I am 19 year girl and you actually don't no how much you help through this video it helps me a lot to start a journey of self love thanks a lot.... love from INDIA ❤️❤️
I’m so happy my story resonated with you and that you’re starting a journey of self love! It’s a beautiful journey and it’s worth the ups and downs that come with it. Thank YOU so much for watching ♥️ Sending love
Thank you so much for this. I'm a 52 year old man and I'm just learning self-love because I was bullied really bad when I was younger and it affected me so bad that I never let it go until now
Keep going. More young people need this kind of message. Saying no, setting boundaries, being firm with choices and respecting one's body, knowing and acknowledging limitations are very essential in keeping yourself mentally healthy. YOU MATTER.
Thank you so much! Messages like these make me feel so much joy. I wish more of this was taught in schools so people could understand that their thoughts are not their realities and that we all go through these struggles. Thank you for the support ♥️
@@NatassiaCoelho Yes. It's a small world and we need to just back each other up. :) I also share about mental health on my channel which is based on my book.
Thank you for this comment and for watching. I can't imagine what you had to go through, but I know that you can overcome these feelings. Don't let someone else negativity define your worth. You are a beautiful being and you deserve to blossom
I know how that feels. I’m very introspective and tend to be an observer. Especially when I’m meeting new people. There’s nothing wrong with that - people appreciate it when you can be a good listener. And I’m sure you have things to say! Sometimes we convince ourselves we don’t have anything interesting to say because we’re socially anxious or are scared of being judged - I’ve been there. You can just ask someone questions about what they’re telling you or share about something you like.
It’s funny how we can find any way to hate ourselves. I torture myself every night because I can’t stop talking. I annoy people around me, say a lot of awkward or accidentally rude things, and I would do anything to be a quiet person. But, this video and comments make me realize we can be self conscious and changing ourselves won’t “fix us” without self love.
@@picklepirate I have often wondered if extraverted and loud people realise how loud they can be and how cheeky their comments are? I always think wow I wish is wasn't as self aware as them their lucky they don't care what people think of them
@@maplesadventures2084 oh that is a pure misconception. I am very extroverted. But, I am riddled with anxiety because I feel like I talk too much, too loud, and I have a hard time connecting with people. Cheeky comments are to fit in and to try to not look clingy.
When I was 18 I was walking through a hall at my high school during class. Suddenly I saw a girl sitting on the ground with her head down. I came closer and realized it was a girl I know. She was crying. I talked to her and she told me about her insecurities and that she hates herself. At that same school, there was a different girl. She was popular and quite beautiful. She was that kind of person that you think must have a perfect life. Then I found out, that she is hurting herself secretly when she is alone because she hates herself. I couldn't believe a girl like this would hate herself. After some time I realized, that similar feelings started to appear in my own head about myself. This video is a gem. I value honesty a lot. And your honesty and authenticity is what makes this message even more powerful. I wish I found it this video 3 years ago when it came out. All the best to whoever is reading this
so happy to have came across this video.. literally broke down a few days ago crying because of the same exact reasons you stated in this video . sending love to you 🤍 you’re strong, we’re strong.
I'm glad you came across this video then and that it resonated with you! Thank you so much for watching ♥️ YES. We are all strong! Your negative thoughts aren't your reality. It's so easy to convince ourselves that we're filled with faults... and yet so hard to remind ourselves that no one is perfect and we would never be as cruel to others as we are to ourselves. You've got this. You're powerful. You matter. You're enough. Sending love
@@YFenty oh girl, that is so hard. May I recommend that you put these thoughts down onto paper, and then reframe them? I always find that helpful! For example, "I am always a failure" turns to "I am willing to be 1% better each day."
I just came across this video of yours, and I just want to say from the bottom of my heart that you're such a lovely person to open up in such an honest way about your deepest feelings as you did. I'm actually struggling with very severe depression, and low self-esteem, for years now. This video showed me that it may be a light at the end of the tunnel for me. Wish you all the best Natassia. Best support and love from Portugal! ❤️
1. Let the opinions of others inform you this week. Don’t let them limit you. Listen, and then operate with your own wisdom and intuition are your guide. 2. Remember, you cannot calm the storm. What you can do is calm yourself, and the storm will eventually pass. The most powerful and practical changes happen when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over what you do not. 3. Life opens our minds and educates us as time passes. We gradually realize how much silly nonsense we have wasted our energy and resources on. And we begin to see the beauty in letting go. So just do your best this week to catch yourself, and to let go when it makes sense to. 4. On most days, the secret to peace is letting the present situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be. So don’t wish away your whole day or week waiting for better ones ahead. Do your best to appreciate where you are. Be thankful for life's fleeting lessons and opportunities. Take them and make the best of things. 5. Many of your daily thoughts and patterns are simply a reflection of what you believe about yourself. Thus, it’s not what you broadcast to everyone else that determines the trajectory of your life; it’s what you whisper to yourself behind closed doors on a daily basis that has the greatest power and influence. peace🕊
Wow! I love that. The journey home. It's true. The journey to loving yourself is a journey to finally reconnecting with you at your core. Your most authentic self. Thank you for this beautiful comment and for watching! Sending love ♥️
I'm 45, and I Just got out of a drug rehab facility 16 months ago. I feel alone for the first time in my life, and I'm just now learning to love and respect myself. To me, you look and sound perfect. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's all in your head.
Okay, literally this video has broken my internal monologue that no one thinks or is suffering the same things as me. How you think and what you have gone through is pinpoint exactly what I have gone through. I was insecure about my nose and how skinny I was. In high school, I beat my self-worth up because of my grades still do. I have immigrant parents so I want to be the best daughter and give them the life they never had. I put all my insecurities in the back of my head for a long time now that I am going to uni all of them are coming back but this time it is worse. Recently waking up was a struggle but I prayed and now feel much better. Honestly, I needed this video because I cried a lot today and seeing someone who has a similar life problem like me gave me much comfort. I want to love myself even though at times it seems that my head is my biggest enemy. Thank you for being so open and like a friend during a hard time in my life. Lots of 💖
I resonated with this so much Natassia, Thank you for posting it, its a reminder that what I am going through I'm not alone in it, there are others struggling with self love too. I've spent so much of my mental energy focused on what others think and feel and how to be kind to others that I neglected learning fully how to be confident and love myself, to not put the needs of others so far above my own, to not need to seek validation from others, to value my own thoughts and opinions and trust them. There's so much to learn, because i grew up not being told how beautiful I am and not being appreciated for being handsome or not having all of my talents and skills seen and recognized but most of all, i grew up seeking that validation from others instead of giving it to myself or even realizing that you NEED to give it to yourself that others cannot validate you, you must do so yourself. no one can determine your worth, you do that. All these opinions about how i should live, or act, or behave in order to make everyone else happy and in order to be liked by others, yet never once did i truly say "forget them, what makes me happy, i should prioritize that over everyone else." I wanted people to feel good around me and like me so i presented a persona equal to how i wanted people to see me, but not equal to how i wanted to be seen to me. so many mistakes you make when you look externally for your happiness and fulfillment, i thought people's opinion of some didn't matter, and to some extent it didn't, but I believe that instead of making their opinions matter, what i did was i valued their comfort and hid parts of myself in order to make sure that i didn't do something that made others mad or upset. I wanted to be the good boy, to be seen as the nice guy, the one that is sweet and good and true, because i value those things, but i ought to have valued myself enough to present myself the way i truly am, instead of as a persona of qualities that i like and that others like, a persona that isn't equal to what i truly am, close to who i am but "white washed" or rather "politically correct" version of myself, that is me but not quite me, a facade.
This is literally so relatable to me. Every word you said is like me now. The ending where you said about your mom’s phrase “I wish you could see how beautiful you really are” made me cry. Thank you so much for this. You’ve just got a new subscriber tho:))
You've got a beauty to yourself that when you admire other people, you're only seeing your own true potential :-) I hope you're feeling better today! Do you also have a good relationship with your mother?
i'm from brazil too and i cried watching this video because this hit so close! But also made me see that im not alone. this struggle is not just mine. thank you
Thank you for sharing this. Your story resonates so much with mine. I also struggled with self hatred during my teens. I developed and eating disorder and self harmed. I don't know how I pulled myself out of that head space, but i am so glad I did, and happy i am still here. It took years of self work. I am 28 now. It is still a work in progress, but therapy is helping. It's just like you said. One day I realized I didn't hate myself anymore, I stopped wishing I was dead. It feels amazing and so powerful. Thank you for deciding to make a difference and help people find their worth and love themselves. It's a hard journey to begin, but life changing to walk.
