Howdy everyone! As always, here is a comment explaining a BTS learning I had in making this video. This is the longest project I've made to date but somehow... one of the fastest to edit. Before we even started filming, Ken and I really wanted to make sure we stuck a story close to the Hero's Journey (Harmon Circle). If you look closely, a lot of the bits and elements we created were based on that (ex. character in comfortable location, a call to adventure, a refusal to that adventure, a mentor, crossing the threshold, etc.). of course, the story takes a turn as most do, but having this structure made the edit a lot simpler. Thought I would share, let me know what you all think of this story! Really want to own our corner of the internet with these mini-movies. 'Till next time!
Great story! Your storytelling is getting better and better with each video and that's awesome to see. Question: how did you leverage following a structure to edit faster, were you able to split the video into parts and work on them separately with a clearer sense of the bigger picture/feeling? Or was editing speed the result of having a better idea of the story you wanted to tell? Or both! Curious to learn more as I sit to edit my first video!!!
shoutout for the sauce. your storytelling was awesome. i was curious on how you put together such an engaging story in a 30 minute video on dating apps
it's too much. and not informative because so much is scripted that you can't trust what remains authentic. either it's a fiction either it's a document, it can't be both. information is serious.
Dating apps have led to this pervasive ghosting culture that we currently reside in, as well as making people discardable and overall more lonely and insecure than ever before....
Well, I mean, what do people expect? If you dont want to pursue someone on a dating app, the easy way out is to ghost. Who wouldnt take the easy way out? Especially if there is a chance that the person who you are talking to might go crazy on you if you tell them that you arent interested. (Weve seen plenty of examples of that online.) This is why its better to just date people who are in your circle, not random strangers. Go to church or a social club. I met my wife at my church. Heck, a few of my exes are from my church. I prefer women who go to the same church as me because we already have something very important in common and that's our spiritual beliefs. Its so much easier to find a mate this way than expecting completely strangers to treat you like a friend.
@@maenad1231the ghosting if before the first date and without any reason just because girls never wanted to meet but just free attention and validation
The problem is even if you choose real life the women you try to approach in real life are on the apps and are comparing you to the guys that are in the top 1% on the apps in real life.
A very satisfying account and ending. Meeting in person is always so much more satisfying and enjoyable when you feel the spark and like them. Good work ⭐
I been in dating apps for while now.The bad thing about it just cause I got many matches it never lead to successful dates. Many were time wasters. I met a woman thru work and we instantly hit it off. Meeting people in real life is always going to have a much better success rate.
@@shelltoe_soulwell women aren’t any better in person. I get signs of interest then get ghosted anyway. I simply gave up. The only way I interact with women is through work and I’m not risking getting fired for getting hit with a sexual harassment complaint
Lol well that doesn't really help that much if literally 100% of the women you've met in the past 15 years were already in relationships. It's great advice for someone who is young, but sadly virtually all of the "good ones" get snatched up in their early-to-mid twenties. After that you're either picking up the scraps that have been rejected by everyone their whole life or you have to hope for someone's partner to die or get divorced, which is obviously an awful thing to hope for. Surely doesn't help that modern society treats finding "the one" as being clingy or some kind of disease, when it's really what everyone throughout history should have done. Instead everyone is just settling, and the divorce numbers show it.
The moral of the story is that dating apps incentives it to keep users using their app and convert them into subscribers. Thus, one must delete those apps and meet and interact with the real world to meet others is still the best way. I wiped everything from the dating app and I talk to people in real life which is far better results than an app.
But how?!? Im a girl and I've tried every possible way to meet people organically. Kinda sucks, at the age of 35, I'm already wanting to give up honestly, I might as well be single tbh 😢
@@goodness_graciousme you waited far too long for a marriage to occur. You always to think what men wants? Most men want young and fertile women and being 35 doesn’t help your case much. You will face a far tough time getting a man to commit and settle down with you unfortunately since so much of your time was wasted. Also, ask yourself this what skills you have that would benefit the men your trying to get? Since you’re youth is no longer something you offer and also can you safely produce healthy children? Do you know how to care for children, clean, and cook? If you have those skills and a pleasant person you might find someone. Stop looking at guys for looks because you’re past the time of choosing best men and now you will have to compromise a lot and bring a lot to the table for you to find someone. Everything aside good luck with your path.
As a 20 yr old woman, I’ve tried dating apps a couple of times. I hate the idea of limiting someone down to a profile that doesn’t fully capture their personality. You can feel out who a person truly is and if you have chemistry when meeting in person. When I have liked someone, it wasn’t because of an immediate physical attraction. It was how comfortable I felt around them and the way they interacted with me that drew me to them. I felt a connection with a guy I work with and asked him out. He told me I was sweet but doesn’t date coworkers. Even at the risk of rejection, go for it! It could be the best decision of your life!
Love your energy, but it's entirely different for men vs women. As a woman, you have lots of options, especially if you take care of yourself and are decent looking. You can ask out co-workers, guys at the gym, or guys in the grocery store and the worst that will happen is he'll say no. But even if that happens, you'll face no negative consequences and still have lots of new matches and messages waiting for you in your dating apps. But for guys...we get very few matches and even fewer replies in dating apps, that's why so many men break and start paying for the upgraded plans. And as a man, every time you look at, show interest in, or talk to a girl, you run the very real chance of her reporting you to management or at least spreading the word to other girls. If you manage to evade being pulled into HR or the managers office to be told that you were reported for "making girls uncomfortable", you'll likely start getting ignored and avoided by people in her circle, and girls have surprisingly large circles. Again, I love your energy and you seem really sweet, but please understand that it's a completely different game for us men, and rejection is the the least of our concerns when approaching a woman.
Listen, I completely agree with what fuzzypanda is saying, and I see where you're coming from, BUT ASHLEY AS SOMEONE =WHO IS YOUR AGE, CAN I JUST BE TE ONE TO SAY YOU ARE SO PRETTY AND I THINK I CAN LEARN ALOT FROM YOU :DDD
Nice to hear that you try to look behind the pictures! =D how did you manage online dating? From what i heard is that woman get so many matches they don't even get to really connect with someone online, respectivly they automatically sort people out based on looks/photo. That must have been a lot of work right? I have to agree with the other two comment, onlie-dating is a very different game for men and woman, i stopped because it's frustrating and messes with your confidence until you hate yourself, once you realize it's not because of you it's usually too late.
