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How I Bounced Back From A Bad Marriage | Part 3 | Kingsley Okonkwo & Dr. Olumide Emmanuel
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
- You will never know the effects of divorce if you never hear it from a survivor's mouth, join Kingsley Okonkwo & Dr. Olumide Emmanuel as they share deep truths on Divorce.
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I hope his first daughter and son watch this!
And we pray for reconciliation and healing
Amen
Amen and Amen
Amen
Amen
I pray so too oo, they really need to find their father, I feel so emotional hearing his side.
😢pko knows so much about marriage but throughout this series, he's been more on the listening side. That alone speaks to his wisdom❤
@efa-eval you are very correct but don't let's forget that it is an interview session. PKO interviewing POE😊😊😊...
Exactly my thoughts. His listening skills is top notch.
And he hasn’t been divorced before. He’s learning like all of us.
Pastor K is blessed with wisdom
@@kemistrykemidada9256exactly
This pastor is so real... The pain of divorce is the reason God hates it. He doesn't us to have to go through it
Presently going thru this... it hurts really and the fact that the kid we ask you my daddy have go to church...
But what is more painful is when you hear later another story that was not it, how they will lie up against you... Well God dey
@@Habest-luv so true. All these stories will be resolved on judgement day and that is the only day we will know the full truth. This is how I have my peace.
You can day that again. It takes a lot to make the person whole, that is, if the person is willing to cooperate with God. Otherwise ba, the wound will putrefy.
No matter how bad a spouse was to you, never deprive them of seeing their kids!!
Yes!Never.It makes the situation worse
What if that Ex-spouse is known to be diabolic, and you have a sense of duty to protect your children from getting entangled in their dark arts, so you would permit such a person to destroy their lives?
Thank you both, it is so deep and informative. God richly bless you
Women are to usually too bitter to listen to that, even though they are at faults
The girl needs you oooo
How to move on:
1. Be healed and it takes a while
2. Find out what went wrong. What mistake did you do? What lessons did you learn?
3. When you meet someone, be open, transparent, full disclosure with them.
Investigate each other, ask the right/relevant questions. Help each other heal from past hurts
4. Don't compare your past with your present. Know each other together because everyone you marry came with their own baggage. So enter by faith.
5. Commit to make it work
6. Pray to marry the right person
Marrying a divorcee:
1. See things from their own lens
2. Recognize they have a baggage. Are you ready for all the stigma and all?
3. Have mature mentors
4. Use the wisdom of God to strengthen others
How can we reduce level of divorce:
1. Premarital counseling. Churches should have in house facilities. Help your parishioners to prepare for marriage. You can't manufacture the weapons of war on the battle field.
Have post marriage training for couples (Marriage Enrichment program)
2. Ensure genuine salvation, discipleship st church level because many in church are not transformed
I have been sobbing listening to this man of God. He went through all these and he is still standing. God will restore you. Your children will reconnect with you very soon I pray IJN
Amen
And may the wife be healed, in Jesus name
It's heart breaking
Have you heard the side of his wife? It takes two and never judge a book by its cover. No matter what, let the word of God prevail.
@ehi2283 you heard him say he gave his people her number, told them where she was at the time and asked them to go and do their investigations siting that what he said was his side of the story
I'm in tears now, people go through a lot in the name of marriage,Lord please help me not to make mistakes in marriage 🙏😭
Pst Kingsley is Igbo,Pst Olumide is Yoruba but they all sat down together in unity and in love because of one purpose,vision and agenda to foster unity love,empathy to humanity and mankind.For the purpose of their coming together no one said your Igbo your Yoruba and 'im sure at that point in time none of them even remembered where they came from,what they had in mind was the sense of urgency to relate with themselves and with others..Bible says how wonderful it is for brethren to dwell amongst one another.Nigeria is great and has great people.Each and every tribe is beautiful and our unity in diversity is Power but until we can come to the point of understanding that we may not become a formidable force as we ought to.Everyone on this platform is Great,remember that.I'm from the North and i love both of them so much they have been a great blessing to me.Great video.Thank you very much.
