It’s a hell of a lesson to learn though - almost cost me my life. My prayers to all going through it. You will emerge a better person. You were a target precisely because you are good
Facts 😂 she almost got me killed I caught her in bed with a guy in the guy was a shooter Im a fighter glad I didn't put my hands on him cuz he was a bum street guy that got all the time in the world 🌍 to beef 🍖
That was stated so well, “they are not contributing, they are just taking from you” very wise words, it’s like they are stealing from your soul day in and day out,
Man I was ina relationship with a narc for 2 and a half years. Worst experience of my LIFE. The amount of abuse was unreal. Lies, manipulation, cheating, gaslighting, verbal and physical abuse. I thought I would never be able to get away. It feels so good to now finally be free from this individual. I have been able to focus on myself and what truly matters
Thank God it turned that way, imagine all the people around the world being stuck with such a person for decades! They literally have a demon attached to them while here on earth, crazy!
5 years since I left my toxic family best thing I did I feel happier, healthier, and have a peaceful life it was a blessing in disguise 💙💚 love and good energy to you
Some narcs are covert and do things that can make you seem like you crazy. And if you not hip to it you can fall back into it not realizing it's intentional.
Yep, I'll admit I lost it a few times and fell right into those traps a few times . She like to catch me when I've been drinking . I'm not happy in the way I acted; but it gave her the ammo to go, " SEE, SEE HE IS NUTS, HES CRAZY ", 🤦🏼♂️ No B, if you wasn't over there micro cheating and having inappropriate relationships with mofos and say what you mean ( at what we all know now as the Hoover, love bomb, and future making ) I wouldn't be actin out . Boy they love to push that button . They know what they're doing .
@@zabercrombie24 yep see they push that button because they know all your buttons. So if you fall into it .that will give them the ammo to call you crazy or call the police and try an get you locked up...
It's the people who phrase things like they are doing it for your benefit who are the worst. They will help you in order to full on guilt trip you later on when you become successful. Definitely be careful who you take handouts from, some people give to control your emotions.
A narcissist is like a leach they will suck every bit of your soul out of you and they won't feel ashamed of it that's how these individuals work there damaged goods never let a narcissist in to your life there very toxic people
All its done is make me stronger going through this stuff. A leopard doesn't change its spots. People need to be more guarded and aware these day's. Most people forget that trust isn't given,it's earned🙂
Gosh my father used to say such. Never good enough! Give trust from the start & take it bk accordingly. We re all different. I don't think one is better than the other. Dingwall-Scotland ❤️
Narcissists are the true definition of wolves wearing sheep's clothing most dangerous people on earth you can encounter especially if you are an empath protect yourself, spiritiualy.
Yes if a girlfriend treated me with thw same level of disrespect, rudeness, uncaring and lies I would WRITE THEM OFF IMMEDIATELY! Why in the hell did I allow him to do this without writting him off? Because of the future faking & trauma bonding and FAKE promises of love.
After The Discard I Left Her In The Rear View, In The Dust Where She Belongs. They Always Think They Can Return, it's Not Happening Over Here. No Way! No How!. 🚫 📵
I do agree. We should want to avoid any toxic environments and individuals who drain your positivity. I've always been a healer. I just natural attract the bad ones because its a want to save them not really knowing they are bad. Because they are good at hiding it until the light comes on. Thank you again.
@@mesoo4606 True. There are other types too who do everything to cut you down and undermine you because you shine light on their darkness. I’ve had way more experience with this than the type you mention. Thanks for your information
I wish. I’m just trying to figure out how much longer until mine stops stalking me. I have him blocked on everything, restraining order, no contact. He just won’t stop trying to contact me and get me back. How long until he moves on. He has a new girl. Just still obsessed with me.
My mind was absolutely blown to learn that every single one of them use the same exact playbook.I give chances as well, but TRUST, is a must. I’d rather be alone for the rest of my days than to deal with one more of them. They belong on Broadway, making a real good living from the acting chops that they possess.
So true Love Whitey and Victoria. They peddle hope that one day that might change, one day we might see that person from the begining again. They are Hope Fraudsters!
You just described the circumstances I lived with for over 20 years and I bowed out 1 year ago! Yes, he crossed the line. And, no it was not a hard decision even after 20 years. At some point they cross lines and their masks comes off! They really do eventually F up beyond repair. Even if it takes them 20 years, once you see their vale come off, you can't unsee it!
THIS IS IT RIGHT HERE. YOUR ENERGY CHANGES THEY CAN SENSE IT. I WAS NEARLY DESTROYED FORGIVING MYSELF WAS THE HARDEST THING. IT WAS A FORM OF HELL ON EARTH THAT IS OVER MOST PEOPLE'S HEADS UNLESS THEY HAVE BEEN THERE. THESE THINGS CARRY SPIRITS SOUL SUCKERS EVIL.
@@kimharden6067 I felt something was "off" from the beginning. The first time he tried to put his arm around me at the drive-in I looked at him trying to hide the feel of fear on my face. I know he saw it. He didn't put his arm around me but when he knew I knew I didn't call him anything...he unleashed the beast. I'm going through an awakening have been since June 1st at 11:11 am. The death of an ego. He does know in a round about way sending through others he wants "all of me." My door is shut but man had I just stopped after the 1st date at least. I didn't. He wants what is new after he blew away my ego. I was a codependent he made sure he highlighted that. He has 2 identities fake last name "Malice" the rabbit hole runs much deeper I'm just glad I'm out🕯
My last boyfriend said id never find someone like him. I dont want someone like that. Im happy on my own, i was on my own with him anyway. I felt lonely with him, i never feel lonely on my own. Too busy. Trauma bonds are very hard to break. You gotta accept the reality of the situation before you can change it. Sometimes they cause you to be as deluded as they are.🕯
That piece of crap i was with for 13yrs told me the same Damn thing, because he thought he was "original" in his simple mind. Why will I want another someone like him??!! My God, he is the devil's sperm!!!
