I feel like many couples could definitely relate to these two. It is clear however how wonderful they are together. Wishing them both nothing but the absolute best. Kudos to Steve for being honest & supportive. 🙏🏼
Am happy for them... congratulations Stephanie for making that decision of taking him back... Am in the same situation here and thanks to Steve for the advice
Hey Steve, I want to say that I'm not most women. I did not dream of my wedding day and all the details that it entails. For me, it was having my Dad give me away and making him proud. You were spot on and spoke for this guy and his heart. Your wisdom has helped me, as I look back and reflect my relationship with my ex husband. Thank you for doing what you do!!!!
I have seen plenty shows of Steve But.... Steve & his Son have a raw conversation And this! Wow! Too much wisdom and humanity in this guy! Very real and practical explanations - with nice humour 🙂
I'm glad that they had a chance to talk and recognize that there are feelings involved that are important for both of them I do hope they got married and they do have a very blessed happy life
Everyone here who commented has a good point, she was excited when he asked her to marry him, I don't believe that they both actually sat down and talked about how long they should be engaged or about the monetary issues that comes along with some people who want a wedding they really can't afford. And is Steve said kids are possibly going to be involved and they cost a lot of money. I know her feelings are hurt, but if she keeps ignoring him and not trying to discuss how he feels and what he is thinking that she might lose the man of her dreams. He's looking at stability for them and their future family. Everything can't be rushed Thomas so hopefully she'll realize that Steve is getting her some good advice and give him a second chance. Best of luck to them both
Steve hit the nail right on the head with this one. Women tend to forget that getting married is THEIR dream, not that of men. For men, we just want to find our dream girl and settle down once we have our life in order, which takes a lot of time. Most guys in their 20's are not ready for marriage if I'm being honest because a majority of men in their 20's are far from their peak. They're still in school advancing their education (and being broke while doing so), they're working up the career ladder, they're trying to save money during a time in economic history when the cost of living is extremely high etc. For any young woman reading this in a similar situation, remember, men and women live different realities. We are not the same. We have (mostly) different expectations that we have to meet as adults. When you're in a relationship, it is not all about what YOU want and what YOU dream of. Don't throw away good dudes just because you may have other options DM'ing you on social media because quantity doesn't equal quality.
@MT93 are you in a relationship right now? I’m asking because you seem to know EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED TO DO, NOT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! There’s a HUGE DIFFERENCE! Just like the comparison you made about QUALITY OVER QUANTITY! How old are you? Where do you live? I’m asking because you’re the EXACT KIND OF MAN THAT I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR! PLEASE hit me back? I would ABSOLUTELY LOVE to talk to you.
That's fine totally understood, just hope he has that same opinion towards being intimate with her without being committed. If that's what she wants and he's not ready to do so he shouldn't expect intimacy either.if he can't rush in to being committed he shouldn't rush to get in the sheets.
Right??? Word! This guy is just wasting her time. He will never be ready to walk down that aisle cos not everyone get the desired amount of money they wish for. Maybe when he's 60 he will settle.
Thank you Steve Harvey. I appreciate your show. Always giving the best information. Thank you for saving that relationship. Remember to Pray to God for a wife or a husband. God’s knows what’s best for us. Falling in love is a beautiful thing. With God all things are possible.🙏🙏🙏
Such an educative advice patience opens many doors that leads towards success don't rush into a marriage if you aren't ready figure out what it takes for it success
This advice was Music to my Ears. Hope for the ladies too. Let us not rush things, back up a little bit, gather our thoughts and most importantly PRAY.
My husband and were unable to conceive children of our own. We were unable to conceive children of our own. We were blessed. Thier birth mothers will always have a special place in our hearts!💕
I think once more women see this point of view that doesn't include them at the top, a lot more relationships will work. Having patience and truly being a support system for a man does more than you ever know.
Hi Steve I appreciate your good advices you gave them. It really pretty good to listen to you carefully which it is very good for healthy heart and mind.
