Hello Dan, greetings from Germany. I am a clinicial psychologist and have been struggling with anxiety and hyperawareness of body symptoms (mostly muscular tensions) for as long as I can remember. Your approach has been incredibly helpful and it helped me realize that the solution is not to work more on myself, do more "trauma work", dwell more on the past, but that I essentially have an mind-body auto-immune response and the only way to work with it is to (patiently) learn to self-soothe and lead a good life in the here and now. I'm also shocked how many professionals actually re-traumatize people and make symptoms worse. For example, in one of the clinics I worked I actually remember a colleague telling her clients in group therapy to "really feel the pain and stay with it". I was shocked even back then. Thanks so much for your beautiful work, it's making my life better and I will keep on this path!
This is why I start my day with a 20 minute gentle breathwork pratice. The trouble with panic is that it's an autonomic response, and the body floods with adrenaline and cortisol. In calmer moments reassurances of safety will help to support long term and work towards a resolution. But in the immediate acute trembling legs, dizziness, breathlessness, palpitations, the idea of telling ourself anything is a challenge too far sometimes. Do a Dan - hand on heart, deep breath in, long exhale, repeat four or five times. It will help get you out of fear/flight and into rest/digest.
Blue skies here in London but air quality is crap. Feels like I can't breathe properly, palpitations etc. Not a great day so far even though I did get outside. Lots of quiet crying. Hoping my cousin gets home from hospital today/tomorrow but am mindful the downside is that he's coming home to pass.💔. Trying to stay in the moment and reassure myself I'm safe. Emotional. Am reminding myself that grief can begin before the death of someone, I'm human . Thank you for posting these daily videos 🙏
@@Lenneke8422Thank you. 🙏 My cousin actually called me from his hospital bed, said he'd see me Saturday. Felt like I'd won the lottery. Just hoping the UK one week junior doctor strikes don't interfere.
I have managed to convince my brain about any muscular pain that I have but each time nausea hits (IBS or should I say TMS?), my reason just flips out the window and I panic so hard. The 100 degrees surely don't help calm my anxiety and body but your videos do. My symptoms are always worse when my husband is at work so it's like I have some company. Thank you so much.
Brain gut axis is so strong. So if your brain running wild it's talking with your digestive system. It's actually interrupting digestion. Am under top gastro specialist now doing hypnotherapy to calm my stomach.
I already know that the video will help me, while I read the title before actually starting the video. When he starts talking, I feel like I’m in a safe zone. Thank you Dan! ❤
Thanks Dan, sitting in a Dr Surgery trying to calm myself down before BP test. My pain has virtually gone, now I have anxiety effecting my BP...... Breathe..... 😮😅
Can anybody tell me why it’s this generation? Like why is our health being destroyed by these emotional problems all of a sudden?!? It didn’t happen to our parents or grandparents and they were the ones that passed down this trauma…
Our parents and grandparents lived with it, but they didn't deal with it or know what is. if something was painful, they treated the body part as injured and believed it was broken for life
I think. The amount of trauma has just built up, past generations didnt deal with it, behaviorally and pysiologically and also life has become harder and more expectations than generations past. We are the "lucky ones" lol. Sux. 😢
Hi Rob, Dan doesn’t talk much about dealing with your past or traumas. It isn’t automatically necessary to address those things in order to change your chronic pain symptoms. For myself, using the methods taught by Dan, Nicole Sachs, and Allen Gordon, I no longer have pelvic pain (debilitating symptoms for 2-3 years) even though I have diagnosed C-PTSD. I have other physical symptoms that come and go as I live with the PTSD, but I know what they are and I’m not afraid of them and let them roll on through. As far as struggling with your past and traumas, here are some other RUclipsrs I recommend: Tim Fletcher, Patrick Teahan, and The Crappy Childhood Fairy’s daily practice. I also highly recommend finding a therapist for personalized one-on-one trauma care, if you can.
