I'm Childfree by Choice! And I Don't Care If It's Selfish!

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  • Опубликовано: 29 окт 2024

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  • @khulekanimagubane9153
    @khulekanimagubane9153 6 месяцев назад +42

    Childfree at 35. No regrets, especially looking at the scary stuff happening in the world that children are not exempt from.

  • @chuckcpass
    @chuckcpass 2 года назад +2435

    SELFISH - Having kids you can’t afford and giving them a crappy life all because you want to be a parent.

    • @keshawn888
      @keshawn888 2 года назад +50

      @Erik Simpson - Exactly.

    • @dayytube
      @dayytube 2 года назад +48

      Love ❤️ your idea.
      This is the trend for centuries in the developing countries.

    • @seanmeantime
      @seanmeantime 2 года назад +23

      America

    • @beebeetee2926
      @beebeetee2926 2 года назад +19

      EXACTLY!

    • @johnnycashlives316
      @johnnycashlives316 2 года назад +20

      Ding! Ding! Ding!

  • @hoasam5786
    @hoasam5786 6 месяцев назад +22

    I don't want kid's. I am single and loving my life.

  • @planetag310
    @planetag310 2 года назад +278

    Society: "You're selfish for not wanting kids".
    Me: "Maybe selfish people shouldn't have kids".

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  2 года назад +43

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @sigmasiren7
      @sigmasiren7 2 года назад +21

      Someone should've told my parents this 😏

    • @thomasshort1784
      @thomasshort1784 Год назад +13

      @planetag310 Society needs to realize we don't owe it children!

    • @Msangel06
      @Msangel06 Год назад +15

      As if these breeders are generous.

    • @stephanievacante2241
      @stephanievacante2241 3 месяца назад +1

      I would say exactly why would you put that on a kid? Why would you expect the selfish person to have a kid if they I only think of themselves?That's my rebuttal

  • @cheyennemurray4491
    @cheyennemurray4491 2 года назад +182

    Parent: “Your family name will die out”
    Me: Let it

  • @leximakeupful
    @leximakeupful 2 года назад +1460

    You are not selfish. People don't like when someone does something different.

    • @agentm83
      @agentm83 2 года назад +115

      Yep, exactly. I also don't want children, and you do get judged, by some people. But then some people will *always* judge you for things when you dare to step outside their "Box."

    • @joe-hanhairy3882
      @joe-hanhairy3882 2 года назад +6

      @Elexi O - yes, especially if autistic

    • @MJ87808
      @MJ87808 2 года назад +81

      @@agentm83 "THEIR" is the keyword. its like they think everyone should live the same carbon copy of "their" life.

    • @Helaw0lf
      @Helaw0lf 2 года назад +3

      @@joe-hanhairy3882 Oh people grind on the autistic for sure. We are no disease entity, we are human from the get-go.

    • @nwatson2773
      @nwatson2773 2 года назад +111

      People don’t want you to be free! Misery loves company!

  • @stefanm.1214
    @stefanm.1214 2 года назад +967

    People get angry because now they have kids but they secretly want to have no kids.

    • @stefanm.1214
      @stefanm.1214 2 года назад +106

      @Miracle Motivates I have a nice and peaceful home, i can't imagine it being a place full of trouble and fights.

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +60

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @elliottpaine9259
      @elliottpaine9259 2 года назад +11

      True

    • @itsjeninMass
      @itsjeninMass 2 года назад +79

      Yup. A lot of the stupid things they say are rooted in jealousy.

    • @beebeetee2926
      @beebeetee2926 2 года назад +15

      Exactly! That part!!!!

  • @EasternDreamer615
    @EasternDreamer615 2 года назад +540

    I don’t want kids. I want freedom.

    • @younglion7425
      @younglion7425 2 года назад +14

      You are already in freedom 😂

    • @prativaneupane8927
      @prativaneupane8927 Год назад +5

      You are free from kids. But lots of things out there that you have to deal with. I see this as an inability to deal with situations. It's only your choice. Your opinion.

    • @Andrea92_91
      @Andrea92_91 Год назад +44

      @@prativaneupane8927 How does not having or wanting children equate to an inability to deal with situations?

    • @alphapimp0073
      @alphapimp0073 Год назад

      @@prativaneupane8927 you sound ignorant.

    • @evilds3261
      @evilds3261 Год назад +31

      @@prativaneupane8927 Having to take care of more people will hold you back in dealing with ANY situation.

  • @LuminousWarriorOracle
    @LuminousWarriorOracle Год назад +39

    Selfish is bringing an innocent soul to this human farm in order to fill this unquenchable void in your soul.

  • @pettyofficer30
    @pettyofficer30 2 года назад +173

    I'm an introvert. I like being by myself and doing my own thing.

    • @brianmeen2158
      @brianmeen2158 Год назад +27

      Major introvert here too. I find that work and shopping and other little “must do’s” completely drain the social battery that I have. I truly cannot imagine being married much less having a few kids to look after. That would leave me roasted

    • @thomasshort1784
      @thomasshort1784 Год назад +2

      @pettyofficer30 Same here! My deal is, I can't stand fake and/or sketchy people.

    • @thomasshort1784
      @thomasshort1784 Год назад

      ​​@@brianmeen2158I'm open to marrying, myself, as long as she doesn't want kids (being a good aunt is the ONLY requirement regarding kids I'd have of a wife)! I understand where you're coming from, otherwise.

    • @georgerpg6610
      @georgerpg6610 Год назад +11

      introvert as well. I struggle with mental disorders as well. I can't imagine taking care of another human being.

    • @OverEverything438
      @OverEverything438 Год назад +1

      I am one too. One of the reasons I choose to be childfree is I like the quiet, simple life and prefer to remain on a routine. Also always awkward if I'm somehow in proximity with them. Thinking "I need an adult". I'm 26.😅

  • @tashafierce6857
    @tashafierce6857 2 года назад +720

    Society will always have a problem with people who go against the status quo

    • @gazagxrlx2974
      @gazagxrlx2974 2 года назад +64

      Childfree is becoming more popular in the Western World !

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +20

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @spongebob03
      @spongebob03 2 года назад +1

      @@gazagxrlx2974 all according to plan, if you believe the conspiracy theorist!

    • @LouisWarren530
      @LouisWarren530 2 года назад +4

      That's the bloody truth

    • @monharris28
      @monharris28 2 года назад +10

      agree i feel like childfree folks are in the leading edge ushering a new way of thinking about the world

  • @bonnie2965
    @bonnie2965 2 года назад +469

    Everyone's concerned if you have kids but no one asks if you are happy 🤷

    • @foxbyte0157
      @foxbyte0157 2 года назад +89

      For real 🤣 a lot of parents want the "grandparent" rank, I know. But even when I was a kid, if I started crying, my grandparents handed me back over to my parents! Everyone wants YOU to have a kid so they can interact with them for 15 minutes until it's inconvenient. Don't fall for it.

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 2 года назад +28

      Many married people aren't

    • @aegoschy1
      @aegoschy1 2 года назад +47

      Agreed. To my surprise when I tell people I never been married, or don’t want kids, more than a good handful of them said “That’s smart,” or “They’re not that great anyways.” Or “Is that why you look so young?” And these are the same people who have both marriage and kids! 😆

    • @blacklyfe5543
      @blacklyfe5543 Год назад +5

      Facts

    • @ms.rivera7898
      @ms.rivera7898 Год назад +1

      So true!

