As a mother of an alcoholic son, I feel such guilt about so many things. Was it my fault. Was it something I said. It is so painful to watch this terrible situation.
I am thankful for the explanation. I see that I had already done this step without knowing it. It is a helpless feeling but, grasping that concept is essential.
Unmanageable in step one means my own broken thinking can't fix my own broken thinking. I am not management material even when it comes to running my own life. That kind of management comes from a power greater than myself. (See step 2 for details)
Great video. Not only great content for review of my own recovery program, but very helpful for me as a new Sponsor. But I'd say, the "we" and the use of past tense are important. It connects us to a fellowship of millions who suffer, and that there are things we did (experience) which, with God, helped to build our strength and hope. So, to make it personal, I might offer: "I admit now, just as we, my fellow recovery seekers have done, that I am powerless...." God Bless you!
Where can I buy your book? I am not an alcoholic but a close friend is and seeking to understand helps me see what is going on in a more of an understanding position rather than getting angry. Helps me make a decision if I want to stay around.
My mom is going through a living hell , because her boyfriend is a chronic alcoholic he needs beer twenty four seven , all day all night and if he don't get his beer he goes crazy and when he gets his beer he gets very violent what do I do ??,,,,
I need help!!😥 My Mom Linda turned to Alcohol since her Husband 😇Dave Sanders was murdered at Columbine High school on April 20th 1999.💙 #davesandersstepdaughter 🦋
Step 1 isn't telling me I can't drink alcohol it's telling me I'm going to drink alcohol and there isn't a dam thing I can do about it. If there was something I could do I would have done it years ago and not continued to burn my life to the ground time and time again. There is no hope in the first step. If you aren't powerless over alcohol then just stop drinking. Why would I need to come to AA if I could just stop on my own. The first step is you figuring out if you truly have this allergy to alcohol and this mind that guarantees you are going to keep drinking alcohol. Normal drinkers dont experience this. If you experience this you are in more trouble than you can even imagine. Not recognizing the trouble your in is what kills most alcoholics. One of the hardest things I do when I take other guys through the steps is getting then to see there truth in the first step. Once they see there truth Step 2 becomes very easy. Do you believe or are you willing to believe in something greater than yourself? If they truly understand Step 1 there answer will be....There better be something out there greater than myself that can help me or I'm dead.
I'm not keen on the Bible thumping. I told my mother she should not thank God for her sobriety, but to praise her own fortitude and the support of her loved ones
What is Bible thumping? Do you have to Bible thump to believe in God? I believe the Bible is a pathway to get to know God but the Bible itself is not God.
You told another person who they should thank for their sobriety? Maybe she is grateful for family support, her own fortitude and a higher power. Many times, family members, after having helped the alcoholic with money, legal problems,, accommodation, comfort etc. get resentful when the alkie gets sober and is grateful to their fellow sufferers or their higher power. This is an understandable response when they have put themselves out for the alcoholic. However, with time for the alcoholic to realize what their loved ones have done for them and your gratitude for them being sober, which is ultimately what you wanted, these things can all be resolved. May I suggest AlAnon as people who love an alcoholic get hurt & may also need the 12 steps. It also gives you something very important in common with the alcoholic. All the best.
According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, evidence shows that roughly 90% of people with alcoholism relapse within 4 years after completing treatment. Relapse is normal, common, and to be expected. It's a lifetime struggle. There is no cure, the disease can only be arrested.
Marvin, why would u want to give a negative comment and discourage people who want to recover?.....most likely because you are an addiction professional who wants to make some money from alcoholics.......and u do not like the idea that alcoholics are recovering free of cost in AA
Michelle Fondin I do not agree. I am a very proficient energy reader (which I feel very blessed for) and this is not the energy it reads. It is a choice, then an addiction. A disease is classified as a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, or a disordered or incorrectly functioning organ, part, structure or system of the body resulting from the effect of genetic or developmental errors, infection, poisons, nutritional deficiency or imbalance, toxicity, or unfavorable environmental factors. Alcoholism is none of these. Drinking alcohol can put your body in dis-ease, and give one a disease, but it is not a disease.
Victoria Strong totally agree however others say that the disease is due to the fact an alcoholics brain is wired differently? I’m not sure where the proof is of this and what came first, I suspect as you suggest that the alcohol abuse has caused the brains neural pathways to break down. Their brains are wired differently POST alcoholism not PRE
@@MichelleFondinAuthor I don’t feel it’s enough to say it’s a disease just because someone said it was 100 years ago. We are advancing all the time. The initial lack of self control can start an addiction which then leads to a disease. The reason a lot don’t get help for their drinking is that they enjoy drinking too much.
Is exactly everything I was going thru with my husband that I couldn't control him to stop but now he realizes and look for help and I'm really proud
And I know is a big process but is for his own good
As a mother of an alcoholic son, I feel such guilt about so many things. Was it my fault. Was it something I said.
It is so painful to watch this terrible situation.
Remember the three C’s. We didn’t cause it. We can’t control it. We can’t cure it.
TY for this Michelle. Just starting Step 1 (Alanon).
I am thankful for the explanation. I see that I had already done this step without knowing it. It is a helpless feeling but, grasping that concept is essential.
Wow. More people need to hear your message here. I am waking up.
Thanks!
Wow. You put a lot of things in perspective for me. I am grateful for you 💛
So happy it resonated!!
