How To Counter Manipulate A Sociopath

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  • How to counter manipulate a sociopath. Sometimes you can get emotional manipulators to voluntarily disengage by distracting and redirecting them with non-stop interruptions and non-stop annoying questions. This tactic will frustrate narcissists, sociopaths, and emotional abusers. And hopefully the con artist will move on to a less annoying target.
    Repeatedly visualizing and/or enacting counter manipulation is one way to repair and strengthen the neural pathways that have been damaged due to the abuse you have suffered. A great recovery tip is to simply visualize yourself counter manipulating the abuser into disengaging. Imagine the abuser calling you on the phone or seeing them in person, and visualize yourself engaging in a counter offensive manipulation strategy that neutralizes the abuser's attempt to triangulate or gaslight you. The mental process of [memorizing] what you could do or say is therapeutic, because the visualization of self-protection will reinforced a feeling of empowerment.
    Counter manipulation strategies are not recommended if you suspect the manipulator is violent. Counter manipulation is not a long-term solution, it is meant to only be used when you are unable to go no contact or if you need to do [something] to get the emotional abuser to voluntarily disengage.
    *Disclaimer: This video is for entertainment purposes only.
    This video is not meant to be used as a substitute for mental health care services or legal advice. I am not a healthcare professional, doctor, attorney, or expert.
    FTC: Not sponsored. All opinions are my own.
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  • @SachaSlone
    @SachaSlone  6 лет назад +16

    Narc Vader vs Educated Empath : ruclips.net/video/a0O8JAg1uzU/видео.html
    How Narcs Manufacture YOUR Social Isolation ruclips.net/video/uhRyH2B41xI/видео.html
    Narcissism --Empty Shell or Strong Identity: ruclips.net/video/k4-p85dmZv4/видео.html
    What Sparks A Narcissist's Revenge cycle?: ruclips.net/video/udDakYr31hw/видео.html

    • @cameronreekie6519
      @cameronreekie6519 6 лет назад +1

      Sacha Slone wait! I’m an empath but, I know weird words and junk because, my dad threw the tv out cos it was immoral lol! So I had only books, and when I’d read all the books in the house, (and the ones I’d borrowed from the library that week) I was basically left with the dictionary. I didn’t enjoy that much though but, some of the words are still in my head. That said I don’t use them in conversation, or a daily basis, it’s handy for quizzes tho!🤣🤣

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 лет назад +3

      It's not about the words, it's about the fact that the other person is trying to game you via emotional manipulation --using language. The "weird word example" is just *one small* example of how a sociopath uses language to manipulate our emotional well-being. // If your intent is *not to manipulate* then this specific example would not apply to everyday direct honest communication! Does that make more sense?

    • @cameronreekie6519
      @cameronreekie6519 6 лет назад +2

      Sacha Slone absolutely, I was just joking. I didn’t take it to heart lol! Awesome videos though, thank you x

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 лет назад +2

      Since you said you have read a lot, I have a quick question about vocabulary: every once in a while I will use an advanced vocab term that I can't remember ever using before and I can never remember where I've heard/read the word before, but I know the word. It's like my brain has a bunch of vocab stored away in my unconscious mind and every once in a while the word will surface! It is SO bizarre when that happens. Does that ever happen to you?

    • @cameronreekie6519
      @cameronreekie6519 6 лет назад +2

      Sacha Slone yes, all the time! I think I described someone as an old tarter once. My friend was like “Where the hells that word come from?.” Me “ I literally don’t know, I know it was appropriate to the conversation tho” her “ yeah I know your bright, tell me what it is” “ it’s a nasty, evil, bitter old woman type thing, you know takes no prisoners,” her “ I’m looking that up when we get home to mine” 🤣🤣

  • @panther29484
    @panther29484 7 лет назад +139

    That smile... damn. If you even suspect someone is a sociopath, run. Trying to beat them at their own game for self-gratifying Brownie points, is suicide.

    • @hopeyouhaveagoodday3900
      @hopeyouhaveagoodday3900 3 года назад +6

      thats why I'm gonna do it

    • @mobwatch8119
      @mobwatch8119 2 года назад +4

      @@hopeyouhaveagoodday3900 You can't win. Because unlike them, those who aren't sociopaths have limits. That's why you can never, ever beat them at their game, because they'll always go that one step further.

    • @nathandouvier1976
      @nathandouvier1976 Год назад +8

      @@mobwatch8119 Most sociopaths have some level of narcissism. One thing you can do (while maintaining relative anonymity) is to take away anything that fuels into their grandiose self image. All you really have to do is act slightly less impressed and watch the magic happen. Your alibis being, “it’s just what I expect from you.” This gives the illusion that you’re rooting for them while they tear themselves in two, constantly trying to outperform their previous endeavors. This is just one of many many ways and keeps you safe for the most part.*
      *If you’re in contact with a sociopath with Machiavellian tendencies, you’re already in danger compared to someone who is not. You know your situation better than anyone else and always act accordingly.

    • @moegreene3630
      @moegreene3630 10 месяцев назад

      @@hopeyouhaveagoodday3900good luck, dumbass. That’s a game for sociopaths, narcissists, and shrinks. I promise you there is levels to those people, and it gets dark. They’re not stupid, or necessarily even intentionally evil, but they will get something out of you without even trying. It’s in their nature, and they tend to be very very smart.

  • @Ozinarg
    @Ozinarg 7 лет назад +213

    A lot of sociopaths actually DO know the definitions of the words they use, furthermore, these plans that are discussed rely on absolute control of the conversation and near flawless execution of the plan. If a sociopath were to catch on at almost any point during the implementation of the plan, they could easily turn the tables by making you look like a snob concerned with correcting other peoples vocabulary. Try and remember, while sociopaths have diluted emotions, they're not a computer program you just beat with a thought out plan. they adapt to the situation and find workarounds to either play the power player and make themselves look smart while demeaning you, or play the victim and make you look like an asshole.

    • @blazerider1376
      @blazerider1376 7 лет назад +6

      To add on your figures I would like to inform that they easily portray a persuasive manner that can easily manipulate most of the people in the world.

    • @nicholasmoline2035
      @nicholasmoline2035 7 лет назад +15

      i think i have valuble input here considering im a sociopath.not self proclaimed but diagnosed with antisocial personality and intermettentexplessive disorders since i was in juvanile hall hall and i can tell you that i dont think this video is properly titled because i dont think what shes describing is a sociopath perse rather someone more ike my uncle who does just what shes saying and he does from being insecure about his intelligence you can say "oh nick how can you just assume he feel inadequate" if your taking my word for one thing than take it for this to.and actually i enjoy vocabulary words i ferverently studied them with much zeal during my incarceration and even in school or at home ive made rap music with my older brother since i was a child and had a flare for mixing complicated words and double entendres, but refrain from using them in conversation because if you have noticed people with genius level iq talk equally to you and make things easy to interpret while my uncle compensates and does enjoy that feeling over mental dominance, but if you dont feel as dumb as their trying to make you feel, id say just speak your mind dont falter to much and keep your wits about you. oh and that comment about us not being artistic or creative? my lady what we do everyday is art in it of its self.

    • @frostfiend5169
      @frostfiend5169 7 лет назад +13

      you read and studied in prison but cant differentiate between they're their and there?

    • @HighSpeedNoDrag
      @HighSpeedNoDrag 7 лет назад +3

      Well said.

    • @buttnaked
      @buttnaked 7 лет назад +1

      Orion Felis 4? ha..

  • @REDPLASMA1305
    @REDPLASMA1305 7 лет назад +385

    How to get stabbed by a Sociopath...

    • @sweettooth5737
      @sweettooth5737 7 лет назад +9

      REDPLASMA1305 😁👍😂😂😂😉

    • @REDPLASMA1305
      @REDPLASMA1305 7 лет назад +4

      Tell that to Santa.

    • @REDPLASMA1305
      @REDPLASMA1305 7 лет назад +3

      Roses Bloom i want to go to jail...

    • @Andrew.Mac0007
      @Andrew.Mac0007 7 лет назад +11

      Sociopaths will usually not care about going to jail. Psychopaths do

    • @REDPLASMA1305
      @REDPLASMA1305 7 лет назад +2

      flamemadragon can i bring crack in jail?

  • @OlymPigs2010
    @OlymPigs2010 7 лет назад +114

    I've found it's much wiser and safer to not engage or argue with any nasty or overbearing person because these people are often extremely angry and vindictive.Getting yourself targeted as a Sociopath's Enemy is very easy and definitely not worth it...that's why you shouldn't argue with these Maniacs and instead avoid talking or having any interactions with them.