"Off to a hot start, and then nothing since." That always happens to me too. I'm 100% convinced these apps give you matches when you first sign up to try and trick you into paying for the subscription, and then if you don't pay after a few days it just buries your profile. I'm fully convinced these apps do that.
That would make sense. I’ve noticed I’ll go a couple days without a match then when I receive the notification I have a match I’ll check it out and below the girls profile it will say we matched 5 days ago. They withhold your matches as well.
made the same experience, when you delete tinder and sign up again, you get more matches, after a couple of weeks you get nothing again, then repeat those steps
I've noticed the opposite. I get no matches for the first week and a bit but then all of a sudden ive got like 5 matches in a day while living in a small town
Just go out with friends to hobby related events. Concerts, art shows, classes/workshops, volunteering, clubs, excersize groups, wine tastings, etc. It’s way easier when you have friends to meet people.
literally have been doing that for the last two years. I want to whine about it but ive also been asked out three times and dated someone for a little. Less than a year on dating apps before that I went on a few okay dates but any actually exciting conversations on the app never made it to real life. I guess quality over quantity.
That's exactly my problem.. I dont have any friends.. well not near me anyway, I'm house bound and live in the countryside.. shit sucks. My only mates are online and we just talk about our RUclips channels or other stuff but we're nowhere near each other plus most of em have their own lives going on with their own individual friend groups irl
That works if luck is on your side and you're someone who thinks that "90% of success is just showing up!". But for some of us, we can go out consistently to events, meetups, parties etc., yet despite having fun, get no interest from girls. I spent 3 years living in SF and went out 3-4 nights a week, but not once did I meet anyone, get a date, or a girlfriend. And going out with friends can be very risky. If you meet girls who don't like you, they can start talking and pretty soon your friends are avoiding you because you're that guy that girls don't like. Again, for some guys, just showing up gets them numbers, dates, laid and girlfriends. For other guys, showing up actually makes things worse because you get ostracized from your friend group and actually hurt your reputation.
This video took the most wholesome turn ever. I loved every second of it. As someone with no love experience whatsoever I enjoyed this video a lot and agreed with everything you said and it was incredibly well made! Thank you Tejas!
Your content is literally top 1% of RUclips and still YT algo ain't working that's sucks. Keep working man you gonna get what you deserve. And it's not just quality or cinematography, its also the knowladge, the emotions involved watching your videos. I wish you the luck mate!
I think the best comparison for dating apps is a casino. They make the rules, the odds are against you, and they profit off of your failure. They want you to think you can hit the jackpot but don't want you to, they want you to keep playing. Never used one, but it just sounds like social gambling if you will.
My current girlfriend I met in real life. I never used dating apps, but in school I used to use apps that were for connecting to people like you. It was more just to meet more people and possibly make friends. I haven’t been able to keep a single one of them, and the reason I think for this is because there just is no personal connection. There is something very raw and fun and just colorful about meeting a new person who you have things in common with in person. Because online we have no obligation to continue a conversation or even start one, we feel much more disconnected from them. Humans need a personal connection, and it’s hard to find something like that if it’s not in person.
Dating apps can absolutely lead to depression in men. As a man who spent years on apps, while simultaneously worked to improve myself by hitting the gym, eating clean, taking care of my skin, as well as working on my confidence and charisma, it's been pretty devastating to do so consistently poorly on dating apps. But where his and my experiences split is in the last part of the video. He went out to an event, met a girl, hit it off and started dating. That has never happened for me, and I spent many years going out to all kinds of events, from improv classes and movie nights, to language exchanges and cultural exhibitions, to wine tasting and bar crawls. While I had fun at all of them, I never met anyone, certainly not on the first one I went to like he did. But that's the difference luck makes. One person can go out and immediately get results. Meanwhile another person can leave the same event and say: "well, that's the 136th unsuccessful event in a row, but I've got a good feeling about the next one!"
yeah hey i wish you luck man - if you’re doing all you can, you have absolutely no reason to be ashamed or deterred if they’re out there, someone like you has the best chance of finding them
I think part of what helped is that he went to an event his female friends were putting on so he was already essentially being recommended by trustworthy women
I feel you, brother. You've done the work, you deserve some results. Two things: 1) Luck can definitely be the factor that tips the scale, but as@sabrinusglaucomys said, you gotta pre condition your environment to "create the highest chance" of luck. 2) At the chance you haven't done so yet, gather your female & male friends, ask them to give you one last sanity check: is there anything about you, smth you do, or smth in your environment that's still prohibiting / limiting you from successfully connecting? Hope this can make the difference.
The quality on this channel is insane and as somebody who’s recently moved on from a relationship I’ve been weighing if I want to try dating apps. On the one hand majority of my friend group uses it and has success but on the other it just seems so superficial that it isn’t worth it. Amazing video this channel is going to explode in popularity soon with this high quality content
Yeah I felt that especially coming into NYC. One of the things Blaine said that I didn't include is that the pendulum is swinging away from online dating in her data. Especially here in NYC I'm often trying to find groups with common interests and my best friends I made in the city are from these! It really is just getting out there
I gotta admit, this was a really good video and personally really well timed. I’ve been considering dating apps recently but dread the thought of using one, and this video helped me make an informed decision on how I want to live my life. Anyways, congrats on your date! This video was awesome, and you are criminally under viewed lol
I'm a man in my early 20s, and while I completely believe that meeting women in person is better for dating, I feel like I don't have enough free time for that. I commonly end up working 6 days a week at my job and I'm not very socially adept at finding hangout spots (I have very few friends as well), much less asking someone out. I'm not really sure what to do, besides just getting lucky and randomly meeting someone. But I suppose anything is possible, thanks for the uplifting message.
I watched this video thinking it was made by a big channel with like 2/3 mln subscribers. When I saw you have 50k I was surprised, the quality is amazing, the storytelling is brilliant and more in general you are very good and pass as charismatic and nice. I definetely think big things are coming for you and your channel!
