Why Self-Discipline is so Hard
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In this video, we get to the bottom of why self-discipline (self-control) is so hard.
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We must suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.
Ugh true
Damn that one hits
I always tell myself
The discomfort of good habits is the better than the discomfort of bad habits.
Wow, truly said so great. Couldn’t have set it better myself
@@rrickymaa thank you! :)
*_me watching a video about self-discipline instead of studying..._*
shookt boi same
shookt boi go study rn
Same
Same .....am goin to do a programming exam in two hours
Fulham FC good L 😁
I don’t even have enough self discipline to watch the video instead of looking at the comments
Rome Dep 😂😅same
Busted 😂
Faxx💯
Yooo💀😂
I’m right there with yah 😂
Procrastination is often a strategy of self-sabotage. You have to go deeper in yourself to find the causes of this way of dealing with things. This kind of strategies has a meaning about the way you think of yourself. But it's so hard though. I've been so used to self-sabotage myself, because I'm so used to think that I don't deserve success, or love, that it feels like it's a part of me. And I can't get rid of it. It's almost comforting, since it's the way I always "loved" myself.
But getting rid of those habits asks a real work on a very long relationship you have had with yourself. You clearly need a therapist for that.
This the real shit right here^!
I dont think you "need" a therapist to solve this (and I say that as someone going to school to be a therapist) but can definitely be very helpful. Spending more honest time with yourself and actually intentionally spending time to think about how you may be self sabotaging yourself is a great start.
This. If you don’t see yourself as worthy of success or the love of people around you, you will adopt behaviors that actively ruin you, with a “why even try” mindset. Yet the decision to try is already 90% of the hardship
Procrastination works because it is a very efficient solution.
Why would you brain work a week if all the work can be done in one evening?
This is because of evolution. Such a waste of energy would be fatal for the organsim in earlier days.
The brain is specifically designed to work as efficient as possible.
If you choose to leave this life behind, there's always the authentic way of life (Being true to oneself)
This comment made me vomit my own self-sabotage analysis in a journal entry. Thank you
“Odin gave up his present self for his future self”
This is going in my motivational memory bank forever.
Was that a quotation from the myth? Or did the channel come up with that summary themselves? Whoever it was deserves some credit, what a quote.
same for me
@@rossbeesley2575 I think this is a geral knowledge that is a myth
What if that future self is a failure
what if you die in the process tho? wouldn't you regret how much you didn't live your life in the present? It's important to think about the future, but you need to consider the present, and of course, remember and learn from the past.
Use self-discipline only for the important things in life.
1. Education - Finish your education.
2. Food - Make the right food choices.
3. Exercise - Get your physical activity in at least 4 times a week for at least 20 minutes.
4. Social life - Be social but with the right people that also have the same goals as you. (1-3)
5. Repeat steps 1 - 4 - Success.
Self-discipline is the solution for most of our current problems.
People often think about self-discipline as something boring but it's quite the opposite.
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Yeah, but how do you get discipline? It's an infinite loop of the unknown.
Throw selflessness in there, too.
@@tomasazevedo1979 I feel like self-discipline by definition is forcing yourself to do things you don't want because of futur gratification, and often it's not even gratification it's just to avoid pain
I'm at minute 2, and I don't think I even have the self-discipline to watch all 9 minutes
Don’t let your dreams be dreams , just do it
Fuck you dude, I was boutta say that
That's patience problems
Yeah, that.s called ADHD (Response inhibition) go get tested
Well that's simply from lack of interest. Connect watching this video with improving your self-discipline therefore improving your life overall as self-descipline helps you do anything you want and life and build happiness. Therefore watching this video = happiness and sucess in life. Now there is nothing else more interesting than watching this video
Just want to appreciate the animator, making it simple and easy to understand. Also, I love the colors! 💛
this is a very well-made video. the irony is, i'm watching while procrastinating. i've had these kind of thoughts for a while now, why i'm losing motivation and why my body just won't move. i'm frustrated that i'm not that frustrated, but it is also myself that suffers the consequences.
Coming from a addict, changing your environment does play a huge role.
And thanks dor the video bro, great work👍
I love how you represent this issues. You used analogies and resources. It's really relatable and understandable. Good job!
Complex thoughts in plain English
Muhammad Iqbal Feynman
T B yes already saw the video
هذا وزير التربية مالتنا شجابك هنا 😳
No, you can't run this video over with a truck
-Ah vilable- Yes, more than just 'foreign people' have run over people with trucks. 😔
There's hardly success without self-discipline.
well said !
