betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor - I have used BetterHelp myself and I have found it to be very effective for trauma recovery. BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services. The online counseling and therapy services are provided through web-based interaction as well as phone and text communication. BetterHelp costs £140 a month - which gives you 4 live sessions a month and unlimited messaging in between sessions, as well as access to the group therapy webinars that get updated each week. You can also apply for financial aid while signing up, which can reduce the cost of the service by up to 40%. When you go through the signup process, you will be presented with the payment page and can elect not to pay. You will then be asked if the price was too much and will be given the option of financial aid. You can sign up for the BetterHelp Online Counselling service here - betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor By using this link you will be supporting the Narc Survivor community.betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor - I have used BetterHelp myself and I have found it to be very effective for trauma recovery. BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services. The online counseling and therapy services are provided through web-based interaction as well as phone and text communication. BetterHelp costs £140 a month - which gives you 4 live sessions a month and unlimited messaging in between sessions, as well as access to the group therapy webinars that get updated each week. You can also apply for financial aid while signing up, which can reduce the cost of the service by up to 40%. When you go through the signup process, you will be presented with the payment page and can elect not to pay. You will then be asked if the price was too much and will be given the option of financial aid. You can sign up for the BetterHelp Online Counselling service here - betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor By using this link you will be supporting the Narc Survivor community.
Please do a video on narcissist that are not so attractive, and why they manipulate because of this. I love you narc survivor you helped me to understand alot🤞❤🥺🙏🤍
Don’t matter if they have a new supply, if you were grade a supply, they will be back, after the new supply fizzle out. Just keep moving and don’t let them back
@Hughes SignCo I have lived it...he was my HS sweetheart..we had a 24 yr history, the last 7 an emotional love bomb entanglement...he took his mask off & turned on me over night , all these years I made the mistake of thinking he was my FRIEND... I went NC and didnt look back !!
HOW ever it happened, THANK GOD that you SURVIVED it, your LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE, staying HEALTHY, HEALING, PROGRESSING, and keeping a BEAUTIFUL SMILE on your FACE 💯 GO out and be GREAT TODAY ❤️!!!
Going through the same shit. They hate us, but are obsessed with us lol. They love the empath supply. Once you cut em off. The weirdo shit show happens lol 😳🙄
Once you discard the narc friends and try to move on is when you will see that these demons are stone cold crazy. The best thing to do is to follow God and put him first, and to be cautious on whom we let into our lives because these narc demons are out there, and they infiltrate us by using their charm. These are EXTREMELY wicked and crafty entities.
Only to make your pocket empty and Dicard again . Once again u make money they will be obsessed . Party guys girls. Gold diggers basically with one up tactics.
My ex narcissist husband has no choice to leave me alone, being that I have a 5 year protective order against him. I feel free and have healed. Life is stress free and I am living my life to its fullest! I wasn't sure if I would make it through the trauma bond. I did and am so blessed. Thank God! Amen!!
You are truly blessed!!! Unfortunately I dropped 5 restraining orders thinking he had changed as his manipulated me an cheated lied for 15 yrs!! I’m finally living without him an waiting for courts to hear my divorce complaint of extreme cruelty!!!!!!! Pray for me 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
@@theresaalbano4363 keep strong! You now know that he will never change. Good luck with your divorce. Mine was as expected, greed yand wanted the only things that I wanted. My dogs. I gave up everything for them. Praying for you! You are not alone! You are valued! You will get through this!
My ex narcissist GF has no choice but for me to go completely silent because she got a protection from abuse order against me. Hope that PFA was worth her 2 daughters I raised for the last 14 years. After hearing all the complete lies in court, they no longer want nothing to do with her. The girls were temporarily ordered into her custody. Being 17 and 15, they completely refuse and now to protect me, are with Grandma. I survived her best shot and still stand! My turn....
This is so true! Happened to me, I left without saying and he found me anyway. You are in big trouble if you have kids with them. Trying to divorcing them is hell!
I confronted him and he did everything you said...police, I was crazy, he tried to turn my children against me..etc. He would not leave, so I did! He then burned our home of 23yrs! Total meltdown!! He lost his control over everyone in the household. I made the mistake of telling him too much info, not knowing a lot about narcissism. Very damaging!! Easier without him for sure!! Happiness without the roller coaster ride finally!!
Agree. I became super polite and ‘perfect’ in every action, behaved like a butler, praised them like they were a god and then without any glasses moving silently pulled the rug. I let them think they ‘won’. It drove me insane with anger but it worked for me
Ex narc taunted me by swinging a bat towards my face like he was going to hit me when I told him I was leaving.. meanwhile he is texting someone else that he loves them..they are very sadistic and abusive asf NEVER tell the enemy your plans, they will counter attack and make it difficult for you.. I’m so thankful to God I made it out!! 🙏🏾❤️
No they will not! I tried it on my deceased narc and all he did was turn around , tried to provoke an argument and dumped me after I had already dumped him... they want to be the ones doing the discarding! When you discard them they take it as your going against they’re control and a narc wants to be in control of everything.
It's about control for them. I was in a relationship with a narc and wanted to break up with him, but knew how egotistical he was. So, I broke it down to him that I wasn't happy, and he said "don't beat around the bush"...and abruptly, he said he was going to end our relationship weeks prior. And now that we both agree, he stated that he also wanted out. He wasn't aware that I was pulling the strings, but gave him the impression that he was breaking it off with me first.