Thank you so much for sharing. I could feel your pain and I too am going through the same thing. I guess that’s why I could empathise with you. This really connected to my heart. Stay beautiful and thank you for inspiring me to love myself❤
It takes a lot of determination and bravery to love yourself unconditionally. I really admire your strength... But strenght and power are best expressed in vulnerability and authenticity and girl... you're eminating with these qualities 💖
thank you for your transparency! I'm 29 and I realised I need to take my self love and self worth seriously as I've struggled with it for years . The emptiness you referred to is so relatable, I've been feeling so disconnected from my family and friends, and my romantic life has been hearthbreak after hearthbreak. I now understand it all start with me.
You are beautiful inside and out! Being vulnerable is brave and fantastic. Well done. This video will help so many people. You are turning darkness into beautiful light for yourself and the world.
Thank you for this kind message! It made my day ♥️ It took many years for me to finally realize the beauty in vulnerability!! That’s the reason I started this channel and made this my first video. Hoping to help others recognize that they deserve their own love and that it’s ok to be vulnerable. Sending love!
I loved this video and really needed it today, thank you so much! You remind me so much of myself and my own journey. I am also 31 years old, and had many of the same insecurities at an early age, and have learned a lot more self-confidence over the years. I had struggled a lot with major depression in my mid-20s and even some in high school, and even though I had a stable childhood, friends, financial security, etc. It just goes to show you can't judge a book by its cover, and there are a lot of parallels among us
It's funny how some of our journeys seem so similar. It's true - you can't judge a book by its cover. Someone can have absolutely everything, but you don't know what trauma they've been through or what they may be feeling on the inside. I'm glad you've gained more self-confidence over the years! You should be so proud of that. The self love journey never ends... there's it's ups and downs and it can be slow, but it's so worth it. Thank you so much for watching. Sending love 💕
the amount of times i wanted to hold ur hand because you were shaking so much, you are so strong and ur vid is so inspiring to me. as someone who got bullied and recently got into self love and healing journey, this makes me understand that everyone has their own hardship, just because they look certain way eg. being prettier than others doesnt mean they dont have their own villain story.
I’m happy I didn’t vanish too. I’m glad you resonated with my story - we’re not as alone in our struggles as we think! ♥️ Thank you so much for watching! Sending love
I'm moved by the authenticity and comprehensive nature of this content. A book with parallel ideas provided a revolutionary perspective. "Your Body Your Temple" by Various
wow i’ve never related to anyone in my life than you and your story. i just want to say thank you for being vulnerable and making this video. i’m 19 right now and i’m feeling all the things that you did at this age. i hope that my self love journey is as successful as yours when i turn 31. seriously thank you. this was an eye opener for me and i think i’m done wasting my years away hating myself. i want to fall in love with life and myself again. i don’t know what i’d do without your video. you’re amazing, keep being you!!
Hi Natassia… I so resonate with your life story I went through the exact same as you regarding my weight , my self esteem the constant comparing with others …. N u are absolutely right imperfection rocks n now I love myself n don’t care what others think or say about me ….
As a man, I didn't expect to relate that much to your younger self Kinda looking for resources to go through my self-love journey and glad I found your video ❤
Thanks for this video!!! You made me realize that I also have a lot of clothes in the closet I don't like; When I dress the way I think I look nice my mom says things that I look like a clown or makes a face of disgust... I never thought that the problem was not me... I think she also threw out a skirt that I loved to use! Thank you very very very much... I'll try to buy me new clothes again :D great video
You ma'am are a very beautiful soul my dear...i resonate so much with you and i am battling so hard with self-worth, self-love, and perfectionism to the point that it makes me not enjoy life to its fullest. Im too stubborn to just totally lose hope in knowing that i will be okay one day at a time, and that i am worth fighting for to me. Thank you for being so transparent, open, and vulnerable...these things add to the beauty of who you truly are 🌷🌷
I am glad you'er still here with us so that you could share your story with all of us, so that so many could be helped and know that they are not alone.......I wish you new strength each day of your life on this brand new journey you have embarked on .........much love and all the best. thanks for sharing.
Trust me - it took a long time to be comfortable with being vulnerable. But even though vulnerability can be scary, the beauty of it is that it can help others recognize that they're not alone in their struggles. Thank you so much for watching. Sending love ♥️
Thank you so much for this! You have NO idea how much I needed to feel less alone in my thoughts and the way I perceived myself. Thank you for showing me that it can get better, just have to keep going.
I just subscribed. I started a channel and I just needed to see if I was the only one sharing my personal story like this. beautiful vulnerability you're not alone. I just recorded a crying video myself and I'm trying to build up the courage to share publicly. ❤❤
Just subscribed to you as well! More of us need to share our stories so people recognize that they’re not alone. ♥️ I second guessed myself so much before posting this video. I thought it was too long. No one would watch it. And yet here we are. Share your story! I’ve had videos where I cried dealing with my anxiety. Even if you just help one person with your video, it’s worth it. Sending love ♥️
Hi Anna! I just want to say, it’s never too late to embark on a self love journey ♥️ I think so many of us go through life without even realizing that maybe we need to be a little kinder and loving to ourselves. At least you were able to realize it! Do something your future self will thank you for 😊 Thank you so much for watching. I really appreciate it!
I'm 49 and I was like the OP growing up. The last 5 years I have been so insecure and depressed that i drove my husband away. The second time I lost myself in my marriage and second time my husband cheated. Now I'm afraid to file for divorced because I have hope he will change his mind. I am just working on myself for now but I think if I really loved myself I would have filed already. :(
I just had this same realization too and I'm 39. This story and seeing others my age helps. I'm looking for ways every day to improve. Started this book called The Presence Process by Michael Brown. And I'm watching people like this fabulous young lady. Thanks to everyone for their authenticity and experience
This is awesome! I will stand out there and say that I've listened to mufasa in the clouds saying "you are my son and the one true king" and balled many times because I just never even allowed myself to believe I was worth anything, I hope that helps someone else! If anyone has any tips for me I'm starting the journey seriously now
Thank you so much for this video Natassia. Not only are you a beautiful, loving and intelligent woman, but you are also extremely bold to share your story. I find myself in such a similar tough phase in my life right now, with ongoing depressions and nonexistent self-esteem. Now I’m 24, single for the first time since I was around 16 (codependent obviously), and I’m having yet another identity crisis because of my poor self image and the urge to seek acceptance from everyone around me, instead of from within. As I hit rock bottom around mid November with yet another severe depression, I realized that I have to find a way to turn my life around this time, to prevent suicide... This video made me cry, because your spirit really resonated with mine, and you gave me just the right tools to rise up again and fight for the happiness that I deserve. Thank you ❤️
Wow. Kristina, thank you for being so open and sharing your story ♥️ You can turn things around, trust me. Life is filled with ups and downs... but everything is temporary. Including dark times - they will pass, no matter how impossible it may seem. You are resilient, you are loved and you are worthy. I hope you realize that! Don’t be afraid to reach out for help! We always feel so much shame when we don’t feel “ok”, but it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Sometimes we need more help and support. Sending so much love to you!!! Thank you so much for this kind message. It means so much 💕
@@NatassiaCoelho I’m so grateful that people like you find your way to social media to share authentic, non-staged stories like these. It’s such a huge possible step for our culture today! It just really felt right to share my story as well, and I can honestly say that I truly believe what you just wrote in the comment below ❤️ So many people feel hopeless in midst of depressive periods, and mental illnesses REALLY have a way of making your vision ‘black/white’ and the slightest hope for a future nonexistent. But the most important - and crucial - message from that very mental state must not be overlooked: “I have to change my thought patterns in order to live a meaningful (and bearable) life. That way I will reconnect with my spirit and truest self.” In that way, our depressive periods can be interpreted as being your soul’s way of screaming for help; hunger for change 💔 I have indeed sought help, and I’m in very good hands by the danish healthcare system. Antidepressants, Yoga, walks in nature, the company of my adorable cat, home workouts, meditation, daily positive affirmations, and Gratitude practice - those things have all been some extremely effective tools along the way! However, your video just gave my soul a subtle push further towards my key to self love. You live and you learn, right? So once again, thank you so much ❤️
thank you so much. I’m 18 years old and the past 7 months I’ve been dealing with the worst mental health of my life. sometimes it all feels so scary and overwhelming. I’ve developed these irrational ways of thinking, seeing the world through a negative lens. I nit-pick everything. I’m hard on myself, other people, objects, places, the whole world. when I get those thoughts, I just want to cry. I don’t want to think those bad things. I don’t want to be so negative and hateful. I used to see the world so full and beautifully, that all seems like a distant dream now (but as you said, “if I was happy before, then I can be happy again”). in the past month or so I’ve realized that...I don’t really love myself all that much. I’m so focused on little things and perfectionism. but hearing you speak about this really resonated with me and gave me a bit of hope. realizing these negative patterns is the first step... getting started is the next step (I just have to figure out how lol). thanks again❤️
Reading this made my eyes fill up with tears. I wish I could give you a big hug right now! I know exactly how you feel. Like you’re your own worst enemy. Constantly criticizing yourself harshly in a way you would never criticize someone you love. I’ve been there. I know it’s really hard. I know it seems like it’s neverending. But everything in life has a beginning and an end. Including dark times. I know in your darkest hours you may feel like this is how it will be always, but it won’t. I felt that way too. Be proud of yourself for recognizing that maybe you need to show yourself more love. Celebrate the small wins, even if it’s just getting out of bed in the morning or getting dressed. You are worthy of your own love. I hope you realize that 💕 Sending you love. Thank you for watching and I’m glad my story resonated with you
And just to add - thank you so much for being open enough to share your story and your struggle. Opening up is part of the healing process. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable. ♥️
I am 37 and now I am learning to accept and love myself. And yes, I have the same body Isues as You: nose, breast, skin....and now, as healed my akne I became ashamed about my wrinkles that started to appear, so I decided that I don't want to live always rejecting myself. Thank You for your video, it resonates a lot with me and it îs also empowering.
