Confronting your man!
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Tony I wanted to let you know RC Blakes mentioned you in his last video 3 min into the video and I was floored. I’ve always seen him as my dad you my big brother. He commented and said I like Tony a lot he is wise and genuine. You both have contributed to the woman I am today thank you.
I agree =)
Yes he did and I was like Yess!
They would make a great duo😊.
Yes, he has mentioned Tony in a couple of his videos. They are the only 2 I listen to daily and faithfully!
@@LadieTasha I wanted to shout
I'm not scared of the word ever, but I'm at a point in time where I am not submitting to a man unless he can wholeheartedly submit himself to the Lord completely!
If he's not submitting to God first, he will lead you straight into the ditch.
Yesssssssssssss. This will save us so much heartache. This is the problem with most women...giving too much (submitting) to a man who hasn't earned it.
You know what I like this. I never heard of submission like this before. I will keep this in mind going forward.
Missy Adams perfectly said sis! If he can’t how can we expect him to submit to anyone else?! Great point!
*“A lot of these women treat your man like a God*
*A lot of women you will turn your back on God*
*And replace God with a man*
*And you’ll worship this man and ignore God.* *Because you’ll be on your back in fornication”*
*So true!!*
Yes😧
Have to be WILLING to walk away!
The games and tactics men play in dating and relationships is overwhelming and draining. Its almost enough to make you feel like naw Im good being single and drama free. Have mercy Lord. Smh
I'm right there with you.
Ew Chile!
Verbal abuse does kill you just slowly!!
Yet it doesn't unless you allow it to and or let it so there is the big difference. FAR less traumatic and something I hope you never have to endure because we are talking about two VERY different boys. One is indeed crazy and evil and not just insecure. Nothing remotely like being psychically, mentally, emotionally, financial, broken and abused. It takes a hell of a lot if ever to heal from the Ptsd sometimes it never goes away. Although I wish more women could see it coming beforehand but we don't because they hide who they are ....and with emotional abuse you can walk away easily, the other they will hunt you down or tell you they will kill you if you do or try......we have to love ourselves enough to wait for the grown man that god has for us who would never hurt us that way.....* hugs* Just imagine spending that time being loved, smiling, laughing, having real conversations with, feeling safe and making love etc. with a real man instead.
Michele Pace I’m not downplaying physical abuse not one bit but Verbal. Emotional and Spiritual abuse is deadly also and people don’t recognize this. It takes a lot of work to heal from that, your own mind turns on you and you don’t know what’s right or wrong anymore and then your body experiences physical symptoms your health is compromised and you safe slowly deteriorating mentally and physically I’m not telling you what I hear I’m telling what I know❤️
Yep. Kills you slowly or causes some to take their own life. It's just as bad.
We agree that verbal abuse can kill a person’s spirit, and physical abuse can kill a person’s body.
nothing worse than submitting to a fool 😂
Ask-Pharmacist-Tish Ask-Pharmacist-Tish praise the Lord 🙌🏽
The transparency in this video. Whew chileeeeee. I appreciate it Tony but dang it was a dagger to my heart, just reflecting back to my own relationships and realizing how much more I was probably played and didn’t have a clue. Straight bamboozled. I keep thinking I’m ready to get back out there because I know the game now but Lawd the more I watch these videos Tony stays dropping new info... I’ll wait a little bit longer before I get out there. I wanna make sure I’m READY READY.
@NIKKI 💕I, feel ya sis!!!🙌 That's why it's a blessing to know your worths and with valuing your time!!! I, know that I know,that I know,that I know, in any matter without no reason not to doubt my
WORTH& VALUE AS A WOMAN!!! NO WASTING MY TIME. 👑💃🙌🙌🙌❤
Yep... it appears you're not the only one who was played on this one 😂😂😂. But thank God through Mr Gaskins here we are learning!!
Momma Tish1 YES!! That’s why I was able to cut off the last person as quickly as I did and didn’t spend anytime questioning my decision.
