why you aren't loving yourself

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  • Опубликовано: 8 апр 2023
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  • @Rachel-zb4xe
    @Rachel-zb4xe 8 месяцев назад +16

    "I love me but I don't love me back" that hit

  • @clio5880
    @clio5880 10 месяцев назад +30

    I finally
    found my rhythm
    when I realized
    That even
    The steps backwards
    Were part
    Of the dance
    love this so much. thanks for sharing the poem nil

  • @foreverPriscilla
    @foreverPriscilla Год назад +111

    you’re so well-spoken, mature, deep, & just intelligent. keep shining Nil❤

  • @user-ft7gs9xd5e
    @user-ft7gs9xd5e Год назад +28

    Being a perfectionist I always put pressure on myself to always feel, be and look my best. I recently turned 22 and felt emotionally overwhelmed trying to explain why I feel that way so I can "fix myself". My sister then told me that it is completely normal to feel that way sometimes AND so important: That I don't always need to try coming up with a solution but instead to just "be" without constantly overanalyzing myself and let go of that fixing mindset. Because oftentimes we think that it is not acceptable to have these off days, so we tend to blame ourselves for feeling that way. But in order to grow through things you have to go through things. Some things you just can't control right now but trust me everything is temporary ☀️🌻

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад +6

      THIS!!! it's okay to not have the answers all the time. Not everything needs a solution, like you said we just need to "be"

  • @apoorvapatwardhan
    @apoorvapatwardhan Год назад +3

    okay, but Nil we need more of these! I think you are so full of these insights and observations which your audience would love to hear about💗

  • @ayla1849
    @ayla1849 Год назад +9

    agreeing throughout this entire video... I can tell you've already grown so much since your last few videos and I'm very proud! you nailed it within the first minute, self care has already become commoditised and a trend/aesthetic on social media but those actions are basically useless unless you commit to building that foundation of self esteem and self worth like you mentioned. one thing I wanted to add about validating your emotions and experiences - we definitely need to do this for ourselves, but hearing someone else (my therapist lmao) finally validate what I'd been through was completely lifechanging for my healing as well. also you made me remember that the most deeply content time in my life was when I was writing those I am statements daily. so happy you are on this journey and I'm looking forward to more videos like this!

  • @ay3sha235
    @ay3sha235 Год назад +25

    Love this new style! You’re so eloquent and it’s always interesting to hear your thoughts on stuff!

  • @annaymous
    @annaymous Год назад +2

    Thank you for this Nil! I appreciate your academic interest and your critical thinking to this instead of just your personalized opinions.

  • @sandravasquez7199
    @sandravasquez7199 Год назад +2

    i love the fact that you’re changing up your content, it’s super interesting and helpful, so excited for whats to come

  • @callie3422
    @callie3422 Год назад

    Literally saved my whole day. I was feeling so down, but your words really lifted me up. Thank you so much

  • @mo.yanaaa
    @mo.yanaaa 6 месяцев назад

    im so comforted to know that someone out there has experienced the exact same thing that i have. thank you for sharing your journey and knowledge you’ve gained by managing hardships THE RIGHT WAY! ❤️❤️❤️ really hard to find the right path to dealing with depression as an overthinker but videos like this makes things sm easier ❤

  • @ron1397
    @ron1397 5 месяцев назад

    fav video ever

  • @zehraaa_7489
    @zehraaa_7489 Год назад +6

    love this new format

  • @dorixyz
    @dorixyz 7 месяцев назад

    OMG GIRL- THIS IS LITERALLY THE WHOLE ANSWER TO WHAT I'VE BEEN FEELING LATELY????this is so good and helpfulllll so grateful that i came across this video today and your energy omggg ilyyyyy

  • @nicoleabrukwe
    @nicoleabrukwe Год назад +1

    loved this so much..this is the most raw and authentic video I’ve watched today..please post more content like this

  • @tuana1988
    @tuana1988 Год назад +6

    thank u nil!! even that short clip on ur story was enough for me to be curious about my self-love!! im willing to change my mindset with you thats why im here to watch the full video and start my loonngg self-love process 🤍🤍

  • @mskennyjune1470
    @mskennyjune1470 Год назад +26

    This was wonderful, Nil. I was smiling the whole time, thank you for delivering this information 🥹🤍

  • @miowytla
    @miowytla Год назад +2

    I love you Nil I really needed this!

