As someone who lost 65lbs in 2020 through good diet and exercise, down to a very fit weight, to then losing a close family member and going through a big depression that lasted a few years and gaining ALL of the weight back to someone who is now re-embarking on losing the weight again..... I can tell you a big indicator of my mental health is being lower in weight and focused on being fit and eating well.
I completely agree, as someone that lost 20kg. It's not a race. Focus on eating better, healthier, cut out ultra processed food. You can still lose weight with a small deficit. Cut out refined carbs and processed sugars as much as possible.
I always find it so interesting when people say that losing weight won't make you happier, because my experience was that I 100% feel better and way happier when I'm skinny. Like it's almost ridiculous how much of a difference it makes, and I'm talking about 10kg less here, not 30+
I agree and disagree. I think unhappiness makes people gain weight. And then gaining weight makes people more and more unhappy because you're treated worse and your body starts feeling worse. I 100% get treated better and feel better thin. But until I tackled what made me unhappy originally (zero free time or fun in my life) I regained weight because I still was craving a fix for that unhappiness (and oreos spark joy when you have no free time). If you gained weight originally because your marriage sucks, you're marriage is still going to suck when you're thin. If you gained weight because you were trying to stuff down the sadness of a miscarriage, you're still going to have deal with those feeling when you're thin. If you gained weight because you were deeply unhappy in your job, you're still going to be deeply unhappy with your job when you're thin.
@@CeresIsABetterPlanetThanPluto Well, I can definitely agree with that! It's just my personal experience is if I have the options of feeling like shit and being skinny or feeling like shit and having too much fat, I'll take being skinny anytime. Just because I physically feel a lot better. But yes, if your unhappiness initially comes from something entirely different, then you won't feel like a million bucks when you're thin.
@@CeresIsABetterPlanetThanPluto Sure, but I can guarantee you that most people who are just a little overweight and unhappy about it, gained weight simply because they ate more calories than they burned. I eat too much, so I'm heavier than I should be. There's no deeper reason, it's that simple. I know I'll feel better and happier when I lose weight.
@plumdutchess I don't think you can make generalities like that I'm fat but clearly more fit and have a good relationship with food than I was when I was skinnier and had a bad relationship with food. Sure I might eat more than I burn but I go to the gym often and love hiking, something that I never did when I was skinny. So overall I'm actually very happy about my physical strength.
Me as well. More confidence more self respect, as fat I was the biggest people pleaser just to be accepted, not any longer. And also, other people treat me now much better, sad but true 👍
8:35 I decided to be on a fat loss/fitness journey from the start instead of worrying about my weight. I've become a lot leaner and stronger, and my chronic pain is gone. (I don't have the words to explain what a huge deal **that** is.) Having said all that, the number on the scales has barely moved; I think I might be heavier, and I don't care bc I'm heading towards my goal. If I focused solely on losing some kgs, I'd be skinny-fat and probably still in pain. Still working on my mental health though. The physical/lifestyle changes have been a short-term distraction, but the same issues are still here. I appreciate this video as a reminder, bc I've become very astute at deceiving myself recently❤
Losing 70lbs changed my life. Most of my debilitating health issues went away and I'm 1000x more comfortable. I can lay in bed without feeling like the weight of my arms is crushing my circulation and get out of bed without grunting. Food doesn't control me any longer. If you are reading this, I'm telling you it's so worth the flight. It didn't solve all my problems, but it did solve most of them. YMMV
I love your honesty Lucy, these are very much issues that are not discussed. I have lost weight a number of times and I've also found maintaining weight to be very difficult because of the underlying insecurities that the ideal weight actually triggers more. It's been a very long journey towards balance and happiness
Hi, Lucy! It's great to see you again! 😃 🥰 Regarding point #5 @15:24... I have discovered that there are 2 types of hunger! Within the last few months of my weight-loss journey, I stumbled across some information about the "carbohydrate-insulin model of obesity". Basically, when we eat carbohydrates, it will spike our hormone insulin, which causes us to store the carbohydrates as fat. If we eat too frequently or if we eat too many carbohydrates, the insulin doesn’t have a chance to come down and can lead to insulin resistance, which leads to a lot of symptoms and chronic diseases (like obesity, diabetes, heart disease, depression, alzheimers, and many more!) Conversely, eating less frequently ("time restricted eating" and/or intermittant fasting) and/or eating meals with a lower "glycemic load" will permit our insulin levels to drop enough between meals or at night that we can burn fat for fuel, instead of burning glucose for fuel. Eventually, this strategy can be used to reverse insulin resistance and many metabolic diseases! This has been a HUGE shift in my thinking! 😳🤯. I really had no idea, before, that insulin controls our weight more than anything else! "Eating less and moving more" usually invokes a high carb, low fat diet that is calorie restricted. Limiting calories naturally lowers insulin relative to what it was before, so that's why you can burn body fat. AKA: it works to lose weight. But in the meantime, you're underfueling your body and your BMR goes down. Plus, the carbs you eat trigger insulin release, which causes the body to store the food, which makes you hungry again sooner! And if you ate too many carbs, the insulin will overshoot and bring your blood glucose too low, which leads to an emergency-like hunger where you feel the need to eat NOW! Conversely, if you focus on a diet and lifestyle that promote "metabolic flexibility" where your body can easily switch between burning fat and burning glucose for fuel, the hunger you may at times feel will seem a lot more stable! It won't be an emergency-type hunger. Any kind of low carb, higher-fat, "insulin-controlling" diet will work for this. (General low carb, very low carb, intermittent fasting, etc) I like to follow @AutumnBates, where she promotes Protein, Fat, and Fiber, coupled with a low glycemic load style of eating (AKA low carb, approx
I’m very skeptical of this model. At the end of the day thermodynamics dictates weight fluctuations. You can eat nothing but twinkies and lose weight if you’re not getting enough calories. With that said you’ll probably feel ravenously hungry all the time if you eat said diet. I think a better explanation for why higher protein diets work has more to do with satiety signals. Furthermore it seems that energy flux seems to help a ton. It’s easier to have 1000 calorie deficit if your daily burn is 3500 and you eat 2500 than if you’re completely sedentary with a burn rate of 2000 trying to eat only 1000 calories.
