THE TRUTH ABOUT OUR BIRTH STORY **Every Mom-to-Be Needs To See This**
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- In this video, we share our personal birth story, with Ana getting emotional as she relives the 27 hours of labor. We're very happy and thankful that our baby is safe and healthy, and we think this is an important message for every mom and dad-to-be to watch.
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****!!!! I don't usually comment, but I have to in this instance!! I am a retired ultrasound tech of over 30 years, and the experience and neglect you went through is unconscionable! They should have definitely followed you with ultrasound to monitor your baby's weight and position, especially because you are considered high risk due to your age, no matter your physical health. You are not expected to know that. It was their full responsibility to do that, and when things didn't progress with dilation, they should have done a c-section. They put your life and your baby's life at risk and are more than just fortunate you all got through it. Even though it worked out in the end, I believe you have a case against them. The trauma alone is reason. I wish you blessings and love ❤. Watching you give birth was triggering, even to me, knowing what they were doing was wrong!
Dearest Ana, Junio and Henrique...I don't normally comment either, but what Jan just said is so true. You started out dancing and then opened your lives to us on a very personal level. I feel like you are family. Watching the video you shared of the birth was painful. My heart ached then for you and still does. This was NOT your fault AT ALL. It definitely should NEVER have been this way either, because it was preventable. At 36 weeks with a weight of 7.1 lbs they should have known how big he would be. Babies gain the most weight during the last 4 weeks of pregnancy. With your pregnancy already being high risk for more than one reason, they ABSOLUTELY should have continued ultrasounds, induced early (he would have been fine at 38 or 39 weeks even), or suggested a c- section. At the very LEAST when you stayed at 2 cm for so long they should have checked you/him and done an ultrasound and recommended/done the c-section then. Natural delivery provides for quicker recovery...usually, but risking the life of you and your baby is absolutely inexcusable! My heart goes out to all of you. I don't know if your doula's were with you throughout your pregnancy, but they also should have known better in my opinion. I have never had kids of my own and have enough medical knowledge to know I would NEVER have let this happen to all of you. You are first-time parents and trusted the people you surrounded yourself with to guide you. They all failed you. The BLESSING is that YOU and HENRIQUE are okay!! While it will take some time to heal physically and emotionally, you will be smarter and stronger. Henrique will be okay....his momma is a fighter...you were both fighting for his life. I believe he will be a fighter...strong and able to overcome anything. This does NOT have to define either of you in a negative way at all. God is good and He was with you. He will continue to be with you. I pray for God's abundant blessings and peace for all of you...including Julie. Whether you take action against this doctor's office or not, I believe at a minimum you should confront them and voice how you feel as part of your healing process. And yes, I would absolutely see if you can find another OB/GYN for your post-partum follow ups or demand to see ONLY the female doctor that delivered him. Lots of love to you all!! ❤❤❤❤
100% agree with what ginatheresa said…
Yes I believe You will feel better emotionally and spiritually if you confront the doctors, nurses and then decide if you want to take it further. Best of luck. God speed in your healing…
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Ana, Junior,
I was in tears watching your birth story ! I watched my brother’s wife go through the same thing. All of those doctors were at fault. They were lazy.!! You had a fantastic pregnancy and they just assumed that it would follow through the delivery.. but even I know some Mistakes that they made just from my personal history of live birth miscarriages and the very minimal amount of Doula training that I’ve had. at 36 weeks When Henrique measured 7 pounds, they should’ve been talking about a C-section possibly delivering a week or two early because babies grow half a pound a week at the end. They knew at 36 weeks that baby was going to be over 9 pounds and although you had an incredible pregnancy, you are a tiny lady! Not that your size outside makes so much of a difference. I am not so much a tiny person. I am large extra large woman you know shopping for clothes and my cervix will only open 2 5 cm. That’s as far as it goes. I had C-sections.. that could’ve been a factor with you. In the end that you went to a 9 1/2 I would say that’s not your issue, but they didn’t know that.. they should have seen the size of the shoulders were not going to fit, and the cord!!! OMG!!!! You should know where that cord is at all times during delivery!! The new dr coming in to do your delivery should have looked at your file before she got in there and if they were rushing her in for an last minute emergency and she was barely making it there the nurses should’ve at least been briefing her on your situation. what your file said how big that baby was and they should’ve all known because they should have done an ultrasound when you arrived. they needed to know if they was headed down they needed to know where the cord was they needed to know how big he was and did their job correctly. I know that you are happy that he is here. You’re relieved you’re thanking God and you just want to forget about it, want to forget about it, but let me tell you from experience You have a case against these people you need to act on! my nephew, who is now 12 had a stroke during his birth, and they were not aware until he was two months old. my brother realized that his little hand was closed so tight that if he tried to pry it open, it would’ve broke so they went in to the dr to see why. my nephew is very happy, healthy otherwise loving, amazing very intelligent little boy But at the age of 10 he started having seizures from the brain issues that occurred during the stroke, and the right side of his body is less developed than the left side so he Does require medical treatment and has had to have 2 surgeries on his leg. Luckily, my brother is an engineer and his wife is something of the same and they make a lot of money and none of this is an issue for them, but you need to make sure that any complication that arises for your little guy is covered by these negligent, doctors and hospital.. not that you wouldn’t pay your last dime to help your little guy but make them pay for their mistakes.
Love love love you guys!!! 💙💖🩵💝
Junio, you are one of the best husbands I have ever seen! The way you support Anna is phenomenal!!
Ana, you are such a strong woman!! You are amazing. Most women could not have pushed through that traumatizing of a birth and still documented for everyone that loves you to see, and one day when Henrique is older and he sees that he is going to be amazed, more so than I’m sure he already will be, by both of his parents!
Nothing was your fault , Ana!
Praise God that you are healthy and have a beautiful baby boy!
I’m a medically retired labor/ delivery/postpartum/NICU nurse. Shoulder Dystocia is a true emergency! I had a similar experience, I kept getting told that the baby was very big and my hips/ birth canal was abnormally small. I was like well what the heck? Then let’s do something! I was finally induced at 39 weeks, more because my last pregnancy ended with me having severe preeclampsia. Sure enough, my baby was stuck. Luckily my doctor was very experienced. I burst all the blood vessels in my eyes trying to push him out. They were urgently telling me to push as hard as I can, I think more staff came in to help. Finally he came out. He also had an arm up. He was so bruised. His poor face and arm were all bruised poor baby. If we had gone the last week he would not have been able to fit through. Very scary. I’m sorry you experienced this. Please please, if you are feeling depressed, get help. I told my doctor at my 6 week appointment that I think I had postpartum depression. Being a nurse I had a lot of knowledge in this. He told me that I couldn’t breastfeed on medication for postpartum depression. He told me to GET A MASSAGE. I suffered severely for 10 months, wanting to die. I lost that beautiful time with my baby. I knew the difference from my first son, that this was not ok. But I was so depressed I couldn’t advocate for myself. Finally I went to a different doctor when I got scarily close to an attempt to end my life. He put me on an antidepressant immediately, and yes while I was breastfeeding! I suffered for nothing and lost that precious time in both my son’s lives.😢. And it turns out that he was my last so I always felt so sad that I lost that time. I should have also gotten counseling. Please please please, if you feel like you are experiencing any abnormal emotions, past the “ baby blues period” ( but even then I knew it was different then the last time, a difference in the thought processes as well as the severe emotional distress) get help! And if they don’t help you go to a different doctor! Get counseling as well. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s an actual brain chemistry unbalance. Looking back, I can so tell that it was totally out of my control. Totally illogical. I needed that help to get better. Sending love and prayers for healing your way!
I am so sorry for your experience, my heart goes out to you, may you be healed fully in God’s perfect way and timing in Jesus’ name 🙏🏾
Shoulder dystocia is a risk when induced.
My cousin by marriage always had big kids. Her first 2 kids was 10 plus pounds. Her last baby was over 11 pounds. She had him vaginally. The doctors hurt her so bad, she had to have surgery on her hip shortly after delivery. She was in excruciating pain for months. I don’t know how women give birth naturally to big babies. My great grandmother had my grandma all natural, and my grandmother was over 13 pounds 😳. I had 3 kids, with the biggest being 6 pounds. My doctor cut me, so I wouldn’t rip. I moved, so had a different doctor for my last child. I barely had time to take my pants off, and tell the ER doctor I need cut before giving birth. I almost gave birth on the way to the hospital, so I didn’t make it to L$D. Well l&d nurse was waiting on my arrival, and told me I didn’t need cut. Well I got sent to surgery right after giving birth, for tearing way too much. The l&d nurse said she never saw someone tear, with such a small baby. She knew I always had small baby’s, because I called before arriving to the ER
Oh Ana, my heart goes out to you. I watch all of your videos, but don't usually comment. I had a traumatic birth with my first child. It was so bad, and it took me over a year to even consider having another child. After completing my post natal care, I did switch to a new doctor. It was the best decision I ever made. He corrected all the issues that I had post delivery, which my first doctor brused off and told me to suck it up. He was a breath of fresh air and helped in my healing process both physically and emotionally. When we had our second child, the delivery experience was so much better. Once you finish your post natal care, I strongly suggest praying about finding a new doctor. And be sure to have your records transferred and share everything when you decide on the new doctor. You will heal and become stronger from.this situation. You are in my prayers.
My Dear Ana, follow your heart - if you no longer have trust in any of the doctors, it’s your right to change doctors and go to another practice. You don’t owe anyone anything. I had my first baby at the age of 25 and I’m 64 now. There was a lot about labor and delivery I did not know. I had an urgent situation just like you, and thank God everything was okay at the end. I no longer had trust in any of the doctors in the office. I changed doctors immediately. Please follow your heart… ❤
Right! I don't know if you saw my comment, but I changed to the midwife because if my experience.
I’m so relieved that after all you went thru to finally have a child and all the hopes and dreams you had leading up to his birth, that you both are a miracle and made it thru. I also had difficult crash c section so I know the trama. Being busy with your son and watching him grow will ease your upset. God bless you all.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Absolutely get therapy. You should have never gone through this. Your PTSD is real. You are a beautiful family with a beautiful family. Your medical care was disappointing and I'm so thankful that you're able to talk about it.
