Most speakers who talk about changing your reality, also establish emphasis on WORKING HARD to obtain it. It's about building yourself up, and focusing on your goals as a whole. It's about not giving up, and knowing your worth; NEVER MAKING EXCUSES. Changing your reality = reprogramming your mind's self-doubt. Get rid of self-doubt, set your fear to the side and leash it, and you'll get farther than you ever thought possible. Step outside your comfort zone. Most people never will. I know people that won't step foot into the gym because they don't want to workout in front of others...but then they complain about not looking like they want. Do what makes you scared. Do what makes you uncomfortable. Not everyone is going to be rich, not everyone will be a movie star, etc. But everyone can be successful and live a really happy life. Depends what you're idea of success is. To me, being happy and helping others is my idea of success. Making people laugh gives me so much satisfaction, and my ability to make mostly everyone feel worth something... makes my life worth something. So, it is a lie if you are told that if you can imagine it, and believe it, it will come true. You have to imagine it, feel it, create a plan, and WORK for it. Jump in like this guy said. You have to GO FOR IT. Of course just imagining it won't get you anywhere.
The Ted talk, "Stop making Excuses. Create Your Own Reality", and Gary Whitehill, together have been a catalyst of inspiration, motivation and change in my life. Gary is a man out there blazing new trails in entrepreneurship. He is encouraging women and men of any ethnicity to reach for more. Gary is excelling in business, both nationally and internationally, he is speaking from experience, and with that experience he is trying to open door for others. True I am Caucasian, but I was raised in a predominantly Hispanic community in LA. There should not be any barriers to success, regardless of ethnicity, socioeconomic standing or personal beliefs. I admire Gary deeply for reaching out to help others, and I will always be grateful for his inspirational life, that has brought change to my own life.
"luck is an accumulation of superior efforts and focused execution"... one of the most inspiring things i have ever heard...im truly motivated and i hope one day when i will be great woman i have always dreamed of, i will meet Gary Whitehill and say THANK YOU!!
I love the way this guy (and I'm a guy- not that it makes or should make a difference.) that he acknowledges the discrimination against half of the population of the world. and against half- the other half- of the whole, which really really pulls this world apart at the moment. spread love, amputate infections of hate, leaving only the heart. The heart is the only solution now, speaking from it, living from it, and creating LOVE from it.
It's important to never quit. This is my little story : I paint since I remember myself. When I got my first job and I was able to afford art supplies, I painted almost everyday and also had my full-time day job. I didn't rest a lot and lost some people because I was never available for weekend staff. I did also looked tired. But, doing this for 6 years, I started having my first sales. I still can't believe that people I don't know are willing to spend some money for the paintings I make. I saw this in a dream when I was 8. Because I wanted to be a painter since I was 8. In my country, to enter an art school you have to take some exams in which 900 people with the same dream as you participate- and they only take 120. To be able to even have a chance to succeed in this exams, you have to go to private preparation schools. In my 20s I never had money for this, so I just studied something else in the uni. I thought I would never have a chance to enter the art school and this made me incredibly sad every year those exams took place. In my 33 years, I decided I had to, I just had to try, even if I was a lot older than the average art student, I had to just give it a try. I made it, I am now a student again at uni, while I also work. It is demanding and people wonder why I do this, but I've never been happier in my life and every night, before I fall asleep I dream of my first personal exhibision and I just can't wait !
Just an FYI for a rant at 6:15 - there is more than enough resources and housing for every single person on this planet to live prosperous... In USA, for example, there are 6 homes rotting away empty for every homeless person. So the problem is not a lack of resources but the distribution of them...
it was hella funny, dude was like beating on the chest needs to stop, and then, almost in the same breath he was like I made a company from the ground up in less than four months and I'm super badass. girl power brah
I ❤️his passion and compassion and directness ! Let's stop avoiding the elephant in the room!! Thank you for talking about this in a candid way! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I watched the first few minutes of this and turned to the comments as soon as he said "I'm a women" first off, when his mother was turned down for the assistant vice president job that was YEARS AGO when women and men's rights were ALOT different from today. If fact, women have more control now and probably more then men we just don't see it because we are too blinded by "let's be equal and feminism" women are equal actually above equal now a days.
+Ruby Dechambre I also immediately turned to the comments after he said "I'm a women". But, it was because he said "One word... actually two" but it was in fact 3.
Petty excuses will actually stop most people. My topic for my own subscribers this week. Have you ever met someone who keeps saying they want to change physically or career-wise or just be a better person? Then year in and out they stay the same. The reason is more complex than you think. Part of it is laziness for sure. But there is another aspect. We, as humans, are comfortable with what is our normal--for good or bad. Many actually fear the change for the better--as it is unknown territory. It seems strange but this is what we are in our subconscious--the unhealthy person can't picture being healthy, the unsuccessful actually fears to an extent success. We defeat this by being aware of it and following the simple adage that there is nothing to fear---but the fear itself. If we conquer this fear of the unknown the excuses vanish. Something to think about this week and I hope this helps someone out there---Charles
I would love to view discussions on how to deal with unfair dismissals for the good of mankind, patients and for the sake of the truth and good health practices !!!