"Your mind is like a battlefield. Be it's COMMANDER not it's SOLDIER.
-Warrior Philosophy
As someone who has ADHD and had a disturbed childhood I've been undergoing self disipline, to change my past person and control my life, it's painful and difficult so thank you for the course opportunities to help me persue my delayed gratification.
The most important thing in life is to control yourself.
rusab baig omg ur so deep
lakai thats what I said h=e-e0ehe0e
Oof
Control yourself, and know yourself. Do what will advance the other's growth even while advancing your own.
Unfortunately it goes much deeper than that.
Now please explain how I'm supposed to discipline myself if the delayed reward doesn't exist.
Completing things for the sake of completion does not make me happier. I somehow miss that instinct.
Yeah.
If the delayed reward doesn't exist, you might be chasing the wrong thing.
Fast for 4 days and go fishing...eat when you catch it.
@@permaculturedandfree2448 haha i just finished a 4 day fast. I ended it with stew. Now I am going to diet by using by under desk elliptical, taking walks, Konjac powder, yohimbine, black coffee, teas, frozen carbs for resistant starch, and yogurt. I am also going to hide or throw away any sweets I see.
@@aoeu256 I lost 57kg last year..Sugar is a killer.
Sugar is new NICOTINE.
Give up refined foods..good luck? Focus and do it...lucks a reminder that you are not disciplined
„Your Environment is stronger than your will power“
- Dan Lok
The first 60 seconds of this are beyond epic and moving. Thank you.
I must say, I had expected this video to be very individualistic and populistic in the sense that it has a simple and clear message. However, you presented a rather nuanced picture, and I would like to thank you for that :)
A first couple of minutes about self-discipline myths and delayed gratification are very useful!
And so are the second couple of minutes. Overall the great video, thank you very much!
This channel has always been one of my most favourites but this video is really AMAZING. It is not only educational and insightful, but also reassuring and encouraging. Personally I found video to be very positive, especially in its conclusion. Let's try to help each other more and become better environment for each other!!! :')
I watched this video while I was procrastinating instead of studying for my finals... Thanks man it really helped
*Just Do It! No excuses, do it and don’t look back be strong. If you can’t you’re weak! Keep it up!*
Thanks for the hard work putted into this video.
the background music when the voiceover was talking about addicted people puts me into a state of melancholy.. I almost cried like a baby.
It's not always about the action of the person or external factors which definitely have huge influence in self-dicipline department. I got to face the difficulty of being discipline, being on-time, and being accountable for the rest of my life no matter how hard I tried. Then I was diagnosed for having inattentive type of ADHD at the age of 27 years old. After knowing the right treatment suits me the most, I start to acknowledge much better way to deal with my challenges and stop beating myself up for being unable of having me accountable as an adult.
This is what's ruining my life. I try to get into good habits but it never seems to stick.
Either I am not repeating the same behaviour enough for it to stick or there is something really wrong with my brain in which case I'm in trouble
Don't worry your brain is fine, my advise is to focus on your good habits more and what you enjoy about them, and why you don't want to keep doing your bad habits. Also, don't fight or try to suppress you urges, simply observe it for what it is(dont act on them), and just as it came in randomly, it will eventually go away,not easy, but SUPER effective.
work in your environment, find cues that you spot almost if not all day so that you can rewire your brain to follow a routine and get a reward that excites you and that promotes your human needs (like survival, food, sex, etc). Be consistent and over time you'll see how your willpower to stick increases, but also the amount of effort you put into following the routine is way lesser the first time you started. For more information search for tamed course in youtube.
I appreciate your positivity but to be honest you don't know me or my head.
I struggle to find joy in anything. I just find peace in procrastinating which leads to trouble down the line because nothing gets done. It's a cycle of misery. I can see now why people turn to drugs or worse. Hope is the last thing I need, I need immediate action. I get things done when someone tells me what to do though, but no one does because I'm an adult... allegedly. It's a real waste of life but no one is going to save me so be it
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Be a good parent to yourself. Start small. Honour the struggle and think baby steps. Take them, celebrate them, fall flat on your face, repeat. Check out Brendon Burchard's RUclips, especially the Charged Life.
if your trying to quit addiction you need to understand that the issue isnt the current need but the fact that you will eventually need another stimulus that feeds the addiction if you focus on that its easier to quit
For me very hard to say the schedule for the day, I want to be more organized, I had to do a lot of things but I just stay seeing RUclips videos over and over again, youTube community thank you for having a tool to control ourselves, the clock that remind us when to stop seeing videos
Am I the only one who’s completely mesmerized by the background music?😍
Great video! Been watching since engineering worth and your quality of video quality keeps getting better and better!