Many years ago, I was in labor dilated to a 2, after 17 hours. At that time, the doctors made the decision to perform a caesarean section. I delivered a healthy baby girl by C-section. Six years later, I delivered a baby boy by C-section.
Your medical doctors had an obligation to thoroughly check you, especially during the last weeks of your pregnancy. Luckily, you now have beautiful Henrique. Time will help you heal. Time helps. Love heals.
I send my love and healing heart to help you. Do not be embarrassed to seek therapy, legal advice, and different ob/gyn who will understand and know the right things to do to help you. 💙
Wise words
Brazilian nurse here 🙋🏻♀️
Primeiramente: parabéns pelo bebê e pela força de vocês. Que o tempo traga cura pra todas as feridas (físicas e emocionais) que tudo isso causou.
Nunca achem que o que aconteceu tem a ver com algo que vocês fizeram ou deixaram de fazer. Vocês se prepararam e fizeram o melhor que puderam com a informação que tinham.
A responsabilidade é sim dos profissionais que passaram por vocês. Hoje eu trabalho na Inglaterra, mas os protocolos daqui são bem parecidos com os do Brasil. Geralmente é feito 1 ultrassom por trimestre, sendo o terceiro entre 32 e 36 semanas. As medidas são colocadas num gráfico e é possível estimar o crescimento do bebê nas semanas subsequentes. Nessa fase, fica difícil ele mudar de posição pela falta de espaço mesmo.
Pelo seu relato, parece que o que você teve foi um desproporção cefalo-pelvica. Quando o quadril acaba sendo estreito para a passagem do bebê. Não é possivel saber antes do trabalho de parto ativo. O ultrassom morfológico avalia se o bebê é pequeno para idade gestacional (PIG), adequado para a idade gestacional (AIG) ou grande para idade gestacional (GIG). O Henrique aparentava estar adequado. E, mesmo o bebê sendo GIG, não significa que haverá distocia. Só dá pra saber acompanhando o trabalho de parto de forma adequada. Não dá para prever, infelizmente, pois a distócia é uma junção de fatores que só podem ser avaliados durante o trabalho de parto. O que faz a diferença é a presença de profissionais qualificados e que saibam identificar os sinais de um trabalho de parto distócico. A médica que te falou que se soubesse o tamanho do bebê teria feito cesariana não deveria ter falado isso para uma mãe recém parida pra adicionar mais culpa em cima de você. Anti-ético da parte dela pra se livrar da responsabilidade, maaaas ela deveria sim saber o tamanho do bebê pelo ultimo ultrassom.
A manobra de Kristeller (que você descreve como a enfermeira subindo em você pra empurrar o bebê), é classificada como violência obstétrica e evidências mostram que a manobra pode aumentar a chance de ruptura uterina, incontinência urinária pós parto, trauma períneo e chance de trauma neonatal.
Eu acompanhei a gravidez de vocês e sinto tanto que a experiência do parto tenha sido tão dolorida e diferente do que vocês esperavam. Fico feliz que vocês estão curtindo um bebê saudável.
Nada impede que no futuro você tenham um lindo paro natural (aconselho que procure profissionais diferentes dos que atenderam vocês na gestação do Henrique e que sejam comprometidos com uma prática baseada em evidências).
Quando tudo se acalmar, procurem digerir tudo isso e, se necessário procurar orientação legal pelo que vocês sofreram, pra que não ocorra com outras pessoas.
Obrigada por usarem a voz de vocês!
She should read your comment
Thank you giving THIS information. I agree with you 100%! This could have been prevented and should have been handled much differently. IMO
I had a similar experience but I had wonderful Dr's and nurses or my son wouldn't have survived. I did so much research while I was pregnant that I knew what was going on the entire time. It was still devastating to go through and I still relive it 33 years later but I did have much better professional help than what Ana seem to have had and that's so traumatic to go through something like they experienced. I'm thankful they're ok but I do think therapy would be a great recourse for her or both. It is also sad that you absolutely do want to protect your baby and can't really enjoy your newborn because of that fear of still losing them. Many MANY tears instead of just being able to totally enjoy your precious baby is traumatizing in itself. I wish them the very best and hope she can get past this very soon because they grow up so fast and I'm sure she doesn't want to miss out on anything but to be able to enjoy this time instead of fear it. That was my biggest problem and I did miss somethings because I worried so much about other things that never happened. Thank you once again for your valuable information 🙏 ❤
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Thank for this explanation. I educated myself very much before my last birth. And there are many things about birth in the US I will never understand. There are strong evidences, that the Interventions itself can cause more interventions and more and in the end they will tell you that you are lucky that your Baby is alive even though many of this wouldn't be necessary.
In germany the "leaders" of births even in hospitals are the midwifes because Doctors just Look at you as you have some Kind of "illness". The fact that you are not allowed to eat is violence to me. I was always allowed to eat and I had cereal bars, fruits and lots of water during birth.
As far as I remember epidurals make contractions less effective. So for that you will always get meds to make contractions more effective..during my first birth the epidural I got after 8 hours of labor about 5 cm dilated I think. And it only helped with the pain in my back, but on the other side I was able to get on feet and knees to make it easier and stay active during labor snd birth. Lying on the back is literally the worsest birthing Position for mothers, it is only for the doctors and nurses. Please search therapist or maybe talk to an postpartum-doula. It needs time to heal, but you will. In germany we say "es heißt Wochen-Bett, und es dauert 6 Wochen". Postpartum means you have to Stay in bed or Sofa for 2 weeks, go for short walks for the next 2 weeks and for longer walks the last 2 weeks.
I am sorry that you had to experience this, Ana. Love from germany.
Yah it's good to ou mentioned about legal advice because you can sue them.
.here in my country to what she experience is already a big case.
You prove they did not do what they supposed to do, to their license will be cease ready and can not be able to do the job anymore
Wow! I'm not surprised. Some medical personnel have no common sense! I fell, belly first, at 7 months pregnant with my third child. I asked my doctor for an ultrasound and I was denied it. At full term, and while in labor I had a placental abruption. I was in labor for 8 hours. Neither my doctor nor an anesthesiologist was available for the delivery. They had to pull a doctor from another floor to come in and deliver my baby. I was given a crash c-section. My abdomen cut, no anesthesia and my son was on the brink of death! It was a miracle he survived. He was on a respirator for the first days of his life and we had to baptize him because the doctors gave us no hope. God is great and He allowed us a miracle! The worse experience in my life turned out to be the event that saved my soul! Everything has a purpose. Best wishes to your family!
Your testimony is precious! 🥰
To God All the Glory & Praise!!!🙌🏾🙏🏾💖💐
Omg!! I’m sorry you went through that!
My spinal wore off toward the end of my 3rd c section. I started screaming that my stomach was on fire and trying to pull my arms up out of the straps (to keep my arms from falling off those little boards out to the side, not because I was being totally obnoxious or anything. lol) Next thing I knew I was waking up in Recovery. Did you get the burning feeling when they opened you up w/o anesthesia??
I have such a bad reaction to spinals. I had a great Dr and anesthesiologist!! Just me ….
I’ve had to do two of them and neither one of them had a very good turnout. But I do understand that they are better for C-sections than an epidural. my first one baby I had an epidural in for the C-section and I didn’t have any problems with that, but I did get sick. Kept vomiting because I could feel them messing around in there with everything, bumping my stomach and stuff.
Cesarea sin anestesia? De que estás hablando , la cesárea es una operación, como no te van a poner anestesia.
@@kimberlyelkins8150Oh my gosh 😢! My arms were also strapped off to the side. There were only 2 people in the room initially, the doctor who cut me and the nurse who held my right hand and said, "just squeeze my hand." Shortly after she said that, the doctor said, "I'm cutting" and I felt when he made the first cut. I remember saying, "ow, ow" and then I don't remember the rest. My husband, who was initially going to be allowed in, dressed in scrubs and waiting outside the operating room door, said he heard me scream so loudly and then silence. By this time several medical personnel rushed in and out of the room. It all happened so quickly. When I was screaming, he fell to the floor in despair and looked at the nurses that were at their stations to see if anyone could tell him what was happening. He said they all looked just as scared as he was. My screams could be heard throughout the whole floor. 😢 According to my medical records, my son was pulled out within 2 minutes from the time they cut. He had an Apgar score of 1. He was brought out by a team from the NICU and was being given oxygen with a manual resuscitator as he was rushed to a different location. My husband asked about me since he thought I was dead, and that's when they said, "your wife is fine. Follow us." I didn't get to meet my baby for the first 2 days. I couldn't get up. I lost a lot of blood. I only saw a picture of him and he was intubated 😢. He was diagnosed with PPHN, Persistent Pulmonary Hypertension of the Newborn. He underwent a blood transfusion, we weren't allowed to touch or speak to him because his blood pressure would spike and risk death. He was tube fed and on a ventilator for the first week of his life until I decided to surrender and give him back to God. That's when we received our miracle ❤. On Mother's Day we received a call early morning that they were weaning him off the machine and he breathed on his own for the first time. My son is now 16 and all his teachers tell me he is a genius. I say, he's my miracle. I learned that I am not in control. Any time I surrender to God's will, He provides because His plans are greater than mine.
Ana,
Please stop beating yourself up. You didn't do
anything wrong! You just worked really hard to have a healthy baby. You are the heroine in this story. Listen to your kind husband and his reassurances. He was there, and he knows how brave you were. You did everything you should have. Please don't feel guilty. Childbirth is both magical and scary as hell because of all the unknowns.
Your baby is so fortunate to have the two of you for parents.
Shame on your doctor for allowing you to feel any blame for this. The first two weeks with a newborn are crazy insane busy. Things will get easier with time. I am so so sorry the birth was traumatic for all of you. But things will get better. And you will come out on the other side even more in love and appreciative of each other.
