I’ve done embarrassing stuff before, and it haunts me to an exaggerated degree - like I’ll suddenly wake up in a cold sweat because of some shit I said in 9th grade… If I’d done what this guy did, it would straight up _destroy_ me haha.
bruh you really think parents haven't been doing kinky shit with their kids nearby for all of human history? back in Victorian times when the family all lived in one room you just know some fucked up shit was going down
I appreciate that this started with “If you’re asking like this, then yes, you have to apologize” and turned into “Don’t apologize, just drop it and leave her alone.”
Problem being, she sells her body online like a piece of meat… you can’t cover yourself in food at the beach and complain that seagulls are diving at you, know what I mean?
Yeah like if a straight guy wanted to hang out with a male as a friend and applied that method to getting laid, that would still be far from correct but still WAY closer than "piece of meat".
Shout out to Stavvy for giving good advice! I'm genuinely impressed cause few people would understand the complexity of how apologizing would make it worse. Damn, snaps to you!!
“The apology is mainly for you” is such a good take. So often, we act like the apology is the thing that matters when it’s about behavior. It’s better to change your behavior and make it right without apologizing than it is to apologize without making it right. And “making it right” here is giving her space and sitting in the bad feeling so you can apply that to future situations.
Stav's advice about "Don't confront a guy who was weird to your friend, and pressure them into apologizing, because now they're just going to give them a weird apology" is great advice You think that you might be being a good friend, but you're actually just making them more uncomfortable by having to confront a person that makes them uncomfortable
imagine being made to feel uncomfortable in the first place. If you give a weird apology that is 💯 on you, not on the friend for telling them that their behaviour is a major turn off.
@@ranga274 Huh? I don't completely understand this reply, but I get the sense that you don't understand what was being said. What Stav was saying is that if YOUR friend complains to YOU that some guy was being weird to her, don't confront that guy and pressure him into apologizing to her. She would rather not have to talk to that guy again, but now you're forcing her to awkwardly accept an apology from someone who makes her feel uncomfortable. You think that you're being a good friend, but you're actually not.
Nailed it Stav 💕 Also, a lot of men wouldn't feel this amount of guilt, so I think that says something too. Don't be too hard on yourself bro. Just take this as a lesson.
@@jackberdine Let he who hasn't been horny throw the first stone. We all done embrassing stuff, getting rejected and telling someone a poem is highschool stuff.
Holy shit I found this guy earlier this week and he’s hysterical, maybe one of my new favorite comedians, but then I see this video and bro is actually wise beyond his years as well?!? You go Stav!!!
This is wild that no one has commented that this guy might be a full-on stalker. He knows all of her socials. He's everywhere that she is ..conveniently. It's too much sus in one package.
It worried me when Stav started to elaborate on that one specific piece of his advice. Like no, talk more about the "leaving her alone" part. Way to many people lack sense and listening skills 😂😂
As woman my auggestion for him is just to stop. Dont contact her Try your best to avoid her If she cares she will reach out to you but otherwise avoid her at all cause
Hahaha my man if you’re a guy and you use the internet enough to leave a RUclips comment, you already did. Let uncle Stavvy’s advice sink in, just leave that girl alone and learn from what you did for the next one. And there will be a next one.
❤thanks for the great advice you gave here. It’s really hard to explain to well-meaning guys how and why an apology can be scary. Everything has to be black and white when you are in safety mode. This is great y’all.❤
It depends. Some women want a dude to just go in, but some appreciate a guy demonstrating that they care about securing consent and are even turned on by that. This guy is just clueless about how to read people
That wouldn't kill it for me personally, as long as there are vibes. It's sweet and as above commenter stated, consent is sexy. I could salvage a friendship from such an awkward proposition on the fact alone that he was polite enough to ask. Good people are few and far between. It's the haiku for me dawg. I wouldn't even care that much if someone stumbled upon my erotic literature, but responding publicly with a haiku? Horrifying. Idk, it gives "I doodle your name obsessively in my journal before beddy by" vibes.
