The Ugly Truth Behind Dating Apps.

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  • Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
  • Dating apps have forever changed the way couples meet. However, their influence is on the decline and it seems that Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are in serious trouble. In this video, I try to land a date in 7 days (yes thats tough for me), get a real-life dating coach to roast me lol, and explore how loneliness among men is an epidemic that no one is talking enough about. An educational adventure of modern day romance ;)
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Комментарии • 798

  • @TejasHullur
    @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +278

    Howdy everyone! As always, here is a comment explaining a BTS learning I had in making this video. This is the longest project I've made to date but somehow... one of the fastest to edit. Before we even started filming, Ken and I really wanted to make sure we stuck a story close to the Hero's Journey (Harmon Circle). If you look closely, a lot of the bits and elements we created were based on that (ex. character in comfortable location, a call to adventure, a refusal to that adventure, a mentor, crossing the threshold, etc.). of course, the story takes a turn as most do, but having this structure made the edit a lot simpler.
    Thought I would share, let me know what you all think of this story! Really want to own our corner of the internet with these mini-movies. 'Till next time!

    • @fromdonwithlove
      @fromdonwithlove 8 месяцев назад +4

      Amazing work, Tejas!

    • @bryanteehee682
      @bryanteehee682 8 месяцев назад +1

      Great work man! Love the "twist" at the end

    • @HussainAbdi_
      @HussainAbdi_ 8 месяцев назад +1

      Great story! Your storytelling is getting better and better with each video and that's awesome to see. Question: how did you leverage following a structure to edit faster, were you able to split the video into parts and work on them separately with a clearer sense of the bigger picture/feeling? Or was editing speed the result of having a better idea of the story you wanted to tell? Or both! Curious to learn more as I sit to edit my first video!!!

    • @flipshuman
      @flipshuman 8 месяцев назад

      shoutout for the sauce. your storytelling was awesome. i was curious on how you put together such an engaging story in a 30 minute video on dating apps

    • @Housestationlive
      @Housestationlive 8 месяцев назад +1

      it's too much. and not informative because so much is scripted that you can't trust what remains authentic. either it's a fiction either it's a document, it can't be both. information is serious.

  • @dannyslebs6321
    @dannyslebs6321 7 месяцев назад +1105

    Dating apps have led to this pervasive ghosting culture that we currently reside in, as well as making people discardable and overall more lonely and insecure than ever before....

    • @avaliausd.
      @avaliausd. 7 месяцев назад +28

      Well, I mean, what do people expect? If you dont want to pursue someone on a dating app, the easy way out is to ghost. Who wouldnt take the easy way out? Especially if there is a chance that the person who you are talking to might go crazy on you if you tell them that you arent interested. (Weve seen plenty of examples of that online.) This is why its better to just date people who are in your circle, not random strangers. Go to church or a social club. I met my wife at my church. Heck, a few of my exes are from my church. I prefer women who go to the same church as me because we already have something very important in common and that's our spiritual beliefs. Its so much easier to find a mate this way than expecting completely strangers to treat you like a friend.

    • @aena5995
      @aena5995 7 месяцев назад

      yeah but then still following them is weird asf@@avaliausd.

    • @maenad1231
      @maenad1231 7 месяцев назад +17

      People were rude and just never contacted again after not liking the first date before dating apps

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 6 месяцев назад

      90%+ of girls on online dating are just there to waste your time, energy, money and emotions

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@maenad1231the ghosting if before the first date and without any reason just because girls never wanted to meet but just free attention and validation

  • @bryanzoom97
    @bryanzoom97 8 месяцев назад +771

    Love that you deleted the apps at the end, honestly meeting people in person is the best way in my opinion congrats on your date 🎉

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +22

      I totally agree!

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 6 месяцев назад

      90%+ of girls on online dating are just there to waste your time, energy, money and emotions

    • @quanyeradford8750
      @quanyeradford8750 4 месяца назад +2

      ​@@denlugteneostall mental bro

    • @The_Ice_Man_777
      @The_Ice_Man_777 12 дней назад

      The problem is even if you choose real life the women you try to approach in real life are on the apps and are comparing you to the guys that are in the top 1% on the apps in real life.

    • @caroliner2029
      @caroliner2029 5 часов назад

      A very satisfying account and ending.
      Meeting in person is always so much more satisfying and enjoyable when you feel the spark and like them.
      Good work ⭐

  • @rickbale
    @rickbale 8 месяцев назад +548

    this is a better movie than 97% of the shit that is on netflix. you're a great storyteller man

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +17

      wow thank you!!!

    • @scarlett_the_creator
      @scarlett_the_creator 8 месяцев назад +1

      It’s good but not better than 97% of shows/ movies that Netflix has produced. You are actual delusional.

    • @rickbale
      @rickbale 8 месяцев назад +3

      @@TejasHullur thank you for putting out amazing content

  • @SeanAndreww
    @SeanAndreww 8 месяцев назад +694

    Wholesome plot twist at end was amazing. Great video man!

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +3

      Sean! Appreciate you tons man 🤙🏾Let's link soon

  • @TrueCoombsey
    @TrueCoombsey 4 месяца назад +57

    "a community won't come to you, You have to go out and find one"
    Wow Great quote

  • @billykhoury4038
    @billykhoury4038 7 месяцев назад +206

    The moral of the story is that dating apps incentives it to keep users using their app and convert them into subscribers. Thus, one must delete those apps and meet and interact with the real world to meet others is still the best way. I wiped everything from the dating app and I talk to people in real life which is far better results than an app.

