I thank God and thank you for all your videos ; many of what you taught were prayer answers of mine (which totally changed the course of my thought, understanding of my self and the people around me.) God bless you (and your family!) for sharing of your gift, talents freely for the sake of helping/benefiting others.
So helpful! I also previously tested as a 1, 5, and 8. Finding out I’m a 3 has been life changing! The key was learning about the self preservation subtype - which I DEFINITELY am - being the countertype so there are some aspects of the 3 personality that just didn’t resonate! Now it makes perfect sense.
Great information! The information in this video really hit home for me. Very good! My mom has always told me and my son God made you special, like your example.
Oooh, I love your new shirt! Nice! Thank you for helping me understand my type 3 hubby better....it helps with my unconditional love for him. Lol, vacations.?..they're very structured with every moment filled, usually in thrill seeking activities......so opposite to my 9 need, ha ha ha. One thing though....when you brought up the relationships....it showed me how lonely I am, and how used I feel, being a means to an end....that was uncomfortable. Hubby wouldn't even address Christmas if it wasn't for me, but I have to always step up and move to 3, but he does supply the extravagant budget, the kids and visitors aren't fooled though, they know the work was done by me. Great video though.
Hey hey, I discovered the Enneagram about 2 months ago and have dived deep (Type 4 😎). In watching your videos I have learned soooo much! I heard you mention once or twice that you might offer an Enneagram course. I would be so excited to do that! I love that you keep a Christian perspective on this subject. I hope you do decide to do a course ( please!!) I am also a fellow Floridian and would like to meet you in person one day.
Hello and thanks for sharing your knowledge of the enneagram. I've been watching your vídeos recently, they are really interesting and well explained. I have a question, I don't think there is any video about this particular topic: is it possible for your enneagram to completely change in a time in your life? And I don´t mean minnor changes when you lean more on one number or another. I'm interested in this because I'm pretty sure I'm a 5 now, and that I was something else as a child, probably a 3. When I was little I was always the center of attention, friends with everyone, always talking, all 10 in the exams, I wanted to work in a "big studio" when ground up. Then I had some trauma happening on my teenage years, (how do I explain this?) let's say the "make the psychologists cry" kind of trauma. I rebuilt myself over the years and I am a very happy person now, and I like my personality. But I'm sure I'm a five, I like to stay in my private world of ideas and interests and I have difficulties creating bounds with people (something I overcomed over the years! Lots of friends now!), I've been told I resemble a wise owl. Well, you don't know me, so you'll have to take my word that I investigated some and came to that conclussion. So, I think it IS possible for an enneagram to change completely due to a traumatic event, but I've never heard any expert about it. I'd really like to now more about that subject and your opinion. Thanks!
From what I've heard, your true enneagram type is the type you were most like at 20 years old, since this is where your ego is the strongest and you're past the brain development stages where your situation effects your personality. Generally anyone below the age of 9 is deemed to be any mix of 9 types, because your brain is growing and reacting so fast. I think in your case, your experiences maybe moulded you into a 5, and without the trauma (or a different trauma) then you would have a different personality type. But no matter what, you are still you, and how you react regardless of the gut reaction your type might give you, makes you you. Does this make sense?
@@KJClarke22 Yes, perfectly. And you are probably right. I think without that trauma I would have been a 1 or a 3, this was only one of the possible outcomes. It's interesting to think how events and our choices shape ourselves. =]
@@jazon85k I've read that, but can't understand why. I've met a few 9 and after some discussions and tests we were pretty sure they were 9. I have developed 9 traits over the years but I didn't have any to start with, it took me quite a while, so it's not my case. Thanks for answering though!
@@visualinotion3957 When I take the test, I tought I am 4w5, both was higher, even 1 was higher for me (i am 9w1), but after listening to videos it is quite clear that I am a 9. 9s tend to merge the persons who he/she live with. For example Dr. Tom doughter is a 9, and they tought, she is a 2, like her mother, because she copied her mother. For a typical 9 all the type make sense, except 8. When I was younger, I was much different, but I think I was always 9. Some subtypes looks like other types, this also have your case.
I've been binge watching your videos on Enneagram type 3. It has been eye-opening and sincerely life-changing. Thank you so much.
I thank God and thank you for all your videos ; many of what you taught were prayer answers of mine (which totally changed the course of my thought, understanding of my self and the people around me.) God bless you (and your family!) for sharing of your gift, talents freely for the sake of helping/benefiting others.
You are so welcome
You nailed this. My 3 is so busy, and neglects me. He has no idea what this is doing to our relationship.
