I'm breaking generational curses by not having kids. Don't want to put a child through the crap I endured as a kid. I love my future kids enough to not bring them in this messed up world
If I do have children while my parents are still alive…. I’ll never let my parents meet my children… so that my parents can feel everything that I felt.
I cant wrap my head around these kind of statements. Only reason for not having kids is not wanting to take on the responsibility (which is perfectly reasonable.) But lets not act like there was ever an ideal golden age for having kids. As i think of it, each generation life expectancy goes up
Truly, so much respect for our child-free men out there! Thanks for not pressuring us women to destroy our bodies/lives to bear your children. My partner is totally on board with us being child-free says he respects me too much to put me through all that bullshit lol thanks fellas!!
You're even smiling in your profile picture. Smile so big wide and bright I can see it even though the picture is small on youtube. That's how bright someone with low stress can smile. I ain't never seen a parent smile that wide LOL
I technically became an uncle when I was 5, but I don't have any kids of my own and at almost 60 I definitely don't want them. I've seen my nieces and nephews start out as great little kids and grow up into screwed up adults.
Nope no kids. Mental health runs rampant in my family. It's crazy. Never married no kids and did well in life. Peace, quiet and freedom. Peace of mind.
@@Eman-vp5wk But your chances of finding a suitable woman for both yourself and your kids gets more slim as you age. Girls just care about the material benefits that men provide in general. A relationship is not necessary at all, in such a world.
Yea..people need to be careful how they treat their children. When they get grown they will let you know all the mistakes you made. I'm blessed my sons have given me some grace.
@@sjtalksandlife you are not always aware of what may have hurt your child though. My daughter and I speak openly about those things. At the time, I didn’t see any harm but that was not my kid’s perspective. Children are humans that form their own opinions and perceptions that will be out of your control. I’m glad your sons gave you grace. My daughter is still working through most of our stuff, but she has given me some grace.
exactly. but apparently its not selfish to force your child to play sports and work where they work because they want to live out their dreams through the child smh
It's more selfish to have kids (especially more than one) when you know you don't have the resources or patience or skills but doing so because of some "religious obligation" or to fulfill your own wants or societal status. "The lord" WON"T provide or make a way given the number of children in poverty and suffer hunger and neglect.
Main reason to not want kids is having complete silence. I was open to having children when I was in my 20's...that's only if I found a compatible husband. Never happened. Now that I am in my 40's, I am actually relieved that I didn't have any children. Single and childfree. I love my independence and solitude. Not to mention sleeping 8-10hrs every night. Raising children to adulthood is not for everyone...especially not in this chaotic world.
I’m right there with you. I was open to it when I was younger if I found a husband, but i didn’t. I never had that maternal instinct and I placed finding a good partner over kids. I’m turning 40 in a couple of weeks and do not regret my decision one bit. And now I’m not even the slightest bit open to it anymore.
The world seems too screwed up to have kids these days. Then again, people make the argument that the world has always been screwed up and that hasn't stopped people from having kids. Personally, it's hard enough looking after myself. Now I'm responsible for someone else, nah.
And the sickness is just getting started. It’s going to get much worse. You will end up like those boomer parents who completely fuxed the following generation with out realizing it
The feeling you get when you see your kid on stage playing music to a crowd makes it all worthwhile. If you raise creators and not consumers and resist the mainstream garbage, it's a terrific feeling. My son is a professional musician at age 16, making the world a better place and enjoying every moment. That's what life is all about. I would hate to miss out on that feeling as a parent, just like I would hate to be an alcoholic who can't have a beer. Life's rich pageant.
Ah a pay-rent or a pair-rents to keep those kids. Funny how you don’t own those kids. People sign their children away to the government at birth though the birth certificate. The government’s child then gets an inventory number which is the social security number. Heard the cattle as they say.. Peace!
I truly respect people who think through these decisions instead of just bringing other humans into this world and causing a generation of broken humans.
@LukeMM95 thier are a lot of troubled kids who have been raised right, turn into drug addicts, gang members, murders. Dylan of the Columbine mass shooters was raised by two loving parents. We all know what happend
Miserable people with kids will always pester us child-free people because they want us to share the misery. They envy our freedom, yet they can't admit it.
I'm 38 and childLESS and my life is sooooo peaceful!!! It's refreshing to hear this coming from a man. Men usually think women are worthless if they don’t have kids once they hit my age.
This is an ancient stereotype. A good chunk of men don't want kids. I told a woman that I was open to having kids and she totally flipped out. I was like shyt we didn't have any it would be a good thing to me. But women hear what they want to hear. 😂😂
You see Tim, what you’re supposed to do is work a soul sucking miserable job so you can afford to send your kids to a good school, so they can get a good job, so they can afford to be miserable to put their kids in a good school. And this cycle of misery can continue in perpetuity forever, and never question it.
@@оалатвлвдprogress with new tech that essentially makes us less human. With the current political trend, the future will be a mess for future gen and they're not going to able to fix it
I am a parent, zero judgement from me. Having children is a choice and if you want to be child free, your choice has to be respected and not question or attacked.
Thank you! To each their own. I have never attacked people who had kids, but people who had them often are more than candid about their judgements of me not having any. Citing that I'm selfish or irresponsible. Well... I couldn't afford to have kids when I was younger, now me and my wife are older, and we have the money, we don't have the time. I'm not gonna have kids, and expect the government to give me money to raise them, that to me is selfish and irresponsible to expect other people to pay for my choices.
@@sonicleaves It's not that hard to be a parent, just stop. It's hard to be a doctor or an astronaut, that's why so few people do it. Most people raise kids who are law abiding citizens. It's not easy, but let not make it seem like it's something so hard most 99% of people can't do it, when that's clearly not the case.
All children definitely deserve to have good parents and a good childhood. I've always known I didn't want children, and I have never regretted that decision. Unfortunately, there are so many parents that shouldn't have children.
main reason i refuse to have kids is because my mother should not have. I wont pass my generational trauma on to anyone. No matter how many times people tell me im not like her and i'd be a good mum, they fail to understand im a strong person now because i have the time to work on myself and im very independent. Having kids wouldnt let me be me. I dont want to be my mom.
I would make a great dad but being a parent especially with child support and getting to see them 2 days a week would fxck with my head. I am really cautious and not rushing into anything.
Props to this man for having enough self reflection, self awareness and conscientiousness to make an educated decision on not having kids. So many people procreate without any forethought about their health and well being or the health and wellbeing of their children, and then they have these kids and regret it or cause harm to their kids because theyre unfit to be parents. More people like this man, please.
I'm 45 and i have decided at my 25 to not have children only because i don't want to bring a human soul to this fucked up world,and i have no regrets so far. I'm protecting my kid by not bringing it to this hell. I like to think it this way.
@@jim-es8qk This is totally accurate. However it is still the same shithole, which we have to keep being slaves for having básic stuff; roof, food and water. Only going back to nature will bring freedom.
@@jim-es8qk And more school shootings, and more pollution, and more kidnappings... tell the "we have more food" to people in the USA living off mayonnaise sandwiches. Not everyone gets food stamps and food stamps don't cover a whole month. The fact still remains that women do most of the child rearing while still having to work full time. Men don't contribute much to raising children and they often leave when things get tough or they get bored. Men are more concerned about their "legacy" than being good fathers.
2 reasons why having kids get pushed on us...1) It stimulates consumerism. 2) People with the crabs-in-a-bucket mentality feel you have to suffer the same fate as them ("No fair!"). It's YOUR life, do what makes you happy (this is coming from a single dad).
In my country (USA) Social Security, the massive retirement/disability benefits system, depends on a steady stream of new payers to fund the program. In other words, it is the biggest Ponzi scheme ever constructed, and if people don't have kids, it will collapse
Life becomes easy when we don't fall into the pressures and trappings of family, friends and society. People may look at you weird, but you have way more freedom than the people around you.
I'm 44. I've been a high school teacher for the past 23 yrs. HIGH SCHOOL. Need I say more? OK, I'll say a bit more. I've seen what the parents of many of these students have had to endure over the years.
Teenagers are assholes. All of them. Even the ones who are good kids who turn out to be successful adults. It's a hard no for me because I could easily see myself choking my teenage child for disrespecting me. 😂😂😂
Back in the day, I got into an argument with my mother and sister in law, and they shamed me for not wanting to be a mother. This was when my husband and I were first married, and my sister in law had just had her first baby. She gave me the speech about how she's carrying on her bloodline, how she sees her grandfather in her son, and how parenthood is so sacred and magical, and blah, blah, blah. Fast forward to today, She's been married twice, and both men cheated on her and left her. she has three kids who are living with my mother/father in law who are both retired, old, and decrepit. Their house is always a mess. They never get any peace and quiet. My father in law is always looking for an excuse to get out of the house. One of the kids ran away to live with his girlfriend and isn't going to school. So now, my sister in law who is currently in jail for not being able to pay her taxes may be getting charged again because her oldest son won't go to school and no one can get a hold of him. These aren't the only problems she's faced, but I'm not going to write a book on here. Although part of me feels bad for them, I can't help but smile out of spite when I think of how they shamed me for not wanting to be a mom. Sometimes, I really want to ask them..."So, how's motherhood and grandparenting going for ya? Enjoying your sacred duty as a parent? 😏
Honestly I think being a parent can be great but the way they came about it definitely wasn’t the correct approach. And yeah, I would say being a parent is sacred since no one else brought that particular child into the world but that doesn’t mean it’s fun 😂. Some people make horrible parents and it’s good if they either better themselves or just never become parents, nice story.
This was hilarious. I'm child-free. I've NEVER questioned or regretted my decision. And I chose not to have them for all the reasons you mentioned plus ONE you didn't mention: I don't like people. I can't stand them. 😒 I tolerate them... in moderation. Why would I bring one into this world? 😂 And the way I saw parents struggle and complain when were on lockdown in the pandemic (while I chilled in my apartment in the peace and sanctity of my own apartment, with no kids) made me even happier that I chose to be child-free. Shout out to the great parents out there.
I don’t like people, either. Maybe a few here & there. But most people make me sick. Just get away from me. Don’t talk to me. No kids either, People are so proud of reproducing themselves. What simpletons. 🤮
@@charlieliverbk that’s so true! Misanthrope: no thanks, I don’t want to go to the party Everyone else: what!? you’ll miss out on the fun! Misanthrope: donates to the homeless Everyone else: I thought you hate people! 😆😂
I'll be turning 40 and have no kids. It takes a strong person to deal with all the criticism and the odd looks at get together, when you're always the only one who chose a child free life. But I wouldn't have it any other way. Since I'm the only child on my fathers side, I won't be continuing his legacy and that's a blessing because he abandoned me. I'll never forget that day, crying uncontrollably after him, as a four year old child. I can't imagine surviving through my child's heart breaking, the way my little heart broke, forever. There's just so much cruelty, pain and suffering, competition for resources, poverty and wage slavery in this World. Why put a child through that? This World is just not good enough for the future generations.
