The fact that the bear seems to represent a childhood that was literally taken from the mother at a young age is sad, but when the mother gave her daughter her own bear that was in much better condition it showed how the mom was going to give her daughter a better childhood
@King what the fuck? Are you saying that getting an arranged marriage is better? You do know that these kids are young and barely know the meaning of marriage right? And it’s not just marriage and housing, you have to deal with their shit, do all the housework, and most likely get abused. I really don’t know what the “sweet deal” you see here is. Marriage isn’t fucking important when everything you have you hate. And if you’re a man you most definitely should not be talking.
I hate when people say it's a culture thing so we should respect it. Culture can change over the years and should change when it involves harming others especially children.
My grandmother got married she was 12.. my mom got married at 17.. but my mom is a strong woman she took decision to send me and my brother to live in Karachi at my grandmothers home so that we could get good education and she wanted us to study and become independent before marriage..now I have just completed my MBBS and have become a doctor..Alhumdulillah.. 😊😇
Congrats doc. Not that this matter or anything cuz my mom dont want to take me to the doctor can at least u tell me why im having darrahia for 3 weeks rn ?
@@Happy_Potato0 i dont have any sympthoms only the diarrhea nothing else , idn where it came from .... I have peanuts allergy and i sometimes have similar outcome after eating them but its just a reaction byt the thing that is happening rn . idn i didnt eat peanuts for 2 months so it cant be that .
@@time_time3038 Oh you have allergy maybe you ate something that has peanuts in it.. coz its not normal to have diarrhoea for that long.. Are you also allergic to dairy items like milk etc? It doesn't seems like an infection because you dont have any other symptoms then there must be something related to what you are eating.. You just avoid any greasy oily food and spicy stuff, also avoid milk and other dairy products as well for atleast 3 days take a soft diet like porridge or oatmeal and whole grain bread, boiled chicken or soups.. Take Banana and dates for Potassium you are loosing. Then we will see if the diarrhea improves and goes away..
@@Happy_Potato0 only allergies that i know about that i have (food alergies) Is spinach ,peanuts and i think soy . from spinach i have stomachache from peanuts cough, sneezing and darrahia and from soy the same thing as spinach . (if i made spelling mistakes im sorry im dyslectic )
I am currently pregnant with a baby girl and all my relatives can talk about is how she’s just gonna get married at a young age and leave us. I cannot believe people still have those kind of mindsets. They need to understand that our generation is not the same. We have opportunities and we can get our girls educated and they can make their own decisions. Girls are not burden. They are blessings. We need to treat our girls right and teach them to be independent.
Yes it's really sad girls are seen as baby makers in charge of the whole house and everything we are woman not slaves to half of the terrible men in this world slaves had to fight to be free we had to fight to be free sure we have breast and a butt or are just a child but that is no invitation into our bodies
What about learning the homosexuality in schools for children at the age of 4 and 5 in Europe, and convince them that they were born in the wrong body?, What about cutting their genitals under the name of "sex reassignment surgery"?... What about pregnant European girls at the age of 11 and 12 from her boy friend?. Why do 100,000 children disappear every year in Europe?
Lmao whether it's a boy or a girl the child will leave the parents in the end. Do they still have the expectations that the first born son will live with them to take care of them? These kind of people better save for retirement rather than expecting their children to take care of them when they are old.
@@Nonyah123 the "logic" behind it is that "men should marry a woman who is as fertile as possible" but they conveniently ignore how that STILL doesn't make sense from a biological perspective. Someone whose body _hasn't even finished growing yet_ can't possibly have a safe, healthy pregnancy, but stupid people ignore that because "she's menstruating"...ugh 😑
I don't understand why daughters Are useless? What is that thing that only sons can do daughters Not? My father is really happy with me and I m a girl...
@@omarshinwari7823 you talk like you know that person personally. Way to go on making assumptions, maybe try and not discriminate people as if you know who they actually are.
@@chemomile9515 LMAO its fact. sick of you western people thinking you know what happenes in other peoples countries and measuirng it by what YOU lot think is right or wrong
A great person once said "Culture doesn't make people. People make culture." I felt that it is absolutely true; we should continue to doing some things like respecting others, etc. but stop what is wrong and painful like child marriage. Hats off to the brave mother and her child.
both, people and culture influate each other. Pedophilia can be a cultural thing (japan), or a personal thing (US), it doesn't matter though, pedophilia is something you can use reason to argue that it's evil
This is just unacceptable I don't know why it's a good idea to have those kinds of fools children should know what love is not by forcing them as service 👊😡😡
I’m an early childhood educator, and the subject of child marriage always makes me want to cry because I know so very, very well how important it is for a child to have the time and space to progress developmentally in a supportive setting. Child marriage steals all that away from them.
I’m an early childhood educator too and child marriage is so disturbing. No child should have to go through it. Children need to play, not get married.
* Cries because I've had a crap childhood and never experienced what it means to have a fun childhood where you play with friends or go to the movies *
@@fefek1 why don’t you try experiencing childhood joys at the adult age? Like having an ice cream, going to the cinema with friends and just acting silly with them. Although you need to find the right friends first. But hey we live in the internet age, that isn’t be easier now. I’m just trying to cheer you up a bit)
@@annastrelets2153 I wish I could just wait until I'm an adult and do whatever I want, but I seriously think I'll end up killing myself before then. I'm only 13 about to be 14 and I just can't take it anymore. My parents being terrible towards me and each other has gotten so bad to the point where I hallucinated my father telling me that they were divorcing yesterday and went into a terrible panic attack. I've tried getting help multiple times, but the place I live in sucks so police and even a therapist turns a blind eye to child abuse. I don't know what to do at this point and I'm super close to just stealing money and running away.
@@lookingsubmissiveandbreeda1512 It's been about 7 months since you commented this. I do hope that things have improved, either by a little or a lot, and that you were able to find a support system.
Im pakistani and I fully agree with the message that we have to stop this “Cultural belief.” Its not a cultural belief, these girls are married when theyre kids to old men and theyre forced to have these life styles which objectify them and I am out raged. I am not agreeing with parents who think this is okay. Kids cannot get married. Kids should not have to go through this. Nobody should have to go through this.
@ademin s2 stop putting things on religion... its stupid customs that were set in the past that traditional people are too scared to break because of rumors of a terrible life could happen even tho they are the ones making this terrible life happen by allowing these marriages
@ademin s2 yeah, I know religions can promote it, but I'm not denying that, I'm saying that just because he's from Pakistan doesn't automatically mean he practices some kind of religion xd
@ademin s2 Even if my belief says it, i still really dont think its okay. You cant rlly say that a 7 yr old should get married cuz religion says they can. If religion justifies it, doesnt mean its necessary.
People say that child at 11 years old get married off because they get their period so it’s a sign that they are ready for pregnancy. No their not. Yes in the mental sens they’re not ready at all but also in the physical sense. There are girls who lost their womb due to a young pregnancy, people younger than 20 who became very sick, who even died because while the logic was there, it wouldn’t work in reality. My mother for example got a severe chronic injury in her back that’ll never heal by giving birth to me, and she was 22 or 23 so imagine a girl of 14. This is straight up abuse. Not only are they making a child work, they’re also exploiting her organs, they’re destroying her health for selfish purposes. Not to say its clearly pedophelia, especially if the girl marries a man who can be her father. Why do they treat woman and man differently? I want to ask the parents, so your son is your child but your daughter is not? They all came in this world the same way, why do you treat your daughter like a thing and your son like human? If you don’t consider every one of your child a treasure, you shouldn’t even be allowed to get children.
Exactly, this was valid to do a thousand years ago, when people couldn't live as long as we do now, but in this generation, even after it's 100% not necessary anymore, people still pull stunts like this and ruin children
My mother used to threaten me at the age of 12 and onwards that she would get me married if I didn't do as she asked me to because " she had every right to do so" so I did everything she asked me to no matter how it would affect my physical or mental health, now I'm an independent woman and soul and still unmarried lol I'm not interested in getting married even rn because unmarried or not , I'm a complete woman and no one can stop me from achieving my goals and dreams❤
When my sister was celebrating her 15th birthday I heard from many of my relatives arguing about 'who my sister have to marry' in advance (after two years). 😑😑😑😑😑 and they decided to make her marriage with a 28 years old bald man 😑😑😑 anyway her parents refused 😊 her parents got very upset that the way they talked about the girl like a livestock 😑😑 so they broke their own relative's relation and settled in a very far city 😑😑😑 These old generation people aren't accepting the world is developing and the up coming generation will not accept to have the same life style has these old people had 😑😑😑😑😑
I was married at the age of 13 and my husband is 11years elder than me . They allowed me to study but they didn't realize that I was so small to hold the responsibility of the child
Remember what sonic said kids, if someone touches you in a place that makes you feel uncomfortable, first you say no, then you get out of there! Also tell a trusted adult
@@indiandude8968 But there are so many places in india especially illiterate people who make their children to marry. I know a girl who came from bengal to kerala to work in a house as her family was poor. She was just 12. Now she is 18 and they are going to get her married. Here I am mentioning about child slavery.
The "child at 14" bit actually had me in shock for a minute. I'm 25 and still a virgin! What the fuck is wrong with people who think making someone that age pregnant is okay?! I'm extremely impressed by the narrator's mother for putting up with that abusive bullshit for so long and then taking the necessary steps to break the cycle! I wish them all the best!
@@servantofthelivinggod6192 I'm still a virgin 'cause I'm a sex repulsed asexual... Which is a part of the lgbt+community. I understand that you're trying to be respectful in your own way, but please understand that with people like me being constantly oppressed by people with bibles, I gain immediate fear the moment someone mentions stuff like that. It makes me very uncomfortable because of the amount of hatred I receive due to my orientation. Like, I was baptized as a baby and I genuinely want to get said baptism annulled if at all possible because of the internal conflict that it gives me. That's how uncomfortable anything bible related makes me. I know you were just trying to be respectful in your own way, but I'm not a virgin 'cause I follow a bible. I'm a virgin 'cause I'm the type of gay that hates sex in all forms. I mean no disrespect to you, but I feel like I need to make the distinction clear. Thank you for the effort of trying to give me kind words, though. I know to appreciate that, at least.
@@LadybugsOpin Well, I did not quote A Bible verse at you, and now that you told me this, I will still not do so. I will not judge you. And my complement remains.
My own grandmother was only 13 when she was wedded to my grandfather. Hours before their wedding, her relatives found her playing in a park with other kids. Even sadder part is that she was 14-15 when she bore her firstborn child, my uncle. And then she bore 9 more children and only 5 of them survived.
@@JigglyPuff_JesusChristLovesYou Back that, it was a common tradition ib my country. And her own parents made her wed my grandfather, so it's not like she or others had a choice...
@@JigglyPuff_JesusChristLovesYou I know you don't blame her. I understand what you mean. But the thing is, child marriage was a normalized concept back then in my country. It still is in some places unfortunately...
I am an indian. And tell u what this also happens india. Ofcourse there aren't many but it still exists in some rural areas. I just hope someday this world would be free from this disgusting shit called child marriage.
In rural areas as well, today it's little rare. But the concept of marrying off earlier still exist. I mean since the govt has a rule that until 18 no one should marry, so they marry off exactly at 18. Haww.
Its not the only thing...child traficking , using them as drug loaders making them vandalize properties is also a problem and it happens due to ppl who let drug dealers take children from orphanages...just checkout the records...70% children go missing from orphanages. Lets pray to get a safer place
As a Muslim myself I say you say it louder for the people in the back. just because an important person something wrong centuries ago doesn't make it right. just because it's not specifically stated that it's wrong doesn't make it right. and blaming YOUR actions into religion is one of the stupidest things I ever heard.
My grandma "met" her first husband when she was 12, then as part of their marriage agreement she attended school 2 more years, then married a month after graduation. My mom had kids early on, so my grandma was raising me, my siblings, and her own kids. She refused to let my mother sell us into marriage, she demanded that all of us finish highschool, was extremely proud when everyone in my generation attended college (not all of us graduated), and before she died she was always telling all of her grandkids how proud and happy she was that we all were living lives that she had never even dreamed of hoping for and that all of us girls were dating/choosing who we marry. I never understood it growing up, but as an adult and realizing that a lot of our cultural traditions aren't the average experience for people; especially in America, I've really grown to understand and appreciate everything
@mandak kart this is not islamic its cultural. in islam it is prohibited to force your children into marriage if they do not want to even if they are over 18 years old.