I struggled to find safety for the longest time until I finally hit a breaking point and embraced radical acceptance. Radically accepting that no matter what happened, I would be ok, was a big change for me. Letting go of perfectionism was involved heavily in this.
When I look behind my fear, it' s always the feeling of being helpless that is waiting there for me. This is why I was avoiding (and sometimes still do) so much tasks: if I do this now, I could feel badly afterwards and feeling badly= feeling helpless. I live to have the control😂! Does someone struggle with this, too? Actually, I'm not freaking out in this moments, the fear is easy to ignore (I needed all this videos to realize that this is fear!) but I'm not yet able to calm me down completely. Does someone know this, too? What is your way to handle it?
IF THE BRAIN SEES ALL THIS AS DANGER THEN SYMPTOMS HANG ON. PRACTICE TEACHING THE BRAIN THAT THERE UIS NO DANGER JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL IT. LET THE FEELINGS COME AND GO AND CONSISTENTLY PRACTICE THERE IS NO DANGER AND DO THE THING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO. THAT IS THE WAY TO TEACH THE BRAIN THAT THERE IS NO DANGER
Thanks Dan! I had vestibular neuritis last year that caused PPPD. It’s been so brutal but I’m finally getting there. I’ve even managed to move house! But since the move my symptoms of light headed have come back. I had a massive freak out panic attack yesterday today I’ve come across this. Thank you for all you do ❤
so basicaly you feel like you are dying. Dans advice is to believe you are completely healthy. Easy right? :D Almost same difficult like dont have any money and feel rich :D You are rich until you need to pay rent :D
I feel like my panic trigger is such a faulty easy trigger and I cant seem to get my footing at times to turn the switch off. Simple things trigger it. I dont believe the anic but it just switches to fight flight so quickly. And then there is panic about the panic not stopping then pain ramping up and the cycle goes on. 😢
Hi Dan, I experience social anxiety? I want to have a social life but being around people tends to cause panic or freak out for me. So I isolate myself so this doesn’t happen. I would like to enjoy having close friendships again. Do you have any suggestions? Have you made any videos about this before?
Stop avoiding what ur afraid of. Accept the sensations you feel when u have social anxiety let them be there instead of trying to control/make them not be there
Thanks Dan, because this video gives a first approach that's easier than accessing security right away, which can give hope and a certain comfort to still make a good start and work, by panicking a little less, instead of feeling guilty and even more afraid of not being able to feel secure.
@@user-dianejcml Yes Diane, I too felt a lot better after watching this video, because I still often have days when I panic. And after seeing this video, I told myself that if I couldn't manage to feel safe, I could still do something positive by doing everything I could to panic a little less. So this video by Dan lifted my spirits and took away my feeling of guilt, and especially the fear of never succeeding.
@zatmenat I'm so glad you feel better too. This was a big sigh of relief today. I let go of the same feelings you are having. We can do a little each day, each moment of panic, guilt, anxiety and pain symptoms, toward authentic feelings of safety and healing. Have a wonderful day. Healing hugs 🪻💜
First thank you for this amazing resource. I’m a long time listener and recommend it often to people experiencing chronic pain (I sometimes mentor through a womens health clinic and they physio group who were involved in writing Explain Pain). I do it because I made it out the other side and for any business or in a professional way. My comment on this is that it’s a great question. Also, we don’t have to find safety in the pain. Many small things can be felt as safe and sometimes coming at from the side rather than head on is really helpful. So it might be breathing but I found breathing too introspective and I realised my brain perceived it as danger. On the other hand I’ve done a daily walk for years now - I’ve done it with pain, anguish but I will often see plants and animals that I find lovely and in that I found a conduit to perceived safety. Might look like “I feel really awful now but that’s still a pretty flower”. It might be the taste of chocolate, a nice cup tea, first morning coffee, often times when looking inward was too much it's easier to find safety outward. It's good to re-enforce safety - "birds singing, i can really appreciate that". I believe if you build a practice like this you get better at it and the brain gets better at perceiving safety and slowly the upward spiral can begin. maybe your videos are actually this an external place of safety that repeats daily. anyway, thank you! .
