Can adults have ADHD? A psychiatrist explains the symptoms
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- Опубликовано: 18 фев 2018
- Think only kids have ADHD? Think again. One in 20 Canadian adults have ADHD and only one in 10 of those sufferers are ever diagnosed.
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I love how all these adhd videos are under 5 minutes
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😂😂 literally why I clicked
Why
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@kaliplaya86 cause we have short attention spans
"We know you're really smart - you just need to pull up your socks." Almost every teacher ever.
Well, they have to be English speaking teachers, left?? 😐 Sorry, IHADHD ha
Maybe smart people just dont want to take part in a dull system
omg I get the "you have so much potential - you just need to buck up" from my parents, teachers and bosses :(
With the current state of our education system in this country they'll get passed along until they graduate.
Replace the word socks with bootstraps and it's the same message. Screw anybody who says that to anybody for any reason.
I was just diagnosed with ADD. I’m 40, and I’ve been struggling my whole life with all of this. I’m really upset that I’ve been living this way the whole time and I’m wondering of what I could have accomplished if I just had a little help. I start medication tomorrow, and tomorrow starts the new version of myself. Take care everybody.
How are you now that you're own medication?
We need an update ? Are you alive
how is it going?
I’m 38 and in the process of being diagnosed. I too am going through this. It’s a relief like finally I have answers. But also grieving the person I could’ve been. I also have anxiety/depression. I’ve been hyper focused on researching this to better understand myself. Wishing you the best.
Good luck with the meds 😉 I hope they work for you and are life changing.
Anyone else sittin here on their first dose of treatment as an adult after unknowingly suffering from ADHD all their lives? Yeah, me too. Except I just spent 8 hours writing my novel, which would normally be 10 minutes trying to begin writing my novel followed by 7 hours and 50 minutes of gaming. Seek treatment if you think you need it, seriously.
Here because I though ADHD was where your hyperactive as a child. Turns out it’s about attention and focus also. I’m always putting my keys down not paying attention where I put them then spending hour’s searching for them only to find they are right in front of me. I have trouble focusing on what people have just said to me, literally had a gaming addiction to the point I no longer play and sold all my consoles and computer because I can’t say no even if I have important stuff to do. Was always clever in school but underachieved because I left study to the last minute and still do to this day. I know what need to be done but always put it off until the last minute. I thought I’ve just been lazy all my life and couldn’t help it but I’m starting to think I have an issue or something deeply wrong with me.
@@Rhino11111111 same here gotta get it treated asap but my country has a ban on all stimulants so am stuck with strattera
Just had a long discussion with my doctor and he does suspect that I might have the inattentive type. I’ll be starting Ritalin in a month once he acquires the permit from our health department. Very anxious but hopeful.
What medication/treatment were you given? The doctor in the video mentions great treatments but doesn’t get into what those treatments are... plus who diagnosed you? Just a general physician or a psychiatrist? Would love to get some help but I don’t know what to do or where to start :/
That’s me too. I wish I would have known earlier in life. To think of what I could have accomplished if I just had medication. Good luck everyone’s
I have ADHD and medication has improved my symptoms. With my symptoms improving my self esteem has gotten so much better and I’m able to accomplish all of my daily tasks and take care of myself.
What medication you on i haven't even been evaluated yes but I know i am ADHD.
Dopaminergic drugs typically are the most effective treatment for ADHD. Adderall tends to work better for adults, Ritalin tends to work better for children. I function way better now that I have a stimulant script.
@Bharath Yadav did u go through with it?
@Bharath Yadav aye love to hear it
@Bharath Yadav Where did you go for diagnosis and in India is the knowledge and treatment of ADHD is upto a good level?
When he said " I am an adult psychiatrist" I wondered if there were psychiatrists under 18... :-D
Feline713 he means he treats adults, not children I think.
go home dad
Lol...
I hear there are pet psychiatrists... where do you take them if they have mental health issues? The vet?
Haha good one!
My parents didn’t want me to take meds, so I never got diagnosed. I also got kicked out of every class & dropped out of high school, then started abusing illegal drugs. I can guarantee if I would’ve gotten on meds my life trajectory would have been a lot different than it has been, but ultimately I can’t change the past the only time frame I can alter is now
If you're an adult they can't stop you from taking meds
This sounds really odd but I am the exact same I dropped out and made some bad friends who got me onto drugs and me being a hyper idiotic teen I took them and ended up getting used as an escape goat and only cleaned up my act once they ruined my future.
my life is stable and my record is clean after my charges were investigated but I feel like hell knowing I ruined my teen years and missed out on some core education despite having multiple college level qualifications in engineering.
it still sucks knowing about it all but I'm old enough now to know it could've been worse and I have to appreciate what I managed to escape and improve myself from 🙃
It's never too late to start
There's so much comfort in these comment sections. I feel as though I've found my people. I don't feel soo lonely.
One of us, one of us! 😂
I noticed the PDF at 2:02 and started thinking about my PDF-file which I was supposed to return to school. And then I noticed the video was ended and I had to rewind to that PDF part and really pay attention the last remaining minute.
