@Fateme-p I do not think I as an individual who can personally help. But I will pray for you and everyone around you. May you be a beacon of light and hope. God Bless You!
I've been wondering about my attitude towards others lately. Am i being rude or am i doing right?? But this video make me realise i'm the independency type...
"The perfect definition of love is to give someone the complete authority to destroy you. But at the same time being confident that they will never do it" - Johnny Bravo
I’m definitely been guilty of depending on a loved one but once i honed in on my inner locus of control i realized you dont need to latch on to others rather you can find someone to compliment your own life. Great video 💜
See, I was trying to find out if my relationship was toxic or not out of fear. A lot of the years, I’ve been told how a relationship has to be. At one point, I let go of that expectation and focused on individuality while still being in each other’s presence. It was so exhausting in the past relationships when I couldn’t be myself. It feels refreshing to have an emotional bond with someone who lets me breathe.
@@Psych2go Don't want to be { overly } dependent on others and Don't want to ever get too attached to anyone Or anything { everything however enjoyable has to end at some point } and { I } Don't want to ever suffer Grief ⚰️ or Heartbreak 💔 AND Don't want anyone else to suffer Grief 🪦 Or Heartbreak 💔 on my account either 😮💨 . So , that's why IF I EVER DO get into a romantic relationship I'll want it to be a perfect hybrid for the last two examples on your list in this video. ♑️✍️🇦🇺🇸🇯
I definitely fall under independency. I’ve been let down, pushed down, and kicked when I’m down a lot in my life. It’s made intimacy and trust very difficult. Being on the aro/ace spectrum only adds to this. I do enjoy the company of my trusted few but there’s many doubts that spiral through my head telling me the other shoe is going to drop when I least expect it.
im on the ace spectrum too and i feel like lately ive definitely been going into the independency side of things and i have no idea what i'm supposed to do to stop
@@hohinwagemans3684 Yes and no. My dad died in 2013 and my mom is one of the leading causes of my anxiety. She and I have always been like oil and water but we are trying to mend our relationship.
@@m2pozad no dude,self love is vitale for a humain being, be able to want the best for yourself, dedect a true freind or someone who would juste take adavantage of your low self estim and essurence to draine you,etc...
@@mstenacious274 There is no advantage to putting self-love before being loved. We were loved first. Then become loving. For the less fortunate, being loved later is the guiding hand to both self-love and loving others.
I tend to overdepend on others, and that first situation has happened to me on several occasions. Each time it hurts a bit more because it always seems to happen when I think I've moved on and can handle that stuff better. I think this dependency might partly be a result of how I was raised, as my father is a pilot I never saw him much, and I am very much like my mother. I also was homeschooled basically until college, so I don't have much social experience compared to everyone else. I tend to hyperfixate on one person for my happiness and then when it grows toxic and they want to break it off (for valid reasons), it's devastating. I've definitely gotten better at handling it, but the fact it is still happening is a bit discouraging. I'm almost 20 and have never once been in a relationship and I don't think I will until I figure this stuff out but I don't know if that will ever happen
I also tend to hyperfixate on one person, i want to spend most of my time talking to that person becauce it makes me feel happy. But if they then cut off the contact im devastated because i feel like i cant be happy without them (wich is complete nonsense because i know i can). It also makes me insecure as im not really good with social aspects so i then i think im boring or something. I eventually get sort of over them but deep inside me i still miss them. I also have the feeling i will stay single untill ive figured this out wich probably will be a very long time (wich makes me kinda sad but oh well...). But im gonna make the best out of it :)
I am a polar opposite. None of my relationships have ever lasted a month let alone years. I suppose if you do the stereotypical "it all goes back to the parents" thing, I suppose they both had their own issues and were somewhat distant, but I think a lot of it had to do with more recent abuse from peers and that's when I really started to become cold. I have to force myself to not see dating and friendships as time wasted because I have so many other things I could be doing than dealing with people that I have to make myself talk to.
Can very much relate to this. I’m an INFP-T. Mother passed away when I was younger. So whether I like it or not that made me vulnerable at a young age. This increased my dependent traits and I overcompensate by being agreeable and telling people to chase their dreams even if it is without me. Self sacrifice to empathize with another’s dreams is how I love. But let me tell you. Don’t think you won’t find love. Even with my dependent characteristics, I’ve broke up with people bc I didn’t love them. Find the person you love mentally and emotionally. The rest will sort itself out as you unravel day to day :-)
Throughout my life I've been basically living independent (even though I live under my family's roof). I've been like I've been like this is because my parents got divorced, me & my elder sister had a falling out, my middle sister keeps using me to do her chores, I've been heartbroken by the girl I've loved, I've been lied to & scammed, and I've lost my grandmother. This keeps reminding me that most of the time, no one's around to help me and I have to do things myself. I'm willing to let people help me, it's just that sometimes it's hard to know whether they really want to help me or not
I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THIS. Its hard to fully trust someone because we’ve learned that at the end of the day we only have ourselves so we have to make do with ourselves. But to others this comes across as us being self centred or unaffetionate- or it might just be me😭
This perfectly demonstrates why being confident in who you are is so so important to develop before getting into a relationship!! No body is perfect and growing in self-confidence is a daily practice. But every time you speak up for yourself and assert your boundaries, you are practicing self-respect!! And a healthy relationship leaves room for that :)
First of all, the artwork on the various personality types is 👌🏾. Secondly it would be great to see a video on the independent personality types. The part about not letting others in because you only trust yourself is exactly what I’m going through right now.
@@Psych2go In one/two particular relationship(s) I didn't " let 'em in " Not cause I didn't trust them More to the point , I didn't trust Me. 😮💨♑️✍️🇦🇺🇸🇯
I don't trust people. I always am paranoid that someone is talking behind my back or plotting against me. As a result, any relationship I have had has never gone beyond hugs. I never make any moves because I fear that I am moving too fast, even when the relationship is over seven months old. So that is why I ended up living alone, in the middle of a forest, going weeks without seeing another human being. It makes me miserable, but it's where I am.
Interdependency seems like a myth. Every family member, partner, or significant person I ever let in was hurtful. Independence may be lonely and self-centered but it could be far worse!