How have I not found you before?! The production quality is insane, when i scrolled down expecting someone with 1.1mil I was genuinely taken aback by your sub count! Keep it up man, this is incredible!
Wow this was incredibly done!! You considered so many different angles, pulled data, got professional advice, went on a personal journey, and everything from the editing to the shots to the pacing, wow! It’s hard not to be engaged!
LOVE what youre doing man. your style is sooo unique and this is the first video ive watched in ages that ive been FULLY engaged for 30 mins. keep up the incredible work!
This video was so cute 🥰 I been on the apps on and off for 6 months now, I get plenty of matches but can’t seem to find someone on the same page as me, reached a point where I’m noticing people use them as validation and for “fun” committing to deleting them forever now and just enjoying my time single and hoping to find a connection organically 🙂
I’m glad you deleted the apps, you’re a very attractive lady do is no surprise you get plenty of matches, unfortunately men don’t get matches at all, so imagine how that affects your psyche. Ladies only swipe on chads and not on good average men.
Great video! I definitely believe in taking up on a spontaneous opportunity as you did. You never know what (or who) it could lead to! I've also always felt a little off about dating apps even though I've never used one. Now I know why😂
This is by far the most comprehensive video about dating apps that I have ever watched. Brilliant editing and script. Will surely share this video to my friends!!
absolutely fantastic video tejas, i can attest, it's surprising hard to date after college, especially in ny, but i'm glad to see you may have struck gold - best of luck!
Great video man. I can’t lie, from when you had your female friends supporting you and they were putting you on to in person events, I knew you weren’t going to need the apps. However, the concept of the video drew me in and the points on the algorithm was something I haven’t heard before.
AAAAA OMG THATS SO CUTE hearing you talk abt her is so wholesome, I always wonder how guys talk about girls after a first date or first meeting and this gave me so much more hope in humanity haha. I love this so much for you, and I hope this turns into something more!
Dude this was phenomenal editing/storytelling!!! Really engaging and I didn't realize this was like 30 min long haha. Congrats on the second date brotha!! Hope things go well for ya 🙌🏽
this video comes to me at the right time. and i just gotta highlight how much love and effort you can see in each detail. from cutting out cardboard for the graphics to hiring a professional. idk it just felt very real and it's hard to capture that with this quality. imma check out the rest of the channel! new sub fs!
Hey Tejas, the effort you're putting in really shows. he way you cut out and print those graphs, then share them in your videos? That's just awesome. It adds such a unique touch that you don't see everywhere. And your storytelling? Top-notch. Keep doing what you're doing, man. Your shots are definitely cool and seem to be pulling in the views. But for me, it's the longer videos that really stand out. You pack so much solid content into them. Like this dating video - it's been a topic of conversation between me and my colleague. We were talking about how dating apps are all about making money, but your video was coming to the same thing for us. I really appreciate these videos. Keep them coming. It might not seem like it's all about the money in the short term, but I believe these long-form videos could really help draw in more subscribers. You're onto something special! Keep at it bro!
Absolutely phenomenal man! I had a dating app experience recently that left me feeling pretty bummed out about myself so to be honest I felt a slight uneasiness watching this video. However that made the ending so much better when you came to a similar conclusion I did, to delete the apps and look in real life! When creators make videos with an amazing story in mind, that connection with the audience is so much more powerful than videos that only focus on optimizing views. I really hope RUclips continues in this direction and I'm gonna go ahead and say it, this is one of my favorite channels on RUclips.
You really made a good video explaining the issues we young ppl are facing with dating apps and dating in general because you're in your 20s you've presented a good perspective and explanation on this subject. Kudos to you for not making a hate on women, woe is me video.
Loved this!! totally agree that the best places to meet ppl is in person, where your putting yourself out there and finding common ground. It's easy to be super picky on dating apps, and the things that matter on apps, don't matter irl when you form a genuine connection with someone. Your able to see past just a couple of pictures and captions.
Every time someone uses the line "necessary evil", it really makes me scared, that is always the reasoning behind every bad move we make as a society. That ending was wholesome my guy.
I spent soooooo many hours on dating apps. Swiped thousands, messaged hundreds, dated dozens, found 2 I liked but no chemistry. Went dancing and to random church events with an eye to find a date and found awesome people almost instantly.
I had so much fun watching this one, could not keep the smile off of my face. A great balance of comedy and seriousness. Please more Tejas living uncomfortable situations and learning from them!
I can say that I actually miss the days that dating apps were free and 100% interactive, I’m so glad that I was able to take advantage of those dating apps pre tinder days. I’ve met so many women on them and even had my fun, this was back in early 2010s.
Man, you are so inspirational. And your logical/ scientific way of documenting topics through research papers, expert counselling, experimentation etc rather than just giving your personal opinion is amazing.
Subscribed to your channel :) your video made me teary eyed in the end. So happy you took a chance and went to your friend’s event. I haven’t had much luck on the apps, and it made me feel discouraged that I may not meet my person. You are giving me the courage to say yes more often and take a chance.
i love this. the ending is so empowering and shifts the control of my dating life back to me, which is again empowering and the proper mindest for long lasting success:)
That part about rather playing video games than "doing the deed" stuck on me. I'm a huge gamer, it is one of my biggest interests. But I would shut down my computer to "do the deed" without even thinking about it. I really don't get those who said that xD
The economy of swipes is such a real thing bc since we have such limited swipes, i find myself passing on guys that I do like but don't want to "waste my swipes on". I hate dating apps
Was just thinking about the ethicacy of dating apps and if one can morally monetize loneliness and then I see this on my recommended. Crazy how that stuff works. Great production as always Tejas, keep it up.
26:31 "if you get invited.." I think this is a factor in people saying "I found love while I wasn't looking". The being invited is crucial. If you had gone alone, knowing nothing about upwork fashion, people might have some walls up. You'll have to show a genuine interest in the subject or people might wonder why you are there. When invited, why you are there is obvious.
Fantastic video Tejas! Your deep dive is so insightful and you break down the concepts so clearly and effectively. Congratulations on an excellent video and getting that date!