❤ Dear Ana and Junio You are the Hero’s of this the traumatic birthgiving of Henrique; PLEASE DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. God was with you and saved both your life. The best cure for your emotional and fysical pain is love, trust and thankfulness. Talk it over with the doctors, take your time and ENJOY Henrique’s life and love. You deserve som therapy to digest this trauma as soon as possible lovely and courageous Ana💪 🙏🏼💞💖☀️
(I’m 70, my mother went to my childbirth also very painful and traumatic in 36 hours, with 1 doctor and home. She was also 39. We both were fine eventually 🙏🏼)
She's not beating her self up. She knows she didn't do anything wrong.
She is not beating herself up, she is explaining they did not do what they should have done and caused her and her baby unnecessary pain.
I'm in tears! I've had three boys. Nothing like this! All boys were 8.5 pounds. I'm so sorry you had to suffer physically and emotionally
No c section no meds no unnatural no abnormalities. Normal natural everything.
Praise God for momma and baby, both are warriors.
I was 31 when we had our first baby. He too was 9.5 pounds and 21 inches long. No c section offered. Doctors were jerks caring for this and one even left me stranded at the end and I had to find a new one if you can believe. Then because he didn't know my situation he put me in hospital for a week for tests. Then released me to go home but I couldn't walk, he said it was sciatica. I was left alone with baby until water broke. Then 11 hours of labor. Said it was too slow so then induced. I remember every detail. That is why I stayed close to you guys. I wanted to support you more than I did just with comments. I wanted to nurse but no one showed me. I ended up almost starving him until he got formula and I was referred to an excellent pediatrician for regular care and guidance. They kept me in a hospital bed for six days because of epesiotomy. The cut! The joy you will have Ana and Junio as the days and months move forward will help you to move forward. You will not forget the experience but you will get smarter for next time. I promise whatever you decide to do!! I love your family, your honest humility and wish I was closer to you for support. I will keep you in my prayers to my God. It's going to get more enjoyable. Don't be too hard on yourselves. Just enjoy your little inheritance from God.
Your lucky U got through the delivery proud muma U had your husband with U those professional should off known better I had a bad experience with my first baby in the sixties I didn't think I would ever have another child went on to.have more baby's even tho I had a traumatic experience with my first please don't blame yourself like we all did not out fault when we weren't given the option for a c section everything changed today they should off known better god bless your Buba lucky to have beautiful carrying parents
Thank you so much for sharing. I went through something similar during the birth of my second child 37 years ago. Was it traumatic, yes. I still remember the pain and fear but I also remember the determination to save my baby. I remembered asking God to give me strength after over hearing the doctor say, "We're losing him". God did give me the strength. With one hard push, I tore, and I pushed so hard that I busted all small vessels in the whites of my eyes and upper body. So, though i remember the experience, i remember the time in raising a healthy beautiful baby boy. He now has a family of his own, a boy and girl. So, sweetheart, the memory remains but are replaced by joy. So, congratulations. Enjoy your baby because they grow up so fast! Blessings
Ana you trust your gut. If you have the slightest doubt about your trust level for your 5 week check up, then you find somewhere else. YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT to go somewhere. My heart hurts for your trauma. You are a strong woman who is NOW a strong mother 💟🪶feather of a warrior!
Ana, I'm so sorry you had to experience this. 39 years ago I had my first son after a 36 hour labor -- he was 9.6 pounds and my labor didn't progress. The doctors didn't want to do a c-section until I started screaming that I wanted one. My son was completely normal -- thank God he didn't have the umbilical cord situation. You will recover --- right now there are lots of hormones flowing through you, and it will get better. Just concentrate on taking care of yourself and your beautiful son. Concentrate on the joy of having your baby in your arms. I ended up having two more children (all over 8 1/2 pounds) via c-section -- there was no way I wanted to experience that again. Thanks for sharing your story -- this trauma will fade in time and you'll have so many other wonderful memories of your son!! Much love to all of you.
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
I am sorry you went through this. I think I would talk to a lawyer. Ana if you don't want to go back to your obgyn, I am sure you can get your follow up post natal visit with someone else. Ask your PCP to recommend someone else.
Your atory is like mine. 36 yrs old and over 30 hrs labour. Also over 9lb. I ended with C section. My son turned 33 this week. 6'2"
I was induced 5 days before my due date because the doctor saw with an ultrasound that she was big enough already. I went in on the 9th of August 2002. I had 18 hours of labor before they broke my water. I got my 1st epidural. I asked for a C-section because I had major back labor pains. I only dilated to 5cm. The 5 hours later I had a 2nd epidural & an emergency C-section because her heart rate dropped. She was jaundice for 5 days & put under the UV light for all 5 days. I was in the hospital with a fever & constipation for 4 days. My milk dropped on the 5th day. Which was her actual due date The 15th of August 2002. She was 8 lbs. 11 oz., 19" long with an Apgar score of 9 out of 10 not long after she was born.
Use this same wariness NOW, to avoid the popularly suggested artificial immunity protocols that infants and young children are expected to receive. I don't trust them anymore, either.
It’s called doctors abuse/negligence, at it worse, here in America. You should speak to an attorney and sue them to the fullest extent of the law.
Absolutely love the both of you. You always put a smile on my face. 😊❤
Suing is a nice thought, but it won't work. I am a Certified Paralegal and worked for a national prestigious lawfirm for three years in the field of Medical Malpractice. For every hundred cases I took in, they accepted one case. Basically, if there is no death, you don't have a chance for an attorney to even take the case. I remember once them turning down the case of a doctor who botched a surgery so bad, the guy had to wear a colostomy bag the rest of his life. But he lived, so they couldn't take the case.
Medical malpractice insurance rates are so high for a reason. They have the most expensive lawyers to fight cases. It's extremely expensive to fight them, so the cost of suing outweighs the Judgment a client would ultimately be awarded.
It's very disadvantageous to patients, and disheartening really.
@@teriwelshanscp3528I would think the emotional trauma and mental anguish they have suffered as a result would make for a legitimate case. If not, it should.
@@teriwelshanscp3528I would think that the emotional trauma and mental anguish they are suffering from this experience would make for a legitimate case. If not, it should.
Maravillosos padres ❤️
Ana and Junio, thank you so much for humbly and boldly sharing this traumatic experience with us all! You said you don't like to talk about it because then you relive it all over again. But, you also said that talking about it is good for the healing process. I agree. As one commenter here said you can remember it without reliving it. This will take time of course. I like that so many mothers shared with you their traumatic birth experiences, as it helps to know that we are not alone in our suffering. I will try to briefly add mine here: With my first pregnancy, I had pre-eclampsia; a risky condition that can be fatal to both mom and baby. When I was 30 weeks along, I began to have complications and was rushed to the hospital a couple of times. Then, I was required to have strict bedrest with lying down on my left side for the remainder of my pregnancy. That was so boring for me as I could only get up to use the bathroom. My husband had to give me sponge baths. Then, when I was 41 weeks pregnant, my doctor induced me, but I dilated only 2 centimeters, and only progressed to 3 centimeters hours later. My baby was already at 8 pounds, and while I insisted to have a C-section, my doctor refused, as he was against such a thing. After over 20 hours of painful labor, I begged for the epidural, which was administered. However, when I was pushing to get the baby delivered, I screamed in pain and asked why I could feel everything. The doctor then confessed to me that he only had a small percentage of the epidural given to me! After a very traumatic birth, and by the grace of God, my daughter was finally born, weighing 8 pd. 3oz. It took me months to recover, both physically and emotionally. Thank you again for being vulnerable and sharing your story, Ana and Junio! May God bless your precious family!🥰
You have 2.75 viewers! You may never know how many people will benefit from this video you have just given. I know there will be many. I am a retired RN and I can tell you that our health care system is changing with huge insurance companies calling many of the shots. You must be PROACTIVE for yourselves and now for your baby. Never be afraid to ask questions. Do your own research! Follow your feelings and learn as much as you can. None of this was your fault!! You are wonderful parents!.May God bless all four of you! Love from the USA😊
This is so true 🙏🏾❤
After the first video, I felt that was enough for me. If I know anyone in the same situation I'm definitely going to tell them what she went through.
I don’t know how I missed that this lil guy was over nine Pounds! With your age and his size but to let you go that long in hard labor I just cannot imagine! As time goes by this will get better. Your hormones will settle. You have every right to be very upset. Thanks to God this baby survived. Much love and happiness!💙
I was in labor for 4.00AM -7:00PM . After all this hours , I remember I was so tired, my blood pressure got up and my doctor said enough is enough, something is wrong and you’re going to have a C-section , that’s that, cause I didn’t want to hear about it. So , after belly cuts, doctor took the baby out and poor little boy had three ombilical nodes , that’s why he can’t come out. Sometimes things happen in the last day, never know how labor ends up. Good thing the baby is normal and healthy, you’re feeling better and better, it was a “bad “ labor experience but everything passed and moved on. Just prepare yourself to have a little girl cause that little man needs a little sister! Take care yourself and the baby!
Dulce mama❤ My own first birthing experience 38 years ago was very similar to yours, close to 30 hours and ended with an emergency C- section. The wind blew through my hair as they wheeled me to the operating theater. Afterwards, I had so many of the same questions you have and got no answers other then the compassion and comraderie of other moms in the same position to help me. traumatizing for me, my hubby and baby, who by the way weighed 10.1 lbs. As moms our greatest joy and focus is that our babies are ok. All I can offer you is that with time you forget the pain, and the anger lessens. The experience will soften. I dont think that As first time parent, We are never well prepared for the difficult to happen. I send you much love light prayers and a heartfelt hug. Just watch your baby grow and enjoy each moment. God bless all 4 of you.
All my births have ranged from 24-48hrs long, we have four children. Anytime you have a child, you risk your life and it can be unnerving. I had a severe pp hemorrhage with our 3rd and it was terrifying. Big hugs Ana, I think so many women can relate.
