It destroys intimacy ESPECIALLY when the wife tries to explain it to him and he only denies it, says he's not lusting, gets upset with her and says its just your insecurities you need help.. devastating for a marriage. I am so grateful for this question and you two answering and addressing it honestly and in depth. Thank you 🙏♥️
I am so fed up of this attitude. How can we as women deal with this. It is so disgusting, especially when you are beside them while they are doing this
When bringing awareness, gets you insulted and offends your husband, it's utterly devastating. When bringing the devastation up, and again being insulted for being childish or petty happens, where is there to turn? I feel so disregarded in my marriage, believe it's abuse and desperately want out.
@covered1983 I am praying for you and your husband!! I felt exactly the same and i wish i could give yiu a big hug!! We have recently started meeting with our Pastor and his wife.. it has only been twice and I can definitely see the Lord working. With Him is healing, repentance and all things are possible 🙏💖🙏
@intheshadowofthemosthighgo187 this is nothing new. He just went to jail Monday for his 4th DV I reported. There are others I didn't report. I do appreciate prayers but until he wants to change he won't.
My husband used to have this issue and it was very damaging to our relationship because I had extreme insecurity. He started to learn how God sees people and Gods heart for people and their created value. Now he no longer looks at women with lust, he sees everyone with the Fathers eyes but it took some growing for him to get there. Only Jesus can help us with our sin truly living in the spirit daily. This ministry has helped us a lot but I think there’s a deeper revelation that can help everyone
🙏❤️🙏Some men need to stop lusting after women, and some women need to stop trying to get men's attention by the way they dress. Also, people need to stop seeing beautiful as in what a person looks like. Beauty is in a person's heart, character, personality, not in their looks. Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the Heart!🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
If a man sees ladies in the area, unless he has a good reason that he needs to speak with her, he should turn his head in the opposite direction. Let’s be honest here, lust is a huge problem especially for men. To look at a woman with lust is to have already committed adultery in your heart, Jesus. Run from sexual sin. It will cost your eternal soul and drag you to hell. It’s hurting you, your wife and your family. Once you do that you will beak that ugly habit.
““I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin? What would be my portion from God above and my heritage from the Almighty on high? Is not calamity for the unrighteous, and disaster for the workers of iniquity? Does not he see my ways and number all my steps?” Job 31:1-4 ESV
Men do not care. Its not an issue of being open and honest with them. They will continue to disrespect a wife if they think there are no consequences for it. And most don't. It's probably a habit by now so ingrained that they will continue. It's not that they have a lack of knowledge that it hurts the spouse, it's that they don't care.
I tell ya, the only time I had a problem with my wife looking at other men was when my marriage was on the brink of divorce….now that we’ve been healing I’m not as insecure about it anymore… I feel like it’s okay to acknowledge that God made beautiful people other than your spouse…it’s just sinful to carry it further into lust.
He’s totally aware of it because she talked to him about it. Stop making excuses to stare at other women. It’s not the women’s responsibility to dress differently. It’s totally disrespectful when men do it! Men are not the victims! I feel you are making excuses for men’s actions!
It is the woman’s responsibility as well. God will hold her accountable for being a stumbling block. But a man can’t control anyone other than himself. He too will be responsible before God for not disciplining his desires. Both people are guilty (if immodesty is part of it)
“7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7 “28 Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” Proverbs 25:28 “8 Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.” Titus 1:8 “1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12 1-2 “5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:5
Honestly, I look at butts all the time. It’s habit, and there’s no sexual desire that goes along with it. I will say when I notice my husband doing it, I do get insecure.
Yes it’s wrong. It’s wrong for both men and women to “look.” I won’t read 50 shades, watch Magic Mike (gross) go to a Vegas show about it etc. no way. My friends know, I have no desire and find it gross to lust or even gaze upon another. My husband used to have a wandering eye, when we began going to church our pastor addressed this in depth…. It was amazing. Then he went to a father son even and they spoke on it again. My husband has not been tempted to even look when I am around at least. He is so respectful he even moves away when a women comes to work out next to him at the gym. I love it!!! I think it’s hilarious, he has our marriage at the forefront of his mind, heart, and eyes. I do believe however women need to look their best and work out, eat right etc, to keep up their appearance for their husband. Even when I had a baby and a toddler I still woke up early and tried. I had no time to exercise, but I ate right. I always got ready. And I still do, he loves to gaze upon me 🥰
Ok, women are just as bad with THIER wondering eyes......let's just point fingers til cows come home......again, if MOST women would show more attention to thier husband he more than likely wouldnt have wondering eyes.....proven fact
It destroys intimacy ESPECIALLY when the wife tries to explain it to him and he only denies it, says he's not lusting, gets upset with her and says its just your insecurities you need help.. devastating for a marriage.
I am so grateful for this question and you two answering and addressing it honestly and in depth. Thank you 🙏♥️
I am so fed up of this attitude. How can we as women deal with this. It is so disgusting, especially when you are beside them while they are doing this
When bringing awareness, gets you insulted and offends your husband, it's utterly devastating. When bringing the devastation up, and again being insulted for being childish or petty happens, where is there to turn? I feel so disregarded in my marriage, believe it's abuse and desperately want out.