“I know you can do it you’re just not trying” 🤦🏻♂️my whole life
Literally everything he says is 100% accurate, it’s almost funny
Experienced it my whole life. Always deliver every single assignment I’ve had last minute (and write it then too).
Always told I’m smart and that I’d do so great if I applied myself. I rarely payed attention in class and never did homework, but still got straight A’s up until year 9 (not claiming I’m a genius, my grades lowered bit by bit when I got older and subjects got more complicated).
A possibility is that I developed a work-around to procrastinating homework: I developed the ability to process information more effectively or structured as a symptom of add. Could also be that I developed memorization techniques that after loads of time became second nature. I’m still way better at learning and memorizing through listening.
My mom and I have a theory on how people with add or adhd get great grades even though they don’t pay attention in class. She explained that her friends daughter doesn’t pay attention either but gets surprisingly good grades. The thing is, sight and hearing are independent. With add I don’t need to FOCUS my vision, I just need to move it around and look at things. When doing that, I catch audio from the teacher speaking instead of other sounds, even though I’m looking away (subconsciously). Both I and my teacher are surprised when I’m caught staring into open air and asks what he talked about earlier (and I get it correct).
Has anybody else experienced similar things? I feel like my personal experience isn’t all that uncommon.
I can relate to the last paragraph... My English teacher used to try and catch me out all the time and ask me questions, if she didn`t think I had been listening... But I would always know what she was talking about, I could chat and listen at the same time...
P.s. I was diagnosed with ADD two days ago.I`m 45,
Jo
Good for you! Hopefully you get to learn a lot about yourself and how your brain works after the diagnosis. It’s very fascinating, and it’s actually quite enjoyable and relieving when things start to make sense with how you work. It felt really great for me, having talks with the psychologist and her putting all the pieces together. Knowing yourself really helps a lot in living a good life.
Jo
And good luck going forwards! Wish you the best
When I was a teacher I had a student who couldn't hear the classroom discussion unless he was turning his chair around and crawling on it. While he was doing this he could answer questions. When I asked him to sit still he couldn't hear the discussion. At some point this needs to be managed because it distracts other students. This was an alternative high school.
that is the most concise short description. thank you
Excellent explanation. Very helpful
I can't wait to return to optimal functioning.
What the hell is it?
I get it
Yeah, this wonderful feeling when you have Control under your brain, i mean not distracted, ability to listening, etc. i'm curios how does it feel
Does anyone in their late 40's relate ?
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Iam 52yr old female I totally relate....
yep
47 soon, yes
I’m 40 going for diagnosis in a couple of weeks
“i know you’re a bright kid, i just wish you would apply yourself more” - if i had a dollar everytime i’ve heard that i wouldn’t be broke.
This video gives me hope of not being a hella dysfunctional adult that won't achieve anything in life 😭
Me too😪
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"...which is great advice for a person who has socks." Lol
I wish I met you in 1986 when I went to a psychiatrist and later in 2006. Both times they said that since I got a College degree, it was no need for medication. This country in which I live, there is no Adderall, Concerta, Abretia, etc. Only Strattera and Ritalin... incredible!!! My life would have been so different with the proper medication.
I don't trust in the psychiatrists of my country (Brasil) and life is being extremely hard to me to do the proper research. Could you please explain to me why you picked those medications over Ritalin?
@@josebarreto8577 Ritalin and Adderall both have similar results
In my country am stuck with strattera am so sick of it
I had a hard time concentrating on this video .. also might be because it’s 1am and I can’t sleep
OK well I have PD and F. I don't remember it really being a thing in primary school as I was a "gifted child" and could just do stuff really easily, but I definitely remember doing a lot of things at the last minute in secondary school onwards, procrastination, getting easily distracted and so on. Oh and definitely a messy house. Thing is I was never told the whole "pull up your socks thing" as most teachers just didn't care enough, and I masked my last minuteness well enough to get by. I am very all or nothing. I either work super hard in all aspects of life, or I don't. That coupled with perfectionism I've had since forever means I've been trying to find a balance for the last couple of years. It feels super weird and out of my bubble of not knowing any better, but I'm trying.
I was diagnosed a few years ago and just kind of blew it off. Then when I look at all the stupid things I have done like waiting to pay bills despite having the money, inability to organize things and keep them organized, not being able to start anything unless there is external pressure, inability to listen to casual conversation to the point I am almost not present, etc, and I wonder if I should go back and seek treatment. My denial I have a problem I think stems from how much I have done in my life (restored cars, houses, successful in making art, etc). Massively talented (and mostly successful) but I live my life on a day to day basis in a literal tornado of disorganized chaos. Maybe 8 days out of year I actually get what I want done. I used to think it was just a lack of enough effort when it really is due to not being able to organize things and plan.
I've met two doctors who didn't update their knowledge about highly functioning ADHD and refused to listen to me. One GP and one recent graduate psychiatrist. If it wasn't my psychologist who diagnosed me at the first session, I might have believed them and never got treatments. I wonder if there's anything we can do about those doctors who gave completely wrong information?
Nothing we can do about em I had Cushing's disease but they made me go through it for 7 years not to mention all of the misdiagnosed mental symptoms
@@hjjtjjt1332 I'm so sorry to hear this 😢 hope you got better now.