Gosh Tejas, you are so smart and articulate. Also, it helps that you have a million dollar smile. I'm happy for you. Dating is hard as hell these days. I thoroughly enjoyed your video. :)
This is such a good video, dating apps are ruining society, when dating apps fist became a thing I had success as I was a young man and just wanted a hook up, now people rely too much on dating apps to meet people but the best way to meet them is in person, just be confident in yourself and talk to many men/women as possible which will build confidence in yourself, also be presentable and exercise
great video man, really loved the story telling aswell as the value provided with the business income breakdown. Congrats on finishing another great project Tejas
That’s great, and I think this can make you stand out from the “crowd” An explainer with a personal touch A vlog with the data to back it up Looking forward to see you hit big! You have what it takes to go the long way (i think)
How is it that more people are saying they're meeting their partners online but also more people are saying that any online means of connections is just non existent nowadays with how predatory everything online is.
Wowww this was super well edited and storied! I usually dont even watch mini-movie or video-essay sort of videos but this was one so engaging. Amazing mix between the personal story and information. Edited the two together so well. You earned a subscriber! Keep it up man! Very inspring to see these kind of videos as a creator too. Glad I came across your channel.
By the title, you would already assume that it can be shallow or it’s just the type of video for clicks.. but you put so much effort into it and made it so informative but still entertaining. New subscriber here!
I think this was the perfect ending to this video. I’ve always had a feeling that our little flaws and imperfections a weighted so much more on dating apps. There is nothing like actually getting to know someone in real life. So take chances and get out there because love, community, and friendship won’t just come to you, you have to actually get out there and try!
I've noticed a huge issue with NYC and dating is that a large majority of people you meet are extremely new to the city. They romanticize the concept of finding love in the city and want their life to be like it is in the movies. My biggest piece of advice to any young person trying to date in NYC, tread lightly and don't take it serious. Have zero expectations and you won't get hurt, because honestly I've lost all expectations and it's helped. Currently been talking to a girl for almost 2 months and I STILL expect to be ghosted or told that "Im not ready for a relationship".
There is a point which I think wasn't highlighted enough. Its good for guys to have women as friends. Even if you think they are attractive its nice to have platonic relationships based on other shared interests. As seen here mutual respect can essentially make people wing-men or women. And if a women sees, that you have respectful relationships with women, you are obviously more trustworthy for the other side. Also at 23:00 you should have highlighted the "retain" as well. If you think about for 5 seconds this is obvious and a goal for such a business, but essentially says "We need a certain amount of people to stay on the app and not find a date". Should be noted that for a company it still is a good thing for many costumers to find relationships as that in turn increases trustworthness of users and they feel less scammed. These businesses essentially have to build on a system were success is far from guaranteed, but also not fully a lie.
Howdy everyone! As always, here is a comment explaining a BTS learning I had in making this video. This is the longest project I've made to date but somehow... one of the fastest to edit. Before we even started filming, Ken and I really wanted to make sure we stuck a story close to the Hero's Journey (Harmon Circle). If you look closely, a lot of the bits and elements we created were based on that (ex. character in comfortable location, a call to adventure, a refusal to that adventure, a mentor, crossing the threshold, etc.). of course, the story takes a turn as most do, but having this structure made the edit a lot simpler.
Thought I would share, let me know what you all think of this story! Really want to own our corner of the internet with these mini-movies. 'Till next time!
Amazing work, Tejas!
Great work man! Love the "twist" at the end
Great story! Your storytelling is getting better and better with each video and that's awesome to see. Question: how did you leverage following a structure to edit faster, were you able to split the video into parts and work on them separately with a clearer sense of the bigger picture/feeling? Or was editing speed the result of having a better idea of the story you wanted to tell? Or both! Curious to learn more as I sit to edit my first video!!!
shoutout for the sauce. your storytelling was awesome. i was curious on how you put together such an engaging story in a 30 minute video on dating apps
it's too much. and not informative because so much is scripted that you can't trust what remains authentic. either it's a fiction either it's a document, it can't be both. information is serious.
Dating apps have led to this pervasive ghosting culture that we currently reside in, as well as making people discardable and overall more lonely and insecure than ever before....
Well, I mean, what do people expect? If you dont want to pursue someone on a dating app, the easy way out is to ghost. Who wouldnt take the easy way out? Especially if there is a chance that the person who you are talking to might go crazy on you if you tell them that you arent interested. (Weve seen plenty of examples of that online.) This is why its better to just date people who are in your circle, not random strangers. Go to church or a social club. I met my wife at my church. Heck, a few of my exes are from my church. I prefer women who go to the same church as me because we already have something very important in common and that's our spiritual beliefs. Its so much easier to find a mate this way than expecting completely strangers to treat you like a friend.
yeah but then still following them is weird asf@@avaliausd.
People were rude and just never contacted again after not liking the first date before dating apps
90%+ of girls on online dating are just there to waste your time, energy, money and emotions
@@maenad1231the ghosting if before the first date and without any reason just because girls never wanted to meet but just free attention and validation
Love that you deleted the apps at the end, honestly meeting people in person is the best way in my opinion congrats on your date 🎉
I totally agree!
90%+ of girls on online dating are just there to waste your time, energy, money and emotions
@@denlugteneostall mental bro
The problem is even if you choose real life the women you try to approach in real life are on the apps and are comparing you to the guys that are in the top 1% on the apps in real life.
A very satisfying account and ending.
Meeting in person is always so much more satisfying and enjoyable when you feel the spark and like them.
Good work ⭐
Wholesome plot twist at end was amazing. Great video man!
Sean! Appreciate you tons man 🤙🏾Let's link soon
"a community won't come to you, You have to go out and find one"
Wow Great quote
I been in dating apps for while now.The bad thing about it just cause I got many matches it never lead to successful dates. Many were time wasters.