I’ll just allow who God has for me to come to me and stick to all that Tony’s been teaching us. As long as we apply what we’ve learned with no exceptions we should be good. Lol Tony is about to have a new batch of self loving ,empowered, no games playing women out in these streets 😂
Blessed Adjoa 🙌🏽
Nikki Rowland he reach enough of us they’ll be after Tony with the pitchforks.
Sheri has to teach us her ways too. Such a wise woman
Yes, I need an education from her too.
their new book "A Woman's Influence" just came out
YESSSSSSSSSS I love herr😭
We have to address bad behavior IMMEDIATELY!! I will do this..
Me too!
This is so on time!
Even as a confident woman, I’ve noticed I avoid confrontation. I’ve always tried to “choose my battles” but I see how that can be just as toxic. Being the “bigger person” has given others permission to disrespect me.
Thank you for you wisdom! Continue to let God work through you! 🖤
Tony, with all this knowledge and truth you be having me excited about dating now, I’m so confident and solid.
I will submit to a man ONLY if he is following Christ ( like my husband). But he better lead according to scripture. Submission is beautiful.
Yes💖
Amen...Not addressing those red-flag issues early will lead to nothing but stress, hurt, & confusion, speaking from past experience. As always, thank you for the wisdom! 🙏🏾
Safiya Price yes ma’am this is so true but I am thankful for the pain and even more thankful for the wisdom and knowledge from a real man!
Man Tony you keep it all the way 💯. Ain’t no man putting it out this real! Thank you Tony!
Thumbs up!! Haven't even pressed play yet LOL
L. Celeste same!!
@@adoringgalore5636 ditto!
I do the same sometimes.
Your wife hasnt told you that she needs to talk to you about something because you dont cause big issues. You're good to her and that makes all the difference.
🖐🏼👋🏼👋🏼Happy Tuesday blessed tribe! Remember to let go and let God everyday🙂🤗
Caramel Kissez happy Tuesday!! Love your positive energy always 😍
Yes, she's a darling 🇹🇹👏😇
Happy Thursday 💕👑💃CARAMELK 🤗
Amen, girl! God bless you! 🤗🤍
Amen.
I've addressed time after time and no change. I finally let Go!
Exactly. They have an answer for everything. He wouldnt tell his female friend who needed him for EVERYTHING. Now, what would you think?? How would you feel?
“You going to have the hard conversations for the relationship to work” Amen 🙏🏽 You said that in Chapter 13 of a “Women’s Influence” We need to be direct with our thoughts and feelings about what’s acceptable or not to us. Thank you Tony and Sheri for your wisdom. I am on my last chapter of the book. And I continue to watch your videos on a daily basis to strengthen my inner woman, know my self worth, and love ❤️ myself. May God continue to bless you guys 🙏🏽🙏🏽
You released this book at the right time. I am going to order Mrs. Right when I get paid to learn, heal, and grow more 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️❤️
Stephanie Ducatel I brought up inconsistencies and he started ignoring me 😂 I blocked him and moved on. The thing is he has ignored me earlier in the year. I realize what you allow will absolutely become a pattern.
I NEEEEEEEEDDDDDEEEED to see this!!!!! I’ve learned that even with the utmost respect, words can still be misconstrued and taken offensively....simply because my husband is not in the mindset of being receptive to “the talk.”
Joyful n Blessed ABSOLUTELY!!!!!
Sometimes I watch these videos and I’m just speechless, THANK YOU TONY!