@@rathelmmc3194 I'm not an expert on it, but Ben Bikman arguably is. Check out this video on his InsulinIQ channel: ruclips.net/video/NHW1YIJiojY/видео.html. Pretty compelling proof to me that hormones matter beyond than just calories. He's got a ton of other videos with way more awesome details!😃
As someone who lost 80 lbs, I will say that losing weight made me happier. But, it didn't make me more confident. I was very confident in my large body because I had nothing to hide, -I couldn't hide. When I lost weight, I was suddenly very insecure about my loose skin, and how partners might feel cat-fished when they saw me in an intimate setting because suddenly I could hide the loose skin. When you're large, the people who choose to sleep with you know exactly what they're getting into before you ever think of taking off your clothes. But I was a lot happier when I was lost weight because I wasn't afraid of walking down the street and being judged. I could move in ways I couldn't before. I was no longer scared of going out and having fun and being seen because I didn't need to rely on my confidence anymore. And my confidence took a lot of energy to maintain when I was large. But when I lost weight, I could just exist and didn't have to worry about it anymore.
That last point is GOLDEN. I recently figured that out on my own & I wish more ppl spoke about it! I think so much of the rhetoric is about how to "outsmart" the body: • If you know you get really hungry in the evening, "budget calories" to make dinner your largest meal -- if it's breakfast or lunch, same logic applies • Eat Volume foods • Drink more water • Up your protein intake to feel satisfied/full longer • Do activities to distract yourself, etc These are all fantastic, don't get me wrong, BUT I wish someone had just said, "𝘓𝘰𝘰𝘬, 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘴, 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘵, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺. 𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘕𝘖𝘙𝘔𝘈𝘓, 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵, 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘬." For someone to point out that MINDSET is really the key to dealing w/the "hunger pains/cues" when in a deficit...it would've spared me so much time/energy/frustration 😅 Instead of "fighting" w/my body's natural instincts, just lean into it bc it's normal/natural & necessary for fat/weight loss.
Also I'd add that hunger doesn't actually have to feel bad. When you embrace it and realize it's just a function of your body and not to be afraid of it it doesn't hurt. And it makes you appreciate the food you have even more. It even makes food taste better when you eat.
We're complex social beings in a multitude of situations daily, so while our happiness is not completely dependable on our body it ducking helps because y'know we live in it and that's what we carry around to experience life. I've never heard of anyone who lost and maintained a healthy weight saying that they wish they went back to having excess weight because they were happier that way.
i was in great shape once. won several natural bodybuilding contests. being in great shape can be quite stressful. always worrying you don't look good enough, or believing you look better than you actually do. believing people care about how you look when most people could care less. or a few people want to hang out with you simply because they want what you have, not really because they like you.
Hi Lucy, it's so great that you're back on RUclips. I love your videos! I had two points to share on the hunger. I've always struggled with being hungry, and always thinking about food. My stomach was a bottomless pit. During Ramadan in covid, I fasted 30 days from sunrise until sunset during summer time so from 3am until 9pm and I managed to lose weight and also reduce my appetite. I controlled my portions and was very intentional about food. But it consumed me and one slip up meant that that after about 3 months I fell back into poor eating habits. Then in 2022 I got diagnosed with ADHD. I'm a woman in my thirties btw and I never thought I had ADHD because the diagnostic criteria has been based on men (obviously). I got medicated and a side effect of the medication is it curbs your appetite. Its the same medication used for binge eating disorders and for the first time, food stopped controlling my life and my thoughts. I lost weight and maintained the weight loss without needing to workout. Working out became about strength and fun rather than keeping weight off. One day I didn't take my medication and I was ravenous. The same levels of hunger I lived all my life with and I hated the feeling of hunger. But getting medicated for ADHD has given me a freedom I never thought possible. You should check out a video by Dina Tokio on her first day with ADHD medication and how saddening it was for her to realise she could function without hunger consuming her the way that it did. SHe's massively into calisthenics now too and she's awesome. Just wanted to share this :)
I feel this sister.. the deeper causes to weight gain are what need to be resolved before you can holistically and healthily enjoy the new skin your in!❤
I'm losing weight without being hungry. I eat at a deficit of around 200 calories. I focus on a lot of different types of fibre and protein. This keeps me completely satisfied, while still losing 1 kilo a month.
Hi! I also lost quite some weight and have to say that for me I do not agree with your first point. But my situation was that I was always in a good place mentally, except for my body image. So when I changed my life style and lost weight I was more happy with myself and kind of grew into my confidence. Your second point that maintaining your weight will always be kind of difficult I absolutely agree with! So it only shows how different we all are. 😊 Love the video! ❤
I see a lot of people say what she saids but i feel the way you do. From what I've noticed, a lot of the people who feel the way she does were big from the beginning. I gained wait a few years ago and am losong it now but i was not always big. Getting back to my old weight is making me much happier, I look more like myself. But people who were never smaller or dont remember being smaller seem to struggle with the new them and still have insecurities from who they were before.
One of the hardest things about weight loss is the borderline eating disorder behaviours you go through before you find a mentally healthy way to maintain it (for me). Super painful and long to deal with.
I love listening to you talk. You are so smart and inspiring, and your outlook is approachable. I wanted to comment for encouragement, say congrats on your new space, and welcome you back!
Being sick or in pain makes most people unhappy. That's a bit more likely if you are overweight and a lot more likely if you are obese. So, short term, while losing weight will not bring lasting happiness because the initial sense of achievement is replaced by a focus on other problems, if maintained then a good weight will reduce the risk of unhappiness (because of illness and pain) as you get older.
The positive feedback from others, for looking good and healthy, would have a huge influence on happiness as well. I've been both significance overweight and in great shape, and the feedback from others is like night and day.
