A timely message and true talk. It's always my greatest desire to hear the true talks of marriage intimacy from godly couples. Gary and Barb, thank you.
We have had, starting this last summer 2024, a disconcerting, depressing and highly disturbing litany of adulteries amongst well-known Christian pastors. Extra-marital affairs amongst both Christian men and women are as high as those amongst non-Christians. So the above subject is highly significant for the Christian world! I hope that FOCUS will continue to delve with greater intensity on how to have GREAT marriages relating to understanding, developing and experiencing true intimacy with one's spouse "till death do us part" !
as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!
I agree. That spiritual connection with Christ being number ONE in a marriage and your family is SO important. If one is living for the Lord and the other isn’t, it won’t matter how awesome everything else is, it will be lacking.
Thank you for this, its helped me a lot and I sent it to my boyfriend who I plan to marry one day. I pray that this message talks to us in a special way and remains with us
as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!
Single people should be supporting married couples. WORDS, mouth, tongue, lip's are all in proverbs. The mouth is a very important thing to address and it should be addressed as soon as possible.
as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!
The title should be changed to "Do what the woman needs and maybe she'll fullfill the husband's needs." I follow Jesus and strive to do everything they said and more as I keep myself accountable with other brothers in Christ for support. Can't express how disappointing it is to not only do all this and "Mama NOT taking care of you," but watch other men go through it and then hear sermons like this where its all about the man catering and the woman is just the reciever and give us hope that she'll meet our desires. I'll come across these sermons and listing hoping to hear something different. But all I come accross is that the man's needs and desireds don't matter. Appreciate the prayer she did over the pillow but all those things she prayed to save her husband from should also be what she should be praying over herself to do for him. Very discouraged to keep hearing massages like this. I do agree that men need to do the things mentioned...but what about the wives??? The only thing mentioned was for women to initiate a small percentage of the time. On a positive note, I did like the conversational prayer.
Men (and women) are going to have to start learning about how women work and what women need or they'll never be satisfied or have regular sex. It's because womens needs aren't addressed that women don't want to be sexually active. I mean who wants to do something for years where the other person is really enjoying it and you're just not getting anything from it. And on the flip side who refuses to participate in something they really enjoy 🤷♀️ And Btw this isn't only on men as I said. Women need to learn too. But it needs a man that is determined to learn and a degree of selflessness. And it needs a woman to start realising they can enjoy pleasure too. Oh and men : you can help with housework so she has time to explore her body without worrying about all she has to get done.
Then it applies even more. Pray, pray, pray. I pray that he will be willing to communicate with you about this. That he will be willing to listen to this with you. Never give up! May you feel God's love for you every day.
This needs a lot of prayer..... I love mine wife. I love my what I consider my son. My hope of prayer is that they read the bible god's word and submit to it.I hope that they flourish in his word.
i'm trying really hard. We just started marriage counseling at a show called christian counseling. This will be our fifth a visit to this counselor and not one time.Has he mentioned scripture. I think that we are, if not in the last days or the birth pains that we are so close. Women have been trying to overrun men for years.They have grown cold. I always edify my wife. Sometimes I feel like the rolls have switched because I do so much. Got her flowers, she barely looked at them. Pushed them off to the side and continued doing what she was doing. There has to be first AA good relationship with Christ and submission to the holy spirit and a submission to god's word. These things should just be natural in marriage especially a christian marriage.
We're sorry you're going through a difficult time, @ctflooringconceptsllc9157. Please be assured that we're here to come alongside you in any way we can. If you think it may be helpful to talk things over with someone (at no cost to you), please give us a call at 1-800-232-6459. In the meantime, we will be praying for you, asking the Lord to intervene and provide you with His perfect peace. -Luna H.
We hear you, friend, and we want you to know you're not alone in this. Our Hope Restored team is here to listen and direct you to resources that can help. Please give them a call if they can assist you in any way - 866-875-2915. God bless you. Ella L
My husband doing my laundry stresses me out. He mixes whites with blacks... then I am not turned on. Not every wife likes the man to clean because they don't do a thorough job.
60 yr old male. We always say what’s the woman supposed to do? And when I finally realize if I’ll start doing my part it’s likely she’ll do hers. When I listened to my whining I heard how selfish I was.