@@chengzhang265
Much better thanks mate ☺️
Hope you're doing well coping with ADHD
@@hjjtjjt1332 I'm sooo happy to hear you got better now! I'm doing good! I actually became an ADHD coach and started to help others!
@@chengzhang265 How did you treat yourself?
I know someone who’s feeling empty, feeling bored on long conversations, low self-esteem and sometimes forgetful..
Ahh i remember, it’s Me. 🤦♀️
I don’t think it’s add. I think it’s the hollowness of living life right now
Thanks for keeping it short
Damnit...I think I have this.
I always thought my crazy rants made me a fun teacher, but now I worry I have been a huge distraction to my students.
I know this is year down the road teach, but do a poll in class ask your students. With a pole they are able to keep their anonymity. Just a thought.
@@patriciapadilla2022 They say they like it. They said that the shifts from topic to topic keep things interesting and help them make up analogies in their heads.
I tried meds, they got bored. I guess one mans disability is another mans ability.
The ADD teacher is perfect for the ADD generation, I suppose.
The fact that I didn't even pay full attention through out this video💀
Ditto
Yep almost always end up in the comments before the end of any video
😂😂 the video just ended i didnt even listen to a word!
Once I went to my doctor's appointment for ADHD and to get my med refill. I got there late cause I forgot my app was at 5 not 530 so I had to reschedule. Then on my way home I realized I had forgotten to put gas in the car and I was stranded on the road. I had left my wallet at the office and I forgot to charge my phone so I had 1% of battery enough to call my husband to pick me up. When I told him where I was he pointed out I had been driving in the opposite direction to the house, I didn't even remember how I had gotten there. And this has happened every day since I was a kid. I always got in trouble cause I forgot to do my homework, lost my books, even my school bag. If this isn't ADHD then I don't know what is.
Oy. I also was late to my Dr apt by about 10 mins once. I had to pay a $100 fine to the office and reschedule. Three days later they sent a letter, dropped me as a patient for that 10 mins, bc that's how they treated a 36yr old just diagnosed with adhd. I lost all treatment for it, as well as the antipsychotic meds which had me waking up trying to drive into a river, and this small bizarre approach to antitreatment, was during a missed kidney stone that had been on several tests, for maximum gaslighting effect, while it destroyed life for a literal year.
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Tldr, sorry.
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I have to see a doctor a year later, today, and idk how to even can. I wish I had the focus to legit become an awful terrorist news story, but the realistic plan is probably closer to dying from OD on whatever I can use to prove illegal incorrect treatment is objectively more comfortable than certified care, and I'm not sorry at all for any bad outcome, especially if it's inconvenient and preventable.
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I'm being sued for medical bills as well, because of course I am. That'll straighten me out.
This was probably one of the better 3 minute videos i’ve watched
And yet i was distracted for over 2 minutes of it
My wife has ADHD and it can be hard to live with at times. I love her deeply but sometimes I get angry and frustrated, then feeling guilty.
Excellent info
Great video 👍
To those that say ADD/ADHD does not exist. I tried to believe so as well. I felt the symptoms all my life long, but I thought I could solve it by time with practice and discipline, going vegan doing extreme workouts.
I hate mistreating my body with medicine and I don't believe in incurable sicknesses. When it comes to myself, I fight, and I say it like I mean it. I fight and don't care whether I drop dead while doing so, because I won't let this woman(me) suffer anymore. I will protect her and I am f** willing to die for her anytime. My life definitely reflects that. If you have suffered all your life long, death is okay, fight is a must but suffering in misery is unacceptable. I say to myself "Honey, In life you have to run, It's okay if you drop dead on your run, but you can not stand still. Standing still is worse than dieing."
Soooo not believing in ADHD I fought with all my power and intelligence, research lifestyle, spiritual work, HIIT workouts and blabla. BUT as some you know, you can't fight ADHD. When you have ADHD you are everywhere, emotionally and mentally. You can not work even if you want to. Getting fired one job after another, despite my deadly drive YOU don't know how it feels.
On the day my doctor approved to help me, I was ready to take my life. I was angry, on that day, another fuc**** stupid doctor told me, ADHD doesn't exist, that's it's all my fault, that I'm not trying hard enough. If that's true, I don't want to live, because I could not solve my problem with practice and deadly ambition.
Today I'm on meds the first time. I understand now. Why my mind wasn't working the way, it was supposed to work. All my life, I couldn't react to people attacking me, because my reaction was always delayed: Sometimes I ended up hearing my feelings/thoughts only days after an incident.
You know how it feels, when you had something to say, but you didn't and you regret now. Do you know how it feels, if you can't? You are deaf to everything, even to your own feelings. Also for some kind of reason, you can not explain to yourself why? You say to yourself everytime. Next time, next time I will do so, but everytime it's the same and it's NOT out of fear. Do you know how anger builds up in oneself? YOU DON'T. THIS! is how depression starts. Not depression is the cause. YOU giving your deadly best to listen, but then misunderstanding it in an unbelievable way. When the world reacts like "your best, is piece of sh** you are getting me into trouble. YOUR FIRED!" When you need to learn stuff, which you don't need to learn actually, they are just effortlessly there in normal human beings.