@mandak kart are you shitting me rn? like i said forced marriage is not allowed in islam. its culture that does this whether your from india or where ever doesnt matter your religion some places force you. maybe idiots like you need to be educated and understand the difference between religion and culture
Imagine the other way around because it happens. What would the media think? Probably would not give a damn since shes not a guy. (Does not mean I support).
My math teacher parents were the same (his mom is only 15 when giving birth) and his father was a 30 year old friend of his mom's father, but my teacher say that his mom was the one who want to marry. So his father were the one who raised him and now he felt alienated when together with his mother and tend to avoid her.
@@UdinJibral clown story🥴 your father was the disgusting one for agreeing to marry a 15 year old and she couldn’t force him to marry so he must’ve wanted it..sounds like victim blaming! Even if she did wanted to marry bc she had a crush on an older men it was on him to say NO just like it’s on the older person to say NO when a minor wants to have a relationship or even sex bc it’s predatory but naive teens ofc don’t see it that way🙄 do you say „oh yeah it wasn’t rape, he was 12 and wanted it..“ ?? If she gave birth at 15 she was probably just 13-14 when they met, DISGUSTING Stop excusing the father for marrying someone half his age!👌
They are literally sick. This type of man deserves to go to jail. Plz girls if someone is doing this to you even your father raise your voice. Nobody has the right to treat you like this.
Dude you lost me at "raise your voice", people in modern society always use shouting and politics to get their freedom, that's such a weakling mindset, how about you grow some ba lls and fight for freedom by force? Like brave people in the past did?
My mother got married at 17 and my great grandma (who's still alive) got married at 7 (means what the hell!!) But she's really good, she supports our studies I love them both thanks mom and granny for understanding me...❤️
@@cloudyelizabeth2097 I know right but at that time people were just like that😞 I really wanna punch those people who did these things but rn I can only give them my love
This is fucked up you at least need to complete your studies before you get married that's another case if you're planning on studying for long time I don't care if I'm 10 or 12 I'm gonna fight if someone ever trying to force my sister in to marriage
Love how people call child marriage cultural and that we should respect it like it isnt straight up pedophilia (this is sarcasm in case anyone is mistaken) Thats a literal child. Why are you marrying her off to have her own child when her body isnt even ready???? "Shes menstruating shes an adult now" UM NO????? thats not how it works Godammit
Oh I’ve seen something along the lines of “that’s a child. they go to sleep at 9 pm and their favorite show is SpongeBob.” in response to something like this and I found it dark but humorous.
Tbh, I really hate this infatuation with deffending Islam, specially by groups which are meant to fight for women's rights. Recently in my country there has been a huge illegal immigration issue and my people has suffered both phisical and sexual attacks in less than two years since they came. Not only that, but Muslim women's are trying to enforce no image DNIs for women because they say that women must not be seen by men, they are trying to ENFORCE US the Islam beliefs in a supposed developed country.
I am from India..and to be honest,the rural areas here aren't much different is this respect..child marriage is common in rural areas here as well..they give excuses cause they don't want to feed a belly that won't earn money but those girls can't earn money cause you keep them illiterate to control them in the first place.and there is the dowry system..those families consider girls as burden cause they would have to pay good dowry to get her married.and the list is so long..the gender discrimination is endless..boils my blood.
That sucks.... sometimes i wish i was a bajillionaire with magic so that i could know when these marriages are taking place and relocate the child and give them a better opportunity in life
@@jasminejelly6882 that would change nothing..I wish I could become invisible and fly here and there in a heartbeat so that I could shove bamboo sticks in their(who treat us women as inferior) pathetic sorry excuse of human asses.
@@jasminejelly6882 they don't consider it to be abuse..they have a delusion that everything they do they do it for the child's own good..and obviously to save their reputation because others will talk if they don't follow the 'social norms' 😂😂😂
this just makes me grateful to have the opportunities i've had as a woman... my grandmother came from an affluent vietnamese family, and her father insisted she get a good education, even though she was the youngest and a girl. they lost everything fleeing the communists but my grandmother came to the united states for college. she met my grandfather there, and they married and had my mom and my uncle. my grandparents prioritized education and my mom and uncle both went to college and higher education, where my mom met my dad. his parents weren't educated and were basically bums. he bettered himself all on his own, went to college, and law school where he met my mom. so i was born into a good situation, and am studying at a university right now and applying for law schools. my parents and my mom's parents are my heroes and worked their hardest to give their kids a better life. i hope someday all girls will have these opportunities. some people aren't as lucky. this video brought me to tears. this kind of thing can't be taken for granted. and breaking the cycle is the greatest thing you can do. sorry this was rambly and kind of had no purpose but everyone in the comments is sharing their story so i wanted to share mine
They must be thinking 🤔 like this way only because we girls are not servants of them as we are there punishment.... Of all this e men's wo think that we are their servants...
*_Why people say_* ------ 1. *Girl should not say loudly* 2. *boys should not Cry like girl* 3. *Don't go outside after evening, you're not boy* 4. *At your age girl Became Mother and did all work of home,And you!* 5. *only boy can do tough work* 6. *Don't do this, don't do that* 7. *Teach Laundry, cook, it's just your Importance* 8. *Don't be over smart by going school,you must have to go to Other house after marriage* 9. *Don't talk while boys or older Person talking* 😑😑😑 please let us fly... We don't wanna stuck on cave:(
This is the same thing I wanna say 😁😁.... We should treat both girls and boys equally...... Girls aren't servants.... They wish to fly like birds..... I am a girl and I hate if people say to me that I am a girl so don't do that or don't do this...... Even if it is said by my family.... Boys and girls are equal... They aren't different... All are equal... So let girls to fly with their freedom 💕💕
I hate when society finds it okay when a guy is 10+ older than girl marries her it seen as acceptable but if a women 10+ older than guy marries him it seen as taboo like what a hypocrite society. Also I hate this child marriage concept which is sad still going on nowadays somewhere in some rural area where they don't even see how childhood gets destroyed but also at same they will hate their children dating someone #SocietyIsVeryHypocrite
I'm an Immigrant, but I would've most likely had the same fate if my parents never moved. The rest of my family however, still lives in my homeland. My closest cousin there, who's around 15 years old- recently got married to this 40 year old man, whos wife had passed away. His excuse was that he needed someone to take care of his son, who's a toddler. He couldn't himself, since It's a cultural belief that men shouldn't nurture their children until puberty. And so he married his close friends teenage daughter, my cousin. She's already a wife, and a mother for her step son.. she was stripped of her fucking childhood, and It's just so disappointing that we live in such a world. Put an end to child marriages!
what kind of culture says the fathers shouldn't nurture children until puberty?! A ton of Black men, not all, but most nowadays are trying their hardest to be in their children's lives while other men (not all) are awful.
@@nayab6129 She told me about it the night of her wedding, just after he'd bedded her. I had no idea that she was getting married at all, I just suspected that the lack of communication was because of school work. He'd also taken her phone from her after their engagement party, so there was really no way I could've prevented it from happening. Her family completely supports the marriage as well, as they benefit a lot from his financial status. I really tried, but my mother won't intervene in case she'd be seemed as shameless. And my f*ther doesn't even care, he himself has a second wife who's around 17 in my home country as well. However I've promised myself and her that I'd fly her over to my home the moment I move out at eighteen. Even if my community will look down at me, my family included. Their shit culture is so outdated and genuinely disgusting, and I'm so tired of the continuous child marriages there
@@ello3110 UGH!! I HATE THIS FREAKING CHILD MARRIAGE THING SO FREAKING MUCH!🤬 If that happened to my cousin, I would've screamed my lungs out and start punching and kicking ANYONE who would've tried to come near me and take me away from my cousin. I absolutely DESPISE child marriages!
Just want to remind everyone here that women in areas like this who speak up about their abuse and torture often get killed for it. They don’t have the same rights there. So instead of telling them to just speak up or report it, let’s stand in solidarity with them and always offer a place for them to run to if they need it.
@@sasori7054 There are such things as honor killings where the woman is killed if they leave their spouse. I’m not sure how rare it is, but I believe that’s what the person was talking about
Ah yes beautiful culture of letting your daughter get married at a young age to old man and dealing with parenthood in a young age with zero help and experience making their life miserable when it already is. So beautiful
@@kenonerboy No. Don't f*cking tell me you're going to F*CKING defend CHILD MARRIAGES!! If so, you're a sick f*ck. There is NO REASON not to let a kid grow up and fall in love with someone they ACTUALLY KNOW AND CARE ABOUT, unless the kid is gonna die early and won't be able to expirience said things of course, but any other argument to try and tell me it's okay to either marry two children who don't know that their parents chose their lives for them, or marry a little girl to a middle aged man and impregnate her? Nah fam, I'm not gonna take you seriously. I believe in freedom, not forcing your underage child into a marriage that they very much won't like, AND keeping them from education as well so they literally have NOTHING but their forced marriage to rely on...can I force YOU to marry someone? Since you're so okay with it, you don't care about falling in REAL love OBVIOUSLY or being treated by your family like an object (quite a few child marriages are done because the boys family paid enough to have her, cause ah yes, I'm sure you support today's gold diggers to so I'm sure you don't mind), so you're the best candidate for this!
It is disappointing to see that people even disliked this video. It is a beautiful video that tells the reality of the world, and must reach a greater audience!!!
My grandma, who's passed away 7 years ago, got married at the age of 14. She couldn't go to school and she could barely read, but I could see the will in her eyes which made her to want to read. She didn't limit my mother, she did anything to provide her to go to school. My mother married a 24-year-old man at the age of 23 (she is 54 now). Well I cannot say that their relationship is so good but my mom's happy with her children.
My mom got married at 19 while my dad was in his late 30s and had me a few months later. Growing up, I noticed their marriage wasn't the best. Now I'm 17 and she's a single mother doing her best to raise me and my other siblings :)
I can't imagine going through pregnancy as a 14 year old. That woman's mother was a very strong woman, and I'm so happy she got her daughter and herself away from that life.
My friend got married at 16 She got her first miscarriage at 17 She got twins at 19 both girls her husbands denied for baby girl Then tried for another baby she gave birth to girl again her husband again denied to accept girl baby Now she is single mother at 27 we are of same age But unfortunately i can see the pain in her eyes when she compares her life with me that i have freedom to do job, freedom to get marry as i want , freedom to go anywhere as i want. I am so Lucky to have my parents they are so modernized in this thoughts
are you sure your friend would want you sharing HER story? I understand why you shared it but if it's not yours you shouldn't be telling it without her permission/knowledge
@@arrowoftruth5726 yes that's true but it's still not their story to share, I understand why they decided to share but no one should share other peoples stories if they don't know, even if their name isn't in there
The mother was forced into a horrible situation at such a young age but did everything she could to make sure things were better for her daughter and that she has a good life. No matter what else she has broken the cycle and that is amazing to see.
but there are also good mothers and bad mothers.! there are many bad mothers who would even sell their kids to bad people only for sake of money.! everyone deserves good parents, but if parents are not good and treat kids badly, then other good people can take their place ~speaking from personal experience
No child at the age of 13 or 14 should have to go through child birth that age or sex for that matter. Most don’t even know HOW to have sex until that age. For a grown man to take advantage of such a young girl…who was taken care by her parents up until she was married….is so tragic. My heart goes out to all the girls and women who were affected by child marriages. I hope the future changes and that anyone directly affected have the space to heal
I completely agree! My aunt was married and pregnant at the age of 15, and when she gave birth at just barely 16, there were many complications as her body was not the body of an adult and she nearly died because of it! Luckily she is okay today, though the effects on her body will be there for the rest of her life.
@@aesthetix3398 Young boys don't get sold off to marry older women, forced to become pregnant, and then beaten when they miscarry. This is strictly a problem that young girls face.