@HSHeart723 ❤
Exactly, that’s why Im not having more babies💔
My midwife had me take Bioflavonoids with Vit C by Solaray because of my tendency to lose blood. And the Bioflavonoids also minimized and healed my hemorrhoids very fast.
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
How 🤔 ❓️ on earth 🌎 would u go thru like 👍 👌 8s mentally physically etc.wen 2s1daughter epid. Was n labor 4 24 hrs. Long 😢 😭 yea exactly how 🤔 🤣 did 8 better n bath 🛁 tub ❤😊
I worked years in Neonatal Intensive Care. I have seen lots of mistakes and horrible outcomes. This one was an error of omission that could have been prevented by an ultrasound. I am so sorry. I pray all is well and you all will be able to live happy, healthy lives. Don’t be intimidated by doctors and made to feel like anything was your fault. Find someone else for care that you can trust 100%. Thank you for the video. 💕💕💕
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful!!! Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
Get a-private doctor for your next baby. …,
@@katk3381 i just heard about bad experiences and also got licensed private midwifes, gave birt at home naturally, best investment in our lives ❤ Can't imagine what I would get in the hospital with the size of the baby and the other not wanting to get out. The midwife kept calm, used rebozo and all sort of natural support and everything was great
🙏💖🙏😇💝🎊🙏
Medical gaslighting is brutal.
My daughter's birth was very similar. She was 8.5 lbs. It was a long, painful experience. The doctor used a suction device to help deliver our daughter. She had the cord wrapped around her neck and was purple as she was born. It took over one minute to get her to cry and breathe. We, too, were praying for our daughter to live. She did live and is a beautiful young woman today. She was diagnosed with autism at 8 years of age. I believe this is due to the lack of oxygen to the brain at birth. We are not prepared for all the problems that arise at birth. The healing will come, and sharing your story will help the healing begin. Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy.
Thank you for sharing your story.
People need to hear it to know how important it is to be your own health advocate because there are many incompetent health professionals.
My advice is do your own individual research and education on your body and health.
Because our doctors don't get the training they really need.
They get the training that sells drugs and surgery.
The number 2 or 3 cause of death is medical mistakes.
The moral of this story is...
Take your health into your own hands and never totally rely on health "professionals".
I'm so grateful you have a healthy baby!!! ❤❤❤
I am going to suggest that all precious babies who are born with the umbilical cord wrapped around the neck causing oxygen deprivation need to be checked for a PFO. This is when the valve flap in the heart that closes shut with that first, all important, first deep breath, doesn't close. I was a "blue baby" at birth. I was diagnosed with a PFO at the age of 41, when I was pregnant with my l2th and last child. Oxygen deprivation from un-oxygenated blood to the fetus can cause an array of mental disorders.
I totally agree with the above nurses’ comments. After 2 babes I hospital and 4 at home, I even have the sense to know that after no progress and only 2 cm of dilation lasting for 24 hours or more, a C-section should have been done! I’m not familiar with the time frame mentioned when it is too late for a section, but you definitely need to never go back to that group of doctors again!!!! A lawsuit is not the way I would lean towards but I believe you have a legitimate medical case!!! God will heal your heart and emotions but this experience was uncalled for! You need as many hugs as comments you are getting!!! We all need to send love, hugs, and prayers for healing!! Love you all…..🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗🤗
Ana I pray the Lord heals you from the top of your head to the soles of your feet! And take your pain in Jesus name ❤
Amen 🙏
Amen 🙏♥
Amen🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Allow the Holy Spirit to calm and heal your heart, mind,and soul, He will give you clear discernment of what happened, how to proceed. Your husband, as he prays over you, will facilitate in this healing. Your husband is the head of your household, pray together to find peace with what happened. Don’t allow what happened to rob you of any JOY. Capture this once in a lifetime, unique JOY. Cultivate, actively, store positive memories. This present moment is a precious treasure. God Bless . . .
Amen
🙏 Amen.
ANA and Junio-I can’t believe what I just heard! By the time the video was halfway through, I couldn’t even breathe and I felt everything you felt! I actually did 45 years ago when my first and only baby was born. The only difference was, that even back then, when we did not have sonograms or amnio’s , my doctor had the good sense to realize a c-section was the answer! My labor and epidural were progressing just about the way your was. I was 4’ 11” and 95
Lbs. with a huge baby trying to be born! If my doctors were able to take such good care of me in 1978, with none of todays technology, how did this happen to you?? It was no fault of yours, but if I were you, I would change doctors immediately, so, if you do have another baby, you know this will not happen to you again.God bless all of you! I just found you about 3 months ago, and I love all of you! More than anything, I love the way Junio loves you, Ana!!❤️
😢😢🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾I’m in the medical field and a mother of two children. I am disheartened that your providers had somehow caused you this much trauma and anguish. Yes, go to medical professionals whom you can put your trust. It’s very important to advocate for yourself. Never be afraid to ask questions and get answers. You know your body and follow your gut feeling. It’s always acceptable to get a second opinion. I hope and pray that you will be healed completely not only physically but mentally and emotionally. I wish your precious baby, your loving
husband and you mostly to be well and happy always. God bless!❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I am so sorry you went through this. I went through the samething, but the only difference is the doctor when he finally listened to me something was wrong. He cleared the room and told me that me and my son and I were at high risk of dying. He told this to me alone. I told him to save my baby and not me. He said I can't. I have to save you and not the baby. I told him that if it comes down to one or the other, my son lives. He came out black, cord around his neck. I was very overprotective with my son. I never wanted him to be away from me, and I was always hovering over him. When school started, I had to take him and pick him up. I had to see him go in the building. I was a nervous reck till school got out, and he was home, but with the support of all my family and friends, I began to let go and let him live, let him be a kid. He is 21 now married, and I was 23 when I had him, I'm now 44, and I will be a grandmother on December 6th. I have two more sons one is 10 and the other is 9. I had that fear when I found out I was pregnant. I was honest with my doctors, and I went to a new doctor. They were so supportive, and I had extra ultrasounds. If I felt panicked, they would get me in right away to check me and do an ultrasound. You are a very strong woman, and you have an amazing husband. Together, you both are inspirational. Lean on each other, ask for help, pray, and believe God will get you through this. Congratulations on your adorable son. You have a beautiful family. Big hugs, loves, and prayers!!!
My first baby was born when I was 18 years old. I was under 118 lbs at full term with very narrow hips. We lived on an island where the only option was to be air lifted if there were complications. I was in labour for 48 hours and in transition for 6 of those hours where I wasn't allowed to push because I would hurt the baby. There was no option for an epidural so I was unmedicated and relied totally on breathing to get through. His head was incredibly big- he was 9 lbs 3 oz and my own doctor left for a convention at the most crucial point. Thank God that there was a retired doctor who had delivered 1000 babies at a large hospital and he took over. It was a forceps delivery and with a lot of tearing and an episiotomy- if it weren't for that amazing doctor either the baby or both of us may not have survived. Although it was traumatizing- and my next baby was 10 lbs 6 oz and had the cord wrapped around his neck- I did go on to have 6 children (not all planned :-) ) and they are all alive and well 36-48 years later. There were no ultrasound machines or ways to know ahead of time what obstacles lay ahead in the delivery room at that time. While there may have been excuses in those days to handle labour and delivery in such brutal ways, as you say, there is no such excuse now for the doctors and nursing staff not to be prepared for any an all options at a moment's notice. Enjoy your son and know that the memory of that trauma will fade as you grow deeper and deeper in love with him. There is no way to explain childbirth to anyone...it's just something that, once you experience it, puts you into a category of human bonding that can only be compared to those who have gone through battle together and lived to tell the tale. Be blessed.
I am a retired nurse in the USA.Things can happen no fault of yours or the doctors. You had no idea what to ask for . The doctor should have done more ultra sounds and measurements. I can tell you though at a certain point of your delivery they could not do a c section. Personally I have had 4 c sections , lost my daughter hours after her birth. Once I almost died and was in ICU then with my other daughter she almost died. Birth is truly a miracle .Working as nurse I have seen great doctors and nurses but also worked for a doctor that actually want to go play golf so he induced the mother. Pitocin makes the contractions stronger , and can become to strong .She ended up having to have a c section. I was assisting in a c section and the mom actually woke up in pain and needed more sedation. Pushing the button does not always give you more medication it’s set to a certain amount so after you have had that amount pushing the button does nothing .Finding the right doc that you have confidence in is so important. I am so happy you are both ok. He’s absolutely gorgeous . 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💗💗⭐️
Dear Anna, please don't blame yourself for not knowing what the professionals have to know and do, but they didn't. The birth of my 4th child was traumatic for me too because my son almost died due to complications.
After a few weeks I noticed that I was having nightmares and flashbacks from the birth.
I got into therapy they called EMDR therapy. It is a very intense therapie but very effective and with good results. I now do no longer think of my birthstory as a traumatic event!
Please get help now before you develope a PTSD.
Much love from the Netherlands ❤
Insurance probably won’t allow more scans… ridiculous
@@shellylavigne5913they should….most do….
It’s pretty much routine during the last four visits for at least one more ultrasound
God bless how well u have done ana my second born my son was the same weight Enrique was a big baby for your first give yourself time to heal
Dearest Anna Junio and Henrique. You are a beautiful, beautiful family. You are absolutely wonderful parents! I’m so very sorry that you had to go through this traumatic birth. I am not a healthcare professional In the medical field, but I am a Christian healthcare professional. I cannot comment on medical procedures. But it sounds like you did everything correct and you were conscientious about everything. Without any training, you knew in your heart what was the right procedure. And other professionals have told you in these comments. You were right!! We do learn in these difficult lessons that the only one worthy of our absolute trust is God. Always listen to your intuition because that is how God speaks to you. He told you what the right procedure was, you were the intelligent one. You just didn’t know it. God loves you, Anna, Junio and Henrique. You have the greatest blessing God gives, your baby boy. God will protect you and your child. Joy and happiness will return and this will fade.