It's true, kids are inattentive, they need to play hard and jump around, like cat's do when they are little. It's true ADHD might get mistreated and overdiagnosed. Then please say THAT's the mistake. Write a book about that. Write a book on how the government makes us sick with stuff from the supermarket, chemtrails, genmanipulation, brainwashing through media, the school and work system. Everything goes hand in hand. But don't waste your time. You can not tell me that what I have has to do with discipline. I thought exactly like you do, I neglected it. I thought I will not be a victim of my body. I will simply cure it, I will train.
"What you think is what you attract (spiritual work)" I decide where I go but nature was stronger. I realized, the more I denied it (ADHD not the symptoms), the worse things were. But I'm on medication and I'm good now. Today I've spoken up for myself a few times. The first time, was simply infront of a baker, an idiot who was making fun of me because I needed time to chose what I wanted to have (which is a given). Usually that kind of moment would take me a lot of energy and I would be ashamed of everything. But today reacting felt so effortless.
Good for you, I'm glad you found some peace...unfortunately for alot of us the meds stop working...do you have other pathways or alternative relief to help with the side effects of ADHD if it is the case for you ?
Unfortunately, I am experiencing horrible side-effects too. Some days it works, some days it doesn't. I used to take the Herbalife Tea (Peach taste, because the regular one tastes horrible). I have tried some other products besides that, since it's so expensive. But I have to say that this one comes "Focus-wise" very close to the effect which Ritalin has on good days. You are focussed and awake and that's good but that's it. The other ADHD symptoms still remain. I do daily Yoga (off meds) and it does a lot to me. (Off meds) I am able to keep my energy to myself these days, kind of had a careless feeling. Think it's related to more than yoga though. I am still testing this one, but I think we need to do things make us get out of our brain. It seems that they don't really know the cause of ADHD, sure they say is genetic but still... it has to have a cause. Could be neglect, trauma, emotional abuse, could happen to many kids that stay inside a lot on their computers. Emotional abuse and childhood trauma seems to physically damage the brain/prefrontal cortex of the brain. I'm saying this carefully, since I am not a doc. When you are emotionally abused especially since childhood, you don't know that. Since that is all that you have known. I thought I was quite happy before I figured this one out, but then I started to understand myself better the more I read into this topic. If I didn't go with the attitude "Circumstances don't make a man, they reveal a man" and put myself under stress to get to know myself better, I wouldn't have known where my work ethic and fears come from. You may wanna check first and read a bit into "emotional abuse, narcisisstic abuse, childhood trauma, gaslighting, scapegoating "
As said limt the time on things that only require brain work or brain movement (metaphoric expression). Go out into nature, do things that are physical I am still looking into this, but it seems to help. So you may wanna research healing or practicing frontal cortex on google. Yoga and opening up the third eye comes up a lot. Writing down goals is important. I do it on paper since that's more physical. I think digital creativity does add to ADHD in a bad way. Although that's my job, I am redesigning my life, don't know about that part yet. If you stay inside a lot that makes it worse too. I made it a necessity to go out and sit in nature between trees, greens and bushes regularly, I schedule this one too.
@@jynemorgan the keto diet is amazing for adhd but is not easy to be on and get into .
@@ashramdhan1582 I agree, time went by so fast and indeed I'm a raw vegan by now and also my diet is keto (supplement with minerals too. Compared to the struggles I had this is easy. I figured that ADHD is connected to a leaky gut and heavy metal poisoning. My brain functions better than ever :)
@@jynemorgan that's great and yes is true all those gluten and processed foods and coloring screwed everything up for us. And also ketones seems to make it easier for the prefrontal cortex area of the brain and seems to be a better fuel for ADHD sufferers more mental clarity. The only thing is Ceylan Is a tuff diet to maintain. Keto could become boring at some times.
with me
1) because 20 TVs are open in from of me all the time, i become isolated in front of computer, trying to accomplist 20 TVs at the same time, it sucks! i become home sick
2) because there are 100 things to do in my head, computer is a fast way to accomplist any task (shopping, calculating, watching instead reading) i am always in front of computer.
3) because adhd creates understanding problem, i think i can lead myself to arts, such as music, which needs creativity that all adhd people have
4) i will try to have an activity to earn money in a sociable environment, not in front of the computer on my own trying to make software. moreover, if you want me to understand, read, write something in front of computer every body must shut up, which is not possible in a software company. so to be able to understand what is written in front of the display, i isolate myself to earn money, it sucks as well. To sum up, to perform a "brain work" both in an social environment and on my own (individually) did not work for me.
5) I am very sorry to have adult adhd, i am not enjoying.
Hiiiiii, I love this video. The way you explained is so easy to understand. Finally because of you , I,ll go to my doctor. As a wife and a mother of two, my family adores me. I also run my own business which is sometimes overwhelming and difficult to focus more and more. I notice I can no longer multitask. I am going to be honest ,I am actually dreadfully ashamed for husband to know this , even my doctor. My husband is so proud of me , I,ll think I,ll burst his bubble .They will never believe I struggle to keep my focus and remember simple things .Which is foolish of me , really , I,m only human . Without my trusty red book to keep me from forgetting , I,m a gonna . 😫😫😫........Thank you doctor Bilkey for giving me that confidence to have that talk with my doctor by the way you put it over in details , you gave me that boost of confidence. 😊.
