I genuinely feel like bpd is a less severe form of did. You dissociate from the problematic aspects of your personality because they’re being chronically invalidated as you’re growing up, and then split into loosely connected fragments. From the lack of a core sense of self, to the dissociation, to the splitting to the mood swings, it just makes so much sense to me. I genuinely feel like different people in different mood states, so much that I sometimes don’t even remember things that happened during them.
@glittergun That’s awesome to hear. I really think someday bpd might be reclassified as a dissociative disorder so it’s interesting to know that some professionals are already making those connections. It’s definitely been interesting for me reframing my own symptoms that way, kind of puts things into a different perspective.
I always describe bpd as being like a click away from did, the main difference being I can remember the other versions of myself as opposed to memory loss, i cant make myself be those other versions of myself but I know they exist and have memories of being them, kinda like remembering a dream that you cant recreate until youre once again asleep
Love this mailbag idea! I can relate to Miss K-- I don't think it's dissociation but when I cut off SOs or friends, it's like waking up from a coma. Like I couldn't believe I was an entire different person to please somebody else. I'd get rid of clothes I had to please abusive ex's and that was so refreshing. Starting from scratch in a good way
I really enjoy this format. Videos explaining BPD in medical terms are very helpful, but it's when I hear those same terms applied to someone's actual situation that they start to really sink in. Thank you, Dr. Fox. :)
I really love the mailbag!! I am 41 and got my diagnos for few years ago. I have been to dbt group. But your videos give me much more learning skills. Thank you Dr fox
Really liked this. Then again, I have never watched a video of yours where I didn't LEARN something. You are a wonderful teacher of the words you write.
I read a couple research papers that examine the co occurrence of Borderline Personality and Dissociative Disorders. What they are beginning to recognize is that there is a rather high incidence of comorbidity of BPD and DID. DID used to be known as multiple personality. I think It is very possible that the person who wrote the letter may, in fact, have Dissociative Identity Disorder as well as Borderline PD. It sounds like it’s a definite possibility with the amnesia also being a symptom she experiences.
You have the most upfull and compassionate approach to this diagnosis I have ever heard and your videos are extremely helpful I've been watching a while thank you
Dr Fox I think what you are doing with your videos is a great example of how the internet can be used for good. So many struggling with bpd are receiving acknowledgement, a sense of not being alone and developing a better understanding and tool set for dealing with bpd. For every person who is struggling with mental illness there are minimum 11 people around who are affected, so your videos are helpful for so many. Your positive attitude and non judgemental way of reaching out and helping people who so need hope is inspiring. Please continue posting videos and know that what you are doing is making such a difference to so many lives 🙏
Great video! Mailbag is a great idea. Recently I was looking for an email address to write a question. I am very glad that the question about memory was asked. I look forward to the video on this topic. Memory in people with BPD is a topic that has been on my mind a lot. It is important to me that Dr. Fox mentioned pathologizing in everyday life as well. As I gained a little more awareness, I began to do this and label myself and my loved ones, and it was easy for me to then lose sight of their worth and what is positive about them and about me. I really respect dr Fox's attitude as psychotherapist.
Hi Doctor Fox you are a one of the best mental health professionals in the world thanks for your work, hey Dr Fox would you like to write a book for mental health professionals?
BEST VIDEO YET! many things addressed that were helpful, particularly insight on Marijuana usage. Thank you so much for addressing and sharing your perception in such a kind way. I can't thank you enough for continuing your videos and being such a positive and encouraging voice. Your workbook and vids continue to make a difference in my life. Thank you, Dr. Fox!! 💚
Mailbag is a great concept! Thank you for doing this. It’s really helpful. Thank you to those who’ve been brave enough asked questions for us all to hear the insight 💚
Can you please do a video about people with BPD and dating in a healthy, safe way. How to stop jumping into relationships that are really only going to be effectively one night stands, or abusive when you're looking for a long term partner.
I love the mail bag idea. It really brings us all together and helps us to gain more insight into our behaviors. Also it makes me feel not so alone in this battle. Thank you Dr.Fox!
Dr. Fox thank you for helping me and all of us who follow you make BPD manageable and understandable. You also with the videos, give us time to watch and re watch and listen. It is true that day by day, with your insightful thoughts and voice we can get better. I really like the mailbag video. But, the format and bites of big information in all your videos ( I think I have watched about 20) are healing and compassionate. I share them with the people in my life who are also coping with this condition because I have it. You are my hero sir and my family’s. Thank you
Thank you. This message was very timely and I greatly appreciated the mailbag segments to gain insight from someone who is working in therapy to gain control of their situations.
There are so many so-called counselors out there who love nothing more than slapping labels on people. She should be ashamed "diagnosing" this girl, especially on a first visit, with multiple labels. Many people would not be able to hold up under the stress of that. I think that labels, in general, are far more unproductive than productive. Many counselors seem to relish calling people out for symptoms that are not the person's fault...why not just tell someone they are having anxiety, whatever, from experiences they've had and that it is NOT a disorder but a normal, human response to trauma?! I can really get on my soap box about this issue, as you can see. P.S. Just heard his statements in the latter part of the video, and it is so refreshing to hear an empathetic point of view on this subject!