That's really unfortunate, but don't be afraid to keep an open mind and heart! I can assure you that you will find someone who will genuinely love and care about you/be friends with you! It took me a WHILE, but it did happen! :)
@@brenthipps3080 But quitting just because you did lose people close to you doesn't help either. Take control of your life, don't let your self pity and frustration control your daily life.
I feel this deeply. I only trust my mom and brothers these days. Too many times have I let people in only for them to use or even abuse me or backstab me. The good ones all died. I've got the mental and physical scars and two obituaries of good people who died from suicide to prove it. I even lost my "best friend" of 15 years after years of helping him find jobs and keep out of trouble. At some point, you get tired of trying, and quite frankly, I'm exhausted in every sense: spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. But right now, I'm trying to force myself out of this hole I've been in. Too dark of thoughts for my liking.
I can relate, to an extent... I tend to push people away and do stuff independently unless and until I absolutely *have to* accept someone's help. I was always a very private person (though I am an extrovert, I am pretty reserved in terms of what I share about myself) and almost every time I let someone in, they made me regret it. But those bad times also showed me who my true friends were and though living with trust issues is hard, I trust my best friends and I know they've got my back... I hope you'll find people like them in your life too ❤
The "independency" part sparked a lightbulb in my mind, It all makes sense now. One of my childhood friends listed all those points described, perfectly. This helps me understand them more, I will use it to get through to them easier next time we have troubles. Ty for the video!!
I relate with the Independency type of "Love" and would love to change to Interdependency. Thanks for breaking down these types of "Love" now I know where i am. Thanks Again
The art and the animation is great! It helps me understand a bit more, and also makes the video quite entertaining!! Keep it up! If anyone cares, I think I'm in the interdependency group :D
Based on prejudge is really a bad sign. You got bad experience, but doesn't mean to generalize every. You can be more cautious and need time to get know better instead of push away.
I had a 2 year relationship with a dependent person who was very sweet and kind, but couldn’t make decisions on her own. I tried very hard to make the big decisions and help her as much as I could. I didn’t mind it then, but eventually she started to feel like she could do things on her own and we broke up. I know I didn’t do anything WRONG per se, but in retrospect I probably should have tried to help her feel less dependent through the relationship rather than solve all the issues for her. I think she walked out on a relationship with incredible potential, but now I know to look for someone with a stronger sense of self and individuality
I’m just getting out of a relationship with someone who was super independent to a fault. It was hard for me bc he never really allowed me to get to close to him. I feel like bc we couldn’t find how to communicate with each other in a positive way, our relationship and connection suffered resulting in us not being able to trust each other. I take full responsibility for my part in everything. I tried until I couldn’t try any longer. I walked away.
Happened to me too. And, I was never good enough, even if I was. I think it's a way they avoid truly opening up, fear of trusting another, and possible narcissism (refusal to show any weakness). They can be appealing at first, but not in the long run. Overly avaricious. Peace.
Yeah... I suffer from independency. I have trust issues, hate bothering others, and often try to do everything myself. That might be why I'm 34 and still single.
For the people (male) I've been with. I'm the one with the perspective with the open expressive self I do share my expierence or talk about. As far as anything else though. I'm not the one who becomes horriblely corrupt or toxic. That isn't me at all. It would be nothing more then dark or selfish desires because people wouldn't care. Seriously no one is perfect. You just have to be yourself. No need to go so far to really be over the top. You will have your own growth. I've done with suffering through abuse from heartless people
def the independency. I am independent, can do things myself, even though others don't want me to do things alone. I am very much a loner / prefer to keep to myself / my hobbies. Others are often inconsiderate about my boundaries.
Well as a Person who literally sit still on bed and depressed, I was actually seeking a relationship for once and I quickly disregard that when I quickly check what kind of person I am. Tbh I've seen some of my friends with relationship. One is Really Pursue his relationship, One Broke up but tried to fix everything, One is Dominated, and One is already Made a Huge Mistake for Moving the Relationship to Quickly. The things I saw, the things I've Heard is making Doubt my Own Capability to hold a Relationship knowing that Myself Putting a Facade and Lies to my Friends and Distance myself from them. I can never really see myself creating a Healthy Relationship with My Rotten Core. Well I might tear myself up but that's okay rather than Use someone else like. In the end of the Day I will Experience it someday in someways or another.
Wow, I’m very glad I have a interdependency relationship:) Thank you for this video!! It really cleared some things up for me. Wishing all the people good luck on finding your person😊
I was in a co dependent relationship and he was narcissistic and I only served to feed his ego and he was never giving anything back. I had to ask him every day does he love me and why doesn't he show it or say it more and that says a LOT. Until I've realized "I won't put up with this BS anymore and I deserve more and he's so beneath me and doesn't actually deserve me" so I kicked him out of my life and since then I really don't trust anyone and thinking about it I don't need ANYONE to be happy. I make myself happy and fulfilled. Everyone else is just fake or would just drag me down or make me lose myself again and become that weakling. NEVER AGAIN!
