I had a dream where the Lord showed me a friend talking behind my back to another woman. I heard every single word. Iwoke up and couldn't believe it.. she was always smiling complimenting me wanting to know all my business...I confronted her without revealing that I knew about it in the dream and she thought the other lady told me so she went on to argue with the other lady I saw in the dream...the lady was surprised as she never spoke with me...I just walked away thanking God for making me aware and protecting my life.... It's sad but this broadcast is very true and I am reminded again.
Unfortunately I learned this lesson the hard way after my husband passed away unexpectedly 4 years ago. My so called friends dropped me like a hot potato. Not to mention all the friends my husband had disappeared as well. It was extremely hurtful, but I thank God it happened. Turns out I am much better without those people!
Same thing happened to me when my bf passed away, we were together 12 years. When he got sick everyone stayed away even close family, but as soon as he died, everyone wanted to rip apart our house to see if he had a will. He told everyone his last wishes. But greed set in everyone, people who didn't matter all tried to get a piece. It was me and my kids that took the heat from everyone talking crap.
Were all GROWN adults here. If they lack maturity I don't bother. We have approximately 100 year to live on earth. I don't waste time anymore with dumb people.
Then you have those so-called friends, who will pretend to be happy for you and talk the talk and walk the walk to celebrate when something good happens in your life, but soon afterwards in sometimes subtle and covert ways, they show that they're really jealous by little things they say or do. Watch out for those too.
Let's not forget Jesus was even betrayed by those who broke bread with him and literally kissed him in the face. The power he displayed in forgiveness qnd his ability to remain strong is something I always keep in mind.
I’ve said this for years... There’s nothing you can do to *MAKE* anyone be your friend. You don’t make friends, you *FIND* them ... you find out who you mutually connect with and who they are over time!!!
After leaving my ex narcissist and going no contact 6 months ago. I started working on setting boundaries. I now have one friend I still talk to that has been there. My life has been cleaned out and I’m okay with it as hard as it has been.
@@Divine_Healing_Love Congratulations on doing something so many find so hard to do!!!! I wish u all the best 💕 I had a narcissistic person in my life that's been very challenging to completely let them go so I know personally how much strength it takes to let them go.
Ashanti Miguel thank you! It has been a long, hard heartbreaking soul searching road and I’m still working on things as well. I know I made the right decision though so it keeps me pushing forward no matter how long it takes. It is very hard to leave and stay no contact, when you are ready and have had enough you will make that decision. There is no right or wrong through this, it’s a process and we need to go easy on ourselves and be kind to ourselves. I wish the best for you on your journey with this as well. Stay strong, you deserve to be loved, to be happy and to do what is best for your well being.💜
@@dhannan53 Yes and trust your gut instinct,that's samething that I also learn ,in 90% of the cases my gut instinct,people eyes,the thing people say or how they say it tell me everything what goes in their mind and heart ,please trust your gut instinct ...almost never fail.
@Todd Spratt 🔼Artist: O'Jays 🔼Song: Backstabbers ▶Lyrics All the time they want to take your place The back stabbers (back stabbers) (They smilin' in your face) All the time, they want to take your place The back stabbers (back stabbers)
After watching this video, I realize that Jesus is my only friend. Please pray for me pastor R.C. because even though I have no friends I also realized that I haven't been the best friend myself at times, and friendship is a two way street
I've recently taught a class on friendship. What I've found is that people psychologically make people their friends by force (LOL).... then get mad or are disappointed when the "love" or level of effort they're putting in isn't reciprocated. We often times blame the other person, when it's us with the problem. We can't make someone like us or want to be our friend.
zondra wilson jeeesus! That's good right there! I see in my life that tendency in my self. I give give give expecting n hoping for it to be reciprocated, but they be like 'that's your fault, I never asked for all that!' Type thing. N it's ridiculous why I've continued in this manner for such a long time. Blake's talk of levels is important in this regard
Amen , I literally have no friends. When I was homeless and going through all I had was Jesus ! every body else who were so called around it was only for something they can get out of the little I had. smh. You are so on point God bless tremendously!!!
I was homeless and my sister agree to help me but now she saying I have to leave her place and my baby is 7 months she said I could stay until I find a place fucked up right!
This spoke DIRECTLY to me. I am on a break from friendships for now. I got ghosted by a "friend" when I refused to cosign her toxicity. I loved her. Cared for her. Prayed for her. She checked out as a friend up until I started to have success in my marriage. As long as my husband and I were at odds, she was there when I was down. The moment my husband began to truly surrender his will to God and we moved to a different state, she began secretly competing with me, then eventually cut me off when the mirroring didn't work out. My first mistake was being there for her after she got divorced before she began her healing journey. I should have been way more protective of my space like you said Bishop. I got comfortable way too quickly because I've known her pretty much all my life... or so I thought. Now I'm in recovery. Even though she broke me, I am not shattered, and I still love her like she were a sister. I just can't turn it off. There are days I feel deep anger towards her, but then I have to re-forgive her all over again. Truth is anyone that was never really taught how to value another person has no idea how to be a true friend. All they know is trauma-bonding and discarding. This lesson was DEAD on point, but it triggered a space in me that God and I have to do more work in. I developed social anxiety due to this. Afraid to make friends because I don't trust my own ability to discern friend from foe, and now I don't trust others to reciprocate the level of loyalty I offer. It takes vulnerability to give and recieve. This will take me some time, but I know Yah will work this out in me. Until then, I will just claim my healing!
I've had to learn that everybody is not your friend. I had learned once that a so call friend was really my enemy. She was as nutty as the movie character, the Talented Mr. Ripley.
NeverNumber2 AlwaysNo1 that's so true. You want your friend to meet all their goals to find a good mate to know love and have a relationship with Jesus..