So it is very important to get an understanding. It makes so much sense! If I had known maybe just maybe I wouldn't have given up too soon. That's why we have or should wait! It all makes sense! Awww! That is So Sweet! Thank you dear heart 🥰!!
I was w my sons dad for 24 years I made him a dad @ the age of 27 years old he said didn't want to be dad nor ready to be dad yes he was serious about his true feelings, Never showed love for his son while growing up never any family quality time never father son bonding. I can understand what he didnt want & was not ready, but showed his true colors not love for his son. Didn't appreciate us took us for granted WE left him, done!
The only thing that’s giving me pause is that now that has gotten her back he’s STILL not giving her any certainty. How long is he expecting her to wait?? I mean calling off a wedding 5 months before when everything is paid for is extremely hurtful.
He is still not ready to be married. He will string her along ,until she is tired of waiting. He looks about 19 and she is beginning to have weigh her down look. She doesn't want to wait too lon. I pray,she sticks with him because, someone else will sweep her off her feet,and give her what she wants. They make a nice couple. I thought Steve,was going to give him a job.
That's why I believe in counseling even before engagement. The engagement period is just a formality. I'm looking forward to the marriage, not the wedding. So when he proposes, he should be ready/willing to be a husband, making an informed decision. When I say yes to "will you marry me?", that means we can go to the church or courthouse tomorrow. I don't believe in extended engagement periods, so I'd prefer he not even propose until he is actually ready. I don't need him to be perfect before we get married, but I need a detailed timeline communicated to me so if I can get see if it's a plan I can get behind. That shows a sign of a good leader.
When I said that he’s perfect for me, he said there’s a lot of good men in the world. I just don’t wanna give up on him, cause for me he’s a good man. But he doesn’t understand what I feel.
I was once in a relationship with a guy that said, if I proposed I know you'll say yes... I said what no... He was like why are we together. I said eventually that's the goal but I don't wanna be married now. We was both like 23 or 24. He never asked what I wanted or if I wanted to be married at that time I was just moving, marriage was not in the cards for me then. Our relationship went downhill after that. He got married to the next girl he got with 😂 and It took me many years after.
good for you! for knowing yourself that well!👍🙂 and of course, it's ok if people disagree with me..but I felt Steve's advice here was all wrong. as I believe he so much projects his own history & psychology onto his male guests who are involved in relationships issues. and I really DO appreciate the lion's share of who Steve Harvey is and the good works he's done. I mean, he's so sincere & generous in a lot of ways. and, yeah, after witnessing these other aspects of him & for so long: I just, a few minutes ago, found myself posting a rant about my thoughts on it, also re: this particular show segment.😯🙆🏾♀
Steve, as a woman, THANK YOU for laying this out because we women NEED to UNDERSTAND this! Ladies, STOP pressuring your guy to get married and have kids. These things are costly and ONE thing that destroys relationships/marriage is financial problems. Please ensure that your foundations are layed before taking these steps.
Men see the logic part of it cause if i can't afford things and a better life, i will put the feelings aside.... Women need to know this... This world has created a system where women only see how a man should afford them but there's a lot involved and if he aren't got it better, even you as a lady will disrespect him one day and nothing destroys a man than disrespect cause Respect is what all men hear as more valuable than "I love you" from a woman.
Ooh he came through...that's better...my man dont play game because your wife is what most of us would want in life...most women these days are ***** so cherish her.
So why then did he propose it he ain't ready? He's just bring selfish. He wants to keep the woman with no marriage. If he's waiting for "perfect" life then this lady will be waiting forever. He's the kind of man that ask for divorce after a woman gives birth.
To me it looks like with this reconsiliation, only phase 2 is reached. I'd like to see another cut where we'd see them coming back as husband&wife having/awaiting a kid because both financial and biological clock has finally met and none of them expired.
