego right on down, word for word, I love all of Tony’s messages, this one he let the women in on how this male ego thing works it’s no play thing! Thanks Tony for all your insight🙏🏾
Words can’t express how much this video is appreciated! I wish I could go back to 21! When you’re a hurt woman without guidance, you don’t know better. Thank you once again, Tony and be blessed.
Tony you are hilarious I was cracking up and shaking my head during this video the entire time because there's just WAY too much truth in this. Every woman needs to see this.
I never knew women really liked bad boys. I truly love Forest Gump. He was no push over, he was intelligent, active, worked, and loved truly from his heart. Ladies you better get you a Forest Gump. 💛✌🇱🇷
Hi Tony, I listen to your videos and they are really on point. My husband (deceased) was a beast in the streets, but he was so gentle with me and our girls in our home. When I heard you say that the toughest man can be so gentle with his wife & children. I said Yes, Lord! I experienced that first hand. Your videos are so helpful for both ladies and men. I was wondering if you and your wife are members of the Church of Christ. Your faith values remind me so much of the Church. Continue helping people, it’s so needed. Have a great day!
Tony .... you’re amazing.., cause ... after just listening you ....I don’t even want a “bad boy”, I used to think I did, but after watching you, I aspire to find a man of your knowledge about life, and knows what it means to be a real man. 🦋 Thank you.
This video COMPLETELY describes my ex. It’s so sad. When we’re dating as teenagers he was this great go lucky kid, no big jewelry, gold teeth and was on the right track. Once he joined the army and left home he completely changed. Now he’s cussing,drinking so heavily, showing off ect. I pray for him from a far and haves moved on thank you MR. Tony !!😄
I met my "bad boy" when I was 18. What I liked about him was I knew he was a bad boy but he was like butter for me. When we had children he was kind & very caring. However I am an RT & he could never hold a job & always had employment issues. His criminal background was always an issue and gave him the victim card. Ultimately we were not equally yoked & I believe his dope boy mindset never truly left. He never grew up. He was a terrible husband (covert narc) One thing in common we had "daddy issues". Thank you always for your insight.
Tony is a comedian. I laughed through out this whole video. I got the message tho. Knowledge is power let's choose the right partners. Sending everybody love from South Africa..
I have had good guys, bad guys and yes mix batch that totally confused my psyche, that i have to truly wonder about the twisted minds of men that are out in the dating world. The game stops when we as women choose to choose wisely and get the inside scoop so we can heal, mold, and shape our minds to begin to receive what God intended for us. Stay Blessed with this Blessed man so that he will continue to quench your thirst when u need it.👌🙏🏾💯
Well said, Tony!! You brought me back to my younger days and now as a mature woman, I realize that you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT about "bad boys"!! They have insecurities that women don't always see because we go for the "look" and not the "content". My son lost his father as a teen but God placed two spiritual fathers in his life to continue where his father left off and mentor him. Many of my friends tell me how much of a gentleman he is at such a young age. I thank God for his father but I also thank God for the village of men that took him under their wings. I want my son to be a good man and a good husband someday. Thank you Tony for the truth!! It hurts but it also HEALS!! Be blessed!!...take care..you and the fam be safe..stay healthy!! Your steps are ordered by the Lord!!
Diapers are always on sale. Tattoos parlors are closed. The meat market has gone underground and online. Don't judge the men and women in your life so quickly, do the work, ask the questions and let them tell you if they are good or bad. Having tattoos doesn't mean s/he can't make business/personal decisions and discretion. A cop doesn't have to be the nerd and the nerd doesn't have to be a computer geek. The good girl can grow up to be a bad woman and the bad boy can grow up to be Tony. So don't judge skin, experiences, material things or their lack of spirits. Get book smart and street knowledge. Don't sell yourself short and learn to negotiate and communicate. Thanks Tony and tribe, I'm reading, listening and expanding my mindset.
