How to Negotiate With a Narcissist. 11 Tricks to Help You Win!

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  • Negotiating with a narcissist is a nightmare. Narcissists will gaslight, accuse, deflect, manipulate, and exploit you for their benefit. Fortunately, you can use their personality flaws to beat them at their own game.
    Chapters:
    00:00 - Intro
    00:14 - What is a Narcissist?
    01:28 - How does a Narcissist react to losing?
    02:15 - How to act during Negotiations with a Narcissist
    04:23 - Using a Narcissist’s own flaws to beat them
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    How to negotiate with a narcissist.
    What is a Narcissist?
    Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by an excessive sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, and a need for admiration. A textbook narcissist:
    • Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements, expects to be recognized as superior without actually completing the achievements)
    • Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, brilliance, beauty, or perfect love.
    • Believes that they are “special” and can only be understood by or should only associate with other special people (or institutions).
    • Requires excessive admiration.
    • Has a sense of entitlement, such as an unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment or compliance with his or her expectations).
    • Is exploitative and takes advantage of others to achieve their own ends.
    • Lacks empathy and is unwilling to identify with the needs of others.
    • Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of them.
    • Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors and attitudes
    -National Library of Medicine, Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    It’s worth noting that no one exhibits all these traits all the time, and that many people display some of these traits at times. Narcissistic Personality Disorder must be diagnosed by professional, a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist.
    It probably comes as little surprise that people with these personality traits might not react very well if they feel like they are losing.
    How does a Narcissist react to losing?
    If a narcissist feels like they are losing, they may become angry, defensive, or even aggressive in response to a perceived slight or loss. You have to take extra effort to avoid making a narcissist feel like they are losing if you hope to reach an agreement.
    Narcissists have a hard time accepting a loss and their ego will cause them to have a hard time moving on emotionally. They will blame others for their failure and refuse to take responsibility for it.
    Additionally, they may devalue or belittle the person or thing they lost to make themselves feel better. If the narcissist feels like the negotiation is slipping away, they may become obsessed with the idea of winning and may escalate the stakes to a win-or-die scenario.
    So, if narcissists can’t emotionally accept a loss in the course of a negotiation, then how can you successfully reach an agreement?
    How to act during negotiations with a Narcissist.
    Negotiating with a narcissist can be a difficult task as they tend to be highly self-centered and may not be willing to consider other perspectives. Your goal is to keep the negotiation moving without setting them off. If you set them off, then the negotiation is over. Here are some strategies that can help keep a narcissist in the negotiation:
    Stay calm and composed: Narcissists may attempt to provoke an emotional reaction, so it’s important to stay calm and composed during the debate. Avoid getting defensive or argumentative, and try to maintain a neutral tone.
    Come prepared: Research and prepare your points in advance. Having a clear understanding of the topic and the relevant facts and evidence will give you the confidence to counter their emotional arguments effectively.
    Be specific and use evidence: Narcissists tend to rely on generalities and broad claims rather than specific evidence or facts to improve their negotiating position. Use concrete examples and data to support your points, and challenge any claims they make that lack evidence.
    Avoid personal attacks: Narcissists may take any personal attacks as a threat to their self-esteem and react strongly. Avoid making any personal attacks or insulting them, instead focus on the topic at hand. Instead of accusing them, use “I” statements to express your needs and concerns.
    Avoid playing into their need for attention: Narcissists have a strong need for attention, and may attempt to dominate the conversation. Try to steer the conversation back on track and maintain control of the debate by addressing the key points and evidence.
    Expect them to avoid accountability: Narcissists tend to have a distorted sense of reality and may have difficulty...
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    How to negotiate with a narcissist in a divorce

Комментарии • 169

  • @gingerspeidel-ys6et
    @gingerspeidel-ys6et 15 дней назад +13

    I won against my narcissists.I flushed them down the toilet.

  • @NilfNilf1972
    @NilfNilf1972 13 дней назад +16

    Not a friend of the “can only be diagnosed by a licensed professional” disclaimer … I take the verdict of someone who knows the suspect a long time and understands narcissism over a non-super-specialized therapist. Narcs are VERY good at faking a first inpression, even to therapists.

    • @real_hello_kitty
      @real_hello_kitty 11 дней назад +2

      Agree. It only takes an empath to diagnose a narcissist.
      Besides, many psychologists are narcs as well.