    • @Seabourne_Actual
      @Seabourne_Actual 7 лет назад +7

      the best way to keep me from doing what I do, is to stay away.
      you said it right.

    • @gregorytrane7828
      @gregorytrane7828 7 лет назад +3

      OlymPigs2010 Good advice !

    • @kathleenhahn9278
      @kathleenhahn9278 7 лет назад +12

      But sometimes you are trapped and have to work with people day-to-day, so it's good to know tactics to get them to spend their energy elsewhere.

    • @OlymPigs2010
      @OlymPigs2010 7 лет назад +11

      ...there's an old saying "The Strong Give Up and Leave...Whereas the Weak Give Up and Stay!"

    • @TKBrown
      @TKBrown 7 лет назад +3

      OlymPigs2010 Sociopaths aren't maniacs, some aren't dangerous as others. Like me, I'm a sociopath, but I don't have too many symptoms as others may do. It's OK to befriend a sociopath because unlike pychopaths, we could have friends with emotion.

  • @Kollin011
    @Kollin011 8 лет назад +30

    I ve seen them having to have control over the conversation. They don't want you to talk. I find it easier to just look at their eyes and let them know without talking that you know what they are. They will avoid you after that. The only thing that frightens them is being exposed as monsters.

    • @JimmyJaxJellyStax
      @JimmyJaxJellyStax 8 лет назад +8

      +Kollin011 Indeed. I notice a lot of the more empath types including my own experiences have listened to so many conversations, they are quick to recognize the sociopath and its incredibly fake conversations. They subtle cues of hesitation to draw lies and overly charm fascade of a superficial personality with subtle resistances to imperfections, pretending they are perfect instead.

  • @derickelmore1041
    @derickelmore1041 7 лет назад +66

    Or just don't acknowledge them that'll piss them off too

    • @91kweldulf
      @91kweldulf 4 года назад +3

      You don't want to piss them off, though. You want to be quite certain what they're, without them knowing that you know.

    • @maryboubard9442
      @maryboubard9442 4 года назад +1

      It seems we cant win ,dont look at him it pisses him off or ..go no contact ,which pisses him off more....sigh..

    • @91kweldulf
      @91kweldulf 4 года назад +2

      ​ Mary Boubard Grey rock method, though. You can't win against them, but you can stop playing their game. Watch those videos from the "surviving narcissism" channel. Dr les Carter is such a wholesome man.

    • @evagreen2305
      @evagreen2305 4 года назад

      K. A R M A wins:)

    • @91kweldulf
      @91kweldulf 4 года назад

      @@Medietos ​ @Claudia Bothner You can't control what another person does. Maybe you have some dependency issues as well, most people who trauma bond with narcs have. You can't change a Narc. Seek out therapy yourself, being in an abusive relationship actually can even cause PTSD. You're worth it. It seems scary, but you're not responsible for how others relate to you. You're only responsible to protect yourself from abusive people and you're worth it. I'm just a random person on the internet and by far not qualified to give you advice on how to handle the situation at hand. You need to get help and develop an exit plan. You're not stuck. You're free as a bird you just need to understand that you have powerful wings.

  • @sofakingco_ol7381
    @sofakingco_ol7381 6 лет назад +45

    So be more sociopath then the sociopath? 🤔 too much work. Rather just ignore them 😂

  • @stubadoo0407
    @stubadoo0407 7 лет назад +48

    Anyone would disengage from someone who spends several minutes looking at their phone while you're trying to talk to them, it's bad manners and super assholish

  • @kittenheels1958
    @kittenheels1958 8 лет назад +28

    They also say they went to college when they never really did

    • @narcbusters9061
      @narcbusters9061 8 лет назад +7

      +Catalina MaGoo One semester in City College and they are devaluing MBAs as sellouts.

    • @gbornfreereallyfree4928
      @gbornfreereallyfree4928 8 лет назад

      thats a liar, simple as that😉

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala 8 лет назад +4

      or if they did go they think it makes them special and superior

    • @Mllascelles1
      @Mllascelles1 8 лет назад +6

      OMG...my husband uses this ALL the time. So much my 12 yr old son asked me where's the certificate/degree. My response was to laugh and say I'm wondering that too.

    • @persiusshelly6635
      @persiusshelly6635 7 лет назад +1

      That sounds credible -- or were in the military I might add... Wait, this isn't a specific person is it?

  • @RaveBabyFuu
    @RaveBabyFuu 7 лет назад +17

    I'm sorry, but i dont see how making someone spell a word and offer its definition is any way to repel a sociopath.
    the person is going to educate the listener on the word and continue talking [otherwise they wouldnt have chosen that word.]
    Honestly, this video should be titled "how to excuse yourself from conversation by being really rude"
    i say this girl is a sociopath in thinking this "advice" is brilliant.

  • @caddy272
    @caddy272 7 лет назад +42

    this is ridiculous, I am astounded by her counterproductive means of reciprocal manipulation. (insert other big words that futher my point.)

    • @daphne4983
      @daphne4983 4 года назад +1

      I would like to see her scenario played out.

    • @Pugetwitch
      @Pugetwitch Год назад

      I know dude, it's really patronizing that she assumes just because somebody has a personality disorder that they don't understand University level vocabulary, AKA "big words". I don't think she realizes how many surgeons, lawyers, ceos, professors, and other extremely intelligent and gifted people are psychopaths.

  • @sandesjaytlems8056
    @sandesjaytlems8056 8 лет назад +15

    A sociopath would immediately dequalify themselves. Nobody is dumb enough (especially a sociopath) to pretend they know something when someone is fact checking them.
    First thing out of there mouth will be something along the lines of "I actually learned it a few days ago from a friend. SHE told me it means this!" A good liar (sociopaths) would slip out easy...

  • @hydrogenroar
    @hydrogenroar 7 лет назад +19

    If you prevail over a sociopath in a debate you will have an enemy for LIFE unless they can get you back and they will try you can count on it. You can make them afraid of you by sticking to your guns and not flinching or budging while at the same time indicating to them that you are ON TO THEM and you're not having any of it. They love to play games so don't engage them.

    • @ashtorethashtoreth1301
      @ashtorethashtoreth1301 7 лет назад +2

      Roger Hornaday, oh I have a fetish of engaging sociopaths and love to debate with them. It is self gratification to know that sociopaths are nothing but a huge bs! I love the look on sociopaths face when I bet them in their own games. you have to learn everything about sociopaths and know their games and I love to show them their wrong. Sociopaths cannot stand me because I know how to twist their own words and thoughts to prove that they are nothing. My ex is a big sociopath. I learned from ex and I used my own tactics to reflect bs back to ex. Ex even had friends of sociopath and they all cannot stand me. they think I am stupid because they want to win and they could not. So the war continued until they gave up. Ha ha!!!!

    • @ashtorethashtoreth1301
      @ashtorethashtoreth1301 7 лет назад +1

      Roger Hornaday, oh I have a fetish of engaging sociopaths and love to debate with them. It is self gratification to know that sociopaths are nothing but a huge bs! I love the look on sociopaths face when I bet them in their own games. you have to learn everything about sociopaths and know their games and I love to show them their wrong. Sociopaths cannot stand me because I know how to twist their own words and thoughts to prove that they are nothing. My ex is a big sociopath. I learned from ex and I used my own tactics to reflect bs back to ex. Ex even had friends of sociopath and they all cannot stand me. they think I am stupid because they want to win and they could not. So the war continued until they gave up. Ha ha!!!!

    • @sweettooth5737
      @sweettooth5737 7 лет назад +5

      Ashtoreth Ashtoreth1 Spoken like a true sociopath....

    • @sweettooth5737
      @sweettooth5737 7 лет назад +2

      Ashtoreth Ashtoreth1 Also, sociopaths do not just "give up"...they WAIT. 😁😁😁😉

    • @ashtorethashtoreth1301
      @ashtorethashtoreth1301 7 лет назад

      TastyCritters, oh yeah, lol the waiting game. I forgot about that lol!😉

  • @KindraElise
    @KindraElise 7 лет назад +14

    Or you could literally just be mature and ignore them? If you're aware that they're trying to manipulate you, then what's the point in making an ass of yourself, too? Like, I mean, not every sociopath is aware of their medical condition, so nothing productive would come out of "pulling out your smart phone" and "challenging" them.