me, watching this instead of writing a paper that's due in six hours: damn that's crazy
me with four papers that shoud have been sent a week prior (yeah, crazy!)
hahahahha
@@_bebeboudeur_ you just summarised my life rn😅😪
6:28 i believe there is a different way of saying that without saying frontal cortex because it makes us believe that some sort of brain mass is missing but it’s not, it is because it has the ability to be turned off if it’s not stimulated properly
This helps thank you.
I need more variety and to be occupied with exercise and healthy stuff like sleep and food. And rest when needed
Animation is beautiful, I love it.
But to be fair with you, huge library with much more then 10000 videos about anything you can think of, is pretty much youtube
"Watching this video eating cake"
If you treat yourself with a piece of cake after taking care of your duties that's fine. But if you've been procrastinating, you probably won't even feel worthy of such a treat, therefore you won't enjoy the cake.
It feels like disciplin is 20% effort and 80% the result of your goals and past choices.
As soon as you put yourself out of the equation, self dicipline becomes a natrual habit.
I don't need to have a pleasant feeling while doing what I have to, I don't need comfort, I don't need luxury, I just need to function, I just need to work.
It's that easy to explain, and once the ball is going, It's literally a no brainer. For me It's having a good job that gets me going. But when I have nothing to strive for, or if I have set the wrong goal then my discipline is horrible.
Discipline was something i'd never known as a child, because there was no need for it. Nowadays you cant survive without it even though it mighy look like it. I wish i could see the world again trough those eyes...
Delayed gratification is what builds desire and will power
Movingfrom big parents' house to a small room in shared flat. Sacrificing comfort for new unknown ways of living.
who else's immigrant parents refuse to listen to them when they tell them they need more (emotional) support from them?
right here fam 🤚
mine. Often I dont get much emotional support from them nor anything emotional. I don't talk to them much either
Dopamine stimulation makes so much sense for why we tend to choose instant gratification over delayed gratification! It's so important for us to understand what makes us do the things we do so we can take steps to mitigate our own unwanted behaviors and live full out.
Man, I love your teaching style! These parables are soooo simple, yet encompass so many of the complexities. Keep it up homie!
I need to study for my math test tomorrow or how about I just watch self discipline videos 😂
The best Discipline video I've ever seen and (I usually don't comment often but this video made me feel guilty when I was about to leave without writing a comment )
I agree with your video and observation. I also feel that it's a lot deeper. I goes much more than just biology and choice. I feel like it also have to do with our purpose and knowing if it's all worth it or not.
I agree
I wish my best friend would stop their alcohol and cocaine addiction.
sometimes telling the truth straight up hurts the most but hits the hardest and ends up well in the long run
They already know how I feel about it.
I am having the same problem, kind-of.
addictions such as cocaine ad alcohol are physical addictions. Even if your friend wanted to, he probably couldn't just stop them because his body would no longer be able to function normally for a while if he did. Depending on how HOW dependent he is, he could even die from not taking them anymore.
Best solution; keep trying to talk him into going to a rehab center (and watch John Oliver's episode on rehab so you don't get screwed over). They're the best way for him to get away from drugs in a healthy manner that won't harm his body and body functions.
@@sheelaflower Still a problem. :(
so are you justifying bad choices?
"SELF-DISCIPLINE PLAYS A HUGE ROLE IN LEADING YOU TO YOUR BEST FUTURE"
noted.
Great video man, delaying gratification is essential when it comes to getting things you want in life.
Alternatively, learn to be mindful, and just follow your heart. When you understand that every moment is a miracle and it can only be bad if we let our minds judge it as bad, then you can effortlessly do anything you want, and “delaying gratification” becomes natural and irrelevant.
TheDrB0B that sounds a little new age propaganda to me, "no negative minds, man!", I prefer a more Jungian approach of confronting the shadow (rather than pretending everything is good).
Some times you have to face the beast. Also pretending everything is always good does not prepare for when, inevitability something bad will happen.
Mindfulness should not be about ignoring/suppressing emotions, but letting them pass with out clinging to them and allowing them to take control, if your mother dies you don't not greive because you decide not to make a negative judgement.
