Cut off game is as strong as Mike Tyson on steroids 🤣 Men will waste your whole life if you let em, so don’t even waste time trying to change one. Keep it stepping in your heels 👠 👍🏽💯
What a rude awakening!! I knew this about some men with other women. BUT ALL men! I had known this.. ."men know how to treat a woman." When i was 14!!?? Id still be a Virgin. That makes me MAD!!
It's one thing when someone puts me at the bottom of the list, and it's another for me to purposefully co-sign to be placed at the bottom. Being kind is not an excuse to knowingly accept being mistreated. No ma'am. No sir.🙌🏽
Amen. I threw myself down as his doormat. Sitting on hold while he took other calls....and forgot about me....Waiting for him to call when he promised to...he didn't care. And he didn't care because I had put myself on the clearance rack. Now I've taken myself off, and marked myself up. I'm all done playing with the grown boys.
Brother you are a blessing to me! I've learned so much about being the man i aspire to be because of you. Honestly some of us men just need the right guidance and to be honest with ourselves.
I have unfortunately dealt with a lot of dead ends and recently a narcissist. On a positive note, he only killed what needed to die inside of me. My abandonment issues and insecurities which my narc mother kindly gave me. On the road of healing. Dated another guy. There were no red flags. Then I caught him in a lie and I cut him off. He is now begging to talk to me by texting and calling me. I haven't even blocked him and I'm not even getting triggered. That's how you cut someone off when they disrespect you. Silence. No need for a dramatic scene. I am 30 and I am only learning my worth in 2020 👸🏾
@@shantalbarbot5801 it's not easy.. it took my years and distance to not be triggered by my mother. I spent my early 20s angry at the world and not even sure why. I can sit in a room with her and i treat her like she is air - non existent, i don't even acknowledge her. I wish I had learnt what she was and gone to therapy so I hadn't ended up in this narc situationship.. but hey, we live and we learn. I died early this year but now i am reborn thanks to therapy, self love and care. Currently using my knowledge on my narc colleague at work.. 🤸🏾♀️😂 it's all fun when you know how they function.
Men act like they don’t know what women want after they get you but think back to when you first met him. He knew how to get you didn’t he. Alright then he knows exactly what you want and need from him.
The only relationship thing I do well is cutting off men!! Once I realised it actually give you power & shows him you don’t care about loosing him I use and abuse that method 😂
Women are usually in one of two different types relationships with men who really don't even exist, she is either hanging in there waiting on his representative to resurface or she is in a relationship with 'Potential Man" the man who she hopes he turns into, either way neither one of these men really exist. If women stayed in the here and now and made decisions based on who the man actually is, not who he used to be and not who she hopes he becomes, it will be easier for her to walk away from a toxic relationship.
Thank you Tony! I called him out on his grown boy games, and he ghosted me for 8 days. He tried calling me last night, but I didn't answer. He can't hurt me anymore.
My situation sounds similar. I'm not dealing with it anymore. I'm better than his 2nd, 3rd or 5th choice & I'm not willing to lower my crown to accommodate his actions. I'm on day 4 of not contacting him & I'm doing just fine. Getting stronger everyday
@@goldenlifelove7251 Good job! You can do it! Keep it up...but beware when he comes crawling back. It happened to me and sadly I relapsed for a short period of time. I was lonely, and loneliness will make you vulnerable. I'm happy to say now that I've stayed in no contact for a couple weeks again, and this time it's forever. 😊
Mine is similar too! He ghosted me for a month, he left Jan 14 and popped back up on Feb 14 trying to get me back. I kept talking to him but haven’t slept with him again because my trust was gone. Like what were you doing for a whole month without talking to me wtf! I was trying to make it work but now im guarded and he’s bitter he ain’t sleeping with me…. 2 days ago he told me he done with my mind games 😱🤯what!!! The pain I went through during the month he ghosted me… I couldn’t eat or sleep, blurred vision, lost my hair from stress..now I am just healing 😢
“Look at the quality of life you want to have. If a man is not at that level or if he doesn’t agree that’s a quality of life, that’s not your husband. Stop compromising in those areas for something that’s a dealbreaker for you. The perfect person for you is out there.”
True, prepackaged by God. However, Tony is letting us know what to look for... What to stop and what to reinforce. His opinions are based off his life experiences as well as stories he's gathered from clients. Which are very relatable!🥴😂💯 If you dont agree with his suggestions, ideas or culture, why are you on here Bro?..
My cut off game is so strong, thank God!!! because I used to be so weak minded when I started dating at 18, I’m grateful God gave me that strength!!! I’m 23 now and grown so much❤️🙏🏾
Having a history of child abuse is the number one reason why women stay in abusive relationships because that abuse is familiar. Intellectually, women know the relationship is abusive and unhealthy, but unhealed wounds from childhood keeps a woman going back.