    • @Pugetwitch
      @Pugetwitch Год назад

      Yeah, I can tell you right now from being close with several people on the aspd spectrum that one thing that they love to do is argue. It doesn't matter who they are. I was with my friend earlier today, we were driving down the street. He unrolled the passenger window of my car and shouted at some guy a few choice words, then he looked at me and laugh. He said he just wanted to see that guy's reaction. He does stuff like that all the time. One time he acted like he was going to p unch me, and he said he joking around. He just wanted to "test my reaction" because I told him I was a victim of domestic violence in the past. He thought it was great to try to terrify me. It didn't work. I just stared at him blankly and told him to knock it off. I'm autistic and I don't get offended easily. I'm not scared of him and if I needed to, I will definitely tell him to fckk off. I have multiple times before. Lol

  • @notsure3984
    @notsure3984 5 лет назад +42

    This girl is clueless. Sociopaths do not memorize facts, they do everything on the fly at the spur of the moment. They do not play a logic-based fact game - they play a manipulative one where their opponent has to play by rules but they themselves don't.
    There is only ONE way to win with a sociopath, and that is to avoid them.

    • @briancooley8777
      @briancooley8777 4 года назад +7

      Not Sure the thing that bothers me the most is the dumb moronic people that blindly follow them and cheer them on even though what they said was completely stupid as hell. They said it with confidence though so “they won” right? Fucking Hell

    • @daphne4983
      @daphne4983 4 года назад

      Or to shoot them

    • @caroldesarnoNeNe45
      @caroldesarnoNeNe45 4 года назад +2

      @@briancooley8777 I am also stunned at how many people follow them and think they are just the best people.
      They do alot of favors, so you owe them. They are Super Sneaky and Fucked up Individuals.... RUN AND laugh while you are getting away from them....that will piss them off

    • @vreezyeasy5654
      @vreezyeasy5654 3 года назад

      COOLkid123 goodForLife_103 ok coolkid

    • @fidas1863
      @fidas1863 3 года назад

      Or beat them up that Will work to

  • @8literbeater
    @8literbeater 7 лет назад +152

    Better title: *"How to Be More of a Sociopath Than Any Person You May Encounter"* Why would you go to such effort to confront a stranger? How crazy do you have to be to take a simple encounter, and turn it into a battle? This video is NUTS! So if I tell you that my first girlfriend was somewhat unprepossessing, you'll whip out your phone to ask for a verbatim definition, because you didn't pay attention in school? Then you would call me a sociopath? How about your disorder of being an unnecessary pedant, with an inability to have a normal conversation, and refusing to make eye contact with a person you're having a conversation with, and picking fights with people you barely know?

    • @b_g_c3281
      @b_g_c3281 7 лет назад +6

      8literbeater
      Omfg, YES!
      Spot-the-Fuck-ON

    • @austinstad5990
      @austinstad5990 7 лет назад +3

      yup you pegged her...wing nut...lol

    • @snotrat2
      @snotrat2 7 лет назад +2

      YES!!!!

    • @bwsmyhero
      @bwsmyhero 7 лет назад +1

      8literbeater, because it's fun!!!!

    • @badkitty3559
      @badkitty3559 7 лет назад +12

      yep, just saw your comment, she is just a bitch.
      The way she talks that fake smile that takes up half of her face and you can obviously see how vicious she is from miles away.
      All these videos about Narcissism yet, clearly she is the patient here. Watch how she is talking, like she is sharing with us something so important that only she figured out; She is so happy and she feels so proud she thinks she is amazing.
      Go figure, she probably thinks we all here are sociopaths now and we want to break her down or something lol.

  • @amv062184
    @amv062184 7 лет назад +8

    If you try to emulate a sociopaths manipulation, they will really like you. It's always more fun when others join in on the game.

    • @amv062184
      @amv062184 7 лет назад +1

      Just don't get freaked out, or show fear, and you will be just fine. ;)

  • @leananshae
    @leananshae 7 лет назад +34

    I've lived with a sociopath/psychopath for over 10 years and all this negative attention you're describing giving one of these malformed beings just fuels their nasty agenda and emboldens them to do more harm. And, yes, anyone would make a face when you treat them like this... because what you described here is just plain being rude.

    • @brandon3158
      @brandon3158 5 лет назад +1

      Leananshae man i feel you on this so hard

    • @caroldesarnoNeNe45
      @caroldesarnoNeNe45 4 года назад +1

      Yes and that is what they count on.
      Sociopaths are Rude.... They always push the boundaries of decency.

  • @lususnaturae999
    @lususnaturae999 7 лет назад +23

    re-title: how to be a sociopath

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад +9

      According to you, not letting a con artists manipulate you = sociopath. Now, that is funny.

    • @lususnaturae999
      @lususnaturae999 7 лет назад +5

      According to you, not letting a con artist manipulate you by being a sociopath yourself (lying about word definitions is a con and a manipulation)... yes very funny.

    • @austinstad5990
      @austinstad5990 7 лет назад +1

      Perfect response!!

    • @kyalucero7977
      @kyalucero7977 7 лет назад +2

      Victim-blamer. Shame on YOU, actually. Gaslighting ass.

    • @lususnaturae999
      @lususnaturae999 7 лет назад +1

      Kya Lucero no one is blaming her for what ever happened to her or anyone victimized by one... but to justify lowering yourself to the same level of a sociopath? there are far better ways to prove a point than deceit or malice... or name-calling.

  • @breakthroughmoment1647
    @breakthroughmoment1647 8 лет назад +6

    What I like about the counter manipulation strategies you recommend is that you are taking back your power; you are gaining control of the situation. With people like that you have to play "the game" and look at them with detached curiosity. It can even be fun when you don't take them so seriously. That was our mistake in the first place, taking these clowns seriously and in the scheme of things they're no more important than you or me. You're letting them know you're not taken in by them in the least (your knees aren't turning to jelly and you aren't shaking in your boots). I can imagine the jaw drop effect of your acquaintance, lol! Wish I could have been there. Absolutely brilliant, Sacha! These narcopaths love to flash their brains. Btw, I don't mind being around a really learned person just so long as they aren't condescending me. We don't have malicious intent (like they do), therefore these counter manipulation techniques are great!! Thank you.

  • @SachaSlone
    @SachaSlone  7 лет назад +6

    *Nihilism: narcissists want to watch you burn* ruclips.net/video/NoZP41pJDXc/видео.html
    *The Purity Trap* ruclips.net/video/wmX7FQT42Qw/видео.html
    *Power Levels* : ruclips.net/video/f0oC1KSz7Fw/видео.html
    *Sex with a Narcissist* : ruclips.net/video/cnZoXl-GMY0/видео.html
    *Fool Narcissists Using Disinformation* : ruclips.net/video/cCkGVGrxzsU/видео.html
    *How to Frighten a Narcissist* : ruclips.net/video/HdE5VBne_tk/видео.html

    • @ibal1630
      @ibal1630 7 лет назад

      Sacha Slone

    • @median407
      @median407 7 лет назад

      Yuhhh

    • @ninja_dragon44-35
      @ninja_dragon44-35 7 лет назад +1

      IDIOT IT THE WORD STILL MEANS THE SAME THING

    • @84sheepdog56
      @84sheepdog56 7 лет назад +3

      Please post a new video on how this one should of been called " how to out sociopath a sociopath"

    • @joannecushman1501
      @joannecushman1501 7 лет назад +2

      DRD : AHHHHH, as I was listening to her I, had an urge to check the comments. Yours was just ahhhhhhh!!!!! Next ones going to be how to get murdered by a sociopath. Ahhhahhhhhahhhhh!!!!!

  • @RekUzumaki
    @RekUzumaki 7 лет назад +6

    As a sociopath, I have to say that some (like myself) don't try to manipulate people. I never saw myself as a good person (Even in my childhood.), but I did know that if I tried hard enough I could be. I worked hard to to be an individual deserving of trust, and you are fueling a very dangerous stigma around people like me- who have no control of the disorder they were diagnosed with.

    • @nathandouvier1976
      @nathandouvier1976 Год назад +1

      ⚠️Irony Incoming⚠️* If you’re actively trying to be a good person (assuming you’re improving as you go) you do, via a technicality, “have control over your diagnosis.”
      *Pertaining to the correction of language used by S-paths. Also, I mean this in all good fun, do let me know if I’m crossing a line. Side note, I have “high functioning ASD” so… one letter off amirite?😏 jk again. Please though, if you deem it necessary roast my autism. Not only would it be justified, I guarantee (if it’s good) I’ll laugh. Much love and I hope the stigma wears away. Anyone can at least follow the ‘norms’ and ’be good’. It’s convenient if nothing else. Not everyone (yes, even with a diagnosed deficit in their capacity for empathy) can be evil. Personally, I don’t think it’d be their best interest 😉😉

    • @whosdatguy91
      @whosdatguy91 6 месяцев назад

      Sure. And relationships with narcissists Are healthy. Sociopathy is a Cluster of behavior which affects Otter people negatively. U cant eridacte That. If you Would it would not be sociopathy

    • @KabertaKneeGr0wCxntman
      @KabertaKneeGr0wCxntman 4 месяца назад

      there are 2 types of sociopaths/psychopaths:
      Angels, and Demons.
      think on that.

