Fearne Cotton: THIS Is How To Build Confidence & Set Yourself Free | E116
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- Опубликовано: 27 май 2024
- This weeks episode entitled 'THIS Is How To Build Confidence & Set Yourself Free' topics:
0:00 Intro
02:14 Your early years
12:28 Imposter syndrome
17:13 The consequences of acting
29:01 Depression and panic attacks
36:57 Making the decision to leave Radio One
43:58 Learning to have self compassion
55:55 We aren’t our thoughts
01:06:56 Women talking about their success
01:14:47 What brings you meaning in your life
01:27:56 Vision for Happy Place
01:32:04 Our last guests question
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Wow Fearne is so wise! Trust me when I say you’ll get a lot form this conversation…. Hit like and subscribe for a new episode every Monday, thank you so much 🙏🏽 x
Jnby
*from. (Teacher in me)
Such a great interview, honest and insightful 👌🏼 so many people will resonate with this conversation.
Everytime I listen to Fear e i feel normal, i am kinder to myself. She is inspirational. Thank you Stephen for bringing out the best in everyone you interview. Today is a great day xxx
Mate you need to interview Dr Weil. He promotes the 4-7-8 breathing technique, it cured my panic attacks also Andy Puddicombe the founder of headspace
Loved this interview! Out of all of your interviews, this has been my fave.
This podcast is crazy. It’s waayyy more about mental health and dealing with the world. rather than how to get rich and it’s really good important messages!! Stevens a legend!!
Thanks Shuaib, glad you’re getting a lot out of them
@@TheDiaryOfACEO I work in mental health / addictions and seeing people on the podcast with their journeys, hearing their challenges and still achieving success. It’s amazing!!
Truth. It starts with the mind first. Being rich is a mindset
Had my first panic attack when I was 18, was taken in with a heart rate of 236 bpm... changed my life forever. 20 years I've had anxiety, fear of death, didn't leave the house for the first 5 years. It ruined my life. I lost my youth because of it. I started by walking to the end of the driveway had a panic attack went inside, then I got to the nearest lamp post then got back to the house, then a week later I got to the end of the street, was so scared I ran back rather than walking! eventually I managed to get out of my street and up to the local shop and back. I had about 3 panic attacks there and back. I used to play football, I had to quit because anything that got my heart rate up caused a panic attack. I ended up attatching my safety with others, my mum for example, so I wouldn't leave the house without someone else. I then spent 20 years studying the mind, anxiety etc and used myself as a Guinea pig. I'm 38 now, I've been on Escitalopram 20mg for 20 years, zopiclone and sondate (quietiapine) - One thing you need to talk about and the only thing that saved me is the 4-7-8 breathing technique by Dr Weil, and also mindfulness. Get the app headspace and use it everyday
Absolutely the most sincere person I saw in front of a camera, doesn’t have to pretend and think about what she’s saying and looking straight right through the person she’s speaking with. This is what I call intelligent. Very impressive podcast! It’s so rare to speak to someone so genuine like this nowadays.
I’m watching this at 3am, dreading going into work this morning for a number of reasons. Fearne has given me the strength to get through the day, so many things she says resonates with me. I think I’ll make a point of listening to this on a regular basis. Thank you
@@nicelady333 I have to go to work. My name is Rishi Sunak
As you listen to this, also take time to listen to your own inner voice for inspiration and guidance on the little steps you would like to take ,to make the changes you need in your life. Create the new chapter you deserve❤
I live in Australia and I saw Fearne on the 2017 episode of Mary Berry's Christmas, which was so heart warming and positive. I Googled the participants and Fearne was the one I wanted to learn about. Watching this podcast will be life changing for me I hope, even though I'm almost 71 years of age. I've been married and divorced 3 times so feel like a failure at relationships. The most precious part of my life is my 38 year old son and my 14 year old Burmese cat both of whom I would literally die for if I had to choose. Never far from tears when discussing loss and failure (like now), I've been to psychologists, psychiatrists, take meds to control my anxiety and depression but find the peace of happiness and acceptance so difficult to keep. Always up for a new learning curve, I've embraced painting, pottery, stitching, writing, renovating, farming, gardening, craft, horse riding, solo travel etc. but haven't found my Happy Place. Fearne speaks to me about what I've experienced in my life and I am therefore very excited to listen to her words of wisdom, read her books and hopefully be able to help anyone who wants to live their lives in an authentic vein. There have been many times in my life, and I am sure everyone else has done it too, where I have done things that have gone against my moral compass; these instances have without fail imploded on my core being sometimes years later but were so easy to agree to at the time. As I matured I was able to stand up to what was right for me and to put an end to situations that were toxic. THANK YOU FEARNE for baring your soul, for admitting your vulnerability and sharing your feelings so that people can take heart and be themselves.