Just because it’s a cultural thing doesn’t make it right or good. It’s merely something that’s been done for a long time and no one bothered to question it. People change, society changes, so too can the culture.
Once i heard a teacher say: "if its harmful to others tradition its not an excuse to keep doing it, not only because its tradition should be respected" and never forgot that
@@ashleysalomon4349 what? Did u read it? The teacher was saying that if the tradition is harmful, u shouldn't do it and respect it just because it's tradition
I am not Pakistani but Indian... This is also a problem here which is decreasing Thankfully... But I hope this problem gets over there too! Sending love and prayers! :)
I know, it is scary. I do not want to be mean about religion, but I just feel that she shouldn’t really be forced to grow up and enjoy her life while she’s a kid. But that’s just my opinion
my mom got married when she was 15 and had me when she was 17 and then got my brother at 19 ....i can relate with ur story this is the true image of bangladeshi womens life ... (EDITED) thank you guys for so much likes (i never got this likes ) and its ok guys ..it was in my moms luck dont be sorry for that ...
Child marriage: two kids are promised to be wed in future when they're older for cultural reasons/two teenagers get married for sooner emancipation to start their own family Child abuse: 90% of "child marriages"
My grandmother gave birth to my mom at the age of 16 and was married young because of her parents in the name of "tradition" or whatever. My grandmother never forced my mother to get married when she wasn't ready and my mother swears that she would never force me to do anything I don't want to. So yeah, I think things are slowly changing for the better :)
"Its not important whether its MUSLIM or HINDU , its important that REGARDLESS of gender they are equally getting treated" Don't spread anything except positivity and love
Its a cultural men thing it happens everywhere regardless the religion in islam its haram and it will not count as a marriage if the girl doesn’t want marriage or even felt she dosent want to it must be stopped immediately she can go to the law to get her right if they forced her this thing is serious
and your a person without a brain I can Promise that there is an even split on which gender disliked this video the most and the reason why the dislikes are so high is because its a controversial video
This still happens in Bangladesh, I have an aunt who’s 14 yrs old and her husband who’s my uncle is 30+ yrs old. In her wedding day I could tell she wasn’t very happy :( everyone was just telling her “why aren’t you happy it’s your wedding” but by her face I could understand what was going on inside her mind :(((
I just hate child marrige. They does'nt want a wife for their son, instead they wanted a maid who would do all their work. Marrige is just an excuse for slavelry. This happens in india also. Every teenager should study, play and grow up. Not for this child marrige shit 😡😡.
Yes also in rural areas some parents would've wedded their children before they even turn 18? Which is illegal because our consent and legal age of marriage is when they're 19. Mostly because family's struggling economically and have so many children so it's the easiest way to get rid of them especially the daughters. Not only that some people that's not from rural areas or because their economic reason are also glorifying underage marriage, think that it's completely normal.
Why only daughter? Why not sons?? Daughter earns more than sons... I am lucky to have an open minded family.. They are very nice and has expectations from me and I will fulfil it... But the question arise why not men are sold?? This discrimination is in india too.... We should have nice thinking about girls........
I can only imagine her family congratulating her and her just wondering, “what’s going on?” Like my eyes widened when I read, “At 14, she had her first child” like FUCKING EXCUSE ME??? My heart breaks for her. I can’t imagine the pain that would bring.
It breaks my heart to see girls from the ages of like 9-13 getting married at such a young age. Little girls that range around that age should be going to school, doing their homework, and just getting their education in general. That should only be their priority/job, not getting married off to creepy old men who are in their mid 30's and forced to work for them like a housewife. It saddens me that these young girls don't even get a say in where their life goes, it's just done for them weather they like it or not. Pedophilia is NOT a cultural thing. I pray for the girls going through this..
my mother was 16 and my father was 24 when they got married forcefully by their families and i was born when my mother was 18..... so it's really sad that i wasn't able to do anything for them, but they are trying their best to give me everything i deserve and they are also trying hard so that whatever happened to them, doesn't happened to me.
My family's from Nepal. Luckily, a good number of my past generations managed to avoid that fate, but a lot of their friends didn't. It's just the same there. My mom started a non profit organization named AIM International to build shelters like the one mentioned in the video so that young girls like Mina can get a second chance.
@??? ??? hmmm actually you know for us it's cruel but for them it was everything even my mom ..... Even though she wasn't a child when she got married but still the mindset was there ..... I think it depends on generations
@@pheonix9821 it doesn't depend on generations, more so their mindsets and how they think, because it's not the generations that did this, it was their mindsets
How old is your grandma now exactly? is she still alive? Nowadays in America you have to be over 18 to get married. 100 years ago, it was okay to get married at 11 but it was also okay to make fun of people in cartoons and stuff. we're a different society now.
@@jocelynecupcake what does my grandma have to do with this? Also what I meant was its the fact that back in the day their mindsets were made to think that child marriages were okay, it was a different society because people thought differently about things, people weren't born thinking that child marriage was okay, it was learned, and it was always okay to make fun of cartoons, I don't understand what you meant to say with that
My mom got married at age of 12 years old, and she got pregnant at the same year while she’s studying, she kept studying till she finished college! That’s always motivate me to keep going… to make her proud of me! Love you mama💓
@@Zainfa4 no.20+ is neccesary.becaz when u r a teen ur body strats to developed for a baby. They dont develop to get a baby at that age.when u r 20+ ur body is completely devrloped for a baby.abd its more safe
It's heartbreaking to know that this still happens in a lot of places today. When I was younger (8-10) my grandmother would always tell me how kids my age in rural China would get married and have kids. How they were working and running errands while I was not. I never took her seriously and now I'm grateful for being this privileged.
Lol you can't have kids at that age, it's biologicaly impossible, your grandma be exaggerating like hell, just the way they exaggerate when they say they walked barefoot through snow to school and back home when they were young.
@@phoenixangel5073 of course it'll be hard to DELIVER at a younger age but it's entirely possible if you have started ovulating. there have been so many cases of kids getting pregnant (not teen pregnancy, mind you) and I have absolutely no idea what you're trying to get at
my grandma was only 10year when she migrate from Hindustan to Pakistan with my grandfather but both they spent happy life .. but we known that every family is not perfect... now a day education is necessary for women not for their future home but also their self-respect
My grandparents story is similar, my grandmother (she was 12) migrated to Pakistan after marrying my grandfather (he was 30) and had my eldest aunt at the age of 14 🥺
My great grandmother married at 14 years old, and my family normalizes extreme age gaps, such as my cousin who was dating a 30 year old man when she was underaged and he waited to make it official when she turned 18, and they are now married. There is something very wrong about having to WAIT for your partner to be of age to declare yourself to them, as a fully grown 30 year old ADULT. This is not common in our culture whatsoever btw
@@robthebob4586 Its wrong bc she needed to wait to her 18 birthday to make it official, so that means that they were dating before. It just wrong when f.e. a 15 y.o. and a 30 y.o. are dating I mean one of them is still in school and in puperty and the other one is a full grown up adult with a job. I think huge age gaps are okay but only when they are dating when f.e. one is 25 and the other one is 40 bc both are adult.
@@unde4d.vampirSo why exactly is it still wrong, all these metrics you have given such as school and job are all subjective and arbitrary. If it was that wrong then our bodies wouldn’t have been built for it. This 18th birthday is a just a government age which they decided on less than a 100 years ago when humanity had been accepted this as something normal for thousands of years. What I do agree with you on is that they shouldn’t date, they should go ahead and make it official by getting married. That offers stability vs dating at any age which doesn’t.
@@robthebob4586 What do you mean with " our bodies wouldn’t have been built for it"? 100-1000 years ago the people dind´t get that old but it wasn´t normal (were I live) that a 15 y.o. and a 30 y.o. were marrying. They were marrying young but both genders f.e. my grandparents married with 17&18 years thy were both young and had no idea what to do in a marriage. And just bc humanity had been accepted that doesn´t mean that is was right and normal. I mean, according to this logic, you can repeat anything that happened in the past because people accepted it, e.g. B. 500 years ago "witches" were burned in (my continent) and people accepted it for about 300 years, so we can reintroduce it because people had accepted it for several hundred years. Not everything that happend in the past for more than 100 years was right
It usually happens. My neighbors were having a tradition of having their kids married when they attain puberty. It goes the same for both boys and girls. One day my mother appointed a maid at our house and we asked for her age. We were totally surprised that she was 8 when she got engaged with someone and than got married at the age of 12. She was 14 when she carried a baby in her womb and now she was expecting again. My mother taught her about the abnormalities of our society and took a promise from her that she will break the taboo and educate her daughter.
It’s crazy how life-altering these things are. My grandma got married at 18 so she wasn’t underage, but she knew my grandfather for only a couple weeks before the marriage and then BOOM, she spends every day of the rest of her life with him. & even at 19 she really struggled with being a mom, I can only imagine what a 14 year old would feel - this is so sad!
Yes you are right. As a boy, I can understand that how curel are these boys which think them as the most powerful and they forget to respect women. Women is Shakti (Power) and without Shakti this world is useless. If our mothers are not there in our life no one will be there and no one can survive. Feel proud to be a girl. Goddess Durga is also Shakti and killed the demon Mahishasura, Goddess Kali killed Chanda and Munda., Raktabeeja, Shumbha and Nishumbha. Life is useless without a mother. Brothers can't take care of their siblings as compared to sisters. Even after criticising Lordess Annapurna (Goddess who fulfilles the food) Lord Shiva had to beg in front of Lorddess Annapurna to get food. If you will read Devi Mahatmyam or Devi Saptashati you will know that women is the real Shakti not the men. Shaktas (Follower of Shakti, Denomination of Hinduism), are the devotees of Shaktim
Mahishasura got boon from Brahma (Supreme God of Hinduism) as Brahma got pleased by Mahishasura's deep meditation. He wanted to be immortal. Lord Brahma booned him and said, 'Neither a Lord or Man can kill you). When the devtaas in heaven asked Lord Brahma that why did he give that boon then he said, 'He will die in the hands of women'. The devtas pleased Adi Shakti Devi Durga and she killed Mahishasura. From that time onwards, she is known as Mahishasuramardini (The Lady who killed Mahishasura). Maa Kali also an avatar of Shakti killed the Raktabeeja, a demon who got the boon that when even a single drop of blood falls on the land, thousands of Raktabeeja will born. Maa Kali killed raktabeeja and drank his whole blood without falling a single drop of blood. Maa kali is Shmashan Charini. She notifies a person that she'll also take care of his son even after his child's death and waits for them in cremation ground. Mata Sarswati, Goddess of Knowledge, Mata Laxmi who is the Goddess of Wealth are the avatars of Shakti.
Okay, it may be a cultural thing, people can colour it anything they want, it doesn't hide the fact that it's paedophilia and child abuse. There's no excuse.
This isn't culture, some people are just immoral. It happens all over the world, from India and Pakistan to the US (where it's legal to get minors married with the consent of parents in some states...)
@@NA-yq4pe but minors want to get married no one marries them by force, I have bazillion stories from my country where two minors fall in love and want to get married so their parents have to consent for them. It's romantic not weird. I guess there are exceptions where parents force their kids to marry, abusing that law, which is effed up, but still that's a minority and these stories are usually romantic.
@@Ken-nb7uz Okay umm, so you hate anything that has to do with culture? If a Japanese person wears a kimono you hate it? If Mexicans celebrate ''El día de los Muertos'' you hate it? If people have a ritual for good luck you hate it? That's... dumb...
My family’s from Afghanistan, child marriage wasn’t a common thing, up until the Taliban rule. It’s sad to see these degenerate changes that are occurring during their rule.
@@samesaiwan All terror groups are giving Islam a bad name, and the West loves to push that towards their agenda, Muslims keep suffering as it gives the west more money and proxy wars.