This is good advice -- but this dude totally sat with it for a week, then convinced himself Stav didn't know what he was talking about, and then sent a long, awkward email, making her feel even worse about the whole thing.
The thing is, she might not even know the haiku was him. So apologizing for something she didn't even know about isn't going to smooth things over as much as he hopes.
I agree with the advice.. What she wants is for the situation to never have happened and to just not see the guy again. The best thing he can do is to just move on and try and get as much of his life away for her for at least a while, (go to a different gym, take kid to school a different way ect ect).. All apologizing will do is make her feel uncomfortable.. just act like it never happened and you don't know each other..
Def a goober move but essentially harmless. If he just took the hint afterwards and never made another move he would’ve been fine. You only need to make a move once on a girl, after that she knows how you feel and she’ll make the next one if she feels like it.
Wow, I'm a 41 yr old woman and his advice was better than mine. That's 100% what I would want a guy to do. While apologizing isn't wrong, dropping it is even better! ❤ You have to prove you're not a creep by not getting every girl you want and being ok with it. Emotionally self-sufficient. Btw, here's why: Women know most every man will want to stick it in at some point if not immediately, and we've all been metooed. So our skills in knowing whether we want you inside our body is pretty instant. We have to constantly assess if you're a danger, which means having equal freedom & control. So all you have to do is be there and not do or say anything unless she approaches you. The ball always starts in her court. If she tosses you the ball, you toss it back and wait. 1 for 1. You don't get extra balls. You only get what she gives you back. Equal playing field. Otherwise you're just the kid at school throwing all the balls at girls and it becomes dodgeball when they're trying to play basketball and now you're just a clueless bully.
when your main dating pool is full on men demanding nudes then fuck yeah I'd be getting them to pay for it, being that annoying and sexually creepy should come with a wallet to give as an apology.
True true apology is for him @this point. He needs to wait like Stavvy said. Good gawd man have some will💝💝 A nod if u make eye contact is always golden🎩🧸🎀💖
I think any guy can relate to this on some level. Sometimes you get rejected and you gotta take the L with grace, while also still kind of being around them. Some guys can't handle that, and they get really bitter about it, and women get nervous about that happening because they've been there before. Just be a good guy, let go of expectations, and see what happens.
I mean, I’ve done embarrassing stuff before, and it haunts me to an exaggerated degree - like I’ll suddenly wake up in a cold sweat because of some shit I said or did in 9th grade… If I’d done what this guy did, it would straight up _destroy_ me haha.
Some chicks like when you ask to kiss to them, but the answer should be pretty obvious before you ask. Like I am just confirming what you already know and aren’t misinterpreting signals.
Some chicks say they do, wether that is true or not is a different thing. Plenty chicks like things in their imagination but never really calibrated that with reality.
Yeah, any further attempt at contact will just look thirsty and make the situation even weirder. Better to just leave her alone at this point. If she feels awkward seeing you at the gym or whatever its not gonna be less awkward after another message.
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the way he sighs while telling the story is wild 😭 you could tel this ones been HEAVY on bro’s mind
Lmfaooo
he wrote fukn poetry, he aint leaving her alone
@@JW-qf2fx Classic creepy guy hobby
The BIG HEAVIES definitely been on bros mind
I’ve done embarrassing stuff before, and it haunts me to an exaggerated degree - like I’ll suddenly wake up in a cold sweat because of some shit I said in 9th grade… If I’d done what this guy did, it would straight up _destroy_ me haha.
Don't message again
His horniness lacks control
He is too thirsty
Is that haiku, nice one
Beautiful poem😂
Nice one
Don't message again
His horniness lacks control
Bobs and vegana
FTFY
I'd swap the first and last lines
This dude sound like he in a Microsoft teams meeting with HR
Tech bro for sure
@@00mandrewevery software developer and business analyst sounds exactly like this lmfao
@@mattmcnick Listen closely might actually be zuckerburg lmao
lmao
Speaking from experience lol?