Yes same thing happened to me . Thinking back I should of went cold turkey and ghosted her permanently.Her last message of discard was that she met someone and is getting married.
@@dontbelongherefromanother this happened to me as well, he couldn't keep refusing to leave my home whilst blaming me for our relationship failure simultaneously, so he had to ramp up the sick manipulation and behaviours to get me back under his control. He was trying to sort out back burner supply so that he could go I realise now which is why he kept a bag packed by the back door for weeks but he knew as well as I did that it was only a matter of time before I got him out of my home, he was in a race with me for who could discard first. I beat him to it that is all.
Yes, just like "Sleeping With The Enemy"... do your planning secretly and carry it out privately, then just quietly slip out. Make sure all ur loose ends are tied up, and if you want, write it out for them to read when you are long gone, but plan it thru well, especially if you are leaving a malignant narcissist. That's what my mum and i did when i was 3 and a half, and we never went back...
Just watched Dr. Ramani's video covering this. I wish I had known a decade ago about narcs, ESPECIALLY how vindictive they are 😅 (I've had narcs try to get me arrested/threaten to get me arrested just for inflicting narcissistic injuries on them 😯😬)
Yes, Dr Ramani's acronym very good too. I get all the help and knowledge I need with NS, Dr Ramani, and Lisa, Dr Carter....they are all wonderful and so helpful. Literally life saving and caring guide's through these nightmare relationships ❤
He can’t discard me anymore if anything I am always getting the upper hand don’t want nothing to do with anymore period it’s getting really old now everything about him period
BRO! THIS SHIT HAPPENED TO ME! HOMELESSNESS IS WHAT A NARCS DAMAGE WILL LEAD TO! IT HAPPENED TO ME! GAH!!! #crappynarcissism #narcdefense #npd They love claiming squatter's rights in homes they steal!
I WILL DISCARD THEM ANYWAY !!!!! DON'T MAKE ME RESORT TO GETTING PROTECTION IN THE FORM OF A WEAPON. BECAUSE I WILL SCREAM SELF DEFENSE AGAINST A NARCISSIST
It was a mutual decision. Almost 7 years of no contact. Don't care what terrible things are said about me. Don't care that she hates me. Don't care about anything at all when it comes to this person except that they stay away. Far, far away
Comment to Lisa got sent before I finished. 🤔 She has always been notorious @ making sure where I am living etc. I just don't care what she does, how she feels because she has lost the power. No contact is not easy but it is your best move to survive ! She is such a loser. I just laugh !
Hi Phishphan 74 D,. If you dated my estranged sister I surely hope that you got away before she sucked you and your bank account dry ! She is a piece of well crafted, narcissistic, center of her world woman. My other sister, also a narc. said of her " She was born with her hand out first, then came her head." Ha! Really like that description. Feel free to use that as you heal. Peace !
@Phishphan74 D Hi, these intensely motivated (if you can call them...) people are going to pull no stops on their talents, especially in the beginning phases. This is what they do to reel you in, hook you and eventually hang you out to dry. Their are traits of a narcissist that you can find here on RUclips or just google that and get ready to understand much better what her agenda was/is and how you can see what to look for so you don't date, or worse, marry. Take your time with your healing ! She did a big # on you and now you need to be a bit selfish so you can see yourself, deal with your anger, etc. Also, just to know how much you can believe in or trust again ! Yes, absolutely yes. They use sex as a weapon big time. Take care now. If you need to vent I am cool with that. Email. If I can help anyone to move forward I feel that the experiences may have been a bit worth it. Peace !
They obsessed with winning, that's why some of them plan to discard before being discarded. Their sick minds believe winning means admiration that makes them lovable
Mine can’t discard me anymore because he’s dead. But malignant narcissist mother which is 82 years old that has discarded me so many times I dicarded her a year ago she is trying so hard to get me in web again which will never happen. These machines are unbelievable.
That’s exactly what they are, machines. They are demonic machines of destruction especially the malignant narcs. Malignant narcs have no humanity, they are demonic machines through and through.
@@LoweringMyProfile I found him to be macanaical , machine like, and he could fix almost anything but used it mainly to destroy and destuction of every one close to him.
They live a very damn long time, too. They try to make you lose your job, they will hurt your family, they tamper with your vehicle, they send their flying monkeys after you, they put poison in your food, they screw your friends and family, they try to make people believe you are crazy, they tell lots of lies on you and they hack your phone.
The desire to maintain my sanity pushed me to go no contact with my mother. It amazes me how narcissists all seem to use the same play book . Their actions are extremely predictable. It’s terrible to think that a parent would use their child for narcissistic supply and discard them at a whim . Moving on was the only viable option for me .
My ex called the police on her mother, on me several times, and everyone she’s ever dated. If you’re involved with a narcissist please do yourself a favor and learn how to handle a police encounter. The police usually take their side, and the police are not your friend. They are taking to you because they want to arrest you. Tell them you don’t answer questions and you want to talk to an attorney.
NS, everything you have mentioned in this video has happened to me he called the police, smeared my name to friends and family, it was a grand finale, shocking when he was leaving. He caused total dispair and everything is my fault and he has done nothing wrong no accountability for his behaviour.
Sorry for him, I disgarded him. 3 months no contact. Told him I never want to see him again. He can keep his abuse to himself or take it our on wife no 6.
