Working with Chronic Fear - with Peter Levine, PhD

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  • Опубликовано: 18 авг 2022
  • Get the latest strategies on treating trauma in the short course: "How to Work with the Part of Trauma That Can’t Be Verbalized" with Peter Levine, PhD: www.nicabm.com/program/levine...
    Trauma can often leave clients with debilitating feelings of fear.
    According to Peter Levine, PhD, it can be difficult to help clients break free of chronic fear without addressing its psychophysiology.
    In the video above, Peter shares how he works with clients suffering from chronic fear and guides us through one simple exercise that can help clients regulate themselves.
    This video comes from the NICABM blog. For more information or to watch more videos like this one visit: www.nicabm.com/?del=YTOrganicDescription

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  • @mortalclown3812
    @mortalclown3812 Год назад +240

    Peter could easily retire and he's still helping people in counseling and these videos. Many blessings and thanks for the upload.

  • @lobibc8188
    @lobibc8188 Год назад +318

    I was raised in fear from birth. I've lived in survival mode for years!

    • @jacksonscully2537
      @jacksonscully2537 Год назад +31

      Ive healed myself I can give you some advice if you like.

    • @kirstykat6180
      @kirstykat6180 Год назад +18

      How did you heal from it? I’d love to know more

    • @lobibc8188
      @lobibc8188 Год назад +28

      I am still healing. It will always be a life long learning. It's our choice to learn to love ourselves, so we can release it.

    • @evelynreid5215
      @evelynreid5215 Год назад +13

      @@jacksonscully2537 Please can you give me some advice. I am in constant fear. Many thanks.

    • @grey_blue2513
      @grey_blue2513 Год назад +17

      @@jacksonscully2537 Please let me know as well I have been stuck in freeze/dissociation from age 1

  • @dachater1
    @dachater1 8 месяцев назад +51

    Fear and anxiety in the body is so painful and exhausting. I find in so worn out physically, mentally and emotionally afterwards.

    • @Vivere17
      @Vivere17 5 месяцев назад +3

      My CBT therapist told me to read the book “ the body keeps the score”

    • @alexb5787
      @alexb5787 4 месяца назад

      Same here it’s soo bad at the moment

    • @megannifranklynschool
      @megannifranklynschool 3 месяца назад +1

      Listen to the audible book called dare... it'd life changing for anxiety... xxxx

    • @Inprogress_of_newbeginings
      @Inprogress_of_newbeginings 29 дней назад

      I am exhausted ALL THE TIME 😢, it's so debilitating

  • @mountainmolerat
    @mountainmolerat Год назад +178

    If you've been anxious long enough, the bodily sensations sometimes seem to have a "mind" of their own and come up even when the mind is thinking about something neutral or even pleasant.

    • @vivianhaugaard2481
      @vivianhaugaard2481 Год назад +29

      Yes, I have noticed that. My mind can be calm but the body suddenly goes wheeeee!

    • @EyeOfTheTiger777
      @EyeOfTheTiger777 Год назад +15

      Having the exact same experience. What to do about it? I can sit with the bodily sensation for HOURS and it will come and go, change, but rarely completely resolve.

    • @carriefingsolomon
      @carriefingsolomon 10 месяцев назад +14

      @@EyeOfTheTiger777reframing and accepting. Coming from a place of true acceptance like “I hear you, fear/sensation. You’re allowed to be here.” They’re more likely to lessen than if we’re going all this to make them go away. OR, they’re still there and we can feel more at peace and at ease with them and carry on with our lives

    • @angelinasouren
      @angelinasouren 9 месяцев назад +14

      ​@@carriefingsolomonyes! Fighting feelings makes them stronger. Observing them and looking after them, embracing them as if they are a little child that needs warmth or whatever, that works better.

    • @mapleext
      @mapleext 9 месяцев назад +7

      @@carriefingsolomon I think I might almost understand this. I confess, I get more triggered and feel more anxious in my stomach and chest than ever - and I’ve had it all my life. You can’t breathe it away - I know that. I try to exercise and whatnot. But it comes back so often - I feel like it’s a constant state and wonder why I don’t explode sometimes.

  • @alexb5787
    @alexb5787 4 месяца назад +14

    I was bullied badly at school as the new boy. The impact is still with me 30 yrs later. The fear and worry comes every day. 😢

    • @Ebot001
      @Ebot001 Месяц назад +1

      I understand. Bullying can impact you. You're not alone ❤

  • @rebeccadewinter342
    @rebeccadewinter342 10 месяцев назад +43

    God I wish I had found this years ago. It would have saved me so many wasted years. The fear of fear crippled me for so long . Just know you will come through as long as you accept, all the sensations are Only sensations. 🦋

    • @JnTmarie
      @JnTmarie 9 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you. I am starting up again an event and the fear and paranoia warranted or not is exhausting. Triggers fear of assault to stealing my things. Breathing. Moving. Helps self talk.

