I have said in other posts before but I believe that just because I am single, never married, that doesn’t mean that I’m lonely, just because I’m doing my shift at my busy local grocery store, at a concert surrounded by 60,000 people or at a packed restaurant with family or so called friends, that doesn’t mean that I’m NOT ALONE!
I am alone, but never feel alone if this makes sense. I do volunteering, pickleball, Zumba, If this wasn’t possible, I world do different, Zoom is excellent for classes also If you can’t get out. Good mental health is priceless, ask and you will receive. I have never had this day before but it’s a great one, and no you weren’t to wobbly gorgeous woman. ❤
You're helping a 24 year old Iraqi girl to feel better with your videos so I hope you know how important these videos are for you and us and I hope you keep going 💕💕💕
Oh, you lovely lady! I was feeling very overwhelmed this morning, and rather low. But, after your little chat and your radiance of upbeat chatter. I now feel grounded again. I am recovering from a breakdown which has lasted rather a long time. But, as soon as I got my coffee this morning I reached out for your daily cheerfulness!! And if worked!!!! Thank you.😄
Been there, done that. You can get through but don't be downhearted if you take what you feel is a backward step. Just gently accept and spend time doing things that you like to do. No problem if you flit from one thing to another - so long as you don't beat yourself up for it. Be kind to yourself. Thinking of you. D
I’m almost 74, a widow for five years and retired. My poor ignorant choices and decisions in my early years consequently led me where I am now…alone and at peace. I know longer feel the need to be with others on a regular basis. I see my family and a few friends and enjoy those moments but I’ve learned to let go because I know I’m loved and I appreciate that they are living their own lives without guilt from me. I cherish my time with them when they were young and I spent quality time with them. Now I’m just enjoying myself and doing what I want when I want and with whom I want. It was a process for me adjusting to this new way of thinking and living. I’ve since learned not to play the “guilt game” but to encourage them to live their lives and know that I want them each to be happy and healthy. It’s their time now to follow their own path and fulfill their own dreams and goals. I’m content now knowing that they love me and that they know that I love them and am always here for them.
I watch a lot of your videos Dee but I rarely comment. This one I had to. I'm not that old, I'm 49 but starting to feel age just a tiny bit. I'm alone but not lonely. I had a lot of trouble making friends as a kid. In college (university as you call it over there) I had a large group but that dispersed quickly after graduation. Ten years ago I moved out west for a new job (The US is an enormous country so that meant hundreds or thousands of miles from the nearest friends and family). Sure I speak on the phone with family and have friends I've made online but it's not the same. I think, for various reasons, I got very used to being self-reliant as a kid and seeking help from others was just never in my toolbox. When seeking help with an assignment in school, calling friends for help literally did not occur to me, that's how ingrained it was. I've come to peace with this, and the fact that I never married, I realized to stop being jealous of all my friends getting married after I realized I really didn't WANT it, I was getting jealous over something that I wouldn't have liked even if I had it. There are times when I wish to have a large real-life circle of friends that I could simply pop by their house or ask for help with an errand. I don't and that's due to my decisions which I have learned to live with. I cherish privacy and I guess I got in the end not what I "deserved" but what I truly wanted.
There seems to be pressure on people via social media to have lots of friends - with whom they are always having lots and lots of fun. Fine if that is what floats your boat, but not if you do this because you feel that you should. Many of us - and I include myself in this - prefer just a small, select group of friends - with whom we meet often as individuals. There is no right or wrong - rather what is right for each individual, that suits your character, your preferences. I really like your final sentence - and I thank you so much for sharing your words with us. Cherish your privacy and here's to contentment. D
@@Cheshirelass It's funny I'm talking with some online friends right now, and tomorrow is the Thanksgiving holiday and they're all talking about having to deal with huge amounts of relatives coming over, some with small kids, some they don't get on with like in-laws. I'm on my own this year and I'm actually feeling kind of lucky. I wish I had local in-person friends but it's not all bad, I get to do what suits me.
Bumpy but beautiful! I joined my local community choir. No audition, you don't have to read music. You can sit or stand. Someone will give you a lift if needed. Cheap at the price. And SUCH FUN! Lovely people. It's physical, mental, spiritual and social. And from that, I joined other things - most recently line dancing!! All older folk having a laugh and some exercise. If you can step, you can do it. I'm busy most days of the week now, and have made great friends. We support each other, go for lunch etc. I also value my time alone though, either indoors or walking. Great topic, Dee. xxx You also do a lot to combat loneliness, with this community. xxx
Apologies for the bumps - it would be useful if I could hover! Well done for sorting out fun things to do - and give ideas to others. Singing in a choir gives such an uplift - and line dancing is gentle exercise and often giggles too so long as the group isn't a deadly serious one! Thanks for sharing with us. Enjoy! D
Covid made it worse for all of us. Even the “ younger” generation. It’s such a different world today. I find social media can keep us more isolated and community has diminished drastically since I was litttle. You can use social media like Dee to connect though so it is how we use it .❤
Knitting. I´ve learned it via RUclips Tutorials 4 years ago, and it has been such a joy and blessing. There is such a deep satisfation in seeing what you can create with your own hands. And everyone loves handknit gifts, they are so rare nowadays.
I loved to knit too, very much, but a few years ago i started to have severe neck and sholder pain, and had to stop knitting, i hope it ones will get better!!?? (Sorry if my writing isn´t correct i´m Belgian) I always loved England, Wales.... Byebye, Conny 😊
Thanks for all the wonderful advice, Dee. I have lived alone for 10 years now since my Mum died. I am 45 and am very grateful I found ur channel. I have been diagnosed with BPD and GAD and struggle to get by. Thanks for helping me out ❤
Some great ideas thank you Dee. Loneliness is a big problem in today’s society. I returned to the Uk three years ago and as an older person it is hard to make friends in a new area. Also, personality plays a big part and if, like myself you are quieter and more introverted it is hard. I joined a walking group in my town and although it was difficult at first I now really enjoy the walking and chatting and other social events that are organised. Also, you mentioned RUclips. This is great for learning new things. At home I have been learning Spanish. It really keeps the old brain cells working.