Hey Brother Tony, I would love to have a man that actually listens, seeks to understand, and is calm and collected instead of abusive and aggressive. Like u say tho some of these women are coo coo for cocoa puffs so without a doubt those would be the ones that want a man to argue, fuss, and fight. Somehow that's good and normal 🤔 uh no thanks
You are so amazing, I appreciate everything you’re doing and all of the videos as well, I listen to very few people and you definitely have my attention🙏🏽
I had someone who I thought was a good guy, responsible, uniform 🚒, no drugs or drinking. But once I found out about the cheating and tricking money on other women, and then still try to keep the good guy image, I knew it wouldn’t work. Not enough true character and heart for me. 💔
Wow! This is very insightful. You are literally describing my ex. He wasn’t a street guy at all, but he was a guy who got bullied as a kid and not by schoolyard bullies either. The bullies were his older brothers and his mom allowed the abuse to go on. and in adulthood he bought a bunch of material items, such as flashy cars, to feel “important.” He was definitely a hot-head over petty things, hence why I left. This is spot on, Tony! Keep speaking the truth! 🙏🏾💕
Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you for this video. I met a GREAT CHRISTIAN man with no tattoos, no children, and from a two parent household. I like him so much I had to put him in the friend zone for the past 2 years because he wants his future wife to not have tattoos because he wants a great example for his future daughter or son. This brotha is so different from regular men. He has Luther Vandross, Anita Baker, Teddy Pendergrass and a host of other vinyl records at his house that he plays and listens to occasionally and he's in his mid 30's. I gotten tattoos when I was young trying to be a bad girl wanting a bad guy but now that I'm a strong christian woman in my mid 30's I see how his thoughts are with legacy and being a great example for children. I'm in the process of removing my tattoos now all because of him and he has already paid for two of my tattoo removals. LADIES like Tony said these men are out there they are just quiet, reserved, and to themselves. The one I got never follows the crowd in fact he runs away from the crowd!!! Thank You So Much For This Video!!! I'm gonna share this one with my friends because my friends hate him because he is so different from the men me and my friends are accustomed to dating but my dad absolutely loves him and that's all that matters to me!!
So happy I had a father that loved me.. I've never liked bad boys, I've always liked really smart nice guys.. Too much macho turns me completely off. But I know women like that.
I had 1 "badboy" when I was a teenager, I didn't know any better, we have a child together (she's 21 now) but I never did that ish again. THE END! Edit: My baby brother is the 6ft, peaceful, friendly man but knows karate and is a trained boxer. Men think he's soft and he usually walks away but if you disrespect his wife or my nieces or nephews...RUN! 👊🏾😵
I like the gainfully, legally employed MANS MAN. Nothing bad or THUG-ish about him. He's a man that provides and protects. He can be blue or white collar. I think all the heavens above I had my dad in my life. Don't want nothing bad or thug-ish.
At 19 I used be attracted to the men who look bad boyish but are grown men. But as I got older and came into womanhood, I realized that was the dumbest 🙄 thing to even say. If you look like a bad boy you are a bad boy. Teenage mindset smh. Thanking God for pushing me to grow and learn from my mistakes.
I was never into bad boys they’re so annoying, lol. But not only bad boys will mess u up; in my opinion, the quiet ones are the worse.Maturity is everything right now and a Godly relationship.
I like tattoos because I like artwork on my body (despite the pain). Nothing to do with being tough, especially as a woman. Trying to be tough is a generalization, not applicable to everyone. I love the way tattoos look, just a preference.
😳 I had a dead beat father that left my mother when I was 5. Then had a wonderful step father that was a minister. The two long term relationships i have been in were with abusive men! Your message really hit home!
Honestly this is describing meekness - which is power under control. The person has the power to cause harm to others, but they have the maturity to control themselves. Some people misinterpret this self control as weakness, but this is a person operating from a place of great strength.
I knew a grown boy who wore huge skull rings on almost every finger, even the thumbs. He had a long beard, and never trimmed it or took care of it. He wore size 13 wkde steel toe work boots all the time, and he worked retail. No need for steel toe boots. He truly wore a size 9. But for whatever reason, he told himself, and everyone else, that he wore a size 13 wide boot. Turns out, his mom made him take ballroom dancing as a kid. Tony is spot on, as usual.
Been there done that. I dated one because I was reading those urban fiction books and that's what they glorified and made seem cool. That's why you have to be careful what you read and watch. Now, you couldn't pay me to date a bad boy. I thank God he opened my eyes to see my worth and what I deserve.
Just found your channel, you are quite real and I like your deliverance. The words and terminology you use is quite hilarious. I wish I had this kind of advice when I was younger....Yes I'll subscribe.
“A man’s strength is in his gentleness.” Beautiful
“If you are looking for a bad boy, he is looking for himself too.” TG
Dr. Elaine wow!
Victoria GOOD
Love Tony’s quotes!!!
