Great Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your opinion. Have you ever tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a google search)? It is a smashing one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my buddy got excellent results with it.
All of this takes wisdom and compassion. Most people who are in a relationship want to dip out at the first sign of trouble. With out consideration for the person mental or physical health. And there are lots of men and women who will sacrifice being with someone they're compatible with for a sexual lustful relationship. Relationships take maturity. Most of us aren't selfless enough either, we get fed up and quit. Instead of helping our spouse with whatever issue they're having.
This video is point!😊💯 Aging is a poor excuse to let oneself go; I've seen semi-athletic people( men & women alike) over 50 that put their younger counterparts to shame.
You have spoken the truth, I was married to a man that did not know how to hold a conversation, had no intellectual insight. I remember thinking how did I miss this, along with some other things. I know now I missed it because of what was going on with me. We are now divorced and I'm very happy about it. Now I know that I have to be stimulated intellectually, trust it is one of the things I look for now. Thank you also for talking about men keeping themselves up as well. I hear a lot of men talking about physical appearance and I'm looking at them like, but you are not together physically. One more reason for a sexless marriage that we are not discussing, is someone in the relationship is attracted to the same sex and is living a lie. This is happening more than people are realizing.
If my emotional needs are not met, then the physical part of the relationship is going to dry up, very quickly. My sex organs are between my ears. Men have to be about connecting with their woman emotionally, taking care of her and paying attention to the needs of their wives. The bible states a man 'should have KNOWLEDGE OF HIS wife'. My husband is responsible for my emotional well-being, but if he does not feel responsible for my emotionally needs, and he is consistently emotionally unavailable to me. Not concerned and only wants to touch me when he is ready to have sex, that's like a death sentence for a woman in a marriage. We can't connect. Sexually or anything else. ALL women are wired this way. ALL OF US. Not paying attention to our emotionally needs, the physical aspect of the relationship is just about a wrap (sexless) and perhaps even the entire relationship.
Thank you! 💯 correct! The man I had a wedding with is so disrespectful, selfish, emotionally detached, and unkind. He does not take care of me at all. He barely talks to me. He humiliates me and embarrasses me with his bad temper. He makes me feel invisible and could not care less about my emotional needs, so sex is the last thing on my mind. I don’t feel like I am in a marriage. He treats me like crap but then wants to use my body for sex. He raises his voice at me all the time. He gets upset whenever I open my mouth to say anything. He is emotionally abusive. If my emotional needs are not being met, then neither will his sexual needs. He can go get meaningless out there all he wants. I refuse to waste my pearls on a swine.
@@Unebellecreole I did this for 33 years, please get out and get happy. Even if you have kids. There has to be more to life than being abused and neglected.
I totally agree Pastor Blakes. Couples should ALWAYS want to keep themselves up in some type of manner. Likewise, when there is no connection with each other in INTIMACY. Unequally yoked. Misrepresented. Narcissist and ESPECIALLY NO DISCERNMENT it AIN'T GONNA WORK.
..and then on top of all that..the trust and respect already been gone out the window.. and I'm the only one striving to fix it & to be ok in the marriage and want to talk about stuff that's bothing me and just want to talk to find some emotional & intellectual connection but I keep getting shut down & blocked out.. on top of all the narcissistic mess he's shoveling out. ..14 years later & he's finally severed the last thread between us but now realizing that I'm not the same and things not the same anymore & now he's putting forth a little effort to show interest..?? It's just another one of his head games to somehow gain back some control & keep me around. Doesn't work anymore! No one but God know's what I've been through. I kinda feel sad for him in that, he used to be a little boy and what happened to him when he was growing up that made him like this. And although opportunity after opportunity was there for him to do the right thing & change & grow with me & seek his healing in God he chose a different path every time. (I gave him his space & did not push anything on him but at the same time he also presented himself to me in the beginning as someone he wasn't. And after marriage the terrible truths start coming out, I ended up being depressed a lot. The reason I held on so long was because it is my 2nd marriage and I thought there was a chance of the person he showed himself to be in the beginning was still in there & maybe if I prayed hard enough & gave him more time, but.. no, no, no & no! Really sad!
Narcissist are a completely different issue. All my husband wants to do is cuddle. He gives me everything financially, but does not know how to support me emotionally.
My goodness I'm very fraustrated...and he has nothing to add don't even want him to touch me anymore now after this point...tried talking but it's like talking to a wall. I seriously hope young people really take heed they really need to ask someone before they marry, When I hear someone is marrying I say oh my God help lord.
When a man doesn’t give a woman the emotional connection, a women can get very distance becuz the man is not paying attention to her. Some women feel if a man can careless to connect emotionally, then her desire for him shuts down.. 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
How do you explain the female who restricts the sex even though you have done everything possible to maintain the romance yet are shut down and accused of only wanting sex.females commonly use the bait and switch of free sex before marriage and then shut down as soon as they get the ring
John Reed ...I guess u didn't discern before committing. Real women don't act this way..There are apparently some issues-u were willing to go with the "free sex' so u got what you paid for. Nothing. Nothing about if you 2 were compatible or equally yoked, or goals for the relationship. This is a spiritual man speaking , so you'll have to get on his level to understand.
