@@stephaniegonzalez1082 According to predicate calculus the logic in your statement is false. You dated “one” Dominican guy but you said “some”Dominican guys are toxic. What you should say is : One Dominican guy is toxic because I dated one but he cheated me and ghosted me.
you're on a channel catering to kboos who have fallen in love with a certain idea they have about a certain nationality(k...ore..) to the point where it becomes obsessive and creepy and you're telling people not to do it? oh i must've forgot, they fell in love with the "food and culture" now was it... lmfao
It's called personal preferences or taste. Nothing bad about dreaming to date a person of certain nationality as long as it doesn't become an obsession.
@@leozackdestron1574 the point here is not about preference the point here is about dating a certain nationality due to that persons preconceived ideas about said nationality.
About the guys: 1. Careful with those, they usually put you in a pedestal and as soon as you disappoint them they fall out of love and vanish REALLY fast. 2. Was with that type for 10 years (3 years married), it almost destroyed me, I needed a long time in therapy and help from friends and I'm still not completly fine. RUN, it's not just 'the way he is', just get away as fast as you can. 3. You can't love someone into loving you back, if he's acting like he doesn't care, he really doesn't care, move on. Thanks Rachel, awesome video
@@user-ei4nw9ce3f I went through a really rough patch and had to move back with my parents in another city to get as far away from him as possible, after a while he suddenly "realized" he loved me and tried every possible kind of manipulation tactic to get me back, even to the point to threaten to kill himself if I didn't, it was a real sad and hurtful mess. But yeah, little by little I'm getting better and I'm hopeful everything is gonna be fine in time. Thanks for asking :)
@@greenbirdie9271 I saw this kind of situation as well. They have a child and are still together, they're not even legally married because he doesn't want to and she accepts it. He also did the same tactics you mentioned to get her back when she left with the child to her mom, she fell for it. I feel bad for her, I hope she realises it before it's too late. 😞😢
My psychologist says that when we are in love (the passion phase of love), we are all in love with an idea (it doesn't matter our gender and the other's person gender) that is idealized. It's a different and uncontrollable state of mind. The good thing is, this is just a phase, it fades away in a couple of months. We can't control this idealization, but we can control being emotionaly responsible with the other's person feelings and by having this perception that we are in love with an idea.
@@starfire588 Nice + Caring means perfect partner? Who is then naiv here? How the heck do you even know that she is nice and caring? Any person who makes youtube videos will show you their best parts to attract views. I supposs you think that the actor who plays superman in movies, is actually superman in real life too. I have nothing against her. People should just juging a person's whole character because of some videos.
@@emillymenezes2619 Noone did sweety. I am simply following the trivial rule that appearance can be deceptive, especially coming from a controlled environment. Again, i need to mention that i really like Kim, she is very pretty and smart. These are both things that can either be proven or are relative. The comment of the main poster is however not grounded.
I loved this video as someone who has dated men in Korea like this before. I love when you said 'focus on yourself', yes yes yes. I have learnt while being in Korea that if a guy wants my time and affection, then he needs to show me and prove he feels similar and on the same wavelength. NEVER CHASE A MAN LADIES, THEY SHOULD RESPECT AND COURT/CHASE US to prove he is being genuine! xxxxxxxx
Neither men or women should chase each other. Good relationships are all about equality. So both men and women "need" to prove they feel similar and are on the same wavelength.
@Zamzam Abdi Yes, I realize I wasn't completely clear. My point is: lots of women have the idea that the man is supposed to chase them and do more of the courting. And do more of the work. And pay for the dates. etc etc. And yet they say they want equality. Equality means equal effort and equal involvement.
One time, one of the girls back in my high school kept chasing my crush after the classes were over. She literally walked or jog so fast just to get his attention on her. 😂 It was funny because she almost dropped her books on the floor.
My friend dated the second guy for over a year (not Korean), and it was heartbreaking hearing about how inconsiderate he was. My advice: If you're trying to convince yourself he'll change, he won't. Wait for someone who will treasure you!
Your examples for #2 were cutely annoying but 9/10 when a Korean guy says "cultural difference" to me he's excusing horrid behavior, pressuring some behavior with the goal of sex, or he is trying to demean me. It gets incredibly toxic, much more than just ordering the pizza he wants. I actually dated a gaslighter who used that as his primary excuse. This type of guy exists everywhere and this is probably the case for foreigners in a lot of countries, but when Korean men are aware of your intense desire to fit in and not be a "foreigner", they will abuse it to no end. They will constantly pull out the cultural difference card when they disrespect, demean, and demand you do smth. But you are never allowed to do the same, even when you gave them forewarning about said REAL CD that is difficult for you. Girls (and guys), if any boy ever says "cultural difference" in place of a deserved apology, RUN THE OTHER WAY. Even if it IS a cultural difference, your pain is valid and someone who tells you your pain is your own fault is not worth your time.
"Focus on you and wait for the right person" - this is probably one of the best advice I heard. People always say wait for the right person but you adding self love (focusing on yourself) makes much more sense. A lot of people grow tired of waiting that they settle for less. But if you focus on yourself, doing things you like, making yourself grow, it won't feel like you are waiting. You won't go impatient cause you'll realize there's so much more you can do and so much more to learn from yourself that you didn't know. And maybe if love finds you, it's just a bonus.