  • @FrancescaCadhit
    @FrancescaCadhit Год назад +76

    This is a difficult topic, but important. "Don't expect them to admit they're wrong." Truth!

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +10

      So many people complain during negotiations that the other side won't just "see that they're wrong." They're hoping for a miracle that never comes.

    • @jro341
      @jro341 9 месяцев назад +7

      That is correct. I didn't know about this till my late 30's. An ex told me I was a narcissist, so I looked into it for a long time and found out she was the narc and half of my family are like this. Life is better when you go "no contact."

    • @mikehess4494
      @mikehess4494 Месяц назад +2

      ​@@jro341grey rock or yellow rock as needed

    • @privateprivate8366
      @privateprivate8366 16 дней назад

      Not even if you’ve presented evidence to the police and the court, that those entities agreed with. Narcissists are prone to magical thinking, which might include denying that which they’ve already admitted to and there’s a record of, in police records and court. Their truth and reality, wi change, according to need and it had nothing to do with actual truth and reality, unless they feel it serves them.

    • @dbgith
      @dbgith 15 дней назад +1

      It never happens sincerely. It may happen as a part of the manipulation or deflection etc. But never sincerely.

  • @AdamHoffman-lt7eq
    @AdamHoffman-lt7eq 10 месяцев назад +53

    Narcissists don't always get angry. They can be very smooth liars.

  • @gurglejug627
    @gurglejug627 Месяц назад +37

    One cannot argue with a Narcissist, only offer them something.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Месяц назад +5

      You're so right! You have to somehow convince them that the thing you're willing to give them is the thing that they TRULY want. "Ooo look! Shiny!" lol

    • @CHDean
      @CHDean 5 дней назад

      Like a big, heavy stick?

    • @gurglejug627
      @gurglejug627 5 дней назад

      @@CHDean have you tried that, on a genuine Narc?

    • @CHDean
      @CHDean 5 дней назад

      @@gurglejug627 What’s that?

    • @gurglejug627
      @gurglejug627 5 дней назад

      @@CHDean what's what?

  • @batgirlp5561
    @batgirlp5561 Месяц назад +27

    They don't care about your needs.
    That hit hard.😢

  • @MeenaHarlow-kx4fz
    @MeenaHarlow-kx4fz 10 месяцев назад +35

    They usually dig their own graves eventually. Give them the chance to talk as much as possible about themselves infront of officials like judges or evaluators. True narcissism is easily detectable in the end.

  • @mikehess4494
    @mikehess4494 Месяц назад +28

    Thank you Matthew. They play the victim or hero as needed and are never wrong.

  • @danielaspitz3052
    @danielaspitz3052 Месяц назад +18

    I'm a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I didn't really know until I turned 49 and knew I have Cptsd. I'm so gold at seeing through them, after being exposed to them for just a short time. They retraumatise me, get me depressed me and make me feel so bad in their presence. They always do the same things, so it's not that hard seeing through their patterns after a reasonable time span

  • @JakeandRubiNC
    @JakeandRubiNC Год назад +18

    Excellent points. Was married to one for 20 years. Make them think it’s THEIR idea. Fantastic advice!!!

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      You pretty much have to treat Narcissists like toddlers. "Do you want to help me pick up your toys? That's a great idea you had! You're so smart and helpful!" 😂😂😂

    • @JakeandRubiNC
      @JakeandRubiNC Год назад +2

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC EXACTLY!!!!!!! The minute you say a trigger word, the fireworks are on and a full blown tantrum ensues.

    • @Sorethroat742
      @Sorethroat742 Год назад +1

      I married one too. I’m still picking myself up off the floor at times from the mental anguish.

  • @CharlieWhiskey549
    @CharlieWhiskey549 12 дней назад +3

    Life is one big competition for a Narc, and their fragile ego means they have to win. So you have to find a scenario that can be sold to them as “You win!”