Nah they just jealous coz you’re free and can whatever u want do and go where u want while they’re stuck with mean, disobedient, screaming needy kids wrapped to their legs. Every parent I see looks so miserable. My own sister tells me I’m the smart one in the family.
they're basically creating wage slaves they're everywhere in warehouses doing back breaking work so the elites can basically line their pockets at our expense and live life on easy mode
It's pretty simple for me, children costs hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of thousands of dollars and I don't want to work more than 20-30 hours a week...life is waaaaay too short to work my life away 🤷
Overstand your position. My thing is if you was able to make double or triple an hour … you would have time and money, for children. And, an environment positive for their growth. Outside of this, in full agreement with you. Struggle alone; not curse another … they don’t ask to come here.
The reason why I dont want kids (and never have to worry about it again thanks to a vasectomy) is because I genuinely have never in my life even slightly been interested in the idea. I think a lot of people get caught up in the fear factor of not having kids, but doing something simply because you're scared of not doing it is an awful mindset to have.
Vasectomies can reverse themselves. It's still better to use a condom just in case. It'll protect you against STDs, too. Watch *Wild Flower* by *C.GEANE* & Happy New Year!!!
Im 34, i didnt think i was going to have kids and until bam i found myself very accidentally pregnant… i love my daughter beyond words….. it is actually hard to grasp….. but i have to say, i still struggle with the fact that my life is basically not my own anymore…. Its a hard pill for me to swallow.
At least you are honest about it. People post babies on social media like they are new cars or something...this society has changed so much even in just my 40 years on Earth....I feel for your daughter because u can teach her manners and all that but public schools are grounds for bullying and outside influences smh
You're such a breath of fresh air. It's honestly inspiring to hear someone so self-aware in this world of fake people and misguided principles. Kudos to you, sir!
I know, I teach swim lessons for a living and the kids love me because I encourage them more than tell them what to do and deliver spankings or other punishments when they don't 😂😂😂
@10RBREEZY 37 here and yes. Everything costs too much and the world is falling apart. I'm lucky enough to have a baby nephew, little cousins, and I'm a hypothetical uncle to be friends children. I can enjoy being around kids but without the strings.
@snoopcelev1590 Personally I feel it is unethical to produce a child into this Hellish world. Plus child care is expensive. Plus even if your child is the black sheep trying to wake up the world, the upper echelons will find a way to kill them off. This is truely a pointless rat race. The more you wake up within this rabbit hole the more you will do your best to free yourself from this slave reproduce program mentality.
I think it might be a conspiracy to get folks to procreate. Sell a fantasy to get people to agree. Fairy tales, romantic movies and tv. There are biological urges too, of course, however, society puts extra emphasis on it for a reason, I think.
Children are financial liabilities and you can save more money by having fewer mouths to feed. Also, giving birth to someone who will be a burden to you is just stupid. I would hate my parents if they could not support me. I mean, why have me if you can't afford to support me? Thank goodness my parents are smart and able to take care of me even while I am a young adult. I return the favour because I am grateful and it's a good deal. If I do most of the chores, then I don't have to pay rent.
My husband and I are in our fifties and CF. We have never regretted it. I know culturally it is really hard to be Black and childfree. Sending love your way.
I am a 48-year-old woman with no kids. Never wanted any, but 100% of the women I’ve known in my life wanted them. Not 99%, but 100%! Crazy! My friend went through hell to get pregnant at 47 and went tough even more hell with a premature baby. Hell no! Look at all the screwed up people running around in the world. I’m sure they were once cute babies. Look at the state of the world, what is being taught at school, all the insanity! No way! It’s time to end these karmic cycles and generational traumas! Other reasons not to have kids: women become totally absorbed with them and start ignoring their partners and their relationship suffers; you can’t have a normal, intelligent adult conversation with a child. Teaching two plus two is not fun for me; Your life is not your own anymore. Other animal species quickly let go of their young, but a human is totally dependent on his parents for years; your house is always a mess… I can go on and on. It’s a hard no for me. Parenthood is not for everybody. There are some great parents out there, I do have to give them credit.
Interesting. Every gal I knew in high school is childless today, and we're in our 50s, Gen X. Almost all of us are married, happily, but no kids. So it's odd to hear you say every single woman you know wants kids. Are you in Utah, lol?
No, not really. I’m originally from Bulgaria, living in the US for 30 years, currently in Florida. Now, some of the women I know did not have kids simply for medical reasons, but they all tried. Men are no different. All the men I have met or tried to date wanted kids or already have them and are looking for somebody to help them raise them. It never seizes to amaze me.
@@CD-ct6fc very odd. I grew up only knowing a handful of women and even fewer men who wanted kids. I assumed it was generational, as we were almost all latch key kids with mostly absent parents, mostly divorced as well. And once I was in my 20s and 30s, working full time, I met almost no women who wanted kids. Marriage maybe, not kids.
I’m a man. I’ve met women like you who didn’t want children, but you’re right in saying most of them do want children. The women that do want children try to impose on the one’s that don’t want. They can’t understand your feelings. As a man, I don’t want children either. I’m so glad I haven’t impregnated anyone when I was younger.
@@Daddy-JadI think we’re conditioned to think we need to have kids.I have 1 but honestly the older I get the more iam like kids are not for me I’ve always looked after my siblings when I was younger never had a issue with it but the older I get the more I like my peace and I can do what I want when I want still thinking of having 2 more because what if I don’t find someone that doesn’t want a kid
It’s totally OK to have just one! But we never say do you have a child? We always say do you have kids plural like that’s probably part of the programming too.
You’re honesty was so refreshing! My parents didn’t want me and I’ve had to live with that wound. It’s not worth putting a child through. I’m 43 and happily childfree so your reasons were so spot on! 💯💯💯
You spoke my mind completely, Tim. I never heard it said better by anyone. Another thing people who have kids don't consider is that the kid might have a life-long extreme physical disability or mental illness. You really should start some kind of community. There are TONS of us who think exactly like you.
too many people have kids just to parentify them and make them perfect supplies for their narcissism. And secretly are indeed jealous of anyone daring to have a different and perhaps happier life.
Some ppl say if u don’t have a child who will take care of u when ur old who will take of u ,, but working in a nursing facility so many kids forget about their parents
Every time I hear of or read about or know someone dealing with an autistic kid, a kid on drugs, a pregnant teen, an entitled brat who controls the whole household, I am SO very grateful I do not have that BS in my life!!
@@jbeauty4150don’t take it to heart I’m sure they didn’t have any harmful intentions, raising an autistic child can be very difficult when we live in a society that’s not built for neurodivergent people
It depends on the Severin of autism. I have seen Videos about highly agressive autistic kids that are a danger to their parents and others. Please do not act as autism is a great thing, it's a disease. Calling it divergent just sugarcoats the problem.
I have a child with autism and it severely limits what I can do with my life. Parents of children with disabilities also have a higher divorce rate. Something to think about…
I agree on ALL counts. I knew as a kid I didn't want any. No regrets. What most people do (like procreate), I do the opposite in general. These days society is too nasty anyway.
Unfortunately, kids are just the end result of Humanity Endless craving and desire for six...no one is thinking about kids in the moments of lust cravings and desires.
You're not alone in this bro. These are my main reasons why I don't wanna have kids: 1- They are too expensive: Cost of living is already too high and rising more and more. If I work , I don't wanna see all my money disappears in the blink of an eye. I wanna enjoy it and do things I like with it 2- Freedom: I reject any kind of pressure that pushes me to do something I don't feel like to. I'd rather spend my time doings activities or whatever. I do as I please, when I please 3. Future plans: I have other plans in mind , such as travelling around the world, meeting new people, exploring places , and having children isn't one of them. Absolutely not!
I agree and I'm a parent. I love my children. I also know that if I had to do it all over again, I would not. This is a cold cruel harsh world we live in. Not fair to the children.
I'm 52 and never had any children, and I think that it was one of the best decisions I ever made. One of the major reasons why I'm childfree is that I came from an abusive family, and I have no idea how to take care of a child.
I'm 52, single and child free. My life is my own. I never understood the whole marriage and kids thing. Stress. I'm a primary school teacher with 28 years of experience, part-time since the age of 41! Plenty for me, thanks. Joe. UK.
@@90uMicron How short sighted of you. You have no idea how fulfilling my life is outside of work. I do many other things that are meaningful and have purpose. I must admit, I have just wasted a minute of my life responding to your comment.
😂😂 I’m loving this video. I’m 61. Was married 30 years. Kids never happened when I thought I wanted them. Now, looking back, I am enormously thankful I never sired any. My life is WAY better than most of my contemporaries who had kids. I have more money; more time; less stress; less worry….etc. Every reason you gave is a good and valid reason for opting out. Oh, and for all of the parents out there who are reading this and FROWNING 😠 in disapproval I have just TWO WORDS for you: Y’all Jealous!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The symptom of a civilization in the process of dying... As a general practitioner I see from time to time old couples without children, or even old widows without families or almost. It's quite pathetic and very sad. Grannies with dog-dogs or cats, completely neurotic.
@@MarcusVinicius116I mean if you lived 60 good years full of happiness then it’s okay to age alone but also there are so many ways to create relationships at old age without having children, also there are people who literally age alone and go in nursing homes even though they have kids, like the kids don’t take care of them
I NEVER wanted to get married and NEVER wanted to have kids at a very young age. Today, I am in my 40s, never got married and never had kids and looking at the world today, I am CONFIDENT that I made the right choice. I'm glad you made this video. Makes me feel like I'm not the only one who is like me. -signed Lone Wolf personality from Las Vegas
All the reasons why I don’t have or desire kids. I never want to be responsible for another human. Fear of being bad at parenting is my greatest deterrent. I also hate life long obligation. The world is a terrible place for kids.
@@shauniawilliams9729 Me too. But, even more than that, I am thankful for God’s presence and salvation in my life. @For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16
Tim: Thank you for being extremely honest about your opinions on having kids. A significant part of my job includes writing long court orders about child custody, visitation, and child support. While there are some really wonderful parents who separate and co-parent well, there are more who either never should have had children, don't want the responsibility of the child, or the obligatory communication with the other parent. This story continues to repeat itself, and you're writing a new narrative that we all desperately need to hear. Thank you!
The negatives far outweigh the positives, you could be the best parent ever, and they still end up a bad person, or dies young. Stress is increased 10foldm
@@jbeauty4150 You're completely delusional. My uncle didn't have bad parents, but by the choices HE MADE he got kicked out of the house - he was a thief and a racist - he wasn't taught that. He made up his own mind. You're going to have to GET USED TO THE FACT that children are not robots. They are their own person and make their own decisions. GET OVER IT. Watch *Wild Flower* by *C.GEANE* & Happy New Year!!!