    • @FratPatriot99
      @FratPatriot99 7 месяцев назад +3

      Any tips? I’m about to embark on the same journey myself

    • @goodness_graciousme
      @goodness_graciousme 3 месяца назад

      But how?!? Im a girl and I've tried every possible way to meet people organically. Kinda sucks, at the age of 35, I'm already wanting to give up honestly, I might as well be single tbh 😢

    • @billykhoury4038
      @billykhoury4038 3 месяца назад +1

      @@goodness_graciousme you waited far too long for a marriage to occur. You always to think what men wants? Most men want young and fertile women and being 35 doesn’t help your case much. You will face a far tough time getting a man to commit and settle down with you unfortunately since so much of your time was wasted. Also, ask yourself this what skills you have that would benefit the men your trying to get? Since you’re youth is no longer something you offer and also can you safely produce healthy children? Do you know how to care for children, clean, and cook? If you have those skills and a pleasant person you might find someone. Stop looking at guys for looks because you’re past the time of choosing best men and now you will have to compromise a lot and bring a lot to the table for you to find someone. Everything aside good luck with your path.

    • @DeterministiqueSoftwareS-gy2oc
      @DeterministiqueSoftwareS-gy2oc 2 месяца назад

      What is somebody is afraid of social interactions?

    • @ws6206
      @ws6206 15 дней назад

      @@goodness_graciousme Honestly, we're out there trying to meet you. How have you tried every possible way to meet people and not met someone?

  • @rodbelding9523
    @rodbelding9523 4 месяца назад +49

    "Off to a hot start, and then nothing since." That always happens to me too. I'm 100% convinced these apps give you matches when you first sign up to try and trick you into paying for the subscription, and then if you don't pay after a few days it just buries your profile. I'm fully convinced these apps do that.

    • @xCaRnRAGEx
      @xCaRnRAGEx 3 месяца назад +2

      That would make sense. I’ve noticed I’ll go a couple days without a match then when I receive the notification I have a match I’ll check it out and below the girls profile it will say we matched 5 days ago. They withhold your matches as well.

    • @binskee677
      @binskee677 2 месяца назад

      made the same experience, when you delete tinder and sign up again, you get more matches, after a couple of weeks you get nothing again, then repeat those steps

    • @shriekinambassador5042
      @shriekinambassador5042 2 месяца назад +1

      oh all the apps give you an initial algo boost.

  • @jjkoolaid4535
    @jjkoolaid4535 8 месяцев назад +483

    I been in dating apps for while now.The bad thing about it just cause I got many matches it never lead to successful dates. Many were time wasters.
    I met a woman thru work and we instantly hit it off. Meeting people in real life is always going to have a much better success rate.

    • @aena5995
      @aena5995 7 месяцев назад

      yeah getting ghosted after months of them being like i like u i want u blah blah men suck i dont mind being a cat lady lol@@shelltoe_soul

    • @bro918
      @bro918 7 месяцев назад +7

      @@shelltoe_soul good lord man, just pay an escort or something

    • @BrianWaller-qe7gr
      @BrianWaller-qe7gr 7 месяцев назад +4

      @@shelltoe_soulwell women aren’t any better in person. I get signs of interest then get ghosted anyway. I simply gave up. The only way I interact with women is through work and I’m not risking getting fired for getting hit with a sexual harassment complaint

    • @shelltoe_soul
      @shelltoe_soul 7 месяцев назад

      @@bro918 good point

    • @dmike3507
      @dmike3507 7 месяцев назад +8

      Lol well that doesn't really help that much if literally 100% of the women you've met in the past 15 years were already in relationships. It's great advice for someone who is young, but sadly virtually all of the "good ones" get snatched up in their early-to-mid twenties. After that you're either picking up the scraps that have been rejected by everyone their whole life or you have to hope for someone's partner to die or get divorced, which is obviously an awful thing to hope for. Surely doesn't help that modern society treats finding "the one" as being clingy or some kind of disease, when it's really what everyone throughout history should have done. Instead everyone is just settling, and the divorce numbers show it.

  • @lovelyrabbyt666
    @lovelyrabbyt666 7 месяцев назад +122

    Just go out with friends to hobby related events. Concerts, art shows, classes/workshops, volunteering, clubs, excersize groups, wine tastings, etc. It’s way easier when you have friends to meet people.

    • @TheLizard199
      @TheLizard199 6 месяцев назад +5

      literally have been doing that for the last two years. I want to whine about it but ive also been asked out three times and dated someone for a little. Less than a year on dating apps before that I went on a few okay dates but any actually exciting conversations on the app never made it to real life. I guess quality over quantity.

    • @mysticyamcha3697
      @mysticyamcha3697 6 месяцев назад

      3 times time 0 *​@@TheLizard199

    • @willvrtist
      @willvrtist 5 месяцев назад +10

      That's exactly my problem.. I dont have any friends.. well not near me anyway, I'm house bound and live in the countryside.. shit sucks. My only mates are online and we just talk about our RUclips channels or other stuff but we're nowhere near each other plus most of em have their own lives going on with their own individual friend groups irl

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 5 месяцев назад +6

      That works if luck is on your side and you're someone who thinks that "90% of success is just showing up!". But for some of us, we can go out consistently to events, meetups, parties etc., yet despite having fun, get no interest from girls. I spent 3 years living in SF and went out 3-4 nights a week, but not once did I meet anyone, get a date, or a girlfriend.
      And going out with friends can be very risky. If you meet girls who don't like you, they can start talking and pretty soon your friends are avoiding you because you're that guy that girls don't like.
      Again, for some guys, just showing up gets them numbers, dates, laid and girlfriends. For other guys, showing up actually makes things worse because you get ostracized from your friend group and actually hurt your reputation.