  • @heather6398
    @heather6398 Год назад +15

    It's nice to see an attorney who understands these abusers. However, I think you just described some "Karen's" lol

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +9

      Oh boy. I wish I understood these abusers! I've had to deal with so many over the years that I've learned how to counteract them, but I definitely don't understand. lol
      I'm willing to bet that there's a lot of overlap between Karens and Narcissists on the Venn Diagram. 😂

    • @heather6398
      @heather6398 Год назад +4

      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC Hey, thank you for the reply! You understand it more than most who've not been through it yourself. There's nothing quite like making it through something like this yourself. Right before the convid-19 lock down malarkey, I got out of a severely abusive situation. I'm not sure which was worse; the abuser himself that tried to kill me, or the people in the "law" who covered it up, even tried to get me to go back to him. The county attorney who didn't follow the mandatory arrest laws, refused to prosecute, the lower level judge who admitted "conflict of interest" while refusing to follow the national & state domestic violence laws (in the protection from abuse hearing), I couldn't even get my belongings, the county attorney even made a threatening "sugestion" that I leave "his" county when I asked him why he wasn't prosecuting the ex for trying to kill me! All but 2 of the sheriff department were corrupt... if I could've found a federally licensed attorney, I probably could've sued that county. The state I was in had a similar case to mine, I believe that went to the 6th circuit Court of appeals & the lady walked away with millions... these corrupt people who don't hold these abusers accountable are sick! I have my associates, and I'm not quite middle age... what I went through, I've almost thought of going back to college to become an attorney who could do these types of lawsuits against people who are acting "under the color of law" & violate peoples rights for their "buddies," or just don't take women seriously & refuse to uphold the law...

  • @kianicole001
    @kianicole001 День назад +2

    Negotiations with a narcissist is a fool’s errand. Do whatever you legitimately think is right and deal with whatever fallout comes from it. Document everything.

  • @suzanneoc1963
    @suzanneoc1963 Год назад +9

    Right on… Be willing to walk away, help them think that what you need from them is in their best interests, keep reminding yourself of boundaries you set and stick to them, stay calm and don’t engage. That’s how I avoided court with my ex… at discovery his lawyer didn’t know who I was and I had been talking with him when my ex came up and said… so you met my wife. His lawyer grabbed him immediately and said … this is your wife! Everything was settled that day because his lawyer was a bulldog that turned on him. My ex had described me very differently than his lawyer expected and his lawyer said that I’d be a great witness for myself. I told my ex that day that I was going to hold my head up and he could keep being the snake that he is. I took back some of my myself that day. ❤

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +2

      Great advice, and a fantastic story! His attorney probably saw his billable hours disappearing in front of his eyes after realizing how he'd been lied to.
      I'm glad you used it as a springboard to find your better self. This just makes me so happy to hear a success story. ❤️

    • @suzanneoc1963
      @suzanneoc1963 Год назад +2

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC I don’t know where I found my courage that day, but I knew how to dress professionally and I put my work mask on. His lawyer actually thought that he was talking to an attorney he didn’t know yet. I gained some “real” confidence in myself that day and it has helped me to continue on this journey in a much more positive way. I had already given him so much but I put my foot down when he wanted our daughters RESP money (that I saved). I said no because it was for OUR daughter’s future education. He insisted he still wanted it . He didn’t get it and he was told to also contribute to it… well, that didn’t happen but he also didn’t get what I deemed as future investment in our child. So many petty things that in the end didn’t matter because he walked away anyway… Go figure! Appreciate your views and legal opinions. Thanks so much!

  • @theforensicbadass
    @theforensicbadass 18 дней назад +3

    Thanks Mathew.
    If I could add one more tip, for you all to hire a coach prior to the divorce to coach you through a lot of what Matthew was talking about. Your own attorney will not prepare you for this. Your own attorney may not even know anything remotely as this man certainly does.
    Hire a coach, a court strategic, of victims advocate and we will help get your ass through to expose and settle equitably, including getting your children back child custody, and child support.

  • @dsn385
    @dsn385 Год назад +7

    Thankfully we have you to help us with the difficult people in our lives. It’s hard to keep your own identity around someone who is a narcissist. I went to counseling for help also.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +3

      Thank you for the kind words. Narcissists really do make it difficult to remember who you really are. I hope counseling helped you! 🫂

  • @alastair1955
    @alastair1955 18 дней назад +3

    Excellent video. Most of those rules must be followed when dealing with a narcissist. But to a lesser extent they are good to follow when negotiating with anyone.

  • @TheSilverlady1980
    @TheSilverlady1980 16 дней назад +2

    Sounds like a lot of research and work to try to make a case when the narc gets upset at almost every little thing. And why can’t we have a reaction to something we are upset about because it might set off the narc. My car got wrecked and I am nit allowed to get upset?