@covered1983 I am praying for you and your husband!! I felt exactly the same and i wish i could give yiu a big hug!! We have recently started meeting with our Pastor and his wife.. it has only been twice and I can definitely see the Lord working. With Him is healing, repentance and all things are possible 🙏💖🙏
@intheshadowofthemosthighgo187 this is nothing new. He just went to jail Monday for his 4th DV I reported. There are others I didn't report. I do appreciate prayers but until he wants to change he won't.
@@covered1983 right, free will. I'm so sorry 🙏💖🙏
My husband used to have this issue and it was very damaging to our relationship because I had extreme insecurity. He started to learn how God sees people and Gods heart for people and their created value. Now he no longer looks at women with lust, he sees everyone with the Fathers eyes but it took some growing for him to get there. Only Jesus can help us with our sin truly living in the spirit daily. This ministry has helped us a lot but I think there’s a deeper revelation that can help everyone
🙏❤️🙏Some men need to stop lusting after women, and some women need to stop trying to get men's attention by the way they dress. Also, people need to stop seeing beautiful as in what a person looks like. Beauty is in a person's heart, character, personality, not in their looks. Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the Heart!🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
If a man sees ladies in the area, unless he has a good reason that he needs to speak with her, he should turn his head in the opposite direction. Let’s be honest here, lust is a huge problem especially for men. To look at a woman with lust is to have already committed adultery in your heart, Jesus. Run from sexual sin. It will cost your eternal soul and drag you to hell. It’s hurting you, your wife and your family. Once you do that you will beak that ugly habit.
It's all about an individual's maturity level. An experienced gent and lady, will find such a thing old hat.
““I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin? What would be my portion from God above and my heritage from the Almighty on high? Is not calamity for the unrighteous, and disaster for the workers of iniquity? Does not he see my ways and number all my steps?”
Job 31:1-4 ESV
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Men do not care. Its not an issue of being open and honest with them. They will continue to disrespect a wife if they think there are no consequences for it. And most don't. It's probably a habit by now so ingrained that they will continue. It's not that they have a lack of knowledge that it hurts the spouse, it's that they don't care.
I agree with you
Not all men. And many women do the same thing. Sucks to be cheated on doesn't it.
Excellent.
Thank you and God bless you both and keep you safe
❤️🙏🏼🩸🕊️😇
I tell ya, the only time I had a problem with my wife looking at other men was when my marriage was on the brink of divorce….now that we’ve been healing I’m not as insecure about it anymore… I feel like it’s okay to acknowledge that God made beautiful people other than your spouse…it’s just sinful to carry it further into lust.
He’s totally aware of it because she talked to him about it. Stop making excuses to stare at other women. It’s not the women’s responsibility to dress differently. It’s totally disrespectful when men do it! Men are not the victims! I feel you are making excuses for men’s actions!
Modesty is VERY important more than you might think
It is the woman’s responsibility as well. God will hold her accountable for being a stumbling block.
But a man can’t control anyone other than himself. He too will be responsible before God for not disciplining his desires.
Both people are guilty (if immodesty is part of it)
“7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”
2 Timothy 1:7
“28 Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”
Proverbs 25:28
“8 Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.”
Titus 1:8
“1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship.
2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Romans 12 1-2
“5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
2 Corinthians 10:5
A married man tells his friend that a particular woman is 'nothing to look at' . He's looked long enough to evaluate, is that lustt then?
Honestly, I look at butts all the time. It’s habit, and there’s no sexual desire that goes along with it. I will say when I notice my husband doing it, I do get insecure.
Yes it’s wrong. It’s wrong for both men and women to “look.” I won’t read 50 shades, watch Magic Mike (gross) go to a Vegas show about it etc. no way. My friends know, I have no desire and find it gross to lust or even gaze upon another.
My husband used to have a wandering eye, when we began going to church our pastor addressed this in depth…. It was amazing. Then he went to a father son even and they spoke on it again. My husband has not been tempted to even look when I am around at least. He is so respectful he even moves away when a women comes to work out next to him at the gym. I love it!!! I think it’s hilarious, he has our marriage at the forefront of his mind, heart, and eyes.
I do believe however women need to look their best and work out, eat right etc, to keep up their appearance for their husband. Even when I had a baby and a toddler I still woke up early and tried. I had no time to exercise, but I ate right. I always got ready. And I still do, he loves to gaze upon me 🥰
at the end of the day, have to be confident in yourself. A man may look but his heart is with the person he provides for everyday.
More than likely she doesn't have burning desire for her husband.....if she did I'd say he wouldn't have wondering eyes 😉
Ah yes blame the wife for her husband’s behavior he has control of…
@@greysuit17.......truth hurts
That’s not the truth what you are presenting. Individuals are responsible for their own behavior and thoughts and actions.
Ok, women are just as bad with THIER wondering eyes......let's just point fingers til cows come home......again, if MOST women would show more attention to thier husband he more than likely wouldnt have wondering eyes.....proven fact
@@ElizabethV01NOR.....you lost me at marriage