Loneliness I think is stemming from the lack of connection we feel. Back in the day (wayyyy before I was born, my parents day and age) people used to be closer to each other physically. We could walk to each other's houses. Neighborhoods held many events that people attended. You knew your neighbors. I know most of mine only because my father has owned our property for like... over 30 years 😂. Nevertheless, people had connections. They celebrated their wins and mourned losses. Nowadays, everything is go go go, which is incredibly overstimulating even for people who can handle lots of activity. My personality is like yours. I am drained by social interactions and need some space. I like that you have a walking group. Good exercise with the plus of socializing. I wish people were more open and understanding of one another. It's been very hard to, even as a young person, find people who fit. To find the genuine people who just want to get to know you and spend time together. Not transactional.
It really is - someone bought me a book and I enjoy spending time listening to music and colouring. As a child I used to colour the tiny squares of graph paper to make patterns. D
Good old fashioned occupational therapy. I am alone, most of the time,but not feeling lonely. Covid actually opened my eyes to what being alone was going to be as my family grew and fled the nest🌸🌺🌸
Thank you Dee for the light bulb that went off in my head! Sometimes the darkness can almost bury a person! You are a ray of sunshine and made me see things I can do to fight this lonely life of mine!
Hi Dee. Great advice. My personal story is that I didn't understand most of my life why I wasn't comfortable in groups of people. It is generally perceived the norm to want to be socialising. But 2 years ago at age 58 I was diagnosed with aspergers. Introverts are in the minority. I feel its a case of being comfortable doing what you want to do. I do loads of crafts, knitting, embroidery, and I love helping with my daughter and grandchildren. There are several groups around me that people can attend if inclined. There's church groups and try bowls. For me personally I tend to avoid large groups. I once joined a walking group one morning thinking I was helping myself. But a dear old lady with all her problems latched onto me. I was a good listener to her, but I felt mentally drained when I got back to base. Also, these days, I'd advise if anyone is in receipt of esa, pips etc, be careful when joining groups, as many photos are taken these days and posted onto group Facebook pages
Funny how folk latch on to good listeners. Went to an concert many years ago - and this guy came to my friend and myself (both counsellors) and began telling us that his dog had died. Maybe had tried others before and received no response... who knows. D
Thank you Dee!!!! I feel like you live right around the corner. When I get lonely, I tune into your channel, and I always end with a smile on my face! Thank you dear friend 😊!
Thank you for such a thoughtful, encouraging and helpful video. I have recently discovered square dancing, it is such a joy and wonderful if you find it a challenge socializing because you just get to know people through small chat while dancing - nothing to intense or invasive. I find going out for dinner with a new group ca be more like an interrogation! Joining something you can do (activities) is much easier in regard to just getting to know folk naturally. There is nothing eorse than going out with a group and being expected to spill your life in one sitting. No. Its uncomfortable especially if you are single because 9 times out of ten it brings up the grief of not having family and feeling like a failure because of that. When your dancing those questions can't flow as easily or when your playing cards, walking, volunteering at an animal sanctuary because your busy doing something. I say avoid intense lunches snd dinner outs!!! Or at least be prepared to say 'sorry, i dont really eant to talk sbout my private life' lol. Its s bit of a conversation stopper though!
Keep going with the learning - it is so important for our personal growth. Not just 'book learning' but learning about the things around us by looking, listening and asking questions! D
Thank you for doing this video. I have been waiting for it and am not disappointed. Your ideas are good. There are days i think i can forge ahead learning new things. And there are days when the grief of losing lifelong friends immobolizes me and i can do little. I am pleased you responded to my request. Thank you so much. 9:29
My pleasure - do check out the ideas that others have suggested in the comments. Don't forget to join us on our walks to places in nature etc - in the playlists. Take care D
For women it’s worth checking the Women’s Institute. There are a few branches near to me. One is very traditional and not my thing but the one I joined has a mix of ages and is so much fun and there is such support for one another and local causes too. We have had workshops on mosaic, meditation, local black history , singing, quizzes, foraging , upcycling items. We have shared lunch and there’s a book club, walking group, supper club. It’s helped my English and I’ve made friends while learning and trying new things . Thanks for talking about something that affects so many people. Oh and The University of the 3rd age if there’s one within reach is worth checking out for anyone no longer in full time work (our branch are mainly 60+)
I love to read and love solitude. I am not lonely, when I need my people I go to see them, then I run back to my peaceful solitude, my books my writing in my language of origin. I love my people nevertheless its “me” time now.
A lovely heartwarming message Dee. I lost 2 dear dear friends in 2020 and my daughter lives 300 miles away but I am not lonely - all the hobbies I enjoy are ones you do alone - I also have a dog Oscar to walk daily. Since the recent improvements to the esplanade it's now much safer to co-exist with cyclists and that's a big plus. It also means if the day ever comes where mobility's a problem I can get a mobility scooter and access my usual walk and further. I confess I am not good at small talk but I have been a call companion with Age UK since May 2022 and we both enjoy our weekly chats and have become firm friends. ☺️ Anyone who is stuck your tips will work big love as always from Scotland ❤
Thank you for your ideas. I will be soon living in a retirement community and am fearful of what I will do with my time. I know I will have to lessen my shyness and become involved with others. You have given me some practical ways to adopt a more useful life.