  • @Lupo32
    @Lupo32 2 года назад +685

    Being a parent isn't for everyone,
    Being in a relationship isn't for everyone.

  • @roythousand13
    @roythousand13 2 года назад +134

    On a overpopulated planet with depleting natural resources, having no children is the most "SELFLESS" act one can do!

    • @sinoa1
      @sinoa1 7 месяцев назад +3

      Agree

    •  5 месяцев назад +3

      It isn't overpopulated, the populations just condense in certain areas.
      People choose to live in cities then complain about how cramped it is.
      People act better when they have space.
      It's the behavioural sink.
      Affluence and condensed populations wreck havoc.
      And resources aren't distributed evenly.
      There is a concentration at the top.

    • @plumeria66
      @plumeria66 2 месяца назад

      It is overpopulated. There are species going extinct right now because humans are encroaching their natural habitat.

    • @annas4191
      @annas4191 Месяц назад +1

      This 🎉

  • @crowofcainhurst
    @crowofcainhurst 2 года назад +359

    As a woman who have decided to never married and never have kids I'm tired of people telling me that women can never be truly happy until they've become a mother. I am truly happy being single and child free and I'm grateful with the life I have right now. Wouldn't ask for anything more and certainly wouldn't ask for kids.

    • @celesteperezmora8159
      @celesteperezmora8159 2 года назад +4

      I have never had anyone tell me that. Who exactly is saying that?

    • @crowofcainhurst
      @crowofcainhurst 2 года назад +45

      @@celesteperezmora8159 If you live in east asian country basically every single member of your family will tell you that. It's frowned upon to still be single especially when you're at the age where you're supposed to be married and having a child.

    • @mariainesbayona6803
      @mariainesbayona6803 2 года назад +22

      In latin american its the same. They tell me women are only developped or accomplish their function when they become mothers

    • @07Flash11MRC
      @07Flash11MRC Год назад +15

      @Celeste: Then you're really lucky.
      In eastern and southern Europe both men, but especially women get chastised for not being (or wanting to become) a parent.

    • @ms.rivera7898
      @ms.rivera7898 Год назад +30

      @@celesteperezmora8159 trust me there are TONS of men from various cultures who say/ believe this. And don’t even get started on the misogynistic pastors/ Bible thumpers.

  • @realfreedom8932
    @realfreedom8932 2 года назад +513

    The harsh reality is that most people CAN NOT AFFORD to have kids. It's a no brainer, why increase the misery exponentially.

    • @russellrichardson66
      @russellrichardson66 2 года назад +96

      Right i can just barley keep myself alive why would u bring someone else in the world only to struggle

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +19

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @Wangash18
      @Wangash18 2 года назад +18

      I think the reason why is because of this question ' who will take care of me when I'm old?'

    • @deborahbonner476
      @deborahbonner476 2 года назад +34

      @@Wangash18 l understand your thinking, but it's not guaranteed your offspring will be there, many scenarios can take place.

    • @Coastpsych_fi99
      @Coastpsych_fi99 2 года назад +22

      Yep. I’m completely against kids for ethical reasons but get the desire to have kids when I see babies. When I saw the cost of living, it hit me that I can not afford to ever have a child and it’s now so easy being childfree🥰 when I see babies I remember the costs and keep moving

  • @sherekhan90
    @sherekhan90 2 года назад +252

    “Selfishness is not living your life as you wish. It is asking others to live their lives as you wish”
    Oscar Wilde

    • @Arven8
      @Arven8 Месяц назад +1

      Ooh, that's a good one.

  • @Kaz.2719
    @Kaz.2719 2 года назад +525

    I just broke up with my girlfriend over this topic. I’m 28 and childfree. It’s hard but I feel good about sticking to my truth

    • @rushrush1209
      @rushrush1209 2 года назад +111

      It's good that you stuck to your guns. Also you give your ex the opportunity to have a child with someone else.

    • @itsjeninMass
      @itsjeninMass 2 года назад +40

      I'm sure you'll meet the right person.

    • @lauramorgan27
      @lauramorgan27 2 года назад +68

      good for you. don't get trapped.

    • @soelaborate5066
      @soelaborate5066 2 года назад +53

      You did the right thing bro, never let somebody pressure you into something that you can’t come back from

    • @JenZen82
      @JenZen82 2 года назад +56

      I’m happy you stood yr ground and left. I had a guy I was dating question my womanhood and talk down on me so bad because I didn’t want kids. He still wanted a relationship and I told him, this is a deal breaker…how do u not see that this is a deal breaker??? Some people will continue relationships in hopes to change their partner’s mind and the person who doesn’t want kids may stay in it not realizing that their partner is accepting “no kids” for now but will be so unhappy, bitter later because you their partner won’t give them what they want. Even after you told them but they didn’t take you seriously. He kept trying to change my mind, nope…I ended it and dnt regret it!

  • @chuck3525
    @chuck3525 Год назад +55

    People with kids pretend to be so happy, but in reality they are so miserable and we all know misery wants company.

  • @angelglowstudios1454
    @angelglowstudios1454 10 месяцев назад +52

    First of all who said I wanted to be here in the first place ? 😭

    • @nicenslow45
      @nicenslow45 Месяц назад

      Exactly, I didn’t ask to be apart of this $hit show.. sometimes I wish I was never born, people really don’t understand how selfish they are by bringing kids into this evil world

    • @TKR-ox9ff
      @TKR-ox9ff 14 дней назад

      I'm sorry

  • @life5161
    @life5161 2 года назад +985

    It's actually far less selfish not having kids. Just look at the World around you. It's actually incredibly selfish to have children. Especially if a person doesn't have the adequate means to support them. Most people have kids they can't afford then send them out into a cold, cruel world to try to survive. INCREDIBLY SELFISH!!!

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 2 года назад +95

      Yes 🙌🏻 exactly. I’m happy to have been born but I don’t wish my misery and problems on another human being

    • @msfullroller
      @msfullroller 2 года назад +30

      100% agree!!!!

    • @BRM101
      @BRM101 2 года назад +33

      Amen brother 100%, the problem is most people give zero thought about kids they just fk then often a kid pops out, a guy I know late 30s just spent 20k on ivf his wife is now up the duff, I don’t think he has any idea how his life’s going to be turned upside down, his wife had baby rabbies and he had to go along with it I guess, he is fkd!!

    • @DigitalLoom
      @DigitalLoom 2 года назад +19

      @@BRM101 what does all that slang mean??? 20k on ivf?? whats up the duff mean?? pregnant? an what the heck is baby rabbies? Im dead!!!

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz 2 года назад +3

      @@PraveenSrJ01 Brother, I too feel same way.

  • @hpshifter7783
    @hpshifter7783 2 года назад +360

    Having kids always seemed like the biggest pain in the ass of all time.

    • @beautifulrose8619
      @beautifulrose8619 2 года назад +14

      lol

    • @81eniale
      @81eniale 2 года назад +7

      @@beautifulrose8619 they are!