I work in an ob/gyn department. Seeing this video truly makes me want to tell you to see other post natal care. Where I work I have never heard of these situations you went through. I’m so sorry this has happened. You should not have had to endure this. You have every right as a patient to seek care elsewhere. You have to be your own advocate and do what is best for yourself, Junio and Henrique. There should have been more ultrasounds and definitely should have had a c-section but you were trusting the care of your medical providers. As someone who was not able to have any children of my own, I cried along with you watching this. You all will be in my prayers. Please also seek care of a therapist not only for the trauma you have experienced but to take care of the health of yourself and the mental and emotional trauma. Also please take care of yourself postpartum and watch for any signs to know you should seek help for that as well. In my department we have a social worker who sees for therapy after births. Make sure to find one that you mesh with. Take care and know I am praying for you all. God bless! 💜💜🙏🏼🙏🏼
Excellent advice!!
Muito Queridos Ana, Junio, Enrique e Julika… I am so proud of you for sharing your difficult experiences so honestly! First, because it will be an important part of your own healing and second, as you hope, It may be of immeasurable validation and comfort to other people, and consciousness raising for medical professionals.
Now, permit me a RANT which I hope will be validating and comforting to you: I retired from a 50 year
medical/mental health social work career. I worked in pediatric and neonatal intensive care units, community health centers with pregnant and post partum Moms and as a trauma psychotherapist. You are so right that you deserve resources
right now and I have a suggestion. Google “psychotherapists who are trained in EMDR ( Eye Movement
Desensitazation and Reprocessing Therapy” who are often Clinical Psychologists and Clinical Social Workers, Psychiatrists are less likely to be trained in this therapy modality.This Evidence Based modality is very efficacious with Acute Stress Disorder ( which should be named something different because it is a natural reaction to stress, not inherently “disordered”) as well as PTSD. It can bring you very rapid relief and some therapists also use the techniques with infants and children. Newborns ARE affected by stressful births, but can be “cleared”
Of trauma just like their parents. I will try to attach a description of EMDR here- because I want the whole world to know it exists!
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful!!! Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
Kate Middleton had all of her births with midwives. Skilled OBs are needed in the event of emergencies but there are fewer emergencies when licensed midwives assist moms with their own unique births.
@@jenny4184. I was very lucky to have had EMDR many years ago from a great doctor. I hope she finds a good doc to help her.
As a Nurse Practitioner and someone who has worked OBGYN and women's health, I would get your post natal care done by another physician. Thank you for this video. One of the biggest neglects all health care providers have in whatever field they work in is the lack of teaching. Had somebody taken the time to talk to you, teach you about options, and yes, done an ultrasound at week 40, you three would have experienced a better and more joyful outcome. May God heal and protect you for many years to come.
It is all about the bottom line for these hospitals. I would definitely sue this hospital for neglect. You did not deserve this suffering due to their incompetence.
I completely agree! I would ask a good lawyer to make a case against that horrific lack of competence and CARE.
But I have a question too: do you have to pay hospital and doctors????? I ask , because in Italy we have choice: either the free assistance and free hospital room or private clinic and doctor that we pay.
Sending love to you and best wishes
You need to sue the hospital. My daughter had a very bad experience like you did,she was very traumatised and my grandson was blue when he was born and on oxygen,he even had a birth injury on his nose,that started getting worse a few days after he was born,its was like a big burn like looking injury on the tip of his nose. I want her to sue the hospital.
I never comment, but your story is so similar to mine(birthed a 10 pounds baby), just want to thank you for speaking up, to wish you a fast recovery, time will help you heal, but also the thousands of times you will hear "I love you mommy".
Beautiful how you said to your wife: ... you should not be ashamed of not feeling save at a place!!! Wonderful! Because no woman should ever feel ashamed about trusting her gut feelings(of course also no man ).So many women lost trust into their inner voice and wisdom. And that s what causes trauma too. Trauma is not just about what is happening on the outside, it is more about what is happening on the inside. So, as I had myself two traumatic birth stories with my two children I started to integrate the wisdom of healing these traumas in my work as a healer too. I wish you all the best. May you find a sensitive and lightful way to heal and share your story and the wisdom behind it.
From my heart to yours 🙏
Ana absolutely get some therapy. You have post traumatic stress and if it’s not dealt with it can have long lasting consequences. You are already wise to recognise that it could affect your parenting of Henrique. Please get professional help! What you went through is horrific and my heart goes out to the three of you. For Junio looking on and not being able to help you must’ve been traumatic for him too. God bless you all on your healing journey. I had an episiotomy too and it’s the absolute pits. It hurts for months, and the first few times of intimacy is very painful - be aware and be prepared for that - but it does sort itself out. Much love to you 🤗
Young girls have episiotomy too
This was also my first thought about you both having PTSD. I hope you both do get some therapy as soon as you can because a situation like this one can set you up for post-partem depression-which could present itself up to a year after your traumatic birth. I had a difficult birth with my son and at his first birthday I started having flashbacks of all of the trauma of his birth and I got very depressed because I felt like I should have been happy and celebrating his birthday. I did get help. (I, too, should have had a c-section).
I agree that this should be investigated by a malpractice lawyer. You are a wonderful, loving couple and I wish you all the best. Thank you so much for helping others by so candidly sharing your story!❤️🙏🏻
@@terrangelica3505 yes, in psychotherapy for neo-parents there is a lot of relaxation, trips, music and laughing...do you know laugh yoga?
@@terrangelica3505 post-PARTUM not partem
Oh dear Ana, I feel so sorry for you! It was the worst position for giving birth, I hate it. I just can't understand why doctors still do this to women and baby. So stupid. Sorry, I know it doesn't help you...I feel so sorry for you. Medication during labor isn't good for mom and child. I hope, if you ever be ready for another child, you will have a beautiful birth, because it IS possible...I've read the book
Giving birth together : the modern parents home program of natural childbirth exercises : with case histories, illustrations, and more than 50 photographs
Von:Ingrid Mitchell
It is an old book, but it is such a good help. The birth position which is in the book is also on the back, which is the worst, but with her breathing techniques it is quite "easy" to open up and standing the pain. A midwife once said "keep in mind, every contraction is bringing you closer to your baby". So I think you have to look at it as something positive which you suffer for your child without medication.
I am so sorry for your experience...it must have been really tuff. Best medicine now is having your baby skin to skin with you!
Love and prayers,
Mom of 6
I was flabbergasted that they didn't schedule a C-section in the first place!! They knew your son was big but then for you to labor that long with a horrible experience is just not right! But now he's here, healthy, beautiful and so are the two of you❤
Me tooo!!!!
Totally! She should have had a “c” section due to baby’s size, her first baby and her age! I would change Doctors asap!! Sounds like a lot of hmmmm, maybe try…. Not with the life of a mom and baby at stake !!
Hello,
Congratulations on your gorgeous Bubba. ❤
Ask for your discharge notes so you can refer to go over with your General Doctor.
Your whole Body and Soul will take sometime to return to normal.
You grew a Bubba so your internal stomach has been pushed aside.
Blessings and Prayers.
Australia❤❤❤
Thank goodness you and your beautiful baby are ok.
First few weeks after birth. I was the same i was emotional. I would ask your doctor when you have your post natal appointment why you didn't have scan towards the pregnancy. I would change your doctor.
Don’t ever doubt your qualifications of being a mom, you are a kind and loving person, you will raise your son just like he needs you too, you have such a kind and loving husband to help and support you! Trust God to show you how to raise your son, He will show you in His Word!!
Thank you for sharing your story. As a retired nurse now should have been done. Thank you for sharing your experience. You have helped many more moms. When you loose faith and trust in your Dr. it’s time to change. I am so thankful you all are home together. Much love to you all. Please see someone to talk to. PTSD is real. Your advice will help many.
Thank you for sharing your story.....and being so vulnerable. You will help thousands of women avoid what you went through because of this. Bless you and your beautiful baby.
My heart broke hearing your experience and almost losing little Henrique...but this was the Doctors fault.They're supposed to know all these things. And when they're wrong and realize they could be in trouble for this, they try to turn the situation around and blame you guys. It's the DOCTORS FAULT 100%. Glad you are okay and the baby. CONGRATULATIONS🥰🥰
@arristocrachica
I agree with your sentiments a 100% !!!
I hope Ana finds a psychotherapist to help her process the abuse & neglect she endured. I was appalled as I listened to her ...especially on hearing that NO‐ONE CALLED FOR AN ULTRASOUND IN THE LAST 4 WEEKS OF HER PREGNANCY. 👎👎👎
I'm in UK. Had ten babies and been very fortunate in having easy births every time. I've been with my two daughters giving birth to 7 of their babies. Both had a sudden traumatic while giving birth, which is so scary. Watching you tell us what you went through, is absolutely heartbreaking. You'll never get over the scare of the same happening again if you have another baby, but you would and should be classed as high risk, and given more ultrasound scans during those last four weeks. You should also have the option of a selective Caesarean. At least that's how it is here in UK. Your physical pain will heal quicker than your mental pain, and I hope counselling helps you if you decide to go for that. Take time to get over your trauma. You have a beautiful baby boy, who will give you many years of love and happiness. I wish you a full and speedy recovery. Much love 💞
Dear beautiful Anna,
I watched your pre and birthing videos.
I am 65 and a Naturopath.
Honestly before birth I had a feeling that they let you go too far overdue. That is what caused Henriques shoulders to become too large and his weight so high. From ultrasounds they know size of baby.
A poor judgement call was made regarding when to induce.
You are a petite frame and not wide across hips (very fit). You dont have classic "child bearing hips".
You were all baby out front, proof of which is how quickly you are returning to form. Amazing Anna.
My hip width is similar and my 2 kids were 6 lbs something.
Bigger babies are easier after birth though. Sleep longer and eat less often due to larger stomach capacity.
This was your first time and you trusted the experts without question. Trust your intuition.
You have learned a lot .
The second time your body knows the drill and the muscles remember.
I also wondered if there had been gestational diabetes causing him to be large.
He is gorgeous and content.
Your an amazing couple and amazing parents.
Your experience and others is the reason I feel home birthing is foolish and risky.