I agree with you. I've been accused of having just about every mental disorder and personality disorder in the book. I'm an extremely intelligent, sensitive, empathic and intuitive woman. Part of my journey now is to not even get annoyed anymore at the labels, the misunderstandings, and the stigma. I'm a reader, and I delved deep into the history of psychology and psychiatry. The origins are rooted in Nazis, world war 2,and the idea of Aryan supremacy. Dr. Fox is excellent, and I own his book and I recommend it for everyone who struggles. I've gotten to the point where I can notice when my core content is triggered, and I can begin to try to control it. I cannot wait to get to a higher level of stopping and curing the BPD.
Dr Fox, I’m doing better than when I first wrote a comment to you about 4-1/2 years ago. I’m on Caplyta and Prozac. However, I am still ruminating daily about being abandoned by my mother, (who passed from Covid a year ago in May), and my only two siblings, older sisters. I’m still angry for them basically disappearing on me. One day we’re family, next day they completely cut all contact with me. This happened about 5 years ago, while I was having the worst breakdown ever. They left me when I was clearly very sick and needed them most. I am extremely sorry for being toxic and having said some rotten things to them, but I still can’t stop wanting closure. It drives me. I think about it everyday all day. I journal daily and I write everyday in it: “I wonder if they’re thinking about me, missing me, or nothing at all.” I never get an answer. It honestly is haunting me. What will happen if I never get closure? Will I eventually give up and never have peace? How can I ask them to forgive me and finally tell me why! Why am I still a monster to them when they haven’t seen how much I’ve changed and learned about my BPD? Is not knowing why they abandon me and how could they do that to me going to always be the 500lb weight on my shoulders? I must know why or I’ll never give up? Thank you Sir. You’re the best, kelli
Definitely helpful both because it brings to mind issues that you experience yourself but don't give voice to and because you receive and explanation as to why those issues happen. Thank you, as always, Dr. Fox.
also love the mail bag idea and the video idea lol i have some youtube people who do live Q&A for multiple sclerosis that are nerologist just another thought lol you deff have the understanding down and always speak volumes to me when i watch your videos
I need to fill out application forms for dbt therapy. I'm feeling super anxious about getting treatment and also super overwhelmed with filling out those forms and mailing this to them. 😟 It seems like a simple task but i'm really overwhelmed at the moment.
Dr. Fox is BPD something you have to keep in check constantly? Lately there's times I feel like I don't have it anymore, I started a relationship with someone that makes me feel very secure and stable, I feel like I don't meet the standard for BPD at this moment but then when I get scared that something happened to him or worry about his death or anything that takes him off my life, I feel the emptiness, fear of abandonment and suicidal ideation coming back 10x stronger, I realize now I'm very codependent, is it possible to change our core content or we just learn to manege it? Thanks a lot for your videos 💜
I agree with a lot of what is being said as far as defining oneself and the do's and don't. However I don't believe that these issues should be controlled. I believe they should be unleashed in order to find out who you truly are. Controlling your issues doesn't give you the ability to explore and be yourself. Control is an illusion. I say unapologeticaly be your true self. That may mean burning bridges. Humiliating yourself. Even hating yourself. Losing out on relationships. Turning people off. Things will get really uncomfortable. From my personal experience, I have defined myself by everyone and everything around me, without finding the true me. I had to pull back the layers in order to blossom into my true self. I had enough faith and trust in myself to do so!
Hello Dr. Fox, wondering if you're still accepting questions via email for mailbag videos? I found your channel a few weeks ago and as someone with very severe BPD symptoms, it is gold to me. I appreciate how mindful you are of the language you use and your non-stigmatising approach when talking about BPD, more than you know. Thank you for offering people like me your informed and reliable guidance.
Thank you. This video has brought alot of clarity to some questions in my life Now If I can remember your answers... I could hopefully use your knowledge and change something for the better..
spot on about the weed, ive been a nonstop smoker for 5+ years and im 20 now. its made me a shell but i cant handle myself and the world without it. but the cons most definitely outweigh the pros at this point and i really want to quit, its just the idea of not having a clutch is terrifying
when i was in psychosis, i told a guy that i had to let him in on a secret. that i was not human, and i was an angel. i came down on earth to prove myself to god. that i was jealous of mankind and that i wanted to be gods favorite. i was so genuine that i felt so emotional about it. this guy played along and soon after took me to get reatment in the mental hospital. i genuinely believed thats who i was. prior to that i had told my mother that i was a prophet who was on a mission to pread the light. i the n believed i was the goddess of love that came to save people from hell and i told this to another person.
Can you do audiobooks? I find your content on RUclips very helpful, but I have a short attention span if I'm reading and I'd rather listen to you while I'm doing something.