So helpful! I also previously tested as a 1, 5, and 8. Finding out I’m a 3 has been life changing! The key was learning about the self preservation subtype - which I DEFINITELY am - being the countertype so there are some aspects of the 3 personality that just didn’t resonate! Now it makes perfect sense.
Fantastic!
ugh! why is this so true?! so helpful, your videos have been so insightful for me!
Can’t get enough of these 3 videos, thankyou
Cute profile pic
This video changed my life. Thank you.
“I need to give some reason why I need to be alive.” Yep.
Great information! The information in this video really hit home for me. Very good! My mom has always told me and my son God made you special, like your example.
“It takes a lot of money to be broke.” 😂
Thanks for your amazing videos Dr Tom!
Oooh, I love your new shirt! Nice! Thank you for helping me understand my type 3 hubby better....it helps with my unconditional love for him.
Lol, vacations.?..they're very structured with every moment filled, usually in thrill seeking activities......so opposite to my 9 need, ha ha ha.
One thing though....when you brought up the relationships....it showed me how lonely I am, and how used I feel, being a means to an end....that was uncomfortable.
Hubby wouldn't even address Christmas if it wasn't for me, but I have to always step up and move to 3, but he does supply the extravagant budget, the kids and visitors aren't fooled though, they know the work was done by me.
Great video though.
Thank you so much for this video.
Hey hey, I discovered the Enneagram about 2 months ago and have dived deep (Type 4 😎). In watching your videos I have learned soooo much! I heard you mention once or twice that you might offer an Enneagram course. I would be so excited to do that! I love that you keep a Christian perspective on this subject. I hope you do decide to do a course ( please!!) I am also a fellow Floridian and would like to meet you in person one day.
3, 6, and 9 disconnected from their triad. Nice.
Hello and thanks for sharing your knowledge of the enneagram. I've been watching your vídeos recently, they are really interesting and well explained. I have a question, I don't think there is any video about this particular topic: is it possible for your enneagram to completely change in a time in your life? And I don´t mean minnor changes when you lean more on one number or another. I'm interested in this because I'm pretty sure I'm a 5 now, and that I was something else as a child, probably a 3. When I was little I was always the center of
attention, friends with everyone, always talking, all 10 in the exams, I wanted to work in a "big studio" when ground up. Then I had some trauma happening on my teenage years, (how do I explain this?) let's say the "make the
psychologists cry" kind of trauma. I rebuilt myself over the years and I am a very happy person now, and I like my personality. But I'm sure I'm a five, I like to stay in my private world of ideas and interests and I have difficulties creating bounds with people (something I overcomed over the years! Lots of friends now!), I've been told I resemble a wise owl. Well, you don't know me, so you'll have to take my word that I investigated some and came to that conclussion.
So, I think it IS possible for an enneagram to change completely due to a traumatic event, but I've never heard any expert about it. I'd really like to now more about that subject and your opinion. Thanks!
From what I've heard, your true enneagram type is the type you were most like at 20 years old, since this is where your ego is the strongest and you're past the brain development stages where your situation effects your personality. Generally anyone below the age of 9 is deemed to be any mix of 9 types, because your brain is growing and reacting so fast. I think in your case, your experiences maybe moulded you into a 5, and without the trauma (or a different trauma) then you would have a different personality type. But no matter what, you are still you, and how you react regardless of the gut reaction your type might give you, makes you you. Does this make sense?
...or other option is that you are a type 9. They have hard time to find their own type, because they are easily identify themselfs with other types.
@@KJClarke22 Yes, perfectly. And you are probably right. I think without that trauma I would have been a 1 or a 3, this was only one of the possible outcomes. It's interesting to think how events and our choices shape ourselves. =]
@@jazon85k I've read that, but can't understand why. I've met a few 9 and after some discussions and tests we were pretty sure they were 9. I have developed 9 traits over the years but I didn't have any to start with, it took me quite a while, so it's not my case. Thanks for answering though!
@@visualinotion3957 When I take the test, I tought I am 4w5, both was higher, even 1 was higher for me (i am 9w1), but after listening to videos it is quite clear that I am a 9. 9s tend to merge the persons who he/she live with. For example Dr. Tom doughter is a 9, and they tought, she is a 2, like her mother, because she copied her mother. For a typical 9 all the type make sense, except 8. When I was younger, I was much different, but I think I was always 9. Some subtypes looks like other types, this also have your case.
Delineating what and who are important is so abstract. What’s another task that I can complete to avoid these ideas? 😂😂
Thanks dr
Ah!!! New video!!
I've been an insecure self-promoter my entire life, but thank GOD that's essentially over
Conform image to win over audience
Do I value this or am I just complying to expectations?
3s sprint, but life is a marathon.
How are my health and relationships?
What have I sacrificed for success?
I only put a thumbs down so it would say 3