Oh god, only at the beginning and had to stop to write this bc that first one hit the nail on the head - i wasn’t even in Korea when I met him ( aka I met him in my city ) and literally after like 1 or 2 dates he was all “I’m in love with you” and I was so 😅????? bro we just met, and im not??? but I just played nice - legit after the third time I saw him, he got so bland - didn’t help we didn’t have shit in common in the first place 🤨 suddenly all the pet names disappeared when it didn’t go “all the way” if u know wat I mean. any time he did sound more interested was when he was talking about how eager he was about my body 🤢 lmfao I’m so happy to have dodged that bullet 😂 Honestly thanks for this video Rachel :”) Edit: If any guy, korean or not, checks any of these boxes, it’s seriously not worth it! Go for a genuine person who loves you for you, not the idea of you! And it applies to the other way around :) Do your best because someone is bound to find you beautiful!
HAHA, one time a Korean guy literally said "if you keep liking me i MIGHT like you back". yes he actually used those words. and my dumbass fell for it, because he was already showing that he liked me back. long story short, he was busy ALL the time, and had stupid excuses for it like "I was studying" (for 12 hours?? right). luckily it didn't last long.
@@proplay9952 Period. We better now. All we need is Kim Namjoon, Kim Seokjin, Min Yoongi, Jung Hoseok, Park Jimin, Kim Taehyung, and Jeon Jungkook. (I'm only partially joking LOL).
I am late to comment but the exact same happened to me. We were basically a couple and even when I had to leave Korea we were still texting and calling. But after a while he didn't text anymore because "I am not on my phone 24/7" and "you know I have to study". After months of still being good friends I find out he has had a girlfriend all this time. Maybe even when we were still dating
have never dated before but i know all this shit from my friends telling me their experiences. this just doesn't apply to 'foreign' guys. they're men and women like this in every culture. don't allow yourself to get wrapped up in the idea of someone. ALSO don't act differently around someone just to impress them. because when you stop acting and start being yourself you might find out you're not as compatible as you thought. being yourself UNAPOLOGETICALLY will make you happier in the end.
I've been watching these dating korean guy/girl videos, not that I am a koreaboo (and yes I am a kpop multi stan but not a koreaboo), not that I want to date a korean or is that interested in koreans, just wanting to see how non-kpop idol Koreans really are, because kpop puts this gentle kind flower boy/girl image into koreans.
I'm a girl I remember every single detail my friends told me maybe what happened to them then a few days later I ask them about the thing and they are stunned 😅I'm just genuinely interested in my friends lives and I care about my friends also I like making people smile and I like giving people compliments 😅
I can agree with the first one, that once happened to me. That type ends up manipulating you and you won’t even notice until it’s too late, anddd not to mention the toxicity This happened with a American guy meaning just steer clear of that type of guy no matter the nationality
Heyyy!! Mine is the 9th like. First time I have given a like before it reaches 10!!!! Love you Rachel Lots of love and support from India 사랑해 언니 Also as a fun fact; In India you get corn on pizza. Not on every pizza but in selected ones
Number 1 applies to any man on this planet (but it's so cool South Koreans have a name for them). He'll get attached as quickly as he'll dump you, because it was never about you, it was him using your relationship to fill his emotional gaps. P.S: Corn on pizza is common in Brazil too 🤣
What happens if he spends time and money during your visit and more attention on you than u were expecting (even introduce you to his work coleagues and parents), but u are staying just for a month in korea??? And after u return to ur contry, relationship gets cold due to distance.... is this a new type version of type of guy number 1??? 🤔🤔🤔
Honestly I always wanted to move to Korea, I’m an American woman who’s never really had a chance to do anything fun in her life because of parental boundaries. And though she talked about those 3 types of toxic guys I feel like that doesn’t just go for Korean men, that can be any man/woman in general.
sameeee... Idk why I get so excited hearing about other Domincans, probably bc there are not any where I live sadly. I am literally the only dominican in my school
As an American I think if it's not meat , cheese, and a little veg then 90% Of Americans don't like it just like pineapple on pizza however I don't mind it
I think you're wonderful 💕 Rachel.. nobody's perfect (the universe knows I'm not ) in trying to find that special someone. All we can do is pick ourselves back up and keep trying no matter how hard it is..
You're making me cry Rachel. I've been chatting with a Korean guy for like 2 months and he is like the 3rd type of guy I should never date. It's so hard for meeeeee :(
is the korean men you chatted is always busy at work? because I have this korean men I chatted for a months now and He is always busy at work. Whenever I chatted him, His reply is always late. But even though he is busy, he still chat with me and updated me but kinda late.. Is yours same with me also? always busy at work?
Not ALL guys who fall in love fast are bad. My HUSBAND and I met for the first time 26 years ago. Long story short: We met in the late afternoon. We hit a club - with mutual friends of ours (the friends we went with were the ones who introduced us, actually). He spent the night, we stayed up talking until almost 7 AM. The next day, after we woke up, he packed up his place and moved in with me. That's 26 years of being together...25 1/2 of those years very happily married. Literally. We got married 5 months and 2 weeks to the day after we met. There really isn't a "time table" for love. Trust your INSTINCTS about the guy (or girl)...NOT a clock.