Fearne is very self aware, but she isn’t just interested in being aware, she’s interested about being sincere. Sincere towards the fact that if you are a certain way then that’s how you need to be even if it means being a bit brave. That’s rare to see nowadays especially in the showbiz industry. Great podcast and great people, thank you to both of you for this
Yes, there scared of the paycheck more. True geordie is a great example of being kicked down for being sincere. Yet that's wot the people want honest opinion
When I woke up today I didn’t expect Fearne Cotton to be the catalyst to me agreeing to an exhibition of my photography work. Always thankful for being able to listen to these conversations!
That’s dope! Well done Ethan
The best Monday morning vibes! Every. Single. Week!
Yes! Thanks Sarah
Always loved Fearn, I love how she is an advocate for doing what makes you happy even if that's stepping away. People say that but don't do it, so it's great to see. Fantastic role model!
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What a lovely conversation. Fearne is so eloquent and interesting and full of wisdom. Really valuable content - thank you Steve and Fearne xxx
Nailed it. A wise manger once said to me when I was leaving the company and asked if the company would miss me.
With a glass of water in front of him he said, "stick you finger in the water".
Which I did.
Then he said "now remove your finger from the water".
Which again I did.
He then said "how much of an impression have you left?"
Cutting but it really put life in to perspective that you should do more for your self than others.
E116 and you are still bringing new information the audience. Very good FC & SB
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"There's only so much discomfort you can take." I don't know who needs to hear this but hear this.
I've alllllllways loved Fearne. She's always come across as honest and real. I'm glad she has followed another path that felt more 'her'. I suppose it doesn't matter how incredible other people think your opportunities are, if they are holding you back from being your authentic self, you HAVE to make that change. We only have one life. LOVED THIS PODCAST 💖
Felt so intune with what Fearne said on so many occasions.
When she mentioned she often feels teary when walking, I get that so often when I have a chance to think in peace and process my thoughts and feelings. So nice to know it's normal ❤
As a 20 something ethnic Brit, I've grown up watching and listening to Fearne Cotton and always found her to be likable. In all fairness, I would never have guessed anything was off. She is doing well for herself.
I loved the ‘imposter syndrome’ segment. Lack of self belief can really put the brakes on your ambitions if you allow it too ✊
What a delightful watch. It's so easy to fall into the trap of thinking people working in the media/celebs have everything perfectly worked out, when in reality it is completely and utterly not true. We're all just human, waking up each day trying to figure things out and live the best life we can. I ask the Universe/God for guidance too when I'm utterly lost as to what path to take/decision to make. Currently really stuck on a relationship one, whether to stay in this relationship which my parents completely disapprove of due to him not being of the same Indian caste and seeing too many differences/him not good enough for me. Or if I should walk away and believe that they are right...we've worked on building it into something beautiful, ofc it's not perfect as no relationship is, but it's the same question whirling round and round in my head every now and then as to whether we can make it work despite not having my parental support. In Asian communities having parental approval is *BIG DEAL* and it's just so ingrained into our culture, so anyone who does something very untraditional or unorthodox...well expect there to be backlash.
I still haven't found this clear sign from the universe, but hope it shows up soon. Thank you for sharing this and excuse my long message above dumping my personal dilemmas!
Also taking in the stars, nature, it truly is humbling and really helps to put things into perspective. To help out get out of our own heads and realise we are tiny specks in the grand cosmos! A reminder to not take things to seriously all the time, and to let go of things.
Thank you Fearne and Steve
Free Place sounds like something I need.
I used to be a hairdresser then got hit by a car and lost my ability to work so after a long journey of exercise and health food.
It's scary when you compare yourself to other people. It's freeing when we ignore this negative voice in our head.
Can't wait to read this book.
The thing I love about your podcast and this one in particular is the true desire to have a positive impact upon the people watching, and ensuring we take something valuable away from every episode.
Don’t ever stop doing this mate, you were born to do this and Fearne was one of my favourite guests so far, what a honest, humble and beautiful soul 🙏
Love Fearne and her Happy place.
I struggle with so many of the exact same things she does - my life and career has had to change as a result. This interview was invaluable to me - I consider myself a mess, but I can watch Fearne and see what an amazing human she is and that gives me tremendous hope. Thank you.