One often overlooked negative aspect is the effect that being hungry and monitoring your calories has on your personality and social interactions around food . Maybe you have less energy , are a little more cranky and more quick to pass up that piece of pie at risk of hurting somebody's feelings .You are no longer the jolly easy-going fat person and a lot of people who expect weight loss to look effortless may have a problem with that .
I love this ❤ I have always been very active but gained a bit of weight during childbearing years. Lost all of it and more and gained a lot of muscle and got seriously strong through lifting and calisthenics and got so much more aware of my body through doing all kinds of movement that I hadn't done before. I felt so much better overall, but can so relate to what you said about weight loss is npt the same as happiness and that some things might even get worse. I have always felt heavy and clumsy and the feeling is still there at times, even though I weigh as I did at 12 and move with so much more grace, control and ease than I have ever done before. I think I will be a work in progress for a long time. Anyway, thank you for sharing this and being very inspirational ❤
I got sooooo much happier when I lost weight. Cause it made it possible for me to be more competitive on the dating market, and dating men that wouldn't look twice at me before (or not even once honestly, from invisible to desired). That has a huge influence on happiness! Ofcourse there are other things in your life necessary to make you happy, but to be in a good position to find a partner sure is a big part of that.
Me as well! By losing weight I have gained confidence and self respect, I was a big people pleaser, now I have learnt to say no, also with men it has changed. I set up my boundaries and they have to respect that, that was not the case when I was fat 😢 let alone the (sad) fact that people treat you better when slim. As an overweight person I was invisible! Shallow but true. I think Lucy talks about other problems (relationships job, money) of course they won't disappear once a person gets slimmer, but weightloss increases happiness 😊🎉
I can really relate to your feelings,experiences and with the source of the problems with wait loss. You are so right. I just have to start to do the right. Thanks.
I hear what you're saying but for me I am a much happier person. I decided to change my life a year ago. Since last September I've lost 120 lbs. I went from 287 lbs to 167 lbs. I'm not depressed anymore. I don't avoid going out in public. I'm now outgoing. I enjoy buying clothes. I'm just way happier. I'm staying consistent with my workouts and I will not allow myself to go back to were I was. It's all in the mind. 😃
As someone that has gone through depression, losing a close family member.. I can say I have faced much harder hardships than just weight loss. I built my life back up, got my own apartment, and built up my career. I decided to lose weight, but not just losing weight. I wanted to be fit, healthier, and eat better. When you're eating healthy and lose the bad food choices like ultra processed food it does make me happier and feel better. I went from overweight to fit, lost like 20kg. Losing weight severely restricting yourself doesn't really work. I did research and set up a plan for a long term diet and maintenance. During my weight loss journey i didnt really have much hunger, because i focused on a high protein, whole grain diet. Protein helps to keep you full for longer times.
I find that having consistency in my training is essential for a maintaing a healthy diet. In times when I am inactive - and especially if I am more mentally stressed I find eating healthy quite hard, and more often give in for temptations. When I have a larger focus on being active and get that in to a routine, eating healthy just happens by itself. I get less cravings and naturally choose healthier ingredients and meals. Also for me it is so much more important to have a strong body that lets me do the activities I want, or the tasks that I need, than to be thin. Being thin won't help me carry my bags of firewood or shuffle the snow in the winter - also more musclemass is key for a quicker recovery if you get sick. Atm I am around 15 kgs overweight and probably my view on this had been different if I had more excess weight, but for where I am in this moment - this works for me. And as I focus on my fitness and strenght, the scales slowly but surely creeps down. My strenght and energy though keeps growing at a much faster pace.
I am also going through a weight loss journey but I feel like when I loose 3 kilos I get burnt out and again gain 2 kilos. This is being ongoing for the last 3-4 months. Could you please share your thoughts on this about how can I be consistent on losing weight ?
to all of the people commenting saying you did feel better after losing weight: you DONT feel better because you're skinny, you feel better because you're no longer a target for discrimination & bullying. yes you may be eating thing that provide better nutrtion & moving your body so that is contributing but you can do that & be fat. so please dont try & say that losing weight was the thing that made you happy because it isnt & you are just harming vulnerable people who are tired of weight stigma. instead heal your relationship with your body & stand up for people who do not have the ability to torture themselves to look a certain way anymore.
I was obese as a teenager and I can't help but feel like it derailed my life. I also had male breasts as a result of genetics. I got teased a lot. Even after getting down to 180lbs and shredded, I needed chest surgery. After all that, I have a tremendous weight off my mind (and body lol) much less anxiety than ever. The unfortunate part of being fit is that people assume your entire personality and lifestyle is around being fit. For me, being fit is simply a prerequisite for a healthy life, not my entire world. I guess a lot of people struggle with that idea and project it on me. Edit: hard part is that I can still eat more food than anybody I know. There's a constant psychological restriction to manage. Fiber and water doesn't help because it's calories my body wants, not empty foods. That's probably the biggest struggle from time to time
New here but great info! The only thing I didn’t hear and maybe it’s been touched on in other videos…. Inflammation in the body is what causes the excess weight and getting rid of inflammation is another important key as well as pushing those electrolytes!!! Push those GOOD electrolytes for intracellular hydration so that the body doesn’t pull from intracellular and cause extra cellular puffiness, edema, making you pee more when you drink water which can cause frustration and sometimes causes people to drink less water which causes the problem to spiral.