I have been there 💔start sleeping to Two preachers psalms on YT on loop 🔁 and Pastor Robert Clancy on YT generational curses and soul ties and anger & many more will heal you I promise 🗣✍🏻🙏🏻Your never alone ❤️
I’m a Sigma Empath. I slayed him. He KNOWS I’m not coming back. Dumped him in 4 months. Blindsided him to oblivion. He is still licking his narcissistic wounds. Sigma females always get revenge. Not because we want to but, because they deserve it. He’s on his knees. Never underestimate a Sigma Empath. Narcissist are to self absorbed to even notice the Slayer stands before them. I would never take that POS back.
I know revenge isn’t advised but I am a Scorpio and can’t help it. When my sons mom discarded she spiraled deep into her drug addiction. I put her on child support, went no contact, reported her for ebt fraud I got my fill of kicking her while she was down
TOXIC PEOPLE will not be changed by the alchemy of your kindness. YES be kind, but MOVE ON swiftly and let LIFE BE their educator. _B.B 🤝✨ #keepgoingkeepshining⭐✨
These are facts , thank you for sharing . Your wisdom and intuition is remarkable. I know they know ( those narcissists ) at work I’m never gonna accept to see them again and they know it and they looking for another victim. It’s over forever . God has blessed me. X they trying to see me and find out about me but I won’t permit. God saved me from these devils. Amen
Never going back.. He changed me,it was hard But with him a cut my childhood Traumas,Abuse,And I will never settle For less.. I gave 150 % He gave me -0 He,Made me stronger
Most important things to me is Trust...Respect...loyalty=love...narcs pretend to feel same but its hilarious...They are delusional....Once TRUST is gone....I left....checked out 100%
When you stop giving a crap about the negative people in your life...."they" wont be the topic of your conversation anymore. stop allowing negative people to rent space in our head... Otherwise they Win. Take back your power and dont allow these people to frustrate or bother you. When you ignore them and kill them with kindness , You Win!!!!! I wish you happiness ...peace and love. Goodluck and stay blessed. I think you are on the right track and I see you going far in life ! I'd love 2 see you smile one day:) your a good looking kid w a bright future ahead. I know people can suck sometimes...but there are also lots of great people in the world. Wean out the bad and stick w the good...even if its only 1 or 2 people its better then 10 people w cruel intentions. I know you can do it.
I like the way you have written it. Felt good after reading your comment. I have been hurt, back stabbed by people in my life. I will never again allow them in my life.
People need to realise this with family too. Our family often take advantage, think that they own us & that we'll have unconditional loyalty to them even when they harm us more than even our worst enemies do. We need to sever ties with family members that treat us like crap in the same way that you would any other toxic person in our life
@@carpathianken Fully agree. We should rebuke their error and correct them as Paul recommends in scripture. But after that, we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers or those who are disobediend and don't love the Lord Yeshua Hamashiach (Jesus). I experience exactly the same that you do and I know it is not easy. Best is to go and discuss your pain in detail with the Lord. We must ask. Then He will help you.
@@francoisnaude7973 I'm not all that well versed in the scripture of Paul,but what you mentioned of what his scripture says seems to make logical sense.I'll go read up on him now......Thanks
Again thank you for the word of wisdom!! I definitely need to change. God help me to change. So I don't allow myself to be in a situation like that ever again
Yes he made me turn away from him, and turn to God and I love God more God showed me he wasn't the way,and thank God for opening my eyes,I know life goes on and it will get better I'm actually happy now.
They really don’t care. They don’t. They’ve moved on waaay before their victims ever leave or move on. They just go on to the next and use their energies and tactics for the current supply/supplies.
It's true, but even though they don't care about you, they do think they "own" you - which makes them believe they can pop back in for whatever sort of supply they need whenever they want. That's why one has to go no contact.
what bothers me and I've been through it myself is people put labels on others like "Twin Flame" as a coping mechanism and excuse to get treated poorly!!
Yes!!! Yes I went through this and it made me realize that there IS a demonic spirit behind these people and it has created a false narrative that some in the so called “spiritual” community have taken advantage of
Amen to that!!! Once I lose TRUST. You’re cut off PERMANENTLY! I’m a Leo and he was a Virgo. We Leo’s are heavy on trust. I upgraded my mindset and my Empress a** is moving along quite lovely and abundantly.💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🙋🏽♀️
I have to thank my narc ex for finally making me put up boundaries to my self esteem. Never again will l allow anyone to bend my will just to accommodate them. I can still be a good person, but there are limits and l will not be a pushover anymore. I possess heightened intuition, the trouble started because l didn’t listen. I’ve learned lessons from the past and now l’m taking them to embrace a brighter future.
Very sorry to hear about your experiences. They are only interested in getting your attention once it is completely off of them. Thats why they check in occasionally to make sure youre still hurt. You are not a human being in their eyes. Your ability to heal is tied to what you refuse to tolerate. Accept that you are responsible for refusing abuse . Also, remember that you aren't missing out on anything. They're empty inside.
That's some solid advice right there. If I was going through a breakup with a toxic person I would watch this video on repeat every day to steel my resolve.
I was in a relationship with a narc for over 12 years. Everything you’re saying is on point. I have done the healing and moved on .. he is still trying to come back even tho I have a stalking order and he already went to jail for it. He keeps crossing the line and can’t learn the lesson.
I like this. So true. My ex narcissist had the nerve to think I would never get a good man after him. He did me dirty and he even said that he does not deserve me. He cheated on me in the relationship and got her pregnant. He then discard me for her and I found out later. I knew i deserved better and he knows too but after he discarded me he told the flying monkeys that I would never get a good man.
