This was so great and I think you really nailed it when you spoke about how there is just so much noise that it starts to drown things out. I was in a relationship for a very long time and then took some time for myself, but have started dating again in the past few months. (Yes, in the midst of a global pandemic. Smart, right?) I had never used dating apps in the past because I have always enjoyed meeting people organically. Now, it almost feels like I have to use the apps. I get a fair amount of matches and messages, but it often just feels like the same thing over and over. It gets boring quickly because nobody puts any effort into the conversation. Or, they immediately tell you that they are looking for something very serious (I get told that a lot) and it's just too much. I think that is ultimately what everyone wants eventually, but I'd like to have a decent conversation with someone first! Dating apps are like the fast food of dating. They can give you almost instant gratification, but that feeling often doesn't last.
I feel you! I get bored easily on dating apps, but I really like this one guy I met there, however, he invested so little in the communication so as Matthew said, I made my standard pretty clear by saying that as much as I love talking to him, I want the efforts to be equal and I wish to have a good quality conversation instead of 'good morning and how are you' every single time then he'll disappear for days... he hasn't respond yet and I'm ready to move on
@@tairix3616 I feel like that is a little bit of a simplistic view. Yes, there are a lot of people who are just looking for a hookup (which is fine, BTW, if thats what they want and they are honest about it.), but I wouldn't say that there are no quality people on dating apps. Just like in life, there are all kinds of people who choose to use apps for one reason or another. That doesn't make them low quality people.
I just ended a 18 years relationship. First time using apps because of covid and hating it. There is nothing like a real life flerting (conection and energy).
True. I ended a 5 year relationship, and I downloaded tinder for the first time, also bc of covid. I find it incredible boring so far. Much more excitement to walk up to someone and start a conversation in real life than a like followed by a “sup”
... Organic connection!! Tried online dating - yes too much noise! We need to relax into getting to know someone ... and focus people... if there is connection, explore it and GIVE IT A CHANCE - stop looking for shiny things (all superficial btw) ... recognise a ‘diamond in the rough’ 😉😁💖
With the app everyone feels intitled to an 8-9 or even a 10. They are having 4 or 5 conversations at the time, everybody knows it, nobody feels special anymore.
It doesn’t matter how you meet. IRL or not. You can meet someone in a grocery store but they are still actively using multiple dating apps. So don’t assume that when they are dating you that they aren’t using dating apps on the side. It’s the sad truth.
Dating apps and social media in general have ruined authenticity and it’s created an addiction of sorts. Married and “seriously” dating individuals are still using dating apps. At this point you need to assume that most on these apps are lying about something. It’s whether or not you want to take the time and wait around for them to prove who they are, and if their intentions are truly genuine. But good luck with THEM waiting on YOU to do that. Most want instant ego boosts and notches on their belts or they move on. It’s very sad.
“Be different”. ...well start doing that by getting off of dating apps. No one wants to hear it, or accept it....but it changes your life for the better in many ways. I had rather meet one or two quality people in IRL a year than 100s I could message on a app. quality over quantity. Apps eat your soul, strip your worth, are basically sex driven and throws you and out like produce in a market.Get off of apps and stop being a number for someone’s notch and for other people needing a self esteem boost.
I agree BUT I guarantee you that any single person you meet IRL has at least three active dating profiles out there. Many are using 5-10 dating apps at once lol. It’s an epidemic.
Close, I would have gone with. "How Apps Have MUTATED Dating and Attraction" like a cancer. There is a reason why the executives for Match.com were dragged in front of the Federal Trade Commission to explain themselves. Another good story, out of Australia, of a woman that successfully sued a matchmaking service for $36,000 for failing to find her a "suitable man".
I agree that the story isn't romantic, like: kid:" How did you meet mom?" Parent: "We both swiped right then texted each other then went on a date" But honestly, I think you're underestimating the level of anxiety I have when texting someone over the internet. Maybe that's just me though
I am PRO online dating. It's all about how you use it. Better on the PC...take your time to get to know each other. Apps can become Superficial. You just look at the FOTO. You need to look at the whole Profile not just the FACE. 😉
You are PRO dating. Which is your aim obviously. But some people would like to end up with a worth while relationship that can progress in a reality. PRO dating seems like an endless online game set on a course that will exist on a superficial empty level which will most likely last for ever. Like a safe fantasy zone.