    • @VonRibbitt
      @VonRibbitt 5 месяцев назад +2

      aka have a life

  • @Dylan_Anderson
    @Dylan_Anderson 8 месяцев назад +741

    Should have definitely used the Disney ears picture, they were wrong bro.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +75

      HAHAH I thought so too. The girls were wrong.

    • @realdavidpain
      @realdavidpain 8 месяцев назад +32

      Obviously you are not his target audience 😋

    • @niallk9336
      @niallk9336 7 месяцев назад +28

      ​@@realdavidpain If a woman swipes left on that, she's not the target audience either.

    • @maenad1231
      @maenad1231 7 месяцев назад +7

      @@TejasHullur
      Neil Degrasse Tyson & Disney Ears Photos are how to attract Zillenials and even 89'-93' Millennials.
      Not zoomers born in the 00s lol

    • @beatricetellier6838
      @beatricetellier6838 7 месяцев назад +11

      As a woman he was right to throw it out, even without the ears, the lighting and pose were pretty bad 😅

  • @ashboheme
    @ashboheme 6 месяцев назад +46

    As a 20 yr old woman, I’ve tried dating apps a couple of times. I hate the idea of limiting someone down to a profile that doesn’t fully capture their personality. You can feel out who a person truly is and if you have chemistry when meeting in person. When I have liked someone, it wasn’t because of an immediate physical attraction. It was how comfortable I felt around them and the way they interacted with me that drew me to them. I felt a connection with a guy I work with and asked him out. He told me I was sweet but doesn’t date coworkers. Even at the risk of rejection, go for it! It could be the best decision of your life!

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 5 месяцев назад +6

      Love your energy, but it's entirely different for men vs women. As a woman, you have lots of options, especially if you take care of yourself and are decent looking. You can ask out co-workers, guys at the gym, or guys in the grocery store and the worst that will happen is he'll say no. But even if that happens, you'll face no negative consequences and still have lots of new matches and messages waiting for you in your dating apps.
      But for guys...we get very few matches and even fewer replies in dating apps, that's why so many men break and start paying for the upgraded plans. And as a man, every time you look at, show interest in, or talk to a girl, you run the very real chance of her reporting you to management or at least spreading the word to other girls. If you manage to evade being pulled into HR or the managers office to be told that you were reported for "making girls uncomfortable", you'll likely start getting ignored and avoided by people in her circle, and girls have surprisingly large circles.
      Again, I love your energy and you seem really sweet, but please understand that it's a completely different game for us men, and rejection is the the least of our concerns when approaching a woman.

    • @sageworks3
      @sageworks3 3 месяца назад

      Listen, I completely agree with what fuzzypanda is saying, and I see where you're coming from, BUT ASHLEY AS SOMEONE =WHO IS YOUR AGE, CAN I JUST BE TE ONE TO SAY YOU ARE SO PRETTY AND I THINK I CAN LEARN ALOT FROM YOU :DDD

    • @binskee677
      @binskee677 2 месяца назад

      Nice to hear that you try to look behind the pictures! =D how did you manage online dating? From what i heard is that woman get so many matches they don't even get to really connect with someone online, respectivly they automatically sort people out based on looks/photo. That must have been a lot of work right?
      I have to agree with the other two comment, onlie-dating is a very different game for men and woman, i stopped because it's frustrating and messes with your confidence until you hate yourself, once you realize it's not because of you it's usually too late.

  • @Dylanlemay
    @Dylanlemay 8 месяцев назад +216

    My favorite video you’ve made yet

  • @vinamrajha
    @vinamrajha 8 месяцев назад +127

    Your content is literally top 1% of RUclips and still YT algo ain't working that's sucks. Keep working man you gonna get what you deserve. And it's not just quality or cinematography, its also the knowladge, the emotions involved watching your videos. I wish you the luck mate!

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +19

      takes time! the beauty of RUclips is this video gets to live forever :) regardless thanks for all the compliments!

    • @drproton85
      @drproton85 7 месяцев назад +7

      I've never seen his channel in my entire life until now. I think it's working.

    • @shelltoe_soul
      @shelltoe_soul 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@drproton85 yep same it's clearly working tbh

  • @vissywigswig
    @vissywigswig 8 месяцев назад +86

    This video took the most wholesome turn ever. I loved every second of it. As someone with no love experience whatsoever I enjoyed this video a lot and agreed with everything you said and it was incredibly well made! Thank you Tejas!

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +6

      Appreciate you! Put yourself out there! Soccer clubs! Pottery classes! The park!

  • @realcade
    @realcade 8 месяцев назад +50

    The quality on this channel is insane and as somebody who’s recently moved on from a relationship I’ve been weighing if I want to try dating apps. On the one hand majority of my friend group uses it and has success but on the other it just seems so superficial that it isn’t worth it. Amazing video this channel is going to explode in popularity soon with this high quality content

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +9

      Yeah I felt that especially coming into NYC. One of the things Blaine said that I didn't include is that the pendulum is swinging away from online dating in her data. Especially here in NYC I'm often trying to find groups with common interests and my best friends I made in the city are from these! It really is just getting out there

    • @bro918
      @bro918 7 месяцев назад +2

      Your success on dating apps is dependent entirely on your looks. Dont have a cute face and at least 6ft to match? Spare your time.