How about statistics of women vs men as coal miners, septic tank cleaners, sewage workers, garbage collectors, all the unappealing, life-threatening jobs you can think of. Why is it only inequality when it comes to comfortable jobs?
I know 2 females in my area who have worked in local lumber mills. One did okay and moved on. The other was relentlessly harassed and bullied to the point of tears, and then major anxiety. She is very able-bodied and good looking, but the guys at the mill she worked were angry about her simply being there and had a lot of sexual aggression. She wouldn't repeat what actually happened, what they said and did, but she went to management about it finally after several weeks. That was after struggling with what these guys were putting her through and the fact that she's not a rat. She didn't want to tell on them. But she had to do something. A couple weeks later (if that) she was laid off. That sort of thing still happens. You don't hear about it because those women can't even repeat the things said to them or done. Most of these women can't afford lawyers to challenge that in court, either. Also >>> this guy is not a tradesman, he's a business man, so he can only speak to that work place and what he sees and hears there...
+taipz And Jackie Sparx gave you an example of a woman who went for an uncomfortable job and couldn't be equal in the workplace _because of harassment_. You know why you don't hear about women's inequality at uncomfortable jobs as often? The same reason you don't hear about *men's* inequality at uncomfortable jobs - not nearly as much as you hear about how hard it is to be an entertainer/politician/athlete... The society gives even less fucks about the working class in general than they do about middle class women. And women in the working class are in the greatest predicament of all. I agree that this video represents the kind of conformity and unrealistic expectations that make modern feminism look like a load of whining. And it's the same kind of victory-addict thinking that makes asshole men like Donald Trump be assholes. That doesn't mean that the actual problems that underprivileged women face are not something worth fighting for.
dov linhos 1. bullying or teasing is normal human behavior. its not a female problem. 2. harassment has nothing to do with my point. you feminazis should go rally at some social justice warrior gathering.
dov linhos "women with real problems". every little thing is a problem for women. like the example of the person you quoted. and being male doesnt mean you are not a feminazi, dubmass.
I thought this was very encouraging. I have no desire to be a business person. But someday hope to be financially independent. Money is not everything however. Relationships are the most important thing in life.
What a great video! I took away the great advice he gave on how to live your passion, how to communicate it and the importance of surrounding yourself with good people. He's a true Eagle!
This was wonderful. I love it. Excellent. Excellent speech. Very motivating. Brilliant and successful speakers. I totally get his intro. He speaking to a room full of women. And the next subject is his mom. And he speaks so passionately about him mom being turned down for a job when he was six years old. His mother motivated him. By her rejection. It was really a great speech. Amazing. Please relax. Please be open minded. And please listen to the speech. Too much anger tension and anxiety.
In the uk HR are NOT there to protect the interests of the company. They are there to ensure the company adheres to UK employment law, so therefore meaning they are impartial when it comes to the needs or interests of the company. To do it properly they may go against what the company want so ensure a duty of care is adhered to.
Uh... just a suggestion y'all.. Why don't we all set up our minds to only comment about the topic in order to improve our understanding, ooorrrr compliment the person doing the speech for attempting to help (?) Juuusst a suggestion you know. Y'all think about it. You always have the option of not watching if don't like and/or agree.
I'm soo inspired right now but what to do with all this inspiration? I can't think of anything that I'm passionate about. I'm currently perusing a law degree but I'm soo miserable every day in class.
Feels. Like. I. Just. Got. Sold something.. like this was this guys internal monologue he tells himself to repress guilt and convince himself he’s making a difference...
+Haingo Rajaonarison Respect is earned, not given freely. While I agree that attacking the presenter is nonconstructive, there are a few things we can constructively criticize. 1. Attacking the audience. It's in his voice, his face and his body language. 2. Subject matter. The title is: Create your own reality. Not: Feminism with clickbait title.
Another story need be told: Upon loosing a "career" with a fortune 500 Co. 25 yrs. ago, I built a small business. Seeking every opportunity to make it work I attended a "Successful Bidders Workshop" (State level )and quickly discovered as a middle aged, white and single male there was NOTHING there for me, the day was spent listening about set asides for women and dark skinned entrepreneurs. You want to succeed you need work harder or smarter then the competition and probably both. I succeeded, NOT because but in spite of being the dreaded white, middle aged and single male.
Mate, your mum was born to be an entrepreneur. I'm sure she has been making a difference in your and other people's lives, because that clearly was her call. No BS excuses need to apply.
You know: I'm listening to this video after spending years figuring out what is wrong with me. After years of working my ass off, being nice, getting good education, looking good and all that and then being treated like poop (including abuse and bullying). And I guess for a long time I have been in denial that my only fault is that I'm born a woman. And you know, I might have started thinking better about men if none of you missed the main point which this man (in a video made): "In early 90s the only way to succeed for a woman was to sleep her way around or to be submissive". Guess, what, nothing has changed since early 90s. And now, if any of you had tried to be REALLY submissive for at least a week of your life, I might listen to your opinion. And, also, it is sad to see how you pay attention to his "improper" English (pointing out that I'm a woman are 3 words and not 2) so you can feel better about yourself when you know who you are and what you do every single day to women or anyone who is weaker or nicer than you by definition.