Hugs, Janet
Toronto
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The baby "getting stuck" happened for variety of reasons. I'm smaller than Ana and had large babies, naturally.
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
I'm a therapist, and when we experience trauma the brain records it in a very specific way that generally doesn't resolve on its own. I would recommend that you both look into doing EMDR to help with processing this, it will lighten things for you. There's a book I always recommend to my clients, "Getting Past Your Past" that will help you understand more about how EMDR works. Prayers for all 3 of you, I'm glad you know more and are sharing that information with others. 💗🙏
Nice to see your recommendation for EMDR- I recommended it too! Hope they follow up!
EMDR works 💪 ❤
@@jenny4184is EMDR a soothing therapy? Is it as amazing as musicotherapy and psychodrama are? Does she enhance feelings and fantasy?
@@melanieconklin6550certainly better than NLP😊
Are ypu a humanistic orientation therapist?
I gave birth to my daughter at the age of 37 and I also believed the doctors that the hips were normal, in the fifth month of her life it turned out that the tests were incorrectly performed and there was a dislocation of the hip... I went through a cast for her for 3 months put on under total anesthesia, orthoses... physiotherapy and yes, we don't know whether she will have to have a 4-hour surgery and break her pelvis at the age of 3...
I feel you and I’m so sorry for you, you are a brave Mom and you have a healthy and beautiful child, that's the most important thing now 😍 your little man is in the world and has the best parents he could ever have dream 😊❤
This Baby has the Best Parents in the World! I've always heard that every delivery is different from others that are more traumatic, I went through a similar experience as yours and I remember every part of it 30 years later including being sent home 3x's and my Son was almost born at home and we could have died. I went through a lot of negligence giving birth. Praise God that my Son was born and that we didn't die, you will overcome this and not every birth is the same. God willing your next birth will be less traumatic, we love you guys and Thank you for sharing this with those that don't know what to expect. Please take care of yourself and each other. Please go to your check up and just make sure that you are healing well and that you are getting healthy. God Bless you all. Let the Babies Reign!❤️💙
I feel your pain, because I had also a bad experience with my first child 47 years ago. I suffered a lot, everything was ripped off, I had a difficult long labor and I felt I was not given the proper care. I almost died later from hemorrhage, everything that was stitched, broke off. I didn’t know about racism at that time. With IV bag and Blood bag, they wanted me to go to the bathroom to clean myself. Everything underneath is swelling and bleeding. The head nurse was so mean, she should have been a warden. Later in my life I became a nurse, and I can’t be more patient, understanding, empathic, nurse but those were already the traits God gave me, so that’s natural for me. ❤
My goodness I am so sorry what you went through with the nurse. I had a simular experience with the midwife who delivered my eldest daughter. I had to have stitches due to a split when I gave birth. Took so long she stiched me up with no anaesthetic because it wore off. She was so rude they way she spoke to me. I aske for more anesthesia she didn't listen
Sadly, OBs don't know the 1st thing about how to birth.
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
Don't feel guilty, some women can never carry to term ... too small & even as a fetus wants to come at 21- 25 weeks no one knows what's going to transpire. Some as written here will never carry to term. Early babies in this example can't breathe so after the trauma adopt because were told the next would be the same outcome. I at the last minute was told C-Section so you are not the only one who undertook a surprise ending.
You are a strong lady. You will get through this. Know that God loves you and he will help you ❤ So sorry you had such a difficult birth. Your story needs to be told. So many new moms to be just don't know.
Damn, that makes me angry for how u were treated by that nurse. So sorry! Hugs for you
Change doctor's if you feel they didn't guide you and help you for a safer delivery. You have EVERY RIGHT. God bless you all.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree you should change doctors and definitely get ultrasounds to see how the baby was growing. They let you down for sure.
There were signs ...
I’m so grateful for you guys and so thankful that everyone is safe and healthy. My heart is with y’all ❤.
you have every right to feel this way, this was your experience, ask for all the help you feel you need, your mental health is everything and should be respected. He is a beautiful baby and his momma is too
I am retired nurse and indeed there was neglect with no ultrasound. In addition, pushing with such force on your uterus by that nurse could have ruptured it! I am so sad for both of you. Thank God Henrique is ok. It hurts me to see you cry Ana. You have the sweetest smile . You are a precious couple in God’s eyes. Praying for both if you to heal. ❤🙏👼
Dear Ana, I know exactly how you feel and understand your pain. My first labour at the age of 36 was also traumatic. It lasted 41 hours, and it was nothing to what I was hoping for. Being a petit mom (5'5 and UK10) I naturally delivered a boy of 9.5 pounds and 58cm. My labour stopped progressing on the second day, the baby was terribly distressed and could have died, the doctors and midwives saw what was going on, but nobody ever offered me a c-section. Fortunately my beautiful son was strong enough and was born healthy. My recovery lasted several weeks it was a difficult time.
Unfortunately, the stories like these are quite common, Ana. Nobody can predict it, regardless of age or size.
Thank God your son was born healthy and happy ❤❤❤
I hope you will also recover soon xxx God bless you xxx
There is a practice in Nashville that works specifically with birth trauma and postpartum issues for the mother and the father. It is called Ready Nest Counseling. They may have online services. If not, they may be able to direct you to someone in your area. I want you to know your body was not broken. The system let you down. I am so very sorry for what you experienced. I am so proud of you for talking about this and for not gaslighting yourself. You will heal and be much more empowered and knowledgeable going forward if and when you have another baby. He is beautiful, btw.
"know your body was not broken. The system let you down." I hope every one of your doctors and OB nurses watch this video and read the comments. There are real eye-opening issues that you brought up. The healthcare providers you had (past tense, because I hope you have changed), could learn so much if they had a postpartum conference with all of you. You will soon allow those memories to fade, (but they will always be remembered you whole life). Enjoy your beautiful baby boy.
Thank you Ana and Hubby. Happy baby doing well. Blessings to you and family!
Ana, I couldn’t stop wiping away my tears hearing you share your pain & trauma. Thank you for sharing your story. Pls do not ever go back to your medical team. Not only have they violated your trust, but they’ve hurt you & traumatized you. They will never own up to their negligence. It will only trigger you, and delay your healing process. Channel all your pain on how to heal and get well again. Baby Henrique and Junio both love you and need you. Whenever you feel sad or down, pls remember to always reach out through your platform for love & support. You have a “World Stage” of people.. A huge crowd of family, friends, and followers that will always be rooting for ya & cheering for ya at the other end of the Valley. Blessings onto you and your beautiful family.
I have to say I experienced the same kind of birth.I was young at 17 when I gave birth to my daughter.I was 2 weeks overdue in my pregnancy,I went in for a scheduled inducement.After 10 hours of hard labor and pushing for hours my daughter came out blue with cord around her neck.I was extremely tired and didn't realize what happen until after.I just remember a bunch of doctors rushing in the room to revive her.She was my miracle child and 33 years later I tell her the story.I have to say 7 years after giving birth to her I gave birth to my son and it was extremely easy.3 pushes and no problem at all.God bless you all ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Jan
Bless you for speaking out, your clinical expertise education and educating women at all levels, current pregnant moms, future moms etc. I had two (2) premies and the care I received throughout was extraordinary! What Ana endured was horrific!
I had severe trauma during our childbirth with my son, labor stalled and he was in distress and I slipped off the or table after the nerve block was placed.
My soul feels this with you. I only came here to show support as an old subscriber that leaned on this channel through my postpartum journey of finding joy in life. My empathy for you both is immense- to hear this was your experience... Ugh!
Ana if you dont want to go to these doctors, DO NOT GO BACK. Listen to your inner voice and pay attention to your premonitions. It's your baby now that you must protect.
Ana and Junio. I love you, and I thank Jesus for bringing this little precious blessing into your lives. Having said that, let me go straight to the point: lawsuit, lawsuit, big time lawsuit. Hire the most powerful attorney you can find (there are so many of them in NY) and seek a huge compensation, because you never know in what ways what they caused could impact Henrique's life in the future. Not to mention the long-lasting PSTD Ana will go through (and Junio too!). This is a multi-million dollar lawsuit, and I hope you don't settle for less. I will be here rooting and praying for you. Be blessed, my dearest friends, in every possible way...🙏💖
I'm traumatized just listening to your story Ana. My chest hurts and anxiety so high, I'm crying here. I'm sending loving, healing vibes. You both are correct THE DOCTORS should have done a better job! PERIOD! Hugs hugs
This story, YOUR BIRTH STORY is important never doubt that. And please please share this video for awareness. 🙌🏼❣️
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful!!! Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
Thank you so much for going through the pain of re-living this in order to help women like myself that one day may need to be armed with this knowledge! From what I know of both of you, you seem to be two of the most beautiful souls, and I wish for you so much safety, warmth, and healing going forward. Enjoy your family and the abundant, incredible love you have! 🥰 🤗
Thank you for being so brave in sharing your experiences and how much you went through. Thank you for bringing awareness and how you weren't fully informed about options is so deeply hurtful. I hope and pray you both heal from this and your baby is healthy and both of you. God bless 🙏🩵.
Dear Ana, you went through a lot of difficult times, but try to take your time and everything will be eventually better! Your family is a treasure for the 4 of you and with God's help you'll leave difficulties in the past! A huge hug to beautiful baby Henrique!❤👶🫠
Dear Ana...at first , excuse my incredible english! I'm german! I am 60 years old and i have two daughters...both are not born "naturally" ...but I learned, that the kind of birth is not important! What is really important, is, that the little wonder is born! This little Star, this wonderful result of love and emotion!! So please, let the time of birth go...think what ist actual ❤..enjoy your lovely Baby boy, your loving and understanding husband and that unbelievable gift, you have in your arms!!! That is the reason, you have done this work!!! Look to the future, give all your love to yourself and your little family and be a wonderful mother for your little son! I wish you all the best❤
Hi Ana, I don’t typically comment but I am also a new mom and had a traumatic birth. Like you I trusted in the medical staff and my birth also turned out traumatic. What I have learned after is that one, hospitals in the U.S. are a business, so they don’t always prioritize the health and wellness of their patients in the way that they should. Two, birth education is life changing. The more we hear and learn about other women’s births, the better prepared we are for our own and how to better advocate for ourselves next time. I am very sorry you had a traumatic birth. I hope you’re community is helping you heal. I appreciate you sharing your story and letting people know about your experience because there should be change and better support for moms when it comes to birth.
