Dr Justin Coulson on The Morning Show with Kylie Gillies and Larry Emdur 23/10/2017, talking about the six things parents should try to avoid saying to their children.
Instead of talking over him it would have been nice for the hosts to actually give him the space to respond to the last topic. Seemed like they were uncomfortable with the strategy and chose to belittle it and dismiss it. If what you've tried in the past doesn't work it might be time to properly consider new approaches rather than shutting them down...
I'm over here in America. He talks on Parental Guidance about how Australia needs reform in thinking, but I'm over here trying to learn and be a good parent. Thank you. :)
Summary: 1) Don't say "Calm down", instead say "I can see you're upset" 2) Avoid praise "You're so clever", instead say "How did you feel when ... " then you can praise afterwards 3) Avoid "You're just like your mother/father" avoid negative downward comparison, instead say "Wow, this is really challenging for you" 4) Avoid "Because I said so", instead "There is a reason I said ..." 5) Avoid "I'm was bad at X too", instead "It's amazing what we can do when we try" 6) Avoid "What a stupid thing to do" instead say nothing Watch the video for the nuances.
@@whereareyou6296 no, evidence shows that adults who were beaten when they were young are more unlikely to be unopen and can affect their relationships
I explain so much, that whenever I say: - because, and are about to make a valid statement for WHY I asked, they just go do it, that's faster than listening to my "rant" Most of the time, if they think about it, it makes sense, and they will do it. (worked in a kindergarten for a while)
As a childless spinster aunt, my first thoughts about what never to say to my nieces and nephew are, "No" "Don't" & "Can't" Hey it's not my task to discipline 😜
A very good reminder how to respect your children as little people and how to communicate with each other clearly.
Thank you.
Instead of talking over him it would have been nice for the hosts to actually give him the space to respond to the last topic. Seemed like they were uncomfortable with the strategy and chose to belittle it and dismiss it. If what you've tried in the past doesn't work it might be time to properly consider new approaches rather than shutting them down...
Agreed
At 11 yrs old, I said, "Dad, look at this story I wrote. The teacher is going to have it published." Dad says, "So what, you're failing math!!"
I'm over here in America. He talks on Parental Guidance about how Australia needs reform in thinking, but I'm over here trying to learn and be a good parent. Thank you. :)
Thanks Doc I’ve learned a lot from your videos and I love the show Parental Guidance..
Summary:
1) Don't say "Calm down", instead say "I can see you're upset"
2) Avoid praise "You're so clever", instead say "How did you feel when ... " then you can praise afterwards
3) Avoid "You're just like your mother/father" avoid negative downward comparison, instead say "Wow, this is really challenging for you"
4) Avoid "Because I said so", instead "There is a reason I said ..."
5) Avoid "I'm was bad at X too", instead "It's amazing what we can do when we try"
6) Avoid "What a stupid thing to do" instead say nothing
Watch the video for the nuances.
Should we smack our children ?
@@whereareyou6296 no, evidence shows that adults who were beaten when they were young are more unlikely to be unopen and can affect their relationships
@@spongebobsquarepants8403 so they’re likely to be open?
So much information in such a short video, amazing! Thank you
Dr. you forget one major thing to NEVER , ever tell to your kids : " i love you BECAUSE..:
I wanna know what he was going to say before he ran out of time
I explain so much, that whenever I say: - because, and are about to make a valid statement for WHY I asked, they just go do it, that's faster than listening to my "rant" Most of the time, if they think about it, it makes sense, and they will do it.
(worked in a kindergarten for a while)
That is manipulation
As a childless spinster aunt, my first thoughts about what never to say to my nieces and nephew are, "No" "Don't" & "Can't" Hey it's not my task to discipline 😜