Definitively thumbs up! I'm very picky with the talks I like and share. Seldom do I comment. And... this talk deserves many more positive, conscious, comments than what I just read. It has the right intention; and although it seams simple it actually nails it on the nitty gritty regarding the right base and 'fuel' required for aiming to and successfully reaching your goal (of course given you already figured out the obvious: an idea that is viable, not just hard work but smart work, etc.) I liked the particular tips on identifying the right people to work with you. Thanks!
shout out to playandrepeat; my first boss was a woman and I had no intention of remaining in the corporate sector and eventually migrated back to academe but she was my mentor; my friend; my teacher. She was born in New Zealand and saw the world as full of opportunities and responsibilities, congruent with the ideas of both my parents. I felt great pain after a few years because through a business partner she took on board, and trusted (I did not) her sterling qualities of honour and trust were not up to the callous act of this other woman, who during a brief dip in the market revealed that her husband had been buying up shares in Maggie's business and she was out. Investments in property; equity in the business itself which was thriving by the way. Maggie moved back to New Zealand and became a legal secretary. Does that make you want to kill someone, briefly before you pull yourself together???? It does me. I watched the presentation, think this young man is sincere, but he really doesn't know what he's talking about.
i feel like i need to adress the wonder that internet is, im here 7 years after this ted talk happened watching it, i was 11 at the time, if it wasnt for internet id never see this, actually if it wasnt for internet i wouldnt be me... have a great day everyone :)
As a Jamaican and from a country that has the most female mangers. I find it disheartening that the majority of those same female managers will never help another colleague. Instead they will tell you you have leadership qualities and how well you work but as the saying goes " they want you to do good but never better than them. " Sometimes I wish women would take the time to get to know another female before making a snap judgment that is wrong.
He said he hates people like him. Really? This is who you want speaking for and with women? Or men? He may be a swell fellow, but he sure sounds like a bad salesman.
Wow! Wow! Wow! Damn. I thought I would have some thoughtful comment to give on this video, but I don't. All that comes to mind is DAMN this video is good!
The main problem with this talk is that this speaker didn't translate the lessons he learnt from his life into something general so that everyone can make sense of them in thier own perspective. I admit that he say "this and that are ridiculous" however if you take his perspective his points are actually legit and can be apply to anyone. So guys don't be so critical cuz all the hate comments are basically doing the same thing as him: saying this talk is ridiculous, and doing so will not help you to learn what the speaker want to convey!!
I don't think you need to hate yourself (pandering to the audience) because the majority of people who look like you happen to act in a way that is detrimental to other groups. What about passionately working against paradigms that oppress others, regardless of how the oppressors look?
This is the basic sales pitch of every network marketing company to which I have ever been introduced. This is a nice, useful philosophy, but it's nothing new, and in some places, a little condescending.
Women need to stop asking permission? Why? I need to ask for permission from my superiors at work before I break routine. I can't just barge into a boardroom meeting I wasn't invited to. Is this guy saying that women should be able to override their superiors orders and do whatever they want? The workplace would become chaos. No one should be able to break the corporate chain of command whether they be man or woman.
The lie says that if you can imagine it and believe it, it will come true. It says the mind has the power to create a true reality, which it can not. It is the minds favorite myth because it is what our minds want to believe the most; it gives our mind life's job. This is what makes it the most powerful and dangerous of all myths. If it is night you can believe it is day all you want but that wont make it true. The truth is there is only one truth, one reality we all share. The ultimate truth of life has been reveled and it turned out to be better than anything we could have imagined. Google *_Truth Contest_* and read the top entry. What is said can and will turn this world right side up, this is truth the evidence suggests.
"I hate guys like me" says we're just being a dominant alpha male eliminating each other out in the business industry and I want you all ladies to know that! So here is how you will beat us at our own game... :)
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Its ironic the title says ''stop making excuses''.. although Whitehill repeatedly is confirming that sexist and white privileged rules are so apparent. All this is doing is reminding people that they have a excuse or a reason for their failures
I'm trying to figure out his original statistical statement about some large number of women wanting to make it into CEO positions but only 4% of them are there. What percentage of men are there? what percentage of men want it just as well as the women who do? I understand there are differences and all that jazz but I'm sure the stats are probably pretty close to the same.
I had to write another comment. As a woman I am so shocked at how fake people can be. As a successful executive I know I wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't have female mentors. It don't matter if your male or female. If you have a phd and don't have networking , support, and a mentor you won't make it far. No matter your schooling. You will get to a certain part, but get stuck if there is no one to guide you. Especially women. I've experienced this. He not being sorry for being a male. Through him he is acknowledging all the lack of support for women and also women of color. He's not ashamed. He's acknowledging a the issues through him. Sheesh. Women don't have it the same. And women still aren't the preferred leaders. Period.
"Lean In" is NOT about "asking for permission." It is about NOT waiting or asking for permission. The book is obliged to examine all the factors that could explain why so few women are leaders in both business and government, and the big conclusion is that most women don't go for it. They hold themselves back. So please don't characterize "Lean In" as a book that blames the culture. It holds women accountable for their own success.