Real friends aren't jealous of your success and don't thrive when your down,they help you back up . Real friends support you and are honest with you . Real friends take time to understand you when you going through something . Real friends don't disrespect you are your kids . Real friends don't manipulate you. Real friends are hard to come by today. I asked God to do inventory in my life and evidently even in friendships we aren't to be unequally yoked. God told me leave them alone cause they wasnt right for me and one was a person I hung with off and on for 34 years only to find out wasnt a true friend at all. If God say let them alone it's for a reason all I know.
I don't have to be friends with my co-workers I respect them . I was at a job where I had limits with my coworkers. I came to work and get paid . They started gossiping about me saying I was too silent and calling me autistic. Be nice but not allow to disrespect you!
Girl I had senior leaders making assumptions about me my family, my upbringing. Just because I knew not to tell them my business. I saw how they talked about each other and their subordinates.
This is one of best messages about friends to many people use word friends to loosely. It to many fake gossiping hypocritical prideful judgmental people. I thank the Lord I have few friends the less the better. I love peaceful drama free life. Jesus is my first number one friend. I can talk to him about my anything knowing it will stay between us.
I feel you dear..... I have also had to learn the hard way....but one thing I have been questioning myself is have I really learnt.... I'd hate for this to repeat itself....ponder through as well.
I am going through the lowest time in my life and nobody shows up. I guess I don’t have real friends yet. I will appreciate your prayers for me to have them.
You never know who has your back until you go through a serious hardship. So far family, my parents have been there through it all. Just about all my so called lady friends tried to sleep with men I dated and were jealous of me. Even when I broke up with guys they went to try to hook up with them. I would never sleep with my friend man or ex-man.
I want to bring up a certain type of person. The type that ONLY comes around when you are down. There are people that thrive on being around when you're at your worst. You will notice they are drawn to trauma and later leverage it so you feel you owe them. These are the people that will not be there to champion your advancements. Very very tricky. I had to learn it the hard way.
Never be a BFF with your next door neighbor . Keep your business in your home . A neighbor knows your coming and going . I have discovered that it’s best to keep neighbors at a distance. Much like your coworkers .
I've found that the fakers are always there when you're not doing well so they can talk about you. Then they don't celebrate you when things are good :/ Just my experience #3 omgoodness
There was a time when I had lots of people around me they seemed as if they cared about me but we're jealous of me and it wasn't all women there were men who were jealous of me so now I spend most of my time alone I just want to have a more intimate relationship with Jesus Christ cause I am tired of pleasing man it's to much of a disappointment
I am in the same situation. We have to work on being a better judge of character. People can fake roles for years until they reveal their true feelings towards you
I am blessed I have 2 solid friends 🙏🏾🙏🏾thick and thin😍20 +still going strong 💪🏽 we raised our kids together and I pray we grow old together 😂🙏🏾🙏🏾my Daughter too but she’s my child 🧒🏻 So emotional watching 😋
In my culture, there's a superstition that whatever you face is life is largely because of what you choose in heaven (predestination). Some chose wealth, some good marriage, some good friends. If you didn't choose friends,no matter how much you sacrifice for your friends they'd end up hurting you. While if you chose good friends, even with the most annoying xter, friends will throng around(we all know some). Well, what do I know, it's just a superstition. Maybe you chose good friends (lol). I wish you the best ma'am, wishing I did because no matter how much I sacrifice, I don't get it back. But I have where I shine tho😘😘😘
It could also be that certain people want to be close to steal ideas and thoughts etc to benefit themselves. Which is why the term friendemy is so interesting and revealing.
Thank you Pastor Blakes you are my Confirmation, About so called Friends, the only Friend I have is in Jesus the people I thought were Friends Always Stabbed me in the Back, so now I'm a Loner which is fine The Lord got them out of Life☺🙌
Deb Lynn Wow Same here. Where do u live? What state. If u want to u can call me . It is up to you. I’d love to hear your experiences. I’m a very empathetic person but I attract friends that about 3 months in they start abusing me verbally and are dismissive of my thoughts and emotions. I can laugh at myself and not easily offended. Im a blogger and researcher here on YT AND am even made fun of because I research everything on the internet. Long story. Anyway give it some thought and msg me here. Thanks for sharing. God bless. 🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🏻
AMEN 🙏 I have more fbfriends and most of them are Sisters in Christ 🙏👸 The other half (somewhat), are relatives... few are Fairweather relatives as well 👏 AMEN 🙏
This is spot on. People assume that because someone is nice to them that they are a friend. A friend has to prove themselves to me and go the distance.
So true! I set a boundary with someone, making the decision to not want to gossip and they got upset. Pouted the entire time we were together thereafter and became VISIBLY distant. Made me so happy to see, because the revelation was there.
My so called friends are a bunch of Jezebels. I always come through but once I say no, they show their true colors. They even skip me when they are greeting people at church even if I'm standing by. I'm always apologizing for things I don't do.
o wow that they do in church and you call those christians friends well go outside and be friend with the homeless and junkies then introduce your new friends to your old. Maybe they realize how devilish was the way they treated you.
YOU SEE EVERYTHING GOING ON, WHICH IS ON POINT. KNOW SAYING SORRY OR APOLOGIZING TO AND FOR THINGS WHICH YOU SHOULDN'T, NEEDS TO CEASE. MAKES FOR RAISED EYEBROWS 😃, STOP IT!!
Proximity means nearness in space time and in relationship it does not mean unity it does not mean confidant it does not mean that they are on your team they are only just in your space for a time period in a certain designated relationship. we have to recognize our relationships and understand relationship purpose and deal with them accordingly to THAT purpose we are there in. I’m learning
A friend is a person who always has your best interest in mind, they make you better because there in your life, and they stick around when things get tough. Real friends are not made they are discovered. Friendship is a natural resource that cannot be fabricated.