I met a woman thru work and we instantly hit it off. Meeting people in real life is always going to have a much better success rate.
yeah getting ghosted after months of them being like i like u i want u blah blah men suck i dont mind being a cat lady lol@@shelltoe_soul
@@shelltoe_soul good lord man, just pay an escort or something
@@shelltoe_soulwell women aren’t any better in person. I get signs of interest then get ghosted anyway. I simply gave up. The only way I interact with women is through work and I’m not risking getting fired for getting hit with a sexual harassment complaint
@@bro918 good point
Lol well that doesn't really help that much if literally 100% of the women you've met in the past 15 years were already in relationships. It's great advice for someone who is young, but sadly virtually all of the "good ones" get snatched up in their early-to-mid twenties. After that you're either picking up the scraps that have been rejected by everyone their whole life or you have to hope for someone's partner to die or get divorced, which is obviously an awful thing to hope for. Surely doesn't help that modern society treats finding "the one" as being clingy or some kind of disease, when it's really what everyone throughout history should have done. Instead everyone is just settling, and the divorce numbers show it.
this is a better movie than 97% of the shit that is on netflix. you're a great storyteller man
wow thank you!!!
It’s good but not better than 97% of shows/ movies that Netflix has produced. You are actual delusional.
@@TejasHullur thank you for putting out amazing content
The moral of the story is that dating apps incentives it to keep users using their app and convert them into subscribers. Thus, one must delete those apps and meet and interact with the real world to meet others is still the best way. I wiped everything from the dating app and I talk to people in real life which is far better results than an app.
Any tips? I’m about to embark on the same journey myself
But how?!? Im a girl and I've tried every possible way to meet people organically. Kinda sucks, at the age of 35, I'm already wanting to give up honestly, I might as well be single tbh 😢
@@goodness_graciousme you waited far too long for a marriage to occur. You always to think what men wants? Most men want young and fertile women and being 35 doesn’t help your case much. You will face a far tough time getting a man to commit and settle down with you unfortunately since so much of your time was wasted. Also, ask yourself this what skills you have that would benefit the men your trying to get? Since you’re youth is no longer something you offer and also can you safely produce healthy children? Do you know how to care for children, clean, and cook? If you have those skills and a pleasant person you might find someone. Stop looking at guys for looks because you’re past the time of choosing best men and now you will have to compromise a lot and bring a lot to the table for you to find someone. Everything aside good luck with your path.
What is somebody is afraid of social interactions?
@@goodness_graciousme Honestly, we're out there trying to meet you. How have you tried every possible way to meet people and not met someone?
As a 20 yr old woman, I’ve tried dating apps a couple of times. I hate the idea of limiting someone down to a profile that doesn’t fully capture their personality. You can feel out who a person truly is and if you have chemistry when meeting in person. When I have liked someone, it wasn’t because of an immediate physical attraction. It was how comfortable I felt around them and the way they interacted with me that drew me to them. I felt a connection with a guy I work with and asked him out. He told me I was sweet but doesn’t date coworkers. Even at the risk of rejection, go for it! It could be the best decision of your life!
Love your energy, but it's entirely different for men vs women. As a woman, you have lots of options, especially if you take care of yourself and are decent looking. You can ask out co-workers, guys at the gym, or guys in the grocery store and the worst that will happen is he'll say no. But even if that happens, you'll face no negative consequences and still have lots of new matches and messages waiting for you in your dating apps.
But for guys...we get very few matches and even fewer replies in dating apps, that's why so many men break and start paying for the upgraded plans. And as a man, every time you look at, show interest in, or talk to a girl, you run the very real chance of her reporting you to management or at least spreading the word to other girls. If you manage to evade being pulled into HR or the managers office to be told that you were reported for "making girls uncomfortable", you'll likely start getting ignored and avoided by people in her circle, and girls have surprisingly large circles.
Again, I love your energy and you seem really sweet, but please understand that it's a completely different game for us men, and rejection is the the least of our concerns when approaching a woman.
Listen, I completely agree with what fuzzypanda is saying, and I see where you're coming from, BUT ASHLEY AS SOMEONE =WHO IS YOUR AGE, CAN I JUST BE TE ONE TO SAY YOU ARE SO PRETTY AND I THINK I CAN LEARN ALOT FROM YOU :DDD
Nice to hear that you try to look behind the pictures! =D how did you manage online dating? From what i heard is that woman get so many matches they don't even get to really connect with someone online, respectivly they automatically sort people out based on looks/photo. That must have been a lot of work right?
I have to agree with the other two comment, onlie-dating is a very different game for men and woman, i stopped because it's frustrating and messes with your confidence until you hate yourself, once you realize it's not because of you it's usually too late.
"Off to a hot start, and then nothing since." That always happens to me too. I'm 100% convinced these apps give you matches when you first sign up to try and trick you into paying for the subscription, and then if you don't pay after a few days it just buries your profile. I'm fully convinced these apps do that.
That would make sense. I’ve noticed I’ll go a couple days without a match then when I receive the notification I have a match I’ll check it out and below the girls profile it will say we matched 5 days ago. They withhold your matches as well.
made the same experience, when you delete tinder and sign up again, you get more matches, after a couple of weeks you get nothing again, then repeat those steps
oh all the apps give you an initial algo boost.
I've noticed the opposite. I get no matches for the first week and a bit but then all of a sudden ive got like 5 matches in a day while living in a small town
Just go out with friends to hobby related events. Concerts, art shows, classes/workshops, volunteering, clubs, excersize groups, wine tastings, etc. It’s way easier when you have friends to meet people.
literally have been doing that for the last two years. I want to whine about it but ive also been asked out three times and dated someone for a little. Less than a year on dating apps before that I went on a few okay dates but any actually exciting conversations on the app never made it to real life. I guess quality over quantity.
3 times time 0 *@@TheLizard199
That's exactly my problem.. I dont have any friends.. well not near me anyway, I'm house bound and live in the countryside.. shit sucks. My only mates are online and we just talk about our RUclips channels or other stuff but we're nowhere near each other plus most of em have their own lives going on with their own individual friend groups irl
That works if luck is on your side and you're someone who thinks that "90% of success is just showing up!". But for some of us, we can go out consistently to events, meetups, parties etc., yet despite having fun, get no interest from girls. I spent 3 years living in SF and went out 3-4 nights a week, but not once did I meet anyone, get a date, or a girlfriend.
And going out with friends can be very risky. If you meet girls who don't like you, they can start talking and pretty soon your friends are avoiding you because you're that guy that girls don't like.