  • @irenehamilton2981
    @irenehamilton2981 12 дней назад +1

    Total liars and manipulators Eve n when the proof is right there I really hope we all stay safe from these emotional vampires

  • @ish90
    @ish90 20 дней назад +4

    Great video. This sounds like my manager.

  • @D_SKYWALKER
    @D_SKYWALKER 13 часов назад +1

    Outstanding!

  • @jimsnow8004
    @jimsnow8004 Месяц назад +1

    Interesting. I thought about "The Five Laws Of Stupidity", and "The Karpman Drama Triangle" while listening to this.
    I think there's a cost to one's personal integrity when agreeing to negotiate with a narcissist in their way of preference that often does not get factored into the cost benefit analysis.

  • @katrina2931
    @katrina2931 Год назад +4

    Spot on. I wish I could’ve hired you.

  • @dr.gregory1325
    @dr.gregory1325 19 дней назад +2

    Is there a video anywhere FOR narcissists ? It’s always “ the other side”. But what about a lot of entrepreneurs, politicians, entertainers, sport personalities who are at some different level narcissists themselves, and want to improve their interactions ?

  • @TerriK436
    @TerriK436 Год назад +4

    I have learned so much from you and always appreciate your views and comments on RA channel.
    I watch all you videos.
    Love this video!
    My daughter is going through a horrible divorce and he is such a narcissist. She just wants to end the marriage, be safe, and keep her children safe, both mentally and physically. Every time we turn around he lies, turns things around and takes her to court for EVERYTHING.
    We want him to be in the boys life, but he plays head games and favorites with them and now they all in therapy.
    All she asked was for him to take some parenting classes, apparently he is perfect and to good for classes.
    Thank you, I have shared this video with the whole family. Nice to have someone out there, that is actually looking out for people and not just bucks.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +2

      Thank you for watching and for the kind words! I hate that your daughter is going through such a difficult divorce. I know it can't be easy for you as a mother to watch her suffer.
      Just know that this too shall pass.
      I'll keep your family in my prayers.

    • @dianevitale1214
      @dianevitale1214 9 месяцев назад +2

      I feel for your daughter. If it were me, I'd hope the father would have little to do with his boys, not wanting my sons to become like their father. The narc, at least the one I know too well, is extremely selfish. People are objects only to them to feed their pleasure of pulling off their vile mind games.. Heartless.

  • @LadyWriter878
    @LadyWriter878 Год назад +4

    So much truth in here. Thank you....coming over from Recovery Addict's channel! thanks again you are spot on

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      Oh, I definitely recognize you! Thanks for bouncing in here for a view and chat! I always appreciate your commentary on RA. 😁

  • @BC-zd5xw
    @BC-zd5xw Год назад +3

    Damn.. I wish I would've came across this video sooner. Luckily, my mother seems to be making it out of her 'soon to be finalized' divorce, somewhat, unscathed. She had to endure a lot of verbal threats, name calling, & sleepless nights but it looks like she's gonna make it (out) without losing 1/2 of everything she's worked for all of her life. Narcissists are the biggest habitual liars you'll ever meet. Anyway, I enjoyed this content. Thank you for sharing and you've earned a new subscriber in me. Big up from Atl, Ga! ✌

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      Wow, what a horrible situation to have to endure. They really are the worst to have to deal with. You have to expend twice as much energy proving that their made up facts are actually false.
      Glad you found value in the video, and I appreciate the sub! I'll work hard to earn your sub with every video. 🤩

  • @pcooper3559
    @pcooper3559 Год назад +3

    Thank you for my new updated membership on Recovery Addict. Love your videos and your comments on RA channel. Thanks again.

  • @helenewebster-sisk2407
    @helenewebster-sisk2407 8 месяцев назад +2

    Very helpful , thanks!

  • @tatianagolban6440
    @tatianagolban6440 11 дней назад

    Thank you❤

  • @isaacpinielo
    @isaacpinielo 10 дней назад

    You've earned yourself my subscription😊

  • @jacksavage279
    @jacksavage279 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you this priceless information, it never gets old .

  • @WallFlower852
    @WallFlower852 Год назад +1

    Thank you Mr. Harris😎👍🌸

  • @suzanne5544
    @suzanne5544 Год назад +3

    This is a great one! Thanks for choosing this topic Matthew 😊

  • @Sukimillion
    @Sukimillion 8 месяцев назад +2

    I love this. Also I appreciate the background beat. I listen much better when there’s beats in the background ❤

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  8 месяцев назад

      I'm glad you liked! I go back and forth on how loud the music should be. I've received a few complaints for it being too loud. I'm with you. I like music while I work.