Same here. :-)
Fair play
Obsessed with Fearne and her view points - she hits the nail on the head every single time - she is absolutely inspiring in every which way
Notes and quotes:
"Stop only looking at the return, start looking at the part of the world you are and the energy around it"
"Be humble and enjoy life, as it is short"
"Don't try to measure everything as ROI, but as how good you feel"
"Be yourself and remember that everyone is anxious and feeling like you"
appreciate you simeon x
@@TheDiaryOfACEO My pleasure! Looking forward to one day see it in person!
BTW, did you have a chance to check the email I sent you about the people trying to scam in the telegram group?
It is nice to hear a honest description of what it feels like to go through depression and panic attacks. It help the rest of us to deal with it and to work on finding a way to feel better.
Love how candid Fearne is - this episode makes me feel like I was really listening to a friend over a cup of coffee❤️Fearne was the total original 'Outfit of the Day' girl for me by the way. She used to upload a photo of her outfit to a designated page on the BBC Radio website every morning and I used to check it religiously in... 2008/9?? Another example of how the timing of her career let her be in the 'limelight' but not catapulted into a crazy online following at a really young age. Sounds nice to me compared to the millions of eyes on young public personalities these days scrutinizing their every move and being able to comment whatever they want. Another great episode. Thanks, Steven & Fearne! X
thanks for sharing Rachael, glad you enjoyed the ep
Absolutely love Ferne, she's such a beautiful soul inside and out and I love her authenticity. My fave podcast so far, her truth resonates with me so much ❤
This podcast is helping me to push forward with my business. With every episode I see the humanity in each guest. It makes me know that success is possible 💜
Love that, thanks misty
What a journey I have just been on. Really amazing and inspiring.
I started watching this episode fully expecting to skip over it as I've never been a Fearne Cotton fan, and now it is just a habit to avoid her (sorry Fearne!).
Having said that, this was a truly fantastic podcast. Everything Fearne says I'm sat here going "Yes" or "Wow". So revealing.
I have shared the link with my better half because they will absolutely benefit too. I'm fully expecting I will be buying the book later too.
Turns out I am a Ferne Cotton fan after all.
Lesson I've learnt - check your preconceptions!
Ditto, wasn't a fan sorry,, that I see her in a different way xxx enjoyed listening thanks ❤
Wonderful discussion between Fearne and yourself regarding what truly matters in life and being more gentle and kind to ourselves.
What a wonderful person Fearne has always been and I hope the book sells well. There are no KPI's for happiness...It's just being...and trying to just be yourself. Not following what everyone thinks you should be.
Wow. WTF did I just watch. What a wise woman. So much resonated with me. I have been a stay at home mum for years and have brought up a large family but my brain always tells me that im worthless, no job, no real social life, no real friends. My husband is the almighty powerful one cos he brings home the money. Ive always felt worthless for not achieving a career even though I wanted to be a mum. The mind is a crazy thing and it is so hard to ignore it. I wish I wasn’t so self deprecating. To be honest I thought I was the only one that seem to be my worst own enemy. Food for thought for sure. Love you Fern !!!!!! ❤
Fearne is such a refreshing, important, feminine and honest voice, thank you both so much for this interview
I can sooo relate to many aspects of what Fearne talks about within this podcast, such as taking time to connect with nature on daily walks (something I started doing 5 years ago to aide my journey out of depression) and realising, in the grand scheme of things, we shouldn't sweat the small stuff! Internal, negative self-talk is something I'm sure we all grapple with at some point in our lives, so I sympathise with Fearne and can't recommend meditation enough... it's a mental workout for the mind, which when strengthened, can be controlled to better respond, overcome and reframe internal thoughts. My mind is always awash with positivity after listening to this podcast so I can't thank you guys enough for putting this into the world as it's priceless to understand how all these wonderful guests, and Steven, think as it really enforces my own improvements that I've made and reminds me to congratulate myself on how far I've come. Thank you so much.
Love this podcast. It has become a part of my weekly routine.
Love that 🙌🏽
An exceptional interview with a legend of broadcasting. I enjoyed it thoroughly. The standard of the guests keeps getting better and better. Congratulations to you and all of your team Steven.
🙏🏽 so great to hear you enjoyed. Thank you Jonathan appreciate it
I kind of grew up seeing Fearne on TV culminating with her presenting Glastonbury. I've always thought she's fantastic on TV just being her. Fantastic insightful conversation i think she's hugely self aware and sincere. I hope to meet her one day in the fields at Worthy Farm to just say thanks for being you... Well done both.... these are the best videos on youtube....