  • @fraulienlopez
    @fraulienlopez 3 месяца назад

    Thank you! I needed this and I love it! I'm gonna go start an affirmation journal now!!!❤❤❤

  • @emiliaespinoza7503
    @emiliaespinoza7503 Год назад +6

    Thank you SO MUCH for this video Nil ❤ I’ve been struggling with these lately, happened the same thing to me that I thought I was great until I started going to therapy and now I’m opening the bag that kept me numb and allowed me to pretend I was doing great by rationalizing my feelings, this video made me feel less alone in this process so I cried a lot, but this felt like a hug 🫶🏻 thank you infinitely

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      Awe I'm so happy you could find comfort in my video! You're never alone ❤️❤️❤️

  • @cihanmtunc
    @cihanmtunc Год назад +2

    I love this new podcast format ❤

  • @VC-or4iv
    @VC-or4iv Год назад +2

    Very much needed, thanks Nil❤️

  • @marinafernandez5312
    @marinafernandez5312 Год назад +1

    Thank you nil🥺❤️

  • @gcar25
    @gcar25 Год назад +2

    this hit really hard today, thank you

  • @AmarieLetrece
    @AmarieLetrece 10 месяцев назад

    thank you sm for this! it's helped me a lot with how i view self love, and i would love to see more self love/care related videos from you!

  • @saara1344
    @saara1344 Год назад +1

    i liked this before even watching omfg i NEEDED THIS

  • @outlander1939
    @outlander1939 Год назад +1

    Glad to have you back, I've missed you. Hope all is well. Enjoy another spring in the city.

  • @carlavrh8465
    @carlavrh8465 Год назад +1

    i loved this video so much and related a lot!!! thank you for making this.

  • @sansaadams4509
    @sansaadams4509 Год назад

    yes please make more of these videos!! this is so much different from what other people in social media talk about and i respect you so much for giving us this version that we all need 🫶

  • @jocelynkissezz
    @jocelynkissezz Год назад +1

    please continue this series!! seni seviyorumm

  • @rosna2109
    @rosna2109 Год назад +7

    Damn Nil... this video came in like a sign for me!!! While listening to you, I started to realize, that was what was happening to me these past few months... I'm gonna write the "I am ..." statements. Thank you for this very informative video

  • @tyagrd3204
    @tyagrd3204 Год назад +2

    such a beautiful and interesting video thank you so much Nil!

  • @parkhimahajan935
    @parkhimahajan935 Год назад +1

    Loved listening to you! Needed this.

  • @anotherfanatic9000
    @anotherfanatic9000 10 месяцев назад +2

    You need to accept both your good and bad self to experience true self acceptance

  • @abbyklake
    @abbyklake Год назад +1

    Nil I missed you!! Glad to see you again - loved this video and you are so right💖

  • @morenaailin2470
    @morenaailin2470 Год назад +1

    Absolutely loved this video, please do more like this one. ily

  • @imgekarakus
    @imgekarakus Год назад +1

    love this new format.I am waiting the other videos for that. love u so much babe💕🥰

  • @suhani2259
    @suhani2259 Год назад +2

    NIL!!!! thanks a ton girl! i've always known that you've got great insight on things( from your videos where you talk about things other than your daily routine). i REALLY REALLY think that you should do more of these sit down videos, your knowledge is crucial. although i wouldn't mind a few vlogs here and there BUT a 100 % yes to more sit down videos concept you're trying

  • @cengizsani2229
    @cengizsani2229 Год назад

    Probably the greatest pleasure in the world is to be useful to others while doing his job. I'm proud of my daughter too.

  • @yuh8717
    @yuh8717 Год назад

    I loved this so much and a lot of things especially the foreign perception part of self really resonated with me

  • @biplavhelllord
    @biplavhelllord Год назад

    This is highly spiritual and the most intelligent state of mind. This is what all great thinkers and philosophers say when they say enlightenment.

  • @SalwasTalks
    @SalwasTalks Год назад

    Keep going girl with this type of videos! Your advices are really great!

  • @souna5468
    @souna5468 9 месяцев назад

    THIS IS VIDEO IS AN ABSOLUTE GEM!! You're literally speaking everything I have in my mind I LOVE YOU😭❤️

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  7 месяцев назад +1

      ❤️

  • @clio5880
    @clio5880 Год назад +1

    Absolutely love this!