I’m so glad this video resonated with you ♥️ It’s never too late to practice more self love, so I think it’s AMAZING that you’re taking the steps to love yourself more. As women, we’re conditioned through media and society that most of our worth is tied to our body and our youth... but that’s so untrue. We’re multifaceted. Wrinkles are a blessing because some people don’t even make it as far to live long enough to have them. What’s more important is what is on the inside. You have a lot to offer the world, I’m sure of it. Thank you for watching! Sending love 💕
I never would have guessed you’re originally from Brazil!! So very nice to meet you!! I have gone through that self doubt myself and I still do! Journaling is amazing! I’m so glad you’re still here because you met Ben!! You’re going to continue to have a wonderful life together !! 🥰🥰
Yes! I'm a brasileira 🇧🇷 It's normal to doubt yourself, I still deal with it too! Becoming more self aware helps cut it down though, for sure. Ben definitely helps me on those days too :) Thank you for the support and for watching!! ❤️
Hai Natassia, I'm so grateful to know you through this video. Thank you for sharing the story. Your story brings me hope as currently I'm struggling with myself and my mental health is crippling down. Watching this video makes me feeling supported that I'm not alone. Thank you Natassia.
thank you SO so much for this video!! ❤️ I really needed this, and i also subscribed to your channel. It makes me feel so happy too see how much i can relate with you and it gives me hope that maybe i can overcome this. I hope i can finally enjoy life and be 100% happy. I hope i can become like you in the future. You're so strong!! I love u!! ❤️
Thank YOU for watching and also for subscribing! I really appreciate it... truly!! I think the beauty of opening up to others is realizing that we're not alone in our struggles. What brings me peace when I'm going through a hard time is knowing that there are others out there who have been there before or are working through something similar as well! You can overcome this! I'll be here cheering you on :) And also - you can never be 100% happy! We have so many emotions we feel and sometimes we have days that aren't so great. And that's fine! Just work on sending yourself love, even on the days that are not so great. You are worthy of love. Love you too!!! And thank you again for watching
Thank you for your courage to share your story. What you experienced is something that a lot of girls / women go through, and it is important to bring it to awarness. Being open about it hopefully inspires those struggeling to accept help ❤
Thank you for the kind words! I completely agree… being open and sharing our experiences shows others that they are not alone and that things can get better. ♥️ thank you for watching! Sending love
Your story resonated with mine, and they way you conquered yourself gave me so much hope!!! Keep being you and keep sharing your story, and honey you just helped me on my self love journey.
Thank you for this sweet comment!! I'm glad this resonated with you. Humans are resilient creatures. Really. As long as we don't give up hope in ourselves. For me, what helps even on my toughest day, is reminding myself of little things I'm grateful for. Even if it's a hug from a friend or having a warm cup of coffee. I'll be cheering you on on your journey Esmaila
I'm 18 yo and your story resonated with me so much. I've been crying for 4 times during the whole video, it touched me a lot. I am trying to deal with that's all by myself bc I can't go to the therapist at some point but I hope I can help myself as well too. Sorry for my English, if I have any mistakes, and thank you so much for sharing this here. You are amazing. With love and hugs from Russia
You're not alone! 18 was around the time when I started working on myself and I had a lot of ups and downs along the way. I dealt with it on my own for a very long time - so I understand it's not easy. Just know that no journey is linear - there's ups and downs, but that's part of the journey. Your English is perfect so don't apologize! Thank you for watching and for leaving this comment. I appreciate you and am sending you love ❤️
Awn, I just loved this video so much. I see how much you actually mean everything you said, thank you Natassia Coelho, you are making a difference in people's world. I really hope you can keep on recording more videos.
I am going through some pretty dark times mentally right now and this has helped. Thankyou for posting this and sharing your story. BTW you are beautiful!
I’m sending you lots of love and positive thoughts Crystal! I know it can be hard... I’ve been there, where it feels like there’s no way out of the darkness. Just know you are not alone. Others have been there too and have come out of it ♥️ You are resilient and beautiful! Thank you so much for watching
NATASIA.... your suffering led you here. To be compassionate enough to be able to create this video for other females, especially those teens, to understand that they are NOT alone in their feelings about themselves. Your suffering allows you to be able to help another human soul to get through what they are going through. This is a good performance for a 1st video and this is the only one I have watched. I am a boy. Lol. You are incredibly beautiful and I hope that you also see yourself this way. I am 48 and females tell me I am really good looking BUT I don't see it anymore. Lol! I used to KNOW how beautiful I was and it created a monster with my ego . By the way...... I am flat chested too. I hope you laugh at that remark.
I remember when I was a teen and young adult reaching out to people and nobody cared. My parents, teachers, school counselor. I had no friends. I'm 27 now and it still affects me. Why did nobody care?
Watching this, I'm glad to hear there are other people who have struggled with confidence and self-worth as well. I have been struggling with it since I was a little child. Now I'm 23 and slowly starting to like myself, slowly becoming more confident. I've always been an introvert and pretty quiet in general. I never thought this was wrong until - when I changed to secondary school - people starting to comment on this. It started in grade 5 with only a few comments here and there and slowly increased. In grade 10 - the worst year of my life, definitely - classes were mixed up again and I found myself in a class without my friends. The majority of the people I didn't know and they didn't know me, but that didn't stop them from insulting me. I was called stupid and mute, people ignored me and when they didn't they laughed at me, mentioning how much they hate doing any sort of group project with me. Some if my classmates even behaved like they were disgusted when they saw me. I never understood why this was happening to me. After all, I didn't know the majority of them. As one can probably imagine, I started despising myself. I desperately wanted to be different and begged for whatever was out there (and I'm not religious at all) to turn back time and let me be born different - or not at all. I didn't want to live anymore, because I was convinced I didn't deserve it. As you said it as well, I, too, was wondering who could ever like me anyways? And also, neither my friends nor family knew how terrible I felt, what I really was thinking. I started going to counseling and it helped remove at least some of those beliefs I had build throughout these years. Despite this, I struggled a lot with self-worth and confidence. Though I was only bullied for my personality, I was struggling with accepting my appearance as well. I used to hate everything about me, but now I have come to a place in which I like my appearance mostly - except for my nose. I hated my nose since forever and always thought it's too big and people would only see my nose when they look at me. That's still something I haven't succeeded in getting rid of. I also used to pity myself thinking I have missed out on so much because of my insecurities. Like, I could have been at a vastly different place in life if it weren't for my confidence issues. Self-love and confidence is a truly a journey. It takes time to unlearn all the beliefs we have acquired and some will stick around longer than others. While my confidence has improved a lot in the years after graduation, it definitely isn't where it should be. Again, I'm glad there are other people out there who are struggling as well and I'm not alone in this. I do hope we all manage to learn to truly ourselves soon and feel content with who we are. I hope I didn't make any mistakes in my comment, and I'm sorry if there are, I'm not a native.