Weird comment I know, but why do you look to the side of the frame, instead of directly into the camera? It makes it seem like you're talking to someone behind me or next to me, but not me.
I wrote down the messages of safety and read it from time to time soo helpful 😊 4 fs I do. And say these sensations cannot harm me and respond calm sooth myself put hand on my heart and say i am going to be ok this is temporarily I dont freak out anymore because that means more pain. Ty Dan sending you much love and to all of you here on RUclips ❤😘🎈❤️🦸♀️💪
Hello Dan, greetings from Germany. I am a clinicial psychologist and have been struggling with anxiety and hyperawareness of body symptoms (mostly muscular tensions) for as long as I can remember. Your approach has been incredibly helpful and it helped me realize that the solution is not to work more on myself, do more "trauma work", dwell more on the past, but that I essentially have an mind-body auto-immune response and the only way to work with it is to (patiently) learn to self-soothe and lead a good life in the here and now.
I'm also shocked how many professionals actually re-traumatize people and make symptoms worse. For example, in one of the clinics I worked I actually remember a colleague telling her clients in group therapy to "really feel the pain and stay with it". I was shocked even back then.
Thanks so much for your beautiful work, it's making my life better and I will keep on this path!
🙏🙌👍Love that!! I am akso from Germany
“Frankly my fear, I don’t give a damn.”
This is why I start my day with a 20 minute gentle breathwork pratice. The trouble with panic is that it's an autonomic response, and the body floods with adrenaline and cortisol. In calmer moments reassurances of safety will help to support long term and work towards a resolution. But in the immediate acute trembling legs, dizziness, breathlessness, palpitations, the idea of telling ourself anything is a challenge too far sometimes. Do a Dan - hand on heart, deep breath in, long exhale, repeat four or five times. It will help get you out of fear/flight and into rest/digest.
Blue skies here in London but air quality is crap. Feels like I can't breathe properly, palpitations etc. Not a great day so far even though I did get outside. Lots of quiet crying. Hoping my cousin gets home from hospital today/tomorrow but am mindful the downside is that he's coming home to pass.💔. Trying to stay in the moment and reassure myself I'm safe.
Emotional. Am reminding myself that grief can begin before the death of someone, I'm human . Thank you for posting these daily videos 🙏
Sending you many huggies ❤❤❤
@@Lenneke8422Thank you. 🙏 My cousin actually called me from his hospital bed, said he'd see me Saturday. Felt like I'd won the lottery. Just hoping the UK one week junior doctor strikes don't interfere.
@@1STBUCKLEY will cross my fingers for you 🤞
I have managed to convince my brain about any muscular pain that I have but each time nausea hits (IBS or should I say TMS?), my reason just flips out the window and I panic so hard. The 100 degrees surely don't help calm my anxiety and body but your videos do. My symptoms are always worse when my husband is at work so it's like I have some company. Thank you so much.
Brain gut axis is so strong. So if your brain running wild it's talking with your digestive system. It's actually interrupting digestion. Am under top gastro specialist now doing hypnotherapy to calm my stomach.
@@1STBUCKLEYis the hypnotherapy working?
Am I the only one who immediately takes a deep breath as soon as I push play and see Dan’s face?🌸🌼🌸
Yes it’s a Pavlov’s dog response 😂 ❤
I click like before I watch the video.
I already know that the video will help me, while I read the title before actually starting the video. When he starts talking, I feel like I’m in a safe zone. Thank you Dan! ❤
Thanks Dan, sitting in a Dr Surgery trying to calm myself down before BP test. My pain has virtually gone, now I have anxiety effecting my BP...... Breathe..... 😮😅
Thanks Dan, this is a really helpful video.