  • @beeclassy4867
    @beeclassy4867 7 лет назад +2

    Sasha, I had to pause the video midway to comment that you had me burst into uncontrollable laughter. I haven't laughed like this in a very long time, you're hilarious! Thank you for posting this video.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      I am happy you liked it. Thank you for your comment!

  • @Diamondtree31
    @Diamondtree31 8 лет назад +4

    I love when you produce longer videos (such as this). I mean, like 10 minutes long or more. Your material is so interesting that I can't get enough! :)

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 лет назад +1

      +Diamondtree31
      oh, wow, what a fabulous compliment! Thank you for the positive feedback. I love to know I am providing value to my peers and to targets of abuse. :-)

  • @m1ntbrush
    @m1ntbrush 6 лет назад +5

    You put a smile back on my face after a wonderful encounter with a sociopath today

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 лет назад

      I am happy you liked it. Thank you for your comment!

  • @stevenemry9828
    @stevenemry9828 7 лет назад +20

    what if I understand the big words they are using?

  • @tatertott2390
    @tatertott2390 5 лет назад +2

    You will never know just how much your videos have helped me since I found them last night, I've taken back a little more power in my relationship...sadly I'm currently in a relationship with someone who embodies every evil trait of a sociopath. I found your video last night on changing your name to change your life as a alternative to suicide, been beaten down for over a year now, the first year was heaven, but once he had me everything changed. Thank you so much for these videos. Watching and listening has got me grounded and I really needed it. Thank you thank you

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  5 лет назад

      Keep studying and fill up your tool box with lots of counter-manipulation tactics. Even if you decide not to counter-manipulate, you will feel empowered knowing you have the TOOLS to run circles around that fool.

  • @Resonance1919
    @Resonance1919 7 лет назад +30

    Or... they'll make you show them the screen lmao.

    • @GandalfTheSilver
      @GandalfTheSilver 7 лет назад +1

      Lol

    • @citizen1114
      @citizen1114 7 лет назад +6

      That's what I'd do...especially if I know I'm right to a very high degree of certainty. Then if I am a socio I have your ass at that point.

  • @dorothysnyder3187
    @dorothysnyder3187 8 лет назад +3

    I really love your videos. I love the way you are able to put them in their place without losing who you are.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 лет назад

      +Dorothy Snyder
      Thank you! :-)

  • @lukeluna1144
    @lukeluna1144 6 лет назад +11

    as a sociopath i know this would make me extremely angry lol , great advice though

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 лет назад

      Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

    • @jaredhollingworth6316
      @jaredhollingworth6316 4 года назад

      This comment section has been the light of my day. I've not seen such bullshit in all my days

  • @sunshine4evr517
    @sunshine4evr517 3 года назад +3

    I have adopted this triangulation tactic by accident. My daughter in law loves to dominate my time by making conversation when I’m getting ready for work or working on a project. I have learned to just stay focused on what I’m doing and reply what did you say until she gets tired of it.

  • @masterartist1025
    @masterartist1025 7 лет назад +15

    This is my husband, exactly! OMG! He never knows the big words he uses!!

    • @masterartist1025
      @masterartist1025 7 лет назад +2

      animegod92 My husband is a caucasian jew.

    • @masterartist1025
      @masterartist1025 7 лет назад +1

      Spenser McNett My husband happens to be a caucasian jew, so it must be a white thing.

    • @masterartist1025
      @masterartist1025 7 лет назад

      Spenser McNett My husband is a "white" jew.

    • @masterartist1025
      @masterartist1025 7 лет назад +4

      ***** I should've ignored these idiots with their narrow mindset. You know what they say. "when you argue with a fool it is hard for others to discern who the smart one is." LOL! I shouldn't have sunk to their level.

    • @masterartist1025
      @masterartist1025 7 лет назад +1

      ***** You are so correct. Have a beautiful day, Rachel. BTW, I love your name! :)

  • @surgicaltoolboxrnhealthbea3292
    @surgicaltoolboxrnhealthbea3292 7 лет назад +31

    I'm a high IQ EMPATH I beat them at their own game, 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂, I go deep or correct them.

    • @EB-gt9qq
      @EB-gt9qq 7 лет назад +2

      Same

    • @fredsingateh9701
      @fredsingateh9701 7 лет назад

      Who's them?

    • @bryguysays2948
      @bryguysays2948 7 лет назад

      Theresa Brewer I can go deep too lol. J/k I find myself at times having great mental agility at times.

    • @LuisBarbarito
      @LuisBarbarito 7 лет назад

      Some may mock you and make fun of you all the same, some don't care at all.

    • @sweettooth5737
      @sweettooth5737 7 лет назад +7

      Theresa Brewer Just be aware that if you cross an imaginary line, you may end up dead.

  • @josephscarborough8888
    @josephscarborough8888 7 лет назад +9

    so having a command of diction and vocabulary and a sharp memory more than likely makes one a sociopath? being well read makes you a sociopath? why the hell would you want to even try and manipulate a sociopath? does this lady have any expertise in psychology or the pathologies of personalities?

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      What about this technique: ruclips.net/video/csJNRPepv10/видео.html

    • @josephscarborough8888
      @josephscarborough8888 7 лет назад +2

      i dont see the relevance of giving me a link to that video unless you are passive aggressively suggesting that my previous comment somehow constituted verbal abuse. i simply asked a legitimate question about any certifications that would validate the tips and or advice you give on your videos. seeing as most of the content on your channel is directed towards dealing with people who have, in some cases, very serious and often dangerous personality disorders; where is the harm in me asking if you have any academic or clinical experience in dealing with these kinds of people?

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      No, not at all. I just wanted to provide another example of how to get a verbal abuser to peacefully voluntarily disengage. The goal is to distract and redirect without being overtly defiant[in the eyes of the abuser].

    • @josephscarborough8888
      @josephscarborough8888 7 лет назад

      Ok, well keep on keeping on. Hopefully your videos help someone in one of these situations. It seems like you have a decent amount of personal experience in dealing with sociopaths and narcissists. I hope that doesnt effect you too harshly. Its dangerous even being exposed to people like that for any extended amount of time, both emotionally and unfortunately physically. It takes a certain type of person with a great deal of mental fortitude and knowledge to safely interact with socio/psycho/narc personalities on a regular basis. I hope that isnt the case for you. Speaking from personal experience, emotional manipulation is the toughest aspect for myself and most others to cope with. The mind is the most powerful tool humanity has in its toolbox and to me is the most important scientific frontier we can explore. Encourage yourself and others to never take it for granted, especially when some minds are so warped and twisted with the aforementioned disorders. Just be extremely cautious and mindful in meting out advice in dealing with individuals who take great pleasure in said forms of manipulation. Ill step off my soapbox now. I apologize for the length of this comment but it seemed the only course of action open to me.

    • @blackpeter70
      @blackpeter70 7 лет назад

      Tom Cruise does. It must be true, 'cause he said so.

  • @straight_flizzy
    @straight_flizzy 4 года назад

    Really smart of her that she gives warnings, and tells everyone to be careful using this technique.

  • @chrisallen7484
    @chrisallen7484 7 лет назад +4

    This actually marginalises you from everyone else involved. People think you're disrespectful, pedantic and rude if you do this.

  • @AliceDeBois
    @AliceDeBois 7 лет назад +7

    Because getting under the skin of a sociopath sounds so wise.....-_-'

    • @KabertaKneeGr0wCxntman
      @KabertaKneeGr0wCxntman 4 месяца назад +1

      hahahaha i was thinking the same thing
      you're better off ignoring them, staring at their phone when they're done talking say "sorry what? you did what and di that and this?" then ignore them again and scroll facebook but not on purpose. do it like the normies ACTUALLY do it not on purpose to everyone around them. hahahaha.

  • @crystalsuggs3332
    @crystalsuggs3332 5 лет назад +1

    I put a huge Crystal rock on my head to see the narc's reaction because I didn't have a funny hat and he absolutely flipped out..I wish I could post the pic on here on the rock on my head.. LMBO 😂 love ya Sasha!

  • @ninnymcphee8382
    @ninnymcphee8382 7 лет назад +4

    I appreciate your perspective. I'm wondering though, in a social setting, most people want to feel comfortable and avoid awkward situations at all costs. Don't you think this could backfire and cause yourself to be alienated from those witnessing the perceived confrontation? I realize this is effective, but I also think your own counter actions might intimidate others. It may cause concern of how you will react to something they discuss, yes? Of course, it would be due to the fact that they don't understand the purpose behind your actions and the intended sociopath. Thoughts?