Great discussion! Yes, good points, but the last one discussing a woman that's had to hold it down, on her own, may have more testosterone (per se) during this time because she has to be the woman and the man for her family. So true for me, for several years. When I met a great guy, it was difficult to allow him to be a "man" and handle things and fall back. That was hard, but your example about being with someone that allows you to just "run it" will eventually run it's course and a woman will naturally want a real man, a leader, in her life. Awesome point!
Yes it makes total sense to me.. I understand completely.. the mental, emotional & intellectual part that seemed to be there in the beginning but quickly faded away after married and got worse as years went by. I felt deceived. But I just want to say I LOVED this talk. It was so good. Thank-you!
On point 100%. The last topic is what I have found to be the leading cause of divorce involving so many good, faithful, hard working women, myself included. It usually starts when the man becomes unexpected unemployed, develops a significant illness or serious accidential injury and can not continue to work. The martial partnership involving keeping the household financially afloat falls to the wife. It may call for working longer hours over time or even getting second job. The wife not only is working; she is caring for children, physically providing care to her husband, making sure he keeps all of his appointments and takes his medication appropriately. Some where along the line the husband goes off track and picks up a side piece; that entertains him and/or in need of a male savior. This has happened so many times that I have lost count and to me twice. And to tell you the truth if leaves you scratching your head and asking what more could a wife have been done?
Yes, he has overlooked that aspect. It’s like he justifies infidelity because your body changed after having his baby. Additionally a great number of men are addicted to porn and what goes with it. My comment on that aspect was removed because I hit on a raw nerve on whoever deleted it. If pastors don’t want to face what is really going on with our husbands, their advice is flawed and skewed.
Wise words. I would also add that sex starts outside the bedroom. If a man is not being intimate, attentive and communicative with his wife, and I don't mean everyday chit chat, before he gets to bed, the woman is not going to be interested when he wants to have sex. .
Be man/woman enough to express/share your issues before marriage. Don't lie about your sexual issues and trap them into a sexless marriage!! It's evil and selfish. If you know you're not the affectionate touchy feeley type, leave the bubbly affectionate people alone. Get you a reserved and cold person who matches your energy.
OOOWEE number 4 was everything. That's what makes the relationship from the jump, it's all mental. Yes sir, ha you better PREACH! I screamed through this one, this was GOOD. Did u say dumb.....haha drops mic. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
.... that infidelity piece is real.... there’s only so many times a person can keep going back into intimacy only to be disappointed again ...after a time you throw up your hands and say, go do your thang ....... I’m good .....
All of your points surrounding this was on POINT! Everything you stated I could relate to. Thank you for your knowledge, wisdom and insight. God bless you!
I'm glad that you brought up this topic RC Blake's about sexless marriages because like we need more Alpha men to lead at this day and age and it's like crazy how women in 2023 are so masculinized and it's just crazy already told you is crazy RC blades is crazy
Please keep bringing these videos full of TRUTH. It’s the truth that sets us free. I identify with all your videos. Formerly a very broken woman on a journey of deliverance. Thank you. Keep empowering the women and men through these videos to the wholeness God desires and planned from the get go for all of us. Thank you Jesus for the men and women of God you have equipped to teach on social media venues. May God continue to pour more and more into you all and may your cups always be full and in overflow.
This is me right now...I have done all in my power and nothing for years. Everything is about the kids and it’s become so awkward between us now. I run a fitness business so my body IS my business and during this entire time of this pandemic we’ve been stuck together. Again, nothing. Finally time to be around each other...nothing. Kids come first. I love my kids, don’t t get me wrong. I loved my wife first. The second our first child was born I went from “the most insightful, wonderful, man” to “the most dim witted, boorish, moron that walks god’s green earth” and all I did was work harder because I’ve had to balance both my passions and my responsibilities. Parts of me feels done. I feel like there is NOTHING I can do and I’m stuck with someone who has placed our children on such I high pedestal that I don’t exist anymore. And I know this is “screaming into the void” but society at large will say “get over it, be a man, deal with it, it’s your fault” so I ask how do you play a game that you can’t possibly win?
I have a 60yo brother married 20 years and a 61yo male cousin married 35 years that are suffering like you are. Both haven't had sex from their wives in years, always complaining about physical ailments that they refuse to address (overweight, pain) or correct. Wives would be outraged and crushed if they were divorced. My cousin has affairs, but my brother just suffers in silence. They're nice guys in my opinion. Yall have my sympathy.