Can anybody tell me why it’s this generation? Like why is our health being destroyed by these emotional problems all of a sudden?!? It didn’t happen to our parents or grandparents and they were the ones that passed down this trauma…
I was wondering the same. Must be more stressors?
@@bbukiyo or Maybe the earth is raising vibration 🤷🏼♀️
Our parents and grandparents lived with it, but they didn't deal with it or know what is. if something was painful, they treated the body part as injured and believed it was broken for life
@@boogie1434 my parents and grandparents did NOT deal with what I have…I’ve been bed ridden 3 years
I think. The amount of trauma has just built up, past generations didnt deal with it, behaviorally and pysiologically and also life has become harder and more expectations than generations past. We are the "lucky ones" lol. Sux. 😢
What to do if you're struggling to deal with your past, esp traumas?
Hi Rob, Dan doesn’t talk much about dealing with your past or traumas. It isn’t automatically necessary to address those things in order to change your chronic pain symptoms. For myself, using the methods taught by Dan, Nicole Sachs, and Allen Gordon, I no longer have pelvic pain (debilitating symptoms for 2-3 years) even though I have diagnosed C-PTSD. I have other physical symptoms that come and go as I live with the PTSD, but I know what they are and I’m not afraid of them and let them roll on through. As far as struggling with your past and traumas, here are some other RUclipsrs I recommend: Tim Fletcher, Patrick Teahan, and The Crappy Childhood Fairy’s daily practice. I also highly recommend finding a therapist for personalized one-on-one trauma care, if you can.
OK thx for that 🙏
What you telling is so true! I see it in my own experience. So much thanks! From te focus on symptoms to the focus on safety (acceptence)❤
I struggled to find safety for the longest time until I finally hit a breaking point and embraced radical acceptance. Radically accepting that no matter what happened, I would be ok, was a big change for me. Letting go of perfectionism was involved heavily in this.
I hear you but I don’t know how to make it stop 😢I try so hard.
It's so hard to do this ,but I know you know this 😂
going for a swim (if thats possible for u) really helps right now
When I look behind my fear, it' s always the feeling of being helpless that is waiting there for me. This is why I was avoiding (and sometimes still do) so much tasks: if I do this now, I could feel badly afterwards and feeling badly= feeling helpless. I live to have the control😂! Does someone struggle with this, too? Actually, I'm not freaking out in this moments, the fear is easy to ignore (I needed all this videos to realize that this is fear!) but I'm not yet able to calm me down completely. Does someone know this, too? What is your way to handle it?
IF THE BRAIN SEES ALL THIS AS DANGER THEN SYMPTOMS HANG ON. PRACTICE TEACHING THE BRAIN THAT THERE UIS NO DANGER JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL IT. LET THE FEELINGS COME AND GO AND CONSISTENTLY PRACTICE THERE IS NO DANGER AND DO THE THING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO. THAT IS THE WAY TO TEACH THE BRAIN THAT THERE IS NO DANGER
Thanks for all you do for us Dan
110 deg here outside of Phoenix!....but its a dry heat😋
I know I live in Central Phoenix. LOL
I never feel safe burning sensation, pain , Fatigue, brainfog, lightsensitive, its like lump in throat ! I cant handle this anymore ..
I needed this reminder today, thank you!
PLEASE HELP
Thanks Dan! I had vestibular neuritis last year that caused PPPD. It’s been so brutal but I’m finally getting there. I’ve even managed to move house! But since the move my symptoms of light headed have come back. I had a massive freak out panic attack yesterday today I’ve come across this. Thank you for all you do ❤
so basicaly you feel like you are dying. Dans advice is to believe you are completely healthy.
Easy right? :D
Almost same difficult like dont have any money and feel rich :D
You are rich until you need to pay rent :D
I love this perspective. ❤
I feel like my panic trigger is such a faulty easy trigger and I cant seem to get my footing at times to turn the switch off. Simple things trigger it. I dont believe the anic but it just switches to fight flight so quickly. And then there is panic about the panic not stopping then pain ramping up and the cycle goes on. 😢
I can answer yes to all of them but this loop 😢
Hi Dan, I experience social anxiety? I want to have a social life but being around people tends to cause panic or freak out for me. So I isolate myself so this doesn’t happen. I would like to enjoy having close friendships again. Do you have any suggestions? Have you made any videos about this before?
