I wish people who remember that small children, and disabled adults also have personal space bubbles; as with both groups other people often invade these.
I have a huge issue with personal space. I live on the wide-open plains of western Canada, where theres so much empty space in the world that you could watch your dog run away for 3 days (colloquial idiom), yet everyone feels the need to get so close to me and it freaks me out. Just stand 5 meters away and I'll be comfortable.
I'm curious why people have a shy bladder, I myself cannot pee in view of anyone else, it simply won't work, even the possibility of people nearby will stop me. People seem to be un-aware that this is a thing, and cubicle users like me get less space and more un-usable urinals.
I have exactly the same problem. It's also hard to explain and a lot of people tend to think you are simply exagerating. The stupidest thing they can say is "It's all in your mind". ...Yes, it is all in my mind, THAT'S THE PROBLEM! lol xD I'm starting to get over it, though, but it's still difficult and a really under-stated problem :S
DRakshasa Exactly. I have to mention the most horrifying thing I ever saw, it was a French public squat toilet, open, with a fucking cue of people (mixed gender) all lined up behind the person doing their business... what really baffled me more was that there was a second public restroom at the back, with cubicles... so many puzzled emotions and questions went though my mind that day.
Purple Protocol That sounds like a nightmare. People waiting for you to finish is terrible :S Say good-bye to your perfectly relaxed bladder for the rest of the day.
I've been to prison. I've had to leave somewhere around a hundred urine samples, naked every time and many times in front of women - my opposite sex. Do something along those lines and you'll be cured....I guarantee it!
I'm from Ontario Canada, and I'm very anxious (I've been dignosed with anxiety disorder). My mother is too, very anxious. But unlike me her idea of personal space is irrational. I don't quite enjoy being snuggled by her every 20 seconds (no I'm not over reacting or being angsty, she does this to EVERYBODY). I don't know if it's the italian in her or not, but she treats everyone like me (hugs n' all). It bogles me how she can be so clingy and yet have two very untouchy children (my elder brother is like me too).
1: Personal Space 2: Personal Space 3: Stay out of my personal space 4: Keep away from my personal space 5: Get out of that personal space 6: Stay away from my personal space 7: Keep away from that personal space 8: Personal space 9: Personal space
I do think personal space says a lot about your relationship with someone- like it's said in the video, the closer people are to you emotionally and mentally, the closer they are "allowed" to be to you physically. I've always found that similarity interesting, and I'm also really aware of it in any situation where I am making new friends- because it takes a certain amount of time before we both feel comfortable hugging each other goodbye/hello.
Congrats on the PBS gig! My personal space, as an American male, is probably 20-30% smaller. I've done a lot of traveling all over the world and I think I've adjusted downwards over time.
Omg I've totally noticed this about myself! Whenever I have to use the bathroom when I am not at home like probably 50 percent of the time if someone else is in the vicinity I just can't. I've walked in noticed there was other people and just immediately walked out cause I knew it wasn't gonna happen lol. I also have anxiety issues, so it makes sense. I am a 25 year old female in the US btw. Good video!!! Love this channel!
My "space bubble" is probably reserved for close friends and family, mostly. Even well(ish) known acquaintances can't get too close to me without me taking a few steps back. I do it more often with male acquaintances though, which is weird, but I couldn't help to notice. I probably do it instinctively.
Fatima Sorry my bad, I kow a couple of people who are Christian, but have typical Muslim name. I should of known better not to generalize. Maybe you feel threatened by males.
I used to live in Taiwan, where the personal bubble is a lot smaller than it is here in the US. It was weird at first, but after a while of living there it became normal to be so close to people and not feel weird. Now that Im back in the US, Im back to the US standard bubble.
Hey, welcome back to Personal Space! I'm your host, Phillip Jacobs, and let me tell ya, I care about my personal space- Woah, woah! Who's around me right now? Who's around me?! ....... Now why don't we step up here, and everybody get stepped up, and let's get some stepped up personal space up in this place? We get a 1: Personal space 2: Personal space 3: Stay out of my personal space 4: Keep away from my personal space!!! 5: Get outta dat personal space! 6: Stay away from my personal space! 7: Keep away from dat personal space! 8: Personal space 9: Personal space You know, I take personal space pretty seriously, up to the point that I don't even care about this, I'm not even interested in having this skin on my personal space. Uaaghhh! ahhh! Uaaahhhh! It hurts! *rips skin off* Tune in next week... to the best show ever. The show we all grew and love, The Personal Space Show! More Personal Space Tuesday at 8:00, up next the heat is turning up with Samantha and the Boys on: The- *turns TV off*
Besides variation by culture, have any studies been done that look at variation by a person's height? Being taller than average, in crowds I feel more comfortable than some of my shorter friends, and it may have something to do with having more available space around my head...maybe?