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” I hope you SUCCEED
Fearne inspires all of us to level up ❤
Brilliant, really enjoyable. I guess wanting to be 80 with grey hair and free is obtainable at a younger age. It’s called retirement ! I was forced to retire following my stroke and had to learn to over come brain damage and all that came with it ! Anxiety etc but by learning I don’t need to work and that voice driving me to work is not me. I am now learning to connect with all those ares Fern talked about ! Even with that voice telling me “ you could start work again now” I won’t… life is more emporia than work now. Great episode thanks.
Thanks for sharing Matt 🙏🏽
@@TheDiaryOfACEO Cheers it’s an area many of us never plan for but once achieved we don’t know what to do with it. With the write planning it’s what dreams are made of without planning it’s a big shock to the system. It’s one big shock to hard grafting workaholics ! Have a great week.
such a fan of hers! I'm a Portuguese girl who used to be obsessed with all things British so I grew up watching hear, listening to her, reading about her... this is brilliant!
I am very selective about what I listen to and I always look forward to this podcast. Really insightful and informative x
dope, thanks steph
Can you do two full eps a week please Steven? Listening to each episode twice for full absorption and still not getting my fix.
In your prologue, you describe her as wise, this interview was was so insightful and helpful. Thank you Fearne.
Thank you. I have a job interview. This interview with Fearne brought me back to my expansive self.
Love you, Fearne.
My real first panic attack happened during the filming of an advert Fearne was involved in. My first acting gig, I was 18, already nervous and then my period unexpectedly started. I had nothing with me.
I was so sick, shaking, chest pain, thought I was dying…
Via the chain of amazing wardrobe department I received a tampon from Fearne. Don’t think we ever met during filming that day but what a weird connection. It helped me get through the day somehow. She’ll never know that but thank you, Fearne.
I remember watching Fearne on TV she always seemed so lively and funny. But I could not relate to het until she started speaking her truth and now I’m obsessed I love her podcasts, she is so authentic and so genuine and her voice is so powerful!
Me too I couldn't relate at all, I couldn't figure out how someone the same age as me could be so confident and outgoing when I felt useless and shy. Really interesting to see now how she battled.
Awww love this guy he's so genuine and lovely.
15 min in and just had to pause and big up this podcast for just giving us major keys each and every time!!
Appreciate that thank you 🙏🏽
Two of my favourite people on one podcast. This is a match made in heaven. Two people who speak so eloquently and more importantly listen to one another without interruption, Thank you for another wonderful and insightful episode Steven. You change my life and I'm sure thousands of others for the better.♥
🙏🏽 thank you for the kind words x
I am absolutely loving these podcasts, thank you. I love how open and honest Fearne is, love her.
Happy Place is so so needed at College/ Secondary School right now! You people Education could benefit so much from both of your experiences and knowledge.
A Wonderful conversation, an amazing book (so far) and the event put on for 'Bigger Than Us' by the Happy Place team was a monumental evening of compassion and gratitude.
1:16:00 yea and those moments are real humbling and connotate gratitude if you let it
Brilliant and honest lady. big Fearne fan
Happy Place is such a good podcast. Fearns interview with Ashley Cain is still one of the most sincere and raw discussions I've heard. So inspiring and heart breaking
Big love for Fearne! always loved listening to her on radio 1 & watching her on celebrity juice shes a very intelligent women and has a great personality both on and off air
You’re not wrong, very genuine
I bought her new book after this interview and wow it’s enlightening, couldn’t recommend it more to anyone who is interested or curious about living more in tune with spirituality. Fearne is a fantastic storyteller and this book is no exception 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Loved this and absolutely love Fearne Cotton. I’ve never read any of her books or listened to her podcast but i grew up watching her on tv. Watching this i really relate to everything she said about working, being a mum, juggling life and having an inner voice that makes you worry about if you’re doing it all right. Will definitely be indulging in her books from now on.
Like so many I grew up with Fearne on the TV and radio and remember thinking she didn't seem right at the end if radio 1 days. interesting to get the context now and hearing her be so candid.
I also think everyone has their own thresholds for anxiety and depression - she's💪
Spent a whole day binge watching podcast after podcast, and the comfort I got and knowledge I've now acquired (also about myself) is so amazing. This and Jordan Petersons interview were incredible and relatable on so many levels and I have so much gratitude and thanks for you, for sharing these fantastic journeys with us ! thank you.
