This video is so true! My husband passed away 5 years ago. It was hard not missing him but within the last 5 years I’ve learned more about myself. I found myself again. I like myself. I’m hiking and traveling more and even writing and meeting new people. In the pass I didn’t like cooking. Now I’m cooking more and I love it! I’m totally complete alone not because I have to be but because right now I want to be!🦋 Being alone is not lonely!🦋
When I was younger, my then girlfriend broke up with me. This really devastated me as I loved her so much. Because I couldn't be alone, I jumped into the first relationship I could. This landed my now ex-wife. Because I didn't take the time to heal from that break-up, I blindly landed in a 15 year marriage that was the worse decision of my life. The woman i married was the wrong one. This is what happens when you are emotionally impulsive. Had I taken time to heal, to think, to be, I bet I would have made more conscious decisions that would've been better for me.
We can never make the right decisions all the time. Life is 80% chance and the rest depends on how you handle it. We don't even know what will happen in our lives in the next few hours. No matter how long you work and improve yourself, the possibility of meeting the wrong person is always there. Live your life without regrets.
Вам, как и всем людям - предстоит научиться видеть больше плюсов в человеке, чем минусов, хотя бы осознавая, что минусы и плюсы у каждого человека кардинально отличаются, но тем не менее предстоит определиться с плюсами, которые синергичны с вашими плюсами, а минусы остается принять как данность и обращать внимание в отношениях больше на плюсы. Это и есть умение строительства отношений, а не их разрушение.
Neediness and emotional attachment to others are inherited. I inherited this from my mom and grandma. At 50 years old, I am rewiring my brain and finally feel happier than ever before.
Yes feel the same way I felt awful when I got divorced and had had no children oh the letdown now next month will be turning 56 been living alone and without a partner for past two years. I have achieved so much more on my own than with previous relationships. Peace and blessings to us all. Thought being alone was some type of failure but better being alone than with the wrong person
25 yrs single . I’m not chasing relationship. Most people disappoint unless they are just friends. I wish I was in a relationship but haven’t found anyone untested. So I’ve become comfortable and joyful by myself. Seeking God brings peace to me.
I have been single for 12 years after my partner at that time died from a heart attack and I am very happy. I don't wish to be in another relationship unless someone exceptional comes along. I have never looked for anyone in the past they have just come along.
I’m 13 years single! I un-wired myself years ago…I’m more creative, more rested, happier and never drained by someone else’s bad mood or things they want that I don’t want! I’ve grown and I’m in total bliss by myself! I love spending time with my kids, parents, grandsons and people I love 💕
The longer I'm alone, the more I love the solitude. I don't want another relationship. I'm retired from that nonsense now. I'm not in the process of attracting. I actively go out of my way to avoid relationships. Being alone is the best thing that's ever happened to me. Xxx
me too!! 10yrs single since my divorce. 5yrs zero contact with the opposite sex in anyway. best decision of my life!! 🙏 others don't get me. they try to get me to date, they project their loneliness on me.. I never feel alone or lonely. I get out in nature, alone, every free moment I have and ground myself out there and work on my new found passion, landscape photography. it's brought so many incredible blessings into my life 🙏 🙌
29:24 "Every moment you spend consciously alone is an investment in your future connections. Every time you choose self love over neediness, every time you choose growth over comfort you're creating ripples in the quantum field that will return to you as experiences that match your elevated state of being."
Before I got married I was positive, happy and at peace. Now that I’m married I feel like my husband and his negative energy has sucked the life out of me and I no longer know who I am. We’ve been separated for over 2 years and I still feel this way. I want to find my happiness again
the only time I've ever felt alone, lonely or truly, deeply unhappy was when I was married. I lasted 3.5yrs of the most painful emptiness ever. divorced in 2014 and have been extremely happily single and living the most incredible life for the past 10yrs. pure happiness, peace and haven't felt lonely or alone 1 day. I found myself, my joy again 😁🥰🙏 you'll find yourself again. never give up on yourself. get out in nature and allow her to help you find yourself again. she'll help guide you .. 🙏😊
I understand. Once in the marriage, I realized I was becoming like him. I wasn't like my old self anymore. Somehow, when innocent people are harmed by evil, it changes them. I hope you are able to return to your good natural self.
same here , almost 1 year ago I bought and moved into my home. enjoying solitude after work hours. spending and saving as much as I want and eating wherever whatever I like absolute freedom and joy
Me too! Bought a house. Been divorced since 2016 after a twenty six year marriage. He divorced me to marry a woman he met. He married her three months after he divorced me. I homeschooled our four children. Went back to school and got my degree. Got the job I wanted. Closed on a house December 13th.! I’m thankful. Stayed alone getting to know myself. If someone comes along, great. If someone doesn’t come along, that’s fine too.