Thank you very much for this video. I tend to overthink everything. My brain trmds to go into danger-mode within seconds and exhausts me mentally. I am going this journey the opposite way. I used to do sports up to 6 times a week. Enjoying different types of sport and just having fun. After having moved and working fulltime, I just lost that connection. This frustrates me a lot and I get into vicious cycles of feeling quite good or physically weak. And I tend to be mentally low, especially when I'm feeling weak. Which then turns into a downward spiral. Getting out of this often happens when I'm quite busy again. So, in a nutshell: I'm either busy and mentally and physically happy and not bothering about anything. Or I have some time which my brain just uses up with negative thoughts and that exhausts me. Do you have any tips on what you tend to do if you're feeling weak or too tired? Take care
Ahaha good spot! I have (two if you can spot them both 🫢)! It’s a tattoo I’ve wanted for years and years so I finally did it and it’s something that I’ve always worn in jewellery variety 😬😁 with some artistic flare 😝! Thank you for your kind words ❤️❤️❤️
Weight loss does not equal happiness. Gaining weight is a symptom of a deeper cause. Dig deeper than the physical body. Address your problems and understand why I'm where I am. Re wire my brain to see and do things differently. Body dysmorphia is real Healthy is more than physical, it's mental too! Weight loss: less in, expend more energy out, create Ms a deficit, thus weight loss. Maintenance - fluctuates and constantly changing Manage expectations: healthy body, healthy mind, flexible approach to life and weight loss; getting to a specific weight and staying there isn't realistic; life continuously changes and those changes can and will affect my weight. This is a lifelong journey . Don't be hard on myself Consistency over intensity: consistency is key; I will burnout with eating and exercise. I have to remember to get back to it. Fundamentals over fads. Don't try to do everything, diet, exercise, workout plans. Learn from the mistakes and failures. Do research, learn from experiences and different perspectives I have encountered. Exercise is not required to lose weight. It's all about nutrition. Exercise assists with weight loss. Healthy body is longevity. Exercise - just enjoy moving your body; functional body is necessary for living life. Don't over think exercises Feeling of Hunger: I don't necessarily like the feeling of hunger 😮 losing weight will call for a certain amount of hunger!!! It's all about balance -create deficits for weight loss, enjoyment of the foods I like, being mindful of my portions.
Weight yoyo-er here. Being skinny has only highlighted the other insecurities I've had with my body. At least while overweight, I could tell myself I'll be pretty when I lose the weight. While skinny, what do I do with crippling body dysmorphia over my facial features. Obsess over plastic surgery and assume every undesirable reaction I get is because the other person is offended by how ugly I am. That's what.
Consistency over intensity. I'm more into lifting (though I have run a successful cut or to) and oh man. So many n00bs either: - think they're going to get super strong from one hard weekend session - lose all their weight from one grueling cardio blast They don't want the Slow & Sustainable™ route. The biggest factor in achieving our goals is TIME. It takes time to get strong. Time to get big. Time to drop weight. Consistency over intensity, indeed.
Hi Lucy... Ich schreib mal nicht zu dem Thema und in Deutsch :)... ich hoffe das ist Ok? Also ich hab Dich hier entdeckt und fand es einfach Toll, wie du das hier machst! Also hab ich angefangen deine Übungen zu machen, war ja immer schon nen bisschen anders, deshalb hab ich Direkt handstand versucht nach 2 Wochen! Kannst du mir mehr Tipps fürs Gleichgewicht geben? liebe Grü?e Pascal
I'm not sure I agree with any of the 'problems'. I love my body post-weight loss. Yes, there are flaws due to the damage weight gain did but that's normal and there's no reason to try and change something normal. I'll take those flaws a hundred times over dozens of lbs of extra fat and obesity. I'm happier, healthier and more confident. I'm not ashamed when looking at a candid picture of myself and am more comfortable physically and mentally in every aspect of my life. Health issues have disappeared. I can be on my feet all day and not get blisters and sore for days because my skeleton wasn't meant to hold that much weight. It's also infinitely easier to maintain weight than lose weight. You know your approximate needed calories if you lost the weight the right way. Stick to that - which again - is much easier than being on a deficit long term. if you gain a couple in a month, be honest with yourself and scale back on treats for a bit and it should fall right off. It's a myth you gain it back when you stop your diet. You gain it back because you start a shit diet of excess food and it takes time.
last year I was 70kg and now 90kg, and my highest weight was 100kg. I do some film work and music performance and I kind of had a goal of having abs for once. But I worked out I'd need to be around 65kg for that. I never got there and I'm happier now I'm 20 kg heavier. (a lot of numbers sorry) I also qualified as a PT but never worked as one. At 70kg all I could see was the fact I had a faint 4 pack and not a prominent 6 pack and the extra 5kg of fat I couldn't seem to loose. I'm quite fat now ha, but I am happier. I'd slim down for a great role on a show, I'd do it for my health, when I'm ready. I won't do it so people like me more, again ha. I don't have a GF now at 90kg. And I didn't attain one at 70kg either. That grass isn't greener :)
You are gloing to love ultra trail running or just trail running.. I am 60 yrs old and still running 50k trails ...maybe start a strava account ok ?.. I use the free version .
It’s from a company in LA on Etsy but I got it about 10 years ago so I don’t remember it! If you google molecular jewellery you’ll find lots of companies ❤️
When you begin making workout videos could you do some that incorporate parallel dip bars? Just bought my first pair and no clue what else to do besides push ups and bringing my knees up. 😂
As someone who lost 65lbs in 2020 through good diet and exercise, down to a very fit weight, to then losing a close family member and going through a big depression that lasted a few years and gaining ALL of the weight back to someone who is now re-embarking on losing the weight again..... I can tell you a big indicator of my mental health is being lower in weight and focused on being fit and eating well.
Thank you. I needed this comment ❤
I completely agree, as someone that lost 20kg. It's not a race. Focus on eating better, healthier, cut out ultra processed food. You can still lose weight with a small deficit. Cut out refined carbs and processed sugars as much as possible.
I always find it so interesting when people say that losing weight won't make you happier, because my experience was that I 100% feel better and way happier when I'm skinny. Like it's almost ridiculous how much of a difference it makes, and I'm talking about 10kg less here, not 30+
Me too. I feel amazing.
I agree and disagree. I think unhappiness makes people gain weight. And then gaining weight makes people more and more unhappy because you're treated worse and your body starts feeling worse.
I 100% get treated better and feel better thin. But until I tackled what made me unhappy originally (zero free time or fun in my life) I regained weight because I still was craving a fix for that unhappiness (and oreos spark joy when you have no free time).