And I'll add a quality about Mrs. Gaskins-- on all social media platforms she ALWAYS HAS CLASS. Respectfully and modestly dressed, respecting her husband and sons. Very RARE these days, even from women who say they are CHRISTIAN. Beautiful wife- an example.
I agree about Mrs. Gaskins! She is exactly that classy queen in real life too! This powerful, beautiful couple the 🐐 of relationships! They walk the talk!🥰
True story Tony. My fiance engaged me after 5weeks of meeting me. He expressed on the first day that I was his wife. So far so God. I have dated grown boys who dragged me along for 2years and no commitment. Learnt a lot from Tony. God bless you
My cut off game was weak. But I am working on it by learning about red flags, my self worth and learning about the game .Watching this channel and reading his relationship books helped me elevate to a queen. 😴😴😴
Great message. I’m learning to become more in love with myself, not compromising my standards just to say I have a man... If his character does not line up with the will of God. He will get cut off immediately!!
Clearing my phone out right now .deletes deleted, deleted. Done being put at the bottom of someones list . They don't measure up to me anyway. Will definitely delete and block. Good riddence.
My cut off game so tight... I'll forget you even existed...they'll keep trying to come back but they stay on block. My time and energy means everything to me and if I have to teach a man, he ain't it for me.
Honestly i give it 3 months. Every three months you get that evaluation. Three months is when you start seeing things. most men forget that they playing a role and start to slip up within the 3 months. Gat ta Go 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
Tony's videos are 🔥 Now I don't feel bad. My mom and sister would joke with me about how quickly I cut off a man who isn't doing right. As Tony said, men know exactly what they do wrong and I'm not here to babysit and pacify a grown man into changing
Most everyone has the same tasks in life: dealing with unfairness, struggles, work, relationships, families etc. Nobody gets to opt out. Over functioning, over caring, over empathizing, over sympathizing, and over feeling is not an effective way to do life. There is a price for being nice. Stay connected to others but do not do more than your part (i.e. know what you can, choose and want to do). Let everybody around you grow up and you will experience a higher version of your soul.
This man truly loves his wife. The things that he define as a good wife is what I wish my soon to be ex would have seen. But now i see it was years with a grown boy. A grown boy doesn’t value any of that.
I can identify with that. I was a good wife. Above and beyond the call. I had to finally leave. I’m worth more than how I was treated. He was shocked when I left. They think you will put up with it forever. He played himself. Grown boy that should have known better for his age.
phinola Nurse definitely sounds like a grown boy tactic. They do that to keep us stuck for years. I should’ve been gone, but he knew just what to say to make me stay. Unfortunately he walked out on me and our son, but actually I’m fortunate he did it.
Thank You! For your continued words of encouragement for the women and Men. You just don't know how powerful your words are and What God gives to you are helping people. Blessings to you and your family!!!
9 months inconsistent in communication. He tried to reverse it on me. Me fighting with the grown girl in myself, I knew it wasn’t right, but didn’t know how to handle it. Long story short, I showed him I’m not the one (as if he ain’t already know) and made it to where we’re BOTH done for good this time. It’s hard for me to turn a guy I like down so I knew he woulda kept coming back, this time I think I sent him back to his ex. Lol I couldn’t take it no more. It’s time I get it together for SELF. I come to Tony Gaskins on ALL platforms for healing. And trust me ladies it WORKS. It HELPS. I get my mind right and the focus is where it should be. Keeps me busy.
It was nearly deja vu when you said “you knew at 6 months this wasn’t the one but you said I put so much time in.” Yes I did that in my 9 year marriage and my recent break up 90 days ago for a year. I will no longer let people waste my precious time. I’m working on me right now but when guys try me ima cut of flags in less then 30’days because women become emotional and try to see the good in people.
😂😭 the Hershey kiss I don’t know why some women have a hard time cutting men off. The earlier the better save yourself the later heartbreak. Respectfully communicate and address what needs to be addressed but when he doesn’t check himself with the non negotiable things , choose yourself/don’t waste your time. I don’t listen to every and every relationship coach/RUclips video men make but let me tell you, after that first painful heartbreak as an adult. I have gained a lot of wisdom from Tony Gaskins and a select others. It was like I was studying 📝. I’m 27 and many men wonder where I get my wisdom from & my ability to walk away they don’t believe until they try it ! Prayer, discernment, and knowledge from respectable experienced coaches/adults.
When you said about 365 days is enough time to know if your that mans future wife is so true bc I remember one of my exes proposed to me after like 11 months of dating but he ended up being an abuser but that’s so true. I would never wait around for a man 5 years plus and what not
thanks to God and the pain I went through in the past with my divorce my cutoff game is strong 💪 I'm not like most woman. I don't care how fine or sexy or rich the man is. the moment I get disrespected or get a red flag or don't feel right in my spirit about the man he's GONE Instantly. I'll delete and block the number so fast. I don't have time to waste.