Oh well, I have been contacted by two Korean guys who saw one of my comments to which I added a picture of a scenery in my country. I live in a wealthy country and these guys are now after me. One said he loves me and desperately wants o come and see me (it's utter rubbish), and the other one keeps chasing me although I said I'm no dating material for him, too old for him. He's rude and tells me what to do like: The fact that I'm writing you doesn't give you the right to call ME anytime, ok? --- I mean WTF does he think he is? I have never been looking for a man, never asked for a date. In facte I'm married and happy but these two are a pain. I block them both today.
I have thought about trying pizza with corn when I visit. I don’t know if I’ll enjoy it, but I’m willing to try it. I just love pizza (my spirit food). I think relationships are more like finding the right piece of a puzzle that fits you. May not fit someone else, but it’s the perfect fit for you. It’s also about finding the good from the bad for you - better to have a good person in your life, even if only as a friend, than anyone bad for you. Find that good person, support them, and take the journeys in life with them.
Right when I was dating this one guy, he confessed he loves me after two days of getting together. I was like 😅. Love is a pretty strong word. I like you not love you. Plus we haven't even gone on any dates or stuff like that and he just got out a relationship. Broke up after two weeks though.
I didn't know corns on pizza is a korean thing lmao it's very common where I'm from (central europe) and it's actually one of my favourite toppings edit: What surprised me more is that koreans put potato on pizza. Now that was something I haven't heard anywhere before!
My opinion as a guy in his almost mid twenty who has never had a girlfriend and is kind of a overlover-kind-of-person: There are no types of people to avoid in a relationship. People are very complex. I know of couples who fell in love, got married acouple of weeks later and are spending their old-age years together. I also know others who couldn't even last a year, even after knowing each other for years. 1. The guy who is over-heals in love with you, might really just be in love with you. It is just a chemical and biologic reaction. The resolve is finding out what kind of person he is. Test him. I am that kind of person myself. I have a deep and vast sense of desire, when i want something and am ready to do anything to achieve this. I am deeply invested and have a great sense of loyalty. To every single girl i have loved, i have written songs. They somehow end up rejecting me one way or the other (Probably because i don't allure many girls, and would spend my free time at home, researching, learning or reading). 2. & 3. "A guy who is not thoughtful of you" and "A guy who is not into you" are to my own surprise the most popular ones for women. I really tried with all my might to believe that women weren't interested in assholes, but with time i noticed that it was pointless. Girls would go for the guy that really don't give a crap about them: the dude that actually likes you, mumbles when he talks to you because he is afraid to lose you, lowerst his voice when talking to you, asks for your opinion, will get treated as crap ... "a nice guy". The guy who just doesn't care about you, or is already popular with girls, is the one that girls like. They later get surprised when he leaves them for another one. Moreover tend to qualify their exes as being in this category, when THEY themselves were the issue. Sometimes the main question to ask is what kind of person am i. Are you the girl who doesn't bring anything to the relationship? A girl with a bad sense of jugdement? A girl who looks for the outgoing, sponteneous, popular and attractive guy who knows he can get other girls and doesn't have to try with you? The guy with the tinder profile showing him at cool locations, with a muscular build?
I'd say all these 3 types disapear as soon as you start expressing your point of view or desires and needs. For example say: I can't meet on Tuesday I am free on Saturday. They at once start getting nervous and dissapoited in you.
Hey you're wearing a Penn State hat! Alright! I used to work for Penn State and a lot of my relatives graduated from there. I really love your dating advice. It's right on the mark! Thanks for this great advice!
#2 is so good. it might sound like an obnoxious point to some... but... the amount of foreign girls dating Korean men here that MAKE. SO. MANY. EXCUSES. in the name of "oh it's Korean culture". like I've seen girls accept so much toxic behavior because they were trying to have an ~open mind~ or ~this is how it is in an international relationship~. it's crazy. I even used to do it a little my first couple times dating here. until I reached a point where I was like "YOU KNOW WHAT??? I'm not going to accept anything here from a man that I wouldn't accept from a guy in my hometown in the USA. and if he doesn't like it? well then I guess he better date a Korean girl then haha" of course make some compromises and communicate well but... honestly both people should understand that both have been raised in a different culture before dating haha. the amount of men here who want to "ride the white horse" or whatever and still aren't thoughtful to her own culture/desires... damn... just plain straight up disrespect.
Tae Yeon was in Amsterdam, you can find her singing in front of the Amsterdam Royal Palace Dam square, Rembrandt square and other iconic locations uploaded on youtube, seems The Dutch government opens access to the South Korean pop singers at big tourist squares for entertainment, lucky its recorded, It was free to visit 🥳
I had a similar experience about the whole nice guy thing and no he is not Korean. He would say things like “ I’ve always thought you were cute and love when you smile” that kind of sh*t. He asked me out I rejected him and he was ok with it but he ignored my text messages after that until one day he finally said he wasn’t interested me only to find out he only wanted me for … that. So that’s how my relationship with my friend was ruined 😄
I know what I like and will never settle for less. I am paranoid, picky, and doubtful so I don’t settle down easily. One of the reasons why I have never dated anyone.
Just because I turned down a Korean guy's request to talk on the phone, he blocked me the next day? Seriously? So immature and it's definitely a red flag
I already find it weird when someone says I love you after like three days. Unless it's a soulmate connection. I'm rather cautious about when guys say I love you like you hardly know me so how you can love me I understand like but love takes a couple of months to actually get to know a person and feel that emotion.