"Waiting decades or take years" are also limiting beliefs. Time is so relative. I believe coherence will take us to the right path. If I keep accepting things in my life I know I don't want to or just sit to wait for the right person to come, the signal I'm sending is "waiting" or "I want more of this that I'm accepting now", so the cycle will keep repeating itself. But if I am clear enough about what I want and what I don't want, I am coherent with that, and I just enjoy myself and focus on becoming that same person I would like to attract, the quantum field will get it sooner...
Doing my inner work 2 years single and honestly that trauma bond is addictive but gladly im slowly recovering and better now but still have things to relearn.
speaking as a long time semi-hermit, contemplative who has lived alone for years but within a village of sorts with neighbors, I really enjoyed this video. It is very confirming of my experience living alone--the richness of solitude, communing with self and nature around me. But true also is that we are wired for connection, to give and receive love with other beings, to touch, hold, care for. Yes there's a world of difference between grasping in desperation and coming together in peace and quietude. I've been building a more whole sense of self all these years and now I feel it's important to step out of my comfort zone and commune with others too. Love comes in oh so many forms, not just the romantic man woman model.
I genuinely believe god brought me across this absolute gem of a video at the right time in my life🙏🙏🙏🙏.....i can not thank you enough for creating this ❤❤
I did this already while in a dysfunctional marriage, and so coming out of that marriage now I am already there. I bet my wife sensed the new neurals during the last two years of this. Not reacting to her bad behaviour and gasligthing other than with kindness and interest and respect for her as the mother of our son. Point being, you do not have to wait for being single. When you know, the relationship you are in, is not something that will last and not serving you or your spouse, then work on disconnecting emotionally, listen to this video a few times, start changing. And as said, forget about those dating apps. Some one wise said, if you are constantly looking for the perfect partner you will find nothing. It will happen, suddenly, provided a bit of luck of course, once your are self contained and comfortable being alone baing you. You also engage differently with potential partners, you see more, you see their wants, needs and desires, now not overshadowed by your own reliving of your past experiences. Thanks for this video. It should have millions of views
I wholeheartedly agree it’s better to be alone until the right person comes along than to be with someone just because and it ends up being a toxic relationship.
It’s a trauma bond when you cannot detach from a toxic situation because you’re addicted to a chemical cocktail that’s not healthy but with a year of work with CPTSD & no dating or contact with the ex partner then you can heal. We usually look for a parent in a partner so any relationship with yourself is better than repeating past patterns. Calm is normal & until we can achieve inner peace we cannot have an intimate friendship
Thanks, Carole. I ‘think’ I can go shoulder to shoulder with you on this…. or rather on the significance and/or the importance of learning this invaluable life lesson. Good for YOU! It (your comment) is a very subtle but poignant reminder…. or rather reinforcement of the notion that good judgment comes from experience, which invariably comes from BAD judgment. Thank goodness it’s now how we start, but how we finish….. and it sounds & feels to me like neither one of us is close to being done. Happy holidays! XOXO Andrew
You have enlightened on the way as I see from your comment. I have the same view but struggle about CPSTD. Can you share the healing path that took a year for you. I found Tim fletcher about reperanting. Was it the same thing you are talking about?
I’m finally out of an emotionally abusive relationship. It’s mixed feelings, but generally it’s relief and happiness. I hope everyone has the opportunity to get out of bad relationships. It’s WORTH IT
I am a married women of 7 years and been with my husband for 13years, The problem is, I absolutely love being alone, I am so addictive to it I am constantly trying to put effort into my relationship otherwise I am so boring and I don't want to do anything. I love my own company to much, if I had the choice I would never leave the house and be so happy with that.
God I needed this. I’m with a guy that we both decided to not start our relationship due to both of us being codependent and having relationships trauma and we want to start a romantic relationship when a both have learn to be okay with being alone first and are our best self’s. We are the best of friends. But hearing this solidified that I’m doing the right thing !! 222 when I found this video ❤ thank you for sharing
I need to thank you. This resonates completely with me, I am living this (using my own being very present and in deep gratitude to my living alone). What you say is true, I am experiencing this, and it is immensely beautiful and life changing, innerchanging. I have never been more content and joyful. You have a very beautiful and compassionate way in explaining this. I'm finally in love with my life 🤍
I love this and I do practice this on a daily basis and it has truly changed my life. I love my own company and my only concern is loving myself too much 😂 jk but I def don't look for validation from others any longer. When I do seek some companionship that person seems to just appear. Namaste 🙏🏽💚
After my breakup with a narcissist, I was kind of forced to take a step back and look at what’s wrong inside myself to go along myself to get bent and twisted by another person’s control. I feel more complete and self sufficient than ever, and wasn’t just commenting to give myself a pat on the back, but you emphasising “vibration” blows my mind - I just had such a beautiful girl jump to sit next to me at a party, with the explanation of my “vibrations” attracting her. She was drunk, I admit, but I’m not that attractive and she was entranced by how my vibrations tell her I’m the sweetest/nicest guy. I just cannot tell you the level of understanding I have, after seeing this in practice and was dumfounded by the “vibrations” being perceived - I feel like I was truely seen for one the first times in my life.