I get what Stev is saying. But at the same time females bodies change as they start aging. What Stev could’ve said is that she could recommend her to frozen her eggs. In case whenever they ready to be parents, she can unfreeze them and she can use it because when a female stars aging over 37 years old it can be risky, but at the same time he will have it together to provide for her the same way she will provide for him. In life can change any day rather it’s for the good or for the worst in general, nobody’s is not prepared for .I would suggest to them just go ahead and support each other and get married, but not rushing to have kids yet in their life .That would’ve been my advice .
This is what people are trying to do nowadays. Help him get to where he wants, so you can help get you to where you want. It's kind of like an ulterior motive
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Just get it together with your fitness and finances. Focus on these things and fuel your pain to achieve something great. Once she has left you , don't try to get her back. She left you because most probably, she found someone better than you. Just pick yourself and move on. All the best for future.
I typically agree with Steve's advice, but not on this one. The fiancee stood her up a day before the wedding with everything paid. The point of premarital counseling through the church is to find out if you are supposed to move forward with getting married. When he told her after the counseling that he was having second thoughts that was their opportunity to evaluate the situation in their relationship, not a day before the wedding, or on the day of the wedding. Also, if he is able only able to commit to her in the bedroom, as a boyfriend, but not with a ring on her finger as his wife then that's a huge red flag. In the second interview you could still see it and hear that her boyfriend is it going to commit to her. He shouldn't be wasting her time and playing with her emotions.
So glad this couple found their way back to each other. Obviously they love one another deeply💕
I'm 53 and this helped me a lot as I've been desperately wanting to settle after being widowed for 7 years.
Steve is amazing...wish I had a mentor like him when I was a young man.
Steve got me in tears for reason being that I feel like he's talking to me
I agree and take it slow and let him lead the relationship
I feel like many couples could definitely relate to these two. It is clear however how wonderful they are together. Wishing them both nothing but the absolute best. Kudos to Steve for being honest & supportive. 🙏🏼
Thank you for teaching me patience. I would've cut it off without understanding that perspective.
There's not enough communication in this relationship. 😅
I was wondering about her. I am glad she rethink her decision and worked it out. They are a beautiful couple.
❤
It’s because he went out into the streets to he a hoe and found he couldn’t find better than her: 😂
Am happy for them... congratulations Stephanie for making that decision of taking him back...
Am in the same situation here and thanks to Steve for the advice
"If someone wants to be part of your life, they'll make an effort to be in it"..
agree
The world is tough for a broke guy in a relationship, no matter the efforts he puts in it
You're already out yo league 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Steve is funny & educational at the same damn time I love it
My mame
I love Steve!! He nailed it!!!
My husband and I have been married for 55 years. We are very blessed. Love Steve and Marjorie! ❤😊
Hey Steve, I want to say that I'm not most women. I did not dream of my wedding day and all the details that it entails. For me, it was having my Dad give me away and making him proud. You were spot on and spoke for this guy and his heart. Your wisdom has helped me, as I look back and reflect my relationship with my ex husband. Thank you for doing what you do!!!!
I don't know HOW! But after watching any Uncle Steve videos I feel positive and optimistic! It brings me good energy!
How much do we all love Steve!!!!! 🎉😍🎉🤩🤩
Steve literally expressed exactly what I have been saying about myself when it comes to longterm commitment. 💯💯👊🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Uncle Steve comes to the rescue ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Mr Steve...DAD
I have seen plenty shows of Steve
But....
Steve & his Son have a raw conversation
And this!
Wow!
Too much wisdom and humanity in this guy!
Very real and practical explanations - with nice humour 🙂
I'm glad that they had a chance to talk and recognize that there are feelings involved that are important for both of them I do hope they got married and they do have a very blessed happy life
My husband and I have been married for 55 years. We are very blessed!❤
Solid advice
beautiful by steve....much appreciated
A must listen to clip...as this is sound relationship advice for couples.👌🏽👏🏾😍
Another beginning their destiny. This young man knows what he wants she's a keeper❤️🙏
Such a heartwarming story...happy for them!