I am also taller than many of my peers, but I hate being in crowds. I think it's actually because I feel like people notice me more just because I'm easier to spot. I can see how it may be comforting to some people to have more space around their heads, though.
Hm I never considered that...I guess I've used that aspect though, as I generally have an easier time walking through crowds as people see me and give me space.
Very true...I'm 6'2" and ended up standing next to a guy who was 6'8" at a Wolfmother show back in college...and we were at the front. It did give us some breathing room behind us though!
Your videos are so great! I like how you take in consideration the cultural differences in relation to these concepts. I hope you do more videos in the future :D
My personal space bubble depends on how well I know a person. If I know you very well then I don't care how close you are however, if I barley know you, you have can't get that close.
Australia: I normally like it when people are in what your video defined as "social space". I went to Brazil last year and during a party at the time of the World Cup, the streets of Sao Paulo had a lot of foot traffic. To get through the river of people, you would have to rub your body past other bodies for 10-20metres sometimes and I felt quite stressed. In the last few months I start dating my first girlfriend. In the first weeks of our relationship, when ever we would (literally) try to sleep in the same bed I would try for about an hour but resort to sleeping on the couch on my own. The difficulty in falling asleep in the same bed as someone else only begun to subside in the last two weeks.
The videography/photography (I guess it's time lapse?) was great for this one! BrainCraft , maybe you could post a video of your production process one day? :)
Outside of personality types would you ever consider doing a followup video about cultural views affect our personal space? My friend and I talked about these differences while at a movie theater watching how people would usually try to cram in the middle but would try to leave one open chair of buffer. He mentioned he saw this also when people would cram into the bus, where he's from (the Middle East) people would immediately gather next to each other.
Awesome video! I am one of those people who usually stands very close to people, and I'm okay with others standing close to me, for the most part, even though I have a severe anxiety disorder.
Hi! So, I was born in the American South, but grew up in Australia. I've noticed that people here in the South tend to talk MUCH closer than they do in Australia. Here's another interesting thought. There is a large population of South and Central American people here as well. However, I've noticed that people from the South, especially those who grew up in small rural areas of the south or mountain regions tend to have closer personal space preferences than those from countries typically associated with closer personal space preferences. I asked one of my cousins (her mother is from South America) about this, and she said that her mom always told her that standing too close is offensive here in the US, but not in Uruguay. I wonder how many people have been taught, upon coming to the US or Australia, that we consider it rude to stand too close, so they don't do it. Hmm... :) I thoroughly appreciate your videos! Much love. Caleb.
Congrats on your partnership with pbs! This is a great topic I couldn't wait to click on it! It's imperative for healthy development I believe and so is intimacy. That's why I love that kids can get in bed and cuddle with their guardians and also have their own room or personal space to develop their views and personalities as well as individuality.
Everyone has these "bubbles" of intimate and personal space, but their size varies from person to person, and can also vary with circumstance. (Mostly, they expand when there's plenty of free space around you, and contract when the area gets more crowded.)
I'm from the U.S. and I suffer from anxiety so even close friends and family make me uncomfortable if they are less than arms length without invitation..
South Asia: My Intimate space is very very intimate. I can only tolerate my mum, baby sis, dad, and sometimes older bro. For some reason I find it intrusive when my little brother comes too far into the intimate bubble. As for social bubble, anyone is welcome. I think my family and friends are very sociable and easily let anyone some into their social place, but even with friends there’s no intimacy of reaching out and patting each others hand or walking shoulder to shoulder. In fact I think that’s pretty unnerving. But I’ve noticed we’re also more likely to hug and sit close by to a complete stranger at a party or something.
Tvastar Dev Actually, I think more then race or social life have an effect on how much intimacy you or your social can tolerate on a regular basis. And it also changes over time. This post was from last year and also during a time I was very emotional wreck. (Issues = life) But right now my view on this is different as well as my relationship with my family. But it probably wont stay like that and is prone to change through life. So, yea. A lot of factors to consider here my friend.
Haleema T ah, I do not know you so can not say much but for me I like being alone yet have no problem with being around people. It just depends cause sometimes it is too much of hanging out or too much of being alone.