I rather let my feelings be a mystery and let people learn about me instead of me trying to tell them who I am but I'm always willing to get to know one another, like asking questions about the person I'll be with one day... I am not dependent because I've been single in my 17 years of living and I've learned that no one will be there in life one day and so I'm prepared for that, I'm the type to not be a narcissist because I've hurt some narcissists mentally, I'm independent but sort of because I've even asked for help with many things, now interdependence or something like that I'm not sure I'll ever experience unless there is some love left on this world 🙁
I came here thinking it was about love languages and instead came out feeling like I have a little bit of everything here (thankfully also including the last one)
LOVE your videos! As a fairly happy (I'm only human😋)single female who has been celibate for over 20yrs, I have to confess- I watch most clips like these to CONFIRM that I have made the Right Decision For Me. 🤗😍🙄😏 After so much heartbreak, therapy, counseling, betrayal and abuse while trying to find someone TO LOVE & WHO WOULD LOVE ME- I finally found the courage to CHOOSE ME. It's RARE to find someone/anyone like the composites you describe as HEALTHY. Heck, IT'S HARD TO PERSONALLY BE HEALTHY YOURSELF!🤣😂😀😆😅😃🤗 Unfortunately the other harmful, destructive, toxic, incompatible, desperate, UNHEALTHY examples have absolutely been in my life as Family, Friends, Co-workers and Lovers. I just got emotionally exhausted, physically sick and realized that I was wasting my Life chasing a Dream that doesn't HAVE TO COME TRUE. Once I allowed myself to TRULY see myself as an Individual Spirit who LOVES HERSELF and does not need any woman or man to "complete me" and that I'd never have kids and would die alone in my old age (I try NOT to lie to myself) I started ACTUALLY having a blast! Traveling through Europe, climbed Egyptian Pyramids, became Fairy Goddess Mother to countless youths and yes, I SPOIL MY CAT. 😙😺😙 I already got my eco friendly body disposal plan thanks to Covid Apocalypse hysteria so......... I am still gonna have fun and do me til I can't no more. I LOVE MY SELF NOW that I am NOT forever thinking about WHY I am NOT lovable, not attractive, what's wrong with me, or what's the deal with the other person........ I honestly wish & hope EVERYONE who wants to be loved by someone else gets their needs met. I DO. I have just lived and tried long enough to understand and sadly come to the conclusion that NOT EVERYBODY GETS A HAPPILY EVER AFTER. NOT EVERYONE RECEIVES THE LOVE, RESPECT OR HUMAN KINDNESS THEY DESERVE. And worse, hardest pill to swallow---- I am one of those unlucky people. But I think the sooner single dynamic people LET GO & MOVE ONE WITH THEIR LIVES, the sooner they CAN CHANGE THEIR LUCK FOR THE BETTER cause ALL the PASSION, MENTAL/EMOTIONAL ENERGY, TIME & MONEY spent on finding a mate or being in a relationship will be then FOCUSED ON THEMSELVES, hopefully for good, positive Life Experiences and Self Development. It could happen! 🙄🤓💘💋💖
2:04 - Wait...was THAT Asriel and Chara?! | 4:20 - "Vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others, will end up broken and alone" Sylvester Stallone.
Wow the first one is really spot on ! My ex was dependent of me and it really finished like it said. I break up with him caused I just needed to breath. I just couldn't go on anymore. It took 6years for me to reach that point but seriously it's the best decision I've made.
Me, depend on other people??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I never make that mistake. I know the only person I can truly rely on is me. People have failed me too many times for me to be stupid enough to depend on them. I don't need people or trust them, because that's the truth.
Hello Psych2go! I love this video so much that their are 2 things I have in me in the most. Its Interdependency and independence Edit: thanks for the 5 likes
Thank you for mentioning toxic independence, Tucker often shows signs of this... we(mostly Holly) have pushed him little by little to open up a bit more open though 😞🙁😔 ~Mason
I think this is spot on but I wouldn’t always label a dependent person as not being able to make decisions for themselves or need their partner to control everything in their life. As a person who tends to be dependent in a relationship I still have enough confidence to make my own choices in life. I love to give my partner space and try not to get clingy. However as long as I don’t come across as helpless it’s kinda nice to rely on your partner for some things. Not in a toxic way more so telling my partner what food I’d like before we go out to eat because I get shy. Small stuff like that. I think dependency can be toxic in some circumstances but being a dependent person isn’t always a bad thing as long as you are balanced with it.
Sadly, I am dependent. Because of a mental problem, if I have nobody around to check on me, I'll forget basic functions, like eating and sleeping. Its why I would have to let the other person learn about me before we live together.
After my breakup I am 100% independent. Whilst single is the best to be independent. You still can be too independent, though, as you still have, well, friends. You’ll also have to be open to the idea of becoming more dependent if you ever get into a romantic relationship.
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I'm codependent, but when someone else doesn't trust me, my neediness comes out. He's independent and afraid. We feel the same but he doesn't trust me, and I don't want the other people to know what's going on between us. He disappears for a week or two every now and then, but when we have actual conversations he reminds me how he feels. Things are really complicated outside of us and that's making our reactions complicated too. I sometimes wonder if he still feels the same way because he doesn't trust me enough to show me how he loves. Psy can you please reply and give me the best response you can. I don't know how to handle this.
I'm going through something similar, I think? Where are your friends, and do you have a therapist? How many needs are you relying on your boyfriend for? How many can you meet on your own, or with other people, while you wait for him? You may find that he'll be more likely to come back to you the more you make him feel comfortable and invited. But you can't do that unless you find appropriate ways to fill your own cup. This relationship you're in might be a wonderful teaching moment for both of you as you heal and learn how to trust and accommodate one another. Do you feel like you have to fix his problems or make things better? Do you trust that he's capable of fixing things on his own? Do you allow yourself to receive his help? Lots of these questions are ones my therapist has asked me in regards to my relationship. Maybe they'll help you!
One type of love is missed in the video. It is the love that almost everyone has for someone else. It is fake love. The users, traitors, and abusers exercise this type of love extremely effectively. They fool millions of people a day. I, myself, fell victim to one of these social predators. She used fake love to lure me into her trap.
I feel like I have a lot of co-dependant relationships with friends (me being the narc) and now I want to look at them and just tell them that they have to find happiness for themselves and I want to be there the whole tome supporting them! It sounds really hard to do though :(
Supporting someone is difficult simply due to it becoming less necessary as people age and create their own independence. You don't have to manage aspects of their life for them, just be ready to catch them when they fall. What's more is that having your own independence makes you even more attractive even if you can't see it. Lastly friendships take work to maintain and they will come and go from your life as fickle as the grains of sand in the Sahara. Gratitude is the best quality you should look for when making friends. People who don't acknowledge what you have to offer or who don't encourage you to be better are of little importance.
Help me out, please... I fall under the independency category and while I know this can be toxic, I have no motivation to change it. See, I am *always* available for the people in my life and I'd gladly help them out the best way I can. But when it all comes down to me, I feel like I'm the only one who can fix myself and even though I know my best friends are always there for me, I try not to lean too much on them and end up not leaning at all. Every person that I let in, in the past, has abused my trust and made me regret meeting them. That's why I have serious trust issues and while I truly trust my best friend and know she loves me a lot, some part of me is extremely scared of the possibility of her leaving me one day. I know I'll break down that day. All the toxic friendships I've had before her, took me for granted, made me feel like I was expecting too much while I was only asking for the bare minimum, and made me feel like I was weak when I turned to them with my problems. I had started to isolate myself in my lowest moments and that was somehow peaceful; knowing I wouldn't have to explain my feelings or hear something that would hurt me further. And now it's a habit. Is independency really such a bad thing? If I'm there for the people I love but I'm okay with figuring out my own mess alone, is it really such a bad thing? I was made to feel like I was clingy for wanting to spend some time with them in my previous toxic friendships and while I'm aware my best friends love me a lot, I don't want to mess up and lose them. Help me out... I'm shit-scared of losing them and idk if my methods are harming me and our relationship.
who cares if someone has some little issues here or there nobodys perfect yet in this life, if everyone listens to you they will never find ANYONE to be in a relationship with, but it is good to understand the different personality types.