Also my opinion, is " mindfulness" is just the initial phase of meditation, which is much more beneficial. (But if I'm really honest and put my tinfoil hat on, the kind of mindfulness you described is government propaganda, like religion, and the new age movement, half truths hiding oppressive social controls, "be mindful, don't judge" hence you don't judge and see the fact the state/government corruption is rife and we live in a kakistocracy )
I'm not sure why you think that my comment implies that mindfulness is about ignoring/suppressing emotions, I don't think it is. Learning that every moment is a miracle means to find value in every emotion/sensation you can experience, see it as something that doesn't hurt you, but rather something you can learn from (confronting the shadow if you will). You're not pretending everything is always good, you're merely realizing that bad things have value too, and you can appreciate them.
My life long best friend passed away on Monday, I cried for days on end, and still do, but rather than curse the world and let that sadness turn into anger or despair, I relish in it. After all, I hurt because I loved her, and that love is what I'm feeling with every tear. I had never felt something so intense and shocking as this, and for that I thank her as well, I've always had a hard time opening up to my emotions, but this left me no choice. I'm coming out a better person from this grief.
In my opinion, mindfulness is the very essence of meditation, by not judging your experience in life you see it just the way it is, not tinted by your predispositions or paradigms, you just let the present moment be. I have no idea how this can hide oppressive social controls, if anything it makes them clearer. These controls often (if not always) work from your insecurities, telling you the answer to being happy in life is one way or another (wealth, sex, power, etc), which is the true definition of a religion, a set of rules to live happy. In reality, mindfulness is the essence of non-religion, to not attach yourself to any rules or any paradigms, you live from your heart, you let your inner wisdom dictate your path.
If you want to have a more complete dialog about this, please message me through Google hangouts, have a good one.
I keep coming back to this video
1:54 I think "will" doesn't fully capture it. I think what happens it's having a desire so strong about something that suplants everything else (having a punishment correlated also helps), a good vision of your life or a proper plan, or all three are what actually is going on. But of course Resilience it's a skill in and of itself, the ability to tough it out and endure pain it's common to all Chess players and fighters and it's what people commonly think when they use the word "Willpower".
But they ignore that this ability to focus is grounded in lots of training in other skills such as the planning and execution of your job. Think Kojiro while he fought Denshishiro and in Sekigahara, the only reason why he was able to fight beyond his limits was that he didn't have to worry about technique, readings and planning, it was all second nature to him at that point, so he could free his mind to live in the moment and focus on performance.
I think it's not simply a matter of desire, almost all of us have dream careers, something we love more than anything and maybe already do but that we don't turn into our jobs, simply because we don't have a fucking clue on how to do it!!!
And conversely having a plan can make diffcult situations or actions not only more bearable but less of a big deal. This is what happened with me and nutrition, i never liked eating so when i was wanting to grow muscle i needed a more strategic approach instead of my usual "eat a lot". And since i had an already established system and habits for how to train and organize my life i've builded my eating plans around that. This made me go from 2 meals to 4-5 meals really quickly. There were a buch of external and internal incentives as well tho. Like not wanting to waste training, time and food, and physical limitation (having to get out to by junk food when you're already tired it's a pain in the ass) and i would say that motivation may be even more important than planning cause the desire to become better were always hammering in my mind but i would say that without a plan to channel that desire and intensify it wouldn't have lasted, it would be just like a bunch of sadly wasted energy.
I think plans are a form of "energy concentration" or "engine", when working effectively they use your power (motivation and physical energy) to it's max potention and when don't, this energy is wasted and scattered all across the place.
One of the most dangerous myths: is that you need self-discipline to succeed.
You don't need self-discipline. What you need is... obsession.
Mark my word. I will come back here 8 years from now.
Starting something new is never easy, generally. Once begun with much intent it grows slowly but surely. U decide its end.
Your channel answers all my questions!
In what program you animate everything ?
It`s amazing!
You'r great, hope you never stop your content ❤️
You said that the individual and/or the environment have to change, i thought ok I do have power, change in reality is easy. But you said that’s why discipline is hard...
My friend msging me : yo dude what u doin?
Me: watching a vdo on self discipline
Frnd: at 1 am?
Me: yeah
Frnd: ok........
the best video ever, it's what i've waiting for. this is the reason why i can't do stuff i want to do. thanks. very helpful
Why did this video make me want to cry towards the end?
The song *Thousand Years of Oppression* by *Amon Amarth* tells Oden's story.
This makes sense. I'm surrounded by distractions at home and I never get work done. When I head to the library I am able to focus much more and I'm much more productive.