Wish I would have see this before I dated my 1st narc. I made the mistake of revealing that I knew she was a narc on my way out and boy did that make her rage.
My favorite survive🥇 I discarded my ex narcissist and he was trying to get me back I act just like I didn't know he was a narcissist🕵️♀️ to get out, and keep your mouth shut🤐🏃♀️ it's not worth talking about to no one forgive and let go 💪the 1 Golden Rule when you know u go 🏃♀️
Left while nex was at work I had to take him to court due to stalking .3 years later he tried to flip the script with a hoover . He was still furious I exposed him. When I called him out again in the hoover he blocked me everywhere and “discarded “ me so he feels like the victim again and I’m horrible .. calling me terrible names like a child bully.. they don’t change.. I woulda thought after all this they stay away or try to change it just sounds like he got worse and he’s approaching 40
And when you get out stay out. Speaking from my own experience; I am narc free, and single living my best life. Thank you for sharing your videos they're educational and informative.
MY NARCISSIST NEPHEW TOLD MY NARCISST PARTNER THAT I WAS LEAVING AND ALMOST GOT ME KILLED.. THIS IS HOW I KNOW THAT THE NARCISST CAN GET TO YOUR FAMILY TOO
Then i was dealing with a weird one, i told him im gone for good, done being ignored and that i know i never mattered, should never have let him back in my life
I told him I was done I discarded him, he couldn’t lie to my side but he did with his family, the new old 👠 he can’t put that in my face - I never fell apart outside of my house , I have strong support from family and children ! I never broke no contact and made sure he never did - at the end he was more afraid of me then not ! That thing he is or was playing with WHO cares not me or the children which kill him that we have written him out of the family ! We continue life as was as if he Never lived ! No one say his name in the house it’s a demon! We all want him to live long to see success after success and him watching from afar ! Yes 🙌 we wish him Well outside of our life’s
She was stupid enough to call the police on me after midnight. When I confronted her about being on the phone all night while hidding her phone sexing and talking to all these people. She's been sleeping on the sofa for a year, now. That ended up being the worst call that she has ever made. Right now, she is in those classes that you have to take, and community service. Her mask is a total loss. Volkswagen hit by a locomotive. At least ten binders in the back of her car. Come in crying every evening. New work schedule while this is going on. NARC SURVIVER really help me a lot.
I find it amusing my narc found another narc as my replacement. He been used and abused like I was. I keep thinking " karma is a Bitch". He tried to destroy me but destroyed himself. Narcs can't be alone The new supply played nice until he married her, for a constant paycheck. Then she turned..........
Stand your ground and do not budge on the fact that the narcissist does NOT love you I had to do that with my mom I had to tell her "He does not love me He is just saying that to you He is probably trying to have sex with you Because I know he used our marriage to get other women in his life by giving them a sob story of how he was being treated even though he was abusing me He would tell the other woman how much he loved me and how awful I was " You must hold to the truth and be HAPPY the narc is not in your home Bc you become happier and happier the longer the narc is away from you
Thank you NS This is true and you do have to leave in secrecy... no contact...dangerous. btw, I love the beautiful views of trees mountains and water ect just absolutely breathtaking and so relaxing and comfortable. Some of the scenes/ pics in the video give inspiration to painting them. Thank you. It helps in the times I feel afraid. ❤
I discarded the narcissistic girl I last dated twice. And since she couldn't finish her abuse cycle, every time she was so obsessed with sucking me back in. The only thing I didn't understand is that, she had a new supply entertaining her while she tried to triangulize me with him, I walked away because I didn't like to be the back up. A week later she put the new supply to the side and hoover me. Trust me I wasn't excited at all, I wished the new guy would have distracted her for a little more longer lol.
Didn't know he was a narcissist until he left after 10yrs of torture & Ur soo right he never loved me but pretended & future faked me & he's a veteran it's been 6months & I have a friend now so I don't care so what ever😊
Narc survivor thanks for this beautiful video ı leaved my job and began working in another workplace but somehow ı have got some fear deep in myself, ı fear he will make my life miserable in my new workplace through in some secret ways because he knows where ı am working , ı can’t stop thinking if ı will face any annoyance there too. I just need your advice regarding my viewpoint, he can create new flying monkeys 🐒 there too 🤔
My so called husband has been calling police on me recently and sitting hiding in a spare room recording me and sending to one of one sons😁 His so sooooo sick and arrogant preak 🏃♂️ Last time he called police @2am saying he felt treating by me!!! Ironically they came round to our hose and I told them he had his usual argument with me by extremely verbal abuse as always! He was told by police that nxt time he called them just bcos of argument then they’ll arrest him instead bcos they ain’t got no f**** time for arguments!!! He won’t even give me a divorce which am asking over the past yrs! Now his done a 🏃♂️ Have blocked him everywhere but he has unblocked me so he can be watching what’s on my profile hummmm!!! But have still blocked him, but I can see his photos on his profile!!! They’re real evils and lack of Empathy!!! His mother never loved him so his jealous abt me bcos our sons loves me to bits!
The narc leave me n went to Canada and was trying to destroy me via telephone n social media ...I just blocked him in April am healing now and moving on...i don't hear from him ...but I realize he still haven't block me on whatsapp...but that's ok ..Am not going bk this time
BELIEVE IT OR NOT.. I PUT THEM UNDER ME.. I REALLY DONT CARE ABOUT HIM BECAUSE I'VE ALWAYS LOVED ME.. HE WILL ALWAYS ALWAYS HATE ME BECAUSE HE UNDERSSTANDS THAT I CAN TURN MY LOVE OFF JUST LIKE HE CAN.