This entire situation is so funny and sad at the same time. The only fans mom, the thirsty single dad. Peak 2020s degeneracy
fuckin fr lol
Pray for the children
bruh you really think parents haven't been doing kinky shit with their kids nearby for all of human history? back in Victorian times when the family all lived in one room you just know some fucked up shit was going down
It's just sad
I’d prefer this degeneracy over any previous degeneracy of the past. Let people be weird instead of having them hatecrime you in the streets lmao
As soon as Buddy said that he responded to a fan fiction she wrote I just knew it was game over.
ao3 bitches...
I appreciate that this started with “If you’re asking like this, then yes, you have to apologize” and turned into “Don’t apologize, just drop it and leave her alone.”
This all could have been avoided if he had just written a better haiku
A hatchet buried
Single dad way too thirsty
Water under bridge
Effortless beauty
A sight like a soft song's sound
You good? Please respond
A single father
Memory of climbing gym
Should have laid down phone
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I calls it easy!
Like I paddle my canoe,
I'll paddle yours too!
Stav's emotional intelligence is kinda impressive honestly. Hes almost always on point in these calls
Why is he single?
@carsonwentz8301 you would have to ask him
@@brians7901 probably a narcissist or something.
I noticed only single and divorced people like to give dating advice
@carsonwentz8301 ok?
I love that part of Stav’s advice is “try to see her as a person and not a piece of meat” and I wish more men thought like that
That's fair but the tricky part is that she's in the business of presenting herself as a piece of meat
Problem being, she sells her body online like a piece of meat… you can’t cover yourself in food at the beach and complain that seagulls are diving at you, know what I mean?
Yeah like if a straight guy wanted to hang out with a male as a friend and applied that method to getting laid, that would still be far from correct but still WAY closer than "piece of meat".
If her meat is on the net ima treat it as is 🤷🏻♂️
Take the L and find someone interested. Don't act like a stranger if you see them, but leave it alone.
Best advice on here
THIS. If you see them, don't even try to apologise, just say hey and keep on moving and be obvious you don't want any sort of interaction whatsoever.
I get the feeling that she mentioned listening to Stav once and this is his weird attempt at communicating with her
:O we're all part of his Inception-level play for her!
oh nooooo...
Lmaoooooo
Giga down bad
Haaaaaa
"apologies are for you, for absolution" is super fucking accurate.
Stav was on it with that point.
Shout out to Stavvy for giving good advice! I'm genuinely impressed cause few people would understand the complexity of how apologizing would make it worse.
Damn, snaps to you!!
👏
he's an emotionally intelligent dude!
Man just leave her alone lmfao
“Our kids go to the same school” 😂😂😂
🫠🫠🫠
Awkward PTO meetings
You know...after he enrolled his kids.
“The apology is mainly for you” is such a good take. So often, we act like the apology is the thing that matters when it’s about behavior. It’s better to change your behavior and make it right without apologizing than it is to apologize without making it right. And “making it right” here is giving her space and sitting in the bad feeling so you can apply that to future situations.
Glad Mark Zuckerberg had the balls to call in
🫤 I can’t unhear that now 😆
That was my first thought I’m glad somebody else heard it
Fr he sounds like he’s smoking meats
Was looking for this 😂. Oh how MZ has fallen!
Stav's advice about "Don't confront a guy who was weird to your friend, and pressure them into apologizing, because now they're just going to give them a weird apology" is great advice
You think that you might be being a good friend, but you're actually just making them more uncomfortable by having to confront a person that makes them uncomfortable
imagine being made to feel uncomfortable in the first place. If you give a weird apology that is 💯 on you, not on the friend for telling them that their behaviour is a major turn off.