Wow you spoke so much truth. I have always had people back stabbing me all my life and I was always loyal to them. I Thank God for you Brother because you have help me with longtime struggle when it comes to friends. I would love to have a bunch of ride die friends but only have a few. had to cut off some longtime friendships it hurt but it was for the best. Thank you for sharing Peace And Love!
Sabreeus(Plus Size Fashion Designer) So sorry for what you've been through. It's so sad. That's why I don't have any friends now. All I have is my 2 daughter's and GOD!!!!
@Tranquil Vibes Jesus is my #1 Ride died but we need good ride died friends(the bible talks about we need good friends, it spiritual "WE" help each other as we work on our relationship and grow in God.) we weren't created to be alone If so God wouldn't give us family , relationships ect. Remember the topic he is talking About relationships/friendship with others it's not a question about my relationship with God. Take care Peace and ❤️
I ended up letting someone into my life who was a true wolf dressed in sheep's clothing. I befriended a wonderful seeming woman online. Due to poor health, online friends or long distance friends by phone were all I had. We chatted everyday. I developed a strong connection to her. Once she realized I cared about her. Her behavior started to change. I noticed the odd critical remark. The odd lie. She seemed like a different person. The friendship ultimately deteriorated and she took advantage of my kindness. Acting aggressive, mocking me behind the scenes. Trying to chip away at my self-esteem. She was a covert narcissist. And she wreaked havoc in my life. She targets people online to take down like this.
Classic covert narcissist. Good for you, you let her go. I have a so called “friend” who is a covert narcissist. He is always trying to devalue me and put me down. All her comments to me is to try and break me. The man even criticized my smoke detectors. Now I know he is a narcissist, I know how to deal with him. I limit my interaction with him.
I hear ya....Esp in this era, Jesus says ppl's hearts will wax colder, and a lot of those that you think are close and have your back, are the very ones that bring you down at an opportune time, they can recognize a call/anointing on your life and are threatened by you, when they see you down, that is when they come in for the kill. I have learnt the hard way myself, over and over, I learnt some valuable lessons through it through, what doesn't kill you does shape and grow you, I'm none the wiser and have learnt to guard my heart and be more observant, still waiting on God to knit me to the right people in due season. But we all need to learn these lessons sometimes, that is when we truly know how to Guard our hearts and trust in Gods timing to bring us a true friend. Yahweh bless you
Dont give too much and be that giving friend to those that would never give to you . Even in terms of just being there for you.. they'd never match your efforts.
People are Who they are. People can not reach the divine level of a great friendship until their Soul & Spirit has been infused with God’s awesome Love. Friends 💕🎁💕What a friend we have IN Jesus all our Sins and Grief to bear. What a privilege to carry everything to God in Prayer. Hallelujah. 💕🎁💕
I've noticed Im guilty befriending a lot of energy drainers. People who only want you to be there for them but not willing to be there for you. I'm a loner & not by choice because people do not realize friendship is a 2 way street. I only have probably 1 or 2, 3 at the most real friends. Good friends are hard to come by these days.
You are telling the truth. I went through with people I trusted. Now, I observe and pay attention of someone's doing and saying. Before it get any worst, I cut the person off fast. I will go 👻. They always say, "What happened?"
Yeah some people are so much like chameleons so you never pick up their ingrained traits of jealousy and feeding of bad times happening in your life. definitely, everyone is different so you can have a friend who is expressive but the trait is controlled with sensitivity and genuine care overriding their jealousy most of the time. But the ones who are deceitful and secretive in expressing how they feel to you but openly hating you to others that's time to watch like a hawk
I've always said this. I have one true friend. We just drifted into friendship. She's awesome. She's here for me when no one else (including family) isn't. I once tried to reconnect with a long lost "friend". That's when I found out she was never my friend. The things she said and did when I tried to reconnect were horrible. All because her life was in shambles and I am happy. I won't go into detail (too much to discuss). She destroyed her own happiness by bad decisions. I just walked away.
I reconnected with a friend from high school after 20 years. I guess I thought we would just go back to where we were 20 years ago…wrong. I am doing well career wise, and she made some bad choices. She told me her sob story and asked for money. I sent it to her, but the following month she asked for money again. I realize that this was going to be a monthly thing. It is not my responsibility to financially support you. I didn’t give it and she kept away from me. A few years later her father died and she sent me a message on Facebook asking for money to help with his funeral. Because I have a good heart, I sent her the money. I haven’t heard from her since. I guess she will reach out again when she is in need.
I’ve counted just TWO! I’ve only known both for 10 years. They are the kindest friends one could ask for. They have seen me at rock bottom and have been there for me. More so than family. This talk was awesome. Thanks RC Blakes 😇
There is catergories of friends REAL FRIENDS , FAKE FRIENDS , JEALOUS FRIENDS , ENVY FRIENDS use spirit of discernment and place them in catergories in your friendly zone WATCH WORDS
friend--a person that has best intrest for you at heart Real friends are discovered. REAL FRIENDS 1.occupies intimate place IN your heart NB#Your workmates/churchmates are not your friends.🤯 2.SHOW UP when you are DOWN!! 3.NEVER JEALOUS OF YOU🙌🙌 *what is their response to your blessing 4.LOVE YOU at your WORSE
Thanks for this video.... I really needed to watch this. I just recently cut off a friend of 17 years off. I often worry if I done the right thing, but this is confirmation that I've made the right decision . After that experience....... Now I'm at the point in my life where I don't seek New friendships nor the existing friends I do have I keep at a distance.
I dropped all my fake friends, with no regrets, 19 years friendship and and 14 years friendship, they are in my life for their own advantage, they are jealous, exposer,
I just randomly discovered this gem of a message! It's chock full of "Blakes-isms," so much truth! A message so real! Needs to be heard by many. "REAL FRIENDS ARE NOT MADE...THEY ARE DISCOVERED!" Bless you Bishop and Lady Blakes!