Notice the word "supposed" to do. Most of what I heard was about duty n service. What about the 'want to'? Maybe this video can help younger, soon to be married couples. But it's certainly not something to laugh about. Be well
Well if men have been told what they should be doing why aren't they doing it? This isn't about it being a chore to consider the woman you love it's about the joy of giving and seeing her really enjoying herself. And knowing if she is being cared for she'll be back for more. Women have been giving too much for years and denying themselves. It's time.
We appreciate you reaching out @sugarblaze8227. We're sorry you're facing a difficult time in your marriage. Please give us a call at 1-800-232-6459, we'd be happy to provide you with some advice and resources. Please know that we're praying and here to come alongside you in any way we can. -Luna H.
Fun, silly, and foolish. Making light of intimacy in marriage isn't a laughing matter. Giving suggestions as absolutes can be harmful to suffering husbands and their wives.
Yes this is a biblical subject however it is over emphasized and there’s more videos about sex in marriage than videos of how to effectively share the gospel with lost unbelievers on their way to hell without Jesus!!!
As a matter of fact, she distrusts so much that my name's not even on the house that I have paid off and totally rebuilt.I just got blindsided with this she refuses. We are a split family. I have my daughter who's 28 married with the Sun. We're very proud of them have their own house. And we have her son who just got married and just got pregnant and got unequally yoked possibly ,he could be not born again. I will endure to the end till I see jesus face. I will be obedient to him.
Same. Very much assuming gender/marriage roles too. A lot of it is just joking around but doesn’t touch on communication of asking what the other wants. Just assumes we all work that way.
What utter nonsense that the image of a woman stays in a man’s mind for 48 hours after seeing them and that they think of them while being intimate with their wife. This is simply untrue and very misleading bitter feminist ideation. I can’t claim to speak for every man, but personally I know this isn’t even close to the truth for myself and I’m willing to bet it’s the same for most other men too. If I see an attractive woman, even if she was indecently exposed, I guarantee I won’t still be thinking of her even 10 minutes later, let alone while I’m being intimate with my wife. When I’m physically intimate with my wife I’m focused fully on her and delighting in her body and closeness, not thinking of someone else or other things.
I liked the idea of the two of them to pray for each other & to pray together.
A timely message and true talk. It's always my greatest desire to hear the true talks of marriage intimacy from godly couples. Gary and Barb, thank you.
I love how she focuses on her husband and doesn't let her glance waver when he speaks. Beautiful 😍
You should make it a habit to NOT touch others of the opposite sex other than your spouse.
Such a great message, thank you for the wisdom and inspiration shared.
This is excellent! Thank you so much for sharing this with us! Praise Adonai!
We have had, starting this last summer 2024, a disconcerting, depressing and highly disturbing litany of adulteries amongst well-known Christian pastors. Extra-marital affairs amongst both Christian men and women are as high as those amongst non-Christians. So the above subject is highly significant for the Christian world! I hope that FOCUS will continue to delve with greater intensity on how to have GREAT marriages relating to understanding, developing and experiencing true intimacy with one's spouse "till death do us part" !
Amen
as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!
What a holistic, brilliant and powerful truth they presented. Thank you for this immensely valuable video.
I don’t think you can experience true intimacy if you are not married to an equally yoked BELIEVER.
I agree. That spiritual connection with Christ being number ONE in a marriage and your family is SO important. If one is living for the Lord and the other isn’t, it won’t matter how awesome everything else is, it will be lacking.
Thank you so much for the encouraging talk. Such a wonderful couple. I will strive for a better marriage!
All men need to watch this!
Thank you for this, its helped me a lot and I sent it to my boyfriend who I plan to marry one day. I pray that this message talks to us in a special way and remains with us
Thank you for sharing this information, and God bless you both to continue, not many want to discuss this...thank you
Wow! This is so good! I love their transparency....
Amazing ❤
as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!
Thank you so much. I am truly blessed
This was absolutely amazing
@LocdTreasurexkea We are so glad it blessed you! God bless you! - Treasure H.
I enjoyed this I was driving to work yesterday morning and and heard it on The Bott I also sent it to my husband to listen to thank you ❤️
@luevondataylor6286 We are SO glad this has blessed you and your husband! God bless you both! - Treasure H.
Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this message is so funny and beautiful.❤❤❤
Fantastic stuff. Thank you
@Mightmouse4 You are welcome! We are so glad it blessed you! - Treasure H.
Single people should be supporting married couples. WORDS, mouth, tongue, lip's are all in proverbs. The mouth is a very important thing to address and it should be addressed as soon as possible.
Good coaching
Non sexual touch, connection is key.
as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!
I'm waiting for focus to come plant a branch in Maputo, Mozambique
Sounds great . Give 100% . Then she makes another excuse. Years of this means nothing.
The title should be changed to "Do what the woman needs and maybe she'll fullfill the husband's needs." I follow Jesus and strive to do everything they said and more as I keep myself accountable with other brothers in Christ for support. Can't express how disappointing it is to not only do all this and "Mama NOT taking care of you," but watch other men go through it and then hear sermons like this where its all about the man catering and the woman is just the reciever and give us hope that she'll meet our desires. I'll come across these sermons and listing hoping to hear something different. But all I come accross is that the man's needs and desireds don't matter. Appreciate the prayer she did over the pillow but all those things she prayed to save her husband from should also be what she should be praying over herself to do for him. Very discouraged to keep hearing massages like this. I do agree that men need to do the things mentioned...but what about the wives??? The only thing mentioned was for women to initiate a small percentage of the time. On a positive note, I did like the conversational prayer.
Proverbs 31 man.
@@benbeniamin3829 Correct. But personally, I can't recal ever hearing Proverbs emphasized to women. Only mentioned as you just did.
Oh to have my wife pray for me like that.
Funny bec my H is the total opposite . He never likes to have it . And because he abuses me verbally and emotionally , I’ve been traumatized
Men (and women) are going to have to start learning about how women work and what women need or they'll never be satisfied or have regular sex. It's because womens needs aren't addressed that women don't want to be sexually active. I mean who wants to do something for years where the other person is really enjoying it and you're just not getting anything from it.
And on the flip side who refuses to participate in something they really enjoy 🤷♀️
And Btw this isn't only on men as I said. Women need to learn too. But it needs a man that is determined to learn and a degree of selflessness. And it needs a woman to start realising they can enjoy pleasure too.
Oh and men : you can help with housework so she has time to explore her body without worrying about all she has to get done.
She sounds just like Michelle Bachman!! Even in her deliverance. 💕
I couldn't find the free PDF on the website. Could you share the link please. Thank you
Thank you for reaching out @siobhanbloomer3172! Here's the link to the pdf. Please let us know if you have any questions!
-Luna H.
bit.ly/4dn1Un6
I really feel like this doesn’t apply to me bec I have been deprived . He just work and works and works and makes many excuses and is not physical
Then it applies even more. Pray, pray, pray.
I pray that he will be willing to communicate with you about this. That he will be willing to listen to this with you.
Never give up!
May you feel God's love for you every day.
This needs a lot of prayer..... I love mine wife. I love my what I consider my son. My hope of prayer is that they read the bible god's word and submit to it.I hope that they flourish in his word.
i'm trying really hard. We just started marriage counseling at a show called christian counseling. This will be our fifth a visit to this counselor and not one time.Has he mentioned scripture. I think that we are, if not in the last days or the birth pains that we are so close. Women have been trying to overrun men for years.They have grown cold. I always edify my wife. Sometimes I feel like the rolls have switched because I do so much. Got her flowers, she barely looked at them. Pushed them off to the side and continued doing what she was doing. There has to be first AA good relationship with Christ and submission to the holy spirit and a submission to god's word. These things should just be natural in marriage especially a christian marriage.
We're sorry you're going through a difficult time, @ctflooringconceptsllc9157. Please be assured that we're here to come alongside you in any way we can. If you think it may be helpful to talk things over with someone (at no cost to you), please give us a call at 1-800-232-6459. In the meantime, we will be praying for you, asking the Lord to intervene and provide you with His perfect peace.
-Luna H.