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +36

      Its not for everyone

    • @libertinemercenary8421
      @libertinemercenary8421 2 года назад +41

      Yeah man. I cant imagine. Hell I have trouble taking care of a plant, another human being??? The hell

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +10

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

  • @devilsadvocacy
    @devilsadvocacy 2 года назад +198

    When people with kids crack back on you for not having them, it is their own regret/jealousy showing

    • @chocolateprincess8543
      @chocolateprincess8543 2 года назад +30

      Absolutely!

    • @autumn_b905
      @autumn_b905 Год назад +3

      Facts

    • @annmarieknapp
      @annmarieknapp 8 месяцев назад +2

      Yep, we call it projection.

    • @jimx45
      @jimx45 7 месяцев назад +2

      And all these parents do is talk about their kids. It's like they're already dead and their kids are all that is there.

  • @Felix2011y
    @Felix2011y Год назад +17

    I never want kids, the thought of it actually scares the sh*t out of me

  • @mb-ms7yp
    @mb-ms7yp Год назад +16

    Real question: who's business is that someone else's family legacy dies out???🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • @imFUNsized20
    @imFUNsized20 2 года назад +832

    I’m 30 and childfree, absolutely love it. I don’t like being tied down and enjoy spoiling myself. Plus as a woman pregnancy/delivery looks absolutely frightening.

    • @kitsontuli2713
      @kitsontuli2713 2 года назад +84

      Fellow 30 year old here. I'm with you. To me, there's just more to life. Besides, I like being an aunt way better.

    • @CB-hi7mf
      @CB-hi7mf 2 года назад +80

      I know. All they do is scream. And OMG can't imagine having my belly sliced open.

    • @sigmasiren7
      @sigmasiren7 2 года назад +63

      I’m 32, childfree & afraid of child birth as well 😕

    • @jillianjillian5493
      @jillianjillian5493 2 года назад +32

      Cool beans to you. You only get one life...and its yours!

    • @missblessed100
      @missblessed100 2 года назад +4

      Pregnancy and labor is a beautiful experience💕. That's what women bodies are meant to do, please don't let that scare you hun.

  • @thisislogout
    @thisislogout 2 года назад +565

    "Selfish" is the most dumb thing to say to us for not having kids. Makes no sense. I'm with you 100% on this Tim!

    • @douse89
      @douse89 2 года назад +15

      Agreed!

    • @kalebgonzales4009
      @kalebgonzales4009 2 года назад +17

      Society expects so much and puts pressure on single people to raise a family quickly. Why do they care, it’s not fair on you.
      For me(26), I want to adopt kids when I’m ready. I wanna bypass marriage and my situation will be pressured on that. Don’t let anyone tell you what they want to expect of you for their world view.

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +9

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @dayytube
      @dayytube 2 года назад +28

      Kids wear you down.👎not the mention child care,hospital bills, students loan debts 😱

    • @jaysonraphaelmurdock8812
      @jaysonraphaelmurdock8812 2 года назад +6

      Agreed.

  • @sunnydub107
    @sunnydub107 2 года назад +446

    Used to think I wanted kids but changed my mind, I'm 29. People always wanna talk about legacy like bruh omg WHO CARES?! I won't be here most of us are gonna get forgotten. I just wanna enjoy the time I have.

    • @pridefulebony3905
      @pridefulebony3905 2 года назад +40

      Yesssss period. Refreshing to see a black man with this mindset

    • @monharris28
      @monharris28 2 года назад +56

      yes my friend said all this shit about legacy fuck that when im gone im gone

    • @androidphone6972
      @androidphone6972 2 года назад +17

      For 29 year old you have a wise man view on life compared to people your age. Wishing you good life

    • @misslady5263
      @misslady5263 2 года назад +58

      @Bell K7 that’s the biggest thing: people thinking waaay too highly of themselves. They lived an average ass life thinking they deserve to bear innocent life into this world, JUST for this world to know YOU existed.

    • @stanleysalters1195
      @stanleysalters1195 2 года назад +3

      Real Talk

  • @dominiquesperspective
    @dominiquesperspective 2 года назад +192

    Exactly, if humanity died out who cares! 🤣🤣🤣 Humanity has destroyed this planet!

    • @chocolateprincess8543
      @chocolateprincess8543 2 года назад +25

      Exactly!

    • @NeilMalthus
      @NeilMalthus 2 года назад +1

      Paradoxically, if we don't cut down on the number of Westerners (or anyone who enjoys 'mod cons'), THAT's what will drive humanity and the rest of nature to the brink of extinction. Too many people consuming too many resources is what's driving the fastest mass extinction of all time. Trust me, I'm a zoologist! 😀

    • @JH-tc7wb
      @JH-tc7wb 2 года назад +3

      False

    • @JH-tc7wb
      @JH-tc7wb Год назад +1

      @@amandak.4246 Which is more important: The planet, or the people who inhabit the planet?

    • @yearginclarke
      @yearginclarke Год назад +12

      @@JH-tc7wb Neither. There is no such thing as more important in nature, that's an opinion held by humans.

  • @nicolewong5971
    @nicolewong5971 2 года назад +94

    People who ask "What if your parents didn't have you?" They think the world wouldn't go on without them.

    • @HikaruYamamoto
      @HikaruYamamoto 2 года назад +26

      Its a very weird argument indeed. They seem to act like there are souls floating around waiting to be born and they are being denied by your choice.

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад +19

      If my parents didn’t have me that would have spared me from many years of mental misery, but I’m here and I’m now gonna be as selfish as a super villain who plans on world domination and enjoy MY life.

    • @nicolewong5971
      @nicolewong5971 Год назад +9

      @@Filthy_Larry Bwahaha me too. OOPS were busted

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад +7

      @@nicolewong5971 lol

    • @paulocoreas5171
      @paulocoreas5171 Год назад

      @@Filthy_Larry true or you can actual do something for society and humanity and made a different. Gloated that you are free and ain’t really gonna do shit, just for self. Is not special or unique.

  • @Tfolife528
    @Tfolife528 2 года назад +318

    If we were only 100% honest with ourselves, most of us would be child free. A lot of people have oops children. Period.

    • @20maxilo
      @20maxilo 2 года назад +9

      Very true

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 2 года назад +27

      This is so true. People are programmed to want children. If left to their own devices, many women would forego motherhood and do countless other things. That is what scares men the most.

    • @marcushoward6560
      @marcushoward6560 2 года назад +13

      @@Childfree334 No, men are not scared of that, at all.

    • @LD-tk7qf
      @LD-tk7qf 2 года назад

      I had a oops pregnant. Had a abortion!!! No regrets

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 2 года назад

      @@marcushoward6560 I don't what what planet you live on dude, but here on Earth men care very much what women choose to do. Why do you think there is so much single shaming, demonizing of feminism, attacks on women's autonomy, laws trying to take away our rights to choose what WE want to do with our bodies and lives? People, especially MEN, are trying to FORCE motherhood on us. You know why? Because that is the number one way to control women. Even you know it.

  • @77Tadams
    @77Tadams 2 года назад +328

    Truth be told my friend: Those people strapped with the childrens are not so happy. Society is "crabs in a bucket"; if you are not "rowing with the rest of the slaves", they will want to punish you and condemn you. 44 female, my husband is 43. They hate the fact that we travel and work part time with a simple life.

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 2 года назад +25

      SO TRUE

    • @goddessreverierosehawthorn3724
      @goddessreverierosehawthorn3724 2 года назад +29

      You are my goals!! Hubby and I are thinking no kids. It’s hard to see any benefits!