You can do it! Once you settle in, I am sure you will find that you can gently edge your way into things. One baby step at a time. I hope you will be very happy in yor new home. D
Do take care and try to set aside some of the overwhelm and focus on becoming calm. Begin with good, deep breathing - and maybe check out some of the rlaxation pieces in my playlists. D
Dee! Your voice is soothing. The way you speak, calms me down and makes me feel at peace. I love to close my eyes and just listen to you. Thank you for everything!❤
Hi Dee, I understand where you are coming from. I had to isolate due to a compromised immune system. I have Autoimmune diseases that make my life less than easy but, I do try to keep myself and my mind busy. I am now 60 and I have just taken on a course of study in herbalism, which is challenging but I love it. Have a wonderful day Dee x
@@desh7120 I presume you have the same problem as I do with replies. They seem to pop up in odd sort of places. Hey ho. Your reply seems to be in right spot to me. D
Good Morning Dee, from Alabama. I'm hoping you've had rest full nights sleep and are energized to begin your day! The time here in Huntsville is 9:40 PM 7/26/2024/ By the time this message reaches you I'll be in bed counting sheep. Green Mountain Nature Preserve, Alabama is open to the public free of charge there is no overnight camping. The cabin and covered bridge along with all of the Nature Preserves amenities and trails are available to the public to enjoy. The cabin is open for anyone who wants to step in to shelter from the rain or relax in a bit of shade from the sun while hiking the trails. The cabin was constructed from hand hewn timber in 1862 and has stood the test of time and preserved to our current time. While hiking one can simply climb it's solid stone stair way leading to a well shaded open porch with rocking chairs. The porch leads straight away through the main entrance into a large room ( large enough for a full size automobile ) with a stone fireplace, hearth and mantel straight on to the East wall. The windows are opened and allow for plenty of day light and fresh air to comfortably sit in one of two rocking chairs to read or converse with a fellow hiker. As one approaches the cabin you will see a large stone built water well allowing a thirsty hiker to top off a water canteen with fresh cool spring fed water. The cabin has well wooded acreage with a mountain spring fed lake 100 yards from the west entrance. As the gentle winding trail passes by the cabin from North to South heading South 200 yards will lead to a beautiful 18th century covered wooden bridge spanning 100 ft over a mesmerizing pond filled with all the beautiful sites one read's about in a Fairy Tail story book. Green Mountain Nature Preserve, Alabama and all of its trails and many discoveries for all ages is a beautiful mountain top slice of heaven! One day I hope you can visit and I'd be happy to send you a few photos, I'll be driving there tomorrow morning. I wish you a wonderful day and for now I'll be turning in for a good nights rest. Have a Great Day Dee and I really enjoy your channel ! Thank you 🌻🌼🌷🐝
@@mthomas8327 It sounds such an amazing place. Just starting my day - I am checking comments, then going for a walk round my village. Hope you had a good sleep. Would love to see some photos - if you could email them to me. Thank you. D
hi ms. dee i love your videos as i’ve only discovered them this week but they have helped me tremendously! i feel seen , heard and , understood when i listen to you as i can always find some way to relate to what you say ! i find comfort in watching you as well as my grandmother passed a few years back so i appreciate your energy! 🩷
I’m twenty right now and am starting to think about how I want to live my life. This is an amazing perspective to have and understand- being alone is such a beautiful thing, and so is doing things alone. I struggle with the latter a lot, but it is how you get to meet people and do new things! Thank you for the video❤
Thank you so much, Dee. I have always struggled with loneliness, especially when I was little. Your advice has given me so much emotional support, and I am eternally grateful for that. So thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts and feelings. ❤
Sarah - maybe you could begin to take gentle baby steps to find a friend or two as this sounds as if it is something you haven't done maybe. It is fine not to have lots and lots of friends, but one or two who you can trust and be content around. Take care. D
@@Cheshirelass I actually have a friend who I’ve known since childhood, but I’m not as close with her as before because she is in a relationship and is spending more time with her significant other. I am now in my senior year of high school, and over the past few years have made a few new friends. I don’t blame them for leaving me, honestly. But whenever I do feel down, I love reading. Any Charles Dickens book is great, and also Leo Tolstoy :) any classic novel, really, that intrigues me. I also love listening to the rain and I am more or less used to feeling lonely. I think the best cure when it comes to this is praying. I pray to Jesus and read the Bible, and keep my life simple, doing my best in school. That’s pretty much it. I appreciate your advice, Dee :)
@@sarahroseyang Sarah - if you were to stop having a down on yourself, and seeming to accept it as your lot, I am sure that life could become better for you. Have a think about where you put you on your list and how you could move up it. That is not being selfish I can assure you. Take care. D
This is a powerful message for all of us. We are responsible for both our own actions and our inaction. This can also apply to working on ourselves. If we simply do nothing, nothing will bear fruit.
I am disabled and I love to read and do art . I am married and my husband still works part time. I spend most of my time alone. I can still walk my dogs and they bring me joy. I Am 69 years old and I keep busy and feel happy by myself….😊 love this video. Oh I started Yoga Go app and I love it, it doesn’t cost much….🇺🇸
You are such a delight, Dee - it’s no wonder your channel has become so popular and is experiencing growth in leaps and bounds ❤ I love the comment from the young Iraqi lady below who has affirmed how much she is gaining by listening to all you share! How wonderful to be making a positive difference in the lives of so many 💐
I never cease to be amazed at the countries I get messages from. And as for the number of subscribers - I have to think or how many football stadia they would fill to get any concept of just how many. Was ok when I thought - gosh I could fill Old Trafford - but now it is several times over! D
If you are physically unable, then it is difficult. If not, the begin with baby steps to break what you have come to see as a difficulty. Do. join us on our walks out in nature that are in my play lists. It would be good to have you along with us. D
@@Cheshirelass I'. , beginning to feel the same, so I understand. Perhaps local churches & senior citizen groups nearby are a start. Getting rides help from city transportation services for seniors and checking out rides for seniors who don't drive, and public rides like Uber to get places to meet new people rather than relying on a few friends, especially if they are also seniors and have limitations. Some of my friends have illnesses, don't drive, live far away, don't travel and are not very communicative or not interesting converstionalists, etc. so finding groups of other citizens provides company where you can mingle and socialize a bit.