Omg I sat back in my chair, took a sip of coffee, tilted my head back in the sun and just as you hit the bit about how love “becomes conditional” I spontaneously erupted in laughter while spitting the coffee out into a fine spray which then rained down on my face. I’ve never had that happen before. 😂 Excellent rant and I’m ‘damn near 60’ and grateful I didn’t have kids for all the romantic reasons and fantasies that culture pushes. I’m often assumed to be a younger person and when asked my ‘secret’ I say “sleep, regular meals…no marriage, no kids… but good friends who offer reciprocity. And, noone really wants to hear about how you’ve managed to carve out more choices and options for your life. But, not feeling stuck between kids and aging parents while trying to manage debt and a changing economy means that you have enough space around you to complete adult challenges without it coming at the cost of your health. I can be more of service to others by not running on empty all the time. I counter that my choices aren’t selfish because everyone benefits having others practicing positive adult regard toward others. You could take this show on the road Tim…oh wait you already are! Appreciate you. 👍
I feel you on this! Cost of living is getting higher with no end in sight. Its hard enough to take care of myself, adding a kid into the picture = heck no!
I really like how raw, honest, yet still comparsionate this is. You're honest, mature and accepting of who you are. My wife and I are not having kids for similar reasons you listed. We're stressed enough in our lives as is and enjoy our freedom and being happy and going on dates. Why on earth would we do something like having kids to upset our happiness? It's never quite made sense to either of us. One cat is enough for us lol. Thanks for the vid. Best wishes
Dude, You are on point with everything! I thought i wanted kids when I was in my 20s. But now I’m 33 and went through an epiphany when I turned 30. I realized that I enjoy my me time a lot! My philosophy on life is: Keep things simple! The less responsibilities, the better! If i had a child, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the things I want to do (gaming, traveling, hitting the gym) on MY time. I want to go as I please without having to worry about finding a babysitter or what time should I be back home. I realized that some peoples’ reasons for having kids is because we are fixated on the idea that we should have kids, get married and etc based on society’s standards. Like if one person sees another person having a child, they get jealous and eager to want a child of their own because we are all about trying to compete and compare each other lives like it’s a competition. And i also feel that some parents especially the younger parents often treat their kids like “trophies” and be like, “oh Timmy won his first spelling bee, what has your son/daughter accomplished?” I’m like “get out my face” 😅
LMAO 😂. I do all of the things you mentioned. I respect your decision, but you people don't have the slightest clue about free time while being a parent. Newsflash, kids GROW UP, they're not babies for their whole life.
Typical comment of the current generation completely egocentric and narcissistic. These people run the risk of becoming disenchanted with age quite quickly, pseudo friendships withering away, total and distressing emptiness as time goes by, particularly after retirement. And in the end the feeling of a wasted life, of an absence of transmission of a little of oneself, of an absence of passing the torch. And how not to say that with this kind of idea it is the very future of the human race that is at stake, not to mention the gradual death of our civilization, to the detriment of others whose representatives do not not ask all these questions and which are otherwise fruitful, follow my gaze.
I used to want having kids a lot to a point where I felt scared that I wouldn't, until last year this was the situation. However, after getting married to a prick, I got abandoned after a year of our marriage with no reason whatsoever. It was a traumatic experience for me but opened up my eyes to the bitter reality of the world we live in today. That reality is that you can't trust anybody, even the person you get married to, with anything let alone having kids with them. I realized that single parenting is very scary, especially as a woman, having to sacrifice your body, time, energy and everything into kids that you made with the person you once trusted with everything, but chose to cheat on you, dump you or act abusive towards you. A big no for me. In an ideal utopic world, where the father is all loving, loyal, honest, responsible and the mother caring and nurturing, that would seem very nice to have, but it's just an ideology which happens to fail 99% of the time because of the current world we live in. Everyone talks about how nice it is to have a family with kids, but nobody talks about how untrustworthy, irresponsible, unfaithful and unreliable people have become and once you get divorced, it is even worse, because now the children have to pay the price. It's all a huge mess that I am not interested in to be involved with. I'd rather maintain my fit healthy looks, be with the person I want to be with, and not have to worry about what'd happen if one day they betray me.
Amen! Plus since you didn't have kids with him you can just drop him like a stone while those who had kids with an abuser sadly have to put up with them for the rest of their life.
@@tubadurantdoda agreed, ...the only downside of having your own kids is dealing with a significant other...you could be with a person for a long time just to find out 5 years down the line that the individual you trusted so well was an utter psychopath and if you have a kid or kids together, you're basically in an 18 year or longer contract with that person....nope...i think if humans could procreate on their own, there would be higher birthrates (yes, scifi) but the biggest thing with alot of individuals is having to go through another stranger just to procreate and them dealing with child custody and child support when things don't work out....of course, time, energy, and resources are greatly impacted, and the world is already extremely populated as it is....not enough resources and jobs to go around as it is...
Well, it's natural selection. Smart women have the ability to single out the kind of man to be "all loving, loyal, honest, responsible" and passes their genes. Those who pick bad men are usually not smart women.
I’m 40. I don’t have any children. I witnessed first hand how hard single parenting was for my mom. Our society doesn’t support the health and wellness of parents or children. My mother was extremely stressed and, as her primary support system (I was the oldest) so was I. All we do is make cuts to social services that parents and children need: school buses, schools, resource teachers, after school programs, social workers, recreation centers. I don’t miss being a child and I can’t imagine growing up in today’s world. Public areas like parks and waterfronts have become encampments and the local children in my county don’t have many places where they can socialize and hang out. More than ever parents have become a 24hr taxi service for their children and their children’s friends, shuttling them around to safe places where they can interact and build social skills. Things are very different now. To me, being a parent AND being a child in today’s world looks very isolating, like prison. Sry for the long ramble.
So true and no one is saying that! All the public parks and amenities that are the only refuge for low and middle class children have become dangerous camps for the homeless
@@Celwood I listen to my favourite music alot. Reading novels also helps me escape into another world. I also used exercise as one of my main coping mechanisms. As of recently tho, it has been getting worse where I had to seek out therapy. I hope it helps as I am not sure how much longer I can keep going.
#11. This world (specifically society) is just too screwed up, and therefore not good enough for my offspring. Not having to deal with other parents and their kids is a cherry!
I’m mid 40s and although I wanted kids, it never happened. But at this point I’m able to see the gifts in having kids but also the gifts in not having kids - there are also blessings in being child free. Parenting is a huge blessing but also a major responsibility that I just don’t have 😂 It’s good to hear about this experience from a male perspective so thanks for sharing.
When i was 28 I was depressed thinking I would never have kids. After I had a kid, I loved her. The only thing that rings true from the video is the constant worrying. The older they get, the more you worry about their safety. They don't listen, get crazy husband's. I can definitely see a childless person living a lot longer. The stress is unreal!!!
Finally, I hear about the childfree lifestyle from the male perspective. I knew I was going to be childfree after eating at McDonald's and asked the cashier to have my food to go because I just couldn't stand the sound of bad kids running all over the place screaming their heads off. I was 22 at the time, and I haven't changed my mind about it since. Discovered your channel via @childfreeblackwoman. Say hello to your newest subscriber.
"just couldn't stand the sound of bad kids running all over the place screaming their heads off." same, same and then - if there's a God - they get to put up with it at home, too 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
You know since I have 2 children, one grown and one 16. I wasn't sure if this video would be for me, but you are so funny that the laughter was totally worth it. And you are 100% right about all those things. Because you're an ethical decent person, you see and acknowledge the commitment involved and CHOOSE not to. We need more folks doing it that way, not just having them will nilly with no concern about the commitment.
Also never date or live with a baby mamma. For many of the same reasons listed and because in some states you can end up paying child support for children that are not yours, if you break up. "You bonded with the children by taking on father roles" and "It is in the best interest of the children" are the two reasons the courts will give.
@@lynic-0091 Keep your money and find someone with no kids. Leave them alone. Now if you do deal with them and the kids call you daddy, time to get the yell out of there. "You bonded with the children by taking on father roles" and "It is in the best interest of the children" are the two reasons the courts will use.
@@lynic-0091 Spread the word. That is one of the things Tom Leykis talked about. You might still find some of his old stuff on RUclips. It will blow your mind how the state allows women to destroy men.
same. he was a failed man and a brutal abuser his whole life. in his 80s now and he hasn't changed. she was useless from the word go: my two bros and i grew up with no security and no sense of safety. the three of us are still not mentally well. my brothers had kids. my niece - eventually - made it: unwed mother, now married and an RN. i'm still single, child-free, sending gifts and visits with married nephews and niece. that's as close to having kids as i can be relatively comfortable with...
@@JenniferRusso5That's a very pathetic legacy then. Seriously, imagine being remembered for bringing kids into the world because you wanted someone else to clean your mess without sufficient compensation. Then again, the people who do this probably lack the imagination to make these considerations.
Love your videos! I’m a late diagnosed autistic man and total introvert. I’ve never had the desire to have kids and wouldn’t want them to struggle the way I have anyway. Cats and dogs for me. And wonderful solitude
I absolutely agree with you in everything! Married, 37, my wife is 41, happily childfree. I have a well-paid job, I work hard and a lot. I don't want to spend my free time around crying, annoying and loud kids. I need peace! Another reason is that kids cost too much, they are so expensive. I want to travel, go out, go shopping, go to good restaurants, etc., that's life for me. Luckily, my wife also doesn't want kids at all and isn't a fan of them. We like the same things... We spend our money ONLY on us and we don't want anyone else with us in that.
I'm a childless single woman as well. I have never had the instinct or desire to have children (despite everyone telling me I'd change my mind). I think it is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It has given me the chance to work on myself. If I had had kids, with my generational trauma, they would either be in jail, on drugs, in the mental hospital, or dead. As a woman especially your life does not have to revolve around having kids.
@@valerierogers9609 heehee! Of course if someone truly wants to have children, that is all right, too. Or plants, or pets ... we are all different is the point, and no one path is "right" for everyone 👍
some people act like being childfree is the same as abandoning a child. the kid doesn't exist, it never did. be mad at bad parents instead of at non-parents.
I’m 23. Anytime I’m worried about life in general I get some relief just knowing I don’t have kids to be an additional source of anxiety in my life. Insightful and funny video by the way.
40, single, kid free. All the freedom in the world, and the means to do what I want within reason. Own my own house, 2 cars, vacation on the regular.....anything else slows me down.
I’m almost 34, no kids. Not old of course, but not that young. If I haven’t had them by now, I probably never will. My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We love to travel and take weekend trips, or one day excursions. Sometimes (a lot of times), we’re so drained when we get home for our jobs that the household chores are enough stress as it is. We have a dog (and I love that dog like a child) and that’s enough for us. Dogs are better than people anyways. We both have said the quiet part out loud that we love having that independence and freedom of not having kids. And with the high inflation and declining cost of living, I can’t imagine bringing one or more kids into the picture, because then, you no longer live for yourself. That may sound “selfish,” but that’s how I feel.