    • @pridefulebony3905
      @pridefulebony3905 2 года назад +25

      Yessss n u guys don't have to schedule quiet hush sex.

    • @10RBREEZY
      @10RBREEZY 2 года назад +28

      SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had to learn really quick in my mid 20s to remain low key about these enlightened view points. Its like you are going against the grain to more freedom. While the others are in shackles and are misreable. So seeing you be so free they want you to go down with them to suffer also. This society is low key sick.

    • @queenbutterfly4888
      @queenbutterfly4888 2 года назад +16

      They’re jealous

  • @demetriusevans1173
    @demetriusevans1173 2 года назад +83

    46, no kids, no baby mamas, no drama and living life on my terms.

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад +10

      Same. God put me here on earth to smoke weed and drop acid. I’m 41 going on 10.

    • @Sammie551
      @Sammie551 Год назад +3

      Own house, own rules

    • @glidkomer
      @glidkomer Год назад +1

      ​@@Filthy_Larry😂 this comment cracked me up.

  • @bobbythespaceghost9934
    @bobbythespaceghost9934 Год назад +84

    I'm 41, have never been married, and have no kids. I don't care what others think. I'm going to do what makes me happy.

    • @antib_reader
      @antib_reader Год назад +10

      Childfree people are the Light 🌟in this dark world! Thank you sir!

    • @Msangel06
      @Msangel06 Год назад +2

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @adregasm6672
      @adregasm6672 4 месяца назад +1

      💛💛💛

  • @Toxic_Male_Minimalist
    @Toxic_Male_Minimalist Год назад +43

    People who push kids on you - especially your parents because they want grandkids - should just go ahead and adopt their own.

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 10 месяцев назад +2

      It's extremely unfortunate but a lot of times the ppl that came before us... don't want their offspring to go Above and Beyond them...smh

  • @Mr.Classic91
    @Mr.Classic91 2 года назад +350

    It isnt selfish, having a child in 2021 is selfish. There is literally no upside to it beyond "Just wanting one" as if it's a pet.

    • @jessicapadron7886
      @jessicapadron7886 2 года назад +3

      I think the point that neither is selfish. You can make a choice to have or not have children. I chose to have children and it is not selfish people will always have kids.

    • @77Tadams
      @77Tadams 2 года назад +24

      @@jessicapadron7886 people will always have kids….no not all people, and it’s a choice. So really, it is based on your want. That is selfish.

    • @jessicapadron7886
      @jessicapadron7886 2 года назад +3

      @@77Tadams I was literally saying its a choice. Some people will chose to have kids, and some wont, but there will always be some people who chose to have kids. My main point is that neither is selfish its just a chose and whatever a person chooses is the right chose for them.

    • @tyronelorenzovalentio3414
      @tyronelorenzovalentio3414 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@77Tadamspeople are selfish

    • @tyronelorenzovalentio3414
      @tyronelorenzovalentio3414 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@someoneshappynessso biology is selfish 😂😂😂😂

  • @beautifulrose8619
    @beautifulrose8619 2 года назад +181

    I have heard many people say they want kids so that (their chlldren) can take care of them when they are old. Now, THAT is selfish.

    • @melissachartres3219
      @melissachartres3219 2 года назад

      Why is it selfish to take good care of your children?

    • @beautifulrose8619
      @beautifulrose8619 2 года назад +33

      @@melissachartres3219 I never said that. I said that it is selfish to have a child for the sole purpose of having that child take care of you. Your child should not have that obligation. It would be ideal though.
      It is not selfish to take good care of your children. I believe it is your obligation

    • @melissachartres3219
      @melissachartres3219 2 года назад +3

      @@beautifulrose8619 Oh... okay then. Now I understand. Thanks for that. It was just the sentence structure in the previous comment (lack of pronoun clarification, really) that caused me to read the statement incorrectly.

    • @beautifulrose8619
      @beautifulrose8619 2 года назад +2

      @@melissachartres3219 Your'e right about sentence structure. I could have done a better job writing it.

    • @shalzsoulz3656
      @shalzsoulz3656 2 года назад +23

      Some people choose to have family because they are in fear of dying alone. They need someone at bedside when they are on their deathbed. I have worked in hospitals and nursing homes long enough to know that many people have died alone...even those who have great grandchildren.

  • @georgecrosby2549
    @georgecrosby2549 2 года назад +200

    I had a vasectomy at 24 (it only cost a $20 copay), I'm in my 40s now. I have no regrets. My family name will die with me. Oh well, my life is awesome. Selfish is not a bad word. I never wanted kids. When I was little, the adults always told me I'd change my mind when I grow up.... nope. If you know, you know. Hell, I can't even keep house plants alive. For me, having a vasectomy was the responsible thing to do.

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 2 года назад +16

      So proud of you Sir👍🏽

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +7

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @RC093
      @RC093 2 года назад +15

      I had one too. Best decision I ever made hands down. No regrets.

    • @Diaming787
      @Diaming787 2 года назад

      There is nothing special with the "bloodline". It's just a status, nothing else. Good decision!

    • @treylovely1418
      @treylovely1418 Год назад

      @@RC093 I’m about too get one is there any side effects that comes with it or everything still remains Normal ? I’m nervous of getting one because of side effects

  • @shakitabananaa5651
    @shakitabananaa5651 2 года назад +18

    Ppl who say we are selfish are mostly parents who wish they could go back in time & change their mind . Bye

  • @ryanhorner3908
    @ryanhorner3908 2 года назад +64

    I'm 27. My girlfriend of 5 years and I do not want kids.
    We get called selfish all the time.
    People are ridiculous

    • @dw3675
      @dw3675 2 года назад +15

      Stick to what you both want, tell others to mind their business.

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад +6

      If you ever need someone to “talk” to these people, give me a call.

    • @jimx45
      @jimx45 7 месяцев назад

      Anyone that tells you that you're selfish are mad you're not doing what they want.

  • @positivemindset4004
    @positivemindset4004 2 года назад +110

    As a woman carrying a pregnancy for 9 months is a risk in itself. I understand if women also chose not to have kids.

    • @ayansaid788
      @ayansaid788 2 года назад +6

      ikr and human birth is the most dangerous birth of all mammals I wish people took that more seriously and you can die from giving birth let that sink in.

  • @ryanchurasthemgtow7522
    @ryanchurasthemgtow7522 2 года назад +112

    Us Millennials can't afford children. Even if I wanted them, I couldn't do it on one income, without living a crappy, poor life. The baby boomers got all the cheap housing, while you can't get a cheap house anymore. Even rents got ridiculous, when you don't even own it. It's far less selfish to not produce another destructive, resource-sucking human being. It's probably the greenest thing you can do, to be childfree.

    • @brandonwombacher2559
      @brandonwombacher2559 2 года назад +1

      They want people to have children but won't pay people enough money to have kids. It's a double Standard man

  • @solointheburbs
    @solointheburbs 2 года назад +318

    It's refreshing to hear this from a man. 41, never married, child free by choice as well. I knew at 17 that I didn't want kids, kids are a burden. Period. I enjoy my lifestyle and independence way too much to have a kid.