  • @michelmo7195
    @michelmo7195 Год назад +1

    This is such a good video! Thank you so much Matthew!! The trial I’m following on RA- Leticia Stauch, the defendant is definitely a narcissist IMO!

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      After hearing her phone calls and TV Interview, I am 100% in agreement with you. I think she's a Narcissist through and through.

  • @letitbesummer6536
    @letitbesummer6536 Год назад +1

    Hey thank you Matthew, first time here from RA’s channel. Looks interesting! This is helpful re dealing with my narcissistic ex!
    Everything with him was a competition, him winning, being right all the time. Manipulation & gaslighting constantly. Very little empathy. Extremely thin-skinned & mildly controlling. Blamed me regularly.
    Beat me down so much that by the end, I was miserable & had little confidence. Still have to communicate with him bc we have two sons together, thankfully almost 20 & 18.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад

      Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that. He sounds like his game-plan came directly out of the Narcissists Playbook.
      I'm glad you've got through the childhood phase. Fair warning, the next battle is going to be during the grandchild phase. 😢

  • @Sorethroat742
    @Sorethroat742 Год назад +1

    I really appreciated this video. I’ve been hooked on watching repeats of Darrell brooks thinking he enjoyed publicizing his narcissism more than putting on a defense. 👮

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      You're absolutely correct. His NPD was on full display, and he was too self-centered to realize that the world was laughing AT him and not WITH him.

  • @iso1600
    @iso1600 Год назад +1

    So true. Thanks for the tips. Have a mediation with a N in 2 weeks.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      Remember to ask for a couple of extra things that you don't really want just so you can throw them away. Narcissists won't settle until they think they've "won." Distract them with something shiny. 😁

    • @iso1600
      @iso1600 Год назад

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC thank you

  • @arinerm1331
    @arinerm1331 11 месяцев назад

    I'm hearing a few phrases that would help someone in these situations. Just like in the south, you can utter the most vile insult as long as you add, "bless his heart," -- "Betty's baby is the ugliest thing I've ever seen, bless his heart!" -- convincing a narcissist may be helped by a bit of self-effacement such as, "I know you have me on that point, ..." followed by your best argument, then, "and you know better than I do that ..." followed by your desired result.

  • @debbie4503
    @debbie4503 Год назад +1

    Matthew Harris I really need you to get your "Out of State" license. LOL From RA's channel, Debbie.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад

      Miss Debbie, I always know who you are! 😄 Which state do you think I should get licensed in?

  • @MsRandieK
    @MsRandieK Год назад +2

    Hi Matthew 👍👍👍👍👍

  • @ford334
    @ford334 17 дней назад +2

    Why can't the people that knows them and hang around him see there true colors of his narcissistic behavior? He is relentless will not stop. I've been trying very hard to enor him for 11 years know. Something has to be done about this guy.....

  • @jenniferthomas5926
    @jenniferthomas5926 Год назад +2

    Well well well....time to call my stepmother with these tips in mind 😂😂

  • @TheSeaOfAsher
    @TheSeaOfAsher Месяц назад +2

    I agree with the below post, that at least in beginning stages of relationships, narcissist's don't always get angry (though they always have little remorse). They can be very smooth liars/manipulators in order to get you "hooked" or caught up in an agreement to forced to stay for the abuse. It's often a co-dependency of nature. Very dangerous.
    Proverbs 30:20 from the Bible, which says:
    "This is the way of an adulterous woman:
    She eats and wipes her mouth
    and says, 'I’ve done nothing wrong.'"

  • @SomeOne-uk4eg
    @SomeOne-uk4eg 13 дней назад

    Sounds like me!

  • @TAG77
    @TAG77 Год назад +1

    Ok, you kind of got me Matt. Only, I tend to love to lose sometimes to win big later. Just say’n 💁🏼‍♀️🐥🐥🐥😂😂

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      Well that's because you're a strategist who knows how to play the long game! 😉

    • @TAG77
      @TAG77 Год назад

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC I play the long game with really short arms. 😋

  • @dianevitale1214
    @dianevitale1214 9 месяцев назад

    My divorce attorney here in NC, did not inform me how long a divorce can take with a district Court system. which could be years in my case. B&B. Researching, became aware of voluntary arbitration if both agree. My husband is a viscous covert narc who has about devoured me over 11 yrs.