I have to say that from my personal experience things don't necessarily improve all that much despite any kind
of treatment. My adhd has gotten way way worse in adulthood. I just turned 50
and since about 28 years of age Life has been a big struggle. Severe depression and depressive symptoms overall have been the major cause of impairment.
As a child I got along fine even though I
may have leaned towards the melancholic I still got along.
Interesting.
Please do you have an advice to people that just got to learn that they have ADHD?
Well you say treatment didn’t work, I don’t know how treatment would ever work for adhd given what it is, what I suggest is medication now.
That and if you’ve got unresolved trauma symptoms can mirror/adhd
I have it - I like the PDF analogy-I have had all the symptoms all my life - lost dozens & dozens of jobs
Saw my doctor and finally was diagnosed with ADHD after decades of being diagnosed with anxiety and depression and just trying to treat those things. Finally treating the cause which was ADHD the whole time and the meds work amazing for me, I finally feel like I can function properly and at the level of others around me.
What were the reasons you were diagnosed with anxiety and depression? I think this may apply to me as well. What were you anxious or depressed about?
What medication are you using if I may ask?
In my country they really don't know well about ADHD
Just because i'm not hyperactive, the docteur said i had depression not ADHD, and can't be satisfied by that, there is an inattentif type for ADHD,
And ADHD is the reason i'm so depressed, my life is awful, i can't count the number of times i just wished i could die to let this world to more normal and accomplished persons
finally someone explained it so I can understand.
Watching and I'm super late on my taxes 🤣😭😭
The thought of taxes feels boring though hehehe... 😐😅
Thank you for sharing
Great video!
trippy_psyche1
They're on Instagram
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Just about certain I have ADHD, since I was young teachers,psychologist and close friends have always asked whether I do and that I should get tested, so much so a recent psychologist asked whether I had it as a adult. But honestly by being diagnosed, it will hamper what I want to do career wise if your medically diagnosed. I'm aware of it and I know how to deal with it now as an adult, it's hard because I'm very scatter brained and have tons of hobbies and interests and find paperwork(Bills, important letters very overwhelming) but I know my tell tales of when I'm becoming overwhelmed and use strategies to keep myself in check.
its been a year but what are some of your strategies? Thank you.
@@NBaeK01 I'd like to know, too.
I really like that background music
Bravo doctor..
I am from a small country called Croatia, and here the ADHD is as it almost doesnt exist..
So, all my life had big problemsbof organazing.., big counfusion, and a lot of pain insade of me, all the time..
So, in USA, Canada, England and many other countrys realize a big problem of ADHD.
I am now 43 years old, about ten years ago had to go to London to a specialist private doctor, and was diagnosed adult ADD, medication lisdexamphetamine..
But, as my life was so comlicated and hard, lot of bad emotions..,because of the symptoms of these condition not treated.. Doctors here prescribed me benzos, or other kind things just to calm me down a bit..
As a disfuncional young man started taking drugs which created more problems and disorders..
When was diagnosed, medication Elvanse helped me a lot but started also to abuse stimulants a lot..
So important is to diagnose ADHD as soon as possible, and then person can function normal like others..
Hey everyone, this Doctor is easy to listen to and gives a fairly concise explanation of ADHD, I'm 63 and just got diagnosed, weening myself off Aropax now to go onto some ADHD meds,
I was that typical boy. teenager, workmate, who loved a laugh, distracted and generally a very naughty boy, in a good sense, wowo, took a few years to get that diagnosed.
I was just diagnosed. ADD is crippling. I’ve coped either this my whole life but I’m running out of energy to continue fighting through this. I start treatment next week, I pray it helps.
I hope your treatment is helping 🤞
I have trouble remembering simple things I need to like laundry, meal prepping, paying bills, etc. I'm extremely easy to distract for hours on end.. I've always had trouble in school especially with long term projects. I know I'm not stupid but it's hard not seem that way when you can't even articulate what you're thinking. My antidepressants help buy I might have adhd.
It's been almost 12 months on ADHD meds and it's not a cure all but helps. Definitely felt everything he said.
I suspect my husband may suffer from ADHD. He displays so many symptoms. When we were dating, he would often be hours late to meet me, like 3-7 hours late. Nowadays, he's often late for work. He also gets stuck in one small activity for a whole afternoon, and most of the times he doesn't even complete it. He often forgets important information, but gets distracted by insignificant things. It's hard for him to stick with one topic while talking, often failing to reach a point. And these situations affect not only our relationship, but his whole life. He has only a couple of friends, as he forgets about keeping in touch, so they just stop talking to him. He's also had trouble at all his jobs due to tardiness, even missing some job opportunities. I try my best to help him without being pushy, but sometimes I'm afraid I might be acting like his mother, which I don't want to be for him. I've told him to seek professional diagnosis, but ironically he forgets about the situation and I just keep reminding him as much as I can without being too aggressive. He's a wonderful man and I know how much he struggles. I often feel a bit alone in our adult responsibilities, as well as relationship-wise, but I know he doesn't mean to neglect them or myself; whenever I tell him about how I feel, I can see the frustration and sadness in his expression that show me how he's doing his very best and that he's sorry for any emotional pain he unintentionally causes me. Despite all our issues, we love each other and I hope we can get professional help soon. We're in our 30s.