    • @monharris28
      @monharris28 2 года назад +26

      agree, i've always felt nontraditoinal, i remember saying this as a teen "im nontraditional" lol, whatever society was telling me to be i always thought the opposite, i dunno lol

    • @hibr8n
      @hibr8n 2 года назад +3

      hi honey

    • @nicoleharrington9086
      @nicoleharrington9086 Год назад +13

      I was 12 when I made a choice not to get married and have kids. Im 32, I'm not married and I don't have kids now

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад +13

      I’m 41 going on 10. I’m too much a child at heart to want to be a dad. I enjoy watching horror movies, smoking weed, playing video games, and working out when I’m not at the job.

    • @rollingdudes8859
      @rollingdudes8859 Год назад +9

      @@Filthy_Larry If I had kids then I would be more of a FRIEND than a FATHER and they would grow up to HATE MY GUTS!!!

  • @asuperstar
    @asuperstar 2 года назад +27

    So humanity dies out.....I do not see the problem.

    • @iluv4suri
      @iluv4suri Год назад +7

      Right humanity was a lost cause years ago

  • @kentang1528
    @kentang1528 2 года назад +26

    childless is the best. no risks , less suffering , less stress to the mind body and finances

  • @kowalskikowalski8080
    @kowalskikowalski8080 2 года назад +146

    I think having kids with no plan, unplanned pregnancies or wanting to have kids with no plan is selfish. I can't believe there are 2 billion more people now than in year 2000.

  • @frankcuevas1502
    @frankcuevas1502 2 года назад +186

    I’m also 42 with no kids and never been married. Society IS brainwashed thinking that something is wrong with people like us. You know how many times I’ve heard “I love my kids, BUT if I could go back in time, I would have waited.”? A LOT!

    • @NeilMalthus
      @NeilMalthus 2 года назад +1

      Capitalism and its wicked tool - religion - are driving the ecocide. The news is forever claiming we need more people for the economy. To feed the insatiable rich who just want bigger profits (more people = lower wages / higher sales figures).

    • @fergthegemini12
      @fergthegemini12 Год назад +14

      I’ve been told that by plenty of people when they ask me how old I am & I tell them my age & they say those exact words you’ve just mentioned

    • @saxongreen78
      @saxongreen78 Год назад +16

      My own mother actually said that to my face when I was a kid.

    • @maryamdiao1509
      @maryamdiao1509 Год назад +4

      Right

    • @tevinmoss12
      @tevinmoss12 Год назад +4

      Sis said the same about her kids

  • @colin6673
    @colin6673 2 года назад +250

    Bringing a child into the world is the most selfish thing in the world. Just bringing a life onto the planet just because you want to do it. Nothing more selfish.

    • @EmberHarrington
      @EmberHarrington 2 года назад +13

      Youre a kindred spirit. My words Exactlllllyyyy!!

    • @BRM101
      @BRM101 2 года назад +6

      Amen

    • @25-8
      @25-8 2 года назад +8

      That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard, how can you say something like that? I'm speaking as a man without kids too btw, there's nothing wrong with reproducing, if we weren't able to reproduce we wouldn't be here writing these comments.

    • @colin6673
      @colin6673 2 года назад +41

      @@25-8 Ok? What's your point? It's still a selfish act. Children are brought into the world just because their parents want that to happen. Sounds pretty selfish to me

    • @25-8
      @25-8 2 года назад +2

      @@colin6673 people deep down aren't honest with themselves, I guarantee you a lot of people watching and commenting, want kids but can't have them because they are incapable of finding someone willing to accept them. A lot of people say things out of spite, a lot of them aren't happy.

  • @91722854
    @91722854 2 года назад +54

    You are not selfish, you are mature, considerate and kind

  • @marcushoward6560
    @marcushoward6560 2 года назад +35

    Not having kids does not "deprive" them of being born. It is saving them, it is the single greatest gift that can ever be given - complete non-existence. If I could change only one thing in my life, it would be conception.

    • @jenniferr9624
      @jenniferr9624 2 года назад +7

      I feel the same. I wish my mother had been infertile or had a miscarriage.

  • @coco_hue7486
    @coco_hue7486 2 года назад +126

    I am almost 38 years old and child free. I am doing my unborn children a favor by not having them. This world is beyond wicked and I would be an awful parent if I birthed them into existence anytime soon. At least he is making the conscious decision to say he is selfish and doesn't want kids. I admire that alot. Because when selfish people have children. It is the children that suffers.

    • @kenduejones
      @kenduejones 2 года назад +6

      Facts 💯

    • @ZikhonaN
      @ZikhonaN 2 года назад +2

      True.

    • @compounder3850
      @compounder3850 2 года назад +1

      My words 👌

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @iamauroraborealis
      @iamauroraborealis 2 года назад +2

      Precisely.

  • @sammmyyyyyy
    @sammmyyyyyy 2 года назад +74

    I think it’s actually selfish to have kids nowadays

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад

      Kids are stupid these days anyway and the parents are going on 5.

  • @davidresch390
    @davidresch390 2 года назад +232

    No kids! 47 years old...divorced no alimony! Society told us it’s what we should do! All my friends are going through divorce court and paying out the ass! It was never for me! I’ll let my bloodline die out well😊 It’s quite an honor! Love your channel...peace guys!

    • @BRM101
      @BRM101 2 года назад +8

      Amen brother

    • @mattcirino7104
      @mattcirino7104 2 года назад +6

      This 🙌🏽

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +10

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @thomasshort1784
      @thomasshort1784 2 года назад +6

      @Pedro VSantos Paying taxes is bad enough when you're trying to work to support just yourself!

    • @dayytube
      @dayytube 2 года назад +8

      Congratulations Dave.💐👏No botheration of child custody/support for you..
      All the best to you sir in living a healthy and low stress life.✌️👍

  • @candacedawn357
    @candacedawn357 2 года назад +77

    I'm a single, 42 year old woman and I also could live the rest of my life without kids. You are NOT being selfish.

    • @treylovely1418
      @treylovely1418 Год назад +3

      @Candace Dawn I’m 28 Years Old With No Kids ( By Choice ) And A Black Women That is The Same Age As You I Met Her At Planet Fitness She Have Grown Kids And She Try Too Degrade Me Because I Told Her I Never Want No Kids in My LIFE And She The Same Age As You but you are Much Different From And You Look Younger Than Her Too 😇

    • @candacedawn357
      @candacedawn357 Год назад +1

      @@treylovely1418 Do you! No one can decide for you. 😄

    • @Sammie551
      @Sammie551 Год назад

      @@candacedawn357 are you single by choice?

    • @candacedawn357
      @candacedawn357 Год назад

      @@Sammie551 I'm not!

  • @TheMissMonie
    @TheMissMonie Год назад +25

    Selfish is bring humans into this world knowing you can't take care of them financially, spirituality,emotionally etc. I'm childfree because I love my freedom to come and go as I please. I just got a new job and the hiring manager asked if I had any babysitting issues?I proudly told her I have no children and my schedule is flexible. She said oh good.Me being 30 , black female she assumed I had kids.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Год назад +6

      Haha! I get those same assumptions.