It’s true, I’m still trying to get out of my isolation but I think your ideas are great. I do craft and I’m trying to figure out how to meet people again through that. But I like your service idea too. 😊 😊
Thank you 🙏🏾 I am currently trying to figure out what I want to do at this stage of my life. I joined the Navy at 17 and did 20 years mostly in the mental health department and now retired for nine years! Traveling now to decide what I want to be when I grow up…
@@divinelyguided1144 Nothing like setting the bar high! Get to know people - away from where the tourists flock. Sure you will. I loved doing that in Indonesia - sadly was only there for 3 weeks of travel. Dee
@@Cheshirelass yes away from the tourist spots is the best way to truly experience the culture and for me that’s what it is all about! Indonesia 😮😮😮 most definitely want to visit! Where do you recommend ?
Yes I’ve done crafting myself making potholes for my hot pots. I done wild grape vines with floral for seasonal hangs on the front doors and wood crafts hang on wall. I’ve made memories with grandkids with colorful paper doing hand prints to hang on fridge for them to see. I live in the country. I live alone my 3 kids are grown they have their own kids I’m always doing as a grandma does spending time showing them my love ❤I do exercise stretching my arms and legs I do get out my home taking walks with my nephew two lab dogs throwing sticks they will fetch for me to throw again. If I start a project I do like to finish what I started and start on something different. I’m not lazy I love getting out go look around in town I love going to thrift stores look around see what’s new. I have 1 best friend we’ve been friends since 5th in school I am 56 year’s old. She has health problems with Arthritis that draws up so I try to spend time with her. So anyways I have thanking for my blessing in my life what I do waking up every morning pray over my food. Yes the person I was texting online with Facebook we were just friends for few weeks. I end up blocking him because of lies and fake accounts. We wasn’t lover’s I’ve never met in face to face in public with him I don’t even know who he was talking to me like that. Come finding out he was doing bad spells too me and my family I didn’t never spoken to him since 9 months ago. But he has been watching me on my phone monitoring me every move I make. He’s a narcissistic person. I have let him go almost 9 months ago. I become friends of a Fan Page that post of been Henry Cavill come to finding out he were a scammer trying too get money out of me I didn’t never give no money. So you have a wonderful day 😊I love your kindness reads thank you 🙏 ❤
@g.noreau291 If you let it be so and are ok with that. It is never too late to take steps to turn things around - take care of yourself, show yourself respect as a good place to start - check out this morning's video. D
Probably as was isolating and not in anyone's bubble. However, I had prepared for this so had lots of things to do and my garden to be in, so loneliness wasn't allowed to take a grip! D
I have said in other posts before but I believe that just because I am single, never married, that doesn’t mean that I’m lonely, just because I’m doing my shift at my busy local grocery store, at a concert surrounded by 60,000 people or at a packed restaurant with family or so called friends, that doesn’t mean that I’m NOT ALONE!
I too always feel more alone when I am in a group than when I am literally on my own. D
There can be a difference between being alone and being lonely. It is a matter of perspective.
@@jeraldbaxter3532 A huge difference. D
I am alone, but never feel alone if this makes sense. I do volunteering, pickleball, Zumba, If this wasn’t possible, I world do different, Zoom is excellent for classes also If you can’t get out. Good mental health is priceless, ask and you will receive. I have never had this day before but it’s a great one, and no you weren’t to wobbly gorgeous woman. ❤
You're helping a 24 year old Iraqi girl to feel better with your videos so I hope you know how important these videos are for you and us and I hope you keep going 💕💕💕
Oh, you lovely lady!
I was feeling very overwhelmed this morning, and rather low. But, after your little chat and your radiance of upbeat chatter. I now feel grounded again. I am recovering from a breakdown which has lasted rather a long time. But, as soon as I got my coffee this morning I reached out for your daily cheerfulness!! And if worked!!!! Thank you.😄
Been there, done that. You can get through but don't be downhearted if you take what you feel is a backward step. Just gently accept and spend time doing things that you like to do. No problem if you flit from one thing to another - so long as you don't beat yourself up for it. Be kind to yourself. Thinking of you. D
I’m almost 74, a widow for five years and retired. My poor ignorant choices and decisions in my early years consequently led me where I am now…alone and at peace. I know longer feel the need to be with others on a regular basis. I see my family and a few friends and enjoy those moments but I’ve learned to let go because I know I’m loved and I appreciate that they are living their own lives without guilt from me. I cherish my time with them when they were young and I spent quality time with them. Now I’m just enjoying myself and doing what I want when I want and with whom I want. It was a process for me adjusting to this new way of thinking and living. I’ve since learned not to play the “guilt game” but to encourage them to live their lives and know that I want them each to be happy and healthy. It’s their time now to follow their own path and fulfill their own dreams and goals. I’m content now knowing that they love me and that they know that I love them and am always here for them.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. D
@@Cheshirelass you’re most welcome.
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Thank you for this video. I was very freshly made "alone" and I'm learning to cope.
I watch a lot of your videos Dee but I rarely comment. This one I had to. I'm not that old, I'm 49 but starting to feel age just a tiny bit. I'm alone but not lonely. I had a lot of trouble making friends as a kid. In college (university as you call it over there) I had a large group but that dispersed quickly after graduation. Ten years ago I moved out west for a new job (The US is an enormous country so that meant hundreds or thousands of miles from the nearest friends and family). Sure I speak on the phone with family and have friends I've made online but it's not the same. I think, for various reasons, I got very used to being self-reliant as a kid and seeking help from others was just never in my toolbox. When seeking help with an assignment in school, calling friends for help literally did not occur to me, that's how ingrained it was. I've come to peace with this, and the fact that I never married, I realized to stop being jealous of all my friends getting married after I realized I really didn't WANT it, I was getting jealous over something that I wouldn't have liked even if I had it. There are times when I wish to have a large real-life circle of friends that I could simply pop by their house or ask for help with an errand. I don't and that's due to my decisions which I have learned to live with. I cherish privacy and I guess I got in the end not what I "deserved" but what I truly wanted.
There seems to be pressure on people via social media to have lots of friends - with whom they are always having lots and lots of fun. Fine if that is what floats your boat, but not if you do this because you feel that you should. Many of us - and I include myself in this - prefer just a small, select group of friends - with whom we meet often as individuals.