Hey I just wanted to say, your are a complete angel. There are barely any women in the world who would love there partner as much as you have. I know your husband is beyond grateful to have you. Please keep loving him and I’m sure one day he will put effort into seeing a doctor. There’s just no way he can ignore the care you give him which will eventually strengthen him to change. Everything will be alright, I promise.
My dear Luisa, I was thinking, if you or your husband are not latin, even before I looked back above at your name. Excuse me, I have ADHD too and I am translator, interprete and teacher of spanish, but I never thought, in the latinoamerican culture the % of ADHD could be much more higher. After many videos and confrences I go learning that all the events and actions we should repsect like the flight deperture, we may not miss it or come late. Thank you for youer patience! I have to learn how to live and how to not to destroy my 25 y. marriage, now just conciously, knowingly♥
Luisa, wow your story really touched me thank you for sharing it with the world, what you described blowed me away it felt like you just described myself. I didn't know about AHAD something like that but just know that, you definitely helped me to seek treatment I never knew there was people like me and i want tk get better hopefully your husband sees inspiration in someone, and with a good team by him he gets help to over come this, anyway be bless and thank you once again for sharing Dios Te Bendiga
Lol how can he be 7 hours late for a date that makes no sense.
@@pbufh😂😂
I was diagnosed at the age of 5 years old. I still have a hard time with my symptoms of adhd. I just feel like the world wasn’t meant for me. It’s really hard at times. I am always adjusting to obtain information. It’s a constant struggle. It never gets easier just over time you try to find new ways of adapting to your environment.
medication, education, skills training and psychological counseling can treat ADHD
@@ProGamer-gk6ix been there and done it, love. What we need is to allow us to be ourselves without judgment or that there is something wrong with us. Most of the time we mask our symptoms and that can be exhausting.
@@jessicalarsen7094 they are advantages to ADHD
-hyperfocus
-resillience
-conversational skills
-Abundant energy
-creativity
-spontaneity
@@jessicalarsen7094 you can make the ADHD people happy by telling them the advantages of ADHD and searching how to manage ADHD symptoms. The people with ADHD will feel better.
@@jessicalarsen7094 you can find people in the comments that say they have ADHD and tell them the advantages of ADHD. You can also tell them how to manage their symptoms.
I only got diagnosed last year after beginning a Phd and really having trouble, kept trying to pull up those bloody socks because I'd always aced all university work before this...anyway, long story short I genuinely have ADHD inattentive (what my psychiatrist called it) and because I am a female and when I grew up in the late 70's 80's, there was no chance I'd be diagnosed because they didn't even talk about it, there was just boys who were hyperactive - which of course, I wasn't because girls generally present with more daydreamy inattentive symptoms. Also, was told so so many times to try harder, do better, your are so smart, why don't you do something with it, stop being lazy and mucking around, whats wrong with you....
I put this video on and immediately starting doing something else. Why am I like this?
After decades of wondering why I felt different, I was diagnosed in my early 60's. I was always easily distracted & prefered my own space to being with a crowd of people at work or social scenes. Earlier I was diagnosed with depression which I could not understand as I thought this is what life is about. Have had a low key life as I could not get on with things to the expectations of society. I am practical in skills as reading is bothersome to find out things. Battle to sit down & concentrate without getting up & doing other things. Always putting iff things to the last moment. Cannot get out of that habit, etc...........
"Once you get diagnosed and treated, you will go back to normal functioning." That's not true at all.
What’s normal any way it’s a neuro diverse condition where you have a deficit in dopamine and nor epinephrine and are wired differently. I personally think it’s more important to learn skills to cope more so than take pills.
It's much better than pre-treatment, at least you have some kind of support to build on now.
I'm 31 and I just realized this is what has been holding me back 😭
medication, education, skills training and psychological counseling are treatments for ADHD
Thank you ❤️🩹
i've noticed my ADHD getting worse over recent years. i've felt depressed, i've lost interest in things, and i've found it MUCH harder to get and stay aroused sexually. i have no clue if it's ADHD or depression. afraid a psychiatrist will just throw xanax at me and send me on my way.
get help, this video was a kick in the balls. and not necessarily uncommon to have Anxiety/depression accompanying the ADHD. just ask ur doctor I’m going to.
be careful with medication for adhd, they can make you more anxious and depressed
Just go to a psych and they'll figure it out.
Try to get an appointment with a doctor you can trust, who has worked with someone you know. If you don't feel comfortable with them, you can get a second opinion. I don't know where in the world you are, but I hope your insurance covers it or you have access to public healthcare. Getting help might change your life. It's not always just pills.
@@patiotaiza that was excellent advise. I second that!
Literally me but I’ve been told by a psychiatrist that I don’t have it. I feel burnt out
Thank you. I guess I'm one of ten now.