I have been in a lot of relationship ..I can say that I have grown a lot ..and thanks to this that I have recently found I can grow even more ..but right now I am in an indepence *sorry if I got it wrong relationship my bf been thought some stuff in the past and he doesn't like to open up..he acts *almost * like the character on the screen
I definitely identify with and want the interdependency love. I’m a person who has a good idea what they like n dislike but I don’t want to always do this alone this world and am willing to help with balance. I fear this type of love is rare to find and why it is partially the reason why I haven’t found it very often when it comes to looking for romantic partners.
I love your videos, they really help me understanding some things better. The art helps understanding it even better, and I love the freddy and Bonnie at 5:01 ^^
Hard for me to explain just how much I can relate to this... independency might look toxic but at least I know I won't hurt myself and truly be there for myself when others won't... right? :)
@@tweety9808 yes. Its a trap 22. You reach out for help, you are let down. Because you are let down, you have to do yourself. As you are ler down and have to yourself anyways, you stop reaching out. Coz you have stopped aaking for help, you need to yourself and are going to stop trusing others.
@@tweety9808 you say you can't hurt yourself but what you're doing is hurting yourself, and there are plenty of people who won't, you just gotta find em
0:38 Dependency.
2:05 Codependency.
3:18 Independency.
5:00 Interdependency.
I'm the third one
Heck yeah
I don't need anyone
Love is worthless, so it makes sence
Thanks 😇
@@lukascisar6740 that's
Super sad..
@Fateme-p I do not think I as an individual who can personally help.
But I will pray for you and everyone around you. May you be a beacon of light and hope. God Bless You!
I've been wondering about my attitude towards others lately. Am i being rude or am i doing right?? But this video make me realise i'm the independency type...
"The perfect definition of love is to give someone the complete authority to destroy you. But at the same time being confident that they will never do it" - Johnny Bravo
Uuff yeah
Bravo for him.
So, I loved my ex, and my ex boxed me like a fish, cranked a 90°, and absolutely murked me in return.
**spits out water** WHO?!
Love is dead. All there is anymore is stupidity. Dont even waste your time...
P2G: "Are you in a relationship?"
me: "No."
P2G: "Congrats!"
Lmaoo P2G wants their subscribers to be sad
@@Viivlet
Lol
İts harder to not being in a relationship than being in one, thats why p2g congrats us
@@MoonGlow22 that's not always the case but it can be. As a single person, I think it would be harder being in a relationship.
😂
I’m definitely been guilty of depending on a loved one but once i honed in on my inner locus of control i realized you dont need to latch on to others rather you can find someone to compliment your own life. Great video 💜
A 'complement' is something that completes something else in some way. But, 'compliment' is a courteous remark that expresses admiration.
Please answer me what is the meaning of life?
YESS SAME 🙌🏼 I'm in the process of transitioning from depending to complementing due to the need of control, any tips? 🙏🏼
@@beluga2857 what do you think it is?
Well said!
See, I was trying to find out if my relationship was toxic or not out of fear. A lot of the years, I’ve been told how a relationship has to be. At one point, I let go of that expectation and focused on individuality while still being in each other’s presence. It was so exhausting in the past relationships when I couldn’t be myself. It feels refreshing to have an emotional bond with someone who lets me breathe.
Those are the ideal relationships :) Congrats on finding someone like that!
@@Psych2go Don't want to be { overly } dependent on others and Don't want to ever get too attached to anyone Or anything { everything however enjoyable has to end at some point } and { I } Don't want to ever suffer Grief ⚰️ or Heartbreak 💔 AND Don't want anyone else to suffer Grief 🪦 Or Heartbreak 💔 on my account either 😮💨 . So , that's why IF I EVER DO get into a romantic relationship I'll want it to be a perfect hybrid for the last two examples on your list in this video. ♑️✍️🇦🇺🇸🇯
@@Psych2go thank you so much ^_^
I love your pfp! Enid is
I definitely fall under independency. I’ve been let down, pushed down, and kicked when I’m down a lot in my life. It’s made intimacy and trust very difficult. Being on the aro/ace spectrum only adds to this. I do enjoy the company of my trusted few but there’s many doubts that spiral through my head telling me the other shoe is going to drop when I least expect it.
Oof that’s seems though but I’m sure of it that you can trust at least your own parents
(Sorry if it doesn’t help)
im on the ace spectrum too and i feel like lately ive definitely been going into the independency side of things and i have no idea what i'm supposed to do to stop
@@hohinwagemans3684 Yes and no. My dad died in 2013 and my mom is one of the leading causes of my anxiety. She and I have always been like oil and water but we are trying to mend our relationship.
@@LunaMoon70 If you find out, let me know. I’m at the stage where even isolation is more fun than most things.
@@sassyghost_8 ow…
my apologies for making a bold conclusion then
Love.
It’s a form of both weakness and a stronghold relationship.
I see it as weakness
Love is sickness
@@lukascisar6740 and you're sad and lonely sooo
It is important to learn self-love (how to love ourselves) before loving others
Not so anymore. That concept has been debunked.
@@m2pozad no dude,self love is vitale for a humain being, be able to want the best for yourself, dedect a true freind or someone who would juste take adavantage of your low self estim and essurence to draine you,etc...
@@mstenacious274 There is no advantage to putting self-love before being loved. We were loved first. Then become loving. For the less fortunate, being loved later is the guiding hand to both self-love and loving others.