I have ordered your book, "A Woman's Influence "....and I cannot wait to get it!! I wish I had learned all this Wisdom & Truth years ago, but I am so glad to learn it now. I am now 65 years old, going through a divorce, and starting my life over after being married to a narcissist for 46 years, raised 4 children, with 10 grandchildren. I am searching, digging, learning and doing the inner work of healing that I need to do in becoming a Woman of great worth....cool, calm, collected & confident. Even though I have finally awakened to Reality, I am going to make the most of my life and enjoy it to the fullest! I thank G💖D for bringing me to your videos....you have taught me so much and I am applying what I am learning to my life. I so enjoy your sense of humor and your direct approach in applying the Truth! Thank you Tony, you are an awesome blessing from G💖D and a wise & godly man that women need to listen to. Thank you for this awesome work you are doing and I so appreciate your wife, Sheri, for who she is and what she has taught you. Shalom
Leaving a Narcissist is one of the best decisions that I've ever done!
During the time that I was separated from my ex-husband in 2018, the Lord shined the light on other Narcs in my life (which gave connections as to how I ended up in a relationship with my ex-husband). Both my parents, siblings, pastoral & ministry flock, & ex & current coworkers have wreaked havoc in my life. So I've dealt with Narcs in all forms & on all levels.
My life has started doing a 180° since 2018 since doing No Contact & boundaries. I then learned how to do spiritual warfare by binding that Jezebel spirit in & over my life. Once I identified this, now business opportunities that I prayed for for years are now opened & are coming to fruition.
My ex is an alcoholic and that's a deal breaker. Everytime I addressed the issue he has an excuse.Even in prison he was getting drunk! I didn't honor the excuses because there was no change
He has a vice, you will never win against that vice. Run!!!
So true and I did, thank you!
I dated an alcoholic for 3 yrs. I was convinced that I could change him. We were down to the last straw that broke the camels back and suddenly he started going to rehab. But little did he know it was too little too late.
Whew, that's the truth!
🌫️ Lol, prison made his problem worse and his drinking is what lead him in prison🤦🏾♀️
To think that I spent 7 years of my life with someone who convinced me that it was far worst reading his personal messages than catching him cheating.
I wish I had found your channel before. I lost so much time, God bless you. You have opened my eyes.
It's all good girly good thing we are out now 😊
Be Bless Mr. Gaskins, I can tell you speak from your heart. Because you're an intellectual spiritual man
who speaks with common sense and expresses himself from the heart. Your language is well spoken and understood. Communication and understanding is the key to a healthy love relationship. Ijs
Confronting issues led to stonewalling, lies, and word salad. Left with confusion. God is not the author of confusion...🏃♂️
This right here straight revealed the game. Thanks for your obedience and wisdom. May the blessings continue to find you and overtake you!
I’m just so happy I’m a Floridian so I perceive everything Tony says perfectly. We speak the same language. Big flex !
Great info. Can’t have double standards, not good for anybody.
Thank you Tony. I come from an Asian background and we don't ever talk stuff like this. I appreciate the insight and the hard truth!
You're telling the whole truth! I had to pray my way out of an abusive marriage! Thank God I made it out with my life and in my right mind!
Tony be having me crying calling them stanky misty booty men💀😂😂
Musty typo lol
😂🎤
@@Gfamily4 Thank you for correcting that typo...God bless you..
@@yemedemure414 I busted out laughing when i read this LOL
The content you produce is unmatched! Thank You for the content. Hello to The Blessed Tribe! Be Blessed!
Much appreciated
Submission, wife comes under (sub) the mission. A man without a mission is not a man but a grown boy.
I like the way you put that
I used the "I feel" method you recommended today. It worked! He did not argue with me. He said I am sorry you feel that way and explained his side. I was pleasantly surprised. I wish I had learned this years ago! We would have avoided a lot of arguments.
Tony, I pray to god you see this comment. I did exactly how you said. My man is a communicator, twister of words. there were 2 deal brakers: talking down on me and a female friend I was uncomfortable with. she has smo in his life and we get together and each time she shows smt that she says she admires me etc. everytime my man says or does smt that triggers me and I immediately address it. everytime he says I am jelous, crazy, never said "ok that's it I hear you". never. always had an argument when we met them. Now I left him and expect him to get a hold on himself because of the fact that he triple sized his downplaying verbal abuse with me. I was waiting and expecting him to come back, being better. Now reality hit me hard. I see that I need a man who is behind me 100% and dont call me crazy because he is flirty right in front of me with his friend. thanks for putting me on track. sometimes tears worth for growth even it if hurts so much. be blessed Tony and everyoıne who reads this.