There is no right or wrong - rather what is right for each individual, that suits your character, your preferences.
I really like your final sentence - and I thank you so much for sharing your words with us. Cherish your privacy and here's to contentment. D
@@Cheshirelass It's funny I'm talking with some online friends right now, and tomorrow is the Thanksgiving holiday and they're all talking about having to deal with huge amounts of relatives coming over, some with small kids, some they don't get on with like in-laws. I'm on my own this year and I'm actually feeling kind of lucky. I wish I had local in-person friends but it's not all bad, I get to do what suits me.
Bumpy but beautiful! I joined my local community choir. No audition, you don't have to read music. You can sit or stand. Someone will give you a lift if needed. Cheap at the price. And SUCH FUN! Lovely people. It's physical, mental, spiritual and social. And from that, I joined other things - most recently line dancing!! All older folk having a laugh and some exercise. If you can step, you can do it. I'm busy most days of the week now, and have made great friends. We support each other, go for lunch etc. I also value my time alone though, either indoors or walking. Great topic, Dee. xxx You also do a lot to combat loneliness, with this community. xxx
Apologies for the bumps - it would be useful if I could hover!
Well done for sorting out fun things to do - and give ideas to others. Singing in a choir gives such an uplift - and line dancing is gentle exercise and often giggles too so long as the group isn't a deadly serious one! Thanks for sharing with us. Enjoy! D
Covid made it worse for all of us. Even the “ younger” generation. It’s such a different world today. I find social media can keep us more isolated and community has diminished drastically since I was litttle. You can use social media like Dee to connect though so it is how we use it .❤
Very true - both ref covid and social media. D
Knitting. I´ve learned it via RUclips Tutorials 4 years ago, and it has been such a joy and blessing. There is such a deep satisfation in seeing what you can create with your own hands. And everyone loves handknit gifts, they are so rare nowadays.
It certainly is therapeutic - D
I loved to knit too, very much, but a few years ago i started to have severe neck and sholder pain, and had to stop knitting, i hope it ones will get better!!??
(Sorry if my writing isn´t correct i´m Belgian)
I always loved England, Wales....
Byebye, Conny 😊
@@connydm729 I hope that you are able to get rid of your pain and take up knitting again. Please don't apologise - your English is good. D
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Thank you D !! 💞
Be alone sometimes, it is important for your mind and well-being 🧠
Absolutely. 'Me' time is important for us all, though many seem to fight against it. D
Thanks for all the wonderful advice, Dee. I have lived alone for 10 years now since my Mum died. I am 45 and am very grateful I found ur channel. I have been diagnosed with BPD and GAD and struggle to get by. Thanks for helping me out ❤
Some great ideas thank you Dee. Loneliness is a big problem in today’s society. I returned to the Uk three years ago and as an older person it is hard to make friends in a new area. Also, personality plays a big part and if, like myself you are quieter and more introverted it is hard. I joined a walking group in my town and although it was difficult at first I now really enjoy the walking and chatting and other social events that are organised. Also, you mentioned RUclips. This is great for learning new things. At home I have been learning Spanish. It really keeps the old brain cells working.
Loneliness I think is stemming from the lack of connection we feel. Back in the day (wayyyy before I was born, my parents day and age) people used to be closer to each other physically. We could walk to each other's houses. Neighborhoods held many events that people attended. You knew your neighbors. I know most of mine only because my father has owned our property for like... over 30 years 😂. Nevertheless, people had connections. They celebrated their wins and mourned losses. Nowadays, everything is go go go, which is incredibly overstimulating even for people who can handle lots of activity.
My personality is like yours. I am drained by social interactions and need some space. I like that you have a walking group. Good exercise with the plus of socializing.
I wish people were more open and understanding of one another. It's been very hard to, even as a young person, find people who fit. To find the genuine people who just want to get to know you and spend time together. Not transactional.
Dee, you are a plethora of wisdom, and, knowledge. I appreciate you tremendously.
I appreciate that D
I still work full time but since my husband's passing it does get lonely on weekends, but I found coloring to be soothing
It really is - someone bought me a book and I enjoy spending time listening to music and colouring. As a child I used to colour the tiny squares of graph paper to make patterns. D
I need to do more art. It helps.
Clouds and greenery are two of my favorite things, like raindrops on roses. Your videos are always so lovely 💖
Thank you so much - I am now humming the song that Raindrops on Roses - 'My Favourite Things'. D
Good old fashioned occupational therapy. I am alone, most of the time,but not feeling lonely. Covid actually opened my eyes to what being alone was going to be as my family grew and fled the nest🌸🌺🌸
Thank you Dee for the light bulb that went off in my head! Sometimes the darkness can almost bury a person! You are a ray of sunshine and made me see things I can do to fight this lonely life of mine!
You can so do this - check out the suggestions in the comments too. D
You are so comforting to listen to, Dee! ❤
Hi Dee. Great advice. My personal story is that I didn't understand most of my life why I wasn't comfortable in groups of people. It is generally perceived the norm to want to be socialising. But 2 years ago at age 58 I was diagnosed with aspergers. Introverts are in the minority. I feel its a case of being comfortable doing what you want to do. I do loads of crafts, knitting, embroidery, and I love helping with my daughter and grandchildren. There are several groups around me that people can attend if inclined. There's church groups and try bowls. For me personally I tend to avoid large groups. I once joined a walking group one morning thinking I was helping myself. But a dear old lady with all her problems latched onto me. I was a good listener to her, but I felt mentally drained when I got back to base. Also, these days, I'd advise if anyone is in receipt of esa, pips etc, be careful when joining groups, as many photos are taken these days and posted onto group Facebook pages
Funny how folk latch on to good listeners. Went to an concert many years ago - and this guy came to my friend and myself (both counsellors) and began telling us that his dog had died. Maybe had tried others before and received no response... who knows. D
Thank you Dee,for your morning words of wisdom. A great start to the day. ❤❤❤
thank you - I hope your day is a good one. D
Thank you Dee!!!! I feel like you live right around the corner. When I get lonely, I tune into your channel, and I always end with a smile on my face! Thank you dear friend 😊!