This guys numbers are WAY off and dates re: population we are ALREADY at seven billion and he's also wrong about the urgent need for more jobs. The urgent need is for LESS JOBS and preservation of the Natural Resources which we are currently using 50% more of than we haev to use which is non sustainable. Pretty sure our survival depends on water, air and food not money or jobs. He sounds like someone that is used to living the good life with creature comforts that is afraid of losing them. We have a lot of people like that in the U.S. people that are psychologically dependent upon a high standard of living. It's easier to be poor if you 've never had money, but when you do and then lose it that's much harder to deal with . The other item he is missing is while it's great to encourage people to make so much money at the same time, if they consume according to that large income it means they are using so much more natural resources than what is necessary. I think there should be penalties and special taxes exacted on people based on how large their ecological footprint is. If you want to drive some huge gas guzzler because it's cool or whatever then you should pay a special tax for that as you are contributing to the problem. We need to learn to use LESS which means maybe people should not all want to be rich as that lifestyle of the rich is using MORE not less. Unless they plan to live simply and frugally and use the excess income altruistically which some seem to be doing, but too many are still into making so much money so they can have so much stuff. look at dr Phil as an example making 80 mill a year, living in a 30 mill dollar home with 2 PEOPLE!!! can you imagine how much energy it costs to heat and cool that size/ type of a home? They are using up way more resources than are others, in every single thing they do. Their cars, furniture, homes, clothes, etc. Then again the money / penalty we wont 'be able to breathe now will we, but maybe it would act as a deterrent and awareness to people not to have so much , using more than one needs when there is a planetary crisis is just wrong, and it's also wrong when people are w/o basic needs. I'm sorry but I feel it is immoral to do both, yet motivational speakers get up and encourage people to do so and virtually everyone wants to be "rich" at the expense of the planet and others. We just can't afford to keep behaving that way. We are already using more than we have in the way of NON RENEWABLE resources, so don't you think people should be simplifying ? not acquiring more and more?
Debbe Decker Good points. The American dream is a nightmare. Oprah, Dr. Phil, etc, are all trying to sell the same thing as this guy. This guy is a consumate yuppie.
Worst Ted Talk I've seen yet. Wow. If you get more than 10% dislikes on a motivational talk, you're screwing up pretty properly. That's the problem with TEDx vs. TED.
He probably means well and wants to support women but his delivery needs a women's assistance. I thought the first 7.50 minutes were condescending! His suggestion of knowing and posting the "why, how and what" you believe in your business or whatever you stand for was helpful. It's not easy to give a TED talk. He spoke his mind and best of all spoke up with respect for his Mother's struggle..
I think the point, for some of the ranters here, is that women get paid less than men IN THE SAME FIELD, FOR THE SAME JOB, not in distinguishing between salaries in dance and engineering, where more women have chosen or been directed towards one career over another. I think that is ironically enough called a "straw man argument".
Most speakers who talk about changing your reality, also establish emphasis on WORKING HARD to obtain it. It's about building yourself up, and focusing on your goals as a whole. It's about not giving up, and knowing your worth; NEVER MAKING EXCUSES. Changing your reality = reprogramming your mind's self-doubt. Get rid of self-doubt, set your fear to the side and leash it, and you'll get farther than you ever thought possible. Step outside your comfort zone. Most people never will. I know people that won't step foot into the gym because they don't want to workout in front of others...but then they complain about not looking like they want. Do what makes you scared. Do what makes you uncomfortable.
Not everyone is going to be rich, not everyone will be a movie star, etc. But everyone can be successful and live a really happy life. Depends what you're idea of success is. To me, being happy and helping others is my idea of success. Making people laugh gives me so much satisfaction, and my ability to make mostly everyone feel worth something... makes my life worth something.
So, it is a lie if you are told that if you can imagine it, and believe it, it will come true. You have to imagine it, feel it, create a plan, and WORK for it. Jump in like this guy said. You have to GO FOR IT. Of course just imagining it won't get you anywhere.
i know it is kind of randomly asking but do anyone know of a good website to stream newly released movies online?
Truly said! Thanks so much!
The Ted talk, "Stop making Excuses. Create Your Own Reality", and Gary Whitehill, together have been a catalyst of inspiration, motivation and change in my life. Gary is a man out there blazing new trails in entrepreneurship. He is encouraging women and men of any ethnicity to reach for more. Gary is excelling in business, both nationally and internationally, he is speaking from experience, and with that experience he is trying to open door for others. True I am Caucasian, but I was raised in a predominantly Hispanic community in LA. There should not be any barriers to success, regardless of ethnicity, socioeconomic standing or personal beliefs. I admire Gary deeply for reaching out to help others, and I will always be grateful for his inspirational life, that has brought change to my own life.
"luck is an accumulation of superior efforts and focused execution"... one of the most inspiring things i have ever heard...im truly motivated and i hope one day when i will be great woman i have always dreamed of, i will meet Gary Whitehill and say THANK YOU!!
Whether it's for women or not, I'm motivated.
good, I enjoyed it also.
I love the way this guy (and I'm a guy- not that it makes or should make a difference.) that he acknowledges the discrimination against half of the population of the world. and against half- the other half- of the whole, which really really pulls this world apart at the moment. spread love, amputate infections of hate, leaving only the heart. The heart is the only solution now, speaking from it, living from it, and creating LOVE from it.
you sound like a kid...