Lea, thank you for sharing your experiences and being open about them. And no need to say sorry - your English is amazing! My heart hurt reading about your classmates bullying you. I'm sorry you had to go through that. People who are secure and love themselves don't go out of their way to bully others. You know what I mean? You are RESILIENT. You should be proud of yourself for choosing to go to counseling and start working on practicing self love! It's not always an easy journey, but it will be worth it. You wrote "While my confidence has improved a lot in the years after graduation, it definitely isn't where it should be." Instead, you should be happy that it's improved a lot!!! Self love takes time and even when your confidence is strong, there will still be days where it's rough. I'm super proud of you for getting to where you are today. Imagine how you'll feel in a few years 🤗 Sending love! ❤️
@@NatassiaCoelho Thank you so much for your reply! It's called "self love journey" for a reason - with a heavy emphasis on journey, that's what I realized. You're absolutely right, I should already be happy about how far I've come. Seeing the long journey ahead is always easier than seeing the path we've already walked. Thank you for reminding me :)
Your story really touched my heart a lot . Thanks for sharing and I appreciate it soo much . God bless you forever. Sending you lots of love and blessings.
So the first thing I want to say is that you're so beautiful. The second one is thank u so much for this video, actually right now is my online lesson but I feel so bad, I found ur video and decided to watch it. So if someone is still reading this I want to predict that I'm Russian and my grammar may not be right. I'm 18 and I balance every day between "I love myself" and "I hate myself", but the main thing that I feel I've lost myself, everything I start then I end, a year ago I struggled that I had a partner but I was that person no one wanted to see, and that was the time when corona only started and I cried every freaking day and I couldn't stop, and then I finally lost every person in my life. What is now - I have people who love me and support me but I don't have any appetite for anything, people write me but most of the time I ignore them and I'm not interested in talking with them, I plan to meet with them and then I say "I don't want" and it scares me. The only people I'm interested in are teachers in my University and people who are on the other side of this Planet(and my partner(honestly, my last 3 months I speak only with her). Years ago I had so many wishes and energy to find myself in any skills, I was doing performing arts, I was drawing (my art actually was good for me) and lots of other things and now really think that I've lost myself. I feel very little hope that I could change something...
Polly, first of all, your English is great! I was able to understand everything and know what you're feeling. I wish I could give you a hug and let you know that you're not the only one that has felt this way. Sometimes, when we're so hard on ourselves and see ourselves as unlovable, we can push people away. But there is no such thing as an unlivable person... just a person who FEELS that they are not loved. Have you thought of talking to someone? Like a therapist? It can be helpful to have someone from the outside make sense of the negative thoughts we get in our heads sometime. You haven't lost yourself. You are still there ♥️ And sometimes connecting with others can help us reconnect with ourselves. And reconnecting with things that bring us joy (I'm sure your art is wonderful!). Sending you a lot of love.
I loved your video and you are so brave. I'm on the same journey of self-healing. It's not easy, but the thing is you did not give up. Inspirational ❤️❤️
I'm so glad my story resonated with you ♥️ I wish you the best on your self healing journey! It's not always an easy path, but it's so worth it. Sending love!
Wow. This was such a beautiful video and I really needed it. I'm still a teenager but there was so much that I could relate to, it made me cry. You have such a beautiful heart. Since you didn't cut/edit the videos, it felt like you were talking to us in real life which was very nice. Thank you for making this video.
Thank you so much for watching! And really appreciate the kind words. I’m glad some of my journey resonated with you. Being a teenager is tough. Emotions are on high and you’re still trying to find your place in the world. That’s when I was the most depressed - but I was able to get out of it, even though it took some time. It’s never too late or early to start loving yourself ♥️ Sending love
I feel like I have found this video and you at the right time I am about to embark on this journey and appreciate your honesty and wish you the best ♥️
You are NOT alone. And that’s why I wanted to start this channel ♥️ When we open up to others we can see that many of us have gone through similar struggles. Thank you so much for watching. Sending love!
This is so beautiful, I'm an empath and I definitely felt how you feel, your are so brave and inspirational, this has helped me tremendously! thank you!
Well done Natassia ! I am proud of you cz u reached that level of knowledge and wisdome , it makes me so happy to hear your story am sending u greetings and kisses from Morocco love u giiiiirl to the moon and back Take care of you inner Natassia , you have a vibrant soul btw keeeeeeeeeeep it up 😘
And thank you for watching. I'm so happy part of my experiences resonated with you. This made my day :) Remember that you deserve your own love. Sending love! ❤️
I am 19 year girl and you actually don't no how much you help through this video it helps me a lot to start a journey of self love thanks a lot.... love from INDIA ❤️❤️
I’m so happy my story resonated with you and that you’re starting a journey of self love! It’s a beautiful journey and it’s worth the ups and downs that come with it. Thank YOU so much for watching ♥️ Sending love
You're beautiful!
Tnks ror making these i am at this stage
Thank you so much for this. I'm a 52 year old man and I'm just learning self-love because I was bullied really bad when I was younger and it affected me so bad that I never let it go until now
Keep going. More young people need this kind of message. Saying no, setting boundaries, being firm with choices and respecting one's body, knowing and acknowledging limitations are very essential in keeping yourself mentally healthy. YOU MATTER.
Thank you so much! Messages like these make me feel so much joy. I wish more of this was taught in schools so people could understand that their thoughts are not their realities and that we all go through these struggles. Thank you for the support ♥️
@@NatassiaCoelho Yes. It's a small world and we need to just back each other up. :) I also share about mental health on my channel which is based on my book.
@@brighterperspectives7057 we need to lift eachother up :)
I adore your authenticity. I’m going through these feelings in my 40s after years of emotional abuse as an adult. Thank you!
Thank you for this comment and for watching. I can't imagine what you had to go through, but I know that you can overcome these feelings. Don't let someone else negativity define your worth. You are a beautiful being and you deserve to blossom
You are loved and magical!
I get insecure about being a quiet person, like I don’t have enough to say and people won’t like me cause of that
I know how that feels. I’m very introspective and tend to be an observer. Especially when I’m meeting new people. There’s nothing wrong with that - people appreciate it when you can be a good listener. And I’m sure you have things to say! Sometimes we convince ourselves we don’t have anything interesting to say because we’re socially anxious or are scared of being judged - I’ve been there. You can just ask someone questions about what they’re telling you or share about something you like.
It’s funny how we can find any way to hate ourselves. I torture myself every night because I can’t stop talking. I annoy people around me, say a lot of awkward or accidentally rude things, and I would do anything to be a quiet person.
But, this video and comments make me realize we can be self conscious and changing ourselves won’t “fix us” without self love.
@@picklepirate thats crazy just like OP I am very quiet and didn't even think that about the fact that there's people who felt opposite to me!
@@picklepirate I have often wondered if extraverted and loud people realise how loud they can be and how cheeky their comments are? I always think wow I wish is wasn't as self aware as them their lucky they don't care what people think of them
@@maplesadventures2084 oh that is a pure misconception. I am very extroverted. But, I am riddled with anxiety because I feel like I talk too much, too loud, and I have a hard time connecting with people. Cheeky comments are to fit in and to try to not look clingy.