What a lovely thing to say - D
Our Dee is the BEST!
Thank you for such a thoughtful, encouraging and helpful video.
I have recently discovered square dancing, it is such a joy and wonderful if you find it a challenge socializing because you just get to know people through small chat while dancing - nothing to intense or invasive. I find going out for dinner with a new group ca be more like an interrogation!
Joining something you can do (activities) is much easier in regard to just getting to know folk naturally.
There is nothing eorse than going out with a group and being expected to spill your life in one sitting. No. Its uncomfortable especially if you are single because 9 times out of ten it brings up the grief of not having family and feeling like a failure because of that. When your dancing those questions can't flow as easily or when your playing cards, walking, volunteering at an animal sanctuary because your busy doing something. I say avoid intense lunches snd dinner outs!!! Or at least be prepared to say 'sorry, i dont really eant to talk sbout my private life' lol. Its s bit of a conversation stopper though!
Your words are so lovely. I am 53 and love to keep learning. Let's keep moving our body and mind. Thanks Dee
Keep going with the learning - it is so important for our personal growth. Not just 'book learning' but learning about the things around us by looking, listening and asking questions! D
Thanks Lucy
I was just about to mention the pandemic. I believe that is where my lonely troubles first began.
It has a lot to answer for - across all age ranges. D
Thank you for doing this video. I have been waiting for it and am not disappointed. Your ideas are good. There are days i think i can forge ahead learning new things. And there are days when the grief of losing lifelong friends immobolizes me and i can do little. I am pleased you responded to my request. Thank you so much. 9:29
My pleasure - do check out the ideas that others have suggested in the comments. Don't forget to join us on our walks to places in nature etc - in the playlists. Take care D
For women it’s worth checking the Women’s Institute. There are a few branches near to me. One is very traditional and not my thing but the one I joined has a mix of ages and is so much fun and there is such support for one another and local causes too. We have had workshops on mosaic, meditation, local black history , singing, quizzes, foraging , upcycling items. We have shared lunch and there’s a book club, walking group, supper club. It’s helped my English and I’ve made friends while learning and trying new things . Thanks for talking about something that affects so many people. Oh and The University of the 3rd age if there’s one within reach is worth checking out for anyone no longer in full time work (our branch are mainly 60+)
Thank you for sharing excellent suggestions. D
I love to read and love solitude. I am not lonely, when I need my people I go to see them, then I run back to my peaceful solitude, my books my writing in my language of origin. I love my people nevertheless its “me” time now.
I know the feeling. D
A lovely heartwarming message Dee. I lost 2 dear dear friends in 2020 and my daughter lives 300 miles away but I am not lonely - all the hobbies I enjoy are ones you do alone - I also have a dog Oscar to walk daily. Since the recent improvements to the esplanade it's now much safer to co-exist with cyclists and that's a big plus. It also means if the day ever comes where mobility's a problem I can get a mobility scooter and access my usual walk and further. I confess I am not good at small talk but I have been a call companion with Age UK since May 2022 and we both enjoy our weekly chats and have become firm friends. ☺️ Anyone who is stuck your tips will work big love as always from Scotland ❤
Thank you so much - I haven't heard of Age UK's call companions. Thank you so much for mentioning it. Please give Oscar a stroke from me! D
@Cheshirelass me either will check this out in 🇮🇪 thanks for this info Margaret ❤️
Thank you for your ideas. I will be soon living in a retirement community and am fearful of what I will do with my time. I know I will have to lessen my shyness and become involved with others. You have given me some practical ways to adopt a more useful life.
You can do it! Once you settle in, I am sure you will find that you can gently edge your way into things. One baby step at a time. I hope you will be very happy in yor new home. D
I love your wonderful talks so relevant and supportive, cheers from Perth Western Australia ❤
Thank you. D
Hello..also watching from Perth Western Australia 😊
As am I 😊
Anyone else from Perth - Australia, but no problem if Scotland!! D
Your voice is calming and gentle, thank you for your thoughts
So nice of you - thank you. D
Thank you Dee ❤️ I’m in a really overwhelming place in my life and all your videos show up at the perfect time I need them❤️
Isn't she magical!
Do take care and try to set aside some of the overwhelm and focus on becoming calm. Begin with good, deep breathing - and maybe check out some of the rlaxation pieces in my playlists. D
your words always brings comfort to my heart 🪷🫂 thank you!!
Dee! Your voice is soothing. The way you speak, calms me down and makes me feel at peace. I love to close my eyes and just listen to you.
Thank you for everything!❤
You are very kind. D
Hi Dee, I understand where you are coming from. I had to isolate due to a compromised immune system. I have Autoimmune diseases that make my life less than easy but, I do try to keep myself and my mind busy.
I am now 60 and I have just taken on a course of study in herbalism, which is challenging but I love it.
Have a wonderful day Dee x
that sounds a great course - enjoy. Is it an online one? D
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May I gently suggest that you do a RUclips search for Autoimmune Diseases and Carnivore 🙏🏻
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I have done it again, Dee ~ I do hope Alley sees my message.
@@desh7120 I presume you have the same problem as I do with replies. They seem to pop up in odd sort of places. Hey ho. Your reply seems to be in right spot to me. D
So lovely of you Dee to make such a helpful thoughtful video. You’re so kind & genuine. 💞
Recently I've taken up hiking and dicovered a covered bridge and cozy cabin, Green Mountain Nature Perserve Alabama.