I began a new relationship and now I'm struggling with my stability. I have done damage by over sharing and now I am afraid I have lost him.... I'm scared and my feelings are so difficult to deal with. I'm trying so hard and I'm doing a fairly good job but its so challenging. Thank you for your help.
Really liked this, thanks for it Dr. Fox :) I was wondering about the depression and Bpd as well. I focused on my depression as a teen and my bpd got worse around 19, I didn't know that was a thing, after some research and finding your channel, I've been working on my bpd for 5 years now, and my depression is getting worse. Is this just a sign that I can start doing both now? Or should I slow down with dbt work? It almost makes me happy to be depressed, because it means all of this is working and the changes I'm making with behavior, thoughts, perspective, are doing something.. this is the weirdest feeling ever, help me lol
Also i would love to know more about you Dr. Fox. When did you start your RUclips channel and why? I dont know how you have time for the RUclips when you have clients? 😊 Hope its okay to ask.
Hello Dr Fox😃. This video was really interesting! I was wondering if Miss K had not by any chance Dissociative Identity Disorder, the pattern of traits she described look more like this disorder than just plain BPD... I have BPD but I don't relate completely to these symptoms. Have a nice day 😃
Question for anyone! Is it hard for someone with BPD to wish a loved one Happy Birthday! who doesn’t want to cut us off and especially now that she feels her 5yr old son benefits from having grandparents and we are thrilled to be involved but the closest I’ve gotten to happy birthday since she was 18 was “So how old are you? Now she’s 26. And her dad turned 60 yesterday and she wouldn’t wish him happy birthday but did send us a video of grandson. huh? We weren’t that bad of parents. She’s never been diagnosed but if I share these videos I probably will be cutoff 😢
Honestly speaking I can't smoke sativa due to my trust issues and panoira. It gets worse, I just think everyone is out to get me. I think that during the day anyway but when I smoke I find facts for it plus my ptsd is worse it brings everything to the front and I've even had a physotic episode where I laughed and cried plus couldn't stop for like 20 mins due to my bpd and had to go inpatient bc it was related to my flashbacks. Yeah I was smoking and just couldn't stop until I didn't wanna feel on edge anymore.
I don't experience dissociative symptoms in the plexiglass way, it's often (for me) like I'm just a floating set of eyes. My voice and sometimes my body seems separate and alien at the worst of it.
Hi I was diagnosed Bpd 3 years ago now and smoked marijuana for a long time I would say do not smoke marijuana this increased my disassociation and decreased my feeling for anything when I wasn't under the influence.
I love you videos so much. I wish I could work with them but my head feels debilitating full on a daily that I cant get out off 😕 Is this what they call depression?
I just saw this video on regulation. Iwas diagnosed with cptsd but bpd overlaps. I definitely have a sense of self but I had a lot of trauma so thawing out trauma and learning how to regulate all the emotions that were frozen in a challenge. I go into flashbacks called the abandonment melage where you spiral into fear abandonment shame and worthlessness. Cptsd gets emptiness lack of trust isolation ideation and really bad self blame. Very confusing diagnosis
@DrDanielFox why are they both the same symptoms lol. Cptsd doesn't trust. Isolation is awful. Do you know Pete walker. I don't think I'm borderline but I'm a ball of trauma trying to navigate the world at 63. Mt life stopped at 14. I had a bad trauma my psyche could not handle. I was broken. Now in trauma therapy for three yrs I'm waking up and learning how to live. A lot of pain and courage
I have not used any substances or encouraged any. Individuals with BPD are at high risk for developing addiction, so I think that it is a very slippery slope.
@@DrDanielFox thanks for answering that. Im curious, do you believe in the polyvagal nerve theory about frozen response in trauma. I think it explains well the maladaptive response to trauma in formation of attachment disorders due do the breakdown in the ability to read social cues and respond appropriately.
I use cannabis daily but it not like I am high for 24 hours so there is plenty of time to do the work. And I have never had a hard time getting off it or any side effects while taking unlike the prescribed drugs.
I do it when I'm already in a good mood, if I'm in an awful mood when sober off the cannabis/delta then I keep myself away from it until I figure out what's going on, once I figure that out, smoking becomes much more rewarding and allows me to have further insight as compared to being more frequently intoxicated
I''ve heard Goths mentioned a few times on these videos that it's becoming concerning. Question, Dr. Fox: Do you know the difference between Goth and Emo? They are COMPLETELY different.
I can’t find the help that I need. I just feel so out of control. Ups downs crying sessions just all mixed up. Nothing is going right I try so hard it’s just not working. I’m in a new city and state I know nobody. The one person I had has not been around for past 5 wks. I’m in a nightmare. It’s just to much.
how do i handle my partners triggered rage. i dont know what to say or do when i am being verbally attacked for no real reason.. its getting bad and i need desperate help (i do not have bpd but my partner is a diagnosed person
vivimos en una sociedad que discrimina a las personas con problemas mentales, poco a poco vamos perdiendo la confianza en las personas y nos vamos alejando de la realidad; he perdido amigos, relaciones, trabajo incluso mi relación con mi familia es un poco difícil; solo pediría que tengamos mas consideración, mas sutileza...si somos mas humanos este mundo fuera diferente.