Steve Harvey you are a Great Father🙏 Be Blessed 🙏🛐⛪️✝️💐❤️🌹👍🙏🙏🙏
Everyone here who commented has a good point, she was excited when he asked her to marry him, I don't believe that they both actually sat down and talked about how long they should be engaged or about the monetary issues that comes along with some people who want a wedding they really can't afford. And is Steve said kids are possibly going to be involved and they cost a lot of money. I know her feelings are hurt, but if she keeps ignoring him and not trying to discuss how he feels and what he is thinking that she might lose the man of her dreams. He's looking at stability for them and their future family. Everything can't be rushed Thomas so hopefully she'll realize that Steve is getting her some good advice and give him a second chance. Best of luck to them both
Wow what a lesson. Glad for this sir
Steve hit the nail right on the head with this one. Women tend to forget that getting married is THEIR dream, not that of men. For men, we just want to find our dream girl and settle down once we have our life in order, which takes a lot of time. Most guys in their 20's are not ready for marriage if I'm being honest because a majority of men in their 20's are far from their peak. They're still in school advancing their education (and being broke while doing so), they're working up the career ladder, they're trying to save money during a time in economic history when the cost of living is extremely high etc. For any young woman reading this in a similar situation, remember, men and women live different realities. We are not the same. We have (mostly) different expectations that we have to meet as adults. When you're in a relationship, it is not all about what YOU want and what YOU dream of. Don't throw away good dudes just because you may have other options DM'ing you on social media because quantity doesn't equal quality.
Thanks for sharing!
@MT93 are you in a relationship right now? I’m asking because you seem to know EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED TO DO, NOT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! There’s a HUGE DIFFERENCE! Just like the comparison you made about QUALITY OVER QUANTITY! How old are you? Where do you live? I’m asking because you’re the EXACT KIND OF MAN THAT I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR! PLEASE hit me back? I would ABSOLUTELY LOVE to talk to you.
Exactly, this is something that my previous partner failed to understand.
That's fine totally understood, just hope he has that same opinion towards being intimate with her without being committed. If that's what she wants and he's not ready to do so he shouldn't expect intimacy either.if he can't rush in to being committed he shouldn't rush to get in the sheets.
Well said. He has to respect her.
IN THE USA PEOPLE MAKE KIDS BEFORE THEY GET MARRIED SO PLIZ....
Right??? Word! This guy is just wasting her time. He will never be ready to walk down that aisle cos not everyone get the desired amount of money they wish for. Maybe when he's 60 he will settle.
Come on nah you betta preach!
Thank you Steve Harvey. I appreciate your show. Always giving the best information. Thank you for saving that relationship. Remember to Pray to God for a wife or a husband. God’s knows what’s best for us. Falling in love is a beautiful thing. With God all things are possible.🙏🙏🙏
More grace to uncle Steve
Girl if he doesn't come through, holla at me...does he know? You are diamond!!!
A 2nd time around he better make it work to commit NO fear
@@debbieechiribel1860 seriously her does not know what he is missing out...i will fly ✈️ instant if that girl holla at me
Such an educative advice patience opens many doors that leads towards success don't rush into a marriage if you aren't ready figure out what it takes for it success
Whats the rush only fools rush in.
This advice was Music to my Ears. Hope for the ladies too. Let us not rush things, back up a little bit, gather our thoughts and most importantly PRAY.
i agree
I always love uncle Steve?is very bright and intelligent 🧠 ?you can just satisfying with his advices ???Steve god always blessed you
Needs to run. 3.5 years? He knows whether or not he wants you.
He does want her, he was just not ready to get married at the time.
Steve you are a legend 🙏🏿☝🏿💯 straight FACTS blessings
So beautiful Steve
My husband and were unable to conceive children of our own. We were unable to conceive children of our own. We were blessed. Thier birth mothers will always have a special place in our hearts!💕
Steve Harvey love ❤️ to hear you preach on all relationships
Steve The Man . Let’s Go , Keep Going !!!