That sounds wonderful - have you stayed there? D
Good Morning Dee, from Alabama. I'm hoping you've had rest full nights sleep and are energized to begin your day! The time here in Huntsville is 9:40 PM 7/26/2024/ By the time this message reaches you I'll be in bed counting sheep. Green Mountain Nature Preserve, Alabama is open to the public free of charge there is no overnight camping. The cabin and covered bridge along with all of the Nature Preserves amenities and trails are available to the public to enjoy. The cabin is open for anyone who wants to step in to shelter from the rain or relax in a bit of shade from the sun while hiking the trails. The cabin was constructed from hand hewn timber in 1862 and has stood the test of time and preserved to our current time. While hiking one can simply climb it's solid stone stair way leading to a well shaded open porch with rocking chairs. The porch leads straight away through the main entrance into a large room ( large enough for a full size automobile ) with a stone fireplace, hearth and mantel straight on to the East wall. The windows are opened and allow for plenty of day light and fresh air to comfortably sit in one of two rocking chairs to read or converse with a fellow hiker. As one approaches the cabin you will see a large stone built water well allowing a thirsty hiker to top off a water canteen with fresh cool spring fed water. The cabin has well wooded acreage with a mountain spring fed lake 100 yards from the west entrance. As the gentle winding trail passes by the cabin from North to South heading South 200 yards will lead to a beautiful 18th century covered wooden bridge spanning 100 ft over a mesmerizing pond filled with all the beautiful sites one read's about in a Fairy Tail story book. Green Mountain Nature Preserve, Alabama and all of its trails and many discoveries for all ages is a beautiful mountain top slice of heaven! One day I hope you can visit and I'd be happy to send you a few photos, I'll be driving there tomorrow morning. I wish you a wonderful day and for now I'll be turning in for a good nights rest. Have a Great Day Dee and I really enjoy your channel ! Thank you 🌻🌼🌷🐝
@@mthomas8327 It sounds such an amazing place. Just starting my day - I am checking comments, then going for a walk round my village. Hope you had a good sleep. Would love to see some photos - if you could email them to me. Thank you. D
hi ms. dee i love your videos as i’ve only discovered them this week but they have helped me tremendously! i feel seen , heard and , understood when i listen to you as i can always find some way to relate to what you say ! i find comfort in watching you as well as my grandmother passed a few years back so i appreciate your energy! 🩷
Welcome to our channel - good to have you around. D
My problem with 'crafting' is that I'd be creating more 'sruff' while I'm presently struggling to declutrer from my existing stuff!
Thank you Dee. Wise words as usual. So glad to have found your channel. Have a lovely day ❤
You are so welcome D
I’m twenty right now and am starting to think about how I want to live my life. This is an amazing perspective to have and understand- being alone is such a beautiful thing, and so is doing things alone. I struggle with the latter a lot, but it is how you get to meet people and do new things! Thank you for the video❤
Take care - and enjoy learning about people around you, this old world of ours - but most of all yourself. D
Thank you so much, Dee. I have always struggled with loneliness, especially when I was little. Your advice has given me so much emotional support, and I am eternally grateful for that. So thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts and feelings. ❤
Sarah - maybe you could begin to take gentle baby steps to find a friend or two as this sounds as if it is something you haven't done maybe. It is fine not to have lots and lots of friends, but one or two who you can trust and be content around. Take care. D
@@Cheshirelass I actually have a friend who I’ve known since childhood, but I’m not as close with her as before because she is in a relationship and is spending more time with her significant other. I am now in my senior year of high school, and over the past few years have made a few new friends. I don’t blame them for leaving me, honestly. But whenever I do feel down, I love reading. Any Charles Dickens book is great, and also Leo Tolstoy :) any classic novel, really, that intrigues me. I also love listening to the rain and I am more or less used to feeling lonely. I think the best cure when it comes to this is praying. I pray to Jesus and read the Bible, and keep my life simple, doing my best in school. That’s pretty much it. I appreciate your advice, Dee :)
@@sarahroseyang Sarah - if you were to stop having a down on yourself, and seeming to accept it as your lot, I am sure that life could become better for you. Have a think about where you put you on your list and how you could move up it. That is not being selfish I can assure you. Take care. D
Such a wonderful helpful video, thank you, Dee 😊
watch your videos cause i miss my grandma, thank you dee for comforting my heart love you!!🤍
You are a sight for my sore eyes! You look great! Thank you for all you do. I so much enjoy your company. PS: You're SO smart!
Oh thank you! Your words are very much appreciated! D
This is a powerful message for all of us. We are responsible for both our own actions and our inaction. This can also apply to working on ourselves. If we simply do nothing, nothing will bear fruit.
I am disabled and I love to read and do art . I am married and my husband still works part time. I spend most of my time alone. I can still walk my dogs and they bring me joy. I Am 69 years old and I keep busy and feel happy by myself….😊 love this video. Oh I started Yoga Go app and I love it, it doesn’t cost much….🇺🇸
Good for you. What sort of artwork do you do? I used to do yoga and pilates - must look what is available to do online. Good to have you around. D
You are such a delight, Dee - it’s no wonder your channel has become so popular and is experiencing growth in leaps and bounds ❤
I love the comment from the young Iraqi lady below who has affirmed how much she is gaining by listening to all you share! How wonderful to be making a positive difference in the lives of so many 💐
I never cease to be amazed at the countries I get messages from. And as for the number of subscribers - I have to think or how many football stadia they would fill to get any concept of just how many. Was ok when I thought - gosh I could fill Old Trafford - but now it is several times over! D
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Thank You for one the best Advices I’ve listened to, I’m 39.
Thanks Dee!! Love your positive and warm advices ❤
I am retired, feel often very lonely.. I do have friends but see them 4 times in a year.. difficult to go out alone..
If you are physically unable, then it is difficult. If not, the begin with baby steps to break what you have come to see as a difficulty. Do. join us on our walks out in nature that are in my play lists. It would be good to have you along with us. D
@@Cheshirelass I'. , beginning to feel the same, so I understand. Perhaps local churches & senior citizen groups nearby are a start. Getting rides help from city transportation services for seniors and checking out rides for seniors who don't drive, and public rides like Uber to get places to meet new people rather than relying on a few friends, especially if they are also seniors and have limitations. Some of my friends have illnesses, don't drive, live far away, don't travel and are not very communicative or not interesting converstionalists, etc. so finding groups of other citizens provides company where you can mingle and socialize a bit.
Dee, you’re a total delight. Thank God for you.