When I was 18 I was walking through a hall at my high school during class. Suddenly I saw a girl sitting on the ground with her head down. I came closer and realized it was a girl I know. She was crying. I talked to her and she told me about her insecurities and that she hates herself. At that same school, there was a different girl. She was popular and quite beautiful. She was that kind of person that you think must have a perfect life. Then I found out, that she is hurting herself secretly when she is alone because she hates herself. I couldn't believe a girl like this would hate herself. After some time I realized, that similar feelings started to appear in my own head about myself.
This video is a gem. I value honesty a lot. And your honesty and authenticity is what makes this message even more powerful. I wish I found it this video 3 years ago when it came out.
All the best to whoever is reading this
so happy to have came across this video.. literally broke down a few days ago crying because of the same exact reasons you stated in this video . sending love to you 🤍 you’re strong, we’re strong.
I'm glad you came across this video then and that it resonated with you! Thank you so much for watching ♥️ YES. We are all strong! Your negative thoughts aren't your reality. It's so easy to convince ourselves that we're filled with faults... and yet so hard to remind ourselves that no one is perfect and we would never be as cruel to others as we are to ourselves. You've got this. You're powerful. You matter. You're enough. Sending love
How are you feeling today Ye Fenty?:)☺️
@@Thefitty ive been in my head a lot, overthinking the things im already overthinking about, self doubt :/ not in a good space
@@YFenty oh girl, that is so hard. May I recommend that you put these thoughts down onto paper, and then reframe them? I always find that helpful! For example, "I am always a failure" turns to "I am willing to be 1% better each day."
oh my god, I needed this video. I'm working on loving myself too, sending love to you ❤️
I'm glad you found it helpful! Hope you're doing well on your self-love journey
I can feel you like I was like that 3 years ago…the older I got the things changed more constantly. Now I know I am as valuable as others.
I just came across this video of yours, and I just want to say from the bottom of my heart that you're such a lovely person to open up in such an honest way about your deepest feelings as you did. I'm actually struggling with very severe depression, and low self-esteem, for years now. This video showed me that it may be a light at the end of the tunnel for me. Wish you all the best Natassia. Best support and love from Portugal! ❤️
1. Let the opinions of others inform you this week. Don’t let them limit you. Listen, and then operate with your own wisdom and intuition are your guide.
2. Remember, you cannot calm the storm. What you can do is calm yourself, and the storm will eventually pass. The most powerful and practical changes happen when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over what you do not.
3. Life opens our minds and educates us as time passes. We gradually realize how much silly nonsense we have wasted our energy and resources on. And we begin to see the beauty in letting go. So just do your best this week to catch yourself, and to let go when it makes sense to.
4. On most days, the secret to peace is letting the present situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be. So don’t wish away your whole day or week waiting for better ones ahead. Do your best to appreciate where you are. Be thankful for life's fleeting lessons and opportunities. Take them and make the best of things.
5. Many of your daily thoughts and patterns are simply a reflection of what you believe about yourself. Thus, it’s not what you broadcast to everyone else that determines the trajectory of your life; it’s what you whisper to yourself behind closed doors on a daily basis that has the greatest power and influence.
peace🕊
So beautiful that your own healing journey is a journey to yourself. The journey home.
All my love ❤🌞🌱
Wow! I love that. The journey home. It's true. The journey to loving yourself is a journey to finally reconnecting with you at your core. Your most authentic self. Thank you for this beautiful comment and for watching! Sending love ♥️
Sharing our stories and impacting one person is enough to make a change! love this, keep it up!!
That's what gave me the courage to post this
I'm 45, and I Just got out of a drug rehab facility 16 months ago. I feel alone for the first time in my life, and I'm just now learning to love and respect myself.
To me, you look and sound perfect. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's all in your head.
Okay, literally this video has broken my internal monologue that no one thinks or is suffering the same things as me. How you think and what you have gone through is pinpoint exactly what I have gone through. I was insecure about my nose and how skinny I was. In high school, I beat my self-worth up because of my grades still do. I have immigrant parents so I want to be the best daughter and give them the life they never had. I put all my insecurities in the back of my head for a long time now that I am going to uni all of them are coming back but this time it is worse. Recently waking up was a struggle but I prayed and now feel much better. Honestly, I needed this video because I cried a lot today and seeing someone who has a similar life problem like me gave me much comfort. I want to love myself even though at times it seems that my head is my biggest enemy. Thank you for being so open and like a friend during a hard time in my life. Lots of 💖
I resonated with this so much Natassia, Thank you for posting it, its a reminder that what I am going through I'm not alone in it, there are others struggling with self love too. I've spent so much of my mental energy focused on what others think and feel and how to be kind to others that I neglected learning fully how to be confident and love myself, to not put the needs of others so far above my own, to not need to seek validation from others, to value my own thoughts and opinions and trust them. There's so much to learn, because i grew up not being told how beautiful I am and not being appreciated for being handsome or not having all of my talents and skills seen and recognized but most of all, i grew up seeking that validation from others instead of giving it to myself or even realizing that you NEED to give it to yourself that others cannot validate you, you must do so yourself. no one can determine your worth, you do that. All these opinions about how i should live, or act, or behave in order to make everyone else happy and in order to be liked by others, yet never once did i truly say "forget them, what makes me happy, i should prioritize that over everyone else." I wanted people to feel good around me and like me so i presented a persona equal to how i wanted people to see me, but not equal to how i wanted to be seen to me. so many mistakes you make when you look externally for your happiness and fulfillment, i thought people's opinion of some didn't matter, and to some extent it didn't, but I believe that instead of making their opinions matter, what i did was i valued their comfort and hid parts of myself in order to make sure that i didn't do something that made others mad or upset. I wanted to be the good boy, to be seen as the nice guy, the one that is sweet and good and true, because i value those things, but i ought to have valued myself enough to present myself the way i truly am, instead of as a persona of qualities that i like and that others like, a persona that isn't equal to what i truly am, close to who i am but "white washed" or rather "politically correct" version of myself, that is me but not quite me, a facade.
Thank you for sharing! It's comforting to see how a person can make a change. I hope to follow your example.
This is literally so relatable to me. Every word you said is like me now. The ending where you said about your mom’s phrase “I wish you could see how beautiful you really are” made me cry. Thank you so much for this. You’ve just got a new subscriber tho:))
You've got a beauty to yourself that when you admire other people, you're only seeing your own true potential :-) I hope you're feeling better today! Do you also have a good relationship with your mother?
i'm from brazil too and i cried watching this video because this hit so close! But also made me see that im not alone. this struggle is not just mine. thank you
Thank you. It is inspiring seeing a young woman on this journey. You are helping many women to start and succeed on this journey.
Everyone needs selflove first ! Thank you so much for your story :) Much love
Yes!!! Self love is so important :) Thank you so much for watching! Sending love 💕
Thank you for this video and congratulations on opening up Natassia! You are beautiful! 😍
Thank you for watching and for this kind message! Sending love
Thank you so much for this beautiful message. Happy birthday beautiful Natassia!🎁
Laura Davila thank YOU for taking the time to watch! 😊
Thank you for sharing this. Your story resonates so much with mine. I also struggled with self hatred during my teens. I developed and eating disorder and self harmed. I don't know how I pulled myself out of that head space, but i am so glad I did, and happy i am still here. It took years of self work. I am 28 now. It is still a work in progress, but therapy is helping. It's just like you said. One day I realized I didn't hate myself anymore, I stopped wishing I was dead. It feels amazing and so powerful. Thank you for deciding to make a difference and help people find their worth and love themselves. It's a hard journey to begin, but life changing to walk.
Thank you so much for sharing. I could feel your pain and I too am going through the same thing. I guess that’s why I could empathise with you. This really connected to my heart. Stay beautiful and thank you for inspiring me to love myself❤
It takes a lot of determination and bravery to love yourself unconditionally. I really admire your strength... But strenght and power are best expressed in vulnerability and authenticity and girl... you're eminating with these qualities 💖
Thank you so much! That means so much to me
thank you for your transparency! I'm 29 and I realised I need to take my self love and self worth seriously as I've struggled with it for years . The emptiness you referred to is so relatable, I've been feeling so disconnected from my family and friends, and my romantic life has been hearthbreak after hearthbreak. I now understand it all start with me.