Come get me off this floor. haha haha I can't breath. You know you laughing to hard when you start choking. All that folks need to do is sit down and talk things out, that's what's wrong with folks. When you talk it out then you can work it out. Life's not perfect neither are we humans, but when people love each other they work together on a more serious note. But real talk I almost cut you off, this had me doubled over choking wow. 😂
Nonconsentual Celebacy. The woman is not going to tell you that you are slipping up. Just went cold for no reason like the iceberg getting in the way of the Titanic. When the woman says she is ready to leave the relationship the man says it came out of the blue.
I don't know of too many women who are not 'vocal' when it comes to expressing their dissatisfaction with something in the relationship. Men usually call it nagging, when they don't plan to do anything about it and decide they want to 'tune it out'. I'm sure if he really thought about all the times his women brought issues up he ignored perhaps that would jog his memory as to why she disengaged sexually and then transitioned up out of the relationship. Some of ya'll like to play dumb.
Didn't Apostle Paul say we should refrain from defrauding one another and to refrain from anything that looks evil??? A sexless marriage could be considered as fraud to your spouse.
I am not sure that you touched on horrible sex. When only one person is satisfied and the other refuses to make attempts to satisfy the other. After awhile, the other person will shutdown knowing the sex is bad. I choose my words carefully not to convict one sex gender over another because it can happen either way.
Lord you teaching with the confused chemistry...... I battle with this all the time, I am so desperately trying to figure how to relinquish the wheel. I have had to walk in masculinity, even in fear, to get things done for my family. This is specially when raising boys. Lord have mercy!
me too..sadly..all my life having to fight..against predators, my ex husband, even my parents at some point ..anyway ..my 11yrs old son adores me and I love him so much..and he really is very mature and has good heart ..so I guess the fight was worth it..even if men haven't loved me the way I should be loved , I'm doing everything possible to educate a young man who surely will respect women 😊
Yes you are point. I work very steadfastly to take care of myself if I become a wife. I am not going put up nor except this by a future husband letting themselves go. I will discuss this with the future husband. I am now focussing on me and my relationship and the Lord. Grateful
I needed the laugh tonight....thanks. Lawd have mercy, folks need to get it together. I should not be laughing.....hahahaha. Here we are single not getting none and folks struggling married, no sir get that together. LMBOOOOI#imgone 😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Let' s really make this clear. Men... go to the gym, go to the gym...GO. TO. THE. GYM. Women give up expecting a sexy husband because he's nice, like it's either one or the other. WHY? Your drive will go through the ROOF!!!
I listened to the entire video and found your list incomplete. As you were closing you were beginning to touch on more and deeper reasons when you mentioned being unequal mentally.
Long time ago marriage was never about physical attractiveness . It was about family contracts/business . You put big strong men with big thick women so them babies can come out strong . For some people “sex” is more mental vs physical .
My soul mate smile excited me his laugh he is a great cook and snuggling is awsome I could look at my soul mate for the rest of my life I can eat my favorite beans for seven days.
I'm single right now, so some things I've let slide (been losing weight though)...but whenever I get married I sure as hell am not going to let myself go cause it won't be fair to whoever I marry. Also, I love sex and feel like withholding it (unless you are feeling bad physically) is wrong.
I'm with you on that dumb dumb. I just can't. Never could. I prefer conscious minded men. Show me something or at least try. OMG. Ignorance can be quite annoying brother Blakes! Preach 😂 blessit
years ago I prayed to God for the right person. we went on a date I knew she was the right one wouldn't get tired of her in 20or 30 years. but I blew it went out with partner from work we then went to an afterhours I left them there gave this young woman a ride home. He told them at work she never wanted to speak much less see me again. I blew it .....ps If she has it upstairs ..smart and downstairs... that's a bonus.
Sometimes I think since the fall in the garden life just ain't what it could have been............................................... Truly hopeless without Jesus's salvation, we're all messed up in some kind of way, got something about us that just ain't right. We think we know something and know nothing at all. And people don't know nothing about love. Jesus says come as you are, yet we look for perfection in others and we are not perfection ourselves we all got something. If you look for a flaw you will surely find it. Best thing to do for yourself is stop lying to yourself.
What about a situation where the spouse is impatient, intolerant, irritable with husband and shuts down attempts at communication yet claims to be in love with him?
it happened immediately on our wedding day. We were 21 yrs old. He wouldn't do anything and wouldn't talk to me. I was very beautiful. He was sick jn his head.
what happened with that relationship? My husband denied me in lingerie the night after we got married, hadn't had sex up to that point. I looked great. I realized a few months ago he's a narcissist.
Throughout our marriage my husband maintained his weight I maintained my weight we were rather attractive people. However he had no interest in having any sexual relations with me and threw himself into his work until he had an affair with a woman that he worked with.
What about the couples who remain attractive physically but the marriage is still broken and this causes sexlessness etc. What happens if part of the couple has a very high sex drive while the other person has a "normal" sex drive Not because of any sexual trauma or abuse??
Pfft. I mind and he doesn't. I'm the better looking one but he's the less superficial visually. I can't stand overweight. Luckily we both r active. I guess in general maybe men care more since women have other focuses.