  • @mariamk4849
    @mariamk4849 Год назад +3

    Listening to this at the gym i love it so much specially the ( loving yourself vs loving being yourself) 🤍🤍🤍ily nil comeback with another videos we missed you 🫶🏻

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад +1

      Love that!❤️

  • @restuaulia6305
    @restuaulia6305 7 месяцев назад

    When I want to love myself and know our shortcomings, then we will fix them. For example, inside me, I feel like there are a lot of things that I haven't fixed, but I can still love myself now. Sometimes I'm confused about where to start. I can only look at people. What seems perfect in every way makes me more insecure, and I try to start improving to be better at what I can't do.

  • @rutuluhar4981
    @rutuluhar4981 Год назад +3

    loveeeed this video Nil. missed you so much. you and Hailey are such genuine and inspiring role models. thank you 💞

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @shambhaviyadav2905
    @shambhaviyadav2905 Год назад +1

    This video is powerful. Trust me, Nil.

  • @layan6479
    @layan6479 6 месяцев назад

    Most realistic vid in the internet , loved and subscribed

  • @maz_azizi
    @maz_azizi Год назад +1

    love this video concept!

  • @yasarnilay2596
    @yasarnilay2596 Год назад +3

    I loved this video! I hope you keep posting videos like this. It was really interesting hearing your thoughts and learning something new.

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      Thank you so much!! I'm so glad you enjoyed it

  • @charlie-ee7vk
    @charlie-ee7vk Год назад

    I really enjoyed this content. I agreed throughout the video. Thank you for your sharing thoughts I’m looking forward to more content like this. wish you all the best Nil

  • @bhawnaaa122
    @bhawnaaa122 Год назад +1

    NIL BABY IS BACKKK

  • @mimiguetta7281
    @mimiguetta7281 Год назад +1

    So well spoken it’s incredible ❤

  • @MariaLaura-tk1ld
    @MariaLaura-tk1ld Год назад +11

    Please do more videos like this! Also if you could attach your findings just to read and have a better understanding in order to apply it more thoroughly. Thank you Nil

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад +3

      Absolutely thank u for the feedback!

  • @Oldwoman6285
    @Oldwoman6285 7 месяцев назад

    Wow i loved this video. Gonna watch it again and take notes i found it that helpful man

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  7 месяцев назад

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @nilayaslan499
    @nilayaslan499 Год назад +1

    ily nil

  • @noos4425
    @noos4425 Год назад +2

    i loved this vid ! definitely more enjoyable imo and looking forward to seeing similar posts🩵l

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      Yay! Thank you! ❤️❤️

  • @kathlenemontes4019
    @kathlenemontes4019 Год назад +1

    Your aura is glowing 5:57🖤

  • @skloise
    @skloise 9 месяцев назад

    You're very insightful and wise beyond your age 🤍🤍🤍

  • @anriema_sley7509
    @anriema_sley7509 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you❤ I love this video

  • @tuana1988
    @tuana1988 Год назад +1

    give us more of these IM BEGGIN

  • @annaymous
    @annaymous Год назад +1

    Love this!❤

  • @SabinaVivacheLai
    @SabinaVivacheLai Год назад +1

    Thank u for making this video. it just came out at the right time for me 😅 the universe power though ❤ Your vlogs always cheer me up in some way and this video really makes me feel so much better. Thanks again ❤ much much 💕 love

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      It makes me so happy to hear that!!!!

  • @livelife1012
    @livelife1012 Год назад +1

    podcast pls 😍 this was amazing

  • @DestinieLo
    @DestinieLo 10 месяцев назад

    I almost cried watching this 😭❤

  • @Nadine94822
    @Nadine94822 Год назад

    MORE . OF . THIS . PLEASE

  • @univuniveral9713
    @univuniveral9713 Год назад +1

    My new guru.

  • @nehashahi7634
    @nehashahi7634 8 месяцев назад

    Helpful thank you for this

  • @aniconicnadia
    @aniconicnadia Год назад +1

    I feel good about this video. Hope you do more of these. I’ll think you’ll enjoy Lana blakely

  • @CaptainVideo100
    @CaptainVideo100 Год назад

    You're really pretty!