How is this even fair school wise? I did horrible in school and idnt realize till my mid 20s that i had a bad case of adhd and couldnt pay attention and that i day dreamed alot. Why isnt mental illness taught in school? If it was taught maybe i would have been like "dam that sounds like me, i should get checked" i cant believe that no one said anything every teacher was like "you have so much potential if only you applied yourself" even my parents violently beating and screaming at me "IF YOU PAID HALF THE ATTENTION YOU DO WITH VIDEO GAMES YOU WOULDN'T BE SO STUPID" and all i could do was just say im trying...drowning in misery, i want to pay attention i really did,but i just couldnt. The more i tried the more worse it felt. Now i cant drive anymore because i start day dreaming while driving. How is this fair that i had such a disadvantage to everyone else and no one noticed anything or thought "dam his getting Cs and Ds in every subject but 1 maybe somethings wrong" the more i think about it the more i wanna cry
I feel sad that they beat you :( I also had to experience beating. Here is a hotline that I call to help me when I feel sad about past violence. It seriously helps me! It's in the USA. It's called CARDV 1-541-754-0110. I also like to go to Life Church Online. There are nice people in the moderated chat room who can support me. :) yay
Cry it out loud. It’s good to cry it out loud. My son, he’s 22 year old and got diagnosed with ADHD last June 2021. He had so much emotions bottled-up in his mind . Two days ago, Nov. 8,2021, he just had an outbursts I never seen from
him before .
So bad, we were so closed on calling police on him. Then, I remember, he has a disorder . After his outbursts, that night, he came to me crying down on his knees and told me how he felt growing-up. He said, I was bullied growing -up, emotionally bullied from friends and some teachers. He didn’t finish his high school but now he’s trying finish his GED.
Even me as his mother,
staring all over again on how to re-mould his brain by addressing his needs and emotions more politely and respectfully because we are all not wired the same. I didn’t know! I felt
like a loser and a bad mother. I didn’t see the signs or maybe I did but because I love him so much I ignored it. In my mind, there was nothing wrong with him. Now I know that he’s diagnosed, I go to the last end of earth to help him navigate through life.
Good luck to you. I wish you healing and love.
Wow good to know
I'm probably ADHD. I Have these symptoms to some degree and always have. I have socks, though. I've learned to adapt by writing things down, being organized, and sometimes just brute force doing things I don't like doing. It takes me ages to do invoices, for example, but I just wade through and do them. I feel quite tired afterwards.
I do have a smart brain. I'm an electronics designer and I fly in that environment. I don't want medication. I like myself the way I am. I consider ADHD my superpower
I find the answers ❤ Ty so much
I was diagnosed with ADHD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with related health challenges.
The fact tht i m watching this video listening to the scenerios he is telling and yet can not focus on the details he is giving... Means watching a right video afterall...
Wow story of my life!
I was with Dr. Bilkey until the end when he said, “Once you get diagnosed and treated you will return to optimal functioning.” Drugs can definitely make life easier, but many people don’t like the side-affects ADHD medications cause. Even if the side-affects aren’t a deterrent, ADHD brains will always make life more difficult.
Yeah add will always have an effect with or without medication. Meds are not a cure.
What kind of side affects
I can’t even concentrate to watch the whole video
I've always been an outsider and outkast I knew that school didn't have anything for me to offer
I'm watching this when I should be doing college work 🤔
need more videos discussing NORMALCY versus ADHD. People cant focus and immediately think they have ADHD - demanding treatment.
I might have ADHD but Im not sure how to go about dealing with that. Is there a way to do it without medication? Its getting to the point it starting to affect my academic life and I was hoping it was something like laziness or depression but Ive dealt with those and still have issues.
I've got the big 40th coming up at the time of typing this. I got expelled from high school because the teacher put my behaviour down to me being a problem child. I missed out on 2 years of education until I found a new school. I've always came out with outbursts and remarks and find it's worser when in large groups or busy places. My memory is also really bad and I'm always tired. When I'm out and about I'm stared at and people just don't seem to get what's going on. My gp has only just spotted all of the signs and I'm now eagerly waiting for the diagnosis even though a lot of people who work in the adhd field are saying that all the signs are there. I lost my dad before I even realised what adhd was and that I needed to get it sorted. We rowed a lot because of my outbursts and I carry the hurt that if I just got diagnosed while he was still around, he would of understood and he would of helped me. 40 damn years of my life gone and I've been treated like I'm simple, ignored and now finally getting a diagnosis. I can't believe it. I want normality
I had it when i was a kid grew out of the hyper but the attention issues have gotten worse its really effected my jobs and relationships going to see a doctor at the end of the month
Interesting.Ive been like this all my life .61 now and never been diagnosed.
I procrastinate.
I can't do repetitive work.
I never really finish a job.
My house is full of incompleted projects.
I continually loose stuff.
Everything is always done at the last minute and causes extreme stress.
If I do start a job I'm easily distracted.
It has affected my working life and home life to a large degree.
I was messy since childhood , I was a good ideal student not last minute one even in my early twenties in college . But I m really struggling with procrastination since I am in 3rd year of my college,I didnt fail exams with last minute preparation I did passed but I couldnt achieve good grades like before (I did very few each day like one productive hour a day like its very little compared to others ) well it all started when my smart elder sister got severe depression he is still recovering , I have some complete memory blocks,I easily lost my notes even some certificates . My memory is not strong . I can focus upto 30minutes. With stress also I feel like I cant get done much ,my focus is poor than 3years ago. I guess its not ADHD but I have some difficulties because of this focus issue.