It's much better to recognize that you're selfish and not bring kids into the world. Thank you for that. I spent my 20s being selfish, and I burned out on that experience. My wife and I have two kids and couldn't be happier since we raised them to be good, creative people and not mainstream, selfish consumers. At a minimum, people should wait until they are 30 or so and actually spend their 20s out there experiencing life and getting to know who they are, not mindlessly doing what's expected of them.
My single mother made raising a kid seem like the worst thing ever. Didn't want to make a child feel that way. And yes, the expense is a factor. It's why it takes a village.
Best explanation ever!!! I’m a 46 year old childfree woman, and you perfectly packed up my reasons and wrapped them up with a bow! Thank you for this video.
Amen. I decided to not have children years ago. My husband and I are happy and have been married 29 years without children. We love our cats. Thank you for this video.
I totally agree with this. I have total control of my money, my time, my freedom, my space and property, zero chaos, trauma, drama, my sleeping time, totally happy.
I am the female version of you and this made my day!!! Especially the part about all the kid activities forced on you and spending time with other people's kids😂😂😂😂
male version here. and if your kid shows up at someone's Bday party with a "poor" gift you're shamed... for chrissakes... men are one thing but child-free women usually come in for really, really brutal comments and attitudes that have left me kinda speechless: some of the remarks are outright shocking. have a good life no matter what!
Male version here. Kids keep the house messy. I have OCD and cannot tolerate kids. I never invite anyone who has kids to my home. They are free to come provided they dont bring their kids.
I hear ya and 100% agree. I’ve just never had an overwhelming desire to have them, plus my standard for raising kids is extremely high, which is something I’m not willing to do 😂
#childfreebychoice 👍 I love more people adding their voice to this topic. If you really need a child there are plenty that need good homes. Sending love ❤
Personally, if your miserable in life, I find it a great cruelty to bring children into this world just for the sake of doing so. Based on economic models, assuming the kids live a standard and average life, they would be in more poverty than what we have right now due to rising inflation.
# 2 is one of my reasons I am child free. It is a life long obligation. But then again, some people move on after the child is born. Some people neglect their obligations.
I relate to this so much. As a childless single woman whose clock is ticking faster every year, this makes me feel better. Sometimes I wonder whether I really want kids, or whether that’s what I’ve been programmed to think. I know that my life is not worth less because I don’t procreate. Thank you! ❤
Ditto. 44-year-old single woman w/no kids. I never had the instinct and the only thing that made me consider it at all was everyone else saying that life is only worthwhile if you have kids, grandkids, etc. (Especially if you're female.)
You can have self fulfillment without children. The ego that is attached to the programming of society wants children but that’s not you or who we are. Know thy self. The esoteric and metaphysical knowledge will reveal to you our truths. Children is just another aspect of the illusion. Peace
@@gojiberry7201 yeah, i'm in my 40's too...no regrets! i never fell for the "hype" and i am so relieved! i know i made the RIGHT choice for me personally.
@@nofood1You create the joy because you are whole and you don't need validation. Dependency brings expectation. Being clingy and relying on external joy only won't bring you long term happiness. Choose hapiness in this lifetime!
As a woman I don't want to be put in a vulnerable situation in pregnancy and I absolutely hate to go through childbirth and even risk my life. I do not want to go shopping with a kid in tow all the time. I don't like and trust people, a lot of them are horrible, some are narcissitic scumbag, rapist and killers. Thank the universe I don't have to bring parasites like humans in the world. '
It's a life of what-ifs and fear, and frankly it flies in the face of Tim's overriding life philosophy. I'm surprised at some of the reasons he gave for not wanting to have a child. Lots of what-ifs. I think it's great that some people choose to not have a child, but they are missing out on one of life's most amazing experiences. No way around that.
@@AnotherAnotherJosh That’s not everyone’s experience though. It may be life’s most amazing experience to you but for some it is not. Plenty of people regret having kids probably because they didn’t ask themselves “what-if”. And alot of people play what-if scenarios in their head for other things, that’s basically how you make a decision about anything you do or don’t do in life. I’m glad having children was a glorious experience for you.
@@AnotherAnotherJosh if it was life's most amazing experience for everyone then child abuse wouldn't exist. Sorry for being pessimistic but your comment is very dismissive of other's experiences and feelings.
I'm 32 and I've seen what loss of a child has done to my mother mentally, and I don't want any of that. I'm just glad I have a husband who understands and also doesn't want children!
I'm breaking generational curses by not having kids. Don't want to put a child through the crap I endured as a kid. I love my future kids enough to not bring them in this messed up world
Couldn't agree more. Forever grateful
If I do have children while my parents are still alive….
I’ll never let my parents meet my children… so that my parents can feel everything that I felt.
@@ThabileTheTrainer Agreed 😊
Agree with you 100 💯 percent but my mom and grandmother who is still alive are very unhappy with my decision.
I cant wrap my head around these kind of statements. Only reason for not having kids is not wanting to take on the responsibility (which is perfectly reasonable.) But lets not act like there was ever an ideal golden age for having kids. As i think of it, each generation life expectancy goes up
I'm 37 with no children but have dated women with kids. And all that did was make me not wanna have kids even more
Your first mistake was to date women with kids 😂😂😂
@@dedasalmeida9047Yes, it’s true.
I’m single mom of one and I approve your message 😂
@@dedasalmeida9047 lol I think you might be right
@TREY_CHAMBERS_95 thanks my brotha .. living a stress and drama free life does wonders
@@dedasalmeida9047right!😂
I agree with all points. I personally don’t want to bring another human in this evil society where people value a dollar more than a human.
Agree with you100%
Totally agree and that’s probably the biggest reason not to have kids.
Not to mention the evil rulers attacking us from every angle
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You know the world is shit when a human 's value is determined by the job he/she has.
We childfree women love truly childfree men.
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Truly, so much respect for our child-free men out there! Thanks for not pressuring us women to destroy our bodies/lives to bear your children. My partner is totally on board with us being child-free says he respects me too much to put me through all that bullshit lol thanks fellas!!
And us Child Free Men don’t want Single Moms. That’s having kids out of Wedlock.
Hard to find in the wild (without secret kids on the side) but fingers crossed 🤞🏽
I had to watch this twice!! 😂😂
Yes, kids do not fit into a care-free, low drama life. Well said.
I decided to be child-free a long time ago. I'm 58 now and I have zero regrets about it.
You're even smiling in your profile picture. Smile so big wide and bright I can see it even though the picture is small on youtube. That's how bright someone with low stress can smile. I ain't never seen a parent smile that wide LOL
Me too but I'm 59 forget that
Me to 46 female here!🎉🎉🎉
Me too also 58. Known since I was 16 I don’t want kids.
Me 47, no kids and no regret at all
Being an aunt is awesome. You watch the kids and give them back.
I am an aunt as well. I am in parent training.
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I technically became an uncle when I was 5, but I don't have any kids of my own and at almost 60 I definitely don't want them. I've seen my nieces and nephews start out as great little kids and grow up into screwed up adults.
Or a God parent 😊
Or say NO to babysitting all the way around! 🤷
Nope no kids. Mental health runs rampant in my family. It's crazy. Never married no kids and did well in life. Peace, quiet and freedom. Peace of mind.
As a man, you can always choose to have kids no matter your age
@@Eman-vp5wk But your chances of finding a suitable woman for both yourself and your kids gets more slim as you age. Girls just care about the material benefits that men provide in general. A relationship is not necessary at all, in such a world.
I love that u considered that. Mental illness is definitely hereditary. Kudos to you
@Quintessentialman Still, it's debatable whether it's right to bring a new life into this crazy world. But yeah.
100% reapectable. Mentally ill myself. Would not want to have a child just to find out they inherited schizophrenia. Inconsiderate.
71 and no kids, no regrets. One of the few good decisions I made as a younger man and have seen nothing over the years that would change my mind.
62 and the same, a decision I have NEVER regretted.
I was open to it all my adult life, but now at 60, since it never happened, I feel more and more like I dodged a bullet.
71 year old still laughing my ass off over this one. Exactly why I NEVER wanted kids. Thrive on!!
You’re my hero!
"Pretend Tyrone's is mine." 😆😆😆
@@reginaldcarter5341 😆😅🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🥳🙄
😊do you still get the boring "who's gonna take of you when you're old?"😂😂
Future me, no kids and rich aunty😅😊
xD haha awesome
Like the saying, "every child deserves good parents, but not all parents deserve children"
Great answer!!!
The moms that drink and smoke while they're pregnant.
A beginning to a dysfunctional family.
AMEN.
Cool man, I also had a vasectomy, here in Brazil it was only from 25 years old, how old was it in your country?
Reason 11: your adult kids resent you for all the ways they feel you let them down 😣
That is a true statement
Facts!!!
Yea..people need to be careful how they treat their children. When they get grown they will let you know all the mistakes you made. I'm blessed my sons have given me some grace.
@@sjtalksandlife definitely makes a whole lot of sense
@@sjtalksandlife you are not always aware of what may have hurt your child though. My daughter and I speak openly about those things. At the time, I didn’t see any harm but that was not my kid’s perspective. Children are humans that form their own opinions and perceptions that will be out of your control. I’m glad your sons gave you grace. My daughter is still working through most of our stuff, but she has given me some grace.
Never let society gaslight you into thinking you're "selfish" for not wanting children.
exactly. but apparently its not selfish to force your child to play sports and work where they work because they want to live out their dreams through the child smh
It's more selfish to have kids (especially more than one) when you know you don't have the resources or patience or skills but doing so because of some "religious obligation" or to fulfill your own wants or societal status. "The lord" WON"T provide or make a way given the number of children in poverty and suffer hunger and neglect.
Fuck society!
Ppl who have kids have them for selfish reasons most of the time.
@@NikD215and why is it wrong?
Main reason to not want kids is having complete silence. I was open to having children when I was in my 20's...that's only if I found a compatible husband. Never happened. Now that I am in my 40's, I am actually relieved that I didn't have any children. Single and childfree. I love my independence and solitude. Not to mention sleeping 8-10hrs every night. Raising children to adulthood is not for everyone...especially not in this chaotic world.
I’m right there with you. I was open to it when I was younger if I found a husband, but i didn’t. I never had that maternal instinct and I placed finding a good partner over kids. I’m turning 40 in a couple of weeks and do not regret my decision one bit. And now I’m not even the slightest bit open to it anymore.
Wow your 40 and single ?? Damn what a sad life.
@@mr.alexander1506How is that sad life? Tf?
@EC777 let's hook up.
I like the way you think.
The world seems too screwed up to have kids these days. Then again, people make the argument that the world has always been screwed up and that hasn't stopped people from having kids.
Personally, it's hard enough looking after myself. Now I'm responsible for someone else, nah.
Exactly they parents will be happy to bring kids in a war zone or high crime area.
I feel the same way db man. Great point.