  • @terralynn9062
    @terralynn9062 2 года назад +272

    I’m 71 and child free by choice. After a childhood of taking care of others, I wanted freedom. I know I missed out on some of the precious aspects of being a parent, but I have no regrets. People couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t have children, especially as a married (at that time) Black woman growing up in a different era. I’ve been divorced and single most of my life. Some will think it’s selfish, some won’t. I agree that a person’s decisions should be “selfish”. How else are we supposed to take care of ourselves mentally, physically and spiritually? I love your thoughts on life, Tim, and watch your videos often. Keep doing you. You are an inspiration.

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +9

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @terralynn9062
      @terralynn9062 2 года назад +3

      @@ChildfreeMillennial Yes!! I love voices like yours and Tim’s. 🌷❤️

    • @itsjeninMass
      @itsjeninMass 2 года назад +13

      I have a friend who is in her sixties who is also adamantly childfree (I'm 51.) I love running into older people who have made this choice, because I recognize that it was much harder to do that back in your day. You guys are an inspiration.

    • @terralynn9062
      @terralynn9062 2 года назад +2

      @@itsjeninMass Thank you so much! 🌷

    • @dayytube
      @dayytube 2 года назад +3

      Thank the heavens 🌠 you have seen better days than us newer generations.. Though we live in the information age ,it doesn't compensate for those happy days.. thank the maker as each day goes by one day at a time.

  • @MKB31
    @MKB31 2 года назад +252

    Agreed! I'm in my 60s, never had kids. I always thought having kids was selfish because life is painful and dysfunctional. Why would I want to inflict it upon someone I love? I'm proud I never did that to anyone else. Anti-natalism is ethical.

    • @DigitalLoom
      @DigitalLoom 2 года назад +24

      Preach preachhh !!!!!!

    • @jenniferr9624
      @jenniferr9624 2 года назад +23

      I thought the same.

    • @jak6744
      @jak6744 2 года назад +11

      You look so beautiful

    • @g_c6668
      @g_c6668 2 года назад +7

      3xactly!

    • @marypatton1122
      @marypatton1122 2 года назад +18

      I am 64 without kids and deliriously happy!

  • @ParkerBG
    @ParkerBG 2 года назад +82

    I got fixed at age 24.. I’m 34 now. Still the best decision I ever made.

    • @makefoxhoundgreatagain842
      @makefoxhoundgreatagain842 2 года назад +12

      No life of alimony and child support for you brother! 😎

    • @koala6607
      @koala6607 2 года назад +4

      you will never regret it

    • @stillsearchin3457
      @stillsearchin3457 2 года назад +5

      Got mine at 27, I'm 28 now 💯👌🏾

    • @10RBREEZY
      @10RBREEZY 2 года назад +3

      You guys are brave!

    • @thorneto2742
      @thorneto2742 2 года назад +1

      I would do the same if I was in a position where it made any difference.

  • @dukewilliam3660
    @dukewilliam3660 Год назад +13

    Misery loves company. Plain and simple

  • @steve2561
    @steve2561 2 года назад +27

    I'm 51 never been married or have kids.I really couldn't imagine bringing a child into this world.

  • @Kingkongthugpassion2667
    @Kingkongthugpassion2667 2 года назад +355

    Gosh Tim you make being single sound so beautiful lol. Plus the way this society is projecting I don't know if I would want to bring a child into this sick place

    • @SimplyNaturalBlack
      @SimplyNaturalBlack 2 года назад +34

      Exactly, folks today's world are sick😒☹😯

    • @daniella8400
      @daniella8400 2 года назад +10

      Totally agree!

    • @sweetpea74127
      @sweetpea74127 2 года назад +4

      My exact argument!

    • @saturngirl3673
      @saturngirl3673 2 года назад

      Because women have similar choices too. I just lucked out do I asked God he said disappointing but understandable.

    • @rnldmanuel88
      @rnldmanuel88 2 года назад +3

      You can be in a relationship and not have kids nothing wrong that too

  • @johnsjourney4978
    @johnsjourney4978 2 года назад +20

    humanity will die out..
    what a blessing

  • @reidordieinvesting3615
    @reidordieinvesting3615 2 года назад +244

    You do you man. my father had me at 19 with no plan and left my mother and I had no contact with me until ten years later. People need to realize that you are bringing a person into this world and its not to be taken lightly.

    • @tinawilliams3738
      @tinawilliams3738 2 года назад +27

      Im fifty two and childfree also. There are enough kids in the world. I decided not to peocreate myself.

    • @tinawilliams3738
      @tinawilliams3738 2 года назад +2

      Annapolis md

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +5

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

  • @bamboojenkins8
    @bamboojenkins8 2 года назад +37

    If the people who are calling you selfish had a do-over, they would be siding with you. It's called jealousy because you can do what you want when you want without the headache.

  • @pla4825
    @pla4825 2 года назад +37

    As a woman whose 35 never married no kids I agree with you 100%. I respect people who want kids but people with kids should be respectful to people who don’t want to have them

  • @brianc6218
    @brianc6218 2 года назад +164

    Im 46, don’t have kids and don’t want kids. But the pressure to have them, especially from parents is ridiculous. I like to do my own thing and society loves to make you conform. The older I get the more comfortable I am not conforming to society. There will always be enough people out there having kids. I’m happy not to have the added stress.

    • @unknownsender6852
      @unknownsender6852 2 года назад +15

      Pressure them to be good parents. They're raising the little crotchlings in *your* world after all. Time to start holding these idiots accountable.

    • @mattcirino7104
      @mattcirino7104 2 года назад +1

      So true

    • @mmt123mimi3
      @mmt123mimi3 2 года назад +29

      I'm a Black female, late 50s, divorced. I remember telling my mother when I was 10 years old that I was never having kids. She said, " That's fine, and don't think you have to have them for me either!" Love her so much 🥰

    • @darrenhoughton1515
      @darrenhoughton1515 2 года назад +9

      I’m 46 and childless, luckily my parents have come to terms with it and just want me to enjoy my life.

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 2 года назад +5

      Well said, you can't believe the ridiculous pressure women get as well

  • @courtneyw9318
    @courtneyw9318 2 года назад +159

    As a man, you can be childfree with many children in different area codes, but kudos to you for taking control of your seed and not spreading it recklessly. That is a truly a selfless act.

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +2

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

  • @lorrainesimpson9482
    @lorrainesimpson9482 2 года назад +105

    I'm 57yrs and never wanted kids, knew from being a teenager it just wasn't for me. I never married either. I got all the cliches thrown at me when I was much younger, but I stood my ground and never regretted it.

    • @damian-795
      @damian-795 2 года назад +7

      Fantastic :-)

    • @nikkicas260
      @nikkicas260 2 года назад +2

      If your a woman it just means that you weren’t marriage material and that’s ok. It’s ok for a man to be a hermit not so much for a woman. Good luck 🍀

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 2 года назад +11

      @@nikkicas260 Why is it OK for a man to be a hermit but not a woman? Please explain that. I'm all ears.

    • @20maxilo
      @20maxilo 2 года назад +4

      Good for you... life is not easy but being selfless and making your own decision is freeing

  • @philipksick6810
    @philipksick6810 2 года назад +26

    I’m 37 no kids, never married. I’m in a long term relationship with someone who doesn’t have or want kids and we have lived together for years and don’t plan to ever get married. Kids seem like the biggest scam, way too much work and doing shit I don’t want to do!! I love being able to chill out and do nothing in total silence when I need to relax. I have never felt any type of maternal instinct, kids are a nightmare.