My grandmother was married at 15 and she had a beautiful life 🎇. It makes me irritated when she told me the works she have done in my age😬I don't even wash my own plates🙄and she managed a family in my age😱. I will work to stop the child marriages in future✋️
@@angel_merin mann tht was wise✨✨ but I talked about the girl in the video...but I accidentally wrote in here....😅 soorry TwT but ur grandfather was definitely wise✨✨
The fact that these type of things happen all around the world but those who go through the situation can't even do anything about it sometime. It's scary how hard and unimaginably tough their life is.
my father died when i was 10. last December my mom and aunt tried to marry me off to my own fuckimg cousin-- (he is already married twice my age and has 4 fucking daughters + he's a sociopath) --just for the sake of money and comfort but my brother stopped it. i just turned 16 this year and it's SO hard to deal with the trauma...my aunt also tried to marry me off when i 12 for the first time. I'm pretty sure my family would marry me off again when I'm 20-22 and now just the thought of being with a stranger and having any men touch me makes my body cold. i can't do anything other than to pray... i really appreciate it if read my story i just want to get this off of my chest.. Thank you.
I just remembered one story, Ann Boleyn was queen of England in 16th century and changed the history (don’t ask me how she just was bored), she was beheaded because of cheating to her husband with her cousin (!) and 3 more man, funny thing, before becoming king’s wife her parents wanted her to marry her another cousin, but she needed to be burned because of incest, (she was beheaded because Henry show mercy) and whats….weird.
Literally my mom also got married at 14 😭 ..She is also too small to handle the family of my father , my mother also have dreams but unhone adjust kiya aur mere papa ne bhi bahut support kiya ❤️ Really my mom is very active and talented k vo sab kuch handle kr leti aur aaj un hi badolat m aur meri siblings ek rich aur modern life jee pa rhe .... 💜 Love you mumaa and papaa ❤️
This sounds exactly like my grandma. Literally kidnapped from her home, had my dad at 15. As I am 14 now I cannot even imagine having a child a year from now, I will am a kid. And yet she did, now living in a healthy marriage across the country far away from the people who had hurt her.
Why girls always have to suffer from alot of pain since from childhood .Why they are treated like a servant and like a pet . Why anyone is not understanding the girl the women or the sister of someone or their own whom they are treating like this has gave them birth
Men know they have to break girls down when they're young. If they waited until they were women, or their age, they would be too powerful to stop them. It's a cowardly and disgusting tactic that's all about control. Standing up to an adult is so much more difficult as a child... and they all know it.
@mobile games well woh sabke sath hota h lekin ladkiyo ka dekh unhe itni aazadi bhi nhi job karne ki unhe padhaya likhaya nhi jata bachpan me shadi kardi jati h unhe ek nokrani jaise dekha jata h ladke suffer karte h par ladkiya unse kayi lakh guna jyada suffer karti h
Normally I respect any culture no matter how different or strange it is. But let's face it, this is one tradition that no one should respect or encourage. We're all still human regardless of culture. And children are still children.
saw this video on my reccomended and decided to watch it. My grandmother was an orphan when she got married, she was 8. my mother got married at 17. I am 17 now and i can feel their pain in my blood, the futures they had to sacrifice for mine. It is a harsh reminder that I must not fail in life and have to change cultural norms. I would like to find the one for me independently, rather than find a stranger double of my age.
This story is related to my mom life 🙁when she was 15 . I was born this really disappointed me because My mom wanted to become doctor but her dreams was crushed into peaces 😔💜
@@bangtan_7770 ils your Mother Still married? How does her husbands treat you or her? Where do you live,, In what city,, mayby you should have search In Internet emails and adresses of shekter for eomen and homeless, they will give you and your Mother roof under your head, good, clothes, help to get firtherceducation, jobs. There are also websitrs of organisation like Too young to Wed, Girls not Brides that have emails, they can be easily found on Internet, write them letters.
my grandma got married when she was 14 and had a baby at the age of 16, she had a very hard life in afghanistan and went through a lot of terrible things. She had six children, one of whom died in infancy, my uncle have developmental delays, and my aunt was kidnapped by her future husband. When I remember all the hard things that happened to my relatives, I want to cry, but now my uncle and my grandmother have a good life. I really want early marriage to be banned absolutely everywhere, because I know from the experience of my relatives how much pain it causes people.
The fact that the bear seems to represent a childhood that was literally taken from the mother at a young age is sad, but when the mother gave her daughter her own bear that was in much better condition it showed how the mom was going to give her daughter a better childhood
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Actually she made the bear, so the mother MADE her a better childhood. Not just give her one❤️
@King what the fuck? Are you saying that getting an arranged marriage is better? You do know that these kids are young and barely know the meaning of marriage right? And it’s not just marriage and housing, you have to deal with their shit, do all the housework, and most likely get abused. I really don’t know what the “sweet deal” you see here is. Marriage isn’t fucking important when everything you have you hate. And if you’re a man you most definitely should not be talking.
@King you’re crazy lmao wtf
I hate when people say it's a culture thing so we should respect it.
Culture can change over the years and should change when it involves harming others especially children.
Some of the rules were created by humans and over a period of time we started calling it as culture while it's not..
Dutch people who still do blackface: No, no I really don't think so!
They can shove this culture up their @$$.. 😠
Yet they can’t respect their religion which tells them that kids cannot get married without their consent
@@doyouknowmyname5319 they just want to complicate life out of nowhere
My grandmother got married she was 12.. my mom got married at 17.. but my mom is a strong woman she took decision to send me and my brother to live in Karachi at my grandmothers home so that we could get good education and she wanted us to study and become independent before marriage..now I have just completed my MBBS and have become a doctor..Alhumdulillah.. 😊😇
Congratulations Doctor❤️🎉
Congrats doc. Not that this matter or anything cuz my mom dont want to take me to the doctor can at least u tell me why im having darrahia for 3 weeks rn ?
@@Happy_Potato0 i dont have any sympthoms only the diarrhea nothing else , idn where it came from .... I have peanuts allergy and i sometimes have similar outcome after eating them but its just a reaction byt the thing that is happening rn . idn i didnt eat peanuts for 2 months so it cant be that .
@@time_time3038 Oh you have allergy maybe you ate something that has peanuts in it.. coz its not normal to have diarrhoea for that long.. Are you also allergic to dairy items like milk etc?
It doesn't seems like an infection because you dont have any other symptoms then there must be something related to what you are eating..
You just avoid any greasy oily food and spicy stuff, also avoid milk and other dairy products as well for atleast 3 days take a soft diet like porridge or oatmeal and whole grain bread, boiled chicken or soups.. Take Banana and dates for Potassium you are loosing.
Then we will see if the diarrhea improves and goes away..
@@Happy_Potato0 only allergies that i know about that i have (food alergies)
Is spinach ,peanuts and i think soy . from spinach i have stomachache from peanuts cough, sneezing and darrahia and from soy the same thing as spinach . (if i made spelling mistakes im sorry im dyslectic )
I am currently pregnant with a baby girl and all my relatives can talk about is how she’s just gonna get married at a young age and leave us. I cannot believe people still have those kind of mindsets. They need to understand that our generation is not the same. We have opportunities and we can get our girls educated and they can make their own decisions. Girls are not burden. They are blessings. We need to treat our girls right and teach them to be independent.
Yes it's really sad girls are seen as baby makers in charge of the whole house and everything we are woman not slaves to half of the terrible men in this world slaves had to fight to be free we had to fight to be free sure we have breast and a butt or are just a child but that is no invitation into our bodies
literally my grandparents cannot shut up about how I’m gonna leave them at 25, wtf at least give me a chance to live my fucking life?
What about learning the homosexuality in schools for children at the age of 4 and 5 in Europe, and convince them that they were born in the wrong body?, What about cutting their genitals under the name of "sex reassignment surgery"?... What about pregnant European girls at the age of 11 and 12 from her boy friend?. Why do 100,000 children disappear every year in Europe?
Lmao whether it's a boy or a girl the child will leave the parents in the end. Do they still have the expectations that the first born son will live with them to take care of them? These kind of people better save for retirement rather than expecting their children to take care of them when they are old.
I hope your baby becomes a very smart woman
Pedophilia is not a cultural thing. It is abhorrent, barbaric, victimizing and outright should be punishable in every country.
this
Sadly it's not considered pedophilia. In many cultures once a child starts her period she is considered an adult. This needs to end..
@@Nonyah123 the "logic" behind it is that "men should marry a woman who is as fertile as possible" but they conveniently ignore how that STILL doesn't make sense from a biological perspective. Someone whose body _hasn't even finished growing yet_ can't possibly have a safe, healthy pregnancy, but stupid people ignore that because "she's menstruating"...ugh 😑
If I'm gonna be honest, I would commit mass genocide on ped*s if it was possible.
@@Nonyah123 shit, thats messed up. :/
Even now many parents think that daughters are burden, but they don't understand that daughters are blessings. 😔😔
yes.
Oh why my parents love girls they think iam blessing for them
in my village still peoples get sad ...when a girl child is born.....
I don't understand why daughters Are useless? What is that thing that only sons can do daughters Not? My father is really happy with me and I m a girl...
@@ItsTheCloudy ya
Man: *marries a child*
Also man: *gets mad at child for not being able to handle child birth or household duties only adults can manage*
And even adults can’t manage household duties and children on their own.
i'm mad at the man
@@burnttoast1076 yeah western adults like yourself cant
men and women from east csn
@@omarshinwari7823 you talk like you know that person personally. Way to go on making assumptions, maybe try and not discriminate people as if you know who they actually are.
@@chemomile9515 LMAO its fact.
sick of you western people thinking you know what happenes in other peoples countries and measuirng it by what YOU lot think is right or wrong
A great person once said "Culture doesn't make people. People make culture." I felt that it is absolutely true; we should continue to doing some things like respecting others, etc. but stop what is wrong and painful like child marriage.
Hats off to the brave mother and her child.
BACK DOWN PEASANT PEDOPHILISM RULES!!
But IT SHOULD BE ILLEGAL 100 YERS FOR THE MAN
both, people and culture influate each other.
Pedophilia can be a cultural thing (japan), or a personal thing (US), it doesn't matter though, pedophilia is something you can use reason to argue that it's evil
Child marriage is a kind of child slavery 😔😣😣😣
Right
Preach
This is just unacceptable I don't know why it's a good idea to have those kinds of fools children should know what love is not by forcing them as service 👊😡😡
Exactly
@@ColdestMorning "*is* a kind of"
I also mis-read it like that
I’m an early childhood educator, and the subject of child marriage always makes me want to cry because I know so very, very well how important it is for a child to have the time and space to progress developmentally in a supportive setting. Child marriage steals all that away from them.
I’m an early childhood educator too and child marriage is so disturbing. No child should have to go through it. Children need to play, not get married.
* Cries because I've had a crap childhood and never experienced what it means to have a fun childhood where you play with friends or go to the movies *
@@fefek1 why don’t you try experiencing childhood joys at the adult age? Like having an ice cream, going to the cinema with friends and just acting silly with them. Although you need to find the right friends first. But hey we live in the internet age, that isn’t be easier now. I’m just trying to cheer you up a bit)
@@annastrelets2153 I wish I could just wait until I'm an adult and do whatever I want, but I seriously think I'll end up killing myself before then. I'm only 13 about to be 14 and I just can't take it anymore. My parents being terrible towards me and each other has gotten so bad to the point where I hallucinated my father telling me that they were divorcing yesterday and went into a terrible panic attack. I've tried getting help multiple times, but the place I live in sucks so police and even a therapist turns a blind eye to child abuse. I don't know what to do at this point and I'm super close to just stealing money and running away.
@@lookingsubmissiveandbreeda1512 It's been about 7 months since you commented this. I do hope that things have improved, either by a little or a lot, and that you were able to find a support system.
Im pakistani and I fully agree with the message that we have to stop this “Cultural belief.” Its not a cultural belief, these girls are married when theyre kids to old men and theyre forced to have these life styles which objectify them and I am out raged. I am not agreeing with parents who think this is okay.
Kids cannot get married. Kids should not have to go through this. Nobody should have to go through this.
Ya
@ademin s2 i don't necessarily think that he is a Muslim just for being pakistnai
@ademin s2 stop putting things on religion... its stupid customs that were set in the past that traditional people are too scared to break because of rumors of a terrible life could happen even tho they are the ones making this terrible life happen by allowing these marriages
@ademin s2 yeah, I know religions can promote it, but I'm not denying that, I'm saying that just because he's from Pakistan doesn't automatically mean he practices some kind of religion xd
@ademin s2 Even if my belief says it, i still really dont think its okay. You cant rlly say that a 7 yr old should get married cuz religion says they can. If religion justifies it, doesnt mean its necessary.