If they cross a line and the trust is gone. This is, out of many of the video's on narcissism the best description and advice of why anyone should GET OUT of this narcissistic or toxic relationship.
haha...even when they realize it they still won't accept it because it's not allowed. and although they can't quite put their finger on it they feel something very precarious in the darkside force. when they've finally used too much toxicity and sent their allocated target so far away they're still runnin, it displeases their master and they know it. Vader strangled Ozzle from across the starship..."You have failed me the last time commander."
This is my current situation sweetheart. Especially when said one after another. It seems these are the men I attract which made me look within myself. The suffering is horrible. But this video demonstrating your strength just confirms I will get through this. Thanks boo
Good word,free rent in your head,that really helps.HELL NO, narc stole&manipulated,trys to call it a loan..broken promises, I was fooled..O well I am recovering well,,Was to trusting..Forgiving doesn't mean repeat, Really like the free rent in our head hell No so done❤🙏You said it so well..
I used to find your insight to be rather intense.. but after a full year of healing work, your messages resonate SO deeply! Peace, Love & Light, Brother! 🙌
Thank you Terry Joel bless you always and your whole family and crew, we don't hate or love the narcs just had to self love and respect one self, no come me backs or do overs we were fair and loving gave enough chances and understanding, if they are able to turn the ship around with God's greatest grace then they won't question our decision and match up with a good person, we have been through too much and we wish everyone to be blessed with God omnipresent in everyone's life Thank you Cheers for the your great content Nameste
This Empath Finally shut down a toxic guy I had known for over 40 years,dated in our 20’s then reunited 4 years ago.Oh Lord, honeymoon phase, gaslighting, rages, circle around..smashed my heart to pieces.. I AM DONE! Blocked no contact! I’m a loving, caring, funny, giving and mutual respect type of gal, but this was a whole different level of insane! Almost deliberately evil! My trust levels are truly affected!
I was not in a relationship with a narcissist, but one randomly bulldozed into my life out of nowhere. He attacked my family, and when I stood up to him, he publicly shamed me online. I had no idea who I was dealing with. I didn’t respond to his attack on me, so he tried another and then another. No response from me. It’s true - one of the most devastating things you can do to narcissistic personality types is to ignore them. Silence is their agony and all that pain they caused you initially comes back 100 times worse.
Inner healing for you all, Need to break the ungodly soul-ties w/ these people , naming then- Example, Lord Jesus, I break the ungodly soul-ties w/ ??? sexually, mentally, emotional and physical, I forgive them for ????? and forgive my self for ???? I ask you Lord to restore me to who you called me to be and bring healthy, strong people into my life in Jesus Name. This is good for family members and bosses and etc. Everyday its healthy to break ungodly soul-ties coming home from work, places and whatever your doing around people. We just never know what were picking up in the spirit realm. Hopes this help everyone. God bless J
2nd time she came back i gave in 3rd time I told her the truth and blocked her on everything and the crazy thing is she still stuck in the same place and I've improved
Never! Never! Never! It was finger pointing funny to the ladies when he dumped me. Not anymore. Some guys congratulated "The End"; others spit harsh words to me. I've lived an impeccable life-- free of scandal. What I regret is friendships built over decades are broken. Lesson learned...but this too will pass.
It’s difficult, I know. I have talked to some people after some time has passed, but never met up again in person. Also, remember, when communicating over the phone a narc can act however they think will get you to keep talking to them. Be careful
@@paulbenish she hasn’t reached out yet be honest I was her first love to be honest but she put me through hell granted I’m the one who broke her heart but she got more than even honestly.
My ex hated me, finally leaving him after 12 years we had our 1st decent conversation ( more than the 2 words F O) only 17 years later. He phoned each and every employer telling lies and called me a lyer, a thief, a monster and tried to destroy my life in every way.
Right. If you keep letting people " cross the line" there is something wrong with you too. Chances are the victim had abusive or narcissistic family members.That is what needs to be worked on. I had to face that about myself. I had no idea what healthy, respectful relating looked like.
My two brothers hated me. Two full grown men. Walked away from one yrs ago and the other just recently. I wondered for yrs why did they hate me? Now I don’t care and they are dust in the desert for me. I don’t hate them. I never needed them and that was the problem. Walking away was the best thing I ever did. Now I’m healing with gods help thanks terry much love ❤️💜❤️💜
I have 3 brothers one of them I cut out of my life like 3 weeks ago, he had a blow up moment and tried to intimidate me because I decided I was going to finish my statement while he attempted to interrupt me. Difficult to describe how that unfolded but any other time before that I’d just let him cut me off… just that day a switch flipped in my head and I decided not to allow it. Ironically he felt violated by that and his brain exploded he snapped… He is also psychologically abusive to his wife and children, but nevertheless he hit me up yesterday after 3 weeks after no contact he texted me and asked if I want to hangout. I simply ignored the message and I never felt so good about it.
@@duelz3885 good for you. Because now you are in control of yourself. And you stood up for yourself! I was the same, let everyone walk all over me for yrs but not now, and if they don’t want to know what opinions you have, walk away no aggro no nothing just say I don’t want to hear what you have to say and walk. But keep it up don’t go back to the old ways do not give your power away to nobody no thing. It’s amazing what happens when you do this, no reaction, just watch ❤️💜
And the thing is we love them so much That we are actually afraid of cutting them off because once we cut them off because we know once we do that will be forever
Be glad that you haven't dealt with toxic situations. I'm coming from a toxic family so I guess it was normal for me. That's why I didn't see through it.