  • @crystalprice1942
    @crystalprice1942 Месяц назад

    Is this a video on how to argue like a lawyer or pitfalls of narcissists.

  • @joynkindness
    @joynkindness 16 дней назад +1

    My divorce lawyer, his boss & my ex had narc behaviors. Doc said my ex was a narc but didnt write it down. Gas lighting... all 3 said sorry you feel thay way, your opinion then dismissed what i tried to say. Cruel monsterous behaviors when offended. Easily offended. Manipulative. My son and I didnt have clean safe adequate water the last year we lived in our home during the divorce. Ex paid to fix things when he had to to sell the house. M all rights reserved

  • @watchmanknowledge4345
    @watchmanknowledge4345 21 день назад +1

    How often do narcissistic people throw hands when they loose?

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  20 дней назад

      Sometimes, yes. They need power and control, and will sometimes resort to aggression to get it. However, they typically use aggression when they think it will benefit them and not just because they lost.

  • @dsn385
    @dsn385 Год назад +1

    R. A. Hit another big number today.

  • @nervousbabbs2769
    @nervousbabbs2769 Год назад +4

    I'm dealing with a foster parent that has my daughter that is a narcissist she is manipulated everyone in the court now she's suing to try and change my daughter's name at 8 years old claiming trauma from keeping her biological family name My daughter was never abused The Foster family threatened to make sure we never saw our daughter again if we didn't sign custody over because CPS is so corrupt in Hood county they sold my daughter before the court hearings even began I still have visitations but now that I'm requesting them their retaliating by trying to get me thrown in jail because I can't afford child support and personally if you threatened my family and took my child why should I have to pay for the child that you forcefully stole from a family

    • @nervousbabbs2769
      @nervousbabbs2769 Год назад +1

      My daughter openly screamed and cried that she wanted to come home with her mother and grandfather but no one cared Texas is human trafficking children they get too many incentives to force adoptions that don't need to happen they make money off selling our children to richer families Don't be poor in Texas

    • @amandabarnard2072
      @amandabarnard2072 Год назад +3

      I am in the same boat. My mother is a retired Cps supervisor. She is the one who filed against me. No reports no Cps involvement. Just Texas Family state code. My daughter doesn't call me Mommy anymore. I was all she knew till this happened. She was 2.5 when my mom filed against me. My daughter's Father past away in December 2021. I blame my mother for some of death. Her Deceitful ways really broke him down till he wasn't the same anymore. My mother I swear is going to be the death of me. I have lost 20years of my life when really it's been about 2 years. The silent treatment is so frustrating. I'm drained.

    • @amandabarnard2072
      @amandabarnard2072 Год назад +1

      I have no visitation and the family who has my daughter refuses to follow the standard order of communication between myself and my daughter.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +3

      @Nervous Babbs - Oh my goodness. My heart is breaking for you! Having to deal with CPS as well as a Narcissistic foster family is just horrible. I wish I knew some resources to guide you to down there in Hood county. Just know this: as long as you're fighting for your daughter, then there is still hope.
      Don't ever give up fighting because your daughter is relying on you to stay in the fight. Also, even if the worst happens and you never get custody back, don't forget that she'll only be young for a little while, and there is a whole lifetime beyond the age of 18. As long as you can keep that connection while she's young, you'll have a shot at a forever relationship with her.

    • @amandabarnard2072
      @amandabarnard2072 Год назад

      So trying to get thru to Mr. Vince Davis. If were paying my court order attorney I'm sure the practice would look more deeply into the frivolous and misleading suit press against me, and call it "Family KIDNAPPING"...in due time. At least I get a trial. I don't have to study, to tell the truth. #BLESSWITHONEOFTHEBESTTRIALATTORNEYS

  • @amandabarnard2072
    @amandabarnard2072 Год назад

    ...Active Deposition? Is there is correct way or a non-correct way? Or a video on how to have one that will do some good standing?

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      I'm not sure I understand the question. Rephrase maybe? I'm sorry.

    • @amandabarnard2072
      @amandabarnard2072 Год назад

      @Matthew Harris Law, PLLC Do you have a video on an "Effective disposition"? Of course w/a Narcissist. I'm not sure if I spelled it right. 🤔

    • @amandabarnard2072
      @amandabarnard2072 Год назад

      @Matthew Harris Law, PLLC ACLU in Texas help me. A mother never gives up. The Texas Family State Code should not have been created, in my opinion. All of my Child's rights as well as mine were violated. Praying the rules of Law under Constitutional Rights will give legal justice.