Again, for some guys, just showing up gets them numbers, dates, laid and girlfriends. For other guys, showing up actually makes things worse because you get ostracized from your friend group and actually hurt your reputation.
aka have a life
Should have definitely used the Disney ears picture, they were wrong bro.
HAHAH I thought so too. The girls were wrong.
Obviously you are not his target audience 😋
@@realdavidpain If a woman swipes left on that, she's not the target audience either.
@@TejasHullur
Neil Degrasse Tyson & Disney Ears Photos are how to attract Zillenials and even 89'-93' Millennials.
Not zoomers born in the 00s lol
As a woman he was right to throw it out, even without the ears, the lighting and pose were pretty bad 😅
This video took the most wholesome turn ever. I loved every second of it. As someone with no love experience whatsoever I enjoyed this video a lot and agreed with everything you said and it was incredibly well made! Thank you Tejas!
Appreciate you! Put yourself out there! Soccer clubs! Pottery classes! The park!
My favorite video you’ve made yet
appreciate you D!
Your content is literally top 1% of RUclips and still YT algo ain't working that's sucks. Keep working man you gonna get what you deserve. And it's not just quality or cinematography, its also the knowladge, the emotions involved watching your videos. I wish you the luck mate!
takes time! the beauty of RUclips is this video gets to live forever :) regardless thanks for all the compliments!
I've never seen his channel in my entire life until now. I think it's working.
@@drproton85 yep same it's clearly working tbh
I think the best comparison for dating apps is a casino. They make the rules, the odds are against you, and they profit off of your failure. They want you to think you can hit the jackpot but don't want you to, they want you to keep playing. Never used one, but it just sounds like social gambling if you will.
My current girlfriend I met in real life. I never used dating apps, but in school I used to use apps that were for connecting to people like you. It was more just to meet more people and possibly make friends. I haven’t been able to keep a single one of them, and the reason I think for this is because there just is no personal connection. There is something very raw and fun and just colorful about meeting a new person who you have things in common with in person. Because online we have no obligation to continue a conversation or even start one, we feel much more disconnected from them. Humans need a personal connection, and it’s hard to find something like that if it’s not in person.
This might be my favorite video you've made. STRONG strong strong storyline
Dating apps can absolutely lead to depression in men. As a man who spent years on apps, while simultaneously worked to improve myself by hitting the gym, eating clean, taking care of my skin, as well as working on my confidence and charisma, it's been pretty devastating to do so consistently poorly on dating apps.
But where his and my experiences split is in the last part of the video. He went out to an event, met a girl, hit it off and started dating. That has never happened for me, and I spent many years going out to all kinds of events, from improv classes and movie nights, to language exchanges and cultural exhibitions, to wine tasting and bar crawls. While I had fun at all of them, I never met anyone, certainly not on the first one I went to like he did.
But that's the difference luck makes. One person can go out and immediately get results. Meanwhile another person can leave the same event and say: "well, that's the 136th unsuccessful event in a row, but I've got a good feeling about the next one!"
All the best!
yeah hey i wish you luck man - if you’re doing all you can, you have absolutely no reason to be ashamed or deterred
if they’re out there, someone like you has the best chance of finding them
I think part of what helped is that he went to an event his female friends were putting on so he was already essentially being recommended by trustworthy women
I feel you, brother. You've done the work, you deserve some results. Two things:
1) Luck can definitely be the factor that tips the scale, but as@sabrinusglaucomys said, you gotta pre condition your environment to "create the highest chance" of luck.
2) At the chance you haven't done so yet, gather your female & male friends, ask them to give you one last sanity check: is there anything about you, smth you do, or smth in your environment that's still prohibiting / limiting you from successfully connecting?
Hope this can make the difference.
The quality on this channel is insane and as somebody who’s recently moved on from a relationship I’ve been weighing if I want to try dating apps. On the one hand majority of my friend group uses it and has success but on the other it just seems so superficial that it isn’t worth it. Amazing video this channel is going to explode in popularity soon with this high quality content
Yeah I felt that especially coming into NYC. One of the things Blaine said that I didn't include is that the pendulum is swinging away from online dating in her data. Especially here in NYC I'm often trying to find groups with common interests and my best friends I made in the city are from these! It really is just getting out there
Your success on dating apps is dependent entirely on your looks. Dont have a cute face and at least 6ft to match? Spare your time.
I gotta admit, this was a really good video and personally really well timed. I’ve been considering dating apps recently but dread the thought of using one, and this video helped me make an informed decision on how I want to live my life. Anyways, congrats on your date! This video was awesome, and you are criminally under viewed lol
Wow appreciate you! trust the process :)
I'm a man in my early 20s, and while I completely believe that meeting women in person is better for dating, I feel like I don't have enough free time for that. I commonly end up working 6 days a week at my job and I'm not very socially adept at finding hangout spots (I have very few friends as well), much less asking someone out. I'm not really sure what to do, besides just getting lucky and randomly meeting someone. But I suppose anything is possible, thanks for the uplifting message.
I watched this video thinking it was made by a big channel with like 2/3 mln subscribers. When I saw you have 50k I was surprised, the quality is amazing, the storytelling is brilliant and more in general you are very good and pass as charismatic and nice. I definetely think big things are coming for you and your channel!
How have I not found you before?! The production quality is insane, when i scrolled down expecting someone with 1.1mil I was genuinely taken aback by your sub count! Keep it up man, this is incredible!
WOW appreciate you!
I was surprised too
Dude your stuff is incredible. Keep being you and creating these super detailed, incredibly well-shot videos.
Wow this was incredibly done!! You considered so many different angles, pulled data, got professional advice, went on a personal journey, and everything from the editing to the shots to the pacing, wow! It’s hard not to be engaged!
LOVE what youre doing man. your style is sooo unique and this is the first video ive watched in ages that ive been FULLY engaged for 30 mins. keep up the incredible work!