This resonates so powerfully! Feeling true wholeness and gratitude every day in your own space are key. And, accepting solitude as a chance for growth and transformation to your best self is vital. It allows you to reprogram your mind and purge old cravings and feelings of lacking to make way for new frequencies to transmit to the quantum field of energy and limitless possibilities. Thank you, Joe!! Immensely grateful 🙏🏼
I am 44 now, never been married and to be honest, your situation is my biggest nightmare. I would love to find an equal partner, settle down, have each others back at all times; it just doesn't happen. 😔 I wish you all a merry Xmas.
"Dr. Joe, this segment resonates deeply with my personal journey. Your insights about shifting from being a victim of our circumstances to becoming the creator of our lives beautifully encapsulate the transformation I’ve been undergoing. Learning to release the familiar yet limiting emotional patterns of the past and stepping into a new version of myself has been both challenging and liberating. I’m currently writing a transformational memoir, sharing my journey of overcoming childhood trauma and finding resilience, purpose, and joy. Your work has provided me with invaluable tools and perspectives that have not only guided my own healing but also inspired me to help others recognize their potential to flourish. This message is a powerful reminder that our greatest challenges can indeed become the gateway to our highest potential. Grateful for the clarity and empowerment your teachings bring, as they continue to illuminate my path and the stories I’m sharing."
This video might be one of best things I’ve watched in a long time. I feel like it changed my mindset completely after watching it and thinking deeply about everything that was said. Really amazing, thank you
Listen to lyrics in songs -hilarious how much power we were conditioned to give others. It’s fun to feel whole but it takes work to go through the withdrawal & grow new programs of self approval. It’s just replacing old programs w what u want takes a lot of repetition.
Acceptance of self and acceptance of the other in their space for who and what they are. We become greater through the shared reality because of the inner completeness we hold as individuals. Thank you for the motivational talk. The inner work and completeness also allows a greater self to emerge and to be with others. Through interactions I continue to grow and learn as well thus continue to evolve.
Though Joe isn't talking about that..he is talking about addiction to filling a hole...I know people who have such good relationships...people who don't ..people happy to be single..people who aren't.. this is about having an actual relationship with ourselves ❤
@@mariawilson1959 So true! Also, we cannot have that mentality because if we thought that then that’s what we would ultimately attract. We have to be true to ourselves first and then it will come to us.
It’s best to have no expectations but you can state what makes you feel peaceful. The key is respecting each other’s boundaries and using peace and love as your leading force. Most people don’t have the patience to wait for the mature person who knows themselves especially if you want children. However, if you honor your vows, then you can grow together and hopefully be happy
seeing the quantum field as a source of unlimited potential and having authentic gratitude and trust for that source knowing that you are a part of that source loved unconditionally and unimaginably will bring true serenity practice faith trust we got this!
I felt this way after being alone for a couple of months and I let my ex back in and it was extremely toxic, I am looking forward to getting the peace back and rewiring my thought process
Loved this! I’m going to listen to this often. I was listening along and realizing that I already do these things but I suppress my growth by yearning for the signature of my old neuro pathways. Yes some things felt right but the heart and intuition weren’t in sync. We can only tell the difference until we’re alone and emotionally independent.
I'm a licensed therapist, talking this talk for decades. I have one son, never been married, and love being single. Another therapist once asked me why I want to be single and not date. I thought for a moment and told her I didn't want to accommodate another person, I want to do what I want to do when I want to do it. She was shocked and actually told me I was being selfish. 😂
Wow. This is explaining a lot of things I've felt confused about for years. I noticed i seemed to be repelling people but couldn't figure out why. I knew it was something to do with vibes but didn't know how to change it. I have been in a state of fear and lack for years, not just about relationships but about everything, and was feeling increasingly hopeless and powerless about it. I love how he is explaining things clearly and giving tools in how to change for the better, this has filled in several key gaps in my understanding.
I am so thankful that I divorced the vampire years ago and I am so happy that I have finally peeled the leech boyfriend off me! Better days ahead and I am so excited. No more repeating the past, my desire for a specific kind of love has disappeared... now i am going to Love myself for change.
thank you, this was absolutely amazing from start to finish. I am listening to this several times a week as a reminder but also because there is so much valuable information.
This is not something we have learned from society. It is our inner nature to interact with others, to love, to be loved and to reproduce. Anything that goes against our nature creates conflict within us and drives us to insanity.
not all of us ... we are not all the same. society is wrong. doing it wrong. they are truly unhappy being whole within yourself and meeting all your own needs is the key to true happiness, freedom and peace. not relying upon others for validation, attention, love or affection. it will always leave you wanting more .. bc YOU aren't meeting your own needs. you're abandoning yourself for others
Yeah, I have to say, while the sentiment of being comfortable with your own company is important, it's flat-out wrong to suggest that humans are innately independent by nature, and that we simply learn to need others. We are literally wired to make bonds with others and to reject isolation. It's not about a lack of "inner strength" if you feel lonely.