People say that child at 11 years old get married off because they get their period so it’s a sign that they are ready for pregnancy. No their not. Yes in the mental sens they’re not ready at all but also in the physical sense. There are girls who lost their womb due to a young pregnancy, people younger than 20 who became very sick, who even died because while the logic was there, it wouldn’t work in reality. My mother for example got a severe chronic injury in her back that’ll never heal by giving birth to me, and she was 22 or 23 so imagine a girl of 14. This is straight up abuse. Not only are they making a child work, they’re also exploiting her organs, they’re destroying her health for selfish purposes. Not to say its clearly pedophelia, especially if the girl marries a man who can be her father.
Why do they treat woman and man differently? I want to ask the parents, so your son is your child but your daughter is not? They all came in this world the same way, why do you treat your daughter like a thing and your son like human? If you don’t consider every one of your child a treasure, you shouldn’t even be allowed to get children.
This is all true. There are too many broken children in this world. It's just too much. If you won't treat your children right, don't open your legs.
Fact
They women body is just helping them dose not mean they need to get baby's like wtf
@@chikiexx6587 im sorry this is off topic but why do i see you a lot in the comment sections
Exactly, this was valid to do a thousand years ago, when people couldn't live as long as we do now, but in this generation, even after it's 100% not necessary anymore, people still pull stunts like this and ruin children
My mother used to threaten me at the age of 12 and onwards that she would get me married if I didn't do as she asked me to because " she had every right to do so" so I did everything she asked me to no matter how it would affect my physical or mental health, now I'm an independent woman and soul and still unmarried lol I'm not interested in getting married even rn because unmarried or not , I'm a complete woman and no one can stop me from achieving my goals and dreams❤
yess queen
More power to you
proud of you
the abused became the abuser. More power to you gal not everyone has this amount of guts!
yass queen!
When my sister was celebrating her 15th birthday I heard from many of my relatives arguing about 'who my sister have to marry' in advance (after two years). 😑😑😑😑😑 and they decided to make her marriage with a 28 years old bald man 😑😑😑 anyway her parents refused 😊 her parents got very upset that the way they talked about the girl like a livestock 😑😑 so they broke their own relative's relation and settled in a very far city 😑😑😑 These old generation people aren't accepting the world is developing and the up coming generation will not accept to have the same life style has these old people had 😑😑😑😑😑
True
Props to your parents dude
You won the parent lottery girl
Your parents are good at parenting.
😑😑😑😑😑😑
I was married at the age of 13 and my husband is 11years elder than me . They allowed me to study but they didn't realize that I was so small to hold the responsibility of the child
😫😫😫
Im so sorry
I-I am so sorry for you 😔
😖😖😖😖😖
Really I am so sorry for you 😟😞😔
Remember what sonic said kids, if someone touches you in a place that makes you feel uncomfortable, first you say no, then you get out of there! Also tell a trusted adult
All the trusted adults in question being the ones to MARRY HER OFF
These are not the same situations...? These girls don't have trusted adults to tell ya dolt
Good refrence
"Child Marriage is tradition"
No, It's torture for the child.
edit: please stop fighting when did this blow up
exactly
Ager marzi. Se na ho to
Stupid
Its a torture
@@mohinigora8616 yess
@@mohinigora8616 yesssssss
Child marriage is literally child slavery and it's sad to realize that such thing still exists
Is this IHaveNoConcept?
Is still exists because its Indian belief sigh*
@@alpha_jasperflair1097 we ended this
@@indiandude8968 oh thank u may God bless you have a great day❤️
@@indiandude8968 But there are so many places in india especially illiterate people who make their children to marry. I know a girl who came from bengal to kerala to work in a house as her family was poor. She was just 12. Now she is 18 and they are going to get her married. Here I am mentioning about child slavery.
The "child at 14" bit actually had me in shock for a minute. I'm 25 and still a virgin! What the fuck is wrong with people who think making someone that age pregnant is okay?! I'm extremely impressed by the narrator's mother for putting up with that abusive bullshit for so long and then taking the necessary steps to break the cycle! I wish them all the best!
@@servantofthelivinggod6192 I'm still a virgin 'cause I'm a sex repulsed asexual... Which is a part of the lgbt+community. I understand that you're trying to be respectful in your own way, but please understand that with people like me being constantly oppressed by people with bibles, I gain immediate fear the moment someone mentions stuff like that. It makes me very uncomfortable because of the amount of hatred I receive due to my orientation. Like, I was baptized as a baby and I genuinely want to get said baptism annulled if at all possible because of the internal conflict that it gives me. That's how uncomfortable anything bible related makes me. I know you were just trying to be respectful in your own way, but I'm not a virgin 'cause I follow a bible. I'm a virgin 'cause I'm the type of gay that hates sex in all forms. I mean no disrespect to you, but I feel like I need to make the distinction clear. Thank you for the effort of trying to give me kind words, though. I know to appreciate that, at least.
@@LadybugsOpin Well, I did not quote A Bible verse at you, and now that you told me this, I will still not do so. I will not judge you. And my complement remains.
@@LadybugsOpin oh hey! I’m asexual too, it’s cool to see others around :D
@@LadybugsOpin he legit just said he's a Christian. Thats it.
@@LadybugsOpin yeah I did not need to know the 2nd line. P.s. asexual does not translate to gay.
My own grandmother was only 13 when she was wedded to my grandfather. Hours before their wedding, her relatives found her playing in a park with other kids.
Even sadder part is that she was 14-15 when she bore her firstborn child, my uncle. And then she bore 9 more children and only 5 of them survived.
same with my grandmother she born 15 children and only 9 of them survived
Oh my goodness, reading that she was playing the day of her wedding felt like getting shot, she never should have been abused like that
@@JigglyPuff_JesusChristLovesYou Back that, it was a common tradition ib my country. And her own parents made her wed my grandfather, so it's not like she or others had a choice...
@@teamblack204 I’m absolutely not blaming your grandma!! She was innocent in that! I’m blaming those who forced her into this abuse.
@@JigglyPuff_JesusChristLovesYou I know you don't blame her. I understand what you mean. But the thing is, child marriage was a normalized concept back then in my country. It still is in some places unfortunately...
I am an indian. And tell u what this also happens india. Ofcourse there aren't many but it still exists in some rural areas. I just hope someday this world would be free from this disgusting shit called child marriage.
In rural areas as well, today it's little rare. But the concept of marrying off earlier still exist. I mean since the govt has a rule that until 18 no one should marry, so they marry off exactly at 18.
Haww.
We should thanks to our indian constitution for that....
Its not the only thing...child traficking , using them as drug loaders making them vandalize properties is also a problem and it happens due to ppl who let drug dealers take children from orphanages...just checkout the records...70% children go missing from orphanages. Lets pray to get a safer place
@@itzcreatoroffate8243 it's heartbreaking...
@@snehamomlifestyle yea
“It’s a cultural belief” no..it’s a torture for the women
Exactly
As a Muslim myself I say you say it louder for the people in the back. just because an important person something wrong centuries ago doesn't make it right. just because it's not specifically stated that it's wrong doesn't make it right. and blaming YOUR actions into religion is one of the stupidest things I ever heard.
@Greta Wilson Exactly!
its not a religious thing, it's a poverty and uneducated tradition without morals
@@OrganicTrash right!
My grandma "met" her first husband when she was 12, then as part of their marriage agreement she attended school 2 more years, then married a month after graduation. My mom had kids early on, so my grandma was raising me, my siblings, and her own kids. She refused to let my mother sell us into marriage, she demanded that all of us finish highschool, was extremely proud when everyone in my generation attended college (not all of us graduated), and before she died she was always telling all of her grandkids how proud and happy she was that we all were living lives that she had never even dreamed of hoping for and that all of us girls were dating/choosing who we marry.
I never understood it growing up, but as an adult and realizing that a lot of our cultural traditions aren't the average experience for people; especially in America, I've really grown to understand and appreciate everything
God bless your Grandmother. May she rest in peace
In some states child marriage is legal in america
@mandak kart how is this Islamic culture lol
@mandak kart this is not islamic its cultural. in islam it is prohibited to force your children into marriage if they do not want to even if they are over 18 years old.
@mandak kart are you shitting me rn? like i said forced marriage is not allowed in islam. its culture that does this whether your from india or where ever doesnt matter your religion some places force you. maybe idiots like you need to be educated and understand the difference between religion and culture
The worst part is, they always marry them off to old men. I can’t imagine the trauma of being 14 and marrying a man of 45.🥺 I really can’t.
Yes but you can face taruma of underage girl start her onlyfans account
Imagine the other way around because it happens. What would the media think? Probably would not give a damn since shes not a guy. (Does not mean I support).
My math teacher parents were the same (his mom is only 15 when giving birth) and his father was a 30 year old friend of his mom's father, but my teacher say that his mom was the one who want to marry. So his father were the one who raised him and now he felt alienated when together with his mother and tend to avoid her.
what if they made 2 kids mary??
@@UdinJibral clown story🥴 your father was the disgusting one for agreeing to marry a 15 year old and she couldn’t force him to marry so he must’ve wanted it..sounds like victim blaming!
Even if she did wanted to marry bc she had a crush on an older men it was on him to say NO just like it’s on the older person to say NO when a minor wants to have a relationship or even sex bc it’s predatory but naive teens ofc don’t see it that way🙄 do you say „oh yeah it wasn’t rape, he was 12 and wanted it..“ ??
If she gave birth at 15 she was probably just 13-14 when they met, DISGUSTING
Stop excusing the father for marrying someone half his age!👌
They are literally sick. This type of man deserves to go to jail. Plz girls if someone is doing this to you even your father raise your voice. Nobody has the right to treat you like this.
@Elijah what?
Easier said than done.
They can't do that lmao "raise your voice" for what? to get stonned to death a few minutes later?
Dude you lost me at "raise your voice", people in modern society always use shouting and politics to get their freedom, that's such a weakling mindset, how about you grow some ba lls and fight for freedom by force? Like brave people in the past did?
@@phoenixangel5073 for real, people don't understand the power of the freedom of speech we are givrn
My mother got married at 17 and my great grandma (who's still alive) got married at 7 (means what the hell!!) But she's really good, she supports our studies I love them both thanks mom and granny for understanding me...❤️
7!? What the heck whats to young?
@@cloudyelizabeth2097 I know right but at that time people were just like that😞 I really wanna punch those people who did these things but rn I can only give them my love
Well my great-grandmother was at 6
@@kharshithaashree7447 that's horrible, imagine a 6 year old child forced to do house chores instead of playing on the ground....must be sad
@@Geetakhr yup I was
My mom married at the age of 18 and I am 14 and my mom always told me that u need to success in ur life ❣ love u mom
That's what my mom tells me to do- be a successful, confident and independent woman when I grow up 😊❤
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This is fucked up you at least need to complete your studies before you get married that's another case if you're planning on studying for long time
I don't care if I'm 10 or 12 I'm gonna fight if someone ever trying to force my sister in to marriage
@@jituhirwani4413 I dont use any😅
Love how people call child marriage cultural and that we should respect it like it isnt straight up pedophilia (this is sarcasm in case anyone is mistaken)
Thats a literal child. Why are you marrying her off to have her own child when her body isnt even ready???? "Shes menstruating shes an adult now" UM NO????? thats not how it works
Godammit
That’s exactly what I’m saying, it makes me sick
Oh I’ve seen something along the lines of “that’s a child. they go to sleep at 9 pm and their favorite show is SpongeBob.” in response to something like this and I found it dark but humorous.
Tbh, I really hate this infatuation with deffending Islam, specially by groups which are meant to fight for women's rights.
Recently in my country there has been a huge illegal immigration issue and my people has suffered both phisical and sexual attacks in less than two years since they came.
Not only that, but Muslim women's are trying to enforce no image DNIs for women because they say that women must not be seen by men, they are trying to ENFORCE US the Islam beliefs in a supposed developed country.
@@foodofthegods 9 pm, how are they so lucky?
