"Wildly loved"...This is actually a good way of describing traumatic childhoods--wildflowes, jungle vines, wild boar, venomous snake, a rescuing Tarzan sometimes, refreshing waters, but be careful of gators...
I didn't think of it that way, but yes, I agree! I love the term "wildly unmothered" which i saw in the book Mother Hunger and I thought it was so relatable too, using "wild" to describe uncontrolled love.
I am blown away by a synchronicity here that when I am having a panic attack, all I have to do now to make it stop is say, "no trauma brain" and that is the name of the video
Last week I was written up at work. The perfectionist in my was horrified. I went into fight or flight mode, ready to walk away from this job as I have done in my career when really stressed. My thoughts so quickly went to I can't take care of myself, I am at the age my mother had a nervous breakdown, I am worthless, I should just take a bottle of sleeping pills, and on and on. I recovered and came up with a plan for myself. This journey is so challenging. Thank you for your videos.
I remember facing danger, feeling small, and suddenly realizing, wow, I’ve had this same reaction since I was little - what’s going on? As you say, it took a while to figure out, but it did open the door to feeling wildly loved (and simply accepting that gift).
Numbing .that s exactly the word .just.the brain body connection is off .cant even cry whereas ive cried so much in the hope and despair of wanting to change things that hurt me
Can the damage be repaired? That’s my question. I have disassociation issues and my memory has been greatly affected. I don’t remember who I am at times and that gets scary.
I absolutely believe we can heal so many of our wounds. I do believe that we can't completely eliminate our adaptations, (I always say some things are a management issue first and foremost, rather than never having the experiences again) but through things like therapy, self work, relational support, nervous system calming, etc - we can have some tools at our disposal when we feel triggered, and even if we can't get a hold of it sometimes and it overtakes us, we can learn how to get back to a safe place and start over. I am so sorry you've struggled so much, and I am sending you healing support wishes today:)
I can relate to so much of this Dr Sage! So beautifully put. My mother left our family when I was 8 for an alcoholic and our dad was emotionally unavailable and life was unpredictable, lonely and full of anxiety, centred around a sense that my feelings were not important. Then another great sense of loss when my dad passed away in my late teens. Its taken me 40 years to even have an awareness of what this has done to my nervous system and how it has impacted my life and decisions. I'm so glad to have found your channel to help me on my journey, I watch your videos every day. This Wildly loved series sound great. Thank you so much and I'm glad you are feeling better. With love from UK ❤
Thank you so much for sharing here, I am so sorry you had such a painfully difficult childhood filled with so much loss. I am sending you so much love and healing on your journey, and I'm so happy you are here. Thank you for the well wishes too!!💜🙏💜
Thankyou sister, just discovered your channel. Love your use of breathwork. Hope you've fully recovered from the respiratory thing! I just got super sick and realized it was because I let my boundaries down around a (NPD?) guy who I was letting get physically and psychically manipulative with me. It's amazing how "porus ego boundaries" show up as autoimmune conditions (I was diagnosed with Crohn's at age 12 with a borderline mom). Even after 10 years of realizing I was cptsd and doing the healing work, I still let the guy in... Because we had been friends for 10 years. But really he was just not intimate enough with me until now to show me what a predator he really is as it got more romantic. I'm so disgusted I missed so many red flags. I am really battling the 'I'm so stupid' inner critic over this 'failed connection'. Thanks for shining light on the dark corners. Mercury direct trine Pluto this week means we get to communicate our new healthy boundaries more effectively.