If you gained weight originally because your marriage sucks, you're marriage is still going to suck when you're thin. If you gained weight because you were trying to stuff down the sadness of a miscarriage, you're still going to have deal with those feeling when you're thin. If you gained weight because you were deeply unhappy in your job, you're still going to be deeply unhappy with your job when you're thin.
@@CeresIsABetterPlanetThanPluto Well, I can definitely agree with that! It's just my personal experience is if I have the options of feeling like shit and being skinny or feeling like shit and having too much fat, I'll take being skinny anytime. Just because I physically feel a lot better. But yes, if your unhappiness initially comes from something entirely different, then you won't feel like a million bucks when you're thin.
@@CeresIsABetterPlanetThanPluto Sure, but I can guarantee you that most people who are just a little overweight and unhappy about it, gained weight simply because they ate more calories than they burned. I eat too much, so I'm heavier than I should be. There's no deeper reason, it's that simple. I know I'll feel better and happier when I lose weight.
@plumdutchess I don't think you can make generalities like that I'm fat but clearly more fit and have a good relationship with food than I was when I was skinnier and had a bad relationship with food. Sure I might eat more than I burn but I go to the gym often and love hiking, something that I never did when I was skinny. So overall I'm actually very happy about my physical strength.
I’ve had the opposite experience: I actually do feel better in my own skin and have more confidence when I’m the slimmer version of myself.
Me as well. More confidence more self respect, as fat I was the biggest people pleaser just to be accepted, not any longer. And also, other people treat me now much better, sad but true 👍
8:35
I decided to be on a fat loss/fitness journey from the start instead of worrying about my weight. I've become a lot leaner and stronger, and my chronic pain is gone. (I don't have the words to explain what a huge deal **that** is.)
Having said all that, the number on the scales has barely moved; I think I might be heavier, and I don't care bc I'm heading towards my goal. If I focused solely on losing some kgs, I'd be skinny-fat and probably still in pain.
Still working on my mental health though. The physical/lifestyle changes have been a short-term distraction, but the same issues are still here. I appreciate this video as a reminder, bc I've become very astute at deceiving myself recently❤
Losing 70lbs changed my life. Most of my debilitating health issues went away and I'm 1000x more comfortable. I can lay in bed without feeling like the weight of my arms is crushing my circulation and get out of bed without grunting. Food doesn't control me any longer. If you are reading this, I'm telling you it's so worth the flight.
It didn't solve all my problems, but it did solve most of them. YMMV
I love your honesty Lucy, these are very much issues that are not discussed. I have lost weight a number of times and I've also found maintaining weight to be very difficult because of the underlying insecurities that the ideal weight actually triggers more. It's been a very long journey towards balance and happiness
Hi, Lucy! It's great to see you again! 😃 🥰
Regarding point #5 @15:24... I have discovered that there are 2 types of hunger!
Within the last few months of my weight-loss journey, I stumbled across some information about the "carbohydrate-insulin model of obesity". Basically, when we eat carbohydrates, it will spike our hormone insulin, which causes us to store the carbohydrates as fat. If we eat too frequently or if we eat too many carbohydrates, the insulin doesn’t have a chance to come down and can lead to insulin resistance, which leads to a lot of symptoms and chronic diseases (like obesity, diabetes, heart disease, depression, alzheimers, and many more!)
Conversely, eating less frequently ("time restricted eating" and/or intermittant fasting) and/or eating meals with a lower "glycemic load" will permit our insulin levels to drop enough between meals or at night that we can burn fat for fuel, instead of burning glucose for fuel. Eventually, this strategy can be used to reverse insulin resistance and many metabolic diseases!
This has been a HUGE shift in my thinking! 😳🤯. I really had no idea, before, that insulin controls our weight more than anything else!
"Eating less and moving more" usually invokes a high carb, low fat diet that is calorie restricted. Limiting calories naturally lowers insulin relative to what it was before, so that's why you can burn body fat. AKA: it works to lose weight. But in the meantime, you're underfueling your body and your BMR goes down. Plus, the carbs you eat trigger insulin release, which causes the body to store the food, which makes you hungry again sooner! And if you ate too many carbs, the insulin will overshoot and bring your blood glucose too low, which leads to an emergency-like hunger where you feel the need to eat NOW!
Conversely, if you focus on a diet and lifestyle that promote "metabolic flexibility" where your body can easily switch between burning fat and burning glucose for fuel, the hunger you may at times feel will seem a lot more stable! It won't be an emergency-type hunger. Any kind of low carb, higher-fat, "insulin-controlling" diet will work for this. (General low carb, very low carb, intermittent fasting, etc)
I like to follow @AutumnBates, where she promotes Protein, Fat, and Fiber, coupled with a low glycemic load style of eating (AKA low carb, approx
Great info thank you. 😊 That was an easy way to understand insulin. I will check out Autumn Bates
You are absolutely correct. Dr. Berg has help me to understand this issues.
I’m very skeptical of this model. At the end of the day thermodynamics dictates weight fluctuations. You can eat nothing but twinkies and lose weight if you’re not getting enough calories. With that said you’ll probably feel ravenously hungry all the time if you eat said diet.
I think a better explanation for why higher protein diets work has more to do with satiety signals. Furthermore it seems that energy flux seems to help a ton. It’s easier to have 1000 calorie deficit if your daily burn is 3500 and you eat 2500 than if you’re completely sedentary with a burn rate of 2000 trying to eat only 1000 calories.
@@rathelmmc3194 I'm not an expert on it, but Ben Bikman arguably is. Check out this video on his InsulinIQ channel: ruclips.net/video/NHW1YIJiojY/видео.html. Pretty compelling proof to me that hormones matter beyond than just calories. He's got a ton of other videos with way more awesome details!😃
Thank you 🙏🏽
As someone who lost 80 lbs, I will say that losing weight made me happier. But, it didn't make me more confident. I was very confident in my large body because I had nothing to hide, -I couldn't hide. When I lost weight, I was suddenly very insecure about my loose skin, and how partners might feel cat-fished when they saw me in an intimate setting because suddenly I could hide the loose skin. When you're large, the people who choose to sleep with you know exactly what they're getting into before you ever think of taking off your clothes. But I was a lot happier when I was lost weight because I wasn't afraid of walking down the street and being judged. I could move in ways I couldn't before. I was no longer scared of going out and having fun and being seen because I didn't need to rely on my confidence anymore. And my confidence took a lot of energy to maintain when I was large. But when I lost weight, I could just exist and didn't have to worry about it anymore.