  • @augyisadogy9729
    @augyisadogy9729 8 месяцев назад +51

    I gotta admit, this was a really good video and personally really well timed. I’ve been considering dating apps recently but dread the thought of using one, and this video helped me make an informed decision on how I want to live my life. Anyways, congrats on your date! This video was awesome, and you are criminally under viewed lol

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +4

      Wow appreciate you! trust the process :)

  • @NathanEspinoza
    @NathanEspinoza 8 месяцев назад +38

    This might be my favorite video you've made. STRONG strong strong storyline

  • @christopherwells7869
    @christopherwells7869 5 месяцев назад +8

    I think the best comparison for dating apps is a casino. They make the rules, the odds are against you, and they profit off of your failure. They want you to think you can hit the jackpot but don't want you to, they want you to keep playing. Never used one, but it just sounds like social gambling if you will.

  • @RenzoMaano
    @RenzoMaano 8 месяцев назад +46

    Will we see how the 2nd date goes?
    Man, great story! The way you sequenced everything and the climax... Perfect.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +36

      :) rather keep things private

    • @RenzoMaano
      @RenzoMaano 8 месяцев назад +7

      @@TejasHullur respect 🙏❤

    • @xfreja
      @xfreja 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@TejasHullurayooooooo???

    • @j.c.1452
      @j.c.1452 3 месяца назад

      @@TejasHullur L bozo

  • @aerchii8643
    @aerchii8643 7 месяцев назад +13

    My current girlfriend I met in real life. I never used dating apps, but in school I used to use apps that were for connecting to people like you. It was more just to meet more people and possibly make friends. I haven’t been able to keep a single one of them, and the reason I think for this is because there just is no personal connection. There is something very raw and fun and just colorful about meeting a new person who you have things in common with in person. Because online we have no obligation to continue a conversation or even start one, we feel much more disconnected from them. Humans need a personal connection, and it’s hard to find something like that if it’s not in person.

  • @melissaurrutia2413
    @melissaurrutia2413 7 месяцев назад +24

    This video was so cute 🥰 I been on the apps on and off for 6 months now, I get plenty of matches but can’t seem to find someone on the same page as me, reached a point where I’m noticing people use them as validation and for “fun”
    committing to deleting them forever now and just enjoying my time single and hoping to find a connection organically 🙂

    • @Junevalentino
      @Junevalentino 7 месяцев назад

      I’m glad you deleted the apps, you’re a very attractive lady do is no surprise you get plenty of matches, unfortunately men don’t get matches at all, so imagine how that affects your psyche. Ladies only swipe on chads and not on good average men.

    • @Ace-ud3qp
      @Ace-ud3qp 6 месяцев назад

      most girls matches are low qual d pics,, doesn't count

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 6 месяцев назад

      Lower your standards and will find the perfect match in 5 minutes. Easy

    • @user-mt2yz4mb8l
      @user-mt2yz4mb8l 2 месяца назад

      I’m same as you hun! Wish you all the best of luck x

  • @humphrey
    @humphrey 8 месяцев назад +147

    Blaine is the best. Vouch for her! I've taken her cohort.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +5

      MEGA vouch!

    • @ShervinShares
      @ShervinShares 8 месяцев назад +2

      humphrey in the comments!

    • @mmm-ie5ws
      @mmm-ie5ws 7 месяцев назад +2

      only for dating apps, shes horrible at every other facet of dating.

    • @johnnieeom3542
      @johnnieeom3542 7 месяцев назад

      L lol l

  • @TylerBlanchard
    @TylerBlanchard 8 месяцев назад +144

    This video is awesome

    • @TIBE_
      @TIBE_ 8 месяцев назад

      no way you're here W tyler

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +2

      my man!!

  • @chbmckie
    @chbmckie 8 месяцев назад +14

    How have I not found you before?! The production quality is insane, when i scrolled down expecting someone with 1.1mil I was genuinely taken aback by your sub count! Keep it up man, this is incredible!

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +1

      WOW appreciate you!

    • @melc900
      @melc900 7 месяцев назад

      I was surprised too

  • @Amleto.
    @Amleto. 6 месяцев назад +7

    I watched this video thinking it was made by a big channel with like 2/3 mln subscribers. When I saw you have 50k I was surprised, the quality is amazing, the storytelling is brilliant and more in general you are very good and pass as charismatic and nice. I definetely think big things are coming for you and your channel!

  • @CodyHales
    @CodyHales 8 месяцев назад +19

    LOVE what youre doing man. your style is sooo unique and this is the first video ive watched in ages that ive been FULLY engaged for 30 mins. keep up the incredible work!

  • @nathang4915
    @nathang4915 5 месяцев назад +7

    I'm a man in my early 20s, and while I completely believe that meeting women in person is better for dating, I feel like I don't have enough free time for that. I commonly end up working 6 days a week at my job and I'm not very socially adept at finding hangout spots (I have very few friends as well), much less asking someone out. I'm not really sure what to do, besides just getting lucky and randomly meeting someone. But I suppose anything is possible, thanks for the uplifting message.

  • @Southas
    @Southas 4 месяца назад +2

    You really made a good video explaining the issues we young ppl are facing with dating apps and dating in general because you're in your 20s you've presented a good perspective and explanation on this subject.
    Kudos to you for not making a hate on women, woe is me video.

  • @noahfernandez4245
    @noahfernandez4245 8 месяцев назад +18

    The end was really giving “Mr Rogers neighborhood” with the music and the way he left the room 😂 27:00

  • @LindonsChannel
    @LindonsChannel 7 месяцев назад +8

    Great video man. I can’t lie, from when you had your female friends supporting you and they were putting you on to in person events, I knew you weren’t going to need the apps.
    However, the concept of the video drew me in and the points on the algorithm was something I haven’t heard before.