How about a wife that says right after the wedding, right after, immediately, after refusing sex before marriage saying that THIS TIME she was not going to have premarital sex, after, right after the wedding, she announces, ,that the marriage would be sexless, because the previous husband was sexually abusive? How about that?
Get Godly counseling asap. She has wide open wounds that need to be dealt with. Go together. Be gentle and loving, this marriage can work. Trust God I will be praying for you and your Mrs.
I don't know if marriage is possible in this day in age. The problem is people have problems lol we are all messed up lol!! Marriage will cause those issues to come surface.
I experience this. One, i think the food that he eat like burgers and cocacola smokimg cigarrets for 10 years. Dinking bottles of liquoer. Eventually it stopped working🤷♀️ I remember on vacation his belly was so big in a water park i didnt want to be ther. Well guys think we want muscles and bodybuilder and gym freak,but what about? just healthy weight healthy food.
Roommates is not ALL BAD. IT IS THE RELATIONSHIP 2 PEOPLE WORKING HARD with JOY OF LIVING LIFE TO the Full Praising GOD for LIVING LIFE ON OUR BEAUTIFUL EARTH HOME everyday. & TURNING this earth of people TOWARDS GOD ALMIGHTY WITH GRATITUDE for ALL OUR BEAUTIFUL DAILY BLESSINGS😃😄👀👀😃😃👍👍✌🔑🔑🔑🔑💡 DO NOT FRET. FORGIVE & FORGET work. Choose TO KEEP IMPROVING EACH OTHERS LIVES WITH RESPECT TRUTH HONOR LOVE APPRECIATION for the things & Consideration for each OTHERS SAFETY as the couple GROWS THROUGH LIFE until death. Be REAL. 😃😄👌👌
You forgot to mention "Anger" as a factor in the sexless marriage. Unresolved issues will shut a marriage down.
Great Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your opinion. Have you ever tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a google search)? It is a smashing one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my buddy got excellent results with it.
Berneta Johnson Agree totally!
So so true
Yes unresolved issues in a marriage!!!... that's why my 26 years of marriage dissolved. He also was a narcissist
Forgiveness is VERY IMPORTANT. DISCUSS REASONS LIKE ADULTS. GET PAST the ANGER EMOTION. HOW WOULD you wish to be TREATED??
All of this takes wisdom and compassion. Most people who are in a relationship want to dip out at the first sign of trouble. With out consideration for the person mental or physical health. And there are lots of men and women who will sacrifice being with someone they're compatible with for a sexual lustful relationship. Relationships take maturity. Most of us aren't selfless enough either, we get fed up and quit. Instead of helping our spouse with whatever issue they're having.
JamesBaldwinsGodDaughter ?
This video is point!😊💯 Aging is a poor excuse to let oneself go; I've seen semi-athletic people( men & women alike) over 50 that put their younger counterparts to shame.
Turning 50 on Monday and I must say, "old gal" is looking and feeling great!
You have spoken the truth, I was married to a man that did not know how to hold a conversation, had no intellectual insight. I remember thinking how did I miss this, along with some other things. I know now I missed it because of what was going on with me. We are now divorced and I'm very happy about it. Now I know that I have to be stimulated intellectually, trust it is one of the things I look for now. Thank you also for talking about men keeping themselves up as well. I hear a lot of men talking about physical appearance and I'm looking at them like, but you are not together physically. One more reason for a sexless marriage that we are not discussing, is someone in the relationship is attracted to the same sex and is living a lie. This is happening more than people are realizing.
If my emotional needs are not met, then the physical part of the relationship is going to dry up, very quickly. My sex organs are between my ears. Men have to be about connecting with their woman emotionally, taking care of her and paying attention to the needs of their wives. The bible states a man 'should have KNOWLEDGE OF HIS wife'. My husband is responsible for my emotional well-being, but if he does not feel responsible for my emotionally needs, and he is consistently emotionally unavailable to me. Not concerned and only wants to touch me when he is ready to have sex, that's like a death sentence for a woman in a marriage. We can't connect. Sexually or anything else. ALL women are wired this way. ALL OF US. Not paying attention to our emotionally needs, the physical aspect of the relationship is just about a wrap (sexless) and perhaps even the entire relationship.
Thank you! 💯 correct! The man I had a wedding with is so disrespectful, selfish, emotionally detached, and unkind. He does not take care of me at all. He barely talks to me. He humiliates me and embarrasses me with his bad temper. He makes me feel invisible and could not care less about my emotional needs, so sex is the last thing on my mind. I don’t feel like I am in a marriage. He treats me like crap but then wants to use my body for sex. He raises his voice at me all the time. He gets upset whenever I open my mouth to say anything. He is emotionally abusive. If my emotional needs are not being met, then neither will his sexual needs. He can go get meaningless out there all he wants. I refuse to waste my pearls on a swine.
@@Unebellecreole I did this for 33 years, please get out and get happy. Even if you have kids. There has to be more to life than being abused and neglected.