That last point is GOLDEN. I recently figured that out on my own & I wish more ppl spoke about it! I think so much of the rhetoric is about how to "outsmart" the body:
• If you know you get really hungry in the evening, "budget calories" to make dinner your largest meal -- if it's breakfast or lunch, same logic applies
• Eat Volume foods
• Drink more water
• Up your protein intake to feel satisfied/full longer
• Do activities to distract yourself, etc
These are all fantastic, don't get me wrong, BUT I wish someone had just said, "𝘓𝘰𝘰𝘬, 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘴, 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘵, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺. 𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘕𝘖𝘙𝘔𝘈𝘓, 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵, 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘬."
For someone to point out that MINDSET is really the key to dealing w/the "hunger pains/cues" when in a deficit...it would've spared me so much time/energy/frustration 😅 Instead of "fighting" w/my body's natural instincts, just lean into it bc it's normal/natural & necessary for fat/weight loss.
Embrace the suck I like that thank you
Also I'd add that hunger doesn't actually have to feel bad. When you embrace it and realize it's just a function of your body and not to be afraid of it it doesn't hurt. And it makes you appreciate the food you have even more. It even makes food taste better when you eat.
We're complex social beings in a multitude of situations daily, so while our happiness is not completely dependable on our body it ducking helps because y'know we live in it and that's what we carry around to experience life. I've never heard of anyone who lost and maintained a healthy weight saying that they wish they went back to having excess weight because they were happier that way.
Good point
i was in great shape once. won several natural bodybuilding contests. being in great shape can be quite stressful. always worrying you don't look good enough, or believing you look better than you actually do. believing people care about how you look when most people could care less. or a few people want to hang out with you simply because they want what you have, not really because they like you.
Hi Lucy, it's so great that you're back on RUclips. I love your videos! I had two points to share on the hunger. I've always struggled with being hungry, and always thinking about food. My stomach was a bottomless pit. During Ramadan in covid, I fasted 30 days from sunrise until sunset during summer time so from 3am until 9pm and I managed to lose weight and also reduce my appetite. I controlled my portions and was very intentional about food. But it consumed me and one slip up meant that that after about 3 months I fell back into poor eating habits.
Then in 2022 I got diagnosed with ADHD. I'm a woman in my thirties btw and I never thought I had ADHD because the diagnostic criteria has been based on men (obviously). I got medicated and a side effect of the medication is it curbs your appetite. Its the same medication used for binge eating disorders and for the first time, food stopped controlling my life and my thoughts. I lost weight and maintained the weight loss without needing to workout. Working out became about strength and fun rather than keeping weight off. One day I didn't take my medication and I was ravenous. The same levels of hunger I lived all my life with and I hated the feeling of hunger. But getting medicated for ADHD has given me a freedom I never thought possible. You should check out a video by Dina Tokio on her first day with ADHD medication and how saddening it was for her to realise she could function without hunger consuming her the way that it did. SHe's massively into calisthenics now too and she's awesome.
Just wanted to share this :)
I feel this sister.. the deeper causes to weight gain are what need to be resolved before you can holistically and healthily enjoy the new skin your in!❤
I'm losing weight without being hungry. I eat at a deficit of around 200 calories. I focus on a lot of different types of fibre and protein. This keeps me completely satisfied, while still losing 1 kilo a month.
Good job, great patience!
@@kennydroid2254 Thanks! Cause, yeah, it does take patience. But at the same time when you look back it takes no time at all.
@@albertheijnpindakaas Yeah thats a good takeaway, having that perspective, and remembering that next time we feel progress is slow
Hi! I also lost quite some weight and have to say that for me I do not agree with your first point. But my situation was that I was always in a good place mentally, except for my body image. So when I changed my life style and lost weight I was more happy with myself and kind of grew into my confidence. Your second point that maintaining your weight will always be kind of difficult I absolutely agree with! So it only shows how different we all are. 😊 Love the video! ❤
I see a lot of people say what she saids but i feel the way you do. From what I've noticed, a lot of the people who feel the way she does were big from the beginning. I gained wait a few years ago and am losong it now but i was not always big. Getting back to my old weight is making me much happier, I look more like myself. But people who were never smaller or dont remember being smaller seem to struggle with the new them and still have insecurities from who they were before.
@@kristin122100% correct- I lost 22kg during covid and couldn’t see the new me, because I was always bigger it was very weird.
One of the hardest things about weight loss is the borderline eating disorder behaviours you go through before you find a mentally healthy way to maintain it (for me). Super painful and long to deal with.
This is one of the most sensible videos I have seen about weight so far. Thank you!
I love listening to you talk. You are so smart and inspiring, and your outlook is approachable. I wanted to comment for encouragement, say congrats on your new space, and welcome you back!
Being sick or in pain makes most people unhappy. That's a bit more likely if you are overweight and a lot more likely if you are obese. So, short term, while losing weight will not bring lasting happiness because the initial sense of achievement is replaced by a focus on other problems, if maintained then a good weight will reduce the risk of unhappiness (because of illness and pain) as you get older.
The positive feedback from others, for looking good and healthy, would have a huge influence on happiness as well. I've been both significance overweight and in great shape, and the feedback from others is like night and day.
One often overlooked negative aspect is the effect that being hungry and monitoring your calories has on your personality and social interactions around food . Maybe you have less energy , are a little more cranky and more quick to pass up that piece of pie at risk of hurting somebody's feelings .You are no longer the jolly easy-going fat person and a lot of people who expect weight loss to look effortless may have a problem with that .