I am grateful that Jesus has a real life Disciple of Jesus Christ in this time and age!!! I started to think the "real" disciples of Jesus were extinct ... but u my friend are the perfect example of the salt of the Earth!! I thank God for you!(for you negative folks that will say I'm making him God let it be not confused that I am not praising him but I praise The father Jesus Christ who's given him wisdom and a spirit of humbleness) we need people like this to help us in our walk with Christ!! As I told your wife Bishop y'all give me hope n Christ and my faith increases!!! Love y'all -Lekeitha
What a blessing from GOD, wow wow Pastor Blake. Your teachings are so personal & real. You will never know just how much GOD has used your experiences & your studying of his word to truly help me in these areas. Be BLESSED always MAN OF GOD. Tracy Thurman.
Man, I love listening to you speak on important topics because you are one of the few people I know with a sound mind. You sharpen me. Thank you, Pastor Blakes.
You have become my virtual friend. Actually one of the best ones even thou we have never met. I listen to your vids every day and your words just sink in my head while dealing with other people. Thank you for being the lighting torch I needed in my life.. 🙏❤️
Sometimes bad family members can break and hurt you more than outsiders.
Zarasha1 yes. I have to agree with you. A mans enemies will be those of his own household.
Facts!
Faimly is the worst
Going through this right now smh
Yes indeed
Hard truth:
Just because you are a friend to them
Doesn’t mean they are a friend to you.
Say that
Instablaster...
Kmttt
Facts!!!
Exactly
I had a dream where the Lord showed me a friend talking behind my back to another woman. I heard every single word. Iwoke up and couldn't believe it.. she was always smiling complimenting me wanting to know all my business...I confronted her without revealing that I knew about it in the dream and she thought the other lady told me so she went on to argue with the other lady I saw in the dream...the lady was surprised as she never spoke with me...I just walked away thanking God for making me aware and protecting my life....
It's sad but this broadcast is very true and I am reminded again.
Wow.. I had a similar dream tOO. Wow this confirmation mannnnn. Amen
Peeerly B.
YAH is good. He always has a way of letting you know things. Warning comes before destruction.
Wow! God is so amazing!!!
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For sure GOD is on your side. Whatsoever is in the dark will come to the light. What was spoken in secret will be revealed on the house top.
Unfortunately I learned this lesson the hard way after my husband passed away unexpectedly 4 years ago. My so called friends dropped me like a hot potato. Not to mention all the friends my husband had disappeared as well. It was extremely hurtful, but I thank God it happened. Turns out I am much better without those people!
Im.sorry awful
Same thing happened to me when my bf passed away, we were together 12 years. When he got sick everyone stayed away even close family, but as soon as he died, everyone wanted to rip apart our house to see if he had a will. He told everyone his last wishes. But greed set in everyone, people who didn't matter all tried to get a piece. It was me and my kids that took the heat from everyone talking crap.
Thats horrible so Sorry💗
I went through the same thing when My Husband passed a few years ago.
That's, horrible they did that to you. Not surprised most are flaky and disloyal. God bless you your husband will always be with you in spirit
Pastor Blake I have been to the point where I could not call on nobody but the name of Jesus®®®!!
halleluja
It 😀😃😄😁 but true
Amen 🙏🙏🙏
Tamela Cole I’m in that place myself at this moment
Lord ,that's the truth!👏👏👏💝
Were all GROWN adults here. If they lack maturity I don't bother. We have approximately 100 year to live on earth. I don't waste time anymore with dumb people.
Superb!
Total truth!!
Cleaned house over the last 3 weeks!
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Exactly ,I am done with dumb people
"A lot of people who will party with you will not go into battle with you" something to keep in mind for certain
When you realize that your friend is really jealous envious and full of hate, please walk away! Toxicity is real posion!
Then you have those so-called friends, who will pretend to be happy for you and talk the talk and walk the walk to celebrate when something good happens in your life, but soon afterwards in sometimes subtle and covert ways, they show that they're really jealous by little things they say or do. Watch out for those too.
I had the same question, too. How do you know if someone is genuinely happy for you or secretly jealous of you. How to tell?
No More so very true
That is so true. You can tell them by their fruit. Listen to the underhanded comments.
Story of my life smh
@@elainelee4828 Observe...Watch their actions, not their words.
Let's not forget Jesus was even betrayed by those who broke bread with him and literally kissed him in the face. The power he displayed in forgiveness qnd his ability to remain strong is something I always keep in mind.
I love this... so true 💖
This! 🔥🔥🔥
Sooo true! It soo hard but He did it and we can too.💕
But remember forgiveness does not mean that they should re-enter your life
You are absolutely right ✅, God Bless You 🙏
I’ve said this for years... There’s nothing you can do to *MAKE* anyone be your friend. You don’t make friends, you *FIND* them ... you find out who you mutually connect with and who they are over time!!!
when i was down. i saw my real friends
And that was nobody but your family right??
After leaving my ex narcissist and going no contact 6 months ago. I started working on setting boundaries. I now have one friend I still talk to that has been there. My life has been cleaned out and I’m okay with it as hard as it has been.
@@Divine_Healing_Love Congratulations on doing something so many find so hard to do!!!! I wish u all the best 💕 I had a narcissistic person in my life that's been very challenging to completely let them go so I know personally how much strength it takes to let them go.
Ashanti Miguel thank you! It has been a long, hard heartbreaking soul searching road and I’m still working on things as well. I know I made the right decision though so it keeps me pushing forward no matter how long it takes. It is very hard to leave and stay no contact, when you are ready and have had enough you will make that decision. There is no right or wrong through this, it’s a process and we need to go easy on ourselves and be kind to ourselves. I wish the best for you on your journey with this as well. Stay strong, you deserve to be loved, to be happy and to do what is best for your well being.💜
Know them by their fruits
@@dhannan53 Yes and trust your gut instinct,that's samething that I also learn ,in 90% of the cases my gut instinct,people eyes,the thing people say or how they say it tell me everything what goes in their mind and heart ,please trust your gut instinct ...almost never fail.