Tony.. you’ve been programmed into my subconscious mind. Truthfully you’re the first guy who has had a positive impact which has allowed for me to be led when it’s something weird going on, I remember my worth, and now it feels as my worth is so set in stone, it’s stuck with me like a tattoo. I hope you and your family are great; I’m tremendously grateful for Mrs & Mr. Gaskins.
I been "SLAP CRAZY" , Tony I knew better to try to deal with someone when they lied about small things. But now ...cut off and healing. Thank you for your videos.
I never let a guy ses me with my weave off cause I went through breast cancer ....I dont think Im ready for that. My hair didnt grow back like it should. I thank God for giving me the gift of being a hair stylist. My challenge today that I struggle with is someone accepting me and loving me through what I went through. Some men these days are into breast butt and hair . I had to a breath reduction as well as my right breast removed. I'm thankful cause God bring me through it
My cut off rules are crucial. I will cut you off if I see you don't respect your baby momma Why because for one you didn't marry her So least you can do is respect her I know one of my cut off offenses is here recently lead to me cutting a guy back off. He had reached his limit with me And I simply told him He was FREE TO GO Needless to say He wasn't happy But neither was I And I am glad I viewed this video So I feel like I did the right thing And have and will keep moving on Hoping to create love elsewhere
I stumbled across a Q&A Mr. Gaskins did with his wife a while back.......I happened to scroll to a part where she said something to the effect of "I've never been the type to care much about the superficial stuff, if you were not making me FEEL good, comfortable and secure, I have no problem leaving you". BOY, what a word!!! Personally I feel like I have always given good looking men a little more slack, especially if they had their lives in some kind of order. This would cause me to over-extend the benefit of the doubt and keep myself in situations way past there expiration, which led to more headaches and potential heartaches. Ladies, that advice is solid! Leave people right where they are with their dysfunction, ain't no exceptions💯
Ladies the best way to cut them off is to prevent them grown boys in the first place. When you write your online profile put on there you watch Tony Gaskins videos- instant block! 😂
If that spiritual bit ain't the truth! Every time I would drive back home, he would do a prayer for me. ...He was one of those "smart guys, very clever too. A thinker you could say" look back in hindsight, I think to myself, "what a waste of man, to play a women's heart like that"
Yup, same here. Would pray together every night before we sleep but the next day if he got angry at me he’d tell me to shut the fxck up and curse me the hell out. Safe to say, I finished it with him last night. Warned him the first time, second time with out warning it was a block and a see ya later mate 👋🏽
@@susanntillzxo3626 good for you girl. I'm glad you got out, trust me I know it ain't easy. We are worth gold, worthy to be loved the right way. Love shouldn't cause pain. Stay strong. You're beautiful.
Been doing it all wrong and I am doing my best to become better, it is not easy to regain your self value after you’ve made mistakes. But God forgives and what matters is to change from now on.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time!
my.02 my mom used to always say that I wish I listened lol
Liz M ikr! Lol
Amen
My grandma just told me this the other day. This statement is definitely key 🔑
Facts!💯✌👌
We need to stop acting like men are the prize 😖 WOMEN ARE THE PRIZE
Amen
Yes !!! 💯
Said that louder!
Your generalization is incorrect and neo-feminist mentality. 🤮
Men are the consumers of women in the dating market, not the other way around.
Women give way too many chances. A man, he can drop, go, and get with the next woman in less than a week.
Yep
Less then an hour 🤷🏾♀️
@@missstacey7935 yep, happened to me. 24 hours after I left, he was reaching out to 2 women.
Jessie C Love so true
Except they usually come back 6 months or a year later lol. We take longer to let go, but when we do, there's no turning back.
Cut off game is as strong as Mike Tyson on steroids 🤣 Men will waste your whole life if you let em, so don’t even waste time trying to change one. Keep it stepping in your heels 👠 👍🏽💯
Preachhhh
Susssssss! Yessss🙌🏾
Alice Moody 💯💯❤️
Block hand 🖐🏾 has the strength of Samson! 😂
Gigi Brown I know that’s right 😂👏🏽 💪🏽
"Be ready and be willing to let go. There is no time to waste!" Yes Lord!!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🙏🙌
Yes lord !
Yessss lorddd❤️💪🏽🙏🏽
“You can’t play around too long with the red flags .
He’s doing that INTENTIONALLY. He knows exactly what he’s doing. “
th3nigmatic this 💯 and they still won’t care
@@marshellepayne4020 why tho? Why hurt someone intentionally??
@@buttaflygirl05 Cuz they are evil narcissists.
What a rude awakening!! I knew this about some men with other women. BUT ALL men! I had known this.. ."men know how to treat a woman." When i was 14!!?? Id still be a Virgin. That makes me MAD!!