Heaven is on earth, God has soldiers in heaven fighting for our peace everyday. Don't let the devil win guys. God is our salvation, if you talk to him he will show up, trust in him nobody else. That parent that has destroyed your being, and you can't decide whether to go no contact or not, dont dwell, but think back in your life all the things said and done, it will make a light bulb moment appear. But you have to understand all about narcs first, i believe. Great video. 👍🙏🎁🎄
So long as our actions are with pure, good, logical, realistic and understable intent. Mutual wellbeing can be kept. We all have our burdens. We all can make mistakes, but our intent shows our conscience in its best state. Our actions to help others find their own light, is our greatest purpose in this ever-growing blight. We are our own salvation so long as we know the difference between wrong from right. Everyone is different but connected we will always be, so long as we wish good, just, honest intentions on our whole community. Thats how we can be free to me. Hoping that we all can truly see. Blessed be. 🤗 For that is the to harmony. Wishing you a happy blessed weekend.
SUMMARY: Reverse the spell from hell. Turn it around like a hat... They are vampire bats. 🧛♂️ 🧛♀️. TRUST in God. Watch them play. Use this video to keep them at bay. ...Most importantly 🙏 pray, pray, pray....with gratitude for today. Trust restored is on it's way! God Bless you Terry!
Hey Ter! You look marvelous! 👍 the vid! You are right my friend, every word! My narc mom is withering around relentlessly trying to reach me for supply and it's been about 10 years no contact with her! I hear she is ill.I've given her millions of chances and she only gets worse with age and I will not be around for it.That's what they do to themselves after you go no contact,they make themselves sick.It's a 2 fold equation...one is for attention,two is to make themselves look pathetic and for sympathy because they are ill now. 🤒 Blessings to you Terry.
if you don't do the self work, that narc spirit will return in a different form until you learn the lesson
It’s a hell of a lesson to learn though - almost cost me my life. My prayers to all going through it. You will emerge a better person. You were a target precisely because you are good
So true.
@@MJ-qb5ph the evil seeks the good ones until an evildoer beats them
@@donald2024on Let us hope so
very true!
Who tries to kill someone then thinks they’re going to come back? Delusional.
Very
Exactly!
Facts 😂 she almost got me killed I caught her in bed with a guy in the guy was a shooter Im a fighter glad I didn't put my hands on him cuz he was a bum street guy that got all the time in the world 🌍 to beef 🍖
@@drewillaims4807 good choice bro, never associate with that female ever again they don’t deserve us
@@asvp770 I agree 💯 big bro 💯💪🏿
Never deal with someone YOU DON'T TRUST ever. If they didn't take you out the first time, they'll take you out a second time.
True
I'd rather be alone than ever go through that heartache and heartbreak again.
@Donnie (guitar tech) Same to you! xx oo
Say That Again!!!!👌👊
Well said. I don't ever want to go through this experience again, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's just safer on my own.
That was stated so well, “they are not contributing, they are just taking from you” very wise words, it’s like they are stealing from your soul day in and day out,
Don't need no one but God, that's why I don't deal with people, saves me the drama and wasted energy, enjoy your day Bro
I couldn't agree any more!
Me too ❤️🕊
Amen 🙏
10000%
Amen
Man I was ina relationship with a narc for 2 and a half years. Worst experience of my LIFE. The amount of abuse was unreal. Lies, manipulation, cheating, gaslighting, verbal and physical abuse. I thought I would never be able to get away. It feels so good to now finally be free from this individual. I have been able to focus on myself and what truly matters
Thank God it turned that way, imagine all the people around the world being stuck with such a person for decades!
They literally have a demon attached to them while here on earth, crazy!
secretly they hated you but your attention and validation kept them playing games
@@davidrogafeller7464 tell me about it. Glad I can finally see past all that bullshit now
@@matej9255 that’s what I’m saying. I pray for those people man cuz I know how horrible that is
@@Jmoney4128 yep, 100%!
Today is 12 months I left my toxic family for good, not ever going back ever my freedom and peace is too precious to me
20 years for me. The first year or two was very scary and uncertain for me. But also moments of grace and and elation.
Next month is two years for me going no-contact with my family of origin. The peace I feel is indescribable...
@@endorphinrider1633 Yes agree with you 💯 % the peace is so sweet!
@@triplekids3 i'm happy for you i wish i can do that too ..
5 years since I left my toxic family best thing I did I feel happier, healthier, and have a peaceful life it was a blessing in disguise 💙💚 love and good energy to you
Some narcs are covert and do things that can make you seem like you crazy. And if you not hip to it you can fall back into it not realizing it's intentional.
So true 💯👆🏽🎯💜💜💜💜
Yep, I'll admit I lost it a few times and fell right into those traps a few times . She like to catch me when I've been drinking .
I'm not happy in the way I acted; but it gave her the ammo to go, " SEE, SEE HE IS NUTS, HES CRAZY ", 🤦🏼♂️
No B, if you wasn't over there micro cheating and having inappropriate relationships with mofos and say what you mean ( at what we all know now as the Hoover, love bomb, and future making ) I wouldn't be actin out . Boy they love to push that button . They know what they're doing .
Absolutely. Narsissm by stealth
@@zabercrombie24 yep see they push that button because they know all your buttons. So if you fall into it .that will give them the ammo to call you crazy or call the police and try an get you locked up...
It's the people who phrase things like they are doing it for your benefit who are the worst. They will help you in order to full on guilt trip you later on when you become successful. Definitely be careful who you take handouts from, some people give to control your emotions.
A narcissist is like a leach they will suck every bit of your soul out of you and they won't feel ashamed of it that's how these individuals work there damaged goods never let a narcissist in to your life there very toxic people
Parasites users they are...