@@ranga274 Huh? I don't completely understand this reply, but I get the sense that you don't understand what was being said.
What Stav was saying is that if YOUR friend complains to YOU that some guy was being weird to her, don't confront that guy and pressure him into apologizing to her. She would rather not have to talk to that guy again, but now you're forcing her to awkwardly accept an apology from someone who makes her feel uncomfortable. You think that you're being a good friend, but you're actually not.
Please elaborate ur first comment. I still have to finish video and English isn't my native language but I'm interested in your comment 😮😃
HE REPLIED WITH A HAIKU BRUTHERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
Right 😂I don't even know what that is I gotta look it up
Nailed it Stav 💕
Also, a lot of men wouldn't feel this amount of guilt, so I think that says something too. Don't be too hard on yourself bro. Just take this as a lesson.
He should feel more guilt
Go to work, lady
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@@jackberdine Let he who hasn't been horny throw the first stone. We all done embrassing stuff, getting rejected and telling someone a poem is highschool stuff.
Eldis is on fire for this one.
Holy shit I found this guy earlier this week and he’s hysterical, maybe one of my new favorite comedians, but then I see this video and bro is actually wise beyond his years as well?!? You go Stav!!!
You should watch his previous podcast 😭
@@jtdub1265 best laugh track you could ask for
@@jtdub1265happy pride to cumtown
The “We won’t do any poems” zinger at the end really got me
Stavvys advice is so genius and 90% of the time he gets the female perspective. The caller is obsessive AF.
This is wild that no one has commented that this guy might be a full-on stalker. He knows all of her socials. He's everywhere that she is ..conveniently. It's too much sus in one package.
Kid at same school is normal, same gym is normal, knowing socials is normal, your crazy.
Stav could be a good therapist.
We all know this dude is going to use the “say sorry in a natural situation” as an excuse to do it the first time he randomly sees her 😂😂
It worried me when Stav started to elaborate on that one specific piece of his advice. Like no, talk more about the "leaving her alone" part. Way to many people lack sense and listening skills 😂😂
Stavvy is really getting great at this. Solid advice from the big guy.
If someone is into you, it will be obvious. Also there is no bigger turn off than desperation.
This is such a good one
I really fuckin hope people start coming back with updates the longer this podcast goes
Nailed that analysis lads
This man needed a therapist and unfortunately called Stavros 😂
Stavvy you are the best life coach imaginable!
As woman my auggestion for him is just to stop.
Dont contact her
Try your best to avoid her
If she cares she will reach out to you but otherwise avoid her at all cause
Works like a charm
Agree, he sounds like a good dude who doesn't need to get mixed up with a basket case.
Can I just say.. absolutely fantastic advice. I 100% agree with everything that Stav said!
Stavvy is the spiritual leader we didn’t know we needed.
He’s like Oprah for dudes
This dude is way too thirsty. Holy moly lol.
This man has already been lost in the sauce once how do you think he got the first kid?
This story is absolutely horrifying because I have this feeling in the back of my mind that I'm going to end up just like the caller
bro, we all know you already did
Stav said we all been there bro, learn from experience lol
i'm pretty sure this is just how things are now and we have the Internet to blame for it
This is fucked
loser lololol
Hahaha my man if you’re a guy and you use the internet enough to leave a RUclips comment, you already did. Let uncle Stavvy’s advice sink in, just leave that girl alone and learn from what you did for the next one. And there will be a next one.
"Ya gotta treat her like a hunched over old man"
Stavy is a hero! So emotionally intelligent. Ty king.
Wow, that was actually very solid advice. First good podcaster advice ever given.
I’m literally shocked at the insight I just heard. Well done, sir. Well done.