There's no problem we can not solve except the problem we can not discuss 👌
Kai
Pastor K is such a good listener and conversationalist, no wonder PM likes him
Yeah.. I noticed that too. He didn't interject at all.. or tell his own story
I love them both. Great men of God.
Counselors have to learn to listen!
Who is pm? His wife?
@@teamsugarcopsTVPM is Pastor Mildred
I am once a member of CBC,so i witness some of this things and i was in dat meeting when he announced d divorce,and i can say that pastor olumide is real,may God continue to uphold and bring back his children
One of the hardest thing to do for most people who are in the business of talking; is interviewing - the urge to ask & sit back is tough, Pastor Kingsley does a fine job of that 👏🏿
Man of God your children are coming back to you especially your son
Pastor K displayed a vital skill in this recording, The Art of Listening. He knows so much yet he listens with such focus. It's not cosmetic, it's real. Gid bless you P.K,
A divorce is like an amputation, you survive but there's less of you - Margaret Atwood
I'm on the verge of divorcing as at today, but this episode really made me understands more on the dangers aftermath. I really hope my spouse's heart is turned to flesh.
Amen...I would be in prayers with you
@@elinaonomuophu1148 Thanks for this, She's so hard hearted to listen to Counsel and guidance.
Amen🙏
Amen
@@oyewaleolatunde326 there is nothing too hard for the Lord.
I pray Pastor Olumide’s children reconnect back to him, he really needs them , I’ve learnt a lot from this conversation
Amen and amen 🙏
Amen!!!
Amen... God Will work things out in due time..
Amen
Healing is when you touch a wounded part and it no longer hurt. Healing from a failed marriage or relationship is when you remember them but laugh in response to the thoughts and memories
It's true. I was in a relationship that failed and it took me about 5 years to heal from it. The journey wasn't easy but God, family and friends walked with me every step of the way. These days, I laugh at the memories...But the most important thing is for one to know where they went wrong because no one is perfect, and learn from it...even though the other person in the relationship was the one who may have caused the relationship to flop.
That's a whole lot of time...
Just that we need prayer and scriptural evidence of the right partner before we allow other games like dating, questions, and introduction to set it. If we can be serious in prayer and the word ministry choosing right at once won't be a problem. Emotion and trend is the challenges relationship and marriage have nowadays.
this is good! I remember my ex now but I laugh and move on! 😊
Praying for reconciliation with the kids 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I often say even if your husband is a bad husband to you; he deserves every right to be a good father to your kids. Don’t punish your children by denying them access to their father. It is a seed that will come back to haunt you!
Amen
Please share this video. Let it go viral. People who know the children hear this message
1. Full Disclosure.
2. Do your due diligence (do not allow emotions to overrule your sense of discussion),
3. Never compare your past with your present
4. Face the reality that your spouse comes with a baggage (every spouse has a past, present, and future)
5. Learn and be committed to make it work.
There is no problem we can’t solve, except the problem we cannot discuss 🔑🔑🔑
I take inspiration from Pastor Jerry’s marital story. Well what do I know, only he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches
This man is an incurable fun abi comedian. Still cracking jokes despite all he's been thru. E pele man of God, it is well with you
He is a new man in Christ through and through and down to earth.
Pastor K’s facial expression is like “God have mercy….divorce shall not be my portion”
Amen oh
😂😂😂how you take know now from ordinary facial expressions.
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Hehehehe
😅😅😅😅 Amen
My waiting is over waiting😂😂😂😂 this pastor is shaking very strong tables. Topics that people avoid in the church..make we get sense oooo
Honestly… these discussions are so important and we need more of it in the church
My mum turned my heart against my dad the day i realised she rather was my enemy was when she stood vehemently against me getting married. I quickly called my dad, he wept bitterly and welcomed me without judging me. Today, i am a single parent cos my mum refused to see me married. My daughter is my joy. I encourage her to have a relationship with her dad, although he abandoned us and has refused to support us. Thankfully, i am in the financial sector and doing very well. Take heart pastor. Ur kids will return to you.