Exactly. My job is not me, your job is not you. Your job does not define you.
It's important to never quit. This is my little story :
I paint since I remember myself. When I got my first job and I was able to afford art supplies, I painted almost everyday and also had my full-time day job. I didn't rest a lot and lost some people because I was never available for weekend staff. I did also looked tired. But, doing this for 6 years, I started having my first sales. I still can't believe that people I don't know are willing to spend some money for the paintings I make. I saw this in a dream when I was 8. Because I wanted to be a painter since I was 8. In my country, to enter an art school you have to take some exams in which 900 people with the same dream as you participate- and they only take 120. To be able to even have a chance to succeed in this exams, you have to go to private preparation schools. In my 20s I never had money for this, so I just studied something else in the uni. I thought I would never have a chance to enter the art school and this made me incredibly sad every year those exams took place. In my 33 years, I decided I had to, I just had to try, even if I was a lot older than the average art student, I had to just give it a try. I made it, I am now a student again at uni, while I also work. It is demanding and people wonder why I do this, but I've never been happier in my life and every night, before I fall asleep I dream of my first personal exhibision and I just can't wait !
Gary delivers-- in a thought provoking, motivational presentation!
Just an FYI for a rant at 6:15 - there is more than enough resources and housing for every single person on this planet to live prosperous... In USA, for example, there are 6 homes rotting away empty for every homeless person. So the problem is not a lack of resources but the distribution of them...
it was hella funny, dude was like beating on the chest needs to stop, and then, almost in the same breath he was like I made a company from the ground up in less than four months and I'm super badass. girl power brah
I ❤️his passion and compassion and directness ! Let's stop avoiding the elephant in the room!! Thank you for talking about this in a candid way! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Something about this talk felt very condescensing
i can agree in a way
Condescending
Thanks Anderson Blooper for the correction. You rock! 💪
the way he presents himself
He's condescending toward the male driven corporations. He's clearly not happy about it.
Never the less, atleast he raised his voice for women enterpreneurs.....even if he couldnt actually guide us much........it still means a lot
I watched the first few minutes of this and turned to the comments as soon as he said "I'm a women" first off, when his mother was turned down for the assistant vice president job that was YEARS AGO when women and men's rights were ALOT different from today. If fact, women have more control now and probably more then men we just don't see it because we are too blinded by "let's be equal and feminism" women are equal actually above equal now a days.
+Ruby Dechambre I also immediately turned to the comments after he said "I'm a women". But, it was because he said "One word... actually two" but it was in fact 3.
+Ryan Hallberg Hahaha, I did the exact same thing.
I did the same thing! XD he can't count for shit! lmfao
People dont buy what you do, they buy why you do it - simon sinek
Petty excuses will actually stop most people. My topic for my own subscribers this week. Have you ever met someone who keeps saying they want to change physically or career-wise or just be a better person? Then year in and out they stay the same. The reason is more complex than you think. Part of it is laziness for sure. But there is another aspect. We, as humans, are comfortable with what is our normal--for good or bad. Many actually fear the change for the better--as it is unknown territory. It seems strange but this is what we are in our subconscious--the unhealthy person can't picture being healthy, the unsuccessful actually fears to an extent success. We defeat this by being aware of it and following the simple adage that there is nothing to fear---but the fear itself. If we conquer this fear of the unknown the excuses vanish. Something to think about this week and I hope this helps someone out there---Charles
Oh god, I hope I'll find a man like Gary one day and then I'll never let him go. He's a true hero.
I was inspired so thank you!
This guy clearly doesn't know how to organize a talk and make a solid point. Not worth watching.
just goes to show how more and more folks 'follow' the pizzazz and no substance! talk, just talk.
All tatted up this is true, hours of pain for something we will die with!
I would love to view discussions on how to deal with unfair dismissals for the good of mankind, patients and for the sake of the truth and good health practices !!!
He definitely should have given Simon Sinek credit for "start with why".
managing intersecting multiple self created realities is awesome fun. I have thousands.
How about statistics of women vs men as coal miners, septic tank cleaners, sewage workers, garbage collectors, all the unappealing, life-threatening jobs you can think of. Why is it only inequality when it comes to comfortable jobs?
I know 2 females in my area who have worked in local lumber mills. One did okay and moved on. The other was relentlessly harassed and bullied to the point of tears, and then major anxiety. She is very able-bodied and good looking, but the guys at the mill she worked were angry about her simply being there and had a lot of sexual aggression.
She wouldn't repeat what actually happened, what they said and did, but she went to management about it finally after several weeks. That was after struggling with what these guys were putting her through and the fact that she's not a rat. She didn't want to tell on them. But she had to do something. A couple weeks later (if that) she was laid off. That sort of thing still happens. You don't hear about it because those women can't even repeat the things said to them or done. Most of these women can't afford lawyers to challenge that in court, either.
Also >>> this guy is not a tradesman, he's a business man, so he can only speak to that work place and what he sees and hears there...
Jackie Sparx were not talking about harassment. were talking about women crying inequality only when it comes to comfortable jobs.
+taipz
And Jackie Sparx gave you an example of a woman who went for an uncomfortable job and couldn't be equal in the workplace _because of harassment_.