Be encouraged🙏
My first boyfriend who I did not live with (in our early twenties) had female friends and one of his female friends was in an abusive relationship. She would get beat up regularly. He asked me if I would be ok with her staying at his place so she would be safe from her bf because she had nowhere else to go. I was actually appalled that he was basically asking to sleep with this girl since he only had a small bedroom in his parents home. I used Tonys technique and asked him if he would be ok if I let a guy friend who had nowhere to stay to come and stay in my bedroom. End of story. Always flip it back on the guy. They don’t even know half of the brevity of the destruction they cause.
The women impersonations take me out every time ! I'm here for the messages and the comics from you sir. You make learning easy. Thank God for Jesus and allowing you to coach us through these sectors of life. I've been convicted to invest in myself through you 🏃🏾♀️ Mrs. Gaskin we appreciate you darling
This young man is on point. BE BLESSED 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Just ended a long term relationship because of his double standards and his female “friends including his ex”!. Either he’s 100% committed or he’s not. Simple. I’m outta there! He me made me believe I was jealous and insecure while adding more to his Facebook fan club. Thank you Tony for confirming what I felt already.
I can't wait to see this one. My idea of confronting someone isn't what most women see it as. Can not handle seeing women yelling at men or cursing them because it honestly doesn't change a thing. Remember you are a lady not a nasty lil grown girl with no class ( A Queen) and if you do that then you need to work on yourself. Understand men only hear so many words in a conversation with you especially if they did wrong or made you mad so you have to make them short, sweet, and exactly to the point. Not belittling, threatening like a man, nor loud like some. Ok gotta go watch now. Although don't take no b.s.
Get gone! You are right. Hugs. I agree Tony because I've been through both types and all of them in another man who almost killed me in the past. Emotional abuse you can come back from and heal from but death can't be reversed ladies. I wouldn't wish physical abuse on anyone! I do know how narcissistic men are to but we are stronger than these crazy making fools emotionally to know they are wrong and we are not victims. Strong boundaries are everything and self love. Lol you gonna regret that!! Your dad was correct, lol. Summit to one another and listen to hear them not ready to comment and don't go to bed mad. Sometimes we need to understand not everything is about us.
Tony I am so glad to hear you referencing things your wife made you aware of about women which shows you have and respect her and value her feelings
Treat others the way you want to be treated
Hi Tony 👋👍 you crack me up when you try to change your voice to sound like a woman. However, more importantly I really love how authentic , truthful and vulnerable you are & I love your wife too. She seems soooooo sweet. I think you guys are a great couple 👌👌👌👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm just fed up with this BS...have tried talking, asking questions, if this man is too stubborn to be resposible for his actions he's just a foolish ungodly doubleminded .. if a man is not led by Holy Spirit but his ego I'm outa here.. thanks Tony for this message
Good morning ❤Blessed Tribe ❤family 👑💃Always Value your time and keep the Almighty Lord 1st!!! *LADIES KNOW YOUR WORTHS* 🗣DON'T FORGET TO (LIKE )👑*TONYGASKINS* Video!!!
Hey Tony great message today God Bless you. I couldn't read my ex text messages he had a code on his phone a pass code we were married their is no secrets in a marriage I always confronted him about it he told me I should trust it all turn into a argument. Well last year I caught him cheating so I guess I couldn't trust him we are divorce I left him.
Tony you are so right! I addressed all behaviors and actions with him since the beginning and it has done nothing. I was in denial for a long time and he was a true Sociopath
Your videos have helped me so much. I'm glad I'm learning this while I'm young. Every relationship teaches you different things.