@@thereallisa1 I will try. I've been punched kicked, Controlled., made me feel ugly worthless. I'm now defending myself against allegations of abusing her for 20 years. IM BRICKING IT. Saying I'm a threat to her and my children. I'm so close to my kids. She has gone crazy beast mode on me. If they believe her I'm screwed. Sorry to rant Lisa. Take care
As he was using me for a home in a new country for free, he could only refuse to leave for so long with that sickening grandiose attitude. Afterall, if its me who is at fault-then why aren't you leaving my home??? He has tried hard to turn it into his idea to leave but we both know the truth
Wrong. I discarded my narc ex. I won my life back. He doesn’t exist. Deeply insecure, weak, hate over love is his thing. I didn’t make a secret plan. I broke up with him in July and his ass was out the door in September. I could care less about the “smear campaign.” What I know is that I respect myself, my self esteem is intact, my confidence in myself high. I choose love. Not liars, cheats, thieves, cluster b’s., losers, insignificant and irrelevant hollow shells with no core. And, I’m enjoying my quality of life. He’s the one who is suffering. Always has and will always be. ALONE!
Sounds exactly like my soon to be x wife. I was bamboozled throughout our whole fake marriage. I sensed it. I kept asking her what wrong with her but she kept denying that anything was wrong. Too many things were out of place in terms of her ways. The way I felt inside unforfilled, unloved, unseen, not cared for. Once I figured her out and attempted to leave she threw herself unto on coming traffic attempting to kill herself by getting hit by a moving vehicle. Most naturally I grabbed her but from that moment on I couldn't unsee what I saw. Once I started studying cluster A, B and cluster C personality disorders my whole life changed. Hint hint people. 😉
I found out that my ex narcissistic abuser had been raped by his father as a baby and his father killed himself. He's been raped in jail, brainwashed by gang members since he was 14. It seems that jails are working with gangs, homeless drug dealers to sex trafficking vulnerable men right out of prison.
I’m pretty sure he knows… I’m pretty sure he stalks my stuff way more than I realized. He filmed us last night which he hardly ever has before unless I was away, but it’s not like it’s super taboo because I would trust him to keep it secret, so I let him. He had a funny look though. At this point bring it the fuck on, I’m tried of him pretending to be the mask he shows me. If it blows up it blows up, I’m done anyway. You couldn’t possibly hurt me more than you already have.
betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor
- I have used BetterHelp myself and I have found it to be very effective for trauma recovery.
BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services. The online counseling and therapy services are provided through web-based interaction as well as phone and text communication.
BetterHelp costs £140 a month - which gives you 4 live sessions a month and unlimited messaging in between sessions, as well as access to the group therapy webinars that get updated each week.
You can also apply for financial aid while signing up, which can reduce the cost of the service by up to 40%. When you go through the signup process, you will be presented with the payment page and can elect not to pay. You will then be asked if the price was too much and will be given the option of financial aid.
You can sign up for the BetterHelp Online Counselling service here - betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor
By using this link you will be supporting the Narc Survivor community.betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor
- I have used BetterHelp myself and I have found it to be very effective for trauma recovery.
BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services. The online counseling and therapy services are provided through web-based interaction as well as phone and text communication.
BetterHelp costs £140 a month - which gives you 4 live sessions a month and unlimited messaging in between sessions, as well as access to the group therapy webinars that get updated each week.
You can also apply for financial aid while signing up, which can reduce the cost of the service by up to 40%. When you go through the signup process, you will be presented with the payment page and can elect not to pay. You will then be asked if the price was too much and will be given the option of financial aid.
You can sign up for the BetterHelp Online Counselling service here - betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor
By using this link you will be supporting the Narc Survivor community.
Maybe i can afford it once i leave the narcissist because he spends all my money
Please do a video on narcissist that are not so attractive, and why they manipulate because of this. I love you narc survivor you helped me to understand alot🤞❤🥺🙏🤍
NEVER tell a narc you leaving...just GO!!!
U r right 💯👀 facts 📠
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Facts mine drove 4 hours to stalk me cuz I discarded her insane
Doing things silently will make them more crazy. Move in silence and caution.
Don’t matter if they have a new supply, if you were grade a supply, they will be back, after the new supply fizzle out. Just keep moving and don’t let them back
Exactly
The best feeling is after healing!
They will discard you first. Their fragile ego will prompt them on a preemptive strike.
My narcisist still won't let me go, unbelievable
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then you let them go...
@Hughes SignCo I have lived it...he was my HS sweetheart..we had a 24 yr history, the last 7 an emotional love bomb entanglement...he took his mask off & turned on me over night , all these years I made the mistake of thinking he was my FRIEND... I went NC and didnt look back !!
I left with the clothes on my back and I make more money then he does so I have rebuilt my life. Narc free for 15 months.
It,s hard to believe people can act this way
im still in shock !!!
HOW ever it happened, THANK GOD that you SURVIVED it, your LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE, staying HEALTHY, HEALING, PROGRESSING, and keeping a BEAUTIFUL SMILE on your FACE 💯 GO out and be GREAT TODAY ❤️!!!