Although I agree some people truly desire to opt out of romantic relationships. They usually get fulfillment from family, friends, and community. Some people, like my father, die without finding the right partner 😢
Ich bekomme alles was ich will ❤ Ich bin toll, ich bin gut genug wie ich bin, ich bin ein wunderbarer Mensch ❤ Ich fokussiere mich auf mich selbst, ich liebe Journaling, Meditation und Spaziergang. Ich bin Stolz was ich tolles für mich tue. Alles ist genauso richtig wie es ist. Ich bin extrem Stolz auf mich wie toll ich auf meine Gesundheit schaue und wie unabhängig ich schon geworden bin. Ich liebe es Zeit alleine zu verbringen einfach egal wann das Hobbys tun zu können was ich liebe ❤ Ich bin liebevoll und gut genug ❤ Ich bin ein starker und attraktiver Mensch❤ Ich strahle Selbstbewusstsein aus. Ich bin wunderbar ❤ Ich bin gut genug, alles darf heilen uns bekommt die Zeit vollständig zu heilen, Pausen sind wichtig, ich bin Stolz mir diese zu nehmen ❤
Am happily single and live alone at 51. I have wonderful friends, family and a job I love. I spend my time off of work making art, learning new things. I'm complete as I am.
I am happy in my own company thank you..😂 Im jusy about 60 years old ! Im going stay that way ! The law favours the woman I'm not going through that hell again ! Im thankful to have survived the stressful BS ..😅
So true. After my divorce I just wanted to heal and be with my kids. People around me nagged me to go out. I went about it the wrong way. Wasted my time, lower my standards and broke my own heart repeatedly. Never again. Self, heal thyself ❤
Exactly. I’ve been single for a looong time after 14 years in a wrong relationship. I will never be with a person again just to have someone. I love being alone. I thrive alone. Me yes if I met him it’s gonna be bc we feel that way both. If not I will keep on the path (w or w out him) on my spiritual exspamtion. It’s the most important for me.
A great listening in where I am at in growth expansion as a solitude being able to advance forward The morning in the moment time for deep meditation laying down is more suitable than the sitting up straight method suits about an hour Timely for this site
Given my past relationship experiences and the people I meet when I try to date, I’m completely fine dating myself. Everyone else sucks. I’m the best partner ill ever have
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"Without solitude, no great work is achieved."
~Pablo Picasso
A Scorpio lmao
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4:10 wow…❤this truth.
This video is so true! My husband passed away 5 years ago. It was hard not missing him but within the last 5 years I’ve learned more about myself. I found myself again. I like myself. I’m hiking and traveling more and even writing and meeting new people. In the pass I didn’t like cooking. Now I’m cooking more and I love it! I’m totally complete alone not because I have to be but because right now I want to be!🦋 Being alone is not lonely!🦋
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My husband passed away five years ago as well. I love this and have been working on these things as well ❤
Please invite us over for dinner... or save us some leftovers. oxoxoxoxox
Lost my wife 7 months ago ... struggling. But looking forward to finding my new me. 🙂
Wow you moved on from your husband that fast
"Seek nothing outside of yourself."
~Musashi Miyamoto
The right person aligns with your values and supports your goals and dreams. They don’t crazy make.
In a world of noise, solitude become a sanctuary ✊
When I was younger, my then girlfriend broke up with me. This really devastated me as I loved her so much. Because I couldn't be alone, I jumped into the first relationship I could. This landed my now ex-wife. Because I didn't take the time to heal from that break-up, I blindly landed in a 15 year marriage that was the worse decision of my life. The woman i married was the wrong one. This is what happens when you are emotionally impulsive. Had I taken time to heal, to think, to be, I bet I would have made more conscious decisions that would've been better for me.
We can never make the right decisions all the time. Life is 80% chance and the rest depends on how you handle it. We don't even know what will happen in our lives in the next few hours. No matter how long you work and improve yourself, the possibility of meeting the wrong person is always there. Live your life without regrets.
"This is what happens when we are emotionally impulsive." This is so true!
I totally agree!
Thank you for that!
Вам, как и всем людям - предстоит научиться видеть больше плюсов в человеке, чем минусов, хотя бы осознавая, что минусы и плюсы у каждого человека кардинально отличаются, но тем не менее предстоит определиться с плюсами, которые синергичны с вашими плюсами, а минусы остается принять как данность и обращать внимание в отношениях больше на плюсы. Это и есть умение строительства отношений, а не их разрушение.
“Complete and whole by myself.” 👑❤️🔥🔥🙏🏽
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Neediness and emotional attachment to others are inherited. I inherited this from my mom and grandma. At 50 years old, I am rewiring my brain and finally feel happier than ever before.