I like meeting ppl in real life! Apps not to fond of it. Its good to meet ppl you probably wouldn't meet other wise but, it depends what you are looking for. Ppl think they have more options what ppl forget is...... Chemistry is hard to find. Not everyone is for you!!!!! Goodluck singles.
So much noise...true unfortunately. It is definitely interesting. It harder to connect with people when it comes to relationships and business. That is why it is important to be uniquely YOU. Like he says, it makes us different.
What time of day do you shop? When I grocery shop, it's after work, post 5 PM. The usual customers are often older than I am, like ten years older minimum, and im 40.
Maybe it's just me but I've heard of some really successful stories of people meeting on dating apps. Both my sister and brother met their husband and wife on Tinder and Match. Dating apps are just an introduction. The introduction isn't important. The work involved in keeping a relationship going is the same regardless of where you 'met' them. I found myself single after a 7 year relationship and met my next boyfriend on a dating app. We didn't work out, but that had nothing to do with meeting him online.
This was so great and I think you really nailed it when you spoke about how there is just so much noise that it starts to drown things out. I was in a relationship for a very long time and then took some time for myself, but have started dating again in the past few months. (Yes, in the midst of a global pandemic. Smart, right?) I had never used dating apps in the past because I have always enjoyed meeting people organically. Now, it almost feels like I have to use the apps. I get a fair amount of matches and messages, but it often just feels like the same thing over and over. It gets boring quickly because nobody puts any effort into the conversation. Or, they immediately tell you that they are looking for something very serious (I get told that a lot) and it's just too much. I think that is ultimately what everyone wants eventually, but I'd like to have a decent conversation with someone first! Dating apps are like the fast food of dating. They can give you almost instant gratification, but that feeling often doesn't last.
Dating app is strictly only for a hookup and instant gratification junkies. You won’t find quality men and women👌
I feel you! I get bored easily on dating apps, but I really like this one guy I met there, however, he invested so little in the communication so as Matthew said, I made my standard pretty clear by saying that as much as I love talking to him, I want the efforts to be equal and I wish to have a good quality conversation instead of 'good morning and how are you' every single time then he'll disappear for days... he hasn't respond yet and I'm ready to move on
Totally agree. Don't you miss going out, having fun and meet ladies ( or guys lol ) in person.
@@tairix3616 I feel like that is a little bit of a simplistic view. Yes, there are a lot of people who are just looking for a hookup (which is fine, BTW, if thats what they want and they are honest about it.), but I wouldn't say that there are no quality people on dating apps. Just like in life, there are all kinds of people who choose to use apps for one reason or another. That doesn't make them low quality people.
Yasssh!! Genuine connection takes time and needs the real quality time to process.
I just ended a 18 years relationship. First time using apps because of covid and hating it. There is nothing like a real life flerting (conection and energy).
True. I ended a 5 year relationship, and I downloaded tinder for the first time, also bc of covid. I find it incredible boring so far. Much more excitement to walk up to someone and start a conversation in real life than a like followed by a “sup”
... Organic connection!! Tried online dating - yes too much noise! We need to relax into getting to know someone ... and focus people... if there is connection, explore it and GIVE IT A CHANCE - stop looking for shiny things (all superficial btw) ... recognise a ‘diamond in the rough’ 😉😁💖
Good luck getting a woman to look up from her phone to do that.
With the app everyone feels intitled to an 8-9 or even a 10. They are having 4 or 5 conversations at the time, everybody knows it, nobody feels special anymore.
It doesn’t matter how you meet. IRL or not. You can meet someone in a grocery store but they are still actively using multiple dating apps. So don’t assume that when they are dating you that they aren’t using dating apps on the side. It’s the sad truth.