Are BPD people intrinsically lazy?? My husband of 46 painful, stressful years has become more and more BPD as he got older. Now that he is retired..the "symptoms" have become much, much worse. But he has also become very, very, very "sleepy" and lazy...Bit of a nightmare!!
no one is “intrinsically” anything :\ you should talk to your husband about it and how it makes you feel .. start with asking how he's feeling and go on from there. goodluck !!
I am so concerned for the German political activist Naomi Seibt. She is now in a relationship, and has moved in with a man +20 her senior who seems, stress seems, to be NPD - suddenly this past Christmas. When this happened she spoke of family members trying to harm her and referred to people as angels and demons. This older man has been in her life for at least three years "in the background", meeting, commenting on her live streams, visiting her in Germany from his native England and exchanging gifts and often going to fancy restaurants. They clearly share political views, etc.. Child abuse and health problems are in her past. Naomi is known internationally as the Anti-Greta (Thunberg).
Problem is, a lot of so called ‘conditions’ or disorders are mixed, and the match depends on the Psychologist and the PhD or speciality they come from. BPD is here, whilst it is ADHD over there, it’s Autism Spectrum over here, it’s Bipolar over there, it’s attachment disorder over here, it’s Co-dependency over there, it’s narcissism over here, it’s Peter Pan syndrome over there.
Please cover cults like QAnon, alt right, conspiracy theories & narcissism plus social media. I’ve lost many people by now to this world online & now people are bullying and calling it ‘political debate.’
Dr d.Fox has tremandous insight about bpd. But he seems not te be aware that there are almost no suitable therapist available. I tried numorous times to conrtact him for quidance to help me find a good therapist in my area. It seems more about making money and fame than helping those in need!! That just hurts a lot.
I get over whelmed by the idea of investing money My money is lying dead for years now I don’t have the courage to go and invest it It’s the weirdest thing but it’s true
I like the mail bag dr carter. I asked him to speak with about growth and having u on his podcast maybe he will reach out. Dr carter does a questions episode. Having postive info. Is very nice. I want to hate and u help me to hate a little less
I cannot believe this is free. Thank you, this is really helpful.
I genuinely feel like bpd is a less severe form of did. You dissociate from the problematic aspects of your personality because they’re being chronically invalidated as you’re growing up, and then split into loosely connected fragments. From the lack of a core sense of self, to the dissociation, to the splitting to the mood swings, it just makes so much sense to me. I genuinely feel like different people in different mood states, so much that I sometimes don’t even remember things that happened during them.
@glittergun That’s awesome to hear. I really think someday bpd might be reclassified as a dissociative disorder so it’s interesting to know that some professionals are already making those connections. It’s definitely been interesting for me reframing my own symptoms that way, kind of puts things into a different perspective.
I always describe bpd as being like a click away from did, the main difference being I can remember the other versions of myself as opposed to memory loss, i cant make myself be those other versions of myself but I know they exist and have memories of being them, kinda like remembering a dream that you cant recreate until youre once again asleep
Yes, it seems that way. It seems like BPD from my teens has evolved into DID in my later adult years. It's scary at times.🙁
‘I genuinely feel like different people in different mood states’…so very true!
Love this mailbag idea! I can relate to Miss K-- I don't think it's dissociation but when I cut off SOs or friends, it's like waking up from a coma. Like I couldn't believe I was an entire different person to please somebody else. I'd get rid of clothes I had to please abusive ex's and that was so refreshing. Starting from scratch in a good way
I really enjoy this format. Videos explaining BPD in medical terms are very helpful, but it's when I hear those same terms applied to someone's actual situation that they start to really sink in.
Thank you, Dr. Fox. :)
Yes, mailbag is a good idea. Plus, it alleviates the pressure on you to come up with a video idea.
Oohhh, this one is totally for me. Looking forward to it Dr. Fox.
I’m glad and I hope that you enjoy the video! Be well and stay strong.
I love the mailbag idea \
I really love the mailbag!! I am 41 and got my diagnos for few years ago. I have been to dbt group. But your videos give me much more learning skills. Thank you Dr fox
Really liked this. Then again, I have never watched a video of yours where I didn't LEARN something. You are a wonderful teacher of the words you write.
I read a couple research papers that examine the co occurrence of Borderline Personality and Dissociative Disorders. What they are beginning to recognize is that there is a rather high incidence of comorbidity of BPD and DID. DID used to be known as multiple personality. I think It is very possible that the person who wrote the letter may, in fact, have Dissociative Identity Disorder as well as Borderline PD. It sounds like it’s a definite possibility with the amnesia also being a symptom she experiences.
Thanks for sharing.