I totally agree Pastor Blakes. Couples should ALWAYS want to keep themselves up in some type of manner. Likewise, when there is no connection with each other in INTIMACY. Unequally yoked. Misrepresented. Narcissist and ESPECIALLY NO DISCERNMENT it AIN'T GONNA WORK.
..and then on top of all that..the trust and respect already been gone out the window.. and I'm the only one striving to fix it & to be ok in the marriage and want to talk about stuff that's bothing me and just want to talk to find some emotional & intellectual connection but I keep getting shut down & blocked out.. on top of all the narcissistic mess he's shoveling out. ..14 years later & he's finally severed the last thread between us but now realizing that I'm not the same and things not the same anymore & now he's putting forth a little effort to show interest..?? It's just another one of his head games to somehow gain back some control & keep me around. Doesn't work anymore! No one but God know's what I've been through. I kinda feel sad for him in that, he used to be a little boy and what happened to him when he was growing up that made him like this. And although opportunity after opportunity was there for him to do the right thing & change & grow with me & seek his healing in God he chose a different path every time. (I gave him his space & did not push anything on him but at the same time he also presented himself to me in the beginning as someone he wasn't. And after marriage the terrible truths start coming out, I ended up being depressed a lot. The reason I held on so long was because it is my 2nd marriage and I thought there was a chance of the person he showed himself to be in the beginning was still in there & maybe if I prayed hard enough & gave him more time, but.. no, no, no & no! Really sad!
Narcissist are a completely different issue. All my husband wants to do is cuddle. He gives me everything financially, but does not know how to support me emotionally.
😂Spreading out cross the Bed? Spreading out cross the House 😂😂 wow bishop that’s a lot of spreading 😂👀too funny! I wasn’t expecting that one!
I was dying laughing when he was speaking on this!
GPS Soul Coach i was ROLLING laughing
LMAO!!!
I thought it was just me who thought that was HILARIOUS. And I know he was being serious, but it just sounded so funny to me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Not cheating. Will never cheat. Just don't want to die from contracting a sexual disease with the man who showed up to the ceremony
My goodness I'm very fraustrated...and he has nothing to add don't even want him to touch me anymore now after this point...tried talking but it's like talking to a wall. I seriously hope young people really take heed they really need to ask someone before they marry, When I hear someone is marrying I say oh my God help lord.
😂😂😂You just say "Oh my God"....I totally agree
You suave Blake's! I love listening to you daily it be so real, uncut no chaser!
Dad you killed me on this one!!! No disagreement whatsoever but boy did you ever tickle me. Box of rocks 😂😂😂😂
When a man doesn’t give a woman the emotional connection, a women can get very distance becuz the man is not paying attention to her. Some women feel if a man can careless to connect emotionally, then her desire for him shuts down.. 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
How do you explain the female who restricts the sex even though you have done everything possible to maintain the romance yet are shut down and accused of only wanting sex.females commonly use the bait and switch of free sex before marriage and then shut down as soon as they get the ring
John Reed ...I guess u didn't discern before committing. Real women don't act this way..There are apparently some issues-u were willing to go with the "free sex' so u got what you paid for. Nothing. Nothing about if you 2 were compatible or equally yoked, or goals for the relationship. This is a spiritual man speaking , so you'll have to get on his level to understand.
odalys piedra very true becuase I experience that
@@johnreed9050 this happens waaay too often ... you're telling the truth
@@shorts26
I wish it were not so but if it weren't widespread people wouldn't be talking about it
Great discussion! Yes, good points, but the last one discussing a woman that's had to hold it down, on her own, may have more testosterone (per se) during this time because she has to be the woman and the man for her family. So true for me, for several years. When I met a great guy, it was difficult to allow him to be a "man" and handle things and fall back. That was hard, but your example about being with someone that allows you to just "run it" will eventually run it's course and a woman will naturally want a real man, a leader, in her life. Awesome point!
Yes it makes total sense to me.. I understand completely.. the mental, emotional & intellectual part that seemed to be there in the beginning but quickly faded away after married and got worse as years went by. I felt deceived. But I just want to say I LOVED this talk. It was so good. Thank-you!
On point 100%. The last topic is what I have found to be the leading cause of divorce involving so many good, faithful, hard working women, myself included. It usually starts when the man becomes unexpected unemployed, develops a significant illness or serious accidential injury and can not continue to work. The martial partnership involving keeping the household financially afloat falls to the wife. It may call for working longer hours over time or even getting second job. The wife not only is working; she is caring for children, physically providing care to her husband, making sure he keeps all of his appointments and takes his medication appropriately. Some where along the line the husband goes off track and picks up a side piece; that entertains him and/or in need of a male savior. This has happened so many times that I have lost count and to me twice. And to tell you the truth if leaves you scratching your head and asking what more could a wife have been done?
Pastor, Blakes you are such an awesome TEACHER!!!!!!!!