It is well!
It is well, I think you might need to break the stronghold that your mother sewed. It might now be generally if not broken
Do you think your mum refused you to get married because she knew he would abandone you? Maybe a trauma response
Powerful wisdom sessions.
Can you imagine! For crying out loud, why would any wife go away with ones children for so long ? This interview is to find them. They will be found.
I wish Pastor K could bring this subject of adult having IVF for children without father. It is a trend now. A lot of woman waited waited and waited no husband. So there are creating their own family.
Please Pastors, also do something on widows and widowers.
The difficulties they face in having partners for marriage, how they manage sexual ouches etc
I would love to hear this woman’s version. I give it to Dr Olamide, at the point where he talked about pregnancy, he mentioned perspective…. That from her perspective, his insistence on her going to church while pregnant could have been seen as abuse. That’s a stretch, but could there be other issues he didn’t handle well.That moment made me trust him more.
Ppl demonize past partners, many times not intentionally, we protect ourselves naturally. When ppl talk about past relationships, u can almost see horns on the heads of their partners.
Marry a kind person. God forbid, if things go bad, a kind ex would be considerate, no matter what.
💯...about marrying a kind person!
This is real wisdom for all, I personally remember when an amazing man was asking for my hand in marriage , all was well until he opened up about his previous marriage, I told my mum about it since my dad was late and she was ok with it but said all these things, that if I went ahead to marry him that I have to be prepared for the baggage, I thought about it and finally ended the relationship peacefully 😊
Great session. Dr Olumide don beat Pastor Kingsley tire as he dey gist. 😂😂😂😂
Aswear 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 whala
Those ignorant people who say,they don't have anything to learn from people divorced, this video is for you...
So true
"People are not really transformed"...if we were, no body will tell us to do certain things..I couldn't agree more
I pray that elohim will arrest your children wherever they are with this series, to reach out for you Bishop olumide in Jesus mighty name AMEN 🙏. Thank you Pk and Bishop for this series.
I was in a meeting in Lagos where Olumide was to be invited , one stood against it because she said he pushed away the wife. I am glad he is sharing this .
Really sir thank you for sharing 🙏
Na wa ooo
I saw this happen to so many people around me when i was single and my only prayer for marriage became "GOD HAVE MERCY" .....thank You LORD for your MERCY and the PEACE i have in my marriage.
If you jam Mad Man or Woman ehnnnnn‼️‼️‼️‼️ hmmmmm
These are healing messages. They have blessed me because I have been divorced and would not wish it on anyone. Thanks so much for the work you do. ❤
No matter what happened between the husband and wife no one should keep the children away from the other. Keep your issues aside and let the children see their other parent.
When you have a message the devil tries to make a mess of your life. Go through it knowing It’s still part of the message. The story will inspire a lot of persons, stop others from making such mistakes and cause healing in the lives of others. God bless you Sir for still standing
I like this, I will like to quote it
AMEN
Standing well and moving on.
O my GOD 😢😢. Father let Pastor reunite with his children again
Pastor Olumide is my pastor-CBC and I never knew this part of his story! I indeed pray that the good Lord will connect him and his children even before he clocks 60 years. God is ever faithful and He will prove Himself!!!
Amen!!!
Most people in church are not born àgain! You're right sir.
Pastor K is amazing, he allowed the man to talk and listened all through
When a man who the world is ready to criticized decides to take the bullet against all odds, it means God is sending a powerful message to someone. We should not just listen, but listen kindly. We should seek for help when possible
Thank you so much sir for being vulnerable enough to show us your scars🙏🏾 May the good Lord restore you on EVERY SIDE🙏🏾
Divorce is one of the most painful experiences in this life. It should be avoided as much as possible!