  • @RichARichTV
    @RichARichTV Год назад +21

    A random man on an anonymous app told me, that I would never find a man because I didn’t possess the basic feminine qualities such as wanting to bear kids. He said I was going to deprive someone their fatherly rights. This really hit me, and got me thinking if people really are like that. Best thing ever happened to me, because I discovered the CHILD FREE community!

    • @madeleinegrayson8372
      @madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад +7

      I love that he also assumed that your life would be terrible without a man, lol. Nope. I'm happily married but I was also in my own for 7 years before that and had no desire to couple up. That guy was just weak and needy. Gross, lol.

    • @Crukren89
      @Crukren89 8 месяцев назад +3

      He was a straight up incel. Hes one of those blokes with there outlandish remarks because things are changing and the modern man doesn't have the leverage they have had previously. As a child free man in his 30s i plan to look for childfree women in the same boat. The childfree holidays together get me hyped already 😂

  • @thebrightestrainbowever3841
    @thebrightestrainbowever3841 2 года назад +237

    This!👏🏻 I am also childfree because I am a survivor of Narcissistic Parents and lots of healing to do from my childhood.
    Parents can very much be selfish, entitled, abusive and harmful. Being a parent doesn’t absolve people from being cruel and abusive. I appreciate you breaking down these crazy arguments and judgments ChildFree people get. That was brilliant 👏🏻! I wish humanity took having kids more seriously. Kids are not a decision to make on impulse or out of obligation. They deserve thought and care before even being brought in if they do.

    • @MJ-qb5ph
      @MJ-qb5ph 2 года назад +33

      Yes! I think a lot of narcissts actually have children for totally selfish reasons - to entrap their partner, for trophies, to blend into/gain respect from society and as an extension of themselves considering they are non beings. Many such children will have serious wounds to are end to as a result. Bless

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +9

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

    • @hollyhayes9640
      @hollyhayes9640 2 года назад +9

      Same. I also have a Narcissistic "Mother", and now I don't want kids partially because of her. For example, I have a food allergy (gluten; aka Hashimoto's thyroiditis) that could've eventually turned into thyroid c@ncer if I didn't eventually diagnose it - and I might still get it eventually anyways. I believe it would be worse to have (unwanted) children knowing what I know. 🤷‍♀️

    • @saxongreen78
      @saxongreen78 Год назад

      Right: _R A M I F I C A T I O N S !_

    • @EadsB7002
      @EadsB7002 Год назад

      i grew up in a similar household and yes, it was one of many reasons i chose to be childfree as well!

  • @TheRichie213
    @TheRichie213 2 года назад +66

    I'm 41 with no kids. I had a vasectomy when I was 26. Best decision of my life! I love kids but didn't want that responsibility. My life is so easy and stress free.

    • @makefoxhoundgreatagain842
      @makefoxhoundgreatagain842 2 года назад +2

      Does the vasectomy hurt?

    • @DigitalLoom
      @DigitalLoom 2 года назад +2

      Are your orgasms the same and can you still expel semen?? Us dudes need to know this answer !!

    • @TheRichie213
      @TheRichie213 2 года назад +3

      @@makefoxhoundgreatagain842 The shot they gave me hurt. The procedure didn't hurt cause I was numb down there but still totally conscious. I walked out of there and went home. I did it on a Friday morning and went back to work Tuesday morning. I was still sore but working and walking.

    • @TheRichie213
      @TheRichie213 2 года назад +3

      @@DigitalLoom It's just as good. I said a little more but my comment got censored.

    • @RC093
      @RC093 2 года назад +1

      I had one too. Best decision I ever made. No regrets.

  • @Jaime-eg4eb
    @Jaime-eg4eb 2 года назад +145

    I personally feel like the only people that should have kids are the ones that have the time, character, resources and disposition needed to take care of them. If that criteria was applied I think overpopulation would be solved instantly. Perhaps our species would not have survived through the ages with such a logical approach, but either way we don't have to worry about survival of the species right now, as you mentioned.

    • @hellooutthere8956
      @hellooutthere8956 2 года назад +21

      I hate to say it but I was unable to raise my kids because of everything you said. It is called self respect and love your kids to be able to provide for them. Thank God they had a grandmother. Me and their father were alcoholics. Dont get me wrg I love my kids and I sobered up but I wasnt a good parent.

    • @kenduejones
      @kenduejones 2 года назад +2

      Definitely

    • @nwatson2773
      @nwatson2773 2 года назад +3

      Thanks for being candid!!

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +1

      This is a very good argument..

    • @ChildfreeMillennial
      @ChildfreeMillennial 2 года назад +2

      Yes!! Amen! That's why I'm childfree and I'm so glad that youtube has accepted creators like Tim and I for childfree videos to raise awareness within the community and abroad ❤🤘

  • @m.gilbert1176
    @m.gilbert1176 2 года назад +33

    I'm female in my 60s. Never had kids and I'm happy I didn't have to go through that.

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 2 года назад +3

      Congratulations 🎈. Thank you so much for sharing

  • @deppo_zweifler9029
    @deppo_zweifler9029 2 года назад +34

    Not bringing children into this world is a noble act.
    "No children should be begotten, so as to spare them the pains of life."

  • @tinawrinn2549
    @tinawrinn2549 2 года назад +53

    Having kids cause of society pressure is wrong. I’m in 60s…..I have no more filters. I say what people think but afraid to say. I should have never had any. Their costly, and rude. 😳 they don’t listen. I was way to young. I wasn’t at all prepared for them.

  • @handsomeX
    @handsomeX 2 года назад +47

    People want you to make the same mistakes they did so they don't feel alone in their decison. Sad.

  • @EmberHarrington
    @EmberHarrington 2 года назад +32

    Selfish????? Not one kid who was Ever born had Any say if they came into the world or not. The Selfish ones are the Parents!!!!

  • @SdotDubya
    @SdotDubya 2 года назад +18

    Misery loves company and most people were not brought into life out of love but out of selfishness and irresponsibility. I turn 40 next year. No kids and a single man, you can’t put a price on peace of mind.

  • @phillyfan-182
    @phillyfan-182 2 года назад +13

    I’m 28 single and don’t have any strong desire to have kids. I just want to have a wife and I’ll be good.

  • @erinperry07
    @erinperry07 2 года назад +92

    I don’t have any kids and I think it’s because I am selfish. I like to do what I want when I want…that’s probably why I’m still single too lol. Seriously it shouldn’t matter I think people should be able to not have kids and people with kids should be fine with it or keep their comments to themselves

    • @kenduejones
      @kenduejones 2 года назад +9

      🎯

    • @msfullroller
      @msfullroller 2 года назад +12

      Nothing wrong with this at all. The problem would be if you had kids and had this attitude. Folks just mad with us that are childfree because they drank the Kool-Aid, thinking it was an expensive wine. LOL

    • @rushrush1209
      @rushrush1209 2 года назад +7

      The truth is everybody is selfish regardless of whether or not they have kids. I am too. But you have to be selfish to get by in life. It doesn't mean I don't care about anyone else.

    • @mmt123mimi3
      @mmt123mimi3 2 года назад

      @@msfullroller 😂🤣😁

  • @kostadintoshanov
    @kostadintoshanov 2 года назад +23

    Having kids is responsibility.