Sometimes another person is sleeping with someone else
The person who showed up at my wedding ceremony has always slept with other folks. Not into community "d" so I pass!
Yes, he has overlooked that aspect. It’s like he justifies infidelity because your body changed after having his baby. Additionally a great number of men are addicted to porn and what goes with it. My comment on that aspect was removed because I hit on a raw nerve on whoever deleted it. If pastors don’t want to face what is really going on with our husbands, their advice is flawed and skewed.
@@elle7813 Kindly repost your thoughts, feelings, observations etc. The truth Must come out.
Sometimes it’s just this simple
Yep! Most times they’re having sex just not with their mate.
No one wants to make love to a dumb person 😂😂😂 Preach pastor! You had me laughing in this one.
Wise words. I would also add that sex starts outside the bedroom. If a man is not being intimate, attentive and communicative with his wife, and I don't mean everyday chit chat,
before he gets to bed, the woman is not going to be interested when he wants to have sex. .
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best comment ever
Be man/woman enough to express/share your issues before marriage. Don't lie about your sexual issues and trap them into a sexless marriage!! It's evil and selfish. If you know you're not the affectionate touchy feeley type, leave the bubbly affectionate people alone. Get you a reserved and cold person who matches your energy.
The biggest motivation for me to not marry the wrong person.
OOOWEE number 4 was everything. That's what makes the relationship from the jump, it's all mental. Yes sir, ha you better PREACH! I screamed through this one, this was GOOD. Did u say dumb.....haha drops mic. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I thank God for giving wisdom because this was so needed to be talked about and more. God Bless you and your family
.... that infidelity piece is real.... there’s only so many times a person can keep going back into intimacy only to be disappointed again ...after a time you throw up your hands and say, go do your thang ....... I’m good .....
I'm single , and I that mainly why I can't be with someone I can't spiritual,mentally, and emotional connect. "Wyd?" Is not stimulating my mind.
Very insightful, I am glad I came across this video
All of your points surrounding this was on POINT! Everything you stated I could relate to. Thank you for your knowledge, wisdom and insight. God bless you!
HOW CAN SHE FOLLOW A LEADER WHEN SHE HAS ALWAYS LED? MY LORD
I am so glad i came across this. I pray I approach this topic with my husband lovingly and respectfully. The unkempt vibe is not working for me..
I'm glad that you brought up this topic RC Blake's about sexless marriages because like we need more Alpha men to lead at this day and age and it's like crazy how women in 2023 are so masculinized and it's just crazy already told you is crazy RC blades is crazy
PASTOR!; YOU ARE TOTALLY AWESOME; SPEAKING THE TRUTH FOR EVERYDAY LIVING; IN ALL AREAS! I'M LEARNING A LOT
Please keep bringing these videos full of TRUTH. It’s the truth that sets us free. I identify with all your videos. Formerly a very broken woman on a journey of deliverance. Thank you. Keep empowering the women and men through these videos to the wholeness God desires and planned from the get go for all of us. Thank you Jesus for the men and women of God you have equipped to teach on social media venues. May God continue to pour more and more into you all and may your cups always be full and in overflow.
Keep teaching the truth Bishop R.C Blake!!!
😂😂😂...Lord this was funny yet so true! Especially the wedding part lol!
This is me right now...I have done all in my power and nothing for years. Everything is about the kids and it’s become so awkward between us now. I run a fitness business so my body IS my business and during this entire time of this pandemic we’ve been stuck together. Again, nothing. Finally time to be around each other...nothing. Kids come first. I love my kids, don’t t get me wrong. I loved my wife first. The second our first child was born I went from “the most insightful, wonderful, man” to “the most dim witted, boorish, moron that walks god’s green earth” and all I did was work harder because I’ve had to balance both my passions and my responsibilities. Parts of me feels done. I feel like there is NOTHING I can do and I’m stuck with someone who has placed our children on such I high pedestal that I don’t exist anymore. And I know this is “screaming into the void” but society at large will say “get over it, be a man, deal with it, it’s your fault” so I ask how do you play a game that you can’t possibly win?
I have a 60yo brother married 20 years and a 61yo male cousin married 35 years that are suffering like you are. Both haven't had sex from their wives in years, always complaining about physical ailments that they refuse to address (overweight, pain) or correct. Wives would be outraged and crushed if they were divorced. My cousin has affairs, but my brother just suffers in silence. They're nice guys in my opinion. Yall have my sympathy.
Come get me off this floor. haha haha I can't breath. You know you laughing to hard when you start choking. All that folks need to do is sit down and talk things out, that's what's wrong with folks. When you talk it out then you can work it out. Life's not perfect neither are we humans, but when people love each other they work together on a more serious note. But real talk I almost cut you off, this had me doubled over choking wow. 😂
Nonconsentual Celebacy. The woman is not going to tell you that you are slipping up. Just went cold for no reason like the iceberg getting in the way of the Titanic. When the woman says she is ready to leave the relationship the man says it came out of the blue.