Yes feel the same way I felt awful when I got divorced and had had no children oh the letdown now next month will be turning 56 been living alone and without a partner for past two years. I have achieved so much more on my own than with previous relationships. Peace and blessings to us all. Thought being alone was some type of failure but better being alone than with the wrong person
Deep
25 yrs single . I’m not chasing relationship. Most people disappoint unless they are just friends. I wish I was in a relationship but haven’t found anyone untested. So I’ve become comfortable and joyful by myself. Seeking God brings peace to me.
Me exactly.
Amen. Only 1 person I can rely on in my life 100%: me! Happy. No bullshit or drama. If someone comes along great, it not then great too!
Same for me Good luck and namaste to you all 🌻
I have been single for 12 years after my partner at that time died from a heart attack and I am very happy. I don't wish to be in another relationship unless someone exceptional comes along. I have never looked for anyone in the past they have just come along.
I’m 13 years single! I un-wired myself years ago…I’m more creative, more rested, happier and never drained by someone else’s bad mood or things they want that I don’t want! I’ve grown and I’m in total bliss by myself! I love spending time with my kids, parents, grandsons and people I love 💕
The longer I'm alone, the more I love the solitude. I don't want another relationship. I'm retired from that nonsense now. I'm not in the process of attracting. I actively go out of my way to avoid relationships. Being alone is the best thing that's ever happened to me. Xxx
Me too
me too!! 10yrs single since my divorce. 5yrs zero contact with the opposite sex in anyway. best decision of my life!! 🙏 others don't get me. they try to get me to date, they project their loneliness on me.. I never feel alone or lonely. I get out in nature, alone, every free moment I have and ground myself out there and work on my new found passion, landscape photography. it's brought so many incredible blessings into my life 🙏 🙌
@@layneallysonWOW!! How were you able to go no contact with the opposite sex?
Same ❤
Im feeling so
29:24 "Every moment you spend consciously alone is an investment in your future connections. Every time you choose self love over neediness, every time you choose growth over comfort you're creating ripples in the quantum field that will return to you as experiences that match your elevated state of being."
Have one bad relationship, and you realize that it's not bad being alone. I'm glad I left as early as I did.
THERE ISN'T A "RIGHT" PERSON.
Its just about how much are you willing to put up with.
So very true!
Fact!
Before I got married I was positive, happy and at peace. Now that I’m married I feel like my husband and his negative energy has sucked the life out of me and I no longer know who I am. We’ve been separated for over 2 years and I still feel this way. I want to find my happiness again
the only time I've ever felt alone, lonely or truly, deeply unhappy was when I was married. I lasted 3.5yrs of the most painful emptiness ever. divorced in 2014 and have been extremely happily single and living the most incredible life for the past 10yrs. pure happiness, peace and haven't felt lonely or alone 1 day. I found myself, my joy again 😁🥰🙏
you'll find yourself again. never give up on yourself. get out in nature and allow her to help you find yourself again. she'll help guide you .. 🙏😊
I understand. Once in the marriage, I realized I was becoming like him. I wasn't like my old self anymore. Somehow, when innocent people are harmed by evil, it changes them. I hope you are able to return to your good natural self.
I've been there! This man is right......see yourself new. Feel yourself alive again. I felt I was dying with my spouse. I understand.
Get a divorce.
Divorce him to sever him completely. Seek help and live your life.
I just bought a home and live by myself. It’s the best thing ever. If someone comes along and makes me happier great if not great.
same here , almost 1 year ago I bought and moved into my home. enjoying solitude after work hours. spending and saving as much as I want and eating wherever whatever I like absolute freedom and joy
Me too! Bought a house. Been divorced since 2016 after a twenty six year marriage. He divorced me to marry a woman he met. He married her three months after he divorced me. I homeschooled our four children. Went back to school and got my degree. Got the job I wanted. Closed on a house December 13th.! I’m thankful. Stayed alone getting to know myself. If someone comes along, great. If someone doesn’t come along, that’s fine too.
"Waiting decades or take years" are also limiting beliefs. Time is so relative. I believe coherence will take us to the right path. If I keep accepting things in my life I know I don't want to or just sit to wait for the right person to come, the signal I'm sending is "waiting" or "I want more of this that I'm accepting now", so the cycle will keep repeating itself. But if I am clear enough about what I want and what I don't want, I am coherent with that, and I just enjoy myself and focus on becoming that same person I would like to attract, the quantum field will get it sooner...
Doing my inner work 2 years single and honestly that trauma bond is addictive but gladly im slowly recovering and better now but still have things to relearn.
Me too 😊 upward and onwards
Blessings to you on your healing journey ❤️
speaking as a long time semi-hermit, contemplative who has lived alone for years but within a village of sorts with neighbors, I really enjoyed this video. It is very confirming of my experience living alone--the richness of solitude, communing with self and nature around me. But true also is that we are wired for connection, to give and receive love with other beings, to touch, hold, care for. Yes there's a world of difference between grasping in desperation and coming together in peace and quietude. I've been building a more whole sense of self all these years and now I feel it's important to step out of my comfort zone and commune with others too. Love comes in oh so many forms, not just the romantic man woman model.