I am so sorry you are going through an experience that i know is so very painful and truly shattering. Sending you love and healing and so happy you are here. It's so easy to lose sight of ourselves and our value in divorcing a narc and it can be relentless. Please take very good care of yourself.💜🙏💜🙏
My brain feels like it didn't work when I was younger I only had memory I have remembered everything from my childhood and still do my body is still in survival mode even as an adult so alone when I was a child I have all what you have discribed thank you for your support we all need help with cptsd
This video stopped in my tracks. I identify with 98% of what was shared. That's an A in my book. I'll follow your work for years to come. It gets me back to Vagal.😃 Dr Kim keep doing what you do. It is tremendously healing, insightful and nurishing. Your calm warm voice tone is really helpful to those of us who have experienced repeated violent trauma since early childhood Your research is a gift to us. It's right up there with the likes of: Dr Susan Forward, PhD Dr Alice Miller, PhD Dr Joni's Webb, PsyD Dr Karol Darsa, PsyD You all are GREAT!😁🤗
Hi Dr Kim, I'm so excited for this series! For me, my childhood trauma resulted in spiralling into various eating disorders. I'm currently looking for a new therapist and I have to say it's SO difficult to find a trauma-informed practice. I had a conversation over the phone with a few therapists and some wouldn't even ask what brought me to them in the first place and said they 'treat everything'! Having access to your content in the interim is invaluable! I definitely relate to having trauma brain - something I've noticed is I struggle to call someone out on their bs because growing up my parents never encouraged critical thinking or took me seriously and as a result I tend to assume whatever someone is saying must be right and true, whereas my opinion is probably flawed. It's only in hindsight when I can notice it. So definitely resonate with the idea of carrying that childhood, traumatised way of thinking into adult life. Thank you for creating this new series for us!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience - it's so unethical to "treat everything" not to mention impossible! I am so sorry! Have you tried just searching for EMDR therapists? At a minimum they should have a lot more trauma informed experience - if you go to the emdria.org website - it might provide more resources. I am so grateful you are here - please always remember how worthy you are and to continue cultivating and listening to your inner voice.💜💜🙏
My brain 🧠 is still behaving as though it’s still living in a war zone, wondering when the next bomb is going to drop! Four years free from the most dangerous narcissists. It’s as close to Heaven as I’ve ever come. 💯
Here to learn more, grew up in a violent emotionally challenging environment plus with a mother that was critically ill a number of times. 61 now, wonder how much time I have left to experience being wildly loved (self).
"Wildly loved"...This is actually a good way of describing traumatic childhoods--wildflowes, jungle vines, wild boar, venomous snake, a rescuing Tarzan sometimes, refreshing waters, but be careful of gators...
I didn't think of it that way, but yes, I agree! I love the term "wildly unmothered" which i saw in the book Mother Hunger and I thought it was so relatable too, using "wild" to describe uncontrolled love.
That’s what I first thought of as well.
Where the wild things are. Be sure to eat your dinner!!! 😮
I am blown away by a synchronicity here that when I am having a panic attack, all I have to do now to make it stop is say, "no trauma brain" and that is the name of the video
Last week I was written up at work. The perfectionist in my was horrified. I went into fight or flight mode, ready to walk away from this job as I have done in my career when really stressed. My thoughts so quickly went to I can't take care of myself, I am at the age my mother had a nervous breakdown, I am worthless, I should just take a bottle of sleeping pills, and on and on. I recovered and came up with a plan for myself. This journey is so challenging. Thank you for your videos.
I have followed many therapists in person and on RUclips. I found your work the most helpful. Thank you so much! Thanks for being so open and honest.
Same here. She has gobs of depth.
You are the first person I’ve heard who has been able to describe this condition to the T.
I was praying 🙏 and God sent me to your channel!
This is so on-target for where I am right now. I DO have trauma brain and I DO need to know I am worthy / lovable.
I remember facing danger, feeling small, and suddenly realizing, wow, I’ve had this same reaction since I was little - what’s going on? As you say, it took a while to figure out, but it did open the door to feeling wildly loved (and simply accepting that gift).
I love this - thank you for sharing and thank you for being here!!:)
Numbing .that s exactly the word .just.the brain body connection is off .cant even cry whereas ive cried so much in the hope and despair of wanting to change things that hurt me
Can the damage be repaired? That’s my question. I have disassociation issues and my memory has been greatly affected. I don’t remember who I am at times and that gets scary.