I don't know of too many women who are not 'vocal' when it comes to expressing their dissatisfaction with something in the relationship. Men usually call it nagging, when they don't plan to do anything about it and decide they want to 'tune it out'. I'm sure if he really thought about all the times his women brought issues up he ignored perhaps that would jog his memory as to why she disengaged sexually and then transitioned up out of the relationship. Some of ya'll like to play dumb.
Ain't nothin' but birds chirpin'! LOL
Lol
Single, but 📝
Didn't Apostle Paul say we should refrain from defrauding one another and to refrain from anything that looks evil??? A sexless marriage could be considered as fraud to your spouse.
Got it right.Preach girl.
It is actually fraud. Problem is people think their feelings or moods are of higher authority than God's Word
☝🏿Attitude. That resentful masculine energy many women express is like the worst hygiene problem possible.
Thank you and Lisa are so......
terrific. I am so grateful
This is an excellent powerful video.
I am not sure that you touched on horrible sex. When only one person is satisfied and the other refuses to make attempts to satisfy the other. After awhile, the other person will shutdown knowing the sex is bad. I choose my words carefully not to convict one sex gender over another because it can happen either way.
"Chill out let me handle this." DEEP. I felt that. 🕊⚖
Lord you teaching with the confused chemistry...... I battle with this all the time, I am so desperately trying to figure how to relinquish the wheel. I have had to walk in masculinity, even in fear, to get things done for my family. This is specially when raising boys. Lord have mercy!
me too..sadly..all my life having to fight..against predators, my ex husband, even my parents at some point ..anyway ..my 11yrs old son adores me and I love him so much..and he really is very mature and has good heart ..so I guess the fight was worth it..even if men haven't loved me the way I should be loved , I'm doing everything possible to educate a young man who surely will respect women 😊
Yes you are point. I work very steadfastly to take care of myself if I become a wife. I am not going put up nor except this by a future husband letting themselves go. I will discuss this with the future husband. I am now focussing on me and my relationship and the Lord. Grateful
I needed the laugh tonight....thanks. Lawd have mercy, folks need to get it together. I should not be laughing.....hahahaha. Here we are single not getting none and folks struggling married, no sir get that together. LMBOOOOI#imgone 😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Yes he is telling the truth. People do need to take care of themselves. Attractiveness is a must.
Let' s really make this clear. Men... go to the gym, go to the gym...GO. TO. THE. GYM. Women give up expecting a sexy husband because he's nice, like it's either one or the other. WHY? Your drive will go through the ROOF!!!
This was excellent! Unfortunately, it describes my marriage. I have no one to blame but myself. I married a boy.
This guy is spot on about the wedding day being the best she will ever look.it is absolutely the truth
John Reed ..whats really wrong, John? What happened 2u?
Nah i look even better 😉
This is so serious but the pastor brings levity when he does his dramatic presentations.
I listened to the entire video and found your list incomplete. As you were closing you were beginning to touch on more and deeper reasons when you mentioned being unequal mentally.
Long time ago marriage was never about physical attractiveness . It was about family contracts/business . You put big strong men with big thick women so them babies can come out strong .
For some people “sex” is more mental vs physical .
A comedian made a joke once that the least amount of sex he had was when he was married I didn’t get it but sad to say I get it now. 🙄
It's common in younger men in their 40's now.
Pastor can you do a video on long distance relationships?
This is good. These sayings reminded of my mother's teachings
My soul mate smile excited me his laugh he is a great cook and snuggling is awsome I could look at my soul mate for the rest of my life I can eat my favorite beans for seven days.
I'm single right now, so some things I've let slide (been losing weight though)...but whenever I get married I sure as hell am not going to let myself go cause it won't be fair to whoever I marry. Also, I love sex and feel like withholding it (unless you are feeling bad physically) is wrong.
I'm with you on that dumb dumb. I just can't. Never could. I prefer conscious minded men. Show me something or at least try. OMG. Ignorance can be quite annoying brother Blakes! Preach 😂 blessit
you know what you are talking about across the board...I just subscribed.
It is the happy contentment CONQUERED HORMONES. PARTNERSHIP to RAISE the kids.
You are so right about the wedding day best appearance one will ever see in life.
Forgiveness. Trust is FEARFUL OF DISEASES he or she would kill the attraction.
That is the TRUTH DONT DATE A DUMMY OR A PERSON WHO IS A LOVER OF THEMSELVES THE PERSON CANT STIMULATE YOUR MIND OR THEY HAVE BROKEN THAT TRUST!
Wow!! You just broke it all the way down!! #6
years ago I prayed to God for the right person. we went on a date I knew she was the right one wouldn't get tired of her in 20or 30 years. but I blew it went out with partner from work we then went to an afterhours I left them there gave this young woman a ride home. He told them at work she never wanted to speak much less see me again. I blew it .....ps If she has it upstairs ..smart and downstairs... that's a bonus.