@@travelchannel304 Me too A VIRGIN FOR LIFE. lol
“Contrary to popular belief, a man knows how to treat a woman.” Thank you TG for this. This ministered to me on it’s own.
Yet somehow we always feel the one we're dealing with is an exception and genuinely dumb..
Facts!!!!!!
"You not dealing with a DUMMY .....these men are not Dumb"!!! -TG
So true these men not Dumb!!
not at all😳
They Shole ain't
Nope they play dumb
@@billie-ocean8286 right
He can be a square, a jock, dumb as rock or smart as an astronaut. He knows how to treat a woman
Lol😂😂😂
😄🤷🏾♂️
The Florida Seuss
Your son knows how to treat girls because he has a great example in seeing how you treat your wife....BRAVO! 👏🏽
Right that’s a big part of it too
Those guys who have a good cut off game will be the same ones talking about "HEY YOU" out the blue after he has cut you off....
Home truth
Facts
Its a test. Run .
Thankfully we don't have to entertain them
Oh yes
It's one thing when someone puts me at the bottom of the list, and it's another for me to purposefully co-sign to be placed at the bottom. Being kind is not an excuse to knowingly accept being mistreated. No ma'am. No sir.🙌🏽
Factsssss
Amen. I threw myself down as his doormat. Sitting on hold while he took other calls....and forgot about me....Waiting for him to call when he promised to...he didn't care. And he didn't care because I had put myself on the clearance rack. Now I've taken myself off, and marked myself up. I'm all done playing with the grown boys.
@@JesusIsTheWay.Truth.Life. Wonderful! Wishing You Peace & Joy.😊🙏🏽
Brother you are a blessing to me! I've learned so much about being the man i aspire to be because of you. Honestly some of us men just need the right guidance and to be honest with ourselves.
Takes real men to be humble enough to acknowledge some things. Big up.
Wow! Its refreshing to see there's men here aspiring to improve themselves. Commend you Charlie
@@missybella9046 I commend You as well👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 You gentleman are the True alphas that we need more of.
Bless you my brother..
Every man has the ability in them. Because God said he made Man in his own image. You gotta it
I have unfortunately dealt with a lot of dead ends and recently a narcissist. On a positive note, he only killed what needed to die inside of me. My abandonment issues and insecurities which my narc mother kindly gave me. On the road of healing. Dated another guy. There were no red flags. Then I caught him in a lie and I cut him off. He is now begging to talk to me by texting and calling me. I haven't even blocked him and I'm not even getting triggered. That's how you cut someone off when they disrespect you. Silence. No need for a dramatic scene. I am 30 and I am only learning my worth in 2020 👸🏾
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AMAZING!!! Can’t wait to get to this place of being unbothered
@@shantalbarbot5801 it's not easy.. it took my years and distance to not be triggered by my mother. I spent my early 20s angry at the world and not even sure why. I can sit in a room with her and i treat her like she is air - non existent, i don't even acknowledge her. I wish I had learnt what she was and gone to therapy so I hadn't ended up in this narc situationship.. but hey, we live and we learn. I died early this year but now i am reborn thanks to therapy, self love and care. Currently using my knowledge on my narc colleague at work.. 🤸🏾♀️😂 it's all fun when you know how they function.
If he's giving you breadcrumbs and ghosting he's doing it intentionally. He's a 0/10 in my book.
Next!
This the one amen
I just told someone 2020 is a no tolerance for bs for me and beyond. Keep the drama over there. I refuse to be second choice, doormat, etc. Bye bye✌
Yes girl yea!!! Same!! The garbage will take out themselves!!
Yes girl yea!!! Same!! The garbage will take out themselves!!
Yes queen
Men act like they don’t know what women want after they get you but think back to when you first met him. He knew how to get you didn’t he. Alright then he knows exactly what you want and need from him.
This 💯🥲
Had to sc this. It really helped me realize some things i was in denial of
Same thing it took to get me same thing to keep me
Exactly! My ex used to buy me flowers every week and then he stopped. That was the beginning of the end.
"LOVE IS NOT FOUND IT IS CREATED"....well said TG so true
Major facts!
It is bestowed from God actually.
The only relationship thing I do well is cutting off men!! Once I realised it actually give you power & shows him you don’t care about loosing him I use and abuse that method 😂
Lmaoo
Same. 😭
Girl I do it all the time lol
Girl. BLOCKDT!!!
Yupppp ! Feel so liberated when I do it ! 🤣
Women are usually in one of two different types relationships with men who really don't even exist, she is either hanging in there waiting on his representative to resurface or she is in a relationship with 'Potential Man" the man who she hopes he turns into, either way neither one of these men really exist. If women stayed in the here and now and made decisions based on who the man actually is, not who he used to be and not who she hopes he becomes, it will be easier for her to walk away from a toxic relationship.
Great explanation!
Great ,response
Absolutely I agree, I use to do this not anymore I will never fall in love with “Mr potential” or who I thought he was it’s a big headache.