There are so many people in my life who use ADHD as a label to avoid responsibility for constantly being late and, always promising to do things but let others down.
I am very sceptical about the medication.
I have ADHD and was able to manage it well as a kid with medication (ritalin), but I was soon taken off of it as it destroyed my appetite and I practically starved myself as a result of that. It made school difficult for me, but I did manage to graduate high school and recently I finished a 2 year diploma program in college, so its not impossible to pursue an education with ADHD. Though I am going to look into getting it properly diagnosed and put on a medication that wont make me starve to death so I can manage work better.
Hey can we see a specific link to the rest of this talk, or at least a reference to this Dr’s name please?
The fact that PDF is the most replayed part of the video is F itself 😂 I just hope the letter you came back for is not F, then you see it's a loop😅
49 years old here, have made an appointment seeking diagnosis. I did a few online self-assessments to see if I should pursue a diagnosis. One question was, am I frequently late? Well no, I am never late to anything. Then it occurred to me that I have nearly five different reminders set up for every appointment I make (alarm, two app reminders, wall calendar, white board) to make sure I'm never late. Take away all of these obsessive safety nets and not only will I be late, I will absolutely forget altogether. I've always said it's exhausting being me, and only now am I realizing why. And this is just the tip of a very big iceberg. 😂
I'm 50 years old. I've never even spoken with anyone about the possibility of having ADHD, but this just described me to a tee. I even struggled to stay focussed on this video, losing my attention at least twice, and it's only 4 minutes long. I think I may have had an epiphany.
took me 4 times to finally watch the video all the ay through
I just got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m 17 :/
Think of the diagnosis itself as a good thing! Now you’ll have a chance to talk with someone, get help and so forth. It’ll only go for the better from here :)
Bro if I knew I had ADHD at 17 I would have achieved many things be happy brotha
Be happy! My son got diagnosed last June 2021. He’s 22 years old now and he’s trying to finish his GED. I go day at a time with him. I’m also researching how to address him properly as a mother without prejudice. I’m now learning to remould his emotions. I really feel bad for him because we didn’t take him to a specialist soon enough. He missed four years of his life and he got bullied a lot at school and from friends, if you call it friends. Then.
he became depressed and withdrawn from everything. Hopefully, he gets better with his prescribed medicine. Good luck and light to you and healing.
A diagnosis and medication does not magically make you function optimally. It seems like the interview was cut off at a critical moment of explaining the condition.
He doesn't say diagnosis and medication at the end .
He says treatment .
Meaning you are correct medication is not the cure all .... my meds only hit 50-70% of my issues depending on the day, making it so that the tips, tricks and copping mechanisms I have been taught over the years can help with or mask the others .
0:50 a 2:35 a
Yes
like how this came out (counts fingers) 4 days before my birthday 3 years ago
“Could do better if he put his mind to it”……….getting home from school with reports like that, despite getting high grades, was a nightmare…….my father couldn’t understand it, causing a family breakdown. 52yo and only now understanding my life…….both parents dead though and they never did.
Searches for video, finds video... Watches video one hour later.
This was short enough so I thought it would be easy to watch.
Nope.
My mind went totally elsewhere. 😶
I don't know what happened but this started when I was in grade 12 while studying in 2007. Earlier I used to take 4 to 5 minutes to visualize and memorize the notes. But then what happened that day was I took three to four hours to read and remember. I couldn't visualize nor focus on my task. Constantly I lose my mind. Now its been 2024 and still I don't understand what is happening to me. Is this ADHD?
I have recently found out that I have ADHD, Hyperactive-Impulsive type. Now my entire life makes so much sense.
they are advantages to ADHD
-hyperfocus
-resillience
-conversational skills
-Abundant energy
-creativity
-spontaneity
Tips for managing ADHD symptoms is
-get plenty of exercise
-pay attention to all the good things about yourself
-take activity breaks
-learn to meditate
So I got 1 minute in, had a sip of my drink and quickly decided to do something else on a different tab whilst listening to the presenter (I can't actually remember what that was) and then instead of playing the rest of the video, I started reading the comments. I'm non-diagnosed, but I have my suspicions.
I'm going to try to dive back in, wish me luck!
Jesus and I nearly did it again while trying to find an emoji.
I’ve struggled with depression for a long time and it keeps my motivation at an all time low. I’m finding that even when I’m on medication for it I have all these symptoms that he’s mentioned. I’m extremely self aware and wanting to do better but I never feel like I can commit to doing anything. Should I try and get diagnosed or is this just another excuse I’m making for myself to deter me from success?
How can I get your info. I need help.
I was at the bottom of the class for years
Teacher comments all the same
Until… I got a tutor
I then went to top of the class
One on one is the only way I learn
same here, i told my mom about it shes like damn u have to do it yourself!
*PDF:* *Procrastination. Distractability.* And... hold on I.. I actually forgot. Oh right! *Forgetfulness.*