    • @kirstieb8025
      @kirstieb8025 9 месяцев назад +6

      sounds like your primary caregivers did not nurture, validate or soothe you. same. and i have chronic fear. but it’s getting better.

    • @Bcke14304
      @Bcke14304 2 месяца назад

      ⁠@@kirstieb8025Really appreciate your summary description here, Kirstie: nurture, validation, & being soothed-you nailed it:)! Same story here. I’m
      g r a d u a l l y learning the practice of:
      1. self-care: how to express needs in a healthy, non-manipulative, non-passive way
      2. how to validate: myself first - via inner child work - then I can extend that to others (**the RUclips channel called “Jimmy on Relationships” has been a total gift on learning what validation sounds / looks like)
      3. How to self-soothe - I’m doing lots of somatic work - starting to re-connect my body to my emotions. Twenty-five years of talk therapy (cognitive) just kept me in my head spinning in anxious circles. Thx to Dr. van der Kolk’s work - & Dr. Peter Levine, et al - I now understand how critical the somatic work is. 💕
      As sad / lonely as it sometimes feels to do SELF-care (nurture), SELF-soothing, or validating my inner child - I’m starting to see that it’s the only way out of addressing unmet needs that my parents were unable to meet (**alongside working w/trauma-informed therapist/s)

  • @dorisw2507
    @dorisw2507 Год назад +23

    It's funny how when we are in this state the last thing we want to do is move, well I guess that's when we are in frozen state. It takes such a big push, but is so helpful.

    • @yoya4766
      @yoya4766 8 месяцев назад +4

      So true, I live in a frozen state much of the time.

    • @Bcke14304
      @Bcke14304 2 месяца назад +1

      Yes - sometimes so hard to MOVE when dissociation/Freeze has ruled the body for decades. But the somatic work & awareness is where it’s at, I’m seeing. So grateful for Dr. Peter Levine’s work💕. As a 20+ year insomnia sufferer, I often find myself frozen stiff in bed at night - with gripping/perseverating thoughts swirling - when I can’t sleep. It can be brutal.

  • @Yosetime
    @Yosetime 9 месяцев назад +25

    This is very good advice. I do jumping jacks because they tire me out. There is something about the physical movement of the body that releases stress almost immediately. The trick is to have a plan for what to do after the movement. I usually plan on keeping moving just doing simple household chores with music on. Within minutes, I don't even remember what was freaking me out. And I don't try to go back to figure it out. I just forget about it. Thanks for the reminder!

  • @sonja7halcyon
    @sonja7halcyon Год назад +37

    Artists know this naturally, drawing, drumming, dancing, singing clears fear, anxiety and shutdown for me. I have flamenco footwork drills that I can do that releases fear and generates energy back into my system.

    • @DianaLizette-jd7sh
      @DianaLizette-jd7sh Год назад +2

      💃

    • @sonja7halcyon
      @sonja7halcyon Год назад +3

      @Queenie Maja well I think it’s all about finding whatever art form speaks to you and then benefiting from the grounded it brings. Footwork, playing guitar, knitting - all sensory stuff is great. But yeah I do find using your feet and stamping (golpeó) the ground can be one of the quickest ways to ground but I also do it because I actually love Flamenco and love to practice it. You can find a few free footwork videos on RUclips but I recommend try out a few different dance styles on RUclips and see what resonates with you. Then it becomes more than just a chore or practice for managing trauma but actually becomes a source of joy and fun and creativity in your life. Which is what our inner children are missing the most. I do the drills to enjoy and practice flamenco, but if I’m having a high anxiety or highly-triggered day then I will do a few drills whether I feel like it or not and it will calm me.

  • @Olivia-wz9by
    @Olivia-wz9by Год назад +61

    I have been chronic fear for years. Sure; I get moments of peace- but it is fleeting. I’m fearful of others in the workplace. I’m ready for this to stop.

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 Год назад +4

      I'm sorry this is happening. 🪶🤍🪶

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 Год назад +5

      I understand 🥀♥️🥀

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 Год назад +18

      Yoga, self hugs, nature, service animal, books and stay out of reach from toxic people. 🌈

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 Год назад +6

      🌿🍒Look in the mirror and tell your inner child how♥️'d they are.....♥️🍒♥️

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 Год назад +3

      I love skipping. And, I imagine Dorothy in the wizard of OZ in the poppy field when it starts snowing the song ....I sing and vision me .....

  • @mgn1621
    @mgn1621 8 месяцев назад +4

    My body is in a constant state of bracing. I need to create feeling safe in my body.