Dr. Elaine that’s a fact
So true
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My dad was the “bad boy” and seeing what my mom & his other baby mommas went through, I stayed far away from that type lol
I feel like the most blessed woman on Earth. You know why?
I got my 6'3 tall man who's soft with me and yet knows how to stand up for himself. He's a provider, he's a dreamer who makes dream come true.
He's not Alpha. He's the best Beta God ever created. He's mine and I'll cherish him for as long as God gives me life.
Thanks for this video. It taught me to appreciate my husband even more.
God bless you, Tony.
A good man is a blessing! All the best to you!
Same here, except mine is 6'4, Im 5'6.
So I know the type. You ever say something that you dream of for a second, not really expecting it to come true and he go do it immediately? Girl dont that get on your nerves? I had to learn to not talk out loud around this man.
The thing that gets on your nerves is the fact that they will work day and night with no sleep until it is done. It scares me for his health is why it gets on my nerves.
There is no need to pay anyone to do anything that any man can do. They will read a book or look it up on line and do it themselves. He would not even let anyone deliver his children. If a man can be a doctor, so can he is how he thinks.
Great men are scary. We got to be careful what we say around them.
God bless you relationship sis, thanks for sharing. There is hope, the Lord will bring our prayers to pass 😊🙏🏿
The fact that you mentioned his height, lets me know that you were specifically looking for a tall man and that you have a thing for tall men and there's nothing wrong with that. Be happy!
Why are you on this channel or video ? If you have a real man
I was a good girl and Ive never liked bad boys. I grew up in that lifestyle and I dont want no parts of it in my home. I like a nice quiet kind man.
Yes me too 🙏🏾
same here
“Ya Nasty, Ya Lost and Ya hurting! If you don’t get your loose booty self and go somewhere and sit down!”😂😂😂😂 “Woman, if you don’t get some Olive Oil and get at the foot of the Cross!”😂😂😂😂
Tony, you something! Good message, thank you!
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Yesss😭
I laughed out loud while at work when he said that. My coworkers are wondering what am I laughing at. 😂🤣
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All the bad boys i experienced helped be become a better woman now they aint even my type.
I believe that 100%
I wouldn't say that any toxic man helped me to become a better woman.
That was an ignorant comment
"A man's strength is in his gentleness"
Tony ain’t telling no lies. I am 31 years old due to my insecurity and daddy issues. Thank God for strength, clarity and men like you and RC Blake’s I am healing from my trauma and pain. Thank you Tony I can’t wait to read a women’s influence Amazon needs to move it along
I meant I had develop a toxic cycle if choosing bad guys!
Liking bad boys stem from daddy issues. It represents security. -Tony
Eternity With Christ Some women never had a father to discipline or raise them. So when a man is controlling and “tough” it’s filling a void she never had growing up. Some women didn’t grow up with masculine energy surrounding them.
Girls/Women liking the "badboy" and Boys/men being the "Badboy" is definitely a low self-esteem and/or insecurity issue...PERIYOD!!! IMO 😊
Definitely. It's unfortunate that something in you craves mistreatment, that normal and steady is abnormal. Sad.
If you’re looking for a bad boy, he’s still looking for himself too. Wow. Tony I can’t tell you how instrumental you have been in my growth. Thank you for all you do 🙏🏼
I honestly am happy at 27 I’ve out grown this “bad boy” stigma. I know now that’s not in Gods plan for me. God I rebuke anything you don’t want for me! 💫🙏
Amen!
Tara _Beautiful I turn 27 Tuesday and I’m learning show much from Tony and it’s god leading him becuase since I’ve been watching I’ve gotten stronger and I feel more confident about creating my boundaries and I’ve been more at peace and not stressed out
Alaina bom bom you’ll get there don’t rush yourself! I’ve been listening him for a long time, he is definitely a gift sent from the heavens. It’s going to take a lot of praying and gratitude but you’ll arrive. Don’t ever try to find peace in a place that made you sick and you’ll be okay. When God speaks to intuitively you listen. You got this! 😊❤️
So true us women focus on the wrong qualities hence why we consistently get played
Yep the qualities women should be looking for are boring to them.
When I finally woke up, it was stupidity and nowhere near security!
Selah
That part 💯facts , no Capp
Preach!!! I hate that women are out here trying to pretend that sleeping around is cool, trying to do what they think men do. Women need to stay in their lane and heal!