You know why you don't hear about women's inequality at uncomfortable jobs as often? The same reason you don't hear about *men's* inequality at uncomfortable jobs - not nearly as much as you hear about how hard it is to be an entertainer/politician/athlete... The society gives even less fucks about the working class in general than they do about middle class women.
And women in the working class are in the greatest predicament of all.
I agree that this video represents the kind of conformity and unrealistic expectations that make modern feminism look like a load of whining. And it's the same kind of victory-addict thinking that makes asshole men like Donald Trump be assholes. That doesn't mean that the actual problems that underprivileged women face are not something worth fighting for.
dov linhos 1. bullying or teasing is normal human behavior. its not a female problem. 2. harassment has nothing to do with my point. you feminazis should go rally at some social justice warrior gathering.
dov linhos "women with real problems". every little thing is a problem for women. like the example of the person you quoted.
and being male doesnt mean you are not a feminazi, dubmass.
I thought this was very encouraging. I have no desire to be a business person. But someday hope to be financially independent. Money is not everything however. Relationships are the most important thing in life.
What a great video! I took away the great advice he gave on how to live your passion, how to communicate it and the importance of surrounding yourself with good people. He's a true Eagle!
amazing talk, thank you so much! Got me very inspired.
I can appreciate motivating us women but your white knight I-hate-myself tactic is really unnecessary.
Thank you! I rolled my eyes so hard on that part.
100%. The first thing he does is apologize for being a white male. Why?
Wow exactly my thoughts
Surround yourself with right people! I strongly agree with that!
This was wonderful. I love it. Excellent. Excellent speech. Very motivating. Brilliant and successful speakers. I totally get his intro. He speaking to a room full of women. And the next subject is his mom. And he speaks so passionately about him mom being turned down for a job when he was six years old. His mother motivated him. By her rejection. It was really a great speech. Amazing. Please relax. Please be open minded. And please listen to the speech. Too much anger tension and anxiety.
In the uk HR are NOT there to protect the interests of the company. They are there to ensure the company adheres to UK employment law, so therefore meaning they are impartial when it comes to the needs or interests of the company. To do it properly they may go against what the company want so ensure a duty of care is adhered to.
Uh... just a suggestion y'all.. Why don't we all set up our minds to only comment about the topic in order to improve our understanding, ooorrrr compliment the person doing the speech for attempting to help (?)
Juuusst a suggestion you know. Y'all think about it. You always have the option of not watching if don't like and/or agree.
i 100 %agree with u ,mr mediocre. u are not mediocre...u are awesome!!!
Despite the negative remarks (smh u just can't please everyone)... I love TED talks! ❤️
Excellent Video.
As soon as he basically started with, "I'm a white male...sorry", I checked out.
Racer X I also thought it was inappropriate!
Racer X I agree with you, but unfortunately racism is very alive in this country, and there is nothing wrong with recognize that
Then you missed an amazing presentation.
I feel bad for you
But it wasn't amazing. I watched the entire thing. When I say I checked out, I mean I was disgusted with his way of thinking.
I'm sorry you didn't take away anything positive from it.
I'm soo inspired right now but what to do with all this inspiration? I can't think of anything that I'm passionate about. I'm currently perusing a law degree but I'm soo miserable every day in class.
You still alive?
Did you finish the degree? What's your story now? Inspire someone 💚
Feels. Like. I. Just. Got. Sold something.. like this was this guys internal monologue he tells himself to repress guilt and convince himself he’s making a difference...
i like this! shud have more views!
We can make polite comments here, please let us respect each other even if we disagree on many topics.
+Haingo Rajaonarison
Respect is earned, not given freely.
While I agree that attacking the presenter is nonconstructive, there are a few things we can constructively criticize.
1. Attacking the audience. It's in his voice, his face and his body language.
2. Subject matter.
The title is: Create your own reality.
Not: Feminism with clickbait title.
This guy is awesome.
Another story need be told: Upon loosing a "career" with a fortune 500 Co. 25 yrs. ago, I built a small business. Seeking every opportunity to make it work I attended a "Successful Bidders Workshop" (State level )and quickly discovered as a middle aged, white and single male there was NOTHING there for me, the day was spent listening about set asides for women and dark skinned entrepreneurs. You want to succeed you need work harder or smarter then the competition and probably both. I succeeded, NOT because but in spite of being the dreaded white, middle aged and single male.
Mate, your mum was born to be an entrepreneur.
I'm sure she has been making a difference in your and other people's lives, because that clearly was her call.
No BS excuses need to apply.
2:45 "i'm a woman" word count = 2
Let’s see if we can make this work... IMA WOMAN. That looks right doesn’t it, on a texting screen?
You know: I'm listening to this video after spending years figuring out what is wrong with me. After years of working my ass off, being nice, getting good education, looking good and all that and then being treated like poop (including abuse and bullying). And I guess for a long time I have been in denial that my only fault is that I'm born a woman. And you know, I might have started thinking better about men if none of you missed the main point which this man (in a video made): "In early 90s the only way to succeed for a woman was to sleep her way around or to be submissive". Guess, what, nothing has changed since early 90s. And now, if any of you had tried to be REALLY submissive for at least a week of your life, I might listen to your opinion. And, also, it is sad to see how you pay attention to his "improper" English (pointing out that I'm a woman are 3 words and not 2) so you can feel better about yourself when you know who you are and what you do every single day to women or anyone who is weaker or nicer than you by definition.