  • @ultralyrics1
    @ultralyrics1 Год назад +25

    I feel like I've been in survival mode my whole life

  • @GIRLSCOUTTROOP-zc4zb
    @GIRLSCOUTTROOP-zc4zb Год назад +89

    Thanks again for such great guidance. I’m helping my adolescent daughter heal from two elementary school assaults resulting in a lot of trauma trapped in her body. I have learned so much just watching these short clips. My daughter is beginning to recognize how the sensations shift and how her thoughts ruminate and she is gaining in her understanding and is able to “move” in various ways depending on what and where feels it and how it can trick her/overreact and hold her back. Rage shifting down to anger and now down to fear, slowly regaining perspective on what’s happening physiologically. Sometimes her movements may need a walk, a run, a jump etc. we let it play out. She still has moments when she freezes and puts herself into a restraint position on the floor but I am now able to speak to her and remind her that she understands what is happening and that we need to get up and move and let the feeling move all the through and out. When she’s ready we reflect on what happened using Dr Stuart Shanker self-Reg model.

    • @deboraamado
      @deboraamado Год назад +12

      Best Mom Ever ❤❤❤

    • @shazza3099
      @shazza3099 Год назад

      Have you seen the book & RUclips The emotions code ❤

    • @Dee14444
      @Dee14444 Год назад +7

      Amazing mom you are❤

    • @Bcke14304
      @Bcke14304 2 месяца назад

      If only my mom was this invested and informed. God bless you for how you’re coming alongside, nurturing & connecting with your daughter: patiently helping her to heal.

  • @nightsky8012
    @nightsky8012 Год назад +31

    I am in a lot of confusion due to my chronic anxiety for 12 years… Thank you for sharing.

    • @mikelisteral7863
      @mikelisteral7863 10 месяцев назад +6

      anxiety is fear of shame

    • @Nobody-up5zm
      @Nobody-up5zm 3 месяца назад

      ​@@mikelisteral7863yes but what does one do with that when the shame is truth based.

  • @hew195050
    @hew195050 Год назад +14

    In qigong it's the shaking exercise. Same thing, Disperses excess energy.

  • @wandarask8444
    @wandarask8444 10 месяцев назад +7

    When I reached my 29 birthday my life changed first anxiety attacks then panic attacks I nearly died when had a server panic attack then the fear steps in l became terrified of most things most things it would go then come again and it went on for years , , l was skinny cause l didn't want to eat, l didn't want to answer phones there so much that went on it was horrific, it took a long time to heal .

  • @fiachramacaonrae5449
    @fiachramacaonrae5449 Год назад +7

    I like your manner, Peter.

  • @sophiapaulekas4767
    @sophiapaulekas4767 Год назад +2

    Thank you so much. This is extraordinarily helpful.

  • @jeannetet3762
    @jeannetet3762 9 месяцев назад +11

    I was raised in fear from birth. I have managed to overcome a lot in my daily life, but a serious problem is that when I wake up in the morning, as soon as I open my eyes, I already feel the deep fear, my body is in the bed, with the feeling of stiffness, like when you are in danger and you should not move, not even breathe, a hollowness in the stomach. I remain in silence observing all this and I can rationally separate the sensations and "come to my senses". The associated thought: The world is not a safe place. I would like to wake up and feel the joy of the new day, not the burden of fear. How can I achieve that? Dr. Lavine, thank you very much for contributing to our health through your recommendations.

    • @renek.6434
      @renek.6434 9 месяцев назад +6

      You already seem to be very aware of yourself which is great. In my experience, it's necessary to allow all those uncomfortable states to find more comfort. Somatic psychotherapy can help with this. But to be honest, it's quite a tough process either way.

    • @jeannetet3762
      @jeannetet3762 9 месяцев назад +5

      @@renek.6434 Thank you for your reply. You are absolutely right. The work is daily but our health and mental stability are worth it. Wishing everyone success in their daily process.

    • @nick8252
      @nick8252 9 месяцев назад

      ​​​@@jeannetet3762The way to deal with my fear was to go back in time, when the abuse started and for the many yrs it continued.
      I started journaling 3 years ago, going back in time and looking at the TRUTH at what really happened in my childhood.
      It's like I was excavating my lost self under all that abused. I was buried alive for so many years.
      The more I faced the truth, the more my body has been coming out of " fear". It's a long process. I actually felt worse before I started to feel better.
      Journaling has really helped me so much! I'm still a work in process but feeling so much better than before.
      I believe the key is to go back in time and bring up all of those repressed emotions from the past. Many ways of doing this. Journaling is just one way. It was definitely my way!

  • @earthdancing
    @earthdancing 2 месяца назад +1

    I'm smiling and tingles in my fingers! TY!