  • @leslieyancey5084
    @leslieyancey5084 8 лет назад +6

    Love your videos, Sacha! I wish that I had known about narcissism and sociopaths years ago, I probably could've avoided a lot of heartache!

  • @MaineGalVal
    @MaineGalVal 8 лет назад +6

    This is brilliant. I am definitely putting this into my toolbox

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 лет назад

      :-)

    • @jessxxy
      @jessxxy 7 лет назад

      Zilhah Hadad - Learn how to spell properly might help you out a bit?

  • @pheebsbee1280
    @pheebsbee1280 7 лет назад +6

    You lost me at "Hey".

  • @christinechambers8133
    @christinechambers8133 7 лет назад

    This is the most specific and brilliant advice I have ever gotten regarding such a situation. Thanks much!!!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      I am happy you liked it. :-)

  • @xyhmo
    @xyhmo 7 лет назад +7

    This is completely unrealistic for most people, they just don't want to act like a total weirdo, not to mention that this is a pretty cartoony view of psychopaths, or that most people using difficult words most likely aren't psychopaths at all. So in effect you'll act like a weirdo while antagonizing a non-psychopath while the actual psychopath is the seemingly ordinary person by your side that you don't suspect at all. It's true that psychopaths crave superiority, but they’re also keenly aware of the need for secrecy from a young age, so they learn how to act normally. Any description of psychopaths that basically says they have horns and wear black hats is false. You can't actually tell that easily, and thinking you can will make you more vulnerable. "But he seemed so normal" is more likely the case.

    • @aroseinwinter05
      @aroseinwinter05 6 лет назад

      this isn't about psychopaths. learn the differences between sociopaths and psychopaths. there are many.

  • @001Catey
    @001Catey 8 лет назад +4

    There was this guy in my martial arts class that would bring up names and references of obscure masters that no one even heard of (not even our teacher), you couldn't look these people up. So my reply to him was always "that's nice" (as if I were patting him on the head) "that's not what we are working on here today" with a vacant smile on my face, and then immediately focused back on the class even more intently. What a pain in the butt...

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 лет назад

      +001Catey
      great story!! Thank you for sharing. :-)

  • @jamestoney3111
    @jamestoney3111 7 лет назад +2

    hi sacha. i am rather
    smitten with you. a narcissistic sociopath has made me their plaything recently. you have really great advice. thank you for giving me strength.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      Thank you! :-) // I appreciate your feedback! ❤

  • @BAYOUTOWNProductions
    @BAYOUTOWNProductions 6 лет назад +2

    This is awesome!!! Hilarious!!! I wish I had known this 6 months ago! I should have found your channel long ago!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 лет назад +1

      I am happy you liked it. Thank you for your comment!

  • @laura5061
    @laura5061 6 лет назад +21

    Wow Sasha you really pushed some buttons💪. Before I knew anything about all this I figured out how to stop my ex husbands word salad. I just started saying "site your source, where did you learn this, etc". He'd shut up real fast and leave me alone and of course never answered me. BTW you're not irritating. I would love to have you as a friend in this "narcy" world!

  • @EveningTV
    @EveningTV 7 лет назад +3

    I love this idea! It would be a real challenge for most of us empaths though since we are usually so averse to making anyone uncomfortable. I'm going to try this with my ex sometime.

  • @billothestriker557
    @billothestriker557 4 года назад +2

    You scared the shit out of me at the start of the video😂😂😂 nice jumpscare

  • @garszy
    @garszy 7 лет назад +2

    Hi
    I'm not sure of your qualifications or prior experiences with a true psychopath, sociopath or a person with narcissistic or similar personality disorders. But my experience of a boss with all those traits is stay away. Get space distance and time. They are deadly, you will end up harming yourself to end it.
    In my workplace scenario, I was worn down by 3 years of manipulation, bullying, intimidation, threats and I thought I was on top of the situation.
    Then one day I just broke, couldn't play the game anymore.
    It was such a gradual process with sporadic episodes of attacks followed by praise, that you had no idea if you were going to be patted or stabbed in the back. A deliberate ploy to create Anxiety and self doubt.
    The problem with this type of person is that they don't hunt alone! Because they believe so strongly in themselves, they usually have mentored others around them as a buffer, or if you like the people that pull the trigger after they have loaded the gun. These support people are also the legacy that these type of people feel they need to leave in their wake.
    I have spent the last 3 years with PTSD trying to recover from my experiences and the friends and Colleagues I watched being systematically destroyed. My boss was so good at it that (he was a principal) that he even managed to manipulate his way through all complaints against him that were registered at a higher level for twenty years. It has gone past a Departmental level into a formal investigation against the Department, and to the next level again, to an ombudsman.
    I have fought solidly for nearly 3 years to get this far. I have been utterly destroyed, I have made attempts to take my own life because of the depth of depression I suffer, the Anxiety has left me all but house bound, I self harm, numerous ways and my family has to see this.
    My advice is get out, don't play games with these people, it will only encourage more focus on yourself.
    If it's your boss, don't bother being a whistleblower as no one will back you or fight beside you.
    I was part of the school's leadership team, year level coordinator (preparatory year), OH&S coordinator, First Aid coordinator, involved in the IT committee, Maths committee, a school council member and fixed most of the smaller handyman jobs around the school.
    Even with all of these qualifications and extra curricular roles I was hunted. Then when I did not turn up to work the parents were led to believe I was terminally ill and was not expected back.
    At a party with someone who's to big for their britches, your tactic may be something you could do, but I would have to question your motives and psychological reasons for acting that way instead of steering clear of the idiot.
    I believe that some of your advice is extremely dangerous and is encouraging people to play a game against a person that has no empathy or regard for anyone! And you want to embarrass them?
    As a teacher I have seen children as young as 7 that have shown psycho/sociopathic tendencies and from very good supportive families who have concerns themselves. I therefore believe in that it is possible that these people are born with these principles and therefore have many years of experience in doing what they do. They are better at it than you! If you do manage to show them up then they will seek revenge.
    Embarrassing people full stop is enough reason for most people to at least be agitated, yet alone dancing with the devil!
    They have no moral boundaries, no feelings for you, and only care about themselves. Your encouraging people to play Russian Roulette.

  • @bazzysh
    @bazzysh 7 лет назад +5

    "And at this point the sociopath will disengage"...
    I don't think it mathers if the person in front of you is a sociopath or not, literaly every person I know or could think of would disengage in this situation, you just made the most uncomfortable and weird situation ever right here lady..
    If you do this everytime someone uses a word or reference something you don't know then I sincerely hope for the ppl around you that you don't often go to social events ^^

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

  • @simokn
    @simokn 7 лет назад +9

    i compiled a List of My Favorite RUclips Channels that make videos about Narcissism -- i included your channel on my list. Congratulations & keep up the good work! :)

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад +1

      I'm happy to know you enjoy my vids. Thank you for your comment!:-D

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад +2

      Hey, I just checked out your channel! I love your thumbnail art and you have great video titles too![a lot of people don't realize how much effort goes into that part of our channels] :-D //// I spend more time taking photos, designing, and drawing my thumbnail art than I do filming, haha! /// I have an art degree, so I appreciate your artistic ability! And I went bananas over the pale pink filter you used in your video! OMG, loved it! :-D

    • @simokn
      @simokn 7 лет назад +2

      Sacha, that means A LOT coming from you...because i am a VERY big fan of your artwork! i have been involved in arts all of my life...i enjoy the process of creating...i am sure you do too! your video thumbnails have a life of their own...they should be displayed in a gallery/museum. your work is appreciated. good job! :)

    • @user-lz3em1cd5h
      @user-lz3em1cd5h 6 лет назад

      Simon Benjamin
      WOOSH....🌬️

    • @jaredhollingworth6316
      @jaredhollingworth6316 4 года назад

      Oh you poor souls

  • @aquarius9481
    @aquarius9481 4 года назад +1

    I've done this to a psychopath and you ARE pretty much on point. 💯

  • @yippieforhippies4993
    @yippieforhippies4993 7 лет назад

    Love Your Videos. Keep um coming Sasha

  • @knight-pg8gk
    @knight-pg8gk 7 лет назад +11

    this chick has an axe to grind I think? lmfao plus dont think she gets many invites to partys because she is WAY WAY fucking out there I think 🤔🤔

  • @antjasemrome
    @antjasemrome 7 лет назад +9

    is a sociopath the condition where you have the ability to hold 10 point complete made up situations and conversations to handle one situation?