Im a woman is three words.
Steven Bassett I am a women (4)
The average self help book summarized for 16min. definitely not gonna change your life.
Definitively thumbs up!
I'm very picky with the talks I like and share. Seldom do I comment. And... this talk deserves many more positive, conscious, comments than what I just read. It has the right intention; and although it seams simple it actually nails it on the nitty gritty regarding the right base and 'fuel' required for aiming to and successfully reaching your goal (of course given you already figured out the obvious: an idea that is viable, not just hard work but smart work, etc.) I liked the particular tips on identifying the right people to work with you. Thanks!
shout out to playandrepeat; my first boss was a woman and I had no intention of remaining in the corporate sector and eventually migrated back to academe but she was my mentor; my friend; my teacher. She was born in New Zealand and saw the world as full of opportunities and responsibilities, congruent with the ideas of both my parents. I felt great pain after a few years because through a business partner she took on board, and trusted (I did not) her sterling qualities of honour and trust were not up to the callous act of this other woman, who during a brief dip in the market revealed that her husband had been buying up shares in Maggie's business and she was out. Investments in property; equity in the business itself which was thriving by the way. Maggie moved back to New Zealand and became a legal secretary. Does that make you want to kill someone, briefly before you pull yourself together???? It does me. I watched the presentation, think this young man is sincere, but he really doesn't know what he's talking about.
you provided hows instead of whats which is really helpful
"Lights... Camera... Meltdown!"
i feel like i need to adress the wonder that internet is, im here 7 years after this ted talk happened watching it, i was 11 at the time, if it wasnt for internet id never see this, actually if it wasnt for internet i wouldnt be me...
have a great day everyone :)
As a Jamaican and from a country that has the most female mangers. I find it disheartening that the majority of those same female managers will never help another colleague. Instead they will tell you you have leadership qualities and how well you work but as the saying goes " they want you to do good but never better than them. " Sometimes I wish women would take the time to get to know another female before making a snap judgment that is wrong.
Really great things said by you sir ....you already made a huge difference nd thanks for motivating us to do the same .
thank you gary
straight to the point, love it!!!
Thank you, very inspiring.
"I'ma" is not a word. No. Go stand in the corner.
knowledge is power
He said he hates people like him.
Really? This is who you want speaking for and with women? Or men?
He may be a swell fellow, but he sure sounds like a bad salesman.
Wow! Wow! Wow! Damn. I thought I would have some thoughtful comment to give on this video, but I don't. All that comes to mind is DAMN this video is good!
The main problem with this talk is that this speaker didn't translate the lessons he learnt from his life into something general so that everyone can make sense of them in thier own perspective. I admit that he say "this and that are ridiculous" however if you take his perspective his points are actually legit and can be apply to anyone. So guys don't be so critical cuz all the hate comments are basically doing the same thing as him: saying this talk is ridiculous, and doing so will not help you to learn what the speaker want to convey!!
I don't think you need to hate yourself (pandering to the audience) because the majority of people who look like you happen to act in a way that is detrimental to other groups. What about passionately working against paradigms that oppress others, regardless of how the oppressors look?
So true. So true. Even people can become an excuse/become a personified excuse. Why? I don't know
praiseworthy.
Its a Man's Man's world Yes it is its sad but it is what it is !
There should be TEd talks just for men. I really think it's necessary.
This is the basic sales pitch of every network marketing company to which I have ever been introduced. This is a nice, useful philosophy, but it's nothing new, and in some places, a little condescending.
Women need to stop asking permission? Why? I need to ask for permission from my superiors at work before I break routine. I can't just barge into a boardroom meeting I wasn't invited to. Is this guy saying that women should be able to override their superiors orders and do whatever they want? The workplace would become chaos. No one should be able to break the corporate chain of command whether they be man or woman.
Soothing, I loved it!
Why don't they have Lindsay Lohan as a guidance counsellor too?........
Don't follow your passion it may be an allusion but take it with you.
Here's a guy I never want to hang with.
The lie says that if you can imagine it and believe it, it will come true. It says the mind has the power to create a true reality, which it can not. It is the minds favorite myth because it is what our minds want to believe the most; it gives our mind life's job. This is what makes it the most powerful and dangerous of all myths. If it is night you can believe it is day all you want but that wont make it true. The truth is there is only one truth, one reality we all share. The ultimate truth of life has been reveled and it turned out to be better than anything we could have imagined. Google *_Truth Contest_* and read the top entry. What is said can and will turn this world right side up, this is truth the evidence suggests.
reality is the almighty
First 3 pages.. what a revelation!
+Grace Ful they're fooling all of you.
no, what they say is that if you take action, your dreams can come true.
+Grace Ful This lecture is oly for the women.fk him pussie fcker
"I hate guys like me" says we're just being a dominant alpha male eliminating each other out in the business industry and I want you all ladies to know that! So here is how you will beat us at our own game... :)
Part of our job is to remove those unclear ideas, those excuses that hold you back to start discovering your purpose in life. We really matter about abundance becomes in your only reality.Find me out for more details .