All its done is make me stronger going through this stuff. A leopard doesn't change its spots. People need to be more guarded and aware these day's. Most people forget that trust isn't given,it's earned🙂
Gosh my father used to say such. Never good enough! Give trust from the start & take it bk accordingly. We re all different. I don't think one is better than the other. Dingwall-Scotland ❤️
Cheers Terry,you have a good day my friend. Take care and be safe in this ungodly world 🙏
Exactly
The whole impetus of their behavior is extreme need to ' win' and extreme fear of abandonment, so, yes, us leaving for good is a Deathblow to them!
Hell yeah 💪🏼
Perfect timing, I cut off all my friends and now they’re saying sorry. Thank you god for showing me my real friends! I love you God!!!
Narcissists are the true definition of wolves wearing sheep's clothing most dangerous people on earth you can encounter especially if you are an empath protect yourself, spiritiualy.
Yes if a girlfriend treated me with thw same level of disrespect, rudeness, uncaring and lies I would WRITE THEM OFF IMMEDIATELY! Why in the hell did I allow him to do this without writting him off? Because of the future faking & trauma bonding and FAKE promises of love.
Narcissists will choke on the pain they caused.
Amen 💖
they never change. ever.
live on / no evil
great vid.
After The Discard I Left Her In The Rear View, In The Dust Where She Belongs. They Always Think They Can Return, it's Not Happening Over Here. No Way! No How!. 🚫 📵
I do agree. We should want to avoid any toxic environments and individuals who drain your positivity. I've always been a healer. I just natural attract the bad ones because its a want to save them not really knowing they are bad. Because they are good at hiding it until the light comes on. Thank you again.
It's crazy because sometimes I want to go back to them because I miss the laughs and good times. But this way of life is just better
IT WAS ALL A ILLUSION…NEVER GO BACK TO SHIT..
@@PITTSBURGH06 damn. I needed this thank you. For real.
Remember they almost took you out well the one i was with almost took me out and i would never try that mess again he killed my unborn child
yes... he did make me laugh...but then i think about the times he made me cry !!!
It NEVER balances out, ever.
Narcissts are too arrogant to even notice that you have gone
They won’t notice if you’re just a sex toy to them. You have to have a resource, like money, or a house to offer, in order for them to look for you.
@@mesoo4606 True. There are other types too who do everything to cut you down and undermine you because you shine light on their darkness. I’ve had way more experience with this than the type you mention. Thanks for your information
They notice , they may pretend they don’t but they know
I wish. I’m just trying to figure out how much longer until mine stops stalking me. I have him blocked on everything, restraining order, no contact. He just won’t stop trying to contact me and get me back. How long until he moves on. He has a new girl. Just still obsessed with me.
My mind was absolutely blown to learn that every single one of them use the same exact playbook.I give chances as well, but TRUST, is a must. I’d rather be alone for the rest of my days than to deal with one more of them. They belong on Broadway, making a real good living from the acting chops that they possess.
There's one more thing I wanna add a narcissist is very cleaver as being a scam artist
Extremely especially covert Very dangerous & stealth 🥷💰🚨👺☠️
Academy award actors these creatures can morph into Rico suave , Don Juan .. and then Satan for the closing act .. Aka ., discard
@@victoriavitoroulis3273 ain't that the truth
Yes
So true Love Whitey and Victoria. They peddle hope that one day that might change, one day we might see that person from the begining again. They are Hope Fraudsters!
You just described the circumstances I lived with for over 20 years and I bowed out 1 year ago! Yes, he crossed the line. And, no it was not a hard decision even after 20 years. At some point they cross lines and their masks comes off! They really do eventually F up beyond repair. Even if it takes them 20 years, once you see their vale come off, you can't unsee it!
Same but 15 years. Still not healed but one day!
We need some serious jail time for all the Narc's around the world.
THIS IS IT RIGHT HERE. YOUR ENERGY CHANGES THEY CAN SENSE IT. I WAS NEARLY DESTROYED FORGIVING MYSELF WAS THE HARDEST THING. IT WAS A FORM OF HELL ON EARTH THAT IS OVER MOST PEOPLE'S HEADS UNLESS THEY HAVE BEEN THERE. THESE THINGS CARRY SPIRITS SOUL SUCKERS EVIL.
I call them Succubus
It's TRUE!!! The HARDEST PART, IS FORGIVING URSELF BCUZ U FCKING KNEW BETTER!!!
They are empty shells ! We are stronger ! Live in move on !
@@kimharden6067 I felt something was "off" from the beginning. The first time he tried to put his arm around me at the drive-in I looked at him trying to hide the feel of fear on my face. I know he saw it. He didn't put his arm around me but when he knew I knew I didn't call him anything...he unleashed the beast. I'm going through an awakening have been since June 1st at 11:11 am. The death of an ego. He does know in a round about way sending through others he wants "all of me." My door is shut but man had I just stopped after the 1st date at least. I didn't. He wants what is new after he blew away my ego. I was a codependent he made sure he highlighted that. He has 2 identities fake last name "Malice" the rabbit hole runs much deeper I'm just glad I'm out🕯
My last boyfriend said id never find someone like him. I dont want someone like that. Im happy on my own, i was on my own with him anyway. I felt lonely with him, i never feel lonely on my own. Too busy. Trauma bonds are very hard to break. You gotta accept the reality of the situation before you can change it. Sometimes they cause you to be as deluded as they are.🕯
They aren’t sh!!! They cold empty glasses full boring lol
That piece of crap i was with for 13yrs told me the same Damn thing, because he thought he was "original" in his simple mind. Why will I want another someone like him??!! My God, he is the devil's sperm!!!
I've gone back to my family (relatives) so many times knowing better and it got worse everytime. N these are one day visits.
Wow!
@@brendaleverick3655 yup after months at a time.