Just found your videos, they are so well done and beautifully drawn- I really like the colourful cartoon style and thankyou for sharing all ideas, wisdom and this knowledge on discipline. It really makes you think about it more.
**Watches this video at 3AM**
This is impressive. You have a talent . Thank you for sharing these resources for us. I am taking many notes for my journal and self-growth. Thank you so much
The fact that RUclips keeps these kinds videos to me, is saying something.
Thank you. Very good video! Self discipline is very essential in life. We always need to monitor our self and need to lead ourself toward a better decision making!
This is one of the reasons I dislike the culture of “individual hustle” that’s going on in most western countries.
I noticed I’m the most depressed on my days off when I’m home alone, not when I’m at work or school among other people.
" he sacrificed his present self for his future self " these words are truly deep.
Seems like a lot of people in the comments haven't watched the video all the way through. In order to develop good discipline, you need a supportive, positive and fulfilling environment. But in our society, we ask people to use discipline to create that environment. The concept of self-discipline is another "pick yourself up by your bootstraps". The strength you want is not discipline, but a good and generous community.
*is a rasin really a reward tho....* 😂
Hate them 😂😂😂
moral of the story : Never let women near any type of world changing object
Thanks ! I'm glad to see this sort of video, because it shows that the external factors in happiness or success are very important, and more than we think.
In deed, the well-known myth of self-made man is pretty exagerated because the chance and the environment take a crucial role in ascension. I'm tired to see all sorts of personal development's methods, because this philosophy is often made on the fact that our problems come only from ourselves and that we are alone to erase these difficulties, but forgets external causes.
Yet it's important to become aware of the environment. So I say thank you to you and your video which doesn't forget that.
I'm sorry for very potential english mistakes, I don't use this tongue very frequently.
Even though I went to College for some tech experience, there aren't that many jobs out there right now that will hire me, let alone be available for the chance to be hired. What I learned is, I got to be less picky about what job to take, and perhaps even do some volunteer work if I can afford to.
funny how todays religion becomes tomorrows mythology
Lol
Funny how I shat my pants
What a lovely video. Great work, thank you for making it!
I hope that some of us will take it on board too :)
This video got me into Norse mithology
Power of Habit and Atomic Habits are the very best books that I read
To add, remember that people don't change when things are comfortable. We discipline ourselves when there's a big challenge ahead of us and if we don't change, we die. Let's say having a health problem due to too much sweets. If you love your life enough, you'd make a 360 turn and change and never look back. We're creatures of habit and the amount of effort to change our habit is harder than getting a habit.
Social environment and physical environment are the same as past experience. 2:32 Just a note in the side, otherwise interesting, decently animated video!
Everyone else had this video why self is so hard and another video why self discipline is so easy right next to each other?
Motivation is easier to create than it is to find.
I'm sitting here slamming a quart of ice cream when it just presents the decision between 🍦, instant gratification, or 🥦 future gratification.
This is a great little video on all levels - thank you
This is why we must break up with people who are a bad influence (alcoholics, abusive friends, narcissists etc), have separate rooms physically and mentally for recreation and productivity and to give ourselves healthy doses of isolation where no one watches your every move. To give us the environment, to reinforce discipline and encourage long term routines. No one can beat you into it as long as you decide to stay where you are.
I definitely think because of this, our childhoods do not encourage enough self discipline in modern society.
Education is done by instruction, not by provocation.
School hierarchy classes people in a trapped environment, where only elders are superior but not of equal standing that could encourage heart and merit. Its a prison, where you can only reflect but not move forward.
There are too many influences of avoidance (punishment, pressure from authority and peer resentment) rather than influence of curiosity (praise, freedom of thought and trust).
Why develop self discipline as a child when there is no environment to seek long term desires.
Why should we work for random qualifications, we are told to do it when we do not understand the merit in it. Its overwhelmingly painful for young people who do not understand.
Only when we grow older, can we put our authorities aside and work on our foundations for discipline.
This is the most logical video that i had ever seen
Really good content. Well done. I would like to add though , you should really do something about the way you use your voice and your tones to keep the watcher alert. Monotony in the way you speak makes it hard to concentrate. :)) Just a constractive critisism :))
This video is the summary of book " The power of habit "
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg book summary.
Great Job
Absolutely fantastic.
Self Discipline is Self Love in it’s highest form
5:45 and most people dislike change.
Beautiful animation, wow.
Great Research.! All the best for your future Videos. This is the best video of your channel so far.
such a great video ! Congratulations