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Thankyou Fearne for your beautifully frank, energised & inspired discussion about your quality of life, your work ethic & mental habits. Your outlook & expression is SO refreshing, your honesty & clarity SO revealing. Thankyou for the public call & invitation To recognize our own light and love
Love Ferne, she's so relatable and brave. Thanks for sharing x
I love Fearne and always have! So genuine and has loads to offer. Plus her style 😍
Amazing. What can I possibly say that hasn't been said before? Nothing! So I won't. Outstanding.
Fearne talking about her experience with imposter syndrome is so refreshing to hear.
I feel this way a lot at work. But to hear this from one of your guests gives me confidence that this is completely normal.
Keep up the amazing work!
I loved Fearne Cotton while growing up! Seeing her on screen all the time Top of the Pops!
Wow, was been brought here by the first 'Conversation Card' I picked... What an incredible idea. ❤️
Incredible podcast 🙌 thank you so much to everyone involved 🤗
Fearne Cotton, thank you so much for sharing your life journey, you're a huge inspiration 🤗
I've always had a crazy crush on fern. Since I was a kid and I used to see her on CBBC. Up until now. Saying that. Now I'm an adult I admire her work ethic. She's grafted and really made a women out of her self.
she's fantastic isn't she
Wonderful! So interesting, relevant and useful. Thank you both.
Aww, it's sad knowing the struggles behind the camera. I get the pressure of feeling you have to be almost a characture of yourself, but I've always felt warmth from the Ferne! Legend :)
Omg, I relate to Fearne so much right now lol Brilliant Interview! Really inspiring.
thanks christopher 🙌🏽
this is a great podcast, a great learning experience where you have to become you. and whatever people think of you let it pas you by.
Absolutely love your podcast, so glad I found it x
Wow, what an inspiring podcast - thank you Fearne and Steven! You have no idea how many people's lives you will have touched and impacted with this interview, thank you ❤
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Brilliant once again, Steven. Thanks
I always loved Ferne because she seemed so positive, and just a good all round friendly bubbly person.
Thanks for these podcasts. Really helpful in these times x
Love how open and honest Fern is an inspiration! X
Loved this conversation. Keep up the great work Steven 👍💯
Thanks Liam
A very open and honest lady. Great inerview. It's a theme of these videos that the person's life was formulated in their childhood. As James Baldwin might say "Children have never been very good at listening to their parents, but they have never failed to imitate them.". Imposter Syndrome is also a common theme I feel because deep down when we talk to ourselves we never really feel we deserve anything special. This maybe because we have created an environment were celebrities are idolised and the celebrity themselves just see's themselves as a normal person (which of course they are). Hense they don't feel worthy of such adulation.
I love Fearne.. I feel like I relate to her so much. Her podcast has really helped me no end. She's a beautifl soul.
Thank you both. Loved every minute of this. 💕.
First few seconds were very powerful and a lots to take from. Thanks for this great content, much respect Steven🙌
I found you first on these podcasts, then bought your audiobook and seen you now on Dragon's Den. Well done, and continue taking the time to stop and reflect on how far you've come.
I get a lot out of these podcasts, and also, your audio book.
Always putting out valuable content 💯
🙏🏽 glad you enjoyed it
Fearne is for me one of the prettiest girls ever.
Loved this interview❣️Thank you❣️
One my favorites to date💜 I’ve always loved Fearne love her even more now💜
Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant! Thanks for the book reccomendation too, I wouldn't have bought it but so glad I did on the back of this. If you can get your mind to work with you rather than against, the sky is the limit! xx
Love this, best one yet!
This was another great episode, Steven. I feel I am learning so much checking in to listen to each podcast release. Being the same age and growing up in the same era as Fearne, meant I was really able to identify with a lot of what Fearne said. I am looking forward to reading her book. She is a good human
Half way through, another great start to the week !! Thanks Steven
🙌🏽 thanks Ben
Wow, Fearn is so brave sharing her very personal experiences & challenges w mental health. Thanks for your transparency & intimacy 👏 ❤
What an incredible conversation. 💛
Amazing interview! Loved this!
thanks faye 🙌🏽
Wow Fearne I love you! 💖 So relatable and wise. It's rare that I agree with and relate to 100% everything a guest says but I do with this. Love the message Fearne shares, so totally real, deep and humbling. Your podcast is my daily learning Steven, thank you!💙
So many great guests on this podcast, really enjoyable to listen to on the way to work, on a walk etc. Keep it up!
thanks ben! We will don't you worry
Don’t know how this came about but I’m having physical emotions come up listening to this podcast! Panic attacks hit home with me so definitely feeling this!