True. Remember, you can't pour from your cup if it's empty
I tend to overdepend on others, and that first situation has happened to me on several occasions. Each time it hurts a bit more because it always seems to happen when I think I've moved on and can handle that stuff better. I think this dependency might partly be a result of how I was raised, as my father is a pilot I never saw him much, and I am very much like my mother. I also was homeschooled basically until college, so I don't have much social experience compared to everyone else. I tend to hyperfixate on one person for my happiness and then when it grows toxic and they want to break it off (for valid reasons), it's devastating. I've definitely gotten better at handling it, but the fact it is still happening is a bit discouraging. I'm almost 20 and have never once been in a relationship and I don't think I will until I figure this stuff out but I don't know if that will ever happen
I also tend to hyperfixate on one person, i want to spend most of my time talking to that person becauce it makes me feel happy. But if they then cut off the contact im devastated because i feel like i cant be happy without them (wich is complete nonsense because i know i can). It also makes me insecure as im not really good with social aspects so i then i think im boring or something. I eventually get sort of over them but deep inside me i still miss them. I also have the feeling i will stay single untill ive figured this out wich probably will be a very long time (wich makes me kinda sad but oh well...). But im gonna make the best out of it :)
i hope yall are ok
I am a polar opposite. None of my relationships have ever lasted a month let alone years. I suppose if you do the stereotypical "it all goes back to the parents" thing, I suppose they both had their own issues and were somewhat distant, but I think a lot of it had to do with more recent abuse from peers and that's when I really started to become cold. I have to force myself to not see dating and friendships as time wasted because I have so many other things I could be doing than dealing with people that I have to make myself talk to.
Can very much relate to this. I’m an INFP-T. Mother passed away when I was younger. So whether I like it or not that made me vulnerable at a young age. This increased my dependent traits and I overcompensate by being agreeable and telling people to chase their dreams even if it is without me. Self sacrifice to empathize with another’s dreams is how I love. But let me tell you. Don’t think you won’t find love. Even with my dependent characteristics, I’ve broke up with people bc I didn’t love them. Find the person you love mentally and emotionally. The rest will sort itself out as you unravel day to day :-)
Pretty same guys, I have one friend I love so much, but very miss her, we don't meet each other to much
Throughout my life I've been basically living independent (even though I live under my family's roof). I've been like I've been like this is because my parents got divorced, me & my elder sister had a falling out, my middle sister keeps using me to do her chores, I've been heartbroken by the girl I've loved, I've been lied to & scammed, and I've lost my grandmother. This keeps reminding me that most of the time, no one's around to help me and I have to do things myself. I'm willing to let people help me, it's just that sometimes it's hard to know whether they really want to help me or not
I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THIS. Its hard to fully trust someone because we’ve learned that at the end of the day we only have ourselves so we have to make do with ourselves. But to others this comes across as us being self centred or unaffetionate- or it might just be me😭
i love the anime and fnaf references even more!!! you guys are literally amazing and I’m learning a lot more thanks to your videos, thank tou
Glad you love it!!! Which ones did you notice?
@@Psych2go I noticed the toilet bound hanako kun (yashiro and hanako), haikyuu (kenma and kuroo) and fna ones (Freddy and another animatronic)!
@@lanaa6931 finally someone who noticed these references! Also that’s Freddy with Bonnie
@@mercycakezxox thx!
finally someone who noticed the fnaf references
This perfectly demonstrates why being confident in who you are is so so important to develop before getting into a relationship!! No body is perfect and growing in self-confidence is a daily practice. But every time you speak up for yourself and assert your boundaries, you are practicing self-respect!! And a healthy relationship leaves room for that :)
0:38 Dependency
2:05 Codependency
3:18 Independency
5:00 Interdependency
Thanks 😇
I need someone to love me because I can't love myself
I’m afraid to trust b/c of all who used me. Including my “mom”.
First of all, the artwork on the various personality types is 👌🏾.
Secondly it would be great to see a video on the independent personality types. The part about not letting others in because you only trust yourself is exactly what I’m going through right now.
Thank you for your comment and the idea! We'll let the team know!
@@Psych2go In one/two particular relationship(s) I didn't " let 'em in " Not cause I didn't trust them More to the point , I didn't trust Me. 😮💨♑️✍️🇦🇺🇸🇯
I would love this too! I’m exactly like that too and I just don’t understand why or how to cope:(
I don't trust people. I always am paranoid that someone is talking behind my back or plotting against me. As a result, any relationship I have had has never gone beyond hugs. I never make any moves because I fear that I am moving too fast, even when the relationship is over seven months old. So that is why I ended up living alone, in the middle of a forest, going weeks without seeing another human being. It makes me miserable, but it's where I am.
If you are in the midle of the forest. How do u see this? 🧐
Interdependency seems like a myth. Every family member, partner, or significant person I ever let in was hurtful. Independence may be lonely and self-centered but it could be far worse!
That's really unfortunate, but don't be afraid to keep an open mind and heart! I can assure you that you will find someone who will genuinely love and care about you/be friends with you! It took me a WHILE, but it did happen! :)
@@justalpha9138 i already lost those
@@brenthipps3080 But quitting just because you did lose people close to you doesn't help either. Take control of your life, don't let your self pity and frustration control your daily life.
I feel this deeply. I only trust my mom and brothers these days. Too many times have I let people in only for them to use or even abuse me or backstab me. The good ones all died. I've got the mental and physical scars and two obituaries of good people who died from suicide to prove it. I even lost my "best friend" of 15 years after years of helping him find jobs and keep out of trouble. At some point, you get tired of trying, and quite frankly, I'm exhausted in every sense: spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
But right now, I'm trying to force myself out of this hole I've been in. Too dark of thoughts for my liking.
I can relate, to an extent... I tend to push people away and do stuff independently unless and until I absolutely *have to* accept someone's help. I was always a very private person (though I am an extrovert, I am pretty reserved in terms of what I share about myself) and almost every time I let someone in, they made me regret it. But those bad times also showed me who my true friends were and though living with trust issues is hard, I trust my best friends and I know they've got my back...
I hope you'll find people like them in your life too ❤
The "independency" part sparked a lightbulb in my mind, It all makes sense now. One of my childhood friends listed all those points described, perfectly. This helps me understand them more, I will use it to get through to them easier next time we have troubles. Ty for the video!!