And the sickness is just getting started. It’s going to get much worse. You will end up like those boomer parents who completely fuxed the following generation with out realizing it
The feeling you get when you see your kid on stage playing music to a crowd makes it all worthwhile. If you raise creators and not consumers and resist the mainstream garbage, it's a terrific feeling. My son is a professional musician at age 16, making the world a better place and enjoying every moment. That's what life is all about. I would hate to miss out on that feeling as a parent, just like I would hate to be an alcoholic who can't have a beer. Life's rich pageant.
Amen
I’m a parent. This was hilarious and so true!!! Parenting doesn’t stop at 18, ask my mother.
Ah a pay-rent or a pair-rents to keep those kids. Funny how you don’t own those kids. People sign their children away to the government at birth though the birth certificate. The government’s child then gets an inventory number which is the social security number. Heard the cattle as they say.. Peace!
Ask my father and my mother!!!
Yes Lord!!!
Yup me and my 6 siblings 29-38. My parents still stress over em 😂
It never ends these days
Your right being parent ain’t easy.
I truly respect people who think through these decisions instead of just bringing other humans into this world and causing a generation of broken humans.
Yea, you could be the best parent ever, and your child still ends up evil or passes early.
@@Legiey How can you be the best parent in the world and raise an evil child? The parents are responsible for all the child's actions.
@LukeMM95 thier are a lot of troubled kids who have been raised right, turn into drug addicts, gang members, murders. Dylan of the Columbine mass shooters was raised by two loving parents. We all know what happend
@@Legiey "two loving parents" doesn't mean they were good parents. They raised a murderer. Clearly they did something wrong.
@@LukeMM95a parent is responsible for their kids actions until their 18 and if I'm not mistaken no longer living with you.
Miserable people with kids will always pester us child-free people because they want us to share the misery. They envy our freedom, yet they can't admit it.
Misery loves company lol
True because I didn't want kids I was pregnant and the miserable ppl stress me out and I kept the baby. Plz do not have kids u will regret it
You nailed it. The dirty little secret.
I am not child-free. I am not miserable. Everyone should choose his destiny by himself (in attune with society he lives in). Darwin rules!
@@durgalakshmi2793 Not true
I'm 38 and childLESS and my life is sooooo peaceful!!! It's refreshing to hear this coming from a man. Men usually think women are worthless if they don’t have kids once they hit my age.
A woman’s worth has nothing to do with whether or not she has children, at any age. I feel sorry for men who believe that.
Those are the ones who say they very same thing about Women who _do_ have kids.
@@attitudeproblem6462 Right. Or any woman above age 25 because she "hit the wall" , basically any woman
Hit your boy up, I don't want kids either. I'm looking got someone that wants that lifestyle.
This is an ancient stereotype. A good chunk of men don't want kids. I told a woman that I was open to having kids and she totally flipped out. I was like shyt we didn't have any it would be a good thing to me. But women hear what they want to hear. 😂😂
You see Tim, what you’re supposed to do is work a soul sucking miserable job so you can afford to send your kids to a good school, so they can get a good job, so they can afford to be miserable to put their kids in a good school. And this cycle of misery can continue in perpetuity forever, and never question it.
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Enjoying the matrix😂😂😂
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What type of people do you live around? Most people are not
Miserable like you seem to think
This video saved me from 40+ years of drama and stress and mental destruction
Bringing a kid into the state this world is in, is borderline child abuse.
Yeah, this isn’t the 90s anymore Toto!
@victoriasage7 Facts
So you're gonna sit there and do nothing. Its future generations that can progress society
Let other people bring damaged humans into the world, that's on them.
@@оалатвлвдprogress with new tech that essentially makes us less human. With the current political trend, the future will be a mess for future gen and they're not going to able to fix it
I am a parent, zero judgement from me. Having children is a choice and if you want to be child free, your choice has to be respected and not question or attacked.
Thank you! To each their own. I have never attacked people who had kids, but people who had them often are more than candid about their judgements of me not having any.
Citing that I'm selfish or irresponsible.
Well... I couldn't afford to have kids when I was younger, now me and my wife are older, and we have the money, we don't have the time.
I'm not gonna have kids, and expect the government to give me money to raise them, that to me is selfish and irresponsible to expect other people to pay for my choices.
Agreed. Lol
I will like us to have a child together
Yes! It takes a level of patience and understanding 99 percent of people do not have. Better to prevent pregnancy than to hurt an innocent child.
@@sonicleaves It's not that hard to be a parent, just stop. It's hard to be a doctor or an astronaut, that's why so few people do it. Most people raise kids who are law abiding citizens. It's not easy, but let not make it seem like it's something so hard most 99% of people can't do it, when that's clearly not the case.
All children definitely deserve to have good parents and a good childhood. I've always known I didn't want children, and I have never regretted that decision. Unfortunately, there are so many parents that shouldn't have children.
Well said.
main reason i refuse to have kids is because my mother should not have. I wont pass my generational trauma on to anyone. No matter how many times people tell me im not like her and i'd be a good mum, they fail to understand im a strong person now because i have the time to work on myself and im very independent. Having kids wouldnt let me be me. I dont want to be my mom.
@@zennyzenzen Totally understand; for me, it was my father. I hope all is well with you today.
I would make a great dad but being a parent especially with child support and getting to see them 2 days a week would fxck with my head. I am really cautious and not rushing into anything.
don't I know it. if you in your 20s you haven't even started living
Props to this man for having enough self reflection, self awareness and conscientiousness to make an educated decision on not having kids. So many people procreate without any forethought about their health and well being or the health and wellbeing of their children, and then they have these kids and regret it or cause harm to their kids because theyre unfit to be parents.
More people like this man, please.
I'm 45 and i have decided at my 25 to not have children only because i don't want to bring a human soul to this fucked up world,and i have no regrets so far.
I'm protecting my kid by not bringing it to this hell.
I like to think it this way.
That was my first reason for not having a child, I dont even want to be in this shitty society. And more reasons. 😅
we have more food and less wars than in any other time in human history.
@@jim-es8qk This is totally accurate. However it is still the same shithole, which we have to keep being slaves for having básic stuff; roof, food and water. Only going back to nature will bring freedom.
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@@jim-es8qk And more school shootings, and more pollution, and more kidnappings... tell the "we have more food" to people in the USA living off mayonnaise sandwiches. Not everyone gets food stamps and food stamps don't cover a whole month. The fact still remains that women do most of the child rearing while still having to work full time. Men don't contribute much to raising children and they often leave when things get tough or they get bored. Men are more concerned about their "legacy" than being good fathers.
2 reasons why having kids get pushed on us...1) It stimulates consumerism. 2) People with the crabs-in-a-bucket mentality feel you have to suffer the same fate as them ("No fair!"). It's YOUR life, do what makes you happy (this is coming from a single dad).
Plus … are we raising OUR kids … or the STATE.
Yeah it's a hivemind.
In my country (USA) Social Security, the massive retirement/disability benefits system, depends on a steady stream of new payers to fund the program. In other words, it is the biggest Ponzi scheme ever constructed, and if people don't have kids, it will collapse
Pay- rents
This comment makes alot of sense
Life becomes easy when we don't fall into the pressures and trappings of family, friends and society. People may look at you weird, but you have way more freedom than the people around you.
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doesn't it get lonely though?
@@iiCounted-op5jx not really. Some people will like you, and others won't.
@@amirtak9886 yeah but doesn't coming home to nothing every day feel kinda sad after a while?
@@iiCounted-op5jx That's up to you.
I'm 44. I've been a high school teacher for the past 23 yrs. HIGH SCHOOL. Need I say more? OK, I'll say a bit more. I've seen what the parents of many of these students have had to endure over the years.
So it’s safe to say you do not have any kids?
Yes they SUCK. We sucked, most people suck on their teens.
@@gavinsnanaYes, agree with you 💯
Who raise their kids, why are there kids so messed up didn't they tell them how to act?
Teenagers are assholes. All of them. Even the ones who are good kids who turn out to be successful adults. It's a hard no for me because I could easily see myself choking my teenage child for disrespecting me. 😂😂😂
Back in the day, I got into an argument with my mother and sister in law, and they shamed me for not wanting to be a mother. This was when my husband and I were first married, and my sister in law had just had her first baby. She gave me the speech about how she's carrying on her bloodline, how she sees her grandfather in her son, and how parenthood is so sacred and magical, and blah, blah, blah. Fast forward to today, She's been married twice, and both men cheated on her and left her. she has three kids who are living with my mother/father in law who are both retired, old, and decrepit. Their house is always a mess. They never get any peace and quiet. My father in law is always looking for an excuse to get out of the house. One of the kids ran away to live with his girlfriend and isn't going to school. So now, my sister in law who is currently in jail for not being able to pay her taxes may be getting charged again because her oldest son won't go to school and no one can get a hold of him. These aren't the only problems she's faced, but I'm not going to write a book on here. Although part of me feels bad for them, I can't help but smile out of spite when I think of how they shamed me for not wanting to be a mom. Sometimes, I really want to ask them..."So, how's motherhood and grandparenting going for ya? Enjoying your sacred duty as a parent? 😏
Honestly I think being a parent can be great but the way they came about it definitely wasn’t the correct approach. And yeah, I would say being a parent is sacred since no one else brought that particular child into the world but that doesn’t mean it’s fun 😂. Some people make horrible parents and it’s good if they either better themselves or just never become parents, nice story.
Your mean lol
Damn. Those kids sound like they are headed towards the state. Child Services.
Are you a bot because I saw this exact comment on another video
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Kids are a huge responsibility. It's responsible to accept that we cant take the responsibility.
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This was hilarious. I'm child-free. I've NEVER questioned or regretted my decision. And I chose not to have them for all the reasons you mentioned plus ONE you didn't mention: I don't like people. I can't stand them. 😒 I tolerate them... in moderation. Why would I bring one into this world? 😂
And the way I saw parents struggle and complain when were on lockdown in the pandemic (while I chilled in my apartment in the peace and sanctity of my own apartment, with no kids) made me even happier that I chose to be child-free. Shout out to the great parents out there.
I don’t like people, either. Maybe a few here & there. But most people make me sick. Just get away from me. Don’t talk to me. No kids either, People are so proud of reproducing themselves. What simpletons. 🤮
this is me lol
Same. It’s weird how people know I’m a misanthrope but are shocked that I don’t want kids 😂
@nowherenothere We misanthropes might as well be aliens on this planet. No one gets us but everythine thinks they do. 🙄😂
@@charlieliverbk that’s so true!
Misanthrope: no thanks, I don’t want to go to the party
Everyone else: what!? you’ll miss out on the fun!
Misanthrope: donates to the homeless
Everyone else: I thought you hate people!
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I'll be turning 40 and have no kids. It takes a strong person to deal with all the criticism and the odd looks at get together, when you're always the only one who chose a child free life. But I wouldn't have it any other way. Since I'm the only child on my fathers side, I won't be continuing his legacy and that's a blessing because he abandoned me. I'll never forget that day, crying uncontrollably after him, as a four year old child. I can't imagine surviving through my child's heart breaking, the way my little heart broke, forever. There's just so much cruelty, pain and suffering, competition for resources, poverty and wage slavery in this World. Why put a child through that? This World is just not good enough for the future generations.