  • @mczeno
    @mczeno 8 месяцев назад +18

    I had so much fun watching this one, could not keep the smile off of my face. A great balance of comedy and seriousness. Please more Tejas living uncomfortable situations and learning from them!

  • @clem5474
    @clem5474 8 месяцев назад +27

    Great video man. The biggest takeaway is that these companies are making money from the loneliness of men.

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 6 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly. Only from the men loneliness, and for the fun of females

  • @AGoldenBoon
    @AGoldenBoon 8 месяцев назад +18

    Your channel should be at least 10x bigger, probably more. Keep at it man :)

  • @slebnation2035
    @slebnation2035 8 месяцев назад +12

    Bro decided to drop a movie - I hope this blows up. Great job man I can tell you put a ton of effort and energy into this

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +2

      Thats the goal 🤙🏾

  • @anshikan526
    @anshikan526 6 месяцев назад +2

    AAAAA OMG THATS SO CUTE hearing you talk abt her is so wholesome, I always wonder how guys talk about girls after a first date or first meeting and this gave me so much more hope in humanity haha. I love this so much for you, and I hope this turns into something more!

  • @luis_angl
    @luis_angl 6 месяцев назад +2

    i love this.
    the ending is so empowering and shifts the control of my dating life back to me, which is again empowering and the proper mindest for long lasting success:)

  • @fuzzypanda1684
    @fuzzypanda1684 5 месяцев назад +33

    Dating apps can absolutely lead to depression in men. As a man who spent years on apps, while simultaneously worked to improve myself by hitting the gym, eating clean, taking care of my skin, as well as working on my confidence and charisma, it's been pretty devastating to do so consistently poorly on dating apps.
    But where his and my experiences split is in the last part of the video. He went out to an event, met a girl, hit it off and started dating. That has never happened for me, and I spent many years going out to all kinds of events, from improv classes and movie nights, to language exchanges and cultural exhibitions, to wine tasting and bar crawls. While I had fun at all of them, I never met anyone, certainly not on the first one I went to like he did.
    But that's the difference luck makes. One person can go out and immediately get results. Meanwhile another person can leave the same event and say: "well, that's the 136th unsuccessful event in a row, but I've got a good feeling about the next one!"

    • @VumileMngadi-mu8yn
      @VumileMngadi-mu8yn 4 месяца назад

      All the best!

    • @callmeqt1269
      @callmeqt1269 4 месяца назад +2

      yeah hey i wish you luck man - if you’re doing all you can, you have absolutely no reason to be ashamed or deterred
      if they’re out there, someone like you has the best chance of finding them

    • @sabrinusglaucomys
      @sabrinusglaucomys 3 месяца назад +3

      I think part of what helped is that he went to an event his female friends were putting on so he was already essentially being recommended by trustworthy women

    • @singacong
      @singacong 3 месяца назад +1

      I feel you, brother. You've done the work, you deserve some results. Two things:
      1) Luck can definitely be the factor that tips the scale, but as​@sabrinusglaucomys said, you gotta pre condition your environment to "create the highest chance" of luck.
      2) At the chance you haven't done so yet, gather your female & male friends, ask them to give you one last sanity check: is there anything about you, smth you do, or smth in your environment that's still prohibiting / limiting you from successfully connecting?
      Hope this can make the difference.

  • @Stufwgbkuvsqfvuivdwg
    @Stufwgbkuvsqfvuivdwg 5 месяцев назад +1

    Wow this was incredibly done!! You considered so many different angles, pulled data, got professional advice, went on a personal journey, and everything from the editing to the shots to the pacing, wow! It’s hard not to be engaged!

  • @hannanordstrom__
    @hannanordstrom__ 7 месяцев назад +2

    Loved this!! totally agree that the best places to meet ppl is in person, where your putting yourself out there and finding common ground. It's easy to be super picky on dating apps, and the things that matter on apps, don't matter irl when you form a genuine connection with someone. Your able to see past just a couple of pictures and captions.

  • @ak124-e2n
    @ak124-e2n 6 месяцев назад +1

    This is by far the most comprehensive video about dating apps that I have ever watched. Brilliant editing and script. Will surely share this video to my friends!!

  • @saragrainger
    @saragrainger 24 дня назад

    I love this documentary!!! You told the truth and I love how unfiltered and honest it is as well as how good the advice is. Also I love your personality! You have so much going for you, just keep saying yes and you will get to all the places you want to be!!!

  • @mpbharat27691
    @mpbharat27691 7 месяцев назад +4

    Hey Tejas, the effort you're putting in really shows. he way you cut out and print those graphs, then share them in your videos? That's just awesome. It adds such a unique touch that you don't see everywhere. And your storytelling? Top-notch. Keep doing what you're doing, man.
    Your shots are definitely cool and seem to be pulling in the views. But for me, it's the longer videos that really stand out. You pack so much solid content into them. Like this dating video - it's been a topic of conversation between me and my colleague. We were talking about how dating apps are all about making money, but your video was coming to the same thing for us.
    I really appreciate these videos. Keep them coming. It might not seem like it's all about the money in the short term, but I believe these long-form videos could really help draw in more subscribers. You're onto something special!
    Keep at it bro!

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  7 месяцев назад +1

      means so so much!! thanks a lot

  • @xozero
    @xozero 7 месяцев назад +2

    Love this! Ive always felt super weird about dating apps and Ive learned a lot from this video! Tejas still the most underrated RUclipsr imo!!