  • @amandabarnard2072
    @amandabarnard2072 Год назад +1

    "Purpose of the NASW Code of Ethics"... aka a retired Cps Supervisor in a private suit against a personal family member

    • @amandabarnard2072
      @amandabarnard2072 Год назад

      Things are so much better when Emily is around Dustin, not Micah. Fyi. She is awesomesauce skating in her rollerskates.

  • @imay3990
    @imay3990 Год назад +2

    Mr Harris are we able to file a complaint on a cps caseworker that didn’t perform due process in a case. She ignored evidence and committed perjury all in which can be easily proven. Resulted in rights terminated. And if I step into filing a report on an unethical caseworker what can I possibly go against and by that I mean possible retaliation. Also leaving out many details of unethical behavior I have emails messages and pictures.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +2

      Yes, you actually CAN file a complaint against the CPS Investigator! The Office of Consumer Affairs handles all CPS Investigations complaints. There is a toll free number you can call, or you can submit your complaint online here. hhsportal.hhs.state.tx.us/heartwebextr/public/assignment_dfps_ccea?methodToCall=loadExternalAssignment

    • @imay3990
      @imay3990 Год назад

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC thank you sir

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад

      My pleasure. 🤩

  • @abrahamgomez653
    @abrahamgomez653 2 месяца назад

    Im always right

  • @Dawn-zo2ny
    @Dawn-zo2ny Год назад +1

    Hi Matthew...i am wondering if you can help me on this topic...i don't know if you know this, but on the day of my husband's death, which was March 29, 2023, the police forced me to go to the hospital telling the hospital i was suicidal, which i did not tell them...i stayed there for many hours and they would not let me leave...It's actually a hospital-prison, filled with security cameras and police every square inch of that place, plus it's filthy dirty...They took blood tests, urine for testing for drugs, which they told me at the time they were checking for low electrolytes, but they lied...They also took BP and an x-ray of the chest, and covid test...They all acted like cops there, including the hospital workers...i caught the cops in at least 2 lies while they were here...i couldn't believe they were forcing me to go...They even blocked my way in my house, so i couldn't get my hat and go to the bathroom...They were treating me like a criminal...i know they would have kept me all night, but finally they let me go...It was absolutely terrifying...So, they sent me 2 hospital bills so far, one for $10, which i paid, hoping that would be it, but then they sent a bill for $800 for ONE x-ray, and they still haven't sent bills for the other things and for the many hours i was there, and i cannot afford to pay it...All i have is a little of my husband's savings with no money coming in, and i don't know what's going to happen with my life...But, if i don't pay, my credit, which i've built up my whole life, it will be ruined, plus i will probably lose the credit cards i have, plus they could even put me in jail...They did it all against my will...So, do you happen to know what i can do about it...(i live in Mercer county, NJ)...?...i cannot pay, shouldn't have to and i cannot afford a lawyer ...This is such a terrible situation... The laws for police to be more and more barbaric and narcissistic in NJ are on the rise....Also, the hospital-cops, (people that work there because they act just like cops), came to the house with real cops, less than a week later, questionning me in a very suspicious, horrendous way, to see if i need medication or to talk to someone about suicide or something, all because the cops lied...Now i am paying a huge price...i'm sure cops lie constantly and are not held accountable for it...Talk about narcissists...i think all cops are narcissists, probably....Plus i don't know when they are going to show up again...i do not have the $$$ to pay for those huge hospital bills...How can i get out of it without it affecting my credit and not go to jail, etc., which is utterly horrifying and totally unfair...?
    Thank you...
    Dawn

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      Oh my goodness. I am so so sorry for your loss. That is so fresh and I know it can't be easy for you.
      I'm not familiar with NJ Laws, as I'm only licensed in Texas. I'd recommend reaching out to someone locally. From what you've said, you have good reason to contact an attorney. This wouldn't be a waste of your time.
      Again, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. 😢

  • @hokinsont3681
    @hokinsont3681 9 дней назад

    The best thing to do with a narcissists is to just stay away from them if you can.