  • @lesleygarvs4640
    @lesleygarvs4640 Год назад +16

    This-is-only-a-memory-I-am-totally-save-now...
    You say it out loud, just conscious that as an adult, you are your self parent(self-parenting technique)... At the beginning, as everything, it feels akward, however, just like the technique from this doctor, it s about realizing that this head trip, is only that... And I... am the boss, who is making sure... I am ok🤸‍♂️🤸‍♀️🧘‍♀️🧘‍♂️🤗😁🤭💅

  • @elaadamek1353
    @elaadamek1353 9 месяцев назад +2

    This is priceless thank you so much

  • @wandarask8444
    @wandarask8444 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thankyou you Sir for your episodes.
    From Australia

  • @AdamGbl95
    @AdamGbl95 11 месяцев назад +14

    I was adopted at birth into a small, older family with a very unstable and fairly incapable elderly mother with 0 structure, limited sense of security, and lack of nurturing and emotional support.
    Hitting intense anxiety and panick attacks at age 27 being completely on my own with no family left is extremely difficult. Especially when everything his at once. It's almost as if you relive the hidden trauma of birth adoption going back to a state of vulnerability, isolation from rejection, and unknown sense of identity.
    Though it's hard, i can at least see a glimpse of hope that something big would come out of this, but know you're not alone out there. The reason we don't see others going through the same stuff is because they're usually at home, not out.

    • @sfo3113
      @sfo3113 10 месяцев назад +2

      27 seems to be a cursed age when mental shit hits the fan. i've been going through similar states. knowing that it gets better really helps in getting better. i hope u find all the healing, love and support you didnt receive and then some more.

    • @ZFern9390
      @ZFern9390 9 месяцев назад +1

      Horribly selfish to adopt a child into anything other than a large healthy family. Some People are so ridiculous

  • @shars.555
    @shars.555 Год назад +34

    Yes, when the body mindfully releases the tightness in the body, the thought realizes that the fearful thought has been given to your higher power. That is my experience. Thank you. ❣️

    • @lgd1724
      @lgd1724 Год назад +1

      Please can you explain? Also how do you mindfully release the tightness? Struggling with this. Thank you

    • @shars.555
      @shars.555 Год назад +7

      @@lgd1724 Progressive relaxation will teach you how to relax your body and to body scan yourself for tension. There are some great video on relaxation on youtube, too. Anyway, when you are relaxed tell yourself , "Hey you, my inner being, SEE I'm relaxed and everything is still okay. I don't need to hang on so tight or to expect the other shoe to drop when things are going well for me. It's all about self-talk. Positive self talk videos are on yourube as well. I think this journey is all about learning how to move on and love yourself/give yourself a break and look for positives in other people to or just go nuetral. Hope that helps. ❣️🧘‍♂️💫💫💫🙏💙

    • @shars.555
      @shars.555 Год назад +2

      @@lgd1724 I think tension and negativity can recycle in your mind. So, I like to journal writ my negative thoughts down and turn them into positive thoughts or more hopeful thoughts. It clears your mind from going over and over the problem and puts you in solution mode. I love Abtaham-Hicks, too.

    • @mryesman4189
      @mryesman4189 9 месяцев назад

      ⁠​⁠@@lgd1724I know this is late but I’ll try to explain. Its a looping cycle, take racing heart as an example. The feeling of racing heart is a feeling that every person and creature experiences. The feeling of racing heart coupled with the obsessive fear of a heart attack is something only chronically fearful people experience. We cannot stop a racing heart, it’s part of life especially when being active. We also cannot stop our thoughts because that’s what the brain does. The place we have control is by separating the two. When you realize that one without the other holds no power. A racing heart is just a racing heart, a thought about a heart attack is just a thought. A thought with no more power or meaning than a thought about a taco or a cat. It is only when paired together that they hold so much power. Understand that these are two events. A feeling in the body and a thought in the mind. Now see yourself between the two and go into the feeling of your body just as it is with no story. This can’t be difficult because it feels like your ignoring an alarm but in time it gets easier

    • @lovesings2us
      @lovesings2us 9 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you! I think I might sort of get what you mean! In my particular friendship with my Source, who I also call Love, and many other names, I get the idea that Love doesn't want me to carry burdens of excess fear and other stuff. Love seeks to free me. When I skipped along with Dr Peter Levine, it felt like my excess fear just slipped off my back and I sensed that the root issues causing my fears are in the wise hands of Love. I'm deeply grateful to Dr Peter Levine for his kind, amazing help, here in this video and in many other venues.

  • @lolamarie3884
    @lolamarie3884 Год назад +37

    This made me smile so much - skip skip skippptoolaloooo

    • @dk1828
      @dk1828 Год назад +7

      I just adore this man 🥰he’s so knowledgeable and easy to understand

    • @lolamarie3884
      @lolamarie3884 Год назад +7

      Aww I completely agree! He’s brilliant!!

    • @terywetherlow7970
      @terywetherlow7970 9 месяцев назад +3

      I loved his song & Dance also.

  • @hilpei3675
    @hilpei3675 11 месяцев назад +9

    I love you so much, Dr. Levine. These somatic practices are profound for those of us with fear in the body.

  • @crepeyoung
    @crepeyoung 25 дней назад

    Thank you so much!