@La this explanation is amazing. Thank you.
@@AriaPringle9053 Sure no problem, I'm happy it helped some, take care!
Thank you Tony! I called him out on his grown boy games, and he ghosted me for 8 days. He tried calling me last night, but I didn't answer. He can't hurt me anymore.
My situation sounds similar. I'm not dealing with it anymore. I'm better than his 2nd, 3rd or 5th choice & I'm not willing to lower my crown to accommodate his actions. I'm on day 4 of not contacting him & I'm doing just fine. Getting stronger everyday
@@goldenlifelove7251 Good job! You can do it! Keep it up...but beware when he comes crawling back. It happened to me and sadly I relapsed for a short period of time. I was lonely, and loneliness will make you vulnerable. I'm happy to say now that I've stayed in no contact for a couple weeks again, and this time it's forever. 😊
YESSSSSSSSSSS
@@goldenlifelove7251 update
Mine is similar too! He ghosted me for a month, he left Jan 14 and popped back up on Feb 14 trying to get me back. I kept talking to him but haven’t slept with him again because my trust was gone. Like what were you doing for a whole month without talking to me wtf! I was trying to make it work but now im guarded and he’s bitter he ain’t sleeping with me…. 2 days ago he told me he done with my mind games 😱🤯what!!! The pain I went through during the month he ghosted me… I couldn’t eat or sleep, blurred vision, lost my hair from stress..now I am just healing 😢
“Look at the quality of life you want to have. If a man is not at that level or if he doesn’t agree that’s a quality of life, that’s not your husband. Stop compromising in those areas for something that’s a dealbreaker for you. The perfect person for you is out there.”
Love this, absolutely Ashanti said it best " The things you accept, are the things you regret" Know your worth and demand it!!🥰
Wow!¡!!!!
A King will always be prepackaged by God, not man's suggestions, ideas, or culture!
So true
True, prepackaged by God. However, Tony is letting us know what to look for... What to stop and what to reinforce. His opinions are based off his life experiences as well as stories he's gathered from clients. Which are very relatable!🥴😂💯
If you dont agree with his suggestions, ideas or culture, why are you on here Bro?..
YES!!!
🗣🗣🗣
Yes Suh🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
My cut off game is so strong, thank God!!! because I used to be so weak minded when I started dating at 18, I’m grateful God gave me that strength!!! I’m 23 now and grown so much❤️🙏🏾
Same here! Im 21 but feel like I’ve learned so much thanks to Mr Gaskins! Im now teaching my friends about things that I had issues learning myself..
Same!! I’m 23 and I don’t know but something clicked this year!
Tony, you teach your son how to treat a woman when he sees how you treat his mother. He sees a great example. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Dr. Elaine amen
Liz M Tony doesn’t give himself enough credit for being a great role model to his sons.
Same thing I wss thinking. He is immulating TG
Some men dont know when a woman says LEAVE ME ALONE... DO SO!
I’m 29. I wish I would’ve known what I know now before! My life would be completely different! But God is still good.
29 is still so young! You’re still in a good position. 💕
Yeah, you still got some good time. I wish I saw this 10 years ago.
He gonna say a prayer at the end of every conversation.. lmbo Yes, Men will play the role
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 closing off each call with a prayer
@Jerseygirl8999 m yes ma'am so true. Never show your hand just sit back and watch him reveal the real him....
@@Trailblazers323😂😂😂😂
They are the best actors 😂
If you say “loose booty 901 “ one more time 😂🤣
I sweeeeeear 😂🤣
😅
She’s become one of my favorite characters 😂😂
Blessed Bae he’s hilarious
Lol
I’ve finally gotten my cut off game down. Ladies, once you get it down it feels SO good. Thank you Tony.
I’m the cut off Queen.
I’ve learned how to over the last 2 years. And it feels SO good😎. No time for it here either😁👍🏽
@@jojobk12able 🤣🤣🤣
I know you talking the women mostly but I needed this one though bro fr 💯💪🙏
You're brave for being in this comment section! 😂
@@essencesmith553 🤣🤣🤣
Tony will speak to anyone who is willing to receive the messages, Thank you for coming with an open mind🙏🏽🙏🏽
💯
Wow I just cut someone off a hour ago wow this is intervention🙌🏾
Hi five!! I did 2 days ago
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 wow
Same! With no remorse
I'm about to do the same 😏
youngmulabarbie28 yasssss confirmation 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Having a history of child abuse is the number one reason why women stay in abusive relationships because that abuse is familiar. Intellectually, women know the relationship is abusive and unhealthy, but unhealed wounds from childhood keeps a woman going back.
Yesssss
Her head and her heart are at war. Her head says it’s toxic, but her unhealed heart says this abuse feels familiar.