  • @AlexCarter881
    @AlexCarter881 2 месяца назад +1

    Gosh Tejas, you are so smart and articulate. Also, it helps that you have a million dollar smile. I'm happy for you. Dating is hard as hell these days. I thoroughly enjoyed your video. :)

  • @e.j4360
    @e.j4360 7 месяцев назад +3

    this video comes to me at the right time. and i just gotta highlight how much love and effort you can see in each detail. from cutting out cardboard for the graphics to hiring a professional. idk it just felt very real and it's hard to capture that with this quality. imma check out the rest of the channel! new sub fs!

  • @sawyertardie
    @sawyertardie 8 месяцев назад +4

    Was just thinking about the ethicacy of dating apps and if one can morally monetize loneliness and then I see this on my recommended. Crazy how that stuff works. Great production as always Tejas, keep it up.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад

      Woah... super crazy! Thanks a ton!

  • @stuart3808
    @stuart3808 6 месяцев назад +15

    Number of girlfriends from online: 0
    Number of girlfriends from going to a group activity: 2
    You support my own experience. 👍

  • @DanMan
    @DanMan 7 месяцев назад +2

    you're criminally underrated, loved this video

  • @nicknick493
    @nicknick493 Месяц назад

    this is shockingly high quality for the views it got, great work bro
    also this video was amazing bro 10/10

  • @Justin49499
    @Justin49499 7 месяцев назад +3

    How does this not have more views? The editing, story, and overall prpduction value was 🔥

  • @turboxide
    @turboxide 14 дней назад

    first youtuber I can actually relate to!! and these videos are so well made!!

  • @cheesetoob
    @cheesetoob 6 месяцев назад +1

    I haven't even gotten into the video yet, but just by how expertly crafted that intro was, I can tell you are talented.

  • @sorrygoogle9828
    @sorrygoogle9828 7 месяцев назад +3

    This was really well put together. As another struggling 22 year old recently graduated from college, thanks for the inspo 🙏

  • @AtAtaylor
    @AtAtaylor Месяц назад

    The coffee cup pick up to reveal the countdown was awesome. Love the production value

  • @mystic13337
    @mystic13337 5 месяцев назад +2

    Good message. Dating Apps are superficial and they won't connect you with the right people.

  • @thebookofbrenda
    @thebookofbrenda 8 месяцев назад +7

    What a lovely video Tejas! I agree, it seems like a lot of my friends (in Gen Z) and I all prefer meeting people in-person nowadays at interesting events over dating apps or at clubs or bars. I've met a lot of cool people at events so far with some leading to unexpected dates ^^
    Loved the mix of data, storytelling, interview, and progression! It was both educational and endearing -- a unique mix that few can pull off so masterfully. Can't wait for more people to discover your channel and content

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад

      means a lot! well said.

    • @rob1014
      @rob1014 7 месяцев назад +1

      As a Gen Z. I would rather Die single and alone than to ever have to resort towards online dating.
      I also prefer to meeting up in person through events that I’m interested in. I hope our generation gets to bring back third places.

  • @justincoloma
    @justincoloma 8 месяцев назад +5

    Fantastic video Tejas! Your deep dive is so insightful and you break down the concepts so clearly and effectively. Congratulations on an excellent video and getting that date!

  • @HunterLikesCameras
    @HunterLikesCameras 8 месяцев назад +3

    This is your best video yet Tejas! Keep it up. This style is refreshing and special to you, I think you’re really starting to find your footing.

  • @HenriZwols
    @HenriZwols 7 месяцев назад +2

    26:31 "if you get invited.."
    I think this is a factor in people saying "I found love while I wasn't looking".
    The being invited is crucial. If you had gone alone, knowing nothing about upwork fashion, people might have some walls up. You'll have to show a genuine interest in the subject or people might wonder why you are there.
    When invited, why you are there is obvious.

  • @pauls7612
    @pauls7612 7 месяцев назад +2

    In all honesty man, your production quality is top notch. Keep it up!

  • @unclewalnut8213
    @unclewalnut8213 7 месяцев назад +2

    this video is beautiful! so well made. the stats had me gagged but i feel a little less alone in my loneliless. thank you

  • @BrianWaller-qe7gr
    @BrianWaller-qe7gr 7 месяцев назад +3

    Dating apps for most guys about 80% is swiping 100 profiles and be lucky to get 1-3 responses

    • @judegrindvoll8467
      @judegrindvoll8467 3 месяца назад

      Yeah it’s unfortunate that only 30% of users are women and they only swipe on actual matches rather than everyone! I can’t help but think the amount of inappropriate sexual interaction is a major reason why women are staying away though 😞

  • @sarahhassan8585
    @sarahhassan8585 7 месяцев назад +2

    Subscribed to your channel :) your video made me teary eyed in the end. So happy you took a chance and went to your friend’s event. I haven’t had much luck on the apps, and it made me feel discouraged that I may not meet my person. You are giving me the courage to say yes more often and take a chance.

  • @JAcrashes
    @JAcrashes 8 месяцев назад +5

    Every single one of your videos justs sucks me in. Not in a mrbeast beast youtube way, but in a genuine, impressive way. Your work is on the next level and I really wish you the best for your upcoming endeavours. Good luck with your date.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +2

      different flavors for different people! My goal is to really own my corner of the internet and feel like I'm giving more value out of my video than Im asking for. Appreciate you tons!

  • @Mars-kt1kz
    @Mars-kt1kz 5 месяцев назад +2

    This just came in my feed and wow this video everything was so amazing keep up the good work!