Hey Rachel, thank u. Finally i found your channel and it helps me much to increase my english skill because actually english is not my first language, sometimes my listening skill is bad enough, but i love to watch how you talking on your videos, i can pretty understand even if without subtitles, and once more.. thank you! I think your channel deserves better, i'll recommend my friends to watching ur videos, keep hwaiting! *sorry for bad english
OMG haha this is the best!!! So relatable real and funny!!!😂😂😂😂 i found plenty of these guys in korea!!! Stories for days! Gosh There are similar guys everywhere !
Your just setting yourself up for a fall If you think Is what you see In kdrama Is how Korean girls and guys are. In real life their just like everyone else.
I hate it when there like oh your so pretty and nice but then I go to a sushi restaurant and don't drink much and they just like ignore after afterwards!!
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I mean...most toxic men are the same. No matter the nationality
Also do you really deserve non-toxic men?
Some Dominican guys are too I dated one and he cheated and ghosted me
@@stephaniegonzalez1082 According to predicate calculus the logic in your statement is false. You dated “one” Dominican guy but you said “some”Dominican guys are toxic. What you should say is : One Dominican guy is toxic because I dated one but he cheated me and ghosted me.
Idk maybe
@@krazyninja954 she isn't generalizing them
I avoid guys altogether so it's fine
Balkan Slipper and you have a guy on your dp- but it’s fine cuz it’s v lol
Same lmao. I always subconsciously hissing whenever they near me... I don't hate them tho.. Maybe I'm a cat in my last life
@@Allhailhitmanbang yes
except for the fictional character, 2D character, and idol 😏😙
@Jameson Thengiwa well obv NOT but love is blind you know, so why not make it deaf and silent too😏
Also... DO NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH A NATIONALITY that is plainly dumb
you're on a channel catering to kboos who have fallen in love with a certain idea they have about a certain nationality(k...ore..) to the point where it becomes obsessive and creepy and you're telling people not to do it? oh i must've forgot, they fell in love with the "food and culture" now was it... lmfao
Topkekz i meann.. someone has to give them a reality check
It's called personal preferences or taste. Nothing bad about dreaming to date a person of certain nationality as long as it doesn't become an obsession.
@@leozackdestron1574 the point here is not about preference the point here is about dating a certain nationality due to that persons preconceived ideas about said nationality.
Like... Americans (I am American. I hate what our country is doing)
That intro self burn was equal parts wisdom and sad. I dig it.
So...wisad or sadom?
@@user-mp5po2pt8d Yes
You mean the intro music? Bruh I thought it was someone pouring tea.... 😐
@@Allhailhitmanbang no, they're talking about 0:08
Further proof that no matter the culture, we're really all the same underneath it all...these 3 types of guys (or girls) are also here in the States.
Ikr
they're everywhere!
And in Europ and everywhere in this World
There plenty of these 3 types in Russia too.
Truth.
About the guys:
1. Careful with those, they usually put you in a pedestal and as soon as you disappoint them they fall out of love and vanish REALLY fast.
2. Was with that type for 10 years (3 years married), it almost destroyed me, I needed a long time in therapy and help from friends and I'm still not completly fine. RUN, it's not just 'the way he is', just get away as fast as you can.
3. You can't love someone into loving you back, if he's acting like he doesn't care, he really doesn't care, move on.
Thanks Rachel, awesome video
Wendy Greenleaf u ok?
@@user-ei4nw9ce3f I went through a really rough patch and had to move back with my parents in another city to get as far away from him as possible, after a while he suddenly "realized" he loved me and tried every possible kind of manipulation tactic to get me back, even to the point to threaten to kill himself if I didn't, it was a real sad and hurtful mess. But yeah, little by little I'm getting better and I'm hopeful everything is gonna be fine in time. Thanks for asking :)
Wendy Greenleaf Oh wow that sounds horrible! Good for you that you were able to get yourself out of that mess!👍
@@user-ei4nw9ce3f Thanks a lot, really ^.^
@@greenbirdie9271 I saw this kind of situation as well. They have a child and are still together, they're not even legally married because he doesn't want to and she accepts it. He also did the same tactics you mentioned to get her back when she left with the child to her mom, she fell for it. I feel bad for her, I hope she realises it before it's too late. 😞😢
"He is not in love with you...he is in love with idea of u"
Some real life lesson right here.. BTW it works both ways..🤣😂
My psychologist says that when we are in love (the passion phase of love), we are all in love with an idea (it doesn't matter our gender and the other's person gender) that is idealized. It's a different and uncontrollable state of mind. The good thing is, this is just a phase, it fades away in a couple of months.
We can't control this idealization, but we can control being emotionaly responsible with the other's person feelings and by having this perception that we are in love with an idea.
“Putting corns on pizza is a thing here”
Me, an Italian: *triggered*
Oof 😅
Sorry but we do it in India too 😂
LOL - saw that for the first time on I-Land and thought- ummm what?! :) I mean, I'd try it. But I was triggered as well.
Imagine if you knew what Brazilians do to pizza lol (and all the other foods haahah)
@@leticiagr9670 I have no clue what you’re referring to but I’m afraid to know ahahaha
in social media most guys are like that....they know literally nothing about me....and will confess they love me just after talking for 2 min😐
Majority of the guys in socials are like that, don't take them seriously,they don't mean what they said,they are just looking to get laid.