That is how I think of it too. Why bring other people into this?
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Nah they just jealous coz you’re free and can whatever u want do and go where u want while they’re stuck with mean, disobedient, screaming needy kids wrapped to their legs. Every parent I see looks so miserable. My own sister tells me I’m the smart one in the family.
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@@Puddycat00 Misery loves company, as the saying goes.
Having kids is probably one of the biggest scams our society promotes. Most people with the kids are hella miserable.
@@chishalachabu3284 ikr
....life is suffering. You need meaning to sustain that suffering.
@@jim-es8qk "Life is suffering" with that outlook on life the last thing you need is kids. Invest in yourself more. Find a hobby or something.
You hit it right on the nail with this comment.
they're basically creating wage slaves they're everywhere in warehouses doing back breaking work so the elites can basically line their pockets at our expense and live life on easy mode
It's pretty simple for me, children costs hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of thousands of dollars and I don't want to work more than 20-30 hours a week...life is waaaaay too short to work my life away 🤷
it is worse than looking after a pets kids are traps
Agreed. No thanks
Overstand your position. My thing is if you was able to make double or triple an hour … you would have time and money, for children. And, an environment positive for their growth. Outside of this, in full agreement with you. Struggle alone; not curse another … they don’t ask to come here.
The reason why I dont want kids (and never have to worry about it again thanks to a vasectomy) is because I genuinely have never in my life even slightly been interested in the idea.
I think a lot of people get caught up in the fear factor of not having kids, but doing something simply because you're scared of not doing it is an awful mindset to have.
The reason I made a decision not to have children is because of the rampant evil all around.
Vasectomies can reverse themselves. It's still better to use a condom just in case. It'll protect you against STDs, too. Watch *Wild Flower* by *C.GEANE* & Happy New Year!!!
Im 34, i didnt think i was going to have kids and until bam i found myself very accidentally pregnant… i love my daughter beyond words….. it is actually hard to grasp….. but i have to say, i still struggle with the fact that my life is basically not my own anymore…. Its a hard pill for me to swallow.
At least you are honest about it. People post babies on social media like they are new cars or something...this society has changed so much even in just my 40 years on Earth....I feel for your daughter because u can teach her manners and all that but public schools are grounds for bullying and outside influences smh
a very expensive accident
Your love for your daughter is powerful. I’m a childfree woman. Even if your a parent self care is important. It benefits you and your daughter.
@@beaulieuc8910😂 yup lol
@@Topg1its important but very hard to make time for yourself when you are soley responsible for another small life 😅
You're such a breath of fresh air. It's honestly inspiring to hear someone so self-aware in this world of fake people and misguided principles. Kudos to you, sir!
Felt the same way. Peace.
The best parents in the world are the ones who never had kids.
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Very true and overrated comment
I know, I teach swim lessons for a living and the kids love me because I encourage them more than tell them what to do and deliver spankings or other punishments when they don't 😂😂😂
Trueeee
I usually don’t comment , but I agree with this statement!
Just turned 39 today, definitely child free and never felt more happy with my decision of being child free.
I am 29. I see how the world is going today. If you were my age, current times. Would you still choose to be childfree?
@10RBREEZY 37 here and yes. Everything costs too much and the world is falling apart. I'm lucky enough to have a baby nephew, little cousins, and I'm a hypothetical uncle to be friends children. I can enjoy being around kids but without the strings.
@@kingjoseph5901 Agreed ☺️🙂↕️.
Honest question here, why did you even watch this video?
@snoopcelev1590 Personally I feel it is unethical to produce a child into this Hellish world. Plus child care is expensive. Plus even if your child is the black sheep trying to wake up the world, the upper echelons will find a way to kill them off. This is truely a pointless rat race. The more you wake up within this rabbit hole the more you will do your best to free yourself from this slave reproduce program mentality.
It’s sad that society had us thinking everyone should be married and have kids just to keep us working and keeping paying bills
🎯Bingo! Most folks haven't figured it out yet. Working to pay bills, get debt and buy buy buy buy buy.
They want us to birth more slaves for the system.
I think it might be a conspiracy to get folks to procreate. Sell a fantasy to get people to agree. Fairy tales, romantic movies and tv. There are biological urges too, of course, however, society puts extra emphasis on it for a reason, I think.
Children are financial liabilities and you can save more money by having fewer mouths to feed. Also, giving birth to someone who will be a burden to you is just stupid. I would hate my parents if they could not support me. I mean, why have me if you can't afford to support me? Thank goodness my parents are smart and able to take care of me even while I am a young adult. I return the favour because I am grateful and it's a good deal. If I do most of the chores, then I don't have to pay rent.
@@evilds3261 At least you have parents who have done their best not to have a dysfunctional family.
My husband and I are in our fifties and CF. We have never regretted it. I know culturally it is really hard to be Black and childfree. Sending love your way.
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I am a 48-year-old woman with no kids. Never wanted any, but 100% of the women I’ve known in my life wanted them. Not 99%, but 100%! Crazy! My friend went through hell to get pregnant at 47 and went tough even more hell with a premature baby. Hell no! Look at all the screwed up people running around in the world. I’m sure they were once cute babies. Look at the state of the world, what is being taught at school, all the insanity! No way! It’s time to end these karmic cycles and generational traumas! Other reasons not to have kids: women become totally absorbed with them and start ignoring their partners and their relationship suffers; you can’t have a normal, intelligent adult conversation with a child. Teaching two plus two is not fun for me; Your life is not your own anymore. Other animal species quickly let go of their young, but a human is totally dependent on his parents for years; your house is always a mess… I can go on and on. It’s a hard no for me. Parenthood is not for everybody. There are some great parents out there, I do have to give them credit.
Interesting. Every gal I knew in high school is childless today, and we're in our 50s, Gen X. Almost all of us are married, happily, but no kids. So it's odd to hear you say every single woman you know wants kids. Are you in Utah, lol?
No, not really. I’m originally from Bulgaria, living in the US for 30 years, currently in Florida. Now, some of the women I know did not have kids simply for medical reasons, but they all tried. Men are no different. All the men I have met or tried to date wanted kids or already have them and are looking for somebody to help them raise them. It never seizes to amaze me.
@@CD-ct6fc very odd. I grew up only knowing a handful of women and even fewer men who wanted kids. I assumed it was generational, as we were almost all latch key kids with mostly absent parents, mostly divorced as well. And once I was in my 20s and 30s, working full time, I met almost no women who wanted kids. Marriage maybe, not kids.
I’m a man. I’ve met women like you who didn’t want children, but you’re right in saying most of them do want children. The women that do want children try to impose on the one’s that don’t want. They can’t understand your feelings. As a man, I don’t want children either. I’m so glad I haven’t impregnated anyone when I was younger.
@@ManPursueExcellenceI definitely don’t want kids also 😅
I am a parent and it’s nice to hear you talk so honestly, many parents don’t know what they’re getting into when they have kids
It's like signing your life away😅 I'm 40 and still have my dad helping from time to time poor guy lol
@@Daddy-JadI think we’re conditioned to think we need to have kids.I have 1 but honestly the older I get the more iam like kids are not for me I’ve always looked after my siblings when I was younger never had a issue with it but the older I get the more I like my peace and I can do what I want when I want still thinking of having 2 more because what if I don’t find someone that doesn’t want a kid
It’s totally OK to have just one! But we never say do you have a child? We always say do you have kids plural like that’s probably part of the programming too.
You’re honesty was so refreshing! My parents didn’t want me and I’ve had to live with that wound. It’s not worth putting a child through. I’m 43 and happily childfree so your reasons were so spot on! 💯💯💯
Even my dad kept complaining how he paid school fees in a good school for useless children.... I am child free
@@teresiamaina9573Terrible you're not worthless.
That must be hard knowing that…
You spoke my mind completely, Tim. I never heard it said better by anyone. Another thing people who have kids don't consider is that the kid might have a life-long extreme physical disability or mental illness. You really should start some kind of community. There are TONS of us who think exactly like you.
I'm with you brother! Why are we looked upon like freaks? Instead of being decisive, independent thinkers.
too many people have kids just to parentify them and make them perfect supplies for their narcissism. And secretly are indeed jealous of anyone daring to have a different and perhaps happier life.
Some ppl say if u don’t have a child who will take care of u when ur old who will take of u ,, but working in a nursing facility so many kids forget about their parents
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I don't have kids and I'm still broke. Imagine having a kid!
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my life story jesus xD i can't do 9-5 jobs slaving my whole life to support some kid xD
You'll be homeless
Every time I hear of or read about or know someone dealing with an autistic kid, a kid on drugs, a pregnant teen, an entitled brat who controls the whole household, I am SO very grateful I do not have that BS in my life!!
sadly there is still too much ignorance regarding autism out there. @@jbeauty4150
@@jbeauty4150don’t take it to heart I’m sure they didn’t have any harmful intentions, raising an autistic child can be very difficult when we live in a society that’s not built for neurodivergent people
It depends on the Severin of autism.
I have seen Videos about highly agressive autistic kids that are a danger to their parents and others.
Please do not act as autism is a great thing, it's a disease.
Calling it divergent just sugarcoats the problem.
I have a child with autism and it severely limits what I can do with my life. Parents of children with disabilities also have a higher divorce rate. Something to think about…
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So why just didn't aborted that failure???
I agree on ALL counts. I knew as a kid I didn't want any. No regrets. What most people do (like procreate), I do the opposite in general. These days society is too nasty anyway.
A lot of people have kids just to fit in.
I knew at 8 years old. Even told my dad. He laughed, but I'm single w/ no kids.
Unfortunately, kids are just the end result of Humanity Endless craving and desire for six...no one is thinking about kids in the moments of lust cravings and desires.
Being a parent is the only torture people willingly choose
Just ask my dad if all the pain and heartache he went through
I definitely decided to not procreate and live a child free life and I am age 39.
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48 here… child free with
Zero regrets 😊
You're not alone in this bro. These are my main reasons why I don't wanna have kids:
1- They are too expensive: Cost of living is already too high and rising more and more. If I work , I don't wanna see all my money disappears in the blink of an eye. I wanna enjoy it and do things I like with it
2- Freedom: I reject any kind of pressure that pushes me to do something I don't feel like to. I'd rather spend my time doings activities or whatever. I do as I please, when I please
3. Future plans: I have other plans in mind , such as travelling around the world, meeting new people, exploring places , and having children isn't one of them. Absolutely not!
I agree and I'm a parent. I love my children. I also know that if I had to do it all over again, I would not. This is a cold cruel harsh world we live in. Not fair to the children.
@@Mekj01akamjwhy did u have them then? Or did u think of this once u already had them?
@@tayyibahz9343no one is thinking about kids...in the moments of lust cravings and desires.