I think my personal space bubble is about the same as what is described in this video, but I've always been uncomfortable being touched, even by my family. Any idea what that means?
Since you asked me not to tell you how long it takes for me to pee I'm going to tell you how long it takes for me to pee. Around 1.5 seconds alone and around 3 when in public bathrooms.
The size of your personal space also depends on whether you grew up in a densly populated area (e.g. city) or a sparsly populated one (village, outskirts etc.). The higher the density from where you are, the smaller the bubble gets. Thus, when american city dwellers met japanese city dweller (with a WAY higher density of population/km² on the japanese side), the meeting looked like they were dancing: the japanese people always tried to get close enough to feel okay while their distance was already an intrusion on the american side...who then retreated a few centimeters...only to be followed by the kind japanese guy...and so on :) (Read books written by Barbara and Allan Pease for more info)
I live in Brazil. Personal bubbles are way smaller here. Strange people tend to approach you entering what americans would call intimate space. And even though I'm very shy and anxious, I got used to this. I actually think it's odd to stand 2 meters away from a person you just met. To me, it just doesn't make sense. It seems like you're both scared of each other for some reason and are afraid of getting too close or something. This is funny. xD
I'm shy to a certain level and I tend to have bigger personal space. I live in Brazil, where personal space are often smaller than other cultures. Loud people and people that gets too close when talking makes me feel awkward so I'm often perceived as a rude or snobbish person. But on the other hand, people that are loud and dont respect personal spaces are perceived as disrespectful and full of themselfes by me.
This person that I have to hang out with because she is my best friends best friend, she litter ally breathes in your eyes because she's so close. She gets so close that you can see the individual lines in her eyes. I once got like super annoyed with her. It was at my prom and I litter ally pushed her away and swore at her. She didn't seem to give one as she carried on breathing in my eyes later on. Jesus, there must be something wrong with her.
I think it should also include where the person is in relation to you. Are they facing you, behind you or to the side. Coming too close behind someone, I believe, is more threatening, especially for women.
I would be interested in whether there is any correlation between needing less personal space and comfortability with loud noise. It has always seemed to me that people who are very loud need a lot less personal space, but it might just be caused by my needing more space from loud people.
Another great vid Vanessa! I think that kids take a while to get the concept of personal space, they'll get right up in your face without realising they're making you uncomfortable. Is their amygdala perhaps not fully developed until a certain age, or is it to do with social conditioning? Looking forward to seeing you every week! Congrats!!!
What's interesting is that in some situations, personal space can shrink. I'm normally fairly sensitive to space invasion, but it's not a problem on a crowded train. I wonder if the brain has some 'socal norm' schematic and it's that violation which makes one anxious.
I have some... minor sensory issues, so I'm pretty sure I'm an outlier. The smallest things can drive me insane, and I have a pretty big personal bubble. I'm from Texas.
I come from the busy Hong Kong you mentioned and am currently living in the land of free you described XD I think I have nearly no personal bubble LOL As people pass by literally centimeters in front of me in the subway station, I don't feel invaded or wanting them to back up (but I do feel they are a bit weird).
I would say that your personal "space bubble" can adjust to the occasion. Let's say that you're in the subway and it's really crowded, at least for me it isn't such big of a deal if somebody is pressed against me then but if somebody would pressed themselves against me while I'm waiting for the buss I would react...
I feel like I have a fifth bubble. One that only people I am intimate can be in. People who are close friends and family are at closest arms length away but if I am intimate with them they can be as close as they want.
I'm an American of Middle Eastern descent, so I tend to need about only half as much personal space as the average American. Being tactile and close was simply something I was raised with. That said, my interactions with Middle Easterners and Latin Americans reenforces my American identity. Having a stranger place his or her arm on my shoulder for 15 to 20 seconds at a time takes an adjustment.
I'm from Minnesota and I have like no personal space, maybe if it's someone I don't like they're fine an arm-length away. I feel like the lack of distance makes me feel less anxious, probably because I know that I'm welcome in the other person's bubble.
I'm from the US and using public restrooms terrify me x_x Not because of germs an whatnot, but the thought of having someone else in the same restroom (I think) is just weird.