Your content has made such a difference in my journey. You are so knowledgeable, approachable and inspirational 🏃🏻♀️
I love this ❤ I have always been very active but gained a bit of weight during childbearing years. Lost all of it and more and gained a lot of muscle and got seriously strong through lifting and calisthenics and got so much more aware of my body through doing all kinds of movement that I hadn't done before. I felt so much better overall, but can so relate to what you said about weight loss is npt the same as happiness and that some things might even get worse. I have always felt heavy and clumsy and the feeling is still there at times, even though I weigh as I did at 12 and move with so much more grace, control and ease than I have ever done before. I think I will be a work in progress for a long time. Anyway, thank you for sharing this and being very inspirational ❤
I got sooooo much happier when I lost weight. Cause it made it possible for me to be more competitive on the dating market, and dating men that wouldn't look twice at me before (or not even once honestly, from invisible to desired). That has a huge influence on happiness! Ofcourse there are other things in your life necessary to make you happy, but to be in a good position to find a partner sure is a big part of that.
Me as well! By losing weight I have gained confidence and self respect, I was a big people pleaser, now I have learnt to say no, also with men it has changed. I set up my boundaries and they have to respect that, that was not the case when I was fat 😢 let alone the (sad) fact that people treat you better when slim. As an overweight person I was invisible! Shallow but true. I think Lucy talks about other problems (relationships job, money) of course they won't disappear once a person gets slimmer, but weightloss increases happiness 😊🎉
That was a very honest comment 💪🏽
I can really relate to your feelings,experiences and with the source of the problems with wait loss. You are so right. I just have to start to do the right. Thanks.
I hear what you're saying but for me I am a much happier person. I decided to change my life a year ago. Since last September I've lost 120 lbs. I went from 287 lbs to 167 lbs. I'm not depressed anymore. I don't avoid going out in public. I'm now outgoing. I enjoy buying clothes. I'm just way happier. I'm staying consistent with my workouts and I will not allow myself to go back to were I was. It's all in the mind. 😃
As someone that has gone through depression, losing a close family member.. I can say I have faced much harder hardships than just weight loss. I built my life back up, got my own apartment, and built up my career. I decided to lose weight, but not just losing weight. I wanted to be fit, healthier, and eat better. When you're eating healthy and lose the bad food choices like ultra processed food it does make me happier and feel better. I went from overweight to fit, lost like 20kg. Losing weight severely restricting yourself doesn't really work. I did research and set up a plan for a long term diet and maintenance. During my weight loss journey i didnt really have much hunger, because i focused on a high protein, whole grain diet. Protein helps to keep you full for longer times.
Wherever you go.. there you are! In every size
Good to see you back and glowing again! 🙂
Thank you for these beautiful and brilliant insights.
I love you a WHOLE BUNCH and missed watching your videos, ladyyyyy❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I find that having consistency in my training is essential for a maintaing a healthy diet. In times when I am inactive - and especially if I am more mentally stressed I find eating healthy quite hard, and more often give in for temptations. When I have a larger focus on being active and get that in to a routine, eating healthy just happens by itself. I get less cravings and naturally choose healthier ingredients and meals.
Also for me it is so much more important to have a strong body that lets me do the activities I want, or the tasks that I need, than to be thin. Being thin won't help me carry my bags of firewood or shuffle the snow in the winter - also more musclemass is key for a quicker recovery if you get sick. Atm I am around 15 kgs overweight and probably my view on this had been different if I had more excess weight, but for where I am in this moment - this works for me. And as I focus on my fitness and strenght, the scales slowly but surely creeps down. My strenght and energy though keeps growing at a much faster pace.
I am also going through a weight loss journey but I feel like when I loose 3 kilos I get burnt out and again gain 2 kilos. This is being ongoing for the last 3-4 months. Could you please share your thoughts on this about how can I be consistent on losing weight ?
I solved this issue by making sure I walk a minimum of 10000 steps every day or at least 6 days per week. Hope it helps🚶🏾♀️🌅
Don't just look at scale weight. Take progress photos and measurements. Kg is not a great measurement to see fat loss.
❤❤❤❤❤ thanks for coming back to us 😊
Thank you Lucy!
So lose the weight, take compassion with yourself... all notions and emotions will be cared for in due time xoxox many thanks dear beautiful Lucy
to all of the people commenting saying you did feel better after losing weight: you DONT feel better because you're skinny, you feel better because you're no longer a target for discrimination & bullying. yes you may be eating thing that provide better nutrtion & moving your body so that is contributing but you can do that & be fat. so please dont try & say that losing weight was the thing that made you happy because it isnt & you are just harming vulnerable people who are tired of weight stigma. instead heal your relationship with your body & stand up for people who do not have the ability to torture themselves to look a certain way anymore.
Wow - good point!!!!
Thank you so much, loved this video. Your story is inspiring :)
I was obese as a teenager and I can't help but feel like it derailed my life. I also had male breasts as a result of genetics. I got teased a lot. Even after getting down to 180lbs and shredded, I needed chest surgery. After all that, I have a tremendous weight off my mind (and body lol) much less anxiety than ever. The unfortunate part of being fit is that people assume your entire personality and lifestyle is around being fit. For me, being fit is simply a prerequisite for a healthy life, not my entire world. I guess a lot of people struggle with that idea and project it on me. Edit: hard part is that I can still eat more food than anybody I know. There's a constant psychological restriction to manage. Fiber and water doesn't help because it's calories my body wants, not empty foods. That's probably the biggest struggle from time to time
New here but great info!
The only thing I didn’t hear and maybe it’s been touched on in other videos….
Inflammation in the body is what causes the excess weight and getting rid of inflammation is another important key as well as pushing those electrolytes!!!
Push those GOOD electrolytes for intracellular hydration so that the body doesn’t pull from intracellular and cause extra cellular puffiness, edema, making you pee more when you drink water which can cause frustration and sometimes causes people to drink less water which causes the problem to spiral.