This story is really educative it has changed my mind.... I would like to share something Steve too
I think once more women see this point of view that doesn't include them at the top, a lot more relationships will work. Having patience and truly being a support system for a man does more than you ever know.
Hi Steve I appreciate your good advices you gave them. It really pretty good to listen to you carefully which it is very good for healthy heart and mind.
Listen carefully to one another always communication how each other one feels
wife first ,, you deserved it❤
So beautiful! ❤
She needs to be patient. Marriage must be approached cautiously. Not in a rush!
Thank you for all you do. God bless.
So it is very important to get an understanding. It makes so much sense! If I had known maybe just maybe I wouldn't have given up too soon. That's why we have or should wait! It all makes sense! Awww! That is So Sweet! Thank you dear heart 🥰!!
You're already out your league hahahahah😂😂😂
Thank you Steve🙌
Well done Steve
I was w my sons dad for 24 years I made him a dad @ the age of 27 years old he said didn't want to be dad nor ready to be dad yes he was serious about his true feelings, Never showed love for his son while growing up never any family quality time never father son bonding. I can understand what he didnt want & was not ready, but showed his true colors not love for his son. Didn't appreciate us took us for granted WE left him, done!
I agree with you, a girl be a wife before a mother.
Much love from Africa , Malawi uncle Steve
Merci Steeve. All boys in MONTREAL CANADA should ear that
The only thing that’s giving me pause is that now that has gotten her back he’s STILL not giving her any certainty. How long is he expecting her to wait?? I mean calling off a wedding 5 months before when everything is paid for is extremely hurtful.
Thumbs up Steve harvey
Great talk Steve
Women also have financial clock is pressure is crazy. All clocks are not waiting at all
He is still not ready to be married. He will string her along ,until she is tired of waiting. He looks about 19 and she is beginning to have weigh her down look.
She doesn't want to wait too lon.
I pray,she sticks with him because, someone else will sweep her off her feet,and give her what she wants.
They make a nice couple.
I thought Steve,was going to give him a job.
That's why I believe in counseling even before engagement. The engagement period is just a formality. I'm looking forward to the marriage, not the wedding. So when he proposes, he should be ready/willing to be a husband, making an informed decision. When I say yes to "will you marry me?", that means we can go to the church or courthouse tomorrow. I don't believe in extended engagement periods, so I'd prefer he not even propose until he is actually ready. I don't need him to be perfect before we get married, but I need a detailed timeline communicated to me so if I can get see if it's a plan I can get behind. That shows a sign of a good leader.
Most women never consider the man's perspective, that's precisely the problem
Wow stevo, I love this episode, your advice, topnotch, some ladies need to rethink
Steve I love you so much
Ahhh I remember the original video! ❤😮❤
Never going to last...
When I said that he’s perfect for me, he said there’s a lot of good men in the world. I just don’t wanna give up on him, cause for me he’s a good man. But he doesn’t understand what I feel.
Although this can only work if she is sure that he is sincere and committed and not leading her on.
I was once in a relationship with a guy that said, if I proposed I know you'll say yes... I said what no... He was like why are we together. I said eventually that's the goal but I don't wanna be married now. We was both like 23 or 24. He never asked what I wanted or if I wanted to be married at that time I was just moving, marriage was not in the cards for me then. Our relationship went downhill after that. He got married to the next girl he got with 😂 and It took me many years after.
good for you! for knowing yourself that well!👍🙂
and of course, it's ok if people disagree with me..but I felt Steve's advice here was all wrong. as I believe he so much projects his own history & psychology onto his male guests who are involved in relationships issues.
and I really DO appreciate the lion's share of who Steve Harvey is and the good works he's done. I mean, he's so sincere & generous in a lot of ways.
and, yeah, after witnessing these other aspects of him & for so long:
I just, a few minutes ago, found myself posting a rant about my thoughts on it, also re: this particular show segment.😯🙆🏾♀
@@DiandraStarShine What did he get wrong ?