True!
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@@mariaseidi4764 true💯💯💯
As soon as I institute boundaries they get offended. Very discouraging.
Nicole davis good for you. Stay strong. God bless. 👍🏻👍🏻👏💕
Time to cut them off!!!!
this is the best movie that's why prayers for the Lord
Yes exactly!!
Lara O'neal they weren’t your friend
Friendemies=
Smile in your face, when all the time they wanna take your place.
Frenemies for real!
@Todd Spratt
🔼Artist: O'Jays
🔼Song: Backstabbers
▶Lyrics
All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
(They smilin' in your face)
All the time, they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
After watching this video, I realize that Jesus is my only friend.
Please pray for me pastor R.C. because even though I have no friends I also realized that I haven't been the best friend myself at times, and friendship is a two way street
I'm so guilty of giving my all without taking the time to have boundaries.
This is me!
Me too
Likewise!
Same for me
Me Too!
I've recently taught a class on friendship. What I've found is that people psychologically make people their friends by force (LOL).... then get mad or are disappointed when the "love" or level of effort they're putting in isn't reciprocated. We often times blame the other person, when it's us with the problem. We can't make someone like us or want to be our friend.
zondra wilson jeeesus! That's good right there! I see in my life that tendency in my self. I give give give expecting n hoping for it to be reciprocated, but they be like 'that's your fault, I never asked for all that!' Type thing. N it's ridiculous why I've continued in this manner for such a long time. Blake's talk of levels is important in this regard
Blakes really taught this lesson didn't he? Whew! Here's a youtube video I taught on this subject. ruclips.net/video/SzWPo6jYRRY/видео.html
Thank you! Bless you sis!
Relatives as well...
Zondra, what you wrote here is gold. I took notes. Thank you.
Amen , I literally have no friends. When I was homeless and going through all I had was Jesus ! every body else who were so called around it was only for something they can get out of the little I had. smh. You are so on point God bless tremendously!!!
Geneva Hawkins right on! I'm going through it myself and I don't have real friends or real Family except Jesus!!!! All praises
Geneva Hawkins Going through that now. Very humbling much needed experience.
Yeah some friends aren't your real friends. I haven't had no real friends in years.
I was homeless and alone. Even family failed me.
I was homeless and my sister agree to help me but now she saying I have to leave her place and my baby is 7 months she said I could stay until I find a place fucked up right!
This spoke DIRECTLY to me. I am on a break from friendships for now. I got ghosted by a "friend" when I refused to cosign her toxicity. I loved her. Cared for her. Prayed for her. She checked out as a friend up until I started to have success in my marriage. As long as my husband and I were at odds, she was there when I was down. The moment my husband began to truly surrender his will to God and we moved to a different state, she began secretly competing with me, then eventually cut me off when the mirroring didn't work out. My first mistake was being there for her after she got divorced before she began her healing journey. I should have been way more protective of my space like you said Bishop. I got comfortable way too quickly because I've known her pretty much all my life... or so I thought. Now I'm in recovery. Even though she broke me, I am not shattered, and I still love her like she were a sister. I just can't turn it off. There are days I feel deep anger towards her, but then I have to re-forgive her all over again. Truth is anyone that was never really taught how to value another person has no idea how to be a true friend. All they know is trauma-bonding and discarding. This lesson was DEAD on point, but it triggered a space in me that God and I have to do more work in. I developed social anxiety due to this. Afraid to make friends because I don't trust my own ability to discern friend from foe, and now I don't trust others to reciprocate the level of loyalty I offer. It takes vulnerability to give and recieve. This will take me some time, but I know Yah will work this out in me. Until then, I will just claim my healing!
Things will definitely work out for those who love YAH. I’m so happy to see that someone else here knows his true name.
I've had to learn that everybody is not your friend. I had learned once that a so call friend was really my enemy. She was as nutty as the movie character, the Talented Mr. Ripley.
REAL friends are never lealous!!!!! never. #facts
NeverNumber2 AlwaysNo1 that's so true. You want your friend to meet all their goals to find a good mate to know love and have a relationship with Jesus..
facts
Exactly, you should want for your friend the best and vice versa. Then, continue working on your own goals without envy of what others have.
You're blessed if you have 2-3 true friends in a lifetime.
Some folks think they are entitled to your time and energy without earning it.
Real friends aren't jealous of your success and don't thrive when your down,they help you back up . Real friends support you and are honest with you . Real friends take time to understand you when you going through something . Real friends don't disrespect you are your kids . Real friends don't manipulate you.
Real friends are hard to come by today. I asked God to do inventory in my life and evidently even in friendships we aren't to be unequally yoked. God told me leave them alone cause they wasnt right for me and one was a person I hung with off and on for 34 years only to find out wasnt a true friend at all.
If God say let them alone it's for a reason all I know.
Indeed
I don't have to be friends with my co-workers I respect them . I was at a job where I had limits with my coworkers. I came to work and get paid . They started gossiping about me saying I was too silent and calling me autistic. Be nice but not allow to disrespect you!
Natalie Harquail that’s terrible
Girl I had senior leaders making assumptions about me my family, my upbringing. Just because I knew not to tell them my business. I saw how they talked about each other and their subordinates.
Coworkers are not friends. They are associates at best. Be cordial with them, but do not tell them your personal business.
I would've reported it, started a investigation and made their pockets lose some weight
Wow
This is one of best messages about friends to many people use word friends to loosely. It to many fake gossiping hypocritical prideful judgmental people. I thank the Lord I have few friends the less the better. I love peaceful drama free life.
Jesus is my first number one friend. I can talk to him about my anything knowing it will stay between us.
Fair weather friends are plentiful! They are only good friends when the weather is suitable for themselves!! You know those kind!!