@@bunnilueluvsyou6600 idk
I was surprised when I heard that she became pregnant at 14
Me too
Yeah it might be possible.. Because some girls get their menstruation at age of 11 or 12..
Ya there are many girls who got teen pregnancy at that time and also this time(western countries) but its rare and not forceful as olden times
@@anaghapaul3987 Yes
As a 14-year-old myself, I can't imagine how psychologically, physically, and mentally damaged being pregnant would make me.
I am from India..and to be honest,the rural areas here aren't much different is this respect..child marriage is common in rural areas here as well..they give excuses cause they don't want to feed a belly that won't earn money but those girls can't earn money cause you keep them illiterate to control them in the first place.and there is the dowry system..those families consider girls as burden cause they would have to pay good dowry to get her married.and the list is so long..the gender discrimination is endless..boils my blood.
That sucks.... sometimes i wish i was a bajillionaire with magic so that i could know when these marriages are taking place and relocate the child and give them a better opportunity in life
@@jasminejelly6882 that would change nothing..I wish I could become invisible and fly here and there in a heartbeat so that I could shove bamboo sticks in their(who treat us women as inferior) pathetic sorry excuse of human asses.
@@manishasen1400 true... wish this obvious fact of child abuse can get through their thick skulls
@@jasminejelly6882 they don't consider it to be abuse..they have a delusion that everything they do they do it for the child's own good..and obviously to save their reputation because others will talk if they don't follow the 'social norms' 😂😂😂
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Repeat after me,"Women are not your property!"
PREACH 👏🏻
@ʂҽɾ_σ.ƚɾҽҽʂ people did think like that. They used women to clean and cook and if they didn’t do it the way men liked it, they would get beaten.
@@mentalchallanges 100 of years ago
@ʂҽɾ_σ.ƚɾҽҽʂ lmao
The problem is these are not even adult women yet, they are still little girls.
this just makes me grateful to have the opportunities i've had as a woman... my grandmother came from an affluent vietnamese family, and her father insisted she get a good education, even though she was the youngest and a girl. they lost everything fleeing the communists but my grandmother came to the united states for college. she met my grandfather there, and they married and had my mom and my uncle. my grandparents prioritized education and my mom and uncle both went to college and higher education, where my mom met my dad. his parents weren't educated and were basically bums. he bettered himself all on his own, went to college, and law school where he met my mom. so i was born into a good situation, and am studying at a university right now and applying for law schools. my parents and my mom's parents are my heroes and worked their hardest to give their kids a better life. i hope someday all girls will have these opportunities. some people aren't as lucky. this video brought me to tears. this kind of thing can't be taken for granted. and breaking the cycle is the greatest thing you can do. sorry this was rambly and kind of had no purpose but everyone in the comments is sharing their story so i wanted to share mine
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They wanted that girl to marry their son because they wanted someone to do the works.... Are women servants or something... 😲
They must be thinking 🤔 like this way only because we girls are not servants of them as we are there punishment.... Of all this e men's wo think that we are their servants...
That is what still happens in India even today in many households in the rural side .
@@poulomibanerjee4389 are u bengali??
@@ashokchakraborty1187 Who are you?
Yeah😠😠😠😠
*_Why people say_* ------
1. *Girl should not say loudly*
2. *boys should not Cry like girl*
3. *Don't go outside after evening, you're not boy*
4. *At your age girl Became Mother and did all work of home,And you!*
5. *only boy can do tough work*
6. *Don't do this, don't do that*
7. *Teach Laundry, cook, it's just your Importance*
8. *Don't be over smart by going school,you must have to go to Other house after marriage*
9. *Don't talk while boys or older Person talking*
😑😑😑 please let us fly... We don't wanna stuck on cave:(
This is the same thing I wanna say 😁😁.... We should treat both girls and boys equally...... Girls aren't servants.... They wish to fly like birds..... I am a girl and I hate if people say to me that I am a girl so don't do that or don't do this...... Even if it is said by my family.... Boys and girls are equal... They aren't different... All are equal... So let girls to fly with their freedom 💕💕
Yeah man
@@bijumathew2678 yah😀We just wanna fly like birds 😀❣️
Ur right sis😣
Right💓
Sigh... This is really sad. The ending is beautiful
Dude- 😰
You are here too...
Hi mak ☕
Sigh... Hello, Ray Mak, again..
Sir-😫
I hate when society finds it okay when a guy is 10+ older than girl marries her it seen as acceptable but if a women 10+ older than guy marries him it seen as taboo like what a hypocrite society. Also I hate this child marriage concept which is sad still going on nowadays somewhere in some rural area where they don't even see how childhood gets destroyed but also at same they will hate their children dating someone
#SocietyIsVeryHypocrite
My mom was 15 when she got married
@@amnanisar7696 that's sad 😕
@@amnanisar7696 my mom got married when she was 24 and my grandma in 20
@@binnypalakkal9318 thank god im happy fro them
@@amnanisar7696 yea I think all in my family get married after 20
Now I'm 14 and it surprised me that when she was 14, she was pregnant.
@@heyhoe168 That's true my bro! But also surprised
I'm also 14😟😟
I am also 14 and was shocked when I saw she is pregnant at my age😖
Same like wth
I am also 14
I'm an Immigrant, but I would've most likely had the same fate if my parents never moved. The rest of my family however, still lives in my homeland. My closest cousin there, who's around 15 years old- recently got married to this 40 year old man, whos wife had passed away.
His excuse was that he needed someone to take care of his son, who's a toddler. He couldn't himself, since It's a cultural belief that men shouldn't nurture their children until puberty. And so he married his close friends teenage daughter, my cousin. She's already a wife, and a mother for her step son.. she was stripped of her fucking childhood, and It's just so disappointing that we live in such a world. Put an end to child marriages!
what kind of culture says the fathers shouldn't nurture children until puberty?! A ton of Black men, not all, but most nowadays are trying their hardest to be in their children's lives while other men (not all) are awful.
Pls fight for her. Raise voice against that so called culture.
@@gutiepiettv2432 there are many people with such thoughts, many here in pakistan too
@@nayab6129 She told me about it the night of her wedding, just after he'd bedded her. I had no idea that she was getting married at all, I just suspected that the lack of communication was because of school work. He'd also taken her phone from her after their engagement party, so there was really no way I could've prevented it from happening.
Her family completely supports the marriage as well, as they benefit a lot from his financial status. I really tried, but my mother won't intervene in case she'd be seemed as shameless. And my f*ther doesn't even care, he himself has a second wife who's around 17 in my home country as well.
However I've promised myself and her that I'd fly her over to my home the moment I move out at eighteen. Even if my community will look down at me, my family included. Their shit culture is so outdated and genuinely disgusting, and I'm so tired of the continuous child marriages there
@@ello3110 UGH!! I HATE THIS FREAKING CHILD MARRIAGE THING SO FREAKING MUCH!🤬 If that happened to my cousin, I would've screamed my lungs out and start punching and kicking ANYONE who would've tried to come near me and take me away from my cousin. I absolutely DESPISE child marriages!
Just want to remind everyone here that women in areas like this who speak up about their abuse and torture often get killed for it. They don’t have the same rights there. So instead of telling them to just speak up or report it, let’s stand in solidarity with them and always offer a place for them to run to if they need it.
I agree, Christen.
Not killed off but frowned upon a lot they are removed from inheritance and stuff but murder? Just stop spreading shit
@@sasori7054 There are such things as honor killings where the woman is killed if they leave their spouse. I’m not sure how rare it is, but I believe that’s what the person was talking about
@@sasori7054 nope its true, i remember this 14 year old girl whose father killed her for having a boyfriend
@@sasori7054nah ,they slaughter women indiscriminately, stop lying.
Ah yes beautiful culture of letting your daughter get married at a young age to old man and dealing with parenthood in a young age with zero help and experience making their life miserable when it already is.
So beautiful
Well said
Well welcome to third world countries.
Bro don't boil it down to its worst traits dude.
@@kenonerboy No. Don't f*cking tell me you're going to F*CKING defend CHILD MARRIAGES!! If so, you're a sick f*ck. There is NO REASON not to let a kid grow up and fall in love with someone they ACTUALLY KNOW AND CARE ABOUT, unless the kid is gonna die early and won't be able to expirience said things of course, but any other argument to try and tell me it's okay to either marry two children who don't know that their parents chose their lives for them, or marry a little girl to a middle aged man and impregnate her? Nah fam, I'm not gonna take you seriously. I believe in freedom, not forcing your underage child into a marriage that they very much won't like, AND keeping them from education as well so they literally have NOTHING but their forced marriage to rely on...can I force YOU to marry someone? Since you're so okay with it, you don't care about falling in REAL love OBVIOUSLY or being treated by your family like an object (quite a few child marriages are done because the boys family paid enough to have her, cause ah yes, I'm sure you support today's gold diggers to so I'm sure you don't mind), so you're the best candidate for this!
@@fredericksaxton9782 Even if they won't live long, still better to give them a CHOICE in the matter.
It is disappointing to see that people even disliked this video. It is a beautiful video that tells the reality of the world, and must reach a greater audience!!!
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They are probably bots who usually dislike videos!
They're the supporters of child marriage
You shouldn't be disappointed. Just think that you found some idiots in the world. And be proud that you're not one of them.
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My grandma, who's passed away 7 years ago, got married at the age of 14. She couldn't go to school and she could barely read, but I could see the will in her eyes which made her to want to read. She didn't limit my mother, she did anything to provide her to go to school. My mother married a 24-year-old man at the age of 23 (she is 54 now). Well I cannot say that their relationship is so good but my mom's happy with her children.
My mom got married at 19 while my dad was in his late 30s and had me a few months later. Growing up, I noticed their marriage wasn't the best. Now I'm 17 and she's a single mother doing her best to raise me and my other siblings :)
Your mum's an amazing and brave woman. My mum taught me to be strong as well. Mum's are amazing overall 😍
May Allah ease the life of you both
And grant you mom His blessing
@@NyxSnowstorm they truly are
And thank you!
@@NyxSnowstorm amen. Thank you
@@muhammadzain3717 May Allah bless you as well
I can't imagine going through pregnancy as a 14 year old. That woman's mother was a very strong woman, and I'm so happy she got her daughter and herself away from that life.
That is just stupid. 14 y.old is not capable of giving the birth to healthy kid. The whole family does not care of its kids or what?
Really .and my my grandma married at 12 and l don't know when my mom borned.maybe 16
Ye pain mujh se accha or kon samjhega🥺🥺🥺
But nowadays in Western countries girls at the age of 16 even though there r'nt ny cultural belief
@@shrutisingh5884 I can't understand you
My friend got married at 16
She got her first miscarriage at 17
She got twins at 19 both girls her husbands denied for baby girl
Then tried for another baby she gave birth to girl again her husband again denied to accept girl baby
Now she is single mother at 27 we are of same age
But unfortunately i can see the pain in her eyes when she compares her life with me that i have freedom to do job, freedom to get marry as i want , freedom to go anywhere as i want.
I am so Lucky to have my parents they are so modernized in this thoughts
are you sure your friend would want you sharing HER story? I understand why you shared it but if it's not yours you shouldn't be telling it without her permission/knowledge
Very very very said 😔
@@sameenanwar4069 agreed, and IDK if she/he is sympathizing or expressing how lucky this person is
@@sameenanwar4069 No body knows her name...just take the morale of her story
@@arrowoftruth5726 yes that's true but it's still not their story to share, I understand why they decided to share but no one should share other peoples stories if they don't know, even if their name isn't in there
The mother was forced into a horrible situation at such a young age but did everything she could to make sure things were better for her daughter and that she has a good life. No matter what else she has broken the cycle and that is amazing to see.
Mother is mother.....nothing replace her
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but there are also good mothers and bad mothers.!
there are many bad mothers who would even sell their kids to bad people only for sake of money.!
everyone deserves good parents, but if parents are not good and treat kids badly, then other good people can take their place
~speaking from personal experience
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@@bigbrother7952 true, I can second that
Yeah hats off
A mother face any difficulty for her children. This story is inspired we all......... 😢😢😢😢
No child at the age of 13 or 14 should have to go through child birth that age or sex for that matter. Most don’t even know HOW to have sex until that age. For a grown man to take advantage of such a young girl…who was taken care by her parents up until she was married….is so tragic.