Dating apps and social media in general have ruined authenticity and it’s created an addiction of sorts. Married and “seriously” dating individuals are still using dating apps. At this point you need to assume that most on these apps are lying about something. It’s whether or not you want to take the time and wait around for them to prove who they are, and if their intentions are truly genuine. But good luck with THEM waiting on YOU to do that. Most want instant ego boosts and notches on their belts or they move on. It’s very sad.
Dating apps made people numbers.
Yep, we became odds. Folks are pushing 3-4 conversations at the time...
True
It is basically shopping for people.
sue black Everyone thinks he/she is the buyer, evidently some suckers are being bought
You are true
“Be different”. ...well start doing that by getting off of dating apps. No one wants to hear it, or accept it....but it changes your life for the better in many ways. I had rather meet one or two quality people in IRL a year than 100s I could message on a app. quality over quantity. Apps eat your soul, strip your worth, are basically sex driven and throws you and out like produce in a market.Get off of apps and stop being a number for someone’s notch and for other people needing a self esteem boost.
I agree BUT I guarantee you that any single person you meet IRL has at least three active dating profiles out there. Many are using 5-10 dating apps at once lol. It’s an epidemic.
Absolutely agree
@@emeraldeyes8688 True but I know I’m at least not part of it.
@@emeraldeyes8688 im a man, im not one of them.
true but where do you want to find a Partner , otherwise ?!
“How Apps Have Ruined Dating and Attraction”. There, fixed that for you.
Thank you
Close, I would have gone with.
"How Apps Have MUTATED Dating and Attraction" like a cancer.
There is a reason why the executives for Match.com were dragged in front of the Federal Trade Commission to explain themselves.
Another good story, out of Australia, of a woman that successfully sued a matchmaking service for $36,000 for failing to find her a "suitable man".
@@tailgunner2 It's a good thing I gave up on Match then hahahaha. What a waste.
I agree that the story isn't romantic, like: kid:" How did you meet mom?" Parent: "We both swiped right then texted each other then went on a date"
But honestly, I think you're underestimating the level of anxiety I have when texting someone over the internet. Maybe that's just me though
Nailing it, Matthew! Just like in business. The best seller is now winning the first rounds.
My ex and I had the best story of attraction ever. No swiping bs. Too bad we were not equipped to keep the connection
I am PRO online dating. It's all about how you use it. Better on the PC...take your time to get to know each other. Apps can become Superficial. You just look at the FOTO. You need to look at the whole Profile not just the FACE. 😉
You are PRO dating. Which is your aim obviously. But some people would like to end up with a worth while relationship that can progress in a reality. PRO dating seems like an endless online game set on a course that will exist on a superficial empty level which will most likely last for ever. Like a safe fantasy zone.
@@lizrain8306 NO! First rule. Don't date ONLINE. If there's feelings. Exchange numbers and MEET. Public place of course.
Brilliant! So what is the cure?
So... how do we stand out amongst all of the other options? I've been using online dating apps for 2 years.
I like meeting ppl in real life! Apps not to fond of it. Its good to meet ppl you probably wouldn't meet other wise but, it depends what you are looking for. Ppl think they have more options what ppl forget is...... Chemistry is hard to find. Not everyone is for you!!!!! Goodluck singles.
So much noise...true unfortunately. It is definitely interesting. It harder to connect with people when it comes to relationships and business. That is why it is important to be uniquely YOU. Like he says, it makes us different.
It's not always easy to do but I rather meet guys in the supermarket or the stores instead of going online
What time of day do you shop?
When I grocery shop, it's after work, post 5 PM. The usual customers are often older than I am, like ten years older minimum, and im 40.
I wouldn’t reject you Matthew Hussey
I would. His Essex accent is painful to listen too.
Lissy London I like it and I dont usually like English accents been English myself.
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Maybe it's just me but I've heard of some really successful stories of people meeting on dating apps. Both my sister and brother met their husband and wife on Tinder and Match.
Dating apps are just an introduction. The introduction isn't important. The work involved in keeping a relationship going is the same regardless of where you 'met' them.
I found myself single after a 7 year relationship and met my next boyfriend on a dating app. We didn't work out, but that had nothing to do with meeting him online.
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