Very true
So true because the pain threshold is higher
Generation curses of abuse addicted to chaos
And I'll add a quality about Mrs. Gaskins-- on all social media platforms she ALWAYS HAS CLASS. Respectfully and modestly dressed, respecting her husband and sons. Very RARE these days, even from women who say they are CHRISTIAN. Beautiful wife- an example.
I agree about Mrs. Gaskins! She is exactly that classy queen in real life too! This powerful, beautiful couple the 🐐 of relationships! They walk the talk!🥰
Facts
Agreed. Having a wife with those qualities makes everything easier.
True story Tony. My fiance engaged me after 5weeks of meeting me. He expressed on the first day that I was his wife. So far so God.
I have dated grown boys who dragged me along for 2years and no commitment.
Learnt a lot from Tony. God bless you
I would love to hear where you are at with this man now @blessed ?
Amazing, congratulations 🎉
@@geegeehudson5816 they must be married by now,I guess❤❤❤
@@maryshiwoku2211 I sure do hope they are
My cut off game was weak. But I am working on it by learning about red flags, my self worth and learning about the game .Watching this channel and reading his relationship books helped me elevate to a queen. 😴😴😴
❤
Great message. I’m learning to become more in love with myself, not compromising my standards just to say I have a man... If his character does not line up with the will of God. He will get cut off immediately!!
“He out there changing your oil & he doesn’t even know how to change oil” 🤣
✂️✂️✂️ thanks to the Lord and Tony Gaskins my cut off Game IS 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽🙌🏼
Period !
It's like we never met👏🏾👏🏾
Same here. 👏👏👏 Thanks to Tony my cut off game has gotten real good.
Ashley exactly
Same here!!!!
Not holding on to “someone” to block The One!💯
Clearing my phone out right now .deletes deleted, deleted. Done being put at the bottom of someones list . They don't measure up to me anyway. Will definitely delete and block. Good riddence.
🙌🏾✌🏾👉🏾🚪‼️
My cut off game so tight... I'll forget you even existed...they'll keep trying to come back but they stay on block. My time and energy means everything to me and if I have to teach a man, he ain't it for me.
Honestly i give it 3 months. Every three months you get that evaluation. Three months is when you start seeing things. most men forget that they playing a role and start to slip up within the 3 months. Gat ta Go 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
"Always be willing to walk away" 🗣💯🗣💯🗣💯💎💎
Tony's videos are 🔥 Now I don't feel bad. My mom and sister would joke with me about how quickly I cut off a man who isn't doing right. As Tony said, men know exactly what they do wrong and I'm not here to babysit and pacify a grown man into changing
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Right
Exactly!
Most everyone has the same tasks in life: dealing with unfairness, struggles, work, relationships, families etc. Nobody gets to opt out. Over functioning, over caring, over empathizing, over sympathizing, and over feeling is not an effective way to do life. There is a price for being nice. Stay connected to others but do not do more than your part (i.e. know what you can, choose and want to do). Let everybody around you grow up and you will experience a higher version of your soul.
Wow this is such a beautiful message, full-of enlightment and truth!!! Love it🥰
Yes! When people show you who they are, believe them! 🙌🙌 Took me 20 years of denial, false hope & heartbreak! And I'm finally starting to heal!
This man truly loves his wife. The things that he define as a good wife is what I wish my soon to be ex would have seen. But now i see it was years with a grown boy. A grown boy doesn’t value any of that.
So true but now that I'm ready to leave he wants to talk about how much he loves me and how I am special to him.
I can identify with that. I was a good wife. Above and beyond the call. I had to finally leave. I’m worth more than how I was treated. He was shocked when I left. They think you will put up with it forever. He played himself. Grown boy that should have known better for his age.
phinola Nurse definitely sounds like a grown boy tactic. They do that to keep us stuck for years. I should’ve been gone, but he knew just what to say to make me stay. Unfortunately he walked out on me and our son, but actually I’m fortunate he did it.
Pat Wilson it’s so sad. I’m glad we have learned our worth. Tony is teaching me so much.
Thenewnatural 8918 He is truly a blessing from God.
I’m laughing right now.
Tony just cheered me up.
My little girl is having surgery right now.
My spirits were just uplifted.
May God see you through, she'll be fine in Jesus name 🔥🔥.
Hope her surgery went well!
God bless you and your daughter all the best to you
I’m big on communicating I gave some leeway the fact that life happens I’m not going to allow any man to make me feel as if I’m hard to love period.
Wishing a speedy healing 💜🙏💜
Point Blank Peri-OD ‼️‼️‼️ Thank you Uncle Tony
Speak! Mr. Gaskins said “that man ain’t change that oil.” 😂😂😂😂
Thank You! For your continued words of encouragement for the women and Men. You just don't know how powerful your words are and What God gives to you are helping people. Blessings to you and your family!!!