This is awesome 👏
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Everybody need to read about these species cuz they are everywhere. But thank God I've been educating myself people keep on reading
Sadly, all of this is so very very true.😪😔
I discarded the Narc ''friends'' before they discarded me, Now they Obsess over me
Going through the same shit. They hate us, but are obsessed with us lol. They love the empath supply. Once you cut em off. The weirdo shit show happens lol 😳🙄
Once you discard the narc friends and try to move on is when you will see that these demons are stone cold crazy. The best thing to do is to follow God and put him first, and to be cautious on whom we let into our lives because these narc demons are out there, and they infiltrate us by using their charm. These are EXTREMELY wicked and crafty entities.
Only to make your pocket empty and Dicard again .
Once again u make money they will be obsessed .
Party guys girls. Gold diggers basically with one up tactics.
@@stephaniemckinnon3177 Yup! So Insecure, Jealous, Envious and Obsessed.
@@LoweringMyProfile Amen!!! My Circle of friends is real small. Quality over Quantity!
Sounds DEVIOUS to me. Narcs have to get you by any means as long as they win
This is on point they are messy as hell!! Love drama and confusion. Arguing. Lie like their pants on fire !!!! poor things.
My ex narcissist husband has no choice to leave me alone, being that I have a 5 year protective order against him. I feel free and have healed. Life is stress free and I am living my life to its fullest! I wasn't sure if I would make it through the trauma bond. I did and am so blessed. Thank God! Amen!!
That is awesome.
You are truly blessed!!! Unfortunately I dropped 5 restraining orders thinking he had changed as his manipulated me an cheated lied for 15 yrs!! I’m finally living without him an waiting for courts to hear my divorce complaint of extreme cruelty!!!!!!!
Pray for me 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
@@theresaalbano4363 keep strong! You now know that he will never change. Good luck with your divorce. Mine was as expected, greed yand wanted the only things that I wanted. My dogs. I gave up everything for them. Praying for you! You are not alone! You are valued! You will get through this!
My ex narcissist GF has no choice but for me to go completely silent because she got a protection from abuse order against me. Hope that PFA was worth her 2 daughters I raised for the last 14 years. After hearing all the complete lies in court, they no longer want nothing to do with her. The girls were temporarily ordered into her custody. Being 17 and 15, they completely refuse and now to protect me, are with Grandma. I survived her best shot and still stand! My turn....
@Hughes SignCo... 'too,' plz. Make a police report & go to court house to get/fill out PPO/by other name?, or Restraining Order.
This is so true! Happened to me, I left without saying and he found me anyway. You are in big trouble if you have kids with them. Trying to divorcing them is hell!
Yep! Mine abandoned me with a baby and child and said he filed papers 8 years after he left us. It's been over a year and I never got the papers.
They are evil period,
I confronted him and he did everything you said...police, I was crazy, he tried to turn my children against me..etc.
He would not leave, so I did!
He then burned our home of 23yrs!
Total meltdown!! He lost his control over everyone in the household.
I made the mistake of telling him too much info, not knowing a lot about narcissism.
Very damaging!!
Easier without him for sure!! Happiness without the roller coaster ride finally!!
Giving them a heads up that you're leaving is a bad idea
Agree. I became super polite and ‘perfect’ in every action, behaved like a butler, praised them like they were a god and then without any glasses moving silently pulled the rug. I let them think they ‘won’. It drove me insane with anger but it worked for me
Ex narc taunted me by swinging a bat towards my face like he was going to hit me when I told him I was leaving.. meanwhile he is texting someone else that he loves them..they are very sadistic and abusive asf NEVER tell the enemy your plans, they will counter attack and make it difficult for you..
I’m so thankful to God I made it out!! 🙏🏾❤️
No they will not! I tried it on my deceased narc and all he did was turn around , tried to provoke an argument and dumped me after I had already dumped him... they want to be the ones doing the discarding! When you discard them they take it as your going against they’re control and a narc wants to be in control of everything.
It's about control for them. I was in a relationship with a narc and wanted to break up with him, but knew how egotistical he was. So, I broke it down to him that I wasn't happy, and he said "don't beat around the bush"...and abruptly, he said he was going to end our relationship weeks prior. And now that we both agree, he stated that he also wanted out. He wasn't aware that I was pulling the strings, but gave him the impression that he was breaking it off with me first.
Yeah and where is he now? 🤣🤣🤣
@@leighatkins22 Don't know or care
Yes same thing happened to me . Thinking back I should of went cold turkey and ghosted her permanently.Her last message of discard was that she met someone and is getting married.
@@dontbelongherefromanother this happened to me as well, he couldn't keep refusing to leave my home whilst blaming me for our relationship failure simultaneously, so he had to ramp up the sick manipulation and behaviours to get me back under his control. He was trying to sort out back burner supply so that he could go I realise now which is why he kept a bag packed by the back door for weeks but he knew as well as I did that it was only a matter of time before I got him out of my home, he was in a race with me for who could discard first. I beat him to it that is all.
Yes, just like "Sleeping With The Enemy"... do your planning secretly and carry it out privately, then just quietly slip out.
Make sure all ur loose ends are tied up, and if you want, write it out for them to read when you are long gone, but plan it thru well, especially if you are leaving a malignant narcissist.
That's what my mum and i did when i was 3 and a half, and we never went back...
Your moms lying on your father
Ummm... ... ...
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Okay...