    • @KindraElise
      @KindraElise 7 лет назад

      that sounds like a chronological liar, but with false sense of grandeur, many sociopaths and psychopaths make up things to make them appear better than they actually are; they're very charming.

    • @blackpeter70
      @blackpeter70 7 лет назад +9

      A "chronological liar"? Does that mean they wear a watch when they're playing those evil mind games? My last gf was a pathological liar (with a touch of sociopathy), and she fucked my mind up so thoroughly, I'm too scared to have another relationship. I've been celibate since mid-2000. I'm not kidding. At least I save money on Valentine's Day.

    • @honestalex5790
      @honestalex5790 7 лет назад +2

      Dude same, I can never be the same.

    • @Geminish15
      @Geminish15 4 года назад

      @@blackpeter70 The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout and Homecoming by John Bradshaw. Those two books helped me so much after my pattern of sociopaths. Highly recommend.

  • @scottythelazer1465
    @scottythelazer1465 7 лет назад +2

    I love how she even addresses the main issue herself. She says in the description that you should redirect sociopaths with "non-stop interruptions and non-stop annoying questions." Just because someone uses big words doesn't mean that they deserve to be emotionally assaulted and taunted. I have a vastly expansive vocabulary, so therefore I must be interrupted by someone who thinks that I am abusing them. If anyone is being is emotionally manipulating, it is you, ma'am. Also, if you could be a little less passive-aggressive, yeah, that would be great.

  • @xivwords5448
    @xivwords5448 5 лет назад +2

    My dad is the sociopath narcissist so I just have to leave. He can drain me of everything.

  • @floughio
    @floughio 6 лет назад +3

    Lmao she's teaching us how to get killed by a sociopath

    • @hopeyouhaveagoodday3900
      @hopeyouhaveagoodday3900 3 года назад

      step 1: casually aprouch human step 2:get stabbed by the sociopath for annoying them step 3: die but know that the guys gonna get caught since he left the weapon in you and had no gloves on

  • @monkeesfan1965
    @monkeesfan1965 7 лет назад +8

    Ever consider that you are teaching them how to counter your counter?

    • @daphne4983
      @daphne4983 4 года назад

      I counter them by giving them the psychopathic stare

  • @lizgoldstein4256
    @lizgoldstein4256 7 лет назад +2

    Why was I under the impression I was listening to a sociopath while watching this video?
    What I'm saying is, sociopaths are so good at manipulating people that you don't just spot them at a party randomly and know how to protect yourself against them. No, there is no way to protect yourself other than to cut ties. Really.

  • @RobertShyanNorwalt
    @RobertShyanNorwalt 7 лет назад +5

    She's being far too generalized. A lot of high IQ people who are actually brilliant do indeed know a lot of trivia. Ever what Jeopardy? I think we are viewing a takes one to know one vid.

  • @plasmawyvern8247
    @plasmawyvern8247 7 лет назад +3

    I'm a sociopath and I despise eye contact and I always check my facts

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

    • @jessxxy
      @jessxxy 7 лет назад

      plasma wyvern what's with the eye's? why can't you do that?

    • @plasmawyvern8247
      @plasmawyvern8247 7 лет назад

      jessxxy what do you mean

    • @jessxxy
      @jessxxy 7 лет назад

      plasma wyvern why do you despise looking people in the eye?

  • @crystalsuggs3332
    @crystalsuggs3332 5 лет назад +1

    LMBO love it Sasha!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  5 лет назад

      I'm happy you liked it, thank you for watching.

  • @rundbaum
    @rundbaum 7 лет назад +1

    is there anything wrong with using "hi def" words, the meaning of which one is certain?? i'm just curious. i can't imagine anyone throwing out phrases they are unfamiliar with. where i work, they tell us all the time to be "wordsmiths" b/c our job can get kind of boring. it tosses things up a bit. does this mean everyone at my workplace is a sociopath??? i've noticed some people never use words that are more than one or two syllabels. given all the words that are out there, isn't this kind of lazy??? i love it if someone asks me about a word i am using and i only try to use words i feel would mean something to another person. sometimes these may be big words, i never thought that made me a sociopath . . .

  • @patrickwilliams1804
    @patrickwilliams1804 7 лет назад +5

    why why why
    look at the effort you're putting into counteracting they're issues ??
    just ignore people you don't get on with and love the ones you do
    you're playing the game basically
    look at the satisfaction on your face to be nasty to someone else

  • @justinthered6569
    @justinthered6569 7 лет назад +6

    +Sacha Slone. Thank you for the video. Has this ever backfired on you? For instance, has a sociopath ever been flattered that you hang on their every sophisticated word, and take the time to seem extraordinarily interested in their unique speech, and vocabulary? Another scenario that comes to mind is this, has a sociopath ever been so intelligent to counter-manipulate your belittling manipulation by making you feel small by not knowing the definition of the type of words that said sociopath throws around as if they were common? Just curious, always trying to up my game :)

  • @gph5990
    @gph5990 5 лет назад

    I Have been scapegoated and bullied in extremely cruel and emotionally abuse ways for my entire life by my narcissistic mother. Finally is advice that lets me not just run a way quietly and go no contact. I dont want to actually inflict any real pain or serious problems, BUT I am also tired of just taking it, being the mature one, or getting back on this high rode that honestly has zero affect on her. THANK YOU for giving me some tools and advice that with let me get back at her gently and feel a small sense of victory after 35 years of torment.

  • @beachbliss9366
    @beachbliss9366 5 лет назад

    Thanks for another great intervention!! 🙏☺️

  • @AViTionsHip13
    @AViTionsHip13 7 лет назад +13

    This would annoy anyone girl. You have gone above and beyond to literally kill the whole vibe of the "social" setting.

    • @casse1458
      @casse1458 6 лет назад

      Andres Sartre lol

    • @deidrajones6069
      @deidrajones6069 6 лет назад

      Andres Sartre 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @humble_roots
      @humble_roots 6 лет назад +1

      GOOD! It ought to annoy them because they annoy us CONSTANTLY. BOO hoo evil fucking snakes are annoyed. Cry me a fucking river.

  • @lovesdogs8616
    @lovesdogs8616 8 лет назад +3

    You kill me, so funny, I fear I am learning all this a bit too late.

    • @barbaragrace4446
      @barbaragrace4446 8 лет назад

      +Doogy Dog !

    • @lovesdogs8616
      @lovesdogs8616 8 лет назад +1

      +Barbara Grace Awww, is that a little Bichon love i see there?

    • @sydnee11
      @sydnee11 8 лет назад

      It's never too late because if u don't learn....you'll attract them over and over again. I did😁😭😫. I attracted narc's/sociopaths since age 16. Now I'm divorced single mom, because I still dont trust myself to spot them during idealization phase 😞

    • @lovesdogs8616
      @lovesdogs8616 8 лет назад +1

      I think I attract them too. Too nice.

    • @barbaragrace4446
      @barbaragrace4446 8 лет назад

      +Doogy Dog I see yours too ♥! Mine seems to be a Bichon/Poodle/Maltese mix (rescue).
      Non-shedding bunches of love, they are!

  • @kaila62kaila
    @kaila62kaila 6 лет назад

    SS love love your videos! Great tools for dealing with NARCS!

  • @amaebarnes
    @amaebarnes 6 лет назад +1

    This is actually a really good idea because in my experience, in ALL my efforts, I cannot take back any control in an argument with a narcissist because they keep spinning the convo and deflecting and then accuse me of outlandish interpretations of something I said 10 minutes ago and how that thing is hypocritical and blah blah. I've never found a way to stop them in their tracks other than just completely physically leaving. And that causes all sorts of attacks too.

  • @tracymoore2609
    @tracymoore2609 7 лет назад +6

    They make statements rather than converse, they do this based on an assumption others won't understand their reference. The minute you you express knowledge on the subject they shut down the conversation on the topic which they initiated. They're very shifty in withdrawal of topic the moment they release you know more. Conversation is a monologue with sociopaths, scripted, you listen whilst they speak, these conversations are bland, jailed with cliches & jargon phrases, no substance or humour.

    • @666mrmongo
      @666mrmongo 6 лет назад

      Depends if there thinking you're intelligent enough for a real conversation with them. In a bizarre way sociopaths are highly rational so they tend to kinda enjoy the company of intelligent people. Kinda

    • @mixwb
      @mixwb 5 лет назад +4

      @@666mrmongo Until those intelligent people start doing better in life 😂

    • @daphne4983
      @daphne4983 4 года назад

      @@mixwb then the knifes come out 👀

  • @9.anamaria.9
    @9.anamaria.9 8 лет назад +4

    I've met a few like this, but mostly those who loved to quote phrases or theories, then I'll ask "oh, cool and who says that?" or where did you read that? I will really like to go and find the book and read it too" LOL BTW I'll try that idea you gave and see.

