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I've watched a few of your videos. I don't agree with everything you said but you make some valid points. I'm of the belief that all our losses are unique to us and the circumstances can be very different. In my case I am closer with their family than my own. My own family abandoned me after my spouse died. Again we all have different experiences based on our journey. Very well done videos.
Such a sensitive issue! Our distance marriage keeps these issues down. I have only met my husband's late wife's father. He received me with grace; God bless him! No one else in the family wanted to meet me. There really is no need. We live in neighboring states 3 hours apart. We eloped & settled any uncomfortable issues that could have happened at a wedding. We are careful to live our lives in the present & future. The past will not take away our happiness.
If YOU are NOT number one…walk!! I know it sounds harsh, but one will Suffer and sacrifice and eventually resent and it will Cause harm…..go with what works for you. Don’t tolerate things YOU don’t want to !!!
My in laws became good friends over the years. In law family functions are 4-5 times a year, a little more often informally with my brother in law. I value their friendship and that they still include me since my family is pretty much gone. I don't care if my ladyfriend wants to be included or not, but she is invited and welcome at these functions. If my ladyfriend insisted that I cut off contact with my in laws that would be a deal breaker.
@@DatingaWidower I don't think most rational women have a problem with contact with the spouse's family. What matters is the quanity of time the widower chooses to spend with them and how they treat her (are they accepting of her or do they bring up the deceased all the time?)
My late wife's parents never accepted my daughter until they saw my daughter's photos in FB. Its been 3 years since my wife's death and now my in-laws want to meet my daughter.
My guy doesn’t and never has stood up to anyone. He’s like a puppet in the wind!! I came second. Plans and family came first. I broke up with him because I was sick of the breadcrumbing. You know it takes more than love!! It takes respect, lifestyle compatibility, trust , communication, partnership first and everyone else second. Otherwise, it doesn’t work? As someone suffers !!!
This afternoon, my widower and I drove by a house, near my late parents’ house, that his late wife’s sister and her husband have been living in for many years. A short time later, after I introduced him to my brother, that house came up in our conversation. When I referred to his late wife’’s sister and her husband, I said, “his ex in-laws.” My widower quickly corrected me by saying, “they still ARE my in-laws!” I’m embarrassed and confused. So how does this work? How long will they be his in-laws? When Marathon Girl was tutoring your late wife’s brother, did you still refer to him as your brother-in-law?
I introduced him by his first name and said he was my late wife's brother. Don't recall ever using the term brother-in-law. But maybe I did. I'll have to follow up with Marathon Girl. Also, need to do a video about this topic.
Dating a Widower I apologized to him after I watched this video. I then asked, “How long will they still be your in-laws? Until you no longer have a relationship with them?” He said, “That’s a good question; I don’t know.” My late mother’s sister divorced her husband at least 20 years ago, but I still call him, “Uncle Merle”-because he was my uncle while I was growing up-and because he’s such a nice, nice man (way too good for my aunt, but I won’t go there). Assuming Marathon Girl has brothers, do you think of them as brother-in-laws-or your “wife’s brothers?” If my W and I eventually marry, it would seem inappropriate, to me, if he continued to call his LW’s brothers his brother-in-laws-while calling my brother his brother-in-law. I agree with you...a good topic for another video. Your videos have been an invaluable resource for me. I never would’ve given any of these issues a second thought if I hadn’t gotten into a relationship with a widower. I’ve also become a sort of Widower Awareness advocate...sharing what I’ve learned from you with friends and acquaintances.
After 50years a boyfriend and I reconnect he lost his wife 2/2001 I lost my husband 6/2001 We are 1600 miles apart So we started out fast things heated up fast so we were sexting on video chat Then after 5 weeks he tells me he is not ready to commit he is still mourning his wife He wants to remind friends Will we ever became a couple or is he done for good We started has fast
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I've watched a few of your videos. I don't agree with everything you said but you make some valid points. I'm of the belief that all our losses are unique to us and the circumstances can be very different. In my case I am closer with their family than my own. My own family abandoned me after my spouse died. Again we all have different experiences based on our journey. Very well done videos.
Take heart Bill Morgan.