You have the most upfull and compassionate approach to this diagnosis I have ever heard and your videos are extremely helpful I've been watching a while thank you
Dr Fox I think what you are doing with your videos is a great example of how the internet can be used for good. So many struggling with bpd are receiving acknowledgement, a sense of not being alone and developing a better understanding and tool set for dealing with bpd. For every person who is struggling with mental illness there are minimum 11 people around who are affected, so your videos are helpful for so many. Your positive attitude and non judgemental way of reaching out and helping people who so need hope is inspiring. Please continue posting videos and know that what you are doing is making such a difference to so many lives 🙏
Great video! Mailbag is a great idea.
Recently I was looking for an email address to write a question. I am very glad that the question about memory was asked. I look forward to the video on this topic. Memory in people with BPD is a topic that has been on my mind a lot.
It is important to me that Dr. Fox mentioned pathologizing in everyday life as well. As I gained a little more awareness, I began to do this and label myself and my loved ones, and it was easy for me to then lose sight of their worth and what is positive about them and about me.
I really respect dr Fox's attitude as psychotherapist.
Yes! Yes! more of that!
Thank you so much for easing the pain and suffering for so many of us.
Yes, please do more.
Hi Doctor Fox you are a one of the best mental health professionals in the world thanks for your work, hey Dr Fox would you like to write a book for mental health professionals?
BEST VIDEO YET! many things addressed that were helpful, particularly insight on Marijuana usage. Thank you so much for addressing and sharing your perception in such a kind way. I can't thank you enough for continuing your videos and being such a positive and encouraging voice. Your workbook and vids continue to make a difference in my life. Thank you, Dr. Fox!! 💚
Mailbag is a great concept! Thank you for doing this. It’s really helpful. Thank you to those who’ve been brave enough asked questions for us all to hear the insight 💚
Can you please do a video about people with BPD and dating in a healthy, safe way. How to stop jumping into relationships that are really only going to be effectively one night stands, or abusive when you're looking for a long term partner.
How does a person stop using sex as a method of self harm?
I love the mail bag idea. It really brings us all together and helps us to gain more insight into our behaviors. Also it makes me feel not so alone in this battle. Thank you Dr.Fox!
Absolutely!!
Thank you very much for sharing this!!!
C-BPD?
I keep working on management of my intense life. 🙏🙂
Dr. Fox thank you for helping me and all of us who follow you make BPD manageable and understandable. You also with the videos, give us time to watch and re watch and listen. It is true that day by day, with your insightful thoughts and voice we can get better. I really like the mailbag video. But, the format and bites of big information in all your videos ( I think I have watched about 20) are healing and compassionate. I share them with the people in my life who are also coping with this condition because I have it. You are my hero sir and my family’s. Thank you
Thank you.
This message was very timely and I greatly appreciated the mailbag segments to gain insight from someone who is working in therapy to gain control of their situations.
There are so many so-called counselors out there who love nothing more than slapping labels on people. She should be ashamed "diagnosing" this girl, especially on a first visit, with multiple labels. Many people would not be able to hold up under the stress of that. I think that labels, in general, are far more unproductive than productive. Many counselors seem to relish calling people out for symptoms that are not the person's fault...why not just tell someone they are having anxiety, whatever, from experiences they've had and that it is NOT a disorder but a normal, human response to trauma?! I can really get on my soap box about this issue, as you can see. P.S. Just heard his statements in the latter part of the video, and it is so refreshing to hear an empathetic point of view on this subject!
I agree with you. I've been accused of having just about every mental disorder and personality disorder in the book. I'm an extremely intelligent, sensitive, empathic and intuitive woman. Part of my journey now is to not even get annoyed anymore at the labels, the misunderstandings, and the stigma.
I'm a reader, and I delved deep into the history of psychology and psychiatry. The origins are rooted in Nazis, world war 2,and the idea of Aryan supremacy. Dr. Fox is excellent, and I own his book and I recommend it for everyone who struggles.
I've gotten to the point where I can notice when my core content is triggered, and I can begin to try to control it. I cannot wait to get to a higher level of stopping and curing the BPD.
Mailbag videos seem great! Thank you Dr Fox for your work, knowledge, support and empathy. Very, very helpful.
Dr Fox, I’m doing better than when I first wrote a comment to you about 4-1/2 years ago. I’m on Caplyta and Prozac. However, I am still ruminating daily about being abandoned by my mother, (who passed from Covid a year ago in May), and my only two siblings, older sisters. I’m still angry for them basically disappearing on me. One day we’re family, next day they completely cut all contact with me. This happened about 5 years ago, while I was having the worst breakdown ever. They left me when I was clearly very sick and needed them most. I am extremely sorry for being toxic and having said some rotten things to them, but I still can’t stop wanting closure. It drives me. I think about it everyday all day. I journal daily and I write everyday in it: “I wonder if they’re thinking about me, missing me, or nothing at all.” I never get an answer. It honestly is haunting me. What will happen if I never get closure? Will I eventually give up and never have peace? How can I ask them to forgive me and finally tell me why! Why am I still a monster to them when they haven’t seen how much I’ve changed and learned about my BPD? Is not knowing why they abandon me and how could they do that to me going to always be the 500lb weight on my shoulders? I must know why or I’ll never give up? Thank you Sir. You’re the best, kelli
Definitely helpful both because it brings to mind issues that you experience yourself but don't give voice to and because you receive and explanation as to why those issues happen. Thank you, as always, Dr. Fox.