My heart goes out to all the girls and women who were affected by child marriages. I hope the future changes and that anyone directly affected have the space to heal
I know someone that got married before puberty
She got abused by her husband,divorced, miscarriage,and is a single mom with kids 😣
I completely agree! My aunt was married and pregnant at the age of 15, and when she gave birth at just barely 16, there were many complications as her body was not the body of an adult and she nearly died because of it! Luckily she is okay today, though the effects on her body will be there for the rest of her life.
It doesn’t matter what gender you are, it sucks either way.
@@aesthetix3398 Young boys don't get sold off to marry older women, forced to become pregnant, and then beaten when they miscarry. This is strictly a problem that young girls face.
@NanoNano-tk7ev No. No child can choose to do that, nor can they understand the consequences of those actions. Age of Consent laws exist for a reason.
Just because it’s a cultural thing doesn’t make it right or good. It’s merely something that’s been done for a long time and no one bothered to question it.
People change, society changes, so too can the culture.
it was never the part of culture i made by us, no religious text ever supported child marriage the one that support re written ones
Once i heard a teacher say: "if its harmful to others tradition its not an excuse to keep doing it, not only because its tradition should be respected" and never forgot that
That teacher is and absolute idiot and shouldn’t be teaching if he/she can’t learn the basics of life himself/herself.
@@ashleysalomon4349 huhhhhh????? Did you read that right or are you pro child marriage?
@@Whatsgoinawn no
@@ashleysalomon4349 what? Did u read it? The teacher was saying that if the tradition is harmful, u shouldn't do it and respect it just because it's tradition
@@zandi1603 yes
Shocking part is ... this goes unreported.
Say no to child marriage, do everything possible to stop it.
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This story touched my heart❤
really
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Yer
Same story As mine
Yes...especially the bear with she had so many memories..💔😭imagine that feeling
My great grandparents got engaged at 8years old and got married at 13/15, I can't imagine how confusing it must've been for both of them... :(
Being a Pakistani, This honestly breaks my heart and scares me
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I am not Pakistani but Indian... This is also a problem here which is decreasing Thankfully... But I hope this problem gets over there too! Sending love and prayers! :)
I know, it is scary. I do not want to be mean about religion, but I just feel that she shouldn’t really be forced to grow up and enjoy her life while she’s a kid. But that’s just my opinion
@Fathima Fidha rural places in india
@@nittynatsha4346 lots of love and respect from Pakistan 💜
my mom got married when she was 15 and had me when she was 17 and then got my brother at 19 ....i can relate with ur story this is the true image of bangladeshi womens life ...
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thank you guys for so much likes (i never got this likes ) and its ok guys ..it was in my moms luck dont be sorry for that ...
Sad and true reality of Bangladesh.
thats sooo sad thats why i hate these third world countries like india pakistan bangladesh
Wareesha do not hate the country you should hate the people of these countries
@@irinaahsan7001 well spoken❤👏
@@wareesha2625 don't hate any countries. Because it's not the fault of any country. But it's the people's
This is true that daughter can understand mother's pain 😭
Yes😭😭
So can her son
@@koolcloud6177 Yes son can also understand but not properly
@@tashmiyahhussain8190 আমি বাংলাদেশ থেকে
@@ItsTheCloudy আমিও!
I hate the term "child marriage". It sounds like two children get married because they want to. In reality grown old men abuse little girls.
Child marriage: two kids are promised to be wed in future when they're older for cultural reasons/two teenagers get married for sooner emancipation to start their own family
Child abuse: 90% of "child marriages"
My grandmother gave birth to my mom at the age of 16 and was married young because of her parents in the name of "tradition" or whatever.
My grandmother never forced my mother to get married when she wasn't ready and my mother swears that she would never force me to do anything I don't want to.
So yeah, I think things are slowly changing for the better :)
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"Its not important whether its MUSLIM or HINDU , its important that REGARDLESS of gender they are equally getting treated"
Don't spread anything except positivity and love
It is turely an Indian story.
@@amissurani6869 nope
Yes! Child marriage is a crime!!
@@fluffycloudz3085 sin also
Its a cultural men thing it happens everywhere regardless the religion in islam its haram and it will not count as a marriage if the girl doesn’t want marriage or even felt she dosent want to it must be stopped immediately she can go to the law to get her right if they forced her this thing is serious
The dislikes are men who love making women's life miserable .
and your a person without a brain I can Promise that there is an even split on which gender disliked this video the most and the reason why the dislikes are so high is because its a controversial video
@@legendaryevan4670 Omg, found another incel!
@@legendaryevan4670 "Dislikes are so high" bruh, it's 1k dislikes over 61k likes, what are you smoking?
@@legendaryevan4670 incel over heree
Ignore the dislike, even in cat or dog videos doing cute things there's someone disliking them for whatever reason.
This still happens in Bangladesh, I have an aunt who’s 14 yrs old and her husband who’s my uncle is 30+ yrs old. In her wedding day I could tell she wasn’t very happy :( everyone was just telling her “why aren’t you happy it’s your wedding” but by her face I could understand what was going on inside her mind :(((
this breaks my heart. i hope she finds happiness and peace
I just hate child marrige. They does'nt want a wife for their son, instead they wanted a maid who would do all their work. Marrige is just an excuse for slavelry. This happens in india also. Every teenager should study, play and grow up. Not for this child marrige shit 😡😡.
I hate any type of child marriages
All child marriages are wrong. Not just this type.
Lol uhm??? All child marriage is wrong. What do you mean 'this type'?
@@captainngoose I don't mean that I hate only this child marrige. I hate all child marriage because all these are wrong.
@@captainngoose that was my typing mistake. Sorry for that.
This happens also in Indonesia, especially in poor families ("sell" their -still too young-daughters to have more money in return).
I'm pretty sure it's true as one myself. I've heard stories of people selling kids for marriage. 🔥🔥🔥
Yes also in rural areas some parents would've wedded their children before they even turn 18? Which is illegal because our consent and legal age of marriage is when they're 19. Mostly because family's struggling economically and have so many children so it's the easiest way to get rid of them especially the daughters. Not only that some people that's not from rural areas or because their economic reason are also glorifying underage marriage, think that it's completely normal.
remind me of my friends (poor woman) who married at 15 years old to 30 years old rich man (second wife)
Why only daughter? Why not sons?? Daughter earns more than sons... I am lucky to have an open minded family.. They are very nice and has expectations from me and I will fulfil it... But the question arise why not men are sold?? This discrimination is in india too.... We should have nice thinking about girls........
AND ALSO IN THE USA!
I can only imagine her family congratulating her and her just wondering, “what’s going on?” Like my eyes widened when I read, “At 14, she had her first child” like FUCKING EXCUSE ME??? My heart breaks for her. I can’t imagine the pain that would bring.
Yea exactly so disgusting
It breaks my heart to see girls from the ages of like 9-13 getting married at such a young age. Little girls that range around that age should be going to school, doing their homework, and just getting their education in general. That should only be their priority/job, not getting married off to creepy old men who are in their mid 30's and forced to work for them like a housewife. It saddens me that these young girls don't even get a say in where their life goes, it's just done for them weather they like it or not. Pedophilia is NOT a cultural thing. I pray for the girls going through this..
my mother was 16 and my father was 24 when they got married forcefully by their families and i was born when my mother was 18..... so it's really sad that i wasn't able to do anything for them, but they are trying their best to give me everything i deserve and they are also trying hard so that whatever happened to them, doesn't happened to me.
dude my aunt married 17
My family's from Nepal. Luckily, a good number of my past generations managed to avoid that fate, but a lot of their friends didn't. It's just the same there. My mom started a non profit organization named AIM International to build shelters like the one mentioned in the video so that young girls like Mina can get a second chance.
Wow, respect for your mother 💙 Wish you and your family the best! I'm sure you're making this world a better place.
Your mom is an angel
I am from Nepal and I am proud of your mom.
When my grandma was 12 she got married
Such a crazy thing in our society
Stop child marriage
My gamma got married when she was 11 and my great grandmother was 13 years old when she got married
@??? ??? hmmm actually you know for us it's cruel but for them it was everything even my mom ..... Even though she wasn't a child when she got married but still the mindset was there ..... I think it depends on generations
@@pheonix9821 it doesn't depend on generations, more so their mindsets and how they think, because it's not the generations that did this, it was their mindsets
How old is your grandma now exactly? is she still alive? Nowadays in America you have to be over 18 to get married. 100 years ago, it was okay to get married at 11 but it was also okay to make fun of people in cartoons and stuff. we're a different society now.
@@jocelynecupcake what does my grandma have to do with this? Also what I meant was its the fact that back in the day their mindsets were made to think that child marriages were okay, it was a different society because people thought differently about things, people weren't born thinking that child marriage was okay, it was learned, and it was always okay to make fun of cartoons, I don't understand what you meant to say with that
My mom got married at age of 12 years old, and she got pregnant at the same year while she’s studying, she kept studying till she finished college! That’s always motivate me to keep going… to make her proud of me! Love you mama💓
So your father basically CSA'd your own mother when she was a literal 12 year old?!
God bless your mother for surviving that❤
I feel bad for anyone who has to go through that. Pregnant at 14? The body isn’t even fully developed.. it was most likely forced too..
Yea i feel so bad, my mother got married at 14 but she had my oldest brother at 16
15+ is necessary to get pregnant
@@Zainfa4 no.20+ is neccesary.becaz when u r a teen ur body strats to developed for a baby. They dont develop to get a baby at that age.when u r 20+ ur body is completely devrloped for a baby.abd its more safe
@@Zainfa4 pregnancy under 20 years old is full of risk
also you can die because giving birth.
even the optimal body to giving birth is 25+ yo
It's heartbreaking to know that this still happens in a lot of places today. When I was younger (8-10) my grandmother would always tell me how kids my age in rural China would get married and have kids. How they were working and running errands while I was not. I never took her seriously and now I'm grateful for being this privileged.
Lol you can't have kids at that age, it's biologicaly impossible, your grandma be exaggerating like hell, just the way they exaggerate when they say they walked barefoot through snow to school and back home when they were young.
@@phoenixangel5073 you actually can; it all depends on when you start ovulating
@@vmprie you need a lot more than ovula ting to be pregnant and deliver
@@phoenixangel5073 of course it'll be hard to DELIVER at a younger age but it's entirely possible if you have started ovulating. there have been so many cases of kids getting pregnant (not teen pregnancy, mind you) and I have absolutely no idea what you're trying to get at
Same my Sri Lankan grandma used to talk to me like this too, she got married at 16
my grandma was only 10year when she migrate from Hindustan to Pakistan with my grandfather but both they spent happy life .. but we known that every family is not perfect... now a day education is necessary for women not for their future home but also their self-respect
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My grandparents story is similar, my grandmother (she was 12) migrated to Pakistan after marrying my grandfather (he was 30) and had my eldest aunt at the age of 14 🥺
@@puthypicasso640 I hope your grandmother is doing okay :)
@@oblive4623 she passed away before I was born but thanks for your kind words ^^
My great grandmother married at 14 years old, and my family normalizes extreme age gaps, such as my cousin who was dating a 30 year old man when she was underaged and he waited to make it official when she turned 18, and they are now married. There is something very wrong about having to WAIT for your partner to be of age to declare yourself to them, as a fully grown 30 year old ADULT. This is not common in our culture whatsoever btw
Idk why but I remember a certain orange man saying he'd be dating a girl in a few years, looking at a 14 year old.
Why is it wrong? He would have married before if it weren't for the law limiting it to only 18.
@@robthebob4586 Its wrong bc she needed to wait to her 18 birthday to make it official, so that means that they were dating before. It just wrong when f.e. a 15 y.o. and a 30 y.o. are dating I mean one of them is still in school and in puperty and the other one is a full grown up adult with a job. I think huge age gaps are okay but only when they are dating when f.e. one is 25 and the other one is 40 bc both are adult.