  • @aura.ripoll
    @aura.ripoll 11 месяцев назад

    I wish you could do more videos like this!! 🩷🩷🩷

  • @user-ey8so5ow6c
    @user-ey8so5ow6c 10 месяцев назад

    I need this kind of video 😻🥺❣️

  • @magdalenaarias3753
    @magdalenaarias3753 Год назад +2

    nil please start a podcast this is amazing

  • @Bukett._
    @Bukett._ Год назад +12

    Finally girl, missed u, ur content even ur friends 🩵 Im still waiting for the video of u,mandy and sarah playing we are not rlly strangers and it would be nice to watch a book video as well 🌸❤️ (also we need a life update)

  •  Год назад +2

    What you are doing is great and I think that you should also upload this video to your Turkish channel with subtitle so more people can benefit from your knowledge. Love you and take care

  • @bellagrandic
    @bellagrandic Год назад +1

    Brilliant vid nil!

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      Thank you🥰🥰🥰

  • @sumjkn
    @sumjkn Год назад

    I looooove itt pls do one about being ok being alone

  • @bubeudeh
    @bubeudeh Год назад +1

    i love you ...thank you

  • @eliikaaa
    @eliikaaa Год назад +1

    Thats great keep going we want more like this videos

  • @benedetta8001
    @benedetta8001 Год назад +1

    I need your podcast 🫀🙏🏼🤧🔆🫶

  • @ayla1849
    @ayla1849 Год назад +1

    and now I can't stop thinking about "I love me but I don't love me back" whoever wrote that really did something there omg

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад

      Fr spent 20 days just thinking ab this

  • @Nisanurrr766
    @Nisanurrr766 Год назад +1

    Bu video kesinlikle Türkçeye çevrilmeli,bu tarz videolar çok etkili ve bu seriye devam etmelisin✨

  • @azagimaayan1928
    @azagimaayan1928 Год назад +1

    so amazing and inspiring, I feel seen

  • @stellar4304
    @stellar4304 Год назад +3

    you absolutely slayed this episode, coming from someone who went to school for neuroscience

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Год назад +1

      Thank you!!! I researched a lot before filming so it feels really nice to hear this :)) ❤️

    • @stellar4304
      @stellar4304 Год назад

      @@NilSani happy to hear!! kinda insane how much of this stuff isn’t broadcasted to the world the way it should be. KEEP THE CONTENT COMING 🫶🏻

  • @carolina_mp
    @carolina_mp Год назад +1

    I wish I had this on a podcast format 🤓

  • @hopeclutch7499
    @hopeclutch7499 Год назад +9

    Talking about your past emotional experiences and putting your thoughts out to public is not easy.
    I'm so proud that I know you (as a RUclips artist at least.

  • @sanafarssi7764
    @sanafarssi7764 Год назад

    U re just amazing ❤

  • @nilbalajayeva
    @nilbalajayeva Год назад +1

    You're amazing

  • @mohibquadri4053
    @mohibquadri4053 7 месяцев назад

    Too Good !!
    What's some best books to read for Self belief ?

  • @Realityscopee
    @Realityscopee Год назад

    the title 💯

  • @miowytla
    @miowytla Год назад +1

    yess yeesss more videos like this please 🥵

  • @galacticknight55544
    @galacticknight55544 Год назад +1

    I'm having a really hard time believing that I'm worth loving. I have weird kinks, I'm extremely socially inept, and I've had people call me whiny, entitled, dishonest, creepy, narcissistic, and a lot of other things. The worst part is that I'm worried they might be right. Sometimes I wonder if it's a good thing I'm perpetually single, because I don't deserve to be loved.

    • @nakalyangomolly7828
      @nakalyangomolly7828 9 месяцев назад

      We all deserve to be loved , just love yourself with mantra : Love yourself the way you want others to love you 🎉

    • @galacticknight55544
      @galacticknight55544 9 месяцев назад

      @@nakalyangomolly7828 Are you sure we all deserve to be loved? There's some real scum in the world.

  • @Onlocationtours
    @Onlocationtours 9 месяцев назад

    Great video!

  • @bubeudeh
    @bubeudeh Год назад +1

    8:53 yes

  • @carolsomerhalder7
    @carolsomerhalder7 Год назад +1

    Love it

  • @sofiademitri3178
    @sofiademitri3178 Год назад +2

    i need you to make a podcast

  • @avinajilse6516
    @avinajilse6516 5 месяцев назад

    can i ask something about how to go about doing affirmations? does ur subconscious absorbs the things u repeat to urself even if u dont necessarily feel wholly what ur saying about urself?

  • @alyssamarie8197
    @alyssamarie8197 Год назад +1

    drop the podcast

  • @anneanne5191
    @anneanne5191 Год назад +1

    Hi nil, any advice on how to deal with atrocious men in public? Men have been draining my energy for as long as i could remember