Thank you for sharing your journey so vulnerably. So beautiful of a message to those that are uncomfortable in their own skin. Love the message! 💕
Thank you for watching! And thank you so much for the kind words ❤️ it means a lot
You are beautiful inside and out! Being vulnerable is brave and fantastic. Well done. This video will help so many people. You are turning darkness into beautiful light for yourself and the world.
Thank you for this kind message! It made my day ♥️ It took many years for me to finally realize the beauty in vulnerability!! That’s the reason I started this channel and made this my first video. Hoping to help others recognize that they deserve their own love and that it’s ok to be vulnerable. Sending love!
I loved this video and really needed it today, thank you so much! You remind me so much of myself and my own journey. I am also 31 years old, and had many of the same insecurities at an early age, and have learned a lot more self-confidence over the years. I had struggled a lot with major depression in my mid-20s and even some in high school, and even though I had a stable childhood, friends, financial security, etc. It just goes to show you can't judge a book by its cover, and there are a lot of parallels among us
It's funny how some of our journeys seem so similar. It's true - you can't judge a book by its cover. Someone can have absolutely everything, but you don't know what trauma they've been through or what they may be feeling on the inside. I'm glad you've gained more self-confidence over the years! You should be so proud of that. The self love journey never ends... there's it's ups and downs and it can be slow, but it's so worth it. Thank you so much for watching. Sending love 💕
the amount of times i wanted to hold ur hand because you were shaking so much, you are so strong and ur vid is so inspiring to me. as someone who got bullied and recently got into self love and healing journey, this makes me understand that everyone has their own hardship, just because they look certain way eg. being prettier than others doesnt mean they dont have their own villain story.
Well done on your self love journey! It’s the best journey one can make.
Hello Natassia,
I am so happy that you didn't vanish
I’m happy I didn’t vanish too. I’m glad you resonated with my story - we’re not as alone in our struggles as we think! ♥️ Thank you so much for watching! Sending love
Hello there! I am happy that you did it! Now you're doing well! Wishing that I will be too. KEEP ON SHINING!
I'm moved by the authenticity and comprehensive nature of this content. A book with parallel ideas provided a revolutionary perspective. "Your Body Your Temple" by Various
wow i’ve never related to anyone in my life than you and your story. i just want to say thank you for being vulnerable and making this video. i’m 19 right now and i’m feeling all the things that you did at this age. i hope that my self love journey is as successful as yours when i turn 31. seriously thank you. this was an eye opener for me and i think i’m done wasting my years away hating myself. i want to fall in love with life and myself again. i don’t know what i’d do without your video. you’re amazing, keep being you!!
Hi Natassia… I so resonate with your life story I went through the exact same as you regarding my weight , my self esteem the constant comparing with others …. N u are absolutely right imperfection rocks n now I love myself n don’t care what others think or say about me ….
As a man, I didn't expect to relate that much to your younger self
Kinda looking for resources to go through my self-love journey and glad I found your video ❤
Thanks for this video!!! You made me realize that I also have a lot of clothes in the closet I don't like; When I dress the way I think I look nice my mom says things that I look like a clown or makes a face of disgust... I never thought that the problem was not me... I think she also threw out a skirt that I loved to use!
Thank you very very very much... I'll try to buy me new clothes again :D great video
Happy belated birthday. Just watched your fiance's video from yesterday.
You are AMAZING🎉♥️🎉
Thank you Sue!
You ma'am are a very beautiful soul my dear...i resonate so much with you and i am battling so hard with self-worth, self-love, and perfectionism to the point that it makes me not enjoy life to its fullest. Im too stubborn to just totally lose hope in knowing that i will be okay one day at a time, and that i am worth fighting for to me. Thank you for being so transparent, open, and vulnerable...these things add to the beauty of who you truly are 🌷🌷
Thank you so much for your impact! you're inspiring
Thank you a lot for being so brave and share your journey
You got me tearing up girl , I just love you❤️❤️!
Awww 🤗 I’m glad my story resonated with you! Thank you so much for watching. Truly!! And I love YOU ❤️
Thank you for sharing this. Lots of Love.
I am glad you'er still here with us so that you could share your story with all of us, so that so many could be helped and know that they are not alone.......I wish you new strength each day of your life on this brand new journey you have embarked on .........much love and all the best. thanks for sharing.
You are lucky to have reached the point where you could share like you did. Something that marks a beginning!
Trust me - it took a long time to be comfortable with being vulnerable. But even though vulnerability can be scary, the beauty of it is that it can help others recognize that they're not alone in their struggles. Thank you so much for watching. Sending love ♥️
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I appreciate this video. I cried while watching 🥺
Thank you so much for this! You have NO idea how much I needed to feel less alone in my thoughts and the way I perceived myself. Thank you for showing me that it can get better, just have to keep going.
I just subscribed. I started a channel and I just needed to see if I was the only one sharing my personal story like this.
beautiful vulnerability
you're not alone.
I just recorded a crying video myself and I'm trying to build up the courage to share publicly.
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Just subscribed to you as well! More of us need to share our stories so people recognize that they’re not alone. ♥️
I second guessed myself so much before posting this video. I thought it was too long. No one would watch it. And yet here we are. Share your story! I’ve had videos where I cried dealing with my anxiety. Even if you just help one person with your video, it’s worth it.
Sending love ♥️
i really needed this. there’s things that i don’t want to talk about but this i definitely needed this. thank you.
I'm 41 I just realized that I have not been loving my self!
Hi Anna! I just want to say, it’s never too late to embark on a self love journey ♥️ I think so many of us go through life without even realizing that maybe we need to be a little kinder and loving to ourselves. At least you were able to realize it! Do something your future self will thank you for 😊
Thank you so much for watching. I really appreciate it!
Thank you for being honest 🥰
I'm 49 and I was like the OP growing up. The last 5 years I have been so insecure and depressed that i drove my husband away. The second time I lost myself in my marriage and second time my husband cheated. Now I'm afraid to file for divorced because I have hope he will change his mind. I am just working on myself for now but I think if I really loved myself I would have filed already. :(
Going through the same x
I just had this same realization too and I'm 39. This story and seeing others my age helps. I'm looking for ways every day to improve. Started this book called The Presence Process by Michael Brown. And I'm watching people like this fabulous young lady. Thanks to everyone for their authenticity and experience
The first thing i said when i saw you " oh she is so beautiful and soft sweet " i loved your energy ❤
You're so kind! Thank you for watching ♥️ sending love!
This is awesome! I will stand out there and say that I've listened to mufasa in the clouds saying "you are my son and the one true king" and balled many times because I just never even allowed myself to believe I was worth anything, I hope that helps someone else! If anyone has any tips for me I'm starting the journey seriously now
Thank you for your transparency
Thank you so much for this video Natassia. Not only are you a beautiful, loving and intelligent woman, but you are also extremely bold to share your story. I find myself in such a similar tough phase in my life right now, with ongoing depressions and nonexistent self-esteem. Now I’m 24, single for the first time since I was around 16 (codependent obviously), and I’m having yet another identity crisis because of my poor self image and the urge to seek acceptance from everyone around me, instead of from within. As I hit rock bottom around mid November with yet another severe depression, I realized that I have to find a way to turn my life around this time, to prevent suicide... This video made me cry, because your spirit really resonated with mine, and you gave me just the right tools to rise up again and fight for the happiness that I deserve. Thank you ❤️
Wow. Kristina, thank you for being so open and sharing your story ♥️ You can turn things around, trust me. Life is filled with ups and downs... but everything is temporary. Including dark times - they will pass, no matter how impossible it may seem.
You are resilient, you are loved and you are worthy. I hope you realize that! Don’t be afraid to reach out for help! We always feel so much shame when we don’t feel “ok”, but it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Sometimes we need more help and support.
Sending so much love to you!!! Thank you so much for this kind message. It means so much 💕
@@NatassiaCoelho I’m so grateful that people like you find your way to social media to share authentic, non-staged stories like these. It’s such a huge possible step for our culture today!