USA north west, I'm a female. My personal space bubble only exists when I don't like people. If a complete and total stranger were to run up and glomp me, literally I would be super happy and hug them. Then I'd find out their name etc. My friends are always laying and hanging all over my body and I actually feel rather uncomfortable when my friends are too far away. But people I don't like better stay away or I get super pissed. But then again I'm mad that they're breathing my air... oh I'm about 15
Congrats on the new support and sub count! I wonder if men don't demand more space then women? The mentakingup2muchspaceonthetrain tumblr has an interesting look at this.
Canada, Huge! If I remember correctly i thing we have 1pers/km square of land. :D But, even with that space, the bubble is about the exact size you describe for the US people. Looks like it's more a North America rule.
Was hard to understand that americans and europeans have such large bubbles. Everytime I was going to greet one, they quickly show their hand, as if hugs are prohibited. I am from Brazil, where a hug is common approaching. The bubble only appears when we don't like someone or are late for something, so we do not even approach. So, every brazilian that show themselves for you likes you and have time to chat. But where I am from, Brasilia, the european way of socializing is common. There's alot of giant bubbles and cellphones
In America and I dont care about space when it comes to sitting down in overpopulated theater benches. But if its a stranger in the street I get violated
Isn't it interesting, that in the field of psychology, we have been able to gain a good amount of useful information through "unethical" experiments. I'm not advocating for anything, I'm just pointing it out.
I am Mexican and it used to be normal for me to greet people with a kiss. I've been in the US for 5 years now, and when I visit Mexico it freaks me out that people introduce themselves with a kiss.
Frankly, I feel I only really have a conscious "intimate" bubble. I'll allow anyone at all to stand relatively close to me (just out of my arm's reach). ..maybe I should reconsider. It's a miracle I haven't gotten kidnapped yet.
Seconding ***** on both counts of a fabulous channel and a gender identity themed episode. As for your question, I'm a South African who feels an invasion of space more from the quantity of people around me than their proximity to me. for example one stranger within an arm's length from me is a lot less alarming than being in a crowd even when the closest person is up to 2 metres away. Hope that helps :)
I had experienced few years ago a feeling of pushed away by a gay sitting down and filling a wine shelve in the local sainsburys. He was not even looking at me. I then tried to be closer to him, i felt a sense of discomfort. I walked away with amusement. From Uk
Why can someone give u the " social space" which is brilliant and respectful tho the next day rub ur arm and it's awkward ... Ur in my space bubble .. Maybe they haven't learnt the rules quite correctly
Ima guy so when i was in lke 5th grade i think and all the rest but i know it was mostly 5th and no one went near anybody always one urn away and one person would always be that ass that gose to that one urne so only two peole wnet at a time instead of three
I wish people who remember that small children, and disabled adults also have personal space bubbles; as with both groups other people often invade these.
I have a huge issue with personal space. I live on the wide-open plains of western Canada, where theres so much empty space in the world that you could watch your dog run away for 3 days (colloquial idiom), yet everyone feels the need to get so close to me and it freaks me out. Just stand 5 meters away and I'll be comfortable.
I have to say that those little paper urinals are the cutest things ever! Is that weird? Yes it is. *Hides in a corner*
I'm curious why people have a shy bladder, I myself cannot pee in view of anyone else, it simply won't work, even the possibility of people nearby will stop me. People seem to be un-aware that this is a thing, and cubicle users like me get less space and more un-usable urinals.
I have exactly the same problem. It's also hard to explain and a lot of people tend to think you are simply exagerating. The stupidest thing they can say is "It's all in your mind".
...Yes, it is all in my mind, THAT'S THE PROBLEM! lol xD I'm starting to get over it, though, but it's still difficult and a really under-stated problem :S
DRakshasa Exactly.
I have to mention the most horrifying thing I ever saw, it was a French public squat toilet, open, with a fucking cue of people (mixed gender) all lined up behind the person doing their business... what really baffled me more was that there was a second public restroom at the back, with cubicles... so many puzzled emotions and questions went though my mind that day.
Purple Protocol That sounds like a nightmare. People waiting for you to finish is terrible :S Say good-bye to your perfectly relaxed bladder for the rest of the day.
I've been to prison. I've had to leave somewhere around a hundred urine samples, naked every time and many times in front of women - my opposite sex.
Do something along those lines and you'll be cured....I guarantee it!
I'm from Ontario Canada, and I'm very anxious (I've been dignosed with anxiety disorder). My mother is too, very anxious. But unlike me her idea of personal space is irrational. I don't quite enjoy being snuggled by her every 20 seconds (no I'm not over reacting or being angsty, she does this to EVERYBODY). I don't know if it's the italian in her or not, but she treats everyone like me (hugs n' all). It bogles me how she can be so clingy and yet have two very untouchy children (my elder brother is like me too).