With time,you will love again
@@resianemaculate. oh I have but I dont think it will be anytime soon. It's much to painful. Thanks
It certainly is a challenge, esp when(wife's family)they decide immediately that they do not care for you or the relationship.
Such a sensitive issue! Our distance marriage keeps these issues down. I have only met my husband's late wife's father. He received me with grace; God bless him! No one else in the family wanted to meet me. There really is no need. We live in neighboring states 3 hours apart. We eloped & settled any uncomfortable issues that could have happened at a wedding. We are careful to live our lives in the present & future. The past will not take away our happiness.
I am very glad you found someone. It has to be difficult having to deal with those who oppose or who are less than thrilled with a widower remarrying.
If YOU are NOT number one…walk!! I know it sounds harsh, but one will
Suffer and sacrifice and eventually resent and it will
Cause harm…..go with what works for you. Don’t tolerate things YOU don’t want to !!!
God told me to love them still. I do not worry about these things because I'm Mormon.
My in laws became good friends over the years. In law family functions are 4-5 times a year, a little more often informally with my brother in law. I value their friendship and that they still include me since my family is pretty much gone.
I don't care if my ladyfriend wants to be included or not, but she is invited and welcome at these functions.
If my ladyfriend insisted that I cut off contact with my in laws that would be a deal breaker.
Though new relationships often mean re-prioritizing other relationships, you shouldn't have to cut off contact with them.
@@DatingaWidower I don't think most rational women have a problem with contact with the spouse's family. What matters is the quanity of time the widower chooses to spend with them and how they treat her (are they accepting of her or do they bring up the deceased all the time?)
My late wife's parents never accepted my daughter until they saw my daughter's photos in FB. Its been 3 years since my wife's death and now my in-laws want to meet my daughter.
Sounds like a good opportunity to build bridges.
My guy doesn’t and never has stood up to anyone. He’s like a puppet in the wind!! I came second. Plans and family came first. I broke up with him because I was sick of the breadcrumbing. You know it takes more than love!! It takes respect, lifestyle compatibility, trust , communication, partnership first and everyone else second. Otherwise, it doesn’t work? As someone suffers !!!
This afternoon, my widower and I drove by a house, near my late parents’ house, that his late wife’s sister and her husband have been living in for many years. A short time later, after I introduced him to my brother, that house came up in our conversation. When I referred to his late wife’’s sister and her husband, I said, “his ex in-laws.” My widower quickly corrected me by saying, “they still ARE my in-laws!” I’m embarrassed and confused. So how does this work? How long will they be his in-laws? When Marathon Girl was tutoring your late wife’s brother, did you still refer to him as your brother-in-law?
I introduced him by his first name and said he was my late wife's brother. Don't recall ever using the term brother-in-law. But maybe I did. I'll have to follow up with Marathon Girl. Also, need to do a video about this topic.
Dating a Widower I apologized to him after I watched this video. I then asked, “How long will they still be your in-laws? Until you no longer have a relationship with them?” He said, “That’s a good question; I don’t know.” My late mother’s sister divorced her husband at least 20 years ago, but I still call him, “Uncle Merle”-because he was my uncle while I was growing up-and because he’s such a nice, nice man (way too good for my aunt, but I won’t go there). Assuming Marathon Girl has brothers, do you think of them as brother-in-laws-or your “wife’s brothers?” If my W and I eventually marry, it would seem inappropriate, to me, if he continued to call his LW’s brothers his brother-in-laws-while calling my brother his brother-in-law. I agree with you...a good topic for another video. Your videos have been an invaluable resource for me. I never would’ve given any of these issues a second thought if I hadn’t gotten into a relationship with a widower. I’ve also become a sort of Widower Awareness advocate...sharing what I’ve learned from you with friends and acquaintances.
Why does he call her marathon girl? I am just now finding his videos and I’m curious to know. Lol
It's a pet name I gave her years ago when I was blogging (anonmonously) about my widower journey.
After 50years a boyfriend and I reconnect he lost his wife 2/2001 I lost my husband 6/2001
We are 1600 miles apart
So we started out fast things heated up fast so we were sexting on video chat
Then after 5 weeks he tells me he is not ready to commit he is still mourning his wife
He wants to remind friends
Will we ever became a couple or is he done for good
We started has fast