Yea I wasn’t prepared for this message today. Let me go sit with myself 😅😅😂
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This is true Tony, every daughter needs a Father👏🏾
Bad boys and smooth talkers come in many different forms, looks, shapes & sizes. Things are not always as they seem or appear. You definitely should look at the evidence of how things show up, & dig deeper. 🙌🏾
Ðemetria Ͼalvin Right, my ex wore business shirt and pants too but is a straight up thug! we cant go by how they look. 🤔🤔🤔
Women go for Bad Boys because it is in their genetic makeup to desire the strongest males for fathering children to try to insure the survival of the species. Second on the list are players. Players tend to have very good game which equates to a good mind/faster thinkers on their feet. So again women not able to get the strongest Bad Boy will settle for the runner up Good mind thinks fast on his feet Player its nature. This is also why most women who succeed in netting a bad boy or player also end up as a single mother because just like in nature the Alphas fvck and move on to the next and so on and so on. This is also why 80% of the women out their only want 20% of the men because they are Alphas aka Bad Boys and Players.
@@giftednanointedcrafts6650 Corporate Thugs and Clean Cut Players get the upstanding goody goody women.
Ðemetria Ͼalvin so true-nothing but facts
@@giftednanointedcrafts6650 Agreed, looks can be deceiving. Without taking the time to properly date a person & staying off your back, you can surely be fooled by a person's facade.
Be Blessed 😇
Few days ago I prayed to God for removing the darkness of fear that I have regarding marriage and relationships, and your videos are like favour from God to me for the wisdom that I had prayed for.
And recently I asked God for confirmation regarding your messages and the verse God lead me to is Proverbs 19:20(NKJV) that says - Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in latter days.
Now, I'm truly sure that God has lead me to your RUclips channel for saving me and giving me the guidance to take the necessary steps in future while choosing my partner and setting standards.
God bless you and your family.
Hallelujah 🙌 Praise the Lord for His superabundant love and unmerited favour ✝️❤️.
From India.
Dreamie dips im affirming your comments his videos are truly a eye opener for many of our mistakes in Relationships. I cant seem to get enough of his teaching
I also have a fear of marriage and relationships because of what I have observed. But God is able and he will help us
I would prefer a Godly Dedicated Man who loves the lord rather than be with a bad boy💯✔✔😇💞💞💞I have been down that road and I know better💯✔Thank you for sharing great info🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💯😇👩🏼❤❤
Ok, we got you
I can only speak for myself I'm team Ciara "LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP"!!!!!
I don't want a bad boy nor a man with no backbone I dont think he satisfies her because she can't seem to keep Future off her mind,I need a man that makes me forget about my ex and talk about him every other day.
Many like the drama that comes with a bad boy. It’s like a drug. You get addicted to the cycle of highs and lows. Sadly this just becomes a huge distraction to finding ones true purpose and developing oneself.
Tony you are a straight comedian....the ‘’Bubblettes’’!
Not the Bumblettes.... 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂
Bosslady Pebbles 😩😂💀
I laughed so hard when he said Bumblettes 😆
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LMAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The preacher son...🙌No wonder your such a wise and respectable man Tony G...such a blessing and may God continue to bless you and your wife
I dated a guy who was 5’5” and I’m about 5’7” without my heels. I already liked the way he carried himself, but once I watched him take down multiple guys bigger and taller than him during a Jinendo tournament... mymymy, his sexy meter exploded. I never felt unsafe around him and I proudly walked around with him like he was the king of the universe.
Wow, Tony is here not only giving us the knowledge to choose better men, but also to understand men. Watching his videos, I feel like I understand my father, brothers and cousins so much better. God bless Tony and his family and May he continue to use him 🙏🏿
This is where we see women holding up preferences more than standards...
Monique Scharschmidt yes ma’am. Sad, but there is hope....if they want to be helped
Those hand movements of getting on " on your Biyke" are killing me lmbo
Lol 😂
@@DatDyme980 lol my friend spells it bike...but we all know what he means😁
The guy is a straight up comedian.
@@OYah137 he is I was laughing so hard through out the whole video
I'm so thankful that you speak the truth promote abstinence but add humor. Its hard to listen to many of these videos but, I'm learning. Thank God I never ended up pregnant or being married. I'm taking my time, and doing the work and building my brand. Thank you TG!