  • @EvaEva-lf3ww
    @EvaEva-lf3ww 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much

  • @TraumaTherapie
    @TraumaTherapie Год назад +6

    🙏 So helpful - thank you!

  • @margipinto7925
    @margipinto7925 9 месяцев назад

    Powerful! Wow!! Thank you 💥

  • @novaste1238
    @novaste1238 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you x

  • @nicolemiller2430
    @nicolemiller2430 Год назад +21

    This helped me so much and immediately changed my mood like magic. I am not kidding! It really worked!!!!!

  • @MoxyVerve
    @MoxyVerve 5 месяцев назад

    I like you, what a wonderful person you are!

  • @SnackAttack6
    @SnackAttack6 8 месяцев назад +2

    I get so caught up in my fears, that I don’t even feel my body, I have left my body. So its getting to that point of my feeling my body that I need to get to and, that can take up to 2 weeks to months

  • @cassiestevens8382
    @cassiestevens8382 2 месяца назад

    Thanks💌

  • @jmcmahon1931
    @jmcmahon1931 6 месяцев назад

    Irrational and rational fear, being able to distinguish the two and being able to have an outside perspective of the two can help. Exercise is a great tool for minimizing anxiety and depression.

  • @TanyaMaster
    @TanyaMaster 6 месяцев назад

    Such a beautiful technique: what do you notice happening as you bring your attention to the sensation. LOVE!

  • @zanewalsh1812
    @zanewalsh1812 Год назад +40

    The child in me recognizes the child in you ✨

    • @Bcke14304
      @Bcke14304 2 месяца назад +1

      This is a beautiful comment… I felt the same way when I saw him skipping 💕

  • @brittanyjewell6756
    @brittanyjewell6756 Месяц назад

    Seeing Peter skip was exactly what I needed this morning

  • @peterdeneke8401
    @peterdeneke8401 10 месяцев назад +7

    I feel shaking when I have to speak to authority figures or have to speak in public

  • @mirzafatic1663
    @mirzafatic1663 Год назад +5

    Thank you Peter!!! You are Amazing 😊❤

  • @monicatian8168
    @monicatian8168 2 месяца назад

    Fear is intergrated with pysical sensations or thoughs, when you are exhaused, a bit gentle move with cheerful music will boost energy up and down to cure the exhausation.

  • @cmadge7474
    @cmadge7474 Год назад +3

    Love it. Genius. Thank you

  • @Nina.Goradia
    @Nina.Goradia Год назад +5

    Thank you 🙏🏼❤

  • @singlaankush777
    @singlaankush777 Год назад +1

    so for freeze response we should do containment exercise?

  • @tracymorgan1780
    @tracymorgan1780 Год назад +18

    I’m currently dealing with chronic fear. I had a freak lung collapse and ended up in the hospital for 8 days. My lung took a bit to inflate. Dr was good, but overall experience was traumatizing. I’m still dealing with pain where my lung collapsed and no one can give me answers. I’m in constant pain and anxiety. Especially after covid.

  • @andrereloaded1425
    @andrereloaded1425 Год назад +25

    I've been in freeze mode ALL my life. I don't know where it originates but it's almost always there in the background. I'm trying somatic experiencing to see if I can get some relief.

    • @birdienumnums1
      @birdienumnums1 Год назад

      did you get relief?

    • @andrereloaded1425
      @andrereloaded1425 Год назад +4

      @@birdienumnums1 It seems to dissolve some trapped trauma but without a teacher beside me, I'm not sure I'm getting the best results. Nina Goradia is the best RUclips teacher I've found for Somatic Experiencing. She's brilliant.

    • @birdienumnums1
      @birdienumnums1 Год назад +4

      @@andrereloaded1425 Thank you for the name I need to look her out. I am in a dark place due to trauma and its a night mare how your realise your life can fall apart once you cannot easily do stuff because of the effects of stress on your body :(

    • @birdienumnums1
      @birdienumnums1 Год назад +3

      @@andrereloaded1425 did you use any of Nina Goradia's stuff? I thinking feeling unsafe is one of my biggies. .and trust of others too.

    • @andrereloaded1425
      @andrereloaded1425 Год назад +4

      @@birdienumnums1 Yes, I have tried to put into practice Nina's teaching of allowing the negative energy to just be in my body - without me wrestling with it and trying top deny it.. It's not easy because the mind wants to inject traumatic thoughts into the mind/body loop... but if you feel the body energy without tthe narrative of thinking, then the negative energy dissolves somewhat.

  • @katydid594
    @katydid594 Год назад +6

    Makes me smile, but I can’t skip 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @amorris0419
      @amorris0419 Год назад +5

      Possibly imagining yourself skipping and singing the song together can bring a shift. The imagination is amazing. Best to you…

    • @katydid594
      @katydid594 Год назад +4

      @@amorris0419 Great idea, thanks!

  • @traciannveno
    @traciannveno 9 месяцев назад +1

    True love casts out all fear. Pray to God. He is love itself.