  • @0mega.mechan1c.
    @0mega.mechan1c. 5 лет назад +1

    SS: you are doing a great job. I am shocked by the divisive comments
    I've been reading! As you know our world is infested with narx and sympathizers witting and unwitting. And I can vouch for your
    assertion strategies, I have been collecting and authoring some of my own and our individual styles coincide pretty well.
    Keep doing what you're doing because you have NarzNeutralizers all over, like me, who are taking notes big time. Please continue! That guy below wishes he had you as a friend? Oh my God you are adorable, and your
    natural ebullience makes these tough important lessons easier to digest and reference later. I know I know all the good ones are taken but for future reference remember I, and others like me, are out here fighting the good fight; we love your insights and wisdom,...and we love YOU,🗽! 🍎 🌹👊 🌈

  • @davidpittman106
    @davidpittman106 7 лет назад +3

    What is your schooling on this topic? ...just curious.

  • @dcw4906
    @dcw4906 7 лет назад +17

    Don't fuck with a sociopath. They will get even with you someway or another eventually.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад +2

      Don't fuck with an educated empath. They will get even with you someway or another eventually.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      I have not heard that about INTJ's // I am an ENFP :-D

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      Thank you for your compassion❤❤

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      Thank you for your compassion❤❤

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      casemonsterxxx You clearly are not a female, otherwise you would have appreciated the hearts. 🍌🍌 I wonder if you like bananas better?

  • @NarcissistFreealmost
    @NarcissistFreealmost 8 лет назад +5

    Brilliant!

  • @christinehaigh9807
    @christinehaigh9807 7 лет назад

    That is brilliant, Sacha!

  • @charitykutt2943
    @charitykutt2943 6 лет назад

    this describes my ex husband to a T. I was married for 16 years, and I had no idea I had been married to a sociopath/narcissist until I started dating another one who was less intelligent (after we were divorced). I started figuring things out, and researching why I was feeling like such a mess in the relationship when I was pouring out so much love and understanding. Knowledge is power. It is changing my life. Thank you so much for this information!

  • @Smashachu
    @Smashachu 6 лет назад +3

    I like the idea of what you're trying to do, to empower people to know what to do in the event that they think they encounter somebody who is potentially a threat to them. But these disorders are on a spectrum and it's nearly impossible to detect that somebody is a sociopath from just meeting them assuming they're blending well. In my experience walking around with your guard constantly up like this is a great way to come across as an asshole when you really are just trying to defend yourself in what seems like a threatening situation. Sure you may discourage most unempathetic personality types but you're also limiting yourself exceptionally in social situations by doing so in my opinion. Again i'm not any kind of expert this is just my opinion on the topic after reading several books on the topic.

  • @travispaskiewicz2663
    @travispaskiewicz2663 7 лет назад +34

    This sounds like sociopathy for idiots. Step one, question their intelligence and vocabulary. Step two, when fact checking their vocabulary, choose an alternate answer so they appear wrong. Step three, be condescending and don't make eye contact to mask your own uncertainty during the conversation. Step four, create a you tube video to gloat over your victory. Step five, congratulate and swell your ego for being a sociopath by self projecting your own sociopathic tendencies onto others.

    • @b_g_c3281
      @b_g_c3281 7 лет назад +3

      Travis Paskiewicz
      ^¬¬--- yes... Yess... Indeed YESSSS
      ... Spot-the-Fuck-ON

    • @aroseinwinter05
      @aroseinwinter05 6 лет назад +5

      uh, no.
      did you actually watch this entire video? if you've taken any basic psyc classes, you'll know this is good info. it's about disarming the abuser; this is how you take your power back.

    • @humble_roots
      @humble_roots 6 лет назад

      Nicole Rose / Empathic Soulwriter Come on, that's just what scientific data and psychological research says. Don't you know that if a sociopath can disagree with one's counter-manipulation techniques, then that automatically trumps the science because they're always right? It's right there in their God complex!

    • @mixwb
      @mixwb 5 лет назад

      @@aroseinwinter05 If you win an argument with a sociopath, they will remember it and get some form of revenge for it

    • @aroseinwinter05
      @aroseinwinter05 5 лет назад +2

      mixwb THAT i agree with, 1000%

  • @karenconcepcion
    @karenconcepcion 6 лет назад +2

    You are all kinds of AWESOME!! Just saying😁😁😁 Keep well dear! Thanks for these videos.💐💐💐💐

  • @ralfisnietmijnechtenaam9671
    @ralfisnietmijnechtenaam9671 6 лет назад

    I think it is pretty good! You are correct, this is something for in the toolbox to get rid of a narcissist. Thanks!

  • @s.l.8221
    @s.l.8221 7 лет назад +3

    Hi. I'm a sociopath. and no. I'm not in anyway a danger to anyone, because I'm aware of what I am and that it is best in my case to stay alone. I also find it disrespectful how u want to threat the ones of my kind since it wasn't in any way my intention or decission to become what I am. I was born this way and I believe the others aren't different in that.

    • @ayse14
      @ayse14 7 лет назад

      I like to move it move it I was diagnosed as a young child. You don't need to hide it, I highly doubt that you asked to be the way you are. Embrace it, after all, we are the powerful ones...

    • @ladymaiden2308
      @ladymaiden2308 5 лет назад +3

      Ayşe M-Omer we are all powerful in different ways. But having a superiority complex actually makes one weaker. careful there.

    • @gabrielamartinyuk6438
      @gabrielamartinyuk6438 5 лет назад +1

      S. L. You are proud that you’re a sociopath?? That’s so disgusting. No one is born a sociopath. You become one because of your sin and pride .

  • @paulphelan2121
    @paulphelan2121 7 лет назад +4

    wow you sound like the kind of person people will try to avoid at partys or social gatherings. any time somebody uses a word you dont know, you pop out your phone and start questioning them as to the meaning of the word whilst refusing to make eye contact... thats how you make ANYBODY feel uncomfortable

  • @MandiMomOf8Channel
    @MandiMomOf8Channel 3 года назад +1

    *This is the greatest thing ever 😀👍 Thank you for this*

  • @vmm5163
    @vmm5163 7 лет назад

    Even Sociopaths who are a stranger to you always make you feel as if you have broken some unspoken rule or agreement if you try to get away from them. It is eerie and very alarming.
    I wish I'd known these strategies before. It's really unnerving when a sociopath/narc homes in on you. They have honed their predatory skills to a point where you sometimes cannot extract yourself from them in a social setting, they are that focussed on you as a target.
    This technique to break their horrendous eye contact, and the way to quickly bore them and make them walk away is ingenious. I'm going to use it. Thank-you Sacha.