The pastor is a strong man, God will reward you for your faithfulness.
The pain of Divorce is bigger than divorce.
Pastor Olumide is anointed!
This is is really interesting. One big lesson here is that remarriage after divorce is no joke.
Thank you for sharing your marriage journey. After listening to this. I have few points to share. Churches need to have a marriage counselling unit for the married ones. Problems should be discussed in marriage not swept under the carpet. Prayers sessions are good but emotional damage needs to be dealt with continuous counselling sessions until healing takes place. Most Christians marriages are going through tough times and couples are enduring the marriage instead of enjoying it. They are only patching things because of what people will say. Divorce is a very tough decision in marriage and one will live with the scares for life. We need to feed our marriages with the correct ingredients in order to get the expected meal served to us. I pray God gives us the wisdom, knowledge and kindness to feed into our marriages.
O LORD of all power and might, we agree as the body of Christ that Your servant’s children will get in touch with him and rekindle their relationship in the name of Jesus.
Infact the world need to hear this Man of God😢
Papa please try and reunite with your kids... Try reaching out to your ex relatives
Amen to the prayers
I use my parents as a point of contact.
They must reconcile and love themselves again like never before. I don't know how God will do it but I strongly believe it.
It is true that most people in Church are not born again and converted in heart.
Genuine Salvation, genuine discipiling, NOT just new birth, there must also be growth in knowledge that must lead to maturity.
God has seen that I will go through this and made you go through it so that I can be strengthen. This is the first time I am listening to marriage seminars since my separation. I didn’t even want to hear anything about marriage. I thank God for this program
"Wealth is not sexually transmitted " ...wow! Pst Olumide well done!
A child sets you back 15 years. Your last born plus 25 years is your freedom. Wise sayings. Thank you pastors. More wisdom
I feel Pastor Olumide’s pain. Wow… I never knew he has this story…
So true, stories like this help us understand the drive and passion behind what they do.
I can totally relate to pastor olumide pain. I have NOT seen mine for over 9 years. Its an unimaginable pain that never goes away. I too had a dose of mfm " judgement" ,sad.
I don't wish it one anyone. The pain never goes away
So sorry
I pray for comfort and an opportunity or opportunities to reconnect.
Mine was 6years until the court stepped in and told her to allow me access to my girls and they must come for holidays
The spirit of God will touch the hearts of your children and they will return to you. It's not about church but people pretending to be a Christian. MFM has brought joy to many homes. No church is without them. God will lead us and we will follow Him.
May God have mercy on you! I pray that you shall reunite with your children! Shalom🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@danielilori3388 i agree all churches have them, but i can only talk about my experience with MFM, and mine is like pastor olumide's my children live with my ex abroad, so it makes it doubly difficult. They are 28,24 and 19. saw them last in 2014. I dont have any other children and not remarried as well. so i get totally what pastor olumide is saying.God help us all and i wish them all blessing and peace. Even if i meet them not sef, where do you start from ? what do you say? the damage has been done. Also, when people go through a divorce, we get very selfish and unfortunately, its the children that suffer. Most times ,the mother uses them as tools and weaponise them against their father. Break down of a marriage is NEVER one way, both parties have a part to play in the breakdown, in my opinion. Anyway, i wish us all well. alot of men are suffering this matter and perhaps the church should be more practically in its teachings.
Thank you so much Pst Olumide for your vulnerability. I am putting to action every single point you gave to help me bounce back. May God continue to supply his wisdom and knowledge to you and PK.
I can relate with this interview because of my scars. Don't worry pastor, the Lord will deliver them from manipulations and manipulators. if it is not working one should not be bittered to the extent of holding back the children.😢😢😢
Your children will surely come back before your 60th birthday in Jesus Name 🙏
Amen
Amen
Amen 🙏
AMEN 🙏🏽
Amen
It takes a lot to share this part of someone’s life🥹
Thank youuuu so much PK for such a platform🤲
Thank youuuuu so much Dr Olumide. God bless you immensely Sirs and I pray that by God’s supernatural intervention, you are reconciled to your children in the name of Jesus.