The end was really giving “Mr Rogers neighborhood” with the music and the way he left the room 😂 27:00
This video was so cute 🥰 I been on the apps on and off for 6 months now, I get plenty of matches but can’t seem to find someone on the same page as me, reached a point where I’m noticing people use them as validation and for “fun”
committing to deleting them forever now and just enjoying my time single and hoping to find a connection organically 🙂
I’m glad you deleted the apps, you’re a very attractive lady do is no surprise you get plenty of matches, unfortunately men don’t get matches at all, so imagine how that affects your psyche. Ladies only swipe on chads and not on good average men.
most girls matches are low qual d pics,, doesn't count
Lower your standards and will find the perfect match in 5 minutes. Easy
I’m same as you hun! Wish you all the best of luck x
Will we see how the 2nd date goes?
Man, great story! The way you sequenced everything and the climax... Perfect.
:) rather keep things private
@@TejasHullur respect 🙏❤
@@TejasHullurayooooooo???
@@TejasHullur L bozo
This video is awesome
no way you're here W tyler
my man!!
I haven't even gotten into the video yet, but just by how expertly crafted that intro was, I can tell you are talented.
Great video! I definitely believe in taking up on a spontaneous opportunity as you did. You never know what (or who) it could lead to! I've also always felt a little off about dating apps even though I've never used one. Now I know why😂
Your channel should be at least 10x bigger, probably more. Keep at it man :)
This just came in my feed and wow this video everything was so amazing keep up the good work!
Good message. Dating Apps are superficial and they won't connect you with the right people.
This is by far the most comprehensive video about dating apps that I have ever watched. Brilliant editing and script. Will surely share this video to my friends!!
you're criminally underrated, loved this video
absolutely fantastic video tejas, i can attest, it's surprising hard to date after college, especially in ny, but i'm glad to see you may have struck gold - best of luck!
Great video man. I can’t lie, from when you had your female friends supporting you and they were putting you on to in person events, I knew you weren’t going to need the apps.
However, the concept of the video drew me in and the points on the algorithm was something I haven’t heard before.
Bro decided to drop a movie - I hope this blows up. Great job man I can tell you put a ton of effort and energy into this
Thats the goal 🤙🏾
AAAAA OMG THATS SO CUTE hearing you talk abt her is so wholesome, I always wonder how guys talk about girls after a first date or first meeting and this gave me so much more hope in humanity haha. I love this so much for you, and I hope this turns into something more!
Dude this was phenomenal editing/storytelling!!! Really engaging and I didn't realize this was like 30 min long haha. Congrats on the second date brotha!! Hope things go well for ya 🙌🏽
Wow thank you!
Blaine is the best. Vouch for her! I've taken her cohort.
MEGA vouch!
humphrey in the comments!
only for dating apps, shes horrible at every other facet of dating.
L lol l
Love this! Ive always felt super weird about dating apps and Ive learned a lot from this video! Tejas still the most underrated RUclipsr imo!!
this video comes to me at the right time. and i just gotta highlight how much love and effort you can see in each detail. from cutting out cardboard for the graphics to hiring a professional. idk it just felt very real and it's hard to capture that with this quality. imma check out the rest of the channel! new sub fs!
Hey Tejas, the effort you're putting in really shows. he way you cut out and print those graphs, then share them in your videos? That's just awesome. It adds such a unique touch that you don't see everywhere. And your storytelling? Top-notch. Keep doing what you're doing, man.
Your shots are definitely cool and seem to be pulling in the views. But for me, it's the longer videos that really stand out. You pack so much solid content into them. Like this dating video - it's been a topic of conversation between me and my colleague. We were talking about how dating apps are all about making money, but your video was coming to the same thing for us.
I really appreciate these videos. Keep them coming. It might not seem like it's all about the money in the short term, but I believe these long-form videos could really help draw in more subscribers. You're onto something special!
Keep at it bro!
means so so much!! thanks a lot
Absolutely phenomenal man! I had a dating app experience recently that left me feeling pretty bummed out about myself so to be honest I felt a slight uneasiness watching this video. However that made the ending so much better when you came to a similar conclusion I did, to delete the apps and look in real life! When creators make videos with an amazing story in mind, that connection with the audience is so much more powerful than videos that only focus on optimizing views. I really hope RUclips continues in this direction and I'm gonna go ahead and say it, this is one of my favorite channels on RUclips.
WOW! thank you so so much :)
💪Go red pill men. See the reality. Don't be a SIMP. Because SIMPs are the cause of this horrible dating market of today.
Reminds me of the Kacey Musgraves lyric “if you wanna find a head that fits your shoulder, you’re gonna have to go to the dance”
You really made a good video explaining the issues we young ppl are facing with dating apps and dating in general because you're in your 20s you've presented a good perspective and explanation on this subject.
Kudos to you for not making a hate on women, woe is me video.
this video is beautiful! so well made. the stats had me gagged but i feel a little less alone in my loneliless. thank you
Loved this!! totally agree that the best places to meet ppl is in person, where your putting yourself out there and finding common ground. It's easy to be super picky on dating apps, and the things that matter on apps, don't matter irl when you form a genuine connection with someone. Your able to see past just a couple of pictures and captions.
Every time someone uses the line "necessary evil", it really makes me scared, that is always the reasoning behind every bad move we make as a society. That ending was wholesome my guy.
How does this not have more views? The editing, story, and overall prpduction value was 🔥
I spent soooooo many hours on dating apps. Swiped thousands, messaged hundreds, dated dozens, found 2 I liked but no chemistry.
Went dancing and to random church events with an eye to find a date and found awesome people almost instantly.
I had so much fun watching this one, could not keep the smile off of my face. A great balance of comedy and seriousness. Please more Tejas living uncomfortable situations and learning from them!
I can say that I actually miss the days that dating apps were free and 100% interactive, I’m so glad that I was able to take advantage of those dating apps pre tinder days. I’ve met so many women on them and even had my fun, this was back in early 2010s.
This was really well put together. As another struggling 22 year old recently graduated from college, thanks for the inspo 🙏
Man, you are so inspirational. And your logical/ scientific way of documenting topics through research papers, expert counselling, experimentation etc rather than just giving your personal opinion is amazing.