I did - shock is not even the right word for the facial expression I saw ! At first he thought it was a joke - No mean it we done ✅
Easy way to describe the narc is through the word craved
C- conflict
R- rigidity
A- antagonistic
V- vindictive
E - entitled
D- disregulated
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Just watched Dr. Ramani's video covering this. I wish I had known a decade ago about narcs, ESPECIALLY how vindictive they are 😅 (I've had narcs try to get me arrested/threaten to get me arrested just for inflicting narcissistic injuries on them 😯😬)
@@crencottrell7849 that’s where I got it and wanted to share..
Yes, Dr Ramani's acronym very good too. I get all the help and knowledge I need with NS, Dr Ramani, and Lisa, Dr Carter....they are all wonderful and so helpful. Literally life saving and caring guide's through these nightmare relationships ❤
@@keariewashburn4680 yes. They are the best thing about the internet. They saved my life
They hold on like grim death.....
He can’t discard me anymore if anything I am always getting the upper hand don’t want nothing to do with anymore period it’s getting really old now everything about him period
So true and sooooo evil!!!
Very true. I discarded mine. He came back with the pretense of working things out, just to discard ME 10 days later. Childish.
Ugh. They are infants
BRO! THIS SHIT HAPPENED TO ME! HOMELESSNESS IS WHAT A NARCS DAMAGE WILL LEAD TO! IT HAPPENED TO ME! GAH!!! #crappynarcissism #narcdefense #npd They love claiming squatter's rights in homes they steal!
Big facts bro me too I’m whole again tho
I WILL DISCARD THEM ANYWAY !!!!! DON'T MAKE ME RESORT TO GETTING PROTECTION IN THE FORM OF A WEAPON. BECAUSE I WILL SCREAM SELF DEFENSE AGAINST A NARCISSIST
I discarded my narc ex girlfriend the second time and she freaked out. Still trying to hurt me
They think they own us, really CRA,CRA!!
@@treelover1050 yeppers
They don’t deserve to even be called my narc… they where never ours. 💯
It was a mutual decision. Almost 7 years of no contact. Don't care what terrible things are said about me. Don't care that she hates me. Don't care about anything at all when it comes to this person except that they stay away. Far, far away
Does hoover you over the years?
Hi Lisa, I hope you are free of the victimization ! They most likely try to hoover me but I have been very careful
Comment to Lisa got sent before I finished. 🤔 She has always been notorious @ making sure where I am living etc. I just don't care what she does, how she feels because she has lost the power. No contact is not easy but it is your best move to survive ! She is such a loser. I just laugh !
Hi Phishphan 74 D,. If you dated my estranged sister I surely hope that you got away before she sucked you and your bank account dry ! She is a piece of well crafted, narcissistic, center of her world woman. My other sister, also a narc. said of her " She was born with her hand out first, then came her head." Ha! Really like that description. Feel free to use that as you heal. Peace !
@Phishphan74 D Hi, these intensely motivated (if you can call them...) people are going to pull no stops on their talents, especially in the beginning phases. This is what they do to reel you in, hook you and eventually hang you out to dry. Their are traits of a narcissist that you can find here on RUclips or just google that and get ready to understand much better what her agenda was/is and how you can see what to look for so you don't date, or worse, marry. Take your time with your healing ! She did a big # on you and now you need to be a bit selfish so you can see yourself, deal with your anger, etc. Also, just to know how much you can believe in or trust again ! Yes, absolutely yes. They use sex as a weapon big time. Take care now. If you need to vent I am cool with that. Email. If I can help anyone to move forward I feel that the experiences may have been a bit worth it. Peace !
TY NS. Always so helpful. There are so many females out there that need to hear this. Men too, for sure. But females need to be careful these days
They obsessed with winning, that's why some of them plan to discard before being discarded.
Their sick minds believe winning means admiration that makes them lovable
Mine can’t discard me anymore because he’s dead. But malignant narcissist mother which is 82 years old that has discarded me so many times I dicarded her a year ago she is trying so hard to get me in web again which will never happen. These machines are unbelievable.
That’s exactly what they are, machines. They are demonic machines of destruction especially the malignant narcs. Malignant narcs have no humanity, they are demonic machines through and through.
@@LoweringMyProfile I found him to be macanaical , machine like, and he could fix almost anything but used it mainly to destroy and destuction of every one close to him.
They live a very damn long time, too. They try to make you lose your job, they will hurt your family, they tamper with your vehicle, they send their flying monkeys after you, they put poison in your food, they screw your friends and family, they try to make people believe you are crazy, they tell lots of lies on you and they hack your phone.
BG everything you said is true they did it all except poison me. But I’m sure that was on there mind.
The desire to maintain my sanity pushed me to go no contact with my mother. It amazes me how narcissists all seem to use the same play book . Their actions are extremely predictable.
It’s terrible to think that a parent would use their child for narcissistic supply and discard them at a whim .
Moving on was the only viable option for me .
I told my narc I was leaving she thought she killed me now she is wondering if I'm alive or dead ,no social media !!!
Your accent is so cool. Your gift of honest voice is saving lives NS. You saved mine. 🙏
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Behavioural similarities between the narcs freaks me out
My ex called the police on her mother, on me several times, and everyone she’s ever dated. If you’re involved with a narcissist please do yourself a favor and learn how to handle a police encounter. The police usually take their side, and the police are not your friend. They are taking to you because they want to arrest you. Tell them you don’t answer questions and you want to talk to an attorney.