  • @denisethomas1581
    @denisethomas1581 Год назад +2

    Great idea

  • @pablow129
    @pablow129 Год назад +3

    How can you separate the feeling from the thoughts or images? There are ideas and thoughts that are even happening unconsuslly...

  • @suzannekrimmer659
    @suzannekrimmer659 Год назад +7

    Love it

  • @clairek776
    @clairek776 Год назад +6

    If we practice these simple somatic exercises....recognizing then moving the fear in our bodies....will practicing this repeatedly over time help to slowly work them out of our bodies? Or is it just continually moving things around?

  • @Nobody-up5zm
    @Nobody-up5zm 3 месяца назад

    I am considered ugly and was picked on , overlooked and ridculed my entire life. I built up so many walls due to it , but it all came dlooding back when i had a child. I feel so much guilt as i watch him go through the same thing. He is the best thing in my life but i feel horrible that I burdened him with my genetics

  • @htttppppp
    @htttppppp 10 месяцев назад

    So in this context, contain means to hold and not repress?

  • @Meh_meh_meh22
    @Meh_meh_meh22 Год назад +9

    How do we deal with chronic illness symptoms that are so debilitating and so so traumatising ?

  • @MarciaB12
    @MarciaB12 Год назад

    OK so i will try

  • @marijawright604
    @marijawright604 11 месяцев назад +3

    Loved the skipping 😅

  • @VoxJoxx
    @VoxJoxx 10 месяцев назад +13

    Pslam 91: Get God's protection if you're in a narcissistic relationship or have narcissistic enemies.

  • @MarciaB12
    @MarciaB12 Год назад +5

    Oh please help me. I'm in terror all day. Fear all day, it never stops.

    • @nicabm
      @nicabm  Год назад

      Hi, I don't have any personal recommendations that I can give, but I can direct you to this database: www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
      Here, you’re able to search for therapists and support groups based on location, and filter through the results based on a variety of factors - specialties, approaches, and methods.
      Alternatively, I would also recommend that you review some of our blogs or free materials and reach out to our community. Many times, both practitioners and patients will comment on our materials, which may help you with what you are looking for.
      I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help, but I do hope this is a step in the right direction and helpful in finding the resources you need.

  • @nuez23747
    @nuez23747 Месяц назад

    Know I see why I'm so addicted to dancing. I just dont feel the fears anymore unfortunately I over worry and think and can't dance daily

  • @StitchFae
    @StitchFae 10 месяцев назад +3

    Caffeine induces fight or flight, cut that out if you’re having issues with fear/anxiety

  • @minookalantari
    @minookalantari Год назад

    Thank you

  • @Bcke14304
    @Bcke14304 2 месяца назад +2

    When the comments section is the trauma processing support group I’ve been looking for…

    • @Bcke14304
      @Bcke14304 2 месяца назад +1

      Just read all 211 comments (as of May 2024:), and really appreciated everyone’s input ☺️

  • @TraumaTherapie
    @TraumaTherapie Год назад +3

    Is it possible to add german subtitels? There are qiuet a lot of people in my community not speaking english.

    • @nicabm
      @nicabm  Год назад +1

      Hi there, unfortunately we currently only have English subtitles and transcripts. However, we are actively working on creating subtitles in other languages, and will notify our community once they are available!

    • @TraumaTherapie
      @TraumaTherapie Год назад +2

      @@nicabm As far as I know there is an automatical translation tool provided by youtube. It may not be perfect, but might help people to understand ...

  • @painoutsidethebox
    @painoutsidethebox Год назад +5

    What about a complex phobia? How do you change that automatic response of extreme terror?

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 Год назад

      First make distinction -
      what is the main theme of complex fears?
      1) if the fear related to you being punished, hurt, attacked by toxic people?
      OR
      2) is the fear related to you being perceived in wrong way by other people?
      The first one is trauma - and it is Complex PTSD. Check out information available for CPTSD.
      The second one is narcissism, it is egocentrism and it is sign of mental illness that is more in aspect of mild schizophrenia, Paranoid Delusional disorder where drugs are necessary since the subject will rarely seek help or recognize the sickness on its own.
      The first one will self blame, self hate and self pathologize - where the "cure" is to start "blaming" others and cutting contact with toxic people.
      The second ones blame others, attack others and are rude to others - where the "cure" is to self blame, self pathologize and self hate virus of trauma inside that is causing the disorder.
      CBT lumps these together, does not make any distinction and thus created severe psychological damage to anyone seeking help.

    • @wavy6470
      @wavy6470 Год назад +12

      @@ranc1977 Which resources are you basing this on? I have fear of being perceived wrongly by others as I've been gaslighted my whole life. I truly doubt I'm a narcissist, as my biggest issue is having more empathy for others than I have for myself.