Sierra M. 🥴🥴🥴😂😂😂😂
This was funny. Chile if he is out there pretending to change my oil.. If my moter lock up. We got a problem. 🤦♀️😭
JayTime Vlogs 4ever exactly 😂😂😂
9 months inconsistent in communication. He tried to reverse it on me. Me fighting with the grown girl in myself, I knew it wasn’t right, but didn’t know how to handle it. Long story short, I showed him I’m not the one (as if he ain’t already know) and made it to where we’re BOTH done for good this time. It’s hard for me to turn a guy I like down so I knew he woulda kept coming back, this time I think I sent him back to his ex. Lol I couldn’t take it no more. It’s time I get it together for SELF. I come to Tony Gaskins on ALL platforms for healing. And trust me ladies it WORKS. It HELPS. I get my mind right and the focus is where it should be. Keeps me busy.
LOVE....AND I CAN RELATE TO YOUR STORY 🙌🏾. It’s a great feeling and my blood pressure decreased drastically. Blessings!!! ❤️
This comment is me!!!!!
@Alyce Browne update
“Love is CREATED not FOUND!” So good.
It was nearly deja vu when you said “you knew at 6 months this wasn’t the one but you said I put so much time in.” Yes I did that in my 9 year marriage and my recent break up 90 days ago for a year. I will no longer let people waste my precious time. I’m working on me right now but when guys try me ima cut of flags in less then 30’days because women become emotional and try to see the good in people.
😂😭 the Hershey kiss
I don’t know why some women have a hard time cutting men off. The earlier the better save yourself the later heartbreak. Respectfully communicate and address what needs to be addressed but when he doesn’t check himself with the non negotiable things , choose yourself/don’t waste your time.
I don’t listen to every and every relationship coach/RUclips video men make but let me tell you, after that first painful heartbreak as an adult. I have gained a lot of wisdom from Tony Gaskins and a select others. It was like I was studying 📝. I’m 27 and many men wonder where I get my wisdom from & my ability to walk away they don’t believe until they try it ! Prayer, discernment, and knowledge from respectable experienced coaches/adults.
Tony you need to produce your own show. Life with the Gaskins.
I love to see him on " According to Him And Her" that comes on on BET.
Amen
Am I the only one that watch his videos more than once ?? Soon as it end I start it over lol have me a good ol laugh and lesson !
Yep
When you said about 365 days is enough time to know if your that mans future wife is so true bc I remember one of my exes proposed to me after like 11 months of dating but he ended up being an abuser but that’s so true. I would never wait around for a man 5 years plus and what not
"Whole tracks done fell out on the floor. Done slipped on the track and fell on the tile"🤣😂🤣😂🤣
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thanks to God and the pain I went through in the past with my divorce my cutoff game is strong 💪 I'm not like most woman. I don't care how fine or sexy or rich the man is. the moment I get disrespected or get a red flag or don't feel right in my spirit about the man he's GONE Instantly. I'll delete and block the number so fast. I don't have time to waste.
I'm a Christian... I Love the spiritual side of your message 🙏
Me TOO
With every video I gain more knowledge so when its time to date I will be fully equipped on what to look for.
Same
My cut off game is strong 💪. I DEALT with something a few months ago. Know your worth!!! Time does heal..
Tony.. you’ve been programmed into my subconscious mind. Truthfully you’re the first guy who has had a positive impact which has allowed for me to be led when it’s something weird going on, I remember my worth, and now it feels as my worth is so set in stone, it’s stuck with me like a tattoo. I hope you and your family are great; I’m tremendously grateful for Mrs & Mr. Gaskins.
I been "SLAP CRAZY" , Tony I knew better to try to deal with someone when they lied about small things. But now ...cut off and healing. Thank you for your videos.
Same! God definitely speak to us through some people.
I never let a guy ses me with my weave off cause I went through breast cancer ....I dont think Im ready for that. My hair didnt grow back like it should. I thank God for giving me the gift of being a hair stylist. My challenge today that I struggle with is someone accepting me and loving me through what I went through. Some men these days are into breast butt and hair . I had to a breath reduction as well as my right breast removed. I'm thankful cause God bring me through it
Well just continue to care for your scalp and hair so it can be the best and healthy underneath the protective looks. Best of health to you.
Yah bless you 😪🙌 sending a hug your way💞
Not the Hershey Kiss!!🤣🤣🥴🥴🥴😱😱
I’m in tears🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was weak 😂😂
😂😂😲😲😂😂 he might need to go see a Dr! Lol I just refuse to believe he never knew those drawers look like that in his 30+ years of life!