I genuinely believe god brought me across this absolute gem of a video at the right time in my life🙏🙏🙏🙏.....i can not thank you enough for creating this ❤❤
I did this already while in a dysfunctional marriage, and so coming out of that marriage now I am already there. I bet my wife sensed the new neurals during the last two years of this. Not reacting to her bad behaviour and gasligthing other than with kindness and interest and respect for her as the mother of our son. Point being, you do not have to wait for being single. When you know, the relationship you are in, is not something that will last and not serving you or your spouse, then work on disconnecting emotionally, listen to this video a few times, start changing. And as said, forget about those dating apps. Some one wise said, if you are constantly looking for the perfect partner you will find nothing. It will happen, suddenly, provided a bit of luck of course, once your are self contained and comfortable being alone baing you. You also engage differently with potential partners, you see more, you see their wants, needs and desires, now not overshadowed by your own reliving of your past experiences. Thanks for this video. It should have millions of views
I feel like my wife does the same. But I use to try to find out why.
I wholeheartedly agree it’s better to be alone until the right person comes along than to be with someone just because and it ends up being a toxic relationship.
It’s a trauma bond when you cannot detach from a toxic situation because you’re addicted to a chemical cocktail that’s not healthy but with a year of work with CPTSD & no dating or contact with the ex partner then you can heal. We usually look for a parent in a partner so any relationship with yourself is better than repeating past patterns. Calm is normal & until we can achieve inner peace we cannot have an intimate friendship
I can't agree with you more!
Thanks, Carole. I ‘think’ I can go shoulder to shoulder with you on this…. or rather on the significance and/or the importance of learning this invaluable life lesson. Good for YOU! It (your comment) is a very subtle but poignant reminder…. or rather reinforcement of the notion that good judgment comes from experience, which invariably comes from BAD judgment. Thank goodness it’s now how we start, but how we finish….. and it sounds & feels to me like neither one of us is close to being done. Happy holidays! XOXO Andrew
You have enlightened on the way as I see from your comment. I have the same view but struggle about CPSTD. Can you share the healing path that took a year for you. I found Tim fletcher about reperanting. Was it the same thing you are talking about?
Oh no what if you share children with them
I’m finally out of an emotionally abusive relationship. It’s mixed feelings, but generally it’s relief and happiness. I hope everyone has the opportunity to get out of bad relationships. It’s WORTH IT
I am a married women of 7 years and been with my husband for 13years, The problem is, I absolutely love being alone, I am so addictive to it I am constantly trying to put effort into my relationship otherwise I am so boring and I don't want to do anything.
I love my own company to much, if I had the choice I would never leave the house and be so happy with that.
God I needed this. I’m with a guy that we both decided to not start our relationship due to both of us being codependent and having relationships trauma and we want to start a romantic relationship when a both have learn to be okay with being alone first and are our best self’s. We are the best of friends. But hearing this solidified that I’m doing the right thing !! 222 when I found this video ❤ thank you for sharing
I need to thank you.
This resonates completely with me, I am living this (using my own being very present and in deep gratitude to my living alone).
What you say is true, I am experiencing this, and it is immensely beautiful and life changing, innerchanging.
I have never been more content and joyful.
You have a very beautiful and compassionate way in explaining this.
I'm finally in love with my life 🤍
I’m not alone, i’m by myself!
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28:00 new neuro pathways
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I love this and I do practice this on a daily basis and it has truly changed my life. I love my own company and my only concern is loving myself too much 😂 jk but I def don't look for validation from others any longer. When I do seek some companionship that person seems to just appear. Namaste 🙏🏽💚
Some, if not most, of friendships and love relationships have an expiration date.
After my breakup with a narcissist, I was kind of forced to take a step back and look at what’s wrong inside myself to go along myself to get bent and twisted by another person’s control.
I feel more complete and self sufficient than ever, and wasn’t just commenting to give myself a pat on the back, but you emphasising “vibration” blows my mind - I just had such a beautiful girl jump to sit next to me at a party, with the explanation of my “vibrations” attracting her. She was drunk, I admit, but I’m not that attractive and she was entranced by how my vibrations tell her I’m the sweetest/nicest guy. I just cannot tell you the level of understanding I have, after seeing this in practice and was dumfounded by the “vibrations” being perceived - I feel like I was truely seen for one the first times in my life.
This resonates so powerfully! Feeling true wholeness and gratitude every day in your own space are key. And, accepting solitude as a chance for growth and transformation to your best self is vital. It allows you to reprogram your mind and purge old cravings and feelings of lacking to make way for new frequencies to transmit to the quantum field of energy and limitless possibilities. Thank you, Joe!! Immensely grateful 🙏🏼
I couldn't have found this video at a more needed time in my life. Thank you
I pray that you find your peace, love, and respect for you. You are on your way to your past peace!!