  • @josueramirez7247
    @josueramirez7247 7 месяцев назад +2

    This is a really good video. One thing that crossed my mind when you were setting up the distance miles preference and mentioned the Midwest was that location is an important factor. It’s kind of weird to think about, but there are some cities where there are more available partners or not as much of a gender imbalance.

  • @juliastephens7612
    @juliastephens7612 2 месяца назад

    This was such an amazing video. Stumbled upon it by accident-- but it's the kind of video I'll find myself thinking about frequently as I graduate university. Really enjoyed how relatable it was, props to you for putting together such a quality project.

  • @shriya_bhattacharya
    @shriya_bhattacharya 7 месяцев назад +3

    TEJAS! this was brilliant!! It felt like this video was only 3 minutes long, it zoomed by

  • @edwardcastro2706
    @edwardcastro2706 8 месяцев назад +2

    great video man, really loved the story telling aswell as the value provided with the business income breakdown. Congrats on finishing another great project Tejas

  • @DGAMINGDE
    @DGAMINGDE 6 месяцев назад +3

    There is a point which I think wasn't highlighted enough. Its good for guys to have women as friends. Even if you think they are attractive its nice to have platonic relationships based on other shared interests. As seen here mutual respect can essentially make people wing-men or women. And if a women sees, that you have respectful relationships with women, you are obviously more trustworthy for the other side.
    Also at 23:00 you should have highlighted the "retain" as well. If you think about for 5 seconds this is obvious and a goal for such a business, but essentially says "We need a certain amount of people to stay on the app and not find a date". Should be noted that for a company it still is a good thing for many costumers to find relationships as that in turn increases trustworthness of users and they feel less scammed. These businesses essentially have to build on a system were success is far from guaranteed, but also not fully a lie.

  • @chrismuellerr
    @chrismuellerr 8 месяцев назад +4

    that was just a rollercoaster dude, fantastic work

  • @geniuspeng
    @geniuspeng 8 месяцев назад +4

    Great topics addressed, editing for this video is so creative and smooth

  • @jaiwalke
    @jaiwalke 8 месяцев назад +2

    Great video! Loved the diverse approach to the whole dating app debacle without jumping into the more over discussed parts

  • @JesseNyberg
    @JesseNyberg 8 месяцев назад +1

    Killed it Tejas, been diggin your storytelling and editing in the past few vids

  • @gabodunn
    @gabodunn 4 месяца назад

    Incredible Vid men. Amazing how you developed the topic, one can tell the hardwork you put on this. Keep it up bro, the content closet is amazing.

  • @dorothyladrillo2521
    @dorothyladrillo2521 4 месяца назад

    By the title, you would already assume that it can be shallow or it’s just the type of video for clicks.. but you put so much effort into it and made it so informative but still entertaining. New subscriber here!

  • @Junevalentino
    @Junevalentino 7 месяцев назад +1

    I can say that I actually miss the days that dating apps were free and 100% interactive, I’m so glad that I was able to take advantage of those dating apps pre tinder days. I’ve met so many women on them and even had my fun, this was back in early 2010s.

  • @HussainAbdi_
    @HussainAbdi_ 8 месяцев назад +2

    Better with each video!! So exciting seeing you evolve. The mini-movies concept is awesome

  • @justinshergill
    @justinshergill Месяц назад

    This is such a good video, dating apps are ruining society, when dating apps fist became a thing I had success as I was a young man and just wanted a hook up, now people rely too much on dating apps to meet people but the best way to meet them is in person, just be confident in yourself and talk to many men/women as possible which will build confidence in yourself, also be presentable and exercise

  • @JLDREAMS
    @JLDREAMS 5 месяцев назад +1

    hiding good matches behind paywall is the reason gen z dont like dating apps! Dating aps have always made people have the sense they are commodified, but having to make people pay, it absolutely commodifies people.

  • @kristinabanh
    @kristinabanh 5 месяцев назад

    your storytelling is seamless and poignant near the end. love the amalgamation of factual and anecdotal information too. keep up the amazing work!

  • @GadgetsGearCoffee
    @GadgetsGearCoffee 5 месяцев назад +1

    100% the apps, no matter what the employees say, use bots, show you profiles that they would never see to keep you swiping of people (ex: you're not straight but they show you straight people, or you're not a straight woman and they show you to guys to keep them swiping) it's pretty messed. At the end of the day, it's a business. They want you to stay on the app to make money. You can be smart and game the system a little but you there is a lot of disappointment and continuous bad behavior. Don't let it bring you down, don't be the lowest denominator.

  • @gobarber2
    @gobarber2 8 месяцев назад +2

    Fascinating insights! Well done on this documentary, your storytelling skills are incredible. 👏🏽

  • @tonygarcia4060
    @tonygarcia4060 8 месяцев назад +3

    I cant stand "online dating coaches." Theyre literally worthless scams.., i feel bad for desperate men who truly believe in them... All this information is common sense. Im obsessed with the rest of the video though... I love the dating market, but only because i know theyre dying... Its time for new ways to connect with each other. Excited to see what new apps emerge, ones revolving around in person meetups.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +1

      totally get the sentiment. Tbh, I was skeptical too but the value I saw in Blaine was hearing things out loud and articulated did bring me confidence in actions I would take. For each their own!

  • @selwood6262
    @selwood6262 4 месяца назад

    Dude your stuff is incredible. Keep being you and creating these super detailed, incredibly well-shot videos.