Its ironic the title says ''stop making excuses''.. although Whitehill repeatedly is confirming that sexist and white privileged rules are so apparent. All this is doing is reminding people that they have a excuse or a reason for their failures
He is reminding then to move past the social barriers.
This guy just appears to be someone who thinks he has knowledge that others dont. Kind of feels like an insult to women
Great talk!
I'm trying to figure out his original statistical statement about some large number of women wanting to make it into CEO positions but only 4% of them are there. What percentage of men are there? what percentage of men want it just as well as the women who do? I understand there are differences and all that jazz but I'm sure the stats are probably pretty close to the same.
"I hate people like me" ... Then change. Stop making excuses. I remember reading that somewhere in the title of this video...
I had to write another comment. As a woman I am so shocked at how fake people can be. As a successful executive I know I wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't have female mentors. It don't matter if your male or female. If you have a phd and don't have networking , support, and a mentor you won't make it far. No matter your schooling. You will get to a certain part, but get stuck if there is no one to guide you. Especially women. I've experienced this. He not being sorry for being a male. Through him he is acknowledging all the lack of support for women and also women of color. He's not ashamed. He's acknowledging a the issues through him. Sheesh. Women don't have it the same. And women still aren't the preferred leaders. Period.
Gary's irony:
Foster an open environment.
Have a zero tolerance policy.
very inspirational
"Lean In" is NOT about "asking for permission." It is about NOT waiting or asking for permission. The book is obliged to examine all the factors that could explain why so few women are leaders in both business and government, and the big conclusion is that most women don't go for it. They hold themselves back. So please don't characterize "Lean In" as a book that blames the culture. It holds women accountable for their own success.
This guys numbers are WAY off and dates re: population we are ALREADY at seven billion and he's also wrong about the urgent need for more jobs. The urgent need is for LESS JOBS and preservation of the Natural Resources which we are currently using 50% more of than we haev to use which is non sustainable. Pretty sure our survival depends on water, air and food not money or jobs.
He sounds like someone that is used to living the good life with creature comforts that is afraid of losing them.
We have a lot of people like that in the U.S. people that are psychologically dependent upon a high standard of living.
It's easier to be poor if you 've never had money, but when you do and then lose it that's much harder to deal with .
The other item he is missing is while it's great to encourage people to make so much money at the same time, if they consume according to that large income it means they are using so much more natural resources than what is necessary. I think there should be penalties and special taxes exacted on people based on how large their ecological footprint is. If you want to drive some huge gas guzzler because it's cool or whatever then you should pay a special tax for that as you are contributing to the problem. We need to learn to use LESS which means maybe people should not all want to be rich as that lifestyle of the rich is using MORE not less. Unless they plan to live simply and frugally and use the excess income altruistically which some seem to be doing, but too many are still into making so much money so they can have so much stuff.
look at dr Phil as an example making 80 mill a year, living in a 30 mill dollar home with 2 PEOPLE!!! can you imagine how much energy it costs to heat and cool that size/ type of a home? They are using up way more resources than are others, in every single thing they do. Their cars, furniture, homes, clothes, etc. Then again the money / penalty we wont 'be able to breathe now will we, but maybe it would act as a deterrent and awareness to people not to have so much , using more than one needs when there is a planetary crisis is just wrong, and it's also wrong when people are w/o basic needs. I'm sorry but I feel it is immoral to do both, yet motivational speakers get up and encourage people to do so and virtually everyone wants to be "rich" at the expense of the planet and others. We just can't afford to keep behaving that way. We are already using more than we have in the way of NON RENEWABLE resources, so don't you think people should be simplifying ? not acquiring more and more?
Debbe Decker Good points. The American dream is a nightmare. Oprah, Dr. Phil, etc, are all trying to sell the same thing as this guy. This guy is a consumate yuppie.
Greed is a mental disorder and I wonder if Dr Phil would be interested in his mental disorder of being addicted to and hoarding money ????
Worst Ted Talk I've seen yet. Wow. If you get more than 10% dislikes on a motivational talk, you're screwing up pretty properly. That's the problem with TEDx vs. TED.
why is 'everyone' obsessed with being dissatisfied and making change?
thanks dude
He probably means well and wants to support women but his delivery needs a women's assistance. I thought the first 7.50 minutes were condescending! His suggestion of knowing and posting the "why, how and what" you believe in your business or whatever you stand for was helpful. It's not easy to give a TED talk. He spoke his mind and best of all spoke up with respect for his Mother's struggle..
If you dare, you may lose your footing. If you don't, you lose yourself.
JUMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what you believe is your reality. can I trust this?
At the end of the day its still a man thats telling us women that "we can".
i met him in palestine, he is a really great person
Great speech very inspiring!
"Sorry that I'm a white male :'((("
I stopped watching there.
loved it.
If he said "im a young black guy" ... It would be fine and not racist
I think the point, for some of the ranters here, is that women get paid less than men IN THE SAME FIELD, FOR THE SAME JOB, not in distinguishing between salaries in dance and engineering, where more women have chosen or been directed towards one career over another. I think that is ironically enough called a "straw man argument".
Excellent