I felt Inferior with my boss at work. I have two jobs and needed to be gone by 1 but said yes to extra work even though I knew I didn't have time. I ended up not doing the extra work and left. I'm working on standing firm with my time frame and how to say no in a professional way.
@@kassb4287 'I can only stay until 1pm today, but what's going on with this? I'll put more focus on this tomorrow, we will figure it out.' Say it with certainty, clarity, and a smile.
I have been speaking English for 6 7 years now and this landscape of using my language has been incredibly challenging for me, I can only come up with one way to put things sometimes and being hard soft playful sometimes is out of the question
Imagine having to choreography your conversation in an effort to keep people in your life that don’t respect you on a base level! 😅 The psychology behind it is interesting, but I’m just exhausted after listening to it. 😂😂😂
It seems she’s trying to help navigate those personality types without being triggered because you can’t escape them. They are everywhere. I think it’s more about how you react to people than anything else. People will be people.
this psychology can actually be toxic if someone outright wrong about something. this happened to me last week a coworker. we are teams truckers. i was only with him 1 week asked to not be partners again. basically he would sit in front seat passenger seat without seatbelt when i am driving through new mexico. in new mexico its the driver actually gets the ticket if passenger doesnt wear seatbelt. so i asked him to put on seat belt told him law even showed him law. his response was for me to not ask him to put his seat belt on. he doubled and trippled down on it. i had to pull over call the boss. even send a text to covermyself legally showing that i asked him to put seatbelt on to remove liability. he then threatened me with violence to send a text saying the previous text was error. this is a situation someone is clearly about something. they are clearly actually wrong or inferior. its okay to be wrong and inferior on stuff. whats important is ability to learn.
Inferiority and superiority is not about being right or wrong, that’s when you trigger superior and inferior responses that causes conflict like in your situation. You know the seatbelt is for safety. You communicate with balanced confidence like said in the video. You’re not inferior (hesitant) or superior (aggressive) in your delivery. If they still don’t respect it and it’s crossing your boundaries, you drive to a bus stop and politely ask them to get another ride. You set your boundaries without superiority or inferiority. You can’t control another, you can only control yourself. And it’s only through balance where your self control can positively influence others.
@@Luna321-n8h i didn't communicate poorly i was doing my actual obligation. he was breaching a safety standard that me at risk of a ticket. this guy was haitian and he had a screw loose. most people you tell them the same thing they quickly connect the dots. this guy was ligitimately crazy you can't do anything if the person is actually crazy person.
Did you feel superior, inferior, or balanced in the last interaction you had with someone?
I felt Inferior with my boss at work. I have two jobs and needed to be gone by 1 but said yes to extra work even though I knew I didn't have time. I ended up not doing the extra work and left. I'm working on standing firm with my time frame and how to say no in a professional way.
@@kassb4287 'I can only stay until 1pm today, but what's going on with this? I'll put more focus on this tomorrow, we will figure it out.' Say it with certainty, clarity, and a smile.
Omg i can't wait to said that you helped me a lottttt! Thank you so much ariel, love ya🤩
"eye level balance" really makes sense. im definitely keeping that in my toolbox
These talks are why i subscribed. Keep it going!
Thank you for these videos. They truly do help me.
Wow! Hearing you speak about spirituality is soothingggg
Wow, this talk was such a powerful confirmation for me. Thank you so much!
Thankful for your channel Ariel, Sending Greetings from Corpus Christi, Texas! ❤☺️
omg i loved this so much! learning it from you made it easy to understand
resonated, thank you for your teachings and reflections
I learn so much from you!💕
I love these sort of talks. Can't wait to learn more! Lots of love.💕
13:00 i would really love an in depth video on this topic, such a crucial thing!
My transformation with my mother? Yess I would love to share more personal experiences
@@ArielNiuViewsyesss!! tysm❤
I second this
13:51 I relate with my mom
I have been speaking English for 6 7 years now and this landscape of using my language has been incredibly challenging for me, I can only come up with one way to put things sometimes and being hard soft playful sometimes is out of the question
thank you
There is an mmd video “Anamoni” that has moves similar to it and I’d pay to see Fredo do it👀
Imagine having to choreography your conversation in an effort to keep people in your life that don’t respect you on a base level! 😅 The psychology behind it is interesting, but I’m just exhausted after listening to it. 😂😂😂
It seems she’s trying to help navigate those personality types without being triggered because you can’t escape them. They are everywhere. I think it’s more about how you react to people than anything else. People will be people.
No choreography, flow baby. And remember my advice when triggers come
your videos are gold 🤍🤍
this psychology can actually be toxic if someone outright wrong about something.
this happened to me last week a coworker. we are teams truckers. i was only with him 1 week asked to not be partners again.
basically he would sit in front seat passenger seat without seatbelt when i am driving through new mexico. in new mexico its the driver actually gets the ticket if passenger doesnt wear seatbelt. so i asked him to put on seat belt told him law even showed him law. his response was for me to not ask him to put his seat belt on. he doubled and trippled down on it. i had to pull over call the boss. even send a text to covermyself legally showing that i asked him to put seatbelt on to remove liability. he then threatened me with violence to send a text saying the previous text was error.
this is a situation someone is clearly about something. they are clearly actually wrong or inferior. its okay to be wrong and inferior on stuff. whats important is ability to learn.
Inferiority and superiority is not about being right or wrong, that’s when you trigger superior and inferior responses that causes conflict like in your situation. You know the seatbelt is for safety. You communicate with balanced confidence like said in the video. You’re not inferior (hesitant) or superior (aggressive) in your delivery. If they still don’t respect it and it’s crossing your boundaries, you drive to a bus stop and politely ask them to get another ride. You set your boundaries without superiority or inferiority. You can’t control another, you can only control yourself. And it’s only through balance where your self control can positively influence others.
you were both being superior, it's not the seatlbet, it's how you communicate and react to each other
@@Luna321-n8h i didn't communicate poorly i was doing my actual obligation. he was breaching a safety standard that me at risk of a ticket.
this guy was haitian and he had a screw loose. most people you tell them the same thing they quickly connect the dots. this guy was ligitimately crazy you can't do anything if the person is actually crazy person.