Tony, I am so use to dealing with grown boys that a grown man has finally come my way!! And I just need help in knowing how to deal with a grown man! Please do a video, on how to deal with a grown man.
Jessica Martinez absolutely agree!!
A grown man will lead and you just follow that’s how you deal with grown men .just be yourself he will love everything about you if you are whole , walking with god Know yourself & love yourself that’s how you deal with a grown man
Blackgirlzrock thank you. Anymore tips?
Jessica Martinez Treat him like you want to be treated . Become LOVE 💕 And joy And believe me you will be treated like a goddess and it’s a beautiful feeling
@@arteikah AMEN! SO RIGHT!,YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
I appreciate your transparency.
Excellent video on how to communicate with a man! The message is to address every behavior immediately that can be multiplied by three-Tony Gaskins
I truly appreciate “side bars” !! 😉
Tony, when I confront my man and I see changes, that means he is trying and loving me. I believe we are not perfect, but I do believe in baby steps, he is trying to be better today than he was yesterday. Like I said he could help me out more around the house. This weekend he helped me clean the kitchen and said I am trying because you said I didn't help you enough. Thank you Tony and thank god
I'm from Namibia 🇳🇦🇳🇦 and I'm learning from alot from each video!
Tony can you talk about how grown boys treat their mother and sisters? And how you can tell how he will treat his girlfriend or wife.
coolceelah He mentioned in a video maybe 2 weeks ago that like to look at the way a man treat his mother, sisters etc and get caught up in that because he treats them good. However that does not mean he will treat you good or treat you the same. Also he said just because he does not treat his mother great or with all the respect does not necessarily mean he will treat you bad because his mother may not necessarily been a great mother or present when growing up. He said don’t just look at how he treat his mother and sisters because does not mean he’ll treat you that way. I hope that helps. Now of course if he cursing his mother out, stealing her money or disrespecting her and living in her house those are character flaws that’s a NO in any situation.
@@Shae_3 Thank you for your reply!
coolceelah Sure thing! If you haven’t already watch the video about “men character.” I think that may also fall along those lines. I’ll be honest with you my brother loves my mom and I know he loves his sisters but he avoids conflict and then blow up, and poor communication. My bro had a codependent relationship with my mom he’s had difficulty breaking. He looks for women who will cater to him like my mom. So although a man may treat his mom well and worships the ground she walks on it could be for other unhealthy reasons and like my bro he treats his women like.....yeah I wouldn’t pick anyone to date him right now.
@coolceelah Sis, you already know the answer to this. With the "UTMOST DISRESPECT"! No need to pursue a relationship with this GROWN BOY.
Very powerful knowledge to hear,be blessed.
Every time I get on here and I’m going through something you have just uploaded a video about it. Thanks tony!
Tony I REALLY WISH I had come across your channel sooner. I would’ve avoided A LOT of mistakes in my early 20s. I’m in my mid 20s now & I’ve experienced Literally EVERYTHING you’re describing with the grown boy I was dealing with. Lord!!
Sholl right!! I was BLESSED to get out alive🙌🏽 TYJ
I saw this new video Immediately clicked on . I’m going to address any verbal or devaluation or demeaning behavior . I Don’t really express myself either, I shut down .
I just want to say thank you for your videos! You deliver such strong messages, but in a very relatable, light hearted manner! I look forward to your videos daily 😀 I hope to see The Queen 👑 again as well! I love y’alls videos together!!! Such a beautiful couple and it’s so nice to see true love still exist! God Bless You and Your Family!
I LIVE for this vulnerability, thank you!
I agree, you can't trust those female friends. Thanks for the comedy relief too!
Thank you Tony! I wish I would have found your videos years ago. You have been a great advisor 🙌🏾
I’m ready!
Bro Tony you teaching me, see that's where I messed up at not being willing to walk away with these pointers you addressing. Amen 💯
Right on time, ready for today's lesson!
On site. Check it in the door. Thanks Tony!