    • @eliezer1060
      @eliezer1060 Год назад +1

      ​@@ranc1977
      But...how do you make a difference between those who start blaming others because of a trauma and those who are used to do it.
      Or is it just that traumatized peopple are caved in a blaming modus and is narcistic behaviour just a behaviour to protect you from beeing attacked.
      Just like a little dog who changed his fear and hideaway in biting and attacking.

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 Год назад

      ​@@eliezer1060 "But...how do you make a difference between those who start blaming others because of a trauma and those who are used to do it. "
      This is excellent observation.
      Well - we can get education in learning red flags and we can devote time and learn about narcissism and toxic people.
      Sam Vaknin is excellent resource - he has free book download NPD quotes and a lot of video information.
      Another excellent resource is Doctor Ramani.
      The bottom line is that we can never know why people are evil and what causes them.
      We do not have Star Trek technology to scan their brain, their genes, we do not have time travel technology to monitor their past - we rely on their pathological lying and their skewed tunnel vision confirmation bias as the only information about them - and of course their behaviour - which may for all we know be guided by parasites and hormones disbalance hiding in their body...
      The point is - we do not know. We can't know.
      So - the only thing we can do is take care of ourselves.
      We can cut them out of our life.
      We can make peace that toxic people are part of this planet and we cannot heal them, we cannot control them, we are not prison system so we cannot persecute them.
      But in the same time we cannot be silent about it, we cannot shut up and self censor ourselves about evil people since this will allow their abuse to continue.
      We really need to find sweet spot where are are at peace with evil people and where we talk about it and process it and know how to handle difficult people based on advice by traumatized people who learned healthy sane strategies how to handle evil people - like I said Sam Vaknin and DR Ramani are two greatest people on this planet who are available online as resource about narcissism and how to handle narcissistic abuse.
      We must know that our drive to learn about narcissism is obsession and it is not healthy. It is alarm that we did not process trauma - and that we need to feel the pain, process the pain, know how to handle pain and hurt and difficult people - without blaming ourselves and without having codependent need to fix other people and being stuck with them or hoping that they will change if we only decode evil people and learn some magical secret how to handle them -
      because there is no magical solution.
      Our education is the only weapon that will not land us into jail or complete mental breakdown in handling toxic people in our life.

  • @annier1873
    @annier1873 6 месяцев назад

    Can someone explain in layman’s terms?

  • @skyjuke2006
    @skyjuke2006 8 месяцев назад

    Quando noti che il tuo cuore batte forte, puoi sentire se questo aumenta, rimane lo stesso, diminuisce o si trasforma in altro?

  • @rachelwong3474
    @rachelwong3474 9 месяцев назад +1

    ❤️

  • @shermans8236
    @shermans8236 9 месяцев назад +2

    I seem to be stuck in a bodily sensation of fear and anxiety without having any specific thought at all.

    • @indiabharat5014
      @indiabharat5014 4 месяца назад

      That's your lymbic system. Feel the anxious thought without going too deep into it and once you have felt it for a while let it go with an exhale.

    • @shermans8236
      @shermans8236 4 месяца назад +1

      @@indiabharat5014 Thanks but that’s essentially the issues. There are no thoughts that I know of. It’s just in my body

  • @miches8762
    @miches8762 14 дней назад

    Omg, skipping is my happy place

  • @glad5324
    @glad5324 Год назад

    Merci!

  • @kr1221E
    @kr1221E 10 месяцев назад

    Can you be too traumatised to do this work? I have CPTSD? 3:06 onwards, what do we do if we get overwhelmed when doing this work without an SE therapist? Thanks

    • @kr1221E
      @kr1221E 10 месяцев назад

      @@aaliveagain Thanks for your quick reply. I did not see what he did with his feet, and as I am English and the US and UK often have words for things, and I could not see what he was doing with his feet, I am not quite sure how to skip on the spot, as the word "skip" here means to use a rope and jump, or to walk forward in a bouncy way. How did you skip on the spot? Many thanks.

    • @kr1221E
      @kr1221E 9 месяцев назад

      @@aaliveagain I really appreciate you taking the time to write this helpful reply.

  • @sumitrajput2777
    @sumitrajput2777 5 дней назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @dubravKA1111
    @dubravKA1111 Год назад

    💛

  • @joycewright5386
    @joycewright5386 9 месяцев назад

    I’m so confused. I clicked on this video because the title peaked my curiosity. What are people afraid of? Is it a tangible fear or imaginary? Is it the same as anxiety?

  • @julianal.573
    @julianal.573 10 месяцев назад

    💐

  • @thecitizenjoan
    @thecitizenjoan 10 месяцев назад +2

    So I’ll start dancing and skipping next time I feel afraid

  • @itsmeycb
    @itsmeycb 9 месяцев назад +1

    What if you largely feel the fear when driving? You know you're safe, but the anticipation of being unsafe is heavy.

    • @obas143
      @obas143 9 месяцев назад +1

      Remind yourself that you drive carefully and you are a mindful driver. That's it, life is uncertain.