Thank God, This I do know for sure.
This video was worth 1 million bucks to me. I don’t have it but it’s still worth it. Thank you very much. This is exactly what I needed to hear 😊
Joe sure "dispenzes" the good advice! 😬
73, never married. Learning to accept and embrace being single forever is a challenge.
You are so rare ❤
I am 44 now, never been married and to be honest, your situation is my biggest nightmare. I would love to find an equal partner, settle down, have each others back at all times; it just doesn't happen. 😔 I wish you all a merry Xmas.
Bravo, you chose a lifetime of peace & freedom- I’ve arrived finally at 72 thru a lot of pain!
@gabriellafabri i hope to find someone like you😊
@@DCAalltheway2025-2 thank you very much, very kind of you 🙏😘
I think this video told me everything that I need to know. Thank you!!
"Dr. Joe, this segment resonates deeply with my personal journey. Your insights about shifting from being a victim of our circumstances to becoming the creator of our lives beautifully encapsulate the transformation I’ve been undergoing. Learning to release the familiar yet limiting emotional patterns of the past and stepping into a new version of myself has been both challenging and liberating.
I’m currently writing a transformational memoir, sharing my journey of overcoming childhood trauma and finding resilience, purpose, and joy. Your work has provided me with invaluable tools and perspectives that have not only guided my own healing but also inspired me to help others recognize their potential to flourish.
This message is a powerful reminder that our greatest challenges can indeed become the gateway to our highest potential. Grateful for the clarity and empowerment your teachings bring, as they continue to illuminate my path and the stories I’m sharing."
This video might be one of best things I’ve watched in a long time. I feel like it changed my mindset completely after watching it and
thinking deeply about everything that was said. Really amazing, thank you
Video was much needed recently. 2 years post divorce and the freedom of being single is an opportunity.
Listen to lyrics in songs -hilarious how much power we were conditioned to give others. It’s fun to feel whole but it takes work to go through the withdrawal & grow new programs of self approval. It’s just replacing old programs w what u want takes a lot of repetition.
Fia .... I am ❤ love that song
Acceptance of self and acceptance of the other in their space for who and what they are. We become greater through the shared reality because of the inner completeness we hold as individuals. Thank you for the motivational talk. The inner work and completeness also allows a greater self to emerge and to be with others. Through interactions I continue to grow and learn as well thus continue to evolve.
I so loved listening to this!!
Is there a right person? No one can can meet all of someone else's expectations. Most relationships are full of bitterness and friction.
Affinity
Though Joe isn't talking about that..he is talking about addiction to filling a hole...I know people who have such good relationships...people who don't ..people happy to be single..people who aren't.. this is about having an actual relationship with ourselves ❤
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So true! Also, we cannot have that mentality because if we thought that then that’s what we would ultimately attract. We have to be true to ourselves first and then it will come to us.
It’s best to have no expectations but you can state what makes you feel peaceful. The key is respecting each other’s boundaries and using peace and love as your leading force. Most people don’t have the patience to wait for the mature person who knows themselves especially if you want children. However, if you honor your vows, then you can grow together and hopefully be happy
Truly profound 🙏
I believe it comes with friendships too and everything else in life
seeing the quantum field as a source of unlimited potential and having authentic gratitude and trust for that source knowing that you are a part of that source loved unconditionally and unimaginably will bring true serenity practice faith trust we got this!
I felt this way after being alone for a couple of months and I let my ex back in and it was extremely toxic, I am looking forward to getting the peace back and rewiring my thought process
WOW ..thank you!
This is such awesome content! Thank you!! ❤❤
Loved this! I’m going to listen to this often. I was listening along and realizing that I already do these things but I suppress my growth by yearning for the signature of my old neuro pathways. Yes some things felt right but the heart and intuition weren’t in sync. We can only tell the difference until we’re alone and emotionally independent.
I pick up a book, look for new recipes, new hobbies, go do some cooking or gardening pending weather.
I'm a licensed therapist, talking this talk for decades. I have one son, never been married, and love being single. Another therapist once asked me why I want to be single and not date. I thought for a moment and told her I didn't want to accommodate another person, I want to do what I want to do when I want to do it. She was shocked and actually told me I was being selfish. 😂
Thank you! Powerful
This is amazing ❤ Thanks for sharing.
Wow. This is explaining a lot of things I've felt confused about for years. I noticed i seemed to be repelling people but couldn't figure out why. I knew it was something to do with vibes but didn't know how to change it. I have been in a state of fear and lack for years, not just about relationships but about everything, and was feeling increasingly hopeless and powerless about it. I love how he is explaining things clearly and giving tools in how to change for the better, this has filled in several key gaps in my understanding.