Thank you very much for this video. I tend to overthink everything. My brain trmds to go into danger-mode within seconds and exhausts me mentally. I am going this journey the opposite way. I used to do sports up to 6 times a week. Enjoying different types of sport and just having fun. After having moved and working fulltime, I just lost that connection. This frustrates me a lot and I get into vicious cycles of feeling quite good or physically weak. And I tend to be mentally low, especially when I'm feeling weak. Which then turns into a downward spiral. Getting out of this often happens when I'm quite busy again.
So, in a nutshell: I'm either busy and mentally and physically happy and not bothering about anything. Or I have some time which my brain just uses up with negative thoughts and that exhausts me.
Do you have any tips on what you tend to do if you're feeling weak or too tired?
Take care
Thank you for this important video 🙏 i have to admit i spent the whole time trying to figure out whether you got a new Tatoo and what is it 😅
Ahaha good spot! I have (two if you can spot them both 🫢)! It’s a tattoo I’ve wanted for years and years so I finally did it and it’s something that I’ve always worn in jewellery variety 😬😁 with some artistic flare 😝! Thank you for your kind words ❤️❤️❤️
I am turning 16 next year ,i really want to make a change so how do i start calisthenics
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Weight loss does not equal happiness.
Gaining weight is a symptom of a deeper cause.
Dig deeper than the physical body.
Address your problems and understand why I'm where I am.
Re wire my brain to see and do things differently.
Body dysmorphia is real
Healthy is more than physical, it's mental too!
Weight loss: less in, expend more energy out, create Ms a deficit, thus weight loss.
Maintenance - fluctuates and constantly changing
Manage expectations: healthy body, healthy mind, flexible approach to life and weight loss; getting to a specific weight and staying there isn't realistic; life continuously changes and those changes can and will affect my weight. This is a lifelong journey . Don't be hard on myself
Consistency over intensity: consistency is key; I will burnout with eating and exercise. I have to remember to get back to it.
Fundamentals over fads. Don't try to do everything, diet, exercise, workout plans. Learn from the mistakes and failures. Do research, learn from experiences and different perspectives I have encountered.
Exercise is not required to lose weight. It's all about nutrition. Exercise assists with weight loss.
Healthy body is longevity.
Exercise - just enjoy moving your body; functional body is necessary for living life. Don't over think exercises
Feeling of Hunger: I don't necessarily like the feeling of hunger 😮 losing weight will call for a certain amount of hunger!!! It's all about balance -create deficits for weight loss, enjoyment of the foods I like, being mindful of my portions.
Weight yoyo-er here. Being skinny has only highlighted the other insecurities I've had with my body. At least while overweight, I could tell myself I'll be pretty when I lose the weight. While skinny, what do I do with crippling body dysmorphia over my facial features. Obsess over plastic surgery and assume every undesirable reaction I get is because the other person is offended by how ugly I am. That's what.
you have such a beautiful aura about you! 😊
You are always so refreshing, and so right! Thanks Lucy, great to see you again :)
❤️❤️❤️ thank you!!! X
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Consistency over intensity. I'm more into lifting (though I have run a successful cut or to) and oh man. So many n00bs either:
- think they're going to get super strong from one hard weekend session
- lose all their weight from one grueling cardio blast
They don't want the Slow & Sustainable™ route. The biggest factor in achieving our goals is TIME. It takes time to get strong. Time to get big. Time to drop weight.
Consistency over intensity, indeed.
Hi Lucy... Ich schreib mal nicht zu dem Thema und in Deutsch :)... ich hoffe das ist Ok? Also ich hab Dich hier entdeckt und fand es einfach Toll, wie du das hier machst! Also hab ich angefangen deine Übungen zu machen, war ja immer schon nen bisschen anders, deshalb hab ich Direkt handstand versucht nach 2 Wochen! Kannst du mir mehr Tipps fürs Gleichgewicht geben?
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Boy, she is a whole other level of adorable.
I'm not sure I agree with any of the 'problems'. I love my body post-weight loss. Yes, there are flaws due to the damage weight gain did but that's normal and there's no reason to try and change something normal. I'll take those flaws a hundred times over dozens of lbs of extra fat and obesity. I'm happier, healthier and more confident. I'm not ashamed when looking at a candid picture of myself and am more comfortable physically and mentally in every aspect of my life. Health issues have disappeared. I can be on my feet all day and not get blisters and sore for days because my skeleton wasn't meant to hold that much weight. It's also infinitely easier to maintain weight than lose weight. You know your approximate needed calories if you lost the weight the right way. Stick to that - which again - is much easier than being on a deficit long term. if you gain a couple in a month, be honest with yourself and scale back on treats for a bit and it should fall right off. It's a myth you gain it back when you stop your diet. You gain it back because you start a shit diet of excess food and it takes time.
i love your hair
last year I was 70kg and now 90kg, and my highest weight was 100kg. I do some film work and music performance and I kind of had a goal of having abs for once. But I worked out I'd need to be around 65kg for that. I never got there and I'm happier now I'm 20 kg heavier. (a lot of numbers sorry) I also qualified as a PT but never worked as one. At 70kg all I could see was the fact I had a faint 4 pack and not a prominent 6 pack and the extra 5kg of fat I couldn't seem to loose. I'm quite fat now ha, but I am happier. I'd slim down for a great role on a show, I'd do it for my health, when I'm ready. I won't do it so people like me more, again ha. I don't have a GF now at 90kg. And I didn't attain one at 70kg either. That grass isn't greener :)
Maybe I'm dateless because I am such a terrible person 😆
You are gloing to love ultra trail running or just trail running.. I am 60 yrs old and still running 50k trails ...maybe start a strava account ok ?.. I use the free version .
Love it Lucy , mean
Did I hear you say ultra trailrunning?!? 🤩
Where'd you get the necklace?
It’s from a company in LA on Etsy but I got it about 10 years ago so I don’t remember it! If you google molecular jewellery you’ll find lots of companies ❤️
weight loss wont make you happy
but staying being fat absolutely will keep you in misery
When you begin making workout videos could you do some that incorporate parallel dip bars? Just bought my first pair and no clue what else to do besides push ups and bringing my knees up. 😂
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Thank you for the video! Exactly what i needed right now! 🫶🥹