    • @itsmeycb
      @itsmeycb 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@obas143 Thank you!

    • @JEHOVAH485
      @JEHOVAH485 9 месяцев назад +1

      Bind the spirit tormenting you in Jesus name. God bless.

    • @itsmeycb
      @itsmeycb 9 месяцев назад

      @@JEHOVAH485 AMEN! I never looked at it as tormenting spirit but that is as accurate as it gets. Thank you!

  • @friederikeernst7985
    @friederikeernst7985 3 месяца назад

    Dear Peter, the older you get, the more beautiful you get.

  • @gaurs230
    @gaurs230 10 месяцев назад

    We’ll fear of abandonment yes fear of chronic stress fear of being on your own fear of being separated for so long fear fear of mistrust even for your own parents

  • @shahilagh
    @shahilagh Год назад +3

    I don’t understand what is new in these things I have done and soothed myself with much more all my life ! I see no novelty

    • @paulgeorge9228
      @paulgeorge9228 Год назад

      what have you done to soothe ur fear?

    • @paulgeorge9228
      @paulgeorge9228 Год назад +1

      @@shahilagh thanks, my body has been chronically tight in a position for years now because i was sad and slept in a fetal position for a couple months, for some reason the muscular tension just wont let go, any ideas on what could work to release this tension?

    • @paulgeorge9228
      @paulgeorge9228 Год назад

      @@shahilagh yeah but the thing is these issues have solved themselves completely after one meditation session once then it all came backagain

    • @paulgeorge9228
      @paulgeorge9228 Год назад

      @@shahilagh i see thanks a lot!

  • @ToeMass123
    @ToeMass123 9 месяцев назад

    👍👍

  • @Medietos
    @Medietos 10 месяцев назад

    What abloodybout when the reasons to fear are never solved and obliterated but get new ones on top again and again, and more? Give some solutions or meaure to the difficult things, bot just trifles all the time, please. Mr Levine and everybody else. It takes a LOT of toime and loiife-energy to seek and watch yt videos, , being distracted, losing one's ytrack, never gettimg tha6t rel adequate level of helpful. And of course missing the most valuable thing of all: A live other human who knows how to soothe, listen, respond,address the healing-hope and the healng-will empower and encourage. Bölast to have done this for others from a lack, in the hope of then being worthy of help myself, but never gettingg it, just giving until so drained, tired and harmed. Sorry for uninyelligible comment,

  • @k91985
    @k91985 3 месяца назад

    Enzymes is the only thing that helps me, otherwise I will look out of the window and feel fear go up. With enzymes I lookout the window and instead the fear oes down as it should

  • @qeroses3013
    @qeroses3013 3 месяца назад

    Anyone else get scarred by the strange background noise?

  • @simplypositiveme
    @simplypositiveme 5 месяцев назад

    I catastrophize all the darn time.

  • @SC-vb2ui
    @SC-vb2ui 4 месяца назад

    ⛲️🙏😇 🤸🏼💚🤸‍♀️

  • @LifewithKanini
    @LifewithKanini 9 месяцев назад +3

    The Fruits of the Holy Spirit are 9. Peace is one of them. Repent, accept Christ get baptized with the Holy Ghost my friend. Jesus is still the way the Truth and the Life!

  • @michaelmelamed9103
    @michaelmelamed9103 9 месяцев назад +1

    There’s no chronic fear. There’s a feeling called existential anxiety. You might choose to fear it or not. When you are dead you don’t exist and there’s no existential anxiety. Enjoy feeling alive while you can 😊

  • @flamingrobin5957
    @flamingrobin5957 Год назад +7

    "perfect LOVE drives out fear because Fear has to do with punishment" Jesus died on the cross for our sins rose from the dead and gives eternal life by THE LOVE OF GOD and the hope of eternity with him. God took our punishment to give us hope, joy, peace. fear is a natural moment but love drives it out. the perfect love of God can come through people but not continually. safe people can help us when we are safe

    • @attheranch873
      @attheranch873 Год назад +1

      There is no place here for fantasies

    • @joycewright5386
      @joycewright5386 9 месяцев назад +1

      I was just thinking the same thing. These people need Jesus!

    • @dachater1
      @dachater1 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@attheranch873He is real and alive !! Mankind is in a mess because they have turned away from God.

  • @shosha13
    @shosha13 Год назад +7

    Fearful flies in the buttermilk …Shoo fly shoo!🎼🫶🌻

    • @amorris0419
      @amorris0419 Год назад +1

      Makes me laugh! Thank you!

  • @babblingidiot7903
    @babblingidiot7903 9 месяцев назад

    Peter didn't quite teach us what to separate. He stopped short after saying, "physical sensation" but what are we suppose to separate?

  • @Thegoddess_return
    @Thegoddess_return 9 месяцев назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @ekk.k
    @ekk.k 10 месяцев назад