You're welcome and best of luck! :)
You seem like a good friend❤️
I relate with the Independency type of "Love" and would love to change to Interdependency. Thanks for breaking down these types of "Love" now I know where i am. Thanks Again
The art and the animation is great! It helps me understand a bit more, and also makes the video quite entertaining!! Keep it up!
If anyone cares, I think I'm in the interdependency group :D
Thanks for the support! I'm glad you like it!
@@Psych2go :) I have a gf cause of you
I don't find it bad to push away people after bad experiences. I feel more safe.
No kidding, but that's not always a good choice. Sometimes I want to trust more, but it's never worked.
@@vannamese I find that when I put trust in someone, it usually backfires somehow.
@@dr.krieger6563 ofc, me too, but unfortunately, it"s not always that, the world isn't only white and black
@@dr.krieger6563 It's impossible to be in any type of relationship without trust.
Based on prejudge is really a bad sign. You got bad experience, but doesn't mean to generalize every.
You can be more cautious and need time to get know better instead of push away.
I had a 2 year relationship with a dependent person who was very sweet and kind, but couldn’t make decisions on her own. I tried very hard to make the big decisions and help her as much as I could. I didn’t mind it then, but eventually she started to feel like she could do things on her own and we broke up. I know I didn’t do anything WRONG per se, but in retrospect I probably should have tried to help her feel less dependent through the relationship rather than solve all the issues for her. I think she walked out on a relationship with incredible potential, but now I know to look for someone with a stronger sense of self and individuality
The right way to love and care starts with the love and confidence in the self. :)
You forgot Number 5: The Kind of Love that doesnt exist. Because you dont have a partner.
*cries in the background*
The perfect relationship seems seldom. I envy those couples who have known each other from youth to being elder.
This artstyle is my favorite so far great hair it feels wobbly and full of life and the expressions are really good
I’m just getting out of a relationship with someone who was super independent to a fault. It was hard for me bc he never really allowed me to get to close to him. I feel like bc we couldn’t find how to communicate with each other in a positive way, our relationship and connection suffered resulting in us not being able to trust each other. I take full responsibility for my part in everything. I tried until I couldn’t try any longer. I walked away.
Thanks for sharing. Sometimes you just know it's time to go. Take care!
Happened to me too. And, I was never good enough, even if I was. I think it's a way they avoid truly opening up, fear of trusting another, and possible narcissism (refusal to show any weakness). They can be appealing at first, but not in the long run. Overly avaricious. Peace.
I had a relationship where all I did was give, give, and give. The next I got dump. Lesson learned.
I'm the too independent one but I am going to change because its true if you push people away then you'll end up alone
The Kuroo and Kenma thing... So wholesome
And then out of nowhere FREDDY FAZBEAR BONNIE
Yeah... I suffer from independency. I have trust issues, hate bothering others, and often try to do everything myself. That might be why I'm 34 and still single.
I'll be honest most of these videos dont relate to me at all but i keep watching purely because of the voice lol
Simply put it, every type of relationship needs balance.
Love is hard to find- but once you find it you fear losing it. Lmao just thought of that
For the people (male) I've been with. I'm the one with the perspective with the open expressive self I do share my expierence or talk about. As far as anything else though. I'm not the one who becomes horriblely corrupt or toxic. That isn't me at all. It would be nothing more then dark or selfish desires because people wouldn't care. Seriously no one is perfect. You just have to be yourself. No need to go so far to really be over the top. You will have your own growth. I've done with suffering through abuse from heartless people
This is the earliest I'll ever be
Really you must be pregnant 🤭
@@keiron.4612 Wait what- no not like that x,D! Its a misunderstanding lol
@@cooki3781 I know I'm joking your comment was lovely
Yes
YOUR VOICE IS SO CALMING LIKE I CANT STOP LISTENING I LOVE THESE VIDEOS SO MUCH ISTG😭♥️
hm. wonder why this is unlisted
welp, its no longer unlisted
okay
def the independency. I am independent, can do things myself, even though others don't want me to do things alone. I am very much a loner / prefer to keep to myself / my hobbies. Others are often inconsiderate about my boundaries.
Your team did GREAT on this episode! Love Kami’s animation work here!
Thank you! :)
Well as a Person who literally sit still on bed and depressed, I was actually seeking a relationship for once and I quickly disregard that when I quickly check what kind of person I am. Tbh I've seen some of my friends with relationship. One is Really Pursue his relationship, One Broke up but tried to fix everything, One is Dominated, and One is already Made a Huge Mistake for Moving the Relationship to Quickly. The things I saw, the things I've Heard is making Doubt my Own Capability to hold a Relationship knowing that Myself Putting a Facade and Lies to my Friends and Distance myself from them. I can never really see myself creating a Healthy Relationship with My Rotten Core. Well I might tear myself up but that's okay rather than Use someone else like. In the end of the Day I will Experience it someday in someways or another.
Wow, I’m very glad I have a interdependency relationship:) Thank you for this video!! It really cleared some things up for me. Wishing all the people good luck on finding your person😊
I love how yall put fandoms into animations.
Glad you like that :) Which fandom are you from?
@@Psych2go Tbhk, Undertale, Haikyuu and Fnaf
I'm very happy to realize I have healthy friendships
I feel like we may sometimes have too much dependency but we got the healthy boundaries and all
being independent is not that bad is it is portrayed in the video, you can certainly be happy and content with life even if you are independent
They literally say it's good at the beginning of the independence part what they're talking about is the extreme side of it from trauma
I was in a co dependent relationship and he was narcissistic and I only served to feed his ego and he was never giving anything back. I had to ask him every day does he love me and why doesn't he show it or say it more and that says a LOT. Until I've realized "I won't put up with this BS anymore and I deserve more and he's so beneath me and doesn't actually deserve me" so I kicked him out of my life and since then I really don't trust anyone and thinking about it I don't need ANYONE to be happy. I make myself happy and fulfilled. Everyone else is just fake or would just drag me down or make me lose myself again and become that weakling. NEVER AGAIN!
The references in these animations keep me happy.
Aww glad you like it :) Which reference is your favorite?