1: Personal Space
2: Personal Space
3: Stay out of my personal space
4: Keep away from my personal space
5: Get out of that personal space
6: Stay away from my personal space
7: Keep away from that personal space
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+Brandon Hall rick and morty?
+9rh9 yeah boi.
+Brandon Hall Is that Rixty Minutes? Or is it in the second TV one?
+e gio Interdimensional TV#2
Haha I immediately thought of Rick and Morty too
I do think personal space says a lot about your relationship with someone- like it's said in the video, the closer people are to you emotionally and mentally, the closer they are "allowed" to be to you physically. I've always found that similarity interesting, and I'm also really aware of it in any situation where I am making new friends- because it takes a certain amount of time before we both feel comfortable hugging each other goodbye/hello.
Congrats on the PBS gig!
My personal space, as an American male, is probably 20-30% smaller. I've done a lot of traveling all over the world and I think I've adjusted downwards over time.
Omg I've totally noticed this about myself! Whenever I have to use the bathroom when I am not at home like probably 50 percent of the time if someone else is in the vicinity I just can't. I've walked in noticed there was other people and just immediately walked out cause I knew it wasn't gonna happen lol. I also have anxiety issues, so it makes sense. I am a 25 year old female in the US btw. Good video!!! Love this channel!
My "space bubble" is probably reserved for close friends and family, mostly. Even well(ish) known acquaintances can't get too close to me without me taking a few steps back. I do it more often with male acquaintances though, which is weird, but I couldn't help to notice. I probably do it instinctively.
Maybe because you are a muslim and male female interaction are no no.
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RedStefan Actually, I'm not a muslim, haha. Everyone immediately assumes that because of my name, so I'm used to it anyway. ^-^
Fatima Sorry my bad, I kow a couple of people who are Christian, but have typical Muslim name. I should of known better not to generalize. Maybe you feel threatened by males.
I used to live in Taiwan, where the personal bubble is a lot smaller than it is here in the US. It was weird at first, but after a while of living there it became normal to be so close to people and not feel weird. Now that Im back in the US, Im back to the US standard bubble.
Hey, welcome back to Personal Space! I'm your host, Phillip Jacobs, and let me tell ya, I care about my personal space- Woah, woah! Who's around me right now? Who's around me?! ....... Now why don't we step up here, and everybody get stepped up, and let's get some stepped up personal space up in this place?
We get a 1: Personal space
2: Personal space
3: Stay out of my personal space
4: Keep away from my personal space!!!
5: Get outta dat personal space!
6: Stay away from my personal space!
7: Keep away from dat personal space!
8: Personal space
9: Personal space
You know, I take personal space pretty seriously, up to the point that I don't even care about this, I'm not even interested in having this skin on my personal space.
Uaaghhh! ahhh! Uaaahhhh! It hurts! *rips skin off*
Tune in next week... to the best show ever. The show we all grew and love, The Personal Space Show!
More Personal Space Tuesday at 8:00, up next the heat is turning up with Samantha and the Boys on: The- *turns TV off*
Besides variation by culture, have any studies been done that look at variation by a person's height? Being taller than average, in crowds I feel more comfortable than some of my shorter friends, and it may have something to do with having more available space around my head...maybe?
I am also taller than many of my peers, but I hate being in crowds. I think it's actually because I feel like people notice me more just because I'm easier to spot. I can see how it may be comforting to some people to have more space around their heads, though.
Hm I never considered that...I guess I've used that aspect though, as I generally have an easier time walking through crowds as people see me and give me space.
It's nice when I'm at concerts! Just not for the people behind me :)
Very true...I'm 6'2" and ended up standing next to a guy who was 6'8" at a Wolfmother show back in college...and we were at the front. It did give us some breathing room behind us though!
When strangers are about a foot away from me from behind, like in a line, really bothers me. I try to scoot more closer forwards.
Your videos are so great! I like how you take in consideration the cultural differences in relation to these concepts. I hope you do more videos in the future :D
My personal space bubble depends on how well I know a person. If I know you very well then I don't care how close you are however, if I barley know you, you have can't get that close.
Australia: I normally like it when people are in what your video defined as "social space". I went to Brazil last year and during a party at the time of the World Cup, the streets of Sao Paulo had a lot of foot traffic. To get through the river of people, you would have to rub your body past other bodies for 10-20metres sometimes and I felt quite stressed.