Loved the new idea, and how it played out. I appreciated both writers, and a gentle talk about the hazards of numbing out w cannabis. Thanks, Dr Fox!
this is so important to remember, i play this in the background to reassure myself.
thank you for doing this Dr Fox :)
also love the mail bag idea and the video idea lol i have some youtube people who do live Q&A for multiple sclerosis that are nerologist just another thought lol you deff have the understanding down and always speak volumes to me when i watch your videos
Really great to be reminded about core content and surface content. So helpful.
Thank you Dr Fox for your explanation of things. Very clear and straight to the point. I really needed that video today.
you are a lifesaver dr. fox 💓 i just received my bpd workbook in the mail i’m so excited to start looking at it 🤗
I really appreciate the content you make, it has been helpful and I would love to see more mailbox videos.
Hello, I think this video was excellent, so helpful and I also love the style of it. I know it's an older video but a very good one. Thank you! ❤
I need to fill out application forms for dbt therapy. I'm feeling super anxious about getting treatment and also super overwhelmed with filling out those forms and mailing this to them. 😟 It seems like a simple task but i'm really overwhelmed at the moment.
Love this type of video...thank you
thank you for doing these mailbag videos.
Love the mail bag, and found the answer short, as in not overwhelming, and enlightening. more please
Glad you liked some of it. Be well.
I really enjoy this. Mailbag is a great idea! Thank you for all that you do.
Thank you Dr Fox for the video. I think that a video mailbag would be awesome! I’d be down to participate and share first hand.
Dr. Fox is BPD something you have to keep in check constantly? Lately there's times I feel like I don't have it anymore, I started a relationship with someone that makes me feel very secure and stable, I feel like I don't meet the standard for BPD at this moment but then when I get scared that something happened to him or worry about his death or anything that takes him off my life, I feel the emptiness, fear of abandonment and suicidal ideation coming back 10x stronger, I realize now I'm very codependent, is it possible to change our core content or we just learn to manege it? Thanks a lot for your videos 💜
his book gives you a lot of insight, I really do recemmend it.
I agree with a lot of what is being said as far as defining oneself and the do's and don't. However I don't believe that these issues should be controlled. I believe they should be unleashed in order to find out who you truly are. Controlling your issues doesn't give you the ability to explore and be yourself. Control is an illusion. I say unapologeticaly be your true self. That may mean burning bridges. Humiliating yourself. Even hating yourself. Losing out on relationships. Turning people off. Things will get really uncomfortable. From my personal experience, I have defined myself by everyone and everything around me, without finding the true me. I had to pull back the layers in order to blossom into my true self. I had enough faith and trust in myself to do so!
Love the mailbag!!
Love the mailbag idea!
Thank you for this and all your videos ❤ helpful as always
You are so welcome!
Thank you for posting
You're welcome. Be well
Hello Dr. Fox, wondering if you're still accepting questions via email for mailbag videos? I found your channel a few weeks ago and as someone with very severe BPD symptoms, it is gold to me. I appreciate how mindful you are of the language you use and your non-stigmatising approach when talking about BPD, more than you know. Thank you for offering people like me your informed and reliable guidance.
Best to send them via email.
@@DrDanielFox Thank you.
Well, lately my mood swings havE BeEn MaNaGeAbLe, BUT I SUSPECT THAT IS CHANGING!#!!!!!!
Thank you. This video has brought alot of clarity to some questions in my life Now If I can remember your answers... I could hopefully use your knowledge and change something for the better..
Dr Fox,
Could you break down your education for those who are interested in pursuing a similar career path? Thank you!
Me encantó este formato. ¡Muchas gracias! 🤩😍
So helpful!
spot on about the weed, ive been a nonstop smoker for 5+ years and im 20 now. its made me a shell but i cant handle myself and the world without it. but the cons most definitely outweigh the pros at this point and i really want to quit, its just the idea of not having a clutch is terrifying
also currently working away at your book!! youre one of my heros
Late to the party but amazing video. Really thought provoking
when i was in psychosis, i told a guy that i had to let him in on a secret. that i was not human, and i was an angel. i came down on earth to prove myself to god. that i was jealous of mankind and that i wanted to be gods favorite. i was so genuine that i felt so emotional about it. this guy played along and soon after took me to get reatment in the mental hospital. i genuinely believed thats who i was. prior to that i had told my mother that i was a prophet who was on a mission to pread the light. i the n believed i was the goddess of love that came to save people from hell and i told this to another person.