I think the experience humbled him.He trusted in his wisdom and taught same for years.
Upgrading premarital counseling in churches CANNOT change anything. Churches should focus on real conversion of members. A saved believer does not need premarital counseling to learn to behave well.
Fashioning premarital counseling to present realities is the cause of marriage crashes.
God word doesn't need upgrading. Get Him into your members and save yourself the useless headache.
You’re so right! Really agree with this comment. Does anyone need to tell a married person to behave well towards the one they claim to love? All these people are in churches pretending to be what they’re not. Shame!!!
Absolute truth !
Absolutely right, a lot of people in churches do not know God, hence the problems we hear. They they are churches, goers, when you know Christ truthfully, your character must change the cathetrosphy we have in churches will not be. People need the word of God, not motivation for their greed or ego.
Dr Olumide is such a courageous man. Pastor K is a good listener very mature
His is a counselor, being a good listener is a major requirement.
I can't really remember when I started loving and listening to Dr Olumide, he's so real and pragmatic with good emotional stability. Always cool listening to you ❤
This thing called marriage...honestly it is becoming like a risky venture in this end time! Thank GOD for His grace upon Pst Olumide. There is no condemnation to anyone who is in Christ Jesus!
True. Buy you just do t divorce anyhow just because there wont be condemnation. Build yourself, educate yourself about marriage, emotional maturity. If you think genuinely you wont handle it then you dont go into it at all
Pastor Olumide is really intelligent!!!! His training strategies are a genius idea!!!
This is so powerful.. thank you Pastor Olamide for being vulnerable to share your dark days with us. May the good lord perfect all that concerns you, and continues to strengthen you in Jesus name.
Divorce is not good if only you can manage the marriage but if not ,Divorce is better than dieing in the name of marriage. If you didn't Divorce though, you would have been worst than now Dr. You did right don't regret the children will come back
Thank you so much Pastor Olumide for not hiding these information from the public, sir, you are a real mentor ❤
This is from God to me. Thank God I stumbled on this.
There is no problem we cannot solve except the problem we cannot discuss-Olumide
I have learnt a lot from this pastor's Emmanuel story,may God bring back his children to him
If this man's children are in America,they have really suffered identity crises.I live in America and in sschools kids who don't know their father suffer a lot and most of them are the trouble makers in schools.There is a kind of culture in America that even if a child has a step dad, they stiill don't fit in and they keep saying I don't see my da.Even university students sadly express that emptiness.I wish this video can get to them so that they reconnect with their dad!
WAO!!! PST. OLUMIDE EMMANUEL HAS GAINED A HUGE RESPECT FROM ME...
IT IS BAD TO JUDGE SOMEONE BEFORE HEARING THEIR STORY...
THIS IS THE MOST SINCERE ADMISSION BOTH SCRIPTURALLY AND PERSONAL...
I FELT LIKE CRYING LISTENING TO HIM AND TALKING ABOUT HIS CHILDREN....
JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH...
You cannot manufacture the weapons of war in the battle field! I am enjoying these nuggets. Thanks.
This is a blessing to the entire world especially the body of Christ.! Full of reality and transparency!
As part of reading books , I recommend men to also read about menopause, it can saves us from some misunderstanding in our relationships
Specifically in the area of having children Dr Olumide just spoke my mind. 🙌 🙌 🙌 🙌 🙌
Pastor Olumide really touched most challenges in today's churches. God bless pastor K and Dr Olumide for this session. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
As much as his story is painful, his also funny and real. I pray God's mercy speaks for him in finding his kids
Marriage was never meant for that lady in question.