  • @1smellyFart
    @1smellyFart 7 лет назад +7

    as a person with anti social personality disorder, I would not recommend this tactic. you seem to think we (i) would care if you tried to out me. the more you speak, the more room you give to turn your own words against you. your best bet is to just ignore the person. you must be careful when you try to out them. some of us try to just get along in life even with out fully understanding empathy and such. but there are the more dangerous that will strike back with force. I myself use to be very vindictive when I was younger. I would wait for days, weeks or even months waiting and watching for the person to be weak to strike. I joined the service because I got bored faking to be "normal", it's a lot of work to react with right response at the right time. after being medically discharged for broken joints, I went to the va were mental health ask me a lot of questions and came back with "anti-social personally disorder" I went outside the v.a. because I do feel something just not as strong or often most days are hollow. and when they say we don't feel. that's too general i.m.o.. when my father was murdered I did not care. when my son was born I don't know what I felt, because I never had emotions like that day and sense. I don't give a damn about anyone outside of two people in my life, and yes I would step on you to gain something In life, but because of my son knowing half of what I am is because of DNA and half is environmental I trying to not let the other half come into his life so he doesn't go through what I do. living this way is boring having no fear or sadness makes there no joy as well. but back to first statement, a person suffering from true "antisocial personality disorder" loves a challenge and must win. so be you "outing" them you just started a game were you have something to loose. we feel no empathy so if it's slander need r doing to win or ours on the Web to find information to use, it gives us a rush to crush others, (speaking from my past and something I still struggle to control) for example there was a guy in high school that wanted to pick on me well ten months later I started dating his sister not because I wanted to but I wanted to gain the ammo to crush him (and those he cared about) to say the least ten months of planning went how I knew it would and his family moved shortly after. please don't think I am bragging because I not, I just trying to show you that, the cost you are willing to pay to "out" this person might be much less then the price they make you pay. for you feel empathy for others. we don't (normaly) have the limitation to tell us to not go there. think of cartoons little devil and little angel tell "normal" people right and wrong. I was born with out the angel and my upbringing beat the devil to death, so I have no angel or devil, I will be as good or evil as the situation needs me to be. it's not that we (i) am evil as some people think I don't care if I hurt people not that I wanted to hurt them it was just a means to an end. so here is advice from sociopath as you put it. if you think they are a sociopath, don't become a challenge or a mark they can use. the more you speak the more we learn how to use you. we are great at reading people and knowing how to twist them. so if at an office party and you think they are sociopath. just keep your distance if you wear your empathy on your sleeve. like dogs smell fear sociopaths read emotions like a book. you need to think about it. we start at a very young age empty of feelings (speaking genrally) so the emotions we show later in life we learned to fake by watching your every move, every micro fascias movement. don't get me wrong I can't fake all emotion. when people die I stay clear of all of it because raw sadness is easy felt be those around, and raw emotion I never learned to fake. people crying at my father's funeral was looking at me and saying I was being brave and strong for my youngest Sister because that gave them reason. when I was stepping on a thumb tack I put in my boot to try and make the pain real. I wrote a book when I should have not spoken. but if you learn something useful good. one last fact anti-social personality disorder scales from 1-40 so saying we all are going to hurt you is not true, some of us are just trying to live. others like me might be high on that scale trying to learn to just be bored and not use others to feel alive. people talk like we want to use people. it's not about want or need, it's just bored because with out fear or sadness or joy what is there. think of your favorite movie or book take out fear joy and sadness then what is left is a phone book. try reading that everyday and tell me you wouldn't like to see a ant burn under a magnifying glass just to see something with fear for a second. feel free to ask me questions I will answer what I can (from my view not speaking for others) I not trying to gain fame or money, I doing this to help me understand myself and because if I ask myself questions I be a little narcissistic.

    • @misssparkle8317
      @misssparkle8317 7 лет назад +2

      If you want to feel fear, why not just do risky behaviour or parachute jumps, bungee jumps.. adrenaline sports etc... does that make you feel something?

    • @1smellyFart
      @1smellyFart 7 лет назад +3

      miss sparkle I bungee jumped jumped out of good airplanes, many other risky behavior. but don't normally get scared. being for the most part empty of feelings makes risky behavior not the scary. he'll I am a disabled vet from the war and even the war did not cause much fear. trust me I wish I felt fear normally. it would make life more fun.vpeople that feel sad or fear also feel happy and safe. I don't feel either

    • @misssparkle8317
      @misssparkle8317 7 лет назад +2

      so if you can't feel emotion, then why would you crave it? (there is
      nothing fun about fear btw) May i ask, were you born this way or did it
      occur out of trauma?

    • @1smellyFart
      @1smellyFart 7 лет назад +2

      anti-social personality disorder (aka sociopath) is something that a person born with but environmental aspects can make it worse. like me had a bad childhood. made mean in my youth. making Nguyen people crying back then was joy, but as I got older I don't find it meaning anything and boring. and a true sociopath does feel thing just does not feel them normally or very often. 99% of my life I did not feel anything ever. now married with a son. I like to see my wife happy and don't manipulate her at all. with my son I love him ( i don't know how most people feel love but it is only way I know how to say how I feel about him) since he been born I felt happy and fear. I very uncomfortable being I never felt this way. makes me think for the first time in my life I am actually alive. but I walk out my door and see another person starving to death and it reminds me, who I am inside. when you think sociopath understand its not all black and white. just like bi-polar disorder, there are different level of sociopathic behavior. based on what kind of life we had. and sociopath and sycopath are not the same. sycopath enjoy hurting others and are made not born that way sociopaths are born this way and don't know anything else. we can be kind, helpful, loving ( 99.9% of it is show, to control what people see) and can be cruel hindering and hateful. depends on each of us and also what life has shown us. I been both. but really neither really who I am. inside just empty. it's very hard to fake life all the time, think about when a friend got really good news for them but was bad news for you, how you smile and say that's great but you don't feel it, I have to do that about everything

    • @1smellyFart
      @1smellyFart 7 лет назад

      sorry if replies are long, most people don't ask questions to understand they just judge and think we are all manipulators and evil people that just want to hurt people. that is Hollywood's and people "acting " like they deal with being sociopath and get online and act a fool

  • @tomcat9112
    @tomcat9112 7 лет назад +3

    I love your idea, thank you. Yet it can be done kindly as well. No need to be harsh, set your limit. Sociopaths are humans ... that have a mental disorder. They can bite you, sure, therefore you have to set bounds but they are humans. It could be that you were hurt ... they are emotionally and sentimentally disabled ... .
    Simply disengage when you spotted one and don't want to deal with him. No need to humiliate him.
    And be auto-critical ... you may behave with sociopathic tendencies from time to time, with narcissistic tendencies as well ... you carry a pack of sicknesses that appear from time to time. I imagine that you want people to be kind with you, even then. So give it back to the sociopath. And basically, 90% of them have sociopathic tendencies ... and are not extreme.

    • @HighSpeedNoDrag
      @HighSpeedNoDrag 7 лет назад +1

      Yes disengage, break contact and or Retreat. We must all remember that NO ONE including the Heritage Board of Condo Owners is mentally perfect.

  • @Adam-118
    @Adam-118 7 лет назад +1

    This woman knows how to spot us. but that's okay, we are harmless! thanks for uploading!

  • @moritzscholz9325
    @moritzscholz9325 7 лет назад +5

    u realy think that works? cute:

  • @gambrinus330116
    @gambrinus330116 7 лет назад +9

    you can remember dates from history class.. you must be a sociopat...

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад +4

      I believe you. :-)

    • @EVAN-re2yo
      @EVAN-re2yo 6 лет назад +1

      Marko Feller no! believe me I know someone who are sociopath..they always want to win and be the number one..and they also dont like when you ignore them..thy cannot think why did you ignore them..what they know and want is you always under their control and agree with their decision..
      shit..I hate sociopath..they are mostly like hypocrite

    • @jaredhollingworth6316
      @jaredhollingworth6316 4 года назад

      the moment when Sacha can't see blatant satire

  • @johnarizona3820
    @johnarizona3820 7 лет назад +1

    Sacha, I wish I had learned this years ago. Thanks for posting! Do you have a degree in Psychology?

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 лет назад

      BA double major in Art History and Studio Art :-) A lot of my 'cluster b' knowledge comes from the best youtube channel ever: Activism of Care! ruclips.net/user/ActivismOfCare

    • @johnarizona3820
      @johnarizona3820 7 лет назад

      Interesting and thanks, I'll check it out and God bless! Love overcomes! :)

  • @johndenning9230
    @johndenning9230 7 лет назад

    Appreciated, Sacha, you're right on the ball. My only regret is that I don't have the benefit of hindsight. Something you might also consider making reference to, especially in a work environment, is that none of us have to respond to questions from a sociopath boss/director. We all reserve the right to simply walk away, and to tell whoever we have to turn to, that we are not prepared to talk to this person alone, ever again. Ever, again.
    JD

  • @buckJuddson
    @buckJuddson 7 лет назад +11

    lol sweet heart i think you might be a bit of a sociopath yourself , im sure i am as well . Hell i think everyone is somewhat of a sociopath when in defense mode . but what do i know im a tard !!

  • @HelenaOfDetroit
    @HelenaOfDetroit 7 лет назад +8

    lol! "Sociopaths are not capable of abstract thought or creativity."
    Sorry lady, this is wrong. Sociopaths are VERY creative.

    • @GravyBrainz
      @GravyBrainz 7 лет назад +1

      everyone is different there are some really creative people that just happen to be sociopaths. A lot of people have stereotypes and put sociopaths is this little box which is ignorant. Truth is they all have different/unique personalities just like everybody else.

    • @sharkiesgirl8929
      @sharkiesgirl8929 7 лет назад +5

      FlipFlopGaming they are attracted to new forms of creativity created by other people but lack originality to create it themselves she said that already....spot on..

    • @HelenaOfDetroit
      @HelenaOfDetroit 7 лет назад

      FreeriderTruthTemplar No ... some of us are very creative. You obviously don't know much about sociopaths. Sorry.

    • @GravyBrainz
      @GravyBrainz 7 лет назад +1

      No thats not spot on. Sociopaths lack EMPATHY, it has nothing to do with creativity. Sociopaths are not clones, they are humans and every sociopath is there own person. They are all different people with different personalities and skills.You need to learn how to open up that closed mind of yours.

    • @savetrump9120
      @savetrump9120 7 лет назад +3

      GravyBrainz they are not humans and should not be treated as humans.