I'm 52 and never had any children, and I think that it was one of the best decisions I ever made. One of the major reasons why I'm childfree is that I came from an abusive family, and I have no idea how to take care of a child.
Good reason not to have them
I'm 52, single and child free. My life is my own. I never understood the whole marriage and kids thing. Stress. I'm a primary school teacher with 28 years of experience, part-time since the age of 41! Plenty for me, thanks. Joe. UK.
I'm 47 and childfree, all my time for me 😊 we have all our time to do all we want, beeing single just adds the icing on the cake
Youre wasting your life working part time at 41 w no meaning in your life why would anyone wanna live like that
@@90uMicron How short sighted of you. You have no idea how fulfilling my life is outside of work. I do many other things that are meaningful and have purpose. I must admit, I have just wasted a minute of my life responding to your comment.
😂😂 I’m loving this video. I’m 61. Was married 30 years. Kids never happened when I thought I wanted them. Now, looking back, I am enormously thankful I never sired any.
My life is WAY better than most of my contemporaries who had kids. I have more money; more time; less stress; less worry….etc.
Every reason you gave is a good and valid reason for opting out.
Oh, and for all of the parents out there who are reading this and FROWNING 😠 in disapproval I have just TWO WORDS for you:
Y’all Jealous!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
No I'm not. I was laughing.
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The symptom of a civilization in the process of dying... As a general practitioner I see from time to time old couples without children, or even old widows without families or almost. It's quite pathetic and very sad. Grannies with dog-dogs or cats, completely neurotic.
@@MarcusVinicius116I mean if you lived 60 good years full of happiness then it’s okay to age alone but also there are so many ways to create relationships at old age without having children, also there are people who literally age alone and go in nursing homes even though they have kids, like the kids don’t take care of them
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I am 37 years old woman, same. I don't want sacrifice anything my money, time, my life. I just want to live in peace.
I NEVER wanted to get married and NEVER wanted to have kids at a very young age. Today, I am in my 40s, never got married and never had kids and looking at the world today, I am CONFIDENT that I made the right choice. I'm glad you made this video. Makes me feel like I'm not the only one who is like me. -signed Lone Wolf personality from Las Vegas
You and me both brother!
All the reasons why I don’t have or desire kids. I never want to be responsible for another human. Fear of being bad at parenting is my greatest deterrent. I also hate life long obligation. The world is a terrible place for kids.
@@shauniawilliams9729 Me too. But, even more than that, I am thankful for God’s presence and salvation in my life. @For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16
Tim: Thank you for being extremely honest about your opinions on having kids. A significant part of my job includes writing long court orders about child custody, visitation, and child support. While there are some really wonderful parents who separate and co-parent well, there are more who either never should have had children, don't want the responsibility of the child, or the obligatory communication with the other parent. This story continues to repeat itself, and you're writing a new narrative that we all desperately need to hear. Thank you!
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The negatives far outweigh the positives, you could be the best parent ever, and they still end up a bad person, or dies young. Stress is increased 10foldm
@@jbeauty4150 and bad kids come from good parents
@@jbeauty4150 not everything is black and white
@@jbeauty4150 You're completely delusional. My uncle didn't have bad parents, but by the choices HE MADE he got kicked out of the house - he was a thief and a racist - he wasn't taught that. He made up his own mind. You're going to have to GET USED TO THE FACT that children are not robots. They are their own person and make their own decisions. GET OVER IT. Watch *Wild Flower* by *C.GEANE* & Happy New Year!!!
You said it all, my friend.. :) I'm childfree, single and i don't want any more responsibility than what I already have now.
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Omg I sat back in my chair, took a sip of coffee, tilted my head back in the sun and just as you hit the bit about how love “becomes conditional” I spontaneously erupted in laughter while spitting the coffee out into a fine spray which then rained down on my face. I’ve never had that happen before. 😂
Excellent rant and I’m ‘damn near 60’ and grateful I didn’t have kids for all the romantic reasons and fantasies that culture pushes. I’m often assumed to be a younger person and when asked my ‘secret’ I say “sleep, regular meals…no marriage, no kids… but good friends who offer reciprocity. And, noone really wants to hear about how you’ve managed to carve out more choices and options for your life. But, not feeling stuck between kids and aging parents while trying to manage debt and a changing economy means that you have enough space around you to complete adult challenges without it coming at the cost of your health. I can be more of service to others by not running on empty all the time. I counter that my choices aren’t selfish because everyone benefits having others practicing positive adult regard toward others.
You could take this show on the road Tim…oh wait you already are!
Appreciate you. 👍
I feel you on this! Cost of living is getting higher with no end in sight. Its hard enough to take care of myself, adding a kid into the picture = heck no!
I can do bad by my damn self
Amen to that.
I really like how raw, honest, yet still comparsionate this is. You're honest, mature and accepting of who you are. My wife and I are not having kids for similar reasons you listed. We're stressed enough in our lives as is and enjoy our freedom and being happy and going on dates. Why on earth would we do something like having kids to upset our happiness? It's never quite made sense to either of us. One cat is enough for us lol. Thanks for the vid. Best wishes
Dude, You are on point with everything! I thought i wanted kids when I was in my 20s. But now I’m 33 and went through an epiphany when I turned 30. I realized that I enjoy my me time a lot! My philosophy on life is: Keep things simple! The less responsibilities, the better! If i had a child, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the things I want to do (gaming, traveling, hitting the gym) on MY time. I want to go as I please without having to worry about finding a babysitter or what time should I be back home. I realized that some peoples’ reasons for having kids is because we are fixated on the idea that we should have kids, get married and etc based on society’s standards. Like if one person sees another person having a child, they get jealous and eager to want a child of their own because we are all about trying to compete and compare each other lives like it’s a competition. And i also feel that some parents especially the younger parents often treat their kids like “trophies” and be like, “oh Timmy won his first spelling bee, what has your son/daughter accomplished?” I’m like “get out my face” 😅
You are spot on with this comment 😂👍🏾
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LMAO 😂. I do all of the things you mentioned. I respect your decision, but you people don't have the slightest clue about free time while being a parent. Newsflash, kids GROW UP, they're not babies for their whole life.
Typical comment of the current generation completely egocentric and narcissistic. These people run the risk of becoming disenchanted with age quite quickly, pseudo friendships withering away, total and distressing emptiness as time goes by, particularly after retirement. And in the end the feeling of a wasted life, of an absence of transmission of a little of oneself, of an absence of passing the torch. And how not to say that with this kind of idea it is the very future of the human race that is at stake, not to mention the gradual death of our civilization, to the detriment of others whose representatives do not not ask all these questions and which are otherwise fruitful, follow my gaze.
Omg I never factored in the competition factor 😂😂😂 made me giggle
I used to want having kids a lot to a point where I felt scared that I wouldn't, until last year this was the situation. However, after getting married to a prick, I got abandoned after a year of our marriage with no reason whatsoever. It was a traumatic experience for me but opened up my eyes to the bitter reality of the world we live in today. That reality is that you can't trust anybody, even the person you get married to, with anything let alone having kids with them. I realized that single parenting is very scary, especially as a woman, having to sacrifice your body, time, energy and everything into kids that you made with the person you once trusted with everything, but chose to cheat on you, dump you or act abusive towards you. A big no for me. In an ideal utopic world, where the father is all loving, loyal, honest, responsible and the mother caring and nurturing, that would seem very nice to have, but it's just an ideology which happens to fail 99% of the time because of the current world we live in. Everyone talks about how nice it is to have a family with kids, but nobody talks about how untrustworthy, irresponsible, unfaithful and unreliable people have become and once you get divorced, it is even worse, because now the children have to pay the price. It's all a huge mess that I am not interested in to be involved with. I'd rather maintain my fit healthy looks, be with the person I want to be with, and not have to worry about what'd happen if one day they betray me.
Amen! Plus since you didn't have kids with him you can just drop him like a stone while those who had kids with an abuser sadly have to put up with them for the rest of their life.
@@HikaruYamamoto yes exactly. Very scary times to trust someone enough for kids
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@@tubadurantdoda agreed, ...the only downside of having your own kids is dealing with a significant other...you could be with a person for a long time just to find out 5 years down the line that the individual you trusted so well was an utter psychopath and if you have a kid or kids together, you're basically in an 18 year or longer contract with that person....nope...i think if humans could procreate on their own, there would be higher birthrates (yes, scifi) but the biggest thing with alot of individuals is having to go through another stranger just to procreate and them dealing with child custody and child support when things don't work out....of course, time, energy, and resources are greatly impacted, and the world is already extremely populated as it is....not enough resources and jobs to go around as it is...
Well, it's natural selection. Smart women have the ability to single out the kind of man to be "all loving, loyal, honest, responsible" and passes their genes. Those who pick bad men are usually not smart women.
I’m 40. I don’t have any children. I witnessed first hand how hard single parenting was for my mom. Our society doesn’t support the health and wellness of parents or children. My mother was extremely stressed and, as her primary support system (I was the oldest) so was I. All we do is make cuts to social services that parents and children need: school buses, schools, resource teachers, after school programs, social workers, recreation centers. I don’t miss being a child and I can’t imagine growing up in today’s world. Public areas like parks and waterfronts have become encampments and the local children in my county don’t have many places where they can socialize and hang out. More than ever parents have become a 24hr taxi service for their children and their children’s friends, shuttling them around to safe places where they can interact and build social skills. Things are very different now. To me, being a parent AND being a child in today’s world looks very isolating, like prison. Sry for the long ramble.
So true and no one is saying that! All the public parks and amenities that are the only refuge for low and middle class children have become dangerous camps for the homeless
Thank you for this video. This sums it up! I am so sick and tired of everybody assuming that everybody wants kids! Arrrghh!
My addition i suffer with depression. I cannot fathom dealing with another human that i am responsible for when i struggle to want to even live.
Damn... I relate to this one! How am I supposed to teach someone about life while I don't even want to live it...
Can I also ask what are some things that help you deal with depression?
@@Celwood I listen to my favourite music alot. Reading novels also helps me escape into another world. I also used exercise as one of my main coping mechanisms. As of recently tho, it has been getting worse where I had to seek out therapy. I hope it helps as I am not sure how much longer I can keep going.
@@Celwood Definitely. I figured how would I ever be a good parent if I can't even function properly for myself
That hurt cause I can totally relate. 😢
#11. This world (specifically society) is just too screwed up, and therefore not good enough for my offspring.
Not having to deal with other parents and their kids is a cherry!
My new favorite go to reply" this world don't deserve my offspring!" Surpassing " I love my kids so much I chose not to have them!" 😂
I’m mid 40s and although I wanted kids, it never happened. But at this point I’m able to see the gifts in having kids but also the gifts in not having kids - there are also blessings in being child free. Parenting is a huge blessing but also a major responsibility that I just don’t have 😂 It’s good to hear about this experience from a male perspective so thanks for sharing.