I have the same problem as you! I threw such a sociable person before! With time and less fear, I suppose it will return to normal!
@@Maude.Lavoie yes, I will hold that to be true for both of us ☺️.
@@angelamappleby yes!! 💓🌷
Stop avoiding what ur afraid of. Accept the sensations you feel when u have social anxiety let them be there instead of trying to control/make them not be there
Thanks Dan, because this video gives a first approach that's easier than accessing security right away, which can give hope and a certain comfort to still make a good start and work, by panicking a little less, instead of feeling guilty and even more afraid of not being able to feel secure.
Yes, this video and perspective today makes me feel alot better.
@@user-dianejcml
Yes Diane, I too felt a lot better after watching this video, because I still often have days when I panic.
And after seeing this video, I told myself that if I couldn't manage to feel safe, I could still do something positive by doing everything I could to panic a little less.
So this video by Dan lifted my spirits and took away my feeling of guilt, and especially the fear of never succeeding.
@zatmenat I'm so glad you feel better too. This was a big sigh of relief today. I let go of the same feelings you are having. We can do a little each day, each moment of panic, guilt, anxiety and pain symptoms, toward authentic feelings of safety and healing. Have a wonderful day. Healing hugs 🪻💜
@@user-dianejcml
A lot of ❤ to you Diane
@zatmenat Same to you ❤️ And thank you for such a great, insightful comment and chat today.
Does it matter how U got the sxs I got so many floaters mow and blurry vision
First thank you for this amazing resource. I’m a long time listener and recommend it often to people experiencing chronic pain (I sometimes mentor through a womens health clinic and they physio group who were involved in writing Explain Pain). I do it because I made it out the other side and for any business or in a professional way.
My comment on this is that it’s a great question. Also, we don’t have to find safety in the pain. Many small things can be felt as safe and sometimes coming at from the side rather than head on is really helpful.
So it might be breathing but I found breathing too introspective and I realised my brain perceived it as danger. On the other hand I’ve done a daily walk for years now - I’ve done it with pain, anguish but I will often see plants and animals that I find lovely and in that I found a conduit to perceived safety. Might look like “I feel really awful now but that’s still a pretty flower”. It might be the taste of chocolate, a nice cup tea, first morning coffee, often times when looking inward was too much it's easier to find safety outward. It's good to re-enforce safety - "birds singing, i can really appreciate that".
I believe if you build a practice like this you get better at it and the brain gets better at perceiving safety and slowly the upward spiral can begin.
maybe your videos are
actually this an external place of safety that repeats daily. anyway, thank you!
.
Sorry that should be NOT for business or in any professional way!!
Weird comment I know, but why do you look to the side of the frame, instead of directly into the camera? It makes it seem like you're talking to someone behind me or next to me, but not me.
There is a screen to the side of the lens. I guess it's natural to look there instead of the lens to make sure my head is in the frame.
@@PainFreeYouyou always look natural Dan don’t worry 😃❤️
@@PainFreeYou Thanks for your reply/explanation. Maybe it's just me...but it makes it seem like you're talking to someone else. :)
I wrote down the messages of safety and read it from time to time soo helpful 😊 4 fs I do. And say these sensations cannot harm me and respond calm sooth myself put hand on my heart and say i am going to be ok this is temporarily I dont freak out anymore because that means more pain. Ty Dan sending you much love and to all of you here on RUclips ❤😘🎈❤️🦸♀️💪
Where can I find the messages to safety?
@@knitnpaint Look above and see Valuable Resources and find a lot of info. 🙂
@@knitnpaint Consistent Messages of Safety 24 Examples is one.