What happens when he gets mad every time I try to initiate sex? 😢
We hear you, friend, and we want you to know you're not alone in this. Our Hope Restored team is here to listen and direct you to resources that can help. Please give them a call if they can assist you in any way - 866-875-2915. God bless you. Ella L
since menopause i have no desire to have sex...with anyone
My husband doing my laundry stresses me out. He mixes whites with blacks... then I am not turned on. Not every wife likes the man to clean because they don't do a thorough job.
I find it strange that someone in this day and age doesn’t know how to do basic things like laundry or cooking.
@michaelparker2326 it's because people mom's do everything for them, instead of teaching them basic life skills.
@@hallievonkaenel738Hmm, if this always happens, have you heard of weaponized incompetence? I wonder.
All my life ( 59yr) iv only heard what the men are supposed to be doing, and never what the women are supposed to be.
Are you a man? Because I’m a woman and it’s been the inverse for me
Because men are simple. 🤪
60 yr old male. We always say what’s the woman supposed to do? And when I finally realize if I’ll start doing my part it’s likely she’ll do hers. When I listened to my whining I heard how selfish I was.
Notice the word "supposed" to do.
Most of what I heard was about duty n service. What about the 'want to'? Maybe this video can help younger, soon to be married couples. But it's certainly not something to laugh about. Be well
Well if men have been told what they should be doing why aren't they doing it?
This isn't about it being a chore to consider the woman you love it's about the joy of giving and seeing her really enjoying herself. And knowing if she is being cared for she'll be back for more.
Women have been giving too much for years and denying themselves. It's time.
No time stamps
Yeah, no!
Some women are so hurt, these silly teachings go out the window
Amen🙏🙏🙏
I suggest a little third input action. There's nothing more intimate than that.
What more can you do to get your husband to see you when all he does is look at other women with intent on getting their attention.
We appreciate you reaching out @sugarblaze8227. We're sorry you're facing a difficult time in your marriage. Please give us a call at 1-800-232-6459, we'd be happy to provide you with some advice and resources.
Please know that we're praying and here to come alongside you in any way we can.
-Luna H.
You can't do anything, unfortunately. All you can do is pray. I'm sorry that he is putting you through that. ❤
Talk to your pastor about it ❤
1973?? That’s not 30 years ago. 😂
Fun, silly, and foolish. Making light of intimacy in marriage isn't a laughing matter. Giving suggestions as absolutes can be harmful to suffering husbands and their wives.
Exactly!
Yes this is a biblical subject however it is over emphasized and there’s more videos about sex in marriage than videos of how to effectively share the gospel with lost unbelievers on their way to hell without Jesus!!!
That's why Paul says it's better for a man not to marry. But there's a but for Godly reasons too...
As a matter of fact, she distrusts so much that my name's not even on the house that I have paid off and totally rebuilt.I just got blindsided with this she refuses. We are a split family. I have my daughter who's 28 married with the Sun. We're very proud of them have their own house. And we have her son who just got married and just got pregnant and got unequally yoked possibly ,he could be not born again. I will endure to the end till I see jesus face. I will be obedient to him.
Nothing new said.
May be nothing new. But sometimes reinforcing the "known" is very important and timely.
It may not be new information for you but it may be new for many others.
some of the jokes were from other people's talks I've heard 😭
@@elfwife so what
No way the breath smells horrible in the morning. Number 2 isn’t happening women.
Maybe it’s me but these two I can’t watch, we are not in kindergarten you don’t have to put on a big act.
Same. Very much assuming gender/marriage roles too. A lot of it is just joking around but doesn’t touch on communication of asking what the other wants. Just assumes we all work that way.
What utter nonsense that the image of a woman stays in a man’s mind for 48 hours after seeing them and that they think of them while being intimate with their wife. This is simply untrue and very misleading bitter feminist ideation. I can’t claim to speak for every man, but personally I know this isn’t even close to the truth for myself and I’m willing to bet it’s the same for most other men too. If I see an attractive woman, even if she was indecently exposed, I guarantee I won’t still be thinking of her even 10 minutes later, let alone while I’m being intimate with my wife. When I’m physically intimate with my wife I’m focused fully on her and delighting in her body and closeness, not thinking of someone else or other things.
This was the most cringe contrived delivery of a speech… every “interruption” and joke, totally rehearsed and inauthentic