I love how dependency is Nene and Hanako
I rather let my feelings be a mystery and let people learn about me instead of me trying to tell them who I am but I'm always willing to get to know one another, like asking questions about the person I'll be with one day... I am not dependent because I've been single in my 17 years of living and I've learned that no one will be there in life one day and so I'm prepared for that, I'm the type to not be a narcissist because I've hurt some narcissists mentally, I'm independent but sort of because I've even asked for help with many things, now interdependence or something like that I'm not sure I'll ever experience unless there is some love left on this world 🙁
To sum this up - stand your ground, but compromise. The question is finding the balance. That is the only problem I have - I'm not a good diplomat.
Unrelated but oh my gosh ur animation style is so dang adorable! X3
I came here thinking it was about love languages and instead came out feeling like I have a little bit of everything here (thankfully also including the last one)
LOVE your videos! As a fairly happy (I'm only human😋)single female who has been celibate for over 20yrs, I have to confess- I watch most clips like these to CONFIRM that I have made the Right Decision For Me. 🤗😍🙄😏 After so much heartbreak, therapy, counseling, betrayal and abuse while trying to find someone TO LOVE & WHO WOULD LOVE ME- I finally found the courage to CHOOSE ME. It's RARE to find someone/anyone like the composites you describe as HEALTHY. Heck, IT'S HARD TO PERSONALLY BE HEALTHY YOURSELF!🤣😂😀😆😅😃🤗 Unfortunately the other harmful, destructive, toxic, incompatible, desperate, UNHEALTHY examples have absolutely been in my life as Family, Friends, Co-workers and Lovers. I just got emotionally exhausted, physically sick and realized that I was wasting my Life chasing a Dream that doesn't HAVE TO COME TRUE.
Once I allowed myself to TRULY see myself as an Individual Spirit who LOVES HERSELF and does not need any woman or man to "complete me" and that I'd never have kids and would die alone in my old age (I try NOT to lie to myself) I started ACTUALLY having a blast! Traveling through Europe, climbed Egyptian Pyramids, became Fairy Goddess Mother to countless youths and yes, I SPOIL MY CAT. 😙😺😙 I already got my eco friendly body disposal plan thanks to Covid Apocalypse hysteria so......... I am still gonna have fun and do me til I can't no more. I LOVE MY SELF NOW that I am NOT forever thinking about WHY I am NOT lovable, not attractive, what's wrong with me, or what's the deal with the other person........
I honestly wish & hope EVERYONE who wants to be loved by someone else gets their needs met. I DO. I have just lived and tried long enough to understand and sadly come to the conclusion that NOT EVERYBODY GETS A HAPPILY EVER AFTER. NOT EVERYONE RECEIVES THE LOVE, RESPECT OR HUMAN KINDNESS THEY DESERVE. And worse, hardest pill to swallow---- I am one of those unlucky people. But I think the sooner single dynamic people LET GO & MOVE ONE WITH THEIR LIVES, the sooner they CAN CHANGE THEIR LUCK FOR THE BETTER cause ALL the PASSION, MENTAL/EMOTIONAL ENERGY, TIME & MONEY spent on finding a mate or being in a relationship will be then FOCUSED ON THEMSELVES, hopefully for good, positive Life Experiences and Self Development. It could happen! 🙄🤓💘💋💖
You just made my day by puting hanako and yashiro in this
I hate relationships, gave them up 7 years ago. Am i happier? I don’t know but at least i’m at peace
I'm independent in a bad way. Well, I knew that, and I know I need interaction, even though I think I don't want it.
I see well this explains that not every first sight of love we’ll be a lasting one! This helps me move on!
i am LIVING for the references in here :) i love psych2go for this very reason ahhh
2:04 - Wait...was THAT Asriel and Chara?! | 4:20 - "Vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others, will end up broken and alone" Sylvester Stallone.
The 3rd one but not too shut out yet.
4 as well but with the right person.
People can bring problems, be careful out there
Wow the first one is really spot on ! My ex was dependent of me and it really finished like it said. I break up with him caused I just needed to breath. I just couldn't go on anymore. It took 6years for me to reach that point but seriously it's the best decision I've made.
Me, depend on other people??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I never make that mistake. I know the only person I can truly rely on is me. People have failed me too many times for me to be stupid enough to depend on them. I don't need people or trust them, because that's the truth.
Fking same
Same here, bruh
I can't do much by myself
The beauty of balance ⚖️
Hello Psych2go! I love this video so much that their are 2 things I have in me in the most. Its Interdependency and independence
Edit: thanks for the 5 likes
And still I dont know why I dont get wny girl to love me
im happy that my standards of a relationship is an interdependence
Thank you for mentioning toxic independence, Tucker often shows signs of this... we(mostly Holly) have pushed him little by little to open up a bit more open though 😞🙁😔
~Mason
I think this is spot on but I wouldn’t always label a dependent person as not being able to make decisions for themselves or need their partner to control everything in their life. As a person who tends to be dependent in a relationship I still have enough confidence to make my own choices in life. I love to give my partner space and try not to get clingy. However as long as I don’t come across as helpless it’s kinda nice to rely on your partner for some things. Not in a toxic way more so telling my partner what food I’d like before we go out to eat because I get shy. Small stuff like that. I think dependency can be toxic in some circumstances but being a dependent person isn’t always a bad thing as long as you are balanced with it.
This is the best art syle i seen in awhile
Thank you for all your effort and all your help to me and others!
You have helped me to find out how I need help and support!! Again thank you❤
Glad we could help you! Thank you for watching our content and for your support! Appreciate you too!
I, today, just distanced myself from a person that is too independent. He told me that he would go forward with or without me. Talk about a stab.
Sadly, I am dependent.
Because of a mental problem, if I have nobody around to check on me, I'll forget basic functions, like eating and sleeping. Its why I would have to let the other person learn about me before we live together.
After my breakup I am 100% independent. Whilst single is the best to be independent. You still can be too independent, though, as you still have, well, friends. You’ll also have to be open to the idea of becoming more dependent if you ever get into a romantic relationship.
Okay. You made me 2x more happy then normal. Because I am big fan of Five nights at Freddys :D
I subscribed to these guys yesterday they help me fight through my depression and anxiety thx guys 😃 I just feel like myself again so thx for the positive talk I just feel a little sad that my friend has a two week therapy trip I will miss her I cried for like 2 hours last night but I got over it :)
Thank you for subscribing and watching our content! We really appreciate you and your support, but definitely reach out to a mental professional when you feel like you need it. Our content are purely for educational purposes and not meant to used as a diagnosis :)
I think I don’t reject humans I just find too hard to love someone. I Have some friends that’s all.