This is good because there's no meetings now from the corv19 and i need this
There are likely to be online meetings over Zoom. :)
Awesome thank you. 💯
Unmanageable in step one means my own broken thinking can't fix my own broken thinking. I am not management material even when it comes to running my own life. That kind of management comes from a power greater than myself. (See step 2 for details)
Step 1. Admitted I was powerless over alcohol and my life has become unmanageable. (Alanon)
Great video. Not only great content for review of my own recovery program, but very helpful for me as a new Sponsor.
But I'd say, the "we" and the use of past tense are important. It connects us to a fellowship of millions who suffer, and that there are things we did (experience) which, with God, helped to build our strength and hope.
So, to make it personal, I might offer: "I admit now, just as we, my fellow recovery seekers have done, that I am powerless...."
God Bless you!
You're welcome and thank you for viewing and reviewing! :)
Also do you suggest writing out the step and not moving on until you grasp the idea?
Thank you for explaining so well.
You are amazing Michelle, your explanation helps
Where can I buy your book? I am not an alcoholic but a close friend is and seeking to understand helps me see what is going on in a more of an understanding position rather than getting angry. Helps me make a decision if I want to stay around.
Keep smiling with the Happy Talk.........
thanks for your open honest explanation
You're very welcome! :)
My mom is going through a living hell , because her boyfriend is a chronic alcoholic he needs beer twenty four seven , all day all night and if he don't get his beer he goes crazy and when he gets his beer he gets very violent what do I do ??,,,,
Encourage her to get to an Al Anon meeting 🙏
Your enthusiasm is contagious :)
Thank you! :)
I need help!!😥
My Mom Linda turned to Alcohol since her Husband 😇Dave Sanders was murdered at Columbine High school on April 20th 1999.💙
#davesandersstepdaughter 🦋
Step 1 isn't telling me I can't drink alcohol it's telling me I'm going to drink alcohol and there isn't a dam thing I can do about it. If there was something I could do I would have done it years ago and not continued to burn my life to the ground time and time again. There is no hope in the first step. If you aren't powerless over alcohol then just stop drinking. Why would I need to come to AA if I could just stop on my own. The first step is you figuring out if you truly have this allergy to alcohol and this mind that guarantees you are going to keep drinking alcohol. Normal drinkers dont experience this. If you experience this you are in more trouble than you can even imagine. Not recognizing the trouble your in is what kills most alcoholics. One of the hardest things I do when I take other guys through the steps is getting then to see there truth in the first step. Once they see there truth Step 2 becomes very easy. Do you believe or are you willing to believe in something greater than yourself? If they truly understand Step 1 there answer will be....There better be something out there greater than myself that can help me or I'm dead.
Step one is called diffusing denial something all alcoholics and addicts deal with.
Good morning everybody
Really great explanation. Thank you.
You should talk to Donald mahar Jr he's going wrote an amazing book maybe u could help him
I'm not keen on the Bible thumping. I told my mother she should not thank God for her sobriety, but to praise her own fortitude and the support of her loved ones
What is Bible thumping? Do you have to Bible thump to believe in God? I believe the Bible is a pathway to get to know God but the Bible itself is not God.
You told another person who they should thank for their sobriety? Maybe she is grateful for family support, her own fortitude and a higher power. Many times, family members, after having helped the alcoholic with money, legal problems,, accommodation, comfort etc. get resentful when the alkie gets sober and is grateful to their fellow sufferers or their higher power. This is an understandable response when they have put themselves out for the alcoholic. However, with time for the alcoholic to realize what their loved ones have done for them and your gratitude for them being sober, which is ultimately what you wanted, these things can all be resolved. May I suggest AlAnon as people who love an alcoholic get hurt & may also need the 12 steps. It also gives you something very important in common with the alcoholic. All the best.
Most 12 step members of any of the fellowships aren't bible thumpers. Some of us are even agnostics or atheists and we can still do the steps.
Amen!
Anne?
AA is not the secret to sobriety. Over 60% of members relapse.
According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, evidence shows that roughly 90% of people with alcoholism relapse within 4 years after completing treatment. Relapse is normal, common, and to be expected. It's a lifetime struggle. There is no cure, the disease can only be arrested.
Marvin, why would u want to give a negative comment and discourage people who want to recover?.....most likely because you are an addiction professional who wants to make some money from alcoholics.......and u do not like the idea that alcoholics are recovering free of cost in AA
Why do you keep calling alcoholism a disease?
Because it is. It was medically declared as a disease over 100 years ago in the United States and has been in medical annals since as such.
Michelle Fondin I do not agree. I am a very proficient energy reader (which I feel very blessed for) and this is not the energy it reads. It is a choice, then an addiction. A disease is classified as a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, or a disordered or incorrectly functioning organ, part, structure or system of the body resulting from the effect of genetic or developmental errors, infection, poisons, nutritional deficiency or imbalance, toxicity, or unfavorable environmental factors. Alcoholism is none of these. Drinking alcohol can put your body in dis-ease, and give one a disease, but it is not a disease.
Victoria Strong totally agree however others say that the disease is due to the fact an alcoholics brain is wired differently? I’m not sure where the proof is of this and what came first, I suspect as you suggest that the alcohol abuse has caused the brains neural pathways to break down. Their brains are wired differently POST alcoholism not PRE
@@TheArtOfLight999 totally agree. It is a self inflicted disease.
@@MichelleFondinAuthor I don’t feel it’s enough to say it’s a disease just because someone said it was 100 years ago. We are advancing all the time. The initial lack of self control can start an addiction which then leads to a disease. The reason a lot don’t get help for their drinking is that they enjoy drinking too much.
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