  • @frasnosrep2
    @frasnosrep2 8 месяцев назад +3

    Great video Tejas!! Big step up from your previous ones ( great pacing, sound, editing, mix of information vs personal story)
    Keep it up!

    • @frasnosrep2
      @frasnosrep2 8 месяцев назад +1

      Not that the other ones didn’t have those features, but this one felt a bit different

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  8 месяцев назад +1

      Appreciate this lots! The last part - mix of information and personal story is what I focus on the most :)

    • @frasnosrep2
      @frasnosrep2 8 месяцев назад +1

      That’s great, and I think this can make you stand out from the “crowd”
      An explainer with a personal touch
      A vlog with the data to back it up
      Looking forward to see you hit big! You have what it takes to go the long way (i think)

  • @CBMX_GAMING
    @CBMX_GAMING 7 месяцев назад +1

    just watched a very genuine and sweet video where a guy broke down why dating apps suck and he had more success in real life, which is great! then I realized I live in Idaho

  • @ndjjiekkskkejjr
    @ndjjiekkskkejjr 7 месяцев назад +2

    Just found your channel and I love the quality of your content! Surprised to see your roommate is Kelly’s videographer. Keep it up!

  • @ketchupOW
    @ketchupOW 7 месяцев назад +1

    this was so well filmed and was an amazing story, great job tejas!

  • @FadiFlashi
    @FadiFlashi 8 месяцев назад +3

    omg I can't stop getting impressed at your video making skills!! You're literally killing it so much! I think something about this video was sooo my type (Besides everything I mentioned) was the music choice!!! Everytime a song came up I was like no wayyyyyy!! That song is so good and it matches the story/video so well!!! It's one of my favorites of yours for sure😱 Now I'm very interested to see how it goes with your date.... does that mean..... Tejas daily vlogs arc incoming??? 😍😍😍😏😏😏

  • @mopplop4525
    @mopplop4525 6 месяцев назад

    I think this was the perfect ending to this video. I’ve always had a feeling that our little flaws and imperfections a weighted so much more on dating apps. There is nothing like actually getting to know someone in real life. So take chances and get out there because love, community, and friendship won’t just come to you, you have to actually get out there and try!

  • @lenaolichwer8534
    @lenaolichwer8534 5 месяцев назад

    This is what I've been feeling as well - meeting in person is the best even if it makes you feel a bit uneasy, it's worth the tiny discomfort for the big reward of finding a community. Very good conclusion of the video. I'm super happy for you. In person events are tricky for me because of disability, but I've wanted to go to a " puppy yoga" event for the absolute longest time and this video made me decide 100% I'm gonna go next week. I really like that your video actually ends on a positive note instead of some dystopian dark conclusion about how all Gen Z will die absolutely alone because men and women hate each other. Best of luck in your content creation 🍀

  • @felipebrognoli
    @felipebrognoli 2 месяца назад +1

    Good for you, nice happy ending story. But the reality isn't happy like that for most guys and for guys like me, that have never gone out with a girl that has met in person, a guy that isn't extrovert like you. It's a total different scenario. Tinder still the place where i have the most chance, despite it being so little.
    I've tried sometimes, but there's always this barrier that i can't break, a barrier that i can break only through dating apps. Only shy guys will understand me.

  • @antonioortiz3654
    @antonioortiz3654 7 месяцев назад +1

    The best video I’ve seen on RUclips in a while. You deserve more subs. Keep up the great work!

  • @JanSanono
    @JanSanono Месяц назад

    This deserves more views. I’m feeling kind of lonely right now because I’ll be starting my master’s degree in two weeks in a city nearby where I live, and I’d like to build a new life there. Unfortunately, as long as I don’t have a room there I’m caught between two worlds and I’ll end up spending the degree travelling up and down each day, like I did for my bachelor’s. By the end of the day I’m too tired to go out or even find a new hobby where I live because I’m always hopeful I’ll get to move out of here soon. But then I’ve spent years doing that, wasting them. One day I’ll convince myself that I might as well pick up a new hobby here because I sure as hell am not going to be doing it anywhere else, but until then, dating apps are an unfortunate and ineffective release from the boredom and loneliness, the mental anguish only slightly reduced by the hope of maybe, just maybe, meeting the one. After all, that’s where all my friends met their partners. Thanks for the video, I found it inspiring.

    • @TejasHullur
      @TejasHullur  28 дней назад

      Change is always so uncomfortable so everything you're saying is valid. I urge you to try and find a club, community, etc of common interest. It's those things that have made my NYC experience incredible!

  • @adammoore82
    @adammoore82 8 месяцев назад +1

    This a big reason why I don’t want to get tinder or any dating apps,
    Love your videos Tejas

  • @michaelmcanda
    @michaelmcanda 8 месяцев назад +2

    The scripting of this video is phenomenal!!!

  • @TillTheThrill19
    @TillTheThrill19 7 месяцев назад +3

    Some of the girls I connect with on here are quite interesting. I matched with a girl who shares my love for coffee, which is a common interest. After exchanging a few messages, I suggested meeting up for a coffee. The response I received was, "Coffee, huh? So you're taking the easy way out. I consider coffee a pit stop, not an outing." Can you believe it? It's just a first date. The entitlement from a lot of girls these days is crazy

    • @dmike3507
      @dmike3507 7 месяцев назад

      Too many b*tchy girls out there now days. Dating apps might be at least somewhat useful if you were allowed to search by personality, like "nice girls only pls." Unfortunately that will never happen.

  • @adelaide674
    @adelaide674 7 месяцев назад +1

    This is the best video I’ve seen about dating in general. This was so well done! Keep this up! Loved this!