In the last few months I start dating my first girlfriend. In the first weeks of our relationship, when ever we would (literally) try to sleep in the same bed I would try for about an hour but resort to sleeping on the couch on my own. The difficulty in falling asleep in the same bed as someone else only begun to subside in the last two weeks.
The videography/photography (I guess it's time lapse?) was great for this one! BrainCraft , maybe you could post a video of your production process one day? :)
I am America but I am living in Peru and I completely agree with your accessments! Great video!
Great Video Vanessa! I'm trying to think of something funny to say here, but I just can't think of anything appropriate. Well done though.
Outside of personality types would you ever consider doing a followup video about cultural views affect our personal space? My friend and I talked about these differences while at a movie theater watching how people would usually try to cram in the middle but would try to leave one open chair of buffer. He mentioned he saw this also when people would cram into the bus, where he's from (the Middle East) people would immediately gather next to each other.
Awesome video! I am one of those people who usually stands very close to people, and I'm okay with others standing close to me, for the most part, even though I have a severe anxiety disorder.
Hi! So, I was born in the American South, but grew up in Australia. I've noticed that people here in the South tend to talk MUCH closer than they do in Australia. Here's another interesting thought. There is a large population of South and Central American people here as well. However, I've noticed that people from the South, especially those who grew up in small rural areas of the south or mountain regions tend to have closer personal space preferences than those from countries typically associated with closer personal space preferences. I asked one of my cousins (her mother is from South America) about this, and she said that her mom always told her that standing too close is offensive here in the US, but not in Uruguay. I wonder how many people have been taught, upon coming to the US or Australia, that we consider it rude to stand too close, so they don't do it. Hmm... :)
I thoroughly appreciate your videos!
Much love.
Caleb.
Congrats on your partnership with pbs! This is a great topic I couldn't wait to click on it! It's imperative for healthy development I believe and so is intimacy. That's why I love that kids can get in bed and cuddle with their guardians and also have their own room or personal space to develop their views and personalities as well as individuality.
Looking forward to weekly videos. Congratulations to PBS digital studios for spotting and supporting new talent.
Everyone has these "bubbles" of intimate and personal space, but their size varies from person to person, and can also vary with circumstance. (Mostly, they expand when there's plenty of free space around you, and contract when the area gets more crowded.)
I'm from the U.S. and I suffer from anxiety so even close friends and family make me uncomfortable if they are less than arms length without invitation..
South Asia: My Intimate space is very very intimate. I can only tolerate my mum, baby sis, dad, and sometimes older bro. For some reason I find it intrusive when my little brother comes too far into the intimate bubble. As for social bubble, anyone is welcome. I think my family and friends are very sociable and easily let anyone some into their social place, but even with friends there’s no intimacy of reaching out and patting each others hand or walking shoulder to shoulder. In fact I think that’s pretty unnerving. But I’ve noticed we’re also more likely to hug and sit close by to a complete stranger at a party or something.
+Haleema T I am South Asian too and no problem with anyone getting any closer if they have good hygiene and nice as person.
Tvastar Dev Actually, I think more then race or social life have an effect on how much intimacy you or your social can tolerate on a regular basis. And it also changes over time. This post was from last year and also during a time I was very emotional wreck. (Issues = life) But right now my view on this is different as well as my relationship with my family. But it probably wont stay like that and is prone to change through life. So, yea. A lot of factors to consider here my friend.
Haleema T ah, I do not know you so can not say much but for me I like being alone yet have no problem with being around people. It just depends cause sometimes it is too much of hanging out or too much of being alone.
Tvastar Dev True. There's times when you wanna party, and times when you just wanna snuggle in with a book.
I think my personal space bubble is about the same as what is described in this video, but I've always been uncomfortable being touched, even by my family. Any idea what that means?
Since you asked me not to tell you how long it takes for me to pee I'm going to tell you how long it takes for me to pee. Around 1.5 seconds alone and around 3 when in public bathrooms.
