Why Negative Thoughts are Not Your Fault

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  • Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2024

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  • @annieandaj
    @annieandaj 7 месяцев назад +16

    One of my favorite quotes is from Dr. Howard Schubiner...."It's not the stress that causes the symptoms, it's the feeling that you can't handle the stress". This video of yours is also one of my favorites and emphasizes this again. We're always handling our experiences no matter what we're thinking/feeling and yet we don't believe that we are.
    To really see that we're present no matter what's going on is such a ground breaking insight. Life is constantly moving/changing yet, underneath all that change, we're safe and sound. Thank you so much Dan for your very down to earth explorations of what we, as humans, all share. It's very hard to verbalize these insights and your honest and straight forward expressions are opening up the simplicity of it all. Admitting that life isn't meant to always be a bed of roses is the key. We're here no matter what.

    • @kylehuisman3574
      @kylehuisman3574 7 месяцев назад +1

      Yup, very wise. We’re built to handle stress naturally, and stress moves us forward and helps us grow in life. It’s stressing about stress that causes problems.

  • @marieleak8731
    @marieleak8731 7 месяцев назад +13

    As Louise Hay always said and I remind myself, it's only a thought and a thought can be changed. Thanks Dan for saying It's not my fault. 🥰

  • @krisleeh433
    @krisleeh433 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for teaching!💘

  • @Bachconcertos
    @Bachconcertos 7 месяцев назад +14

    I woke up from a long morning nightmare - i have them often and rarely had them before now i have them the past four months now - i wake up exhausted. I turned on this video with the message of beautiful day so im getting out of bed. 😊

  • @susanmccachren9267
    @susanmccachren9267 7 месяцев назад +2

    Incredible you have built upon Dr. Sarno's great work and taken it to a new, brilliant level specially with FEAR as the root cause .. I'm grateful having been pain free for a few yrs then panic/anxiety 18 mos ago which I understand now in clear, sensible terms w a proven path forward. Thank you, Dan!

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much. Fear = perceived danger. (conscious and even subconscious)

  • @nothingspecial598
    @nothingspecial598 7 месяцев назад +3

    In the past several months I've become more aware of how much self blame and self judging I've been doing. Definitely does not help with feeling safe. Been trying to talk to myself in a Mr Rogers voice more. Also thinking of little things that I'm grateful for or praising myself before bed helps with falling asleep

  • @dreamsatnight
    @dreamsatnight 7 месяцев назад +12

    Thanks as always for guiding us through all ups and downs Dan! Recently arrived at the same feeling of "this is not my fault. The reason my symptoms exist and show up like this is not because of me. Similarly, it is not my fault that the symptoms show up because I did or didn't do something." I can guarantee, even this small act of kindness toward myself, lifting that burden of being responsible for the cause of my TMS symptoms has been helping me so much. I want to also implement this on negative thoughts and emotions toward myself. Thanks again! ❤

  • @Planty-Mandy
    @Planty-Mandy 7 месяцев назад +7

    Negative thoughts = helicopters! “Oh look, a negative thought.” And let it pass on by. 😉

  • @PredatorZzGaming
    @PredatorZzGaming 7 месяцев назад +9

    This is a huge problem for me, I'm battling them everyday, they crucify me at the minute. Thanks for this Dan. I do see the resistance holds them in place.xx

  • @CharleneSawe
    @CharleneSawe 7 месяцев назад +4

    Loved this. Have negative thoughts all day long. I ask the higher powers of myself to bring me joy. Do try to stop the negative but as you said its exhausting. BTY Loved the helicoper going over, my mother worked for Sikorsky in Connecticut for almost 25 years so saw it as a sign to listen to this input from you very seriously.! Thank you Dan. Your videos are VERY helpful! Many Blessings.

  • @alexandrecouture2462
    @alexandrecouture2462 7 месяцев назад +12

    There is an helicopter going over Dan's backyard, to check if he's still having negative thoughts. :)

    • @Inge508
      @Inge508 7 месяцев назад +5

      Hihihi he didn’t land so he must be okay 😂

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  7 месяцев назад +4

      Hahaha

  • @maheshcv-wr5ns
    @maheshcv-wr5ns 7 месяцев назад +5

    Thanks Dan for another nice message. Negative thoughts related to emotions come to me while ruminating on past trauma caused by emotional abuse. I have multiple chronic issues from many years so health anxiety drives many sych negative thoughts. I realise fear is the core thing. Irony is how these things fuel a cycle of emotions and sometimes new symptoms leading to more anxiety. These messages gave helped Pray that all folks get progress and better health and peace

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  7 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @lorrainebrown7263
    @lorrainebrown7263 7 месяцев назад +1

    I always wake with a negative thought. I’m aware I am not my brain. Overthinking is a hard thing to stop doing. It’s good to be reminded of the fact that I didn’t generate them deliberately.