So sorry u guys went through this! May god continue to protect and guide your beautiful family!! Celebrate your new bundle of joy!!
I am 37 & am disabled from a similar birth in Australia. The nerves in my shoulder stretched when I got stuck. I can't straighten my left arm or lift it above my head. I have horrible chronic pain in my neck and back. Drs told my parents that it would be fine & go away on its own. It didn't. I have had physiotherapy & expendive meducal treatment my whole life. When I saw a psychiatrist for anxiety their first question was if I had a traumatic birth.
The hospital didn't want any accountability. They don't keep records of how often it happens. If the baby is alive, they just move on. My poor mother has suffered physically & suffered seeing me suffer. I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Anna, my heart goes out to you for such a traumatic experience. I am a healthcare worker, and I'm happy you two are using your platform to tell people, they have patient rights! You are
Beautiful people ... Many blessings to you all.❤🙏
You just keep talking about it all, because talking does relieve the emotional pain. Know you are admired for your truthfulness, courage and grace.
I can’t believe things have not improved at all in over 31 years when I went thru the same thing. You look wonderful and are so blessed you all are so well. What you are saying IS VERY IMPORTANT. Especially for older Moms having first babies. You did the best you could. The medical staff are the ones who need to be straightened out.
My daughter is 26 now. The same thing happened to me. She was 4 weeks early and was not big at all, she was only 6 lbs, 15 oz., but she was stuck. We had the c-section. It was over 4 minutes before the doctors brought her back. The sound of that silence is something others do not understand. I hear you! Her cord was wrapped 3 times, and we were in a blizzard. The emergency c-section was delayed due to road conditions and waiting for the pediatrician to arrive. Is that what made the nightmare occur. I will never know. It still hurts to think about and talk about. You are doing great! Your voice matters!!! I went on to have 2 more children, and they were all so different. We had other hiccups, but we made it through. The trust is the hard part. A good doctor listens. You have a great advocate in your husband. Keep using your voice.
Ana, I rarely ever comment on any content creator's channel, but I feel compelled to comment here. I've enjoyed watching you and your husband dance. It's very, very uplifting for me. I lost my husband several years ago. He was the love of my life and after 30 years together, I felt so lost and alone. Then I watched you two and I felt happy. One thing you must know. You did absolutely nothing wrong. Nothing. I remember watching you dance and saying to myself you are having a big baby. Seeing you suffer so much is not right. It's not normal. They should have at least suspected your baby was too big for a natural birth. And regarding the epidural not working for half of you, that's completely the doctor's fault who administered it. There is absolutely nothing you could have done to fix that. I am very, very sorry that you had such a terrifying experience for your first birth. But thank God above he's happy, healthy and adorable. I will pray for you to heal, both mentally and physically. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. God bless you.
Thank you for sharing this very important story. So many of us have blamed ourselves for how we were treated during our pregnancies, and many of us have experienced brutality, chaos, disaster, apathy. Most of us just do the best we can and we trust our medical teams -- how can we know everything, especially with a first term pregnancy? Do not blame yourself please. You three are awesome. Keep telling your story. It matters. I am grateful for medical teams who listen and care and let you participate in decisions -- teaching you, giving you options, pros/cons, and there are many of those men and women taking the pregnancy journey proactively with you. I sadly was allowed to labor my first child to death. I was a warrior during my next pregnancy. I continue to tell my story -- which happened 43 years ago. Thank you for being a voice and using it so effectively. It will help many. Happiness and blessings to you all.
Every pregnancy is different. My mom had 5 pregnancies with healthy babies. My mom's smallest baby was 9 lbs 3 oz. Dr.s expected that I would have a similar experience. All my children were born by C-section. The largest baby was 7 lbs 4.5 oz. My daughter had 2 children naturally, each were over 8 lbs, then her last child also in the 8 lb range needed to be delivered by C-section.
My mom's words of wisdom were... Child birth is painful, but eventually, as you heal, the memories of the pain will fade because of the precious gift of your child.
Therapy is okay. Providing awareness to other potential parents is a wonderful gift that you are giving. Don't push yourself too fast. Don't blame yourself. You did the absolute best you could with the information you had. Heal at your own pace. Be gentle with yourself. Henrique is such a beautiful miracle in your life. 💙
Oh my goodness… I just have to continue to comment. I'm so moved by this. It brings back the memories of me giving birth to mine. I ended up with mine I'll be in C-sections because I had a wonderful Doctor Who realized that I could not deal with delivering my 10 1/2 pound 23 1/2 inch long baby other way but C-section. And I've always felt indebted that they realized that I needed a C-section.
Please look into EMDR therapy. It is a wonderful way to get fastly through trauma I am so sorry you went through this.
But I absolutely love the two of you. And the way you love each other. I'm a widow. But when my husband was alive we had what you have. He was so kind and so considerate of things I went through.
After he died EMDR help me to deal. It is a therapy that is quite amazing. Please look it up.
I'm so proud of both of you. And your baby is gorgeous.
EMDR is a nice relaxation but it doesn't employ music
It sounds like a horrible experience but so worth it to have this beautiful gift from God… He’s going to be so loved. ❤❤
I am so proud of you Ana. Your story will help a lot others. 💝🌸! Be strong and seek help. To many mothers get depressed. Sending healing, protection and lots of love to your beautiful family❤
We love you both! So, so sorry you experienced such difficulty and suffering. I'm glad you're sharing your experience with others. My first pregnancy did not go well, but thank God my son was OK. Please continue to take care of yourself, you've been through a lot. Ana, please continue to be yourself and stay positive, it's an important part of your healing. The love you too have for each other and God will get you through. Congratulations 🎉
Henrique is not at all interested in what his mom says. 😂 He sleeps like a blessed person in daddy's arms. He is beautiful and healthy. Mom's voice gently rocks him.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😊
Thank you, Ana, for sharing your story. We love you; I know I read people's comments, and there is lots of love and support here. And as Juno said, it's important to tell your story, it's a way of healing, and you will most likely tell the story a few more times, it's necessary for your healing. I don't have children. I recall I had a gynecologist visit a few years ago, and when I arrived, the receptionist said he couldn't see me, because he had an emergency to attend to a perform a C-section. I re-scheduled my visit, and when I saw him two weeks later, I expressed my admiration for the work he does, he shared with me that the baby was very big, he had to rush to do the procedure. It stuck with me. I have thought of you, as I recall that time you shared when he was over 7 lbs at 36 weeks. It was worrying me at the time. It's a beautiful thing to give natural birth, except in certain situations. I think at this point in time, you cannot go back, and change anything. It will take time to heal and appreciate that it was a miracle, that you and the baby survived this birth. In those situations, we learn that we have to take the matter of health in our own hands, to trust doctors is one thing, but we must always be on top of it, and ask questions, to understand what you can prepare yourself for. I am sorry you have experienced this trauma, this is not easy, and it affects your mental health. Reach out to a mental health professional to help you to deal with this emotional and physical pain. The time will heal the wounds, be patient with yourself. You have a wonderful husband by your side. Sending you love and strength. Treat this a lesson, to help other women to avoid these circumstances, advocate for them. you will find a new mission and purpose. Henrique is absolutely beautiful. It does feel from the story you shared, that things went South, and they shouldn't have had, it was avoidable. Trust your gut, acknowledge your feelings, when you say you don't trust the doctors now, because of what you have gone through. It's how the healing will begin. Sending you love, lots of it.
I am so sorry that you went through such a traumatic experience. Your sharing may save another family going through this or worst.
Your son is beautiful
May God bless you and keep you.
May He shine His face upon you and be gracious toward you and give you His peace.❤
I’m so sorry for what you experienced. As a mom of 4, I can completely empathize with your experience though my first birth was slightly different, so many things could’ve been avoided.
I am glad to hear that your team acted quickly and that your beautiful blessing is healthy.
So many women do everything our drs tell us to do or not to do yet we suffer in near silence. It is very frightening and frustrating to go through what you went through. My epidural wasn’t effective either and a nurse also had to use fundal pressure to help me deliver my firstborn because I was in labor too long and was so exhausted I couldn’t push.
I think it’s important that women like you are sharing your experience with hopes that this type of situation isn’t experienced by other women.
We put so much trust in our drs that sometimes, as we both experienced, it isn’t enough to just listen; we often have to be our own advocate because drs see hundreds of patients and some are great and very thorough but many aren’t. I am surprised that they didn’t do an ultrasound at your last clinic visit before sending you to the hospital the following day. Drs are the professionals; they go to medical school and it’s why we follow what they say and there’s nothing wrong with that but you’re the patient and when you asked about having an ultrasound they should’ve listened. When you told them repeatedly that one side was completely numb but you felt all the pain on your other side, the anesthesiologist should’ve checked. Mine caused what appeared to be a stroke because I had total loss of feeling on one side with my facial features drooping and it was very frightening.
And yes, I agree that your record shouldve been there for the dr to reference. It’s why we register at the hospital. I, too, saw all the drs in my clinic, similar to you, but I got a different dr who ignored my birth plan completely.
Post partum will take time to heal and the pain will lessen. It’s been 21 yrs since my last birth and I don’t know if they still recommend sitting on a sitz bath? I used both ice packs and the sitz bath as well as a warming lamp and tucks pads.
I hope that if you decide to have another baby, that it will be much better.
Women’s health issues are slowly being addressed but until the collective medical community gets on board, we have to be our own advocates. Our local culture is such that we follow our drs completely and that’s okay but it’s also okay to ask questions which many don’t like but it’s our bodies and our babies whose lives are in their hands and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask them to listen and/or do something when we’re telling them that something is or feels wrong.