Great video! And congrats on your opportunity with PBS :)
Thanks :)
The size of your personal space also depends on whether you grew up in a densly populated area (e.g. city) or a sparsly populated one (village, outskirts etc.). The higher the density from where you are, the smaller the bubble gets. Thus, when american city dwellers met japanese city dweller (with a WAY higher density of population/km² on the japanese side), the meeting looked like they were dancing: the japanese people always tried to get close enough to feel okay while their distance was already an intrusion on the american side...who then retreated a few centimeters...only to be followed by the kind japanese guy...and so on :) (Read books written by Barbara and Allan Pease for more info)
I live in Brazil. Personal bubbles are way smaller here. Strange people tend to approach you entering what americans would call intimate space. And even though I'm very shy and anxious, I got used to this. I actually think it's odd to stand 2 meters away from a person you just met. To me, it just doesn't make sense. It seems like you're both scared of each other for some reason and are afraid of getting too close or something. This is funny. xD
I'm shy to a certain level and I tend to have bigger personal space. I live in Brazil, where personal space are often smaller than other cultures. Loud people and people that gets too close when talking makes me feel awkward so I'm often perceived as a rude or snobbish person. But on the other hand, people that are loud and dont respect personal spaces are perceived as disrespectful and full of themselfes by me.
This person that I have to hang out with because she is my best friends best friend, she litter ally breathes in your eyes because she's so close. She gets so close that you can see the individual lines in her eyes. I once got like super annoyed with her. It was at my prom and I litter ally pushed her away and swore at her. She didn't seem to give one as she carried on breathing in my eyes later on. Jesus, there must be something wrong with her.
Just got to your channel and it's really awesome! Keep it going :)
I think it should also include where the person is in relation to you. Are they facing you, behind you or to the side. Coming too close behind someone, I believe, is more threatening, especially for women.
I wonder if there are studies exploring the increased instance of 'shy bladder' as we age.
I would be interested in whether there is any correlation between needing less personal space and comfortability with loud noise. It has always seemed to me that people who are very loud need a lot less personal space, but it might just be caused by my needing more space from loud people.
Another great vid Vanessa! I think that kids take a while to get the concept of personal space, they'll get right up in your face without realising they're making you uncomfortable. Is their amygdala perhaps not fully developed until a certain age, or is it to do with social conditioning? Looking forward to seeing you every week! Congrats!!!
What's interesting is that in some situations, personal space can shrink. I'm normally fairly sensitive to space invasion, but it's not a problem on a crowded train. I wonder if the brain has some 'socal norm' schematic and it's that violation which makes one anxious.
These are very cute crafts! Interesting information!😃
I have some... minor sensory issues, so I'm pretty sure I'm an outlier. The smallest things can drive me insane, and I have a pretty big personal bubble.
I'm from Texas.
I come from the busy Hong Kong you mentioned and am currently living in the land of free you described XD
I think I have nearly no personal bubble LOL As people pass by literally centimeters in front of me in the subway station, I don't feel invaded or wanting them to back up (but I do feel they are a bit weird).
Great video as always!
Why does it seem like we need less personal space when we drink?
my personal space is about... 5 meters or so.. if u enter you won't come out again xD
no but really i can't stand people that get to close!
I am from India 🇮🇳 and I think that , presently when social distancing is important we should respect personal space of each individual .👍🏼💗🔥
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Thanks for video so why do we feel Threatened? like for not having a personal room
I would say that your personal "space bubble" can adjust to the occasion. Let's say that you're in the subway and it's really crowded, at least for me it isn't such big of a deal if somebody is pressed against me then but if somebody would pressed themselves against me while I'm waiting for the buss I would react...
I am from Michigan, in the U.S. I don't have much of a personal bubble, even with most strangers.
I feel like I have a fifth bubble. One that only people I am intimate can be in. People who are close friends and family are at closest arms length away but if I am intimate with them they can be as close as they want.
I'm an American of Middle Eastern descent, so I tend to need about only half as much personal space as the average American. Being tactile and close was simply something I was raised with. That said, my interactions with Middle Easterners and Latin Americans reenforces my American identity. Having a stranger place his or her arm on my shoulder for 15 to 20 seconds at a time takes an adjustment.
can anyone tell me the name of the song that starts at 1:26?
it's lovely :D
well when i'm in a crowd i don't even notice personal space, i bang into people all the time
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Love the video but the music is a bit overwhelming. It makes it a bit difficult to hear what is being said.
whats the song at 1:25?
I'm from Minnesota and I have like no personal space, maybe if it's someone I don't like they're fine an arm-length away. I feel like the lack of distance makes me feel less anxious, probably because I know that I'm welcome in the other person's bubble.
i basically cant go if theres another guy next to me :/
I started laughing when you were talking about men peeing, but then i thought of time where something similar happened to me, and it all made sense
Those bubbles sounded big.