I wish there was a love button for this video. So much truth in your words. I've learned this the hard way by being too trusting unfortunately.
Colette Janine You are Not alone Sister!💪🙏
I’m new to his channel...but the part about people at work?! Yes Lord, I have had to learn the hard way about that!
Still healing from the stab wouds...but Colette Janine you are right!!
Yes!!
I feel you dear..... I have also had to learn the hard way....but one thing I have been questioning myself is have I really learnt.... I'd hate for this to repeat itself....ponder through as well.
I am going through the lowest time in my life and nobody shows up. I guess I don’t have real friends yet. I will appreciate your prayers for me to have them.
You never know who has your back until you go through a serious hardship. So far family, my parents have been there through it all. Just about all my so called lady friends tried to sleep with men I dated and were jealous of me. Even when I broke up with guys they went to try to hook up with them. I would never sleep with my friend man or ex-man.
I want to bring up a certain type of person. The type that ONLY comes around when you are down. There are people that thrive on being around when you're at your worst. You will notice they are drawn to trauma and later leverage it so you feel you owe them. These are the people that will not be there to champion your advancements. Very very tricky. I had to learn it the hard way.
LizaLavolta w
Very true
YES!!
very true
LizaLavolta narcissists!
Same here. I lost a person I thought was my friend that very way.
Never be a BFF with your next door neighbor . Keep your business in your home . A neighbor knows your coming and going . I have discovered that it’s best to keep neighbors at a distance. Much like your coworkers .
I've found that the fakers are always there when you're not doing well so they can talk about you. Then they don't celebrate you when things are good :/ Just my experience #3 omgoodness
B C So True! They take kindness as a weakness
So true....That's why I've cut off almost everybody...including family too!!!
Very true
Danaé Lauren Tolbert Amen!!!!!!
B C amen true that
There was a time when I had lots of people around me they seemed as if they cared about me but we're jealous of me and it wasn't all women there were men who were jealous of me so now I spend most of my time alone I just want to have a more intimate relationship with Jesus Christ cause I am tired of pleasing man it's to much of a disappointment
Yes so true
I am in the same situation. We have to work on being a better judge of character. People can fake roles for years until they reveal their true feelings towards you
I am blessed I have 2 solid friends 🙏🏾🙏🏾thick and thin😍20 +still going strong 💪🏽 we raised our kids together and I pray we grow old together 😂🙏🏾🙏🏾my Daughter too but she’s my child 🧒🏻
So emotional watching 😋
In my culture, there's a superstition that whatever you face is life is largely because of what you choose in heaven (predestination).
Some chose wealth, some good marriage, some good friends.
If you didn't choose friends,no matter how much you sacrifice for your friends they'd end up hurting you. While if you chose good friends, even with the most annoying xter, friends will throng around(we all know some). Well, what do I know, it's just a superstition. Maybe you chose good friends (lol). I wish you the best ma'am, wishing I did because no matter how much I sacrifice, I don't get it back.
But I have where I shine tho😘😘😘
Loan a so called friend some money and then just sit back, pop some Popcorn and watch the show.
REGINALD TOOKES They are devil dumb. Who with common sense would bite the hand that feeds them, other than a complete dummmy. A misetable dummy.
REGINALD TOOKES Miserable dummies. They not even embarrassed.
Bro I feel you👏
If I loan someone money and they go ghost...I count it as the best purchase I've made lately! Good riddance!
you said pop some popcorn! you ain neva lied my friend💯 🤣
It could also be that certain people want to be close to steal ideas and thoughts etc to benefit themselves. Which is why the term friendemy is so interesting and revealing.
Arodys say that then☝️
Not sure by what you mean by your comment.
That your statement was on point and I possibly could not say it any better!#SayThatThen#CountryGirl
@SADDITY CARROLL (lol)
Thank you Pastor Blakes you are my Confirmation, About so called Friends, the only Friend I have is in Jesus the people I thought were Friends Always Stabbed me in the Back, so now I'm a Loner which is fine The Lord got them out of Life☺🙌
Thank You For Your Kind Word's Histology, May Peace Stay With You!☺
Deb Lynn me too I olny have one friend and she's my everything
Deb Lynn Wow Same here. Where do u live? What state. If u want to u can call me . It is up to you. I’d love to hear your experiences. I’m a very empathetic person but I attract friends that about 3 months in they start abusing me verbally and are dismissive of my thoughts and emotions. I can laugh at myself and not easily offended. Im a blogger and researcher here on YT AND am even made fun of because I research everything on the internet. Long story. Anyway give it some thought and msg me here. Thanks for sharing. God bless. 🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🏻
Deb Lynn I pray that the Lord replaced Those friends with God fearing people
It's possible;
I am a Witness 😊 Praise GOD 🙏💪
AMEN 🙏
I have more fbfriends and most of them are Sisters in Christ 🙏👸
The other half (somewhat), are relatives... few are Fairweather relatives as well 👏 AMEN 🙏
This is spot on. People assume that because someone is nice to them that they are a friend. A friend has to prove themselves to me and go the distance.
Proximity does not = Friendship 🙌
Lesson learned.
The pain this carries but GOD!
Including caregivers, I mistaken employees as friends. Thank you for clarifying this.
A few I think of as friends but not the majority.
Coworkers are not friends. They are associates at best.
Not everyone is going to click!
So true, I have that Going on as I get older. Thank you for sharing 🤗
TRUE FRIEND'S ARE SENT BY GOD..
Yes! True friends are those who will battle with you...not just party. Setting boundaries clarifies quickly!
So true! I set a boundary with someone, making the decision to not want to gossip and they got upset. Pouted the entire time we were together thereafter and became VISIBLY distant. Made me so happy to see, because the revelation was there.
Hmm...I needed to hear that part about jealousy. How are you my friend when you can't stand for me to progress in life?!