  • @Inge508
    @Inge508 7 месяцев назад +11

    When something negative comes on in my mind, I don’t engage in it.. because that engagement can cause a real negative belief about yourself or a situation..
    the shortcut is just allowing it and let it pass by.
    Sorry you’re dealing with emotional stuff, Dan.
    We all do from time to time but I always see it as an opportunity to look at myself and also try to look through the eyes of the person I’m in ‘ conflict’ with.
    Sometimes being empathetic about what the other person feels is already part of a solution- or first step.
    Lots of optimistic thought- patterns for you and everyone!
    Big compassionate hug 🤗 ❤

    • @LilyOscar333
      @LilyOscar333 7 месяцев назад +2

      Morning Inge, yes allowing them and let them pass is the key .. well said 👏 Enjoy the weekend.. healing ❤️‍🩹 hugs 🤗 from Dublin ☘️💚

    • @Inge508
      @Inge508 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@LilyOscar333 thanks dear! Enjoy a festive weekend overthere! I’m taking it easy because of a severe migraine.. looking forward to see it flow by,😀xx

    • @LilyOscar333
      @LilyOscar333 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@Inge508thank you Inge 💚 I Will light candle 🕯️for you. That migraine will flow away. 🌺❤️🌺

    • @Inge508
      @Inge508 7 месяцев назад +4

      @@LilyOscar333sweet sweet Lily! Appreciate ❤❤❤

    • @marieleak8731
      @marieleak8731 7 месяцев назад

      Sending Hugs Inge. @@Inge508 💕💕💕💕

  • @kathy.7475
    @kathy.7475 7 месяцев назад +1

    I’m reading a book, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. It is changing my outlook. Now negative thoughts are allowed to pass through me without affecting me. I’m able to keep my heart open and not closed down due to negative thoughts.

  • @c.h.mastenbroek9683
    @c.h.mastenbroek9683 7 месяцев назад +3

    Also have them: ruminating over past relationship.

  • @wednesdayschild3627
    @wednesdayschild3627 7 месяцев назад +2

    I spent a fortune on psychologists. Useless...they beat people up for it. You helped... this was all a normal growth experience, but I didn't know that.

  • @LilyOscar333
    @LilyOscar333 7 месяцев назад +5

    Morning Dan yes our thoughts are the problem! and it’s funny they tend to be negative 😮! We need to recognise them for what they are .. ‘ just thoughts’ and let them pass. Sometimes easier said than done. A great reminder Dan 👏Enjoy the weekend ☘️💚 It’s a long St Patrick’s weekend in Ireland 🇮🇪

    • @Inge508
      @Inge508 7 месяцев назад +3

      ❤️❤️❤️🙋‍♀️

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  7 месяцев назад +2

      Absolutely!! St Patty's weekend here too. Enjoy!!

  • @unclemick-synths
    @unclemick-synths 7 месяцев назад +2

    My imagination keeps having arguments with people (some I've encountered and some I hope I never encounter!). I used to try reasoning with my brain how it's a waste of emotional energy but lately I've had more success simply telling the thought "Oh p***-off!" and mentally turning and walking away from it.
    Edit: I know where this comes from - I get tongue-tied very easily so my brain is trying to protect me by rehearsing ad-libs for dealing with people who are blessed/cursed with a smart mouth.

  • @ajyvr305
    @ajyvr305 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks Dan for the reminder of where the "ANTS" concept came from. I mentioned it in the comments awhile back and found it helpful. Gorgeous sunshine here too! Enjoy your weekend 🌅🙂🐾

  • @missyg21
    @missyg21 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks Dan

  • @Mevab-vk8ei
    @Mevab-vk8ei 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you

  • @manos1710
    @manos1710 7 месяцев назад +2

    Please make another video of a TMS cpps success story !!! Thank you very much for everything you do!!! Greetings from Athens Greece 🇬🇷🇬🇷🇬🇷

  • @aauuaauu
    @aauuaauu 7 месяцев назад

    Perfectly imperfect ❤

  • @lindascott7644
    @lindascott7644 7 месяцев назад

    ❤ Lots of food for thought...

  • @IndialienJones
    @IndialienJones 7 месяцев назад

    I was just diagnosed with deep vein insufficiency. I've also noticed increased vascularity in my forearms. My fearful thoughts about it are relentless. I wish I could say my symptoms were all down to TMS and not from an actual physical disease. My thoughts about it scare and worry me a great deal. The same can be said about my ongoing post concussive symptoms. The symptoms are relentless every day and my thoughts center around being afraid I'm never going to heal and feel normal again. It's difficult to let go and accept feeling horrible and that you have a disease that the vascular doctor told me is incurable. They can't do anything to treat deep vein valve issues. I don't even know how I wound up with it in the first place. I don't have the risk factors for it. I don't know how to approach the thoughts surrounding this. It's draining the life out of me.

  • @danaamiller
    @danaamiller 7 месяцев назад

    Question Dan, Are Autoimmune diseases like Lichen planus of the mouth, skin or genitals PDP/TMS in your opinion?🙏

    • @1STBUCKLEY
      @1STBUCKLEY 7 месяцев назад +1

      Take the test

    • @kathy.7475
      @kathy.7475 7 месяцев назад +1

      I have a friend with Lichen planus in her ears and mouth. I have wondered myself if it is PDP. My granddaughter had lichen planus of the genitals when she was a baby. It resolved on its own and has never recurred. She is now 22.

  • @tina_820
    @tina_820 7 месяцев назад +1

    Another aw ha moments.

    • @Inge508
      @Inge508 7 месяцев назад

      👍😜😀😀😀