@@abbasownblackman2762 Sorry for you, man. 🤤
I have been there 💔start sleeping to Two preachers psalms on YT on loop 🔁 and Pastor Robert Clancy on YT generational curses and soul ties and anger & many more will heal you I promise 🗣✍🏻🙏🏻Your never alone ❤️
In the end there is no other option except no contact
The first week was wtf is wrong with her, then it was wtf is wrong with me. Then the healing begins. Best wishes to all .😌🙏❤
We Will Never Be Able To Change Crazy. They Are Who They Are until they Kick The Bucket. 😵
I’m a Sigma Empath. I slayed him. He KNOWS I’m not coming back. Dumped him in 4 months. Blindsided him to oblivion.
He is still licking his narcissistic wounds. Sigma females always get revenge. Not because we want to but, because they deserve it. He’s on his knees. Never underestimate a Sigma Empath. Narcissist are to self absorbed to even notice the Slayer stands before them.
I would never take that POS back.
I know revenge isn’t advised but I am a Scorpio and can’t help it. When my sons mom discarded she spiraled deep into her drug addiction. I put her on child support, went no contact, reported her for ebt fraud I got my fill of kicking her while she was down
TOXIC PEOPLE will not be changed
by the alchemy of your kindness. YES
be kind, but MOVE ON swiftly and let
LIFE BE their educator. _B.B 🤝✨
#keepgoingkeepshining⭐✨
I'm feeling more empowered by the day, I'll never be their "option" again.
These are facts , thank you for sharing . Your wisdom and intuition is remarkable. I know they know ( those narcissists ) at work I’m never gonna accept to see them again and they know it and they looking for another victim. It’s over forever . God has blessed me. X they trying to see me and find out about me but I won’t permit. God saved me from these devils. Amen
So real” thank Jesus for good people like your self. 🤗
Fuck em, I'm good all by myself. Got to move forward, what comes around goes around....cheers from Colorado!!!$$$$$
Well said .....
Never going back..
He changed me,it was hard
But with him a cut my childhood
Traumas,Abuse,And I will never settle
For less..
I gave 150 %
He gave me -0
He,Made me stronger
Most important things to me is Trust...Respect...loyalty=love...narcs pretend to feel same but its hilarious...They are delusional....Once TRUST is gone....I left....checked out 100%
he told me once "you not suppose to trust me" you aint gotta tell me twice !!
When you stop giving a crap about the negative people in your life...."they" wont be the topic of your conversation anymore. stop allowing negative people to rent space in our head... Otherwise they Win. Take back your power and dont allow these people to frustrate or bother you. When you ignore them and kill them with kindness , You Win!!!!! I wish you happiness ...peace and love. Goodluck and stay blessed. I think you are on the right track and I see you going far in life ! I'd love 2 see you smile one day:) your a good looking kid w a bright future ahead. I know people can suck sometimes...but there are also lots of great people in the world. Wean out the bad and stick w the good...even if its only 1 or 2 people its better then 10 people w cruel intentions. I know you can do it.
I like the way you have written it. Felt good after reading your comment. I have been hurt, back stabbed by people in my life. I will never again allow them in my life.
@@Aryan-uo6hb That is Great 2 hear!!!!! I wish you all the happiness in the World! XO
@@rissyxo224 thank you so much
Agree. I’m finally there and apart from my partner I am happy alone
I believe ppl cross our paths for a reason. A lesson or a blesson.
Yea, Solomon also wrote: rather go live alone in a desert than being together with someone who is abusive.
Lol
I live alone in the rural desert! I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life!
People need to realise this with family too.
Our family often take advantage, think that they own us & that we'll have unconditional loyalty to them even when they harm us more than even our worst enemies do.
We need to sever ties with family members that treat us like crap in the same way that you would any other toxic person in our life
@@carpathianken Fully agree. We should rebuke their error and correct them as Paul recommends in scripture. But after that, we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers or those who are disobediend and don't love the Lord Yeshua Hamashiach (Jesus). I experience exactly the same that you do and I know it is not easy. Best is to go and discuss your pain in detail with the Lord. We must ask. Then He will help you.
@@francoisnaude7973 I'm not all that well versed in the scripture of Paul,but what you mentioned of what his scripture says seems to make logical sense.I'll go read up on him now......Thanks
Again thank you for the word of wisdom!! I definitely need to change. God help me to change. So I don't allow myself to be in a situation like that ever again
I'm 100% willing to be by myself.
There's no way I go back but takes time to heal. I don't see myself as messed up because it wasn't my fault.
Well said, lady!
Same
exactly..i would tell the narc, if you lying to me thats on YOU, i can only go by what you say until you SHOW me different
You go boy! The chosen MUST PERSIST ON. We signed up for it. It’s hard but we will overcome. Already in process. Keep on brother
Yes he made me turn away from him, and turn to God and I love God more God showed me he wasn't the way,and thank God for opening my eyes,I know life goes on and it will get better I'm actually happy now.
From this day forward I will never think of you again! May God bless your soul.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL & CHANGING LIVES!! 💯🤘🏼🙌🏼THANK YOU❤️🙏🏼
Maturity beyond your years and a good soul
They really don’t care. They don’t. They’ve moved on waaay before their victims ever leave or move on. They just go on to the next and use their energies and tactics for the current supply/supplies.
It's true, but even though they don't care about you, they do think they "own" you - which makes them believe they can pop back in for whatever sort of supply they need whenever they want. That's why one has to go no contact.
what bothers me and I've been through it myself is people put labels on others like "Twin Flame" as a coping mechanism and excuse to get treated poorly!!
i’m tired of seeing it, seriously 😐
@@mcsoto I'm nauseated over it!
Twin flames are demonic if it's not from God it's from the devil.