  • @captainkirk2502
    @captainkirk2502 2 года назад +24

    I don't have kids. I love love love my freedom

  • @reikomyles1495
    @reikomyles1495 2 года назад +9

    Having my own children:
    Undesired
    Unnecessary
    Unwanted

  • @HE360
    @HE360 Год назад +11

    I'm the same way. I'm GLAD that I don't have kids. In that, I'm able to do whatever I want whenever I want. And life is A LOT easier without kids. I don't have to work as much and I could get by on a low budget.
    And to those who say that if my parents didn't have kids, then I wouldn't be around, to that I'd say: GOOD, because then I wouldn't have to worry about dying.

  • @Angaloth19
    @Angaloth19 2 года назад +67

    Your first childfree video is how I found you!
    Im female, 33, sterilized, married almost 11 years. We just bought 30 acres in the Appalachians and love to hike and roam whenever we feel like it. We keep bees and hunt, garden, mountain bike, and other wilderness fun.
    This is the best life ever. We’re certainly criticized for it, but it’s a small price to pay for complete freedom and peace.

    • @solarhydrowind
      @solarhydrowind 2 года назад +13

      It makes my heart sad to hear when you said "we're criticized for it" because not having children is a form of sacrifice for Mother Earth who is overburdened with billions of us. I never was in a position to be a parent and I have been tortured by it. I just hope people realize that those of us without kids can still hold our ancestors in our hearts, without adding to the Earth's burden. Peace and Love

    • @damian-795
      @damian-795 2 года назад +10

      Cool, I think many people have kids because it`s an ego thing. I am child free and very happy.

    • @beautifulrose8619
      @beautifulrose8619 2 года назад +7

      @@damian-795 People also believe that they will have a big happy family full of joy. Many times it doesn't work out that way.

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 2 года назад +5

      Sounds like heaven

    • @majogutierrez3926
      @majogutierrez3926 2 года назад +2

      Wow I wanna have your life when I get there

  • @soultraveler5834
    @soultraveler5834 2 года назад +19

    I'm 40 single childfree and loving my freedom.

  • @theerarestjewel
    @theerarestjewel 2 года назад +32

    I dont care to be remembered or have the idea that kids would be a caregiver / Guardian to me in my senior years. I take great care of myself and I plan on keeping it that way.

  • @rxvanz
    @rxvanz Год назад +18

    It's selfish to have kids because nobody asks to be born. By the way I choose not to have kids either.

  • @kenyattamufumbey.4785
    @kenyattamufumbey.4785 10 месяцев назад +6

    My childhood was messed up that's why I was so scared of having children.

  • @mr.Gemini7742
    @mr.Gemini7742 2 года назад +20

    Yep....I'm 53.. no kids and single

  • @darrel1954
    @darrel1954 2 года назад +111

    Tim, as a father of two grown children and a grandfather of three grandchildren, I think you are acting very wise by staying in your own defined lane in life. MIstakes arrive when we try to run in a lane we are not designed for. You are doing an amazing job running in your lane in life, keep up the good work. Darrel

    • @darrel1954
      @darrel1954 2 года назад +4

      @@celesteperezmora8159 Thank you

    • @darrel1954
      @darrel1954 2 года назад +6

      @video man Video man, I am saddened by all the hate we have today in our world. We all only get one life to live and I sure do not understand why people spend their precious gift of life hating anyone or anything. I will leave you with this thought I recently just really understood and have been living my life this way for a while now. Yesterday moments in life are all gone and paid for, cannot redo them. Tomorrow moments may or may not come to us as we envision them to be so why worry about them. This leaves us with this very moment we are in right now and since this is the only moment that we have why waste it doing anything negative, why not enjoy this one moment to the best of our ability. I do not understand when everyone else only has the moment they are in why they would waste their one moment of time hating anything in life because if they do they are wasting their entire life. Be safe my friend in your travels and be sure to make memories. Darrel

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад

      @John Freddy exactly. As a single man with no kids, it’s not like I set myself out to hate those with families. Many of them seem like nice people. It’s the ones that preach to you to have kids or you ain’t a man types and there’s plenty of those.

  • @theerarestjewel
    @theerarestjewel 2 года назад +86

    It took me forever to admit to myself & others that I don't wanna follow social programing. I've been a child & young adult behavioral therapist for 12 years. I've worked with 100s of family's, and children simply are not for me.
    I feel like men have been conditioned a child is the only way to have a legacy. And women can birth "create" many thing, besides what she can push between her legs .
    Obsession over having a child prevents you from being able to think beyond than what is given to you

    • @makefoxhoundgreatagain842
      @makefoxhoundgreatagain842 2 года назад +3

      Thing is - dna dilutes and fragments over time anyway. We dissolve into the gene pool. In a few generations time - dna evaporates into nothingness anyway. "legacy" doesn't exist.

    • @mumiaali4821
      @mumiaali4821 2 года назад

      Lets go half on a baby beautiful

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 Год назад +2

      @@mumiaali4821 You are not going to half carry that baby or half give birth to it, so how are you going HALF on anything?

  • @triggered577
    @triggered577 Год назад +48

    The most ridiculous part about this subject matter is that the reasons people give for why we would have kids are all selfish reasons.
    “I want someone to take care of me when I’m older”.
    “I want to continue my family name”.
    “My kids changed my life for the better”
    All those reasons are “I I I, me, me, me”. These clowns swear they’re so damn virtuous when the reality is they’re exactly what they accuse us of being -- selfish.

    • @AndrewWerner-o6m
      @AndrewWerner-o6m Год назад +5

      You missed - I want children to play and have fun with and take places, and I want them so I can mold them into an image of myself.

    • @kosherjew4223
      @kosherjew4223 Год назад +2

      EXACTLY!!!!

    • @jimx45
      @jimx45 7 месяцев назад

      Kids are a way to distract them from their mental disorders that they will pass onto their children.

  • @austins7321
    @austins7321 2 года назад +32

    For me, no kids means more money to charities. It can mean being a close uncle/aunt/big brother or sis to other people's kids that need a role model. It can mean being active in your community or church allowing you to volunteer more and help others when those with kids are unavailable. People with no kids are a blessing.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  2 года назад

      I agree Austin!

    • @trishawalsh7832
      @trishawalsh7832 10 месяцев назад

      In my case, it's an unwanted lonely dog from a rescue center given a loving home.

  • @heatherfeather1293
    @heatherfeather1293 2 года назад +23

    I knew since I was a child that I didn't want kids. Never changed my mind and am perfectly happy without them

  • @mehriah01
    @mehriah01 2 года назад +45

    Having children is a personal decision period!!❤️❤️❤️

    • @Sammie551
      @Sammie551 Год назад

      Yeah forcing people to have children sounds like rape

  • @serenavanderwoodsen3522
    @serenavanderwoodsen3522 2 года назад +23

    I hate when my in law mother told someone i couldn't have kids ti someone. I had to tell the other person its a personal choice not to have kids. 😤

  • @FortniteOG420
    @FortniteOG420 Год назад +36

    People that see their mistakes call people like you selfish, but us that don't have and don't want kids see you as a trooper for not giving in to the stupidity of society

  • @Supahead79
    @Supahead79 Год назад +9

    Your not selfish, you're responsible