@@unde4d.vampirSo why exactly is it still wrong, all these metrics you have given such as school and job are all subjective and arbitrary. If it was that wrong then our bodies wouldn’t have been built for it. This 18th birthday is a just a government age which they decided on less than a 100 years ago when humanity had been accepted this as something normal for thousands of years. What I do agree with you on is that they shouldn’t date, they should go ahead and make it official by getting married. That offers stability vs dating at any age which doesn’t.
@@robthebob4586 What do you mean with " our bodies wouldn’t have been built for it"? 100-1000 years ago the people dind´t get that old but it wasn´t normal (were I live) that a 15 y.o. and a 30 y.o. were marrying. They were marrying young but both genders f.e. my grandparents married with 17&18 years thy were both young and had no idea what to do in a marriage. And just bc humanity had been accepted that doesn´t mean that is was right and normal.
I mean, according to this logic, you can repeat anything that happened in the past because people accepted it, e.g. B. 500 years ago "witches" were burned in (my continent) and people accepted it for about 300 years, so we can reintroduce it because people had accepted it for several hundred years. Not everything that happend in the past for more than 100 years was right
It usually happens. My neighbors were having a tradition of having their kids married when they attain puberty. It goes the same for both boys and girls. One day my mother appointed a maid at our house and we asked for her age. We were totally surprised that she was 8 when she got engaged with someone and than got married at the age of 12. She was 14 when she carried a baby in her womb and now she was expecting again. My mother taught her about the abnormalities of our society and took a promise from her that she will break the taboo and educate her daughter.
now am happy that I live in a very good family I am 10 and I got my periods 6 months ago......Yes I got early periods
@@---yg1cmI hope you're okay 👍
It’s crazy how life-altering these things are. My grandma got married at 18 so she wasn’t underage, but she knew my grandfather for only a couple weeks before the marriage and then BOOM, she spends every day of the rest of her life with him. & even at 19 she really struggled with being a mom, I can only imagine what a 14 year old would feel - this is so sad!
This is one of the reasons I sometimes hate to be a girl.. Men treat us like their servants....
Yes you are right. As a boy, I can understand that how curel are these boys which think them as the most powerful and they forget to respect women. Women is Shakti (Power) and without Shakti this world is useless. If our mothers are not there in our life no one will be there and no one can survive. Feel proud to be a girl. Goddess Durga is also Shakti and killed the demon Mahishasura, Goddess Kali killed Chanda and Munda., Raktabeeja, Shumbha and Nishumbha. Life is useless without a mother. Brothers can't take care of their siblings as compared to sisters.
Even after criticising Lordess Annapurna (Goddess who fulfilles the food) Lord Shiva had to beg in front of Lorddess Annapurna to get food. If you will read Devi Mahatmyam or Devi Saptashati you will know that women is the real Shakti not the men. Shaktas (Follower of Shakti, Denomination of Hinduism), are the devotees of Shaktim
Be strong and fight against them who are against you.
Mahishasura got boon from Brahma (Supreme God of Hinduism) as Brahma got pleased by Mahishasura's deep meditation. He wanted to be immortal. Lord Brahma booned him and said, 'Neither a Lord or Man can kill you). When the devtaas in heaven asked Lord Brahma that why did he give that boon then he said, 'He will die in the hands of women'. The devtas pleased Adi Shakti Devi Durga and she killed Mahishasura. From that time onwards, she is known as Mahishasuramardini (The Lady who killed Mahishasura). Maa Kali also an avatar of Shakti killed the Raktabeeja, a demon who got the boon that when even a single drop of blood falls on the land, thousands of Raktabeeja will born. Maa Kali killed raktabeeja and drank his whole blood without falling a single drop of blood. Maa kali is Shmashan Charini. She notifies a person that she'll also take care of his son even after his child's death and waits for them in cremation ground. Mata Sarswati, Goddess of Knowledge, Mata Laxmi who is the Goddess of Wealth are the avatars of Shakti.
Me who is gay 😂 my friends bully me lot I can't even cry when I cry other bully me more
@todoroki kunUWU Well..I am none to get the respect but I am that person who gives respect to those whom without this world is just a blue ball.
I can't stop crying. Your mother's childhood was stolen from her but she didn't let that happen to you. For your mama, you are her teddy bear 😢😢😢
It's exactly like my mother's story . I am proud of my mom she's my inspiration 🥺🥺
Okay, it may be a cultural thing, people can colour it anything they want, it doesn't hide the fact that it's paedophilia and child abuse. There's no excuse.
They use culture as an excuse to do disgusting stuffs
Yea the person marrying the other person should be 100% willing not forced/coerced into it and/or being confused
Some cultural aspects are not cultural aspects: they're monstrosities. This needs to stop.
This isn't culture, some people are just immoral. It happens all over the world, from India and Pakistan to the US (where it's legal to get minors married with the consent of parents in some states...)
@@NA-yq4pe but minors want to get married no one marries them by force, I have bazillion stories from my country where two minors fall in love and want to get married so their parents have to consent for them. It's romantic not weird. I guess there are exceptions where parents force their kids to marry, abusing that law, which is effed up, but still that's a minority and these stories are usually romantic.
This is why I hate any kind of cultures the good or bad ones
@@Ken-nb7uz Okay umm, so you hate anything that has to do with culture? If a Japanese person wears a kimono you hate it? If Mexicans celebrate ''El día de los Muertos'' you hate it? If people have a ritual for good luck you hate it? That's... dumb...
@@phoenixangel5073 a minor cannot consent physically and mentally. BECAUSE THEIR A MINOR.
My family’s from Afghanistan, child marriage wasn’t a common thing, up until the Taliban rule. It’s sad to see these degenerate changes that are occurring during their rule.
They are ruining Islam with this.
@@samesaiwan All terror groups are giving Islam a bad name, and the West loves to push that towards their agenda, Muslims keep suffering as it gives the west more money and proxy wars.
My grandmother was married at 15 and she had a beautiful life 🎇.
It makes me irritated when she told me the works she have done in my age😬I don't even wash my own plates🙄and she managed a family in my age😱. I will work to stop the child marriages in future✋️
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Man..... child at 14??? No wayyyyy!!!!＼(◎o◎)／
@@aryaarya1802 no sister,i didn't tell you that she had a child in 14.my grand father was a good/wise man they had their first child at 20, I think🤔
@@angel_merin mann tht was wise✨✨ but I talked about the girl in the video...but I accidentally wrote in here....😅 soorry TwT but ur grandfather was definitely wise✨✨
@@aryaarya1802 no problem girl😁
This is heartbreaking, who even does this to their own kid.
The fact that these type of things happen all around the world but those who go through the situation can't even do anything about it sometime. It's scary how hard and unimaginably tough their life is.
my father died when i was 10. last December my mom and aunt tried to marry me off to my own fuckimg cousin-- (he is already married twice my age and has 4 fucking daughters + he's a sociopath) --just for the sake of money and comfort but my brother stopped it. i just turned 16 this year and it's SO hard to deal with the trauma...my aunt also tried to marry me off when i 12 for the first time.
I'm pretty sure my family would marry me off again when I'm 20-22 and now just the thought of being with a stranger and having any men touch me makes my body cold. i can't do anything other than to pray...
i really appreciate it if read my story i just want to get this off of my chest..
Thank you.
I wish you will be fine and escape
I just remembered one story, Ann Boleyn was queen of England in 16th century and changed the history (don’t ask me how she just was bored), she was beheaded because of cheating to her husband with her cousin (!) and 3 more man, funny thing, before becoming king’s wife her parents wanted her to marry her another cousin, but she needed to be burned because of incest, (she was beheaded because Henry show mercy) and whats….weird.
@@tayschannel2695 should I change the history...? I'm bored with the shit that happened to me.
@@DiorC-im8wrrun away. Ask help from your brother. Get a job at a different city.
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I can’t understand how anyone could do that to a child...
If you live in third world countries you can understand why .
Literally my mom also got married at 14 😭 ..She is also too small to handle the family of my father , my mother also have dreams but unhone adjust kiya aur mere papa ne bhi bahut support kiya ❤️ Really my mom is very active and talented k vo sab kuch handle kr leti aur aaj un hi badolat m aur meri siblings ek rich aur modern life jee pa rhe .... 💜
Love you mumaa and papaa ❤️
My grandmother married at the age of 16,but she has a happy life. But still all families are not the same. So I am agains Child marriage
Even my grandmother also
my grandmother at 9
I got married in 14😭
@@taqiyatazeen5243 oh my!! That's too early!!
@@nabrajgaihre9645 what?? Not even a teen??
the child at 14 part struck my heart, i could never imagine the pain she felt, physically and mentally
This sounds exactly like my grandma. Literally kidnapped from her home, had my dad at 15. As I am 14 now I cannot even imagine having a child a year from now, I will am a kid. And yet she did, now living in a healthy marriage across the country far away from the people who had hurt her.
I'm sorry, KIDNAPPED?? WTF?? I feel so sorry for your mom..I hope she's doing better, and that the people who hurt her get hit in the face with karma.
@THEdeflatedballoon a lot of women actually gets kidnapped and married its a fuckd up world :(
@@XDBXPQ God that just makes me gag thinking about it.
@THEdeflatedballoon it's a horrible world 😞
@@XDBXPQ It is.
No matter the age it's still wrong to be forced over your own consent, especially when you're in no ready condition for it.
It’s so normalised here 😢
Why girls always have to suffer from alot of pain since from childhood .Why they are treated like a servant and like a pet . Why anyone is not understanding the girl the women or the sister of someone or their own whom they are treating like this has gave them birth
Men know they have to break girls down when they're young. If they waited until they were women, or their age, they would be too powerful to stop them.
It's a cowardly and disgusting tactic that's all about control. Standing up to an adult is so much more difficult as a child... and they all know it.
@I am Xman woah which boy suffers from this ??
@mobile games well woh sabke sath hota h lekin ladkiyo ka dekh unhe itni aazadi bhi nhi job karne ki unhe padhaya likhaya nhi jata bachpan me shadi kardi jati h unhe ek nokrani jaise dekha jata h ladke suffer karte h par ladkiya unse kayi lakh guna jyada suffer karti h
@@professoralbuswulfricperci1261 In some regions even boys are married off young
but boys not suffer from pregnancy and giving birth meanwhile girls must suffer from painful giving birth and stressful pregnancy
Normally I respect any culture no matter how different or strange it is. But let's face it, this is one tradition that no one should respect or encourage. We're all still human regardless of culture. And children are still children.
saw this video on my reccomended and decided to watch it. My grandmother was an orphan when she got married, she was 8. my mother got married at 17. I am 17 now and i can feel their pain in my blood, the futures they had to sacrifice for mine. It is a harsh reminder that I must not fail in life and have to change cultural norms. I would like to find the one for me independently, rather than find a stranger double of my age.
This story is related to my mom life 🙁when she was 15 . I was born this really disappointed me because My mom wanted to become doctor but her dreams was crushed into peaces 😔💜
This happened with my mom too she wanted to become lawyer
@@bangtan_7770 ils your Mother Still married? How does her husbands treat you or her? Where do you live,, In what city,, mayby you should have search In Internet emails and adresses of shekter for eomen and homeless, they will give you and your Mother roof under your head, good, clothes, help to get firtherceducation, jobs. There are also websitrs of organisation like Too young to Wed, Girls not Brides that have emails, they can be easily found on Internet, write them letters.
The way she was telling the story 😔
@@cutekitchen. im gonna report u
@@cutekitchen. bro can you seriously stop this is a really sensitive topic and you're trying to boost your channel like youre so disgusting stop it
my grandma got married when she was 14 and had a baby at the age of 16, she had a very hard life in afghanistan and went through a lot of terrible things. She had six children, one of whom died in infancy, my uncle have developmental delays, and my aunt was kidnapped by her future husband. When I remember all the hard things that happened to my relatives, I want to cry, but now my uncle and my grandmother have a good life.
I really want early marriage to be banned absolutely everywhere, because I know from the experience of my relatives how much pain it causes people.
I am 17 and i cant even imagine a 16 year old giving birth to a child
i am 18, and i cant even begin to imagine her pain.
Teen pregnancy is a thing sadly
Honey I’m 22 and I can’t even imagine getting married at this point or giving birth.