I had to cave in and take meds recently. Amazing how a small dose of valium can bring me back to life.
Can you do audiobooks? I find your content on RUclips very helpful, but I have a short attention span if I'm reading and I'd rather listen to you while I'm doing something.
I began a new relationship and now I'm struggling with my stability. I have done damage by over sharing and now I am afraid I have lost him.... I'm scared and my feelings are so difficult to deal with. I'm trying so hard and I'm doing a fairly good job but its so challenging. Thank you for your help.
Really liked this, thanks for it Dr. Fox :)
I was wondering about the depression and Bpd as well. I focused on my depression as a teen and my bpd got worse around 19, I didn't know that was a thing, after some research and finding your channel, I've been working on my bpd for 5 years now, and my depression is getting worse. Is this just a sign that I can start doing both now? Or should I slow down with dbt work? It almost makes me happy to be depressed, because it means all of this is working and the changes I'm making with behavior, thoughts, perspective, are doing something.. this is the weirdest feeling ever, help me lol
Is dbt dialectical behavioral therapy?
@@milanic7267 yes
Also i would love to know more about you Dr. Fox. When did you start your RUclips channel and why? I dont know how you have time for the RUclips when you have clients? 😊 Hope its okay to ask.
Of course. It’s a long story but thank you for asking.
@@DrDanielFox maybe you can make a Q&A video sometime? 😊 Maybe others will be interested as well. I dont know.
Hello Dr Fox😃. This video was really interesting! I was wondering if Miss K had not by any chance Dissociative Identity Disorder, the pattern of traits she described look more like this disorder than just plain BPD... I have BPD but I don't relate completely to these symptoms. Have a nice day 😃
Question for anyone! Is it hard for someone with BPD to wish a loved one Happy Birthday! who doesn’t want to cut us off and especially now that she feels her 5yr old son benefits from having grandparents and we are thrilled to be involved but the closest I’ve gotten to happy birthday since she was 18 was “So how old are you? Now she’s 26. And her dad turned 60 yesterday and she wouldn’t wish him happy birthday but did send us a video of grandson. huh? We weren’t that bad of parents. She’s never been diagnosed but if I share these videos I probably will be cutoff 😢
Honestly speaking I can't smoke sativa due to my trust issues and panoira. It gets worse, I just think everyone is out to get me. I think that during the day anyway but when I smoke I find facts for it plus my ptsd is worse it brings everything to the front and I've even had a physotic episode where I laughed and cried plus couldn't stop for like 20 mins due to my bpd and had to go inpatient bc it was related to my flashbacks. Yeah I was smoking and just couldn't stop until I didn't wanna feel on edge anymore.
Oh damn, I also have BPD-traits and DPD-traits. Thanks
I have this exact issue. Fear of ending up alone and unable to take care of myself.
Good afternoon everyone 😊 ☺️
I don't experience dissociative symptoms in the plexiglass way, it's often (for me) like I'm just a floating set of eyes. My voice and sometimes my body seems separate and alien at the worst of it.
Hi I was diagnosed Bpd 3 years ago now and smoked marijuana for a long time I would say do not smoke marijuana this increased my disassociation and decreased my feeling for anything when I wasn't under the influence.
Thank you for sharing.
@@DrDanielFox thank you for the content and the reply just trying to manage the anger and feeling of purpose. ❤️👍
I love you videos so much.
I wish I could work with them but my head feels debilitating full on a daily that I cant get out off 😕
Is this what they call depression?
Hey Dr. Fox can u speak about incels and bpd..because I think I am both
I really llike it doctor even if u not talking about my issue i get benefits.
Pink Floyd coined the term in their great song “Comfortably Numb.” That is how I feel in these crazy times.
Understandable. It’s constant cognitive overload.
I just saw this video on regulation. Iwas diagnosed with cptsd but bpd overlaps. I definitely have a sense of self but I had a lot of trauma so thawing out trauma and learning how to regulate all the emotions that were frozen in a challenge. I go into flashbacks called the abandonment melage where you spiral into fear abandonment shame and worthlessness. Cptsd gets emptiness lack of trust isolation ideation and really bad self blame. Very confusing diagnosis
It certainly is. You may find my book helpful complex BPD as i address this issue
@DrDanielFox why are they both the same symptoms lol. Cptsd doesn't trust. Isolation is awful. Do you know Pete walker. I don't think I'm borderline but I'm a ball of trauma trying to navigate the world at 63. Mt life stopped at 14. I had a bad trauma my psyche could not handle. I was broken. Now in trauma therapy for three yrs I'm waking up and learning how to live. A lot of pain and courage
@@urbansetter1 good for you. Therapy is a life saver at any age. I was 63 when I went thru DBT.
have you used psilocybin on your patients? for trauma recapitulation? or shifting perspective?
I have not used any substances or encouraged any. Individuals with BPD are at high risk for developing addiction, so I think that it is a very slippery slope.