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DEBO
@@citygirl713 ROTFL😹😹
Just in time! I just climbed in bed. Blessed Tribe what's good?!♥️
Me too
Me too
Me too !🥱😴
“Trying to justify that lil nasty hand”
I am HOLLERING 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I stopped everything just to watch, Love Big Bro Tony Soo much
In watching Tony’s videos, I notice around that 30 - 40 min mark, he starts to preach. He lets spirit guide him 🙏🏽
That 1 Year Rule Is the TRUTH Tony! Wish I had of heard about that earlier. I could have saved myself 6 years. (1 Year vs. 7 years)
You waiting on them bundles to come in 😂😂😂😂 omg guys looking at all that ...lawddd 😩😩😂😂
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And the lashes. OMG I love this man 😆😆😆😆
My cut off rules are crucial.
I will cut you off if I see you don't respect your baby momma
Why because for one you didn't marry her
So least you can do is respect her
I know one of my cut off offenses is here recently lead to me cutting a guy back off.
He had reached his limit with me
And I simply told him
He was FREE TO GO
Needless to say
He wasn't happy
But neither was I
And I am glad I viewed this video
So I feel like I did the right thing
And have and will keep moving on
Hoping to create love elsewhere
12 mooooooooonths???? **In my Soulja Boy voice**...A smooth 6 is all I've got at this age.
Girllll I watch every video!!! Hahahaha
Same here,6 months at most.
12 months too long 6 months is tops for me I am 35...once I cut of a guy then they want to change..too late by you go find another one..
Why did I say this in my solja boy voice
Mine was 4 months
“...while you’re waiting to get your bundles shipped in...” - TG 🤦🏽♀️😂
Country accents make everything so much more funny to me 🤣🤣💕💕💎💎
Tony.... you have SAVED me from my false beliefs about what I thought I deserved. Thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I stumbled across a Q&A Mr. Gaskins did with his wife a while back.......I happened to scroll to a part where she said something to the effect of "I've never been the type to care much about the superficial stuff, if you were not making me FEEL good, comfortable and secure, I have no problem leaving you". BOY, what a word!!!
Personally I feel like I have always given good looking men a little more slack, especially if they had their lives in some kind of order. This would cause me to over-extend the benefit of the doubt and keep myself in situations way past there expiration, which led to more headaches and potential heartaches. Ladies, that advice is solid!
Leave people right where they are with their dysfunction, ain't no exceptions💯
Ladies the best way to cut them off is to prevent them grown boys in the first place. When you write your online profile put on there you watch Tony Gaskins videos- instant block! 😂
Haha. Your so funny! Watching tony gaskins videos definitely a grown boy repellent!!!
Lol🤣
I'm single as all outdoors w/ literally NO PROSPECTS at the moment 🤣🤣 These videos make me feel so empowered!!!!
Yyyyeeeeahhhhh
Yea i dont know about personal hygiene problems because that’ll freak me out we too old to not know how to clean
My cut off game is strong!!!!! At the first sign of disrespect or you crossed my boundaries! I know my worth as a woman!
If that spiritual bit ain't the truth! Every time I would drive back home, he would do a prayer for me. ...He was one of those "smart guys, very clever too. A thinker you could say" look back in hindsight, I think to myself, "what a waste of man, to play a women's heart like that"
Yup, same here. Would pray together every night before we sleep but the next day if he got angry at me he’d tell me to shut the fxck up and curse me the hell out. Safe to say, I finished it with him last night. Warned him the first time, second time with out warning it was a block and a see ya later mate 👋🏽
@@susanntillzxo3626 good for you girl. I'm glad you got out, trust me I know it ain't easy. We are worth gold, worthy to be loved the right way. Love shouldn't cause pain. Stay strong. You're beautiful.
My cut off game strong💪🏽
Men immediately know when they've met THE ONE. There's someone then there's THE ONE. There's the placeholder then there's the game changer.
Hurts to know but true. If a man likes you he likes you, no need to try to change his mind
Well said...
Love is not found, its created..That is so good
My cut off game is so on point right now. Thank you Tony 🙏🏽
I never ever expected this coach is so humorous 😂 One of a kind and very helpful
I lost it at Hershey kiss😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Yes my 5 year old brought a pink highlighter to school to give a girl, and said you have to do alot with a crush, like pick up their water bottle 😂
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💙💙💙 this man is the real deal!
The back to back uploads are nothing but gems! Thank you Tony!
I about died laughing about the tampon blowing up and turning into a parachute 🤣
Omg 😆😂😂😂😂😂
Riight tony knows to much lol
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😂😂😂😂. TG is HILARIOUS while spitting game😂
Been doing it all wrong and I am doing my best to become better, it is not easy to regain your self value after you’ve made mistakes. But God forgives and what matters is to change from now on.
Yes❤️❤️❤️
His southern accent is so 🔥 😍!! Lol
Tony, your videos are life saving. Humor, truth, wisdom, and self confidence for women, LOVE IT!
The bad breath example had me weak 😂😂😂😂
“He done slipped on the track” 😂😂😂 But seriously, you’re videos are very appreciated! Genuine and upfront insight.
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“Is everything ok?” 🤣🤣🤣😆😂