I am so thankful that I divorced the vampire years ago and I am so happy that I have finally peeled the leech boyfriend off me! Better days ahead and I am so excited. No more repeating the past, my desire for a specific kind of love has disappeared... now i am going to Love myself for change.
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Thank you - Thank you and thank you so much for this!
I am in awe that this message found me at a time i really needed this!!!
The guru of the Americas. Thanks for validating my loneliness and emptiness life.
Flowers never chase bees
Love this
Not enough on my own, us not the same as the natural need for another human being!
thank you, this was absolutely amazing from start to finish. I am listening to this several times a week as a reminder but also because there is so much valuable information.
This is not something we have learned from society. It is our inner nature to interact with others, to love, to be loved and to reproduce. Anything that goes against our nature creates conflict within us and drives us to insanity.
not all of us ... we are not all the same. society is wrong. doing it wrong. they are truly unhappy
being whole within yourself and meeting all your own needs is the key to true happiness, freedom and peace. not relying upon others for validation, attention, love or affection. it will always leave you wanting more .. bc YOU aren't meeting your own needs. you're abandoning yourself for others
Yeah, I have to say, while the sentiment of being comfortable with your own company is important, it's flat-out wrong to suggest that humans are innately independent by nature, and that we simply learn to need others. We are literally wired to make bonds with others and to reject isolation. It's not about a lack of "inner strength" if you feel lonely.
Although I agree some people truly desire to opt out of romantic relationships. They usually get fulfillment from family, friends, and community. Some people, like my father, die without finding the right partner 😢
Ich bekomme alles was ich will ❤
Ich bin toll, ich bin gut genug wie ich bin, ich bin ein wunderbarer Mensch ❤ Ich fokussiere mich auf mich selbst, ich liebe Journaling, Meditation und Spaziergang. Ich bin Stolz was ich tolles für mich tue. Alles ist genauso richtig wie es ist. Ich bin extrem Stolz auf mich wie toll ich auf meine Gesundheit schaue und wie unabhängig ich schon geworden bin. Ich liebe es Zeit alleine zu verbringen einfach egal wann das Hobbys tun zu können was ich liebe ❤
Ich bin liebevoll und gut genug ❤
Ich bin ein starker und attraktiver Mensch❤
Ich strahle Selbstbewusstsein aus. Ich bin wunderbar ❤
Ich bin gut genug, alles darf heilen uns bekommt die Zeit vollständig zu heilen, Pausen sind wichtig, ich bin Stolz mir diese zu nehmen ❤
This makes sense. 😮
This was absolutely wonderful ❤
Am happily single and live alone at 51. I have wonderful friends, family and a job I love. I spend my time off of work making art, learning new things. I'm complete as I am.
Filme schauen, einfach schauen was einem gut tut und ein guter Ausgleich zwischen Entspannung und Aktion zu finden ❤
I am truly grateful 🙏 thank you
I am happy in my own company thank you..😂
Im jusy about 60 years old ! Im going stay that way ! The law favours the woman I'm not going through that hell again ! Im thankful to have survived the stressful BS ..😅
Thank you
I do not feel incomplete.
I will find another who adores me and I them.
It will happen.
Well said.
There’s something for everyone on the darn Internet I’m running a bunch of these videos saying being alone for 50 years is fantastic😂
Thanks
This is so true ❤
Thank you!🙏🤍
Great video, is there a morning meditation to go with this?
you are awesome my dude
19:54 time is where the magic happens. The instructions on how to reconnect with youself
So true. After my divorce I just wanted to heal and be with my kids. People around me nagged me to go out. I went about it the wrong way. Wasted my time, lower my standards and broke my own heart repeatedly. Never again. Self, heal thyself ❤
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Thank you ❤
This is A.I not joe but very well articulated and on point .
Ich gehe auch gerne alleine essen, mache kreative Hobbys oder gehe schwimmen, spazieren, mache Sport, alleine Hobbys zu machen ist toll ❤😍
The ‘wrong’ person can be just what you need
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Exactly. I’ve been single for a looong time after 14 years in a wrong relationship. I will never be with a person again just to have someone. I love being alone. I thrive alone. Me yes if I met him it’s gonna be bc we feel that way both. If not I will keep on the path (w or w out him) on my spiritual exspamtion. It’s the most important for me.
The right person as not shown up. Until then i stay on my own. If i dont find the right person. Thats ok . I like solitude .
It's been almost a year and I still have those cravings. I don't give in but it can take longer then 2-3mo
He is literally speaking to me 😂😂😂❤❤❤
Inspiring thank you 🙏
Wow you better be right because I'm listening and I matter
Solitude I my friend :)
the fact is men need women, more than women need men
Great video!!!!!!!
A great listening in where I am at in growth expansion as a solitude being able to advance forward The morning in the moment time for deep meditation laying down is more suitable than the sitting up straight method suits about an hour Timely for this site
Given my past relationship experiences and the people I meet when I try to date, I’m completely fine dating myself. Everyone else sucks. I’m the best partner ill ever have