NS, everything you have mentioned in this video has happened to me he called the police, smeared my name to friends and family, it was a grand finale, shocking when he was leaving. He caused total dispair and everything is my fault and he has done nothing wrong no accountability for his behaviour.
Sorry for him, I disgarded him. 3 months no contact. Told him I never want to see him again. He can keep his abuse to himself or take it our on wife no 6.
Wish I would have see this before I dated my 1st narc. I made the mistake of revealing that I knew she was a narc on my way out and boy did that make her rage.
My favorite survive🥇 I discarded my ex narcissist and he was trying to get me back I act just like I didn't know he was a narcissist🕵️♀️ to get out, and keep your mouth shut🤐🏃♀️ it's not worth talking about to no one forgive and let go 💪the 1 Golden Rule when you know u go 🏃♀️
Left while nex was at work I had to take him to court due to stalking .3 years later he tried to flip the script with a hoover . He was still furious I exposed him. When I called him out again in the hoover he blocked me everywhere and “discarded “ me so he feels like the victim again and I’m horrible .. calling me terrible names like a child bully.. they don’t change.. I woulda thought after all this they stay away or try to change it just sounds like he got worse and he’s approaching 40
And when you get out stay out. Speaking from my own experience; I am narc free, and single living my best life. Thank you for sharing your videos they're educational and informative.
MY NARCISSIST NEPHEW TOLD MY NARCISST PARTNER THAT I WAS LEAVING AND ALMOST GOT ME KILLED.. THIS IS HOW I KNOW THAT THE NARCISST CAN GET TO YOUR FAMILY TOO
Then i was dealing with a weird one, i told him im gone for good, done being ignored and that i know i never mattered, should never have let him back in my life
I told him I was done I discarded him, he couldn’t lie to my side but he did with his family, the new old 👠 he can’t put that in my face - I never fell apart outside of my house , I have strong support from family and children ! I never broke no contact and made sure he never did - at the end he was more afraid of me then not ! That thing he is or was playing with WHO cares not me or the children which kill him that we have written him out of the family ! We continue life as was as if he Never lived ! No one say his name in the house it’s a demon! We all want him to live long to see success after success and him watching from afar ! Yes 🙌 we wish him Well outside of our life’s
Just brilliant... Wow. 👌🙏
Thanks a lot 😊 Check out our support forum where I will be answering your questions - www.narcsurvivor.co.uk/forum
No limitations. Well said
I was dating a Narci he was very disrepeactful to me, he will bring women around me,
Triangulation is a favorite ploy of the narcissist to make you believe that they are more valuable then you think they are.
That was what hurted me the most
She was stupid enough to call the police on me after midnight. When I confronted her about being on the phone all night while hidding her phone sexing and talking to all these people. She's been sleeping on the sofa for a year, now. That ended up being the worst call that she has ever made. Right now, she is in those classes that you have to take, and community service. Her mask is a total loss. Volkswagen hit by a locomotive. At least ten binders in the back of her car. Come in crying every evening. New work schedule while this is going on. NARC SURVIVER really help me a lot.
Good luck with that lol no jealousy here!
I don’t care, I just wanted peace. Poor next woman
I find it amusing my narc found another narc as my replacement. He been used and abused like I was. I keep thinking " karma is a Bitch". He tried to destroy me but destroyed himself.
Narcs can't be alone The new supply played nice until he married her, for a constant paycheck. Then she turned..........
Wow, this is the best video. Listen to it every time you are falling I;to their traps to be consoled and ultimately staying.m
I'm being gang stalked, harassed by OVERT narcissists that aren't part of my life.
I put my narc out
Stand your ground and do not budge on the fact that the narcissist does NOT love you I had to do that with my mom I had to tell her "He does not love me He is just saying that to you He is probably trying to have sex with you Because I know he used our marriage to get other women in his life by giving them a sob story of how he was being treated even though he was abusing me He would tell the other woman how much he loved me and how awful I was " You must hold to the truth and be HAPPY the narc is not in your home Bc you become happier and happier the longer the narc is away from you
Had to work and couldn’t watch, but the replay is just as good! This is the truth!! 🙏🏾💙
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I've made the final discard I've finally blocked him an I told him why he didn't care just said (Ok)
Time for me to heal properly and focus on myself.
Got to get this one for sure. Thanks. Got my reminder on.
Thank You for this advice. 🤗
I'm not only free from him but I find out after 15 years I'm now cancer free
Yes Chris appreciate you love 💕 the video
Thank you NS This is true and you do have to leave in secrecy... no contact...dangerous. btw, I love the beautiful views of trees mountains and water ect just absolutely breathtaking and so relaxing and comfortable. Some of the scenes/ pics in the video give inspiration to painting them. Thank you. It helps in the times I feel afraid. ❤
I discarded the narcissistic girl I last dated twice. And since she couldn't finish her abuse cycle, every time she was so obsessed with sucking me back in. The only thing I didn't understand is that, she had a new supply entertaining her while she tried to triangulize me with him, I walked away because I didn't like to be the back up. A week later she put the new supply to the side and hoover me. Trust me I wasn't excited at all, I wished the new guy would have distracted her for a little more longer lol.