I have a lot of fake friends and associates
I keep falling for bad friends, this teaching me.
Every saint need to hear this. 🎯
Shekinah's Counsel Dat saints n DA ents lol
My so called friends are a bunch of Jezebels. I always come through but once I say no, they show their true colors. They even skip me when they are greeting people at church even if I'm standing by. I'm always apologizing for things I don't do.
Adeline Proverbs31 WELL , STOP IT, NEVER APOLOGIZE TO A NARCISSIST
o wow that they do in church and you call those christians friends well go outside and be friend with the homeless and junkies then introduce your new friends to your old. Maybe they realize how devilish was the way they treated you.
YOU SEE EVERYTHING GOING ON, WHICH IS ON POINT. KNOW SAYING SORRY OR APOLOGIZING TO AND FOR THINGS WHICH YOU SHOULDN'T, NEEDS TO CEASE. MAKES FOR RAISED EYEBROWS 😃, STOP IT!!
Adeline Proverbs31 Jezebels are master manipulators... they can make you feel like you're in the wrong!!! Guard your heart! And stick close to JESUS!
Dont let it bother you. Its childish. Take it at face value and move on.
Absolutely, people will show you who they really are through their ACTION(S).
Right on!!! I try to tell the younger gals I work with they need to have healthy boundaries and stop telling everyone their personal business 😉
Exactly
This true to friend's. I never had a true friend.
Blessed One If you know and love Jesus Christ you have the best friend EVER.
We need a love button on this message! Thank you Pastor for speaking to friendship. 👍
Proximity means nearness in space time and in relationship it does not mean unity it does not mean confidant it does not mean that they are on your team they are only just in your space for a time period in a certain designated relationship. we have to recognize our relationships and understand relationship purpose and deal with them accordingly to THAT purpose we are there in. I’m learning
A friend is a person who always has your best interest in mind, they make you better because there in your life, and they stick around when things get tough. Real friends are not made they are discovered. Friendship is a natural resource that cannot be fabricated.
Real friends are never jealous of you!🙋
I'm going through this right now! Long process but boy have it taught me a true lesson in life! Thank you pastor!!
@Mary Lane good job dropping her from your life.
Truth: friendships caused a lot more damage in my life than romantic relationships. The world use the word “friends” too loosely
Wow you spoke so much truth. I have always had people back stabbing me all my life and I was always loyal to them. I Thank God for you Brother because you have help me with longtime struggle when it comes to friends. I would love to have a bunch of ride die friends but only have a few. had to cut off some longtime friendships it hurt but it was for the best. Thank you for sharing Peace And Love!
Sabreeus(Plus Size Fashion Designer) Thank you for reaching out. I am grateful to have made an impact.
Sabreeus(Plus Size Fashion Designer) So sorry for what you've been through. It's so sad. That's why I don't have any friends now. All I have is my 2 daughter's and GOD!!!!
@Tranquil Vibes Jesus is my #1 Ride died but we need good ride died friends(the bible talks about we need good friends, it spiritual "WE" help each other as we work on our relationship and grow in God.) we weren't created to be alone If so God wouldn't give us family , relationships ect. Remember the topic he is talking About relationships/friendship with others it's not a question about my relationship with God. Take care Peace and ❤️
AMEN!!!!! Exactly why I cut people out of my life no questions asked.
some friends are there when you're down so they can enjoy the show some people play very well that does not impress me
Yes I’ve noticed that also
a friend who enjoys your troubles, a friend who spreads all your problems, they are sadist, stay away.
I ended up letting someone into my life who was a true wolf dressed in sheep's clothing. I befriended a wonderful seeming woman online. Due to poor health, online friends or long distance friends by phone were all I had. We chatted everyday. I developed a strong connection to her. Once she realized I cared about her. Her behavior started to change. I noticed the odd critical remark. The odd lie. She seemed like a different person. The friendship ultimately deteriorated and she took advantage of my kindness. Acting aggressive, mocking me behind the scenes. Trying to chip away at my self-esteem. She was a covert narcissist. And she wreaked havoc in my life. She targets people online to take down like this.
Classic covert narcissist. Good for you, you let her go.
I have a so called “friend” who is a covert narcissist. He is always trying to devalue me and put me down. All her comments to me is to try and break me. The man even criticized my smoke detectors. Now I know he is a narcissist, I know how to deal with him. I limit my interaction with him.
I hear ya....Esp in this era, Jesus says ppl's hearts will wax colder, and a lot of those that you think are close and have your back, are the very ones that bring you down at an opportune time, they can recognize a call/anointing on your life and are threatened by you, when they see you down, that is when they come in for the kill. I have learnt the hard way myself, over and over, I learnt some valuable lessons through it through, what doesn't kill you does shape and grow you, I'm none the wiser and have learnt to guard my heart and be more observant, still waiting on God to knit me to the right people in due season. But we all need to learn these lessons sometimes, that is when we truly know how to Guard our hearts and trust in Gods timing to bring us a true friend. Yahweh bless you
Real friends show up when u are down! 🙌🏾💕
True friendship kicks in when you're in warfare. 👌🏽
I been stop trusting in other people family who ever else....and that's💯💯💯®®®!!
Tamela Cole 💖💖💖💯💯💯
This is so true Coworkers, whom you just met on the job is not a friend.
Dont give too much and be that giving friend to those that would never give to you . Even in terms of just being there for you.. they'd never match your efforts.
People are Who they are. People can not reach the divine level of a great friendship until their Soul & Spirit has been infused with God’s awesome Love. Friends 💕🎁💕What a friend we have IN Jesus all our Sins and Grief to bear. What a privilege to carry everything to God in Prayer. Hallelujah. 💕🎁💕
I've noticed Im guilty befriending a lot of energy drainers. People who only want you to be there for them but not willing to be there for you. I'm a loner & not by choice because people do not realize friendship is a 2 way street. I only have probably 1 or 2, 3 at the most real friends. Good friends are hard to come by these days.