I absolutely believe we can heal so many of our wounds. I do believe that we can't completely eliminate our adaptations, (I always say some things are a management issue first and foremost, rather than never having the experiences again) but through things like therapy, self work, relational support, nervous system calming, etc - we can have some tools at our disposal when we feel triggered, and even if we can't get a hold of it sometimes and it overtakes us, we can learn how to get back to a safe place and start over. I am so sorry you've struggled so much, and I am sending you healing support wishes today:)
I can relate to so much of this Dr Sage! So beautifully put. My mother left our family when I was 8 for an alcoholic and our dad was emotionally unavailable and life was unpredictable, lonely and full of anxiety, centred around a sense that my feelings were not important. Then another great sense of loss when my dad passed away in my late teens. Its taken me 40 years to even have an awareness of what this has done to my nervous system and how it has impacted my life and decisions. I'm so glad to have found your channel to help me on my journey, I watch your videos every day. This Wildly loved series sound great. Thank you so much and I'm glad you are feeling better. With love from UK ❤
Thank you so much for sharing here, I am so sorry you had such a painfully difficult childhood filled with so much loss. I am sending you so much love and healing on your journey, and I'm so happy you are here. Thank you for the well wishes too!!💜🙏💜
@@DrKimSage thank you so much 🙏💖
Thankyou sister, just discovered your channel. Love your use of breathwork. Hope you've fully recovered from the respiratory thing! I just got super sick and realized it was because I let my boundaries down around a (NPD?) guy who I was letting get physically and psychically manipulative with me. It's amazing how "porus ego boundaries" show up as autoimmune conditions (I was diagnosed with Crohn's at age 12 with a borderline mom). Even after 10 years of realizing I was cptsd and doing the healing work, I still let the guy in... Because we had been friends for 10 years. But really he was just not intimate enough with me until now to show me what a predator he really is as it got more romantic. I'm so disgusted I missed so many red flags. I am really battling the 'I'm so stupid' inner critic over this 'failed connection'. Thanks for shining light on the dark corners.
Mercury direct trine Pluto this week means we get to communicate our new healthy boundaries more effectively.
Thank you Dr Kim going through a divorce from narc husband my brain is gone into overdrive shattered .
I am so sorry you are going through an experience that i know is so very painful and truly shattering. Sending you love and healing and so happy you are here. It's so easy to lose sight of ourselves and our value in divorcing a narc and it can be relentless. Please take very good care of yourself.💜🙏💜🙏
My brain feels like it didn't work when I was younger I only had memory I have remembered everything from my childhood and still do my body is still in survival mode even as an adult so alone when I was a child I have all what you have discribed thank you for your support we all need help with cptsd
This video stopped in my tracks.
I identify with 98% of what was shared. That's an A in my book.
I'll follow your work for years to come. It gets me back to Vagal.😃
Dr Kim keep doing what you do. It is tremendously healing, insightful and nurishing. Your calm warm voice tone is really helpful to those of us who have experienced repeated violent trauma since early childhood
Your research is a gift to us.
It's right up there with the likes of:
Dr Susan Forward, PhD
Dr Alice Miller, PhD
Dr Joni's Webb, PsyD
Dr Karol Darsa, PsyD
You all are GREAT!😁🤗
Thank you for your videos. They are hepful.
Hi Dr Kim, I'm so excited for this series! For me, my childhood trauma resulted in spiralling into various eating disorders. I'm currently looking for a new therapist and I have to say it's SO difficult to find a trauma-informed practice. I had a conversation over the phone with a few therapists and some wouldn't even ask what brought me to them in the first place and said they 'treat everything'! Having access to your content in the interim is invaluable! I definitely relate to having trauma brain - something I've noticed is I struggle to call someone out on their bs because growing up my parents never encouraged critical thinking or took me seriously and as a result I tend to assume whatever someone is saying must be right and true, whereas my opinion is probably flawed. It's only in hindsight when I can notice it. So definitely resonate with the idea of carrying that childhood, traumatised way of thinking into adult life. Thank you for creating this new series for us!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience - it's so unethical to "treat everything" not to mention impossible! I am so sorry! Have you tried just searching for EMDR therapists? At a minimum they should have a lot more trauma informed experience - if you go to the emdria.org website - it might provide more resources. I am so grateful you are here - please always remember how worthy you are and to continue cultivating and listening to your inner voice.💜💜🙏
My brain 🧠 is still behaving as though it’s still living in a war zone, wondering when the next bomb is going to drop! Four years free from the most dangerous narcissists. It’s as close to Heaven as I’ve ever come. 💯
Here to learn more, grew up in a violent emotionally challenging environment plus with a mother that was critically ill a number of times. 61 now, wonder how much time I have left to experience being wildly loved (self).
Love the Wildly Loved name!!
Thank you!!💜🙏
Is that the left side of the brain .this is where i feel the emptiness or the burning feeling etc etc .
Thank you!
I need to be re-fathered, not re-mothered!!!
Great video, thanks!
Thank you!!🙏💜
Is trauma brain the same as CPTSD?
I definitely have trauma brain. Love the video 🙂
Thank you and so happy you're here with me!🙏🙏
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