Why would you entertain another woman if you saw the first woman you went out with as your wife? You don't deserve her that was a dumb move.
❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾....This is real talk
I receive this Word Amen
This information is good to know, both for singles and married.
Sometimes I think since the fall in the garden life just ain't what it could have been............................................... Truly hopeless without Jesus's salvation, we're all messed up in some kind of way, got something about us that just ain't right. We think we know something
and know nothing at all. And people don't know nothing about love. Jesus says come as you are, yet we look for perfection in others and we are not perfection ourselves we all got something. If you look for a flaw you will surely find it. Best thing to do for yourself is stop lying to yourself.
That's deep!! So true👍💯
What about a situation where the spouse is impatient, intolerant, irritable with husband and shuts down attempts at communication yet claims to be in love with him?
it happened immediately on our wedding day. We were 21 yrs old. He wouldn't do anything and wouldn't talk to me. I was very beautiful. He was sick jn his head.
what happened with that relationship? My husband denied me in lingerie the night after we got married, hadn't had sex up to that point. I looked great. I realized a few months ago he's a narcissist.
Throughout our marriage my husband maintained his weight I maintained my weight we were rather attractive people. However he had no interest in having any sexual relations with me and threw himself into his work until he had an affair with a woman that he worked with.
I understand
So much truth!!
So true, a eye opener
I dont want my husband taking anything that would hurt him i will love him just the way he is
What about the couples who remain attractive physically but the marriage is still broken and this causes sexlessness etc. What happens if part of the couple has a very high sex drive while the other person has a "normal" sex drive Not because of any sexual trauma or abuse??
🤣🤣🤣love the way you talk daddy blakes real talk
Men are not as forgiving as women are. Beautiful women don't mind an ugly man. There's hope for me.😁
Pfft. I mind and he doesn't. I'm the better looking one but he's the less superficial visually. I can't stand overweight. Luckily we both r active. I guess in general maybe men care more since women have other focuses.
Lol
Wow the wedding 💒 day is “false advertisement”!! 😄🤭
Yes you telling the truth amen teacher
So good... hilarious...much truth ...Amen
How about a wife that says right after the wedding, right after, immediately, after refusing sex before marriage saying that THIS TIME she was not going to have premarital sex, after, right after the wedding, she announces, ,that the marriage would be sexless, because the previous husband was sexually abusive? How about that?
Omg, so sad
Get Godly counseling asap. She has wide open wounds that need to be dealt with. Go together. Be gentle and loving, this marriage can work. Trust God I will be praying for you and your Mrs.
Annulment for lack of consummation and withholding affection
I don't know if marriage is possible in this day in age. The problem is people have problems lol we are all messed up lol!! Marriage will cause those issues to come surface.
True. Don't marry
This is so true.
It’s mental ❤️❤️❤️AMEN
I experience this. One, i think the food that he eat like burgers and cocacola smokimg cigarrets for 10 years. Dinking bottles of liquoer.
Eventually it stopped working🤷♀️
I remember on vacation his belly was so big in a water park i didnt want to be ther. Well guys think we want muscles and bodybuilder and gym freak,but what about? just healthy weight healthy food.
I've been watching tons of videos like this one the last few years and my wife is such a mystery that I still can't figure her out
Everything you saying is true. Wake up call.
Wow!! that's pretty cold to think of your soulmates as a box of rock.
#4 is the one!!! Very important
What about when it’s the person with the hygiene issue, withholding intimacy?
Attraction is NOT the deep LOVE. APPEARANCE IS SHALLOW. !!! Higene CLEANINESS IS NEEDED.
Ha me: Did you floss? Are you still wearing deodorant? Did you brush yet? 😂
Willow tree,💯 Exactly!!!!
You know your sht! Thanks for the video.
Roommates is not ALL BAD. IT IS THE RELATIONSHIP 2 PEOPLE WORKING HARD with JOY OF LIVING LIFE TO the Full
Praising GOD for LIVING LIFE ON OUR BEAUTIFUL EARTH HOME everyday. & TURNING this earth of people TOWARDS GOD ALMIGHTY WITH GRATITUDE for ALL OUR BEAUTIFUL DAILY BLESSINGS😃😄👀👀😃😃👍👍✌🔑🔑🔑🔑💡
DO NOT FRET. FORGIVE & FORGET work. Choose TO KEEP IMPROVING EACH OTHERS LIVES WITH RESPECT TRUTH HONOR LOVE APPRECIATION for the things & Consideration for each OTHERS SAFETY as the couple GROWS THROUGH LIFE until death. Be REAL. 😃😄👌👌
Ain't t married. Wondering if it s worth it, really...
It's not
Michelle Hendrix why do you say that it’s not worth it?
@@aferg76 because people are never what they pretend to be
LORRRRD HAVE MERCY!! UNREAL AND OH SO VERY 😢
Can you talk about porn addiction PLEASE! This has caused my marriage to go down and fast