I'm codependent, but when someone else doesn't trust me, my neediness comes out. He's independent and afraid. We feel the same but he doesn't trust me, and I don't want the other people to know what's going on between us. He disappears for a week or two every now and then, but when we have actual conversations he reminds me how he feels. Things are really complicated outside of us and that's making our reactions complicated too. I sometimes wonder if he still feels the same way because he doesn't trust me enough to show me how he loves. Psy can you please reply and give me the best response you can. I don't know how to handle this.
I'm going through something similar, I think? Where are your friends, and do you have a therapist? How many needs are you relying on your boyfriend for? How many can you meet on your own, or with other people, while you wait for him? You may find that he'll be more likely to come back to you the more you make him feel comfortable and invited. But you can't do that unless you find appropriate ways to fill your own cup. This relationship you're in might be a wonderful teaching moment for both of you as you heal and learn how to trust and accommodate one another.
Do you feel like you have to fix his problems or make things better? Do you trust that he's capable of fixing things on his own? Do you allow yourself to receive his help? Lots of these questions are ones my therapist has asked me in regards to my relationship. Maybe they'll help you!
One type of love is missed in the video. It is the love that almost everyone has for someone else. It is fake love. The users, traitors, and abusers exercise this type of love extremely effectively. They fool millions of people a day. I, myself, fell victim to one of these social predators. She used fake love to lure me into her trap.
Ty for the reads. I like reading your rants.
@@raymondmills4830 Some say they are excessive. But, I have little more to do during free time.
After seeing the part about the vampire it makes me wonder why so many people like vampire fictional story's and characters so much
In the end remember you can always change, that you want or not
Ruthlessly independent. Working on it.
I feel like I have a lot of co-dependant relationships with friends (me being the narc) and now I want to look at them and just tell them that they have to find happiness for themselves and I want to be there the whole tome supporting them! It sounds really hard to do though :(
Supporting someone is difficult simply due to it becoming less necessary as people age and create their own independence. You don't have to manage aspects of their life for them, just be ready to catch them when they fall. What's more is that having your own independence makes you even more attractive even if you can't see it.
Lastly friendships take work to maintain and they will come and go from your life as fickle as the grains of sand in the Sahara. Gratitude is the best quality you should look for when making friends. People who don't acknowledge what you have to offer or who don't encourage you to be better are of little importance.
Help me out, please... I fall under the independency category and while I know this can be toxic, I have no motivation to change it. See, I am *always* available for the people in my life and I'd gladly help them out the best way I can. But when it all comes down to me, I feel like I'm the only one who can fix myself and even though I know my best friends are always there for me, I try not to lean too much on them and end up not leaning at all. Every person that I let in, in the past, has abused my trust and made me regret meeting them. That's why I have serious trust issues and while I truly trust my best friend and know she loves me a lot, some part of me is extremely scared of the possibility of her leaving me one day. I know I'll break down that day. All the toxic friendships I've had before her, took me for granted, made me feel like I was expecting too much while I was only asking for the bare minimum, and made me feel like I was weak when I turned to them with my problems. I had started to isolate myself in my lowest moments and that was somehow peaceful; knowing I wouldn't have to explain my feelings or hear something that would hurt me further. And now it's a habit. Is independency really such a bad thing? If I'm there for the people I love but I'm okay with figuring out my own mess alone, is it really such a bad thing? I was made to feel like I was clingy for wanting to spend some time with them in my previous toxic friendships and while I'm aware my best friends love me a lot, I don't want to mess up and lose them. Help me out... I'm shit-scared of losing them and idk if my methods are harming me and our relationship.
Family/friend: who are you
Me: "an agent of chaos"
I always like watching these videos. I actually learned that im a psychopathic loner from it. Good Learn.
Feel like I'm very much an independent.
And one of the biggest reasons I've been single for so many years.
2:06 “Do you wanna have a psychological time? Because if you take one more step… You will enjoy what happens next.”
Make a video about how a lack of dating experience affects your love life as an adult
So much to learn.. I love to.learn.. another reason to smile
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"I love demons in a usual type of way..."
*Pumps Shotgun*
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I'm interdependent based on this video and how I understand myself
who cares if someone has some little issues here or there nobodys perfect yet in this life, if everyone listens to you they will never find ANYONE to be in a relationship with, but it is good to understand the different personality types.
I have been in a lot of relationship ..I can say that I have grown a lot ..and thanks to this that I have recently found I can grow even more ..but right now I am in an indepence *sorry if I got it wrong relationship my bf been thought some stuff in the past and he doesn't like to open up..he acts *almost * like the character on the screen
Ahh yes, relationship. Never been in one in 17 years and may never be in one after 18
I definitely identify with and want the interdependency love. I’m a person who has a good idea what they like n dislike but I don’t want to always do this alone this world and am willing to help with balance. I fear this type of love is rare to find and why it is partially the reason why I haven’t found it very often when it comes to looking for romantic partners.
I love your videos, they really help me understanding some things better. The art helps understanding it even better, and I love the freddy and Bonnie at 5:01 ^^
The way they added kuroken in
Remember ppl, even superman needs help at some point and askin for that help doesn't make you weak, we all have limits
Definitely interdependence with me but I do engage deep with those I commit to as holding no falsehood good or bad is all that I can be.
The overly independency may come from the person had been let down too many times when asked for help. So the only option is to do all by him/herself.
Hard for me to explain just how much I can relate to this... independency might look toxic but at least I know I won't hurt myself and truly be there for myself when others won't... right? :)
@@tweety9808 yes. Its a trap 22. You reach out for help, you are let down. Because you are let down, you have to do yourself. As you are ler down and have to yourself anyways, you stop reaching out. Coz you have stopped aaking for help, you need to yourself and are going to stop trusing others.
@@tweety9808 wrong
@@retrochimdev3868 care to correct me then? How am I wrong? :)
@@tweety9808 you say you can't hurt yourself but what you're doing is hurting yourself, and there are plenty of people who won't, you just gotta find em
I'm a dependent person. Bc being loyal to others they will be loyal to you. So allies.😀
Our Harmony with INTERDEPENDENCY.