It’s so sad to see what he went through. I don’t know how far he has tried to find the children from his previous marriage but I’ll say he should look for them on social media. Those children growing up with a a single parent (and with the attitude of their mother) will most likely be dysfunctional. She probably will also have poisoned there minds against him which would have been more traumatic cause it happened in their formative years. Dr Olumide should also consider implications of dysfunctional parenting if I may say on those kids, especially growing up in the states. Some kids go into drug, some are in jail etc. so he should look for his kids everywhere! I hope he sees this sha. May the Lord compensate him for his losses
Hmmmm I am speechless 😢😢 men too pass through abuse. We are so quick to Judge. More grace sir
Thank you so much Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo for inviting my Egbon from another mother to help us on this prevailing winds troubling the body of Christ.
Pastor Olumide, I am thankful. E seun gan sir.❤
In other for divorce to reduce, before anyone gets into marriage, 1st thing is to understand yourself, know what you like and don't like. Love yourself, 2nd thing is, marry yourself. Don't marry opposite of yourself.
I pray the children come and look for their father in Jesus Name. 🙌
Dr Olumide, I like the candour and wisdom with which you are handling this issue.
I am sorry you have not been on my radar of prayers for quite sometime now. Know it that as a son of Calvary, I will keep praying for you and there are people holding you up in marriage. God is in charge sir.
This has been an eye opener. Pastor K is such an amazing listerner....... i pray that God brings back pastor Olumide's children and cause a reconciliation in Jesus name.
An amazing listener you say. He let Dr. tell his story.❤
It actually takes more energy to listen.
Am so happy he say the truth, you have to understand every stages in marriage: Pregnancy, raising kids, toddler, teenage, adult, menstrual circle, hormonal issues, ovulation,menopause,e.t.c all this is a process,if you don't understand it can break your marriage
This conversation is so inspiring.
"There is no problem we cannot solve, only the problems we cannot discuss". This hit me really hard. Lord help me.
God will bring your children to you, sir
And you will release that memoir… we can’t wait for it!
Pastor Olumide mannnn 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Post 1 year counselling - I’m sooo in support of this!
We cried ooo. I was a member of the choir then, I remember when he told us about the divorce. We thank God you’re doing well sir.
you really are a great man of God, i watch u almost every and sometimes repeat some of your videos due to the POWER your videos have, not knowing what u were going through, I CANT BELIEVE YOU ARE DOING GOD's WORK LIKE THIS AFTER ALL THESE. I salute you a million times sir, let the good Lord answer all your prayers
Innocent, South Africa 🇿🇦
I really love how Pastor K conducted himself. Never probing into the issue but just listening
Your children will come look for you sir.GOD never lies.
May the Balm in Gilead, reach deep in a way no one else can, granting God's servant, and all others who are involved healing, health and wholeness, IJN, Amen.
Personal Light:- Marraige is not something to be done flippantly or casually.
For the life of me, I can't get how young people in this generation, generally speaking, just get married casually without having a relationship or courtship first - it just beats me!!! You know you wonder, is their head correct?
Due diligence, like the Man of God rightly said, happens in the place of relationship or courtship - how will you be dodging having a relationship? What are you hiding that you don't want the world to know?
"It's not enough to be a good person, you need to marry a good person" - got this over more than 2 decades from Pst.Olumide, Pst.Mildred Okonkwo, Pst.Bimbo Odukoya, Pst.Funke Adejumo, Bishop.T.D.Jakes.
Pst.Mildred's analogy of a bad egg mixed with a good egg is so VIVID.
The mixture will end up bad - an organic FACT - people that's deep, on so many levels!!!
Thank you pastors, thank Dr. For pouring out yourself, you laid it bare. Simply put, he helped everyone who cares to make informed decision, like this is what you’re getting into, in btw I can feel his pains, imagine not seeing your own children for 17 years , when it’s not like you murdered their mother. May the Lord touch their minds and heart to do what is right. I recommend this video to couples in troubled marriages. God bless our PK too