@@thisnthat7760 exactly....even some guys tell me that I like them thats why i replied to their message....even though i replied because i pitied 😂
@@skittlewee4041 same here gurrll
Yeah those dumbass apps!!
After watching k-dramas,
Me: I wanna marry a Korean guy.
After watching Rachael's video ,
Also me : let me think more.
Same sis..
Now i am confused 😅
@@riyu1295 not all korean guys are bad tho.. like me and half my friends
@@RAMPYCSM you just admit that your other half friends are bad.
@@RAMPYCSM and a criminal never says that he is a criminal.
All I can say is the guy who will be with Rachel is a really lucky guy
Why? Because you like her youtube channel? Have you lived with her to know her vices?
@@akj7 r u dumb?
Bc shes nice and caring stupid kid
@@starfire588 Nice + Caring means perfect partner? Who is then naiv here? How the heck do you even know that she is nice and caring? Any person who makes youtube videos will show you their best parts to attract views. I supposs you think that the actor who plays superman in movies, is actually superman in real life too.
I have nothing against her. People should just juging a person's whole character because of some videos.
@@akj7 damn, honey who hurt you?
@@emillymenezes2619 Noone did sweety. I am simply following the trivial rule that appearance can be deceptive, especially coming from a controlled environment. Again, i need to mention that i really like Kim, she is very pretty and smart. These are both things that can either be proven or are relative. The comment of the main poster is however not grounded.
I loved this video as someone who has dated men in Korea like this before. I love when you said 'focus on yourself', yes yes yes. I have learnt while being in Korea that if a guy wants my time and affection, then he needs to show me and prove he feels similar and on the same wavelength. NEVER CHASE A MAN LADIES, THEY SHOULD RESPECT AND COURT/CHASE US to prove he is being genuine! xxxxxxxx
Yas girl
Neither men or women should chase each other. Good relationships are all about equality. So both men and women "need" to prove they feel similar and are on the same wavelength.
@Zamzam Abdi Yes, I realize I wasn't completely clear. My point is: lots of women have the idea that the man is supposed to chase them and do more of the courting. And do more of the work. And pay for the dates. etc etc. And yet they say they want equality. Equality means equal effort and equal involvement.
One time, one of the girls back in my high school kept chasing my crush after the classes were over. She literally walked or jog so fast just to get his attention on her. 😂 It was funny because she almost dropped her books on the floor.
@@brianlittrell797 alot of men doesn't aproach women anymore lol especially in western country men are slowly waking up
Remeber kids:
*Coaches don’t play*
Damn😫
1) A guy who is head over heels from the beginning.
2) A guy who is not thoughtful to you.
3) A guy who is not into you.
Let's be honest this girl isn't just talking about just Korean guys she is talking about EVERY GUY who is like this.
My and my mom were just talking about me marrying a korean guy and then I get this notification , thank you .
Same-
Yes you will find your love but he careful 💜💜💜
That was great Rachel, now we just need a video on what Korean girls we shouldn't date when in Korea.... :D
Dating!!!!! this word is out of my dictionary.
So not going to take it seriously 😂
Same sweet scent Same 😁
Please buy a new dictionary LoL 🤣
You shouldn't be fooled by guys that look handsome. Because they might turn out to be abusive or rude
My friend dated the second guy for over a year (not Korean), and it was heartbreaking hearing about how inconsiderate he was. My advice: If you're trying to convince yourself he'll change, he won't. Wait for someone who will treasure you!
Your examples for #2 were cutely annoying but 9/10 when a Korean guy says "cultural difference" to me he's excusing horrid behavior, pressuring some behavior with the goal of sex, or he is trying to demean me. It gets incredibly toxic, much more than just ordering the pizza he wants. I actually dated a gaslighter who used that as his primary excuse. This type of guy exists everywhere and this is probably the case for foreigners in a lot of countries, but when Korean men are aware of your intense desire to fit in and not be a "foreigner", they will abuse it to no end. They will constantly pull out the cultural difference card when they disrespect, demean, and demand you do smth. But you are never allowed to do the same, even when you gave them forewarning about said REAL CD that is difficult for you.
Girls (and guys), if any boy ever says "cultural difference" in place of a deserved apology, RUN THE OTHER WAY. Even if it IS a cultural difference, your pain is valid and someone who tells you your pain is your own fault is not worth your time.
FunBagel Good info. Accept the person for who they are.
you have to know what is a crush and what actually is love, an infatuation quickly fades
The three dislikes are three korean guys that fit into the descriptions 😂😂😂
@Cas
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"Focus on you and wait for the right person" - this is probably one of the best advice I heard. People always say wait for the right person but you adding self love (focusing on yourself) makes much more sense. A lot of people grow tired of waiting that they settle for less. But if you focus on yourself, doing things you like, making yourself grow, it won't feel like you are waiting. You won't go impatient cause you'll realize there's so much more you can do and so much more to learn from yourself that you didn't know. And maybe if love finds you, it's just a bonus.
Here I am, not even interested in dating Korean guys watching this just cus I don’t like guys
lmao same
Same but I have a certain person I like, but I don’t like guys generally. You get me? 😂
Do you like girls then
This is absolutely the best dating advice. Rachel, keep it comin' - the people need to know.
I think this applies to everyone, not just Koreans Thank you for sharing. We learn from our experiences.