Omg i’m learning so much😩 thank you!!
This message is top 10 TG..thank you!
I needed to hear this thanks .Everything you tolerate in life will multiply
This is so good, so real, so true, I didn’t want it to end. “Believe me ye” kmsl, I have experienced a man telling me it’s ok to deal with other guys, not particularly in those words but what I got from that situation was he didn’t care. Tony always on point.
Your video popped up when watching another video. Whew child... I’ve smiled through this entire video. It reminded me of me and my husband first years of marriage. Got to come across easy but firm. I feel her. Love it! 💕
Thank you for dropping the heavy truths in this video!
I love the you express yourself...thank you for all advice... makes me feel better with myself and happy to know I have made the right decision to end my last relationship....
Here to learn
Wow! This explains so much about my ex fiancé! He would always say “I dont care. I trust you; you just dont trust me.” I was not his wife, and he cared more about a little something something he might get on the side. I needed this explanation.
Thank you Tony for this and the other countless videos!
Another gem to store in my memory. Game recognize game....ijs 😉 and Tony is giving us the inside scoop....
Heed the warning of physical abuse and a lot of times it’s starts out with verbal abuse, I have experienced it, I saw a close family member get stabbed by a man and almost died. I don’t play with that I’m out, point blank period. If he doesn’t know the Lord for real, I’m not taking no chances because I don’t know what kind of spirit he got. God’s word says if any man doesn’t have the Spirit of Christ, he is not his.
Great points in this video. And your wife is awesome.
You on it today Tony!!!
Thanks Tony for being transparent had me rolling but was much enlightening 🙌🏼😂😂
Thank you for sharing Be blessed
Class in session
Another great message!! Thank you Tony!
You are good, thank you and be blessed Tony 🙏 wisdom and pure gold ♥️♥️
Lmaooooo Tony had a twerk team back in the day😂😂😂😂 who would’ve known.
Hey Tony, Yes I agree even Jesus addressed the devil, the Bible also says to rebuke them openly so that others may fear. Thank you for all that you do. You are doing a good job 👍🏽. You helped changed my life.
Tony been ministering to me. Mannnnnn
I can't wait to try these gems on somebody's son 😂
Ikr.
@@janiedavis477 😁
Words of wisdom from one sister to the next... know what your triggers are, if not, you will run a good man away.
The Lord made me aware of that very early on before he would mention it. Yahweh checked me, "You're talking to a grown man...". I would say, "Let's be friends." He like, "Naw babe! That's not how it works in the real world. If you not in a relationship how are you gonna know that these things need to be ironed out."... The prayers this man says on the phone & text me! 😍🥰😘
They try to downplay the If the shoe was on the other foot tactic!
Tony I luv your humor in getting the haters and the nay sayers straight LOL😂😂😂
Thank you 🙏🏾 this is the confirmation I needed. I find myself addressing from the jump of the relationship and nothing has changed so this time I walked away. I’m so glad I save myself all these headaches.
I love your advice. Please explain what a DM is. I’m not in the loop on that expression. Thank you.
DM stands for direct message. (Someone sending a message to their inbox.)
I’m always happy to learn something new. Thank you.
@@jeanmontiel4991 you're welcome
Tony, I don’t know why but your commercial breaks have me cracking up🤣
This is a good one
Man he drops nuggets....Lordy be I'm bout to keep Tony running all day on Saturday's
Always a good word, Tony! Thank you! Be blessed! Ladies, the Word does say to submit to your (keyword) HUSBAND. When this is abused there’s nothing but trauma, fear and rebellion BUT when it’s done God’s way, it is BEAUTIFUL! Remember, He wants us to be equally yoked. Jeremiah 29:11 states clearly that the Lord has plans for you, that includes your future husband. However, we have FREE WILL so we have CHOICES. The enemy/devil sends people too.
Amen🙏
Be blessed. Very helpful, Very helpful. Wish I learned this 20 yrs ago.