Prayers for continued healing and I hope to see you three dancing together! 🙏🏻
Bless you all. My 1st son was a big boy, I remember a nurse pushing on my belly to help deliver him. He is now 42. My 3rd son was holding his umbilical cord, every time I had a contraction, he squeezed his umbilical cord. Causing his heart rate to drop. He is now a Sergeant 1st Class in the US Army, age 37. My 4th son was positioned wrong, his delivery was difficult for me - Very painful. It took me a long time. He is also now a Staff Sergeant in the US Army, age 35.
Do not blame yourselves.
I had 5 sons, each birth was different. One of the boys also had the umbilical cord around this neck. Maybe that was #4 or #5. I can't remember.
Even with my 5th, I still had NO idea what all of my rights were. That's where you depend on your Drs and nurses.
Thank God you are all healthy. I am so very happy for you all. Congratulations!
Seeing Junio and Ana finally holding & rocking their beautiful baby boy, so heartwarming 💗
So very sorry you went through such trauma. You've suffered enough once. No need to relieve it again. Please let it go . Put all the trauma memories of it into a balloon and let it Go!
Where were your Douglas? They should have advocated for you.
Praying for your health and your baby's.
Bless you and your family 🙏🙏🙏 I am so sorry for the trauma you experienced. I love that you are self-aware to know that you need to process this trauma so you don’t overprotect your little one. Sending you love and healing prayers from Ohio 🙏❤️
I only came across you guys a year ago .. you are fantastic and fabulous..I was so happy when you became pregnant I felt as if I was having a grand child!
I’ve had four huge babies..but not your trauma happily ..one thing is that you are SO supportive of each other .. it’s fabulous to see ..and I so understand that you are worried that you may be over protective of your son .. even before you said it I was starting to think it ! Just trust each other ..and I would get some help ..therapy wise because you probably both have a bit of PTSD
PLEASE don’t let it put you of having another child ..the world needs parents like you ! Much much love and many congratulations from the UK ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel everything you're saying
My first I was endured, I had 8 hours of medication to dilate and then 31 hours of active labour. Epidural failed, I had all the pain meds, I got told labour isn't painful and to stop making noise and to stop moving. When my son came out he was blue and not breathing. I was in so much pain that I was in and out of consciousness and my parents told me after that my son was in distress but they refused to do a c section. She told me if I wanted to move around and make noise I'll push my son out no matter what.
When I had my second son, I had the most beautiful labour, I was dilating naturally and was given pitocin to bring on the contractions and I had no pain meds at all and my baby boy came out after a total of 4 hours 58 minutes from start of labour to the end.
I'm glad you had a happy ending with you beautiful boy, I'm so sorry it was traumatic.
EMDR will help so you are able to tell your story & not trigger painful emotions ❤❤❤
You are certainly not alone. You have almost described my own nightmare of a delivery.
No one told me anything and their attitude was that I should be glad my baby is ok! no sympathy no apology no care.............. Thank you for sharing.
I had a terribly scary first birth. My hubby and I wept together because it was so traumatic. I was induced too. That was a big mistake. Everything went wrong. We left things for a while after we had our baby but then I took out a complaint against the hospital. I didn’t sue them but I made sure that more policies were put in place so that another family would not have to go through what we did. The trauma was avoidable on so many levels. They insisted I needed a C section but thankfully they allowed me to try one more push. I pushed with all I’m
My second baby was a breeze. I actually enjoyed it. I felt like I’d had an outer body experience. I prayed so much more with my second and asked for specific things to happen and it did. It was a miracle actually. I was soooo much more in control of my own body second time around. I focused my mind. I had nothing for pain relief.
I’m sooo grateful that we had another baby, although we waited three years. I was thirty seven with my second. And They have each other to go through life with. I pray you will heal eventually from this experience. Physically, emotionally and spiritually. All the best going forward. The trauma will pass. I promise. 🙏❤
Congratulations on the birth of your sweet baby boy. I followed your whole pregnancy and so glad he is finally here. Enjoy one of the greatest gifts ever. Your a family now. God bless 💕
Hi Ana, the same thing happened to me 19 years ago, I had 1 ultrasound at 20 weeks and that was it! I was 38 and my son was too big for me and I asked for a section and was refused, I ended up with a 3rd degree tearing and a fractured coxyx. I was sitting on ice and cushions for months, I’ll never forget it, I was angry for a long time, but thank god my son is healthy and 19 years old. I didn’t have any more children, they say child birth is natural- there was nothing natural about mine. I’m so sorry that this happened to you also Ana, I hope you heal a little bit more every day, and get to enjoy your beautiful son, sending all the hugs and best wishes, from Sandra, Ireland xx
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful!!! Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
You did nothing wrong. You’re joining a long line of women that go through difficult births and I know that after each of my kids, my overwhelming feeling was gratitude my baby and I were alive and okay. I think many of us don’t share labor and delivery experiences with women that haven’t had a baby or is pregnant for the first time because we don’t want to stress or scare them. As a grand mom, I did give advice on questions to ask the Dr. about, but again - never discussed my own experiences. I’m glad you’re sharing. It’s hard when a birth doesn’t go as planned but I am so happy you have each other for support and came home with your beautiful son. I’ve enjoyed your video’s very much and hope you continue to share.
SI EU PRIN CE AM TRECUT CU PRIMUL COPIL. CHIAR DACA AU FOST DOAR 12 ORE. LA AL DOILEA COPIL PRIN CEZARIANA LAM NASCUT. EXCLUS NASTERE NORMALA.
It's true a first time birth is usually a shock to the woman because experienced mothers don't want to scare the pregnant woman by really telling them it will likely be more pain than you've ever experienced before.
Like the othr people said he was a big boy it was the Dr's. Fault
It's Dr's. Fault
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful!!! Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
Thank you both for sharing. This is an important message and I'm so thankful that you all are healthy and safe now. God is good!
❤🙏 as I am watching and listening to your voices my heart breaks. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. Much love and blessings to you Ana, Junio and baby Henrique ❤️
Oh Ana, What i hear you describing is what i went thru in 1972. This should not have happened now 50 plus yrs later.
You both have danced your way into my heart. I watched through your disappointed mis-carriage and when the strip tested positive for your son I cryed tears of joy for you. So I've been with you all along.
I had twins boy 6.9lbs girl 6.13lbs. but they were both breach and they didnt put me out until the first set of feet started to show. And they did not switch to a C-section. It was traumatic and im so glad you both are sharing the story. Your right it shouldnt be like this. Its ok to be upset and afraid for now. My girl died from complications and I never had the courage to try again. I should have. But you are different times are different. You have learned that you are your own best physician. You both have so much love to share. I pray for you and hope you one day have a baby bro or sister.🛐
💞Huggggs
Right....OBs aren't trained like midwives to know what a natural birth even looks like.
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
Ana, lamento muito que vocês tenham passado por isso. No Brasil existe uma discussão muito intensa sobre violência obstétrica, parto humanizado, quão importante é proporcionar uma experiência positiva para pais e bebê e sobre não correr riscos desnecessários. Imagino que em um sistema totalmente privado, esse tipo de cobrança deve ser bem mais difícil... Procure uma terapia para você e para o Junior, acompanhem com o pediatra para que o Henrique não corra o risco de ficar com sequelas devido ao tempo em que ele ficou sem oxigenação e, no mais, foquem em curtir a família linda que vocês têm. Há muita gente orando, torcendo e mandando muito amor para vocês ❤
Ana, what you are feeling is so natural, firstly your hormones are all over the place. Waiting to have your baby and being an older mum is so traumatic in itself.
Being back home you are processing everything what has happened. Your emotions the stitches, cuts, your bottom doctors etc., everything that's been so traumatic.for you.
Just know that the trauma you are feeling right now will ease in time. Don’t feel you must inform everyone about your experiences, straight away. iit’s so important for the both of you to take a breath, to just wind down enjoy your little one have naps the both of you. Take walks, you need this time now because it will be gone before you know it. you have already started to speak out in your videos.
Document things about your experiences in a journal.
Wishing Lots of ❤️
Catherine from UK XXX
Thank you for sharing!! I am so sorry you went through this. GOD BLESS YOU GUYS!!
❤❤❤ Please know that therapy absolutely helps! I suffered for YEARS from post-traumatic stress. Effective therapy changed my life! Now, I can remember what happened and how scared and upset I was at the time, but I'm remembering--not reliving it! When you said that, I knew I had to share. Therapy works! 🥰
I heard that in the older days, labor is like a life and death situation. So I can imagine how much it hurts you guys. Good thing God stayed by your side and mama and baby are healthy and alive. God really does the impossible.❤ Wish you a speedy recovery Ana mentally, emotionally and physically. ❤ And props to Junio for being the Best Partner and of course Baby Henrique, may you grow healthy, strong, beautiful and blessed.❤
We had bad experiences with our 1st one too because we trusted the OBs, we ended up with a C-section and it was brutal too.
I pivoted and vowed to never go back to OBs. We hired licensed midwives, we had all natural births, full of freedom and movement, and they were beautiful. Healing was fast too despite having large babies and being an older mom who wasn't as fit as Ana.
Dr Sears' book The Birth Book was the BEST.
We also did Dr Bradley Method classes to prepare for natural births which were 100% better than what we had at the hospital.
And, we watched the Ricky Lake documentary called: "The Business of Being Born."
I had hemorrhoids even before I had babies and none of my Drs were helpful. It was our MIDWIFE who suggested taking BIOFLAVONOIDS with Vitamin C by Solaray which totally had me healed in 3 days after giving birth each time and I haven't had issues with hemorrhoids since.
Pitocin, epidurals, and confinement in a horizontal bed with feet up only complicate the natural process.
@@katk3381 I'm so sorry that happened to you. May you heal from all those traumas. Sending love ❤️
He is precious. Love him, love him, it is a miracle for what he and you had to go through. 😇🦋❤️
I am so sorry you went through this. I am so happy that you and your beautiful son are healthy and OK now. God bless you both! And your husband too!!!