Oh god, only at the beginning and had to stop to write this bc that first one hit the nail on the head - i wasn’t even in Korea when I met him ( aka I met him in my city ) and literally after like 1 or 2 dates he was all “I’m in love with you” and I was so 😅????? bro we just met, and im not??? but I just played nice - legit after the third time I saw him, he got so bland - didn’t help we didn’t have shit in common in the first place 🤨 suddenly all the pet names disappeared when it didn’t go “all the way” if u know wat I mean. any time he did sound more interested was when he was talking about how eager he was about my body 🤢 lmfao I’m so happy to have dodged that bullet 😂
Honestly thanks for this video Rachel :”)
Edit: If any guy, korean or not, checks any of these boxes, it’s seriously not worth it! Go for a genuine person who loves you for you, not the idea of you! And it applies to the other way around :) Do your best because someone is bound to find you beautiful!
HAHA, one time a Korean guy literally said "if you keep liking me i MIGHT like you back".
yes he actually used those words. and my dumbass fell for it, because he was already showing that he liked me back. long story short, he was busy ALL the time, and had stupid excuses for it like "I was studying" (for 12 hours?? right).
luckily it didn't last long.
Same happen with me sis , but now it's over
@@proplay9952 Period. We better now. All we need is Kim Namjoon, Kim Seokjin, Min Yoongi, Jung Hoseok, Park Jimin, Kim Taehyung, and Jeon Jungkook.
(I'm only partially joking LOL).
I am late to comment but the exact same happened to me. We were basically a couple and even when I had to leave Korea we were still texting and calling. But after a while he didn't text anymore because "I am not on my phone 24/7" and "you know I have to study". After months of still being good friends I find out he has had a girlfriend all this time. Maybe even when we were still dating
If I was Korean and at any point in time my girl described anything in our relationship "like k-drama" we breaking up. She isn't into me, but Korea
That’s some sound advice, for any country. I’d like to add: know your value and be patient. ✌️
Let's be friends, Rachel :D
Aaah vocês aqui, amo vcs
Awww I love you guys
Amooo!!! ♡♡♡
#shook não tava esperando ver vocês por aqui!
Yes, yes, yes!!!!!!
have never dated before but i know all this shit from my friends telling me their experiences. this just doesn't apply to 'foreign' guys. they're men and women like this in every culture. don't allow yourself to get wrapped up in the idea of someone. ALSO don't act differently around someone just to impress them. because when you stop acting and start being yourself you might find out you're not as compatible as you thought. being yourself UNAPOLOGETICALLY will make you happier in the end.
*I am watching this as if some korean guy is gonna date me which is simply.....IMPOSSIBLE!!*
Don't use your name TAE IN SOCIAL MEDIA IT MEAN SHIT , EXCREMENT IN FILIPINO AND INDONESIAN
I dated a combination of 1 & 2, horrible abusive person. I'm glad I got away from him and met someone nice.
Me planning to marry Korean guy
Also me: let meh think it again 😁😂
Same😂
I've been watching these dating korean guy/girl videos, not that I am a koreaboo (and yes I am a kpop multi stan but not a koreaboo), not that I want to date a korean or is that interested in koreans, just wanting to see how non-kpop idol Koreans really are, because kpop puts this gentle kind flower boy/girl image into koreans.
"3 types of toxic guys you must avoid dating". This is not exclusively a Korean thing.
I'm a girl I remember every single detail my friends told me maybe what happened to them then a few days later I ask them about the thing and they are stunned 😅I'm just genuinely interested in my friends lives and I care about my friends also I like making people smile and I like giving people compliments 😅
Kristen Swanepoel I try to do the same
I can agree with the first one, that once happened to me. That type ends up manipulating you and you won’t even notice until it’s too late, anddd not to mention the toxicity
This happened with a American guy meaning just steer clear of that type of guy no matter the nationality
This is good advice for men of all nationalities.
Thumbnail says don't date these Korean guys
Me* looks at Gong yoo and Lee Dong Wook
I know I can't :(
Me : Minding my business .
You Tube : Notification
Me : sees Rachel
Me : Clicks faster than the rap of Jennie & Suga' s combine
Dont forget to add skz changbin.. Those 3 make the flash
Jennie+suga+RM
I clicked LIKE when you said sand castle on a beach... hahaha. As always you have a great sense of humor.
Heyyy!! Mine is the 9th like. First time I have given a like before it reaches 10!!!!
Love you Rachel
Lots of love and support from India
사랑해 언니
Also as a fun fact; In India you get corn on pizza. Not on every pizza but in selected ones
Your right completely true
Oh i love corn on my pizza!
Number 1 applies to any man on this planet (but it's so cool South Koreans have a name for them). He'll get attached as quickly as he'll dump you, because it was never about you, it was him using your relationship to fill his emotional gaps.
P.S: Corn on pizza is common in Brazil too 🤣
What happens if he spends time and money during your visit and more attention on you than u were expecting (even introduce you to his work coleagues and parents), but u are staying just for a month in korea??? And after u return to ur contry, relationship gets cold due to distance.... is this a new type version of type of guy number 1??? 🤔🤔🤔
Honestly I always wanted to move to Korea, I’m an American woman who’s never really had a chance to do anything fun in her life because of parental boundaries. And though she talked about those 3 types of toxic guys I feel like that doesn’t just go for Korean men, that can be any man/woman in general.