You know your game is bad when 2 unattractive guys are laughing at “can i kiss you”
Are you out of your mind? Stavros is sexy af 🔥
❤thanks for the great advice you gave here. It’s really hard to explain to well-meaning guys how and why an apology can be scary. Everything has to be black and white when you are in safety mode. This is great y’all.❤
asking a woman if she wants to make out one day is so lame, he screwed it right there from the beginning
It’s funny that some guys dad has the same relational intelligence as a 14 year old
@@zzzzz45zzzzz79 Adults are just kids who can articulate themselves
It depends. Some women want a dude to just go in, but some appreciate a guy demonstrating that they care about securing consent and are even turned on by that. This guy is just clueless about how to read people
@@mcearlgreybased. It really varies.
That wouldn't kill it for me personally, as long as there are vibes. It's sweet and as above commenter stated, consent is sexy. I could salvage a friendship from such an awkward proposition on the fact alone that he was polite enough to ask. Good people are few and far between.
It's the haiku for me dawg. I wouldn't even care that much if someone stumbled upon my erotic literature, but responding publicly with a haiku? Horrifying. Idk, it gives "I doodle your name obsessively in my journal before beddy by" vibes.
It was over for him when she told him that she did only fans. Then kissing her pretty much sealed it. This situation cannot be salvaged.
This is good advice -- but this dude totally sat with it for a week, then convinced himself Stav didn't know what he was talking about, and then sent a long, awkward email, making her feel even worse about the whole thing.
right its clear he cant handle rejection haha
Lolllll
The thing is, she might not even know the haiku was him. So apologizing for something she didn't even know about isn't going to smooth things over as much as he hopes.
I agree with the advice..
What she wants is for the situation to never have happened and to just not see the guy again.
The best thing he can do is to just move on and try and get as much of his life away for her for at least a while, (go to a different gym, take kid to school a different way ect ect)..
All apologizing will do is make her feel uncomfortable.. just act like it never happened and you don't know each other..
Love the edit of "we won't do any poems" cut to music
Been here since Stavy solves your problems… this man makes me laugh harder every than anyone else. Thank you sir Stav 🙏🏼
I thought I was pathetic in the past lol
If you listen to enough of these , you end up feeling pretty good about your own fucked up life
@@richardhunt9698 that's why I'm here 😅
Just from him telling the story i know for a fact that he was being way creepier then he let on lol
"cool stuff on the internet" lmao 🤣
Stavy's healthy sexual outlook has turned me into a fan. If more people were as thoughtful as Stavy the world would be a much better place.
Stav is actually really spot on with this advice
The grip strength line slept on 😂
No one made a big enough deal about him just straight up asking her to make out lmao. What an insane move
thats how i be with girls i just straight up ask them to their face lmao
Being forward isn’t insane, that part is fine imo, it’s the fact that he kept being a horny cretin after she rejected him lol
Def a goober move but essentially harmless. If he just took the hint afterwards and never made another move he would’ve been fine. You only need to make a move once on a girl, after that she knows how you feel and she’ll make the next one if she feels like it.
@@joeshmoe1293that's funny, my brother asked three times and now he's married with 2 kids. But hey,you know best lmao
@@ScuffedLandlord There are exceptions to the rules, what I said still stands.
The caller is acting like he's in middle school or something. This is grade A cringe. Ouch.
Hilarious tho
Wow, I'm a 41 yr old woman and his advice was better than mine. That's 100% what I would want a guy to do. While apologizing isn't wrong, dropping it is even better! ❤ You have to prove you're not a creep by not getting every girl you want and being ok with it. Emotionally self-sufficient.
Btw, here's why:
Women know most every man will want to stick it in at some point if not immediately, and we've all been metooed. So our skills in knowing whether we want you inside our body is pretty instant. We have to constantly assess if you're a danger, which means having equal freedom & control.
So all you have to do is be there and not do or say anything unless she approaches you. The ball always starts in her court. If she tosses you the ball, you toss it back and wait. 1 for 1. You don't get extra balls. You only get what she gives you back. Equal playing field. Otherwise you're just the kid at school throwing all the balls at girls and it becomes dodgeball when they're trying to play basketball and now you're just a clueless bully.