While I’ve never been the type to like the bad boys... I do agree it stems from daddy issues... i personally never wanted the problems associated with the bad boys
Me either
Exactly.💛✌🇱🇷
I have been watching you continuously for 2 weeks (I know I’m late to the knowledge). However, your insight is astounding and very profound. Thank you for pouring into others. May GOD truly bless your ministry. 💙💙💙💙
@Tony Gaskins - Thank you very much for your commitment and consistency to help our community change with healthy knowledge, assisting with our desire to manifest self love and paying it foward within our sphere of influence. Thank you so very much! Be blessed!!!
Yes Sir! Thanks again and Stay Blessed! 🙏🏽❤️ He that is slow to anger is better than the Mighty, and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. Proverbs 16:32 KJV
Can you do a video on the topic “ grown girl vs. grown woman “
Kabirah Gibson This is a great topic! I’d love to hear his thoughts.
Yes, that will be a great video
He has a video titled that
He did one this week check it out .
When I tell you Tony broke that male ego right on down, word for word, I love all of Tony’s messages, this one he let the women in on how this male ego thing works it’s no play thing! Thanks Tony for all your insight🙏🏾
This is good Tony and very true! I was once that type of woman. I'm so glad a married a nice guy who's as square as can be. Thanks for everything!
“Sexy and swaggy” 😂😂 You are not lying
Words can’t express how much this video is appreciated! I wish I could go back to 21! When you’re a hurt woman without guidance, you don’t know better. Thank you once again, Tony and be blessed.
Tony you are hilarious I was cracking up and shaking my head during this video the entire time because there's just WAY too much truth in this. Every woman needs to see this.
A strong man with integrity is a gift
Been there done that. Learned my lesson 2 times. No thank you.. Im tuned into the good guy by nature and heart.
I try not to laugh so I don’t miss the message but brother Tony you are something else😆🤣
I never knew women really liked bad boys. I truly love Forest Gump. He was no push over, he was intelligent, active, worked, and loved truly from his heart. Ladies you better get you a Forest Gump.
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Hi Tony, I listen to your videos and they are really on point. My husband (deceased) was a beast in the streets, but he was so gentle with me and our girls in our home. When I heard you say that the toughest man can be so gentle with his wife & children. I said Yes, Lord! I experienced that first hand. Your videos are so helpful for both ladies and men. I was wondering if you and your wife are members of the Church of Christ. Your faith values remind me so much of the Church. Continue helping people, it’s so needed. Have a great day!
I was never attracted to thugs or bad boys. But emotionally unavailable men always knew how to find me.
Tony .... you’re amazing.., cause ... after just listening you ....I don’t even want a “bad boy”, I used to think I did, but after watching you, I aspire to find a man of your knowledge about life, and knows what it means to be a real man. 🦋 Thank you.
Woooooooowwwww I learned a lot today 🤭 That was good! Thank you 👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
Your the most amazing man !!! So humble!!! Thank you so much for everything you do for US🙏🏼💯
God bless you
Paulina
Your words are my protection be you teach and show me what is real so I'm not fooled by the fake. Thank you from my heart and soul.
“Doing splits” 🤣🤣🤣
Ayanna Tyler took me out 😭😭
We are addicted to pain associated with bad boys
So true. Sad but true
Thank God not me, never was attracted to bad boys didn't like their personalities always came off to me a lack of confidence.💛✌🇱🇷
Those are unhealthy relationship patterns, usually started in our childhood
This video COMPLETELY describes my ex. It’s so sad. When we’re dating as teenagers he was this great go lucky kid, no big jewelry, gold teeth and was on the right track. Once he joined the army and left home he completely changed. Now he’s cussing,drinking so heavily, showing off ect. I pray for him from a far and haves moved on thank you MR. Tony !!😄
I met my "bad boy" when I was 18. What I liked about him was I knew he was a bad boy but he was like butter for me. When we had children he was kind & very caring. However I am an RT & he could never hold a job & always had employment issues. His criminal background was always an issue and gave him the victim card. Ultimately we were not equally yoked & I believe his dope boy mindset never truly left. He never grew up. He was a terrible husband (covert narc) One thing in common we had "daddy issues". Thank you always for your insight.
Tony is a comedian. I laughed through out this whole video. I got the message tho. Knowledge is power let's choose the right partners. Sending everybody love from South Africa..