I'm from the US and using public restrooms terrify me x_x Not because of germs an whatnot, but the thought of having someone else in the same restroom (I think) is just weird.
Im from the US and I dont mind people getting really close to me at all.
USA north west, I'm a female. My personal space bubble only exists when I don't like people. If a complete and total stranger were to run up and glomp me, literally I would be super happy and hug them. Then I'd find out their name etc. My friends are always laying and hanging all over my body and I actually feel rather uncomfortable when my friends are too far away. But people I don't like better stay away or I get super pissed. But then again I'm mad that they're breathing my air... oh I'm about 15
Space Invasion is an old video game
Congrats on the new support and sub count!
I wonder if men don't demand more space then women? The mentakingup2muchspaceonthetrain tumblr has an interesting look at this.
Canada, Huge! If I remember correctly i thing we have 1pers/km square of land. :D But, even with that space, the bubble is about the exact size you describe for the US people. Looks like it's more a North America rule.
Was hard to understand that americans and europeans have such large bubbles.
Everytime I was going to greet one, they quickly show their hand, as if hugs are prohibited.
I am from Brazil, where a hug is common approaching. The bubble only appears when we don't like someone or are late for something, so we do not even approach. So, every brazilian that show themselves for you likes you and have time to chat.
But where I am from, Brasilia, the european way of socializing is common. There's alot of giant bubbles and cellphones
Ha! the middle urinal is always "out of order".
I don't require personal space. I'm only alarmed if someone -- even an intimate friend or family member-- approaches me rapidly.
Congratulations on the PBS deal.
In America and I dont care about space when it comes to sitting down in overpopulated theater benches. But if its a stranger in the street I get violated
My own personal space bubble sounds like something altogether different.
I'm from Britain. Normally I start feeling invaded when people get within around 2 to 3 meters away from me.
what if you get bugged like a spy movie
we all hate urinals at bars!
A strange woman once came up to me at work and gave me a side-hug while asking for directions to a product. THAT made me angry.
yay more videos :D
I seem to have no bubble
Isn't it interesting, that in the field of psychology, we have been able to gain a good amount of useful information through "unethical" experiments. I'm not advocating for anything, I'm just pointing it out.
Haha this was great. I personally prefer for everybody to stay arms length away :3
how come i feel like I need no personal space?
Because you're more confident.
Pakistan! I'm quite comfortable with strangers being a few feet away and never had any problems interacting with them...
How ironic when the researcher was also the one who invades their personal space.
fun vid. Applies to dogs too !
do girls experience the same thing? well i cant give an example, but just try to imagine..
I am Mexican and it used to be normal for me to greet people with a kiss. I've been in the US for 5 years now, and when I visit Mexico it freaks me out that people introduce themselves with a kiss.
Frankly, I feel I only really have a conscious "intimate" bubble. I'll allow anyone at all to stand relatively close to me (just out of my arm's reach). ..maybe I should reconsider. It's a miracle I haven't gotten kidnapped yet.
Personal space is never enough for me xD I'm french-mexican but I always lived in Mexico where personal bubble doesn't exist
I don't really have personal space.
my arab friend always stands way too close when we talk and i back up by the time we are done talking were on the other side of the room lmfao
Seconding ***** on both counts of a fabulous channel and a gender identity themed episode.
As for your question, I'm a South African who feels an invasion of space more from the quantity of people around me than their proximity to me. for example one stranger within an arm's length from me is a lot less alarming than being in a crowd even when the closest person is up to 2 metres away. Hope that helps :)
I had experienced few years ago a feeling of pushed away by a gay sitting down and filling a wine shelve in the local sainsburys. He was not even looking at me. I then tried to be closer to him, i felt a sense of discomfort. I walked away with amusement.
From Uk
I have no bubble
I'm from Indonesia
There are the things they told us to comment
Merica
I find it not very logical to put there loud music when the key thing is what the woman is saying.
Well said🙂
you could break anybody's actimel bubble all the time
Why can someone give u the " social space" which is brilliant and respectful tho the next day rub ur arm and it's awkward ... Ur in my space bubble .. Maybe they haven't learnt the rules quite correctly
Ima guy so when i was in lke 5th grade i think and all the rest but i know it was mostly 5th and no one went near anybody always one urn away and one person would always be that ass that gose to that one urne so only two peole wnet at a time instead of three
What if every time I met someone I immediately hit them in the eye. 😂 What will the effects be?
I live in Lima, Perú, South América, and it´s really annoying.