Subscribed to your channel :) your video made me teary eyed in the end. So happy you took a chance and went to your friend’s event. I haven’t had much luck on the apps, and it made me feel discouraged that I may not meet my person. You are giving me the courage to say yes more often and take a chance.
i love this.
the ending is so empowering and shifts the control of my dating life back to me, which is again empowering and the proper mindest for long lasting success:)
That part about rather playing video games than "doing the deed" stuck on me. I'm a huge gamer, it is one of my biggest interests. But I would shut down my computer to "do the deed" without even thinking about it. I really don't get those who said that xD
Great video man. The biggest takeaway is that these companies are making money from the loneliness of men.
Exactly. Only from the men loneliness, and for the fun of females
Better with each video!! So exciting seeing you evolve. The mini-movies concept is awesome
TEJAS! this was brilliant!! It felt like this video was only 3 minutes long, it zoomed by
that was just a rollercoaster dude, fantastic work
The economy of swipes is such a real thing bc since we have such limited swipes, i find myself passing on guys that I do like but don't want to "waste my swipes on". I hate dating apps
Was just thinking about the ethicacy of dating apps and if one can morally monetize loneliness and then I see this on my recommended. Crazy how that stuff works. Great production as always Tejas, keep it up.
Woah... super crazy! Thanks a ton!
Great video! Loved the diverse approach to the whole dating app debacle without jumping into the more over discussed parts
26:31 "if you get invited.."
I think this is a factor in people saying "I found love while I wasn't looking".
The being invited is crucial. If you had gone alone, knowing nothing about upwork fashion, people might have some walls up. You'll have to show a genuine interest in the subject or people might wonder why you are there.
When invited, why you are there is obvious.
The scripting of this video is phenomenal!!!
Fantastic video Tejas! Your deep dive is so insightful and you break down the concepts so clearly and effectively. Congratulations on an excellent video and getting that date!
This is your best video yet Tejas! Keep it up. This style is refreshing and special to you, I think you’re really starting to find your footing.
thanks so much!
In all honesty man, your production quality is top notch. Keep it up!
Gosh Tejas, you are so smart and articulate. Also, it helps that you have a million dollar smile. I'm happy for you. Dating is hard as hell these days. I thoroughly enjoyed your video. :)
your editing style is impeccable omg
Killed it Tejas, been diggin your storytelling and editing in the past few vids
thanks!
As someone now in their late 20s, you're killing it at 23! Keep it up!
This is such a good video, dating apps are ruining society, when dating apps fist became a thing I had success as I was a young man and just wanted a hook up, now people rely too much on dating apps to meet people but the best way to meet them is in person, just be confident in yourself and talk to many men/women as possible which will build confidence in yourself, also be presentable and exercise
Incredible video! It even made me emotional at the end. Rooting for you as always. So talented!
Great topics addressed, editing for this video is so creative and smooth
great video man, really loved the story telling aswell as the value provided with the business income breakdown. Congrats on finishing another great project Tejas
this was so well filmed and was an amazing story, great job tejas!
28 mins went by real quick. Insanely well made video Tejas!
such a beautifully filmed and edited video, i loved this! in person events are definitely the best for meeting potential friends/partners :D
Just found your channel and I love the quality of your content! Surprised to see your roommate is Kelly’s videographer. Keep it up!
Great video Tejas!! Big step up from your previous ones ( great pacing, sound, editing, mix of information vs personal story)
Keep it up!
Not that the other ones didn’t have those features, but this one felt a bit different
Appreciate this lots! The last part - mix of information and personal story is what I focus on the most :)
That’s great, and I think this can make you stand out from the “crowd”
An explainer with a personal touch
A vlog with the data to back it up
Looking forward to see you hit big! You have what it takes to go the long way (i think)
damn bruh, you ate this one up. i despise dating apps too. only took me 5 years and three failed relationships to learn this! 😂
How is it that more people are saying they're meeting their partners online but also more people are saying that any online means of connections is just non existent nowadays with how predatory everything online is.
Wowww this was super well edited and storied! I usually dont even watch mini-movie or video-essay sort of videos but this was one so engaging. Amazing mix between the personal story and information. Edited the two together so well. You earned a subscriber! Keep it up man!
Very inspring to see these kind of videos as a creator too. Glad I came across your channel.
By the title, you would already assume that it can be shallow or it’s just the type of video for clicks.. but you put so much effort into it and made it so informative but still entertaining. New subscriber here!
Number of girlfriends from online: 0
Number of girlfriends from going to a group activity: 2
You support my own experience. 👍
The fact that got an ad for Bumble and Hinge before this video 🤦🏽 The app makers are the only ones winning here 😩
I think this was the perfect ending to this video. I’ve always had a feeling that our little flaws and imperfections a weighted so much more on dating apps. There is nothing like actually getting to know someone in real life. So take chances and get out there because love, community, and friendship won’t just come to you, you have to actually get out there and try!
I've noticed a huge issue with NYC and dating is that a large majority of people you meet are extremely new to the city. They romanticize the concept of finding love in the city and want their life to be like it is in the movies.
My biggest piece of advice to any young person trying to date in NYC, tread lightly and don't take it serious. Have zero expectations and you won't get hurt, because honestly I've lost all expectations and it's helped. Currently been talking to a girl for almost 2 months and I STILL expect to be ghosted or told that "Im not ready for a relationship".
bro the quality of this video was amazing and the message behind it had substance and depth, gained a new sub for sure
There is a point which I think wasn't highlighted enough. Its good for guys to have women as friends. Even if you think they are attractive its nice to have platonic relationships based on other shared interests. As seen here mutual respect can essentially make people wing-men or women. And if a women sees, that you have respectful relationships with women, you are obviously more trustworthy for the other side.
Also at 23:00 you should have highlighted the "retain" as well. If you think about for 5 seconds this is obvious and a goal for such a business, but essentially says "We need a certain amount of people to stay on the app and not find a date". Should be noted that for a company it still is a good thing for many costumers to find relationships as that in turn increases trustworthness of users and they feel less scammed. These businesses essentially have to build on a system were success is far from guaranteed, but also not fully a lie.
The only issue I came up with is trustworthiness. If I go out alone and try to talk to a girl, the first question is “where are your friends?”
Super well made video both content wise, narratively, and visually! Keep up the great work
Wholesome plot twist man. All the best to the gents who are inspired by this video to move forward.