This advice Steve gave here is in his book, I highly recommend it 📖
Beautiful ❤️
Steve
U r old enough to give some idea to a young couple
. But den u r d besttttr
Steve, as a woman, THANK YOU for laying this out because we women NEED to UNDERSTAND this!
Ladies, STOP pressuring your guy to get married and have kids. These things are costly and ONE thing that destroys relationships/marriage is financial problems. Please ensure that your foundations are layed before taking these steps.
Pin on patience in relationships! 📍
5:55 FACTS
Men see the logic part of it cause if i can't afford things and a better life, i will put the feelings aside.... Women need to know this... This world has created a system where women only see how a man should afford them but there's a lot involved and if he aren't got it better, even you as a lady will disrespect him one day and nothing destroys a man than disrespect cause Respect is what all men hear as more valuable than "I love you" from a woman.
Patience .
Love u Steve
Ooh he came through...that's better...my man dont play game because your wife is what most of us would want in life...most women these days are ***** so cherish her.
Yup most of us women do dream of the wedding day
Hollo thank you so much ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤😂😂😂😂
Steve Harvey you have saved a lot of cold feet before their wedding now I see a lot of. Lipless putting it on hold till they have it together......
I wish I had said no, I am still alive, thank God
great steve
So why then did he propose it he ain't ready? He's just bring selfish. He wants to keep the woman with no marriage. If he's waiting for "perfect" life then this lady will be waiting forever. He's the kind of man that ask for divorce after a woman gives birth.
After 3 years? That ain't speedy Steve
To me it looks like with this reconsiliation, only phase 2 is reached. I'd like to see another cut where we'd see them coming back as husband&wife having/awaiting a kid because both financial and biological clock has finally met and none of them expired.
No, Steve actually goes in that order married first then be your mom you can’t have it however, you want it.
male perspective
women need a reason
men need a place
All facts
I get what Stev is saying. But at the same time females bodies change as they start aging. What Stev could’ve said is that she could recommend her to frozen her eggs. In case whenever they ready to be parents, she can unfreeze them and she can use it because when a female stars aging over 37 years old it can be risky, but at the same time he will have it together to provide for her the same way she will provide for him. In life can change any day rather it’s for the good or for the worst in general, nobody’s is not prepared for .I would suggest to them just go ahead and support each other and get married, but not rushing to have kids yet in their life .That would’ve been my advice .
More wisdom sir
If you don't want a ring and a date, then don't propose. He needs to grow up. He embarrassed and humiliated this woman.
Right! Everything was planned humiliated her. He Has to make it up to her
Agreed
Yes!!!!! There is nothing wrong with what she did. He didn’t seem mature enough for her. Women should really marry a little older.
Lol he really needs to grow up. Plus he's wasting that girl's time. Just let her go for a man who knows what he wants.
Wow, the judgement in this thread! Way to not be empathetic and not see both sides.
I wonder if they ever got married... I feel like now this guy really doesn't have any pressure to get serious with her🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
This is what people are trying to do nowadays. Help him get to where he wants, so you can help get you to where you want. It's kind of like an ulterior motive
Also it has to be said, why buy the cow when you're getting milk for free
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Go, sit down with her face to face. Be honest with her and you guys figure it out.
Sorry to hear that but it wasn't meant to be
Just get it together with your fitness and finances. Focus on these things and fuel your pain to achieve something great. Once she has left you , don't try to get her back. She left you because most probably, she found someone better than you. Just pick yourself and move on. All the best for future.
I typically agree with Steve's advice, but not on this one. The fiancee stood her up a day before the wedding with everything paid. The point of premarital counseling through the church is to find out if you are supposed to move forward with getting married. When he told her after the counseling that he was having second thoughts that was their opportunity to evaluate the situation in their relationship, not a day before the wedding, or on the day of the wedding. Also, if he is able only able to commit to her in the bedroom, as a boyfriend, but not with a ring on her finger as his wife then that's a huge red flag. In the second interview you could still see it and hear that her boyfriend is it going to commit to her. He shouldn't be wasting her time and playing with her emotions.