"Putting corns on pizza is a thing here"
Me, a dominican: "I thought it was normal" 👀
In my country it’s normal too, I always order extra corn😂😂 I think I’ve only seen Americans don’t like it👀😂
sameeee... Idk why I get so excited hearing about other Domincans, probably bc there are not any where I live sadly. I am literally the only dominican in my school
As an American I think if it's not meat , cheese, and a little veg then 90% Of Americans don't like it just like pineapple on pizza however I don't mind it
@@aldrixhq_p5815 sounds interesting to try some day
I'm from Poland and here it's also normal haha
2:45 who's gonna leave when you say bye in such a cute way
“This is a korean GUY and you shouldn t even TRY,here is WHY”🤣
Dating is just freaking hard..
I think you're wonderful 💕 Rachel.. nobody's perfect (the universe knows I'm not ) in trying to find that special someone. All we can do is pick ourselves back up and keep trying no matter how hard it is..
In India there is a corn pizza u should try it
Thank you Rachel, its not only talk about korean guys but every guys in the world
You're making me cry Rachel. I've been chatting with a Korean guy for like 2 months and he is like the 3rd type of guy I should never date. It's so hard for meeeeee :(
is the korean men you chatted is always busy at work? because I have this korean men I chatted for a months now and He is always busy at work. Whenever I chatted him, His reply is always late. But even though he is busy, he still chat with me and updated me but kinda late.. Is yours same with me also? always busy at work?
YOU LEARN THE MOST FROM FAILURE
I swear I'll never date Korean (or any) guys.
...I'll just get my heart broken by girls...sigh...
This applies to men from every race. Remember action speaks louder than words. He must earn your trust and love. Just be smart and observe.
Not ALL guys who fall in love fast are bad. My HUSBAND and I met for the first time 26 years ago. Long story short: We met in the late afternoon. We hit a club - with mutual friends of ours (the friends we went with were the ones who introduced us, actually). He spent the night, we stayed up talking until almost 7 AM. The next day, after we woke up, he packed up his place and moved in with me.
That's 26 years of being together...25 1/2 of those years very happily married. Literally. We got married 5 months and 2 weeks to the day after we met.
There really isn't a "time table" for love. Trust your INSTINCTS about the guy (or girl)...NOT a clock.
Oh well, I have been contacted by two Korean guys who saw one of my comments to which I added a picture of a scenery in my country. I live in a wealthy country and these guys are now after me. One said he loves me and desperately wants o come and see me (it's utter rubbish), and the other one keeps chasing me although I said I'm no dating material for him, too old for him. He's rude and tells me what to do like: The fact that I'm writing you doesn't give you the right to call ME anytime, ok? --- I mean WTF does he think he is? I have never been looking for a man, never asked for a date. In facte I'm married and happy but these two are a pain. I block them both today.
I have thought about trying pizza with corn when I visit. I don’t know if I’ll enjoy it, but I’m willing to try it. I just love pizza (my spirit food).
I think relationships are more like finding the right piece of a puzzle that fits you. May not fit someone else, but it’s the perfect fit for you. It’s also about finding the good from the bad for you - better to have a good person in your life, even if only as a friend, than anyone bad for you. Find that good person, support them, and take the journeys in life with them.
I’m so happy I discovered your channel. You’re so cute lol
Right when I was dating this one guy, he confessed he loves me after two days of getting together. I was like 😅. Love is a pretty strong word. I like you not love you. Plus we haven't even gone on any dates or stuff like that and he just got out a relationship. Broke up after two weeks though.
In my whole life I came to RUclips very fast because of your notification.
Hello fellow arab :)
Pls, what girls should I avoid?
Moving there in July
The ones that use that weird fake makeup that makes them look beautiful but are actually well you no😞🤢
Wow really
@@BadGirl-jo2px yea😦
@@jorg-cx2kv I don't think that's what you should worry about...
@@rock2946 I dont wanna date a fake girl
Trust me, each and every word she said is true!
I've experienced this!
I didn't know corns on pizza is a korean thing lmao it's very common where I'm from (central europe) and it's actually one of my favourite toppings
edit: What surprised me more is that koreans put potato on pizza. Now that was something I haven't heard anywhere before!
My opinion as a guy in his almost mid twenty who has never had a girlfriend and is kind of a overlover-kind-of-person:
There are no types of people to avoid in a relationship. People are very complex. I know of couples who fell in love, got married acouple of weeks later and are spending their old-age years together. I also know others who couldn't even last a year, even after knowing each other for years.
1. The guy who is over-heals in love with you, might really just be in love with you. It is just a chemical and biologic reaction. The resolve is finding out what kind of person he is. Test him. I am that kind of person myself. I have a deep and vast sense of desire, when i want something and am ready to do anything to achieve this. I am deeply invested and have a great sense of loyalty. To every single girl i have loved, i have written songs. They somehow end up rejecting me one way or the other (Probably because i don't allure many girls, and would spend my free time at home, researching, learning or reading).
2. & 3. "A guy who is not thoughtful of you" and "A guy who is not into you" are to my own surprise the most popular ones for women. I really tried with all my might to believe that women weren't interested in assholes, but with time i noticed that it was pointless. Girls would go for the guy that really don't give a crap about them: the dude that actually likes you, mumbles when he talks to you because he is afraid to lose you, lowerst his voice when talking to you, asks for your opinion, will get treated as crap ... "a nice guy". The guy who just doesn't care about you, or is already popular with girls, is the one that girls like. They later get surprised when he leaves them for another one.