  • @SleepwalkFan
    @SleepwalkFan Год назад +1

    I think this is why my sister is afraid to leave my brother in law. 😢

  • @zimbabs
    @zimbabs День назад

    Sounds good in theory but you can never win an argument or negotiation with a narc. Go thru your attorney.

  • @razadaza9651
    @razadaza9651 Месяц назад

    I’m not a fan of any “narcissistic” diagnosis…

  • @TopperPenquin
    @TopperPenquin 26 дней назад

    Be a Lawyer

  • @TAG77
    @TAG77 Год назад +1

    So, now that you taught me to win against a narcissist, how do I win against a narc to keep my 420 plants I’m growing in my tub? Just ask’n for a friend 💁🏼‍♀️

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +2

      😂😂😂- Well #1) A tub is a terrible place to grow because of the lack of ventilation and increased humidity that will lead to mold. #2) Your friend is going to have to bribe the narc with cookies and homemade banana bread. #3) I don't have a number three, but I didn't just want to have 2 points. 😂

    • @TAG77
      @TAG77 Год назад +1

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC so, you’re say’n Cookie Monster and the banana bread bandit are involved in this too. 🤔 Interesting.

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +1

      @@TAG77 They're not only involved, but they're actually IN CHARGE!
      ...I've said too much.

    • @TAG77
      @TAG77 Год назад

      @@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC I think I can take them both on. Just as long as nobody throws spinach in. 🤔

  • @renishsmith5841
    @renishsmith5841 10 дней назад

    I really don't give a damn about a sick person I have a narcissist on me now she gets mad at me and put people on me I just over look her

  • @dimasmafiaempire7908
    @dimasmafiaempire7908 11 месяцев назад +2

    Wow so now you want my mother to kill me…

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  11 месяцев назад +1

      🤣 No, I promise that's not the goal! However, if you need a Will... 😉

  • @Robert-qx1tv
    @Robert-qx1tv Месяц назад

    M.U.M. family/civil case file data mine references for Josephine county code process and Procedure

  • @boldchick101
    @boldchick101 6 дней назад

    Sorry, no sane person attempts to negotiate with a narcissist.
    The reality is that the narcissist is so out of touch with the truth that you have to placate their lie to keep the peace.
    They never admit a wrong therefore they never apologize.
    Their flying monkeys are so gaslighted that you end up being the villain all the time.
    Your best defence is to limit or avoid contact and to keep conversations with them on the weather, plants or cars, not ever anything personal.

  • @rodrigodias4483
    @rodrigodias4483 Месяц назад +2

    Narcissists = Democrat . Got it. 👍

  • @Venom-nk8nd
    @Venom-nk8nd 21 день назад

    🇵🇬🇵🇬, ,.

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 13 дней назад

    Run the devil chasing they mom

  • @labakanurzidil2464
    @labakanurzidil2464 3 месяца назад

    i win, i stop listening your narcissism ...

  • @nonyabiz550
    @nonyabiz550 Год назад +2

    This is all utter bs. You just described 90% of humanity, in other words, a narcissist is anyone you don't like or understand

    • @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
      @MatthewHarrisLawPLLC  Год назад +5

      Hey, I didn't determine the parameters for diagnosing someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We left that to the professionals. It's not our fault that so many in society may exhibit some Narcissistic Personality traits.

    • @suzanneoc1963
      @suzanneoc1963 Год назад +2

      I would like to say that there are some very specific ways to deal with people who exhibit narcissistic traits and thankfully our society isn’t made up of 90 % narcissists. I see these as some excellent tips in how to deal with the power struggles and how not to get sucked into or back into an environment where it makes it so much more difficult to make the best decisions you could. These tips are for both male and female. Just my opinion.

    • @MeenaHarlow-kx4fz
      @MeenaHarlow-kx4fz 10 месяцев назад +2

      If you had ever dealt with a true narcissist you probably wouldn’t comment this way. There are people who have less than ordinary traits that are very difficult to deal with.

    • @nonyabiz550
      @nonyabiz550 10 месяцев назад

      @@MeenaHarlow-kx4fz Gee, no, I've never met one🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

  • @scoremxcom
    @scoremxcom 6 месяцев назад +1

    Speaking of Donald Trump, I do have one thing in common with Donnie. We both fantasize about his daughter.

  • @kianicole001
    @kianicole001 День назад

    Negotiations with a narcissist is a fool’s errand. Do whatever you legitimately think is right and deal with whatever fallout comes from it. Document everything.