Didn't know he was a narcissist until he left after 10yrs of torture & Ur soo right he never loved me but pretended & future faked me & he's a veteran it's been 6months & I have a friend now so I don't care so what ever😊
I just left! Chapter closed
Narc survivor thanks for this beautiful video ı leaved my job and began working in another workplace but somehow ı have got some fear deep in myself, ı fear he will make my life miserable in my new workplace through in some secret ways because he knows where ı am working , ı can’t stop thinking if ı will face any annoyance there too. I just need your advice regarding my viewpoint, he can create new flying monkeys 🐒 there too 🤔
I finally left my ex narc after 7yrs and I will never ever take his sorry ass back. Dumping him felt great
I did discard him blocked him just as he was starting to try to devalue me.
My so called husband has been calling police on me recently and sitting hiding in a spare room recording me and sending to one of one sons😁
His so sooooo sick and arrogant preak 🏃♂️
Last time he called police @2am saying he felt treating by me!!!
Ironically they came round to our hose and I told them he had his usual argument with me by extremely verbal abuse as always!
He was told by police that nxt time he called them just bcos of argument then they’ll arrest him instead bcos they ain’t got no f**** time for arguments!!!
He won’t even give me a divorce which am asking over the past yrs! Now his done a 🏃♂️
Have blocked him everywhere but he has unblocked me so he can be watching what’s on my profile hummmm!!! But have still blocked him, but I can see his photos on his profile!!! They’re real evils and lack of Empathy!!!
His mother never loved him so his jealous abt me bcos our sons loves me to bits!
Thank you
I just laid the whipping of a lifetime on my narc ex. She attempted a Hoover and i destroyed her
Excellent advice!
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Thank you❤
Thank you you always touch on a note that I need to hear
Happy to help!
Thanks so much for all your help. It means a lot to me!
Too late!!
The narc leave me n went to Canada and was trying to destroy me via telephone n social media ...I just blocked him in April am healing now and moving on...i don't hear from him ...but I realize he still haven't block me on whatsapp...but that's ok ..Am not going bk this time
BELIEVE IT OR NOT.. I PUT THEM UNDER ME.. I REALLY DONT CARE ABOUT HIM BECAUSE I'VE ALWAYS LOVED ME.. HE WILL ALWAYS ALWAYS HATE ME BECAUSE HE UNDERSSTANDS THAT I CAN TURN MY LOVE OFF JUST LIKE HE CAN.
Right on
Dont I know it. I'm in court monday.
Good luck. Been there. Gray rock the hell out of her.
@@thereallisa1 I will try. I've been punched kicked, Controlled., made me feel ugly worthless. I'm now defending myself against allegations of abusing her for 20 years. IM BRICKING IT. Saying I'm a threat to her and my children. I'm so close to my kids. She has gone crazy beast mode on me. If they believe her I'm screwed.
Sorry to rant Lisa. Take care
They almost always win in court those demons
I have bloked and deleted the toxic demon.
Oh I did!! BOOM!!!
So good
I did discarded him did not tell him what he was enough is enough I walked away over a year have not herd nothing not married to him
Good i insight. Thank you
As he was using me for a home in a new country for free, he could only refuse to leave for so long with that sickening grandiose attitude. Afterall, if its me who is at fault-then why aren't you leaving my home??? He has tried hard to turn it into his idea to leave but we both know the truth
Wrong. I discarded my narc ex. I won my life back. He doesn’t exist. Deeply insecure, weak, hate over love is his thing. I didn’t make a secret plan. I broke up with him in July and his ass was out the door in September. I could care less about the “smear campaign.”
What I know is that I respect myself, my self esteem is intact, my confidence in myself high. I choose love. Not liars, cheats, thieves, cluster b’s., losers, insignificant and irrelevant hollow shells with no core. And, I’m enjoying my quality of life. He’s the one who is suffering. Always has and will always be. ALONE!
Sounds exactly like my soon to be x wife. I was bamboozled throughout our whole fake marriage. I sensed it. I kept asking her what wrong with her but she kept denying that anything was wrong.
Too many things were out of place in terms of her ways. The way I felt inside unforfilled, unloved, unseen, not cared for.
Once I figured her out and attempted to leave she threw herself unto on coming traffic attempting to kill herself by getting hit by a moving vehicle.
Most naturally I grabbed her but from that moment on I couldn't unsee what I saw.
Once I started studying cluster A, B and cluster C personality disorders my whole life changed. Hint hint people. 😉
Great!!!
I found out that my ex narcissistic abuser had been raped by his father as a baby and his father killed himself. He's been raped in jail, brainwashed by gang members since he was 14. It seems that jails are working with gangs, homeless drug dealers to sex trafficking vulnerable men right out of prison.
Mine hasn't moved on in a year and a half
100% true
Mine threatend to commit suic***
Common ploy that narcissist use against empaths.
Mine too
Let them.
Mines too smh
Heard that one before, their pathetic😒
All of this happened or was threatened by the narc.
I’m pretty sure he knows… I’m pretty sure he stalks my stuff way more than I realized. He filmed us last night which he hardly ever has before unless I was away, but it’s not like it’s super taboo because I would trust him to keep it secret, so I let him. He had a funny look though. At this point bring it the fuck on, I’m tried of him pretending to be the mask he shows me. If it blows up it blows up, I’m done anyway. You couldn’t possibly hurt me more than you already have.
I need a therapist who understands narcissistic abuse who accepts anthem blue cross
Did you the intrusive thoughts stop