You are very kind. D
Thank you Dee…your videos are so relaxing…I’m glad I found your channel 💕🪴
Thank you for being with us. D
Thanks for another wholesome video! I love hearing these in the morning right before starting my day, it keeps my energy up ❤
Thank you. D
What great advice, thank you for your lovely video. ❤
Thank you so much Dee, you are so wonderful and I appreciate you SO much
You are very kind. D
It’s true, I’m still trying to get out of my isolation but I think your ideas are great. I do craft and I’m trying to figure out how to meet people again through that. But I like your service idea too. 😊 😊
You can only have a go at things - what helps onw person isn't right for another. D
I needed this Dee, I just came across your page 📃 and I’m someone who is lonely 😞 I will take this advice tho
I hope that you stick around with us too. That would mean a lot. D
Thank you for this amazing video❤
You're so welcome!
Solitude is beautiful,u find urself,pece,sanity,pray plz dee❤south African
Dee you are a very wise person. So thank you for sharing your wisdom with us! Be blessed as always!🌷🙏
Thanks so much D
great advice ☝️ it isn’t easy 🙏 ive lived alone for 10 years now.. hardly speak with anyone 🎤🐥 interest groups are a great thing 👍🏻
Thank you. D
Good morning Dee
You are comforting in the morning
So my day will not be lonely!
Take care. D
Thanks Grandma✨🫂
Thank you 🙏🏾 I am currently trying to figure out what I want to do at this stage of my life. I joined the Navy at 17 and did 20 years mostly in the mental health department and now retired for nine years! Traveling now to decide what I want to be when I grow up…
Good for you. Enjoy your travels - where are you intending to go - or is the flow taking you? D
@@Cheshirelass thank you 🙏🏾 I had travel planned but the IT problem last week has me in a flow state. My goal is to see the entire world!!!
@@divinelyguided1144 Nothing like setting the bar high! Get to know people - away from where the tourists flock. Sure you will. I loved doing that in Indonesia - sadly was only there for 3 weeks of travel. Dee
@@Cheshirelass yes away from the tourist spots is the best way to truly experience the culture and for me that’s what it is all about! Indonesia 😮😮😮 most definitely want to visit! Where do you recommend ?
Thanks again Dee, you're soulful spirit and compassionate voice is deeply appreciated! PS- Not wobbly at all!❤
Take care D
Thank you Dee ❤ I appreciate you and I always leave your channel feeling much better, God bless you ❤️ 🙏 😊
Take care. D
You are a lovely soul....and i feel like you are a real friend.
thank you D
Such a gentle message..thank you.
You always have a wonderful way of helping us be positive and productive with ourselves and our loved ones ❤❤😊
Thank you Dee you make me feel better x
got here early :) sending love to everyone here
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Happy to talk to you, be kind to all love always :) xx
Thanks Dee ! ❤
Yes I’ve done crafting myself making potholes for my hot pots. I done wild grape vines with floral for seasonal hangs on the front doors and wood crafts hang on wall. I’ve made memories with grandkids with colorful paper doing hand prints to hang on fridge for them to see. I live in the country. I live alone my 3 kids are grown they have their own kids I’m always doing as a grandma does spending time showing them my love ❤I do exercise stretching my arms and legs I do get out my home taking walks with my nephew two lab dogs throwing sticks they will fetch for me to throw again. If I start a project I do like to finish what I started and start on something different. I’m not lazy I love getting out go look around in town I love going to thrift stores look around see what’s new. I have 1 best friend we’ve been friends since 5th in school I am 56 year’s old. She has health problems with Arthritis that draws up so I try to spend time with her. So anyways I have thanking for my blessing in my life what I do waking up every morning pray over my food. Yes the person I was texting online with Facebook we were just friends for few weeks. I end up blocking him because of lies and fake accounts. We wasn’t lover’s I’ve never met in face to face in public with him I don’t even know who he was talking to me like that. Come finding out he was doing bad spells too me and my family I didn’t never spoken to him since 9 months ago. But he has been watching me on my phone monitoring me every move I make. He’s a narcissistic person. I have let him go almost 9 months ago. I become friends of a Fan Page that post of been Henry Cavill come to finding out he were a scammer trying too get money out of me I didn’t never give no money. So you have a wonderful day 😊I love your kindness reads thank you 🙏 ❤
Take care of yourself. D
Thanks for the advice
Thank you for this video Dee❤️ I really want to give you a hug
Excellent Video.xx❤
Loneliness...and rejection. My destiny and fate. Now I know at 59.
@g.noreau291 If you let it be so and are ok with that. It is never too late to take steps to turn things around - take care of yourself, show yourself respect as a good place to start - check out this morning's video. D
@@Cheshirelass Thank you Dee! 🙏I'm watching them all in fact. I love your wisdom and serenity. They do inspire me. I also find them soothing.
@@g.noreau291 Take care - and glad to be able to help. D
You’re the best!!
You are very kind. D
Thank you for this video
Thank you so much!
Thank-you D.
I love you Dee❤
Thank you
Thanks i needed it a lot❤
Wow again a great vedio ❤❤❤❤❤dee. U r amazing
Thanks a lot D
Much love ❤
Mrs lady you are adorable!
Thank you. D
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Good morning! D
Can't believe I just noticed this... "if you have grandchildren you don't need." Oops well too late to fix it now :)
Pride vanity and ego. Prevents me from growing
Being aware of this is a good place to begin growing - by taking steps to begin making changes... if you choose to. D
thank you ❤ you are adorable
Thank you too! D
Was Covid the first time you felt lonely 😞 Dee?
Probably as was isolating and not in anyone's bubble. However, I had prepared for this so had lots of things to do and my garden to be in, so loneliness wasn't allowed to take a grip! D
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Your comment made me start my day with a smile - thank you. D
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I almost died today (August 09 2024 ) 😢
Thinking of you - take care and be safe and well. D
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i love u dee!
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Welcome. D
Wow thank you I love to be in private too
I would be lost without such time - time to think, remember and simply be. D
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