It just really felt right to share my story as well, and I can honestly say that I truly believe what you just wrote in the comment below ❤️
So many people feel hopeless in midst of depressive periods, and mental illnesses REALLY have a way of making your vision ‘black/white’ and the slightest hope for a future nonexistent. But the most important - and crucial - message from that very mental state must not be overlooked: “I have to change my thought patterns in order to live a meaningful (and bearable) life. That way I will reconnect with my spirit and truest self.” In that way, our depressive periods can be interpreted as being your soul’s way of screaming for help; hunger for change 💔
I have indeed sought help, and I’m in very good hands by the danish healthcare system. Antidepressants, Yoga, walks in nature, the company of my adorable cat, home workouts, meditation, daily positive affirmations, and Gratitude practice - those things have all been some extremely effective tools along the way! However, your video just gave my soul a subtle push further towards my key to self love. You live and you learn, right? So once again, thank you so much ❤️
thank you so much. I’m 18 years old and the past 7 months I’ve been dealing with the worst mental health of my life. sometimes it all feels so scary and overwhelming. I’ve developed these irrational ways of thinking, seeing the world through a negative lens. I nit-pick everything. I’m hard on myself, other people, objects, places, the whole world. when I get those thoughts, I just want to cry. I don’t want to think those bad things. I don’t want to be so negative and hateful. I used to see the world so full and beautifully, that all seems like a distant dream now (but as you said, “if I was happy before, then I can be happy again”). in the past month or so I’ve realized that...I don’t really love myself all that much. I’m so focused on little things and perfectionism. but hearing you speak about this really resonated with me and gave me a bit of hope. realizing these negative patterns is the first step... getting started is the next step (I just have to figure out how lol). thanks again❤️
Reading this made my eyes fill up with tears. I wish I could give you a big hug right now! I know exactly how you feel. Like you’re your own worst enemy. Constantly criticizing yourself harshly in a way you would never criticize someone you love. I’ve been there. I know it’s really hard. I know it seems like it’s neverending. But everything in life has a beginning and an end. Including dark times. I know in your darkest hours you may feel like this is how it will be always, but it won’t. I felt that way too. Be proud of yourself for recognizing that maybe you need to show yourself more love. Celebrate the small wins, even if it’s just getting out of bed in the morning or getting dressed. You are worthy of your own love. I hope you realize that 💕 Sending you love. Thank you for watching and I’m glad my story resonated with you
And just to add - thank you so much for being open enough to share your story and your struggle. Opening up is part of the healing process. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable. ♥️
This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for watching ♥️ sending love!
I am 37 and now I am learning to accept and love myself. And yes, I have the same body Isues as You: nose, breast, skin....and now, as healed my akne I became ashamed about my wrinkles that started to appear, so I decided that I don't want to live always rejecting myself. Thank You for your video, it resonates a lot with me and it îs also empowering.
I’m so glad this video resonated with you ♥️ It’s never too late to practice more self love, so I think it’s AMAZING that you’re taking the steps to love yourself more. As women, we’re conditioned through media and society that most of our worth is tied to our body and our youth... but that’s so untrue. We’re multifaceted. Wrinkles are a blessing because some people don’t even make it as far to live long enough to have them. What’s more important is what is on the inside. You have a lot to offer the world, I’m sure of it. Thank you for watching! Sending love 💕
@@NatassiaCoelho a big hug, beautiful soul 🤗
@@tatianabliuc8775 🤗 right back at you!
you are so me, hope one day i could also healed myself
I never would have guessed you’re originally from Brazil!! So very nice to meet you!! I have gone through that self doubt myself and I still do! Journaling is amazing! I’m so glad you’re still here because you met Ben!! You’re going to continue to have a wonderful life together !! 🥰🥰
Yes! I'm a brasileira 🇧🇷 It's normal to doubt yourself, I still deal with it too! Becoming more self aware helps cut it down though, for sure. Ben definitely helps me on those days too :) Thank you for the support and for watching!! ❤️
Wow. This really resonated with me. Thank you so much for sharing
Hai Natassia, I'm so grateful to know you through this video. Thank you for sharing the story. Your story brings me hope as currently I'm struggling with myself and my mental health is crippling down. Watching this video makes me feeling supported that I'm not alone. Thank you Natassia.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are inspiring. Sending lots of love from U.K.
thank you SO so much for this video!! ❤️ I really needed this, and i also subscribed to your channel. It makes me feel so happy too see how much i can relate with you and it gives me hope that maybe i can overcome this. I hope i can finally enjoy life and be 100% happy.
I hope i can become like you in the future. You're so strong!! I love u!! ❤️
Thank YOU for watching and also for subscribing! I really appreciate it... truly!! I think the beauty of opening up to others is realizing that we're not alone in our struggles. What brings me peace when I'm going through a hard time is knowing that there are others out there who have been there before or are working through something similar as well! You can overcome this! I'll be here cheering you on :)
And also - you can never be 100% happy! We have so many emotions we feel and sometimes we have days that aren't so great. And that's fine! Just work on sending yourself love, even on the days that are not so great. You are worthy of love.
Love you too!!! And thank you again for watching
I relate with you at so many levels
Lovely ❤thank you for giving such hope and you're extremely beautiful
This is so awesome! Thank you for sharing your story! It is very inspiring
I'm glad this video resonated with you! Thank you for watching. Truly.
More power to you 💛
thank you for having shared your story. it was really inspiring!
Thank you for watching!!! I'm glad you found it inspiring 💕 Sending love
Thank you for your courage to share your story. What you experienced is something that a lot of girls / women go through, and it is important to bring it to awarness. Being open about it hopefully inspires those struggeling to accept help ❤
Thank you for the kind words! I completely agree… being open and sharing our experiences shows others that they are not alone and that things can get better. ♥️ thank you for watching! Sending love
You are so amazing, too honest and lovely. Hugss from Armenia 😘😘😘😘❤️❤️
Your story resonated with mine, and they way you conquered yourself gave me so much hope!!! Keep being you and keep sharing your story, and honey you just helped me on my self love journey.
Thank you for this sweet comment!! I'm glad this resonated with you. Humans are resilient creatures. Really. As long as we don't give up hope in ourselves. For me, what helps even on my toughest day, is reminding myself of little things I'm grateful for. Even if it's a hug from a friend or having a warm cup of coffee. I'll be cheering you on on your journey Esmaila
I'm 18 yo and your story resonated with me so much. I've been crying for 4 times during the whole video, it touched me a lot. I am trying to deal with that's all by myself bc I can't go to the therapist at some point but I hope I can help myself as well too. Sorry for my English, if I have any mistakes, and thank you so much for sharing this here. You are amazing. With love and hugs from Russia
You're not alone! 18 was around the time when I started working on myself and I had a lot of ups and downs along the way. I dealt with it on my own for a very long time - so I understand it's not easy. Just know that no journey is linear - there's ups and downs, but that's part of the journey. Your English is perfect so don't apologize! Thank you for watching and for leaving this comment. I appreciate you and am sending you love ❤️
@@NatassiaCoelho thank u so much..!!
Awn, I just loved this video so much. I see how much you actually mean everything you said, thank you Natassia Coelho, you are making a difference in people's world. I really hope you can keep on recording more videos.
I am going through some pretty dark times mentally right now and this has helped. Thankyou for posting this and sharing your story. BTW you are beautiful!
I’m sending you lots of love and positive thoughts Crystal! I know it can be hard... I’ve been there, where it feels like there’s no way out of the darkness. Just know you are not alone. Others have been there too and have come out of it ♥️ You are resilient and beautiful! Thank you so much for watching
NATASIA....
your suffering led you here. To be compassionate enough to be able to create this video for other females, especially those teens, to understand that they are NOT alone in their feelings about themselves.
Your suffering allows you to be able to help another human soul to get through what they are going through.
This is a good performance for a 1st video and this is the only one I have watched. I am a boy. Lol.
You are incredibly beautiful and I hope that you also see yourself this way.
I am 48 and females tell me I am really good looking BUT I don't see it anymore. Lol! I used to KNOW how beautiful I was and it created a monster with my ego .
By the way...... I am flat chested too. I hope you laugh at that remark.