Twin flames lol burn the fk/// bridge
Yes!!! Yes I went through this and it made me realize that there IS a demonic spirit behind these people and it has created a false narrative that some in the so called “spiritual” community have taken advantage of
Amen to that!!! Once I lose TRUST. You’re cut off PERMANENTLY! I’m a Leo and he was a Virgo. We Leo’s are heavy on trust. I upgraded my mindset and my Empress a** is moving along quite lovely and abundantly.💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🙋🏽♀️
I have to thank my narc ex for finally making me put up boundaries to my self esteem. Never again will l allow anyone to bend my will just to accommodate them. I can still be a good person, but there are limits and l will not be a pushover anymore. I possess heightened intuition, the trouble started because l didn’t listen. I’ve learned lessons from the past and now l’m taking them to embrace a brighter future.
Very sorry to hear about your experiences.
They are only interested in getting your attention once it is completely off of them. Thats why they check in occasionally to make sure youre still hurt. You are not a human being in their eyes.
Your ability to heal is tied to what you refuse to tolerate. Accept that you are responsible for refusing abuse . Also, remember that you aren't missing out on anything. They're empty inside.
That's some solid advice right there. If I was going through a breakup with a toxic person I would watch this video on repeat every day to steel my resolve.
I was in a relationship with a narc for over 12 years. Everything you’re saying is on point. I have done the healing and moved on .. he is still trying to come back even tho I have a stalking order and he already went to jail for it. He keeps crossing the line and can’t learn the lesson.
I like this. So true. My ex narcissist had the nerve to think I would never get a good man after him. He did me dirty and he even said that he does not deserve me. He cheated on me in the relationship and got her pregnant. He then discard me for her and I found out later. I knew i deserved better and he knows too but after he discarded me he told the flying monkeys that I would never get a good man.
Don’t worry ! The new supply will be miserable within a year !
@@monicanapier9087 I think so too
I dreaded it! Disrespectful! That does not treat me as human!
Hello Terry, thank you for sharing your wisdom and I wish you a good day :)
Bye bye to the narcisst✌🏿
If they cross a line and the trust is gone. This is, out of many of the video's on narcissism the best description and advice of why anyone should GET OUT of this narcissistic or toxic relationship.
Taking account ability! Yes sir. Humble yourselfs Amen .
Your statement about trust really resonated. I agree and think the same.
Onwards and upwards fella!
haha...even when they realize it they still won't accept it because it's not allowed. and although they can't quite put their finger on it they feel something very precarious in the darkside force. when they've finally used too much toxicity and sent their allocated target so far away they're still runnin, it displeases their master and they know it. Vader strangled Ozzle from across the starship..."You have failed me the last time commander."
This is my current situation sweetheart. Especially when said one after another. It seems these are the men I attract which made me look within myself. The suffering is horrible. But this video demonstrating your strength just confirms I will get through this. Thanks boo
Good word,free rent in your head,that really helps.HELL NO, narc stole&manipulated,trys to call it a loan..broken promises, I was fooled..O well I am recovering well,,Was to trusting..Forgiving doesn't mean repeat, Really like the free rent in our head hell No so done❤🙏You said it so well..
That's what they do, steal you money, time, energy, and soul! You feel completely taken advantage of. They are the modern day slave owners and pimps!
Thank you for all you do here in helping so many. Blessed be, Darling. May the light inside you guide you always.😊
I appreciate when you said that we knew we were never going to take them back and we do feel deep down that they will come before it arrives
Dropped right on time 💯👁
I used to find your insight to be rather intense.. but after a full year of healing work, your messages resonate SO deeply! Peace, Love & Light, Brother! 🙌
"They're all messed up..." 💁🏻♀️💯
Its light vs.datk..evil vs good..and its everywhere..
I dont have any doubt. GOD bless you forever Brother. Thank you by your wise and by your force. GOD bless you Brother.
I wouldn't go back to my family, old co workers who are phony, old friends I cut off happy doing me without them
I am NEVER going back! Done. Freedom!
The ex narc will never have the pleasure of my smile and presence Ever again!
Bro win or lose.when these little narc women get with guys like us, no matter how far gone they are, we force them to grow. We give them HOPE!
U really be coming in clutch with the topics cause I really needed to hear this today 🙏🏽💯✨
Once I saw his true colors I couldn't unsee it
The beginning of the end for him.
3 weeks free NC. I just disappeared
I did the same ! 💪🏼👍🍸
@@monicanapier9087 yes good for you!
Ya done got the WRONG one this time buddy.
Thank you Terry Joel bless you always and your whole family and crew, we don't hate or love the narcs just had to self love and respect one self, no come me backs or do overs we were fair and loving gave enough chances and understanding, if they are able to turn the ship around with God's greatest grace then they won't question our decision and match up with a good person, we have been through too much and we wish everyone to be blessed with God omnipresent in everyone's life Thank you Cheers for the your great content Nameste
This Empath Finally shut down a toxic guy I had known for over 40 years,dated in our 20’s then reunited 4 years ago.Oh Lord, honeymoon phase, gaslighting, rages, circle around..smashed my heart to pieces.. I AM DONE! Blocked no contact! I’m a loving, caring, funny, giving and mutual respect type of gal, but this was a whole different level of insane! Almost deliberately evil! My trust levels are truly affected!
I was not in a relationship with a narcissist, but one randomly bulldozed into my life out of nowhere. He attacked my family, and when I stood up to him, he publicly shamed me online. I had no idea who I was dealing with. I didn’t respond to his attack on me, so he tried another and then another. No response from me. It’s true - one of the most devastating things you can do to narcissistic personality types is to ignore them. Silence is their agony and all that pain they caused you initially comes back 100 times worse.