When i was 28 I was depressed thinking I would never have kids. After I had a kid, I loved her. The only thing that rings true from the video is the constant worrying. The older they get, the more you worry about their safety. They don't listen, get crazy husband's. I can definitely see a childless person living a lot longer. The stress is unreal!!!
Finally, I hear about the childfree lifestyle from the male perspective. I knew I was going to be childfree after eating at McDonald's and asked the cashier to have my food to go because I just couldn't stand the sound of bad kids running all over the place screaming their heads off. I was 22 at the time, and I haven't changed my mind about it since.
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"just couldn't stand the sound of bad kids running all over the place screaming their heads off."
same, same
and then - if there's a God - they get to put up with it at home, too 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
You know since I have 2 children, one grown and one 16. I wasn't sure if this video would be for me, but you are so funny that the laughter was totally worth it. And you are 100% right about all those things. Because you're an ethical decent person, you see and acknowledge the commitment involved and CHOOSE not to. We need more folks doing it that way, not just having them will nilly with no concern about the commitment.
Also never date or live with a baby mamma. For many of the same reasons listed and because in some states you can end up paying child support for children that are not yours, if you break up. "You bonded with the children by taking on father roles" and "It is in the best interest of the children" are the two reasons the courts will give.
The courts will pin child support on anyone they can get their hands on who had a connection to the child.
Wait what, even if youre just dating, so not living together?
@@lynic-0091 Keep your money and find someone with no kids. Leave them alone. Now if you do deal with them and the kids call you daddy, time to get the yell out of there. "You bonded with the children by taking on father roles" and "It is in the best interest of the children" are the two reasons the courts will use.
@@climjames Thats beyond messed up, I never knew about that. Thanks for the information.
@@lynic-0091 Spread the word. That is one of the things Tom Leykis talked about. You might still find some of his old stuff on RUclips. It will blow your mind how the state allows women to destroy men.
Knowing what I went through as a kid growing up, that's my reason to not have them. The trauma and pain still endures even decades later.
same. he was a failed man and a brutal abuser his whole life. in his 80s now and he hasn't changed. she was useless from the word go: my two bros and i grew up with no security and no sense of safety. the three of us are still not mentally well.
my brothers had kids. my niece - eventually - made it: unwed mother, now married and an RN. i'm still single, child-free, sending gifts and visits with married nephews and niece. that's as close to having kids as i can be relatively comfortable with...
Having kids will bring up all your unresolved trauma….
Most people pass trauma and wage slavery on their children. They call that mess a legacy.
@@JenniferRusso5That's a very pathetic legacy then. Seriously, imagine being remembered for bringing kids into the world because you wanted someone else to clean your mess without sufficient compensation. Then again, the people who do this probably lack the imagination to make these considerations.
Love your videos! I’m a late diagnosed autistic man and total introvert. I’ve never had the desire to have kids and wouldn’t want them to struggle the way I have anyway. Cats and dogs for me. And wonderful solitude
Cats are good fur babies 🐈
Exactly I can relate I don't want kids myself to become I constantly struggle everything with my mental illness
I absolutely agree with you in everything! Married, 37, my wife is 41, happily childfree. I have a well-paid job, I work hard and a lot. I don't want to spend my free time around crying, annoying and loud kids. I need peace! Another reason is that kids cost too much, they are so expensive. I want to travel, go out, go shopping, go to good restaurants, etc., that's life for me. Luckily, my wife also doesn't want kids at all and isn't a fan of them. We like the same things... We spend our money ONLY on us and we don't want anyone else with us in that.
This guy seems like a fun dude. All the intrusive thoughts of being a parent in one video. I respect his opinion.
Too many adults treat their kids like a novelty. Excited when they are born and the novelty is over when the kid is older.
I'm a childless single woman as well. I have never had the instinct or desire to have children (despite everyone telling me I'd change my mind). I think it is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It has given me the chance to work on myself. If I had had kids, with my generational trauma, they would either be in jail, on drugs, in the mental hospital, or dead. As a woman especially your life does not have to revolve around having kids.
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For those of us having nurturing instincts, there are plenty of other ways like pets, plants. A spouse always needs nurturing 😅
@@valerierogers9609 heehee! Of course if someone truly wants to have children, that is all right, too. Or plants, or pets ... we are all different is the point, and no one path is "right" for everyone 👍
@@gojiberry7201how about adoption? all them kids in foster care & group homes?...
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some people act like being childfree is the same as abandoning a child. the kid doesn't exist, it never did. be mad at bad parents instead of at non-parents.
No kids. No wife. Happy life. 💯
I’m 23. Anytime I’m worried about life in general I get some relief just knowing I don’t have kids to be an additional source of anxiety in my life. Insightful and funny video by the way.
40, single, kid free. All the freedom in the world, and the means to do what I want within reason. Own my own house, 2 cars, vacation on the regular.....anything else slows me down.
I’m almost 34, no kids. Not old of course, but not that young. If I haven’t had them by now, I probably never will. My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We love to travel and take weekend trips, or one day excursions. Sometimes (a lot of times), we’re so drained when we get home for our jobs that the household chores are enough stress as it is. We have a dog (and I love that dog like a child) and that’s enough for us. Dogs are better than people anyways. We both have said the quiet part out loud that we love having that independence and freedom of not having kids. And with the high inflation and declining cost of living, I can’t imagine bringing one or more kids into the picture, because then, you no longer live for yourself. That may sound “selfish,” but that’s how I feel.
Very well said. It's good that you were honest with yourselves about it.
It's much better to recognize that you're selfish and not bring kids into the world. Thank you for that. I spent my 20s being selfish, and I burned out on that experience. My wife and I have two kids and couldn't be happier since we raised them to be good, creative people and not mainstream, selfish consumers. At a minimum, people should wait until they are 30 or so and actually spend their 20s out there experiencing life and getting to know who they are, not mindlessly doing what's expected of them.
@@AnotherAnotherJosh I don’t seek your approval either way, so yeah.
@@tbc9096 You're airing your personal stuff in a public forum, so expect responses.
@@AnotherAnotherJosh So? Maybe quit judging others for a decision that affects you in no way?
My single mother made raising a kid seem like the worst thing ever. Didn't want to make a child feel that way. And yes, the expense is a factor. It's why it takes a village.
Best explanation ever!!! I’m a 46 year old childfree woman, and you perfectly packed up my reasons and wrapped them up with a bow! Thank you for this video.
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Amen. I decided to not have children years ago. My husband and I are happy and have been married 29 years without children. We love our cats. Thank you for this video.
I’ll be 37 next Saturday, and I’m STILL enjoying the single, child free life!! 😎✌️
Good for you 😊
@@angelaholmes8888 thanks!! 😎✌️
All a man needs in life is full control of his money, his peace and control of his own narrative.
As a woman I want that control too over my life.
same as woman yess
I totally agree with this. I have total control of my money, my time, my freedom, my space and property, zero chaos, trauma, drama, my sleeping time, totally happy.
I am the female version of you and this made my day!!! Especially the part about all the kid activities forced on you and spending time with other people's kids😂😂😂😂
male version here. and if your kid shows up at someone's Bday party with a "poor" gift you're shamed... for chrissakes...
men are one thing but child-free women usually come in for really, really brutal comments and attitudes that have left me kinda speechless: some of the remarks are outright shocking.
have a good life no matter what!
Male version here. Kids keep the house messy. I have OCD and cannot tolerate kids. I never invite anyone who has kids to my home. They are free to come provided they dont bring their kids.
I hear ya and 100% agree. I’ve just never had an overwhelming desire to have them, plus my standard for raising kids is extremely high, which is something I’m not willing to do 😂
Same!
#childfreebychoice 👍
I love more people adding their voice to this topic. If you really need a child there are plenty that need good homes.
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40k to adopt when I could have done it with my own system that was gifted to me, yet I still have no desire to have a kid.
Personally, if your miserable in life, I find it a great cruelty to bring children into this world just for the sake of doing so. Based on economic models, assuming the kids live a standard and average life, they would be in more poverty than what we have right now due to rising inflation.
# 2 is one of my reasons I am child free. It is a life long obligation. But then again, some people move on after the child is born. Some people neglect their obligations.
Imagine having lifelong obligation with no secured income.
I relate to this so much. As a childless single woman whose clock is ticking faster every year, this makes me feel better. Sometimes I wonder whether I really want kids, or whether that’s what I’ve been programmed to think. I know that my life is not worth less because I don’t procreate.
Thank you! ❤
Thanks, there are a lot of us around
Ditto. 44-year-old single woman w/no kids. I never had the instinct and the only thing that made me consider it at all was everyone else saying that life is only worthwhile if you have kids, grandkids, etc. (Especially if you're female.)
You can have self fulfillment without children. The ego that is attached to the programming of society wants children but that’s not you or who we are. Know thy self. The esoteric and metaphysical knowledge will reveal to you our truths. Children is just another aspect of the illusion. Peace
@@EyeAmYokesYonikinanda exactly!
@@gojiberry7201 yeah, i'm in my 40's too...no regrets! i never fell for the "hype" and i am so relieved! i know i made the RIGHT choice for me personally.
I'm 52, single, never married, no kids
Life is beautiful! 😂
no kids = no joy, maybe in your next life.
@@nofood1 that's a lie and you know it LOL!
@@nofood1You create the joy because you are whole and you don't need validation. Dependency brings expectation. Being clingy and relying on external joy only won't bring you long term happiness.
Choose hapiness in this lifetime!
@@nofood1Kids are a burden and they are financial liabilities. I would rather be dead than poor. I get joy out of different things.
As a woman I don't want to be put in a vulnerable situation in pregnancy and I absolutely hate to go through childbirth and even risk my life. I do not want to go shopping with a kid in tow all the time. I don't like and trust people, a lot of them are horrible, some are narcissitic scumbag, rapist and killers. Thank the universe I don't have to bring parasites like humans in the world. '
Parasite? You’re the parasite.
It's a life of what-ifs and fear, and frankly it flies in the face of Tim's overriding life philosophy. I'm surprised at some of the reasons he gave for not wanting to have a child. Lots of what-ifs. I think it's great that some people choose to not have a child, but they are missing out on one of life's most amazing experiences. No way around that.
@@AnotherAnotherJosh That’s not everyone’s experience though. It may be life’s most amazing experience to you but for some it is not. Plenty of people regret having kids probably because they didn’t ask themselves “what-if”. And alot of people play what-if scenarios in their head for other things, that’s basically how you make a decision about anything you do or don’t do in life. I’m glad having children was a glorious experience for you.
@@OkaayYall I'm all for less people in the world, but I think fear-based decisionmaking is a bad way to go through life.
@@AnotherAnotherJosh if it was life's most amazing experience for everyone then child abuse wouldn't exist. Sorry for being pessimistic but your comment is very dismissive of other's experiences and feelings.
I'm 32 and I've seen what loss of a child has done to my mother mentally, and I don't want any of that. I'm just glad I have a husband who understands and also doesn't want children!
Wow! Are you me? You said everything I feel about being child free in my 40s and forever!