Yes they are
Yes they are
I agree
Energy vampires
“People don’t stab you in the back from a distance.” A word. 💯💯💯💯
You are telling the truth. I went through with people I trusted. Now, I observe and pay attention of someone's doing and saying. Before it get any worst, I cut the person off fast. I will go 👻. They always say, "What happened?"
Yeah some people are so much like chameleons so you never pick up their ingrained traits of jealousy and feeding of bad times happening in your life. definitely, everyone is different so you can have a friend who is expressive but the trait is controlled with sensitivity and genuine care overriding their jealousy most of the time. But the ones who are deceitful and secretive in expressing how they feel to you but openly hating you to others that's time to watch like a hawk
Amen,Amen
I've always said this. I have one true friend. We just drifted into friendship. She's awesome. She's here for me when no one else (including family) isn't. I once tried to reconnect with a long lost "friend". That's when I found out she was never my friend. The things she said and did when I tried to reconnect were horrible. All because her life was in shambles and I am happy. I won't go into detail (too much to discuss). She destroyed her own happiness by bad decisions. I just walked away.
I reconnected with a friend from high school after 20 years. I guess I thought we would just go back to where we were 20 years ago…wrong. I am doing well career wise, and she made some bad choices. She told me her sob story and asked for money. I sent it to her, but the following month she asked for money again. I realize that this was going to be a monthly thing. It is not my responsibility to financially support you. I didn’t give it and she kept away from me. A few years later her father died and she sent me a message on Facebook asking for money to help with his funeral. Because I have a good heart, I sent her the money. I haven’t heard from her since. I guess she will reach out again when she is in need.
You are so right, everyone is not your friend. Frenemies is the correct answer.
preach... a friend will not steer you wrong,..thank you
I’ve counted just TWO! I’ve only known both for 10 years. They are the kindest friends one could ask for. They have seen me at rock bottom and have been there for me. More so than family. This talk was awesome. Thanks RC Blakes 😇
An On Time Word! thank you Lord and Pastor Blakes
Shannon LeFlore Thank you!
There is catergories of friends REAL FRIENDS , FAKE FRIENDS , JEALOUS FRIENDS , ENVY FRIENDS use spirit of discernment and place them in catergories in your friendly zone WATCH WORDS
COME ON WITH THIS TOPIC!!! Across the board good topic!
SayconTalks AMEN 🙏
friend--a person that has best intrest for you at heart
Real friends are discovered.
REAL FRIENDS
1.occupies intimate place IN your heart
NB#Your workmates/churchmates are not your friends.🤯
2.SHOW UP when you are DOWN!!
3.NEVER JEALOUS OF YOU🙌🙌
*what is their response to your blessing
4.LOVE YOU at your WORSE
Thanks for this video.... I really needed to watch this. I just recently cut off a friend of 17 years off. I often worry if I done the right thing, but this is confirmation that I've made the right decision . After that experience....... Now I'm at the point in my life where I don't seek New friendships nor the existing friends I do have I keep at a distance.
Lola Jones I did the same.
I dropped all my fake friends, with no regrets, 19 years friendship and and 14 years friendship, they are in my life for their own advantage, they are jealous, exposer,
A friend will party with you but a real friend will go to battle with you!!!!
My mom was always there before she passed. What a real friend she was. R.i.p🌹
It took me many years to understand this ...many years but thank you Lord I understand it now ...
I really enjoyed this video. ...intentions to watch the others
Great video. Social media is so deceptive
I just randomly discovered this gem of a message! It's chock full of "Blakes-isms," so much truth! A message so real! Needs to be heard by many. "REAL FRIENDS ARE NOT MADE...THEY ARE DISCOVERED!"
Bless you Bishop and Lady Blakes!
I am grateful that Jesus has a real life Disciple of Jesus Christ in this time and age!!! I started to think the "real" disciples of Jesus were extinct ... but u my friend are the perfect example of the salt of the Earth!! I thank God for you!(for you negative folks that will say I'm making him God let it be not confused that I am not praising him but I praise The father Jesus Christ who's given him wisdom and a spirit of humbleness) we need people like this to help us in our walk with Christ!! As I told your wife Bishop y'all give me hope n Christ and my faith increases!!! Love y'all
-Lekeitha
Keke Murray WE LOVE YOU!
Pastor RC Blakes Jr, You're saying a mouthful! Good Lord!! Thank you!
Exactly that's why she let a lot of them go.... TRANSLATION...FRIENDAMIES.... AWESOME...GOD BLESS YOU ALL.... SIMPLY SHE KNEW SHE IS DIFFERENT
What a blessing from GOD, wow wow Pastor Blake. Your teachings are so personal & real. You will never know just how much GOD has used your experiences & your studying of his word to truly help me in these areas. Be BLESSED always MAN OF GOD. Tracy Thurman.
My friend shared with me your Facebook live message on soul ties. I am so glad she did. THANK YOU!
Wish I heard this when I was 20! Wow Pastor Blake is so full of wisdom like he's 100 lol! Great man of God who teaches with wisdom and truth. 💜
Pst Blakes, life defining and changing messages , like a father talks to a child... God bless you Pastor Blakes
I just release somebody from my life that after chance after chance I realized she wasn't a genuine person, she wasn't available to be a friend
Same
HINDSIGHT , YOUR INSIGHT GIVES SO MUCH FORWARDSIGHT.
Loyalty is hard to come by.
Man, I love listening to you speak on important topics because you are one of the few people I know with a sound mind. You sharpen me. Thank you, Pastor Blakes.
You have become my virtual friend. Actually one of the best ones even thou we have never met. I listen to your vids every day and your words just sink in my head while dealing with other people. Thank you for being the lighting torch I needed in my life.. 🙏❤️