Inner healing for you all, Need to break the ungodly soul-ties w/ these people , naming then- Example, Lord Jesus, I break the ungodly soul-ties w/ ??? sexually, mentally, emotional and physical, I forgive them for ????? and forgive my self for ???? I ask you Lord to restore me to who you called me to be and bring healthy, strong people into my life in Jesus Name. This is good for family members and bosses and etc. Everyday its healthy to break ungodly soul-ties coming home from work, places and whatever your doing around people. We just never know what were picking up in the spirit realm. Hopes this help everyone. God bless J
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2nd time she came back i gave in 3rd time I told her the truth and blocked her on everything and the crazy thing is she still stuck in the same place and I've improved
Never! Never! Never! It was finger pointing funny to the ladies when he dumped me. Not anymore. Some guys congratulated "The End"; others spit harsh words to me. I've lived an impeccable life-- free of scandal. What I regret is friendships built over decades are broken. Lesson learned...but this too will pass.
Really confident people have gotten narcs bugging them, they are covert scammers.
Thanks for the info.
My ex unblocked me last week after being apart for 3 years this spoke to me man I chased her and everything 😬
It’s difficult, I know. I have talked to some people after some time has passed, but never met up again in person. Also, remember, when communicating over the phone a narc can act however they think will get you to keep talking to them. Be careful
@@paulbenish she hasn’t reached out yet be honest I was her first love to be honest but she put me through hell granted I’m the one who broke her heart but she got more than even honestly.
My ex hated me, finally leaving him after 12 years we had our 1st decent conversation ( more than the 2 words F O) only 17 years later.
He phoned each and every employer telling lies and called me a lyer, a thief, a monster and tried to destroy my life in every way.
Right. If you keep letting people " cross the line" there is something wrong with you too. Chances are the victim had abusive or narcissistic family members.That is what needs to be worked on. I had to face that about myself. I had no idea what healthy, respectful relating looked like.
He knows. He knew yesterday. I felt it just like you said.
My two brothers hated me. Two full grown men. Walked away from one yrs ago and the other just recently. I wondered for yrs why did they hate me?
Now I don’t care and they are dust in the desert for me. I don’t hate them. I never needed them and that was the problem. Walking away was the best thing I ever did. Now I’m healing with gods help thanks terry much love ❤️💜❤️💜
I have 3 brothers one of them I cut out of my life like 3 weeks ago, he had a blow up moment and tried to intimidate me because I decided I was going to finish my statement while he attempted to interrupt me.
Difficult to describe how that unfolded but any other time before that I’d just let him cut me off… just that day a switch flipped in my head and I decided not to allow it. Ironically he felt violated by that and his brain exploded he snapped…
He is also psychologically abusive to his wife and children, but nevertheless he hit me up yesterday after 3 weeks after no contact he texted me and asked if I want to hangout. I simply ignored the message and I never felt so good about it.
@@duelz3885 good for you. Because now you are in control of yourself. And you stood up for yourself! I was the same, let everyone walk all over me for yrs but not now, and if they don’t want to know what opinions you have, walk away no aggro no nothing just say I don’t want to hear what you have to say and walk. But keep it up don’t go back to the old ways do not give your power away to nobody no thing. It’s amazing what happens when you do this, no reaction, just watch ❤️💜
That is sad when its family it must be extra tough, prayers and blessings and healing for you
@@mpat100 Thankyou❤️
Blessings on you, bruh. You're spitting facts. Continue courageously
Thank u, so much!! U nailed it for me!!! Had to leave everything. No contact, 9 months!! I'm doing stuff to get better!! I miss him, tho!!!
And the thing is we love them so much That we are actually afraid of cutting them off because once we cut them off because we know once we do that will be forever
Fact.
Terryjoeljunior LOVE ,U SO CLEVER
Be glad that you haven't dealt with toxic situations. I'm coming from a toxic family so I guess it was normal for me. That's why I didn't see through it.
Me too, thought it was normal.
Heaven is on earth, God has soldiers in heaven fighting for our peace everyday. Don't let the devil win guys. God is our salvation, if you talk to him he will show up, trust in him nobody else. That parent that has destroyed your being, and you can't decide whether to go no contact or not, dont dwell, but think back in your life all the things said and done, it will make a light bulb moment appear. But you have to understand all about narcs first, i believe. Great video. 👍🙏🎁🎄
So long as our actions are with pure, good, logical, realistic and understable intent. Mutual wellbeing can be kept. We all have our burdens. We all can make mistakes, but our intent shows our conscience in its best state. Our actions to help others find their own light, is our greatest purpose in this ever-growing blight. We are our own salvation so long as we know the difference between wrong from right. Everyone is different but connected we will always be, so long as we wish good, just, honest intentions on our whole community. Thats how we can be free to me. Hoping that we all can truly see. Blessed be. 🤗 For that is the to harmony. Wishing you a happy blessed weekend.
SUMMARY: Reverse the spell from hell. Turn it around like a hat... They are vampire bats. 🧛♂️ 🧛♀️. TRUST in God. Watch them play. Use this video to keep them at bay. ...Most importantly 🙏 pray, pray, pray....with gratitude for today. Trust restored is on it's way! God Bless you Terry!
Nice, I was rhyming earlier, very good! Keep it up! God Bless you and keep you!
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Prayer works, reading the bible,i was dying, heal ready killed my son God came through
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Amen, we've got this! I have been healed many times, Jesus is the Great Physician! God Bless you!
They show me everything I feel disgusted ! Run ! 🍖🥩🐎💨
Hey Ter! You look marvelous! 👍 the vid! You are right my friend, every word! My narc mom is withering around relentlessly trying to reach me for supply and it's been about 10 years no contact with her! I hear she is ill.I've given her millions of chances and she only gets worse with age and I will not be around for it.That's what they do to themselves after you go no contact,they make themselves sick.It's a 2 fold equation...one is for attention,two is to make themselves look pathetic and for sympathy because they are ill now. 🤒 Blessings to you Terry.
Been away from my ex narc for 8 months and couldn't be happier