This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. Working on all of this too.❤️
Thank you for watching Nancy ♥️ You’ve got this! Sending love
I remember when I was a teen and young adult reaching out to people and nobody cared. My parents, teachers, school counselor. I had no friends. I'm 27 now and it still affects me. Why did nobody care?
Watching this, I'm glad to hear there are other people who have struggled with confidence and self-worth as well. I have been struggling with it since I was a little child. Now I'm 23 and slowly starting to like myself, slowly becoming more confident.
I've always been an introvert and pretty quiet in general. I never thought this was wrong until - when I changed to secondary school - people starting to comment on this. It started in grade 5 with only a few comments here and there and slowly increased. In grade 10 - the worst year of my life, definitely - classes were mixed up again and I found myself in a class without my friends. The majority of the people I didn't know and they didn't know me, but that didn't stop them from insulting me. I was called stupid and mute, people ignored me and when they didn't they laughed at me, mentioning how much they hate doing any sort of group project with me. Some if my classmates even behaved like they were disgusted when they saw me. I never understood why this was happening to me. After all, I didn't know the majority of them. As one can probably imagine, I started despising myself. I desperately wanted to be different and begged for whatever was out there (and I'm not religious at all) to turn back time and let me be born different - or not at all. I didn't want to live anymore, because I was convinced I didn't deserve it. As you said it as well, I, too, was wondering who could ever like me anyways?
And also, neither my friends nor family knew how terrible I felt, what I really was thinking. I started going to counseling and it helped remove at least some of those beliefs I had build throughout these years. Despite this, I struggled a lot with self-worth and confidence. Though I was only bullied for my personality, I was struggling with accepting my appearance as well. I used to hate everything about me, but now I have come to a place in which I like my appearance mostly - except for my nose. I hated my nose since forever and always thought it's too big and people would only see my nose when they look at me. That's still something I haven't succeeded in getting rid of.
I also used to pity myself thinking I have missed out on so much because of my insecurities. Like, I could have been at a vastly different place in life if it weren't for my confidence issues.
Self-love and confidence is a truly a journey. It takes time to unlearn all the beliefs we have acquired and some will stick around longer than others. While my confidence has improved a lot in the years after graduation, it definitely isn't where it should be.
Again, I'm glad there are other people out there who are struggling as well and I'm not alone in this. I do hope we all manage to learn to truly ourselves soon and feel content with who we are.
I hope I didn't make any mistakes in my comment, and I'm sorry if there are, I'm not a native.
Lea, thank you for sharing your experiences and being open about them. And no need to say sorry - your English is amazing! My heart hurt reading about your classmates bullying you. I'm sorry you had to go through that. People who are secure and love themselves don't go out of their way to bully others. You know what I mean? You are RESILIENT. You should be proud of yourself for choosing to go to counseling and start working on practicing self love! It's not always an easy journey, but it will be worth it.
You wrote "While my confidence has improved a lot in the years after graduation, it definitely isn't where it should be." Instead, you should be happy that it's improved a lot!!! Self love takes time and even when your confidence is strong, there will still be days where it's rough. I'm super proud of you for getting to where you are today. Imagine how you'll feel in a few years 🤗
Sending love! ❤️
@@NatassiaCoelho Thank you so much for your reply! It's called "self love journey" for a reason - with a heavy emphasis on journey, that's what I realized. You're absolutely right, I should already be happy about how far I've come. Seeing the long journey ahead is always easier than seeing the path we've already walked. Thank you for reminding me :)
Your story really touched my heart a
lot . Thanks for sharing and I appreciate it soo much . God bless you forever. Sending you lots of love and blessings.
This was so beautiful ❤
So the first thing I want to say is that you're so beautiful. The second one is thank u so much for this video, actually right now is my online lesson but I feel so bad, I found ur video and decided to watch it. So if someone is still reading this I want to predict that I'm Russian and my grammar may not be right. I'm 18 and I balance every day between "I love myself" and "I hate myself", but the main thing that I feel I've lost myself, everything I start then I end, a year ago I struggled that I had a partner but I was that person no one wanted to see, and that was the time when corona only started and I cried every freaking day and I couldn't stop, and then I finally lost every person in my life. What is now - I have people who love me and support me but I don't have any appetite for anything, people write me but most of the time I ignore them and I'm not interested in talking with them, I plan to meet with them and then I say "I don't want" and it scares me. The only people I'm interested in are teachers in my University and people who are on the other side of this Planet(and my partner(honestly, my last 3 months I speak only with her). Years ago I had so many wishes and energy to find myself in any skills, I was doing performing arts, I was drawing (my art actually was good for me) and lots of other things and now really think that I've lost myself. I feel very little hope that I could change something...
Polly, first of all, your English is great! I was able to understand everything and know what you're feeling. I wish I could give you a hug and let you know that you're not the only one that has felt this way. Sometimes, when we're so hard on ourselves and see ourselves as unlovable, we can push people away. But there is no such thing as an unlivable person... just a person who FEELS that they are not loved. Have you thought of talking to someone? Like a therapist? It can be helpful to have someone from the outside make sense of the negative thoughts we get in our heads sometime. You haven't lost yourself. You are still there ♥️ And sometimes connecting with others can help us reconnect with ourselves. And reconnecting with things that bring us joy (I'm sure your art is wonderful!). Sending you a lot of love.
Well done, may God bless you
Thank you so much for sharing
Everything u said especially in academia, it resonates with me on whole new level
I can relate! You are so brave for talking about this. Thank you for sharing.
I loved your video and you are so brave. I'm on the same journey of self-healing. It's not easy, but the thing is you did not give up. Inspirational ❤️❤️
I'm so glad my story resonated with you ♥️ I wish you the best on your self healing journey! It's not always an easy path, but it's so worth it. Sending love!
Wow. This was such a beautiful video and I really needed it. I'm still a teenager but there was so much that I could relate to, it made me cry. You have such a beautiful heart. Since you didn't cut/edit the videos, it felt like you were talking to us in real life which was very nice. Thank you for making this video.
Thank you so much for watching! And really appreciate the kind words. I’m glad some of my journey resonated with you. Being a teenager is tough. Emotions are on high and you’re still trying to find your place in the world. That’s when I was the most depressed - but I was able to get out of it, even though it took some time. It’s never too late or early to start loving yourself ♥️ Sending love
I feel like I have found this video and you at the right time I am about to embark on this journey and appreciate your honesty and wish you the best ♥️
I'm so glad you found this video at the right time and that my story resonated with you
Woow!!! I am not alone. Thank u for being honest and sharing. You are amazing.
You are NOT alone. And that’s why I wanted to start this channel ♥️ When we open up to others we can see that many of us have gone through similar struggles. Thank you so much for watching. Sending love!
Sending love ur way! 💗
Thank you!!! Right back at you! ♥️
Well done girl 👧 👏
Thank you for sharing this! I have been going through a very difficult time recently but I took a lot from this video.. you’re so beautiful
Thank you for watching! I hope things get better for you and I’m glad this video resonated with you. Remember, everything is temporary. Much love ❤️
Your message is very inspiring and touching 💙
Thank you so much ♥️ I hope you found it helpful! Sending love 💕
This is so beautiful, I'm an empath and I definitely felt how you feel, your are so brave and inspirational, this has helped me tremendously! thank you!
Thank you so much ♥️ I’m so glad this resonated with you. I wish you all the best in your self love journey!!! Empaths unite 🙌
Thank you so much!
Thank you for this video 💕 you’re GORGEOUS🤩 I hope you know it girl!
You’re so sweet! ☺️ Thank YOU for watching! I truly appreciate the kind comment. Sending love!
Well done Natassia ! I am proud of you cz u reached that level of knowledge and wisdome , it makes me so happy to hear your story
am sending u greetings and kisses from Morocco
love u giiiiirl to the moon and back
Take care of you inner Natassia , you have a vibrant soul btw
keeeeeeeeeeep it up 😘
I love YOU! Thank you for this sweet message. It means a lot. I truly appreciate the support! Sending love 💕
You are so pretty I hope you could see it and I believe you will feel better and focus on the good thoughts the good thoughts grows
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. You have no idea the impact in made to me. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
And thank you for watching. I'm so happy part of my experiences resonated with you. This made my day :) Remember that you deserve your own love. Sending love! ❤️