Moreover tend to qualify their exes as being in this category, when THEY themselves were the issue.
Sometimes the main question to ask is what kind of person am i. Are you the girl who doesn't bring anything to the relationship? A girl with a bad sense of jugdement? A girl who looks for the outgoing, sponteneous, popular and attractive guy who knows he can get other girls and doesn't have to try with you? The guy with the tinder profile showing him at cool locations, with a muscular build?
I'd say all these 3 types disapear as soon as you start expressing your point of view or desires and needs. For example say: I can't meet on Tuesday I am free on Saturday. They at once start getting nervous and dissapoited in you.
if you keep asking someone that isnt interested, thats harassment, straight up, if they say no, leave it at that
Hi Rachel..
Though I haven't watch ur video yet..
But want to comment first
Love u unnie...
From INDIA 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳💁🙆🏻🙋🏻
Me tooooo😆😆😍😍😍 from India🇮🇳🇮🇳
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Same behen
Me to
Me too
Thank you for that last nugget GIRLLL 😭💛💛💛💛💛
Man. Dating sounds like TOO much work. For the time being, I am so glad to be working and focusing on myself.
Hey you're wearing a Penn State hat! Alright! I used to work for Penn State and a lot of my relatives graduated from there. I really love your dating advice. It's right on the mark! Thanks for this great advice!
wait this is... good advice. Regardless of the nationality of the guy. This is universally good advice. Take it around the world with you.
I loved how you did your hair!!!
#2 is so good. it might sound like an obnoxious point to some... but... the amount of foreign girls dating Korean men here that MAKE. SO. MANY. EXCUSES. in the name of "oh it's Korean culture". like I've seen girls accept so much toxic behavior because they were trying to have an ~open mind~ or ~this is how it is in an international relationship~. it's crazy. I even used to do it a little my first couple times dating here. until I reached a point where I was like "YOU KNOW WHAT??? I'm not going to accept anything here from a man that I wouldn't accept from a guy in my hometown in the USA. and if he doesn't like it? well then I guess he better date a Korean girl then haha" of course make some compromises and communicate well but... honestly both people should understand that both have been raised in a different culture before dating haha. the amount of men here who want to "ride the white horse" or whatever and still aren't thoughtful to her own culture/desires... damn... just plain straight up disrespect.
For some reason, as a guy, I really enjoy watching videos where people talk about how toxic we are. I don't know why, it's cathartic.
Tysm I feel like I would’ve fallen for many of these 😂😭❤️
I think these advices work with all the cultures not only the korean :)
Tae Yeon was in Amsterdam, you can find her singing in front of the Amsterdam Royal Palace Dam square, Rembrandt square and other iconic locations uploaded on youtube, seems The Dutch government opens access to the South Korean pop singers at big tourist squares for entertainment, lucky its recorded, It was free to visit 🥳
When Rachel attracts us with The mains in Goblin😸🐥❤
I had a similar experience about the whole nice guy thing and no he is not Korean. He would say things like “ I’ve always thought you were cute and love when you smile” that kind of sh*t. He asked me out I rejected him and he was ok with it but he ignored my text messages after that until one day he finally said he wasn’t interested me only to find out he only wanted me for … that. So that’s how my relationship with my friend was ruined 😄
I love corn on a pizza, corn and green peppers
I like corns on my pizza too😂🙌
I'm from Germany and whenever I make pizza at home I put corn on it too, and I heard from many other germans that they do it too :)
I know what I like and will never settle for less. I am paranoid, picky, and doubtful so I don’t settle down easily. One of the reasons why I have never dated anyone.
Just because I turned down a Korean guy's request to talk on the phone, he blocked me the next day? Seriously? So immature and it's definitely a red flag
T^T
Can I get myself a friend like Rachel?😞😭😭😭😭😭
She's looking after us all the way from there😔💘
I already find it weird when someone says I love you after like three days. Unless it's a soulmate connection. I'm rather cautious about when guys say I love you like you hardly know me so how you can love me I understand like but love takes a couple of months to actually get to know a person and feel that emotion.
Hey Rachel, thank u.
Finally i found your channel and it helps me much to increase my english skill because actually english is not my first language, sometimes my listening skill is bad enough, but i love to watch how you talking on your videos, i can pretty understand even if without subtitles, and once more.. thank you! I think your channel deserves better, i'll recommend my friends to watching ur videos, keep hwaiting! *sorry for bad english
OMG haha this is the best!!! So relatable real and funny!!!😂😂😂😂 i found plenty of these guys in korea!!! Stories for days! Gosh There are similar guys everywhere !
Your just setting yourself up for a fall If you think Is what you see In kdrama Is how Korean girls and guys are. In real life their just like everyone else.
I hate it when there like oh your so pretty and nice but then I go to a sushi restaurant and don't drink much and they just like ignore after afterwards!!
These facts fit many nationalities of guys... The last point reminded me of Itaewon Class and some other Kdramas. Haha.
OK THAT MEANS I HAVE TO BE REALLLLLLLL CAREEEEFUL WHILE CHOOSING BOYS THANKS SIS
As long as someone is in control of someone, even if they have the same nationality, you just have to say NO and leave...
Corn on pizza = at least one table getting flipped over real housewives style.
I honestly thought this would be common sense... However, I guess "common ain't that common". A fun video to watch!