I have had good guys, bad guys and yes mix batch that totally confused my psyche, that i have to truly wonder about the twisted minds of men that are out in the dating world. The game stops when we as women choose to choose wisely and get the inside scoop so we can heal, mold, and shape our minds to begin to receive what God intended for us. Stay Blessed with this Blessed man so that he will continue to quench your thirst when u need it.👌🙏🏾💯
Yes. Without Christ (active in their life, where you can see the fruit) all of them can be a mess.
I love the message and the humor wonderful speaker
Mr. Gaskins add comedian to one of your gifts!!! I swear I lol in every video
Well said, Tony!! You brought me back to my younger days and now as a mature woman, I realize that you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT about "bad boys"!! They have insecurities that women don't always see because we go for the "look" and not the "content". My son lost his father as a teen but God placed two spiritual fathers in his life to continue where his father left off and mentor him. Many of my friends tell me how much of a gentleman he is at such a young age. I thank God for his father but I also thank God for the village of men that took him under their wings. I want my son to be a good man and a good husband someday. Thank you Tony for the truth!! It hurts but it also HEALS!! Be blessed!!...take care..you and the fam be safe..stay healthy!! Your steps are ordered by the Lord!!
Marvell Coker u gave me Goose Bumps with that comment stay strong stay Blessed!!
Diapers are always on sale. Tattoos parlors are closed. The meat market has gone underground and online. Don't judge the men and women in your life so quickly, do the work, ask the questions and let them tell you if they are good or bad. Having tattoos doesn't mean s/he can't make business/personal decisions and discretion. A cop doesn't have to be the nerd and the nerd doesn't have to be a computer geek. The good girl can grow up to be a bad woman and the bad boy can grow up to be Tony. So don't judge skin, experiences, material things or their lack of spirits. Get book smart and street knowledge. Don't sell yourself short and learn to negotiate and communicate. Thanks Tony and tribe, I'm reading, listening and expanding my mindset.
Hey Brother Tony, I would love to have a man that actually listens, seeks to understand, and is calm and collected instead of abusive and aggressive. Like u say tho some of these women are coo coo for cocoa puffs so without a doubt those would be the ones that want a man to argue, fuss, and fight. Somehow that's good and normal 🤔 uh no thanks
You are so amazing, I appreciate everything you’re doing and all of the videos as well, I listen to very few people and you definitely have my attention🙏🏽
We like what or who we like, but does God like who we like....use discernment!
🤣🤣🤣🤣man, u a funny guy. This is the nail on the head though! BE Blessed
I had someone who I thought was a good guy, responsible, uniform 🚒, no drugs or drinking. But once I found out about the cheating and tricking money on other women, and then still try to keep the good guy image, I knew it wouldn’t work. Not enough true character and heart for me. 💔
Wow! This is very insightful. You are literally describing my ex. He wasn’t a street guy at all, but he was a guy who got bullied as a kid and not by schoolyard bullies either. The bullies were his older brothers and his mom allowed the abuse to go on. and in adulthood he bought a bunch of material items, such as flashy cars, to feel “important.” He was definitely a hot-head over petty things, hence why I left. This is spot on, Tony! Keep speaking the truth! 🙏🏾💕
Be blessed! Loved this video. So much truth.
Boyyyyyy you ain't lying about them tattoos, and I got tattoos.
Stay Blessed, my father is a Minister to.. it's hard growing up as a Minister child 😊
Heyy Mr. Tony, I enjoy listening to you. Be Blessed and keep the talk of Wisdom going, Thank You 🙏🏼❤❤❤
Wow this was a good topic, be blessed 🙏🏽
Hey Sis, thank you for the blessing you sent!
Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you for this video. I met a GREAT CHRISTIAN man with no tattoos, no children, and from a two parent household. I like him so much I had to put him in the friend zone for the past 2 years because he wants his future wife to not have tattoos because he wants a great example for his future daughter or son. This brotha is so different from regular men. He has Luther Vandross, Anita Baker, Teddy Pendergrass and a host of other vinyl records at his house that he plays and listens to occasionally and he's in his mid 30's.
I gotten tattoos when I was young trying to be a bad girl wanting a bad guy but now that I'm a strong christian woman in my mid 30's I see how his thoughts are with legacy and being a great example for children. I'm in the process of removing my tattoos now all because of him and he has already paid for two of my tattoo removals.
LADIES like Tony said these men are out there they are just quiet, reserved, and to themselves. The one I got never follows the crowd in fact he runs away from the crowd!!!