@@DrDanielFox thanks for answering that. Im curious, do you believe in the polyvagal nerve theory about frozen response in trauma. I think it explains well the maladaptive response to trauma in formation of attachment disorders due do the breakdown in the ability to read social cues and respond appropriately.
I use cannabis daily but it not like I am high for 24 hours so there is plenty of time to do the work. And I have never had a hard time getting off it or any side effects while taking unlike the prescribed drugs.
I do it when I'm already in a good mood, if I'm in an awful mood when sober off the cannabis/delta then I keep myself away from it until I figure out what's going on, once I figure that out, smoking becomes much more rewarding and allows me to have further insight as compared to being more frequently intoxicated
If u using it daily it means u have a hard time getting off
Can someone please direct me to the video where he talkes about memory issues and bpd? I can't seem to find the link.
I''ve heard Goths mentioned a few times on these videos that it's becoming concerning. Question, Dr. Fox: Do you know the difference between Goth and Emo? They are COMPLETELY different.
I can’t find the help that I need. I just feel so out of control. Ups downs crying sessions just all mixed up. Nothing is going right I try so hard it’s just not working. I’m in a new city and state I know nobody. The one person I had has not been around for past 5 wks. I’m in a nightmare. It’s just to much.
It sounds like you're going through a really tough time. Remember that it's okay to ask for help and reach out to others who can support you.
how do i handle my partners triggered rage. i dont know what to say or do when i am being verbally attacked for no real reason.. its getting bad and i need desperate help (i do not have bpd but my partner is a diagnosed person
I feel totally disconnected
youre not alone, its one of my biggest symptoms rn as well and id love to know what we can do to ease it
Could someone with BPD firmly believe they are a narcissist and start acting like it?
vivimos en una sociedad que discrimina a las personas con problemas mentales, poco a poco vamos perdiendo la confianza en las personas y nos vamos alejando de la realidad; he perdido amigos, relaciones, trabajo incluso mi relación con mi familia es un poco difícil; solo pediría que tengamos mas consideración, mas sutileza...si somos mas humanos este mundo fuera diferente.
Are BPD people intrinsically lazy?? My husband of 46 painful, stressful years has become more and more BPD as he got older. Now that he is retired..the "symptoms" have become much, much worse. But he has also become very, very, very "sleepy" and lazy...Bit of a nightmare!!
no one is “intrinsically” anything :\ you should talk to your husband about it and how it makes you feel .. start with asking how he's feeling and go on from there. goodluck !!
I am so concerned for the German political activist Naomi Seibt. She is now in a relationship, and has moved in with a man +20 her senior who seems, stress seems, to be NPD - suddenly this past Christmas. When this happened she spoke of family members trying to harm her and referred to people as angels and demons. This older man has been in her life for at least three years "in the background", meeting, commenting on her live streams, visiting her in Germany from his native England and exchanging gifts and often going to fancy restaurants. They clearly share political views, etc.. Child abuse and health problems are in her past. Naomi is known internationally as the Anti-Greta (Thunberg).
Problem is, a lot of so called ‘conditions’ or disorders are mixed, and the match depends on the Psychologist and the PhD or speciality they come from. BPD is here, whilst it is ADHD over there, it’s Autism Spectrum over here, it’s Bipolar over there, it’s attachment disorder over here, it’s Co-dependency over there, it’s narcissism over here, it’s Peter Pan syndrome over there.
How could I send you mail
Please cover cults like QAnon, alt right, conspiracy theories & narcissism plus social media. I’ve lost many people by now to this world online & now people are bullying and calling it ‘political debate.’
Steve Hassan has a great book on this topic.
Also see his
BITE Model
Hope this helps 🙏
Dr d.Fox has tremandous insight about bpd. But he seems not te be aware that there are almost no suitable therapist available. I tried numorous times to conrtact him for quidance to help me find a good therapist in my area. It seems more about making money and fame than helping those in need!! That just hurts a lot.
Sorry that I was unable to respond. I get hundreds of emails a day and I try to get to as many as I can. I do my best to help as many as I can.
for me, weed just causes severe anxiety and an unbearable feeling of disconnection
Thanks for sharing. Be well.
I get over whelmed by the idea of investing money
My money is lying dead for years now
I don’t have the courage to go and invest it
It’s the weirdest thing but it’s true
A ton of common sense.
dont use marijuana unless you wanna have a drug induced psychosis
Go ahead and group NPD and BPD together they both can’t regulate themselves
BPD is destroying my life I’m so alone in a Bandan I just don’t know what to do
I’m so sorry. Find connections even if they’re online. Fill your social network as best you can.
The struggle is real
I like the mail bag dr carter. I asked him to speak with about growth and having u on his podcast maybe he will reach out.
Dr carter does a questions episode. Having postive info. Is very nice. I want to hate and u help me to hate a little less
Id say i dont think i have bpd. And i still love your stuff. Helping me to build insight
I think maybe cptsd or maybe a normal person dealing with people have not built as much insight. Yet