I love this basketball/dodgeball idea. You write well!
@bellsproutpizza ty!
as a woman i'd say that was great advice from Stavvy!
Finding out a girl you know has an OF seems like a blessing. Turns out, it’s a curse.
It’s our dystopian present. This story is nuts
He's a bitch. He's worried he made her climbing gym an "unsafe space"? She's just not interested, he's being pathetic
How the fuck could it ever be a blessing
@@jackberdine Definitely a blessing because you know she ain't it.
when your main dating pool is full on men demanding nudes then fuck yeah I'd be getting them to pay for it, being that annoying and sexually creepy should come with a wallet to give as an apology.
Also, don't follow her on any platforms anymore. Surprised that didn't get mentioned
Bro has been dodging bullets and while jumping in front of new ones.
Take the L and move on my guy. There's no coming back fam.
Stav in the LL Bean chambray. Dad style suits you brother.
Good to see stavy and the boys are giving out good advice...as a woman i fully approve of this advice lol
I think the only question they didn’t ask, if the kids go to the same school does she know the mother of your child
He probably hasn't even got a kid. Probably pretends to have one so he can stalk her at the school. Guy is a straight up creep.
True true apology is for him @this point. He needs to wait like Stavvy said. Good gawd man have some will💝💝 A nod if u make eye contact is always golden🎩🧸🎀💖
I think any guy can relate to this on some level. Sometimes you get rejected and you gotta take the L with grace, while also still kind of being around them. Some guys can't handle that, and they get really bitter about it, and women get nervous about that happening because they've been there before. Just be a good guy, let go of expectations, and see what happens.
I mean, I’ve done embarrassing stuff before, and it haunts me to an exaggerated degree - like I’ll suddenly wake up in a cold sweat because of some shit I said or did in 9th grade… If I’d done what this guy did, it would straight up _destroy_ me haha.
Yo Stavv you look soo much healthier now fr bro ! Keep it up
My boy rocking that online ceramics! Glad he’s got good taste
Stav is so good at advice
Be his real- doesn’t tell them to play games
man I was gonna crack a joke but this shit is just sad lol
Some chicks like when you ask to kiss to them, but the answer should be pretty obvious before you ask. Like I am just confirming what you already know and aren’t misinterpreting signals.
Some chicks say they do, wether that is true or not is a different thing. Plenty chicks like things in their imagination but never really calibrated that with reality.
Dude yes thanks for bringing this back
I downloaded this. It’s too good.
I cannot relate to this man in any way. The life he lives so casually is so alien to me
This man gas to get some self confidence
Stav is right: apologies can be selfish.
Yeah, any further attempt at contact will just look thirsty and make the situation even weirder. Better to just leave her alone at this point. If she feels awkward seeing you at the gym or whatever its not gonna be less awkward after another message.
“WE won’t do any poems” LMFAOO 😂😂
I agree with Stavy's opinion on not orbiting a person you're interested in on ALL of their online platforms.
Eldis was rippin bro I’ve never heard him gun someone like that😂😂😂
I didn't get simp behaviour and people even wasting money on OF, but this was a learning experience and insight that was very interesting. God damn.
Stavvy is secretly super wholesome.
Staavy would clean up on FET 😂
Don’t apologize
Just leave her alone
Work out leave go look elsewhere or change gyms
Good lord spit it out dude
My brother in Christ this is maidenless behavior
I have never googled anyone that I've dated. It's never even occurred to me to do it.
Well done stav
Stav giving great advice
Stav is wise af
😂 how it cuts to the Greek music at the end of the talk. 🎉😂 OPA! Yasu Stavvy!
Great situation, great advice!
Wow Stavy has great perspective on dating an OF chick. That’s good shit.
The best advice is to not. Don't even try. Let them dry up.
Stav really regretting giving out that early confirmation