Thank You So Much For This Video!!! I'm gonna share this one with my friends because my friends hate him because he is so different from the men me and my friends are accustomed to dating but my dad absolutely loves him and that's all that matters to me!!
So happy I had a father that loved me.. I've never liked bad boys, I've always liked really smart nice guys.. Too much macho turns me completely off. But I know women like that.
Thank you Tony..its never too late God knew at 38yrs ..i will find knowledge & wisdom
I had 1 "badboy" when I was a teenager, I didn't know any better, we have a child together (she's 21 now) but I never did that ish again. THE END!
Edit: My baby brother is the 6ft, peaceful, friendly man but knows karate and is a trained boxer. Men think he's soft and he usually walks away but if you disrespect his wife or my nieces or nephews...RUN! 👊🏾😵
I love men like that! Quiet strength 💓💪🏾
I like the gainfully, legally employed MANS MAN. Nothing bad or THUG-ish about him. He's a man that provides and protects. He can be blue or white collar. I think all the heavens above I had my dad in my life. Don't want nothing bad or thug-ish.
Apart from laughing extremely hard, I found this video very essential. This video was good and well articulated, thank you Mr. Tony.
At 19 I used be attracted to the men who look bad boyish but are grown men. But as I got older and came into womanhood, I realized that was the dumbest 🙄 thing to even say. If you look like a bad boy you are a bad boy. Teenage mindset smh. Thanking God for pushing me to grow and learn from my mistakes.
Realiest content I done heard...Smh..out of all your videos...just went to another level...Tone..thanks
you only want a bad boy until you get a real one .
Isabelle SAY THAT!!!!
Okay!!!!
Isabelle i think u playing with fire 🔥 and some don’t make it out alive... not a chance to take if u Love YOU
They really play with fire. You can't tell them nothing. You can't calm them down. You're not a priority.
They're scaring more than something else.
LOL the Bruce Lee with the 6'4ft man got me cracking, that sounded so animated LOL
One of the biggest demons I ever met and dealt with didnt have any tattoos or earrings.
@Eternity With Christ Thats a fact!
Good transparency. Keep speaking truth!💚🖤💚 Swagalicious!🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was never into bad boys they’re so annoying, lol. But not only bad boys will mess u up; in my opinion, the quiet ones are the worse.Maturity is everything right now and a Godly relationship.
Paul Hogue what don’t u understand?
Yes Godly relationship, which takes having a man of God. The only thing attractive.
Say it Tony 💯 you getting to the root of the issues 🔥
I like tattoos because I like artwork on my body (despite the pain). Nothing to do with being tough, especially as a woman. Trying to be tough is a generalization, not applicable to everyone. I love the way tattoos look, just a preference.
I have learned a lot about the male ego from you my brother God bless you much love 🤗
Be Blessed 🙏🏽
Am I the only one that genuinely cries.... AND laughs during these videos. 😩 Mr. Gaskins u are the truth sir! ❤️
Whew ! This message was fire
😳 I had a dead beat father that left my mother when I was 5. Then had a wonderful step father that was a minister. The two long term relationships i have been in were with abusive men! Your message really hit home!
Another example is Denzel Washington in "The Equalizer" he was always super calm and collected but will beat your butt.
The quietest people are the most dangerous!
Honestly this is describing meekness - which is power under control. The person has the power to cause harm to others, but they have the maturity to control themselves. Some people misinterpret this self control as weakness, but this is a person operating from a place of great strength.
This was so good, Tony.
WOW!!! “The world has been harder on you...so it has harden you”
I knew a grown boy who wore huge skull rings on almost every finger, even the thumbs. He had a long beard, and never trimmed it or took care of it. He wore size 13 wkde steel toe work boots all the time, and he worked retail. No need for steel toe boots. He truly wore a size 9. But for whatever reason, he told himself, and everyone else, that he wore a size 13 wide boot. Turns out, his mom made him take ballroom dancing as a kid. Tony is spot on, as usual.
Been there done that. I dated one because I was reading those urban fiction books and that's what they glorified and made seem cool. That's why you have to be careful what you read and watch. Now, you couldn't pay me to date a bad boy. I thank God he opened my eyes to see my worth and what I deserve.
Just found your channel, you are quite real and I like your deliverance. The words and terminology you use is quite hilarious. I wish I had this kind of advice when I was younger....Yes I'll subscribe.
Awesome wisdom 💪💪