More MEN are filing for Divorce. Top 5 reasons why
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- Men are filing for divorce more often these days, and I've narrowed down the 5 most shocking reasons based on my 12 years of trial experience.
Chapters:
00:00 - 5 Shocking Reasons Men Are Getting Divorced in 2024
00:24 - The Emasculated Husband
02:15 - Financial Infidelity
03:53 - Lack of Appreciation
06:22 - Sexual Infidelity
07:35 - His Friends/Family are Getting Divorced
08:34 - Not Just Women’s Fault
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The Emasculated Husband
When men have finally had enough to file for divorce, one of the most common reasons is because their wives have repeatedly emasculated them.
Emasculation occurs when a Wife's actions or words undermine her Husband's sense of masculinity, autonomy, or value, leading to feelings of inadequacy or powerlessness. This can severely impact a man's self-esteem and the overall health of the marriage.
Here’s how Wives are emasculating their Husbands:
1. Public Criticism and Humiliation: This is the most common form of emasculation. I’ve had many cases where the Wife criticized her Husband’s decisions, actions, or abilities at social gatherings, in front of friends or family, or on social media. This was incredibly humiliating because it challenged the Husband’s competence and authority. This public disrespect eroded the marital bond, created resentment, and left the Husband feeling alienated.
2. Overruling Decisions and Undermining Authority: Another form of emasculation is when the Wife overrules the Husband's decisions or undermine his authority; especially in matters involving parenting or household management. Contradicting him in front of the children or dismissing his opinions on significant family matters leaves him feeling powerless and insignificant within his own family. This constant challenge to his authority and decision-making can result in a loss of self-confidence and feelings of being devalued.
3. Demeaning Achievements and Belittling Efforts: Emasculation also occurs when the Wife belittles her Husband's professional achievements, personal ambitions, or efforts to contribute to the household. I’ve seen divorces occur because the Wife repeatedly made disparaging remarks about Husband’s job, income, or the value of his contributions compared to hers.
Here’s a free tip for a stronger marriage: praise in public and criticize in private. Husbands should be strong enough to accept feedback and critique, but there’s a time and a place. Also, there is only one Pilot on the plane. If the Husband is the leader in the marriage, then he has to make the tough decisions and the Wife has to respect those decisions.
Financial Infidelity
Everyone is aware of sexual infidelity, but not everyone is aware of financial infidelity.
Financial infidelity is when one partner is dishonest or secretive about financial matters, which leads to a breach of trust in the relationship. This can take various forms and has significant implications for both the relationship and the couple's financial health.
Financial infidelity includes:
1. Hiding or Lying about Expenditures. This is perhaps the most common form of financial infidelity. It involves one partner hiding their spending habits from the other. This could range from small, frequent purchases to large expenditures like buying a car or expensive electronics.
2. Secret Credit Cards. One way that partners commit financial infidelity is by getting secret credit cards to hide expenses. Sometimes, they’ll even ignore the payments on these cards, rack up expenses, and then the husband doesn’t find out until the wife is sued by the credit card company for the debt.
3. Separate Bank Accounts. Ok, technically this isn’t another form of infidelity, but it is one more way that spouses lie about finances. Spouses with separate bank accounts, and who refer to “his money” and “her money” will freely spend money without consulting the other, which can lead to feelings of betrayal. I’ve seen spouses attempt to divide the monthly expenses (wife is responsible for mortgage and husband is responsible for utilities) but this arrangement almost always leaves someone feeling like they are carrying more than their share of the weight.
Here's another free tip for a stronger marriage. Have a serious discussion with your spouse about finances on at least a monthly basis, and always be honest about expenses. If you want your marriage to last, then you both need to work together instead of against each other.
Lack of Appreciation
Men are often portrayed as unemotional in movies, TV, and in the media, however, that’s a sexist stereotype.
Husbands, like anyone, want to feel valued and acknowledged in their relationships, and it is an emotional gut-punch when they aren’t. This includes...
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Great stream Matthew, it was truth laden, Thanks!
Thank you! I wish none of it were true and all marriages lasted forever. Unfortunately, some people are just terrible human beings. 😢
Lol "Don't cheat!" Plain and simple! 😂♥️
If I could've made it simpler, I sure would have!
Go to church…it lowers the risk of divorce by a great deal!!✝️
Amen!
So remain married in a terrible, abusive, unhappy unhealthy, relationship just so that one doesn't get the disapproval of the church and congregation by getting divorced..
Rather dishonest and hypocritical.
Edit: Plus wouldn't that be sinning too 😂
It increase more risk as there are lot of people gossiping
Divorce IS contagious. Ask anyone who's served in the military.
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC is the most informative and helpful Channel, and as a new Subscriber, I smashed "ALL" to view every video. As you continue to serve, thank you, Mr. Harris!
Never never get married
Absolutely great video MHL
Thank you!
Love this one, Matthew. Thank you.
Why thank you Ms. Debbie!
Fabulous video, Matthew! I also appreciated your incorporating some encouragement and tips to inject positivity into a marriage, amidst the reasons you gave that men seek a divorce. Thank you, sir! 👍
I spend so much of my time with clients trying to help them to mend the relationship, even if just for the sake of the kids. Perhaps we can save a marriage or two along the way with some preventative maintenance.
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC Yes, absolutely! As the old saying goes "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."
I LITERALLY have that Benjamin Franklin quote on the front page of my website. 🥰
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC Oh wow!! That's great! ☺
Good points, but a huge reason not noted was stepfamilies, especially btw single moms and childless men, which result in a 70% divorce rate, with 60% of these marriages the stepfather filing for divorce. 70% of all marriages the wife files for divorce.
I need someone in Pennsylvania.
In the World of Psychology, the top reasons for divorce are: money, sex, children and religion. The key is for a couple contemplating marriage to have a discussion BEFORE they take their vows! An important discussion, and agreements, around how money will be managed and used by both partners, a discussion about sex - likes, dislikes, when, how often, where, how. A discussion around how many children, if any, and how they will be parented by both mother and father is essential. Because people can come from different religious (or non-religious) backgrounds, it’s important to determine, and agree ahead of the marriage, what and how religion will play a role in the marriage relationship!
You left out sexless marriages - withholding of intimacy undermines everything else. Trust me - sexless marriages are contagious as well - Women encourage each other to adopt this choice.
Never make women the top priority in life. Make your health, passion, career, hobbies, friends, relatives etc the top priority. Learn to live with or without women. Focus on yourself, work hard, make lot of money, have lot of fun.
Stop Simping and Completely stop trying to please women. Life is too short to waste time and energy on women's emotional drama.
Fantastic life advice, @MatthewHarris !
Thank you! ♥